DISAPPOINTING THE NARCISSIST

#narcissist #boundaries Narcissists condition us to fear disappointing them. The truth is, trying to make them happy will usually cost us much more than letting them stay disappointed in us.
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[@positiveenergy4131]

The sun could be shining, birds could be chirping, flowers could be blooming, with a cool summer breeze, and these miserable creatures still won't be satisfied/happy/content.

[@kennethrhodes7143]

1. Narc's are not disappointed, they are the disappointment!
2. They don't grow up.

[@minnae.1747]

I have lately learned it's perfectly okay to disappoint people. I have been a people pleaser. You have to stop people from using you. You have to say no, that does not work for me.

[@nopereradicator]

That cruise analogy hit home. I never realized how crappy my life was when looked at from the outside. I wasn’t trying to fill his hole. I just wanted a home to come back to after the cruise. Free since 1/27/23. Damn it feels good not to have to babysit him anymore.

[@ironfist859]

We almost always ate where she wanted, ate what she wanted, ate when she wanted, vacationed where she wanted, spent money on what she wanted, etc...

[@prant8998]

Eight and half years with my honey bunny and I finally made her happy with something where she had a spontaneous huge smile on her face. We were on flight back from LA to NYC and we got bumped to first class. Nothing I ever did was equal to that, no expensive present that she asked for, no exotic vacation. How could I keep replicating that? I couldn’t, it was pure chance. Everything else she was disgruntled and looked disappointed. There was no pleasing that woman.

[@heatherbrush986]

You are amazing. Wish I had heard this 20 years ago, 40 years ago.

[@bethlanglois9361]

This was practical and no bs yet deeply insightful and logical- Ty!

[@suzannechurcher1745]

My ex narc actually said to me in a particularly unpleasant devaluation stage that he was dissapointed in me ALL THE TIME.

[@michaeljohns8817]

GREAT STUFF !!!!!!!!! THANKS 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

[@B-Nia]

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