NARCISSISTS HAVE NO EXCUSES
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- Опубліковано 11 лис 2023
- #narcissist #narcissisticmindgames There are many reasons that narcissists are inclined to abuse people and there are many explanations for their behavior. But there are NO excuses for those narcissists that choose to harm others rather than face their own problems.
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At this stage of my life, I've made myself so small, that their isn't much wrong that I can do. I'm basically on an island surrounded by bullies. I lock myself away in my room and try to make myself happy or comfortable as much as possible. One of relative's daughter punched out a window, no consequences for her, even from the police. I may have called someone a jack-ass when I was 10 years old, I'm late 30's now, still being held in mind for that. It seems like with narcissists the more good of a person you are, the smaller the box they put you.
"The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness will never understand it". Empty people hate to see a ray of light come out of anyone.
@@daft4682 that’s such a great quote, I will write that down and remember it. It’s these kinds of words that help to explain the inexplicable.
I never understood that. They not only abuse us, they abuse everyone in society. No one holds them accountable. For anything. There’s always an excuse.
Most Empaths surprise themselves and others, when they're backed up against a wall and
a raging Tiger of Resolve comes charging out from within themselves!
Jesus Christ, get out of there and save yourself !
This is consistently one of the best NPD channels on ytube. I really appreciate your take on all these issues. You're helping a lot of people. Hearing this from another person is always so validating.
I made excuses for my narcissistic husband when we were first living together. He would come home, pissed off and angry, and he would blame me. After two years, I started fighting back and pointing out where his anger stems from: work, the bullies he had in school, and his narcissistic mother and enabling father. He still puts his parents on a pedestal, but I've stepped out of the fantasy world his whole family lives in.
Excellent points. There's no excuse for abuse! 💜🕊🙏🏻
I was yelling and lashing out of him because my nerve system was on fire from the tones of his bs putted on me
And while that is totally understandable, your behavior is still your responsibility. Even though we all have our limits as to what will push us over the edge, we are still accountable for what we do.
I excused too much bad behavior based on my own self generated excuses for her, literally out of thin air. I never experienced a partner that increased production on the assembly line of bad behavior, incessantly. There was no ventilation in the factory and it was foggy in there.
Thanks for the terrific breakdown and why Empaths have to take down the sign in front of their shop that reads: "We Buy All Excuses Here- Will Finance/ No Interest/ No Downpayment/ No Credit Check!"
When I cannot leave a narcissist because of work in the same enterprise, I practice emotional detachment. This disengaging helps a lot and even allows the narcissist to look for someone else to abuse. The other victim needs to hear what you teach. Thank you for your in-depth descriptions of situations in which I have found myself suffering intensely and uselessly.
Similar here in that it is close proximity in the form of apt. complex; (was a "situationship/friendship I thought, not sexual but could have been/become omg). Every month it gets a bit easier, but the pain of being emotionally abused out of the blue was so shocking, an amputation without anesthesia would have been less painful. Brought up all this abandonment and abuse stuff from childhood. Taking lots of work, but worth it. Everyone who is a victim of a narc, hold on there. If I am surviving, and doing better each month, you can too. Just put the work in; you are worth it, xo. Ooo, plus the lady behind the mirror, thank you very much.....
I love your short clips-brisk and to the point. Easy to pick up your wisdom on a busy day.
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This talk was sorely needed. We get so caught up trying to survive moment to moment there’s no time to think any of this through.
I have ADHD I literally thought I had an excuse to drive fast
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until I figured out my opinion wasn't the issue
Note: Your Finale was the most powerful and brilliantly expressed. You threw it right back at "US" - Our need to be held accountable and deal with it in whatever needs to be done. The inspiring thing, is that a person with your intelligence and present clarity was once caught up in the web of Narcissism too. It makes me feel better, I wasn't plainly naive, rube-ish or below average in intelligence ( a dumb bunny ). I felt that way, until I understood better what I was dealing with. Thanks!
In the end: That’s just the way i am, Exept that or leave.
In the beginning: teach me to love, i would realy like to change myselves if I could just Love someone!!!
I never blamed myself. Her reasons for her behavior was so abstract and meaningless and irrational it was always an inner anger on her part, but of course, directed at me. Most times I was doing absolutely nothing. I got so good at never triggering her she had to pull some crazy reason out of thin air. It was just time for her to have a meltdown. It became a cycle where every six weeks she would have a, “tantrum.” If I was at her place I would just leave. Then she got smart and would choose places where I couldn’t do that, in car or on vacation. Then I was stuck dealing with it, where she could sadistically make me suffer, out of fear she might escalate. Finally after 8.5 years and four therapists. I left for good.
Hell no theres no excuse dam
Another excellent comparison. I never thought about it like that. Makes perfect sense.
Brilliant!
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I certainly understand where you are coming from. For the flaw in this video is that you assert that narcissists are adults. They are not. They are five year olds in adult bodies. You shouldn’t expect anything more from a narc than you would a five year old.
You should not expect to be abused.
They have the emotional maturity of a child, but it is extremely important to remember that they ARE grown adults. Little children are learning and are innocent. Narcissists are accountable for their choices and the people they hurt. They are not children. You have every right to expect an adult to act like an adult, and to impose consequences/boundaries on those who won’t.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror I totally agree with you. Sadly, they will never stand up to your or my expectations because they simply aren’t capable of it.
😂 🤣 it a for entertainment purposes
Have you heard of temperaments? There are the four temperaments:melancholic,phlegmatic,sanguine,choleric. When you digest food it turns into four humours: yellow bile, black bile,phlegm and blood. Whichever of those you have plethora of that's your temperament.
Spot on 100%❤🔥💯