Avoiding Arguments in Your Relationship (STOP FIGHTING)

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  • AVOIDING ARGUMENTS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (STOP FIGHTING)
    Having troubles avoiding arguments in your relationship? Avoiding arguments is a crucial skill you have to learn in your marriage if you want your relationship to thrive.
    When you learn skills to avoiding arguments with your spouse, you can begin to really talk about your issues and problems in a much more productive way.
    And avoiding arguments in a marriage does not have to be difficult - you just need to follow these 5 tips to start avoiding arguments with your boyfriend, or avoiding arguments for relationships.
    So watch the video to learn skills to start avoiding arguments to function better in your relationship.
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  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  4 роки тому +6

    Hey guys! Thanks for watching and I hope that was helpful. Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
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    • @elderias
      @elderias 3 роки тому

      We’re can I contact you

    • @Zay510
      @Zay510 2 роки тому

      One thing me and my girlfriend always argue almost everyday about is me, making assumptions. That triggers her so bad, then she gets upset. After that I’ll get upset, then she starts to easily get triggered and gets more mad then starts to ignore me. That triggers me the most, I get mad to where I DO NOT calm down. What should I do next time if it occurs?? Please help me out I really need advice on this ASAP please

    • @iristheangel3631
      @iristheangel3631 2 роки тому

      @@Zay510 Bit late but just try not to make assumptions, it doesn't get much simpler than that.

  • @calaser10
    @calaser10 4 роки тому +46

    had a great laugh.
    "if you cant stop making assumptions.. Just assume that your assumptions are wrong"
    that one made my day. thanks Geoffrey!

  • @LydiaNicoleLive
    @LydiaNicoleLive 5 років тому +15

    Excellent tips. I wish I watched this video twenty years ago.
    I love the sentence you shared “tell me what you’re thinking or what you’re feeling”. Very helpful.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  5 років тому

      So glad that spoke to you. Thank you for tuning in!

  • @Tech2feed
    @Tech2feed Рік тому +4

    How to do non verbal touch in long distance relationship

  • @putuamellia8802
    @putuamellia8802 5 років тому +12

    Handsome,matured,& really good tips😘

  • @tammie3583
    @tammie3583 5 років тому +20

    I think what we fuss about most is each others defensiveness due to the way the other asks question. His questions come accross in a way that seems demmanding of an answer. Mine come accross in a accusing way. At least he thinks its accusing even when its not meant to be.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  5 років тому +1

      Yeap. That's a big one. When you say it seems demanding of an answer -- is he forcing you to say something immediately or does he get upset that your answer wasn't what he was looking for? Also try some of these tips the next time you are communicating about something -- usually, when you start changing your approach, there is a feedback loop that happens that also gets your partner to calm down as well.

    • @tammie3583
      @tammie3583 5 років тому +2

      @@GeoffreySetiawan he wants the answer that he has already determined to be correct and he wants it 'now' with no explanation or what he thinks is an excuse. He just already knows that he is correct and all he wants from me is admittance and compliance.
      Even when he is wrong in his assumption, he doesnt want to hear about it. I told him about this video and that i want to change and
      I will try to implement the holding hands part and tell him that something he said triggered an emotion in me and I own it but just need a minute or so to get control of myself so I can answer in a way that will be helpful not harmful to us. I said that I hope he will hold my hand for me so the released endorphins will begin to calm me before I respond. I did not tell him that i hope that it works on him also, to help him to calm down but I sure do. 😊

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  5 років тому +2

      @@tammie3583 Totally makes sense! I think you're on the right track -- If he gets impatient, hold him even tighter and say something like "I just want you to know that I am silent not because I do not agree with you. But because I really care about you and this relationship and I want to make sure that the things I say are the correct things that show how much I care about you." Kill his sharpness with your gentleness :) Don't quote me on that, but say it in your own words -- it really does seem like you REALLY care about your partner and relationship -- which is awesome.

  • @andysarah6616
    @andysarah6616 5 років тому +10

    Still young but matured advice 😊👍

  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  5 років тому +10

    Thanks for watching! Which of these 5 tips are you going to implementing into your life to start avoiding arguments in your relationship?

    • @tammie3583
      @tammie3583 5 років тому +2

      Touching, hold hands or sit close to relax before speaking. My sarcastic tone gets me into trouble often. His domineering attitude gets him into trouble often.
      I know we both need to calm down and ask our questions in a way that the other feels safe to answer.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  5 років тому

      @@tammie3583 That's awesome to hear. Keep us updated on how that goes :)

  • @samromeo9924
    @samromeo9924 5 років тому +6

    Wow thank you for the good video, the talk & good illustrations😊

  • @SocialConfidenceMastery
    @SocialConfidenceMastery 5 років тому +8

    This video is very insightful!

  • @aisrinoviantynovianty9621
    @aisrinoviantynovianty9621 5 років тому +6

    Good advice for a better relationship. It takes two to work good in relationship

  • @cathywenas
    @cathywenas 5 років тому +8

    Thank you for the good tips👍

  • @waaahhzzaahhp
    @waaahhzzaahhp 5 років тому +9

    Wow! This is so insightful!! I love it!

  • @angelainspiration4824
    @angelainspiration4824 5 років тому +17

    Really good, teach us to be matured to deal with the spouse.

  • @RalphErvin
    @RalphErvin 5 років тому +3

    Great information that's going to help many people. Thanks for sharing!

  • @condor8442
    @condor8442 Рік тому +1

    Unbelievable help. I wish I knew about this so long ago to save my relationship

  • @Jonathan-ko6hf
    @Jonathan-ko6hf Рік тому +3

    I'm praying that my girl and I can meet after our break and use these tips to create a strong, permanent relationship.

  • @shamsuddeensaleh3935
    @shamsuddeensaleh3935 2 дні тому

    I found out she was flirting with 2 different guys.
    She told me she won't do it again.
    Since ever that happened. We argue about trust issues because every suspicious move from her makes me feel insecure.
    I don't seem to get the scenario outta my head even though I hate how I assume she still tolerates other guys on social media apps.
    I need therapy

  • @kazikazitvboda2boda
    @kazikazitvboda2boda Рік тому

    We fight because of the phone.. She is sometimes using her phone is an direction where she is like hiding some charts. She don't want me to see. Even calls she is going out side what is the meaning of her actions.. Is it not a red flag..?

  • @SamanthaSteMarie1
    @SamanthaSteMarie1 5 років тому +3

    Thank you so much for the tips!!

  • @ScottSwalwell
    @ScottSwalwell 5 років тому +2

    Great video mate. That's a lot of views :)

  • @cynthiachirokote3129
    @cynthiachirokote3129 2 роки тому +1

    The issue of digging deep didn't really work for me and he felt like I was interrogating him and got even more angry. I guess I may have also offended him by what I was reflecting back that was coloured by my own feelings. How best can i overcome this?

  • @hungjai415
    @hungjai415 4 місяці тому

    my partner make assumptions I am talking to other women I under about my past but I am working hard in our marriage

  • @ElizabethSampson
    @ElizabethSampson 5 років тому +3

    Great information!

  • @mykalbrown5257
    @mykalbrown5257 10 місяців тому

    We just argue because I feel like everything she do or say i gotta go by what she say or do but when i ask her to do something she act like a little kid say blahhh blahh so i get mad because it feels like im not getting respect

  • @michapieszczynski5742
    @michapieszczynski5742 2 роки тому +1

    Man, you are amazing. I'm Polish and I have Chinese wife, we had lot of arguments because of cultural differences... but we could avoid a lot. I'm watching your videos one by one. Thank you!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Love it! Let me know when you have questions about what you are learning!! :)

  • @moeplasticos8573
    @moeplasticos8573 4 роки тому +1

    I wish you used more examples or presented scenarios or a skit.

  • @JDSbits01
    @JDSbits01 3 роки тому +1

    I'm still watching your videos. You are the Best!!!! Thanks for sharing such great information.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Awesome man! Thanks for taking the time to write this :) Let's keep growing!

  • @sherececocco
    @sherececocco Рік тому

    I guessed a star. You assumed something else 🙃

  • @tulsikhoniri3430
    @tulsikhoniri3430 Рік тому

    When I assume it's turned out to be the truth 🙂🤷

  • @sebastianbudz3109
    @sebastianbudz3109 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much, it’s very hard sometimes because my emotions go wild since i am still very young (16), i realize when i do this and am not keeping my emotions in check, i am only hurting my partner even more. I just want to be mature enough to be able to support her in these hard discussions we have because it’s hard for her to open up. Thank you this helped a lot!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому +1

      Hi Sebastian Buds,
      Watch this video below and learn how to become emotionally bulletproof.
      ua-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/v-deo.html

  • @artifactsantlersoh
    @artifactsantlersoh Рік тому

    Man, Thank You so much for spelling this all out for me. I can’t tell you how helpful this will be for me.

  • @donjuan2105
    @donjuan2105 2 роки тому

    So basically you are saying assume you are always the problem in the relationship

  • @FL.Kaiser
    @FL.Kaiser Рік тому

    I've watched every video on UA-cam on this topic. Yours are the best.

  • @faithyoung5628
    @faithyoung5628 4 роки тому +2

    We argue about my flaws

  • @xoxojan4332
    @xoxojan4332 2 роки тому

    My bf and have been arguing a lot lately and he said he’s stuck in the middle as in keeping the relationship or leaving the relationship and I don’t think I can save it because I feel like even if we have a little fight that will ruin us I’m so scared of arguing now even if it’s a 5mins thing I need help

  • @stevosd60
    @stevosd60 Рік тому

    Most arguments are about what we recall each other said. Sometimes what was said or assumed we meant within minutes of saying it.
    Feels to me like arguing for the sake of it

  • @tianasharpe67
    @tianasharpe67 4 роки тому +2

    I look up to you thank you

  • @phillipgiwu9683
    @phillipgiwu9683 3 роки тому

    She doesn't update me whether she is going to work or clinic or on leave for a few days. This makes me to assume.

  • @FriskyTendervittles
    @FriskyTendervittles Рік тому

    Can you make a video on all the cognitive distortions and how they affect relationships

  • @demariosmith2623
    @demariosmith2623 4 роки тому

    Whenever she's talking to I'm nothing answering her. Say things in the wrong...I'm too selfish with her

  • @ssjcadic
    @ssjcadic 2 роки тому

    assumptions and judge are the killers in my relationship

  • @RandomV1ogh
    @RandomV1ogh 3 роки тому

    We argue about me not actually acknowledging her wants and needs and just me agreeing so the argument could stop or we argue about lies or that I blame her too much

  • @alanchajonii9850
    @alanchajonii9850 2 роки тому

    We argue about me not being financially healthy in the beginning of our relationship

  • @longhuynh4423
    @longhuynh4423 3 роки тому +1

    Your pretty awesome man keep up the good work!

  • @TimVissow
    @TimVissow 3 роки тому

    Watch the channel grow, You are doing great work Mr. Geoffrey!

  • @Zay510
    @Zay510 2 роки тому

    @Geoffrey Setiawan One thing me and my girlfriend always argue almost everyday about is me, making assumptions. That triggers her so bad, then she gets upset. After that I’ll get upset, then she starts to easily get triggered and gets more mad then starts to ignore me. That triggers me the most, I get mad to where I DO NOT calm down. What should I do next time if it occurs?? Please help me out I really need advice on this ASAP please

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Lil Zay,
      The solution is more than can be expressed through a comment reply. This is exactly a major part of what my entire program is about. Learning to be emotionally bulletproof. Feel free to watch this video and follow up with any questions you may have.
      ua-cam.com/video/tp6g9vgOiec/v-deo.html

  • @rosiemartinez5424
    @rosiemartinez5424 2 роки тому

    We argue the most because I make assumptions but this was very helpful and I didn’t realize how bad assumptions really were

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Awesome realization and keep watching to learn even more. We have a very exciting calendar coming up.

  • @dallanaperdomo8554
    @dallanaperdomo8554 Рік тому

    What if I don't argue?

  • @vestohood1501
    @vestohood1501 2 роки тому

    We have arguments about the her childrens somehow when I tell her about her son's she gets defensive but at the end of the day she tells me ok I apologize and you are right I should do that. Then again it starts all over again how can I fix that my friend

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Vesto Hood,
      Check out this video below and be sure to come back with your follow-up questions.
      ua-cam.com/video/9Gwxid3-ME8/v-deo.html

  • @alexanderhanooman
    @alexanderhanooman 2 роки тому

    I need this right now she asked for space. Hmmm and I am seeing our last two weeks here up to yesterday when see said that. I really never gave her a good listening.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Alexander Hanooman,
      First step is always recognition. Let me know how I can help.

  • @tatescharnberg1205
    @tatescharnberg1205 10 місяців тому

    Great content thank you

  • @dani-_-boy9386
    @dani-_-boy9386 Рік тому

    my assumtion was ,
    it was a star

  • @robertkowal478
    @robertkowal478 2 роки тому

    What do you do if your partneer is emotional and does NOT want a hug our hold hands

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 роки тому

      Hi Robert Kowal,
      I invite you to come join me in my free 90 min master class to see at what stage in the relationship does intimacy start to beak down and how to learn to repair it.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

  • @aaronbonifacio9097
    @aaronbonifacio9097 2 роки тому

    I answered star tho

  • @stewart2313
    @stewart2313 3 роки тому

    Man you spoke to my soul . I have a lot of work to do.

  • @efrainlopezc
    @efrainlopezc 3 роки тому

    Great stuff, you know what you're talking about and know how to say it. Thanks,

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Awesome! So glad you are finding my videos useful. What do you find most eye-opening?

  • @chinchinhuang5813
    @chinchinhuang5813 3 роки тому

    Your advices really are awesome, it opens me up and gives me that assuring feeling. Thank you

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Thank you Chinchin Huang, what do you find most eye-opening about my videos?

  • @sexygirl5478
    @sexygirl5478 3 роки тому

    Does she want. To be with me

  • @JaHm3sZ
    @JaHm3sZ 4 роки тому

    I actually guessed a star 😂

  • @KetchupSamurai
    @KetchupSamurai 3 роки тому

    What we argue about is me wanting to be a priority not an option where I make sure she knows or sees that she is

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Hey Angel,
      Once you work on yourself to become the best, you should not have to argue with your partner about being a priority.
      Once you build your intrinsic & extrinsic value, you will raise yourself to a level that she will naturally notice.

  • @chrisvelazquez1375
    @chrisvelazquez1375 3 роки тому

    I seriously thought u we’re trying to make a star so I’m gonna assumntht means something positive 🤣🤣

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Lol not sure if I am following you here.

    • @chrisvelazquez1375
      @chrisvelazquez1375 3 роки тому

      @@GeoffreySetiawan haha when u were talking abt how ppl connect the dots differently

  • @wagner3813
    @wagner3813 3 роки тому

    My partner won’t let me create contact at all and will violently move away despite my calm manner so I don’t see this working for me

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      Then keep watching more videos: ua-cam.com/video/zmV5xBQ1duk/v-deo.html

    • @wagner3813
      @wagner3813 3 роки тому

      @@GeoffreySetiawan just watched this video and it hit me right in the head it’s shocking how much I can relate, 🙏🏼 thank u

  • @Tormasan
    @Tormasan 3 роки тому +3

    So far it seems you saved my relationship 🥺 thanks man happy holidays to you. Keep make the world a better place

  • @maryaboyd2667
    @maryaboyd2667 4 роки тому

    Thank you for your effort and dedication to helping others, I appreciate you.

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      @justychinwendu5309 3 роки тому

      I can recommend you to this love specialist he helped me restored my ex back to me in less than 24 hours

    • @justychinwendu5309
      @justychinwendu5309 3 роки тому

      WhatsApp him

  • @scalpelspeaks870
    @scalpelspeaks870 3 роки тому

    How do I contact you !!???

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

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  • @aimezmoi13
    @aimezmoi13 3 роки тому

    I assume that he's lazy 😅

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  3 роки тому

      @aimezmoi, he probably doesn't know the right processes & how to artfully respond. 🙂

  • @atanasmoldovanov2053
    @atanasmoldovanov2053 2 роки тому

    Gold

  • @khadijaharbi3033
    @khadijaharbi3033 4 роки тому +2

    Hi jeff. Shall I let my partner know this Strategy or shall I just do it without him knowing your method?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  4 роки тому

      Hey man. Feel free to do it without telling her. But when she start to resist your new approach (which might seem suspicious because you're doing something you don't usually do), feel free to let her know. For example: "Okay, so I can sense you think I am trying to interrogate you. Can I tell you something from my perspective?" . "Well, I am simply trying to become a better communicator by X, Y Z...What do you think?" There are many nuances for you to understand about the example I gave, but hope that gives you some direction.