I'm enjoying catching up with your videos. You seem really knowledgable about the 'human condition' and so much of what you say really rings true. You've made me look at a few things in a completely new way. Thinking, how did I not see that? Thnx
Haha the weather uh hu yea, you’re funny and engaging. I love your haircut! I’ve already watched 6 videos back to back, and am learning what it is I’m lacking when it comes to communicating with men. Thanks for your warm approach to these subjects. It helps.
i know whatbits like to be stuck in small talk, once i had a crush on these 3 girls (all at the same time) i always had standard conversations and never once went any further in fear of backlash regret it now
I wonder why some guys stare at me.. is it because I'm different (I have aqua hair and dress a little differently) or because of my face (I look 16 but really I'm 2 years younger) or all at once
I remember trying to talk to a girl once about what she likes to do, and I got the "how boring" treatment and constant insults for the rest of the evening, finally ending with the usual, can we be friends on whatsapp.
I'm great at asking others questions like this, I was a hair stylist for awhile, so small talk comes easy. I find though that the conversations becomes stagnant and one sided they almost seem creepier out by how many questions I ask. why is that?
Sorry Marie for not introducing myself but I have a big crush on my co worker I’ve been seeing of and on for 3 months I been getting to know him and we talk when we see each other but now it’s getting a little because he has hinted about me seeing him for the next 4 days and I said yes with a smile but or around the 4th of July he has asked me what are my plans during the 4th of July week unfortunately I went out of town I screwed that up hoping when I got back, he would see me again and we did with smiles and hugs for each but what to do now Marie, I find him so irresistible and stunningly handsome
What if you're conversating with a woman that you are interested in and she takes time out of her day and talk to you but never really has anything to say about herself just questions about what you're doing and what you've done where you've been. What are you doing that scenario
I have a crush on a co worker who has approached me and vise versa, how can I get his phone number or for him to ask me out we only see each other around the changing of shifts for less than 5 minutes but when we see each other we always smile at each other with admiration I feel he’s interested in me because when he approach’s me he gives me a nice hello and a tight hug, around my shoulder and I give him a hug him too yes I am interested in him as well but now how do get his phone or should I wait on him or should I approach him again
Hey i loove your videos!!! I was just thinking about something that has been in my head for a while now its about my height my mom and my aunt said that it is ok to be tall but i am sooo insecure about my height i am 5"11 and 16 no guys want to date me and people are always picking on me PLEASE HELP ME!!!! Thank you, from Grace
Hi Marie, I'd really appreciate your help. I'm going on a second date with this girl I really like. I'm worried I may have waited to long since the last date (two months ago), however, we have stayed in contact since then, chatting on Facebook and have even asked each other out to things that we were each to busy to go to. I casually went to see her at the store she works at and she asked if I wanted to go out to see or do something within the next few weeks, so we made plans. I'm afraid she might think I only want to be friends (because it's been so long since we last went out). My plan is that if during the date she gives me signs that she's not interested, then I'll have to move on, but if I see that she enjoyed herself and likes being with me, at the end of the date I'd want to tell her that I really like her and want to see her more. Would this be bad? Is there something else I could say or do to make it clear that I'd like to see her more? Thank you so much :)
GuitarGuy, that's a good plan. And honestly, I think she likes you. Because this is obviously a date, and if she weren't interested in you, she would have turned you down.
Hi Marie, how do you deal with having to be in a class with a couple people who USED to be your friends? Although we kinda had a fell out last semester, I wanted to say hi to them this semester and try to have a clean start because we have a class together. Not necessarily be friends again, but just be on good terms. However, they don't want to talk to me and they don't even make eye contact with me. How can I overcome the awkwardness I feel being in a class with them and feeling their resentfulness towards me? Thanks.
Thekatalicious17, every time you see them, smile and say hi. Even if they never say hi back. It doesn't matter. This does two things. It shows that you are not stooping to their level, and it makes you look like they don't bother you at all, like they are not getting to you. And I realize the situation bothers you...but they don't need to know that! And you never know, they could all of a sudden drop their immature facade and actually say hi.
I'm 18 and I work in an environment with ladies who are all 50-ish. Im really shy as it is but i feel really awkward because im so much younger than the other ladies at work and i feel like i can't contribute to their conversations because i have no experience about what their going through in their lives. i dont know how to be less awkward at work, help!!?
Lauren, always be careful about sharing personal information at work. Don't say anything you don't want the world to know. That being said, you could always ask them for advice. They might like that you are looking for a little motherly feedback. Nothing big,but it could help you develop a little bit of a bond with them.
Lauren, I'm a 50 yr old woman. I would enjoy making friends with a young coworker. Don't be intimidated, and don't worry about messing up - whatever you do, your coworkers have screwed up like that long before and they get it. Go for it and enjoy these new friends.
Helllo! I love your videos, the things you are talking about are so true and you are very emphatic. I am in an unpleaseant situation right now, because I have crush on my lecturer (I'm 20, he's 30) and I think he likes me as well, he's always very nice to me, smiles at me, when he tells a joke he looks for my reaction first and I have impression that he always watches me out of corner of his eye... And when there are many people around, he avoids eye contact with me. How should I act? I know it might seem childish, but I mean it seriously... (And of course, he's single, otherwise I wouldn't think about it at all) Could you do a video about this topic/or reply to my comment, please?
I forgot to mention that one time I went to his office during his consulting hours and as he was talking to me and holding papers, his hands were shaking a lot, it was very noticeable and the whole time he was very nice to me and even complimented me on my seminar paper and asked if I wanted to collaborate with him on my bachelor thesis. Also, we often accidentally come across each other's path. :D And I'm sure it's accidentally, I meet him on streets, bus stops, coaches, school canteen and even boarding house.... Well, I know that we both often visit the same places, but sometimes it looks really awkward. XD I wish I were more courageos when it comes to small talk with him, I usually just smile and greet him and he smiles as well... I will be thankful for any tips.
What does it mean if you used to text alot but now its getting short does that mean its getting bad ? He says he already knows me so he feels he doesnt need to text me as deeply Help ?
Hannah, how is every other aspect of your relationship? If he still communicates as much with you, just in other ways (life face to face communication!|) then everything is fine. But if he talks to you less and less, then there might be a problem.
@Mike Barooshian I'm both glad and sad you have had the same expirience! It's aweful, but for me, it's good to know I'm not imagining things. For some reason almost everybody in the world is lying about this. Gaslighting. I have finally realized this. People friends family doctors councellors all react to minimize and invalidate your expirience. Whether you suffer from lack of deeper connection, or simply from any reciprocal connection at all, people will invalidate your expirience with phrases like 'give it time' or 'you're reading too much in too it' or 'we're all different', 'people have different needs' etc. Or they make it you're fault, by implying, 'you're trying too hard', 'you come on too strong' 'people are busy'. It is soul destroying, when you cannot build mutual deeper caring relationships (and the key word here is 'mutual'.... you're probably very good at building them, just you cannot motivate the other person to make the effort mutual!). I understand people shying away. They have drawn a circle around those they want to let into their life, and everybody else is only useful if they are useful, upwardly mobile or temporarily entertaining. But they bleed you dry, because you're pouring your soul into a connection you're trying to build with them. It cannot be built. Unless you accrue to their status, opportunities, practical or financial well being. But by the very fact you need them or invest in them, you have already lost 'status'. And if you look for that 1 person in a 1000 who also is looking for more unconditional shared respect and a bit of enjoyable contact ( we're all on this planet for a short time, let's enjoy it together🌎☺) chances are, they or you will also back off. It's bewildering
I'm enjoying catching up with your videos. You seem really knowledgable about the 'human condition' and so much of what you say really rings true. You've made me look at a few things in a completely new way. Thinking, how did I not see that? Thnx
Susan, thank you very much for your kind words. So glad I could help.
Asking those questions is still considered small talk.
thank u maam u just make me feel better about myself love ur vids! keep this good work up
Haha the weather uh hu yea, you’re funny and engaging. I love your haircut! I’ve already watched 6 videos back to back, and am learning what it is I’m lacking when it comes to communicating with men. Thanks for your warm approach to these subjects. It helps.
Thanks, Marie. You're the real deal! :)
That's seems weird to just be asking questions. They might get annoyed.
lol.. skiing to the economy.. love you! :)
Marie, you are amazing. Thank you so much.
Butterfly, there are a million girls who would love to be your height! Flaunt it. I know it is hard now, but honestly, it is an asset.
Marie Dubuque please be my mom! you give such good advice and relationships.
wow okay i have always waited for people to ask me things i will take it
i know whatbits like to be stuck in small talk, once i had a crush on these 3 girls (all at the same time) i always had standard conversations and never once went any further in fear of backlash regret it now
I wonder why some guys stare at me.. is it because I'm different (I have aqua hair and dress a little differently) or because of my face (I look 16 but really I'm 2 years younger) or all at once
Excellent advice
How do you handle people dropping in without calling first?
I think we all must be different, as I love people dropping in unexpectedly. I love visitors.
I remember trying to talk to a girl once about what she likes to do, and I got the "how boring" treatment and constant insults for the rest of the evening, finally ending with the usual, can we be friends on whatsapp.
You are awesome!!!!!!
I'm great at asking others questions like this, I was a hair stylist for awhile, so small talk comes easy. I find though that the conversations becomes stagnant and one sided they almost seem creepier out by how many questions I ask. why is that?
The worst thing a woman can say is No. Are you a man or a mouse ? Don't stop, refine or redefine yourself and woman will appear out of no where.
Sorry Marie for not introducing myself but I have a big crush on my co worker I’ve been seeing of and on for 3 months I been getting to know him and we talk when we see each other but now it’s getting a little because he has hinted about me seeing him for the next 4 days and I said yes with a smile but or around the 4th of July he has asked me what are my plans during the 4th of July week unfortunately I went out of town I screwed that up hoping when I got back, he would see me again and we did with smiles and hugs for each but what to do now Marie, I find him so irresistible and stunningly handsome
What if you're conversating with a woman that you are interested in and she takes time out of her day and talk to you but never really has anything to say about herself just questions about what you're doing and what you've done where you've been. What are you doing that scenario
I have a crush on a co worker who has approached me and vise versa, how can I get his phone number or for him to ask me out we only see each other around the changing of shifts for less than 5 minutes but when we see each other we always smile at each other with admiration I feel he’s interested in me because when he approach’s me he gives me a nice hello and a tight hug, around my shoulder and I give him a hug him too yes I am interested in him as well but now how do get his phone or should I wait on him or should I approach him again
hey marie, i am good friend with this girl but recently she thinks i like her? how do i show her that we're just friends?
Hey i loove your videos!!! I was just thinking about something that has been in my head for a while now its about my height my mom and my aunt said that it is ok to be tall but i am sooo insecure about my height i am 5"11 and 16 no guys want to date me and people are always picking on me PLEASE HELP ME!!!! Thank you, from Grace
5'11 isn't tall. Guys under about 6'4 are just genetically inferior they have feminine genetics.
Hi Marie, I'd really appreciate your help. I'm going on a second date with this girl I really like. I'm worried I may have waited to long since the last date (two months ago), however, we have stayed in contact since then, chatting on Facebook and have even asked each other out to things that we were each to busy to go to. I casually went to see her at the store she works at and she asked if I wanted to go out to see or do something within the next few weeks, so we made plans. I'm afraid she might think I only want to be friends (because it's been so long since we last went out). My plan is that if during the date she gives me signs that she's not interested, then I'll have to move on, but if I see that she enjoyed herself and likes being with me, at the end of the date I'd want to tell her that I really like her and want to see her more. Would this be bad? Is there something else I could say or do to make it clear that I'd like to see her more? Thank you so much :)
GuitarGuy, that's a good plan. And honestly, I think she likes you. Because this is obviously a date, and if she weren't interested in you, she would have turned you down.
Thank you, Marie! I feel a lot more confident now. I'll let you know next week if it works out :).
Hi Marie, how do you deal with having to be in a class with a couple people who USED to be your friends? Although we kinda had a fell out last semester, I wanted to say hi to them this semester and try to have a clean start because we have a class together. Not necessarily be friends again, but just be on good terms. However, they don't want to talk to me and they don't even make eye contact with me. How can I overcome the awkwardness I feel being in a class with them and feeling their resentfulness towards me? Thanks.
Thekatalicious17, every time you see them, smile and say hi. Even if they never say hi back. It doesn't matter. This does two things. It shows that you are not stooping to their level, and it makes you look like they don't bother you at all, like they are not getting to you. And I realize the situation bothers you...but they don't need to know that! And you never know, they could all of a sudden drop their immature facade and actually say hi.
Who coined the phrase "Underwater basket weaving"? I've heard that years ago.
Sam, I was wondering about that, because I can't remember where I heard it!
I love your vids. You are always dead on.
Sam Zoozenberg
Underwater basket weaving exists. You can actually get a degree in it.
I'm 18 and I work in an environment with ladies who are all 50-ish. Im really shy as it is but i feel really awkward because im so much younger than the other ladies at work and i feel like i can't contribute to their conversations because i have no experience about what their going through in their lives. i dont know how to be less awkward at work, help!!?
Lauren, always be careful about sharing personal information at work. Don't say anything you don't want the world to know. That being said, you could always ask them for advice. They might like that you are looking for a little motherly feedback. Nothing big,but it could help you develop a little bit of a bond with them.
Lauren, I'm a 50 yr old woman. I would enjoy making friends with a young coworker. Don't be intimidated, and don't worry about messing up - whatever you do, your coworkers have screwed up like that long before and they get it. Go for it and enjoy these new friends.
Helllo! I love your videos, the things you are talking about are so true and you are very emphatic. I am in an unpleaseant situation right now, because I have crush on my lecturer (I'm 20, he's 30) and I think he likes me as well, he's always very nice to me, smiles at me, when he tells a joke he looks for my reaction first and I have impression that he always watches me out of corner of his eye... And when there are many people around, he avoids eye contact with me. How should I act? I know it might seem childish, but I mean it seriously... (And of course, he's single, otherwise I wouldn't think about it at all) Could you do a video about this topic/or reply to my comment, please?
I forgot to mention that one time I went to his office during his consulting hours and as he was talking to me and holding papers, his hands were shaking a lot, it was very noticeable and the whole time he was very nice to me and even complimented me on my seminar paper and asked if I wanted to collaborate with him on my bachelor thesis. Also, we often accidentally come across each other's path. :D And I'm sure it's accidentally, I meet him on streets, bus stops, coaches, school canteen and even boarding house.... Well, I know that we both often visit the same places, but sometimes it looks really awkward. XD I wish I were more courageos when it comes to small talk with him, I usually just smile and greet him and he smiles as well... I will be thankful for any tips.
What does it mean if you used to text alot but now its getting short does that mean its getting bad ? He says he already knows me so he feels he doesnt need to text me as deeply Help ?
Hannah, how is every other aspect of your relationship? If he still communicates as much with you, just in other ways (life face to face communication!|) then everything is fine. But if he talks to you less and less, then there might be a problem.
yeah he talks to me face to face just the came but with the text less and less
It's a lie. Nothing forms deeper friendship
@Mike Barooshian I'm both glad and sad you have had the same expirience! It's aweful, but for me, it's good to know I'm not imagining things. For some reason almost everybody in the world is lying about this. Gaslighting. I have finally realized this. People friends family doctors councellors all react to minimize and invalidate your expirience. Whether you suffer from lack of deeper connection, or simply from any reciprocal connection at all, people will invalidate your expirience with phrases like 'give it time' or 'you're reading too much in too it' or 'we're all different', 'people have different needs' etc. Or they make it you're fault, by implying, 'you're trying too hard', 'you come on too strong' 'people are busy'.
It is soul destroying, when you cannot build mutual deeper caring relationships (and the key word here is 'mutual'.... you're probably very good at building them, just you cannot motivate the other person to make the effort mutual!). I understand people shying away. They have drawn a circle around those they want to let into their life, and everybody else is only useful if they are useful, upwardly mobile or temporarily entertaining. But they bleed you dry, because you're pouring your soul into a connection you're trying to build with them. It cannot be built. Unless you accrue to their status, opportunities, practical or financial well being.
But by the very fact you need them or invest in them, you have already lost 'status'. And if you look for that 1 person in a 1000 who also is looking for more unconditional shared respect and a bit of enjoyable contact ( we're all on this planet for a short time, let's enjoy it together🌎☺) chances are, they or you will also back off. It's bewildering