MY CHILDHOOD LIFE STORY (telling my truth)
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Hi everyone. Thank you for being here!
I've had this video requested a lot since I first started posting. This video is just me telling my truth because growing up I wasn't allowed to talk about these things to protect my family's image. I've left lots of incidents and parts of my life out of this video because there are some things that I would like to keep to myself, and it would also make this video TOO long haha.
But in no way do I want or need sympathy/pity for my childhood because I know others have experienced a lot worse in their life. But everything I've experienced in my life has molded me into the person that I am today. I've learned many things causing me to make better decisions as an adult based on what those experiences have taught me. Everything in my life has happened for a reason, and it has motivated me to create a better life for myself. I will break the cycle, and I hope you do too.
I know that many of you might relate to some of my stories, and I hope this video made you feel less alone. Thanks for watching and reading this!
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Every child deserves a parent but not every adult deserves a child. -wise soul
Edit: 30 likes? Thank you
Edit 2: Almost 100 what
Real because my mom never gave me attention as a child so i had to moved into so many homes (my dad only was home when he wanted to drink and fight)
@@Raspberrylover I feel so sorry for you are you okay now?
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i’m happy she feels safe to tell us
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Yup wherever she’s ready xx🫶🏻
Yes
I'm just happy that she is living happy now ❤
@@tx2loverrlove the pfp
It's not your fault. They brought you up thinking it was discipline, you didn't know any better. It's not your fault, okay ? You are so amazing for sharing your story. I'm so proud of you ❤❤
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Can someone explain what happening shortly? I don’t have time to watch the whole video 😭
He didn't think of it as discipline dude. He is a domestic abuser to her mom and then just transferred that to her.
Who else cried during this, you’ve got this Melissa you’ve got all of us now 😢
I'm so sorry, you didn't deserve that trauma Melissa. You deserve love. You deserve kindness. You deserve all the love that parents give their children. I'm so sorry. We love you so much. You know what they say, All children deserve parents, But not all parents deserve children. I hope you get better and heal. I know it hurts but you will heal. I'm so sorry.
You are so beautiful 🥰❤️❤️❤️
It's unbelievable how I come here to trigger myself only to feel recognized and understood.
Thank you, Melissa, for giving me hope with your current lifestyle
I love everything that she stands for. I love that she posts things that people can relate too, and she’s there for her audience. If you’re reading this, I’m sorry that you had to go through all of that. It’s horrible that children have to face the things that they do. I’m happy you feel safe enough to tell everybody watching. We’re here for you, just like you’re there for us.
This comment made my day
My parents are divorced and my father always say he loves me BUT when I'm by my mother he NEVERS ask me how am I am I ok
And then again my mother loves me alot and when I'm by my dad I saw on her phone when I came back by her she asked how am I and am I ok
Then again my dad just bring me back home just to get my school stuff and carried me back by her he Do NOT LOVE ME
P.s plz don't like reply heart pin don't do anything to this comment plz if my dad see this ill get in trouble
@@wayneramdhan4554idk what does ps mean canvyou tell me
I've also been through similar issues with my father. I left about a year ago and have go to a therapist just recently was very hard for me to get over with the no contact. I will be on short term disability because I cant function by myself very well and need to do DBT for a year and was diagnosed with PTSD i have something else wrong but for now im glad im being understood still get sad when I see others that have gone into the similar situation im deeply sorry you have been through that I completely understand how hard it is to forgive yourself when it comes to the sibling part
I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this. No kid deserves that, no adult deserves that :(
I just want to say your family may hate you, but we love you. Your story was so touching Melissa. ❤ And for the record all children deserve loving parents, but not all parents deserve loving children. Your parents don’t deserve you. I hope that you can heal from this pain, and get see your siblings again. No child, should have to be the parent. The servant. You shouldn’t have had to go through this, but you did. And I hope your parents reach out to you with an apology.
" I don't hit your siblings cause I love them "
Like what the actual F ! This so wrong and bad to say to a kid 😢!
Honestly I cried so much during the video 🤧 I realized that this don't only happen in movies but in real life as well 😮💨
I can't even imagine the trauma you went and keep going through cause of how badly you were treated 😔
None deserves to be treated like that and especially if the people who say and do those things are your own blood YOUR OWN FAMILY .I am honestly so happy that you didn't give up.
You're a survivor and you teach me that I shouldn't give up even on the hardest situations❤️🩹.
I am one of your supporters 💞
Keep going ❤❤
You’re not alone. I haven’t had any family for 6 years. It’s rough but we are another breed, it makes us stronger and more independent. And when we have family of our own again we will appreciate it even more.
Who came here because of her UA-cam short??
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Hey Melissa, I've been watching your shorts for quite a while, and before I watch this video, I want to say thank you so much for having the courage and bravery to share your story. This video is going to empower many young men and women who have gone through similar circumstances. I will edit after I've finished watching your story. Edit:Her story brought tears to my eyes,I could honestly relate to this on a deep level,my situation is different than yours. My dad has two sides to him,he is a doctor and he worked very hard many of the time to support the family so he barely got to spend time with my family when I was younger,(perhaps this pressure by itself from work and finances created that external stress)but as a little child it's something I aspired to help people the relationship between my father and I is complicated.The worst thing and nicest thing to hear is my father and I think alike I hear it alot or I look like this person from my family.
I never felt like what I do or have done is enough and the worst thing is my family is aristocratic my mom went to highschool when she was 9 she got many scholarship excelled in all her subject my dad the same,my grandmother a professor in Literature and a prinicipal so if I go to any teacher they are bound to know who my family members whether its my parents grand parents and Aunt they all excelled so what do they say "I expect very much from you"
but growing older I realised he can be very short tempered,it felt like walking on eggshells,anything small would make him very angry. I am also the eldest sister of my family,there were days when he would go to his room he would call me reprobate selfish recalcitrant,even though I did my best to help my siblings+studying+washing wares+cooking and cleaning,these were duties of the eldest sister.You're one year older than me but I'm also going to be 20 in September. One of the most traumatizing days I remember is when my grades were nothing short than A or there were mistakes on a test I'd get beaten with a belt.There was this moment where my sister forgot her socks I decided to go back upstairs and get them for her I got beaten with a belt and when I went to school I hid in the bathroom crying my boyfriend (friend now) touched my back and flinched he asked who did it ,I gave no answer.There are days when I tried to explain my side to him or even talk back he would threaten to punch me or have physical fight with me.I realise..this probably caused me to be a people pleaser...I always many times have wanted my father's pat on shoulder that I've done well...but I don't look for it anymore..these days he's not as bad as he used to be but there are moments I live in fear those awful moments will return... especially around a season of financial crisis or work stress he gives most of his patience to outside people that by the time he comes home has none for his own family. Many moments he would say "I've given my blood sweat and tears to give you this life...or you're so ungrateful..you're not doing your best..." And I feel many times guilty like I owe my parents so much there were many days I wished I wasn't alive. My siblings are very fortunate they never had the same parenting never got beaten shouted or overburdened with expectations and I hope it isn't something they ever have to go through. I am still grateful for all the sacrifices both my parents made but it doesn't mean how they treated me is completely right either. Maturity is realising things are not how you imagined ,and that your parents aren't perfect . These days I go to the gym and continue to pray and study , I hope to move to America once my grades do well in January please wish me luck.
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Hey, I'm sorry you had to go through such an experience. I can't imagine how has it was for you to forget. I'm not pitying you I couldn't do such a thing. I just feel sympathy for you because I know it must have been hard to handle with the stress. I may not be near your story. But I do understand how hard it is to deal with the stress of having perfect grades. On being the perfect girl, on becoming the perfect woman to my parents. I am a few years younger than you. But sometimes I feel pressured on having good grades. And if I get a B on a test or in my grades my parents will say "You could have done better, next time you should have an A." It's not that they're not proud of me, it's just that they want me to have perfect grades. I guess in someway they think that my grades will get me into a good school. Sometimes I feel that my efforts aren't appreciated or that they're not enough. I understand them but sometimes I feel like I don't meet their criteria. I understand they want the best for me. But sometimes I just wish my dad wouldn't be disappointed when I get a B. Anyway I'm not going to go in deeper. I hope you have a good day. I hope you all do, keep fighting, never give up because you're enough.
-Good Luck I'm sure you'll do more than amazing. Always be proud of yourself.
Hi Melissa! I am also the eldest of three siblings with 9 &13 years gap. And I am 21 years old. But I can relate to you on every single point except the physical abuse part. Thank you for sharing your story 💜 it gave me comfort and made me feel less lonely. I am here for you just as you are here for us. Just know that there will always be someone who is happy that you exist.
I hope your siblings recieve your apology be it through here or other means (reaching out, ect). All THREE of you deserved so much better, and (if they and you want to), I hope you reunite.
I have been watching you for a while and your life has been very similar to mine. I’ve suffered being the scapegoat at the hands of very abusive, alcoholic and narcissistic parents with anger issues. They have financially, emotionally, verbally and physically abused me. I went no contact with my father two weeks ago but I’m kind of homeless and couch surfing until I can pick myself up again. I’m breaking the cycle
Wish you the best!
I'm so sorry to hear, that sounds terrible.🥺 You are so strong to do the big step breaking up contact.. great respect! I hope you can get some help..
Please, don' t forget: you count, you are strong, you are valuable!
Wishing you the best! 🫂
You can and you will break the cycle. Stay strong keep your head held high.
I just want to say from the bottom of my soul, i’m extremely thankful for you Melissa, you are not just a youtube to me you’re an amazing role model and thank you so much for giving me a better mindset and helping me go through hardships, when i grow up i hope i can break a cycle like you do, words cannot describe how grateful i am i love you Melissa❤
I've looked up to you from the minute I stumbled upon your channel. I feel terrible for what you went through, and I'm glad you got out of that toxic household. best of luck!
My Father doesn't Physically Abuse me (only when he got very mad), but I relate to you to every other way. Your mother is like mine, you dad is like mine, his choice of my siblings over me. You have literally spilled my feelings out too. Selfishly I feel good I am not the one one and hopefully I will be free like u one day...Thankyou for Showing me how life could be outside toxic Families.
I'm so sorry for what you've been through. But just know that there are so many people watching this and are here for you. Literally your a queen that should go viral. And it's okay to get emotional during this you can't control your emotions. I can also tell in some of your videos you do show actual emotion and it just makes me feel so bad for you.
I’m so happy for you and you’ve been able to recover. I hope your siblings see this video and you’re all able to reconnect.
It’s so sad that you went through that. I’m glad you are happy now. Every kid deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a kid
You are so incredibly brave to be sharing this with us! Thank you ❤❤❤
you’re so brave to actually share this. wishing you all the best. i love you 🫶
Thank you for being true and sharing this with people who might need to hear it ⭐
I understand & respect your own decision. I grew up with a broken family and it’s sad seeing people people talk about God, but are hypocrites! I hated God for that for a long time until I found him! And I hope you can find God as well! Thank you for sharing your story. You are very BRAVE & BEAUTIFUL just like God made you! ✝️❤️❤️❤️
this video honestly and genuinely made me cry my heart out. You’ve been so inspirational to me since I started following you and I’m glad to know your story and that you’ve been brave enough to post this video. My family is not that dysfunctional but I feel the same need to escape, to find my place in the world, and seeing you this happy, free and successful with the life that you’re building is something that sincerely inspires me to do better, to grab a jacket and just go
I've got to say you are my favorite girl. You have gone through so much you did not deserve and you are traumatized, and you still have so much to heal from and your still having a smile on your face everyday. We are so proud of you Melissa! You might have thought you would have never got out and no parent should kick their kid out at 18, and I understand no contact is really hard. I'm 16 and I was kicked out of my dad's house simply because I wanted him to act like a father when he didn't want to. I cut communication off and it is hard harder than anyone wants it to be, but watching your videos and seeing how your able to heal means anyone can heal when they go through bad shit as a child or just in every day life or are just traumatized thank you for feeling safe enough to spread your trauma. Thank you for helping others and wanting to break the abuse cycle. You are forever loved by everyone here. We are forever proud of every single thing you do
My mom doesnt think mental and emotional abuse is real and let my stepdad abuse me my whole life and would state its not abuse. Like im sorry that he yells at me every day and that he kept trying to get rid of me since i was a child. He was physically abusive too but it was rare. He didn't beat us though or do stuff to leave marks. It was just grabing our hands and suizing them until we cried. I finally left 3 years ago and im so happy. When i left my stepdad even told me i betrayed them. I'm happy you left too and i hope you are okay.
I'm sorry you got such brutal people that called themselves parents. you didn't choose your mom and dad, but you did choose a better life, that takes a lot of strength. I wish your siblings every power to get out and find a healthy life too.
omg am so relatable w you in many ways.. yes there was a part of me that’s hoping we would get better(that time) and i absolutely had no idea that i was being abused all my life and i was just thinking it was “love” and really normal but no it’s not. Going no contact w my abusive family is the BEST thing that i did in my life, my mental health is already f* up with all the trauma and the last thing that i’d tell myself or anyone asking me to “let go” and find peace.. NO i want to keep that fire burning alive till the last breath of mine, that’s the only way i can survive and WIN and be happy. Just bc i don’t heal my inner child doesn’t mean that am not happy and not at peace infact, it’s the quite opposite
Love u Mel sm. U made me realize that everything I have been through wasn’t my fault and have helped me feel so much better about myself ❤️ TW I wasn’t raised with “tough love” but when it came to mental and verbal love it wasn’t never given to me. My dad was barely in the picture and they always used to fight even when I was around I still remember listening in while playing with toys in my living room. and she had always had anger issues and she used to do drugs and sometimes she would her anger out on me, not really physically but mentally and emotionally, it could even be over making a loud noise or spilling something, I remember one time she threatened that she will take me to my fathers and will never pick me back up and even went as far as to taking out my suitcase and packing my clothes I was screaming and crying my voice going hoarse from crying so many hours. She would always apologize at the end but it wouldn’t mean much. After the age of nine was when she really changed and became cold to me, our relationship was so rocky that on the way to school we wouldn’t even look at eachother, it kinda got better at 10 but then went all out the window when my “dad” stepped back into the picture and ditched me again on my 4th grade graduation party and they fought again over the phone and he ended up sending me all the photos of the text messages saying “he couldn’t take this anymore” that day a piece of me broke a wound that hasn’t healed yet that has made my heart turn to stone. While also struggling with my parents a boy in 6th grade was sexually harassing me and made me dread going to school I told everyone but he wouldn’t js stop he wouldn’t leave me alone he ended up attempting to write a note to me through his friend saying all the nasty things he wanted to do to me. When 5th grade started that’s when it really got bad, she was coming home late every Friday, I was spending 6+ hours alone every day traveling from school and back alone, on my 10th birthday instead of spending the night with me she dropped me off at her best friends house to hang out with her boyfriend and got mad at me when I got sad that’s she was leaving me. It would sometimes even be 12:00 am and she wouldn’t be back yet and every time she did come home she would just get ready for bed and sleep. And then throughout the week would scream and throw insults at me if I even did one thing wrong. One time I accidentally kicked a glass of soda over and got so scared I backed myself up into a corner and didn’t move for almost a hour having an anxiety attack, scared what she was going to do. In the middle of 5th grade I started s€lf h@rming and she didn’t find out till two months and the only reason why is that she saw a close up of my thighs, then instead of comforting me went on a rant of “where did I go wrong” and “am I not a good parent” and the second time she caught me she threatened to send me to a psych ward. I still do but I try my best not too. Our relationship has only gotten worse from this and I can’t wait to go no contact and move away from this hellhole but u make life atleast a little more better for me 💕💕 sending love to you Melissa remember u r not alone 💕
I am so sorry that you had to go through that
Go girl! ❤ You are brave to share your story. You are amazing! Stay strong girl. Healing isn't linear.
I am an 12 year old going through the same things you have gone through the only difference is that i'm the youngest an only daughter
my big brother got abused but my middle brother did'nt my father is not alcoholic but he went to prison once i protected my brother and mother from my father since i was 6 and i still protect them.
Edit: My big brother is becoming just like my father. he is being rude to me.
Edit: i was going to kill myself but ever since i have seen ur videos i found hope to live
Edit thanks so much for commenting nice stuff i promise i will survive
Hey kiddo, coming from a 16 year old struggling with mental health. I got some good advice, just keep going. Because even when times get rough, you can always think of your brother, mother, and friends. You got a big future ahead of you.
I'm also 12 and struggling with mental health. It's gotten better though lately. And I promise the same will happen with you. You didn't deserve any of this hurt, not one bit of it. But always remember that so many people care for you. Your mother, brother, and friends. They all care for you so much. You deserve their love, and you deserve a good life. I promise it will come one day. Hang in there, you're going to be really proud of yourself one day.
I honestly wanna die but my friends are so nice I don't wanna make them cry
ive gone thru all that once, and something to keep in mind is to try and push negative people away and out of you life, or gradually just drift apart. remind yourself you can do this, you are loved, and you matter to a lot of people even if they dont say it. keep your head up, you can do this! sending love and prayers for you!
God loves you. I promise He knows. Pray and trust in Him.
This video almost made me cry, and I litteraly don’t cry bc of any video or book. I feel so bad for you. I pray for you and your siblings. “Every kid deserves a parent, but every parent doesn’t deserve a child” - a very smart person
I’m so sorry all that happened to you. I hope you are doing way better now. And I am so glad ai found you channel because you really inspire me!
30:41 i love how you said “is that a crab” im so sorry for all you’ve been through and im so happy that you are finally healing🫶🫶❤️❤️❤️
Keep you're head up, Princess. Don't let your crown fall❤❤
Hey Mellisa? Thank you for keeping to go on through life and face all these challenges without giving up. I dont think you realize the positive effect it has on people. Thank you
You’re so gorgeous and so strong for going through all that, we love you 🫶🏻🫂
This video broke my heart. It hurts even more being able to relate to most of it. I was never beaten, although my family did hit us children as punishment. Sometimes we were hit pretty hard but compared to my cousin who's dad would actually beat her and punch her it wasn't that bad.
I'm the oldest of three. The three my parents kept custody of. My older half sister (with an 11 year age gap) was raised in foster care and by her grandmother. My older twin brothers were taken at birth because my mom had drugs in her system. One of the twins died in foster care at 2 years old and the other was adopted. He actually lives less than an hour away but I've never met him. My parents have never tried seeing him. Nor have they visited my other brother's grave.
But yeah, I was the oldest child at home. Us three were the ones raised together. As a baby and probably up until I was 5-7. . .I was favored and doted on. I wasnt the favorite after my little sister was born when I was two. . .my mom's daughter she always wanted. A blonde haired blue eyed gorgeous baby girl. Then, my brother was born when I was four. He's my mom's only boy she got to raise. The one that looks just like her twins. The baby of the family.
My parents were both from extremely toxic families. Gang violence, guns, drugs, alcohol, domestic violence and abuse. . .you name it. My mother actually ran away at 15 with a grown man. Then she got addicted to drugs. She ran away because she grew up in a house where her dad beat the crap out of her mom. Then her older siblings started dying one by one till only a few were left. My mom told me that when one of her brothers killed himself they said he was going to hell at his funeral for taking his own life. She got up and screamed they were lying. She was only 9. My mother suffered physical and emotional abuse growing up in her family.
My dad had an even worse family. His dad was an addict and an alcoholic. Yet, funny enough my grandfather is the only one in my family to get fully sober and change his life. But back then he cheated on his wife, beat her black and blue, and he hit my dad and uncles. Mainly my dad because he was the oldest. He broke his nose once beating him. He also sent him to school covered in bruises where nobody could see. Then, my grandmother would also beat him to take her anger out on him since he looked like my grandpa. He let her because he loved her. My dad admits that my grandma didnt love him. That he knew that growing up but loved her anyways. They were also really poor and often starved.
So, not only did my parents come from toxic families and had childhoods filled with trauma on top of being addicts themselves. They were broken after losing my brother. I will hand it to my dad, he never really hit us because he couldnt bring himself to do what his dad did to him. My mom was the one who would punish us. The problem was that they often fought. Their relationship was honestly over after my brother died. They never shouldve had more children. They were in the process of breaking up actually when my mom found out she was pregnant with me. They fought a lot in front of us. My mom would put her hands on my dad.
I begged them to break up. Then, when I was starting 3rd grade they finally split up for good. But then I rarely saw my dad and my mom started dating new men she would have live with us. My mother's addiction got worse. I still have trauma over the times she would be either awake and unresponsive even if I slapped her or screamed and cried in her face. . .or completely knocked out and unresponsive. The worst feeling as a child to me was having a parent there but not really. My mom was there in front of me but I couldnt ask her for food, couldnt ask for help, couldnt count on her for anything.
My mom and I had a horrible relationship, especially because I took after my dad in looks and personality, and to be honest our relationship was very toxic and emotionally abusive. It didnt help that both sides of my family hated me for no reason but adored my sister. Our whole family was just messed up. I grew up a lot like you, always angry, and I also took it out on my siblings by punishing them because I thought that was how I was supposed to punish them. My parents were often unavailable because of drugs. I had no choice but to parent my siblings. I had to keep them in check, which included punishing them. I got in trouble for it. But I kept doing it. Because my parents didnt. My parents refused to take responsibility for my siblings so I took on that burden. My siblings were rarely, if ever punished, but I was always being punished by my mother. Sometimes I would be purposefully punished for stuff my siblings did. Growing up, I believed my mom hated me so I hated her back. I grew to be angry and resentful as the least favorite child yet the one with the most responsibilities. And then my mom would be depressed because of her boyfriends and use me as her personal therapist. I actually had to stop her from killing herself a few times when she tried to swallow a bunch of pills and suffocate herself with a pillow.
It was traumatizing. But I preserved and went on pretending my life was normal. That I was fine. Then, my mom got back with the man she ran away with at 15. He beat her. All the time. Badly. And he was a big muscular biker looking guy. This was from when I was 12/13 to almost 14. I couldnt help my mother in any way except screaming at him to stop. He would threaten to kill her and eventually he started threatening to kill us kids. I feared for my life every single day living with him. He would take our phones, throwing them outside so we had no contact with the outside. One night we were outside in shorts and t-shirts with no shoes at 3 am on a school night in 3 feet of snow looking for our phones. He even broke a few phones. One time, things were so bad and I was so scared I tried to get out but he had locked multiple locks on the front door. So I couldnt unlock the door fast enough. He grabbed me by the back of my shirt collar and threw me across the room into the dining table. I thought he was going to kill me. But to be honest I was more scared for my siblings. I would have continued to deal with it if it wasnt for them. I just wanted to live quietly and finish middle school. But things got even worse again and I made the choice to ask for help. I finally told my dad everything with no pretty lies or smoothing over the harsh truth. CPS got involved. I lived with my aunt and uncle who hated me and mistreated me for a year until my dad got custody. I'm 18 now and I want nothing to do with my family besides my siblings. I dont think I'll ever be able to fully cut my parents off but I'll also never be able to truly forgive them for the hell that was my childhood.
Anyways, sorry for trauma dumping half of my life story. Thanks for reading if you managed to make it this far. And to Melissa, thank you for being brave for your siblings. I know you'll never regret it. Because never once have I regretted protecting mine. Your video was very inspiring to me because of the similarities in our stories. I wish you all the best.
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I’m so sorry I don’t know what to say 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤
5:06 I’m crying like this is something I needed to hear
I just know that you will get through everything since you’re the strongest and sweetest person I have ever seen
You stand by us we stand by you we stand for eachother!
The way you specifically described painful moments that I suffered from too as nonchalantly as I do makes me feel thankful to you and that I have found your channel. And yeah why is it always in the winter!? 😂💔😅 idk whether to laugh or cry.
I am going to thank you for sharing your story it must have been so hard for you to tell us this but thank you for being safe enough to tell us. I am sorry you had to go through all of this as a young child and hope you are better now. ❤❤
As much as it makes you a hero it's painful that you felt like your siblings were more worthy of protecting than yourself. And you felt responsible for their safety at 12 while not even your mom cared about yours. I feel your pain and you speaking about this makes me feel like I'm not alone. ❤ I wish you healing and happiness from here on.
I'm sorry your father and mother were such disappointing people. If they had any self awareness at all, they would step up and be responsible for their actions. If they are religious, they will be judged when it matters the most. All kids deserve good parents, but not all parents deserve their kids.
The scene is literally beautiful
With u in it
You deserve the best girl! Keep smiling always! Your content makes me feel heard and seen.❤ Keep growing❤
Thank you so much for sharing your experience it really helped me. I haven’t been through as much as you or as much as my older siblings but my father was always yelling at us and smacking us. My older sister would have to be my dads therapist and would always be yelled at by him and he would always yelling at all of us my parents are always fighting and my older sister was always there and defend us as kids. My mum would always defend him not as bad as yours by any means but it has left me with some mental problems and bad anxiety but thank you!! Love you heaps❤❤❤
I’m really sorry for everything that happened to you and I’m glad that you’re starting to heal
Coming from a similar family experience, I know. Melissa your amazing and your so strong that your able to share this with so many people, your just so strong. We are always here for you Queen, I’m so happy your better now. I’m so sorry and love you!
thanks so much for sharing your story Melissa! Just one friendly critique to make ur future videos better would be to record your audio separately from the main video so that we can hear your beautiful voice better❤
Wow so sad but so beautiful❤❤
I'm so happy that you were able to get away and live a much better life! You deserve the love of the world for going through what you went through, stay strong and keep being your brave, amazing, and awesome self!! We all will support you and I feel like I speak for everyone when I say that we are honored that you feel comfortable telling your story to us. Keep living your life without them and be the Queen that you are!! We all love you and your story❤❤
I'm so sorry that happened now I know why you don't want to meet your family. I understand why you wouldn't want to. I hope you feel way more safe right now in the place you are!! 🙂
thank you for sharing this, i cannot imagine how hard it is
Hey! Oh my gosh you are so strong and amazing. Keep being awesome. I love you and always remember u are loved by millions of ppl watching you. The world is so much better with u in it. ❤❤
i’m going through the same thing with my dad rn but my parents are divorced and i still have to see my dad regularly but he’s been mentally, and verbally abusing me ever since i was little, and a couple times he would come home drunk, he almost pulled my sisters ear off and hit us w a hanger. he also touches me on my butt and i don’t like that. and he has threatened 3 times to slap me in the face.
and theres even more things.
Now i get it.. just saw a short with you and your dog and was confused..
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I haven't seen my mother for most of my life, by choice...
So YOU DID EVERYTHING RIGHT. Take care for YOU :)
It’s ok your getting better now this is beautiful but sad
I so so so so so sorry for having a horrible and traumatic events as a child and even though you needed to fight and face the things your parents (dad)done to you and your mom and probably your siblings and even after your mom told the police he hurted you! I really hope he will go to jail or something and I hope you will have a great day, and I really hope you read this cause I took a long time doing this, and alcoholic parents would be really hard if they hurt and punish you as hurting you and doing stupid shit just by asking a question or saying that they're wrong!
Your so pretty! ❤And I’m so glad your doing better 💖
Hi I'm lauryn I'm 14 my dad is a Abusive narcissist He hits my mom My mom uses The phrase What happens in the house Stays in the house too I actually Tried to reach out to someone It was one of my friends And she told my mom My mom yelled at me and told me that. We don't talk about that stuff My dad did not find out so I did not get grounded or hit I asked my mom for therapy, and she told me that therapy is not going to work. And that only God can fix my dad and me I am the youngest in my family I have a older sister and older brother My sister is 24 My brother is 20 They still live with me and my family My sister is definitely the escape Goat Of our family My dad body shames her But my family treats me like I'm the oldest And my sister is the youngest And when they go out of town, I'm the one that in charge Not my adult siblings I have to cook for the do the laundry be apparent at 13 and 14 I didn't know it was abuse until I was 13 Because I thought it was normal And I want out And today my dad's in a really bad mood He already yelled at me this morning He yelled at my brother and my mom And I'm really scared to go downstairs. And I don't want to get Yelled at My mom says they're in love and she doesn't wanna leave him so You really help me understand what's going on in my house And I'm just waiting until I'm 18 so I can leave And I've already been in a narcissistic abusive relationship He was 15 I was 13 He was physically immensely abusive just like my dad I love you so much and you bring me joy every day
God is good. I know you’re losing hope and you wonder why a good God would leave you in this situation, but if you turn to Him, and faithfully pray and pursue Him, you will find peace and joy in the Lord. Please hear my words and think about them. God has changed my life, and He can so change yours. I love you and so does the Lord.
I’m so sorry you’re going by through that. Your feelings are valid and it’s good you’re aware that it’s abuse. Hang in there. I’ll be praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts.
My love, I send you so much love and healing. I'm so proud of how strong and self aware you are! Keep praying and keep your faith up. I know it's been a year since you made this comment, but I hour things have gotten better. Find an adult outside the home that you trust. Maybe they can discreetly help you get out of your home situation or help you to cope as best as you can. 3 or 4 years waiting for escape can seem daunting. Try to stay positive and seek help if you can. Praying for you little one ❤.
Home should be the safest place to be like they're supposed to,but it's not. I'm going to give the safest happiest place for many kinds. Not just a kid 🙂☺
Your story is so inspiring and touching. Your story made me tear up, i also love watching your tiktoks. You are such inspiring person. I honestly can't wait when i get a job and earn a lot of money so i can move out first chance, because i can't be at home bc its toxic and i feel like i can't breathe and be happy
Just watching her be happy makes me feel the sameee 💜💜
You are a big inspiration for me to get up and take responsibility over my life ❤
Okay this was such an emotional video, but off topic, I LOVE YOUR OUTFIT!
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I am also eldest of 3. My mom was an enabler in my early years, but I think she realized at some point how bad things were between all of us. Then she stepped up and I tell you- she kept the entire damn boat together without having to crush any of us. She was a victim too but it never affected the love she had for us. She also understood (???) my dad which to be fair, made her more prone to being used but she just had a soft spot for people like him. And thanks to that, I see my dad as more of a dimensional person that’s a product of his upbringing than an “evil character.” But I will still never let him back into my life… because he just isn’t able to reciprocate those feelings of love.
I am 13 and l am going through the same abuse in a different way and l love her content hope she will be fine soon
remember your worth more than they tell you, and please get help if safe
you will make it♥️♥️♥️🫶🏽
I have to tell you, you're so courages and strong,am really happy for you really proud to see the new you,a person that assume responsibility for their actions,cares for others and is forgiven,take care of yourself, you're really strong by continuing to live with this trauma and improving yourself.
Wow Melissa, I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’m ten years older than you and I have learned that it’s best to cut out the toxic people even if it’s your family. 😢❤❤
32:41 GIRL, ME 😂. Mel I am so proud of you, for choosing yourself and to end that never ending cycle for yourself and your siblings. They will come around some day. ❤ Keep going girl, you’re doing amazing and you will continue to grow as the beautiful woman you are. Miss you!
Im so happy this younger generation get the mental capacity to get out
I'm so happy that u are in a safe place and healing❤
My parents also fight alot, not even close to as bad as yours and I feel so bad that u had to go through that, my mom and dad fight about every year the same time. Because I am so young it was really traumatic but I hope that doesn't happen this year.
I’m really happy that u are comfortable enough to share your story I hope that u feel safe and that u are being loved to the fullest extent ❤❤ have a great day😊
You’re so strong ❤ thank you for sharing your story
I’ve watched your video and i can say i can relate 😢 in my case maybe the abuse wasnt when i was i child, but when started didnt finish, and i keep coming back when i have money problems, and its very difficult because im constantly afraid that something may happen, but now i feel i have damage, physcologically a lot. The last time that happened i was already 21 and my mother chocked me and it was trully scary. I’m glad that your are better now, and that give me a little bit hope that maybe i can do it too. Greetings
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I feel proud that she feels secure and happy now ❤
Im so sorry Your dad said that to you I hope your in a better place love you girl we all love you ❤️
I’m crying, I never want to say this, but my oldest brother always gets tested, old silbling is always the one gets blamed on. I saw with my damn eyes. Parents mistakes leads to the oldest child , my brother gets chocked,hits. worst part he has a scar at his neck meaning he get chocked so bad. Child number 2 is also a boy ( they are twins ) old twin gets treated bad but slowly when we they growing, second child gets treated like sh%t. Silbling does fight bc of smth but I cant, I want to hug them but its just, hard. I’ ve recently got hit few months ago ( bc of a few mistake I have done ) when im growing up, my mom compared me to my twin brother, like dont act so innocent after what you DID. I get sad but I have a few friends to cheer me up ❤ now I have a little brother, my mom Always ask me to Do like she orders what I Do. No matter what, she never SUPPORT me and HATE what I Do my hoppies what I want. few year’s soon, my twins get send to bording school, im lonely . I still get the hurts feeling and memory. But we are fine, I still love them. If you ask “ are you ok? “ yes I’m. The changed ( I guess.. ) I’m reallly sorry if I vented to much, delete if you want, and I hope you r feeling ok ❤ love you guys stay SAFE.!
Me knowing at your father did that to you I honestly feel so bad for you I'm glad that your doing better now
I love you so much and you’ve helped me through some stuff of my own
I’ve watched your video and i can relate almost everything, now im througing from something like that, and i feel devastated and desmotivated. But seeing u doing well rn give me hope that maybe i can improve like that someday. Greetings
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This was so emotional and traumatizing 😢
I'm so so soo happy for u that u got out from that toxic and abusive family you deserve all the love in this world gurll!! Love you!....
I know where your exactly coming from bc I have been through abuse as well with my mom is in Pennsylvania and she said some rly hurtful things towards me in my past and now but I love your story and I am so happy yo got away 💕
i’ve been binge watching your videos and now i’m on the verge of tears♥️
(also soooo happy you in my country🇹🇭)
I love you so much you help me I am with you when it comes to emotional and mental abuse but not fiscal. I am so sorry about your past. I love that you are open
Look at the song Better person by lauren spencer smith. It is sad because it does bring up a lot of bad memories, but it shows me that we are not alone in fighting this
you are such a strong woman. 😊 you have worked through all of this, healing and so many people are so so proud of you❤
Omg this is a crazy story. That’s so sad. 😭💔
I really want to watch finish the video but it's hard i can't even finish a video without relive everything all over again I'll be back when I'm ready
im so so SO sorry that this all happened 2 u ur such a sweet person not u nor any other person deserves abuse i can tell u rlly luv ur family im so glad u finally found happiness i wish u the beeeeeeeeesst luv u
I'm so sorry. I keep how it feels to be abused mentally. Like my mom literally says to my face: "you will lose all your friends with the way you are". And like it might sound silly but I'm a perfectionist so to me,one little slip up means I'm an absolute disappointment and it's my fault. So yeah.
Totally off topic but ur dress IS DROP DEAD GORGEOUS
I can't wait until you get a mill subs, I can officially tell that I watched ur first vid!!
Hi I love watching your videos they make me feel a lot better it makes me realize that I’m not alone and that other people know what it feels like❤
Queennn has posted and first btwww
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