Life in Hawaii 🌺 14 | Our Kids Plan & What About Bella When We Start Traveling the World

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    Bella has been a true blessing to us, and we are filled with happiness and gratitude for the time we've spent together. Although our days with her are limited, we will cherish every moment we have. Our neighbors, who used to care for Bella while we were away, have decided to adopt her as their own. We understand that Bella is an independent outdoor cat, free to roam as she pleases. So, we have also informed the new owners of our home about Bella's situation. With two families looking out for her in her familiar territory, we know she will be a content and joyful cat.
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  • @SeonkyoungLongest
    @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому +247

    Bella has been a true blessing to us, and we are filled with happiness and gratitude for the time we've spent together. Although our days with her are limited, we will cherish every moment we have. Our neighbors, who used to care for Bella while we were away, have decided to adopt her as their own. We understand that Bella is an independent outdoor cat, free to roam as she pleases. So, we have also informed the new owners of our home about Bella's situation. With two families looking out for her in her familiar territory, we know she will be a content and joyful cat.
    I want to emphasize that my choice of not having biological children doesn't diminish the incredible love I've experienced as a stepmom and pet parent. I simply hope that my choices will be respected and acknowledged in the same way.

    • @tseringtsomo5049
      @tseringtsomo5049 Рік тому +8

      I am so glad that Bella has two families looking out for her. It's wonderful to acknowledge that Bella is an independent outdoors cat and she will be most suitable to be that way. That makes me so happy. 🥰 much love to everyone.

    • @dnonya5208
      @dnonya5208 Рік тому +12

      You do you sweetie ❤....no one should ever tell anyone what they can do with their life, kids or anything personal
      ....you have a beautiful life with hubby, that's all that matters for now!!! Wish you nothing but happiness ❤❤

    • @julzamidala2865
      @julzamidala2865 Рік тому +2

      ❤❤❤

    • @katoduck
      @katoduck Рік тому +1

      Who was the young man who used to appear in your older videos when you lived in Texas? Brother?

    • @animalsarebeautifulpeople3094
      @animalsarebeautifulpeople3094 Рік тому +2

      Of course your choice not to have kids is just fine! Not only does it not trample on anyone elses' rights (like "choosing" to eat someone else's flesh) but with 8 billion human animals gobbling up the earth's resources (especially if they are paying to force into existence 80 billion victims every year just for theur taste choice) bringing less people into the world is the best thing you can do for mother earth, next best to not eating animals and their secretions. 😊👍

  • @sylviaz1987
    @sylviaz1987 Рік тому +152

    There is nothing wrong with NOT wanting to have children. I have 2 kids myself but I believe it is a personal choice what others decide to do and certainly not my business if they do or do not want to have kids!

  • @CaliChronicles
    @CaliChronicles Рік тому +99

    I definitely remember you covering this years ago. As another woman who didn't have children, (but am raising my husband's children) I completely understand and support you. There's more to life than reproducing.

  • @hauckb87
    @hauckb87 Рік тому +30

    As a fellow Korean/Asian American woman, thank you so much for boldly and bravely stating your choice not to have children. It’s nice to know that I am not alone 😊. Our community is very child-centric and you know how the Ajjumas can really put on the baby pressure so it’s nice to see someone from our culture hold true to themselves and live their best life!

  • @gabrielastoica1030
    @gabrielastoica1030 Рік тому +40

    No one has the right to tell you or any other woman, that you should have children! Congratulations on your plans and endeavors! 😁

  • @alexandraforse
    @alexandraforse Рік тому +18

    As someone who has been happily married for 10 years without children, I have always thought it was intrusive and ignorant of people to ask that question. Some women are content without children and some women cannot have children or have suffered miscarriage(s). Meaning well does not mean it's acceptable or harmless.

  • @callisto744
    @callisto744 Рік тому +25

    I feel the same way as you do about having kids. I also feel sad that you needed to say this because people ask you so much

  • @kiute.c
    @kiute.c Рік тому +24

    As a huge cat lover with two of my own, I’m gonna miss seeing Bella in your videos. But I am so happy to hear that your neighbors are adopting her and that the new homeowners will know that this land is hers

  • @bkm2797
    @bkm2797 Рік тому +17

    Totally agree with you about not everyone wants to have babies, it's the hardest job on the planet to raise a child to become a healthy adult. Looks like everything is coming together, and it sounds like you have a new homeowner. You guys are such good people making sure the kitty will be well taken care of...good karma. Thanks for the update Seonkyoung and Jacob.

  • @shc6783
    @shc6783 Рік тому +14

    You are supported with whatever decisions you make about your body and your life!! No one should judge you or have any opinions on what you do as they are not living for you. I hope that people respect your boundaries moving forward!! Sending love and aloha to you and wishing you both safe travels! So excited to see where you both go and what foods you eat!

  • @Christinaanncat
    @Christinaanncat Рік тому +8

    Like you I have always known that I did not want children. I heard the same things as you. I am now 50 and childless. My mind has never changed. People finally stop asking about having children when you reach your early 40s.

  • @ladycapulet0662
    @ladycapulet0662 Рік тому +8

    Nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. You can live a very fulfilling life either way. So much love and best wishes to you and Jacob on the next chapter in your life. ❤️

  • @maixiong5790
    @maixiong5790 Рік тому +14

    What really matters is you and your spouse are on the same page when it comes to having children. Having children is not what makes a marriage complete. Glad that you and Jacob are doing well and wishing the two of you the very best on your new journey. Cannot wait to see the vlogs from the new places you two will be embarking on. 😊😊

  • @teachercarli
    @teachercarli Рік тому +12

    Seonkyoung, thank you for being vulnerable AND for speaking up for those of us who have found fulfillment and happiness without children. There are so many reasons why people choose to not have children, and it makes me so upset that people judge you for not wanting to have children. It makes me wonder if these are the same folks who judge you for no longer being 💯 plant based.
    I chose to not have children due to my husband having a serious car accident and acquiring a lifelong painful injury. We are doing just fine living our "close to home" life (chronic pain can be difficult). Am I jealous of those who had children? Nope. Am I jealous of those who can travel? Nope. Do I try to tell other people how to live? Nope. But I too have been on the receiving end of comments regarding not having children, especially as I am an elementary school teacher by trade.
    There are enough kids around me... And they go home to their parents each night while I get uninterrupted sleep. 🤗

  • @ima7333
    @ima7333 Рік тому +9

    I think i’ll stick to my comment on the previous video. The fact that i noticed Seonkyeong finally look happy and at peace with herself gives off a glowing vibe. A vibe of contentment that usually associated with being pregnant though one does not need to be pregnant to feel content & loved. Being happy and at peace is the most important in life aside from being healthy. Seonkyeong & Jacob, please stay healthy and happy. I’ll be happy to watch any part of your travel that you guys are willing to share with the internet. I love you guys since the very beginning of Asian food at home. Despite a bit hard to watch Seonkyeong struggles, i still watch your videos to support you. I’m so glad you finally come to term with whatever it was that bother you and let it go. Maybe it was the food that attribute to it, maybe it was the stress or the combination of all. I’m wishing you guys all the best wishes going forward.

  • @graceishikawa8736
    @graceishikawa8736 Рік тому +4

    Soooo glad Bella has the neighbors that love her and will tahe care of her. Your decision not to have children is your right. Wishing you all the best ib yoyr travels.

  • @JohnKooz
    @JohnKooz Рік тому +1

    If there are great moments of self-validation like those present in your video, then it's a superb one!

  • @sfveganfoodie
    @sfveganfoodie Рік тому +3

    You are so right about people who don't want to have children being judged. I honestly have the exact same opinion as you about having kids. Don't want them, don't need them. I'm perfectly happy being an aunt. I'm sorry people were asking you rude questions. Spending money on traveling instead of kids is the exact way I would want to live! Have a great time! Can't wait for the travel vlogs!

  • @mariem6637
    @mariem6637 Рік тому +1

    People need to stop assuming all women want children. Asking such a personal question is very rude yet normalized in our society. If they decide to have children and they share then great but don’t apply pressure by asking. Having a child is a huge personal decision and everyone has their own person reasons for having or not having.
    I love the decision you guys made for Bella! Selfless act to consider her environment and what would be best for her.

  • @Eunhyex3
    @Eunhyex3 Рік тому +3

    Girl you do you!!! Honestly you guys are making the MOST of your lives and I am here for it!!!! So so excited to witness all of your travels on UA-cam 💖 also love your Korean speaking voice!! 완전 걸크러쉬 뿜뿜이에요 😍😍😍 넘나 털털하시구 매력짱!!! 💘

  • @MT-kb8df
    @MT-kb8df Рік тому +3

    Children are overrated so if you guys are not interested good for you. I have three kids and they are all grown but they will not be taking care of us when we get old. We are on our own and they have their own priorities in their lives which are not concerning us. Hey! It is what it is with this generation. We took care of them and now they take care of their children. Enjoy your life together and be happy.

  • @Valerie_socal
    @Valerie_socal Рік тому +5

    I totally relate with you in regards about the children thing. I'm 42 and Korean, married to a Russian for 13 years, and we have no plans to having children. I too never wanted. To the ppl that don't understand...not everybody wants kids! Period!

  • @theblisteringdessamar8282
    @theblisteringdessamar8282 Рік тому +20

    Having kids is all about sleep deprivation and sacrifices. It is okay that not everyone wants kids. I hope some viewers understand this.

  • @matchaIatte
    @matchaIatte Рік тому +2

    I have one child and my MIL has been bothering me since she was born asking when we're going to have the next one! The last time I saw her, she said my H and I weren't trying hard enough!!! Ew! She feels it's her duty as a grandmother to make sure the younger generation have children (even though she only had 1!). She has 8 siblings, my H's father has like 9. The world has changed SO much in one or two generations, I only notice a lot of these comments from the elders in our family's honestly. No one our age would ever say such things, it is VERY rude and potentially very hurtful. Not only do people just decide not to have kids, some are trying and can't for whatever reason.

  • @Frannylee1206
    @Frannylee1206 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! You're so awesome! ❤

  • @yonyeezzoo8486
    @yonyeezzoo8486 Рік тому +13

    오늘 브이로그 너무 공감하면서 봤어요..!!
    저도 정말 같은 마음이에요 특히 아이를 낳지 않으리..이부분!ㅎㅎㅎ 아직 미혼이지만😂 굳건한 맘은 똑같아용! 아이 없이 행복한 삶을 살아가는것을 왜 설명해야하는지도 모르겠구요! 조금 민감함 주제여서 이런 말들도 별로라고 느끼실수도 있지만ㅠㅠ그런 의도는 아니었구오 너무 공감되어서 댓글 달아봤습니다ㅎㅎ!

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому +4

      공감받지 못할거라 생각했는데 저와 같은 생각이신분들이 생각보다 많으신 것 같아 왠지 안심☺️

  • @GeekeryDo
    @GeekeryDo Рік тому +2

    I'm so glad you shared your perspective on the child-free-by-choice issue and you explained it so perfectly, even when nobody needs to know and the questions are invasive and rude. I hear all the same things from folks with children all the time and it just gets to the point that it's insulting... like somehow my life is not complete unless I do this thing that they did. We're all different!

  • @valkyrie0001
    @valkyrie0001 Рік тому +2

    Oh I really like the churu spoon you have for Bella, I'll have to look for one. 😊 I'm sure she will be happy with your neighbors, thank you for taking care of her.

  • @elizabethk7295
    @elizabethk7295 Рік тому +1

    Good job speaking your truth and your heart! Not everyone needs to be a parent in their lives! You go girl!

  • @roxanbradley91
    @roxanbradley91 Рік тому +1

    Girl, don’t mind what ppl say. You do you. It is bad etiquette to invade a person’s space asking personal question’s.You are the Master of your destiny & only you know what’s good for you. Keep up your good work & stay blessed.

  • @MH-kj2ij
    @MH-kj2ij Рік тому +6

    It’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have children. This is not the desire of all women and I totally get it

  • @janeshammas
    @janeshammas Рік тому +1

    Wish you both peace and happiness on your new journey! We will all miss Bella ❤

  • @wolf_ceit_witch
    @wolf_ceit_witch Рік тому +1

    At 57 I have never ever wavered on my determination to not to have bilogical children. I have a fur baby and I am very happy.

  • @marybateman8622
    @marybateman8622 Рік тому +27

    I have a 44 year old son that since the age of 2 knew he would not have children.
    He and his wife of 18 years have never regretted it!

  • @billie869
    @billie869 Рік тому +3

    Best wishes on ur travels. What an exciting chapter in ur lives. ❤

  • @Howlingkorean
    @Howlingkorean Рік тому +5

    As a woman without a child, I feel relieved and free that I made the right choice for me and only me. It's crazy to know how strangers keep asking you about having children. I'm sorry you have to experience this, I sympathize with you and hope you continue to live your best and happy childfree life. 🥰☺

  • @tanjaadrian7733
    @tanjaadrian7733 Рік тому +2

    I was wondering about Bella too. The food in your video looks amazing, as always ❤

  • @asynchronicity
    @asynchronicity 4 місяці тому

    When Jacob tries to sound like SnoopDogg it is so charming.❤

  • @michelleotani8901
    @michelleotani8901 Рік тому +4

    I remember when you first moved to Hawaii and moved into that beautiful house and showed off the vegetable garden and then introduced Bella for the first time! How you said Bella adopted you guys! 🤣 Well, now I look forward to watch your traveling vlogs! Can’t wait to see where you travel to first! Happy trails!!!!

  • @chihuahuasrule1175
    @chihuahuasrule1175 Рік тому +1

    It is rude for people to ask if you're pregnant or about having kids. I'm sorry you went through that on such a large scale. I think you handled them well.

  • @rpaula3460
    @rpaula3460 Рік тому +2

    Congratulations on the new life adventure!
    OMG! I went exactly through the same thing with my cat while living in Spain. But I move a lot and I can only try to go see how she´s doing once a year.
    The last time I went she was as happy and healthy as before, with the neighbors taking care of her for me.
    Before leaving I left a letter on the mail for everyone nearby so they knew the situation because she was also mostly an outdoor cat.
    I guess it was harder on me than on her because I miss her every single day!!
    But, life changes and we must accept the setbacks and be grateful!
    Good luck for you and Jacob

  • @TamVeeAK
    @TamVeeAK Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I've been watching you since you lived in California and it's been awesome watching you follow your dreams and adventures. Your the same age as my oldest 2 kids and I treasure you and your beautiful spirit. I look forward to the next adventures you take us on!!❤😊 I totally agree with your decision on Bella thats her home and space plus I'm sure neighbors will keep you posted on her and you can always FaceTime when you're missing her❤

  • @meganngeorge
    @meganngeorge Рік тому +2

    It’s every woman’s right and should be *every* woman’s choice, whether or not to have children, without interference or judgement from others.

  • @bethsummerfield9855
    @bethsummerfield9855 Рік тому +1

    You spoke so delicately and eloquently on really personal topics today - I am sorry you are being berated with questions of children. Though you owe your viewers nothing, thank you for what you had to say on the matter! I love your vlogs and always get excited to watch them. Can not wait for future videos and to follow along on your next chapter! Wishing you the very best!

  • @daisycloud2855
    @daisycloud2855 Рік тому +3

    that lemon chicken pasta looks fire!! much love to you and Jacob!♡
    been watching you for years, your vlogs and recipe videos are awesome, thank you for what you do. ♡♡

  • @Buttercookiesssss
    @Buttercookiesssss Рік тому +2

    I have 2 children and while I don't regret it, looking back my life would be a lot more different with no kids or just 1. It's a personal choice and sometimes I really envy my younger sister and hb who don't want kids. They can live wherever, travel whenever they want!

    • @MichelleNagir
      @MichelleNagir Рік тому

      It’s not easy to have it all but some of us could have children and travel. It’s not good to be jealous of anyone. I’m sure you have made the right choices.

  • @kaylawolff4382
    @kaylawolff4382 Рік тому +1

    Dang lady. You cook so amazing!🤩 Seeing everything you made and my mouth is watering. I’m loving the different ideas for cooking/eating for health. One of my huge blessings was a coworker deciding to move back to Japan and she had Mr. Cat. She loved him but left him in the United States because it’s so stressful for travel. I adopted Mr. Cat and he’s doing great. Life takes us in different places and that’s ok. My boyfriend and I keep talking about your videos and it’s been so joyful and entertaining for us both💕 I feel that we can relate on a lot of levels plus…we love your recipes.

  • @Freds_mom
    @Freds_mom Рік тому

    And for the second day, I'm crying again watching one of your videos. I'm so happy to hear of the plan for Bella. And sheesh, what's with people? I'd like for them to enjoy your content and stop the intensely personal questioning, wouldn't that be wonderful?☺️❤

    • @Freds_mom
      @Freds_mom Рік тому

      And omg, that kimbap and jjolmyeon looked soooo good! 😍😋

  • @csdesjarlais9779
    @csdesjarlais9779 Рік тому +1

    Cheers to you for standing firm on not having kids. I think it’s getting more and more common and young women are rightfully questioning their reproductive choices. I’m proud of you! I am extra sad about gorgeous Bella but I know you love her and are doing the absolute best for her. I just feel emotional for some reason.😢

  • @marijkeschellenbach2680
    @marijkeschellenbach2680 Рік тому

    There is nothing wrong or bad about not wanting to have a child. You know better than anyone how you feel and no one has the right to tell you what to do. Be happy together, enjoy your life and share the joy with us. Safe travels you two!!!

  • @SingLadyCaitlin88
    @SingLadyCaitlin88 Рік тому

    Thank you SO much for addressing that some women just do not want children. It is not what everyone wants and that's perfectly fine! You are happy and enjoying a fulfilling life with a wonderful partner and that's all you should continue to do, no matter what that means. I'm enjoying seeing your videos again and wish you all the best in your next chapter 💜

  • @asianleo24
    @asianleo24 Рік тому

    I appreciate this video and speaking of not wanting kids. I’m 39 and I feel pressure all the time to have them. The video is relatable❤ love watching your journey:)

  • @AraYuannn
    @AraYuannn Рік тому +2

    As an aromantic and asexual girl I’ve been told my whole life that I just haven’t met the right person my whole life and growing up my biggest fear is being alone unhappy without a romantic partner. I know that I’m aroace ever since I was in high school and no it does not change even when I get older, but what changes is that I realised I don’t need romance to live life and be happy. Everyone is born different and we all have different life so you should do what makes you happy 🥰

  • @_em_onade
    @_em_onade Рік тому

    Those earrings are stunning & suit you 🤌 And I’ll never get sick of watching your meal times. I want to reach through the screen and eat too. Continued best wishes to you and Jacob as you prepare to leave Hawaii ❤️

  • @TruthInADarkWorld
    @TruthInADarkWorld Рік тому

    Thank you Seonkyoung Longest for sharing your thoughts about kids and you and Jacob's decision for not wanting children. 🙏🏼 💕 I am so happy to finally know your thoughts and decision on it.
    I hope I wasn't one that offended you by my curiosity but If I did I apologize. Thanks again for sharing! 🙏🏼 💕

  • @krishnnapuican5667
    @krishnnapuican5667 Рік тому +1

    I respect your choice of not having children. I have 3 wonderful kids that I can’t imagine being without but I see this world has gotten harder and will keep on with so much evil, sadly to say. I see so many people not just children suffering and it breaks my heart to think my kids could suffer. Enjoy life while you can because you never know what’s instored for tomorrow. But please keep sharing you wonderful adventures with life and food ❤

  • @JohnKooz
    @JohnKooz Рік тому

    I, and from the looks of it, most all commenters, validate your ambitious life and support your decision to not have kids. Congrats on being centered and placing your own desires and dreams first. Another great vlog!

  • @lornacrystal9784
    @lornacrystal9784 Рік тому

    Well said about you and Jacobs views on not having a desire to have children. I respect your words so much! I’ve followed you for many years and love your food and personality ❤️

  • @animalsarebeautifulpeople3094
    @animalsarebeautifulpeople3094 Рік тому +2

    I must have missed what happened to the two adorable pigs that were in the farm when you first moved in? Can anyone tell me what happened to them? 😢

  • @user-iw2md2gl4q
    @user-iw2md2gl4q Рік тому +2

    I'm going to miss Bella so so much :(

  • @eunvivianlee5275
    @eunvivianlee5275 Рік тому

    많이 힘들어보여요 맘에 평화를찾길바래요 응원할께요 🎉

  • @asolis1982
    @asolis1982 Рік тому +3

    Funny but I never thought you two would have kids. Jacob already has a daughter and ya’ll are older. To me that just means you guys want to enjoy your lives and each other. There's nothing wrong with that.

  • @greenwoodreid3796
    @greenwoodreid3796 Рік тому

    I think when people know they don’t want children is empowering! Knowing you don’t want kids or wouldn’t be a good parent is better than having a child just because you’re expected to. I know if i had kids the child wouldn’t have a life it deserves. I also knew since being a teenager that i never wanted to have children.

  • @carmelallador
    @carmelallador Рік тому

    I'm so sad Bella is not coming with you,I cried but thankful for your neighbors who will adopt her. I'm a cat parent too,I have 8 and counting...Anyway, good luck to the both of you. ❤️🙏

  • @tseringtsomo5049
    @tseringtsomo5049 Рік тому +7

    My cat is the same. She takes so long to come in 😂😂😂

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому +1

      Lol why they do that?!

    • @tseringtsomo5049
      @tseringtsomo5049 Рік тому +1

      @Seonkyoung Longest I don't know why they do that. I get a good laugh when my sister complains about my cat. She's a sweet and loving cat so it's not too bad.

  • @noviamilias8053
    @noviamilias8053 Рік тому

    Don't know why, but I cried so hard when Bella's part. Gonna miss u so much, my dear Bella 😭😭

  • @pamelahowe9138
    @pamelahowe9138 Рік тому +2

    TY so much for sharing Bella's future , and looking ahead to following yours, your choices are yours, I also decided many years ago not to have biological children as had 3 stepchildren was enough for me, stay safe and God Bless

  • @deedL3
    @deedL3 Рік тому +1

    Im so glad you’re sticking to your guns about kids. Some people who have no business having kids DO have kids and don’t show them enough love/care, and guilt trip and abuse their kids for many years, passing on generational traumas and hatred. And some people who DO want kids CAN’T have kids because of medical issues or what not. Life is dynamic and full of nuance, simply telling someone “a kid will change you, make you better, fulfill you” is very shallow thinking because it’s simply NOT that simple. Your mindset has to be in the right place to have a kid because being a parent means you have to be there emotionally and mentally, be available and make sure you give this human the best start to their life that you possibly can. Navigating the world is not easy, and it’s never getting any easier. I myself see it more a mercy if I just don’t have kids because life is HARD and until I can promise them the best of myself, I’m not going to just “have kids”.

  • @jcaj7102
    @jcaj7102 Рік тому

    Having kids is not for everyone. Some people don't get it, and that's ok. You lead your life the way you want it. It's that simple. 😊

  • @tinamisner1322
    @tinamisner1322 Рік тому +1

    Of course you should live your life as you see fit. Everyone has a different idea of what the meaning of life is and you should never be forced to live someone else's point of view.

  • @hello_randi
    @hello_randi Рік тому

    언니, 이비디오 넘넘 환영. 땡큐. 우리도 똑같은 의견이에요. 이해 헤주시는 분들이 믾이없네요. 삼부인과의사까기 볼떼마다 아이 얘기를 꺼넨단말이에요. Anyway, thanks again for this video, sis. Wishing you and Jacob all the best in your next chapter. A hui hou!

  • @colleenkendallpeters1800
    @colleenkendallpeters1800 Рік тому +1

    Those nachos and the rest of the food looks delicious ❤️.

  • @manexiong9400
    @manexiong9400 Рік тому

    Been counting down the days to Maui so we can visit you at It's Cherry! OMG i'm so sad but so happy for your new journey!!!!

  • @manisha7041
    @manisha7041 Рік тому

    every decision comes with its own up and downs, rewards, and struggles. Children / no children neither option is easy.

  • @karenbenavente1124
    @karenbenavente1124 Рік тому

    Im so happy Bella will be cared for and i hope they will love her alyays as much as you did
    And to have children or not is No body's business eccept yours and your husband's
    🤗💞

  • @michellefang6342
    @michellefang6342 Рік тому

    Love ❤it! Thank you!

  • @jensdeclassifiedtechsurviv5924

    I’m sorry to hear that you got pestered with those questions, its so rude. I also don’t want children so I can relate to how people judge that decision.
    Also thank you for speaking on Bella and normalizing this topic that is often taboo which is rehoming a furry family member. People can be so harsh when it comes to this and act like you’re giving up a human child. But at the end of the day, you are doing what’s best for the animal. Bella is going to be so much happier in Hawaii and she will make another family so happy! It will definitely be painful to leave her and it will hurt a lot, but time heals everything and you will see how much happier she is (sometimes offended for how quickly animals move on).

  • @eprohoda
    @eprohoda Рік тому

    Hello- Bravo~ that's amazing , Seonkyoung.

  • @joey888
    @joey888 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing your life with us! I started watching you about 10 years ago, trying to learn some korean recipes. Enjoy your life, your amazing travels, can't wait to watch the vlogs ❤️🙏👍

  • @cinnamonthomas6950
    @cinnamonthomas6950 Рік тому +1

    I have been a fan of yours for years and although I don't watch all the time somehow this video mad me sad. I feel like your leaving for good. As for Bella I'm sure you made a good decision that I could never do I have 2 cats. As far as kids whatever you choose it is your life. Safe Travels cant wait to see your journey. Hope one day you can make it to Miami. I would love to meet you'll 😊

  • @BettyFeeler
    @BettyFeeler Рік тому

    That nachos and spicy pork loooks awesome!! Great video! I completely agree with everything you said!

  • @Jaded6911
    @Jaded6911 Рік тому +3

    I'm sorry people are trying to project their level of happiness onto you and Jacob. You know what completes you and having children isn't on the list. Children do not make you mature. I'm gonna miss Bella and hopefully they will send pictures and if you feel like sharing them, we can see her too. Are all the recipes in today's vlog available? Those earrings look good on you!

  • @presea2000
    @presea2000 Рік тому

    100% that you would make a beautiful baby but if that is your decision it is ok. It is your life and we respect

  • @condawalsh6641
    @condawalsh6641 Рік тому

    Live YOUR best life for YOU

  • @ajuarez1866
    @ajuarez1866 Рік тому

    ❤️ I have 3 kids and I am grateful for them. But if it’s your wish to not have kids then that’s totally fine. Don’t mind other’s opinions. At the end of the day it’s your body, your life, and your choice.

  • @roar5853
    @roar5853 Рік тому +3

    아이를 낳고 싶지 않은 1인으로서 너무 공감해요. 특히 저는 임신과 출산을 겪고 싶지 않은 사람이라 😅 임신했냐는 질문을 들으면 더 싫을거같아요. 하고싶지 않은걸 했냐고 물어보는 거니까요.

  • @Olivia-to1yf
    @Olivia-to1yf Рік тому

    It was so cool to listen to you speak Korean! I do and will respect your choice for deciding NOT to have children. To be honest I used to wonder if you both wanted children, I remembered your videos with your nephew when you made many chicken and other dishes. Each of us as humans have OUR own path to walk, we should never pressure others because of our own personal choices. Good travels for you and Jacob, I love forward to more exciting videos, much love & respect. ❤😊

  • @cydc.4970
    @cydc.4970 Рік тому

    Bella won’t get the same treatment like you all have given her! I’m sad for her. You’ve loved her in a special way…

  • @nancyw4845
    @nancyw4845 Рік тому

    I missed these vlogs ❤

  • @kono9460
    @kono9460 Рік тому

    I'm new to your channel (and also to cooking, gah it feels daunting), but I watched some of your videos now and like how you present a lot of foods in an easy-to-understand manner. And also your stance on pregnancy (it is a rude question and not sure why so many people ask it? haha). I'm the same, and it's tiring to explain to Asian moms why I just never wanted and they should stop pushing me - I'm not even married! XD I just wanted to comment because my mom literally said those same things to me all the time, haha. I have enough love to give to my friends.
    I'm kind of afraid of using knifes in cooking but there are so many delicious Asian foods I want to learn to cook so I think I will try to find something easy to start of!

  • @fannyfannyfanny
    @fannyfannyfanny Рік тому

    i enjoy your vlogs sm!

  • @DianeH2038
    @DianeH2038 Рік тому +1

    I knew you'd make sure Bella could stay; it sounds like a perfect solution for her although I'm sure you will miss her and she will miss you two. but it's her home and some cats REALLY care about that. re: your personal decision about children -- like you, I've known almost all my life that I didn't want to be a mother. I knew for certain in my 20s, and I've also heard a lot of invasive questions and thoughtless comments about it. I'm now 58 and I don't regret not having them -- I don't think I would have been a great mother (isn't it important to WANT to be a mother in order to be good at it?) and never had those biological urges. I like children and am happy for my friends who have them. I even got to live with one of my cousins for a couple of years and helped out with her kids when they were young (they were 10 and 12 at the time; now both adults!) and I'm so happy I got to spend time with them and am close to them still. that was great but it was still the right choice for me to not have children.
    I hope you and Jacob have a great time traveling and it would be nice if we get to see some vlogs from you when you do it, but more important, do what works for you. it's your life! thanks for sharing so much.

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому +1

      We will absolutely do vlog of our trips! It will be so much fun! 🥳

  • @nataliaayersman9297
    @nataliaayersman9297 9 місяців тому

    I also have never had any desire for children, my children are my cats and I wouldn’t have it any other way ❤❤❤❤ my heart hurts for you to leave Bella ❤ any updates on her how is she doing? Does she go back to the old house ? To look for you ?

  • @ginalau134
    @ginalau134 Рік тому

    Going to miss Bella 😢

  • @carriecall
    @carriecall Рік тому +1

    Can you do a video for the noodle recipe with the spicy sauce? Looks great! Also, never apologise for not having children. You have gone over this many times. People constantly ask me when I’m getting married and having children and I’m 49, they don’t even think!

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому

      I have the recipe, search “Jjolmyeon by Seonkyoung Longest” 🥳

  • @jeremysimard0620
    @jeremysimard0620 Рік тому

    I wouldn't want to bring a child into this world these days, either. So much negatively and division. With that being said, I hope my 18 and 16 year olds survive the drama!a. So far, so good ! They are strong!
    Bella is such a cutie! 🐈 😻 I wish her well. I have an indoor cat named Eddie. He's a handful.
    Safe travels and keep on cooking!

  • @jeng5306
    @jeng5306 Рік тому +1

    I’ve seen full time travelers have like a home base. Would you guys have a home base as well? Would Jacob’s daughter come along the travel adventures sometimes?

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому +1

      We won't have a home base for the first year, because we don't know where we want/need to be our home base yet. Trinity is pretty busy with finishing up her degree and when she has more time then she might join us sometime, if she chooses to!

    • @jeng5306
      @jeng5306 Рік тому

      @@SeonkyoungLongest Thank you for the reply! I wish you safe travels and that your souls and spirits be fulfilled ❤️

  • @jinnyhan3249
    @jinnyhan3249 Рік тому

    THANK YOU for sharing your personal story about not having kids. I have the exact same belief as you. I also do not want kids and never really had a desire to. And I also have received the same reactions you have. It always feels rude and disrespectful. As I have gotten older I don't let the comments bother me as much but it's still annoying. I have 2 married friends and both marriages have no kids and they actually have the best marriages in my orb. They don't feel like they are missing out on anything and have no regrets not having kids. Now my friends who have kids..... they complain but end with OH but I love my kids. 😂 Again thank you for giving us independent women a voice on your platform. There is nothing wrong with us and for us we are not missing or lacking anything.

  • @DLB52
    @DLB52 Рік тому +1

    You are the Korean Jennifer Aniston!!
    Yayyay...Bella!!!
    My brother has been married over 15 years and DO NOT want kids. He is happy and she is happy! They live in Bolivia and love life.

    • @SeonkyoungLongest
      @SeonkyoungLongest  Рік тому

      My hubby married a Korean Jennifer Aniston?! 😳😂🤣

    • @DLB52
      @DLB52 Рік тому

      @Seonkyoung Longest beautiful, successful at everything and smart!! And everyone always asking..."are you having a baby"???

  • @malikalike3760
    @malikalike3760 Рік тому

    Just wondering where you got that spoon/feeder for the cat purée.