So very first story. I can say this. My mother has spun this exact story for me. Her cousin (call her my aunt) would take all of the female family to a yearly brunch. My mother had told the cousin that she asked and my wife had said no. So my mother was intentionally lying to exclude my wife and daughters from this event. My aunt called me to ask why my wife always said no to coming to the event. I told her that she had never been invited. So this went nuclear very fast when my aunt invited my wife and daughters to the brunch. My mother refused to go because she believes that my wife is a "horrible influence" and is the reason that I was low contact with my mother. Well, no. So on the family social media group post, I left a list of the things that my mother had done to my wife and the entire family saga of what she did to my father and the lies she had told me to brainwash me against him. As you can guess it went very badly. But, I wouldn't take the mother's word as the truth.
Story 2.. In sure his wife left him more than the house... he says nothing about it, which makes me think she did... So, he is going to take everything from the kids, and leave them upset and lost after losing their mother.. such an amazing dad....
Story 6- the son absolutely planned that so the world revolves around him and not his sister. My life works very similar to this with my sister. My parents were supposed to be at the hospital waiting for my daughter (their first granddaughter) to be born but my sister had a meltdown so my dad left and went to “help” her cause she can’t handle being alone with her toddler for more than an hour hour without being like “I need help he’s being difficult” like you are a 31 old with a 3 yr old he’s a TODDLER he’s being a toddler! Figure it out. I have a toddler as well do we have bad days yes but not everyday but especially when theirs something big in my life going then she loses it… they need to go low contact with him so he finally realizes that he can’t control them anymore and actually try to work on himself and his addictions!
Story two has me asking what is up with people being so scared to be alone? Months after a death and moving on to a new family? Seriously what's up with that because I don't get it.
I think in today's world you do have to actually distinguish if you're an official couple. There are too many fwb and situationships for me to not want to make sure that my partner is in fact a partner
Just a minor thing. Al-anon isn’t exactly the same thing as AA. AA is for the addicts and Al-anon is for the family of addicts to heal and learn how to deal with their addict loved one.
That comment or on the “not my gf” story: 100% accurate. That’s what happens to those guys, that’s how they get that way, no matter who the females are or where in life they are… that’s how they get that way never learning to take rejection in childhood. Mommy never rejects him so everyone because mommy and gets the disrespect of never getting a real relationship because a relationship without truth and even the slightest rejections isn’t real.
For the dad that wants to sell the kids inherited house. Put it in a trust for the kids. With ONLY their names on it. No one else’s. You can’t sell it and stepmom can’t inherit or touch it if something happens to you. Upon your demise the kids inherit it automatically. No taxes involved. Out of your hands, and hers.
13:50 not all older children want to be part of a blended family. I know i didn't. My mom passed when i was little and i never accepted my fathers gf as anything more than that. They were together for 24 years and still she was just his gf.
Story 2: what kinda person moves on 4 months after the death of their wife like and not just move on but get married, renig on a last wish promise, and sell the house and just tell his kids tough nuts...this guy is running blindly away from his grief and trying to bury and get rid of his old life so he can ignore the pain
With the addiction story, as someone who has addicts in their family and has had to grow up with the sibling who was ignored and got her life on track… I feel so bad for the daughter, im the adult child of the oldest child while her parents and all the other siblings had drug problems or other issues. My mom got married had a baby, got a divorce, put herself through college and raised me on her own for most of her twenties until she met my step dad. But as an adult I know why my mom was so protective and saw her family treat her poorly as she tried to still be there for them. Addiction is suicide for the less diabolical attention seekers. The affects last generations and tear families apart.
The parents missing all of the milestones for one child because of another’s addiction is ENABLING! And dad was trying to change that.
@@jessicaschneider4043 I feel the same. I found it interesting that his relapses always seemed to coincide with these milestones
So very first story. I can say this. My mother has spun this exact story for me. Her cousin (call her my aunt) would take all of the female family to a yearly brunch. My mother had told the cousin that she asked and my wife had said no. So my mother was intentionally lying to exclude my wife and daughters from this event. My aunt called me to ask why my wife always said no to coming to the event. I told her that she had never been invited. So this went nuclear very fast when my aunt invited my wife and daughters to the brunch. My mother refused to go because she believes that my wife is a "horrible influence" and is the reason that I was low contact with my mother. Well, no. So on the family social media group post, I left a list of the things that my mother had done to my wife and the entire family saga of what she did to my father and the lies she had told me to brainwash me against him. As you can guess it went very badly. But, I wouldn't take the mother's word as the truth.
Story 4: Why does it sound like OP's apology was written by ChatGP 😆
Story 4 - last top comment WENT OFF!!! HELL YEAH! omg I was fighting the urge to cheer out loud while listening at work
Story 2.. In sure his wife left him more than the house... he says nothing about it, which makes me think she did... So, he is going to take everything from the kids, and leave them upset and lost after losing their mother.. such an amazing dad....
Story 6- the son absolutely planned that so the world revolves around him and not his sister.
My life works very similar to this with my sister. My parents were supposed to be at the hospital waiting for my daughter (their first granddaughter) to be born but my sister had a meltdown so my dad left and went to “help” her cause she can’t handle being alone with her toddler for more than an hour hour without being like “I need help he’s being difficult” like you are a 31 old with a 3 yr old he’s a TODDLER he’s being a toddler! Figure it out. I have a toddler as well do we have bad days yes but not everyday but especially when theirs something big in my life going then she loses it… they need to go low contact with him so he finally realizes that he can’t control them anymore and actually try to work on himself and his addictions!
Story two has me asking what is up with people being so scared to be alone? Months after a death and moving on to a new family? Seriously what's up with that because I don't get it.
Jeeeeeez story 4: that commenter was brutal and I love it!❤🎉
Him: i lost the love of my life
Also him: 4 months later i met my fiance
I think in today's world you do have to actually distinguish if you're an official couple. There are too many fwb and situationships for me to not want to make sure that my partner is in fact a partner
Just a minor thing. Al-anon isn’t exactly the same thing as AA. AA is for the addicts and Al-anon is for the family of addicts to heal and learn how to deal with their addict loved one.
That comment or on the “not my gf” story: 100% accurate. That’s what happens to those guys, that’s how they get that way, no matter who the females are or where in life they are… that’s how they get that way never learning to take rejection in childhood. Mommy never rejects him so everyone because mommy and gets the disrespect of never getting a real relationship because a relationship without truth and even the slightest rejections isn’t real.
Story 3, their daughter has ADHD and not treating it and addressing her issues is negligent
For the dad that wants to sell the kids inherited house. Put it in a trust for the kids. With ONLY their names on it. No one else’s. You can’t sell it and stepmom can’t inherit or touch it if something happens to you. Upon your demise the kids inherit it automatically. No taxes involved. Out of your hands, and hers.
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Story 2 yes you are and why would sell there house
13:50 not all older children want to be part of a blended family. I know i didn't. My mom passed when i was little and i never accepted my fathers gf as anything more than that. They were together for 24 years and still she was just his gf.
Story 2: what kinda person moves on 4 months after the death of their wife like and not just move on but get married, renig on a last wish promise, and sell the house and just tell his kids tough nuts...this guy is running blindly away from his grief and trying to bury and get rid of his old life so he can ignore the pain
18:07 there is something fundamentally wrong with these parents.
With the addiction story, as someone who has addicts in their family and has had to grow up with the sibling who was ignored and got her life on track… I feel so bad for the daughter, im the adult child of the oldest child while her parents and all the other siblings had drug problems or other issues. My mom got married had a baby, got a divorce, put herself through college and raised me on her own for most of her twenties until she met my step dad. But as an adult I know why my mom was so protective and saw her family treat her poorly as she tried to still be there for them. Addiction is suicide for the less diabolical attention seekers. The affects last generations and tear families apart.
Narcissist much, Brozo OP?!