The most heartbreaking realization is how capable they were of controlling themselves all along. They carefully choose who to abuse and who to respect at all costs.
This is literally exactly my experience with my BPD ex wife, especially the intermittent reinforcement. I always wondered how they could act one way in private and 5 minutes later leave the house and act like the most in control happy person. I always suspected it was an act, but fell for the usual line that because she had BPD that you had to help her manage her emotions, and support her and be there for her, all as you lost yourself in the madness. The triangulation commentary was spot on as well. She was always introducing a foil to any equation to show how I didn’t care for her or support her. This was usually a family member, a friend and frequently my job. I only wish I left her first. There were abundant signs and times to do so. Instead I stuck it out and got discarded through the divorce process.
Very good description of my sisters behaviour. She’s a Borderline. My brother is an extremely jealous narcissist. After administering my father’s estate 25 years ago I severed all ties with my family to leave them both behind for good. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
how can this channel's videos have so few likes? this is invaluable guidance for anyone steering through narcissistic abuse...so underrated. Happy diwali , madam Much respect and love, From India
It is always a pleasure watching a pretty red head explain and validate the truth about freakazoid narcissistic ex-wives. I do wish I had understood this stuff decades ago. - Thanks for the great video's Dr. Tara!!!
The videos are very helpful for me. Narcissists really believe they are the normal ones and that everyone else who aren't like them are the mentally deranged ones and they don't hesitate to say it out loud. During name callings, they even attacked the mental sanity of their victims by making them believe they are the deranged ones.
Dr. T, thank you for doing these. My BPD ex wife of 31 years did all you described, less the manipulation. She is very smart, attractive, and no one knows she is a BPD unless they get in certain situations. She would go through the cycle of normal, fearful, angry blaming, shaming, etc driving me away about every 3 weeks. About the time I looked out from under the rock I had about a week of cooperation then it started again. She seemed to be driven by fear that turned into anger. Funny you mentioned Wylie Coyote. That is how I described her to therapists, church elders, and good friends. She always had her hand on the plunger ready to blow things up. She had a meltdown at every holiday. I never went anywhere with her without having an escape plan. When she was "normal" she was the perfect wife and mother. If I were to be able to create the perfect wife and mother it would be her-when she was "normal". Other times she was an absolute nightmare destroying plans, dreams, and peace. She was faithful and did not waste money and never really lied. But the rages. OMG Terrifying insane meltdowns. When the kids got out of the house I was able to keep firm boundaries and let her feel the consequences of her rash and selfish decisions. The minute she raised her voice or began the blame and shame talk I would walk away. She eventually divorced me and took our hobby farm that I dearly loved. I think to spite me. Hopefully people will see signs and avoid these people. My ex showed no red flags but got progressively worse until the last 10 years nearly made me insane. Bless you for your work. 22:20
The rages can be incredibly terrifying and why so many partners of these individuals learn to walk on eggshells. I'm glad you're out. Hopefully, life is much better now.
The classic Boundaries game. The quickest way you can run off a toxic person ( AKA hold them accountable ) Hope you’re healing and in therapy for codependency as well can talk about others all day this and that. The issue is we are just as Fd up in the polar opposite way ( placate. Give in. Other focused. Do do do. One day they should change. If only they say what I do for them. Well at least I’m getting _____. It’s not so bad as I’ve learned their triggers. . . . . The focus only needs to be on self. Not other ( the main issue that got us in this mess is no boundaries. Stating needs and wants and willing to walk. Self respect. Ignoring red flags. Low self worth / self esteem. Shame. Child core wounding )
When I started to learn about NPD 2 yrs ago. I made the decision to step out of a 20 yr relationship with 5 children. Nothing can prepare you for the disgusting abuse these people will put you through Nothing. I've been out and I'm staying out . Have shared custody for now. But it's not gonna be for long. I can't let my children be a part of the cycles much longer. I have so much evidence against her in regards to violating custody laws , lack of stability and respect for the children. These people are truly disgusting
This is just so spot on! Very good videos! I'm actually amazed at how spot on this is because there is so much nonsense out there about narcissism (even by psychologists, some who typically believe they can "heal NPD"). Glad I found this channel!
It seems there is a solid basis for the instinct to judge people based on the level of malice that their worst moments reveals. One has to be a little careful here, because we're all capable of less than stirling attitudes sometimes. What I think counts is revealed malicious intent, not just being grumpy first thing Monday morning when coffee machine that has been soldiering on bravely finally packs it in.
@@berniebarclay2183 and ... If you put more effort (* in the first place) to do a very serious Background check up , ... ( before attempting to call something *" a relationship") ... you might definitely discover a CONTINUM of broken relationships , strange "family of origin situations", ... and chaos . Aditionaly if you put an effort to discover some of the previous "partners" and their LIFES - through some third parties methods , you might see what a desasterous Torrent can do to a person's life. So... In my opinion WE putan enormously naive expectation into * Dating and * talking in the fancy restaurants 🍷☕🍰... 🍷☕🍰 ... instead of doing a proper background check up by third parties, ...before bringing some sexy, charming STRANGERS from pubs , bars, restaurants etc. (" = STREETS") into our private LIFE ! It is a consequence of last 70+ years of Holywood brainwashing - of entire GENERATION - into turning One of the most serious decislsions of Human LIFE ....- into ...SOMETHING ..."*Casual " ! Casual relationship Casual sex ... Like : " A casual "Russian rullete " ...kind of "thinking" .
This video saves lives! I was a kid though. It sucked to be dependent on someone like this. It was my crime to them. To be their dependent child! Oh yes, I was deaf as a child. Too! They certainly didn’t want a defective child! I’ve implemented no contact. It’s the only choice. It’s unfortunate but I’m used to it. Life is beautiful without the toxicity.
Thank you so much for your videos. When I was younger I would always attract “boarderlines” because I felt sorry for their situation, bad childhood, unstable parents. There was always something tragic in their life and they needed help immediately. Your videos are very helpful.
You're welcome. I'm glad you find my work helpful. Yes, many of the BPD types manipulate by tugging on heart strings. It's a survival skill for them. Except that they tug on the heart strings and then emotionally garrote their victims with them.
Yes! My diagnosed exgfwbpd and I have been broken up for a year, and even with the DARVO accusations & resulting litigation abuse, life is so much better out of the fog. She, like many borderlines, is very convincing, and at first she was able to easily outsource her abuse to two prosecutors, until I stepped it up and found evidence of the prosecutors colluding with her to circumvent my due process rights, my counterclaims, and my video evidence of her assaulting me & self-harming. I don't want to believe that assistant district attorneys are that easy to manipulate, but jeebus she can be convincing. One of the prosecutors was actually given the option to resign and the other launched a smear campaign against me and willfully assisted my ex in her orchestration of parental alienation. That Prosecutor is now under investigation for backdating cases & misappropriating funds by internal affairs, 3 external oversight bodies and thx to me, the appeals court, because I filed a Writ of Mandamus with them. Tara, you provide solid golden nuggets of advice and insight with real world examples...btw your Cluster B impressions/dialogue/vocal inflections are hilarious and wildly accurate! Thank you😅😂❤🎉
Yo Dr. T, YT have been promoting these therapy sessions of a BPD and her therapist. The patient's name is Charlotte. Could you comment about what we are witnessing in these sessions. She doesn't appear anywhere close to the BPDs I've had the misfortune of interacting with.
Some do ( those willing to put in the work that healing requires). Some (those not willing to put in the work that true healing requires) never will. You have more control over whether or not you ever get over the trauma than anyone else does.
Yeah when we stop focusing on the toxic person. How much do you focus on THEM and how often do you focus on SELF ? The issue with any of this toxic people videos is this: let’s reinforce talking about the other person rather then what you need to do now that you realize they are toxic ( healing is realizing they won’t change. Then starting to set boundaries. Therapy. Books. Self reflection. Journaling. Healing childhood wounding / shame. Learning what your wants and needs are. Self focus. Self love. Putting self first. ) And some secondary things are if leaving is true no contact ( they literally cannot reach you ). Getting rid of anything they touched or gifted or was there’s. This issue is average people cycle back average of 7 times in the loop. And or they stay married for decades as I believe the longer the time in the harder it is to break and walk
Key distinctions for me are the reframing instances of normalcy as fleeting. Using these instances as a baseline for thinking; it’s not that bad, maybe they changed this time, maybe I need to be more loving and accepting. Thanks for this really critical way of evaluating the situation through a self love perspective. ❤
I fell for the "borderlines can be cured with treatment" angle that she got me believing. Please just find someone without a disorder to be around, it never ends well. And sometimes it takes a long time to hit you. For me it was 17 years. Please just leave, they will never treat you right unless they want something.
You wrote: "Please just leave, they will never treat you right unless they want something." Treating people "right" isn't something we do in order gain something. Treating someone right, wrong, or something in between, as a means of manipulating for exclusive personal gain IS NOT treating anybody "right." Your comment would be more accurate if it read 'Please just leave, they will never treat you right."
@@jerroldshelton9367 I see your point but i thought the way i said it highlighted the transactional nature of it, while acknowledging to anyone reading that's in that kind of relationship will likely see the person as treating them very well at times. Yes its all manipulation but borderlines seem to love at times, its just fleeting and their actions overall are abusive but they may care greatly, just at other times hate you and devalue you to equal out to terrible abuse.
@@shrink4men Exactly! Some psychologists who claim they can "heal NPD" and many who claim it's very rare (1-2 % of the population), which helps hide it. This channel is very important! Very good video.
Yes. They know they're doing it. They know the difference between "right" and "wrong" which is why we don't institutionalize them. They know. They just don't care who gets hurt, as long as it isn't them. If they had no control over their pervasive patterns of shitty behavior, their emotional sociopathy wouldn't be branded as "Hidden Abuse" in some circles, because they wouldn't be able to hide it. They'd be shitty to absolutely everyone all of the time, but that's not how they really roll. Make no mistake: Crazy choses when to be a shit and when not to, the same as everyone else does. Crazy choses not to be shitty when Crazy perceives some personal benefit in not being shitty. When Crazy perceives no personal gain from not being shitty, Crazy is less likely to not be shitty. But they decide to be shitty, or not, and they do have control over whether to be shitty, or not. Crazy knows they do damage when they do it. They just don't care. It doesn't matter who gets hurt, as long as it isn't them.
That's probably BS. The personality disordered are often most triggered by intimate partners and their family. So, if the triggered person claims only to be triggered by you, I'd be willing to bet they've been "triggered" by all past partners and will be triggered by all future partners. Also, there are probably loads of people at work, school, etc., that trigger the person, but they don't lash out because of public image management.
I'm going through this right now. My ex is in poor health, and has been reliant on me to look after the kids more often. I'm walking that tightrope of being as neutral and emotionally disconnected from her as possible, while still maintaining my innate humanity toward someone in this situation. Thankyou for reminding me of who they are at their worst, and that the fake humility they display when they need something from you is just that... Fake.
Your "ex" is in poor health? How is that your problem? Is your "ex" your "ex" or not? You wrote: " I'm walking that tightrope of being as neutral and emotionally disconnected from her as possible, while still maintaining my innate humanity toward someone in this situation." You don't seem to me to be as emotionally disconnected from your "ex" as it is genuinely possible to be. Lucky for her, she's YOUR ex. Not mine. If she were my ex, and not yours, she'd be singing her Song of Woe to a judge in a Family Court, because I'd be using her health condition against her to get as close to the full custody I should have had from the beginning. If she's too sick to meet her custodial responsibilities and obligations, a Family Court judge needs to know that as much or more than people reading comments on UA-cam do.
The most heartbreaking realization is how capable they were of controlling themselves all along. They carefully choose who to abuse and who to respect at all costs.
You're right! Realizing this fact is heartbreaking 💔
This is why we have to rebuild ourselves based on this accurate reality.
who do they respect at all costs ??
@@muma6559 People with status, money.
This is literally exactly my experience with my BPD ex wife, especially the intermittent reinforcement. I always wondered how they could act one way in private and 5 minutes later leave the house and act like the most in control happy person. I always suspected it was an act, but fell for the usual line that because she had BPD that you had to help her manage her emotions, and support her and be there for her, all as you lost yourself in the madness. The triangulation commentary was spot on as well. She was always introducing a foil to any equation to show how I didn’t care for her or support her. This was usually a family member, a friend and frequently my job. I only wish I left her first. There were abundant signs and times to do so. Instead I stuck it out and got discarded through the divorce process.
I'm sorry that happened to you, but am glad you did eventually get out.
Very good description of my sisters behaviour. She’s a Borderline. My brother is an extremely jealous narcissist. After administering my father’s estate 25 years ago I severed all ties with my family to leave them both behind for good. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
how can this channel's videos have so few likes? this is invaluable guidance for anyone steering through narcissistic abuse...so underrated.
Happy diwali , madam
Much respect and love,
From India
It is always a pleasure watching a pretty red head explain and validate the truth about freakazoid narcissistic ex-wives. I do wish I had understood this stuff decades ago. - Thanks for the great video's Dr. Tara!!!
The videos are very helpful for me. Narcissists really believe they are the normal ones and that everyone else who aren't like them are the mentally deranged ones and they don't hesitate to say it out loud. During name callings, they even attacked the mental sanity of their victims by making them believe they are the deranged ones.
Dr. T, thank you for doing these. My BPD ex wife of 31 years did all you described, less the manipulation. She is very smart, attractive, and no one knows she is a BPD unless they get in certain situations. She would go through the cycle of normal, fearful, angry blaming, shaming, etc driving me away about every 3 weeks. About the time I looked out from under the rock I had about a week of cooperation then it started again. She seemed to be driven by fear that turned into anger. Funny you mentioned Wylie Coyote. That is how I described her to therapists, church elders, and good friends. She always had her hand on the plunger ready to blow things up. She had a meltdown at every holiday. I never went anywhere with her without having an escape plan. When she was "normal" she was the perfect wife and mother. If I were to be able to create the perfect wife and mother it would be her-when she was "normal". Other times she was an absolute nightmare destroying plans, dreams, and peace. She was faithful and did not waste money and never really lied. But the rages. OMG Terrifying insane meltdowns.
When the kids got out of the house I was able to keep firm boundaries and let her feel the consequences of her rash and selfish decisions. The minute she raised her voice or began the blame and shame talk I would walk away.
She eventually divorced me and took our hobby farm that I dearly loved. I think to spite me.
Hopefully people will see signs and avoid these people. My ex showed no red flags but got progressively worse until the last 10 years nearly made me insane.
Bless you for your work. 22:20
The rages can be incredibly terrifying and why so many partners of these individuals learn to walk on eggshells. I'm glad you're out. Hopefully, life is much better now.
The classic Boundaries game. The quickest way you can run off a toxic person ( AKA hold them accountable )
Hope you’re healing and in therapy for codependency as well can talk about others all day this and that. The issue is we are just as Fd up in the polar opposite way ( placate. Give in. Other focused. Do do do. One day they should change. If only they say what I do for them. Well at least I’m getting _____. It’s not so bad as I’ve learned their triggers. . . . .
The focus only needs to be on self. Not other ( the main issue that got us in this mess is no boundaries. Stating needs and wants and willing to walk. Self respect. Ignoring red flags. Low self worth / self esteem. Shame. Child core wounding )
I can’t tell you how useful this is to me, to get realistic about my relationship 🙏
When I started to learn about NPD 2 yrs ago. I made the decision to step out of a 20 yr relationship with 5 children.
Nothing can prepare you for the disgusting abuse these people will put you through Nothing. I've been out and I'm staying out . Have shared custody for now. But it's not gonna be for long. I can't let my children be a part of the cycles much longer. I have so much evidence against her in regards to violating custody laws , lack of stability and respect for the children. These people are truly disgusting
"You can't put into someone something that God left out."
Very well said
Bullshit! No such thing as God, and personality disorders are mainly the results of childhood trauma
There's that 'God' word again ffs 😂
@@baldersn4474 metaphor ffs ;-) LOL
This is just so spot on! Very good videos! I'm actually amazed at how spot on this is because there is so much nonsense out there about narcissism (even by psychologists, some who typically believe they can "heal NPD"). Glad I found this channel!
It seems there is a solid basis for the instinct to judge people based on the level of malice that their worst moments reveals. One has to be a little careful here, because we're all capable of less than stirling attitudes sometimes. What I think counts is revealed malicious intent, not just being grumpy first thing Monday morning when coffee machine that has been soldiering on bravely finally packs it in.
Intentional malice - that's the one.
@@berniebarclay2183 and ... If you put more effort (* in the first place) to do a very serious Background check up , ... ( before attempting to call something *" a relationship") ...
you might definitely discover a CONTINUM of broken relationships , strange "family of origin situations", ... and chaos .
Aditionaly
if you put an effort to discover some of the previous "partners" and their LIFES - through some third parties methods ,
you
might see what a desasterous Torrent can do to a person's life.
So...
In my opinion WE putan enormously naive expectation into
* Dating and
* talking in the fancy restaurants 🍷☕🍰...
🍷☕🍰 ...
instead of doing a proper background check up by third parties,
...before bringing some sexy, charming STRANGERS from pubs , bars, restaurants etc.
(" = STREETS") into
our private LIFE !
It is a consequence of last 70+ years of Holywood brainwashing - of entire GENERATION - into turning
One of the most serious decislsions of Human LIFE ....- into ...SOMETHING ..."*Casual " !
Casual relationship
Casual sex ...
Like :
" A casual "Russian rullete " ...kind of "thinking" .
Great video. Thanks for all you do.
"reloading their personal crazy soaker" 🤣🤣🤣
This video saves lives! I was a kid though. It sucked to be dependent on someone like this. It was my crime to them. To be their dependent child! Oh yes, I was deaf as a child. Too! They certainly didn’t want a defective child! I’ve implemented no contact. It’s the only choice. It’s unfortunate but I’m used to it. Life is beautiful without the toxicity.
I eventually came to see my soon-to-be ex as a type of sunk cost fallacy.
I think that's so true a lot of the time 😢
Thank you so much for your videos. When I was younger I would always attract “boarderlines” because I felt sorry for their situation, bad childhood, unstable parents. There was always something tragic in their life and they needed help immediately. Your videos are very helpful.
You're welcome. I'm glad you find my work helpful. Yes, many of the BPD types manipulate by tugging on heart strings. It's a survival skill for them. Except that they tug on the heart strings and then emotionally garrote their victims with them.
Yes! My diagnosed exgfwbpd and I have been broken up for a year, and even with the DARVO accusations & resulting litigation abuse, life is so much better out of the fog. She, like many borderlines, is very convincing, and at first she was able to easily outsource her abuse to two prosecutors, until I stepped it up and found evidence of the prosecutors colluding with her to circumvent my due process rights, my counterclaims, and my video evidence of her assaulting me & self-harming. I don't want to believe that assistant district attorneys are that easy to manipulate, but jeebus she can be convincing. One of the prosecutors was actually given the option to resign and the other launched a smear campaign against me and willfully assisted my ex in her orchestration of parental alienation. That Prosecutor is now under investigation for backdating cases & misappropriating funds by internal affairs, 3 external oversight bodies and thx to me, the appeals court, because I filed a Writ of Mandamus with them. Tara, you provide solid golden nuggets of advice and insight with real world examples...btw your Cluster B impressions/dialogue/vocal inflections are hilarious and wildly accurate! Thank you😅😂❤🎉
Always great explanations/content.
Much appreciated!
Thank you. Perfectly describes my life
Yo Dr. T, YT have been promoting these therapy sessions of a BPD and her therapist. The patient's name is Charlotte. Could you comment about what we are witnessing in these sessions. She doesn't appear anywhere close to the BPDs I've had the misfortune of interacting with.
Picture of our neighbor in the dsm meeting criteria for all the personality disorders😊
I’m wondering if you ever get over the trauma that Cluster B’s inflict upon you.
I'm wondering that too
It will require a lot of therapy.
The scares run deep.
Some do ( those willing to put in the work that healing requires). Some (those not willing to put in the work that true healing requires) never will. You have more control over whether or not you ever get over the trauma than anyone else does.
Yeah when we stop focusing on the toxic person. How much do you focus on THEM and how often do you focus on SELF ?
The issue with any of this toxic people videos is this: let’s reinforce talking about the other person rather then what you need to do now that you realize they are toxic ( healing is realizing they won’t change. Then starting to set boundaries. Therapy. Books. Self reflection. Journaling. Healing childhood wounding / shame. Learning what your wants and needs are. Self focus. Self love. Putting self first. )
And some secondary things are if leaving is true no contact ( they literally cannot reach you ). Getting rid of anything they touched or gifted or was there’s. This issue is average people cycle back average of 7 times in the loop. And or they stay married for decades as I believe the longer the time in the harder it is to break and walk
Key distinctions for me are the reframing instances of normalcy as fleeting. Using these instances as a baseline for thinking; it’s not that bad, maybe they changed this time, maybe I need to be more loving and accepting. Thanks for this really critical way of evaluating the situation through a self love perspective. ❤
Impression management haha been saying that for many years..just to be nice😀
These people live in a fantasy land
Brilliant !!!!
Thanks, that's kind of you!
You're the best! Always appreciate your content
Thank you! Glad you find my work helpful. I appreciate your support.
I fell for the "borderlines can be cured with treatment" angle that she got me believing. Please just find someone without a disorder to be around, it never ends well. And sometimes it takes a long time to hit you. For me it was 17 years. Please just leave, they will never treat you right unless they want something.
There's a lot of misinformation out their that minimizes the severity/danger of people with BPD and that greatly exaggerates treatment efficacy.
You wrote: "Please just leave, they will never treat you right unless they want something."
Treating people "right" isn't something we do in order gain something. Treating someone right, wrong, or something in between, as a means of manipulating for exclusive personal gain IS NOT treating anybody "right."
Your comment would be more accurate if it read 'Please just leave, they will never treat you right."
@@jerroldshelton9367 I see your point but i thought the way i said it highlighted the transactional nature of it, while acknowledging to anyone reading that's in that kind of relationship will likely see the person as treating them very well at times.
Yes its all manipulation but borderlines seem to love at times, its just fleeting and their actions overall are abusive but they may care greatly, just at other times hate you and devalue you to equal out to terrible abuse.
@@shrink4men Exactly! Some psychologists who claim they can "heal NPD" and many who claim it's very rare (1-2 % of the population), which helps hide it. This channel is very important! Very good video.
This is so true! I know from sad experience.
What about Narcissists with Borderline personality Disorder?
Double whammy?
Covert vulnerable narcissistic women are capable of causing so much damage.
Do they know that they are doing it?
Yes. They know they're doing it. They know the difference between "right" and "wrong" which is why we don't institutionalize them. They know. They just don't care who gets hurt, as long as it isn't them.
If they had no control over their pervasive patterns of shitty behavior, their emotional sociopathy wouldn't be branded as "Hidden Abuse" in some circles, because they wouldn't be able to hide it. They'd be shitty to absolutely everyone all of the time, but that's not how they really roll.
Make no mistake: Crazy choses when to be a shit and when not to, the same as everyone else does. Crazy choses not to be shitty when Crazy perceives some personal benefit in not being shitty. When Crazy perceives no personal gain from not being shitty, Crazy is less likely to not be shitty.
But they decide to be shitty, or not, and they do have control over whether to be shitty, or not.
Crazy knows they do damage when they do it. They just don't care. It doesn't matter who gets hurt, as long as it isn't them.
Yes
Sounds like a borderline
Rat labs bar press for food pellets till they die, only if they intermitantly get pellets..I saw it..
What if a person only feels these intense emotions with a partner but nobody else triggers them?
That's probably BS. The personality disordered are often most triggered by intimate partners and their family. So, if the triggered person claims only to be triggered by you, I'd be willing to bet they've been "triggered" by all past partners and will be triggered by all future partners. Also, there are probably loads of people at work, school, etc., that trigger the person, but they don't lash out because of public image management.
Upvoted for sun rays.
I'm going through this right now. My ex is in poor health, and has been reliant on me to look after the kids more often. I'm walking that tightrope of being as neutral and emotionally disconnected from her as possible, while still maintaining my innate humanity toward someone in this situation.
Thankyou for reminding me of who they are at their worst, and that the fake humility they display when they need something from you is just that... Fake.
Your "ex" is in poor health? How is that your problem? Is your "ex" your "ex" or not?
You wrote: " I'm walking that tightrope of being as neutral and emotionally disconnected from her as possible, while still maintaining my innate humanity toward someone in this situation."
You don't seem to me to be as emotionally disconnected from your "ex" as it is genuinely possible to be.
Lucky for her, she's YOUR ex. Not mine.
If she were my ex, and not yours, she'd be singing her Song of Woe to a judge in a Family Court, because I'd be using her health condition against her to get as close to the full custody I should have had from the beginning. If she's too sick to meet her custodial responsibilities and obligations, a Family Court judge needs to know that as much or more than people reading comments on UA-cam do.
Never in a million years.
Blessings, thank you! ✨️
Welcome!
The more I learn about these twisted freaks the more grateful I am that I survived 20 years entangled with one.🙏😳🤪
Thank you. 🍀
Welcome!
Do they age out. As in if they get to their fifties they can deal with their crap ways better?
Nooooo. By age 70, they’re 10 times as bad as they were at 50.
Lather...rinse....repeat...
Thanks for your help.
You're welcome!
All of this applies to the male NPD too
It sure does.
Yes. I think she talks that way as most her client base is males being “abused” by their female partners
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Your glasses aren't normal 🤓
Normal or not, they've never falsely accused me of abuse or tried to destroy my life, so I think I'll keep them because I like them.
😘😊😃
They accentuate your funky brainbox zany side 😅
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Thanks!
At 19:00 God is shining His holy light on you😇
Ha! If by god you meaning shifting cloud patterns, sure!