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I had to pause and stare at the ceiling for a minute when I came to that part. Calling 911 just to not have to face that alone and havin to refuse actual help because you can't afford it. In a supposed first world country? That's so fucked up
The woman who had a miscarriage made me so sad, the fact that she wouldn't call an ambulance because of the price is so tragic. She could have been in danger and the pain that she must have felt was probably unbearable. What a courageous woman, it must have been hard... I hope she's okay right now
Another reason to completely abolish the American medical system and remake it all over again, it’s horrible and the fact if you’re poor, you can basically just die because you can’t afford the insanely overpriced medical bills is just disgusting and immoral
@@heist4420 yep! & honestly you don’t even have to be poor to get fucked by our healthcare system. my SO & i are solidly middle class and a substantial medical bill would still wreck our lives.
"Developed country" btw, and we got women like her who go through such heartwrenching tragedies... all because they couldn't afford an ambulance. We got a disgraceful healthcare system here...
The healthcare system in the US is fucked up big time. A woman having to refuse ambulance to due extremely high costs and having to make an appointment for the NEXT DAY to get herself checked out? ....
When the person at 5:00 said they couldn't afford an ambulance during their miscarriage my heart broke. The American healthcare system is so dehumanizing I swear.
@@d3vond I can't imagine a more pathetic and vile state of being. If you're being serious and not joking, I recommend getting a job and some hobbies post haste.
@@jinhub2175 Wrong. Ambulances show up whether their Future-ReadingScope tells them you (and your personal health insurance) can pay for their labor or not.
The health care is amazing there. It’s the services that are expensive but it’s expensive here in Europe too. Costs are just allocated differently instead of paying directly to the hospital or ambulance company, you pay higher taxes where the government decides where the money goes
@@paradox9369 the Netherlands. I’m Dutch, and if you can’t afford insurance it’s just as expensive. I have personally lived in both the US and the Netherlands but am fortunate enough to have good money and parents who pay for me, but some of my friends don’t have that and things get very expensive for them just like in the US. My friend was involved in a car accident on the bike and since she did not have insurance she had to pay for the surgery out of pocket. Same situation in the US if you can’t afford it. Nothing is free
@@M2161 Sure nothing is free, but cheaper. Sorry to hear about what you have went through. I'm also European and I think our taxes are not as high, definitely the costs are much lower compared to your country and especially the US. I do agree that if an individual struggles with more serious and constant health issues, it can get expensive really fast. However, I think that the emergency care most European countries can give is invaluable. You don't have to worry about paying a fortune for the ambulance. I get nauseous thinking about how much my parents would have had to pay if they were in the US.
"I can't afford an ambulance, please just stay on the phone with me" that's horrifying to hear. I feel so grateful for the NHS in the UK, and so so sorry for anyone who has to make that decision through such a painful time for them.
I never wanted kids. Had my daughter and it’s the greatest blessing ever. I can’t believe I never wanted kids now. Just make sure you’re in a position to have a child and it’s fine.
I thought it wouldn’t be this hard being pregnant but it is, but In the end it’s all worth it, you get a beautiful child that you get to raise and who loves you and who you love.
Hugs to all the ladies that has experienced miscarriages. Miscarrying is the saddest, loneliest, most devastating experience I ever went through. I just want to give her a big hug.
@@xomnipresent8913 what is wrong with you, can you just stop spreading ur hateful views, I bet you are some man who thinks he's entitled to control women's bodies but honestly ur disgusting
I agree, this was hard to listen to but this is being a women, she is strong and WE are strong, we have to do things with no hand to hold sometimes, but we still get through it💪
It really is, I went riding dirt bikes with my friend when I was around 15 and he ended up crashing and snapping his leg in half, just hanging on by skin. His dad refused them sending a ambulance because of the cost. It’s messed up
I think its also crazy that most people who do are on the pill. Not impossible on other forms but the pill isn't the easiest because if you are completely scheduled and taking the pill right, you gonna get pregnant
Might have forgotten to take it every time which happens to almost everyone if they have a medication that needs to be taken regularly. However, even if one did not skip by mistake a day, there still does not exist a 100% guarantee that you won't get pregnant even if you use it in combination with condoms
@@pattycannon1804 good job in an abortion no child suffers. Sadly many times when the abortion route isn’t taken (when arguably it should have) children are born into abusive households- that’s when children suffer. Or they go into the over stretched foster system, again that’s when children suffer. Abortions REDUCE child suffering
I like the lady who said that she wants to wait become a mom when she is ready . I think the power of choice is very important . Just because you aren’t ready now doesn’t mean you won’t be someday in the future.
@@falynoutlaw8522 exactly! By the maturity she showed you know one day if she chooses to have a child she will be a good mum because she cares so much and want to get everything right to give her child the best possible start in life
@@pattycannon1804 so you would rather have a child grow up on a household knowing they were unwanted or in the Foster system that the goverment does not financial support enough. You people care about an unborn fetus than real children that are suffering in abusive households.
a lot of y’all are talking about the cost of the ambulance and stuff, but the black woman mentioned something sm ppl are looking over; the fact that she was afraid that she wasn’t going to get the care she needed being a black women. it’s so overlooked but indigenous and black women do not get the same healthcare as others. As the woman said, she was afraid to even go to the hospital :(
It's such as huge problem in the healthcare system. Like black women and people of color are 3 times more likely to die during pregnancy and no one bats an eye! Doctors don't believe us when we say "hey, we're in pain".
@@roudyman777 That might be you, but you are not the entire field. So many POC, particularly women say they experience this and you should believe them.
@@nicolecmar5008 I listen to whatever any of my patients say. I empathize with them as well. At the end of the day, I treat them the same and treat them by dictation of scientific facts and biology. If someone still feels they are treated different due to their personal afflictions or beliefs, I gracefully show them the exit and will even print out driving instructions to the next healthcare facility in the area that will treat them with the same dignity and respect that we showed them.
Miscarriage is so hard and a lot of people don't know that it's actually fairly common. The statistics vary but the overall average is still a lot more often than you think. I think this knowledge needs to be more widely known as well. Sex education in general needs to be a lot more open.
I've also heard it's actually the woman's body's way of protecting itself too. Pregnancy is a dangerous and laborious process. Sometimes things go wrong in the developmental stages. And to prevent the mother from getting hurt spontaneous abortion occurs. I'm not sure if it's true or not. But if it is it's a really interesting (and tragic) example of how your subconscious body and conscious body interact.
@@RoseEyed That's interesting. I know miscarriages also occur if the egg has some form of chromosome abnormality iirc. The body just knows it's not viable.
@@sarahsays194 exactly! Much more concise way of saying it. Periods are a similar thing. Most mammals don’t have them as frequently as we do, and even in communities where human women are pregnant more they seem to have them less often. Sometimes the body and mind aren’t friends
@@RoseEyed Yes, but not often at 15 weeks like with this woman. Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester, and half of those occur in the first month!! (Called a chemical pregnancy, often due to chromosomal defects.)
"i regret the partner, i don't regret the pregnancy", hello the guys, i hope someday somewhere you strive to not make a woman say that. Its the least you can do.
what happens to waiting when your get married before popping your cherry? its much safer and promising, if you feel too horny why not masturbate rather than getting pregnant? worse part the guy wouldn't want anything to do with it meaning you were just a sex toy. i feel bad for girls who usually think the guy likes them or (We are in love) but not knowing he is only doing that for the pussy. Am a guy and most of the things i hear them say is heart breaking, even after the girl let them in once they see a new cherry they will look for argument to break up so they can go for thee new one. very sad😥.....
@@starboysuniverse9956 it’s not safer and more promising- many marriages are AWFUL and abusive. Just putting a ring on someone doesn’t suddenly make them parent material
It’s appalling how many women would say that when there’s nothing wrong with the guy and she just got sick of him Women initiate the vast majority of divorces. Maybe women could stop doing that - it’s the least you can do.
@@poocrayon4588 Have you researched why? That entire 80% can't just be the woman getting tired. Don't mix the women who divorced for valid reasons with those that didn't.
@@Bringon-dw8dx That's why you need to be wise when choosing a wife/husband. Too many people get too caught up in how they 'feel' and ignore obvious red flags which, later lead to disaster.
Can we all just take a moment and truly appreciate the level of diversity Jubilee managed to create in this? The experiences that come with pregnancy and what those mean for people is such a complex topic but I really think this handled it in a beautifully honest and respectfully way. So thank you, Jubilee, for showing us how any and every experience is valid
Yes, I was thinking the same thing while watching. They put in so much effort to try and represent the most possible variety of experiences people have while pregnant and really also showing diversity in the types of people themselves too. Really well done.
This is what I call, forced diversity that doesn't reflect the average population. However if it was their intention to take outliers and people of all kinds, then its a success.
@@agathachris9722 The AVERAGE population doesn't reflect anyone because it's an average of everyone. Everyone's story deserves to be told and reflected not matter if it's an outlier or not. Most of these stories though are not even uncommon.
@@agathachris9722 also the avg. story is boring. We've heard it a million times. And it's good to hear other potential outcomes, that way, whenever you get pregnant and it happens to you, you don't have to feel alone.
@@RianneOK I never said everyone's story shouldn't be told, but deserve? That's a word meaning owed. No one is owed telling their story. The average, majority population reflects of MOST people. That is my point. One or two people do not change the definition or understanding of the majority. Just because you believe something doesn't make it fact. You believe that this is a romantic relationship, more power to you and your opinion. I don't, most people don't. It is what it is. Live your life.
It's so sad that in America some people can't afford ambulances. She must've gone through something so traumatic, yet in the UK we take it for granted that these are available for everyone
Yes!! I frequently worry about getting into an accident (since I dont have insurance) and not being able to pay for medical care! Most people need to be able to afford $400-$600 monthly payments just for some basic coverage. And that's PER PERSON. Unfortunately the government does not care for us. But don't forget, we're "the best country in the world"! 😒
Same in Canada. Free of charge and off you go to the closest hospital. America is ridiculous. A "superpower " that cant even provide free basic healthcare to a woman miscarrying. Smh
9.20 is how all Christians should react to their friends getting pregnant in or out of wedlock. We aren't meant to judge as christians we are meant to love one another!
@@rjseymour9842 I’m so glad they did too. God has got such incredible things in store for you thank you for being so brave and letting us hear your story. ❤️❤️
Politically if you are against abortion you should also support all the programs needed to raise a child when their parents can't afford to and need assistance. Some of you are not pro-life you are pro-birth. You do not get to not want taxes to cover raising life if you claim to be pro-life. You just want to control women birthing...and they did not get pregnant alone.
As a dude, I feel so bad for the girl that had the miscarriage. Hope she's alright, no girl asks to have a miscarriage or has control over it. U shudnt guilt urself for it
Don't listen to that one woman btw y'all, you are not less of a woman or a person for having an abortion. Having an abortion is not covering up a mistake or not owning up to a mistake. Giving birth and having an abortion are both valid, adult, and responsible decisions. Don't ever feel ashamed for making either decision. EDIT: y'all are not getting the point. It doesn't matter which is "more responsible". The point is abortion doesn't make you any less of a person.
Amen. Having an abortion is quite often the responsible thing to do, it is owning to your mistake to say ‘this isn’t a situation I want a baby born into’
You are not owning up to a mistake by getting an abortion. That’s literally the whole point. You got pregnant when you shouldn’t have and decided to get rid of it. That’s like the entire nature of getting an abortion
@@jeremys8360 Sure. You're still not any less of an adult though. The point I was making with "you're not covering up/owning up to a mistake" is to emphasize that abortion does not = being irresponsible. Abortion does not = being a child, because you don't want to be pregnant. Yes, abortion means you may have not used protection but it doesn't mean you're not an adult. That's all I was saying.
One of the best episodes of the series so far. The woman with the miscarriage story literally had me in tears. The American healthcare system is so cruel and dehumanizing, it has to change. I hope she is doing better now.
My biggest fear is not have a stable, good, emotionally supportive, kind partner while pregnant. I’ll be forever alone and childless before i even think about settling.
well this why am waiting till i get marriage before i get any woman pregnant, having a baby shouldn't be a scare it more of a blessing to the union of the couple As young man i advise my friends and other young men to focus on getting their lives together, life is not all about Sex in fact once you get married you will get tired of sex after having it a few times, it just like craving for burgers when you don't have it you crave to eat 10 but after a bite you get full. so it better to create a strong foundation for you and your future family instead of going around planting seeds you wont claim and i also blame the women too who don't wana wait for their right partner
@@poocrayon4588 get over yourself please. NOONE regardless of gender should ever settle. Especially for a person who mistreats you or doesn’t make you happy, that is a perfectly reasonable standard. I know it’s hard for you to believe but women have standards
I hope everyone including guys, girls, those who opt for pregnancy and even those who don't, realise that pregnancy is hard, and being a mother is harder. Acknowledging this simplest fact will lead us to help them in most little yet required aspects. Kudos to all the mothers out there
I’m on my first pregnancy & I never realized how hard it really is, your body is going through so many changes & the littlest pain worry me a lot sometimes but I know it’s normal! Somedays I’m so tired I can’t even get out of bed, pregnancy is such a hard thing for woman :(
@@elyse3710 hello just wanted to say that u r ABSOLUTELY AMAZING AND STRONG!!! u were able to give birth to a whole human and recover!! U r absolutely strong and powerful!! I hope u know that there r a lot of women out there to talk with abt pregnancy :)) wishing u all the best
@@poocrayon4588 you’re the one who turned it into a competition. What is wrong with you that you felt the need to spark something under a supportive comment???
Sending so much love to the woman who talked about her miscarriage ❤️ Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable on camera to help raise awareness about this.
My heart broke in half when she just said "yeah" to the operator just being with her. And then it broke in fourths when she said "I just really wanted my mom". Imagine all the young girls who go to those appointments, whether it be for a miscarriage or just a regular pregnancy check up, alone because no one is there to support them?
Whenever it’s a men’s video they invite simps and nerds or guys who make whatever position jubilee doesn’t like look bad by association. Totally biased
@@turtlesarefantastic9620 he is an incel . He first says that women divorce men alot then says to a girl u have really high standards . Now according to him women just should adjust with bad men and not even divorce edit : he also said that women who can't tolerate pregnancy are weak
i love the representation in these videos!! single women, women who had abortions, women who miscarried, women of color, teen pregnancies, ALL THE PERSPECTIVES AAAHH
I know the main point here was to educate us on their sides of pregnancy but they also educated me on so much. Gay black man here and I want to thank all of you strong women for being brave and coming forward speaking genuinely on their own experience.
I love how nearly all of them were on birth control and still got pregnant, but we ban abortion and just tell women to protect themselves with birth control.
@@bookbad2356 a bad mindset is doing things you don’t want to do, that are hard, because of societal pressure- something a lot of mums fall into the trap of
Birth control isn’t 100% That’s why using the most effective types plus a condom is recommended (most people that get pregnant on birth control do so when using the pill).
Did that lady say she can't AFFORD an ambulance?? Do they cost money or something?? Like if you need to get to the hospital why do you need to pay to get somewhere that will HELP YOU LIVE??
The woman who miscarried made me tear up. I hope she's doing better now because the miscarriage seems to have really affected her. Her heart goes out to her ❤️
I loveee the woman who talked about her struggle with an eating disorder. I have had an eating disorder since I was 16 and as time continues I am just even more scared of the idea of getting pregnant because I would not stand myself and would probably starve myself even more and spiral out of control. Not only that, but I definitely don't want a kid to have my genes; I have so many mental health conditions and predispositions that I would just hate myself for having a child knowing they can end up feeling as miserable, depressed, anxious, and worthless as I do everyday.
the person who said she had to deal with it "like a woman" by having the child because she was 26, is inferring that abortion is not adult-like or responsible, when it is 100% a responsible decision if you don't have the adequate circumstances to bring a child into this world, no matter what age you are
@@patient0333 no PREGNANCY is a consequence of sex- babies CAN be a consequence of pregnancy but other outcomes include ectopic pregnancies, miscarriages (spontaneous abortions) or induced abortion. Dealing with the consequence of sex (aka pregnancy) can include either keeping the baby (and then that can be split into raising it yourself or the adoptive route) or having an abortion. All valid options. Having an abortion IS dealing with the consequence of your actions, by the literal definition of the word.
@@patient0333 I didn’t call it an abortion, I named them all as separate things. They are all possible outcomes of a pregnancy, which is what we were discussing. Also the proper name for a miscarriage is literally a spontaneous abortion as an FYI
for anyone who needs it, getting an abortion doesn't mean you're any less of a woman like one of the ladies said. If you feel like getting an abortion is the best decision for the current situation you're in or the time of your life at that moment then that's ok. Considering getting an abortion or getting one doesn't make you a bad woman, it just means you're doing what's best for you. Sending love :)
Yess! It was so fucked up that she said “cmon be a woman u GOT PREGNANT u have the baby” because what’s worse? Removing an embryo or fetus (NOT EVEN A BABY) because you’re not gonna be able to take care of it or not having an abortion and letting the kid grow up in a household were the parents can’t provide everything for their kid, if you’re not ready or don’t want a kid, do what’s best for you
i think she meant more like she wasn't a kid or a young adult anymore. she was 26 at the time and probably felt like ok you were having unprotected sex, what did you expect to happen? in a way her partner and her wanted to get pregnant and probably viewed abortion as not something they should rely on to fix their situation but rather be mature and see the pregnancy through.
I think she's saying she has to take responsibility for having unprotected sex because it does sound like she was ready to take on that responsibility, whereas maybe her partner wasn't. it takes two to tango and both parties know what they're doing and what the consequences are
It’s really so terrible that the girl who got a miscarriage couldn’t even call an ambulance because she couldn’t afford it. The fact that she can’t even save her child in an emergency because of money is apalling and the healthcare in this country really needs to change
I have so much respect for women who choose to be pregnant & give birth cuz everything I hear about it makes me want NO PARTS. I also feel for the women who miscarry, please know you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. So sorry that happened :(
6:35 What? No. Just bc your the pregnant one doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feeling and should ignore his feelings... that’s just gonna cause toxic masculinity build up in your relationship. The fact that you thought it was ok to force him to ignore his feeling about a “baby” that he obviously wanted is selfish and weird
I didn’t think my comments would be inferred in this way, but I’m glad folks are bringing it up! Just want to say that I agree his feelings shouldn’t be ignored - and they weren’t. We were both a week before graduation, not committed to each other, and I had this tremendous weight on my shoulders because I was making an important decision for the both of us. I was there for him in that moment and it was hard for me. He was the only other person in the world that knew what we were going through specifically, but I felt like I had to be strong too, because this was ultimately my decision to make, and it was very clear to me what I needed to do. I have so much love and respect for him, and I know we’ve been able to do great things with our lives since then
As a male it is hard to really understand all that, all what I can do is try to understand more and be more supportive. I am sure it is not an easy thing .
@@leulgetachew696 Well my dad made extra sure that my mom was comfortable during her periods and pregnancy. I guess that is one thing we men could do to make it a less straining experience for women.
@@leulgetachew696 I think the main thing is trying to be more patience with your partner. The hormones are no joke, sometime we wanna cry for no reason or are more irritable or just feel really bad... At least when I was pregnant I would have wanted more of that
@@rithvikmuthyalapati9754 Good comment, I've had different partners, even having a period feels totally different when you are held by the person you want the most... ✨
6:48 this makes me so upset. That must’ve been so traumatizing, having people say that to you, when you were just a 17 year old girl who couldn’t have a baby at the moment. It’s a women’s choice, not old creeps.
The doctors refuse to let me get my tubes tied. They think I’ll change my mind. (Like, no. The whole reason I don’t want kids is because I’m not trying to pass on genetic chronic illnesses) but the government also tries to put limits on abortion rights? They cannot have it both ways.
is it the government who forces the doctors to not let you do that? They don't have it both ways cause they aren't the same people. Everyone deals with people who pressure or force them to do opposite things.
Estrogen and progesterone are the chief pregnancy hormones. A woman will produce more estrogen during one pregnancy than throughout her entire life when not pregnant. The increase in estrogen during pregnancy enables the uterus and placenta to: improve vascularization (the formation of blood vessels)👍
@@kimberlywatson5611 Age is just a number. You could be 26, be a doctor, own your own home, have a solid supportive partner etc You could be 26 and be single, be living with your parents to save for a house deposit etc You could be 26 and be a homeless drug addict You could be 26 and be starting off in your career, and simply don’t want a child. Age is just a number and has nothing to do with your ability to raise your child- it’s literally everything else that does
i think she meant it more in a "i'm this grown and had unprotected sex, this is just a "consequence"" though of course that kind of thinking isn't and shouldn't be true for everyone and other options should still be there for you, it was just her personal acceptance and choice of how to react.
The woman who said she couldn't afford an ambulance, that makes me so sad and mad at the US. I'm from New Zealand and its free to use an ambulance. It just blows my mind that Americans need to pay for help when they most need it.
I can't believe America still doesn't have free health care. While she was in physical and emotional pain she had to think about money... I can't imagine, must be awful.
@@joshuagraham9770 What's wrong with universal healthcare? Endless wars and a 2,000 mile border wall are far more expensive, but you don't seem to have an issue with those
@@mattwong5403 it would increase the cost of a lot of things, the money could be used elsewhere like welfare where it's a lot more useful so people actually get money who need it instead of people who don't need it, giving people money for no reason is a bad idea as it increases their expectations & most people are horrible with money and they would probably waste it on a want like what some people did with the stimulus check. Also those things you mentioned are actually useful
To the lady who said "I had an abortion because I want to be a good mom when I'm ready" I respect her so much And the lady who miscarried, is amazing ❤️
The woman that had the miscarriage got my heart ❤️ she made me cry 🥺😢 because the fact that she didn’t want an ambulance because she couldn’t afford it. I feel like the American System needs to make ambulance more accessible to everyone even if they can’t afford it. It’s about helping people not the money!!!
the girl who cried cause she couldnt afford amb really made me sad but she seems vrey strong woman hope she always stay happy and healthy and all the other moms too
The woman who shared her story about her miscarriage made me cry because it brought me back to my own experience. Being alone with that pain is so so hard, I personally passed out.
As a Brit the saddest and most shocking part for me was hearing that she couldn’t afford for someone to come in an ambulance, it’s just not something I’d even consider and it’s horrible that this is the reality for women in the US
Schools need to stop splitting girls and boys for sex ed and teach them EVERYTHING about each other. Sick of hearing guys treat pregnancy like it’s nothing
its messed up that people were saying she should go to hell for the abortion. I get not everyone shares the same views but damn! Couldnt imagine anything worse with such a heavy decision
It’s literally the worst way to try to stop someone from getting an abortion too. If you tell someone they’re evil and going to hell, they’ll just be afraid of you and want to escape. But if you actually care about them and their baby then maybe you can genuinely help them. Those ppl are such posers
@@elizabethgrey6040 Agreed. I'm pro life but I would never get aggressive or straight up scream at someone. As you said, that is literally the worst way to go about it.
@@elizabethgrey6040 Yes, exactly. Offering a different opinion alongside help outside of an abortion clinic is a positive thing, but shouting at them will not make them feel welcomed. Had the right people been outside, her baby may still be alive.
After hearing this, I've came to the conclusion that if I will be able to have a wife one day (which is very unlikely) I don't think I would want her to go become pregnant. I mean, all of these sounds just horrible, I would curse myself if I would make my loved one go through all of this sh*t
I genuinely hope my future husband has this mindset because my biggest fear is pregnancy. I even had a nightmare about it where I found out it was too late to abort and I literally threw myself down stairs :/
@@EefkeL Holy sh*t that nightmare sounds just horrible! Just so you know, you don't have to have become pregnant if you don't want to - it has to be a decision between you and your partner, but you have the final word to say. Don't let anyone force it upon you. I think that there are lots of men who don't want to have babies, but I don't have any data on that. Remember, that there are other options to make family bigger, such as adoption, so just do what you feel you should do
@@kacperwarda5436 thank you so much! English isn’t my 1st language either so no worries! I did have a panic attack after the dream but I did calm down by repeating that nobody could ever force pregnancy upon me. Thank you for understanding :)
What the hell is wrong with American health care??? He was having a miscarriage, but was unable to call an ambulance bc she couldn't AFFORD it???? I know that Americans don't like the government to interfere in their health care and stuff like that but at what price? It's time for some changes
Statistically there’s a small possibility of getting pregnant while on birth control. Pretty sure it depends on when you take it though and yeah it’s really scary that things like that can happen.
The woman that shared about her miscarriage is so brave to share this publicly - I felt your pain as you spoke and pray for you! and yes the US system for healthcare sucks :(
I just lost my second baby due to miscarriage. My heart goes out for every woman that lost their baby and are sad about it. I know I will never ever forget that I had my baby’s in me for a while and even if they both made me really sick and tired, I loved them both. But time does go on and you do heal. The light in living will come back, you will be yourself again and it’s definitely is okay to grief. I cannot say that everyone will experience pregnancy again, it hurts to know that there are so many other woman out there with no chances of getting pregnant. I find myself in the situation where everyone tells me that they don‘t know if I can carry a baby ever again, especially full term. You are not alone. We will go through it and we will find joy in life again. I promise
stop judging people. just because you wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean other people have to live according to you “standards.” It’s ridiculous that you think just because someone got pregnant they have to keep the baby. Like what are they supposed to do when they literally don’t want kids?
People that recognise they aren’t ready to be parents. Children who are born to bad parents suffer for decades, so do those that get put in the system. Abortion prevents child suffering
I have never heard anything as infuriatingly sad, as the please dont send someone cause I cannot afford an ambulance ride like now. What the actual heck is wrong with people thinking healthcare is a privilege and not a human right?! 🤬 Dear you and your poor little babe deserved better care.
The fact that ambulances cost money and it costs money to have a baby is ridiculous. When I hear people say things like “I told them not to send anyone because I couldn’t afford an ambulance” makes me so thankful that I live in the uk
My heart is breaking for the woman that miscarried - and any other woman going through this. You are so strong 💗
I cried during this scene this is so heartbreaking. 😭😭💔
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She’s unfortunate. Strong is something she’ll have to learn to be. Hopefully she’ll succeed.
@@AxxLAfriku stfu
I had to pause and stare at the ceiling for a minute when I came to that part. Calling 911 just to not have to face that alone and havin to refuse actual help because you can't afford it. In a supposed first world country? That's so fucked up
The woman who had a miscarriage made me so sad, the fact that she wouldn't call an ambulance because of the price is so tragic. She could have been in danger and the pain that she must have felt was probably unbearable. What a courageous woman, it must have been hard... I hope she's okay right now
Another reason to completely abolish the American medical system and remake it all over again, it’s horrible and the fact if you’re poor, you can basically just die because you can’t afford the insanely overpriced medical bills is just disgusting and immoral
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Made me cry 😢❤️🙏🏾 I hope God turns her pain into joy
@@heist4420 yep! & honestly you don’t even have to be poor to get fucked by our healthcare system. my SO & i are solidly middle class and a substantial medical bill would still wreck our lives.
"Developed country" btw, and we got women like her who go through such heartwrenching tragedies... all because they couldn't afford an ambulance. We got a disgraceful healthcare system here...
The healthcare system in the US is fucked up big time. A woman having to refuse ambulance to due extremely high costs and having to make an appointment for the NEXT DAY to get herself checked out? ....
What's your solution? Install free healthcare where you have to wait for these things even more?
Epica Unleashed yikes. educate yourself lol
@@epicaunleashed8764 I’m sorry but that is a lie :\
@@epicaunleashed8764 Canada has free healthcare that works amazingly!🇨🇦
@@epicaunleashed8764 Canada and the Uk has shorter wait lines than us..next
When the person at 5:00 said they couldn't afford an ambulance during their miscarriage my heart broke. The American healthcare system is so dehumanizing I swear.
Hello tourist. Looking for those imaginary internet points, I see.
Wait...? They have to pay for an ambulance in America? .... and the fact that they didn't provide free service for a pregnant woman is just heartless.
@@d3vond I can't imagine a more pathetic and vile state of being. If you're being serious and not joking, I recommend getting a job and some hobbies post haste.
@@jinhub2175 Wrong. Ambulances show up whether their Future-ReadingScope tells them you (and your personal health insurance) can pay for their labor or not.
@@jinhub2175 Yea you do :\ and if you don't have health insurance or a insurance that covers the cost, the ambulance fees are astronomical
i was full on sobbing when she said that she couldn't afford the ambulance. Americans deserve such better health care
The health care is amazing there. It’s the services that are expensive but it’s expensive here in Europe too. Costs are just allocated differently instead of paying directly to the hospital or ambulance company, you pay higher taxes where the government decides where the money goes
I wasn’t crying but damm that is sad
@@M2161 You insist Europe is expensive too. Where in Europe do you live?
@@paradox9369 the Netherlands. I’m Dutch, and if you can’t afford insurance it’s just as expensive. I have personally lived in both the US and the Netherlands but am fortunate enough to have good money and parents who pay for me, but some of my friends don’t have that and things get very expensive for them just like in the US. My friend was involved in a car accident on the bike and since she did not have insurance she had to pay for the surgery out of pocket. Same situation in the US if you can’t afford it. Nothing is free
@@M2161 Sure nothing is free, but cheaper. Sorry to hear about what you have went through. I'm also European and I think our taxes are not as high, definitely the costs are much lower compared to your country and especially the US.
I do agree that if an individual struggles with more serious and constant health issues, it can get expensive really fast.
However, I think that the emergency care most European countries can give is invaluable. You don't have to worry about paying a fortune for the ambulance. I get nauseous thinking about how much my parents would have had to pay if they were in the US.
"I can't afford an ambulance, please just stay on the phone with me" that's horrifying to hear. I feel so grateful for the NHS in the UK, and so so sorry for anyone who has to make that decision through such a painful time for them.
Honestly
Same! I feel terribly for those in the us living on lower incomes. It must be so difficult to get healthcare there :(
It's free but at the expense of massive queues and overall it's bad.
@@hollyturrell7635 At least
@@bunille not true
The more I hear about pregnancy and birth, the less I want it for myself.
I never wanted kids. Had my daughter and it’s the greatest blessing ever. I can’t believe I never wanted kids now. Just make sure you’re in a position to have a child and it’s fine.
I thought it wouldn’t be this hard being pregnant but it is, but In the end it’s all worth it, you get a beautiful child that you get to raise and who loves you and who you love.
I will pass. I dont wanna get involved In this trend of getting babies
@@godzillanismo4892 ah yes the brand new trend of creating life... that has never been normal before...
Nothing has changed for me I still want to have children
The woman who miscarried saying she just wanted her mom made me so so sad
Same
Yeah.
Hugs to all the ladies that has experienced miscarriages. Miscarrying is the saddest, loneliest, most devastating experience I ever went through. I just want to give her a big hug.
Abortions should be too
@@xomnipresent8913 Agreed.
@@xomnipresent8913 what is wrong with you, can you just stop spreading ur hateful views, I bet you are some man who thinks he's entitled to control women's bodies but honestly ur disgusting
@@xomnipresent8913 stop using women's pain for your pro life propaganda you fool
@@xomnipresent8913 neh
If i were to get pregnant ever and could afford and abortion, i would really be happy
The woman who had a miscarriage is so incredibly strong, she touched my heart so deeply with her words
I agree, this was hard to listen to but this is being a women, she is strong and WE are strong, we have to do things with no hand to hold sometimes, but we still get through it💪
As a German the fact that she couldn‘t afford an ambulance during her miscarriage makes me so sad...
It really is, I went riding dirt bikes with my friend when I was around 15 and he ended up crashing and snapping his leg in half, just hanging on by skin. His dad refused them sending a ambulance because of the cost. It’s messed up
Honestly same, this is such a f**** up system coming from a country where health insurance isn’t even an option but a given
It costs like $9000 without insurance and millions aren’t insured in the us
same, i’m from the UK and honestly america is so fucked
Same as a Spaniard. Shocking how ambulances there can cost up to 10 000 dollars. They shouldn't even cost 50.
interesting how a few got pregnant even on birth control
I think its also crazy that most people who do are on the pill. Not impossible on other forms but the pill isn't the easiest because if you are completely scheduled and taking the pill right, you gonna get pregnant
Might have forgotten to take it every time which happens to almost everyone if they have a medication that needs to be taken regularly. However, even if one did not skip by mistake a day, there still does not exist a 100% guarantee that you won't get pregnant even if you use it in combination with condoms
Please stop scaring bud, this is my worst nightmare.
unfortunately no form of birth control is 100% effective, only up to 99% with the iud and even then theres cases....
My mother got pregnant and she had an IUD.
So glad they included people with miscarriages and abortions because often people forget that their pregnancies are valid
I'm against abortions a child should never have to suffer for their parents actions.
@@pattycannon1804 good job in an abortion no child suffers.
Sadly many times when the abortion route isn’t taken (when arguably it should have) children are born into abusive households- that’s when children suffer. Or they go into the over stretched foster system, again that’s when children suffer.
Abortions REDUCE child suffering
I like the lady who said that she wants to wait become a mom when she is ready . I think the power of choice is very important . Just because you aren’t ready now doesn’t mean you won’t be someday in the future.
@@falynoutlaw8522 exactly! By the maturity she showed you know one day if she chooses to have a child she will be a good mum because she cares so much and want to get everything right to give her child the best possible start in life
@@pattycannon1804 so you would rather have a child grow up on a household knowing they were unwanted or in the Foster system that the goverment does not financial support enough. You people care about an unborn fetus than real children that are suffering in abusive households.
a lot of y’all are talking about the cost of the ambulance and stuff, but the black woman mentioned something sm ppl are looking over; the fact that she was afraid that she wasn’t going to get the care she needed being a black women. it’s so overlooked but indigenous and black women do not get the same healthcare as others. As the woman said, she was afraid to even go to the hospital :(
And her saying she had high blood pressure!!! Something so common amongst Black people
It's such as huge problem in the healthcare system. Like black women and people of color are 3 times more likely to die during pregnancy and no one bats an eye! Doctors don't believe us when we say "hey, we're in pain".
I'm in the healthcare field and I can 100% say we do not treat anyone differently in any way due to the color of their skin.
@@roudyman777 That might be you, but you are not the entire field. So many POC, particularly women say they experience this and you should believe them.
@@nicolecmar5008 I listen to whatever any of my patients say. I empathize with them as well. At the end of the day, I treat them the same and treat them by dictation of scientific facts and biology. If someone still feels they are treated different due to their personal afflictions or beliefs, I gracefully show them the exit and will even print out driving instructions to the next healthcare facility in the area that will treat them with the same dignity and respect that we showed them.
Miscarriage is so hard and a lot of people don't know that it's actually fairly common. The statistics vary but the overall average is still a lot more often than you think. I think this knowledge needs to be more widely known as well. Sex education in general needs to be a lot more open.
I've also heard it's actually the woman's body's way of protecting itself too. Pregnancy is a dangerous and laborious process. Sometimes things go wrong in the developmental stages. And to prevent the mother from getting hurt spontaneous abortion occurs. I'm not sure if it's true or not. But if it is it's a really interesting (and tragic) example of how your subconscious body and conscious body interact.
@@RoseEyed That's interesting. I know miscarriages also occur if the egg has some form of chromosome abnormality iirc. The body just knows it's not viable.
@@sarahsays194 exactly! Much more concise way of saying it. Periods are a similar thing. Most mammals don’t have them as frequently as we do, and even in communities where human women are pregnant more they seem to have them less often. Sometimes the body and mind aren’t friends
Miscarriages can also be genetic so if a woman's mother had multiple miscarriages, she might be more likely to have them as well :(
@@RoseEyed Yes, but not often at 15 weeks like with this woman. Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester, and half of those occur in the first month!! (Called a chemical pregnancy, often due to chromosomal defects.)
"i regret the partner, i don't regret the pregnancy", hello the guys, i hope someday somewhere you strive to not make a woman say that. Its the least you can do.
what happens to waiting when your get married before popping your cherry? its much safer and promising,
if you feel too horny why not masturbate rather than getting pregnant? worse part the guy wouldn't want anything to do with it meaning you were just a sex toy.
i feel bad for girls who usually think the guy likes them or (We are in love) but not knowing he is only doing that for the pussy.
Am a guy and most of the things i hear them say is heart breaking, even after the girl let them in once they see a new cherry they will look for argument to break up so they can go for thee new one. very sad😥.....
@@starboysuniverse9956 it’s not safer and more promising- many marriages are AWFUL and abusive.
Just putting a ring on someone doesn’t suddenly make them parent material
It’s appalling how many women would say that when there’s nothing wrong with the guy and she just got sick of him Women initiate the vast majority of divorces. Maybe women could stop doing that - it’s the least you can do.
@@poocrayon4588 Have you researched why? That entire 80% can't just be the woman getting tired. Don't mix the women who divorced for valid reasons with those that didn't.
@@Bringon-dw8dx That's why you need to be wise when choosing a wife/husband. Too many people get too caught up in how they 'feel' and ignore obvious red flags which, later lead to disaster.
Can we all just take a moment and truly appreciate the level of diversity Jubilee managed to create in this? The experiences that come with pregnancy and what those mean for people is such a complex topic but I really think this handled it in a beautifully honest and respectfully way. So thank you, Jubilee, for showing us how any and every experience is valid
Yes, I was thinking the same thing while watching. They put in so much effort to try and represent the most possible variety of experiences people have while pregnant and really also showing diversity in the types of people themselves too. Really well done.
This is what I call, forced diversity that doesn't reflect the average population. However if it was their intention to take outliers and people of all kinds, then its a success.
@@agathachris9722 The AVERAGE population doesn't reflect anyone because it's an average of everyone. Everyone's story deserves to be told and reflected not matter if it's an outlier or not. Most of these stories though are not even uncommon.
@@agathachris9722 also the avg. story is boring. We've heard it a million times. And it's good to hear other potential outcomes, that way, whenever you get pregnant and it happens to you, you don't have to feel alone.
@@RianneOK I never said everyone's story shouldn't be told, but deserve? That's a word meaning owed. No one is owed telling their story. The average, majority population reflects of MOST people. That is my point. One or two people do not change the definition or understanding of the majority. Just because you believe something doesn't make it fact. You believe that this is a romantic relationship, more power to you and your opinion. I don't, most people don't. It is what it is. Live your life.
5:26 I feel so bad for this woman, you can hear the pain in her voice! Nobody deserves to go through this 🥺✨
you thought she sounded in paIN?? NO WAY?? its not like she was CRYING while she said it or anything
@@whatthefreakkkk T.H.I.N.K.: was your comment thoughtful? was it helpful? was it inspiring? was it necessary? was it kind?
@@whatthefreakkkk really think you did something huh?? Try empathy✨
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It's so sad that in America some people can't afford ambulances. She must've gone through something so traumatic, yet in the UK we take it for granted that these are available for everyone
Glad I live in the UK then.
Yes!! I frequently worry about getting into an accident (since I dont have insurance) and not being able to pay for medical care! Most people need to be able to afford $400-$600 monthly payments just for some basic coverage. And that's PER PERSON. Unfortunately the government does not care for us. But don't forget, we're "the best country in the world"! 😒
Same in Canada. Free of charge and off you go to the closest hospital. America is ridiculous. A "superpower " that cant even provide free basic healthcare to a woman miscarrying. Smh
It's expensive (some insurance covers it) NY father inlaw had a stroke in 2014 and his ambulance ride alone was $1,500
Abortion is free
“ I just really wanted my mom” 🥺I’m crying
9.20 is how all Christians should react to their friends getting pregnant in or out of wedlock. We aren't meant to judge as christians we are meant to love one another!
Ahhh love this!!! I was extremely nervous telling them but I’m stoked they reacted how they did
@@rjseymour9842 I’m so glad they did too. God has got such incredible things in store for you thank you for being so brave and letting us hear your story. ❤️❤️
i hope the lady who miscarried is doing ok
The way that woman described how she was feeling after her miscarriage just brought me to tears that’s just terrible.
Politically if you are against abortion you should also support all the programs needed to raise a child when their parents can't afford to and need assistance. Some of you are not pro-life you are pro-birth. You do not get to not want taxes to cover raising life if you claim to be pro-life. You just want to control women birthing...and they did not get pregnant alone.
The anti-choice position is ridiculous because anti-choice means state controlled pregnancies against someone's will
@@mattwong5403 yes
@@mattwong5403 It's called pro-life. Because the clump of cells you want to terminate is a human being.
@@DrJones0801 I'm a libertarian and I'm against government forced pregnancies. State controlled pregnancies = government tyranny. Don't tread on me
@@frank8229 So you're fine with abortions up until the child is born? That's just sick.
As a dude, I feel so bad for the girl that had the miscarriage. Hope she's alright, no girl asks to have a miscarriage or has control over it. U shudnt guilt urself for it
Don't listen to that one woman btw y'all, you are not less of a woman or a person for having an abortion. Having an abortion is not covering up a mistake or not owning up to a mistake. Giving birth and having an abortion are both valid, adult, and responsible decisions. Don't ever feel ashamed for making either decision.
EDIT: y'all are not getting the point. It doesn't matter which is "more responsible". The point is abortion doesn't make you any less of a person.
Amen. Having an abortion is quite often the responsible thing to do, it is owning to your mistake to say ‘this isn’t a situation I want a baby born into’
yeah that was a very odd comment to make on her end
You are not owning up to a mistake by getting an abortion. That’s literally the whole point. You got pregnant when you shouldn’t have and decided to get rid of it. That’s like the entire nature of getting an abortion
@@jeremys8360 What a douche 😒 😬
@@jeremys8360 Sure. You're still not any less of an adult though. The point I was making with "you're not covering up/owning up to a mistake" is to emphasize that abortion does not = being irresponsible. Abortion does not = being a child, because you don't want to be pregnant. Yes, abortion means you may have not used protection but it doesn't mean you're not an adult. That's all I was saying.
One of the best episodes of the series so far. The woman with the miscarriage story literally had me in tears. The American healthcare system is so cruel and dehumanizing, it has to change. I hope she is doing better now.
That miscarriage story hit hard not gonna lie
My biggest fear is not have a stable, good, emotionally supportive, kind partner while pregnant. I’ll be forever alone and childless before i even think about settling.
well this why am waiting till i get marriage before i get any woman pregnant, having a baby shouldn't be a scare it more of a blessing to the union of the couple
As young man i advise my friends and other young men to focus on getting their lives together, life is not all about Sex in fact once you get married you will get tired of sex after having it a few times, it just like craving for burgers when you don't have it you crave to eat 10 but after a bite you get full.
so it better to create a strong foundation for you and your future family instead of going around planting seeds you wont claim and i also blame the women too who don't wana wait for their right partner
That’s why you should always wait until you feel ready, don’t feel rushed by society or anyone else.
If you think your too good for guys and can’t find someone without worrying about “settling” - your too picky and net to get over yourself.
@@starboysuniverse9956 I agree with you and me too. BUT not everyone sees it the same way and it’s not right to force that on people.
@@poocrayon4588 get over yourself please. NOONE regardless of gender should ever settle. Especially for a person who mistreats you or doesn’t make you happy, that is a perfectly reasonable standard. I know it’s hard for you to believe but women have standards
I hope everyone including guys, girls, those who opt for pregnancy and even those who don't, realise that pregnancy is hard, and being a mother is harder. Acknowledging this simplest fact will lead us to help them in most little yet required aspects. Kudos to all the mothers out there
Being a father is hard too so don’t turn it into a competition 🤦♂️
I have a son who doesn’t like football ffs👨👦 How do you think that makes me feel?
@@poocrayon4588 this is a joke right, this can’t be real
I’m on my first pregnancy & I never realized how hard it really is, your body is going through so many changes & the littlest pain worry me a lot sometimes but I know it’s normal! Somedays I’m so tired I can’t even get out of bed, pregnancy is such a hard thing for woman :(
@@elyse3710 hello just wanted to say that u r ABSOLUTELY AMAZING AND STRONG!!! u were able to give birth to a whole human and recover!! U r absolutely strong and powerful!! I hope u know that there r a lot of women out there to talk with abt pregnancy :)) wishing u all the best
@@poocrayon4588 you’re the one who turned it into a competition. What is wrong with you that you felt the need to spark something under a supportive comment???
Sending so much love to the woman who talked about her miscarriage ❤️ Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable on camera to help raise awareness about this.
My heart broke in half when she just said "yeah" to the operator just being with her. And then it broke in fourths when she said "I just really wanted my mom". Imagine all the young girls who go to those appointments, whether it be for a miscarriage or just a regular pregnancy check up, alone because no one is there to support them?
Thank you Jubilee for inviting such a diverse, strong and inspiring set of women.
Whenever it’s a men’s video they invite simps and nerds or guys who make whatever position jubilee doesn’t like look bad by association. Totally biased
@@poocrayon4588 OK I get whats wrong with simps but whats wrong with nerds
@@turtlesarefantastic9620 he is an incel . He first says that women divorce men alot then says to a girl u have really high standards . Now according to him women just should adjust with bad men and not even divorce
edit : he also said that women who can't tolerate pregnancy are weak
i love the representation in these videos!! single women, women who had abortions, women who miscarried, women of color, teen pregnancies, ALL THE PERSPECTIVES AAAHH
Soooo much representation! OMG!omgOMGEeeeee!🤩🤩🤩🤩🤯
@@poocrayon4588 yes incel
@@stupidcupcake8066 I literally love your comments ✨✨✨
I know the main point here was to educate us on their sides of pregnancy but they also educated me on so much. Gay black man here and I want to thank all of you strong women for being brave and coming forward speaking genuinely on their own experience.
I pooped, exposed myself and everything because the pain was unreal and erased all sense of reasoning.
Idk why women are scare to say the truth! Thank you ❤️
@Excuse Me Jungkook me too lol
I love how nearly all of them were on birth control and still got pregnant, but we ban abortion and just tell women to protect themselves with birth control.
Exactlyyy
It's a man's world.
Ugh when she said "I just really wanted my mum". I felt that.
@Lexi Martinez 5:42 :)
this reinforced my childfree mindset, pregnancy is hard and so is living in this world due to poor healthcare, etc.
*this country.
Most other countries in the developed world have good quality free healthcare
Its still expensive thats why people are choosing to be childfree more and more
Sure don’t do things because they’re hard, that’s great mindset to have have.
@@bookbad2356 a bad mindset is doing things you don’t want to do, that are hard, because of societal pressure- something a lot of mums fall into the trap of
Just have kids. Cavewomen did it but you can’t because “pregnancy is hard”
Super weak
The woman that spoke about her miscarriage is so brave. It literally broke my heart when she said she couldn't afford an ambulance.
“I do want to be a mom and I want to be a good mom when I’m ready “ THISSSSSS !!!
I was just abt to comment this! I love that she said that and if (or when) she has a kid I think she’ll be a great mom! 👏👏
So most of them used some kind of birth control and still got pregnant?? Man im scared 😭😭💀
Birth control isn’t 100%
That’s why using the most effective types plus a condom is recommended (most people that get pregnant on birth control do so when using the pill).
Gotta love abstinence
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 I mean that’s pretty crappy too :’)
Did that lady say she can't AFFORD an ambulance?? Do they cost money or something?? Like if you need to get to the hospital why do you need to pay to get somewhere that will HELP YOU LIVE??
Welcome to America ,where an ambulance ride to the emergency room can lead to tens of thousands of dollars in bills.
@@officialgreendalehumanbeing TENS OF THOUSANDS???
@@seththeshrimp1955 not ot all. Around 2000 dollars. But insurance will cover most of it.
@Jaheen Reza and where trying to make it better for everyone is cOmMuNiSm.
@@epicaunleashed8764 a lot of people cannot afford insurance
The woman who miscarried made me tear up. I hope she's doing better now because the miscarriage seems to have really affected her. Her heart goes out to her ❤️
I loveee the woman who talked about her struggle with an eating disorder. I have had an eating disorder since I was 16 and as time continues I am just even more scared of the idea of getting pregnant because I would not stand myself and would probably starve myself even more and spiral out of control. Not only that, but I definitely don't want a kid to have my genes; I have so many mental health conditions and predispositions that I would just hate myself for having a child knowing they can end up feeling as miserable, depressed, anxious, and worthless as I do everyday.
Hugs. That's such a beautiful bittersweet discernment.
Stay strong and take it easy please, I hope you feel better soon.
Hii, to the woman that miscarried, sending you the purest of my thoughts and love to you. I know you'll be a great mother when you'll be.
the person who said she had to deal with it "like a woman" by having the child because she was 26, is inferring that abortion is not adult-like or responsible, when it is 100% a responsible decision if you don't have the adequate circumstances to bring a child into this world, no matter what age you are
So true
Baby's are a consequence of sex. Abortion is a way to get out of that consequence. To say otherwise is to lie to yourself.
@@patient0333 no PREGNANCY is a consequence of sex- babies CAN be a consequence of pregnancy but other outcomes include ectopic pregnancies, miscarriages (spontaneous abortions) or induced abortion.
Dealing with the consequence of sex (aka pregnancy) can include either keeping the baby (and then that can be split into raising it yourself or the adoptive route) or having an abortion. All valid options.
Having an abortion IS dealing with the consequence of your actions, by the literal definition of the word.
@@Bringon-dw8dx Miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy result in the same outcome which is death of the baby. So that's not even an abortion.
@@patient0333 I didn’t call it an abortion, I named them all as separate things. They are all possible outcomes of a pregnancy, which is what we were discussing.
Also the proper name for a miscarriage is literally a spontaneous abortion as an FYI
for anyone who needs it, getting an abortion doesn't mean you're any less of a woman like one of the ladies said. If you feel like getting an abortion is the best decision for the current situation you're in or the time of your life at that moment then that's ok. Considering getting an abortion or getting one doesn't make you a bad woman, it just means you're doing what's best for you. Sending love :)
Yess! It was so fucked up that she said “cmon be a woman u GOT PREGNANT u have the baby” because what’s worse? Removing an embryo or fetus (NOT EVEN A BABY) because you’re not gonna be able to take care of it or not having an abortion and letting the kid grow up in a household were the parents can’t provide everything for their kid, if you’re not ready or don’t want a kid, do what’s best for you
Are we gonna ignore the black woman who said you should “woman up” and admit what you did? Pregnancy isn’t a punishment for sex…
I agree with you. I really did not agree with her comment.
i think she meant more like she wasn't a kid or a young adult anymore. she was 26 at the time and probably felt like ok you were having unprotected sex, what did you expect to happen? in a way her partner and her wanted to get pregnant and probably viewed abortion as not something they should rely on to fix their situation but rather be mature and see the pregnancy through.
I think she's saying she has to take responsibility for having unprotected sex because it does sound like she was ready to take on that responsibility, whereas maybe her partner wasn't. it takes two to tango and both parties know what they're doing and what the consequences are
It’s really so terrible that the girl who got a miscarriage couldn’t even call an ambulance because she couldn’t afford it. The fact that she can’t even save her child in an emergency because of money is apalling and the healthcare in this country really needs to change
so we all were on the verge of tears with the girl who miscarried?
yep literally bawling
I have so much respect for women who choose to be pregnant & give birth cuz everything I hear about it makes me want NO PARTS. I also feel for the women who miscarry, please know you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. So sorry that happened :(
6:35 What? No. Just bc your the pregnant one doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feeling and should ignore his feelings... that’s just gonna cause toxic masculinity build up in your relationship. The fact that you thought it was ok to force him to ignore his feeling about a “baby” that he obviously wanted is selfish and weird
I agree
Took way to long to find this
I didn’t think my comments would be inferred in this way, but I’m glad folks are bringing it up! Just want to say that I agree his feelings shouldn’t be ignored - and they weren’t. We were both a week before graduation, not committed to each other, and I had this tremendous weight on my shoulders because I was making an important decision for the both of us. I was there for him in that moment and it was hard for me. He was the only other person in the world that knew what we were going through specifically, but I felt like I had to be strong too, because this was ultimately my decision to make, and it was very clear to me what I needed to do. I have so much love and respect for him, and I know we’ve been able to do great things with our lives since then
@@shitselenedoes understandable.. thanks for the clear up
Yeah I feel like you're willfully misunderstanding what she said.
As a male it is hard to really understand all that, all what I can do is try to understand more and be more supportive. I am sure it is not an easy thing .
Facts
I still don't know what men can do to make pregnancy a better experience for women. Is there even a way?
@@leulgetachew696 Well my dad made extra sure that my mom was comfortable during her periods and pregnancy. I guess that is one thing we men could do to make it a less straining experience for women.
@@leulgetachew696 I think the main thing is trying to be more patience with your partner. The hormones are no joke, sometime we wanna cry for no reason or are more irritable or just feel really bad... At least when I was pregnant I would have wanted more of that
@@rithvikmuthyalapati9754 Good comment, I've had different partners, even having a period feels totally different when you are held by the person you want the most... ✨
My heart goes out to the women who miscarried I wanna cry
6:48 this makes me so upset. That must’ve been so traumatizing, having people say that to you, when you were just a 17 year old girl who couldn’t have a baby at the moment. It’s a women’s choice, not old creeps.
Facts
The doctors refuse to let me get my tubes tied. They think I’ll change my mind. (Like, no. The whole reason I don’t want kids is because I’m not trying to pass on genetic chronic illnesses) but the government also tries to put limits on abortion rights? They cannot have it both ways.
Fr
government: doesn't want to give livable pensions to people with disabilities
also government: limits reproductive rights
is it the government who forces the doctors to not let you do that? They don't have it both ways cause they aren't the same people. Everyone deals with people who pressure or force them to do opposite things.
Estrogen and progesterone are the chief pregnancy hormones. A woman will produce more estrogen during one pregnancy than throughout her entire life when not pregnant. The increase in estrogen during pregnancy enables the uterus and placenta to: improve vascularization (the formation of blood vessels)👍
thank you for sharing this with us. ❤️
Fascinating! I love little medical tidbits like this. Thank you for sharing!
Taking me back to high school biology class are we now?
6:26 that's so weird. Just because you're 26 doesn't mean you should have the baby. So many things iffy about that mindset
can you further explain this to me please? would love to hear your pov
@@kimberlywatson5611
Age is just a number.
You could be 26, be a doctor, own your own home, have a solid supportive partner etc
You could be 26 and be single, be living with your parents to save for a house deposit etc
You could be 26 and be a homeless drug addict
You could be 26 and be starting off in your career, and simply don’t want a child.
Age is just a number and has nothing to do with your ability to raise your child- it’s literally everything else that does
i think she meant it more in a "i'm this grown and had unprotected sex, this is just a "consequence"" though of course that kind of thinking isn't and shouldn't be true for everyone and other options should still be there for you, it was just her personal acceptance and choice of how to react.
@@captainoreo rightt
True, but she said that she kinda wanted it so.
I don’t think “be a woman and don’t have the abortion” is a good mindset
Exactlyyy .
God bless the lady who was brave to talk about her miscarriage. If you were not touched, you don’t have a sensitive heart
"I can't afford an ambulance driver"... what a weird fucked up reality
I can't express how much I enjoy these videos and how much information I get from these... I love Jubilee 💕
The woman who said she couldn't afford an ambulance, that makes me so sad and mad at the US. I'm from New Zealand and its free to use an ambulance. It just blows my mind that Americans need to pay for help when they most need it.
I can't believe America still doesn't have free health care. While she was in physical and emotional pain she had to think about money... I can't imagine, must be awful.
You want higher taxes?
@@joshuagraham9770 What's wrong with universal healthcare? Endless wars and a 2,000 mile border wall are far more expensive, but you don't seem to have an issue with those
@@mattwong5403 it would increase the cost of a lot of things, the money could be used elsewhere like welfare where it's a lot more useful so people actually get money who need it instead of people who don't need it, giving people money for no reason is a bad idea as it increases their expectations & most people are horrible with money and they would probably waste it on a want like what some people did with the stimulus check. Also those things you mentioned are actually useful
@@mattwong5403 Also a border wall is surely cheaper than giving hundreds of millions a few thousand monthly
6:40 Ok but why isn't the father allowed to cry?? It's his baby too!!!
Not his body so he can stfu
@@moonamod3166 Ok well if it doesn't concern him at all he's not responsible to pay child support either I guess? 🤷🏼♀️
@@grumpycrumbles7360 no because that’s still HIS child who has actually been birthed and now needs support. However the woman’s body is never his
@@moonamod3166 lmao he wasn't crying about the woman's body but about his CHILD 😂😂
You literally said "he can stfu" 😂
To the lady who said "I had an abortion because I want to be a good mom when I'm ready" I respect her so much
And the lady who miscarried, is amazing ❤️
Getting an abortion just means that your the mother of a dead baby😒 she could of given that baby up for adoption.
Adoption is looking like the way for me now
The woman that had the miscarriage got my heart ❤️ she made me cry 🥺😢 because the fact that she didn’t want an ambulance because she couldn’t afford it. I feel like the American System needs to make ambulance more accessible to everyone even if they can’t afford it. It’s about helping people not the money!!!
bruh clicked the video to change my mind about pregnancy but now I just proved my point of not wanting to get pregnant ever.
Yess
Same
the girl who cried cause she couldnt afford amb really made me sad but she seems vrey strong woman hope she always stay happy and healthy and all the other moms too
I had my first baby nearly 3 months ago. She’s a blessing. The woman who had the miscarriage made me cry. You are so beautiful and so strong ❤️
The woman who shared her story about her miscarriage made me cry because it brought me back to my own experience. Being alone with that pain is so so hard, I personally passed out.
As a Brit the saddest and most shocking part for me was hearing that she couldn’t afford for someone to come in an ambulance, it’s just not something I’d even consider and it’s horrible that this is the reality for women in the US
“Be a woman and have the baby”… not cool! I hope she worded it like wrong in the moment cos having an abortion doesn’t make you any less of a woman.
Womanhood is not one experience. She’s speaking her truth...
my labor was 48 hours...
me: QUEEN 👑
Schools need to stop splitting girls and boys for sex ed and teach them EVERYTHING about each other. Sick of hearing guys treat pregnancy like it’s nothing
its messed up that people were saying she should go to hell for the abortion. I get not everyone shares the same views but damn! Couldnt imagine anything worse with such a heavy decision
It’s literally the worst way to try to stop someone from getting an abortion too. If you tell someone they’re evil and going to hell, they’ll just be afraid of you and want to escape. But if you actually care about them and their baby then maybe you can genuinely help them. Those ppl are such posers
@@elizabethgrey6040 Agreed. I'm pro life but I would never get aggressive or straight up scream at someone. As you said, that is literally the worst way to go about it.
@@elizabethgrey6040 Yes, exactly. Offering a different opinion alongside help outside of an abortion clinic is a positive thing, but shouting at them will not make them feel welcomed. Had the right people been outside, her baby may still be alive.
@@irisblack3135 no. stfu
4:55 "I can't afford an ambulance drive" America you are fucked, and should be ashamed of yourselves.
After hearing this, I've came to the conclusion that if I will be able to have a wife one day (which is very unlikely) I don't think I would want her to go become pregnant. I mean, all of these sounds just horrible, I would curse myself if I would make my loved one go through all of this sh*t
I genuinely hope my future husband has this mindset because my biggest fear is pregnancy. I even had a nightmare about it where I found out it was too late to abort and I literally threw myself down stairs :/
@@EefkeL Holy sh*t that nightmare sounds just horrible! Just so you know, you don't have to have become pregnant if you don't want to - it has to be a decision between you and your partner, but you have the final word to say. Don't let anyone force it upon you. I think that there are lots of men who don't want to have babies, but I don't have any data on that. Remember, that there are other options to make family bigger, such as adoption, so just do what you feel you should do
@@kacperwarda5436 thank you so much! English isn’t my 1st language either so no worries! I did have a panic attack after the dream but I did calm down by repeating that nobody could ever force pregnancy upon me. Thank you for understanding :)
@@kacperwarda5436 and I indeed plan on adopting someday
Pregnancy is the easy part... being a good parent is the real challenge
Im 33. I have ZERO desire to ever have children. I love doggos tho!
same. same. But I want cats too
Madonna. Chewden strike again
The woman who miscarried and said she wanted her mom, that tore my heart out
What the hell is wrong with American health care??? He was having a miscarriage, but was unable to call an ambulance bc she couldn't AFFORD it???? I know that Americans don't like the government to interfere in their health care and stuff like that but at what price? It's time for some changes
Gosh that miscarriage story is just so heartbreaking it sounds so traumatic just being by yourself in pain
Aborting the baby was free but the one girl couldn’t afford an ambulance ???! Are you kidding me?
We need to get Momma Doctor Jones (obgyn youtuber) to react to this video.
WARNING: get tissues ready for 4:10
“We’re you and your partner sexually active when you were pregnant” “no, because I was single” BRUH
Am I the only one panicking because some of these girls got pregnant WHILE ON BIRTH CONTROL
Statistically there’s a small possibility of getting pregnant while on birth control. Pretty sure it depends on when you take it though and yeah it’s really scary that things like that can happen.
not every american woman can afford to call an ambulance to come over when she’s having a miscarriage. let that sink in.
The woman that shared about her miscarriage is so brave to share this publicly - I felt your pain as you spoke and pray for you! and yes the US system for healthcare sucks :(
I just lost my second baby due to miscarriage. My heart goes out for every woman that lost their baby and are sad about it. I know I will never ever forget that I had my baby’s in me for a while and even if they both made me really sick and tired, I loved them both. But time does go on and you do heal. The light in living will come back, you will be yourself again and it’s definitely is okay to grief.
I cannot say that everyone will experience pregnancy again, it hurts to know that there are so many other woman out there with no chances of getting pregnant. I find myself in the situation where everyone tells me that they don‘t know if I can carry a baby ever again, especially full term.
You are not alone. We will go through it and we will find joy in life again. I promise
I'm sorry, but I dont know how someone would be fine killing a growing baby in their body...
stop judging people. just because you wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean other people have to live according to you “standards.” It’s ridiculous that you think just because someone got pregnant they have to keep the baby. Like what are they supposed to do when they literally don’t want kids?
People that recognise they aren’t ready to be parents.
Children who are born to bad parents suffer for decades, so do those that get put in the system.
Abortion prevents child suffering
I have never heard anything as infuriatingly sad, as the please dont send someone cause I cannot afford an ambulance ride like now. What the actual heck is wrong with people thinking healthcare is a privilege and not a human right?! 🤬 Dear you and your poor little babe deserved better care.
"I think it was just more sad than anything" man I cried with her...that was a painful story. Thank you for sharing.
The fact that ambulances cost money and it costs money to have a baby is ridiculous. When I hear people say things like “I told them not to send anyone because I couldn’t afford an ambulance” makes me so thankful that I live in the uk
Thank you for including someone who miscarried
-someone who’s been through it
The girl at minute 5, her experience made me cry. I just want to hug her , because I don’t even know what words I could say.
The woman who had the miscarried.. she’s so strong and her story made me cry , I hope she’s ok ❤️
“I can’t afford the ambulance” 😳 😭 this is sooo sad and so wrong !!!