The sad part is that the girls can throw rape accusations but guys WILL go to jail for innocence just because a girl is butt hurt about a break up and everyone will be on the girl side
Literally the same thing happened to me, currently I'm on the Pill and have had zero problems but when I had the Nexplanon implant I bled for 7 months straight before I had it taken out
I had mine for 3 months and was in and out of the hospital because they couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. My iron DROPPED dramatically. Finally saw an OBGYN and was diagnosed with PCOS. Never in my life do I want to go through that again.
@@AwesomeAlleks i heard someone who had her period for like 6 months and it was because of a tumor(not cancerous) in her uterus and her body was trying to get rid of it by basically flushing it out
For someone who is too sensitive with topics about sex, I really appreciate how they gave straightforward and honest answers for the sake of sex education. Thanks!
Schools teach us the biology and more like the sciency part of sex but we're never really taught about a lot of stuff like consent, morals and the more emotional side of sex. Thank you, for making this
You dislike my v*deos? Are you just a h8er boi? I say see you l8er boi. Don't watch my stuff anymore. Your dislikes are damaging my good reputation. I am a superstar, dear julia
@@myoung4720 LITERALLYYYYY mine is like 3-4 days but I have really intense cramps and Im always in a bad mood feeling miserable so its like literally the worst even for that short time
Can we appreciate : 1. The women in this video, who are really open and sympathetic 2. The creative team : the music and the colors are just so prettyyy, wow, it's a beautiful video, regarding aesthetics but also the subject ! Thanks Jubilee !
Seriously!! I have been with my partner for forever but it took me 1-2 years with him to finally learn ways to overcome my mental block. It’s hard because I know I love the man I’m sleeping with but the mind can make us feel so insecure!
As a man, this was very insightful. Women don't talk like this with people who they start dating. Then you're in a relationship caught off guard when there are problems. Partner doesn't know about past self misconceptions about sex and self-pleasure as well as trauma from being assaulted/raped. I think this is why relationships don't work many times. People have so much mental trauma and don't realize that hurts the relationships they form.
I agree that say "I wish I was taught more about sex not being such a shameful thing for women." I wish everyone is not ashamed of sex and has confidence in it.
If you have had multiple lustful relationships, or hookups, without the desire for it to be long term, then it absolutely is shameful. Goes for both sexes. I am glad my culture emphasises that.
@@udohhI disagree. I dont think it is shamefull to want Sex at some Point, without seeking a Long Term relationship. Its fine If you want something different, but shaming Others is wrong of you
that assault question made me so sad, like i dont have a female friend who has not been assaulted its so messed up. a guy pressuring you into saying yes is not consent!!! no matter how close yall are ,and do not feel bad because it is not your fault. if you reading this and struggling to deal with something that happened to you im so sorry
@@Lordkeepmesafe It means that when she says no, it's no. No begging, no bargaining, no anger, no nothing. And definitely don't 80s sex pest songs like "come on Eileen" by Dexys Midnight Runners. XD
Pornography sets a bad idea of sex in young people mind, making them think of sex as a competition rather than a moment of sharing, and the problem is that sex education in school is just plainly bad if not completely unexistent, so most of the people(especially non straight) learn about sex through porn, which is bad
a lot of people experience sexual education through porn, and it isn't correct because all they show in porn is the actual actions and orgasm. they don't show the prep, the cleaning that takes place, or the consent for different situations. and it also shows a gross brutalization of women specifically, and the fetishization of different sexual identities as if they aren't actual people and just there for entertainment. thank you for bringing this up! specifically, a lot of LGBT+ youth find their exploration is through porn and they aren't taught any differently.
@@marsrigger2641 True but at the same time those videos are rehearsed and scripted and they pick certain people to do those certain things for a certain reason
It's true in some sence but then again it's just a movie.. You don't go around killing people just because you saw a hitman movie.. I think we need to give more credit to people to teens because in the end most of them can distinguish right from wrong.
I think the bigger issue is men NOT being ashamed that they can't last more than 2 min. At least we can actually last longer than it takes for a hot pocket to heat up in the microwave. i'm only talking about weak, loser men btw. not real men.
@Ashanty Ortega Especially in the older generations they didnt knew what assexuality was and many women believed it was their duty to have have sex with their husband even though they didnt wanted it. Remember rape within a marriage was legal till the 90s or is still legal in some countries. I met many old (80+) women in the Nursing home that didnt knew that they were asexual. Some said they were lesbians but still married for 50- 60 years cause it was expected from them
@@yasminnegash3968 they used to have great and aspiring content, but now they literally became cringe , 3/4 of their original employees left , just look up a cringe compilation of buzzfeed and you would understand
@@katetyra5759 Of course! I think it’ll give a perspective all guys will need later in life so when they feel the time is right they can be better for their significant other.
I really like the side profile shots that you guys put throughout this conversation. The softer lighting gave light to some of these women's very real facial features.. It just felt more intimate in a way...It gave me this sense of listening to a real person instead of just a talking head on my screen. It expanded this sense of sonder because I was now watching someone recount something about themselves in this vulnerable moment... Bravo to whom-ever planned/got/included that shot for this video.
@Mr Sir Bruh...whether it was an intentional creative decision or a decision made just to provide variety to the visual experience... I experienced it in a profound way and decided to share that. What do you gain by being dismissive of my human experience because you didn't feel that way so much you can't even imagine that it might have been an intentional creative decision. That when someone literally makes it their profession to capture people in a portrait photography-esque setting that they may choose lighting and angles that help portray the essence of what a real human being looks like.. But yeah sure... they probably just push the capture button and hope it goes well, definitely not that deep, lmao...
@Mr Sir lmao, video framing and setting up the camera to make the viewer feel a certain way is deep. imagine if they just had a boring white background and harsh lighting, that wouldn’t work so well, hm?
Rape is something I just can’t take. Like I’ve heard women I’ve talked with talk about their experiences with it and it’s just honestly seems worse than murder for some reason in my head. To think that happens in the world makes me want to do anything I possibly can to prevent it in the future. I think I’d sell my soul to stop it Edit: I was really venting and didn’t think this comment would blow up. Of course I know that murder is horrible and I really understand it’s something that is unbelievably prevalent that needs changed also. It also happens to be something that I feel equally in regard to anyone. I didn’t mean that rape is worse but to act like rape and prevention pales in importance nowadays is wrong and some people just don’t know. The world just plain needs changed for the better. Also know I can’t cover my entire thought process and what I said in passion of the moment completely but I definitely welcome the discussion. It’s something that like murder, I think could be changed and prevented if there was more of a realistic proactive effort to promote that change. And not just for this context. Let’s just agree that rape and murder are incredibly horrible. In my opinion, it doesn’t fully need to be compared because they’re both things that affect people in unchangeable horrible ways
It is. Before I started watching svu I didn't know there was something worse than murder. The show scarred me and kinda made me paranoid. I wish I knew the future so I can rid myself of this paranoia
This comment made me cry a little cause lately all I've seen is guys who make fun of rape and joke about it, it's just really nice to actually see a guy who cares
This comment is so incredibly sweet and I’m really glad you have such a strong belief about it. I remember seeing this one talk where this guy said that rape is the one violent crime you can never ever justify. Like you can justify murder in self defense or if they’re going to harm someone else, but rape in any context is a crime and is never justifiable.
Assault is another thing that can be easily missed and disregarded as one’s fault. Not only for women, but for men too. In fact, a better name for sex is intimacy. You should never feel like it’s your “duty” to please him/her, both should always have their voice heard. It can be an amazing tool to bond with your significant other. It’s a precious thing that shouldn’t be thrown around, especially without your consent.
What I plan on telling my children, is always assume the answer is no before their partner say yes. Meaning that their partner shouldn’t have to say no. If their partner wants to be intimate, they clearly should say yes. And this goes for both men and women. That way there should be no accidents.
As a straight virgin woman, I really need this. Thank you Jubilee, people don't really talk about sex experience around me, even the people who I close too
@@RedMisfit I mean I can appreciate a beautiful or talented or smart women when I see one but never more than that. I live in a place where I don't have any influence to be a part of lgbtq and I don't even have any desire towards women no matter how bad men are so yeah 😂
@@chickofmusic001 not all men are like that but just because a guy (guy thot)is sleeping around doesn’t make him morally good, sleeping with multiple people is not good in general for both men or women
A lot of guys are ignorant about female sexuality....but who can blame them. They aren't women, and to expect them to think like women is just as asinine as men expecting women to think like men. Once you figure that out, and how much of the brain is actually involved in sex, it becomes easier to figure out what women want.
@@supermodelwannabe no, it's mostly because women choose guys who are bad for them because they feel attracted to a "bad guy". If you choose a nice normal guy he would never shame you for that.
sad truth but pornos sets high standards in women, it tells us that body should be like this and vaginas should look like this and if you don't possess this characteristics you'll feel that you're not normal which is wrong.
Don’t forget about men aswell. Men have strict standards too when it comes to height and penis size. I think it’s worst for men because there’s literally no fix to any of those
@@mitoito7291 yes I had that issue but I was bleeding for two years. My doctors couldn’t find out why, and it was super heavy so I ended up being severely anemic
@@jalo7289 which is part of the problem. People are not taught about consent, its an awkward and complicated thing. I think it needs to be explained more. People sometimes learn that they were coercive, but wouldn't have been if they'd understood. We also need to be taught how to set boundaries. And to pay attention to what you like and don't like so you can tell your partner.
But why say yes and then you’re nearly finished and decide to say no. I get saying yes before and then no before the act even starts but saying no in the middle of it makes no logical sense. Like regretting having sex the next morning doesn’t make it assault. If you know that you don’t want to have sex say NO before you even start. It’s like a rollercoaster once you get on you can’t just get back off half way through a loop. And no I’m not a man before you guys accuse me of being one.
It’s honestly sad that in our society this topic is so vital yet it is overlooked and very much so, there’s stigma surrounding it. Given that the person who was a victim of rape is often blamed. Man or woman, boy or girl. No one deserves to go through that and then be unable to get help because of how they’ll be viewed and what people will say. We need to do better. Sex crimes shouldn’t be quieted. Every victim deserves to be heard, not blamed and every culprit deserves to be punished and educated. We need to do better. This is an important topic. When that lady with black hair talked about coercion and having been a victim and not even knowing it back then. I felt for her. They don’t teach us these things. It’s sad to think that many may have normalized it.
@@Bellyndaakaeme Nowadays, the majority of people acknowledge rape and feel we should do something about silenced victims, however the perpetrators of the rape themselves are the ones shaming and blaming. People just need to do a better job raising their children. I'm male, but somewhat a feminist and in all honesty can see myself thinking differently and possibly even being a sexual offender had I not it jammed into my head the dangers of thoughts like those. Sex offenders are results of things, and society.
I wanna say thank you Jubilee for giving us all such a wonderful opportunity to think and talk about this sensitive subject, which is hard to mention even among closest friends. Kudos to all those women also!
As a straight man, it's so important to listen to women about these subjects! And congrats to the team who filmed it, everything from the lighting to the soundtrack, just perfect
@@perple9534 and that's why they need to learn. You can't except someone to act mature about a subject when they don't even have enough knowledge about it.
My sister also had her period for a year. But it’s because she was on birth control. Maybe it wasn’t the right birth control but she also had it for a year.
I had mine for several months straight and very heavily after starting birth control. It was really scary bleeding through a super plus tampon in an hour and not knowing why it was going kn for so long. It suuuuucked. Prior to that I had always had veryyyy light and irregular periods where I would go a month or two without having one. It's super important to find the right one and to take it correctly. I was bleeding nonstop until I talked to a doctor and switched brands on the mini pill.
@@mattisencox8176 true, I never knew u had to find the most suitable one for u because we Arabs don’t really use such things 🤷🏼♀️ but I’m glad I got educated about this
This is actually amazing. So much awareness was raised!! Conversations like this are important and should become way more normalized, so glad to see that they are more and more ❤️
The study that reported this was pretty flawed though. The term assault was applied very lously (a nasty comment was grouped in the same category as physical assault) and the group was very "biased": not enough participants to equate this to the whole us and not everyone replied which means that there is a possibility that only the women with this experience replied. Ps: not to say that it doesn't happen or their experiences aren't valid, just that you don't have to be scared since the number 1/3 is not valid
@@TheOtherAnne that's fair. It's hard to find statistics that are actually unbiased at all. I do think they were attempting to be since a similar number of completed r*pe was apparent in men but yeah, it's not going to be 100% accurate by any means. However, since finding real statistics on something like this is hard to come by, another great source is just the people you're surrounded by. And at least for me, most women in my life have been at some point and I've heard the same from other women. Men I'm not at sure about because I don't have many in my life I could ask but they might be the same, too. And as long as we cannot feel safe, there's always a reason to fear. Fear is always justified for any situation, regardless of how outrageous it may seem
@@ali8922 I was shocked as well when I heard the number, thats why I looked into it. But I may be biased as well in finding the number too high: I live in a small country which seems a lot safer, the reported stats say that most assault cases happen with close friends or family friends. I talked about it with the people around me and it is generally not a fear of theirs, we all feel safe in our social bubbles.
@@TheOtherAnne that makes sense! Yeah, im not sure what country you're from but in places like europe where there is a lot of real sex ed, it seems to be way less of an issue. In america, its just another thing to add onto the list of things we have wrong with our country LMAO. thanks for talking with me btw! I loved hearing your input! :)
@@ashiesty7140 lack of consent as in there’s no consent. The occurrence lacks consent therefore it is rape/assault. You can also “give consent” and it still be rape or assault. If they convincing or threatening or manipulating you to say yes then even though you might have technically said okay it’s still rape/assault. If you give consent and take it back or if you give consent for one thing but they do something else that your not okay with and they don’t stop, then that is again rape/assault. Consent has to be freely and honestly given in order for it to be valid.
I'm so sorry to anyone that has suffered sexual abuse, please know that your pain is valid and can be work on, don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
@Gavin Reed only certain opinions? I’m curious to know what option they are leaving out? There are so many opinions in the world. They can’t have everyone on here.
@@apocalypse_____ The pain level varies from one person to another, it's normal that we worry when we're not certain how bad it could've gotten, most of us have had some pretty awful experiences.. Personally before I started taking the pill I had to miss days of school everytime, there was fainting, vomiting, cramps so bad I couldn't move, it was horrible, so of course hearing about someone who's had them for a year would horrify me, and I assume it's the same for the person who commented this. Don't be mean
@@apocalypse_____ don't be a dumbass. Everyone has different levels of period pains but I'm sure even you can atleast imagine how horrible it would be if you bleeded every single day for an entire year
@@tanktopthief6094 I think the point is to make a space for trans people to discuss their experiences. They no doubt have unique experiences, that’s all.
Omg you’re gonna look amazing!! Don’t stress, everyone who shaves their head looks so ethereal and bougie, and if you choose to grow your hair back it’ll be so healthy💜💜
My neighbour (around 70 years old) is a bee keeper and one time I (17 at the time) was there with my father. A bee started to fly around me and I started to freak out. The neighbour said "In your life you're gonna be poked by something else than a bee." And everyone around started laughing including my dad. I told my sister about that and she said that I'm too sensitive. I still don't know why we live in a society that is normalizing verbal sexual assault. That is not okay. If women can control themselves around a person they find attractive why can't men do the same?
Omg I’m so sorry that they said that. That’s not okay! If someone’s freaking out about something it’s not okay to joke about it and especially not something like THAT. I also don’t understand how people can joke about stuff like that so openly. Sure some people joke about their trauma. That’s fine cuz that’s what they’ve gone through and that might be their coping mechanism. But just joking about it?? Nah.
I’m in my mid 30s and through work interact with a lot of divorced women in their 50s 60s 70s. When they tell me I should be a model they are most definitely making a pass and rather than make an issue out of it we just have a laugh about it. At 17 you are making yourself out to be far more vulnerable in that situation than you actually are at face value.
Rape is such a sensitive topic for everyone. I feel like that word triggers a lot of negative memories in people of being touched and used. (Including me) It's a huge problem in the world and overlooking it or making fun of it is in no way alright. Everyone is talking about how they went silent and I could totally relate to them.
i see these rape "fantasies" online everywhere and they say they don't condone that type of abuse in real life but it still seems wrong because their content is triggering. i reported their content/them and they guilt tripped me, rape isn't something to "fantasize" about and putting that stuff out online without trigger warnings is just, sick. it's a sensitive subject and the fact that people look at women as objects and in that way is just emotionally saddening. sorry i had to let that out, whoever read this have a great day!!
@@Neha-zc4yq oh I so understand you. There are people who write comics where the guy forces himself on the girl and people just normalise it anyway. It's disgusting and I hate it
Hearing this as a straight male made me think that we, being women and men, are not that different when it comes to questioning our sexuality. I grew up with the knowledge that sex is something dirty. Talking about sex even with my trusted girlfriend is close to impossible. So i always focus on her needs. Is wish there would be some kind of sex ed that would prepare us mentally for sex. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ladies❣️
I’m a teenager and I’m watching this- my school does NOT teach us about anything. So I rely on UA-cam videos and my own research, I’m glad hormones or being h0rny is ok and normal. Also when the question about rape or assault came up and their faces fell it made my heart break 💔 and I also agree on that none of this is shameful, it’s a normal part of life and school should really talk more about it.
i feel you! mine sex ed was basically "dont have sex" both from my school and my family... had to figure it all out when there wasnt even a youtube :') you're right it's definitely normal to talk about it to make sure everyone is safe and healthy! its a part of life! haha
As a lesbian woman I very much appreciate this whole video. No matter your sexuality people are experiencing a lot of things/these questions within this video. Love this! ❤️
When the girl talked about the feeling like you couldn’t be with other partners after your first time I felt that omg, after my first time I felt like I had lost a part of me because we are thought to reserve it to the one, when in my reality I dont believe in the one I dont wanna get married a virgin, so I did but I still felt like I did something wrong and men wouldn’t accept me because I was not a virgin anymore :c
As a recently divorced man whose only sexual partner was his wife, I can relate. It hurts to move on, like I'm being unfaithful even though I know our relationship is over.
Coercion is such a big thing though in many relationship... where a partner guilt's you to do what you don't feel like doing. The saddest part is that they don't realize that it is .. they feel like they finally made you excited... but the reality is that you feel like if you say no again it will push the other person away from you... it is hard to explain
I know exactly what you mean. This thing is real!!! But let me tell you what happened to me. My husband and I are together for almost 30 years. We were not our firsts. And as a sexual drive is different for men and women, for me it use to be the way you feel now. I didn't need it as often as him, or I was really tired, or had my period, or whatever. He never really pushed me too much, because he loves and respects me, nor cheated on me, he was just getting sadder and sadder. At one point we had this conversation when he told me I make him feel unwanted, regected and wondering if I really want him or is there something wrong with him. He was honest, not just manipulating me. And because I really love him I decided to change and to accommodate to him more - as every woman in love would. At the beginning I felt like I'm doing it for his sake but in the process I started to enjoy it more and more myself. Fast forward to now I'm really happy I chose to compromise and really thankful for all the pleasure and orgasms I would have missed, cause it all improved both our bond and my wellbeing.
@@Anabórshën yes! i stopped him too and had to try again another time and it was fine so i guess the damage had been done😂i still feel a slight tinge of pain when i think about it tho yikes
When one of the girls was talking about assault and how she was pressured into her first time makes me think that was happening with someone I was recently talking to
Yeah I've never gotten that, why don't you say no, or just don't do it? Like I've heard that their scared they may get forced but if the option is between getting violated and having him go to jail and feeling violated but him not going to jail, why choose the latter? You get the trauma and he thinks you were fine with it.
I can’t even put a tampon on in, imma just stick to pads lmfaoooo Edit: Jesus lord I’m famous by me not knowing how to put a tampon in lmao 🤣 great way for people to know me 😂😂😂 Ps. Im just joking ik im not famous don’t take it seriously hahaha 😆 💅🏽
I am a bisexual virgin woman, and this video was honestly made me rlly sad but also comforting, Im very scared abt having my first time with someone who might leave me, seriously,,, I really want to be with someone who loves me and will stay with me,,,
Hello! I am also a bi woman. Not a virgin anymore but the person I "lost"(don't like saying lose cuz you don't lose anything if anything you GAIN experience) it to was my first relationship. They ended up leaving me but oh my that was honestly the best that could happen. Don't misunderstand that relationship was the most amazing experience of my life at that point. I think you shouldn't fear losing things in life because even if you'd lose someone you love you gain so much more! Even if you don't end up with your first person they teach you so much about what you want in a partner and yourself! However if it's still a big fear of yours to end up in a relationship that doesn't last then my biggest tip is be friends with them first and reaaally get to know them well and BE YOURSELF. Nothing holds better than a solid friendship before a relationship, just be sure that you aren't overlooking something about them because of love. That happens a lot! Remember you deserve to be treated well and the person you're with should deserve that too! If you have any questions I am open to try and help :)
“did your first time hurt”? yes. i have vaginismus, every time i have penetrative sex, it hurts. i’m on the journey to curing my condition, but i wish there was more education on sexual dysfunction in women/ ppl with vaginas. if you have vaginismus or a similar condition (eg vulvodynia, endometriosis) know that you’re never alone. ❤️
I love the show Sex Education on Netflix. They talk about this condition in the show and before this I had never heard of it. I think more people experience this than is talked about because so many people don’t know there’s a name for it. Of course if you think you might experience this or a similar condition, do your own research and talk to a doctor if possible! But I love that the show is spreading general awareness.
bruh i cried... I didn’t know this whole “coercion” thing was a thing. I was pressured by my ex to have sex, and for so long he would guilt trip me or get mad at me when I said no so eventually I said yes (YES i said no FREQUENTLY before finally admitting yes because I couldn’t take the mental war and verbal pressure he gave me anymore). Like, I knew something felt strange and wrong about the whole thing, but just couldn’t grasp my hand around the situation. I wish other people knew the signs and doesn’t have to go what me and the long brunette haired girl through.
It depends. If it's just persuasion that's not coercion. If there's threats/fear that's coercion. I say that because it's important to distinguish and not lump everything together. Either way, it sounds like a really bad experience :( things don't have to be r@pe to be bad experiences.
@@Luxembourgish coercion isn't dependent on evoking a fearful reaction. You can be coerced by just the idea of being tired of them asking or just getting mentally worn down to the point that you just want to keep them happy for the time being so they don't get mad or upset with you. You have no right to tell someone that they didn't get coerced. Just because they said yes in the end doesn't mean they actually wanted to, and consent is literally based on the idea of WANTING to. So yes, she did get coerced, and no, coercion doesn't mean you have to be afraid of saying no. I got coerced into oral sex by a family member when we were both very young (elementary school age), and all it took was them saying "please" and pulling me into the bed, and I was way too young to even know the whole "no is no, it's okay to say no" rule because I guess nobody could've seen it coming, but if I'd known it at that age, I wouldn't have, and I would've told my parents. I wasn't afraid of that family member, not even in the slightest, but you cannot tell me that wasn't coercion just because I didn't get threatened or wasn't afraid. Oh, and persuasion is coercion if the other person doesn't want to do it but does anyway. Don't make the mistake of invalidating other people's rape/molestation experiences.
[ TIMESTAMPS ] 0:26 Did your first time hurt? 1:30 What does it feel like when a man penetrates you? 2:10 Do you ever worry your vagina doesn’t look normal? 2:30 If you’re on birth control, how does it affect your body? 3:15 SEX ON YOUR PERIOD?? HOW???! 4:03 Is it normal to masturbate? 4:20 Have you ever questioned your sexuality? 4:46 Have you ever had an orgasm? 5:25 Have you ever faked an orgasm? 5:46 Is it important to find a partner that can make you orgasm? 6:45 Do you feel like you mostly just accommodate men and what they want during sex? 7:10 TW! mentions of sa What do you consider assault or rape? 8:39 What is something you wished you learned in Sex Ed?
Ok this is why I don't google my symptoms. I was itching all over my body one night I thought it was bed bugs or even worse, googled it and it said skin cancer andd turns out it was a skin allergy when I went to the dermatologist 😶
Many of my friends are like you, then i become the mom friend who explore it first then share my experiences in hope that they'd be less scared as time goes by.
Those of you who feel this way, have you considered you might be somewhere on the asexual spectrum? Totally fine if not and I'm not expecting an answer, I just thought this might be something worth pointing out in case people haven't thought about it. Some people just don't ever want to have sex and that is v much OK.
I’m 14 and not tryna do anything (“it”) yet but my mom tells me not to do it and makes it sound horrible like it’s a bad thing.. I’m a teen who now gets, THOSE feelings but because with what I’ve been taught, I always feel guilty for having those feelings.. What do I do? Sorry if I just ranted but I was looking for a comment like yours.
@@sophiaa7721 It's not really my place to tell someone what to do but I guess be smart, try to keep yourself well informed and make your own decisions. Parents are human beings, they're not always right. Use your head and don't get affected by people's opinions.
Not really related, but school doesn't teach crap. I thought that if you didn't take birth control everyday, you would've become pregnant automatically and it terrified me 😭
@@ziiiiiiii754 in my school, they just showed us it and did little to elaborate it. Just told us that it was used to prevent pregnancies and I thought you would get pregnant no matter what if you didn't take them
Depends on the birth control you have. I wasn’t taking it and the guy that I have been with for 5yrs now got me pregnant because he decided not to use a condom. The second time I got pregnant, I was taking my Sprintec birth control pills and I became extremely overly stressed for 4 months. My overly stressed out hormones overrode my birth control and I became pregnant. I knew I was pregnant because the moment I took my next two pills they didn’t taste right and made me feel sick.
Sex messes up everything if you are not careful. Sex shouldn’t be a priority in a relationship. If the relationship is all about it, then it’s not a relationship anymore, it’s just a fwb thing.
What the-- Sex is ak extremely important part of a relationship. If either partner is dissatisfied, the relationship will most definitely start going downhill.
I wanna say this for all the girls reading the comments, if you’re with a significant other or someone you’re very close with, and your pressured into doing something you didn’t want to, it’s assault. Don’t feel that since you’re close to them it’s okay, because it’s not. No matter if you just met the person, been dating for 4 years, or been best friends for 12. Consent is CONSENT!
@@weltlos What do you mean and thus must have wanted it? It doesn't matter if you are "with" someone or like them, if a person feels that they are pressured and don't want to go forward they DESERVE respect. It is NEVER okay to pressure someone into doing something they don't want to do.
@@files2653 Well, respect is a subjective thing and the idea of who deserves what as well. It may work for you, but not for everyone. So take that out of the equation. And I don't agree with you when you say that it is never okay to pressure someone. Take the typical example: there is a son whose mother is a heavy smoker and is going to die in the near future if she doesn't stop. The son asking her more than once to stop this etc. is absolutely okay in my view and it should be in other's as well.
@@weltlos They are very clearly talking about pressuring someone into sex or a sexual act. No one, absolutely NO ONE should be pressured into having sex or performing a sexual act - that is assault/rape/coercion. Everyone deserves to have their wishes - whether they want sex or not - respected. If you honestly believe that not everyone deserves to have respect regarding sex then please, please, do some research on consent.
After 24 years I finally gave it a chance with someone, I really wanted it, but it hurt so bad we could not go through with it til the end, I felt like some other things should have happened, and he made me feel so bad about the experience because he was not as careful, attentive and caring as I wanted someone to be. I feel so bad everytime I think about it and it will take me a lot to trust someone again due to my fear they will never prioritize my needs. 😓
@Hacker Jonathan most lesbians don't actually care about what their partner looks like. some lesbians are more masculine so they look for feminine partners and vice versa but most of us just want someone we find attractive and have a "connection" (couldn't find a better word) with
I was raped... and my mother blamed me for it... It sucks But going to therapy and really learning to love myself has helped... some days aren't easy but who ever is going through turmoil you WILL make it..... everything will be okay.... I promise you...😚😚😚
This is how you tell if you are ready: if it's not a hell yes(without any doubt or persuasion) , it's a no. Pls consider it a no, and don't put yourself into sthg you will regret later.
As a 37 yr old married woman I honestly dont even like sex much. That could be because of my relationship or the fact that my libido has never been super high. Id rather just be given cake.
Idk hearing it from younger people makes it seem more normal for me but always hearing older or elderly women speak makes it feel weird for me sense it’s like my mom or aunt talking about sex and that’s just weird.
Damn good thing you guys made this vid since this is such a taboo in our household and even not talked or learned about in our school. Thank you so much
Tbh I'm interested in this video. In my country sex ed is kinda limited and is basically self-taught. Yea, i can google and watch medical videos for sex ed but i have always loved jubilee insight
the first girl who spoke about her first time having sex in the rape or assault question is 100% how it went down for me and its very shocking but comforting to realize how I feel is validated and that it was a form assault. I struggle with it from time to time and her speaking her experience made me feel better that I'm not crazy... so thank you
7:16 damn this question hit hard also i believe that schools should teach about sex ed in a way that is not formal (like a regular classroom) rather they should communicate with parents make things less weird
@@SailingSeignior there is always a religion hater lacking respect. If religion influenced you, so what? Being influenced by social media isnt better. Let adults make their choice, smh
@@VictoriousSage Well, of course I hate religion. It’s terrible. It supports slavery and rape. Terrorism and anti-scientific views. Homophobia and sexism. On and on. Why on Earth would anyone love religion? Social media has negative things but doesn’t even remotely compare to the horrors that religion has caused.
If there's no consent then it's considered rape and it applies for both girls and boys.
Yes Sana yes ( hope she sees it she will be proud of Onces )
The sad part is that the girls can throw rape accusations but guys WILL go to jail for innocence just because a girl is butt hurt about a break up and everyone will be on the girl side
@@kannonlong9767 Thats true. Glad to see there is red pill warriors here
@@kannonlong9767 The amount of false rape accusations is far less common than you seem to think.
@@kannonlong9767 Also, the fact of the matter is that most rapists walk free. So no, you're just talking out of your ass.
girls remember every woman is different! it’s okay if you don’t relate to any of these girls :)
Preach :)
I relate to all of them... WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?
@@Psychol-Snooper nothing's wrong with you :)
@@rachel-zo2iq The Caps Lock part was a joke, if that was not clear.
Every person is different
oh my god i feel so bad for the girl that had her period for a year straight
I scrolled down and saw this now I'm scared-
I had mine to but for half a year.
@@MunchMaila same what an experience
Literally the same thing happened to me, currently I'm on the Pill and have had zero problems but when I had the Nexplanon implant I bled for 7 months straight before I had it taken out
@@demitraschmidt3459 OMG WHAT. But was it everyday heavy or it was a light flow? my worst nightmare dear gosh
Period for a year straight. A year straight. A YEAR STRAIGHT. This woman is godly, that takes so much effort.
😩
As a guy, I don't even know it could even last that long.
I had mine for 3 months and was in and out of the hospital because they couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. My iron DROPPED dramatically. Finally saw an OBGYN and was diagnosed with PCOS. Never in my life do I want to go through that again.
@@AwesomeAlleks i heard someone who had her period for like 6 months and it was because of a tumor(not cancerous) in her uterus and her body was trying to get rid of it by basically flushing it out
I had mine for 2 on the arm implant, and I have PCOS as well. Definitely no fun
For someone who is too sensitive with topics about sex, I really appreciate how they gave straightforward and honest answers for the sake of sex education. Thanks!
Same
me a 10 yr old: 😬😃😃😃
Yooo this is the first time i got a heart from jubilee
@@Mia-zn2dr your a kid gtfo this is for big boy teenagers and adolescents only
@@Mia-zn2dr girl why are you here 😃
If she says no its no don't ask again its not that hard.
i agree, but its not only that, if you notice that your partner is unsure about doing it, dont pressure, let them think about it.
Exactly, anything but no means don’t keep pressuring us to do something we don’t want to do.
And the same goes for men. They should be taught that it's okay to say no.
Can we apply this same concept to food? If you say you’re not hungry, don’t get upset or eat my food.
@@nadiryoung9925 you’re fighting a different battle here chief
the bald woman has such a soothing voice, she gives me the protective aunt vibes and i love it
Literally what I was thinking when I saw her. I felt like we ✨bonded✨ even though we didn't even have an actual conversation 🤣
I thought she sounded like kourtney kardashian but better 👁👄👁✌🏼
Does anybody know her insta? I just wanna know where she got that cute ass top😫😍
Right!! She really gave me guiding older best friend/Aunt vibes.
She’s so pretty 😍
Schools teach us the biology and more like the sciency part of sex but we're never really taught about a lot of stuff like consent, morals and the more emotional side of sex.
Thank you, for making this
i don't know that females or girls that have difference
No
i'm so sorry about those female things
@@deathmetalbandblack2392 bro what 💀
Yes we are taught that
jubilee teaching younger generations more than school does
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Stfu
@@AxxLAfriku wtf
@@AxxLAfriku 😃
Q: What has one head, one foot and four legs?
A: A Bed
Period for a year sounds like literal hell...
@Mr Sir Not really
I had mine for like 3montjs straight and I thought that was bad, but a yearrrr? Damn
I can't even survive a week 😭
@@myoung4720 LITERALLYYYYY mine is like 3-4 days but I have really intense cramps and Im always in a bad mood feeling miserable so its like literally the worst even for that short time
@Mr Sir i know im a girl, and all im saying is i can't even handle my monthly business !
Can we appreciate :
1. The women in this video, who are really open and sympathetic
2. The creative team : the music and the colors are just so prettyyy, wow, it's a beautiful video, regarding aesthetics but also the subject !
Thanks Jubilee !
Agree!
the background is so beautiful
and the title!!
You're good
I have no women in my circle like them luckily i found out there are normal women on the world
them: "it's painful"
me: "I'm out"
😂😂😂
Going to a dentist is painful. Paying taxes is painful. Attending funerals is painful. Have fun.
Thats why lubricant is waiting
My sister in Christ, you have self made lubricant
I cam feel the you:)
the mental block thing during sex is such an important yet overlooked topic to talk about with women!
Seriously!! I have been with my partner for forever but it took me 1-2 years with him to finally learn ways to overcome my mental block. It’s hard because I know I love the man I’m sleeping with but the mind can make us feel so insecure!
As a man, this was very insightful. Women don't talk like this with people who they start dating. Then you're in a relationship caught off guard when there are problems. Partner doesn't know about past self misconceptions about sex and self-pleasure as well as trauma from being assaulted/raped.
I think this is why relationships don't work many times. People have so much mental trauma and don't realize that hurts the relationships they form.
wtf you guys are weird as hell
It is an issue for men as well. and even less talked about cause mostly we, men, aren't even aware of it.
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As a guy, I think lots of other guys should watch this and help them better understand what women go through.
Every person is obviously different, so the only thing guys should do is communicating with their partners.
I am in the same boat, its almost impossible to get this perspective otherwise
We go through more
@@Someone-mq8mm umm it’s not a competition
@@amanda-almeida ik
Love how the black girl rocked her hair like that
999
@@masoncochran1077 9994L
I like ya cut G
bro what is the girl name in the long sleeve top with retainers in she is soooo bad
J wrld 999
I agree that say "I wish I was taught more about sex not being such a shameful thing for women."
I wish everyone is not ashamed of sex and has confidence in it.
If you have had multiple lustful relationships, or hookups, without the desire for it to be long term, then it absolutely is shameful. Goes for both sexes. I am glad my culture emphasises that.
@@udohhI disagree. I dont think it is shamefull to want Sex at some Point, without seeking a Long Term relationship. Its fine If you want something different, but shaming Others is wrong of you
the bald lady is so attractive, idk what it is but she’s beautiful 😭
yess and she speaks so eloquently 👏
The way she carries herself just feels cool
ikr! she’s so pretty🥰🥰 they’re all pretty tho
Not really
Je ne sais quoi is a great phrase to describe her
I can't wait to watch the video with Straight Men answering instead.
Ohh that would be great 😂😂
Edit: it would probably have the same energy to the one where they try and find the gay dude in odd man out
@@justgettingby7725 haha?
What you mean the 10 second wonder ?
@@nodwaa9227 ok ok no need to throw shots
😂😂😂😂😂
that assault question made me so sad, like i dont have a female friend who has not been assaulted its so messed up. a guy pressuring you into saying yes is not consent!!! no matter how close yall are ,and do not feel bad because it is not your fault. if you reading this and struggling to deal with something that happened to you im so sorry
Simp
@@apocalypse_____ how??
@@apocalypse_____ incel
Wait what do you mean by pressuring. Is it treating them better and making them more open to the idea or just straight up asking them everytime?
@@Lordkeepmesafe It means that when she says no, it's no. No begging, no bargaining, no anger, no nothing.
And definitely don't 80s sex pest songs like "come on Eileen" by Dexys Midnight Runners. XD
It was nice to hear their honest experiences.This kinda education seems to be needed a lot..
Props to these women for speaking about such a sensitive subject .
One day, I hope these topics shouldn’t be a topic associated with shame and “behind closed doors.” But the work is being done!
@@addison2945 facts
@@addison2945 Agreed 👍🏾
I hope these topics in the future aren’t so sensitive and people are more open to talk about it .
Sensitive? These discussions are literally discussed daily and can be found any and everywhere.
Pornography sets a bad idea of sex in young people mind, making them think of sex as a competition rather than a moment of sharing, and the problem is that sex education in school is just plainly bad if not completely unexistent, so most of the people(especially non straight) learn about sex through porn, which is bad
I was waiting for someone to say this thank you!
a lot of people experience sexual education through porn, and it isn't correct because all they show in porn is the actual actions and orgasm. they don't show the prep, the cleaning that takes place, or the consent for different situations. and it also shows a gross brutalization of women specifically, and the fetishization of different sexual identities as if they aren't actual people and just there for entertainment. thank you for bringing this up! specifically, a lot of LGBT+ youth find their exploration is through porn and they aren't taught any differently.
@@marsrigger2641 True but at the same time those videos are rehearsed and scripted and they pick certain people to do those certain things for a certain reason
It's true in some sence but then again it's just a movie.. You don't go around killing people just because you saw a hitman movie.. I think we need to give more credit to people to teens because in the end most of them can distinguish right from wrong.
Exactly
I’m a virgin woman, so this is pretty educational for me.
😂
I am also
Me too and I’m 20🌚
@@samal776 same
@@jerichomiranda9955umm anyway... everyone pretend we never read this comment above mine
The "feeling ashamed you're taking too long" is so common among women I feel like.
I think the bigger issue is men NOT being ashamed that they can't last more than 2 min. At least we can actually last longer than it takes for a hot pocket to heat up in the microwave. i'm only talking about weak, loser men btw. not real men.
As a Christian girl homeschooled by an asexual mother, this is immensely helpful
@Isaac Tubirore it was probably a development that occurred after the girl was born
@Isaac Tubirore asexual people can still have kids and whatnot. asexuality has to do with sexual attraction, not actual sex
@@MixedBeauty01 someone who doesn’t feel sexual attraction but they still have romantic attraction and like affection just not sex x
@Ashanty Ortega Especially in the older generations they didnt knew what assexuality was and many women believed it was their duty to have have sex with their husband even though they didnt wanted it. Remember rape within a marriage was legal till the 90s or is still legal in some countries. I met many old (80+) women in the Nursing home that didnt knew that they were asexual. Some said they were lesbians but still married for 50- 60 years cause it was expected from them
That’s oddly specific
This feels like a Buzzfeed video, but back when Buzzfeed was good
hey, im not very familiar with buzzfeed but so many people seem to hate it now? Can you explain why?
@@yasminnegash3968 they used to have great and aspiring content, but now they literally became cringe , 3/4 of their original employees left , just look up a cringe compilation of buzzfeed and you would understand
It’s all woke, sjw jargon! I totally agree!
All the buzzfeed cringe comps are from like 3-4 years ago
💯💯
As a boy, I’ve learned a lot from this. Now I will know for the future
Thanks for trying to be a more understanding person 👏
@@katetyra5759 Of course! I think it’ll give a perspective all guys will need later in life so when they feel the time is right they can be better for their significant other.
I wish every guy was like you lol
You are not a boy, but a man. Thanks for having human decency to see both sides of such an emotional topic
@@catspaghetti4515 Why thank you, but actually I’m actually just a boy though😂. I’m not gonna say my age but I’m less that 16. But anyway, thank you.
As a guy, I genuinely learned a lot from this video. Thanks for making it and thanks to all the young ladies who shared.
Thank you for listening!!!!!!
:))
that girl is PULLING OFF the bald look
Periodt!!! She's literally so gorgeous omg
@@JerrenAnnah Ikr so pretty
IKR
Pulling it off terribly
@@nobodycares607 someone’s insecure
I really like the side profile shots that you guys put throughout this conversation. The softer lighting gave light to some of these women's very real facial features.. It just felt more intimate in a way...It gave me this sense of listening to a real person instead of just a talking head on my screen. It expanded this sense of sonder because I was now watching someone recount something about themselves in this vulnerable moment... Bravo to whom-ever planned/got/included that shot for this video.
@Mr Sir Bruh...whether it was an intentional creative decision or a decision made just to provide variety to the visual experience... I experienced it in a profound way and decided to share that. What do you gain by being dismissive of my human experience because you didn't feel that way so much you can't even imagine that it might have been an intentional creative decision. That when someone literally makes it their profession to capture people in a portrait photography-esque setting that they may choose lighting and angles that help portray the essence of what a real human being looks like.. But yeah sure... they probably just push the capture button and hope it goes well, definitely not that deep, lmao...
Yeah, that’s really good input. I noticed that too.
@Mr Sir lmao, video framing and setting up the camera to make the viewer feel a certain way is deep. imagine if they just had a boring white background and harsh lighting, that wouldn’t work so well, hm?
@Mr Sir it’s not deep to you but it’s deep to other people. Everyone views things different
Hmm hmm yes, indeed ma'am 🍷
Rape is something I just can’t take. Like I’ve heard women I’ve talked with talk about their experiences with it and it’s just honestly seems worse than murder for some reason in my head. To think that happens in the world makes me want to do anything I possibly can to prevent it in the future. I think I’d sell my soul to stop it
Edit: I was really venting and didn’t think this comment would blow up. Of course I know that murder is horrible and I really understand it’s something that is unbelievably prevalent that needs changed also. It also happens to be something that I feel equally in regard to anyone. I didn’t mean that rape is worse but to act like rape and prevention pales in importance nowadays is wrong and some people just don’t know. The world just plain needs changed for the better. Also know I can’t cover my entire thought process and what I said in passion of the moment completely but I definitely welcome the discussion. It’s something that like murder, I think could be changed and prevented if there was more of a realistic proactive effort to promote that change. And not just for this context. Let’s just agree that rape and murder are incredibly horrible. In my opinion, it doesn’t fully need to be compared because they’re both things that affect people in unchangeable horrible ways
You sound like an amazing person and I’m so glad that you think this way! This really shows that there are lots of good men in this world.
It is. Before I started watching svu I didn't know there was something worse than murder. The show scarred me and kinda made me paranoid. I wish I knew the future so I can rid myself of this paranoia
This comment made me cry a little cause lately all I've seen is guys who make fun of rape and joke about it, it's just really nice to actually see a guy who cares
This comment is so incredibly sweet and I’m really glad you have such a strong belief about it. I remember seeing this one talk where this guy said that rape is the one violent crime you can never ever justify. Like you can justify murder in self defense or if they’re going to harm someone else, but rape in any context is a crime and is never justifiable.
God dude You people are cringe, HAHAHAHAHA.
5:29
Wow. Her eyes are beautiful
Assault is another thing that can be easily missed and disregarded as one’s fault. Not only for women, but for men too. In fact, a better name for sex is intimacy. You should never feel like it’s your “duty” to please him/her, both should always have their voice heard. It can be an amazing tool to bond with your significant other. It’s a precious thing that shouldn’t be thrown around, especially without your consent.
Very wise words .
Well said
What I plan on telling my children, is always assume the answer is no before their partner say yes. Meaning that their partner shouldn’t have to say no. If their partner wants to be intimate, they clearly should say yes. And this goes for both men and women. That way there should be no accidents.
To have a voice heard tho both ppl have to speak up
no one cares
As a straight virgin woman, I really need this. Thank you Jubilee, people don't really talk about sex experience around me, even the people who I close too
264 likes and no replies.....noice
Are you sure straight though and don’t like women even an ounce??
@Reddy Reddy as I straight women, I do
@@RedMisfit I mean I can appreciate a beautiful or talented or smart women when I see one but never more than that. I live in a place where I don't have any influence to be a part of lgbtq and I don't even have any desire towards women no matter how bad men are so yeah 😂
@@milkbuns.vanilla cool. Very awesome! Ha 👍🏾
“Got burritos afterwards” 🤣 that’s cute.
😁😁😁🤣🤣
that was my favorite response hahaha
🤣🤣🤣
Well, he allready had a taco...
Gosh, I wish I was eating a burrito rn
Love how this video was produced and the subtle mood change as the questions got deeper. good stuff I say. Also informative.
It’s weird how sex is pretty much a universal feeling for men but for women it’s like taking acid or sum
It’s pretty messed up how women are shamed, for expressing their sexuality (when it doesn’t please men!)
@@chickofmusic001 not all men are like that but just because a guy (guy thot)is sleeping around doesn’t make him morally good, sleeping with multiple people is not good in general for both men or women
A lot of guys are ignorant about female sexuality....but who can blame them. They aren't women, and to expect them to think like women is just as asinine as men expecting women to think like men.
Once you figure that out, and how much of the brain is actually involved in sex, it becomes easier to figure out what women want.
@cowgirl boots What am I trying to justify??
@@supermodelwannabe no, it's mostly because women choose guys who are bad for them because they feel attracted to a "bad guy". If you choose a nice normal guy he would never shame you for that.
sad truth but pornos sets high standards in women, it tells us that body should be like this and vaginas should look like this and if you don't possess this characteristics you'll feel that you're not normal which is wrong.
Don’t forget about men aswell. Men have strict standards too when it comes to height and penis size. I think it’s worst for men because there’s literally no fix to any of those
@@jalijah03 lets agree that both are bad news
@Tree House i don't think men watch it more lol, women are just less spoken about it
@@yume5441 nope men do look up the stats
@@kingkai2800 stats can't be accurate if not everyone is reporting lol
I feel so sorry for the girl who had her period for a year... I can’t bare it for a week and she had to go through it for A WHOLE YEAR
wait isn’t that a serious problem?
Depo shots man!
Your PFP is adorable😭😭
And I had mine for a year and a half-😅
I thought it was normal-😂
I had mine for almost two years so definitely understand her
@@mitoito7291 yes I had that issue but I was bleeding for two years. My doctors couldn’t find out why, and it was super heavy so I ended up being severely anemic
7:37 💖
@@BikerBalak 😭😂
That you?
💞
I prefer men because a vagina is so ugly.
@@juanpedro4083 Women can't help that.
I'm not just saying this to be nice but that bald girl ROCKS her bald head and it looks so good with hoop earrings and its a perfect ✨vibe✨
IKR
Shes soo cool
Okay
Yeah she looks mature! I am balding so, if i have a partner who is also bald, it will be so cool😎
y e s
No means no. You are allowed to say “no” even after consenting. If you want it to stop and it doesn’t, then you are no longer consenting.
i never knew that
@@jalo7289 which is part of the problem. People are not taught about consent, its an awkward and complicated thing. I think it needs to be explained more. People sometimes learn that they were coercive, but wouldn't have been if they'd understood. We also need to be taught how to set boundaries. And to pay attention to what you like and don't like so you can tell your partner.
@@C-SD we really need this in schools. would of saved me so much of my energy and slot of things could of gone down differently.
@@jalo7289 you have the right to change your mind, whenever you don’t feel comfortable about it (anymore.)
But why say yes and then you’re nearly finished and decide to say no. I get saying yes before and then no before the act even starts but saying no in the middle of it makes no logical sense. Like regretting having sex the next morning doesn’t make it assault. If you know that you don’t want to have sex say NO before you even start. It’s like a rollercoaster once you get on you can’t just get back off half way through a loop. And no I’m not a man before you guys accuse me of being one.
ok is no one gonna talk about the look on their faces and that silence when the question was about rape?
It’s honestly sad that in our society this topic is so vital yet it is overlooked and very much so, there’s stigma surrounding it. Given that the person who was a victim of rape is often blamed. Man or woman, boy or girl. No one deserves to go through that and then be unable to get help because of how they’ll be viewed and what people will say. We need to do better. Sex crimes shouldn’t be quieted. Every victim deserves to be heard, not blamed and every culprit deserves to be punished and educated. We need to do better. This is an important topic. When that lady with black hair talked about coercion and having been a victim and not even knowing it back then. I felt for her. They don’t teach us these things. It’s sad to think that many may have normalized it.
@@Bellyndaakaeme Nowadays, the majority of people acknowledge rape and feel we should do something about silenced victims, however the perpetrators of the rape themselves are the ones shaming and blaming. People just need to do a better job raising their children. I'm male, but somewhat a feminist and in all honesty can see myself thinking differently and possibly even being a sexual offender had I not it jammed into my head the dangers of thoughts like those. Sex offenders are results of things, and society.
I do. I think they already knew all the coming questions and their acting training was incomplete!!!
I actually felt that. Would have been my exact reaction as well...
i feel like nobody saw it coming-it hard took a dark turn too, but it should be talked ab more
I wanna say thank you Jubilee for giving us all such a wonderful opportunity to think and talk about this sensitive subject, which is hard to mention even among closest friends. Kudos to all those women also!
As a straight man, it's so important to listen to women about these subjects! And congrats to the team who filmed it, everything from the lighting to the soundtrack, just perfect
Everything but the acting, lol
@@amangoyal923 wdym
Omg a good straight man who's willing to listen. Wow.
Thank you for being you :)
@@checkmattee222 sexist much
as a 13 year old girl this is very helpful and i think schools should talk more about it, for girls AND boys
Well they know it already but in a teasing way
Yea, I agree, but boys would be super immature for this,
@@perple9534 and that's why they need to learn. You can't except someone to act mature about a subject when they don't even have enough knowledge about it.
Same in 13
Totally
✨SHE HAD HER PERIOD FOR A YEAR? AND NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT THIS✨ 😳😳😳😳
My sister also had her period for a year. But it’s because she was on birth control. Maybe it wasn’t the right birth control but she also had it for a year.
@@-lemon-lime5282 that’s horrible
I had mine for several months straight and very heavily after starting birth control. It was really scary bleeding through a super plus tampon in an hour and not knowing why it was going kn for so long. It suuuuucked. Prior to that I had always had veryyyy light and irregular periods where I would go a month or two without having one. It's super important to find the right one and to take it correctly. I was bleeding nonstop until I talked to a doctor and switched brands on the mini pill.
@@mattisencox8176 true, I never knew u had to find the most suitable one for u because we Arabs don’t really use such things 🤷🏼♀️ but I’m glad I got educated about this
@@-lemon-lime5282 damn 😭😣😩
This is actually amazing. So much awareness was raised!! Conversations like this are important and should become way more normalized, so glad to see that they are more and more ❤️
I’m a guy watching this at 2 am on Christmas wtf is wrong with me
Wtf same
Lmao.
What the fuck is wrong with me
its actually a good thing to learn tho
More for women i guess
The fact literally 1/3 women REPORTED being sexually assaulted in the u.s is horrible. And that's just those who reported it and aren't blocking it
The study that reported this was pretty flawed though. The term assault was applied very lously (a nasty comment was grouped in the same category as physical assault) and the group was very "biased": not enough participants to equate this to the whole us and not everyone replied which means that there is a possibility that only the women with this experience replied. Ps: not to say that it doesn't happen or their experiences aren't valid, just that you don't have to be scared since the number 1/3 is not valid
@@TheOtherAnne that's fair. It's hard to find statistics that are actually unbiased at all. I do think they were attempting to be since a similar number of completed r*pe was apparent in men but yeah, it's not going to be 100% accurate by any means. However, since finding real statistics on something like this is hard to come by, another great source is just the people you're surrounded by. And at least for me, most women in my life have been at some point and I've heard the same from other women. Men I'm not at sure about because I don't have many in my life I could ask but they might be the same, too. And as long as we cannot feel safe, there's always a reason to fear. Fear is always justified for any situation, regardless of how outrageous it may seem
@@ali8922 I was shocked as well when I heard the number, thats why I looked into it. But I may be biased as well in finding the number too high: I live in a small country which seems a lot safer, the reported stats say that most assault cases happen with close friends or family friends. I talked about it with the people around me and it is generally not a fear of theirs, we all feel safe in our social bubbles.
@@TheOtherAnne that makes sense! Yeah, im not sure what country you're from but in places like europe where there is a lot of real sex ed, it seems to be way less of an issue. In america, its just another thing to add onto the list of things we have wrong with our country LMAO. thanks for talking with me btw! I loved hearing your input! :)
But most of those sexually "assaulted women" who report lie just for some cash 😭😭😭😭😭 which is even more horrible
Rape and assault: a lack of consent. If there isn’t consent or if they are trying to convince or coerce you into sex then that is assault/rape.
really wouldn't say lack of consent cause that means ur still giving consent so it shouldn't be involved with rape or assault
@@ashiesty7140 lack of consent as in there’s no consent. The occurrence lacks consent therefore it is rape/assault. You can also “give consent” and it still be rape or assault. If they convincing or threatening or manipulating you to say yes then even though you might have technically said okay it’s still rape/assault. If you give consent and take it back or if you give consent for one thing but they do something else that your not okay with and they don’t stop, then that is again rape/assault. Consent has to be freely and honestly given in order for it to be valid.
@@ashiesty7140 lack of consent is no consent.
@@ashiesty7140 I don't think you know what "lack of" means
@@sharkpawsu So men get raped by women all the time because they never ask us for consent
I'm so sorry to anyone that has suffered sexual abuse, please know that your pain is valid and can be work on, don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
I really enjoy open conversations like this, for someone with no experience it gives me some idea. Thanks Jubilee!
Wait till Marriage
@Gavin Reed only certain opinions? I’m curious to know what option they are leaving out? There are so many opinions in the world. They can’t have everyone on here.
wait your pfp just made me feel so nostalgic :((
@@slippymass that’s a personal and religious belief. Don’t push that on others
No experience here either, but I felt like this video helped me too.
Im scared of growing up.
Me too, _i don't wanna have grey hair or loose skin or worse yk what I mean_
I'm afraid of being alone my whole life, but when i think about marriage I get very anxious and uncomfortable
Same
@@vampire_6 Same I'm scared if the man is a traitor
@stormdraws but but But bUT BUT BUT BTU BUT ITS SCARYYYYYYEEEE
That lady pulled of the bald look
She is gorgeous !!
She had her period for a whole year?!! oh my...bless her soul.
@UCCDhXLHLwtauu5PxnS-3peQ i feel like i can assume you don't know what it's like
Don't be dramatic
@@apocalypse_____ The pain level varies from one person to another, it's normal that we worry when we're not certain how bad it could've gotten, most of us have had some pretty awful experiences..
Personally before I started taking the pill I had to miss days of school everytime, there was fainting, vomiting, cramps so bad I couldn't move, it was horrible, so of course hearing about someone who's had them for a year would horrify me, and I assume it's the same for the person who commented this. Don't be mean
@@apocalypse_____ don't be a dumbass. Everyone has different levels of period pains but I'm sure even you can atleast imagine how horrible it would be if you bleeded every single day for an entire year
I have a friend who had a period for 42 days and I’m on mine right now omg the pain
Now I need straight men, gay women, and gay men.
And trans people
@@sophieirakleous7895 trans isn’t a sexuality
@@haleyhaasl8923 preach on em haley
@@tanktopthief6094 I think the point is to make a space for trans people to discuss their experiences. They no doubt have unique experiences, that’s all.
@@jl6930 exactly
The girl with the shaved head is so beautiful.. I’m shaving my head in a couple days and I’m scared
Omg you’re gonna look amazing!! Don’t stress, everyone who shaves their head looks so ethereal and bougie, and if you choose to grow your hair back it’ll be so healthy💜💜
So did you shave your head?
@@apple3948t Exactly, my sister had her head shaved every year till 6TH GRADE and now she has amazing hair.
Please don’t
@@ivyvanderwall why not?
My neighbour (around 70 years old) is a bee keeper and one time I (17 at the time) was there with my father. A bee started to fly around me and I started to freak out. The neighbour said "In your life you're gonna be poked by something else than a bee." And everyone around started laughing including my dad. I told my sister about that and she said that I'm too sensitive. I still don't know why we live in a society that is normalizing verbal sexual assault. That is not okay. If women can control themselves around a person they find attractive why can't men do the same?
Lighten up
Omg I’m so sorry that they said that. That’s not okay! If someone’s freaking out about something it’s not okay to joke about it and especially not something like THAT. I also don’t understand how people can joke about stuff like that so openly.
Sure some people joke about their trauma. That’s fine cuz that’s what they’ve gone through and that might be their coping mechanism.
But just joking about it?? Nah.
Idk about that women can control themselves around men part but if you got offended by something like that its totally ok
I’m in my mid 30s and through work interact with a lot of divorced women in their 50s 60s 70s. When they tell me I should be a model they are most definitely making a pass and rather than make an issue out of it we just have a laugh about it.
At 17 you are making yourself out to be far more vulnerable in that situation than you actually are at face value.
"...Including my dad..."
I am sorry but, u deserve a better dad
The woman with the large earrings had such a confident aura
Baldness is her defining feature, dont be awkward about it sis
She was super cute!
This would actually be a great series. Asking questions like these and hearing different answers.
And different views men and women to understand each other
Rape is such a sensitive topic for everyone. I feel like that word triggers a lot of negative memories in people of being touched and used. (Including me) It's a huge problem in the world and overlooking it or making fun of it is in no way alright. Everyone is talking about how they went silent and I could totally relate to them.
i see these rape "fantasies" online everywhere and they say they don't condone that type of abuse in real life but it still seems wrong because their content is triggering. i reported their content/them and they guilt tripped me, rape isn't something to "fantasize" about and putting that stuff out online without trigger warnings is just, sick. it's a sensitive subject and the fact that people look at women as objects and in that way is just emotionally saddening. sorry i had to let that out, whoever read this have a great day!!
@@Neha-zc4yq oh I so understand you. There are people who write comics where the guy forces himself on the girl and people just normalise it anyway. It's disgusting and I hate it
Totally agreed. I was sexually assaulted and it took me 2 years to finally say something, I was a young kid.
@@wendycovarrubias5923 I'm so sorry and fuck whoever did that to you.
@@Neha-zc4yq aka tik tok pov’s
Hearing this as a straight male made me think that we, being women and men, are not that different when it comes to questioning our sexuality. I grew up with the knowledge that sex is something dirty. Talking about sex even with my trusted girlfriend is close to impossible. So i always focus on her needs. Is wish there would be some kind of sex ed that would prepare us mentally for sex. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ladies❣️
“i do it probably everyday”
every guy to exist: *same*
True but sometimes I wait like 3 days so I can get a really nice feeling.
@@Lordkeepmesafe or a month like nnn
Q: Where did the computer go to dance?
A: To a disc-o.
I don’t know if this is just me but I find this disrespectful to guys-
Twice a weak
I’m a teenager and I’m watching this- my school does NOT teach us about anything. So I rely on UA-cam videos and my own research, I’m glad hormones or being h0rny is ok and normal. Also when the question about rape or assault came up and their faces fell it made my heart break 💔 and I also agree on that none of this is shameful, it’s a normal part of life and school should really talk more about it.
IKR! I'm also kinda curious about it whilst not being interested in having sex and school just ignored(?) It in a way and ig... It's not good
i feel you! mine sex ed was basically "dont have sex" both from my school and my family... had to figure it all out when there wasnt even a youtube :') you're right it's definitely normal to talk about it to make sure everyone is safe and healthy! its a part of life! haha
I prefer men because a vagina is so ugly.
@@juanpedro4083 ...
w t f
@@juanpedro4083 Okay? A Penis is ugly
I would guess that it’s pretty *straightforward.*
Edit: _It’s not as straightforward as I assumed._
That pun.
Don't hit yourself on the way out 👋
@@user-ue6lv9in8s you hate it?
Q: Where did the computer go to dance?
A: To a disc-o.
@blv lmao thanks 😂😂😂
As a lesbian woman I very much appreciate this whole video. No matter your sexuality people are experiencing a lot of things/these questions within this video. Love this! ❤️
When the girl talked about the feeling like you couldn’t be with other partners after your first time I felt that omg, after my first time I felt like I had lost a part of me because we are thought to reserve it to the one, when in my reality I dont believe in the one I dont wanna get married a virgin, so I did but I still felt like I did something wrong and men wouldn’t accept me because I was not a virgin anymore :c
As a recently divorced man whose only sexual partner was his wife, I can relate. It hurts to move on, like I'm being unfaithful even though I know our relationship is over.
As you should. Humans are evolved to be monogamous, objectively speaking. If you believe anything else, you're only deluding yourself
Feels Man absolutely, inexplicably, unfathomably based
@@feelsman7837 Just because human evolved to be monogamous doesn't mean that it's right or wrong. You're committing an appeals to nature fallacy.
@@pieadapter3615 cope harder
Coercion is such a big thing though in many relationship... where a partner guilt's you to do what you don't feel like doing. The saddest part is that they don't realize that it is .. they feel like they finally made you excited... but the reality is that you feel like if you say no again it will push the other person away from you... it is hard to explain
I know exactly what you mean. This thing is real!!! But let me tell you what happened to me. My husband and I are together for almost 30 years. We were not our firsts. And as a sexual drive is different for men and women, for me it use to be the way you feel now. I didn't need it as often as him, or I was really tired, or had my period, or whatever. He never really pushed me too much, because he loves and respects me, nor cheated on me, he was just getting sadder and sadder. At one point we had this conversation when he told me I make him feel unwanted, regected and wondering if I really want him or is there something wrong with him. He was honest, not just manipulating me. And because I really love him I decided to change and to accommodate to him more - as every woman in love would. At the beginning I felt like I'm doing it for his sake but in the process I started to enjoy it more and more myself. Fast forward to now I'm really happy I chose to compromise and really thankful for all the pleasure and orgasms I would have missed, cause it all improved both our bond and my wellbeing.
@@Raly70da That's so encouraging! Thank you!😍
i was surprised by how many of them said sex didn’t hurt the first time cuz i felt like i was sitting on a knife😅
Gurlll that happens 😭 if you're not wet enough, it's PAINFUL! That happened to me and I stopped midway because it was not getting better.
@@Anabórshën yes! i stopped him too and had to try again another time and it was fine so i guess the damage had been done😂i still feel a slight tinge of pain when i think about it tho yikes
Okay but this is making me really scared as a young girl 😭
U cracked me up
I feel bad for laughing but this is just terrible😭
I feel so sorry for the girl who has been sexually assaulted , she's so strong !
When one of the girls was talking about assault and how she was pressured into her first time makes me think that was happening with someone I was recently talking to
you can always say no :)
Yeah I've never gotten that, why don't you say no, or just don't do it? Like I've heard that their scared they may get forced but if the option is between getting violated and having him go to jail and feeling violated but him not going to jail, why choose the latter? You get the trauma and he thinks you were fine with it.
@@orionsome1456 it’s not that easy or simple it should be tho
I feel bad for her, especially because I can understand her.
Kali I'm sorry that happened to you
I can’t even put a tampon on in, imma just stick to pads lmfaoooo
Edit: Jesus lord I’m famous by me not knowing how to put a tampon in lmao 🤣 great way for people to know me 😂😂😂
Ps. Im just joking ik im not famous don’t take it seriously hahaha 😆 💅🏽
I'm to scared I tried 💀
Same!! I felt like im the only one that couldnt do it, i felt so weird.
me too
Same!! I keep wondering if something is wrong with my body.😅😅 I've tried to put on a tampon at least 7 times and it never works!
@@elodie199 i swear like its working against you
The lady with a shaved head is sooo attractive!!😍😍
Lol no
Gorgeous!
Lol no
Facts
@@Errupt LOL she is
I am a bisexual virgin woman, and this video was honestly made me rlly sad but also comforting, Im very scared abt having my first time with someone who might leave me, seriously,,, I really want to be with someone who loves me and will stay with me,,,
Hello! I am also a bi woman. Not a virgin anymore but the person I "lost"(don't like saying lose cuz you don't lose anything if anything you GAIN experience) it to was my first relationship. They ended up leaving me but oh my that was honestly the best that could happen. Don't misunderstand that relationship was the most amazing experience of my life at that point. I think you shouldn't fear losing things in life because even if you'd lose someone you love you gain so much more! Even if you don't end up with your first person they teach you so much about what you want in a partner and yourself! However if it's still a big fear of yours to end up in a relationship that doesn't last then my biggest tip is be friends with them first and reaaally get to know them well and BE YOURSELF. Nothing holds better than a solid friendship before a relationship, just be sure that you aren't overlooking something about them because of love. That happens a lot! Remember you deserve to be treated well and the person you're with should deserve that too! If you have any questions I am open to try and help :)
@@Vitaflickan thank you
“did your first time hurt”? yes. i have vaginismus, every time i have penetrative sex, it hurts. i’m on the journey to curing my condition, but i wish there was more education on sexual dysfunction in women/ ppl with vaginas. if you have vaginismus or a similar condition (eg vulvodynia, endometriosis) know that you’re never alone. ❤️
i think i have vestibulodynia, so im scared lmao
I love the show Sex Education on Netflix. They talk about this condition in the show and before this I had never heard of it. I think more people experience this than is talked about because so many people don’t know there’s a name for it. Of course if you think you might experience this or a similar condition, do your own research and talk to a doctor if possible! But I love that the show is spreading general awareness.
@Coley cole no.
That makes more sense than what those girl said or have describe it. I am a girl and I was like wtf are they talking about lol pickle lid? Girl what 🤣
I think I have Vaginismus. It definitely sucks. I don't even want to have sex because of it.
I'm a guy and this sent chills down my back... Kudos to these gurls for opening up. Massive respect.
aw
You’re sweet
Most of them want to do it yk?
@JustSkum wife back door not allowed ect
@@DKMetcaIf wife back door not allowed ect
bruh i cried... I didn’t know this whole “coercion” thing was a thing. I was pressured by my ex to have sex, and for so long he would guilt trip me or get mad at me when I said no so eventually I said yes (YES i said no FREQUENTLY before finally admitting yes because I couldn’t take the mental war and verbal pressure he gave me anymore). Like, I knew something felt strange and wrong about the whole thing, but just couldn’t grasp my hand around the situation. I wish other people knew the signs and doesn’t have to go what me and the long brunette haired girl through.
I went through a similar thing, in the moment it's so confusing that you just say yes. Sending love 💕
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I feel you, it sucks especially when its someone you're with cause you trusted them.
It depends. If it's just persuasion that's not coercion. If there's threats/fear that's coercion. I say that because it's important to distinguish and not lump everything together.
Either way, it sounds like a really bad experience :( things don't have to be r@pe to be bad experiences.
@@Luxembourgish coercion isn't dependent on evoking a fearful reaction. You can be coerced by just the idea of being tired of them asking or just getting mentally worn down to the point that you just want to keep them happy for the time being so they don't get mad or upset with you. You have no right to tell someone that they didn't get coerced. Just because they said yes in the end doesn't mean they actually wanted to, and consent is literally based on the idea of WANTING to. So yes, she did get coerced, and no, coercion doesn't mean you have to be afraid of saying no. I got coerced into oral sex by a family member when we were both very young (elementary school age), and all it took was them saying "please" and pulling me into the bed, and I was way too young to even know the whole "no is no, it's okay to say no" rule because I guess nobody could've seen it coming, but if I'd known it at that age, I wouldn't have, and I would've told my parents. I wasn't afraid of that family member, not even in the slightest, but you cannot tell me that wasn't coercion just because I didn't get threatened or wasn't afraid. Oh, and persuasion is coercion if the other person doesn't want to do it but does anyway. Don't make the mistake of invalidating other people's rape/molestation experiences.
[ TIMESTAMPS ]
0:26 Did your first time hurt?
1:30 What does it feel like when a man penetrates you?
2:10 Do you ever worry your vagina doesn’t look normal?
2:30 If you’re on birth control, how does it affect your body?
3:15 SEX ON YOUR PERIOD?? HOW???!
4:03 Is it normal to masturbate?
4:20 Have you ever questioned your sexuality?
4:46 Have you ever had an orgasm?
5:25 Have you ever faked an orgasm?
5:46 Is it important to find a partner that can make you orgasm?
6:45 Do you feel like you mostly just accommodate men and what they want during sex?
7:10 TW! mentions of sa
What do you consider assault or rape?
8:39 What is something you wished you learned in Sex Ed?
My sister had a period for a month, and she cried when she searched that it could be cancer, but it was just because of hormonal imbalance.
Ok this is why I don't google my symptoms. I was itching all over my body one night I thought it was bed bugs or even worse, googled it and it said skin cancer andd turns out it was a skin allergy when I went to the dermatologist 😶
@@Tiffany-ov2jf That's the exact same thing that happened to me and when I put lotion on it burns
@@mosquito4440 it's ironic ur name is mosquito lol
@@mosquito4440 I prefer men because a vagina is so ugly.
@@juanpedro4083 Ok?
I wish there was more education on these types of topics and it was treated less like a 'taboo' and more like something natural and beautiful
I’m 21 and a virgin and honestly the thought of actually have sex scares me.
Same and I’m a guy idk why but it just does
If it is with the right person, it is one of the most beautiful experiences
Bro same
Many of my friends are like you, then i become the mom friend who explore it first then share my experiences in hope that they'd be less scared as time goes by.
Those of you who feel this way, have you considered you might be somewhere on the asexual spectrum? Totally fine if not and I'm not expecting an answer, I just thought this might be something worth pointing out in case people haven't thought about it. Some people just don't ever want to have sex and that is v much OK.
The guilt associated with sex, that it's a bad thing when we're young really messes up the experience.
I’m 14 and not tryna do anything (“it”) yet but my mom tells me not to do it and makes it sound horrible like it’s a bad thing.. I’m a teen who now gets, THOSE feelings but because with what I’ve been taught, I always feel guilty for having those feelings.. What do I do? Sorry if I just ranted but I was looking for a comment like yours.
@@sophiaa7721 It's not really my place to tell someone what to do but I guess be smart, try to keep yourself well informed and make your own decisions. Parents are human beings, they're not always right. Use your head and don't get affected by people's opinions.
As a guy I feel the same way. Sex feels wrong and immoral - and I know it’s natural but I just feel shame for such feelings for some reason.
I'm pretty sure its because its illegal. Most people think its better to just not do it rather than getting pregnant at 15
Not really related, but school doesn't teach crap. I thought that if you didn't take birth control everyday, you would've become pregnant automatically and it terrified me 😭
I’m pretty sure school teaches that lol
@@ziiiiiiii754 in my school, they just showed us it and did little to elaborate it. Just told us that it was used to prevent pregnancies and I thought you would get pregnant no matter what if you didn't take them
Depends on the birth control you have. I wasn’t taking it and the guy that I have been with for 5yrs now got me pregnant because he decided not to use a condom. The second time I got pregnant, I was taking my Sprintec birth control pills and I became extremely overly stressed for 4 months. My overly stressed out hormones overrode my birth control and I became pregnant. I knew I was pregnant because the moment I took my next two pills they didn’t taste right and made me feel sick.
@@hannahstahl1857 did you abort
Just google it lol
Sex messes up everything if you are not careful. Sex shouldn’t be a priority in a relationship. If the relationship is all about it, then it’s not a relationship anymore, it’s just a fwb thing.
Correct love and lust are different things.
Sex is everything in a marriage, what are you talking about? Just wait until marriage. Sex drive is a hunger that doesn't go away or change.
Relationships, hookups, friend with benefits things
@@amberslahlize7961 they're not talking about marriage i don't think
What the-- Sex is ak extremely important part of a relationship. If either partner is dissatisfied, the relationship will most definitely start going downhill.
I wanna say this for all the girls reading the comments, if you’re with a significant other or someone you’re very close with, and your pressured into doing something you didn’t want to, it’s assault. Don’t feel that since you’re close to them it’s okay, because it’s not. No matter if you just met the person, been dating for 4 years, or been best friends for 12. Consent is CONSENT!
But they chose this way and thus must have wanted it, didn't they? This applies to all actions.
@@weltlos What do you mean and thus must have wanted it? It doesn't matter if you are "with" someone or like them, if a person feels that they are pressured and don't want to go forward they DESERVE respect. It is NEVER okay to pressure someone into doing something they don't want to do.
the "she was asking for it" argument is NEVER okay under any circumstances if she didn't actually ask for it
@@files2653 Well, respect is a subjective thing and the idea of who deserves what as well. It may work for you, but not for everyone. So take that out of the equation. And I don't agree with you when you say that it is never okay to pressure someone. Take the typical example: there is a son whose mother is a heavy smoker and is going to die in the near future if she doesn't stop. The son asking her more than once to stop this etc. is absolutely okay in my view and it should be in other's as well.
@@weltlos They are very clearly talking about pressuring someone into sex or a sexual act. No one, absolutely NO ONE should be pressured into having sex or performing a sexual act - that is assault/rape/coercion. Everyone deserves to have their wishes - whether they want sex or not - respected. If you honestly believe that not everyone deserves to have respect regarding sex then please, please, do some research on consent.
After 24 years I finally gave it a chance with someone, I really wanted it, but it hurt so bad we could not go through with it til the end, I felt like some other things should have happened, and he made me feel so bad about the experience because he was not as careful, attentive and caring as I wanted someone to be. I feel so bad everytime I think about it and it will take me a lot to trust someone again due to my fear they will never prioritize my needs. 😓
Damm that sucks their some jackasses out but it ain't your fault tho
Even as someone who is a lesbian, everyone can get something out of this
same
@Hacker Jonathan that’s not rude dw 😅 and what do you mean? Physically or otherwise?
@Hacker Jonathan That's not rude at all. I find that I'm very sensitive so pretty much someone who can understand and comfort me when I'm down🙂
@Hacker Jonathan most lesbians don't actually care about what their partner looks like. some lesbians are more masculine so they look for feminine partners and vice versa but most of us just want someone we find attractive and have a "connection" (couldn't find a better word) with
Legit
I was raped... and my mother blamed me for it...
It sucks
But going to therapy and really learning to love myself has helped... some days aren't easy but who ever is going through turmoil you WILL make it..... everything will be okay.... I promise you...😚😚😚
im so so so sorry u went thru this. Especially with the added trauma of your mom. You're so strong and i hope you have a good day !
@@isabellovera5763 Aw I love you and thank you!!!❤
Do you agree with the people that say being raped is worse that death ?
I'm really sorry to hear that😭😭😭!! I was raped too but I didn't tell anyone- all you have to do is stay strong 💗💗💗
You make me wanna cry 😭 , I can't believe a mother could do that
Woahh the bald lady is *GORGEOUS*
Thank youuu!!!
@@ShewolfLauren👑 energy 💜🖤💜
@@ShewolfLauren omg you’re beautiful!!
@@ShewolfLauren I love your eyes and your confidence sis! Keep on rocking that 💜
Yess
This is how you tell if you are ready: if it's not a hell yes(without any doubt or persuasion) , it's a no. Pls consider it a no, and don't put yourself into sthg you will regret later.
I'm glad I'm not the only girl to do it everyday, thought something was wrong with me at one point
Lol no it's completely normal🤗
Same but I keep reminding myself that many women do it too and that it’s normal
Three times per day for me 😸
@@the.purplepeoplesowl Now that might be what people call addiction
You did that and thought all of the girls in the world no one could relate to you?
I would be interested in seeing more women in their 30s and 40s answer some of these questions.
As a 37 yr old married woman I honestly dont even like sex much. That could be because of my relationship or the fact that my libido has never been super high. Id rather just be given cake.
Omg yes
Idk hearing it from younger people makes it seem more normal for me but always hearing older or elderly women speak makes it feel weird for me sense it’s like my mom or aunt talking about sex and that’s just weird.
the lady with the shaved head... so wonderful, her straightforward personality is so lovely
STRAIGHT-forward hahaha, I’ll see myself out
Damn good thing you guys made this vid since this is such a taboo in our household and even not talked or learned about in our school. Thank you so much
Tbh I'm interested in this video. In my country sex ed is kinda limited and is basically self-taught. Yea, i can google and watch medical videos for sex ed but i have always loved jubilee insight
I recommend the ph. Very informative wink wink
@@randomstuffwednesday1877 that's fun, but definitely not informative.
You should check the channels "Come Curious" and "Hannah Witton"
This is new for me and very educative, never seen people so open talking about all this.
✅
the first girl who spoke about her first time having sex in the rape or assault question is 100% how it went down for me and its very shocking but comforting to realize how I feel is validated and that it was a form assault. I struggle with it from time to time and her speaking her experience made me feel better that I'm not crazy... so thank you
I'm sorry that happened to you
7:16 damn this question hit hard
also i believe that schools should teach about sex ed in a way that is not formal (like a regular classroom)
rather they should communicate with parents make things less weird
It's ok to save yourself for marriage.
Sure is
Sure, as long as that’s truly what each person wants and isn’t just because a religion indoctrinated them with that ideology.
SailingSeignior agreed. I wouldn’t use the word save tho
@@SailingSeignior there is always a religion hater lacking respect. If religion influenced you, so what? Being influenced by social media isnt better. Let adults make their choice, smh
@@VictoriousSage Well, of course I hate religion. It’s terrible. It supports slavery and rape. Terrorism and anti-scientific views. Homophobia and sexism. On and on. Why on Earth would anyone love religion? Social media has negative things but doesn’t even remotely compare to the horrors that religion has caused.