Virgins Answer Very Personal Questions | Sex Ed
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:28 How do you define virginity?
1:20 How badly do you want to have sex?
2:24 Why are you a virgin?
3:30 Have you ever had an orgasm?
4:19 Would you rather your first time be with a virgin or someone experienced?
4:56 Are you embarrassed about being a virgin?
6:28 Have you ever had the chance to lose your virginity, but chose not to?
7:35 Do you watch porn?
8:42 Are you afraid for your first time?
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This video is now available in Spanish!
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y por qué el comentario está en inglés? .-.
Детерминизм это Свобода 🤙 🤙
Oye yo se español
GRACIAS PARCE! Saludos desde Colombia, gracias por romper las barreras de idioma
People judge you when you're a virgin, they judge you if you are not a virgin. You can't keep everyone happy, so screw them.
Someone pin this comment.
Basically lol just do you!
Your choice of words is amusing.
Lmao the irony in this, but yes I totally agree
Welcome to the world
“I don’t want to unleash that on anyone that’s not my husband” 😂🙌
That's exactly how I feel about my future wife😂😂
That is a great concept until you find out that your husband has very different needs
@@martyna______6 like what?
@@sechabatheletsane9784 That woman sounded like she has high needs and not everyone's like that. There are people who want to do it once a week with the lights out and that's ok, but being mismatched in that area means someone's going to be unhappy.
@@martyna______6 ok and that can’t be solved??? You’re married not playing house you can solve issues you know
"Are you afraid of sex?"
Me: "No, I'm afraid of idiots."
Me being one gives me the fear
@@hamzamahmood9565 lmao nice
@@hamzamahmood9565 same lool
Haha same.
Same 😪😪
To the girl saying she wants satin sheets, candles, and rose petals: you deserve to be with someone who would go out of their way to give you that and make you feel comfortable. Don't settle for less.
You must be an amazing person.ty for saying this
But what does she bring to the table?
Ah i had that and it's amazing girl!!! Wait for it😍
@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw facts
😂
I feel like the reason why I am a virgin is because I have issues trusting anyone, so I'm not able to build a connection
I feel the same way. I was molested by someone who I really trusted, and was almost raped by a neighbor, all before the age of 13. I’m 23 now and am still learning not to blame myself for the things that happened to me, and trusting someone is so scary.
@@Meadow_lark97 nothing that happened to you is your fault
@@Meadow_lark97 it’s not your fault ,it really isn’t !!
but
hopefully you’ll learn to trust people ,take your time !❤️
Same 🙏
Same!
“I know I’m going to be a freak”
What a queen
Lmaoo she is
Exactly meeee
I related to her though. I'm already researching human anatomy plus adding a bunch of interesting looking toys to my 2025 Amazon cart xD
I love her
@@swisdom9117 calm down there bby
If you look up the definition of “chill” in the dictionary, you’ll find a photo of the dude with long blond hair.
First
@@LeeKiing ok?
Omg I’m really surprised that the Christian guy said he would like to pray the wedding night.I’m a Muslim and it is actually customary in my community to pray your wedding night with your partner before anything happens.It’s really wonderful to see this much resemblance in a world where we’re constantly fed with “the differences we have”.Love to all of you,take care
Yah for sure! As a Christian myself, I think a lot of us want a good prayer life (talking to God and putting Him first in everything that we do) and I think right before the wedding night when you and your partner become so very intimate, prayer is something that is just beautiful. Just remember that everybody has their own walk and relationship with God, so not everyone thinks the same :)
@@bryanyeung7389 I absolutely agree! May God be with us and guide us to peace ✌️
@@iremcecan702 As long as you don't feel guilty or ashamed of your body it is ok to bring god along. The problem is that religion sees sexuality as a way to reproduce, while sexuality is way more than that. I hope you don't miss out the real potential of sexuality because of your dogma...
Ben de adam dua edeceğini söylediğinde mutlu olmuştum nedense. Sanırım dediğin gibi bizde de var olan bir şey olduğundan ötürü.
@@chicagata I don't know as much about Islam, but in Christianity a healthy sex life between a married couple is actually celebrated within the bible. But as time has gone on, and ideas get skewed, people come to think of sex being shameful or something to hide, but in Christianity (again, the ideal was for it to be within marriage) sex is something to be enjoyed together regularly and not only to have children.
I’m a virgin as well. It’s more over a fear of losing it to someone who’ll end up doing me wrong 😕
Between this, and having a kid when I'm not ready (i.e. not in a stable position to provide for her and the kid) are the reasons why I still choose to abstain.
Sure, there are ways to prevent pregnancy, but none are 100% foolproof.
Absolutely! Make sure you’re comfortable and that’s all that matters :~)
For me, I am afraid of being naked in front of someone else.
Can totally relate to the fear
same here. I’m still very self-conscious about my body so I don’t want someone being disgusted by my body 😭
The fact that people shame people for being virgins is crazy, is this the world we truly live in???
Unfortunately it is
There is no virginity shaming in my country
Theres no something like that in my country
we need to gather a bunch of sex addict and start shaming them, Not to feel superior just to show them how awful it is to shame ppl for who they are
@@alexx6408 but people do shame people who have s*x. I believe we should just stop judging people for their sexual experiences (or lack of ig too).
I'm a virgin too, mainly because of pregnancy, body insecurities and not feeling pleasure. Also being sexually active takes a lot of responsability, which I'm gonna be honest I don't have, being a virgin allows me to live carefree about pregnancy scares, relationships and STDs.
Contraception Methods?
@@paulakristino they are not 100% better safe then sorry.
Omg that's exactly how I feel!!!
hahah same! I always saw relationships like a chore and the prospect of having sex as too much responsability as well... and then I realized I was just asexual
Fair points, more power to you
When people think virgins can't swear or they have a childish personality due to that makes me upset 🙄
yes!! and It has happened to me that they think that I am going to judge them or that I think I am a better person just for that, I mean wtf
It's because being pure is more than simple virginity, it also makes a person pure in other ways such as behavior. Children are innocent which is why a pure person seems childish.
@@getnorgetout9425 but the point is they’re not pure if they’re swearing - virgins can be impure in lots of different ways if they want to be
The guy in the nike sweater was just spittin facts
Love or hate him tho, he’s spitting’ straight *FACS.*
@Nemek gud job mate
@Nemek you da best
yeah
That’s my dawg
This comment section makes me feel comfy
SAME
Thats awesome!!! You should feel comfy!
why ?
Frl me too
I feel the opposite. I expected a lot of people to naturally downplay "virgin judgement". Instead everyone is going "it's alright for you to be a virgin at X years old".
Don't take me wrong, it's cool that people have that mentality, but I thought we'd be over it to the point where it wouldn't even be a worthwhile thing to comment, because everyone already knows
I feel like losing your virginity is hyped up WAY more than it really should be. You'll still be the same person before and after you have sex, it's not like you go through this huge life changing transformation. I think where a lot of people regret their first time is where they rush it just to get it done and over with because they're nervous or ashamed to still be virgins. Don't do that to yourself. You don't necessarily have to be head over heels in love for your first time (unless you want to which is fine), but definitely wait for someone you feel comfortable and confident with. Also, it's going to be awkward your first time, and that's ok, no one is an expert the first time they try something out. Be honest and upfront with your partner, and if they're not willing to provide what you want just walk away.
I don't think that the sole event of the 'first time' makes you grow but I do think coming into your own as a sexual being does.
That sound comfy,but what happen if was the only experience to have sex and never have another chance to sleep with other girl-woman?
Yeah idk why people make such a big deal out of someone being a virgin. Everyone can make their own choices, is it really that hard to respect that?
Ikr. People act like it's weird of you don't lose your V card by 16-18.
In Asia Typically in Philippines, when you loose your Virginity at a young age(14-17) you're considered as dirty, sinful, war freak, slutty, horny teenager, etc..
@@ELLIE-ci6et same in latin american culture. Christians families and everything.
@@ELLIE-ci6et war freak?
@@novavanguard1313 yeah, you'll get discriminated just by posting on social media that you're proud you're not a virgin anymore or just by talking about it...
In other countries it may seem "COOL" but in Asia Typically Philippines its the opposite...
i’m not scared of actually losing it, i’m more scared of doing it with someone who will take advantage of me or is judgmental or something.
edit: not a virgin anymore! it’s awesome
Same here
Same waahhhh
Woah same
Yea that's y I'm waiting till marriage. Not marrying a man who will judge my sexual abilities like r you nuts
Agree
After watching this I feel so much better about myself, turning 27 in a few months and still a virgin and never been in a relationship makes me feel so bad and worthless :(
That doesn’t make you worthless. Life isn’t a race. Be patient, work on yourself and become the person you want to be, everything else will fall into place. I’m 19 and I haven’t even had my first kiss yet, and I don’t intend to rush anything. Best wishes!
Take time when it comes to relationship. Because no matter what happens, somehow it would leave some prints on yourself. Especially nowadays with so many dating apps, which makes cheating easier, as easy as swipe left and right, it left me jaded and have trust issues. It just not worth it, all the time and emotional investment that I put into it. If I ever have a boyfriend "again", I would probably pay a woman just to test his loyalty early in the relationship. My coding and ebooks are often much more interesting....😆
Now dont do dare say that again.. U are not worthless.. I mean no one in this world are worthless.. Not having a boyfrnd or being virgin doesnt define who u are.. Keep thta in your mind.. Trust me, one day u are gonn a find that someone who is meant for u.. Sending lots of love to u ❤️❤️
Don't feel that way Toby. You are amazing just the way you are. Blessed is the woman who will finally get to be your wife. 👏👏👏👏
I really like how comfortable everyone is about being a virgin. It’s definitely something a lot of people get made fun of for, but this was a refreshing video to watch. We live in such a sexualized world where sex sells and it’s nice to see that sex isn’t everything. It’s okay to take your time to get to that point.
Can these people be my friend group? Everyone is so authentic and real.
You can find authentic people everywhere. I think I'm but you can verify that by being friends with me lol
That's what they want you to think.
IG: alwaysinmydreams4L if u want to talk
I have been summoned
@@dedalliance1 What? They are just sharing their experiences
i've never understood this fuss around virginity.it's an individual's personal choice whether to have sex or not. why does it matter to anyone else? you don't owe an explanation to anyone.
since some of you seem to be disagreeing with what i said, my point is that no one should be mocked for being a virgin or not being one.
Right also people treat it like it’s a must do. There’s more to life than that. I think teens rush into that experience before learning more about themselves.
Truee
I think there is something to be said about religious indoctrination which can have serious negative consequences related to virginity and glorification of sex and marriage
@@mayariley9977 am 14; ya I wish i could undo it! I lost mine last Christmas, wasn't fun
I think most of the time it's not a choice.
Wow, this comment section makes me a lot less anxious of being a virgin at 20. There is no shame in that, that's why I talk openly about it with me close friends
That man with the long hair seems so sweet, and his responses were so real and he wasn’t scared to share what he believes in ❤️
I love how confident the Christian guy is. He is so relaxed thinking about the possibility of becoming a 40 year old virgin...
it's creepy, how someone can be too different from the rest of the people.
@@javierxhr can you give more context on your message I would like to understand it more
@@javierxhr what do you mean by that
@@davidthegiantslayer5132 He thinks is ok being virgin at 30s, but most people don't, that makes him weird.
@@javierxhr you’re weird
Something about the orange haired girl’s orange eyebrows is so satisfying
Yeah
She is SO pretty!! I love her bubbly personality
It reminds me of those orange pop cycles with vanilla ice cream in the middle. Lol
Yeah...I think that's how hair is ...eyebrows always match hair
Am I the only one who thinks she looks like drew barrymore?
That girl made me feel so not alone. I’m also 22 and still haven’t even had my 1st kiss. It’s just hard to find someone genuine nowadays. I’m also scared to have strong feelings for someone haha
I’m in the same situation
Same here.
22 is young still. I had my first kiss when I was 32.
Same here. I don't even have friends, so how am I going to find someone romantically interested in me?
I'm a Christian so I believe in abstinence before marriage. But I don't WANT to have sex with anyone other than my future wife. Sex is a responsibility, and I don't want to do it with anyone I don't love. It's kinda scary to think about too because I won't know if I can satisfy my future wife in bed because I don't have experience but at the same time, I wouldn't want to marry someone someone who isn't a virgin ideally so I wouldn't expect them to be any good in bed either and I think that's something special too, figuring out how to love each other together from ground zero.
....Well of course if you are both virgins, you will both be a bit clueless. But since neither of you will know any better or different, you can experiment and grow together over the years. Maybe read The Joy of Sex first to give yourself and future spouse a little confidence.
I used to only want a virgin too, but it’s really rare these days. I guess it’s important to be with someone who respects you and values you. Someone who is patient with you.
@@Sona77. That's true but that experience she had is just going to change the ENTIRE dynamic of the relationship. It's not hard to find if you look within the church and know how to judge people
All these people in the comment section being confy being virgens makes me feel ok about almost hitting 30 and still having my v-card.
Hell yeah!
It is ok. You are perfectly normal.
honestly nobody should care, it doesn’t make you any less human!
I'm 24, virgin and it's absolutely fine to wait.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with that! I'm happy youre ok with it. ☺
the reason why i still virgin because i don't want to ruin that moment with wrong person
Amém
The good guys are usually the nice quiet ones and forget about looks. if you're a good girl, then he'll stay with you.
@@apecentury228 Nah, forget about the looks cause we cannot following the streotype. in my country there are some guys who became a sex predator on the internet and the most shocking part was "their image" which they looks like a nerd and known to be quiet and nice and it's scary af.
Yep and find out they just want to have sex and thats it. Girls can smash and dash also guys. I dont want a girl that's not relationship based like me
Thnx god im not alone
I'm almost 42 and have never been intimate with anyone. Because I'm older than the people in the video I felt a bit weird while watching it, but I can relate to the answers they gave.
I'm a bit younger than you (31) but still older than most of the people in the video and comments section. You're not alone!
@@taradreams3 same boat
I’m 33.
Not far behind you, turning 36 next month, and having read and heard many stories of people who wanted to share their stories, I for one don't know if I can trust I won't have the same negative experiences. Would rather not risk it.
I'm 17 :D
as a 30 year old woman who only recently lost her virginity, i definitely do relate to a lot of these people's experiences. i just hope if or when it happens to them, it happens on their terms and they feel good about it cause this stigma society puts on virgins definitely sucks and being one doesn't make them any less valid as adults. i was lucky enough to have a great first time, extremely enjoyable, and i'm really glad it happened when it did and especially with the right person cause i honestly couldn't have imagined something better. thank you for making a video about this topic that will hopefully help a lot of people
I was a virgin when I meet my husband, he was going to be my "Hit it & quit it" experiment. . But here we are 25 years later
Haha my bf of nearly 7 years and I started out as a ONS too. Still going strong together 💕
As a 25 y/o virgin I’m kind of afraid if that. I’m a very passionate-driven (but not emotion-driven) person as well, so I’m afraid my body will tell my brain that the first one is “The One,” simply because that person happened to be the first to give me the time of day.
That’s beautiful
idk whether thats nice to hear or questionable so get it ig?
@@spb3931 pretty sure it's not nice to hear. At least it worked out though
I'm 19 and im a virgin. never even kissed someone. ive always felt kinda bad about that even though i know i shouldn't. society really makes us feel ashamed for losing our virginity too early or too late. its nice to know that there's people even older than me who are still virgins because i felt like i was somehow wrong or "behind" for that? idk it's nice though :)
What? At least were I live, being a virgin at 19 is really common, actually it is the vast majority
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 agree! Losing your v-card in a young age in our country is highly discourage. Dang. What has society got in to.
19? you are still very young, Im 25 btw and still, and nothing wrong at 19
Don't worry all asians relate
The virginity thing I never really cared about cus I was like "it's religion" but I always felt ashamed for not having my first kiss and its always reassuring when someone hasn't had it either
The virgin chill dude is amazing. He's truly embranced it. Fuck it. If I die a virgin so be it. Couldn't care less
That orange haired girl looks like she'd be a great friend tbh
22 year old thinks it’s weird to be a virgin
24 year old virgin me: 😐
Just two 24 yr old virgins here 😐
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, and my best friend is 26 and hasn't even kissed a guy, so don't lose hope completely. It's not as big of a deal as people make it out to be. I'm the same person I was before I lost it, I didn't feel much difference honestly haha
@@forrmyheart cap
@@user-sb4tk9yh1n *moto moto, that's who*
Same here
I thought the answers for “why are you a virgin” were so interesting. I was expecting most of them to say religion but it was at most half. Real respect for the girl who said her parents were really young when they had her and didn’t want to repeat that. ❤️
❤️
Yesss! ❤️
There are many forms of birth control that are highly effective. Also there are condoms. If that is your exclusive issue then thats the solution
Finally someone who watched the same video as me.
@CPA Penguin because it doesn't work. We're not really wired to be abstinent and every 'abstinent-based' education system ends up resulting in high rates of unprotected sex. Look at teen pregnancy rates in highly religious areas of the US vs more secular ones. When given adequate contraceptive education and reproductive health services people make safer choices.
"Are you afraid of sex?"
Me: *remembers the saying "you attract what you fear"*
"Oh, nooooo, not sex, the products of a nightmare!!! Ahhhh, pls dont catch mee, ahhhhhh..........."
I lost my virginity at 30 to my wife, and I truly believe I have one of the happiest marriages ever. We were best friends before marriage when we dated for 3 years, and we're still best friends now.
We always talked about sex, but we decided that waiting for it till after marriage would be so much better. Honestly, it really was though.
I'm not saying people should do what I do, but still think my decision is one of the best I've made in my life.
You’re a great role model. Many men don’t respect women and waiting. Thank you for setting an example. 🙏🏻
it's beautiful that you can be happy with your choice without pushing the same type of choice on others :)
The Guy with Long hair is actually a chill guy. i want to be a friend with that person!
I thinks he is Jesus
Hes 29 but looks 49 he may pass for 59
@@huberts2957 😂😂😂
Honestly same! I feel like he'd be a really cool guy to hang out with
@@natevanslyke990 not sure.being a virgun at the age is not normal
I'm a 26 year old virgin, and I'm not ashamed of it. I don't go announcing it but if asked, I have no shame admitting it. Watching this video, a lot of these individuals seem to have some religious reason for staying a virgin (not all). From someone who did not grow in a religious household, I chose to stay a virgin because I don't think I should rush into having sex just because we live in a culture that focuses way too much on sex (pointing at dramas/movies targeted towards teens and young adults). Plus, I may be the weird one as I much rather know someone emotionally and deeply than having sex.
EDIT: For those saying I announced it, I thought it was clear that I meant this towards when I am meeting people in my own personal life (IRL) and not using an online nickname posting on a UA-cam video. And if that wasn't clear, well this edit is to clear that up.
It is not weird. Im 21and a virgin. I didnt even have any relationship. For me the most important thing is loving someone's character and having a strong bond with them. Sex is least important thing for me.
@@bd-ps1gn I had one relationship when I was like 21-22, never had sex with that person because we both didn't find that as important as us getting to know each other. We broke up a few years ago, and I don't regret a thing about it.
Very well said
I was a virgin until 26. Glad you're taking your time and waiting until you're ready!
How is that weird ?
Love watching these type of videos and reading the comments.
I’ve waited for 19 years and have been with the same man for seven years now. It’s so worth it and I recommend waiting for the right person all the way.
Patience is key. 💗
I think people just need to back off and stop shaming people for their virginity or lack thereof.
When UA-cam teaches you more than school, but according to adults, your phone is the reason you don’t know anything
Facts
I think you're still stuck in pre 2010, a big part of the adults nowadays know how useful the internet can be for learning
@@jinjunliu2401 in 2010 I was three or four years old, so no, im not stuck in 2010. As a 2020 teenager, adults are always talking about how the internet isn’t doing anything good for us, and that it only soils our young minds, which I don’t completely disagree with. But I sit in a building for 7 hours barely learning then go home and spend 2 hours on my phone to actually learn things I’m actually engaged in and want to learn. This is my generation, I think I’d know what adults tell us lol.
@@notky848 I'm a teenager as well, but have different experiences regarding adults. The group of adults that I thought of was 20-40 (50ish) as they have spend a lot of their time on the internet as well and actually learn a lot on it too.
My high school teachers have always been pretty positive about the internet, even using youtube (kurzgesagt for example) sometimes during class. They also know how much educational content there is and has been accessed to prepare for exams. And my current professors have even told us that wikipedia is a good place to start peak your maths interests. So they are definitely aware of the learning opportunities on the internet.
And besides, most of the actually educational youtubers are in that age range. The only adults I would think don't fit this image I have would be my parents, who do see internet more negatively (well... used to, not as much anymore), but as they come from a different background where internet wasn't that prevalent, they had never have to use it as we do.
Right??? 🙄🤦🏻♀️
I just don't want to be someone's momentarily experience.
This.
All experiences are momentary.
Why do it and give away your purity for someone you'll never see again?
Fair. I hope you meet someone that is interested in more than a momentary experience with you.
Exactly, thats why I prefer sex after marriage. Cuz even if like u lost it and if the first time is bad, at least I lost it to someone that'd have higher chances to stay with me longer, than losing it to my for eg bf who can just break up with me after the sex itself yk..
I never thought of virginity as a sacred thing, I just feel like I don’t want to feed into it so easily like most people do because I feel like I’m the most vulnerable then, and I refuse for people to see me in that state. I have a lot of trust issues and that just builds up to it to, I don’t trust people to let me see me vulnerable like that, it makes me feel weak.
As per my experience, most people are not mean in bed. I think we should have more trust in others... even if things don't work as wished, most people tend to be nice in such a situation. Obviously you have to choose and not expose yourself in a context where there is no respect or appreciation towards the other. ;) Good luck
@@chicagata The most of people are totaly jerks who only bully and use others. I have no reason to think it would be any different in bed.
This video honestly helped me feel better about some of my own insecurities about being a virgin. I only just started my first year of college, but I felt like I was behind everyone else, especially since I've only been on one date and never had a boyfriend. You can't look at someone and know they are a virgin too, so you can't gauge how "apart" or "behind" you are from a group of people. The question about are you afraid of your first time is interesting, it's not really a yes or no answer. I'm not afraid of it, but I'm afraid of the pain, of not feeling pleasure, of not proper protection, and most of all if it's not consensual. Because sadly enough, that's something I, and many people, have to be scared of in this day and age.
Don’t be insecure bro. Whenever if comes it comes
I’m 25 never had sex never been on a date or even been kissed. Glad to know I’m not alone. It hasn’t happened for me just cuz it hasn’t happened yet 🤷🏻♀️ no religion anything involved lol
I'm 26 and a virgin. It hasn't happened cause I'm keeping myself for after marriage. I don't mind being a virgin lol
Turning 25 this year and same. Im way to awkward and like being by myself too much 🤦♀️
I'm in the same boat but I'm 19
That was me. First date, first kiss did not happen until 28.
Ye hon, I'm also 25 and the closest to contact was friendly hugs
I didn’t kiss anyone until I was 22. I could’ve gave him my “V-card” that night, but I chose not to. I thought being a virgin was embarrassing for years, but now I realize that it’s nothing to be embarrassed about! I’m 23 now, and I’m still a Virgin. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen. I’m not stressing about it, and you shouldn’t either! 😘
Dont stress.. i first had sex when I was 23...i waited till I was ready. And it was with a good friend. Who treated me nice. Too be honest. The first time it was mostly mechanical...i was just trying to get the basic part down lol. But i always remember the first time I made love with someone I really loved. So wait until YOU know you are ready.
I'm turning 23 in a few weeks and I'm having a really bad existential crisis I guess 2020 has us all feeling like that lol. I just keep thinking about all the things I missed out since I turned 20 and being a virgin is one of them since I have had many guy who were interested but I never trusted any of them. So hearing that there are other 23 year olds who are still virgins is really comforting.
@@svenskaela1234561 23 year old virgin here too, you aren’t alone and have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about! I understand what you mean about “missing” out especially since this pandemic.
Well I’m 27 I’m still a virgin
Im going on 23 too 😴 this year , I have also had the chance but instantly dip afterwards , I feel like im just not ready but also the insecurity part . How do you guys deal with not feeling bad and feeling pressured by others about sex ??
I love this video. I’m not a virgin but I can definitely say that it’s worth only sharing that experience with someone special, even if you have to wait a long time. Because in the end, being with someone who loves and respects you is the most important thing and if that person is you then so be it.
I respect to all these people here. Talking about something not approved by the society on a public platform needs so much courage. I would not be able to breakdown about my sexuality in any case, so thanks for informing us with your experiences.
The guy who was really dedicated to his religion and faith was so cute. I'm usually very cynical towards religion but he was so wholesome about it and showed his passion and joy for it. I love how much he loves his faith
He was sooo nice!
He was super dope. All of the people here are awesome actually
Thanks for the love Anna ☺️
As a Christian I need that man like that ❤️
Wait which one?
yeah i wanna be friends with the girl with orange hair she’s cool
Same omg
I was thinking the same omg
Yes 😁
they’re my sibling’s best friend’s older sibling! i actually went to school with them and yes, they’re extremely cool
me too
Guy with the long hair, very encouraging to know there’s still some of y’all out there🙌🏻 keep running the race
Being a virgin feels like such an isolating experience, so it’s cool seeing that there are literally so MANY of us out there. Sex should never feel like pressure, even once you enter adulthood. This year I’ve grown comfortable just being myself. I can only hope that because I’m an adult now, I have more emotional intelligence to deal with something as serious as sex when it happens. Either way, I’m chillin!
This is so wholesome and a much needed discussion in American society.
man stfu america not the only place in the world. how r u gonna exclude the majority of the world
ma He's not excluding anyone, he is just pointing out that it's important to talk about this in American society. Some discussions are more needed in some places then others. I think they were referring to how in American pop culture there seems to be a lot of stigma around being a virgin
@@nelsatiemtore6356 there’s discrimination about that in every white country unless there’s religion involved
Not The Angry Americans Being Told Their Country Isn't All Sunshine And Rainbows
@@Chris-ot9bk no i’m from new zealand. it’s the americans who think they r the only landmass in the world
21 year old virgin here, never kissed nobody before or anything. But I’m striving to be a productive member of society and that’s my only focus right now.
I'm virgin too except the kissing part 😅😂I am kind of anxious about that since I want to have kids once I'm older 😅😅
I haven't kissed anyone as well!
👏🏽
31 years old virgin here, what you posted is completely me. Growing up we were like upper I think lower to lower middle class. So right when I got out of high school I put relationships and everything of that nature on the back burner. Not to say I havent and dont still get crazy every now an again 😉😁. Let's just say I have shared my fare moment of once being crazy drunk, dumped on the side of the road by a uber driver who picked up the wrong group of ppl. Unsure why we got out the uber completely lost in Miami at 4am trying to help my sister fan her hubby who thought he was dying, cussing at the long gone uber driver. Watching a crazy lady twerking in the middle of the street for the lord as she put it 🤣🤣😂😂😂 Anyways I jumped head first into making a comfortable and stead life for myself 😊. The why I seen it and still do see is, if there is someone met for me they'll find me 😊
You sound extremely familiar. Do I know you😂
29 year old virgin here. I'm not religious but just don't wanna risk emotional and physical vulnerability for mere pleasure and want to build the level of comfort and trust with a partner first.
Have you thought about the fact that you might be demisexual? Being demi means you can't experience physical attraction/lust until you form an emotional bond with someone.
Really nice to hear them being so honest, I have a lot of respect for them and appreciate their being able to to tell the truth!
Why does this society think being virgin is a crime seriously??
It the world we live in nowadays.
You wonder why? Because "misery loves company".
@@piotr004 Nope Hollywood is the main reason why.
They fear innocence, because they have moved so far from it
and in my city, an Asian one, being a non-virgin is a crime and I have seen male online stating their standards and it is to be a virgin :)
“Virgins can’t keep eye contact or carry a conversation”
I can’t either...and I’m not a virgin, I’m just just anxious and gay lol
Lmaaaooooo
Lmfao ... Queen 💅
lmao, thanks for sharing :)
Lmao
@Ace Carter 😑
these videos really make me feel better about myself. but its still tough putting myself out there because it feels like everyone at my age has already lost it even though im only 19. i keep telling myself that I dont care about losing it and it will happen when it happens but deep down im still bothered by it. so yea watching these types of videos makes me feel like I can relate, makes me feel better about myself
I'm 25 and virgin. In fact i havent even had a relationship before. But everyone is in their own phase in life, dont let other people define you or make you become what your not
V-Card Gang x2
Here but I'm 13
highkey surprised you arent in this video too haha
Bruh
🐐
24 year old
I’m a 19 year old, and I feel like the only part I’m really embarrassed about is that I haven’t had a first kiss.
Me neither, I’m 22
Me too and I’m 21
Honestly I’d prefer if I hadn’t. Instead I’ve had over a decade of knowing the only guy I’ve ever kissed is a guy I never should have dated
God I just turned 17 and I’m on the same boat. I feel like I have fallen behind in a way even tho I’m still so young, it’s crazy.
@@riz7855 Yeah...and now it’s 2021, so I’ll be 20 this summer. And I guarantee it still wouldn’t have happened for me by then. Haha.
It was nice to hear various stories.They are cool to tell their honest stories.
I have a lot of respect for these people. I remember being a virgin and feeling terrified when questioned about it. This made me rush into something with someone I barely knew, which was awful. They're brave for being comfortable with who they are and not being swayed by group think. Great video Jubilee!
I’m glad I’m not the only one who is afraid for my first time.
Honestly the majority of people have been and are, my first time was frightening, both me and my gf (now ex) were virgins, and neither of us had any idea. My tip to help you is to just ask your partner what they like and what they don't, there's no set rulebook, we are all different.
Good luck!
It's probably gonna suck all things considered
I'm sooooo scared bc I'm a girl so ik itll hurt
@@channelchannelchannelyourself same! omg
What helps me be less scared when i think about is reminding myself that it's supposed to be FUN, that's why you do it, so it doesn't make sense to be worried or think too much about every detail
What I dislike is. When people hold their virginity for any other reason besides religion everybody supports it. But if they hold it for religion. People mock and hate it. Doesnt make sense. When a lot of secular reasons match up with religious reasons lol. People hate other peoples religious beliefs so much it’s ridiculous
This!!!!!!
To clarify: they’re mocking man made superstitions.
There’s reality out there, & it’s valid.
@@sunshine3914 no y’all are just superficial and refuse to see the deeper in things. Y’all rely on the 5 senses that repeatedly fails you everyday 😂your idea of a God is very limited and unintelligent and that’s why you mock because you don’t know how to understand. But I wouldn’t expect to when you worship and rely on only your eyes, taste, smell, touch and not your consciousness and spirit. You ever noticed when a child grows without his/her parents. No matter how successful they grow up to be. They will always be missing something inside. Because humans have a deeper longing to connect the source that brought us into this realm of life. Humans are meant to connect with the higher source that brought forth life. And that’s what religious people do. Seek their humanly source so they feel complete. Like an orphan looking for its parents. And you mock them for that. It’s sad. People who go throughout their life content on only the superficial and refuse to attempt to connect with the source of life are missing something and it’s even sadder most of y’all refuse to realize y’all are missing it.
@brittany that’s what I was thinking!! 👏🏼
@@sunshine3914Religion isn't all superstitions, some have been proven by science
I've just noticed a lot of people who are virgins "just because it never happened", not necessarily because they're scared or other more specific reasons, tend to be the most awesome people to hang out with. Is it true for anyone else?
Some people seriously are 'just because it never happened' I was like that until nearly 20, did I want to lose it earlier? hell yeah, but did I get any chances?.... well I got 2 chances and one of those times I said no.
The first time I was 18, this girl at a party was interested in me, she was pretty too, I had to go with my mate to drop off this younger kid home because she didn't want to walk by herself and it was dark...fair enough, so we dropped her home and went back to the party. The girl that was interested in me was hammered and was trying to get into my pants, I said "no fuckin' way.....I'm not doing it with someone that is hammered" She then asked one of my friends and he said no too, she was disappointed......I saw her at a party down the track and she brought up the previous party and seemed embarrassed but we had a laugh about it. She was with someone by that stage so nothing panned out there.
The next time was probably a year later, I had a girlfriend and whenever she came over I'd ask her sometimes (if no one was home) if she wanted to have sex and she said she wasn't ready......But this day she came over and I asked her and she said yes, in my mind I was jumping around dancing and having a party lol.....I told my brother to get out of the house and gave him the eyes.....he understood what I meant and made up an excuse, had the quickest shower I think he ever had and left.....It was just me and the misso.....so we went to the bedroom, both virgins mind you......nervous as hell, especially me lol. We made out and things escalated, I put my hand downstairs and started going to town on her with just my hand, she went wild, after a few minutes she came......she had a very strong odour, when she came it was the worst......I ran to the toilet and vomited from it.......I came back and she was dressing up.......I wanted to keep going even though it was bad.......So I was still a virgin......
End of that same year I had a house party and got a little drunk, but not too bad since it was my parents house and had to look after it Parents were away for the week.....I was to sleep in my parents bed so my friends could sleep in mine. I was getting tired....I went to my parents room to sleep, this chick was sitting on the bed and I'm like "ah what's going on? why are you on my parents bed?" she said "because I'm sleeping here" I'm like.....so confused....I was like, well I'm sleeping here, this is my parents bed.....so up to you if you want to join me or not. She did. She wanted to spoon in fact, so I thought I might have a chance here, I asked if I could feel around and she was all for it, one thing led to another and yeah, we went at it for a while. great time, I didn't finish, but it was really enjoyable.
@@SilentHotdog28 I read through the whole comment, and, don't take me wrong, it ended up being a pretty enjoyable read!
But it doesn't really address what I said. Maybe you misinterpreted what I said? I didn't say such virgins don't exist, in fact, I'd say I'm one of them, and I truly never had a scenario where I was like "this might lead to sex". I don't feel particularly bad that I've never had sex either, I don't even see it as something that makes me in any way less happy, I think I just don't easily sexualize people (and it's only natural that you do, I'd say you have an healthy balance of "being horny" and "being respectful"). It felt like you were trying to convince me that there really are virgins like that, when that wasn't in question!
I would say that's a pretty solid observation! I think having that simplicity makes an individual a much more practical and calm person.
its if u are ugly or not simple as that
@@slaymanderolli6336 your comment made no sense. Are you saying that it's ugly people who are virgins?
I am asexual currently and sex scares me a lot. There is a chance that my thoughts might change later but right now, the idea of being virgin for the rest of my life is okay with me.
Honestly not many are comfortable with talking about such sensitive topics so I really respect all of them for doing this and providing us with such content
You will be confident one day, confidence is just knowing you'll be okay no matter the outcome. This lets you express who you are on points that matter to you without fearing over what others think because you validate yourself, not others, never give that power to anyone.
We're all in this together, others are only there to support and share in on the experience.
@@Eddi3Pwns
I totally agree, confidence is the most beautiful thing someone can possess and as you said it comes from not fearing to be wrong no matter the outcome. Thank you for taking your time and writing your advice, I found it very helpful and insightful!
Much love
I’m 21 and I’m still a virgin, never had a boyfriend because nobody matches my expectations and I would like to do it with only the love of my life, not for religious reason. But men like that doesn’t seem to exist :(
yeah take your time. you got a whole lifetime to find the right one.
man that matches your expectations does exists.....hope you find him soon👍......by the way man with exact same thinking like yours does exist though you havent seen but they do exist☺️
@@divyanshudevil4539 i don’t think I’ll find him soon lol😂 but I hope he exists 🤞😅
We definitely do exist, but there are very few guys like me and girls like you. I'm the same in that I wanna wait until I fall in love with a girl. But so many more people would rather have sex before falling in love. Which is of course absolutely fine, but just sucks for people like us ;_;
Expectarions are overrated
The fact that society makes it so it’s “weird” to not have sex is ridiculous and harmful. Sex can have major consequences.. for one, and two it’s the person body, it’s there choice and sex is not a NEED.
I’m terrified of it
Yea
Please, make more videos with the same questions, so there is an even wider range of answers (questions for men, questions for women, for virgins, etc.). They are so interesting, educational. Thank you!
the older I get the less I care about people knowing I'm a virgin. If someone gets weirded out by that they're not the right one for me anyway. I've really come to embrace it instead of being embarrassed about it because I respect everyone's choice with this and don't judge anyone and I just expect the same from people. If they can't respect me and my personal choices I don't need them in my life.
Not related but, Chungha looks amazing in that pic
Good for you, awesome mindset
I want a woman with the ultimate self control like I have because i havent been inside of a woman since I came out of my mom' from birth
@@12Messenger It doesn't take "self control" to stay a virgin as a dude. Nice coping strategy though.
@@v.v.9.9. aw haha yes she does
*When you're so early that there's no juicy comments*
*then you come back later to see all of the interesting comments*
@@forrmyheart *y e s*
Stay pure
I'm so sorry for being annoying but *you're 😔
shout out to your name :)
I’m proud of everyone in this video. They really can help a lot of people who are virgins from how they think of it and how they deal with it. Virginity is a beautiful thing and it’s not something to just give away. So proud of them for they way they decide to cherish it and let it happen when it’s supposed to.
9:52 "I actually want to pray.. I'll think it will be a beautiful thing."
I couldn't agree no more
Being a virgin doesn't matter in my view. Same with your religion, sexuality, gender and race. As long as we are all good, respectful people, our society will prosper and our world will be a better place.
Agreed
U are a random guy, and a good one, lov u 💜💖🌱✨
🙌🏾 Yeeessss!
Actually it's because Christianity says your body is a temple and you shouldn't have sex with anyone but your husband or wife
@@kaeyana8541 I meant that whether or not you're a virgin shouldn't matter. It's totally fine if one desires to stay abstinent till marriage.
I'm scared of the awkwardness but the thing is it's only gonna get more awkward the older I get 💀
just accept it and power through. You have an objective, complete it
@@triplemoyagames4195 well there's also the issue of even meeting someone I find at least a little attractive
@@5coldplayhurtsfan You don't know any attractive people?
@@triplemoyagames4195 no I live in the countryside :(
@@5coldplayhurtsfan damn. Surely there are some attractive people :( I thought the country got attractive people bruh. Wait male or female?
I love this series, so I hope it doesn't stop.
In my case It’s just hard to find a right person who can make me feel confident and comfortable
Same, couldnt agree more
I found it just aggravating that people pick on virgins for being a virgin without knowing WHY. There are reasons..stop judging it you don’t know the story
even if there is no reason they shouldnt be judged
On top of that, it’s none of their business, not even remotely
@@bilbloblep6769 10000% agree
@@arthurfleck629 that part too‼️‼️‼️
yep agree 100 percent, ive been mocked in the past for it but no one has asked me why they assume im a loser, if they did they would realize i find no enjoyment in the thought of rolling around with someone in bed never really something ive looked for or wanted not important to me unless im trying to have kids with someone which im not. i rather spend my time and energy going to concerts, traveling, taking my mountain bike and getting lost in the woods because i actually get enjoyment out of that
28 yo virgin. I really want to do it with someone i truly love and when people say "just go in the club or something and lose it already" i feel really bad. Sometimes they say things like "you will end up alone just because you expect too much and searching for too long" just to make me feel bad and lonely, when i actually didn't even ask for their opinion.
It came to the point when my virginity is a big part of my depression and the fear of being too close to people.
Be happy, never be ashamed and wait for the right person, even if you're 30 + its precious! God bless you
You're doing great! you don't need to expierence it with lots of people, you only need tha one special person who you can share true love with :)
Greetings
It’s okay to wait for the right person! I feel like love makes sex something special, and there is no shame in wanting to find the right person to share that experience with. Just do what you are comfortable with when you are comfortable doing it :) Don’t feel pressured to lose your virginity before you are ready. It is your body :) I’m sorry you are struggling with depression. Try to stay strong, there is someone for everyone.
Wow, I don´t have depression but low self-esteem and I know it´s is difficult to feel your virginity is a burden on your shoulders. it is difficult to come to terms with it but it is okay to be a virgin. I have thought about doing it in the first opportunity I get because I didn´t want to be ashamed of being a virgin, but I think what I fear the most is that the person I do it with won´t be worth it and will end up hurting me, so it doesn´t matter what other people say anymore, I won´t do it with some I cannot trust in. I think you should feel proud of yourself for being strong to be firm in this despite other people´s pressure. Many people fell prey to their words and end up regretting those decisions, so I think it is better to follow your heart, your reason, and your instincts. When you find the right person you´ll know when it is the right time to do it.
Well think about it. If your virginity is a big part of your depression then go out there and have sex! You’re only doing harm to yourself, it’s in human nature to feel horny.
Wow I was really expecting this video to be longer
" Why are you still a virgin?"
Me: " I'm ugly."😢😢😢
😂same
😂
I think it’s because it’s hard to trust anyone to be that close
Well there is someone for everyone in this world.......If all else fails then beer googles work!
aww thats not true, don't listen to the bullies
The world is eerily obsessed with people who've never had sex. Find a better hobby.
Says the girl who just watched the video. 🥴
@@themissingtile2828 Prove that I did.
@@collarmole1819 Believe me, you did.
@@themissingtile2828 I didn't.
@@collarmole1819 then why did you comment? In order for you to make a comment like you did, you had to have watched the video.
I preferred to stay virgin because my partner insisted on doing it without protection. I thought it was really insensitive of him to just think about the pleasure and ignore the protection part. I broke up with him
You did well, you would have wasted your time with an inconsiderate person 👍👍
@@MiamEggTart I could have been pregnant and then deserted by him and my family
@z yes. I thank the Heavens for that :)
Good for you!
Got pregnant from a guy like that and he did just abandon us, so yeah, doged a bullet.
It was such a nice talk/conversation!I enjoyed it
I’m about to turn 20 in a week and this comment section makes me feel comfy about not having lost it yet, like I’m not ashamed at all but it’s always nice seeing you’re not alone
obsessed with the person with the orange hair their energy seems rad
OK
Dude SAME. I wanna be their friend!!!
@@MorganinJapan I am their friend! They're even cooler than they seem in the video
@@hadassahsommer5834 you're so lucky to have such a cool person as a friend! I bet you're equally as cool too
@@random_d00d I am super lucky
I have vaginismus, a condition that makes sex nearly impossible atm. Oh, and I'm married :)) I'd love to see this type of thing talked about more. I'm only a virgin by choice because it's physically painful. I'm currently in therapy, and slowly making progress, but this isn't talked about enough. At first it was religious for me to abstain, until I tried with my now husband and had many failed attempts. If you're going through the same, know you're not alone!
Thank you for sharing this information with us. I'd like to ask some questions based on what you've said and I'd appreciate if you would answer them, thank you, but I will understand if you don't feel comfortable doing so❤️. How long have you and your husband been married? How does this affect your intimacy, if it does? What are your alternatives?
i wish you good luck on your way!
@kendall walker Thank you for sharing your story, I hope that you and your husband can eventually overcome your condition. I know it’s hard to deal with sometimes, I had vaginismus too. I couldn’t use tampons and I was too anxious to fathom the idea of anything going up there. Luckily I went through the vaginal dilator therapy, and successfully got up to my largest dilator. It took me months to overcome vaginismus, and it was a very lonely journey.
I have it too and I know that you can treat it with dilators but I always think "Why should I do something thats painful?!"
@Aaron Reveles psychological frigidity made physical.
I loved this episode. I can relate on many levels.
It is always interesting to see various topics and people's thoughts through Jubilee. Thank you.
I feel like my social anxiety is the reason I'm gonna stay a virgin cause I'm too scared to form such a close bond with someone
Omg u read my mind
Oh I feel you
But ✨therapy✨ really helps to beat social anxiety
@@domii6400 you're right and I've been wanting to go for the past few years but my parents aren't happy about it/keen on letting me go. I went for 3 sessions and it was so helpful and freeing but than it just stopped and I've been too scared to ask to go again.
@@hach7836 parents support is so important
When I started talking with parents about my anxiety I showed them short video in which young girl shows some situations and talk how she feels
It was easier for me 'cause talking about feelings wasn't common in my home
They also read a lot of books and articles and they say that now they more understand social anxiety
Maybe going with your parents to therapist helps?
Anyways, stay safe,I wish you the best❤️
@@domii6400I will try this out
thank you ❤️
My reason: I'm an awkward germaphobic minor that refuses to make eye contact with anyone who could potentially have an interest in me.
aye nice pfp 👀
Yo you don't need anybody your profile picture tells me that you have Some good taste sis we can just read yaoi for the rest of our lives😏
sis u got the whole replies filled with someone SpeCIaL lOL i see you ;)
Kissing is basically sharing saliva with each other, and saliva is filled with germs, im not risking having a flu to makeout with people
Relatable, I was similar until I turned 18! Now I am an awkward adult.😏
The topic is interesting. And I always admire the talker on this series, because of the honest and oepn answer.
I love that we can normalise these conversations. I've always felt like the outsider to choose to wait. But here, I feel welcome. Thanks for this!