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My mom told me many of my cousins dont have kids. One of my uncles put pressure on all family members who dont have kids, majority of them replied he should mind his own business including me 😂
My mum was the hardest, every single line growing up; you’ll meet the right person (I still haven’t at 42 :(), you’ll change your mind, it’s different when it’s your own etc. Coupled with telling me how awful and terrifying her births were and how difficult I was as a baby because I never slept and was quite ill while my older brother had been ‘perfect’. She’d sometimes cry because she was missing out on grandkids and most of her friends had them so she felt isolated. My dad wanted grandkids too but he wasn’t as nagging about it. I have felt guilty over it but that’s not a good enough reason to have kids. They’ve both accepted it now and actually my mum says she is glad I haven’t had any as society is getting worse and it’s so much harder to get anywhere. They are more worried about who will be there for me when they’re gone and tbh I don’t know that I will survive losing them as we’re very close. I have struggled with depression for a large part of my life (one of my biggest reasons for being childfree) but I’m in a pretty good place now although I am absolutely terrified of peri/menopause ruining everything for me again. My aunt called me a freak for not wanting kids but all my friends have been fine. Boyfriend’s have wasted my time thinking I’d change my mind unfortunately, I wish I had found someone to love and who I was fully compatible with. My brother is also childfree.
I have heard many people say in comment sections, "don't have kids if you don't want to but why do you have to make a whole channel about it?" They also say that they have never seen people without kids being judged. My thing is, they have never encountered this issue because they have kids and are doing what society expects. Also, they probably have never interacted with someone who has chosen not to have kids. So, I feel like there's a disconnect there, and they are not able to understand the level of judgement we get as CF people.
I have an advantage because every family member I tell am child free think that am joking and I will change my mind later, that's how I get off the hook from my conservative African family.
A guy I dated at one time recently asked my parents if I had any kids (they were at a funeral and he's a director at that funeral home)..they just said no, as far as I know. I don't know if anyone else has ever asked them. My parents are pretty cool and never once asked if I was planning on having kids. My younger brother has three so they do have grandkids and I get to be the cool aunt. :)
My friend has two daughters...they advised her they didn't want to be mothers and weren't having kids...my friend didn't make an issue but she secretly hoped they would change their minds as she wanted to be a grandmother but now her daughters are too old and my friend has sadly accepted it...she has no other children
Most of my family members already know im childfree, but my mother doesn't seem to believe me. I am in a long term realtionship and she always thinking about me getting pregnant on "accident". She really wants grandchildren and brother loves children. She will be fine.
I think this is an amazing channel, but breeders were never understand the mind of child free people. Yet, because my sister still never understand the fact that I had a cauterized vasectomy when I was 23 years old on June 6, 2014 it’s almost been 10 years and she keeps complaining about money to get it reversed because she’s fertile and only has one son. There’s so many children in this world that she can adopt, but she has a problem with me being child free. A lot of breeders are jealous and call her selfish, but they’re just jealous because they didn’t have the determination to say no or should not let people influence their decision to breed you did it to yourself breeders. 😂
It all goes back to the idea of choice, which is what we advocate for on this channel. We should each have the freedom to pursue what brings us joy and fulfillment. Some people struggle with embracing that concept.
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Did your family have a positive or negative reaction to your childfree decision? 🤔
Join our AMAZING Membership Community! www.thechildfreeconnection.com/
My mom told me many of my cousins dont have kids. One of my uncles put pressure on all family members who dont have kids, majority of them replied he should mind his own business including me 😂
My mum was the hardest, every single line growing up; you’ll meet the right person (I still haven’t at 42 :(), you’ll change your mind, it’s different when it’s your own etc. Coupled with telling me how awful and terrifying her births were and how difficult I was as a baby because I never slept and was quite ill while my older brother had been ‘perfect’. She’d sometimes cry because she was missing out on grandkids and most of her friends had them so she felt isolated. My dad wanted grandkids too but he wasn’t as nagging about it. I have felt guilty over it but that’s not a good enough reason to have kids. They’ve both accepted it now and actually my mum says she is glad I haven’t had any as society is getting worse and it’s so much harder to get anywhere. They are more worried about who will be there for me when they’re gone and tbh I don’t know that I will survive losing them as we’re very close. I have struggled with depression for a large part of my life (one of my biggest reasons for being childfree) but I’m in a pretty good place now although I am absolutely terrified of peri/menopause ruining everything for me again. My aunt called me a freak for not wanting kids but all my friends have been fine. Boyfriend’s have wasted my time thinking I’d change my mind unfortunately, I wish I had found someone to love and who I was fully compatible with. My brother is also childfree.
I have heard many people say in comment sections, "don't have kids if you don't want to but why do you have to make a whole channel about it?" They also say that they have never seen people without kids being judged. My thing is, they have never encountered this issue because they have kids and are doing what society expects. Also, they probably have never interacted with someone who has chosen not to have kids. So, I feel like there's a disconnect there, and they are not able to understand the level of judgement we get as CF people.
Agreed. In order to understand the experience there is a level of empathy that is required.
I am single/unmarried and childfree. Aside from never having children, I am never getting married. I am over the moon to live a S.I.N.K lifestyle.
Goof for you! Everyone should pursue whatever lifestyle makes them feel over the moon!
I have an advantage because every family member I tell am child free think that am joking and I will change my mind later, that's how I get off the hook from my conservative African family.
Has anyone in the family ever chosen to be childfree?
A guy I dated at one time recently asked my parents if I had any kids (they were at a funeral and he's a director at that funeral home)..they just said no, as far as I know. I don't know if anyone else has ever asked them. My parents are pretty cool and never once asked if I was planning on having kids. My younger brother has three so they do have grandkids and I get to be the cool aunt. :)
Being the cool aunt/uncle is the best!!
My friend has two daughters...they advised her they didn't want to be mothers and weren't having kids...my friend didn't make an issue but she secretly hoped they would change their minds as she wanted to be a grandmother but now her daughters are too old and my friend has sadly accepted it...she has no other children
Yes, that's the issue. The parents have to manage their dream of not having grandchildren. A dream that shouldn't weigh on their own children.
Most of my family members already know im childfree, but my mother doesn't seem to believe me. I am in a long term realtionship and she always thinking about me getting pregnant on "accident". She really wants grandchildren and brother loves children. She will be fine.
You are both very professional polished and realxc
Thank you! ☺
Always eish the best for you two love you're open channel both of yu look amazing and you don't look your ages
Thanks, Liam!
I think this is an amazing channel, but breeders were never understand the mind of child free people. Yet, because my sister still never understand the fact that I had a cauterized vasectomy when I was 23 years old on June 6, 2014 it’s almost been 10 years and she keeps complaining about money to get it reversed because she’s fertile and only has one son. There’s so many children in this world that she can adopt, but she has a problem with me being child free. A lot of breeders are jealous and call her selfish, but they’re just jealous because they didn’t have the determination to say no or should not let people influence their decision to breed you did it to yourself breeders. 😂
It all goes back to the idea of choice, which is what we advocate for on this channel. We should each have the freedom to pursue what brings us joy and fulfillment. Some people struggle with embracing that concept.