MAFS Secrets Revealed - What Really Went On Behind The Scenes
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- Опубліковано 21 лип 2024
- Have you ever wondered how real reality TV is? In this video I break down the difference between the reality and the fiction of the show. I also reveal some little know facts and secrets about what happened behind the scenes and why I had such a shock exit.
Wow. What growth! Well done. I've worked in reality tv so always knew we didn't get the real story but it's still nice to hear it now. Your explanation of how reality tv works is the most accurate I've heard from a contestant. But most importantly it's so great to hear you talk about it in this way with such confidence. Great work on your personal growth ☀️
Thank you for the kind words, it means a lot. And glad to hear from an industry insider that my take on what goes on BTS is the most accurate you've heard, helps me to think I'm not crazy (well maybe a little crazy, I did agree to go on that show).
The personal growth was kind of a Darwinian thing, adapt or die, so to speak. I could either take the pain and the lessons and use them to evaluate myself and my life and improve it. Or I could use it as an excuse to take my hurt out on others, as some other contestants have done.
Thanks :-)
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Well yours was a growth only because of your stamina, and not thanks to the production and to what they provided as positive support and experiences. They provided the contrary. Of course you are not crazy!
Hey Matt
You were my favourite contestant and I have so much admiration and respect for you.. I had no idea she was treating you so badly, that's awful and so wrong of the producers' attitude to this.
I really thought the experts matched people who were compatible, so is that not the case? This must be so damaging for some. As you found out...I'm glad that some good has come out of this for you as far as growth is concerned and that is all credit to you.
Good on you for speaking up. These things need to be made public and the show cancelled. They way they match people is cruel.
These shows treat people horribly. The way you’ve handled it with such grace is impressive.
Agreed! He was extremely gracious under the circumstances.
@@anitaaustralia She shouldn't have.
They called you virgin Matt and then ex virgin Matt. They made it seem like being a virgin is abnormal when honestly its not and its a persons individual decision and none of their business then they show your tense moments which every normal human has and mixed those two things together. They wanted to show that a person who is a virgin is socially awkward and twitchy which is a pile of bull and not true and neither were you any of those things. No one is perfect what they do is take peoples low moments and create a fictional character using the person with no regards to the persons feelings or the effects it might have on them. They also use background music to fuel drama which is not even dramatic without the background music. The things the mafs producers do are insane.
Haha, yeah everyone else got to have their jobs under their names, and I was "Ex-virgin". To be fair, I knew they would exploit it but not as much as they did. I was a bit twitchy and socially anxious at times because I was basically having an anxiety attack so that's what they showed. If you fart on camera, they'd use the footage and turn it into a story.
Best of luck finding someone who is not a heavy drinker. I too can't stand being around drunk people.
@@robslade2571 it's fine for people to have a drink, but I draw the line at someone who can't handle it and becomes aggressive from excessive consumption. Being around that sort of person is not good for me.
Bronson was also in the similar situation. They call him ex-stripper
I saw all the way through that they were manipulating the whole process, its cheap TV and I admit it I got hooked so it works ! I really liked you as a person and felt that they were deliberately trying to humiliate you ! You are a decent lovely man well done for surviving the whole debacle 🌟
I was very aware we weren’t seeing the full picture during the show, clever editing. You were a real gent throughout the program, thought you came across really well. I found the constant reminder of virginity really uncomfortable, didn’t feel necessary after the first mention. Crazy show, but you came across really well. I thought you and Nick were the real gents. You seem really confident on this video, great to see mate.
Thanks Ben, that's really kind of you to say. I just tried to be myself, and it's nice to know that that still came across even with the edit.
I'm not sure anyone needs to know whether someone else is a virgin, or had x, y, or z lovers. If someone is a sex addict putting their (and thus my) health at risk by poor safe sex practice then I'd need to know. If you're a virgin, I'd only need to know to be sure I am checking in and making sure you're OK. The way they focused on you as though virginity was some sort of deficiency was downright peculiar 🤨
I am so sorry Matt. I had no idea what was really going on. I actually suffer with anxiety myself and I am absolutely disgusted by the way they manipulated you. The producers are too interested in the drama than the actual romance, about what the audience thinks and not caring about the contestants. I was personally on your side the whole time and I felt so bad for you. Thank you for sharing your experience xxx
Thanks Ellie, I was always say how I'm reassured that even through the edit, some people could still see that it wasn't right and there was more going on than the cameras showed. I was pretty naive going into the show and I can genuinely say I gave it my best shot and was able to come out the other side.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB And you should be so proud! You seem to be coping just brilliantly :)
Matthew, you’ve answered so many of the questions I had regarding her sudden change of personality. She went from this seemingly sweet, patient appearing girl who seemed perfect to build your confidence, to an angry looking, provocative and demanding embarrassment within 1 episode. I knew there had to be more to it and really felt for what she was putting you through. I’m so thrilled to see you so happy, confident and unharmed by the experience. Thank you for your honesty here.
It ANNOYED me how many times they mentioned you as “virgin” . I was like OKAY WE GOT IT. It was so excessive . And I noticed she wasn’t very nice. So I’m not surprised at all by your stories we didn’t see! This makes so much sense! It’s actually so wrong that they placed people together who are made to make eachother angry. That’s just terrible. I’m sorry you went through that! you look much happier now! ☺️🙏🏼
Thanks Samantha. Yeah MAFSA isn't known for it's subtlety.
Your story is so refreshing, thank you for your honesty! Watching you in your series I felt you were on the ASD spectrum and was dismayed at how your story was being handled. I was worried you would have had severe trauma and concerned that you wouldn’t be properly counselled. It’s great that you look at it with such positivity as a learning experience, and it has helped you face the difficulties that have previously held you back. Well done Matty! You are inspirational 💖
We were offered counselling after the show, but it wasn't very good to be honest. I've been to see someone privately and it's been a game changer for my mental health. I'd recommend it to anyone who is struggling.
You My Dear Are A True Gentleman, Wishing You The Very Best Of Everything 💜
Thank you, that's really kind.
Oh wow. This is really shocking. Glad you’ve come out of this experience a stronger and well rounded man
Thanks Jasz, I'm definitely a lot more thick skinned than I was when I went in. I got smeared by my 'match' and after the whole country starts to think you were abducted by aliens, you really stop caring about what people think.
What a terrible way they treat human beings! I'm sorry this happened to you.
Matt, thank you so much for sharing your perspective. What gets me about ALL these bachelor and marriage shows is that virginity is presented as a drawback... rather than a virtue... very sad that they have turned to evil so blatantly. Virginity is a diamond virtue to be cherished for a single person. This is a purposeful agenda on the part of the media and I hate it. Above that, thank you for sharing your perspective and extra information that the media doesn't show us...
As a male there's also the stereotype that I should behave a certain way when it comes to sex. The show focused a lot on my anxiety and experiences with childhood bullying, but what they missed was that for me, I genuinely only ever wanted to be with one person. It's my personal choice and while I wish I hadn't lost it on the show, two months after I left, I ended up meeting someone and we've been together ever since and I hope we'll be together for the rest of my life.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Aww, that’s so beautiful and so happy for you.
Hi Mat, I have watched your episode when it was up here in the UK. I am so proud of you from the beginning to end... we talked nice things about you with my friends when we meet up. Keep up the good work.
Thanks The Castillo Chronicles. It was tough to go through, but I've definitely learned a lot of important lessons and have grown from the experience.
A lot of people know it’s manipulating for ratings ( money grab) whatever the cost.
Your perspective is much appreciated 💙
Thank you. I'm glad there are a lot of people that can see through it. It also seems as though there are a lot who think it's real and use it as an excuse to bully the participants. I think this video is for those kinds of people.
My goodness you’re glowing with confidence and charm, I’m so very happy for you Matt! I had no idea she was quite so violent but it was easy to asses that she was a nasty character under her good girl persona. Im glad you managed to remove her from your life and I hope she never bothers you again.
After watching your show I have learn alots. You make feel HOPE and POSITIVE. Wishing you all the best successful in life.
Once I realised it was ‘scripted’ and filmed rather than hidden cameras I went off the show. I was interested to see it through. I’d never want to watch anything like that again. Wasted hours of time.
I think it’s good you’ve highlighted your story. Happy days ahead for you 💜
It's not scripted in the sense that we're told what to say, but they put you in situations and push you into reacting the way they want. It was really obvious after Ines and Sam left because they replaced them with two other couples, one who happened to be a "mean" bride and another who cheated. Guess they hadn't finished with those storylines.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Hi. I thought that would be the case rather than actually telling you what to say. Also I can imagine not everything filmed was shown. An experiment designed to go wrong. 🦋
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB
One guy on 2020 season, think his name was David, he said they were shooting all day, like 13 hours, and hadn't eaten,
The producers were saying they couldn't eat, until they finished, he said by that time he was agitated, and became angry, it was then eddited, and made him come off realy bad, he said, they actually cut bits and pieces, he said he did say the things, but they were cut and manipulated, and put in a different order
@@aussiesheila9495 They get there best stuff when the participants are under duress.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB
I believe they would
Matty thanks for sharing. I worry a lot about the mental health of contestants, and the amount of bullying that is happening this season. It's very triggering as a bully victim.
I know what you mean. I really hope that they start taking better care of their participants, before anyone gets too seriously hurt. Really hoping it doesn't take an event like what happened with reality tv in the UK to change it here.
Well done for posting this, a lot of detail gets hidden
Wow, thanks for speaking so openly about your experience and especially your diagnosis. I'm happy to see you so confident, looks like you "found yourself " and been given tools to deal with your challenges and growing from them. Best wishes to you!
Thanks Anna, it's been a bit of a journey but I'm getting there :)
After watching ‘Unreal’, the show about behind the scenes on a Bachelor style show, I had no doubt that MAFS was exceptionally contrived. I’d be interested to know how many, if any, people are still genuinely signing up to look for a real love.
Some people are done so dirty and it’s impact on their lives outside the show is so harsh.
I'll have to check out "unreal". I think as the seasons have gone on (they just started airing season 8), it's definitely become a lot more obvious what the show is about. I'd recommend it as a way to become an instagram influencer (if that's your thing) but I definitely would not recommend it for finding love.
Yes. You could tell the people they put together were just polar opposite. To the point where really almost no one could work! I totally shut down and have been treated for anxiety. Never knew there was a term for it!
Thanks Jennifer. Yeah, I hadn't even heard of Avoidant Personality Disorder before my diagnosis. But what I quickly learnt was that it was a necessary protective mechanism that was formed during childhood. And whilst it was very effective and kept us safe as children, it's now no longer necessary and keeping us from living a full, emotionally-rich life. So as adults we have to work to un-condition ourselves from these maladaptive conditioned responsive mechanisms. The plus side is that they're learnt behaviours, which means they can be unlearnt.
This show would never get made (like that) in the UK. There have been too many casualties already from that kind of programme. I'm amazed that Australian TV producers are still so reckless with peoples' mental health and wellbeing
Unfortunately for Australia, reality TV is really the only form of TV that they make. It's cheap, it gets viewers and it's popular. So until there are some actual casualties and some reforms are put in place, it's unlikely to change.
They are making a UK version
@@georginahollifield5669 they did already but it wasn't like that. It was much more serious and responsible
@@serratusx I know the one you're on about I think it was like 2 or 3 couples? And they didn't actually speak to other couples. But no im not on about that, they're making the same sort of set up in the UK I saw a casting advert for it
@@georginahollifield5669 hopefully it will be a more responsible than the Aus one. After all the problems caused by Love Island etc they have to be much more careful these days
Well done for sharing this - some real revelations.
Hope you found it interesting.
The puppet masters of Mafs (the producers) rely on a bear baiting audience. They decide who we are going to love and who we are going to hate. I think most of us have reached the point of knowing the corrupt editing that goes on behind the scenes and after just watching MAFS 8, I can only say, it was sickening.
That said, you came over really well Matt. It was clear from the start that they'd teamed you up with the wrong bride... deliberately. Yes, it was obvious you were stressed but you were clearly a caring empathic gentleman and one of my favourites on that show.
Thanks for speaking out.
Thanks Jan. MAFS certainly isn't the environment that rewards empathy, and I can kind of see why the show attracts a certain 'type' of person. But the silver lining is that I didn't let the experience break me and used it to better myself.
Hi Matt - greetings from the UK! It’s really good to see how you’ve healed and grown since the show. I felt the MAFS team really treated you and the other contestants badly; matching you with your exact opposites just to make “good tv!!” I’m so glad you’re doing well now - keep that up! I’ve just subscribed to your channel. X
Thanks for your kindness Cathy. If I had known what it was going to be, I don't think I would have gone on the show. However, I have to remember that I did sign up for it and it taught me some really valuable lessons. I've had a lot of supportive messages from people from the UK and Ireland saying how much they enjoyed the show which has made things easier to deal with than the first time it was shown.
Yep all about shock..media numbers..glad yre ok u seem so grounded and strong now. Thanku from a UK viewer.
Thanks Rosie. It was definitely a trial by fire and has been a long process of recovery, but I'm in a much better place now.
I'm truly surprised at the story you shared. Thank you!
I hope it was at least entertaining.
this is really insightful seeing how they create a storyline for you beforehand and just run with it. and how they manipulate it for the viewers entertainment. however it’s really nice watching all your other videos and seeing how much you’ve grown and how you’re helping other people. thank you for sharing your experience :)
Thanks Amber, it was certainly a 'trial by fire' that forced me to go through some rapid personal growth. But some good came out of it in the form of stepping more into the person I'm supposed to be.
This is pretty obvious to me. Right now they have the villains...Bec, Bryce, Sam, Jaimie and the downtrodden Jake, Melissa, Chris.
I’m glad you got to set the record straight!! ☺️
One of my favourite reality people, good for you!!! You're a wonderful person, keep up the good work!!!
Thanks Toby.
Whatever makes for good tv, hey? Thanks for this Matt. Appreciate your honesty
Sounds like the motto of the MAFS Producers ;-)
I have often looked at how MAFS uses editing to boost up a story. I look at the height of a drink in a glass. Somehow, it gets higher in the Glass, than less! Editing. I look at their Meals, how much of the meal is eaten.....and you know what? The Meal gets smaller/bigger as the show goes on! i look at where a womans hair is laying on her neck. You know what? It seems to have a mind of its own!! It moves back and forth depending on how the editing is done!
I know. I saw a screenshot n the latest season on the instagram where it actually got completely dark outside in the middle of a couple's conversation. It's like they're not even trying.
You was so brave. Well done and thank you for sharing the true with us . Love from UK
Everyone I watched the show with completely loved you Matt, were all adults who understand how reality shows stitch things together but you could tell you were a lovely person. I felt so uncomfortable the way they pushed the whole ‘virgin’ story, and then ‘ex-virgin’, (like wtf ‘ex’ virgin REALLY?) I didn’t buy into the whole ‘not attracted to her’ story either, even with the way it was edited I still felt you were completely justified in it. The way she was with you would put anyone off, and hearing now what’s happened behind the scenes I seemed to have been right. Regardless very happy for you finding someone right for you now, wishing u all the very very best in the future:) I’ve subscribed.
Thanks for the kind words Claire, and for subscribing. In the end I consider myself lucky because I was able to see the truth for what it was early enough to get out without having to go through the whole experiment. And it ultimately has made me a better person, from the lessons I've learnt and the sense of self-confidence that has come from standing up for myself since then. Not to mention falling in love with a beautiful British girl, that certainly helped ;-)
I realized early on the show matched opposites. Look at Jess and Mick, Heidi and Mike, Ning and Mark..why put a sloppy farmer together with a model glamor girl like Jess and Mick, makes no sense..
@@bellstar1091 just be aware that the show is heavily edited and manipulated. While I do not ever condone cheating in any scenario (even one as contrived as MAFS), there's probably a lot more that went on behind the scenes than was shown. Take my experience for example, I was only there for 10 days but Jess was on it for the full season so they had plenty of opportunity to portray her as the villain they needed to keep people hooked on the show.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB She would've been a dream for them, she gave them plenty of ammunition.
Makes perfect sense. Causes drama and makes good entertainment
Model glamour? Pffft. She was rough as guts.
@@bellstar1091 Fast forward to today and don’t think so. Her recent tv appearance with the entire cast really showed how much she has grown and aware of her behaviour. Fantastic to see. Perhaps you should also be aware that people don’t get stuck in their behaviour and can grow, be grounded and apologise
MATTY YOU WERE ARE NICE GUY HATS OFF TO YOU AND YOUR TRUTH
MNatt I admire you for your honesty but more so for your ability to keep looking so great.
Thanks Andreas.
You come off as very charismatic in this video- its weird but good to see
Wow very enlightening. I loved this show but knew it had been highly edited but not to this extent. I guess it is all for entertainment purposes but sounds like you went through a lot. Glad you have learnt from it and it wasn’t a complete waste of your time x
Thanks Tracy. It's quite interesting the way they edit it all.
Wow what an eye opener....not good and please stay safe now....glad you can finally talk. 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧👩🏾
Thank you
This is refreshing to see in a weird way, i know all reality tv shows are manipulated into looking a certain way to entertain viewers, your story was so real and you were of the most genuine people in there. I hated how they would always refer to you as a ‘virgin’ like that’s all you were. You’re so intelligent and kind. As i’m watching this i’m screaming at the ‘experts’ for backing the toxicity that goes on. this must be hard to re-live for you too as it’s a while since it has been filmed. You’re an inspiration to so many people and you really faced your fears in a way like no other. You deserve the best in life and nothing less. thank you for sharing this.
ps. really enjoyed the video, you put it together really well!
Thank you for the kind words Jack. Yeah it wasn't the easiest living this again, in fact I had to reshoot some aspects of this video as I was probably letting the emotion dictate what I was saying, as opposed to being more objective to the situation.
Any observant person realised from early on that a lot had been cut out and edited just like all reality programmes. Shame on these people to allow all this to happen to gain numbers, we don’t want to see cruel stuff like this on tv 😡
I like a lot actually that many people are stepping up after the show who had suffered from different problems afterwards MAFS is done. I am really sorry for your experience on MAFS but very thankful that you post & create this videos to talk about reality tv problematics and actually problematics now in the world. But dont stop speaking up. Because of you and all the people speaking up things can change. Thankyou Matt!
I have felt so bad about how your anxiety was "handled". Im coaching around sexuality and intimacy, and you are very energetic in the Erotic Blueprints. Which means you are very sensitive, easily overwhelmed, you need connection and safety and clear boundaries to really feel your desires and act on them.
In a situation like this it is so easy to believe that something is wrong with you, when it is not (of course). It is emotionally damaging.
Im happy to see you this confident. And your sensitivity is such a superpower. You are able to do what others can't even imagine, like really feeling your partner and ve present with them, knowing what feels good (or not good) to them even without asking them. This is just one of the awesome things.
I wish all the best for you.
Hahaha. I showed my girlfriend this comment and she said you're actually bang on. I would tell you to become an expert on the show, but the fact that you're obviously good at your job might disqualify you because you'd steer the participants in the right direction ;). I'm always pleasantly surprised when people who understand nuances around relationships get in touch with me and offer their opinions and advice. It gives me a lot of hope that there are people out there who can cut through the editing and the bull.
Sex education in Australia (and elsewhere) is really poor and lets a lot of people down (myself included- i always regret that I didn't know then what I know now), so it's good to know there are people who are committed to changing this. Thank you, you're doing important work. If there's one thing I'd like my experience on the show to lead to eventually, it would be more conversations around consent, boundaries and sex in the context of love because that gets lost.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB You’re spot on there about consent. I don’t think mafs cares about consent in the slightest.
Well done and respect for speaking up main stream media has a lot to answer for not just reality shows but news also!
I’m an American. So we just got your season! Now I’ll be more curious to see you two now that you’ve told the truth!! Thanks so much for sharing!!!
Oh no, it's showing in the US too? I hope I haven't spoiled too much of the show for you. Maybe I should put a disclaimer for people who haven't seen it yet?
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB no worries! Since it was a couple years ago most of the people from your season are all on youtube interviews and such. So I already know that Cam & Jules were the only ones who stayed together and now I saw they have a baby. So you didn’t spoil anything!!!
We have MAFS here in the US. But it’s only 4 couples and they don’t have the dinner parties like AU has. So it’s definitely not the same kind of drama
I've seen the American ones too and just now seeing that there's Australian ones! Would be interesting to see a different side of it.. but always sad to see how few of the couples stay together :/
@@annav21 where do you live?
The Americans at least have had more that stayed together than the Australians
@@heidilehman9009 in the USA
nice video mate you are looking great and very confident, sorry you had to go through some bs!
Thanks Hiren. It wasn't pleasant to go through, but I';m in a much better place now. And when things get rough or I'm under pressure I just remind myself that diamonds only form under extreme pressure, and that it's our struggles that develop our strengths.
I think most of us realise that it's not reality yet didn't realise just how devious it is. Great to see you now so obviously flourishing. In my opinion you came across as someone with integrity and decency. It didn't seem like a match with common values. I hope you have or will meet a lady who becomes your best friend and hold a mutual respect for each other. Take care.
Edit, Matt I'm absolutely thrilled for you, scrolling through the comments to see you have a long term partner and want to spend your life with her... I'm actually grinning ear to ear. I wish you both a great future. Yay!
Thanks, that's really kind of you to say.
Unfortunately a lot of people do seem to think the show is real. I'm just glad I'm through it and came out the other side having learnt from my struggles and not let them make me a worse person.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB You've obviously thrived. My mum always told me - 'You can't be insulted by someone if you don't value their opinion' - it was in reference to mean girls at school but I have applied it to quite a few situations. You look so calm and confident, it's refreshing. Take care.
Thanks for speaking up man.
No problem. Hope it was interesting at least.
Well said. You are a man of great character
Thanks Kim.
I’m so sad that you were played like that, it’s absolutely disgusting to put someone with known anxiety into this situation ❤️
I was foolish enough to apply, so some of the onus falls on me. I just wish they'd been upfront with me about what the show was actually about, and not led me to believe that it was about finding love. Whoops!
I think you were and are an amazing man! Best of luck to you in your blessed future...❤️
Thank you Robyn, that's very kind of you to say.
Matt i have to say that I'm very happy to hear from you through this video. I found this as truth, and feel relieved to hear this from you. I'm also very happy to see positive changes and progress on you, it's so inspiring and please share more what are you doing now, and how are you progressing. Thanks!
Thanks Matt, you were a favourite of mine when I watched your season. I don’t believe a second of the show and I am concerned that the “experts” are unethical and not at all good at what they do. I was so shocked about what they put you through back then and it just confirms my thoughts about the way they don’t do proper psychological testing. Almost makes me want to go on the show to break their 4th wall and create chaos for the hell of it. I’m glad to see you’re much happier and healthier now. Take care of yourself.
Thanks mermaidpete, the experts are really just presenters. I don't believe they even match us. The producers are the ones who orchestrate the whole thing. My advice for anyone wanting to go on a show like mafs is firstly don't. But also be aware that you never know how you're going to get edited. As you can probably tell from the video, my real experience was nothing like being shown. MAFS is a great way to gain Instagram followers, it's a terrible way to find love.
The show isn’t my kinda thing, but I got hooked on it, watching this, there’s definitely a lot of pro’s & con’s, I’m glad you came out the other side a better man, did you go to Cam & Jules proper wedding?
Thanks for sharing. You seem like a great person
Thanks therealibo, I'm far from perfect, but not the guy you saw on the show.
Wow. Thx for opening up. A lot of things make more sense now.
Really insightful video, thanks for sharing. It really concerns me how far these producers go to push contestants at the cost of their mental health. I'm glad you overcame this experience and have come out stronger yet I know it must have been a tough journey for you. Potentially there needs to be some legislation for these TV shows. Love Island is an example that took it too far. The problem is: it's entertainment for so many people at the cost of so few.
Very well said and I couldn't agree more. Unfortunately because of it's popularity I think the people who stand to profit are happy to overlook some things at the expense of others mental health.
But then there is some onus on the contestants. We all go in knowing that we'll face scrutiny and pressure. Would be nice to find a balance that doesn't totally compromise the contestants mental health at the expense of the entertainment factor.
After the whole recent Bryce and Mel crap, I am not surprised to hear any of this. The show needs to be cancelled, it is cruel and could cause long term damage to those on it. Glad you're doing well now :)
Thanks Tracey. I think the show just needs to be upfront about what it is and what it isn't and they need to spend less time trying to push people to breaking point for the sake of entertainment. It's fast becoming an expose on abusive behaviour and toxic relationship dynamics, and I think people are starting to see it for what it is.
How brave of you, and important revealing as well. I didn't know these programs existed before a body analyses were done in another channel yesterday. Now seen some clips on youtube. You make the most constructive about it. I am disgusted by this type of exploration of people, but glad people like you both can overcome and grow from it, take themselves for real and make something important in life.
Just wanna say there's a lot of support for u from the UK including myself.
Thank you. I'm very grateful for the response I've had from the UK.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB stay safe m8👍🏾
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB did you find the response was different to you when it was originally aired in Australia? A few others have said they’ve noticed a difference
@@Imagummybearpop Heaps different. Initially people believed a lot of the lies and rumours about me being an actor or abducted by aliens or being gay. But because the audience in the UK have the luxury of seeing me and my progress over the last two years, not to mention the blatant lies from the person I was matched with, everyone has been a lot more supportive. Or perhaps it could be that the people in the UK generally are better at critical thinking because of the 'Love Island' suicides and because they realise that reality TV is edited. Also important to note that hindsight is 2020, and up until my season people in Australia still believe that MAFS had a legitimate science angle to it (including myself when I applied).
Very well articulated Matt.
Thank you Amanda.
I'm so sorry you were conned by the experiment. That show needs shutting down. I'm so glad that those who genuinely believed in the experiment had the courage to speak out.
Thanks Rosie. I think it's a bit more obvious what the show is about these days, and the audience are slowly catching on. I all for people watching it and enjoying it but they have to remember that it isn't real.
I am SO pleased to see your video and how well you're doing!! It has been clear how manipulated this show is! (I believe most unreal as can be "reality" shows are!). I struggled most of my life with avoidance also along with other abuse and have been experiencing great recovery with counseling. It's amazing the transformation and freedom that comes with counseling! We become our genuine self 🙌🙌🙌💗
Very interesting...thanks for sharing..
Glad you found it fascinating.
Thanks for sharing your experience. So sorry to hear you were expected to put up with being physically assaulted by that woman. Truly disgusting. On a positive note, it’s great to hear you’re working through your anxiety issues 🌝
Great video! You should do interviews with ex-cast mates
BTW- you were my favorite on the show! Hugs from the USA 🥰
Thanks eluv. We'll see if it's something I can pull off in the future.
You've grown from this. So well done and good onya.
A English watcher her 🇬🇧, it’s being showing over here for the past three months of your season. Me and my dad love it 💕, we weren’t to sure weather it was fake or real, because most of our stuff tends to be mostly real, but we love watching it. We where sad you and Lizzy didn’t work out, but it’s lovely to hear that you found a new person to love. Mat one of the only nice guys on this show apart from Cam
Thanks Hope. I hope you enjoyed the show for what t was... entertainment.
People say ‘it’s a tv show, you should know what you’re signing up for’ which on the one hand I agree with. But the bottom line is they are still dealing with real people and their lives. Even people that sign up knowing and accepting what they are in for, their mental health is still going to possibly be affected.
I don’t necessarily feel sympathy for anyone that’s been on the show per se, reality tv has been around long enough for people to know the score. But the bigger issue I think is the fact that productions like these are allowed to go ahead. I actually think they should be illegal. The crap they get up to in the name of entertainment is morally wrong. And in a world where morals seem to matter less and less, I think it’s time for a change.
Anyway, good on you for speaking out Matt, all the best for the future.
Thanks. I agree with you to an extent. It's true I definitely signed up for the experience and had to grin and bear it. But also not all reality TV shows are created equally and were a lot of ways that the producers were quite deceptive about what the show was really about and how we were led into certain situations. There's a factor of hindsight too, it's a lot more obvious what that show is about now than it was two years ago.
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said mental health support is key. A lot of the personality types they select for the show are vulnerable (myself included) and you confound that with the fact that a lot of the audience think the show is 100% real and then lash out at the cast based on what they saw on TV, it can actually be quite damaging, especially as we're contractually obliged to honour the storyline.
I still get comments from people telling me I have a "nice guy act" because my personality doesn't quite match up to "what they saw on the telly."
I think we have to acknowledge these shows for what they are.... entertainment. They have more in common with Game of Thrones than Attenborough.
I've always thought along these lines that you just revealed. I watched your episode, and wow! its a shame knowing the truth behind the scenes.
Wow!!! You've definitely changed a lot with your personality than what I saw 2 years ago on MAFS
You certainly came out a winner. You can be so proud of yourself!
Damn the beans have been spilled!
Wow! It was obvious the “experts” matched total opposites with the pretext of “they’ll balance each other out” which equates to “This will give us sufficient conflict, sound bites, facial expressions, drinks thrown at dinner parties, audience buy-in, ratings etc”. Matching city dwellers with country folk, drinkers with non drinkers, and in this current series, someone socially awkward with someone sexually adventurous, narcissist with submissiveness, the latter of which sparked complaint due to the obvious DV tendencies that were triggering to a lot of viewers. These producers seem to lack a duty of care in that respect, knowing now that she was actually physically violent towards you. I had heard she wasn’t allowed to contact you, but what was shown of course showed otherwise.
And that aside from half the people just trying to get notoriety and followers on their Instagram 🙄
You are very articulate about your experience without sounding bitter with the lesson you learned. Good for you for speaking out. If you haven’t already, I’m sure you’ll find the right lady and without the help of so-called “experts”. 🙏🏻
Thanks Pixie. This was lovely to read. They definitely have a formula for ensuring drama and storylines. Since I didn't want to sell stuff on instagram, all I could do was use the experience to try and learn and grow into the person I wanted to be.
I did meet someone without the experts. She is better than I ever imagined :).
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Really pleased to hear that. 🤗 She’s got herself a keeper, too!
You make a great role model for self-reflection, which is not as common as it could be, and I bet you could help many young men who are experiencing anxieties. Worth pondering because you certainly have a light that shines 🙏🏻
Your season is airing here. I am cheering you on. Like I don't know what is going 2 happening. #Beyourself
Hopefully this video didn't spoil it for you then ;-)
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Don't worry about it I seen clips of Married at First Sight Australia’s UA-cam channel and I seen interviews after. So I know the end result.
Even after how horribly he was treated by Lauren, he remains so classy in the way in which he speaks of her. What a top guy. FYI even though I thought you came of slightly awkward at times, I felt bad about how you were pushed in to answering intimate questions that you were clearly uncomfortable with and at the speed she was throwing all these new things at you in that department. I just knew there was more to you than met the eye.
Thank you. It's hard not to be nasty but I have to remain factual even though when person started a smear campaign against me after the show (apparently I was even abducted by aliens, go figure!) all i wanted to do was lash out.
I was awkward on the show, part of it was the edit and part of it was being thrown into a situation like that and not really knowing how to deal with it.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB ... what some meant for evil, God used for good in your life. Praise God He loves you so much.
The producers of this show really play with people's lives. Honestly I think if they go on like this, someone will get hurt. Regarding you Matt , for me it is no surprise at all what you are saying. Every thing you mentioned I had my doubts on when watching the show. I did not trust your 'wife' and that came very clear when she was asked about your hospital visit. She was almost laughing about it and purposely made the viewers believe it was something mental. I see you now in a very different confident look, and I applaud it. Good luck in life mister, you deserve it.
Thank you for the very kind words. I appreciate it.
I'm always surprised (and reassured) that there are people out there that could see through the facade. I felt gaslit and like I was going crazy because she had one face for the camera and a completely different one when we were alone. But even with that, there are clues if you watch the show closely enough.
It's absolutely appalling that they would treat a human being in this way and furthermore that the so called experts would allow it. John is meant to be a psychologist for god's sake. How is he protecting your mental health. In the end you know who you are and by being your true authentic self, you have handled this whole thing with so much class. I'm so sorry that you were abused not only by her but the producers too. I guess Jules and cam were the lucky ones that got matched well. I'm happy that you've managed to grow and find your true soulmate and wish you both eternal love and happiness together. You deserve it.
WOW! Thank you for sharing. Lauren's side seems so different on Kyle and Jackie O. Crazy that the 'experts' will fully know what's going on too. Awful :(
Hahaha, yeah. I recall listening to 'that' interview. I recall she also said I thought I was abducted by aliens, hahahaha. Not sure where she got that from.
It wouldn't surprise me if the producers were saying one thing to each of our faces and then another to the other person.
Great video. Fantastic you learnt so much about yourself in going on the show. Seems like it would give anyone a nervous breakdown.
It definitely felt as though it bought more bad than good in the early stages. Overtime I've been able to use it as a learning experience.
You were one of our favourites on the show, you came across as a really nice guy. Look on the bright side, at least you didn't get paired with Jess, never hated people I've never met before as much as her and her sidekick Martha!
Sometimes I wish I did though, because at least those people were upfront about who they were, even if it wasn't always positive.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Is Jess really as horrible as she comes off on the show? I’m really interested now.
@@Observette I don't know. I left after 10 days and I didn't really connect with her but I know first hand that there's a lot of editing and manipulation that happens so I wouldn't be surprised if she's a completely different person irl than she was on the show.
@@Observette I don't know her that well, personally. She was always friendly and pleasant to me. However, I think her motives with the experiment were quite obvious and the producers used that to manipulate her in to playing along with their 'plot-lines'.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB Yeah, it’s interesting isn’t it. Even watching the current season, it’s a disaster. So many people paired up just for ratings and so many people just there to boost their instagram following. 😔
Wow. This is the first time I have ever watched “Trash TV”. And after seeing this it will be the last. I’m actually frustrated that I fell for the programme- lockdown does funny things to the brain 😂 Thank you for the refreshingly honest insight Matt. No wonder “fame” destroys people. You will find your lady and she will be better than you ever dreamed. It’s a testament to the strength of your character that you’ve come through this bigger and better. I always thought how different you were when you were “alone” with the cameras- how confidently you spoke to them. Now I know. Keep on going onwards and upwards 👌
Thanks Vicky. I actually did find my lady and she's from the UK, and you're right she's better than I ever dreamed of. I got everything I asked for when I went on the social experiment, I just had to leave the experiment to find it.
Delighted to hear this Matt! I always believe two things- everything happens for a reason and also sometimes you have to go away to come back again bigger, better and stronger. All the very best to you and your lady - glad she’s flying the flag for us good old British girls haha! Keep strong and keep true. Much respect from across the pond 👍🏻
You just said my motto. Everything is a lesson in life. There's no mistakes or regrets
I believe we've gotta take what we can out of every situation.
She out off order for treating him like that
Keep being yourself mate you seem a great guy! Only Just been watching from the uk and me and my partner were embarrassed at how much they kept saying “virgin” or “ex virgin Matt”! I am glad you come through this unlike a few from the reality shows over here sadly.
If you get a chance look into and do a video about mental health issues from reality tv. Would love to see it.
Wish you all the happiness in life and am glad you’re growing so much
Thanks for the kind words Robert and thanks for the great suggestion for a video.
I hope that you and your partner are keeping safe over there.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB were all safe and vaccinated thanks mate. I’ve just followed you on Instagram today Robert Jones if you get a chance please follow.
Look forward to seeing more videos and interacting with you!
How interesting! I love seeing you look so confident. I always wondered whether these shows were real or if everyone was a scripted actor. I see now that no one was an actor but a real person looking for love. I knew the producers probably had a way of setting things up so there would be controversy. Oherwise if everyone and everything was good and nicey-nice then it would be a very boring show. Too bad you got matched up to someone so hostile. Please make other videos giving us MAFS behind-the-scenes info!
With hours and hours of footage the producers can portray you as a nice or horrible person.
Well this is one show I'm dumping in the toilet! So sorry you went through this horrible ordeal! I would have left long time ago! I have a lot of the symptoms you have described. Thank you for giving me the names so I can find out how to treat them.
I hope the best for you!
Good luck in the future!
For me it was super obvious who you where dealing with and how she overwhelmed you. Not surpriced she enjoyd harrassing you and kept the violence going for this long. You where obviously struggling with something you had no control over. Im sorry that mafs do this to people.
I'm always surprised when people say they could see it because nothing was captured on camera so I felt a bit alone (aside from support from friends and family). I was harassed for almost a year after the show but I don't let it affect me anymore.
I'm disgusted that they allowed that and I'm shocked. Imagine if he'd been hitting her. Appalling imo
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB I’m happy for you that you don’t let it effect you anymore. You are a true gentleman it’s rare Quilty, not many people would know how to handle such a situation ! Mate good for you getting therapy. Wish you all the best and your family. Ps. Sensible people realise this show is not real at all.
So glad you survived that. No one should be allowed to put their hands on you in an aggressive manner.
I'm so glad you came through that mad programme. You seem such a nice person
Thank you Glynis. It's taken me a long time to process, but has ultimately made me stronger from the experience.
This is crazy bro I knew shit was being hidden especially in this season I might just stop watching MAFS now, sorry for the bullshit you went thru tho damn it’s like a nightmare...looking good tho my man AMAZING video 🥃
Thank you Kira. I keep saying that you can't take anything that happens on MAFS as factual. It's so manipulated that you have to treat it as fictional entertainment because it might as well be,
So very proud of u please take care of urself XX
Thank you Maureen. You take care also.
Thank you for making this video and speaking up about this. I wish Australia stopped focusing on these stupid “reality” shows. I mean, when was the last time Aus TV produced a good science fiction TV show?
Edit: Omg, I just got to the part where you talk about the physical violence. THATS HORRIBLE! I can’t believe they put you in that situation. And then they tell you that “you’re a big boy, you can take it”, I’m completely disgusted and feel awful for what you went through. You’re beyond brave for speaking up about this.
Thank you. People wonder why I was so anxious on the show, but now you know what was really going on behind the scenes and why I was so out of my depth. To be fair to the producers, they got me the hell out of there (eventually!) and made sure my match wrote 'leave' at the last commitment ceremony because I was so done with it, but it would've been nice if they had intervened straight away.
Thanks for sharing, when you watch the show, this all makes sense now. When you watch the show, you can tell something is off.
I'm so glad to see that he isn't bitter about the experience. I'm sure it takes lots of strength not to be bitter. I've watched MAFS and some of matches are scary and should be "illegal". Just my thought, e.g. Taylor and Randall or whatever that creep's name is.
I also noticed the judges make out they don’t know anything ‘ but honestly they know everything that happens..Matty l always thought you were a lot better than they gave you credit for..l wish you all the very best happiness ‘ now and In the future..💕🌹
Thanks Debbie.
@@NoGoingBack_MattyB 💕🌹