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No Going Back
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'No Going Back' is a mindset and philosophy that I've adopted through the trials and tribulations of my own personal growth journey. It's the idea that a mind once expanded can never shrink back to its original size.
This channel is as much about sharing my journey, the tips and techniques that have helped me along the way, as much as it is about trying new things myself, as this personal growth journey organically expands.
This channel is my medium to share my self discovery.
This channel is as much about sharing my journey, the tips and techniques that have helped me along the way, as much as it is about trying new things myself, as this personal growth journey organically expands.
This channel is my medium to share my self discovery.
Why You May Not Be Ready To Heal Yet - the one thing stopping you from getting better
The journey to personal development is not an easy one, it takes a lot of effort, consistent hard work and commitment. It's not a journey to take lightly.
You may want to change, but wonder why it's so difficult at times.
In this video I talk about why you may not be ready to heal yet.
You may want to change, but wonder why it's so difficult at times.
In this video I talk about why you may not be ready to heal yet.
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Isnt there a study stating its highly genetic? From fathers side?
Groundhog day.
i need to hear this shit 5 times a day like Allah
This literally happens to me every single day. Other humans are walking triggers to me. Even ones I have spent years around. Even the two friends I have, which I’ve had since childhood. I want to seek diagnosis but I am terrified of being rejected or told I am just looking for a diagnosis or trying to look special or that I am being dramatic or something.
Had it since childhood, will have it till the day I die!
Isnt it because you do not want to adapt and change?
Bingo, this is me all day long! I’ve challenged what I could however I’m 47 now and never been in a relationship however I have recently been treated for GAD using CBT. I’m using truth and acceptance of my thoughts and feelings and learning to be enough. Every day is a journey!
you are making so much sense. Thank you.
Are you me?! Goddamn i have never related so hard. Thank you.
Thanks! From a masculine perspektiv i wanna ask you...( I think my partner is avoidant) ...After S.x is normal for the guy to not even be touched? He can not explain me how he is feeling if i m do it...( Burning,uncomfortable or. What else)He said just he don t libe it and he was always like this
Thank you my friend... I need this more then you know. Sometimes it's a struggle maintaining positivity and I've been seeking for some answers and personal growth this showed up on my homepage so it's got to be a sign I needed to hear it because definitely made me a little bit more optimistic an open-minded again thank you for putting this content out for people who need to hear this
Thanks for this video. But I disagree with you concerning the statement that AvPD is a pattern that is learned. In my case, part of why I developed AvPD was being bullied for most of my childhood and youth. You could say that from this I'd learned things like "there's no use trying to connect with people, nobody's going to like me anyway" and "don't do anything that makes you stand out, it WILL be used against you". However if you take a closer look, you'll have to ask WHY I got bullied so much? Because I was the ideal victim BECAUSE of my avoidant personality. When threatened or attacked, my first gut reaction is, and has always been, to withdraw, give in, or isolate myself in order to avoid conflict at all cost. In other words, it's not bullying, abuse or neglect that makes you develop AvPD, it's having AvPD that makes you prone to being bullied, abused and/or neglected.
Very loud and vocal sister, and bipolar mother...Was very little time for me.
Every year repeat itself and the same events happen. Just with different people
Subscribe to support and forward! Your eyes and your videos tell us that AVPD can be cured
thank you so much! happy new year 2024 !
You are a Great Person. People are nuts and your Not. ❤ you are to good for those Goofy rumors😊
The only part I disagree with is the treatable part, not everyone is able to correct it. This is especially true of those with unchangeable characteristics that may feed into it (disabilities, speech issues, gait abnormalities, etc).
How did your Acoidant personally handle the closeness and intimacy of the relationship?
Yeah mate good work. I'd like to add 20lg I'm a bit under weight but thats my goal
For me it comes and goes, recently Narcissistic brothers triangulated victimized me out of envy, didn't want to follow parents instructions, it will take a lifetime to financially recover if at all, monsters court system and police departments love it it makes them money gives them something to do, they are of no help! Still healing monsters character impaired criminals, sad to say demons not humans.
This video is very inspiring. 👏
I wish i didn't have a phone number so no one can't talk to me 😂😂😂😂
My dad was diagnosed with avPD at some point in his life. He was rarely present either physically or emotionally throughout my childhood. they later removed it due to his bipolar taking the center stage as the core and main factor of his issues. he told me that when i was born he wasnt able to cope and avoided me and everything surrounding it bc it was too hard. im diagnosed with AvPD amongst other things, so i dont believe that its entirely learned behavior. From what i've read, something like Dependent personality disorder seems to be learned, while most of the other PDs tend to also have a genetic component involved. i also have a physical disability. I have a loving mother thankfully, i wouldnt be here otherwise. my mother unfortunately chose wrongly (again) after divorcing my dad... and for a lot of my childhood i grew up with a narcissistic/psychopathic step parent. Add to that the incessant bullying in school that those with physical disabilities tend to experience, its no wonder ive developed a personality disorder. (there is a a slew of mental health issues on my dad side). It is probably due to dumb luck, or mums genetics that i did not develop bipolar, for which i am very thankful. but i do have dysthymia/persistent depressive disorder, which ive now decided to call "bipolar lite" x) OCD has also been a big thing in my life. So much time wasted on those rituals to try and appease the anxiety. Avoidance has been, and is my main coping mechanism. i havent been in therapy for years due to my shrink deciding to take a leave of absence very suddenly during my treatment, and left me with no replacement after 3 years of going there, which hurt... a lot. my disordered behavior shows up in every facet of my life. and im not sure ill be able to turn things around before im old. Tbh i dont really want to grow old. Life sucks.
Wow, I am just learning about AvPD in the past few days even though I saw dozens of therapists and psychiatrists and it all sound so familiar. And I have a fear of diagnosing myself but everyone I ever knew from family and friends to partners told me I was distant in different words and I knew what they were referring to but none of it was intentional. I hope we can get through this.
3:50 - 4:30 Wow, that really resonated with me, thank you for helping me get closer to understanding why I am the way I am
Or you can go NO CONTACT.
Thanks for sharing.
My long marriage to a narcissist was a contributing factor to later-in-life avoidant personality order; it has been far easier to simply avoid the chance of again choosing a dysfunctional damaging partner by simply going it alone. I felt like a target of abuse almost like - in my case - a human predator could smell out my vulnerabilities and leap to hurt and control me.
I can relate...I'm just now realizing my behavior is consistent with AVPD as I was also in relationship with a narcissist...20 plus years.
i learned to be at least a little open towards new things. i do listen to myself if i don't like it. i guess i just met my loved ones very late in my life..~ i do know that i am very comfy with my loved ones~ on the flipside, a single person being overall very negative and frustrated towards myself is... a setback in my pov.. but if i talk about it with my loved ones, i tend to overcome it and see it on a clear level~ thank you~
i havent been diagnosed wiht it but have strong traits that were hidden bye my bpd symptoms ..... its crazy to here you say having a sibling you had to keep happy at all cost ... my eldest sister was this for our family ... as she was low cognitive and very emotionally triggered and also plays a role in my emotional disregilation ..... but its true my parents would get upset/disaponted with me and my middle sister if we didn't work as hard as them to keep her not triggered even would say things like you guys are more cognitive and should beable to handle this better then her ..... on top of that in the neighborhood i wasthe problem child so everyone always blamed there childeredns reckless behavior on my influence so now all i do daily is worry how other view me .... but it was hidden for most my life do to my bigger issues of worrying they were going to leave me once i got overly attached with my bpd ....so even now that my bpd is extremely undercontrol i still cant get past this habit of rather be sitting in home watching my tv or gaming with no need to worry about how other see me .... until i go out and that's what my brain is completely focused on .... even when i go to the store being around peole who have no real impacted on my life still make me worrie ...... add multiple sclerosis and i get triggered often ........y for this video and giving me another pice to the puzzle with the sibling connection ....... and being in a fam were how you are perceived was big in the family dynamic
As a counselor I have it
I, too, picked up lifting as a source of solace during my most intense isolation. I wanted to be more attractive. I framed it as 'attractiveness is social armor'. I thought, maybe if I were pretty enough, I'd get enough positive feedback and validation that I'd be less terrified of people all the time. I knew that this was a nonsense fantasy, but it still drove me. I didn't know what else I might do. Practicing social interactions directly was an exhausting, terrifying, awful experience. I'm doing much better now. 😁
God
I'm on the same boat, buddy
"i have very few close friends" well, i have no friend..
Same
It’s so difficult to be at a social environment, I get so awkward, I sweat profusely and seem to suffer from memory problems….and then I freeze up. I go do things because I’m trying to put myself out there but it doesn’t really help me.
Bro I am from INDIA and i think this is one of the most beautiful, and easy to understand video i ever watch before. keep it up
Hello Mathew. We watched the show a month ago. And I just want to say, whoever wants to see the truth sees the truth. And what she did to you even after the tv show only shows how toxic person she is. I felt sorry for you from the beginning to the end. The one who knows what anxiety and psychological states are, sees what is going on with the person. Stay Strong and I wish You happy and calm life!
HI, who paid your rent? Also who bought the women's clothes? they look awfully expensive and all that makeup, wow! Did you have enough time to cook for yourself?
When are you making another video ?
Oooh how I can relate. I have CPTSD and avpd (honestly avpd is just part of my CPTSD, but CPTSD is not part of any public psychiatric treatment offer yet in my country) - exposure is so crucial for healing. I actually did bungy jump too and find that doing something like that actually gives me a feeling that I can survive and overcome anything frightening. The social part is still hard though. I'm working hard on not avoiding and not letting the triggers paralyze me.
Thanks brother. I've been struggling with wanting to fix this all now. Your videos give me motivation to improve, and make me feel less alone.
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I have a question. The person I love has AVPD. The day we decided to call it off was the day I told him I love him. He said that back to me. He said he loves me too (which is MASSIVE). But then he sid he's not ready for a relationship and that we should cut off communication (we live in different cities, known each other for 4 years). Then he said that he loves me 100% no doubt about that and that I should email him. So confusing. Now my question: do avoidants want to be chased once they reject you? Or do they want to be left alone?
I feel like everything is happening again and again my life is repeating I am 100 percent sure I have lived this life before anyone can answer my ❓
You seem to be doing well. Good luck
Avoidant, dependent, & obsessive-compulsive sounds like ALL of me. Wtf
I feel like for me, reading emotions is hard because I recognize them but overanalyze them. Making them still blurry. I also avoid my own emotions because of apd. Your video really helps me recognizing what is natural and what is not. Thank you.
My sister created drama in the supermarket... she was shouting on a lady and I have to drag her out of there... at 30 I went no contact...
It's God. God created the universe. God is outside of the universe. You are loved and special to God. Your life has a purpose- from God. He heals, teaches, disciplines, and loves. He is a good, good father. ❤