Same. Both of my parents are narcs. They groomed me very early to believe I didn't deserve anything & I was never good enough. My father used to work in a charity that takes care of children with cerebral palsy. So, often when I asked my parents for things I really needed, like for school, or when I told them I was feeling ill, they often said, "you don't know how lucky you're. at least you don't have cerebral palsy" & then ignored me
Gary Bills you are loved by Jesus. Jesus,He loves you. You are so loved. I love you in Christ Jesus. I just want to say don't give up and I am sorry also for what you going through. It is so sad when other people treat you bad, or make fun of someone. I am so sorry you are going through this. I just want to say I remind myself of this from time to time that when people are being mean,I remind myself "Hurt people hurt people." So,it's not you,what they doing and how they're treating you reflects on what kind of person they are. You are loved. You are a masterpiece and fearfully and wonderfully made by God our Creator. And He loves you. Also Isaiah 54:17 and PSALM 139:14 Keep pressing forward,don't let others stop you. It can be hard sometimes, but you are loved. Jesus loves you,I love you and the angels in heaven love you and if God is for you who can be against you. Romans 8:31 and also Romans 8:28. You are loved and again I am sorry with what you are going through. I love you in the Lord Jesus Christ.
I did this a lot. Growing up in the abuse I thought it wasn’t abuse because it wasn’t like the cases you see on the news. In my relationships I didn’t know it was abuse because it wasn’t as bad as what I grew up with. One time I was talking to a friend who knows a bit of what I grew up with and said that my childhood wasn’t that bad. She looked at me and said, “Oh yes it was!”
I only started talking after my spiritual awakening 7 years ago god heal me from the fear of people, and family turn Against me after the awakening I had , I left my toxic family 7 months ago I’m finally healing finding myself finding peace and freedom god removed me from that situation
At 2:26, This is exactly what happened to me after my Mother died-I learnt the difficult lesson that many of my so called friends weren't actually my friends at all and it got to a point that even if I was hurting over the grief of losing my Mother I had to keep it to myself or else they wud start arguing with me. It got to a point where if my friend asked me how I was I just said 'good' as to avoid a confrontation. Nowadays the only being I talk to about my real feelings is my labrador because I feel nobody else listens or even hears what I'm saying. It's sad to realise that these so called "friends" only "love" u as long as they can use u.....
When there’s a disagreement, when I need to say YES or when I need to say NO, when I need to state my needs, and ask for them to be met... When I need to create boundaries... There's a possibility and a probability, that someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So I engage in every encounter, interaction, and relationship... In a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me... NEVER ends up being me! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. To never fragment. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. If you have difficulty with emotions and boundaries... EXPERIMIENT WITH THIS: Next time you experience a strong emotion that's overpowering you, stop for a second and observe it. Just observe the feeling without any stories about it or whatever it means to your life. Just feel the emotion as it is. Perhaps it involves a burning sensation in the stomach or maybe a flutter in the heart. Observe its physical manifestations in your body. And also observe its effects on your mind. Maybe it makes the thoughts start racing. Maybe it confuses the thinking apparatus. Observe all the facets of the overwhelming emotion, scientifically. The way you might observe a strange bug you see walking nearby. Or maybe the way you observed raindrops on a window when you were a kid. Really the goal is to learn to ride your emotions the way a Surfer rides waves. You don't just crash into them and you don't just let yourself get pulled under. With practice you can learn to ride them to shore. (Jesus said when you learn how to suffer you also learn how not to suffer!)
I will come back to this- but I looked at the title, and answered "Yes". I listened to the introduction.. I still said "Yes." I will come back and watch the video all the way through for some ideas on how I might change that.
I resonate with this. I really have to consiously think about how I'm feeling when getting angry, upset, hurt, disappointed etc. Other negative feelings such as guilt, shame and anxiety comes to me easily though. I guess I kind of have this strong feeling that I'm not allowed to be angry about how I've been treated by narcissitic family members and specific others in the past. Something I'll try to work on from here on out! Thanks for a great video!
I tend to say I'm good or I'm fine a lot when friends ask me how I am sometimes. Even when I was going through some tough stuff, I didn't want to talk about it with my friends because I didn't want to seem like I was complaining about life too much.
Like a beautiful flower she spent her days allowing herself to grow.. Not many knew of her struggle.. But eventually all knew of her light...for a radiant flower named michelle...you are all that is beautiful...hoping you are safe tonight.. sweet dreams... always Don
That's why there are so many broken people in this world. Trauma is no joke. We are all on a healing journey. I appreciate your videos. You're a great teacher. God bless you. 💜
I wish my brain would delete the bad sometimes I feel that's all my brain wants to hold onto or it's because it keep happening in different ways my hole life like different situations same action's coming at me
I too feel the same..I feel like we really need a good therapist who can support us on this healing journey..Because I feel like doing it alone is manytimes so hard and we go round in circles..
Hi there, I've bought your books (When the devils the defendant) from your thriver school website, Yet in word document it wouldn't let me copy and paste in word document to transfer to notepad to do the work there? If it's alright if you could get the full version of the When the devils the defendant pdf book just like the one from your recent recent surviving to thriving website? Lastly may you add an pdf version for your book Living with intent due to privacy reasons from narc parents (who would dismantle my healing and inner work process, use more and more narcissistic tactics and negatives.) so I could do the inner work and healing?) Thanks in advances.
@@Debi61 Hi Debbie - so the times vary but for the month of April we are meeting at 10:30 a.m. Eastern time every Tuesday, there is also a 5:00 p.m. meeting for coaching only the third Friday of the month and there are two 5 p.m. support/work group times - obviously not everyone goes to all the meetings. The weekly morning ones are recorded for those that can't attend live - but each member picks and chooses which meetings they would like to attend. It's a really great international group of people =)
@@camaldusclavatus3703 you are welcome, have you heard about body memory = otherwise called somatisation or body flashbacks, sometimes even when brain blocked all trauma memories body develops diseases, pains etc. to communicate with the mind to heal it. I recommend Pete Walker and Bessel van del kolk books.
@@catwoman3247 I don't think what I experience is anything close to trauma, thankfully. Although there's definitely something to work through. But no, I haven't heard of it before. Is there anything I could watch as an intro to it? Something to get me interested in the books?
It fits me to a tee. I have no close friends. I isolate myself. Need therapy. Always taught not to complain there’s always people worse off than me
Same. Both of my parents are narcs. They groomed me very early to believe I didn't deserve anything & I was never good enough. My father used to work in a charity that takes care of children with cerebral palsy. So, often when I asked my parents for things I really needed, like for school, or when I told them I was feeling ill, they often said, "you don't know how lucky you're. at least you don't have cerebral palsy" & then ignored me
Sometimes friends create drama in your life. Dr Drew Pinsky said this, he does not have friends.
Gary Bills you are loved by Jesus. Jesus,He loves you. You are so loved. I love you in Christ Jesus. I just want to say don't give up and I am sorry also for what you going through. It is so sad when other people treat you bad, or make fun of someone. I am so sorry you are going through this. I just want to say I remind myself of this from time to time that when people are being mean,I remind myself "Hurt people hurt people." So,it's not you,what they doing and how they're treating you reflects on what kind of person they are. You are loved. You are a masterpiece and fearfully and wonderfully made by God our Creator. And He loves you. Also Isaiah 54:17 and PSALM 139:14
Keep pressing forward,don't let others stop you. It can be hard sometimes, but you are loved. Jesus loves you,I love you and the angels in heaven love you and if God is for you who can be against you. Romans 8:31 and also Romans 8:28. You are loved and again I am sorry with what you are going through. I love you in the Lord Jesus Christ.
@@strawberryhappiness1468 I know that this message was not for me. However, I want to thank you for it, I really needed it.
@@calibanxpable you welcome. I am glad I could help in anyway. Jesus loves you Aryany Funes. I love you too in Jesus Christ.
I did this a lot. Growing up in the abuse I thought it wasn’t abuse because it wasn’t like the cases you see on the news. In my relationships I didn’t know it was abuse because it wasn’t as bad as what I grew up with. One time I was talking to a friend who knows a bit of what I grew up with and said that my childhood wasn’t that bad. She looked at me and said, “Oh yes it was!”
I only started talking after my spiritual awakening 7 years ago god heal me from the fear of people, and family turn Against me after the awakening I had , I left my toxic family 7 months ago I’m finally healing finding myself finding peace and freedom god removed me from that situation
I'm scared to feel. Makes me feel out of control
At 2:26, This is exactly what happened to me after my Mother died-I learnt the difficult lesson that many of my so called friends weren't actually my friends at all and it got to a point that even if I was hurting over the grief of losing my Mother I had to keep it to myself or else they wud start arguing with me. It got to a point where if my friend asked me how I was I just said 'good' as to avoid a confrontation. Nowadays the only being I talk to about my real feelings is my labrador because I feel nobody else listens or even hears what I'm saying. It's sad to realise that these so called "friends" only "love" u as long as they can use u.....
I’m uncomfortable around people. People generally make fun of me. They believe I only want people to feel sorry for me
Ask yourself why they are making fun of you.
I'm sorry to hear that! It's sad when people not only reach wrong conclusions but then make others feel bad - awful!!!!
I pray for you to love yourself. ❤️
@@calibanxpable lmfaoo this really made sense to you when you typed it
When there’s a disagreement,
when I need to say YES
or when I need to say NO,
when I need to state my needs,
and ask for them to be met...
When I need to create boundaries...
There's a possibility and a probability,
that someone will inevitably,
most likely,
be disappointed in me...
So I engage in every encounter,
interaction, and relationship...
In a way that ensures,
that the person disappointed in me...
NEVER
ends up
being me!
I aim to never repress,
never suppress.
I aim to never lose parts of myself.
To never fragment.
Radical honesty only:
100% of the time.
Always,
all ways.
If you have difficulty with emotions and boundaries...
EXPERIMIENT WITH THIS:
Next time you experience a strong emotion that's overpowering you,
stop for a second and observe it.
Just observe the feeling without any stories about it or whatever it means to your life.
Just feel the emotion as it is.
Perhaps it involves a burning sensation in the stomach or maybe a flutter in the heart.
Observe its physical manifestations in your body.
And also observe its effects on your mind.
Maybe it makes the thoughts start racing.
Maybe it confuses the thinking apparatus.
Observe all the facets of the overwhelming emotion, scientifically.
The way you might observe a strange bug you see walking nearby.
Or maybe the way you observed raindrops on a window when you were a kid.
Really the goal is to learn to ride your emotions the way a Surfer rides waves.
You don't just crash into them and you don't just let yourself get pulled under.
With practice you can learn to ride them to shore.
(Jesus said when you learn how to suffer you also learn how not to suffer!)
Makes so much sense! 4 months free and its alot harder than I thought
I will come back to this- but I looked at the title, and answered "Yes". I listened to the introduction.. I still said "Yes."
I will come back and watch the video all the way through for some ideas on how I might change that.
I resonate with this. I really have to consiously think about how I'm feeling when getting angry, upset, hurt, disappointed etc. Other negative feelings such as guilt, shame and anxiety comes to me easily though. I guess I kind of have this strong feeling that I'm not allowed to be angry about how I've been treated by narcissitic family members and specific others in the past. Something I'll try to work on from here on out! Thanks for a great video!
I tend to say I'm good or I'm fine a lot when friends ask me how I am sometimes. Even when I was going through some tough stuff, I didn't want to talk about it with my friends because I didn't want to seem like I was complaining about life too much.
Like a beautiful flower she spent her days allowing herself to grow..
Not many knew of her struggle..
But eventually all knew of her light...for a radiant flower named michelle...you are all that is beautiful...hoping you are safe tonight.. sweet dreams... always Don
Can you make more healing videos from c-ptsd please?
Yes - this is my favorite topic at the moment!!
That's why there are so many broken people in this world. Trauma is no joke. We are all on a healing journey. I appreciate your videos. You're a great teacher. God bless you. 💜
Repressed creates the unconscious, the more repressed the more unconscious you are🙏
I’m unconscious
I have been repressing for so many years idk what to do? I just shut down I am so angry yet I can't say it.
Thank you for this information. This is very important information for my own healing. ❤
I wish my brain would delete the bad sometimes I feel that's all my brain wants to hold onto or it's because it keep happening in different ways my hole life like different situations same action's coming at me
I too feel the same..I feel like we really need a good therapist who can support us on this healing journey..Because I feel like doing it alone is manytimes so hard and we go round in circles..
I still have a couple of these
Don't know what would be better the one on one or the group
Would like to learn more about it
I realised today!! Excellent
Hi there, I've bought your books (When the devils the defendant) from your thriver school website, Yet in word document it wouldn't let me copy and paste in word document to transfer to notepad to do the work there? If it's alright if you could get the full version of the When the devils the defendant pdf book just like the one from your recent recent surviving to thriving website? Lastly may you add an pdf version for your book Living with intent due to privacy reasons from narc parents (who would dismantle my healing and inner work process, use more and more narcissistic tactics and negatives.) so I could do the inner work and healing?)
Thanks in advances.
Excellent. Thank you 🙏
5 out of 5 😫
NICE! "I'm on a roll today" :))
your links in the description are broken - please check - they were in the previous video too
I am also wondering if group or one on one coaching is for me. Having trouble with my service. Will try again later.
I was able to get back on. I am in Eastern Standard time and wondering when the live coaching takes place. I think that would be best for me.
@@Debi61 Hi Debbie - so the times vary but for the month of April we are meeting at 10:30 a.m. Eastern time every Tuesday, there is also a 5:00 p.m. meeting for coaching only the third Friday of the month and there are two 5 p.m. support/work group times - obviously not everyone goes to all the meetings. The weekly morning ones are recorded for those that can't attend live - but each member picks and chooses which meetings they would like to attend. It's a really great international group of people =)
@@FromSurvivingToThriving would that be private coaching, the third Friday? Private would be best for me.
@@Debi61 No, sorry the membership is for group coaching.
This is interesting
I hate hearing about people being abused
261-2.
At what age could you start developing this? As a toddler? Even as a baby?
With "this" I mean the emotional repression.
Unfortunately at every age: baby toddler etc.
@@catwoman3247 Thanks. Then the stories I've heard about times I don't even remember may explain things.
@@camaldusclavatus3703 you are welcome, have you heard about body memory = otherwise called somatisation or body flashbacks, sometimes even when brain blocked all trauma memories body develops diseases, pains etc. to communicate with the mind to heal it. I recommend Pete Walker and Bessel van del kolk books.
@@catwoman3247 I don't think what I experience is anything close to trauma, thankfully. Although there's definitely something to work through.
But no, I haven't heard of it before. Is there anything I could watch as an intro to it? Something to get me interested in the books?
Does anyone else feel like Michelle is in their head? ❤️
Too waffle sorry