Yeah being around others energies can be yucky and uncomfortable like being in a pool with people who went in all muddy and dirty and just passing in it not giving a 💩 talking about their 💩, projecting their 💩on to you which can feel real nasty so I definitely agree as to let me be and stay clean but if not just got to stay immune and repel negativity with inner outer positivity become the alchemist and transmute their 💩to some✌💖which they're clearly missing because being all negative is only a big cry out for love and peace thats very desperately needed in their life and of course major healing from their past wounds.
TheCVestal this is absolutely true, I've been happier picking up trash and who knows what after events with a good/positive team than working higher paying, "nicer" positions with negative/extremely intense/volatile people 😄
Kristina S. Wrong. It’s about harmony. Harmony comes from open and understanding personalities. Negative personalities are more typically not that type.
I work as a kitchen cleaner at a university. It,s pure heaven. I work alone, and if somone comes in there, and they disturb me, i have the right to ask them to leave. I never feel stress. I also get alot of compliments because of my attention to details. It may not be the best job, but it,s high life quality.
Sound interesting as a job for people like us. My "problem" is that most of my friends have careers making big money. I know one should compare but it makes me feel like a looser to start over at the bottom again at 35. Isn't there careers for us were we can grow our business while maintaining health and stress down I ask
+Christian Angelo Nilsén Yes, I feel exactly the same. The job I am transitioning to will probably only pay me half of what I used to earn. But at least it will be less stressful. I am 44 and it feels weird to start over again with the same pay I am about to receive when I first came out of college. So I am also looking into returning to network marketing for supplemental income especially since our daughter will soon go to college. Have you considered this type of business?
I was having the same problem that is me trying to pursue marketing as a career but the idea of me having to deal with people all the time was very intimidating and draining. That persisted until I came across the idea of digital entrepreneurship which implies you can have your own business online and the possibilities are endless from selling shirts at sites like teespring to blogging or vlogging to setting up your own ecommerce site with shopify to affiliate marketing and so on. Now I am totally free and independent, having control over my time and energy. For people interested in this kind of freedom not necessarily online businesses, you can read the 4 hour work week by Tim Ferris.
Why would you gloat about being a narcissist.you obviously have no idea what your actually capable of doing to someone or their mind. Wait I'm sorry you only care about yourself and what you can get and do for you. Eventually even you will run out of people to tell how great you are at everything and how everyone loves you. They don't love you their just smiling and nodding because they know you'll interrupt them every chance you get because after all only you have anything important to say.
Guys, it's so hard being an HSP. I find myself particularly prone to depressive feelings when I'm not surrounded by great people or with friends, and because I'm an extrovert, it's hard not being around people if I'm really busy. Dating is hard because the thought of being hurt by someone kills me. My trust issues had dominated the majority of my life. I'd love to hear from you if you feel this way, so that I know I'm not alone. Nothing is more painful than the thought of being disrespected, abused, defiled and not appreciated. Being used. It's the plague that I live with after Narcissitic abuse (one family member and one friend). Even if you heal, it's still haunting you.
I am an extrovert, but when overloaded: an introvert. I must hide away to recharge my battery. After charging is complete I can again re enter society again. I am a great listener. A blessing/ curse. I am an ear to pour your problems into, but too many times these people deplete my energy and I then have nothing left for myself. I have to keep these people at a distance. I want to learn more coping mechanisms from other HSPs out there and your stories of energy suckers.
My life to a tee... I've been abused, violated, disrespected... ostracized, and ppl have made me not want to be here... every day gets harder and harder. I actually feel like my soul died years ago and my body hasn't given up yet
I work as a nanny, which has been really great for my highly sensitive personality. I love teaching and little ones, but I can focus on one or two at a time. We go on walks, spend time outdoors...it's a blessing.
@@HighlySensitivePerson Yes great suggestion - I love working with children but a whole classroom of them can be so overwhelming! Working with a small group or one or two sounds ideal.
I'm a vet tech! I work with people a lot but I play with animals in between. I love my job. I get tired of people but I never get tired of animals. Working with animals is a great job for introverts in my opinion
i am an hsp , and i'm working as a nurse specialized in psychiatric care. i had to do some psychotherapy to not let my sensitivity overcome me. some days are hard and are difficult to let go. but i love my job and the sensitivity helps me get a better understanding/connection to my patients
I think I commented on this video 3 years ago, I would like to share with you a few updates: I've stopped working as a school professor for the government, where I had way too much interactions & reponsibilities, I now work as a freelance translator & a private tutor; it's only been less than 6 months really, but, wheew, I look back at my changes & steps I've taken, & I can say that I'm impressed at myself! Both new jobs allow me to work completely alone, or with only one learner. Y'all can do it, I promise!
That's awesome. I am working on creating a job I can do at home. Don't get me wrong, I love people, I just don't like anyone telling me what to do when I have my own way of doing things and getting great results.
Wow, I was dubbed as too sensitive in grade school. I cried at the drop of a hat. I was bullied. And I noticed just about every detail of a scene. I always felt like nobody understood me. Still, I've embarrassed myself when managers have yelled at me. I just wanted to run out of there, in flight mode. The worst part is being highly aware of peoples emotions and my surroundings. It's too much at times.
but you got so much balls to have a nice sensitive heart for people's feelings don't mistake for something negative. I take it more as a challenge. in our childhood im sure we ALL had our moments.
Hi! I was a ceramics art major in college, and hav always been an HSP. That evolved into working for myself as a high end tile installer after about 3 years of apprenticing. As a woman in construction, I know I've found a great niche working for myself and giving homeowners a beautiful, functioning, easy to maintain product constructed deliberately and with great attention to detail. its true... i couldn't imagine not working for myself. Here I am, 15 years later and still feeling like things work out the way they need to 95% of the time. It's quite rewarding.
I know how important it is to recognize you are a HSP, but I don't want that to keep me away from anything. I know how though it is, because I know how tough it have been for me. But a person that matters a lot to me told me once "I know you're way more sensitive than the rest, but you are also stronger" (Ironically I broke in tears when she said that). So, for anyone out there, for you... I know you can, 'cause you're way more sensitive than the rest, but you're also stronger.
entrepreneurship is most favorable and beneficial job to do as HSP . Because HSPs are creative having good imagination, better understanding, intuitions and always thinks out of the box. ...
they don't know about it, but society forces people into lying without letting them know.. the monetary system is flawed as fck, but it was made for that purpose. now everyone is trapped..
I'm hsp and hate corporate environment, and basically dislike bussiness career. However, if being an enterpreneur that sells the product that I wish it helps people in very sophisticated way, I am more than glad.
I wish I watched your video 30 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of grief. I've had way too many wrong jobs, trying to fit in. I guess its better late than never. Thanks for sharing :)
+Grant, +Inge Scott & +HSP Podcast, yes, me, too. I came across this website several months ago. This lead me to do even more tons of research on myself as far as career goes. Of all the grief of the past twenty years, I think I've finally found something I can do, but just found out last month. It just came out a couple years ago. It's owning a virtual bookkeeping service. If anyone would like more info on this program, feel free to let me know. :) +HSP Podcast, it was so stressful for me back then. I feel so relieved that this type of journey people like myself have gone through was just normal, unfortunately inevitable. Luckily it's not too late for some of since the internet has been around, because we found out after the fact that we are HSP's. Thank you, +HSP Podcast, I thought I was just weird. I always felt something was wrong with me. Thanks to the internet, we can eventually figure our way out of the grief that +Inge Scott is talking about. Plus, I can stop being so hard on myself, too, as you mentioned above. Yes, this knowledge is definitely helpful, gives us direction! We really appreciate what you are doing to provide the whole world this awareness to save us from further grief!
Amen! I would never ever ever want to be high up and deal with large amounts of people contacting me. I'm at a second level in my dept. and happy where I am
wow this explains why I have a hard time at my workplace. I'm a high school teacher, and I feel exhausted at the end of the day. it is a high energy job where the students and the noise sucks the energy right out
I'm very conflicted by that need for financial independence, materialism, and being sensitive to my work environment. It usually pushes me into very unhealthy situations, and after so many years has lead to an existential crisis, and career break. I used to work as an IT consultant, and had to engage with a lot of egotistical, tyrannical, management types, being in that kind of scenario daily was unbearable. Resorting to using alcohol to manage my anxiety at work as probably the lowest point in my life.
@TheEvolvedegg banking and spirituality can go together...but only if you had kind people around you.but real world doesnt work like that,does it? I used to be super competitive and sensitive about my work and was fully committed and would get into trouble for it.One bout of depression as well just cz I had to priortize my ex husband over my job.since then am a changed person.I need the money yes,but I dont take the job to be defining me anymore.its work i do to pay the bills.maybe crack a few jokes with few ppl at work.thats it.maybe am only protectin myself from another bout of depression,but so be it.
Hi !, I'm very curious how you are managing the situation now. I am in the exact same boat as you ! minus the alcohol, I choose to distract myself with videogames, day dreaming etc
@@Devious91 It's very strange to come back to see this old comment I wrote. I didn't see the earlier replies, but I'm doing a lot better than I was before, but that was only possible through a lot of job changes to get away from those types of people and companies. I realised that it's important to choose the industry first, then the company and only then the particular job you hold. That particular industries attract certain types of people. I switched away from service orientated industries and focused on companies that produce products, and focused on the medical products industry. I found doing that that there was a light and day difference between the types of people I would work with. I also ended up switching the country in which I was working to try and surround myself with people who were more intellectual / introverted. (I moved from Australia / New Zealand to Europe, I make less money, but I am a lot more contented). Of course there are still one or two people who you will come across who provoke that anxiety, but I've just tried to be positive and minimise my contact with them and if I really can't tolerate the situation, I might use some temporary anxiety medication such as propranolol, for me that just stops me having panic attacks and shaking like crazy. Hope everyone finds a way out of those bad situations, you just have to put yourself first and listen to what your body and emotions are telling you if we are having such negative reactions to our environment.
Flight attendend was a very interesting job for me. You do your job - interact with people on the short run and you use your charm as a HSP. There was never time for a lot of talks. So you just blew up with people you felt comfortable with. Its was a good job. Now I am independent I opened a company for online sales 6 months ago. It helped me a lot. Just go for it. Start your own company during you are still in your new job, see how it goes and - quit your job. You will be good at it, veeery good at it. You know that.
Thanks for that :) I needed to hear stories of other HSP people who have made it :) I needed a boost. And totally stuck on what career path I want to take. Thanks for showing it is a goal you can reach :)
Sara Pinto Moreira thank you for your post I’m HSP and am looking into becoming a flight attendant and wasn’t sure if that’s the right career for me so thank you,this has truly brought peace to my mind. I also eventually want to own my business.
I have been a flight attendant for the last five years, and as an HSP, I can say it worked well. However, the company had a very toxic culture which affected me a lot. I have now quit, and working on starting my own business. Crossing fingers for me and all HSPs out there to find what they need in life💕
I'm struggling a lot with this. I'm 35, have little work experience, have left past jobs repeatedly because of the anxiety and its effects on my physical and emotional health. I'm now trying to find work and am having a very difficult time. If I can work up the courage to answer the phone (or return a call) from a possible employer to set an interview, I choke at the next step- actually showing up to the interview. I had one yesterday for a job that could have been perfect for me, working independently caring for plants- sounded like heaven. When I got to the place to meet the employer, I freaked out and walked right past him as if I was just another shopper. Because I've failed again, I'm now in a depressed state. I don't know how to survive in a world where people expect me to be able to do "normal" things.
Kristy Lee That happened to me too! I am currently in a job hunt. I consider myself to be in the marketing research field and I dream a career in it or in the Ad field...but when an interview ask me, so what did you do in your past job and what do you like, I start to get watery eyes and get shocked in my own words...it is really awkward.
Kristy Lee I'm 31 same thing I've quit countless jobs and I'm lost trying to find the right career that's why I'm watching this video right now. Good luck to everybody with this problem hopefully we can all find a solution.
Wow. I can't believe it. I thought I was the only one in the world who had this kind of "bizarre behaviours" for the rest of "normal" society, leaving jobs and such. It makes me feel so frustrated. I want to do so much of my life and reach independence, but these feelings almost seem like they're making me a crippled person most of the times...I wish I could be set free at some point...
Kristy Lee ....you Are normal. Deal with the anxiety by telling yourself its okay. Baby steps. Love yourself ..learn to be your own cheerleader for yourself.Pray...never fails, but believe in it.Were all finding our way......some make it look easy, but anything worth having in life isn't easy, but you made this far..🙌
I am a therapist who read Elaine Aron's book The Highly Sensitive Person in the early 90's. I think it may have been the best book I ever read to help me appreciate my HSP qualities. I liked your show today. There have been many a time when something happened at my job that would really upset me, more than I thought it should. I had not thought of the intense upset feeling as being part of a HSP until I heard this show.
Yes, yes, YES!!!! I've spent years self-employed and now am working as a music teacher in a VERY troubled district. I am over-stimulated constantly with negative energy, extraneous sounds, and stuff that sucks the creative life out of me. This video is incredibly validating.
+Adam Riccinto Hi Adam...I am also a music teacher in a difficult school. I have been doing it for 12 years. I noticed right away that I felt completely over-stimulated and completely exhausted by negative energy. Still today...I have to come home and go to sleep for at least 20 minutes just to get myself clear. I went into music because it has always appealed to my empathic nature...and I thought that teaching music was a good compromise of having job security and benefits and doing something that I have a lot of feeling for. I also feel that this work continually sucks the life out of me. It is extremely draining every day. At this point, I will stay with it until I have 20 years in and then take early retirement. I just try to sustain myself with the good that I know I am doing for my students and when I have a student who brings positive energy I try to soak as much of it up as I can.
hy +musicatokc I am exactly in the same position, I love music and teaching is the most secure way to make a living from it, but, it drains all my energy to deal with students with so little interest and politeness... I feel it would be a waste after all this years to work in something else, but on the other hand maybe working from home would be a blessing, and I would have time to play for myself
Omg I so sympathize! I'm a music teacher in a title I district and i get headaches daily from the overstimulation. I love my job but it's a lot sometimes!
ima dietitian and its a perfect job for me. i help people daily meeting their goals of not only loosing weight but also improve their self esteem. i love it!
ana Mont It's such a relief to hear that from a fellow HSP. I'm having to retrain again after a number of careers at the age of 42 due to not finding a work environment that suits me. Training as a dietician is my first choice. I really hope that I can both be good at it and enjoy it long term.
After too many anxiety inducing jobs, I started workin exclusively for myself or in positions where I have the freedom to make my own decisions. Going to start as a tutor soon in a franchise that leaves me a lot of freedom on how to teach the children and work with them individually in small groups. My boss seems really kind and understanding too.
i'm a psychologist and consider myself HSP. Can predict things to happen prior to their happening, find it hard to interact with others, anxious all the time, do know what to do at what moment, and can manipulate people. Been in depression for 10 years and it took its toll but gave me an insight at the true meaning of life. Spiritual awakening is the basic funda of life......nothing else matters in life.....to give meaning to life and find the purpose of your life and give meaning to yourself. Peace comes from within ,don't seek without........
Are you happy with your career field? Would you still have chosen to become a psychologist if you could go back and do it again? I've always been interested in psychology and have considered becoming a psychologist, but as a HSP, I'm not quite sure if it would be the best fit for me.
I would like to know too! I am also a HSP and I am looking into going into psychology. Well, I know I really enjoy psychology and thats what I want to do... I hope its the right choice for me!
It's the energy of other people that can bother me - I like peace and calm. So f they're loud, angry, selfish or rude/ crude beyond an acceptable level, it can feel weightily draining. If I don't like that behaviour I can put a wall up. Though I have started to respond to them in an authentic way. Like not pretend it's okay, but comment back if the joke is stupid or rude. To not laugh at dumb jokes. I will still be polite if we have to mix but not go too far out of my way to indulge their need for attention.
I am in my fifties, recovering still from empty nest, never rediscovered my identity after one hell of a long depression. I am considering working in a nice qui/ library where intelligent people are seeking knowledge, and there isn't a lot of competition.
I am 21 now and it took me so long time to know that what is the reason behind my sudden outbursts, being easily hurt ... I can tell myself that there is nothing wrong with me but I can't expect others to be senstive.
It's the HSP trait. I'm a easy tempered guy but whem I feel like I get into a situation where I feel wronged, I don't necessarily react at the moment in the situation but I do let the situation replay in my mind and end upcomforting the situation when I see that person a again. Not everytime but probably a little more than not.
You may not talk to people too much but you are nonetheless intensively in contact with them, & sometimes, not in the easiest context! U still do that in 2019?
I'm a licensed cosmetologist but recently found out the spa setting is a better environment for me since so many people are in an open area and talking in a salon whereas a spa is just you and another person in a quiet room. Its drastically reduced the amount of times I start to feel overwhelmed during the day
Thank you so much, I was an illustrator that works almost 18 hours per day under pressure of my manager, I was forced to create under very stressing environment, I didn't have time to even take care of myself (when I got home, I had lots of revision) I was so stressed and finally decided to quit and start freelance work, my family kept telling me that it's not good decision because of the money I make will definitely decrease so much, but watching this makes me realize that what I did is the best for me, thanks
Thank you for sharing this i am an extreme empath and im currently a housekeeping manager at a large and highly competitive property in alaska and we took pride in our mom and pop feel. We just got a new GM who likes to micro manage and shes an energy vampire with pretty words.....its a rough run n ultimately i had to as recently as last week resign from my position due to disapproval of how i understand and mentally work. Even so much as to criticize how i use a highlighter.....it was too much and my mental state was at the risk of an alcoholic relapse.......EMPATHS ARE REAL and we carry the lac of humanity this word is suffering from. And we are slowly getting smothered by societies vision of success and wealth.
In this shitty world I'd like to be a sociopath rather than HSP. I don't think that I am a HSP. But it must be very hard for them to live in this system.
Me too. Makes keeping the roof over my head difficult and family and friends think I'm a weirdo for leaving jobs. Jobs have some stresses but I always leave because of people.
Yeah, I worked in a chiropractic clinic as a "wellness coordinator" and hadn't realized sales would be such a big part of my job. Only lasted 1 1/2 years. Sales is definitely NOT for me, nor customer service.
The good thing about us hsp is, that we have empathy and compassion for others, With this we ALL can help each other and provide the support to others of us who need it, God bless you all
I don't think we should work with people, in special with troubled ones because we take their problems on us, their bad energy, thoughts and feelings. I like working with objects , doing my own thing, having coworkers but not having to work closely with them. Maybe even arts could work for us. Sadly I have no talent in art.
Thanks for this! Omg, I can totally relate. I feel the older I get the more introverted I get. It's a struggle. An everyday struggle especially going to work 😩
I like this. Things is most careers are competitive, even if it shouldn't be. I think freelance musicianship, making and performing music or any other art form through multiple means, has an appeal to me (of course as a musician I am biased). The arts aren't black and white like things involving STEM, so you can't really "fail" at being an artist, and you can always improve and accomplish something being your personal best. Finishing an album, getting into a musical, performing one well, finishing sheet music, and finishing a commission gives a sense of satisfaction because you made art. This feels more beautiful, and you feel free. It may be competitive, but it isn't high-risk. As in, if you make a singular mistake, your not going to hurt or kill people. It's a pressure that's harder to handle. Although, my intellect could handle computer science, I would be scared to hurt people. Plus there are so many different ways to make money off of music, especially in this century, so I get to do what I love and I have the opportunity to do more amazing and wonderful things ❤.
Amazing!! I keep thinking of what to do for many years.. what to do the way I want it.. without feeling unsatisfied about it . Music is the only thing that at least has come to be better but am even scared to start.. plus no much capital.
So happy to discover your channel! I'm a HSP and have work for myself as a Life Coach and Tutor, I've been told that being a HSP can be a blessing as a Life Coach!
Orange Box Personal Development I can definitely see how it would be an asset as a coach! You will be highly tuned in to other people...like a fine violin. :)
I want to be a painter, thats it, thats my purpose, I want to paint huge murals, paint amazing oil paintings, even do some online painting designs for t-shirts maybe, but Im not sure. I just want to paint and sell prints, my job is bringing me down so much and I depend on those moments of insight, but at a job I don't get it... I feel exhausted after every job, just being around people who dont bring me up or lift me into my spirit, It sucks :( Im trying to dig myself out, but its taking a while and getting drained. This video is spot on though. I can really only see myself working for myself or working for someone who really aligns with my values and I enjoy them!
OMG!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!!!! When you said that the job you had was "just never ending" I was like YES YES YES!! finally somebody said it! finally somebody understands me! I'm not a lone in this !!!!! Oh my God!! thank you so much for this podcast. Please keep it up :) P.s. I'm an Extrovert HSP. I felt I was a bit rare, but not that rare ! :/
+Noon Hassan I'm so glad this was helpful to you! I talk about extroverted HSPs here: ua-cam.com/video/U720wrpdWaE/v-deo.html and I interview an extroverted, HSP man here: ua-cam.com/video/WDX3uZ-tpZE/v-deo.html
My great grandmom knew I am an HSP and told my dad who had NO IDEA what to do with that information and pretty much ignored it. Would join in teasing me in front of my sister, pitting us against the other, who did the same and when I spoke up about it they'd laugh at me saying I'm too sensitive or berating me on the way to school in my intermediate years. Not a very fun household navigating lot of adults resentments and developing my own that all was emotionally draining. Bed wetting, the works. Very dysfunctional but I knew there was nothing "wrong" with me as implied, just a stark difference in receptivity. My dad I think is HSP too but raised emotionally dysfunctional, as well as my momwith a bit of neglect from their own families though they didn't see it that way then. Too close to the forest for the trees, I suppose. Glad to be getting more comfortable and understanding what I've been experiencing over the years socially, internally and otherwise, etc. Much appreciated!
I'm an HSP in high school. I've listened to almost all of your podcasts and I try to your content with my daily life as a student. When it comes to my life, thoughts, feelings, etc. I can find company in your podcasts. But when it comes to my academic life, I'm looking for an HSP community of preferably my generation which will help me thrive in my school and later college life. There are soooo many questions I have and problems I face as a student and I try to connect it to my HSP traits, (not that I blame myself for being highly sensitive or anything) but I never seem to get any reassurance. Especially when it comes to what kind of career path I should choose, I get so scared because I don't know whether what I study will bring a sense of happiness, satisfaction, and fulfilment. I'm looking for HSPs of my age who face the same issue so that I can at least see what their views are. Can you help me?
TheQuasarOfKnowledge ...great news for you in finding & discovering about yourself in middle school !!! Bravo !!! ...took me 50 years; keep working on this so u can have the career u enjoy best ..I wish you a world & future of joys
I initially was searching for a playlist of relaxing, inspirational music and I accidentally clicked on this video...or maybe it wasn't an accident. All my life I have felt this way - highly sensitive to my environment and the people in it. I am one who is engaged in the well being of others and genuinely excited to do so. However, I always felt overwhelmed by those around me who were constantly angry, disrespecting and mistreating others. I could never seem to let things slide or not care about what people think. My "work" place is more than just a job, rather, a harmonious community collaborating together to create change. I know what your thinking...Disneyland!!! Maybe it sounds a little far fetched; believing that everyone should feel happy, appreciated and celebrated at work. But if we took the time to understand, respect and appreciate one another as a human race, our quality of life may in fact be more fruitful.
I work now as a professional psychic and couldn’t be happier! I get to tune in to my intuitive side and work one on one with my clients to help them navigate life situations.
I can't stand staying for too long at the store with my wife, I feel comfortable around old people, spiritual people and people having meaningful conversations. Each time my wife asks me to go out to hang out I do it because I don't want her to judge me wrong and lose interest in me. I do love her but it is overwhelming. Goind to walmart is too much during the day, too many people. I can sense all the stares, all the feelings of other people. My intuition is high. I also feel like I have ESP. HSP people's life is pretty miserable. Let me straight that too when people get to know me they love my frienship sooo much. I feel like I want to feel normal. It is a dream to me to stop caring what people think or feel people's energy.... I am good in art(poetry and litterature). I feel like HSP people can be good counselor, teacher, spiritual priests (pastor) etc, and anything where they can be independent and not having to work for people with totally different energy.
yes. I love my patients. it's the staff. they simply do not care about the people they are supposed to care for. I can't help but wonder why they choose to be nurses or CNA s. so glad I found this channel.
Reese Anderson hi. Are you a nurse? Please private messaging me if you are. I'm in nursing school and I hate it. There's so much group work and my partner is so mean to me, and I end up crying and getting anxiety attacks.
Hey! I'm studying occupational therapy degree and I like it, but I agree that I hate group work and we have a lot of it! :/ I'm also afraid to be in a wrong collective when having jib in the future... as she said patients are nice and you usually live working with them but the team meetings etc.. :/
Jess Horáková I once needed a nurse to help me with a client and she told me no. she said that I could take care of the client on my own. the nurse was busy playing cards you see and that was more important to her than our client going to the bathroom. this client needed to be hooked up to a hoyer lift and placed on the toilet seat. for years I had to deal with many staff members with the same mindset as the card playing nurse.
Oh no... that´s not really nice... Maybe thats why it is better maybe to set up own practice, but if you like traveling like I do, then that´s not the option. On my practice placement the staff was quite nice except of one persone... but cannot really to talk about it online.. :D And one girl there was just really nice!! But what can you do.. sometimes you are lucky to find nice people sometimes no :/
Omg. I related to this video so much! I had a job at a rehab. I loved the job and my clients but I couldn’t stand the people I worked with and worked for. I started my own business but although I make a very good amount of money, I’m feeling like I need to be doing something else. I feel like I’m not fulfilling my purpose. I never understood why I kept leaving jobs in my past until now. Thank you.
V D A quote from this article would be helpful, “Social media is a double-edged sword for everyone, but especially for Highly Sensitive Persons. We should seek to harness the power it gives us but also be wary of the inner conflict it can garner. Scroll carefully, post fearlessly, and be careful who you follow.” medium.com/1-one-infinity/4-tips-on-how-to-handle-being-highly-sensitive-in-a-world-of-social-media-626a72b9b986
Erin Fellow HSP here I've thought that for awhile too, but maybe it's not you learning slowly it might be who's teaching you. My bosses don't realize that them telling me or showing me doesn't really help me learn quicker. What I need to do is try the task myself plenty of times even if I mess up occasionally. Btw I work at a vegan restaurant in Arizona. ✌️
I'd recommend the creative arts. It will nurture your independence and allow you to create your own rules, and almost everyone in art is an HSP so you'll come into contact with more like minded people.
This really touched me. I have always been a sensitive person but I've been told this my whole life and have been made to feel almost like a freak or that people have to be very careful around me. I didn't know there were other people out there like me. I work as a makeup artist, not independently unfortunately, it was always my goal but I kinda got stuck in the sales side of it in a major department store. I have done this job for 8 years. l have recently been feeling very stressed and unhappy with my job because the store I am at has higher sales expectations. When she said the number one job an HSP should not have is sales, I actually laughed at loud and said wow. Everything she said is 100% true. In a sales environment it's never ending, no sense of completion and your value is only how much you are selling. It's a very depressing job for someone like me that's very creative at heart and wants to connect with people and put meaning behind everything, but those interactions are only sprinkled in between the constant pressure to sell. It makes me feel very used. That my talents have been taken advantage of and I've been given a pipe dream to do what I love as long as I am selling. I have been coached out by my managers to do freelance work and I now believe it's because they didn't want someone that is so sensitive to feelings and interactions with customers and the inability to to work/function in a high stress job. In the end it works out but there's not enough awareness for highly emotionally sensitive people.
Thank you for this video. I’m HSP, and have been taking medication for anxiety for 25+ years. Learning that I worry about every detail, worry about going out into loud places, don’t have the support from others that think I’m ‘too emotional’ and ‘too sensitive’ (to noises, etc) has made me feel like there’s something wrong with me. I hoped Covid would take away some of my sense of smell, as I cannot physically be in a room that has strong smells. I change jobs frequently, and at this point in my life I am financially OK with not having to make a lot of money. I work from home making craft into heavy items, and sell them in a gift shop. I now work in that gift shop, as it is a happy, somewhat quiet, controlled environment. But my boss is manic and then completely stressed, as she takes on too many projects, and I feed off of all of that emotion. It’s exhausting and one day I love working there, the next I want to quit because of her disorganization and stress that makes me feel I’m not doing a good job. I am very hard-working, treat this family owned gift shop as though it is my own because I am so invested in customers being happy. But the roller coaster from the owner being elated one day and stressed to the max day to day is really pushing me away. I love this job, and my fiancé says ‘it’s her problem, not yours’ but I can’t seem to separate my love for the store from the chaos she creates. Luckily every employee sees this in her so at least I know I’m not the only one that is on eggshells. I work part time there, am typically happy to go to work, and also work from home running my own official business using my creativity and love for making products that will make others happy. But, I don’t think I can be home 100% working, as I do need the interaction with others outside the home.
I want to work for myself but am afraid of not earning enough money. And the process of starting up when working full time sounds stressful and requires a lot of time that I don't have.
I work with selling medical cannabis seeds, an I love it! I decided when I was very young, that no job is worth keeping if it makes me feel unwell. I'm 38 now and never felt depression even tho I'm very sensitive. i get to help people all the time and calm my sensitivity in a natural and non damaging way. and I work with 2 of my best friend's that are pretty much the same 🌱blessed in so many ways 😊
I can relate to this wholeheartedly. I worked from home for over 15 years before I was forced to find work outside the home. Now I am an HSP ( introverted ). I have run a couple of businesses from home and loved it however the economy issues hit hard. I took the first job that was available to me and I've been stuck there for 4 years. I'm a single mom so I work is crucial. The job I took is driving a school bus and I hate it. Since taking this job, I have developed a heart issue, gained 60 pounds, and have mysterious symptoms the doctors can't attribute to anything yet. I've been screened an tested for Lupus, MS, Lyme's Disease, and more.
You are not alone. There are millions of people like us struggling to find their way in the world as an HSP. Stay true to yourself and follow your bliss.
Hello my dear. I was diagnosed an HSP last year. Hallelujah! 50 years of thinking what's wrong with me finally came to an answer. I think no job will ever be 100% perfect for us. Listening to you today made me realise that I actually have the perfect job. As perfect as it gets. I am a professional photographer. Creativity is my biggest saviour. Thank you for doing what you do. B
Brigitta Scholz-Mastroianni .....I am so joyed to hear u have found ur happiness in a career & it was right there all the time lol ...wow ...wonderful news, makes me smile ...joy to u
I am a Massage Therapist and love working one on one with my clients. This past July, I started my own business working for myself. I rent a room in a Chiropractic clinic with 3 Chiropractors, 1 acupuncturist and an office manager who all have positive, health-conscious personalities and a very good work/life balance. I am glad to have created this for myself! I am now so happy where I work, doing what I love! 💖
Nightowl, ISTP/FJ, HSP... I was bullied in school, a lot. I did ok in studies, but spent most of the time in my own bubble doing my own stuff and usually stayed up all night on computer while my classmates were going to parties etc. After senior high I studied media/web design in a University of Applied Sciences. Quit basicly because of depression after 5 years of getting nothing done (and to think of it now perhaps the team oriented work environment on media field was too much of a social environment). Had the opportunity to get a truck driver licence and been doing that since for almost 8 years now. First I did food delivery with lots of customer interaction for 1,5yrs and now longhaul recycling products with very little customer contact for the past 6 yrs for one company. Could have more challenge for the brain but I really enjoy being on the road in the truck cabin with me, myself & I...
I'm 49, an HSP...I must work for myself because of this. SO, I have worked to keep my expenses low and work as an independant contractor driving my own car for a pharmacy mon-fri, and I do solo acoustic gigs at hotels as my other job. P E R F E C T! I'm as happy as I've ever been
My feelings makes so much sense now. I am highly sensative and creative, I have a terrible memory and have great anxiety trying to feel even somewhat comfortable around other people for long periods of time. So, a 20-year profession in a cut-throat, money-oriented business - real estate escrow, was a big mistake. I was like a round peg shoved in a square hole! Almost always uncomfortable, stressed to the point of throwing up at my desk, tons of health problems have accumulated through the years. It has taken in until a couple years ago to start to understand myself a little and I'm 48 yrs old. My health is now all but destroyed and I'm having a hard time getting in touch with my body and WHY I feel certain ways. I have always just carried a lot of guilt and shame for not being good enough, smart enough, quick enough, etc. Always feeling inferior because I am different. As I get older, I realize that I was putting myself under so much stress to do that job for so long, under such demands. Most of the women I worked with developed AUTOAMMUINE DISORDERS and INFLAMMATORY DISEASES due to the types and duration of the stress we were under. I was just trying to be successful (and of course, make my Father proud of me. Now that I'm ill and can only work 2 days a week, my Father thinks I'm a hypochondriac and a failure. He hardly talks to me anymore and has voiced his disappointment of me.) I hope my health problems are anxiety related, since I have become almost a hermit due to peoples opionion of me, I have felt so bad about myself...not knowing that I am different, but I am special and have some abilities that most people don't have. I'm an artist and a very caring, empathetic person. I am a good listener, which is almost impossible to find these days. I'm now in search of my true identity that I can understand and appreciate. Maybe then, I won't care what other people think of me...it makes me miserable and on-edge.
Thank you so much, I am 22 years old and finding myself. Well I realized that I am a hsp. It helped to understand myself and y career isn't working out like I want it to. Thank you!
I finished high school a year ago and the question of "what am I gonna do once I graduated?" has been haunting me for years. I'm an introverted hsp with social anxiety which makes it insanely hard for me to find a profession I can actually see myself doing permanently. I've tried jobs of so many different fields and am still struggling to find something I can handle for more than a few weeks. It makes me feel so bad and puts me under a lot of pressure since I don't want my CV to be proof of my inconsistency when I keep changing jobs. No one understands why it's so hard for me to settle for a job and instead everyone tells me to just take whichever one I can find for the sake of working..
Thank you for telling expressing how I feel at office being a HSP.TAT(Turn Around Time) jobs are really hectic to handle for me.Because 🙏🏻currently I'm working at the same job.Because the target will always be impossible to meet in Corporate jobs,If i get blastings for doing my best ,it hurts a lot. Let me remind you, The qualities in which none in office can beat me, 1.Punctuality 2.Dedication 3.Adaptability 4.Additional Support. 5.Maintaining a Happy environment at office. But it hurts when we'll be dealt with aggression for little Mistakes that doesn't matters or effects the business.
I am a teacher and I've been avoiding working as such for this very same reason. I cannot deal with the kid's problems. I want to help them but at the same time I feel overwhelmed by them and it is just too much to handle. I currently have depression and I am asking for help because all this is ruining my life.
Just quit teaching too. I could handle the kids with needs alright. The more quiet, insecure, forgetful, broke on pizza day kids. What I loathed were the aggressive ENTITLED children who stood before me constantly DEMANDING I solve their first-world problems…..ugh! And when I asked that student to follow directions, as this was a class and not a self-serve buffet, the child had their parent call a meeting with principal….and myself.
I worked at Kumon and I HATED IT. My closet friend would even tell me I was being too dramatic but she couldn't understand how much I felt unaccomplished in that job. All I did was grade papers and I didn't feel like I was growing as a person or professionally. The only thing that was growing was my dissatisfaction with my life and depression X'D So I left. And now I work at Chick-fil-A. I've only been there for 2 months, but I already love it so much. The people are amazing and encouraging and my social skills have definitely gotten better. I only make drinks, but at least I know I can grow my skills. Even if its something as minimal as knowing how to change batteries in a soap dispenser, for me knowing something means I can do it by myself and not have to bother anybody else. Soon, I'm even going to be learning how to do cash register and I'm so excited. As an HSP, I know that having a job where you can constantly grow and expand yourself is the best. You never feel stuck and are instead trying hard to get better and work on another skill. Screw everyone (like my close friend lol) who says you SHOULD be satisfied with your job. If you aren't, leave. Please do. Don't waste potential time you could be using to make yourself better. You got this ✊
You are right; for many it isn’t so much the job that’s the problem. It is more the negative and narcissistic environment that is the issue, and the older a person gets, the more isolating and despairingly harder it gets. This makes getting a job even more difficult , even although you have such good things to contribute:
I started an education as a graphic designer unfortunately I recognized it's a lot about sales and communication, that's why I quit. I'm considering studying art although my passion is music, numerology, astrology and writing. I've always dreamed about becoming a writer.
"Work" is a very big part of my identity, and creating value is more important to me than navigating high power distance hierarchies. I'm most comfortable in creative-technical trades where I can directly serve a client, but I feel drained of energy in middle-management cultures that want to monitor every step of my processes without adding any perceived value to any part of the process. I'm good with leaders that can articulate a vision and then set me free to achieve, but not with leaders with no vision and are just using me to explore concepts until the figure out what they want.
Thanks deeply for sharing this very helpful video!!! I have faced professional conflict with management at several jobs in the past because many employees have come to me for teaching/guidance/and overall to speak about the sh"t that they are going through at work. A lot of managers wondered what I had that they didn't have! It is called compassion and being an awesome team member!!! A lot of businesses are simply Plantations in disguise and a lot of uncaring souls are drawn to positions where they can try to overpower people and simply be downright rude to their caring employees!!!!
I'm a software QA tester. It's a good job for logical detail oriented people, with the privilege of working in a team, but quietly and by yourself. The only issue I keep running into is the responsibility and criticism... When you deal with criticism all the time, but tend to criticize yourself along the way it causes a lot of inner conflicts...
+Yaara Egger Hi Yaara. Self doubt is no fun--here is a blog post I wrote to try to help with self doubt. highlysensitiveperson.net/pep-talk-self-doubt/
IT world is full of half educated asses who pile their insecurities on other.stand up to those idiots.if u are good at ur work,not even their forefathers can touch you
Have only just started looking deeper into the root of what's wrong with me. So happy I've found this and reading that other people are so similar to me is so comforting. I left my cleaning job a few months ago as the people I had to work with were making me crazy lol. Some shifts where I could work alone were great, but if the other girls were moody or sarcastic or didn't work to my standard it would effect my mood for days. Making it my mission to find another job asap but it's so scary, as I don't know what job. I always feel I'm being judged, that nobody likes me, never fit in. I try and hide the way I am from everyone. Always seem happy, understanding, good listener excellent charm..but can never keep friendships. Have been on antidepressants for a few months now as I struggle to go out. Luckly I have an amazing man in my life but in the days there are no family or friends and it's making me nuts tbh. I know a job will help me but the fear is always the people.wish I could stop hating myself and go 5 minutes without a negative thought. Any advice would be greatly welcomed.
Any job where you work alone all or most of the time could be the solution. The bigger the number of people you have to interact with at work the more likely that you will become overwhelmed, depressed and want to quit your job. I really relate to your experience. What has really helped my anxiety and depression is a regular gentle yoga practice (Yin Yoga, Yoga Nidra, Restorative Yoga, Trauma- sensitive Yoga, etc.), joining a mindfulness meditation group, and doing affordable (sliding scale) counselling sessions, daily walks in nature, spending time with my dog or a close friend. Hope this helps. My prayers are with you.
Im a fashion designer, i was self employee, for more than 15 years. Art its my life. My home was my office. My life change due COVID 19. I start working with technology, systems, analysis, costumer service. My problem was not learning something new, or make my job. My problem was the enviroment, I can’t work in a toxic environment , even if you do a lot of meditation, practice wisdom, emotional intelligence,etc. in my personal opinion being highly sensitive allows you to work in different areas. I don’t limit my self for being highly sensitive, I don’t consider my self rare, weird. I’m very grateful to be highly sensitive it allows me to learn and work in whatever I want. I have quit three jobs for the same reason: toxic enviroments, toxic people. It is not about the job, it’s not about the costumers, it’s not about money,working with computers,or systems, it’s about toxic enviroments, negative enviroments, narcissistic enviroments, etc. my body start to react. I work from home, and even you work from home people, even people doesn’t know you, people reflects their insecurities.
Thanks for that nice share. You make me realize that my job is almost the only thing I never tried to change to get a peaceful life, as being a HSP. I must work in the wrong domain, for the past 25 years as a land surveyor and now, an IT technician It is pretty stressful even if I am pretty interested by the technical side of those jobs. Thanks to all the people comments too which could be a good inspiration to find a better job.
Great video! As an HSP who’s in graduate school for Mental Health Counseling, I can say it’s been highly rewarding! Utilizing my ability to deeply connect with others has been effortless although burnout is something to be extra mindful of ofc :)
I tried sales (kinda) once for my university’s alumni center and it was the only job I’ve ever had that I quit without notice, lol. It was very tough asking people to buy, give, or donate money that they very clearly didn’t have. We were required to ask for a donation or to join 3 times, regardless of their excuses. Many would talk about how they couldn’t even afford their kids tuition for that semester or rent, let alone joining or donating. I stopped asking 3 times and instead started to apologize for making them tell me about their struggles. It was nothing short of awful.
Wow! This actually made me feel Soooooo much better..I just felt like a huge failure because I can't handle difficult bosses. Work for myself it is. I can let go of that guilt of feeling like I'm just "too sensitive"
I am a primary school librarian now after having a lot of different jobs, from bank clerk to secondary school teacher. I quitted all the other jobs, and although I consider I had been efficient at most of them I had to leave because of the stress I couldn´t cope with. That stress wouldn´t let me be efficient any more. One good thing about being in charge of a school library as a HSP is that other HSP or people with other similar personality traits find it a good place to take "refuge" in. It is amazing how they perceive my vibe, they can lower their defences and feel comfortable. The bad thing is that the headmistress and part of the stuff consider I´m not what the school needs, that being leaving their group of students one hour every day plus the rest of the work that the library requires, we all know I won´t be able to cope with that. I´m sad I have to go, I met many HSP children who are adorable and a pleasure to be with.
I am a freelance translaror, so, it seems I am my own boss: I work one, and I can pause for coffee whenever I want, BUT I cannot deal with tight deadlines, I get frustrated when others don't care about quality, when they (translation companies) are disorganized, do not communicate well, won't answer my questio s as they should, don't really value my efforts, etc., etc. So, after almost two decades of stress and pressure, I am moving to other careers. So far, I am fine with English classes, but, ideally one-on-one and using my own methods. I want to become a writer, too; I have three books on the "oven" ;-). Thanks,for helping us feel better!
This is so accurate. I usually enjoy the job I do, but can’t stand the staff politics. I’ve never been really happy in any job I’ve done but I am about to become a gardener, so hope I will really enjoy the alone time! It’s so nice to know I’m not the only one who feels like this.
I work at a school as a para-educator. It is very stressful and dealing with the adults in the building exhausts me on a daily basis. Everything you said in this video rings true. Thank you for sharing.
Wow . I am 46 and just discovering this year that I'm a HSP/Empath. I was drawn to the medical field and worked in the nursing field for years. I've always been drawn to the healing fields. I was trained as a Massage Therapist. But didn't get licensed. This makes sense why I haven't found what I've been seeking...I've already discovered my truth but haven't accepted it...
Penny Brushwood Thanks for your comment. Nursing seems like a great career for HSPs because we are so compassionate to the emotions and suffering of others. However, that compassion can be overwhelming and tiring. I wrote a post about compassion fatigue here: highlysensitiveperson.net/compassion-fatigue/
at 60 years old i have finally heard about highly sensitive people, my people! i have worked in many jobs and then went to art college. from there it morphed into a career in renovations. i deal with one client at a time, know the job will finish on a certain(ish) date, take time off in between when needed and use my creative skills all the time. when i am working i listen to books which deters the clients from random chattering and i mostly work alone. renovation is a great way to stay sane while working if you are so inclined!
I’m in marketing and have spent much of my career getting annoyed/upset w coworkers and bosses. Now I’m a freelance website/blog copywriter. I get assignments, work a bit w my clients, and check them off the list. My clients appreciate my work and I can shut it off at the end of the day. There’s stress to any job, but this is like heaven for me. Much less money than corporate jobs, but much less dread and more peace
Nice! I'm an engineer in a small-ish company. I get to work alone a lot and my work is all project-based. I'm not especially well organized but I do a lot of design by feel followed by analysis.
I've considered becoming a foster mom to special needs animals. Animals can help reenergize me unlike people. I think I may go after my first childhood dream after all which is to become a vet. Animal rehab is starting to speak to me also. Currently I'm working as an EA in public admin and I am bombarded all day. It's horrible but thankfully I'm ok with starting from scratch if it means living out my gifts
+Melissa Trinh that sounds wonderful! I fostered dogs a few times and it is incredibly rewarding, fun, stressful, and emotional. How wonderful it would be to foster special needs pets! good luck :)
Medical transcription at home can be a great job for nurses who need to work by themselves if they have good spelling and grammar skills. I transitioned fairly easily and it was great while raising my children.
I like jobs where you tell me what I need to do and then leave me alone.
Yup
Wait, I'm not the only one to say that?
Yeah being around others energies can be yucky and uncomfortable like being in a pool with people who went in all muddy and dirty and just passing in it not giving a 💩 talking about their 💩, projecting their 💩on to you which can feel real nasty so I definitely agree as to let me be and stay clean but if not just got to stay immune and repel negativity with inner outer positivity become the alchemist and transmute their 💩to some✌💖which they're clearly missing because being all negative is only a big cry out for love and peace thats very desperately needed in their life and of course major healing from their past wounds.
Omg me too!! Have been struggling with this for a while!
@@TEWMUCH I think we need to create our own jobs.
"I feel like I could do any job if I were surrounded by the right people" Yes! Absolutely this.
TheCVestal this is absolutely true, I've been happier picking up trash and who knows what after events with a good/positive team than working higher paying, "nicer" positions with negative/extremely intense/volatile people 😄
TheCVestal or be surrounded by supportive ad kind and friendly people. My life will be at peace.
Translation: "ME, ME, ME, IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!"
Kristina S. Wrong. It’s about harmony. Harmony comes from open and understanding personalities. Negative personalities are more typically not that type.
Exactly me!
I work as a kitchen cleaner at a university. It,s pure heaven. I work alone, and if somone comes in there, and they disturb me, i have the right to ask them to leave. I never feel stress. I also get alot of compliments because of my attention to details. It may not be the best job, but it,s high life quality.
Sound interesting as a job for people like us. My "problem" is that most of my friends have careers making big money. I know one should compare but it makes me feel like a looser to start over at the bottom again at 35.
Isn't there careers for us were we can grow our business while maintaining health and stress down I ask
+Christian Angelo Nilsén Yes, I feel exactly the same. The job I am transitioning to will probably only pay me half of what I used to earn. But at least it will be less stressful. I am 44 and it feels weird to start over again with the same pay I am about to receive when I first came out of college. So I am also looking into returning to network marketing for supplemental income especially since our daughter will soon go to college. Have you considered this type of business?
I was having the same problem that is me trying to pursue marketing as a career but the idea of me having to deal with people all the time was very intimidating and draining. That persisted until I came across the idea of digital entrepreneurship which implies you can have your own business online and the possibilities are endless from selling shirts at sites like teespring to blogging or vlogging to setting up your own ecommerce site with shopify to affiliate marketing and so on. Now I am totally free and independent, having control over my time and energy. For people interested in this kind of freedom not necessarily online businesses, you can read the 4 hour work week by Tim Ferris.
Losser, winner are bad values to me.
I don't judge people for their jobs but more for what they are.
Change your friends, they suck.
Thank you for sharing, it made me feel good to feel good for you. It that makes any sense!
I'm an HSP and INFJ type. I offer therapy and information for people to heal from emotional trauma and I do it all from home. Couldn't be happier!
Why would you gloat about being a narcissist.you obviously have no idea what your actually capable of doing to someone or their mind. Wait I'm sorry you only care about yourself and what you can get and do for you. Eventually even you will run out of people to tell how great you are at everything and how everyone loves you. They don't love you their just smiling and nodding because they know you'll interrupt them every chance you get because after all only you have anything important to say.
They didn't say they were a narcissist. Actually, we care about other people more then most!! You have NO IDEA WHAT YOU ARE TALKLING ABOUT!
am like a ENF["N"?]
I’m an INFJ as well. This was to real.
how do you do that? Id love to do something like that!
Guys, it's so hard being an HSP. I find myself particularly prone to depressive feelings when I'm not surrounded by great people or with friends, and because I'm an extrovert, it's hard not being around people if I'm really busy. Dating is hard because the thought of being hurt by someone kills me. My trust issues had dominated the majority of my life. I'd love to hear from you if you feel this way, so that I know I'm not alone. Nothing is more painful than the thought of being disrespected, abused, defiled and not appreciated. Being used. It's the plague that I live with after Narcissitic abuse (one family member and one friend). Even if you heal, it's still haunting you.
Lula Alder I am the same
I am an extrovert, but when overloaded: an introvert. I must hide away to recharge my battery. After charging is complete I can again re enter society again. I am a great listener. A blessing/ curse. I am an ear to pour your problems into, but too many times these people deplete my energy and I then have nothing left for myself. I have to keep these people at a distance. I want to learn more coping mechanisms from other HSPs out there and your stories of energy suckers.
Lula Alder I feel you so deeply!
My life to a tee... I've been abused, violated, disrespected... ostracized, and ppl have made me not want to be here... every day gets harder and harder. I actually feel like my soul died years ago and my body hasn't given up yet
I totally feel your pain. I am right there with you. I think being an HSP is a blessing and a curse!
I work as a nanny, which has been really great for my highly sensitive personality. I love teaching and little ones, but I can focus on one or two at a time. We go on walks, spend time outdoors...it's a blessing.
That is a great suggestion, I will add it to my list of jobs for HSPs!
@@HighlySensitivePerson Yes great suggestion - I love working with children but a whole classroom of them can be so overwhelming! Working with a small group or one or two sounds ideal.
I did this too! ♥️
I'm a vet tech! I work with people a lot but I play with animals in between. I love my job. I get tired of people but I never get tired of animals. Working with animals is a great job for introverts in my opinion
Vet tech as in vet doctor.?
a job not having to deal with people
Exactly
i am an hsp , and i'm working as a nurse specialized in psychiatric care. i had to do some psychotherapy to not let my sensitivity overcome me. some days are hard and are difficult to let go. but i love my job and the sensitivity helps me get a better understanding/connection to my patients
I think I commented on this video 3 years ago, I would like to share with you a few updates:
I've stopped working as a school professor for the government, where I had way too much interactions & reponsibilities, I now work as a freelance translator & a private tutor;
it's only been less than 6 months really, but, wheew, I look back at my changes & steps I've taken, & I can say that I'm impressed at myself!
Both new jobs allow me to work completely alone, or with only one learner.
Y'all can do it, I promise!
That's awesome. I am working on creating a job I can do at home. Don't get me wrong, I love people, I just don't like anyone telling me what to do when I have my own way of doing things and getting great results.
Wow, I was dubbed as too sensitive in grade school. I cried at the drop of a hat. I was bullied. And I noticed just about every detail of a scene. I always felt like nobody understood me. Still, I've embarrassed myself when managers have yelled at me. I just wanted to run out of there, in flight mode. The worst part is being highly aware of peoples emotions and my surroundings. It's too much at times.
but you got so much balls to have a nice sensitive heart for people's feelings don't mistake for something negative. I take it more as a challenge.
in our childhood im sure we ALL had our moments.
la Bella, did you fignt your boss back or you didn't cause you knew that fighting your boss meant being fired?
i quit the corporate world of finance for the same reasons. avoid jobs in finance. too much lies and manipulation.
Amen
:(
Got fired from audit, probably because of these traits
What about investing
@@ZiomekPatrykC jakie cechy masz na myśli ? Czy kazali ci oszukiwać w sprawozdaniach finansowych itd ?
Hi! I was a ceramics art major in college, and hav always been an HSP. That evolved into working for myself as a high end tile installer after about 3 years of apprenticing. As a woman in construction, I know I've found a great niche working for myself and giving homeowners a beautiful, functioning, easy to maintain product constructed deliberately and with great attention to detail. its true... i couldn't imagine not working for myself. Here I am, 15 years later and still feeling like things work out the way they need to 95% of the time. It's quite rewarding.
RS That is awesome!!
Wow, so glad to hear from you about you staying in whats truly integrated!
I was considering go into some aspect of construction as well, I'm a 35 year old female and would love to work for myself.
I know how important it is to recognize you are a HSP, but I don't want that to keep me away from anything. I know how though it is, because I know how tough it have been for me. But a person that matters a lot to me told me once "I know you're way more sensitive than the rest, but you are also stronger" (Ironically I broke in tears when she said that).
So, for anyone out there, for you...
I know you can, 'cause you're way more sensitive than the rest, but you're also stronger.
Thank you.
entrepreneurship is most favorable and beneficial job to do as HSP . Because HSPs are creative having good imagination, better understanding, intuitions and always thinks out of the box. ...
but entrepreneur involves lying to people
Not necessarily
they don't know about it, but society forces people into lying without letting them know.. the monetary system is flawed as fck, but it was made for that purpose. now everyone is trapped..
Yes! Patil you understand!
I'm hsp and hate corporate environment, and basically dislike bussiness career. However, if being an enterpreneur that sells the product that I wish it helps people in very sophisticated way, I am more than glad.
I wish I watched your video 30 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of grief. I've had way too many wrong jobs, trying to fit in. I guess its better late than never. Thanks for sharing :)
Inge Scott I feel the same way--if only I'd known about this a long time ago, I would have been so much less hard on myself.
congrats, Grant. Hopefully this knowledge will lead to good things. :)
+Grant, +Inge Scott & +HSP Podcast, yes, me, too. I came across this website several months ago. This lead me to do even more tons of research on myself as far as career goes.
Of all the grief of the past twenty years, I think I've finally found something I can do, but just found out last month. It just came out a couple years ago. It's owning a virtual bookkeeping service. If anyone would like more info on this program, feel free to let me know. :)
+HSP Podcast, it was so stressful for me back then. I feel so relieved that this type of journey people like myself have gone through was just normal, unfortunately inevitable. Luckily it's not too late for some of since the internet has been around, because we found out after the fact that we are HSP's.
Thank you, +HSP Podcast, I thought I was just weird. I always felt something was wrong with me. Thanks to the internet, we can eventually figure our way out of the grief that +Inge Scott is talking about. Plus, I can stop being so hard on myself, too, as you mentioned above. Yes, this knowledge is definitely helpful, gives us direction! We really appreciate what you are doing to provide the whole world this awareness to save us from further grief!
You don't work to fit in, you work to do something useful for other people. Fitting in is not important.
@@Happiness379 hi
I came across your post. Can you share some more info on virtual bookkeeping
Thanks
I can tell you two jobs that are terrible for HSPs: Hi-school teacher and Hi-level Supervisor
+Liz Torres thanks for the comment and input!!
+A Highly Sensitive Person's Life Try middle school!
Amen! I would never ever ever want to be high up and deal with large amounts of people contacting me. I'm at a second level in my dept. and happy where I am
Carol Aron Don't
wow this explains why I have a hard time at my workplace. I'm a high school teacher, and I feel exhausted at the end of the day. it is a high energy job where the students and the noise sucks the energy right out
I'm very conflicted by that need for financial independence, materialism, and being sensitive to my work environment. It usually pushes me into very unhealthy situations, and after so many years has lead to an existential crisis, and career break. I used to work as an IT consultant, and had to engage with a lot of egotistical, tyrannical, management types, being in that kind of scenario daily was unbearable. Resorting to using alcohol to manage my anxiety at work as probably the lowest point in my life.
Thank you for sharing. I hope you are managing better now?
Are you doing better now? I'm interested in knowing how your story is unfolding.
@TheEvolvedegg banking and spirituality can go together...but only if you had kind people around you.but real world doesnt work like that,does it? I used to be super competitive and sensitive about my work and was fully committed and would get into trouble for it.One bout of depression as well just cz I had to priortize my ex husband over my job.since then am a changed person.I need the money yes,but I dont take the job to be defining me anymore.its work i do to pay the bills.maybe crack a few jokes with few ppl at work.thats it.maybe am only protectin myself from another bout of depression,but so be it.
Hi !, I'm very curious how you are managing the situation now. I am in the exact same boat as you ! minus the alcohol, I choose to distract myself with videogames, day dreaming etc
@@Devious91 It's very strange to come back to see this old comment I wrote. I didn't see the earlier replies, but I'm doing a lot better than I was before, but that was only possible through a lot of job changes to get away from those types of people and companies. I realised that it's important to choose the industry first, then the company and only then the particular job you hold. That particular industries attract certain types of people. I switched away from service orientated industries and focused on companies that produce products, and focused on the medical products industry. I found doing that that there was a light and day difference between the types of people I would work with. I also ended up switching the country in which I was working to try and surround myself with people who were more intellectual / introverted. (I moved from Australia / New Zealand to Europe, I make less money, but I am a lot more contented). Of course there are still one or two people who you will come across who provoke that anxiety, but I've just tried to be positive and minimise my contact with them and if I really can't tolerate the situation, I might use some temporary anxiety medication such as propranolol, for me that just stops me having panic attacks and shaking like crazy. Hope everyone finds a way out of those bad situations, you just have to put yourself first and listen to what your body and emotions are telling you if we are having such negative reactions to our environment.
Flight attendend was a very interesting job for me. You do your job - interact with people on the short run and you use your charm as a HSP. There was never time for a lot of talks. So you just blew up with people you felt comfortable with. Its was a good job. Now I am independent I opened a company for online sales 6 months ago. It helped me a lot.
Just go for it. Start your own company during you are still in your new job, see how it goes and - quit your job. You will be good at it, veeery good at it. You know that.
Thanks for that :) I needed to hear stories of other HSP people who have made it :) I needed a boost. And totally stuck on what career path I want to take. Thanks for showing it is a goal you can reach :)
Sara Pinto Moreira thank you for your post I’m HSP and am looking into becoming a flight attendant and wasn’t sure if that’s the right career for me so thank you,this has truly brought peace to my mind. I also eventually want to own my business.
Sara Pinto Moreira Do you have tips for how to start a new business?
@@daniellechikavanga2067 yes, I'm interested
I have been a flight attendant for the last five years, and as an HSP, I can say it worked well. However, the company had a very toxic culture which affected me a lot. I have now quit, and working on starting my own business. Crossing fingers for me and all HSPs out there to find what they need in life💕
I'm struggling a lot with this. I'm 35, have little work experience, have left past jobs repeatedly because of the anxiety and its effects on my physical and emotional health. I'm now trying to find work and am having a very difficult time. If I can work up the courage to answer the phone (or return a call) from a possible employer to set an interview, I choke at the next step- actually showing up to the interview. I had one yesterday for a job that could have been perfect for me, working independently caring for plants- sounded like heaven. When I got to the place to meet the employer, I freaked out and walked right past him as if I was just another shopper. Because I've failed again, I'm now in a depressed state. I don't know how to survive in a world where people expect me to be able to do "normal" things.
Kristy Lee That happened to me too! I am currently in a job hunt. I consider myself to be in the marketing research field and I dream a career in it or in the Ad field...but when an interview ask me, so what did you do in your past job and what do you like, I start to get watery eyes and get shocked in my own words...it is really awkward.
Kristy Lee man you have it bad. You should watch the Truman show , Jim Carrey movie. Just like him with the boat, gotta just go for it.
Kristy Lee I'm 31 same thing I've quit countless jobs and I'm lost trying to find the right career that's why I'm watching this video right now. Good luck to everybody with this problem hopefully we can all find a solution.
Wow. I can't believe it. I thought I was the only one in the world who had this kind of "bizarre behaviours" for the rest of "normal" society, leaving jobs and such. It makes me feel so frustrated. I want to do so much of my life and reach independence, but these feelings almost seem like they're making me a crippled person most of the times...I wish I could be set free at some point...
Kristy Lee ....you Are normal. Deal with the anxiety by telling yourself its okay. Baby steps. Love yourself ..learn to be your own cheerleader for yourself.Pray...never fails, but believe in it.Were all finding our way......some make it look easy, but anything worth having in life isn't easy, but you made this far..🙌
I am a therapist who read Elaine Aron's book The Highly Sensitive Person in the early 90's. I think it may have been the best book I ever read to help me appreciate my HSP qualities. I liked your show today. There have been many a time when something happened at my job that would really upset me, more than I thought it should. I had not thought of the intense upset feeling as being part of a HSP until I heard this show.
Thanks Suzanne!! :)
Yes, yes, YES!!!! I've spent years self-employed and now am working as a music teacher in a VERY troubled district. I am over-stimulated constantly with negative energy, extraneous sounds, and stuff that sucks the creative life out of me. This video is incredibly validating.
+Adam Riccinto I am glad it was helpful!
+Adam Riccinto Hi Adam...I am also a music teacher in a difficult school. I have been doing it for 12 years. I noticed right away that I felt completely over-stimulated and completely exhausted by negative energy. Still today...I have to come home and go to sleep for at least 20 minutes just to get myself clear. I went into music because it has always appealed to my empathic nature...and I thought that teaching music was a good compromise of having job security and benefits and doing something that I have a lot of feeling for. I also feel that this work continually sucks the life out of me. It is extremely draining every day. At this point, I will stay with it until I have 20 years in and then take early retirement. I just try to sustain myself with the good that I know I am doing for my students and when I have a student who brings positive energy I try to soak as much of it up as I can.
hy +musicatokc I am exactly in the same position, I love music and teaching is the most secure way to make a living from it, but, it drains all my energy to deal with students with so little interest and politeness... I feel it would be a waste after all this years to work in something else, but on the other hand maybe working from home would be a blessing, and I would have time to play for myself
thank you for being a music teacher, the world needs more of you :) you are doing amazing work!
Omg I so sympathize! I'm a music teacher in a title I district and i get headaches daily from the overstimulation. I love my job but it's a lot sometimes!
ima dietitian and its a perfect job for me. i help people daily meeting their goals of not only loosing weight but also improve their self esteem. i love it!
+Ileana Montoya that's a good one!! thank you!
ana Mont It's such a relief to hear that from a fellow HSP. I'm having to retrain again after a number of careers at the age of 42 due to not finding a work environment that suits me. Training as a dietician is my first choice. I really hope that I can both be good at it and enjoy it long term.
+Equal1ty4all you would love. what were you doing before
One great lesson in life is that you can't change people only the way you respond to others.
Facts!
After too many anxiety inducing jobs, I started workin exclusively for myself or in positions where I have the freedom to make my own decisions. Going to start as a tutor soon in a franchise that leaves me a lot of freedom on how to teach the children and work with them individually in small groups. My boss seems really kind and understanding too.
i'm a psychologist and consider myself HSP. Can predict things to happen prior to their happening, find it hard to interact with others, anxious all the time, do know what to do at what moment, and can manipulate people.
Been in depression for 10 years and it took its toll but gave me an insight at the true meaning of life. Spiritual awakening is the basic funda of life......nothing else matters in life.....to give meaning to life and find the purpose of your life and give meaning to yourself. Peace comes from within ,don't seek without........
Are you happy with your career field? Would you still have chosen to become a psychologist if you could go back and do it again? I've always been interested in psychology and have considered becoming a psychologist, but as a HSP, I'm not quite sure if it would be the best fit for me.
I would like to know too! I am also a HSP and I am looking into going into psychology. Well, I know I really enjoy psychology and thats what I want to do... I hope its the right choice for me!
Respek
^^ I’d like to know this also
It's the energy of other people that can bother me - I like peace and calm. So f they're loud, angry, selfish or rude/ crude beyond an acceptable level, it can feel weightily draining. If I don't like that behaviour I can put a wall up.
Though I have started to respond to them in an authentic way. Like not pretend it's okay, but comment back if the joke is stupid or rude. To not laugh at dumb jokes. I will still be polite if we have to mix but not go too far out of my way to indulge their need for attention.
I am in my fifties, recovering still from empty nest, never rediscovered my identity after one hell of a long depression. I am considering working in a nice qui/ library where intelligent people are seeking knowledge, and there isn't a lot of competition.
I am 21 now and it took me so long time to know that what is the reason behind my sudden outbursts, being easily hurt ... I can tell myself that there is nothing wrong with me but I can't expect others to be senstive.
Poonan Thankr It can also correspond with borderline personality disorder. Not assuming. Just bringing it up.
It's the HSP trait. I'm a easy tempered guy but whem I feel like I get into a situation where I feel wronged, I don't necessarily react at the moment in the situation but I do let the situation replay in my mind and end upcomforting the situation when I see that person a again. Not everytime but probably a little more than not.
I work as a bouncer , and is good because I don't talk to people much. But after some confrontations I may not be able to sleep for a day or two
You may not talk to people too much but you are nonetheless intensively in contact with them, & sometimes, not in the easiest context! U still do that in 2019?
I'm a licensed cosmetologist but recently found out the spa setting is a better environment for me since so many people are in an open area and talking in a salon whereas a spa is just you and another person in a quiet room. Its drastically reduced the amount of times I start to feel overwhelmed during the day
Me too I'm a lmt and esthethican. I live the quiet
Thank you so much, I was an illustrator that works almost 18 hours per day under pressure of my manager, I was forced to create under very stressing environment, I didn't have time to even take care of myself (when I got home, I had lots of revision) I was so stressed and finally decided to quit and start freelance work, my family kept telling me that it's not good decision because of the money I make will definitely decrease so much, but watching this makes me realize that what I did is the best for me, thanks
Thank you for sharing this i am an extreme empath and im currently a housekeeping manager at a large and highly competitive property in alaska and we took pride in our mom and pop feel. We just got a new GM who likes to micro manage and shes an energy vampire with pretty words.....its a rough run n ultimately i had to as recently as last week resign from my position due to disapproval of how i understand and mentally work. Even so much as to criticize how i use a highlighter.....it was too much and my mental state was at the risk of an alcoholic relapse.......EMPATHS ARE REAL and we carry the lac of humanity this word is suffering from. And we are slowly getting smothered by societies vision of success and wealth.
thanks for the video. It's too bad that often hsp's must stick to lesser paying jobs in order to stay balanced.
oracle dragon I agree
Yeah true but no amount of money in world is more worth then peace of mind and health plus happiness. Always keep that in mind
In this shitty world I'd like to be a sociopath rather than HSP.
I don't think that I am a HSP. But it must be very hard for them to live in this system.
everything you say is absolutely right about me. I go from job to job for the reasons you talk about.
Me too. Makes keeping the roof over my head difficult and family and friends think I'm a weirdo for leaving jobs. Jobs have some stresses but I always leave because of people.
I worked in sales for 9 months. Never again.
Yeah, I worked in a chiropractic clinic as a "wellness coordinator" and hadn't realized sales would be such a big part of my job. Only lasted 1 1/2 years. Sales is definitely NOT for me, nor customer service.
Never!!
The good thing about us hsp is, that we have empathy and compassion for others, With this we ALL can help each other and provide the support to others of us who need it, God bless you all
I don't think we should work with people, in special with troubled ones because we take their problems on us, their bad energy, thoughts and feelings.
I like working with objects , doing my own thing, having coworkers but not having to work closely with them.
Maybe even arts could work for us. Sadly I have no talent in art.
I know. I'm considering going into graphic design, I'm a creative person, but actually creating/producing art is not something I have experience with.
I'm glad for you.
+marlies_3 its because of empathy.....
I'm studying occupational therapy and that's maybe the reason why I would prefer to work in physical disabilities rather than mental.
Isabelle Layla yeah working around lower class criminals in warehouses etc will destroy you mentally
Thanks for this! Omg, I can totally relate. I feel the older I get the more introverted I get. It's a struggle. An everyday struggle especially going to work 😩
I like this. Things is most careers are competitive, even if it shouldn't be. I think freelance musicianship, making and performing music or any other art form through multiple means, has an appeal to me (of course as a musician I am biased). The arts aren't black and white like things involving STEM, so you can't really "fail" at being an artist, and you can always improve and accomplish something being your personal best. Finishing an album, getting into a musical, performing one well, finishing sheet music, and finishing a commission gives a sense of satisfaction because you made art. This feels more beautiful, and you feel free. It may be competitive, but it isn't high-risk. As in, if you make a singular mistake, your not going to hurt or kill people. It's a pressure that's harder to handle. Although, my intellect could handle computer science, I would be scared to hurt people. Plus there are so many different ways to make money off of music, especially in this century, so I get to do what I love and I have the opportunity to do more amazing and wonderful things ❤.
Amazing!! I keep thinking of what to do for many years.. what to do the way I want it.. without feeling unsatisfied about it . Music is the only thing that at least has come to be better but am even scared to start.. plus no much capital.
So happy to discover your channel! I'm a HSP and have work for myself as a Life Coach and Tutor, I've been told that being a HSP can be a blessing as a Life Coach!
Orange Box Personal Development I can definitely see how it would be an asset as a coach! You will be highly tuned in to other people...like a fine violin. :)
That job has crossed my mind. Did you need any education for that?
I want to be a painter, thats it, thats my purpose, I want to paint huge murals, paint amazing oil paintings, even do some online painting designs for t-shirts maybe, but Im not sure. I just want to paint and sell prints, my job is bringing me down so much and I depend on those moments of insight, but at a job I don't get it... I feel exhausted after every job, just being around people who dont bring me up or lift me into my spirit, It sucks :( Im trying to dig myself out, but its taking a while and getting drained. This video is spot on though. I can really only see myself working for myself or working for someone who really aligns with my values and I enjoy them!
I’m so glad to find this podcast… I’m almost 40 years old and I’m finally just now understanding my personality and why I feel the way I feel!
me too
OMG!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!!!!
When you said that the job you had was "just never ending" I was like YES YES YES!! finally somebody said it! finally somebody understands me! I'm not a lone in this !!!!!
Oh my God!! thank you so much for this podcast. Please keep it up :)
P.s. I'm an Extrovert HSP. I felt I was a bit rare, but not that rare ! :/
+Noon Hassan I'm so glad this was helpful to you! I talk about extroverted HSPs here: ua-cam.com/video/U720wrpdWaE/v-deo.html and I interview an extroverted, HSP man here: ua-cam.com/video/WDX3uZ-tpZE/v-deo.html
Thank you so much :)
Me too❤
Noon Hassan
hi friend I also an HSP
we are great people....
My great grandmom knew I am an HSP and told my dad who had NO IDEA what to do with that information and pretty much ignored it. Would join in teasing me in front of my sister, pitting us against the other, who did the same and when I spoke up about it they'd laugh at me saying I'm too sensitive or berating me on the way to school in my intermediate years. Not a very fun household navigating lot of adults resentments and developing my own that all was emotionally draining. Bed wetting, the works. Very dysfunctional but I knew there was nothing "wrong" with me as implied, just a stark difference in receptivity. My dad I think is HSP too but raised emotionally dysfunctional, as well as my momwith a bit of neglect from their own families though they didn't see it that way then. Too close to the forest for the trees, I suppose. Glad to be getting more comfortable and understanding what I've been experiencing over the years socially, internally and otherwise, etc. Much appreciated!
I left my Supervisor position to drive uber full time. Best decision I ever made!
I'm an HSP in middle school. It's hard for sure.
Hang in there!!
I'm an HSP in high school. I've listened to almost all of your podcasts and I try to your content with my daily life as a student. When it comes to my life, thoughts, feelings, etc. I can find company in your podcasts. But when it comes to my academic life, I'm looking for an HSP community of preferably my generation which will help me thrive in my school and later college life. There are soooo many questions I have and problems I face as a student and I try to connect it to my HSP traits, (not that I blame myself for being highly sensitive or anything) but I never seem to get any reassurance. Especially when it comes to what kind of career path I should choose, I get so scared because I don't know whether what I study will bring a sense of happiness, satisfaction, and fulfilment. I'm looking for HSPs of my age who face the same issue so that I can at least see what their views are. Can you help me?
Sayoni Ghosh yes same here (in highschool and struggling with post-secondary options).
A very smart one who so early self identified!
TheQuasarOfKnowledge ...great news for you in finding & discovering about yourself in middle school !!! Bravo !!! ...took me 50 years; keep working on this so u can have the career u enjoy best ..I wish you a world & future of joys
I initially was searching for a playlist of relaxing, inspirational music and I accidentally clicked on this video...or maybe it wasn't an accident. All my life I have felt this way - highly sensitive to my environment and the people in it. I am one who is engaged in the well being of others and genuinely excited to do so. However, I always felt overwhelmed by those around me who were constantly angry, disrespecting and mistreating others. I could never seem to let things slide or not care about what people think. My "work" place is more than just a job, rather, a harmonious community collaborating together to create change. I know what your thinking...Disneyland!!! Maybe it sounds a little far fetched; believing that everyone should feel happy, appreciated and celebrated at work. But if we took the time to understand, respect and appreciate one another as a human race, our quality of life may in fact be more fruitful.
Real world doesnt work like that.but hope u get ur peace
I work now as a professional psychic and couldn’t be happier! I get to tune in to my intuitive side and work one on one with my clients to help them navigate life situations.
I can't stand staying for too long at the store with my wife, I feel comfortable around old people, spiritual people and people having meaningful conversations. Each time my wife asks me to go out to hang out I do it because I don't want her to judge me wrong and lose interest in me. I do love her but it is overwhelming. Goind to walmart is too much during the day, too many people. I can sense all the stares, all the feelings of other people. My intuition is high. I also feel like I have ESP. HSP people's life is pretty miserable. Let me straight that too when people get to know me they love my frienship sooo much. I feel like I want to feel normal. It is a dream to me to stop caring what people think or feel people's energy.... I am good in art(poetry and litterature). I feel like HSP people can be good counselor, teacher, spiritual priests (pastor) etc, and anything where they can be independent and not having to work for people with totally different energy.
yes. I love my patients. it's the staff. they simply do not care about the people they are supposed to care for. I can't help but wonder why they choose to be nurses or CNA s. so glad I found this channel.
Reese Anderson hi. Are you a nurse? Please private messaging me if you are. I'm in nursing school and I hate it. There's so much group work and my partner is so mean to me, and I end up crying and getting anxiety attacks.
Hey! I'm studying occupational therapy degree and I like it, but I agree that I hate group work and we have a lot of it! :/ I'm also afraid to be in a wrong collective when having jib in the future... as she said patients are nice and you usually live working with them but the team meetings etc.. :/
Jess Horáková I once needed a nurse to help me with a client and she told me no. she said that I could take care of the client on my own. the nurse was busy playing cards you see and that was more important to her than our client going to the bathroom. this client needed to be hooked up to a hoyer lift and placed on the toilet seat. for years I had to deal with many staff members with the same mindset as the card playing nurse.
Oh no... that´s not really nice... Maybe thats why it is better maybe to set up own practice, but if you like traveling like I do, then that´s not the option. On my practice placement the staff was quite nice except of one persone... but cannot really to talk about it online.. :D And one girl there was just really nice!! But what can you do.. sometimes you are lucky to find nice people sometimes no :/
Hey you guys! You could always work independently as legal nurse consultants!
Omg. I related to this video so much! I had a job at a rehab. I loved the job and my clients but I couldn’t stand the people I worked with and worked for. I started my own business but although I make a very good amount of money, I’m feeling like I need to be doing something else. I feel like I’m not fulfilling my purpose. I never understood why I kept leaving jobs in my past until now. Thank you.
I'm a social media specialist ... I took a pay cut to get away from my long time work as a collections agent ... very worth it
V D A quote from this article would be helpful, “Social media is a double-edged sword for everyone, but especially for Highly Sensitive Persons. We should seek to harness the power it gives us but also be wary of the inner conflict it can garner. Scroll carefully, post fearlessly, and be careful who you follow.” medium.com/1-one-infinity/4-tips-on-how-to-handle-being-highly-sensitive-in-a-world-of-social-media-626a72b9b986
a highly sensitive person with a learning disability in the workforce is 10x worse...
I feel the pain I'm more of a slow learner it's very hard to be trained at work
Erin same here!!
Erin Fellow HSP here I've thought that for awhile too, but maybe it's not you learning slowly it might be who's teaching you. My bosses don't realize that them telling me or showing me doesn't really help me learn quicker. What I need to do is try the task myself plenty of times even if I mess up occasionally.
Btw I work at a vegan restaurant in Arizona. ✌️
I deal with a chronical illness :(
Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes Erin. Curious if there may be any social media groups for HSP-Learning Disability members of society?
this doesn't mention the lists of jobs HSP's can do and thats the title... :|
I'd recommend the creative arts. It will nurture your independence and allow you to create your own rules, and almost everyone in art is an HSP so you'll come into contact with more like minded people.
This really touched me. I have always been a sensitive person but I've been told this my whole life and have been made to feel almost like a freak or that people have to be very careful around me. I didn't know there were other people out there like me.
I work as a makeup artist, not independently unfortunately, it was always my goal but I kinda got stuck in the sales side of it in a major department store. I have done this job for 8 years. l have recently been feeling very stressed and unhappy with my job because the store I am at has higher sales expectations.
When she said the number one job an HSP should not have is sales, I actually laughed at loud and said wow. Everything she said is 100% true. In a sales environment it's never ending, no sense of completion and your value is only how much you are selling. It's a very depressing job for someone like me that's very creative at heart and wants to connect with people and put meaning behind everything, but those interactions are only sprinkled in between the constant pressure to sell. It makes me feel very used. That my talents have been taken advantage of and I've been given a pipe dream to do what I love as long as I am selling.
I have been coached out by my managers to do freelance work and I now believe it's because they didn't want someone that is so sensitive to feelings and interactions with customers and the inability to to work/function in a high stress job. In the end it works out but there's not enough awareness for highly emotionally sensitive people.
Thank you for this video. I’m HSP, and have been taking medication for anxiety for 25+ years. Learning that I worry about every detail, worry about going out into loud places, don’t have the support from others that think I’m ‘too emotional’ and ‘too sensitive’ (to noises, etc) has made me feel like there’s something wrong with me. I hoped Covid would take away some of my sense of smell, as I cannot physically be in a room that has strong smells. I change jobs frequently, and at this point in my life I am financially OK with not having to make a lot of money. I work from home making craft into heavy items, and sell them in a gift shop. I now work in that gift shop, as it is a happy, somewhat quiet, controlled environment. But my boss is manic and then completely stressed, as she takes on too many projects, and I feed off of all of that emotion. It’s exhausting and one day I love working there, the next I want to quit because of her disorganization and stress that makes me feel I’m not doing a good job. I am very hard-working, treat this family owned gift shop as though it is my own because I am so invested in customers being happy. But the roller coaster from the owner being elated one day and stressed to the max day to day is really pushing me away. I love this job, and my fiancé says ‘it’s her problem, not yours’ but I can’t seem to separate my love for the store from the chaos she creates. Luckily every employee sees this in her so at least I know I’m not the only one that is on eggshells. I work part time there, am typically happy to go to work, and also work from home running my own official business using my creativity and love for making products that will make others happy. But, I don’t think I can be home 100% working, as I do need the interaction with others outside the home.
I want to work for myself but am afraid of not earning enough money. And the process of starting up when working full time sounds stressful and requires a lot of time that I don't have.
I work with selling medical cannabis seeds, an I love it! I decided when I was very young, that no job is worth keeping if it makes me feel unwell. I'm 38 now and never felt depression even tho I'm very sensitive. i get to help people all the time and calm my sensitivity in a natural and non damaging way. and I work with 2 of my best friend's that are pretty much the same 🌱blessed in so many ways 😊
Hi where can i buy the seeds
I can relate to this wholeheartedly. I worked from home for over 15 years before I was forced to find work outside the home. Now I am an HSP ( introverted ). I have run a couple of businesses from home and loved it however the economy issues hit hard. I took the first job that was available to me and I've been stuck there for 4 years. I'm a single mom so I work is crucial. The job I took is driving a school bus and I hate it. Since taking this job, I have developed a heart issue, gained 60 pounds, and have mysterious symptoms the doctors can't attribute to anything yet. I've been screened an tested for Lupus, MS, Lyme's Disease, and more.
You have no idea how much clarity this podcast has given me! I thought I had problems, now I know I am not alone. Thank you very much!
You are not alone. There are millions of people like us struggling to find their way in the world as an HSP. Stay true to yourself and follow your bliss.
Hello my dear. I was diagnosed an HSP last year. Hallelujah! 50 years of thinking what's wrong with me finally came to an answer. I think no job will ever be 100% perfect for us. Listening to you today made me realise that I actually have the perfect job. As perfect as it gets. I am a professional photographer. Creativity is my biggest saviour. Thank you for doing what you do. B
+Brigitta Scholz-Mastroianni photographer does sound like an ideal job! thank you for sharing & listening :)
Brigitta Scholz-Mastroianni .....I am so joyed to hear u have found ur happiness in a career & it was right there all the time lol ...wow ...wonderful news, makes me smile ...joy to u
Diagnosed as a hsp sounds so... I don't know, like it's some kind if illness. But it does feel like a curse at times! Best if luck to you!
me too, totally same as you, I also understand myself much more
I am a Massage Therapist and love working one on one with my clients. This past July, I started my own business working for myself. I rent a room in a Chiropractic clinic with 3 Chiropractors, 1 acupuncturist and an office manager who all have positive, health-conscious personalities and a very good work/life balance. I am glad to have created this for myself! I am now so happy where I work, doing what I love! 💖
Nightowl, ISTP/FJ, HSP...
I was bullied in school, a lot. I did ok in studies, but spent most of the time in my own bubble doing my own stuff and usually stayed up all night on computer while my classmates were going to parties etc.
After senior high I studied media/web design in a University of Applied Sciences. Quit basicly because of depression after 5 years of getting nothing done (and to think of it now perhaps the team oriented work environment on media field was too much of a social environment).
Had the opportunity to get a truck driver licence and been doing that since for almost 8 years now. First I did food delivery with lots of customer interaction for 1,5yrs and now longhaul recycling products with very little customer contact for the past 6 yrs for one company. Could have more challenge for the brain but I really enjoy being on the road in the truck cabin with me, myself & I...
Your high school life sounds a lot like how mine was.
I'm 49, an HSP...I must work for myself because of this. SO, I have worked to keep my expenses low and work as an independant contractor driving my own car for a pharmacy mon-fri, and I do solo acoustic gigs at hotels as my other job. P E R F E C T! I'm as happy as I've ever been
My feelings makes so much sense now. I am highly sensative and creative, I have a terrible memory and have great anxiety trying to feel even somewhat comfortable around other people for long periods of time. So, a 20-year profession in a cut-throat, money-oriented business - real estate escrow, was a big mistake. I was like a round peg shoved in a square hole! Almost always uncomfortable, stressed to the point of throwing up at my desk, tons of health problems have accumulated through the years. It has taken in until a couple years ago to start to understand myself a little and I'm 48 yrs old. My health is now all but destroyed and I'm having a hard time getting in touch with my body and WHY I feel certain ways. I have always just carried a lot of guilt and shame for not being good enough, smart enough, quick enough, etc. Always feeling inferior because I am different. As I get older, I realize that I was putting myself under so much stress to do that job for so long, under such demands. Most of the women I worked with developed AUTOAMMUINE DISORDERS and INFLAMMATORY DISEASES due to the types and duration of the stress we were under. I was just trying to be successful (and of course, make my Father proud of me. Now that I'm ill and can only work 2 days a week, my Father thinks I'm a hypochondriac and a failure. He hardly talks to me anymore and has voiced his disappointment of me.) I hope my health problems are anxiety related, since I have become almost a hermit due to peoples opionion of me, I have felt so bad about myself...not knowing that I am different, but I am special and have some abilities that most people don't have. I'm an artist and a very caring, empathetic person. I am a good listener, which is almost impossible to find these days. I'm now in search of my true identity that I can understand and appreciate. Maybe then, I won't care what other people think of me...it makes me miserable and on-edge.
+wannabeartsy find peace within......be mindful of the present and find spiritual awakening rather than religious.
+wannabeartsy life is hard for everyone but be short and precise .
wannabeartsy have you looked into DBT therapy?
This has helped me immensely with my thoughts of what others thought of me.
wannabeartsy omg... I'm dealing with chronic pain and inflamatory issues since 3 years ago. It's awful. And I'm just 24
Thank you so much, I am 22 years old and finding myself. Well I realized that I am a hsp. It helped to understand myself and y career isn't working out like I want it to. Thank you!
I finished high school a year ago and the question of "what am I gonna do once I graduated?" has been haunting me for years. I'm an introverted hsp with social anxiety which makes it insanely hard for me to find a profession I can actually see myself doing permanently. I've tried jobs of so many different fields and am still struggling to find something I can handle for more than a few weeks. It makes me feel so bad and puts me under a lot of pressure since I don't want my CV to be proof of my inconsistency when I keep changing jobs.
No one understands why it's so hard for me to settle for a job and instead everyone tells me to just take whichever one I can find for the sake of working..
Thank you for telling expressing how I feel at office being a HSP.TAT(Turn Around Time) jobs are really hectic to handle for me.Because 🙏🏻currently I'm working at the same job.Because the target will always be impossible to meet in Corporate jobs,If i get blastings for doing my best ,it hurts a lot.
Let me remind you,
The qualities in which none in office can beat me,
1.Punctuality
2.Dedication
3.Adaptability
4.Additional Support.
5.Maintaining a Happy environment at office.
But it hurts when we'll be dealt with aggression for little Mistakes that doesn't matters or effects the business.
I am a teacher and I've been avoiding working as such for this very same reason. I cannot deal with the kid's problems. I want to help them but at the same time I feel overwhelmed by them and it is just too much to handle. I currently have depression and I am asking for help because all this is ruining my life.
ArduinnaW How are you doing today? Maybe accept a pay cut and sub or teach online?
Just quit teaching too. I could handle the kids with needs alright. The more quiet, insecure, forgetful, broke on pizza day kids. What I loathed were the aggressive ENTITLED children who stood before me constantly DEMANDING I solve their first-world problems…..ugh! And when I asked that student to follow directions, as this was a class and not a self-serve buffet, the child had their parent call a meeting with principal….and myself.
Animals are sentinel beings just like HSP's thus are better compatible and adjusted with them.
gugunanak134 *sentient
Totally. They are persons, just like us, only they are not human.
And because of this and because Im PAS, I'm vegan 👁️🐷👁️
Un abrazo ❤️
I am also an extrovert HSP.
I relate so well to that nurse!!
I worked at Kumon and I HATED IT. My closet friend would even tell me I was being too dramatic but she couldn't understand how much I felt unaccomplished in that job. All I did was grade papers and I didn't feel like I was growing as a person or professionally. The only thing that was growing was my dissatisfaction with my life and depression X'D So I left. And now I work at Chick-fil-A. I've only been there for 2 months, but I already love it so much. The people are amazing and encouraging and my social skills have definitely gotten better. I only make drinks, but at least I know I can grow my skills. Even if its something as minimal as knowing how to change batteries in a soap dispenser, for me knowing something means I can do it by myself and not have to bother anybody else. Soon, I'm even going to be learning how to do cash register and I'm so excited. As an HSP, I know that having a job where you can constantly grow and expand yourself is the best. You never feel stuck and are instead trying hard to get better and work on another skill. Screw everyone (like my close friend lol) who says you SHOULD be satisfied with your job. If you aren't, leave. Please do. Don't waste potential time you could be using to make yourself better. You got this ✊
'organized'? Well, definitely not for all hsp's. A lot of us cannot organize thoughts and tasks very well. I just wanted to point that out.
You are right; for many it isn’t so much the job that’s the problem. It is more the negative and narcissistic environment that is the issue, and the older a person gets, the more isolating and despairingly harder it gets. This makes getting a job even more difficult , even although you have such good things to contribute:
Totally agree.
I started an education as a graphic designer
unfortunately I recognized it's a lot about sales and communication, that's why I quit.
I'm considering studying art although my passion is music, numerology, astrology and writing.
I've always dreamed about becoming a writer.
indigo spirit try writing a journal include your observations about the people you meet It might make good fodder for telling a story
Right. Same here. All jobs that fit my talent seem to be bashed by capitalism lol
Can say that agai... Self-emplyed herbalist/massage therapist? Bang. Wrtier? Bang. Everyting not profit but spirit driven is pushed away by capitalism
"Work" is a very big part of my identity, and creating value is more important to me than navigating high power distance hierarchies. I'm most comfortable in creative-technical trades where I can directly serve a client, but I feel drained of energy in middle-management cultures that want to monitor every step of my processes without adding any perceived value to any part of the process. I'm good with leaders that can articulate a vision and then set me free to achieve, but not with leaders with no vision and are just using me to explore concepts until the figure out what they want.
Thanks deeply for sharing this very helpful video!!! I have faced professional conflict with management at several jobs in the past because many employees have come to me for teaching/guidance/and overall to speak about the sh"t that they are going through at work. A lot of managers wondered what I had that they didn't have! It is called compassion and being an awesome team member!!! A lot of businesses are simply Plantations in disguise and a lot of uncaring souls are drawn to positions where they can try to overpower people and simply be downright rude to their caring employees!!!!
I'm a software QA tester. It's a good job for logical detail oriented people, with the privilege of working in a team, but quietly and by yourself. The only issue I keep running into is the responsibility and criticism... When you deal with criticism all the time, but tend to criticize yourself along the way it causes a lot of inner conflicts...
+Yaara Egger Hi Yaara. Self doubt is no fun--here is a blog post I wrote to try to help with self doubt. highlysensitiveperson.net/pep-talk-self-doubt/
IT world is full of half educated asses who pile their insecurities on other.stand up to those idiots.if u are good at ur work,not even their forefathers can touch you
Have only just started looking deeper into the root of what's wrong with me. So happy I've found this and reading that other people are so similar to me is so comforting. I left my cleaning job a few months ago as the people I had to work with were making me crazy lol. Some shifts where I could work alone were great, but if the other girls were moody or sarcastic or didn't work to my standard it would effect my mood for days. Making it my mission to find another job asap but it's so scary, as I don't know what job. I always feel I'm being judged, that nobody likes me, never fit in. I try and hide the way I am from everyone. Always seem happy, understanding, good listener excellent charm..but can never keep friendships. Have been on antidepressants for a few months now as I struggle to go out. Luckly I have an amazing man in my life but in the days there are no family or friends and it's making me nuts tbh. I know a job will help me but the fear is always the people.wish I could stop hating myself and go 5 minutes without a negative thought. Any advice would be greatly welcomed.
Any job where you work alone all or most of the time could be the solution. The bigger the number of people you have to interact with at work the more likely that you will become overwhelmed, depressed and want to quit your job. I really relate to your experience. What has really helped my anxiety and depression is a regular gentle yoga practice (Yin Yoga, Yoga Nidra, Restorative Yoga, Trauma- sensitive Yoga, etc.), joining a mindfulness meditation group, and doing affordable (sliding scale) counselling sessions, daily walks in nature, spending time with my dog or a close friend. Hope this helps. My prayers are with you.
Im a fashion designer, i was self employee, for more than 15 years. Art its my life. My home was my office. My life change due COVID 19. I start working with technology, systems, analysis, costumer service. My problem was not learning something new, or make my job. My problem was the enviroment, I can’t work in a toxic environment , even if you do a lot of meditation, practice wisdom, emotional intelligence,etc. in my personal opinion being highly sensitive allows you to work in different areas. I don’t limit my self for being highly sensitive, I don’t consider my self rare, weird. I’m very grateful to be highly sensitive it allows me to learn and work in whatever I want. I have quit three jobs for the same reason: toxic enviroments, toxic people. It is not about the job, it’s not about the costumers, it’s not about money,working with computers,or systems, it’s about toxic enviroments, negative enviroments, narcissistic enviroments, etc. my body start to react. I work from home, and even you work from home people, even people doesn’t know you, people reflects their insecurities.
Thanks for that nice share.
You make me realize that my job is almost the only thing I never tried to change to get a peaceful life, as being a HSP.
I must work in the wrong domain, for the past 25 years as a land surveyor and now, an IT technician
It is pretty stressful even if I am pretty interested by the technical side of those jobs.
Thanks to all the people comments too which could be a good inspiration to find a better job.
Great video! As an HSP who’s in graduate school for Mental Health Counseling, I can say it’s been highly rewarding! Utilizing my ability to deeply connect with others has been effortless although burnout is something to be extra mindful of ofc :)
WOW!! Thanks for posting this. I never knew why I felt like I didn't fit in. WAY too sensative.
I tried sales (kinda) once for my university’s alumni center and it was the only job I’ve ever had that I quit without notice, lol. It was very tough asking people to buy, give, or donate money that they very clearly didn’t have. We were required to ask for a donation or to join 3 times, regardless of their excuses. Many would talk about how they couldn’t even afford their kids tuition for that semester or rent, let alone joining or donating. I stopped asking 3 times and instead started to apologize for making them tell me about their struggles. It was nothing short of awful.
It is a fresh breath to find this communication! grateful to all.
Wow! This actually made me feel Soooooo much better..I just felt like a huge failure because I can't handle difficult bosses. Work for myself it is. I can let go of that guilt of feeling like I'm just "too sensitive"
I am a primary school librarian now after having a lot of different jobs, from bank clerk to secondary school teacher. I quitted all the other jobs, and although I consider I had been efficient at most of them I had to leave because of the stress I couldn´t cope with. That stress wouldn´t let me be efficient any more. One good thing about being in charge of a school library as a HSP is that other HSP or people with other similar personality traits find it a good place to take "refuge" in. It is amazing how they perceive my vibe, they can lower their defences and feel comfortable. The bad thing is that the headmistress and part of the stuff consider I´m not what the school needs, that being leaving their group of students one hour every day plus the rest of the work that the library requires, we all know I won´t be able to cope with that. I´m sad I have to go, I met many HSP children who are adorable and a pleasure to be with.
I’m also an extroverted HSP. I also have a strong personality. I’m grateful for this channel.😃
I am a freelance translaror, so, it seems I am my own boss: I work one, and I can pause for coffee whenever I want, BUT I cannot deal with tight deadlines, I get frustrated when others don't care about quality, when they (translation companies) are disorganized, do not communicate well, won't answer my questio s as they should, don't really value my efforts, etc., etc. So, after almost two decades of stress and pressure, I am moving to other careers. So far, I am fine with English classes, but, ideally one-on-one and using my own methods. I want to become a writer, too; I have three books on the "oven" ;-). Thanks,for helping us feel better!
This is so accurate. I usually enjoy the job I do, but can’t stand the staff politics. I’ve never been really happy in any job I’ve done but I am about to become a gardener, so hope I will really enjoy the alone time!
It’s so nice to know I’m not the only one who feels like this.
I work at a school as a para-educator. It is very stressful and dealing with the adults in the building exhausts me on a daily basis. Everything you said in this video rings true. Thank you for sharing.
Wow . I am 46 and just discovering this year that I'm a HSP/Empath. I was drawn to the medical field and worked in the nursing field for years. I've always been drawn to the healing fields. I was trained as a Massage Therapist. But didn't get licensed. This makes sense why I haven't found what I've been seeking...I've already discovered my truth but haven't accepted it...
Penny Brushwood Thanks for your comment. Nursing seems like a great career for HSPs because we are so compassionate to the emotions and suffering of others. However, that compassion can be overwhelming and tiring. I wrote a post about compassion fatigue here: highlysensitiveperson.net/compassion-fatigue/
at 60 years old i have finally heard about highly sensitive people, my people! i have worked in many jobs and then went to art college. from there it morphed into a career in renovations. i deal with one client at a time, know the job will finish on a certain(ish) date, take time off in between when needed and use my creative skills all the time. when i am working i listen to books which deters the clients from random chattering and i mostly work alone.
renovation is a great way to stay sane while working if you are so inclined!
I’m in marketing and have spent much of my career getting annoyed/upset w coworkers and bosses. Now I’m a freelance website/blog copywriter. I get assignments, work a bit w my clients, and check them off the list. My clients appreciate my work and I can shut it off at the end of the day. There’s stress to any job, but this is like heaven for me. Much less money than corporate jobs, but much less dread and more peace
Nice! I'm an engineer in a small-ish company. I get to work alone a lot and my work is all project-based. I'm not especially well organized but I do a lot of design by feel followed by analysis.
+dale116dot7 Do you like your job?
I don't mind it, actually. I doubt I could do this in a huge organization even for the same work.
I've considered becoming a foster mom to special needs animals. Animals can help reenergize me unlike people. I think I may go after my first childhood dream after all which is to become a vet. Animal rehab is starting to speak to me also. Currently I'm working as an EA in public admin and I am bombarded all day. It's horrible but thankfully I'm ok with starting from scratch if it means living out my gifts
+Melissa Trinh that sounds wonderful! I fostered dogs a few times and it is incredibly rewarding, fun, stressful, and emotional. How wonderful it would be to foster special needs pets! good luck :)
Medical transcription at home can be a great job for nurses who need to work by themselves if they have good spelling and grammar skills. I transitioned fairly easily and it was great while raising my children.
How come you didn't give HSP any career ideas?
+Skuezy Me The list is here: highlysensitiveperson.net/jobs-and-careers-for-highly-sensitive-persons/
But take it with a grain of salt.
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