How to Make Friends as an Adult (For Introverts)

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  • Опубліковано 17 гру 2024

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  • @AmalMehic
    @AmalMehic Місяць тому +14

    Not only am I an introvert, but I was also brought up by emotionally immature parents who had no idea how to navigate relationships let alone teach me how to navigate my own. I am well in my 30s now and just now getting the hang of it. This video is honestly one I am going to save and rewatch because there was a lot to take in that seems so useful! Thank you!

  • @morganevelyncook
    @morganevelyncook  2 місяці тому +36

    When describing the lore of the Friends characters at 31:36, I state that Ross and Chandler met in high school, which is NOT TRUE. They met in college. And I need you to know, that I know, that I effed that up. That's all - thank you for watching 💛

  • @jeriheggie
    @jeriheggie 2 місяці тому +19

    Great tips! I love the thought that you have nothing to lose. Either you gain a friend or you don’t! Just try and see what happens.

  • @BackenBacken
    @BackenBacken Місяць тому +15

    This feels like a masterclass

  • @Favilein
    @Favilein 2 місяці тому +10

    The flipp switch when i started to dont care about others and more about me. I have a tendency to stick to bad friends cause i thought i couldn't get better ones. As i kinda got rid of fake friends, true friends showed up and i find myself giving them more time and energy for free.
    My advice: Pick one good friend and meet them every week for one or two hours and you'll never feel lonely. Fokus on yourself and your friend group will expand.

  • @LivHayes-rz6qn
    @LivHayes-rz6qn Місяць тому +3

    Fellow Chicagoan here :) As an introvert, activating my "fight mode" is a really interesting concept! I often find myself operating in "flight or freeze" a majority of the time and this little mind trick could be revolutionary even outside of making friends. Thanks for the tip!

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому +2

      Yayy a local! Glad you found that tip interesting - I hope it helps haha. Thank you for watching!

  • @kelseyj4018
    @kelseyj4018 Місяць тому +2

    "They don't need your sternum in a card" lol!! I loved this video and your advice Morgan!!

  • @arianarice4911
    @arianarice4911 Місяць тому +1

    1. This video was extremely helpful and comprehensive, thank you!
    2. I LOVE your vibe/energy. It just feels like I’m talking to a friend, and your jokes are fire by the way

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому

      1. Amazing!! I'm so glad you enjoyed!
      2. I appreciate this so much and you get double points for the jokes compliment 💛

  • @gayatris6412
    @gayatris6412 2 місяці тому +2

    wow watched this at 700 views - such a good video, so ..normal and practical. Makes me realise, i have in fact no experience with 'making friends', I've only ever been the person who accepts other people's outreach, and that this is a whole new process one needs to learn as an introverted adult.

  • @eb8761
    @eb8761 2 місяці тому +4

    Great tips! I recently made new friends and agree with everything you said, you're also so low key funny which I love!
    I was wondering if you can share about posting on social media and UA-cam as someone with anxiety. I have an Instagram platform but posting more of myself or on tiktok or UA-cam terrifies me

  • @emilybroome188
    @emilybroome188 Місяць тому

    28:00 I so appreciate your understanding of parents with kids. We need our friends without children so badly, and we need their patience with our season more than anything. It’s incredibly lonely if those friendships are dissolved because we’re struggling to navigate parenthood and friendships.
    And having only friends who are also parents are usually friendships over just our children… we need friends who are friends with us as people, not parents. 🥺

  • @victoriaconawayvc
    @victoriaconawayvc Місяць тому +1

    This video could not have come at a better time for me. I've been struggling to find friends where I live and I feel so seen!! Thank you so much!!

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому +3

      I’m so glad the algorithm algorithmed for you hahah. Thank you so much for watching 💛

  • @mangayakposowa4334
    @mangayakposowa4334 Місяць тому

    Great tips! I also moved to Chicago sometime ago. I used Meetup to make friends. I’ve also made friends through work and in my apartment building

  • @AthynVixen
    @AthynVixen Місяць тому +3

    What a really thoughtful and useful video Morgan. I have lived in London over 20 yrs and still have not managed to make any friends during my time here. Not because I am anti social but I am shy n quiet by nature but open and friendly enough. People have told me they do not know why I dont have any friends and tbh a LOT of what I am getting is people who say they have enough friends already. To me thats stupid because you can never have too many in my mind but... I find i g oto things like work or book clubs etc et cand you meet people and they hit it offso you suggest things like going for coffee or a drink at Christmas season etc and they just say no > it's really hard for me to even do that and I really hope that people see this video and put your tips into action.I try and kid myself it doesnt matter but life is really hard without a support network and everyone deserves one

    • @HelloworlditsSamuel
      @HelloworlditsSamuel 15 годин тому

      London UK? It's a cold place, lots of professionals, not very pleasant (complete understatement! I cannot say what I would really put). Years ago there used to be the really nice Londoner friendliness. I'm sure if you went to other places outside of the big cities you'd find very lovely people.

  • @yummiburritobowl
    @yummiburritobowl Місяць тому +1

    You give me Emma chamberlain vibes !! Just a vlog style video that is also really informative. You’re so funny & gave me tons of advice. Thank you so much 🫶🏼

  • @butterflygrub
    @butterflygrub 2 місяці тому +3

    Didn’t even watch it yet, but I liked it cuz I know it’s gonna be gooooodddd

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  2 місяці тому +1

      I thoroughly appreciate your faith in me hahah

  • @Jaquie04
    @Jaquie04 28 днів тому

    I can’t believe I followed you for so long on Instagram and didn’t know your channel!
    I’m right there in my life, struggling to find new friends in a new place so I really appreciate the tips 😊

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  28 днів тому

      I'm glad ya found your way over here haha. Thank you so much for watching and glad you enjoyed the tips!

  • @alena_ann
    @alena_ann 2 місяці тому +3

    I just found your videos and relate to you so much!! Thanks for sharing your insights - youre really articulate and funny at the same time 😊

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  2 місяці тому +1

      Aw thank you so much! So glad you’re enjoying them!

  • @osteophagus
    @osteophagus Місяць тому

    At 30 I moved a few months ago and my friends, boyfriend, and family are all at least 40 minutes away now. I'm definitely feeling that loneliness and the struggle to make new friends when I don't have any energy to spare.

  • @skyhighflying1525
    @skyhighflying1525 Місяць тому

    Newtime person to your channel, love how real you are ❤❤
    Keep up this good work :)

  • @magdalena4153
    @magdalena4153 29 днів тому

    I like myself and it's enough. I like your videos.

  • @reyt.1967
    @reyt.1967 25 днів тому

    Thank you so much for this advice. I really needed to hear and LEARN these

  • @baileydunne4425
    @baileydunne4425 29 днів тому

    I appreciate your content so much! It’s so needed ❤

  • @lunaelia2374
    @lunaelia2374 Місяць тому +3

    Great video, thank you so much! One additional tip from my life, especially for short distance friendships with busy calenders, is to set a date for the next hang-out at the end of the current time together. It's so much easier than to text 15 possible days and times back and forth. Just when you're about to leave, everbody gets their calenders out (they are mostly on their phones anyways), and a next meeting is easily planned. Hope that helps as well.

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому +1

      Yes! I love that tip! It’s like how I make my next hair appt before I leave the salon otherwise I’ll never do it hahah

  • @LuciVMar
    @LuciVMar Місяць тому

    Really good video ❤ thanks for the tips. Watching you from Brazil ❤

  • @judithcakelover
    @judithcakelover 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing these tips🧡and yes I laugh about your jokes.😂

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому +1

      You’re welcome! I’m so glad you enjoyed. And thank you for laughing at my jokes, I greatly appreciate the validation hahah

  • @charlottebronte4233
    @charlottebronte4233 6 днів тому

    “I was in London, where apartments are two-dimensional.” Lol

  • @JasmineSwann
    @JasmineSwann Місяць тому +1

    I'm in a new city and omg, it's so hard and it's even harder in your 40's.

  • @LauraOtermat
    @LauraOtermat Місяць тому +3

    Dear algorithm, please share this with more people. Thank you in advance.

    • @morganevelyncook
      @morganevelyncook  Місяць тому +1

      I really appreciate you putting this out into the universe for me

  • @Simplelivingslowliving
    @Simplelivingslowliving 2 місяці тому +1

    😅😅😅 I fucking love this channel.

  • @jenniferri7735
    @jenniferri7735 Місяць тому +1

    i want to be your friend ❤

  • @emilybarber7522
    @emilybarber7522 Місяць тому

    What semester (and school, if you're comfy sharing) did you study abroad in London?? I was at Roehampton Uni in spring 2017 💗

  • @christineg6123
    @christineg6123 2 місяці тому +1

    I've never been included in a friend group 😢

  • @JustaCamiDash
    @JustaCamiDash Місяць тому +2

    I am one of those weird people who loves doing laundry🧺😂

  • @jmsl_910
    @jmsl_910 Місяць тому

    wow.
    i feel so seen
    never, have i ever, experienced such resonation
    🫶