Love this, I've tried journaling and meditating for YEARS and every time, I will do it for maybe 3 days before the novelty wears off and it becomes a chore I resent. I'm going to get a puzzle.
The problem is that these practices are sold to us as magical fixes to all of our problems when they absolutely are not. Influencers tell you that this stuff will CHANGE YOUR LIFE OVERNIGHT because their videos pop off better in the algorithm when they're selling you the fantasy you're desperate to believe. Many of these practices are things you have to stick with over months and even years if you want to get something out of them and they absolutely will not make all your problems just go away no matter how long you do them. We want these things to fix our problems because we're desperate to escape ourselves. What if the solution wasn't to escape your problems, but rather it's to just sit with your darkness and your pain and allow these parts of yourself to just be? Meditation isn't powerful because it forces you to stop feeling bad. It's powerful because it forces you to sit with the bad feeling and witness it without trying to change it or make it go away. Paradoxically, when we stop trying to force our bad feelings to go away, we can watch them and realize how temporary they all are. You feel scared and sad and you sit with that feeling and then it shifts and you feel something else. I journal every day and watch myself as my feelings and moods constantly shift. One day I show up to my journal with all this pain and anger and self hatred, and the next day I show up with lightness and love for myself. All my feelings are part of me and none of them are "bad" like I used to think, they're just part of the experience of being human. The more I let my painful feelings just be what they are without trying to fix them or make them go away, the greater capacity I develop to love those dark and painful parts of myself. They're just wounded parts of me calling out for love. They're not trying to hurt me they're trying to keep me safe. I'm done trying to fix myself. My new goal is simply to witness all the parts of myself with love and acceptance. I find that a much more grounded and peaceful way to live than constantly chasing something to fix me.
Goose needed the screen time to get credit from protecting you from the vacuum man!! This was super helpful! I've been going through a sort of habit/routine discovery thing, and this video is basically easy notes!! ❤
Love this, I've tried journaling and meditating for YEARS and every time, I will do it for maybe 3 days before the novelty wears off and it becomes a chore I resent. I'm going to get a puzzle.
As a 23 year old trying to figure out life i find your advice and your channel really inspiring. Thank you for doing what you do💖
No, because this was so helpful, Affirmations really don't work for me and I never thought about screenshotting instead in a "serotonin hub" haha!
The problem is that these practices are sold to us as magical fixes to all of our problems when they absolutely are not. Influencers tell you that this stuff will CHANGE YOUR LIFE OVERNIGHT because their videos pop off better in the algorithm when they're selling you the fantasy you're desperate to believe. Many of these practices are things you have to stick with over months and even years if you want to get something out of them and they absolutely will not make all your problems just go away no matter how long you do them.
We want these things to fix our problems because we're desperate to escape ourselves. What if the solution wasn't to escape your problems, but rather it's to just sit with your darkness and your pain and allow these parts of yourself to just be? Meditation isn't powerful because it forces you to stop feeling bad. It's powerful because it forces you to sit with the bad feeling and witness it without trying to change it or make it go away. Paradoxically, when we stop trying to force our bad feelings to go away, we can watch them and realize how temporary they all are. You feel scared and sad and you sit with that feeling and then it shifts and you feel something else.
I journal every day and watch myself as my feelings and moods constantly shift. One day I show up to my journal with all this pain and anger and self hatred, and the next day I show up with lightness and love for myself. All my feelings are part of me and none of them are "bad" like I used to think, they're just part of the experience of being human. The more I let my painful feelings just be what they are without trying to fix them or make them go away, the greater capacity I develop to love those dark and painful parts of myself. They're just wounded parts of me calling out for love. They're not trying to hurt me they're trying to keep me safe.
I'm done trying to fix myself. My new goal is simply to witness all the parts of myself with love and acceptance. I find that a much more grounded and peaceful way to live than constantly chasing something to fix me.
Goose needed the screen time to get credit from protecting you from the vacuum man!!
This was super helpful! I've been going through a sort of habit/routine discovery thing, and this video is basically easy notes!! ❤
A “morning menu” is actually genius. Why haven’t I thought of that 😭 great video !!!!