As promised, here's part 2! ua-cam.com/video/5YHoqdpYQOo/v-deo.html Thanks for letting me know through the "likes" button you wanted to see this too. God bless! -Mark
Just make it really easy and make yourself inviting. Being shy is not just being afraid of asking you out, but just not being much of a social person in general. We find it more fulfilling to be a good listener and sometimes this can be very difficult for us to get out of our comfort zone. I would say if you’re interested in a shy guy, you definitely wanna talk to him one on one. If you’re not comfortable with doing that, I would then try to ask him out to lunch with a group of friends. Sitting next to him and start talking to him yourself. That is a form of being on one on one, but it allows the guy to be more comfortable. Even guys get the memo to ask a girl out. Also sometime outside help, this means having another person just tell them that you’re interested. That just gives a lot of confidence to guys that are just not very skilled at knowing what the heck is going on. 😂 doesn’t mean we’re weak or that we’re not good at leading, but we just are not very good when it comes to being social.
In my short life experience of 30 years, this has taken me much longer than necessary to learn: Gents, men, the girl that wants you to see her, notice her, approach her, will try being around you, in your vicinity or show on her facial expressions and body language that she wants you to pursue her. It can be done from her side in a lot of ways, making excessive eye contact with you (you are noticing her looking at you), laughing at your jokes/supporting your views, trying to take up space near you and around you (this type of thing usually happens a lot in places like school/university, a gym, or shared workspace), but at the end of the day, best thing is to be godly, confident, and know, no matter how goofy and embarassed you feel, God will make it work with the right-person at the right time. He is after all the ultimate match-maker starting from Adam. God bless you, brothers in Christ.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Stay encouraged ! Not easy but trust in HIS plans for you and your love life. God must be preparing you or her for this next big gift. When you will encounter her, you will understand why it took this long.
@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Many women sit and wait and don’t make moves, by default they don’t look interested to us but women think they made it obvious somehow that they like the guy by being reserved
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Because many guys go through years and years and years (and sometimes their whole life) without getting one indication. Seeing as you're a woman, that may be a hard thing to realise. Imagine how confusing that must be to a man. What would you do?
1. Will I get rejected and look like a fool? 2. If I seem too interested and too nice too soon, will she see me as weak? 3. Does she like someone else or is she still connected to her ex?
A certain community I was in, it appeared that a woman offering casual sex was the only thing the men would accept as a "green light" to pursue them. That absolutely does not work for me, so I got no chances to be inviting in a godly way since the men wanted what I considered desperation from a woman.
No.....not at all, the bad boys just pay more attention to women and make their interest in them known. Good guys can be quiet to the point the woman thinks he is not interested in her.
I believe another issue regarding women going after the "bad boys" Rather than nice men is that it's not just about the masculinity that they Exude, but also that these kinds of men are usually the only ones that pursue women in a way that we understand. They are more Likely to express desire And interest from the beginning, where the more quiet, shy, and nice men leave most women feeling ambiguous about things.
Even if rejected you have to always seek God and find comfort that your Heavenly Father has not rejected you! You are worthy of love! Rejection should then be viewed as a sign that this person is not for you and you are a step closer to finding the person God has prepared for you. It’s better to know in the beginning than to have prolonged your marriage. Blessings to you.
I honestly haven't done much dating, but I did the 'inviting' and he would just look at me whilst around the office, and chat to me a lot. Everyone could tell but me. But I liked him back, so after a long while of chatting at work, I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no, so I asked if he'd like to meet up sometime and that was it... He started to 'pursue' me after the 'green light' was given. He really thought he'd get rejected if he asked first, which I had to shut down bc he's such a sweet guy...and I reassured him that I liked him and enjoyed being in his company...💯
I'm not expecting your situation to be the norm but theirs a lot of hurt guys out their not even from girlfriends but their mothers. A dysfunctional christian home for a young guy makes every relationship scary.
I love this!🎉 I also like a co-worker who pays a lot of attention to me but has yet to make a move. Everyone who knows him at work says he's into me but afraid I will reject him. I was shocked because I feel like I'm out of HIS league. They are encouraging me to be direct and tell him how I feel and that I'd like him to take me out. I really feel like I need to have this conversation soon as my feelings are growing and I want to know once and for all to keep my hopes up or just move on
Hi Mark, I'm a teenager from Romania and I wanted to thank you very much for the work and time you put into these videos, they are very helpful for people like me and my friends from church because these topics are not often discussed in our community. God bless !
Honestly, it often simply is that the "bad boy" types are the ones more likely to approach a woman, express interest in her and boldly pursue her. "Good guys" often just don't make a move, or don't do it confidently.
Yes, but those bad boy types generally have no respect for women & see them as an object for their own gratification & never a genuine godly relationship. From experience, most are or will eventually show their abusive side, either mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, or sexually. Then there are those whom are all the above! I have known guys who have been through this with “bad girls” too. God wants us to have a spouse aligns with the Bible! ❤
This is why women go for narcissists and psychopaths. A normal guy who isn’t approaching dozens of women all the time is probably a more healthy man than a guy who doesn’t have social boundaries or hesitance anymore. A man can be very confident and masculine and just not used to pursuing random women enough to diminish the weirdness of approachIng someone you don’t know to show desire Women tend to overlook that Confidence in approaching a random person for intimacy isn’t really the same as genuine confidence. Then they ask “where are all the good guys”. The problem is women are turned on by guys with risky patterns, it doesn’t actually have much to with how confident they are. They can be a mans man and also not be a guy who’s wasted time trying to be Casanova
❤I believe that women should be preparing herself by becoming the best version of herself and ALWAYS keep God in the forefront of her life's pursuits❤BTW not all of us are attracted to bad boys or at least NOT me.. Godly, Manly Men are the Best!
Love the 2nd and 3rd points. Reminds me of a conversation I had with a woman recently. She was frustrated with men who linger around too long without asking her out, and never pursue, but also expressed that it was a red flag if they move too quickly. I was trying to let her understand that this is a struggle for guys and often times the guys who are lingering don’t want to come on too strong… because if they did, they’d be a red flag guy bc they moved too quickly. You can’t have it both ways 😂 But, You have to be tactful as a guy. You can’t move too fast and you can’t move too slow.
I rarely hear it discussed that women often go for "bad boys" because they come from a history of abuse and have a broken understanding of what respect looks like. Even if you are healed, you cannot totally heal until you have a healthy relationship. The quiet, Godly man who is pursuing me did a few things (or more accurately did not do a few things I expected to see) that made me wonder if he even liked me at first or if he was too passive, until the Lord quietly spoke to my heart and revealed that he was actually treating me with dignity and respect. That is part of why I appreciate these videos so much. No matter how much healing I've done, I have still never walked out the beginning of a healthy romantic relationship before and I am not always sure how to read what is happening or how to respond appropriately.
Hi Tracy, not sure if you'll see this or if you're comfortable replying, but I was wondering if you might be willing to share any specific details on how the man pursuing you was treating you with dignity and respect? I'm currently trying to pursue a female friend and would appreciate a female perspective if you're willing to share.
Dating is just so difficult these days. I want a man who would pursue me, and I’m trying to do better about not being the one to pursue (in the past when I was the one to pursue, it would always end badly). I’ve tried being inviting, like you say, to the men I’m interested in. Being friendly, approachable, talking to/giving attention, compliments (even light physical affection -I’m pretty shy, being even that bold is a stretch for me). Either they’re simply not interested or I’m doing something wrong. 🤦♀️
Don't give compliments. That's too aggressive. Save that for when your engaged. Most men may be flattered but are put off by compliments from the get go.
It's always on both parties to communicate and create a relationship. Whether the man or woman's role, one cannot be successful without support from the other.
I was trying to explain this very thing on a Facebook page. Men do have insecurities too. Not only is it dreading to pursue a woman who might not reciprocate, but then once in the relationship questions like " Am I strong enough for her? " or " Am I going to make her happy? " Come up to mind also.
I know that this is true Mark because my own brother who is a nice guy has always been so terrified and/or calculated when it comes to approaching women. His girlfriend that he is with now actually left her phone number on the dashboard of his car. While I’m not that bold to do something like that, I think us women may need some pointers on how to INVITE a man to pursue us. Like what are some green lights we can give to let a man know it’s ok for him to approach online, offline, at the grocery store, etc without being too bold.. also definitely interested in the dating to relationship process video. Guilty of point # 3 lol great and super helpful video per usual Mark! 💜💜
Women need to tap into their gentleness and tenderness to signal men they are passive and faithful. This way men can exhale and feel confident to pursue them. Great video!
Mark, you are the first person that got this right about the "bad boy" syndrome. You can have the same attraction as the bad boys, if you a godly man and if you are masculine.
Honestly any videos you make I watch. Even if it doesn't pretend to me I will forward them to other people that I know might benefit from them. I'm a 40 year old woman who has a 19 year old son and a 13 year old son and I Urgent to watch your videos because this is something stuff it would been nice to know at Their age. Thank you for making these videos I really do appreciate it.
100%, Mark! You hit the nail on the head with your perspective on toxic feminism. You’re also right about the fact that it’s a rabbit hole of a topic that would take literal days worth of video to cover…. Such a toxic and offensive “movement” (if thats what ya wanna call it).
You mentioned men being masculine vs being nice - this is a topic I struggle a lot with, because even though I am masculine, I naturally have a lot of character traits that may seem "too nice". This makes me feel very insecure in the pursuit of love and marriage, knowing women don't seem to like it, and insecurity hurts my chances. I'd really appreciate a video on some biblical guidance on that, because God calls us to love, peace, gentleness etc. Which are all traits that are "nice"
And thanks as always Mark for your videos, and your service to us in your ministry, I have a feeling you're helping way more of us than you know, and in great ways. God bless you man
I (woman) give my 50 cents: Be yourself! Nobody can put on a persona consistently to achieve a certain goal. Women notice when something is off and will be skeptical. There is a wide range of different personalities in women, enough to make it likely for you to meet the right one. As an example, I know a very masculine police officer who is interested in design and gardening, traditionally feminine interests. I'm into manly men and he would definitely fit my perception of manliness.
Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Tim 1:7 God gives us the courage to do what He has called us to do - courage that is built and reliant in Him. If He desires for a man to ask out a woman, He will give that man the courage to pursue her. The key is the courage will built on God. The insecurities of a man are not a woman's responsibility. It's also important to note that just because a man asks a woman out or displays interest in a woman does not mean she is obligated to reciprocate those feelings if they are not what she truly feels. That would be inauthentic and a lie, which would be harmful to the man. If a man can not handle rejection from a woman, life would be a struggle as rejection is something that is faced many times in life, not just romantically. If it takes a man some time to build up that courage to ask a woman out, that's okay!! But that courage should for himself, built by God, not solely for the purpose of asking out a women. This way when he faces rejection, which he will, we all do, it does not shake his confidence, because his confidence is built in The One who can not be shaken. "For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ." 1 Corinthians 3:11 Men, please build your confidence in the Lord. Don't rely on women to put your insecurities to sleep. We are only human, just as you are. We can not be the ones you depend on to feel like men. We can complement it, but we can not be the foundation it will be built upon. Only The Lord can. And don't just build your confidence to pursue women. Build it to be a man after God's heart as David. 1 Samuel 13:14 "But now your kingdom will not endure; the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command.” Then He will give you the desires of your heart, because they will align with His. (Psalm 37:4) Psalm 62:1-2 "Truly my soul finds rest in God; my salvation comes from Him. Truly He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will never be shaken." Psalm 62:5-8 "Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from Him. Truly He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God; He is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge." If a man feels insecure about his feelings for a woman because he doesn't want to be seen as "weak", it is possible he is the one who is weak. And this is something important to be aware of this way it can be improved. But it is not the women's responsibility to fix. Why is he valuing how others see him over his own feelings? Why is he valuing how others see him over how GOD sees him? If he is valuing how he is perceived over his own romantic feelings, it's a possibility those romantic feelings are not strong enough and the relationship should not even be pursued in the first place. There is nothing a woman could do or should do to help strengthen a man's feelings for her. That is not her responsibility. She can not and should not force a guy to have interest in her. If a woman is still talking about her ex or past relationships, yes, perhaps she can stop talking about it in courtesy for the man she is with currently. But the man can also use discernment in this type of situation. If a woman is still talking about her past, this is a sign she has possibly not healed from it and is still processing it and may not actually be ready for a new relationship, no matter what she says. This could be a sign for the guy to then take a step back and create the distance necessary between him and her so she may get the healing she needs. He is not responsible for her healing. But he is responsible for himself and which situations and interactions he decides to put himself in or not. We are only responsible for ourselves. A woman can not make a guy feel insecure or weak if that man is not already feeling insecure or weak in the first place. If the actions or behavior of a woman have the ability to determine the confidence of a man, that man is giving too much power and control to that woman in the first place. That is power that should belong to no one but The LORD. A man of God does not depend on a woman to make him feel insecure or not, because he has built his confidence on God. This doesn't mean he will not ever feel insecure. But it does mean he does not rely on a woman to build his confidence or put his insecurities to sleep. A woman is not responsible for a man's insecurities or confidence, just as a man is not responsible for the insecurities or confidence of a woman. Of course, they can be complemented in a healthy relationship. But to solely rely on the actions and reactions of someone to build your confidence can create a very toxic and codependent dynamic that God never intended for us to have in the first place. To rely on the actions and behavior of a woman to help a man feel confident is giving that woman control over that man's confidence. Control a woman was never meant to have. Control no person is ever meant to have. It is an extreme responsibility that can eventually become burden which leads to an unhealthy and codependent relationship dynamic. Only God is the one who can give us strength, courage and confidence that lasts, even after rejection, relationships that don't work out and unmet expectations. When we make Him the foundation for our confidence, then we will have His strength and confidence and courage that He has blessed us with so we may do what He has called us to do. Rather than looking to women or others to make us feel confident, let's look to The One who MADE us and who can surely make us strong in Him in all situations. Rather than relying on others and letting them determine how insecure we feel, let's surrender that power to the Lord, for He is a good father who knows what is best for us. "This is what the Lord says- your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: 'I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.'" Isaiah 48:17 "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Tim 1:7 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Phil 4:13
Fantastic video Mark. Absolutely spot on and timely as usual 😎. As a male about to pursue a Godly women this has helped so much! Edit: So I pursued and received clarity that she just wants to be friends 😂
And hey Mark, YES PLEASE do a video on "masculine energy" and how good men can show up with that. The "players"/"bad boys" make their videos on that but of course the motive is different, and so the approach ends up being different, even ungodly. So would love to see you do such a video.
Not when the rejection is laced with the threat of sexual harassment.....after finally building up the courage to just simply ask. And yes it was with a church girl who didn't know how to simply and politely say "no"...in a church we both served in and I got confronted privately by 3 members of the church leadership in sucession, throughout the course of a Sunday. That tends to bring trauma to a guy of not bothering to even ask any more, for fear of getting in legal trouble.
@@michaeldavis2039What do you have to fear if you're innocent? The Bible says it's commendable in God's site to suffer unjustly. My op still stands in your situation my friend. Realising and accepting suffering as part of life is the way through it
Thats CRAZY. Looks like an attack from Satan. Don't let it get you down. Pray first about approaching a girl. It's always best to be friends first before you express interest.
It’s so funny because I’m a female, attractive. Personable, outgoing, I’ve been rejected a bit in my life, but as a woman I have the courage to reach out and make the first move, put myself out there, if a woman can do that… why would the lack of bravery from men have an excuse of insecurities? Everybody, has insecurities… men need to step up, and lead from a love based place. Have courage…also, nice guys are so attractive. Nothing looks worse than a spirit of control, ego, and pride. Nice guys finish first… always!
As a male, I would have to disagree with your statement, with an explanation. In my experience being nice meant being a pushover or a doormat which doesn't command respect. Once I figured that out things got a lot better. I changed from being a nice guy to being a "good guy" who was kind but not a pushover. Who took the lead and was firm when needed with a woman. This was all from God and I've been happily married now for 18 years! Be blessed!
If you play hard to get, you quickly become hard to want. I’ve had a few women question why I stopped giving them attention after a while and I told them that and only one of them said “oh that makes sense”, some of us ladies you gotta be blunt with. Reciprocate any attention we give in a timely manner, and we will love it. And by timely manner I mean at least within 1-2 hours.
IMO👇 Bad boy= headache=stress=toxicity =negative energy=sleepless nights = under eye bags= ulcers= falling hair=wrinkles=bad skin= inflammation. HELL NO!!!. A" badboy "could never be a masculine man to me especially if he thinks flaunting his money impresses me
6:05 it’s not bad boys but it’s confidence and strength they are are attracted to. If you’re confidently good and have that inner strength about it and can stand up to those who challenge that then… whoa
agree..its.not bad boys per se but rather for some of us in past, the initial attention given to us, the risk-taking and perception of putting pride and fears side to pursue a woman and try to gain her favor.
Thank you Mark! I love your videos! It would be great if you make a video about guys who have many women friends, and they are knowing many girls as friends at the same time. Nowadays, christian men are following that, but later women don’t know if the man is interested in pursuing or not. Women then only feel like options but really confused if the man is interested on pursuing or not.
Mark, I would love to hear the part 2 video about insecurities in dating and transitioning to marriage. Have you released it yet? I see we are over 2K likes 😁 Please do share!
Another reason I think men are afraid to pursue is looking like or being called a creep, even for doing completely normal things. What’s kind of ironic to me is, many women who think like this choose men that actually do creepy things, such as having odd sexual ideas, strange values, often are abusive, etc. Too many women in the USA have ridiculous standards and requirements, including Christian women, yet wonder why men don’t approach. I think that’s one of the reasons why the Mgtow and red pill movements have grown so much lately. It would be nice to see a video about that.
I just figured out a girl wants me to ask her questions but to be honest with you… I am so shy and more of a listener than I am a talker so… I have to switch and come out of my comfort zone. I did not realize this was important but I am pursuing. It just took me a little while to figure out what I needed to do and I had a church member help me. 😅 I also asked women what questions to ask them, it was much easier than asking her hahaha 😆 I would like to offer this point of view, some of us guys are very shy, and sometimes it’s not ideal or within our spiritual giftedness to be social. The inviting part really helps with that and I think women need to consider doing a lot more. They will get to so many places specially with shy guys… 😅 I do not believe women should be pursuing guys but being inviting for sure. This girl at church did just that and it’s enough to catch my attention because I was more focused on serving and trying to become a better version of myself. The hard part about pursuing, is men need to make decisions on how we’re gonna do that and what’s the most godliest way for us to do so… this was very difficult for me to figure out, and it took two weeks of praying and reading scripture for me to understand that I didn’t know the person enough. I also thought it would be better for me to take my time and get to know them a little bit bit better. I also realized I did not ask questions and I needed to get out of my comfort zone to do that.
I think if a woman is attracted to a man who mistreats her, she needs counseling and help. A woman can feel attachment to a man who is mistreating her in time, will hopefully in time realize what’s going on and choose better.
Smiles 😁 Please make other video as I have been out of the “Dating Error” 4 a long long long time!!! Thank You 🙏🏽 Brother Mark Stay Blessed Always & Peace 🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️‼️‼️‼️
Unfortunately I tend to be very introverted and struggle with interaction in general, especially with girls I find pretty. My brain just stops working and I hate it sooo much. I guess what Charlie Brown said does have some meaning, "pretty faces make me nervous"
Father God, thank you for greater understanding I am in need of concerning men! I bind to hell my god-ordained spouse hiding one's insecurities while binding my god-ordained spouse to be able to find healthy solutions to deal with and speak about one's weaknesses, while binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with any man hiding's one's insecuritities while not dealing and speaking about one's weaknesses in a healthy way, in accordance with this word and 2 corinthians 12:9-11, proverbs 28:13, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
your most recent video's on pursuing woman, insecurities and the one on trust god's timing and plan have really hit and spoken to me on a different level to be honest bc i,m currently going through these phases ur speaking about its always helpful and on point. God bless
🎉Your messages are so clear. You're gifted with the right articulateness! You're fulfilling God's purpose in you. You are helping me a lot. I have a 99% different situation from other women, though but it resonates with me a lot.
I always listen to every short & video you make. I feel I've received a lot of good biblical information weather it pertains to me at the time or not. I trust what you have to say. I have been divorced officially for three years now. I've only gone on one double date to church and lunch. I have no interest in searching for someone to date. It's really hard when your older. Believing for God to show me a man when the timing is right. #attractedtoallthewrongmen
Depending on your past experiences and marriage Yes it's really hard For myself, I am striving to be true to myself and foundational beliefs Have a job and pay bills and be frugal Attend church regularly Give time and money to God's service and kingdom In the Word daily or ( almost ) Prayer in some form daily about many different subjects Active in men's group Listening to good videos like this one and on other subjects Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
That second point is funny. I like nice, strong, masculine guys. But most of all, i just want the guy to be himself when he approaches and pursues me because that's what im gonna do too. My ex bf got awkward everytime i talked about experiences i had with past relationships, and i never understood why because im like dont u wanna know about ME.??? makes a little more sense now.
Thanks for this information, Mark. One of my biggest frustrations is that it seems like Christian women think they should just sit there and do nothing and put no effort forward. Essentially, all it is is a license to act sinfully. Christian women: ask yourself, would you treat an older man the way you often treat younger men? If the answer is no, you might want to consider growing more in righteousness and proper Christian character. We are ALL called to act like Christ, not just men.
As a woman new to christianity, I actually miss pursuing men. It just comes easier to me, than waiting around hahaha! But I understand that God's timing is best.
I think it all depends on the situation. Do you know Alex Honnold....the famous climber who climbed up El Capitan with absolutely nothing but his hands/chalk? He's probably the most famous athlete in the world. Do you know how he met his wife? She came up to him at an event....told him I think you're cute....gave him her phone number....and ran off. Alex is kinda shy around women. There are tons of guys that are husband material....but they won't make the first move because they are reserved. Sometimes women have to make the first move.
Men should only pursue women who give him permission to do so, that might be smiling at him, making eye contact. Making space for him to approach and speak with her
This video came on time. I never knew that hanging out with guy friends can make guys who are interested me wonder if I’m liking my guy friends or are dating them. There was so many good points in here, I’m going to have to watch it again and take notes!! Thanks Mark!
Thanks for making this video, I wasn't really aware about how much my interaction with men matters. Yes the man needs to pursue, but the woman also needs to give *constant* feedback to the man in the form of rewards when he is pursuing her in the right way and also feedback when it's not in the right way. The best way to put it is that my natural tendency is to be avoidant. When I see something that might hurt and offend me I try to avoid, distance and remove it as best as I can. I didn't realise that this was actually negative feedback I was giving to my "pursuer". Don't get me wrong I didn't like the way he was pursuing me, if anything I actually thought he was stalking me😭🤧, but now I can see that he was genuinely just trying to figure me out 🤣😂😅. Thanks for the video it's helped me realise that I can still have my standards, but I don't have to be so cut throat about it, such as immediately blocking him if I don't like something. Yh I did that😅, but again I didn't realise he was pursuing me. I genuinely thought he was stalking me 🤣😭😭😭. The best thing I will say ladies is have an open mind. I thought this guy was stalking me and turns out her was just trying to pursue me and figure me out. Have an open mind because men will pursue you the way they think best and not the way you envision it to be. Try to meet them in the middle if you can and see their efforts. What I am saying is definitely not easy, but pray on it. God is the reason I gave the pursuer another chance.
PLEASE make a long n detailed vid about the rant you went on for topic #2. It's important n is one of the root causes for the dating game being messed up a skewed
In regards to point 2, I think we women are turned-off by men who ask us out immediately after meeting or seeing us, which makes us think they only want us for our looks. This is why some of us women prefer men who take the time to get to know us some, who befriend us over some time, so by the time such men ask us out, we know it's because they like us for who we are as persons, and aren't as likely to view us as some idol we're not, and then become disappointed with us when we act like ourselves (and not some impossible "perfect woman" in their heads, or a younger version of their mothers...).
What you just wrote is the reason nice guys finish last. They act on this premise yet 99 percent of the time in real life it gets them nowhere because the woman went with the other guy who took them on a date
Haha Mark I agree with you, as for the women I see a lot of stubbornness here in the comments. Even though the message was for them, they continue to justify their actions and desires instead of thanking you for your wisdom. And so be it, lol. As a man I thank you for being sympathetic without bias as a man.
Wow! You have no idea how timely this message was for me, Mark! Thank you so much and I would love for you to do a part 2 or talk about masculine vs. feminine energy in a man.
As promised, here's part 2! ua-cam.com/video/5YHoqdpYQOo/v-deo.html
Thanks for letting me know through the "likes" button you wanted to see this too.
God bless!
-Mark
This was helpful to me ❤
Healthy women WANT KIND MEN!!! And it’s ok to be shy or quiet or reserved, as long as you are still taking a chance and asking us out!
Agreed. And it’s up to us to be inviting & to seem open to it so they will.
Not too kind though, too nice is a turn off. I like a man who is thoughtful and cares but not a pushover and can make decision
YES Amen 🙌🙏❤
Just make it really easy and make yourself inviting. Being shy is not just being afraid of asking you out, but just not being much of a social person in general.
We find it more fulfilling to be a good listener and sometimes this can be very difficult for us to get out of our comfort zone. I would say if you’re interested in a shy guy, you definitely wanna talk to him one on one.
If you’re not comfortable with doing that, I would then try to ask him out to lunch with a group of friends. Sitting next to him and start talking to him yourself. That is a form of being on one on one, but it allows the guy to be more comfortable. Even guys get the memo to ask a girl out. Also sometime outside help, this means having another person just tell them that you’re interested. That just gives a lot of confidence to guys that are just not very skilled at knowing what the heck is going on. 😂 doesn’t mean we’re weak or that we’re not good at leading, but we just are not very good when it comes to being social.
Amen sister🙏
In my short life experience of 30 years, this has taken me much longer than necessary to learn: Gents, men, the girl that wants you to see her, notice her, approach her, will try being around you, in your vicinity or show on her facial expressions and body language that she wants you to pursue her. It can be done from her side in a lot of ways, making excessive eye contact with you (you are noticing her looking at you), laughing at your jokes/supporting your views, trying to take up space near you and around you (this type of thing usually happens a lot in places like school/university, a gym, or shared workspace), but at the end of the day, best thing is to be godly, confident, and know, no matter how goofy and embarassed you feel, God will make it work with the right-person at the right time. He is after all the ultimate match-maker starting from Adam. God bless you, brothers in Christ.
Amen❤
I agree 🥰🙏🏾
I will never experience any of those signs. Im a guy whos almost 27 years old and never had my first kiss. God doesnt seem to want to be my matchmaker
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese Stay encouraged ! Not easy but trust in HIS plans for you and your love life. God must be preparing you or her for this next big gift. When you will encounter her, you will understand why it took this long.
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese I think you got someone special coming .
It is important that two persons show mutual interest. No one wants to pursue someone who appears not to be interested.
Why are you pursuing women that are not interested?
Oh stop @@gabrielamartiniuc6322
@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Many women sit and wait and don’t make moves, by default they don’t look interested to us but women think they made it obvious somehow that they like the guy by being reserved
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Because many guys go through years and years and years (and sometimes their whole life) without getting one indication.
Seeing as you're a woman, that may be a hard thing to realise. Imagine how confusing that must be to a man.
What would you do?
1. Will I get rejected and look like a fool?
2. If I seem too interested and too nice too soon, will she see me as weak?
3. Does she like someone else or is she still connected to her ex?
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😜hehehe Thankyou
A certain community I was in, it appeared that a woman offering casual sex was the only thing the men would accept as a "green light" to pursue them. That absolutely does not work for me, so I got no chances to be inviting in a godly way since the men wanted what I considered desperation from a woman.
No.....not at all, the bad boys just pay more attention to women and make their interest in them known. Good guys can be quiet to the point the woman thinks he is not interested in her.
I believe another issue regarding women going after the "bad boys" Rather than nice men is that it's not just about the masculinity that they Exude, but also that these kinds of men are usually the only ones that pursue women in a way that we understand. They are more Likely to express desire And interest from the beginning, where the more quiet, shy, and nice men leave most women feeling ambiguous about things.
that's a great insight
Well if they get constantly rejected, it takes time to restore confidence
Yes, sometimes months and months of ambiguity. But I don't like "bad boys" either.
Exactly this! 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Im a 'bad boy' by nature, i cant be a 'nice guy' to save my life, idk if its a good thing or a bad thing lol 😂
Just remember one of my favorite quotes "If you never ask, the answer is always "No"."
Yeah, not always easy especially if you are shy or afraid of getting rejected by someone you like.
@@pattypatty1484 True, but you can get it over with and move on... : D
Never fear. Just be prudent.
Even if rejected you have to always seek God and find comfort that your Heavenly Father has not rejected you! You are worthy of love! Rejection should then be viewed as a sign that this person is not for you and you are a step closer to finding the person God has prepared for you. It’s better to know in the beginning than to have prolonged your marriage. Blessings to you.
I totally agree with talking more about the damage of the feminist movement on traditional masculinity. 100%
I think most of us get it. MGTOW, red pill, toxic feminism and all that demonic mess.
I honestly haven't done much dating, but I did the 'inviting' and he would just look at me whilst around the office, and chat to me a lot. Everyone could tell but me. But I liked him back, so after a long while of chatting at work, I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no, so I asked if he'd like to meet up sometime and that was it... He started to 'pursue' me after the 'green light' was given. He really thought he'd get rejected if he asked first, which I had to shut down bc he's such a sweet guy...and I reassured him that I liked him and enjoyed being in his company...💯
I'm not expecting your situation to be the norm but theirs a lot of hurt guys out their not even from girlfriends but their mothers.
A dysfunctional christian home for a young guy makes every relationship scary.
Very well done.
When you forgive and heal from childhood trauma, your fearless.
I love this!🎉 I also like a co-worker who pays a lot of attention to me but has yet to make a move. Everyone who knows him at work says he's into me but afraid I will reject him. I was shocked because I feel like I'm out of HIS league. They are encouraging me to be direct and tell him how I feel and that I'd like him to take me out. I really feel like I need to have this conversation soon as my feelings are growing and I want to know once and for all to keep my hopes up or just move on
I wouldn't ask a man out. Maybe he's nervous because you work together? Is he saved? That's the issue.
Yes please talk more about the masculine and feminine balance and how it ties to the Bible!!!!!! That would be great!
Thank you for this feedback!
Yes please
Greta Beresaite is a youtuber who really breaks down the feminine/ masculine dynamic.
Mark, please make the part 2 to this video
Your content has been greatly encouraging
Praise God for your ministry
I appreciate this feedback Reuben! God bless!
I second this
Hi Mark, I'm a teenager from Romania and I wanted to thank you very much for the work and time you put into these videos, they are very helpful for people like me and my friends from church because these topics are not often discussed in our community. God bless !
Honestly, it often simply is that the "bad boy" types are the ones more likely to approach a woman, express interest in her and boldly pursue her. "Good guys" often just don't make a move, or don't do it confidently.
Yes, but those bad boy types generally have no respect for women & see them as an object for their own gratification & never a genuine godly relationship. From experience, most are or will eventually show their abusive side, either mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, or sexually.
Then there are those whom are all the above!
I have known guys who have been through this with “bad girls” too.
God wants us to have a spouse aligns with the Bible! ❤
This is why women go for narcissists and psychopaths.
A normal guy who isn’t approaching dozens of women all the time is probably a more healthy man than a guy who doesn’t have social boundaries or hesitance anymore.
A man can be very confident and masculine and just not used to pursuing random women enough to diminish the weirdness of approachIng someone you don’t know to show desire
Women tend to overlook that Confidence in approaching a random person for intimacy isn’t really the same as genuine confidence. Then they ask “where are all the good guys”. The problem is women are turned on by guys with risky patterns, it doesn’t actually have much to with how confident they are. They can be a mans man and also not be a guy who’s wasted time trying to be Casanova
❤I believe that women should be preparing herself by becoming the best version of herself and ALWAYS keep God in the forefront of her life's pursuits❤BTW not all of us are attracted to bad boys or at least NOT me.. Godly, Manly Men are the Best!
Amen! Bad boys can kick rocks in their flip flops!
Love the 2nd and 3rd points. Reminds me of a conversation I had with a woman recently. She was frustrated with men who linger around too long without asking her out, and never pursue, but also expressed that it was a red flag if they move too quickly. I was trying to let her understand that this is a struggle for guys and often times the guys who are lingering don’t want to come on too strong… because if they did, they’d be a red flag guy bc they moved too quickly. You can’t have it both ways 😂
But, You have to be tactful as a guy. You can’t move too fast and you can’t move too slow.
Right. A lot of the time it’s intuition.
I rarely hear it discussed that women often go for "bad boys" because they come from a history of abuse and have a broken understanding of what respect looks like. Even if you are healed, you cannot totally heal until you have a healthy relationship. The quiet, Godly man who is pursuing me did a few things (or more accurately did not do a few things I expected to see) that made me wonder if he even liked me at first or if he was too passive, until the Lord quietly spoke to my heart and revealed that he was actually treating me with dignity and respect. That is part of why I appreciate these videos so much. No matter how much healing I've done, I have still never walked out the beginning of a healthy romantic relationship before and I am not always sure how to read what is happening or how to respond appropriately.
Hi Tracy, not sure if you'll see this or if you're comfortable replying, but I was wondering if you might be willing to share any specific details on how the man pursuing you was treating you with dignity and respect? I'm currently trying to pursue a female friend and would appreciate a female perspective if you're willing to share.
Dating is just so difficult these days. I want a man who would pursue me, and I’m trying to do better about not being the one to pursue (in the past when I was the one to pursue, it would always end badly). I’ve tried being inviting, like you say, to the men I’m interested in. Being friendly, approachable, talking to/giving attention, compliments (even light physical affection -I’m pretty shy, being even that bold is a stretch for me). Either they’re simply not interested or I’m doing something wrong. 🤦♀️
Don't give compliments. That's too aggressive. Save that for when your engaged. Most men may be flattered but are put off by compliments from the get go.
Just chill, doll! I know it's hard but chase God. Heal, get fit, serve others, share Christ.
It's always on both parties to communicate and create a relationship. Whether the man or woman's role, one cannot be successful without support from the other.
I was trying to explain this very thing on a Facebook page. Men do have insecurities too. Not only is it dreading to pursue a woman who might not reciprocate, but then once in the relationship questions like " Am I strong enough for her? " or " Am I going to make her happy? " Come up to mind also.
Men have insecurities up the wazoo.
Please make the other video
Thanks for this feedback! It helps me a lot!
I know that this is true Mark because my own brother who is a nice guy has always been so terrified and/or calculated when it comes to approaching women. His girlfriend that he is with now actually left her phone number on the dashboard of his car. While I’m not that bold to do something like that, I think us women may need some pointers on how to INVITE a man to pursue us. Like what are some green lights we can give to let a man know it’s ok for him to approach online, offline, at the grocery store, etc without being too bold.. also definitely interested in the dating to relationship process video. Guilty of point # 3 lol great and super helpful video per usual Mark! 💜💜
Women need to tap into their gentleness and tenderness to signal men they are passive and faithful. This way men can exhale and feel confident to pursue them. Great video!
Yes!!
Mark, you are the first person that got this right about the "bad boy" syndrome. You can have the same attraction as the bad boys, if you a godly man and if you are masculine.
Also interested in, letting go of a deceased spouse and moving forward with the Lords blessings!
Honestly any videos you make I watch. Even if it doesn't pretend to me I will forward them to other people that I know might benefit from them. I'm a 40 year old woman who has a 19 year old son and a 13 year old son and I Urgent to watch your videos because this is something stuff it would been nice to know at Their age. Thank you for making these videos I really do appreciate it.
Thank you Elizabeth! It's always amazing to hear how God takes this content and uses it and spreads it through people like you :)
Yes please do a part #2 So many of these things you shared are hitting home! Much to gleen here! God bless you Mark
Thanks for this feedback!
100%, Mark! You hit the nail on the head with your perspective on toxic feminism. You’re also right about the fact that it’s a rabbit hole of a topic that would take literal days worth of video to cover…. Such a toxic and offensive “movement” (if thats what ya wanna call it).
You mentioned men being masculine vs being nice - this is a topic I struggle a lot with, because even though I am masculine, I naturally have a lot of character traits that may seem "too nice". This makes me feel very insecure in the pursuit of love and marriage, knowing women don't seem to like it, and insecurity hurts my chances. I'd really appreciate a video on some biblical guidance on that, because God calls us to love, peace, gentleness etc. Which are all traits that are "nice"
And thanks as always Mark for your videos, and your service to us in your ministry, I have a feeling you're helping way more of us than you know, and in great ways. God bless you man
Amen, I actually have this topic written down to make a future video about being too nice. God bless!
I (woman) give my 50 cents: Be yourself! Nobody can put on a persona consistently to achieve a certain goal. Women notice when something is off and will be skeptical. There is a wide range of different personalities in women, enough to make it likely for you to meet the right one. As an example, I know a very masculine police officer who is interested in design and gardening, traditionally feminine interests. I'm into manly men and he would definitely fit my perception of manliness.
Be who God wants you to be, and someone who is pursuing God as you are will come along from God.
Women don’t matter, God does
Please don't change who God is making you into for anyone because He comes first:)
Hello fellas, showing interest does not equate desperation. If you are interested in a woman you better let her know before someone else does.
Right!!
Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
"For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Tim 1:7
God gives us the courage to do what He has called us to do - courage that is built and reliant in Him. If He desires for a man to ask out a woman, He will give that man the courage to pursue her. The key is the courage will built on God. The insecurities of a man are not a woman's responsibility. It's also important to note that just because a man asks a woman out or displays interest in a woman does not mean she is obligated to reciprocate those feelings if they are not what she truly feels. That would be inauthentic and a lie, which would be harmful to the man. If a man can not handle rejection from a woman, life would be a struggle as rejection is something that is faced many times in life, not just romantically. If it takes a man some time to build up that courage to ask a woman out, that's okay!! But that courage should for himself, built by God, not solely for the purpose of asking out a women. This way when he faces rejection, which he will, we all do, it does not shake his confidence, because his confidence is built in The One who can not be shaken. "For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ." 1 Corinthians 3:11
Men, please build your confidence in the Lord. Don't rely on women to put your insecurities to sleep. We are only human, just as you are. We can not be the ones you depend on to feel like men. We can complement it, but we can not be the foundation it will be built upon. Only The Lord can.
And don't just build your confidence to pursue women. Build it to be a man after God's heart as David. 1 Samuel 13:14 "But now your kingdom will not endure; the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command.” Then He will give you the desires of your heart, because they will align with His. (Psalm 37:4)
Psalm 62:1-2 "Truly my soul finds rest in God; my salvation comes from Him. Truly He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will never be shaken."
Psalm 62:5-8 "Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from Him. Truly He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God; He is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge."
If a man feels insecure about his feelings for a woman because he doesn't want to be seen as "weak", it is possible he is the one who is weak. And this is something important to be aware of this way it can be improved. But it is not the women's responsibility to fix. Why is he valuing how others see him over his own feelings? Why is he valuing how others see him over how GOD sees him? If he is valuing how he is perceived over his own romantic feelings, it's a possibility those romantic feelings are not strong enough and the relationship should not even be pursued in the first place. There is nothing a woman could do or should do to help strengthen a man's feelings for her. That is not her responsibility. She can not and should not force a guy to have interest in her.
If a woman is still talking about her ex or past relationships, yes, perhaps she can stop talking about it in courtesy for the man she is with currently. But the man can also use discernment in this type of situation. If a woman is still talking about her past, this is a sign she has possibly not healed from it and is still processing it and may not actually be ready for a new relationship, no matter what she says. This could be a sign for the guy to then take a step back and create the distance necessary between him and her so she may get the healing she needs. He is not responsible for her healing. But he is responsible for himself and which situations and interactions he decides to put himself in or not.
We are only responsible for ourselves. A woman can not make a guy feel insecure or weak if that man is not already feeling insecure or weak in the first place. If the actions or behavior of a woman have the ability to determine the confidence of a man, that man is giving too much power and control to that woman in the first place. That is power that should belong to no one but The LORD.
A man of God does not depend on a woman to make him feel insecure or not, because he has built his confidence on God. This doesn't mean he will not ever feel insecure. But it does mean he does not rely on a woman to build his confidence or put his insecurities to sleep. A woman is not responsible for a man's insecurities or confidence, just as a man is not responsible for the
insecurities or confidence of a woman. Of course, they can be complemented in a healthy relationship. But to solely rely on the actions and reactions of someone to build your confidence can create a very toxic and codependent dynamic that God never intended for us to have in the first place.
To rely on the actions and behavior of a woman to help a man feel confident is giving that woman control over that man's confidence. Control a woman was never meant to have. Control no person is ever meant to have. It is an extreme responsibility that can eventually become burden which leads to an unhealthy and codependent relationship dynamic. Only God is the one who can give us strength, courage and confidence that lasts, even after rejection, relationships that don't work out and unmet expectations. When we make Him the foundation for our confidence, then we will have His strength and confidence and courage that He has blessed us with so we may do what He has called us to do.
Rather than looking to women or others to make us feel confident, let's look to The One who MADE us and who can surely make us strong in Him in all situations. Rather than relying on others and letting them determine how insecure we feel, let's surrender that power to the Lord, for He is a good father who knows what is best for us.
"This is what the Lord says- your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: 'I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is best for you, who directs you in the way you should go.'" Isaiah 48:17
"For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Tim 1:7
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Phil 4:13
Very well written
Very well said
Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Please talk more about male masculinity
Fantastic video Mark. Absolutely spot on and timely as usual 😎. As a male about to pursue a Godly women this has helped so much!
Edit: So I pursued and received clarity that she just wants to be friends 😂
I would love for you to talk more about how women are more attracted to "bad" guys because they project themselves as more masculine.
And hey Mark, YES PLEASE do a video on "masculine energy" and how good men can show up with that. The "players"/"bad boys" make their videos on that but of course the motive is different, and so the approach ends up being different, even ungodly.
So would love to see you do such a video.
Getting rejected is only unpleasant for the ego I think. Putting yourself in the position to get rejected is good for your character.
Amen amen
Not when the rejection is laced with the threat of sexual harassment.....after finally building up the courage to just simply ask. And yes it was with a church girl who didn't know how to simply and politely say "no"...in a church we both served in and I got confronted privately by 3 members of the church leadership in sucession, throughout the course of a Sunday. That tends to bring trauma to a guy of not bothering to even ask any more, for fear of getting in legal trouble.
@@michaeldavis2039What do you have to fear if you're innocent? The Bible says it's commendable in God's site to suffer unjustly. My op still stands in your situation my friend. Realising and accepting suffering as part of life is the way through it
@@ethanhuntakabobturner4285 Thanks my friend.
Thats CRAZY. Looks like an attack from Satan. Don't let it get you down. Pray first about approaching a girl. It's always best to be friends first before you express interest.
It’s so funny because I’m a female, attractive. Personable, outgoing, I’ve been rejected a bit in my life, but as a woman I have the courage to reach out and make the first move, put myself out there, if a woman can do that… why would the lack of bravery from men have an excuse of insecurities? Everybody, has insecurities… men need to step up, and lead from a love based place. Have courage…also, nice guys are so attractive. Nothing looks worse than a spirit of control, ego, and pride. Nice guys finish first… always!
As a male, I would have to disagree with your statement, with an explanation. In my experience being nice meant being a pushover or a doormat which doesn't command respect. Once I figured that out things got a lot better. I changed from being a nice guy to being a "good guy" who was kind but not a pushover. Who took the lead and was firm when needed with a woman. This was all from God and I've been happily married now for 18 years! Be blessed!
A woman shouldn't make the first move. That's unfeminine. A smile & kind word is sufficient.
MARKKKKKK!!!!!! I’m going through this NOW!!! Omg you are ALWAYS ON TIME!!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
So glad this was timely! God is good!
If you play hard to get, you quickly become hard to want. I’ve had a few women question why I stopped giving them attention after a while and I told them that and only one of them said “oh that makes sense”, some of us ladies you gotta be blunt with. Reciprocate any attention we give in a timely manner, and we will love it. And by timely manner I mean at least within 1-2 hours.
A VERY good and timely message...thank you so much for sharing.
You are so welcome, God bless!
If I could like this video more than once I would, great content Mark! Part 2 please 😅
IMO👇
Bad boy= headache=stress=toxicity =negative energy=sleepless nights = under eye bags= ulcers= falling hair=wrinkles=bad skin= inflammation. HELL NO!!!.
A" badboy "could never be a masculine man to me especially if he thinks flaunting his money impresses me
= = too many brewskis. Bad boys are a collosal pain in the butt.
6:05 it’s not bad boys
but it’s confidence and strength they are are attracted to.
If you’re confidently good and have that inner strength about it and can stand up to those who challenge that then… whoa
agree..its.not bad boys per se but rather for some of us in past, the initial attention given to us, the risk-taking and perception of putting pride and fears side to pursue a woman and try to gain her favor.
I did not know one of all the points. Thank you so much. YAH bless and save everybody who is reading this 🕊️
Your doing an amazing job for Jesus Christ yes I want to hear part 2.keep shining bright for Jesus.
“ Men crave loyalty…”
Such great advice! I definitely learned so much from this one
Glad it was helpful!
Way to lay it out man, I appreciate your work and your videos and I’m not sure you get that enough.
Thank you Mark! I love your videos! It would be great if you make a video about guys who have many women friends, and they are knowing many girls as friends at the same time. Nowadays, christian men are following that, but later women don’t know if the man is interested in pursuing or not. Women then only feel like options but really confused if the man is interested on pursuing or not.
Great points, especially about women being more attracted to the man with his masculinity.
Mark, I would love to hear the part 2 video about insecurities in dating and transitioning to marriage. Have you released it yet? I see we are over 2K likes 😁 Please do share!
yup actually just released it today :) ua-cam.com/video/5YHoqdpYQOo/v-deo.html
The ghosting on purpose as well is a turn off for men as well.
Another reason I think men are afraid to pursue is looking like or being called a creep, even for doing completely normal things. What’s kind of ironic to me is, many women who think like this choose men that actually do creepy things, such as having odd sexual ideas, strange values, often are abusive, etc. Too many women in the USA have ridiculous standards and requirements, including Christian women, yet wonder why men don’t approach. I think that’s one of the reasons why the Mgtow and red pill movements have grown so much lately. It would be nice to see a video about that.
💯 masculine energy, straight men.
Waiting for you Master .
God bless Diana!
Great video bro. Would like to see that part 2 as well 👍
You are right about the masculine energy!
I just figured out a girl wants me to ask her questions but to be honest with you… I am so shy and more of a listener than I am a talker so… I have to switch and come out of my comfort zone. I did not realize this was important but I am pursuing. It just took me a little while to figure out what I needed to do and I had a church member help me. 😅 I also asked women what questions to ask them, it was much easier than asking her hahaha 😆
I would like to offer this point of view, some of us guys are very shy, and sometimes it’s not ideal or within our spiritual giftedness to be social. The inviting part really helps with that and I think women need to consider doing a lot more. They will get to so many places specially with shy guys… 😅 I do not believe women should be pursuing guys but being inviting for sure. This girl at church did just that and it’s enough to catch my attention because I was more focused on serving and trying to become a better version of myself.
The hard part about pursuing, is men need to make decisions on how we’re gonna do that and what’s the most godliest way for us to do so… this was very difficult for me to figure out, and it took two weeks of praying and reading scripture for me to understand that I didn’t know the person enough. I also thought it would be better for me to take my time and get to know them a little bit bit better. I also realized I did not ask questions and I needed to get out of my comfort zone to do that.
Mark, make that longer video you speak of in this one. It's needed.
Yes, please talk more about the bad boy versus nice guy issue. I like nice masculine men.
Yes Mark plz talk more about that masculinity topic
Hey Mark, I am interested in your point of view on nice guys vs bad boys. I appreciate what you do btw
I think if a woman is attracted to a man who mistreats her, she needs counseling and help. A woman can feel attachment to a man who is mistreating her in time, will hopefully in time realize what’s going on and choose better.
Smiles 😁
Please make other video as I have been out of the “Dating Error” 4 a long long long time!!!
Thank You 🙏🏽 Brother Mark
Stay Blessed Always & Peace
🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️‼️‼️‼️
Thanks for this feedback Diana!
You are an awesome teacher Mark! God bless & thank you!
Unfortunately I tend to be very introverted and struggle with interaction in general, especially with girls I find pretty. My brain just stops working and I hate it sooo much. I guess what Charlie Brown said does have some meaning, "pretty faces make me nervous"
Yes Mark. Please make a video on the part that most woman want men who portray a more Masculine nature. Thanks 😊
🙌🙌🙏🙏👌❤️🌈Agree. And please share more
Good point about masculinity 👍👍
2:57 Exactly!
Thanks for telling it like it is, Mark. Appreciate you for putting this info out for people to process.
Only 1:16 into this vid & already really want the follow-up to this vid. Bro. Mark, please complete & post the follow up. I Appreciate it. Thank U.
Thank you for this feedback! It's always helpful to know what others need to see!
We DEFINITELY need that part 2 follow up to this video ABSOLUTELY! Like.....like like this video fam ☺
Thank you! This is helpful to know!
yes I am interested about the masculinity a woman is looking for
Thanks for this feedback!
Father God, thank you for greater understanding I am in need of concerning men! I bind to hell my god-ordained spouse hiding one's insecurities while binding my god-ordained spouse to be able to find healthy solutions to deal with and speak about one's weaknesses, while binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with any man hiding's one's insecuritities while not dealing and speaking about one's weaknesses in a healthy way, in accordance with this word and 2 corinthians 12:9-11, proverbs 28:13, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
Mark do make that video on masculine men vs perceived nice guys considered feminine
It makes man so proud to have a woman to pursuing him, it makes me feel like a king
Kind of true, even if I am not attracted to them. Though I mostly attract foreigners.
Are you kidding? That's unbiblical and your ego is reigning. Find you wife, hon.
your most recent video's on pursuing woman, insecurities and the one on trust god's timing and plan have really hit and spoken to me on a different level to be honest bc i,m currently going through these phases ur speaking about its always helpful and on point. God bless
🎉Your messages are so clear. You're gifted with the right articulateness! You're fulfilling God's purpose in you. You are helping me a lot. I have a 99% different situation from other women, though but it resonates with me a lot.
Looool how did this come literally at the exact same time this happened with the guy pursuing me😅 God is amazing
So glad this was timely! All glory to God!
this topic is the exact topic my mom told me few years ago. but, i never heard from my father, so i happy to heard it from man. Thanks!
I always listen to every short & video you make. I feel I've received a lot of good biblical information weather it pertains to me at the time or not. I trust what you have to say. I have been divorced officially for three years now. I've only gone on one double date to church and lunch. I have no interest in searching for someone to date. It's really hard when your older. Believing for God to show me a man when the timing is right. #attractedtoallthewrongmen
Depending on your past experiences and marriage
Yes it's really hard
For myself, I am striving to be true to myself and foundational beliefs
Have a job and pay bills and be frugal
Attend church regularly
Give time and money to God's service and kingdom
In the Word daily or ( almost )
Prayer in some form daily about many different subjects
Active in men's group
Listening to good videos like this one and on other subjects
Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
Definitely would like to see both a part two and a video on women being attracted to masculinity! Thanks so much 😊
That second point is funny. I like nice, strong, masculine guys. But most of all, i just want the guy to be himself when he approaches and pursues me because that's what im gonna do too.
My ex bf got awkward everytime i talked about experiences i had with past relationships, and i never understood why because im like dont u wanna know about ME.??? makes a little more sense now.
Thanks for this information, Mark. One of my biggest frustrations is that it seems like Christian women think they should just sit there and do nothing and put no effort forward. Essentially, all it is is a license to act sinfully. Christian women: ask yourself, would you treat an older man the way you often treat younger men? If the answer is no, you might want to consider growing more in righteousness and proper Christian character. We are ALL called to act like Christ, not just men.
Point number 3 was just perfect timing 😬. THANK YOU JESUS… GOD bless you brother Mark for those advices.
As a woman new to christianity, I actually miss pursuing men. It just comes easier to me, than waiting around hahaha! But I understand that God's timing is best.
I think it all depends on the situation. Do you know Alex Honnold....the famous climber who climbed up El Capitan with absolutely nothing but his hands/chalk? He's probably the most famous athlete in the world. Do you know how he met his wife? She came up to him at an event....told him I think you're cute....gave him her phone number....and ran off. Alex is kinda shy around women. There are tons of guys that are husband material....but they won't make the first move because they are reserved. Sometimes women have to make the first move.
@@Mint-kj9kw I wonder how men lead a family if they are too scared to make a move ? How do they survive in their work life?Its odd
Men should only pursue women who give him permission to do so, that might be smiling at him, making eye contact. Making space for him to approach and speak with her
This video came on time. I never knew that hanging out with guy friends can make guys who are interested me wonder if I’m liking my guy friends or are dating them. There was so many good points in here, I’m going to have to watch it again and take notes!! Thanks Mark!
Thanks for making this video, I wasn't really aware about how much my interaction with men matters. Yes the man needs to pursue, but the woman also needs to give *constant* feedback to the man in the form of rewards when he is pursuing her in the right way and also feedback when it's not in the right way.
The best way to put it is that my natural tendency is to be avoidant. When I see something that might hurt and offend me I try to avoid, distance and remove it as best as I can. I didn't realise that this was actually negative feedback I was giving to my "pursuer".
Don't get me wrong I didn't like the way he was pursuing me, if anything I actually thought he was stalking me😭🤧, but now I can see that he was genuinely just trying to figure me out 🤣😂😅.
Thanks for the video it's helped me realise that I can still have my standards, but I don't have to be so cut throat about it, such as immediately blocking him if I don't like something. Yh I did that😅, but again I didn't realise he was pursuing me. I genuinely thought he was stalking me 🤣😭😭😭.
The best thing I will say ladies is have an open mind. I thought this guy was stalking me and turns out her was just trying to pursue me and figure me out. Have an open mind because men will pursue you the way they think best and not the way you envision it to be. Try to meet them in the middle if you can and see their efforts. What I am saying is definitely not easy, but pray on it. God is the reason I gave the pursuer another chance.
I wish men felt confident enough to use their words, although I realize how hard that is because I don't even do it
PLEASE make a long n detailed vid about the rant you went on for topic #2. It's important n is one of the root causes for the dating game being messed up a skewed
I appreciate this feedback
Excellent work as always.
In regards to point 2, I think we women are turned-off by men who ask us out immediately after meeting or seeing us, which makes us think they only want us for our looks. This is why some of us women prefer men who take the time to get to know us some, who befriend us over some time, so by the time such men ask us out, we know it's because they like us for who we are as persons, and aren't as likely to view us as some idol we're not, and then become disappointed with us when we act like ourselves (and not some impossible "perfect woman" in their heads, or a younger version of their mothers...).
I would agree with you 100%! This is what i seek also.
So true
Exactly 💯
What you just wrote is the reason nice guys finish last. They act on this premise yet 99 percent of the time in real life it gets them nowhere because the woman went with the other guy who took them on a date
Haha Mark I agree with you, as for the women I see a lot of stubbornness here in the comments. Even though the message was for them, they continue to justify their actions and desires instead of thanking you for your wisdom. And so be it, lol. As a man I thank you for being sympathetic without bias as a man.
Rejection either way is problematic. Being taken for granted is often an issue, either way. Timing?
INTERESTED IN THE NEXT VIDEO!!!
This was SUCH a great video!!! Thank you for this!!
He should know that God should be his and hers number one choice.
Wow! You have no idea how timely this message was for me, Mark! Thank you so much and I would love for you to do a part 2 or talk about masculine vs. feminine energy in a man.