I will say this: women don't want a Yes-man. We want and need men who have a good sense of leadership... men who aren't afraid to lead and wear the pants in the relationship/marriage while still respecting the woman.
Thankyou my blk sister. Lol I'm not submitting to a man who cant do these things. Lol sorry it just doesnt work. Love to follow the man. Teach me something. Lol but this day n age is out of wak. Lol like if I'm the boss at work let me be a woman at home that enjoys doing these things life is already hard enough lol
@@CMcgires Yeah. Like give us a break. We spent too much time running things so much outside the home, that when we come home we don't wanna call any of the shots (except make home feel like home). I agree. I'm not submitting and won't feel safe with a guy who doesn't even feel safe within himself. And it's not my job to show a man how to be masculine or wear the pants. He needs to figure it out himself.
As a woman, a man's past track record does matter to me, but if he is repentant for real and transformed by God for real, then a relationship would be totally possible
Yes I agree too. Past matters to me too. Atleast it gives me an idea if he is a serial dater, womanizer or cheater or something. I would be nervous of dating someone who had too many people in his past.
Smart, godly women absolutely look at a man's past. That will be her future. Equally yoked means similar backgrounds and similar sexual status too. so, a virgin marrying a virgin, etc, etc. a man who's had only one or two partners with a woman the same, etc. Sorry men !!! Men often think they can get away with more. Equally yoked means equally yoked. Especially with sexual history.
Absolutely. The man I adore is amazing in ministry and I’m often in awe of him. But he has a crazy body count and everytime he shows interest, I find his past messes with me. I didn’t even think I cared like that and I feel bad coz he’s repented and moved past it. Guess I’m not the one 😂
The thing is my sexual past is not great so whoever I date and one day marry will need to understand that I have had past verbal and emotional abuse from men(my dad/my mom at times and ex bfs) , past sexual sin, past trauma/grief, past mental health issues and I’ve worked very hard to over come them through therapy, support groups and repentance and getting to know God. I am a different person through Christ, of course I have my bad days but I’m not who I used to be, I’m a very strong christian, kind of like a Paul, David and Job story. Hopefully the right guy will see the pain and suffering I’ve endured in my past and love and respect me despite that. Well one can hope:(
HE WILL ABSOLUTELY RESPECT AND LOVE YOU no matter what has happened to you or what you decided to do in your life before you knew Christ. God bless you. The Lord loves you and the right man’s love for you will involve forgiveness and be a mere glimpse of the Lords love and forgiveness for you.
@@madisonmclendon7191 thank you, I will admit these things happened when I knew Christ too or was grieving the suicide of my sister and other bad traumas:(, not anymore though, these are all things in my past, me being a victim of crimes though was not my fault or choice:(
I pray God will bless You with the right Christian husband for You 💖 Don't doubt it, have faith, God has a plan! And He's got You and Your future husband in mind, like two puzzle pieces that fit together in Gods big picture 💖
@Emily counts sheep Exactly. An there’s definitely pros an cons to being single, but I will admit I’m pretty happy comfortable with myself but geesh the more I evaluate how ppl move these days the more I think to myself maybe I’ll just stay to myself a lil longer to avoid the stress of potentially being unequally yoked.
One thing God has taught me is how not to get hurt by a man who doesn’t choose me. I learned they are saving me from a bad marriage or. Mediocre life. So I need to thank them for telling me bc I personally only only want Gods man for me. I have men who love me but it has to be the one from God. Never want a man who isn’t faithful when I am.
I've never heard this topic explained so well. Thanks for breaking down the Word of God and bridging the relational gap of understanding between men and women. These videos are a tremendous help to those of us that want to do things God's way.
I literally came to my husband when I came running home and realized he is without a doubt my future husband and started confessing everything as if I had to bc I needed him to accept me with everything even my past bc I was so guilt ridden and the moment I realized he was fine accepted me I felt so much better.
I'm a woman and I wouldn't want to date a man who had been around the block. I'm extremely concerned about a man's past because it can be indicative of character. Future is important too though. Our callings must align because since I would be his helpmate, I don't want me helping him to completely pull me away from my calling (I'm a missionary so I would never marry a man who didn't have a desire to serve in that way at all.)
@@ambertorres4444 I agree. Smart, godly women absolutely look at a man's past. That will be her future. Equally yoked means similar backgrounds and similar sexual status too. so, a virgin marrying a virgin, etc, etc. a man who's had only one or two partners with a woman the same, etc. Sorry men !!! Men often think they can get away with more. Equally yoked means equally yoked. Especially with sexual history.
Powerful message. Women, we must understand that what most of us are looking for in regards to the man’s traits will not be that same as what most men are looking for.
“Don’t date worldly guys. They’re very confused”. Brother Mark, 🤣🤣🤣 I know you weren’t intending to be funny, but that was hilarious! Oh my goodness 😅😅😅 That was just awesome. Love it. On a serious note… great video. 100%! Always a huge blessing brother. May God continue to bless you. 😇🙏✝️⚓️🕊🤍
Women were called to the position of helpers, while men to the position of providers (leadership). The truth is that most christian women especially those who had understood the spiritual demands of God for their lives and marriage, are willing to fully submit to their husbands. The problem lies on the fact that most christian man out there haven't understood their spiritual calling in marriage. And they input a heavy burden on their wives, constantly reminding them their need for submission. That becomes spiritual oppression. It's wonderful to have a wife that fits into all these traits and carries such qualities, however men should not diminish their roll while ignoring that they have another human being closer to them who has feelings, wants, needs and desires. The goal here is to figure out together how to cope to each person's demand and work together as ONE! Commitment requires effort from both sides for none is less nor better than the other. But knowing that God is there to help you, mold you and mature you in this walk together, is the greatest satisfaction of all. May God bless you all in Jesus name!
@@Annlaulau I am glad. I think it's very hard to impossible for people, especially divorced to find a Christ like marriage and spouse, but still possible..
Real woman of the Lord, are not offended by this message. I am a Marine Corps veteran, military police, but I have no problem submitting to my husband as he submits to the Lord. I wasnt raised to think this, but learned this as I grew in the Lord attending women's conferences and hearing teaching. I love being fem, girly, looking to my strong man to protect and represent us. It was not easy to unteach that "I am woman-hear me roar" paradigm, but I love him opening the door, ordering for me, and making the final decison of key things. I feel safe and protected in that arrangement and empowered fully. I love a strong godly man who knows his role and allows me to operate in my role and gift.
So what happens when your estrogen wanes and he’s looking at internet porn, dreaming of a younger more feminine woman that is not you? Not a feminist, and not saying you are wrong. I’d just like to know what a woman should feel think do about all of this when he’s just being a man to you over something temporary. What then of a man’s attraction? You said a ‘real woman ofthe Lord’’ would not be offended. It’s not so much that I am offended. It’s more of a supreme ket down. I already know men’s attractions are fickle and worthless because his love is always based on the flesh. But then again the Bible does say ‘’you will long for your husband, and he will rule you.’’
Amen brother! I wish I would have had this advice before I married. We both loved God and ended up in the Ministry and then divorced after 28 years of marriage. I love your advice....it is all based on God's Word and super nuggets of wisdom. KEEP ON KEEPING ON! God Bless You!
You’ve explained thus very well, a perspective that doesn’t dismiss women’s as autonomous beings, and critiques both male and female under the word of God. Wow!!
I really am guilty of all the do nots. Makes a lot of sense why my ex just decided he wanted to cut ties from me and I honestly didn’t know why? So I’ve got to let this pieces of information sink deep in.
@Anna Clare don’t do that sisters. How come you sisters never hold each other accountable??! You tried to shove it off to her ex. While she admitted she the one with issues. Sisters, hold each other accountable in order to grow. Just Godly brother supposed to do among each other.
Great content, Mark. This is a complex topic in that there are a lot of variances with the 5 things. God made us so unique! What I hope single women realize is that if they are all these things, but aren't married yet, that is to do with God's plan. And He helps us filter the rejections. Blessings!
I like how the attributes of women described in this video are NOT physical ones. They all have to do with one’s character. The world bombards women and men with physical stereotypes that are supposed to be attractive/desirable at every turn. It can be debilitating, especially if you are dealing with a physical problem. For example, I suffered for years with scalp challenges that caused hair loss. This started happening when I was excited about putting myself out there in Christian circles to meet people-Christian men to be exact. The Enemy capitalized on my pain and used it-and still uses it-to keep me withdrawn from socializing. I really had to be intentional about prayer and Bible study to understand what God’s description is of a Christian woman. I also wanted to know the truth about Christian men. I discovered that for Christians-those who genuinely pursue the heart of God-are not “stuck” on outer appearances, but biblical characteristics. I mean at the end of the day, I can have hair like Repunzel😂, but if I am not biblically agreeable, feminine, affectionate, and selective, Christian men are not going to be interested. Ruth had a godly character and Boaz noticed that before any physical attributes.💯🔥💯🔥💪🏽
Thanks for sharing Mark. You are very gifted. Thank God for giving you this gift. In a world where the opposite of these things you mentioned are promoted, you keep reminding us of biblical principles that are needed in times like these. God bless you.
Thank you for this beautiful message and reminder! God is a God of order. Submission is letting a man take the lead in matters. I was married for almost 31 years before God called my husband home. Submission was never a dirty word in our house. I never felt lower than my husband because I always knew if he made the wrong choice, God would hold him accountable for it. The secret is just to love one another like Christ loves us. If I ever found another godly man to submit to, I would truly be blessed.
Agreement doesn't mean there won't be differences in views or opinions. It means they both will receive from each other what is good for their relationship because they walk in agreement with each other.
Mark, I agree with your points, and you did a great job explaining. Ephesians 5:21 says to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”. I am not offended by the word submit, because it is a beautiful thing to have a man worthy of that type of respect! However, I am so over men using 5:22 to prove their point, yet conveniently “overlook” the verse right before it. Why is this? We have been beat over the head with this verse, when the Bible teaches the principle of being submissive to each other. Please respond. Thank you, kindly.
we must not interpret the Bible through one verse rather one verse through the whole of the bible. When you have questions, it's always helpful to look at other Scriptures to help you understand the full context. My understanding is that verse 21 relates to Christians in general (which is why it is often edited into a different section in the ESV) and then verses 22 is about marriage. Throughout the Bible we are told to submit to one another (Like in Philippians 2) but we are also told to submit to our leaders (like in Hebrews 13). So does this mean we leaders should submit to those they follow? My point is, I think there is different context for each of these statements in Ephesians 5:21-22 because it would be contradictory to say husband submit to wives and wives to husbands in 21 but then specifically highlight a husband's leadership and a wife's submission in the next section (Ephesians:5:22-33). The bible emphasizes a wife's submission and husband's sacrifice for the wife rather than co-leadership and co-submission. But as Christians in general, we should all be "submitting" to one another, but that is different than the specific marriage roles
Oh my goodness it's CRAZY how many clarifications are necessary to say what you're saying. I'm 100% grateful because it can be confusing with how many messages there are out there and how different the message is that our culture promotes. In this video it was navigated well but wow! I pray that each woman who watches this really believes she's beautiful and worthy and that there are good men out there and that God is good and has a plan. I pray any misconceptions about feminity and beauty be penetrated by the Holy Spirit of truth. ❤️🔥🕊️ YES men love those things and I feel very strong as a woman even/ESPECIALLY being those things. I'm proving I'm selective at the moment lol 🤭☺️ Blessings!!
Dating has been so disappointing. I’ve been on dates with many men whom the world would consider a perfect catch. Good school, doctor or lawyer, but they never planned dates. It was always “why don’t we meet up and walk around and then get dinner”. That was fine w me. During dinner conversation was great but they texted me for next dates and there’d be no solid plan. I went with the flow. Then during a 10 hr second date I thought I met the one. But all they wanted to do was end with sex and when I refused the momentum slowed down drastically. One of them during dinner asked me about my sexual past and when I revealed it was little he was shocked and thought it was weird I never had sex in high school or college. Weird how a guy would ask or want a woman to have a large sexual past. Especially since we are both 36! Red flags but it was frustrating. Sorry for my rant.
Why waste your time with unbelievers? Ungodly men? Missionary dating doesn't work. I'd stop dating random men and ask the Lord to match you with your Godly spouse.
Your not ranting. A 10 hour date is a bit of overkill. I'd only do that if I was engaged. Also all this texting is inappropriate. People need to talk. Men should ask for a date not text it. That's lazy. I encourage you to only date strong believers. The Bible says we don't marry unbelievers. I also encourage you not to talk about sex on a date. Only with a fiance. I encourage you NOT to date casually. Be friends with a Christian first and only go out if he's serious and intent on finding his wife. He must have a plan.
This was more like an episode of "Coffee With Uncle Mark". I like the different background shots and props! 😄 ☕📝🤝🏼 Good video, Mark. I hope God will bring willing women along to hear and receive these messages because they must grow in understanding of men if they wish to marry them, retain their feminity, not be his competition and raise sons and daughters who will be a testimony to godliness. Take care!
How agreeable should you really be in a dating relationship? Also on the topic of being affectionate I didn't understand why my ex said he didn't feel he was for me because he didn't feel he could make me happy and that just sounded like an excuse to me until now. So this brought some clarity and begun allowing me to process things better. Thank you!
Of all the things I’ve had great faith for, believing for a husband has been my biggest struggle. I’ve received words about it too 😂 but I still keep running back to my ex. Lord help me 🙏
You have a soul tie, hon. Going back to him when God says no is disobedience. I think if I went back to ex, I'd be dead. Any man not in Christ is DANGEROUS. Dismantle the demonic bond. It can destroy you. For REAL.
Men focus a little too much on outer beauty. That is sad because beauty fades with time. Today’s men are very confused. They want a pure woman but are far from pure themselves. I do not hold out a lot of hope for finding a great guy at this stage of life, my 50s, because often men my age want a 25-year-old, even if women that young have no interest in dating daddy!
yes, worldly men do that. On the flipside, worldly women focus too much on a man's money. But as Christians we should all be living to a different standard :) God bless!
Lisa, I’m in my 50’s and the idea of dating a gal in her 20’s makes me sick. But at the same time I’d like to date a pretty lady. I think there are pretty women who are in their 50’s. From what little I can see if you in your profile pic, you look nice. 😁
Lisa, God still has choice, obedient sons in your age range who are single and are looking for someone in their age range to marry. God always has remnants. And when we learn to believe this and let it form our mindsets, we will not be moved by what disobedient children of God around us do because we know God has His best for us whether it seems we can see him around or not.
WOW. I’ve watched your videos for a while and this may be one of my favorites. I am so sick of our culture not speaking the TRUTH on these issues. Ladies, this is the truth. Thank you Mark for speaking truth when so many Christians are not!
@Anna Clare “this Christian Culture” addresses both plenty. Check out more videos from Mark’s channel. He addresses what men desire in partners and what women desire from partners. If you only address one side of the issue, the one side will never fully understand what the other is looking for. Our culture loves to beat up men but then shout them down whenever they voice their desires in a romantic partner. Our culture also loves to try and alter what men want in women and what women want in men. Mark’s videos help provide clarity. In reality, the Bible outlines what men and women SHOULD be looking for in a partner. Those who follow cultural guidance in this manner are bound for disappointment
I agree 10000000% I just want a woman who always considers Christ in her decisions especially when it comes to "exploring your sexuality" by grace I can say I am courting the King's daughter my Love and we plan to get married very soon
Great message, Pastor Mark! The beautiful Gospel of Christ does not offend me in any way. You are 100% correct. Women are looking for a GODLY man, different from a passive man.
Thank you for explaining this! Yes, the Song of Solomon is a perfect book to use as an example. Yes, Preach! Respect, honor, value, love, loyalty, purity, affection, yes, happiness. I'm looking for my Ruth! Proverbs 31 wife/help mate. Thanks, Bruh! Also, a Proverbs 17:17a wife!
Thank you for this video. You touched on a lot of things that have previously been a blockage towards my understanding and acceptance of a biblical God, specifically, in the many ways worldly men both want sexually pure women yet dont figuratively allow for selectivity in the scope of those same women, often using the bible as their vehicle of denigration. I just need a reminder that while guarding our hearts, purity, is important, that the unfortunate delivery of these messages through these certain groups shouldnt keep me from the important points the Bible really has to offer and not turn it away because someone has previously used that message in a selfish manner. I do wonder about men not looking for an accomplished women though. I imagine at the end of the day, a man would want someone who could hold mentally stimulating conversations and keep up with them when they talk about their passions. Seems an education would almost be a prerequisite to that type of fulfilling connection. I am not a man so I can't say. I just know I feel a lot of pressure in that arena to go back to Uni, not just for myself which is the main component, but so I can match with someone I could be a good team mate to. Maybe a mentally stimulating partner is what I want, and so I'm projecting here little. I do realize a woman can be both accomplished and loving and I hope to be both.
I would say personally as a woman I had to 'place on the altar' to God 👉🏼my👈🏼 preferences in a man, AND TIMING when God will have me have a God lead husband in my life. I am still single, and I also had to accept it is not my season yet, or maybe it's not my future husband's season yet and God is still working behind the scenes where only HE SEES. I hope this helps someone out there. I am single and if you can submit your timing of when you think it should happen and also let go of your "type", God knows us best and He is working where we don't see. Trust Him 🙏🏼🌱
Hi Mark! Love the content. Good stuff. ❤ The one thing I kind of disagree with is that I most certainly do not seek a man who has been promiscuous as well. It feels gross thinking about the disease in a man who has been with every women. Not a person I personally would want to subject my temple of the Holy Spirit with. I get a little experience, but these days most worldly men have ‘hooked up’ too much!
somwwhat agree. I know God could help me to accept it, but I also don't want a man who has been with a lot of women in the past. I also would like someone who hasn't been emotionally attached to too many women in past also. appreciate Mark's statement about purity culture bc i don't want to be judgemental and want to see them as Jesus sees them as well.
Yes, I would want a man that uses his brain in the number of his sexual relationships. This shows maturity and the ability for him to wait rather than seek immediate gratification. I lose respect for a man that sleeps with any available woman. I think this shows a lack of self respect. Not to mention HPVs.
Such a greatly needed video, thank You so much! Such a whole lot of more and more masculinely behaving Christian women wonder why... God bless You for making this video!
Yes finally someone who explains it thoroughly!!!😭😭great video"Don't date worldly guys, their very confused" love it💀🙏🏼but yes gospel-based people always and repent. And being selective as a woman🥰❤️and praying for my future husband 💞💞🌍
it's really hard to find a man right now who has leadership qualities....many men nowadays are afraid to take responsibilities. that is why i believe in the power of prayer to find a man who can be a leader to our family and also love and respects a woman. and same as woman now adays are advocate of women empowerment....don't get me wrong about it but women empowerment should also have boundaries and limit that some women don't understand it . let us allow men to be men and us women to be a women. that is how God lately teaches me . i am hoping that the Lord will help me find a husband in God's will and His own time.
Thank you for always seeking to bless others with your gift of expounding on the wisdom of God and His Word, Mark. I have been thoroughly edified by your videos. God bless!
Thank You, You've made my day Awesome. I"ve been keeping myself save for 19years after a really bad divorce years ago. Thank You, my waiting for My Devine Husband chosen by God Himself will be Worth it. Thank You so much for this ♥️
It's not that complex. Men deviating from courtship & honoring women is spiritual warfare. Read Ephesians 6:12. The devil is attacking men ( the head) & influencing them to toss their birthright and blessings. He's using porn, fear and misogyny.
Yeah man my wife is all of these: agreeable, feminine, selective, and affectionate. It's so refreshing to be married to her!
Wonderful to hear that!
Amen 🙏
Aman brother
amen!
Praise the Lord.
“Don’t date worldly guys, they are very confused” 🤣🤣
God bless!
This made me laugh too! Because it’s so true! 😂😂
@Anna Clare Serious Christians won't date heathen so don't worry about that.
@Anna Clare extremely legalistic religious? Yes, definitely. A man who respects God enough to not mess with a woman is very different from that.
Yeah, they want a pure woman yet won't date someone that don't sleep with them lol and they angry they end of with a toxic female
I will say this: women don't want a Yes-man. We want and need men who have a good sense of leadership... men who aren't afraid to lead and wear the pants in the relationship/marriage while still respecting the woman.
Amen!
Thankyou my blk sister. Lol I'm not submitting to a man who cant do these things. Lol sorry it just doesnt work. Love to follow the man. Teach me something. Lol but this day n age is out of wak. Lol like if I'm the boss at work let me be a woman at home that enjoys doing these things life is already hard enough lol
@@CMcgires Yeah. Like give us a break. We spent too much time running things so much outside the home, that when we come home we don't wanna call any of the shots (except make home feel like home).
I agree. I'm not submitting and won't feel safe with a guy who doesn't even feel safe within himself. And it's not my job to show a man how to be masculine or wear the pants. He needs to figure it out himself.
100% men nowadays seem to be the two extremes over aggressive disrespect women to the want to be over polite non proactive weak
Sis this vid is about what qualities us brothers want in a woman. Why did you switch it and made it about men???🤔
I want a man with a Godly plan ✝️
Amen!
Amen 🙏
Amen
You got a point, me too
😂😂 I like that
If the man is loving a woman, truly love her as the Bible says. I think a woman would have no problem with respect or submit to her husband.
I agree, many men use a worldly view of leadership and love but expect a woman to have biblical submission. Both need to obey the Scriptures :)
Yes, I strive to love my wife as Christ loved the church.
I agree
That’s a big IF.
So true
As a woman, a man's past track record does matter to me, but if he is repentant for real and transformed by God for real, then a relationship would be totally possible
Yes I agree too. Past matters to me too. Atleast it gives me an idea if he is a serial dater, womanizer or cheater or something. I would be nervous of dating someone who had too many people in his past.
Bobbi Jo,we all have a past,and our all sinners
Smart, godly women absolutely look at a man's past. That will be her future. Equally yoked means similar backgrounds and similar sexual status too. so, a virgin marrying a virgin, etc, etc. a man who's had only one or two partners with a woman the same, etc. Sorry men !!! Men often think they can get away with more. Equally yoked means equally yoked. Especially with sexual history.
Absolutely. The man I adore is amazing in ministry and I’m often in awe of him. But he has a crazy body count and everytime he shows interest, I find his past messes with me. I didn’t even think I cared like that and I feel bad coz he’s repented and moved past it. Guess I’m not the one 😂
So what if he’s lying to you about his track record🧐is he really going to say he’s been with 299 people?
The thing is my sexual past is not great so whoever I date and one day marry will need to understand that I have had past verbal and emotional abuse from men(my dad/my mom at times and ex bfs) , past sexual sin, past trauma/grief, past mental health issues and I’ve worked very hard to over come them through therapy, support groups and repentance and getting to know God. I am a different person through Christ, of course I have my bad days but I’m not who I used to be, I’m a very strong christian, kind of like a Paul, David and Job story. Hopefully the right guy will see the pain and suffering I’ve endured in my past and love and respect me despite that. Well one can hope:(
HE WILL ABSOLUTELY RESPECT AND LOVE YOU no matter what has happened to you or what you decided to do in your life before you knew Christ. God bless you. The Lord loves you and the right man’s love for you will involve forgiveness and be a mere glimpse of the Lords love and forgiveness for you.
@@madisonmclendon7191 thank you, I will admit these things happened when I knew Christ too or was grieving the suicide of my sister and other bad traumas:(, not anymore though, these are all things in my past, me being a victim of crimes though was not my fault or choice:(
This might help you my fellow believer and sister in Christ ua-cam.com/video/APYr9xTXQhc/v-deo.html
She is a pastor's daughter who was raped by 7 men.
I pray God will bless You with the right Christian husband for You 💖 Don't doubt it, have faith, God has a plan! And He's got You and Your future husband in mind, like two puzzle pieces that fit together in Gods big picture 💖
@@lilyflower5576 AMEN AMEN 🙏
Dating in this day an age absolutely sux. Especially when you have standards and boundaries 🙄😒
Nothing worth having in this life comes easy :)
Lol…yep.
It will come! Just be patient and positive. 💙
Just think of it this way.. you can filter easier🙂
@Emily counts sheep Exactly. An there’s definitely pros an cons to being single, but I will admit I’m pretty happy comfortable with myself but geesh the more I evaluate how ppl move these days the more I think to myself maybe I’ll just stay to myself a lil longer to avoid the stress of potentially being unequally yoked.
One thing God has taught me is how not to get hurt by a man who doesn’t choose me. I learned they are saving me from a bad marriage or. Mediocre life. So I need to thank them for telling me bc I personally only only want Gods man for me. I have men who love me but it has to be the one from God. Never want a man who isn’t faithful when I am.
Never lose that mindset because its the perfect one to have. God bless you, sister, your husband is coming soon🙏❤
Yess, keep that mindset! The Lord knows what's best for us
I love this! I was so hurt when 2 relationships didn't work. Very but God said these boyfriends would have not been Godly husbands. I'm over it.
@jyo02023 so right
“Look at the degrees on that woman” 😂 the way you said this statement made me laugh
that cracked me up too! 😂😂😂. oh my! look how far up that ladder she climbed!
I've never heard this topic explained so well. Thanks for breaking down the Word of God and bridging the relational gap of understanding between men and women. These videos are a tremendous help to those of us that want to do things God's way.
Yes, well said..❤️
"Men are more concerned w a women's past, and women are more concerned about a man's future."
Wow so true. I'm a woman, and that is very true for me.
lol true pockets vs beauty
I literally came to my husband when I came running home and realized he is without a doubt my future husband and started confessing everything as if I had to bc I needed him to accept me with everything even my past bc I was so guilt ridden and the moment I realized he was fine accepted me I felt so much better.
I'm a woman and I wouldn't want to date a man who had been around the block. I'm extremely concerned about a man's past because it can be indicative of character. Future is important too though. Our callings must align because since I would be his helpmate, I don't want me helping him to completely pull me away from my calling (I'm a missionary so I would never marry a man who didn't have a desire to serve in that way at all.)
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@@ambertorres4444 I agree. Smart, godly women absolutely look at a man's past. That will be her future. Equally yoked means similar backgrounds and similar sexual status too. so, a virgin marrying a virgin, etc, etc. a man who's had only one or two partners with a woman the same, etc. Sorry men !!! Men often think they can get away with more. Equally yoked means equally yoked. Especially with sexual history.
Powerful message. Women, we must understand that what most of us are looking for in regards to the man’s traits will not be that same as what most men are looking for.
Amen, both want love and respect but those will be expressed much differently!
Exactly
“Don’t date worldly guys. They’re very confused”. Brother Mark, 🤣🤣🤣 I know you weren’t intending to be funny, but that was hilarious! Oh my goodness 😅😅😅 That was just awesome. Love it.
On a serious note… great video. 100%! Always a huge blessing brother. May God continue to bless you. 😇🙏✝️⚓️🕊🤍
lol, I actually was attempting a bit of humor with the zoom in cut, I'm glad someone got it :) Glad you enjoyed the video!
@Talyah, I agree! 👍
So the videos are not for u these is all about voiding those people in live
Women were called to the position of helpers, while men to the position of providers (leadership). The truth is that most christian women especially those who had understood the spiritual demands of God for their lives and marriage, are willing to fully submit to their husbands. The problem lies on the fact that most christian man out there haven't understood their spiritual calling in marriage. And they input a heavy burden on their wives, constantly reminding them their need for submission. That becomes spiritual oppression. It's wonderful to have a wife that fits into all these traits and carries such qualities, however men should not diminish their roll while ignoring that they have another human being closer to them who has feelings, wants, needs and desires. The goal here is to figure out together how to cope to each person's demand and work together as ONE! Commitment requires effort from both sides for none is less nor better than the other. But knowing that God is there to help you, mold you and mature you in this walk together, is the greatest satisfaction of all.
May God bless you all in Jesus name!
A helper is a leader also. We lead by example through Christ.
You said this so biblically and beautifully! 😢
Amen thank you for this well balanced input ✍🏾🙏🏾
@@andreeaburian1408i 100% agree with you
@@Annlaulau I am glad.
I think it's very hard to impossible for people, especially divorced to find a Christ like marriage and spouse, but still possible..
Your perspective is so refreshing
I so thank GOD for you I know my husband is on his way and the LORD is using you and others to help me prepare.
I had to keep pausing and clap!! Thank you so much Mark for this.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Me too. Mark is rocking my world!
Real woman of the Lord, are not offended by this message. I am a Marine Corps veteran, military police, but I have no problem submitting to my husband as he submits to the Lord. I wasnt raised to think this, but learned this as I grew in the Lord attending women's conferences and hearing teaching. I love being fem, girly, looking to my strong man to protect and represent us. It was not easy to unteach that "I am woman-hear me roar" paradigm, but I love him opening the door, ordering for me, and making the final decison of key things. I feel safe and protected in that arrangement and empowered fully. I love a strong godly man who knows his role and allows me to operate in my role and gift.
So what happens when your estrogen wanes and he’s looking at internet porn, dreaming of a younger more feminine woman that is not you?
Not a feminist, and not saying you are wrong. I’d just like to know what a woman should feel think do about all of this when he’s just being a man to you over something temporary. What then of a man’s attraction?
You said a ‘real woman ofthe Lord’’ would not be offended. It’s not so much that I am offended. It’s more of a supreme ket down. I already know men’s attractions are fickle and worthless because his love is always based on the flesh. But then again the Bible does say ‘’you will long for your husband, and he will rule you.’’
Amen brother! I wish I would have had this advice before I married. We both loved God and ended up in the Ministry and then divorced after 28 years of marriage. I love your advice....it is all based on God's Word and super nuggets of wisdom. KEEP ON KEEPING ON! God Bless You!
You’ve explained thus very well, a perspective that doesn’t dismiss women’s as autonomous beings, and critiques both male and female under the word of God. Wow!!
I like how all of your videos that I've listened to is very clear, you are a great speaker
I really am guilty of all the do nots. Makes a lot of sense why my ex just decided he wanted to cut ties from me and I honestly didn’t know why? So I’ve got to let this pieces of information sink deep in.
God bless as you seek to follow the Lord, by grace alone
@Anna Clare thanks for your words of encouragement sis
@Anna Clare don’t do that sisters. How come you sisters never hold each other accountable??! You tried to shove it off to her ex. While she admitted she the one with issues. Sisters, hold each other accountable in order to grow. Just Godly brother supposed to do among each other.
A renewal of the mind takes time. God will show you & change how you interact with future spouse.
Stop generalizing about sisters. Accountability is imperative. I aspire to it every day!
Wow explained so well! We submit.
Not leading the relationship and acting like we’re the man. I see it all the time.
So glad it was helpful!
This is invaluable Info (should be in all churches)--Xtremely important in these times! Thanks so much Mark, God bless.
Great teaching. I haven't heard all of this or explained this way before.
Prayerful & Hopeful for a godly man, who follows after godliness.
Best christian dating/marriage video on the internet!
I have been praying for this man for 3 years now. It is so hard when Men seem to want the Woman to pursue them.
I'd try and forget him. If he's not pursuing YOU in courtship, he's probably not your man.
Keep praying!!! If they expect you to pursue, then easy to know to move on. Most men out there won’t be a fit. It just takes that one.
Great content, Mark. This is a complex topic in that there are a lot of variances with the 5 things. God made us so unique! What I hope single women realize is that if they are all these things, but aren't married yet, that is to do with God's plan. And He helps us filter the rejections. Blessings!
I agree with this message wholeheartedly. ❤️🔥
I'm so glad to hear that!
Mark, you have definitely started the year on a roll 👏👏👏👍👍
Thanks! So glad you are enjoying the content!
Rite!
I like how the attributes of women described in this video are NOT physical ones. They all have to do with one’s character. The world bombards women and men with physical stereotypes that are supposed to be attractive/desirable at every turn. It can be debilitating, especially if you are dealing with a physical problem. For example, I suffered for years with scalp challenges that caused hair loss. This started happening when I was excited about putting myself out there in Christian circles to meet people-Christian men to be exact. The Enemy capitalized on my pain and used it-and still uses it-to keep me withdrawn from socializing. I really had to be intentional about prayer and Bible study to understand what God’s description is of a Christian woman. I also wanted to know the truth about Christian men. I discovered that for Christians-those who genuinely pursue the heart of God-are not “stuck” on outer appearances, but biblical characteristics. I mean at the end of the day, I can have hair like Repunzel😂, but if I am not biblically agreeable, feminine, affectionate, and selective, Christian men are not going to be interested. Ruth had a godly character and Boaz noticed that before any physical attributes.💯🔥💯🔥💪🏽
Wise and comforting words. Thank you for sharing this.
I pray God corrects the scalp issue and your hair grows!.
Wow!You have scriptures to validate your teaching. I love this!
Thank you so much. This gives me lots of hope and I am honoring God with my body and I'm so grateful for that. As it is the temple of the holy spirit
Thanks for sharing Mark. You are very gifted. Thank God for giving you this gift. In a world where the opposite of these things you mentioned are promoted, you keep reminding us of biblical principles that are needed in times like these. God bless you.
So glad this was helpful, all glory to God!
I loved your video Sir Mark. That is so true. A man loves a woman that is agreeable, cooperative, and friendly.
Thank you for this beautiful message and reminder!
God is a God of order. Submission is letting a man take the lead in matters. I was married for almost 31 years before God called my husband home. Submission was never a dirty word in our house. I never felt lower than my husband because I always knew if he made the wrong choice, God would hold him accountable for it. The secret is just to love one another like Christ loves us.
If I ever found another godly man to submit to, I would truly be blessed.
Agreement doesn't mean there won't be differences in views or opinions. It means they both will receive from each other what is good for their relationship because they walk in agreement with each other.
Really nice biblically based dating advice 💖 Thank You
So glad it was useful!
Just what I needed to hear and receive. Perfect timing from the Holy Spirit. Hallelujah
Thank you for telling us what we women needed to hear, Mark. It must take a lot of boldness for doing this.
Mark, I agree with your points, and you did a great job explaining. Ephesians 5:21 says to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”. I am not offended by the word submit, because it is a beautiful thing to have a man worthy of that type of respect! However, I am so over men using 5:22 to prove their point, yet conveniently “overlook” the verse right before it. Why is this? We have been beat over the head with this verse, when the Bible teaches the principle of being submissive to each other. Please respond. Thank you, kindly.
we must not interpret the Bible through one verse rather one verse through the whole of the bible. When you have questions, it's always helpful to look at other Scriptures to help you understand the full context. My understanding is that verse 21 relates to Christians in general (which is why it is often edited into a different section in the ESV) and then verses 22 is about marriage. Throughout the Bible we are told to submit to one another (Like in Philippians 2) but we are also told to submit to our leaders (like in Hebrews 13). So does this mean we leaders should submit to those they follow? My point is, I think there is different context for each of these statements in Ephesians 5:21-22 because it would be contradictory to say husband submit to wives and wives to husbands in 21 but then specifically highlight a husband's leadership and a wife's submission in the next section (Ephesians:5:22-33). The bible emphasizes a wife's submission and husband's sacrifice for the wife rather than co-leadership and co-submission. But as Christians in general, we should all be "submitting" to one another, but that is different than the specific marriage roles
Oh my goodness it's CRAZY how many clarifications are necessary to say what you're saying. I'm 100% grateful because it can be confusing with how many messages there are out there and how different the message is that our culture promotes. In this video it was navigated well but wow! I pray that each woman who watches this really believes she's beautiful and worthy and that there are good men out there and that God is good and has a plan. I pray any misconceptions about feminity and beauty be penetrated by the Holy Spirit of truth. ❤️🔥🕊️
YES men love those things and I feel very strong as a woman even/ESPECIALLY being those things. I'm proving I'm selective at the moment lol 🤭☺️
Blessings!!
God bless! So glad this video was helpful, all glory to God!
I would really love to hear a video on how to properly manage relationships conflicts for both sexs biblically speaking
Dating has been so disappointing. I’ve been on dates with many men whom the world would consider a perfect catch. Good school, doctor or lawyer, but they never planned dates. It was always “why don’t we meet up and walk around and then get dinner”. That was fine w me. During dinner conversation was great but they texted me for next dates and there’d be no solid plan. I went with the flow. Then during a 10 hr second date I thought I met the one. But all they wanted to do was end with sex and when I refused the momentum slowed down drastically. One of them during dinner asked me about my sexual past and when I revealed it was little he was shocked and thought it was weird I never had sex in high school or college. Weird how a guy would ask or want a woman to have a large sexual past. Especially since we are both 36! Red flags but it was frustrating. Sorry for my rant.
Why waste your time with unbelievers? Ungodly men? Missionary dating doesn't work. I'd stop dating random men and ask the Lord to match you with your Godly spouse.
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Your not ranting. A 10 hour date is a bit of overkill. I'd only do that if I was engaged. Also all this texting is inappropriate. People need to talk. Men should ask for a date not text it. That's lazy. I encourage you to only date strong believers. The Bible says we don't marry unbelievers. I also encourage you not to talk about sex on a date. Only with a fiance. I encourage you NOT to date casually. Be friends with a Christian first and only go out if he's serious and intent on finding his wife. He must have a plan.
I understand. I never got a second date because I wouldn't sleep with them. It is very difficult in today's society. But never compromise your values!
This was more like an episode of "Coffee With Uncle Mark". I like the different background shots and props! 😄 ☕📝🤝🏼
Good video, Mark. I hope God will bring willing women along to hear and receive these messages because they must grow in understanding of men if they wish to marry them, retain their feminity, not be his competition and raise sons and daughters who will be a testimony to godliness.
Take care!
Glad you enjoyed it! And thanks for the positive feedback Matthew :)
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Actually sir, we should call you "uncle Mark". That name suits you very well.
@MCharlery Smith.......😂😅😂 Yeah I love that title. "Coffee with Uncle Mark" . That's creative
@@giraffes_empire. Maybe he doesn't drink coffee ☕ 🤔
I appreciate your honest advices it’s helping grow in so many ways God bless 🙂
Really good video. Not an easy or popular topic to tackle now a days but very necessary to address. Very helpful
Thank you God ❤Thank you pastor ❤
I am selective in my dating life. The road is narrow; it leads to life and freedom.
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This is sooo good!! Thank you for sharing!
You are so welcome!
How agreeable should you really be in a dating relationship?
Also on the topic of being affectionate I didn't understand why my ex said he didn't feel he was for me because he didn't feel he could make me happy and that just sounded like an excuse to me until now. So this brought some clarity and begun allowing me to process things better. Thank you!
It’s his way of saying you deserve better. Run and never look back! God bless
Excellent video♥️. God bless you Mark🙏🏾
Glad you enjoyed it! May the Lord bless you too!
Of all the things I’ve had great faith for, believing for a husband has been my biggest struggle. I’ve received words about it too 😂 but I still keep running back to my ex. Lord help me 🙏
You have a soul tie, hon. Going back to him when God says no is disobedience. I think if I went back to ex, I'd be dead. Any man not in Christ is DANGEROUS. Dismantle the demonic bond. It can destroy you. For REAL.
The teaching is so uplifting.
Men focus a little too much on outer beauty. That is sad because beauty fades with time. Today’s men are very confused. They want a pure woman but are far from pure themselves. I do not hold out a lot of hope for finding a great guy at this stage of life, my 50s, because often men my age want a 25-year-old, even if women that young have no interest in dating daddy!
yes, worldly men do that. On the flipside, worldly women focus too much on a man's money. But as Christians we should all be living to a different standard :) God bless!
Lisa, I’m in my 50’s and the idea of dating a gal in her 20’s makes me sick. But at the same time I’d like to date a pretty lady. I think there are pretty women who are in their 50’s. From what little I can see if you in your profile pic, you look nice. 😁
Men have always valued a woman’s beauty. It’s how God made men.
Totally agree
Lisa, God still has choice, obedient sons in your age range who are single and are looking for someone in their age range to marry. God always has remnants. And when we learn to believe this and let it form our mindsets, we will not be moved by what disobedient children of God around us do because we know God has His best for us whether it seems we can see him around or not.
Best message !!! Agree with all this
So glad it was helpful Jean Mi!
Mark, God has blessed you with a lot of wisdom.
WOW. I’ve watched your videos for a while and this may be one of my favorites. I am so sick of our culture not speaking the TRUTH on these issues. Ladies, this is the truth. Thank you Mark for speaking truth when so many Christians are not!
@Anna Clare “this Christian Culture” addresses both plenty. Check out more videos from Mark’s channel. He addresses what men desire in partners and what women desire from partners. If you only address one side of the issue, the one side will never fully understand what the other is looking for. Our culture loves to beat up men but then shout them down whenever they voice their desires in a romantic partner. Our culture also loves to try and alter what men want in women and what women want in men. Mark’s videos help provide clarity. In reality, the Bible outlines what men and women SHOULD be looking for in a partner. Those who follow cultural guidance in this manner are bound for disappointment
@@JAKEBrakeModel94 Amen!
I agree!
I agree 10000000% I just want a woman who always considers Christ in her decisions especially when it comes to "exploring your sexuality" by grace I can say I am courting the King's daughter my Love and we plan to get married very soon
God bless!
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Those 4 qualities sound great to me! 😎
#3 reminded me of something one of my professors told me! Hilarious!
Great message, Pastor Mark!
The beautiful Gospel of Christ does not offend me in any way.
You are 100% correct. Women are looking for a GODLY man, different from a passive man.
Best. Video. Yet!!!!!!!!!!!
GOD is absolutely good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All glory to God!
Thank you for explaining this! Yes, the Song of Solomon is a perfect book to use as an example. Yes, Preach! Respect, honor, value, love, loyalty, purity, affection, yes, happiness. I'm looking for my Ruth! Proverbs 31 wife/help mate. Thanks, Bruh! Also, a Proverbs 17:17a wife!
Thank you for this video. You touched on a lot of things that have previously been a blockage towards my understanding and acceptance of a biblical God, specifically, in the many ways worldly men both want sexually pure women yet dont figuratively allow for selectivity in the scope of those same women, often using the bible as their vehicle of denigration. I just need a reminder that while guarding our hearts, purity, is important, that the unfortunate delivery of these messages through these certain groups shouldnt keep me from the important points the Bible really has to offer and not turn it away because someone has previously used that message in a selfish manner. I do wonder about men not looking for an accomplished women though. I imagine at the end of the day, a man would want someone who could hold mentally stimulating conversations and keep up with them when they talk about their passions. Seems an education would almost be a prerequisite to that type of fulfilling connection. I am not a man so I can't say. I just know I feel a lot of pressure in that arena to go back to Uni, not just for myself which is the main component, but so I can match with someone I could be a good team mate to. Maybe a mentally stimulating partner is what I want, and so I'm projecting here little. I do realize a woman can be both accomplished and loving and I hope to be both.
Mark, you are a grace from God🙏🙏✨✨
Thank you for breaking it down for us. Seriously. Praise the Lord.
I would say personally as a woman I had to 'place on the altar' to God 👉🏼my👈🏼 preferences in a man, AND TIMING when God will have me have a God lead husband in my life. I am still single, and I also had to accept it is not my season yet, or maybe it's not my future husband's season yet and God is still working behind the scenes where only HE SEES. I hope this helps someone out there. I am single and if you can submit your timing of when you think it should happen and also let go of your "type", God knows us best and He is working where we don't see. Trust Him 🙏🏼🌱
Hi Mark! Love the content. Good stuff. ❤
The one thing I kind of disagree with is that I most certainly do not seek a man who has been promiscuous as well. It feels gross thinking about the disease in a man who has been with every women. Not a person I personally would want to subject my temple of the Holy Spirit with. I get a little experience, but these days most worldly men have ‘hooked up’ too much!
somwwhat agree. I know God could help me to accept it, but I also don't want a man who has been with a lot of women in the past. I also would like someone who hasn't been emotionally attached to too many women in past also.
appreciate Mark's statement about purity culture bc i don't want to be judgemental and want to see them as Jesus sees them as well.
Yes, I would want a man that uses his brain in the number of his sexual relationships. This shows maturity and the ability for him to wait rather than seek immediate gratification. I lose respect for a man that sleeps with any available woman. I think this shows a lack of self respect. Not to mention HPVs.
I really learned a lot today with this video.. thank you very much🙏🏾
I AM VERY CONCERNED ABOUT THE MANS PAST SIR.
This video was spot on brother..God bless you
Glad you enjoyed it!
Well actually I have a plan and that is to serve the Lord.
Amen, serving the Lord is always a good plan :)
Such a greatly needed video, thank You so much! Such a whole lot of more and more masculinely behaving Christian women wonder why...
God bless You for making this video!
So glad it was useful!
Thoroughly and well advocated!! Thank you!
Wow this is the best video I have ever watched on this topic. Thanks for your honesty.
Amen Bible shows the way
Your videos are very helpful. Thank you! May the Lord bless you. I pray that God prepares not just me, but for whoever is reading this also.
Pretty much from what I understand men are attracted to women being their natural healthy self and not trying to be what they are not
Amen in agreement this witnesses to my spirit. Thank you for this. ☝️🔥🕊🔥☝️
Wow this came to me at the right time
Yes finally someone who explains it thoroughly!!!😭😭great video"Don't date worldly guys, their very confused" love it💀🙏🏼but yes gospel-based people always and repent. And being selective as a woman🥰❤️and praying for my future husband 💞💞🌍
it's really hard to find a man right now who has leadership qualities....many men nowadays are afraid to take responsibilities. that is why i believe in the power of prayer to find a man who can be a leader to our family and also love and respects a woman. and same as woman now adays are advocate of women empowerment....don't get me wrong about it but women empowerment should also have boundaries and limit that some women don't understand it . let us allow men to be men and us women to be a women. that is how God lately teaches me . i am hoping that the Lord will help me find a husband in God's will and His own time.
Amen, men and women have equally important roles in the relationship but different ones too
Absolutely the best video on UA-cam right now. Well done Sir, keep it up.
Another great video. I especially like the new background.
Thanks for the feedback :)
You have a very good,wonderful, beautiful ❤️ channel.
Thank you so much! All glory to God!
Thank you so much for the insight!
Thank you for always seeking to bless others with your gift of expounding on the wisdom of God and His Word, Mark.
I have been thoroughly edified by your videos.
God bless!
I'm so glad they have been edifying
All facts.
Amen!!! To all of these facts!!
Thank You, You've made my day Awesome. I"ve been keeping myself save for 19years after a really bad divorce years ago. Thank You, my waiting for My Devine Husband chosen by God Himself will be Worth it. Thank You so much for this ♥️
I'm so glad you found this video useful!
Thank you:) this really is helping me!
I've never been more confused and understanding at the same time about men...
Same.
It's not that complex. Men deviating from courtship & honoring women is spiritual warfare. Read Ephesians 6:12. The devil is attacking men ( the head) & influencing them to toss their birthright and blessings. He's using porn, fear and misogyny.
Great lesson! Another powerful message, thank you! ❤️🔥🙏
God bless! So glad it was helpful Luba!
Thank you! I really appreciate it. Your videos are helpful.
Glad you like them!
Very great video !! Agree with all he said !! Facts All The Way !! God Bless you so much !!
Nicely explained!! 😊
Glad it was helpful!
Beautiful, rich video!! Very thoughtful all around 👏🏼👏🏼