How To Rebuild Your Self Worth From Scratch And Live To The Fullest Again
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2024
- Hi, I promised I’ll do more videos on healing from dysfunctional childhood and this is one of them. It's personal but important video where I share 7 things that helped me to rebuild the sense of self worth and lay strong healthy foundations to live again, after growing up in a toxic environment and coming to a major crash at the age of 27. I truly hope the message will bring you hope and encouragement :)
❤ FAQ
Where are you from?
- I’m from Poland but I’m also British where I live from the last 11 years.
How old are you?
- In this video I’m 30
What’s your skin type?
- Normal to dry with the tendency to shiny T-zone (10 step routine definitely balanced it out!)
❤ You often ask about my skincare. Below are some videos I’ve done on this topic:
Current daytime skincare: • My Daytime Skincare - ...
Current evening skincare: • Current Evening Skinca...
8 Skincare Habits I Started At 21 That Pay Off Big Time At 30 (And Beyond): • 8 Skincare Habits I St...
- How to Get Crystal Clear and Glowing Skin - • How to Get Crystal Cle...
- Small Skincare Changes That Made My Skin Best I’ve Ever Had - • Small Skincare Changes...
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Face massage for specific areas on your face which you can start with:
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❤ Skincare books I recommend to read:
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“The Japanese Skincare Revolution” by Chizu Saeki (eBay link: ebay.to/2rwpCt7)
❤ Check out my other massage videos:
1) Neck tightening massage- • Tightening NECK Massag...
2) Everyday anti-aging face massage- • Everyday Full Face Mas...
3) Face puffiness massage- • "Follow Me" Face Massa...
4) Basic every day face massage - • Face Massage I'm Actua...
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Thanks for watching!
When she cried i started crying too 😢 i felt it 😔
And she's so beautiful ❤
She is extremely beautifull and having a wise soul adds alot to that beauty 👸🏻
Hallo again. I'm 47,5, you could be my daughter, if I was a young mother. So I see you as my unborn daughter. Just know that I love you. Keep on and congrats! Greetings from Greece.
First time I see you getting emotional, don't worry, you are a beautiful soul and you deserve so much happiness in your life ❤️
Thank you, I wasn't planning on this, it really happened while recording :)
olgatoja what's your what's app number or any other number, I wanna talk to you bcz I get so much positivity and happiness from you
Hai... I didn't understand fully...
But ur face is showing how u felt...
Don't worry... May god bless u abundantly.. Be like a 💎
Olga I have never written you. As a guy I do not watch all you beauty tips, but this video and the follow up really struck me. I feel for you. And want to thank you for this video. I know it was not easy. However it is one of the strongest and most important videos I have ever seen on UA-cam. To me at least. I plan on watching it daily as it is very inspiring! Thank you so much for opening up, being honest, and yes being very vulnerable. And absolutely no need to apologize for the length. I think you did just fine and the length was great. Especially for such a huge and important subject. I wanted to say thank you personally and encourage you to continue when you are ready to make such amazing content. I wish you all the best, you deserve it! :-)
Thank you so much Olga. I am currently in therapy (third time) from narcissistic abuse and trauma. You are incredible! I am also an immigrant to the UK, and it took a career in the City of London (ironically!) to show me that I am enough and worthy just for being me, as a person.
Hi Cath, I'm very proud of your move to London and a good career. I know the feeling, it took me a lot of time to find my worth beyond physical things and stop feeling I constantly have to do more and more and better things because what I have/am is not enough. I hope this 3rd therapy will solidify the progress and truly let you live to the fullest :)
When you hit rock bottom, the only way is UP. Even when you think all hope is lost. You will be surprised how help comes your way.
It's refreshing to know that even though (you) think that you are the only one, You land this beautiful and inspiring journey that you have been thorough. Thank you so much. Xx
I am proud of you as a human being , and proud of any one struggling to heal , i hope each and everyone of you find their way ...sending you love and peace💙
Thank you, I'm also proud of everyone going through a struggle. It's a really thing. All the best!
Worth Listening In A Time When I am going through the same situation .
I am with you! It's heart warming to know we are not alone. I'm sending you big hugs!
So am i😭
@@sharonch2201 Reach out to your friends and loved ones. Get help, don't be alone. Stay strong!
People around you are lucky to have you 🥺..... beautiful women with a beautiful heart,voice,thoughts and more .... I wish I was there for you ...I need a best friend like you 😭
Hi dear, “Accept that you are not important to some people and move on.” There is always someone who truly care for us in our life, that person is ourselves. Don’t go back to the past as things/people had happened which we can never change. Simply focus on the present and treat/take care of yourself the way you hope others to treat you. Bless you dear💕💕💕, you are doing great!
Thanks for sharing your experience. Keep on moving forward my friend
Thank you :*
Thank you for this video it’s come just at the right time
Hi
Thanks for sharing Olga, good luck to you.
Your videos always very very helpful and inspiring.
And your face massages really work!!🤗
Thank you
Hi Olga! I had a very similar story to yours and the therapy helped me a lot. Thank you for sharing your message! I hope other children of alcoholics can learn from you and thanks to you they will learn that there is help. All the best! Greetings from other pole in Italy!
I'm sorry to hear you too had to go through this. It's a difficult process and it doesn't go away quickly. I had a feeling to make this video and I too hope that it can support and encourage someone going through exact same thing. I'm sending lots of hugs your way!
I am going through this same thing currently. I'm not sure how and where this is going to end but there is always a light of hope.
@@kaykaur330I know it is a difficult process but reward is truly worth it. In the end you will understand yourself better and live a peaceful life. All the best for u!:)
@@iwonap9823 thank you.🙂
You are in right direction and very beautiful person from inside.. stay happy and healthy always 😊 love from India 🇮🇳
You are a precious young lady and i have a beautiful daughter on my own, and i love her and protect her with my life if necessary. Now you teach me a lesson Thank you precious Young Lady!!
Beautiful child,stay happy ❤️
Hi
Bless you! You are amazing and I am so grateful for you and for your youtube channel! You are indeed worthy and beautiful. And so strong!
Thank you for talking about difficult topics. You're a warrior ❤️
Bardzo Cie podziwiam za to ze mowisz otwarcie o tym co przeszlas, to z pewnoscia nie jest latwe i wymaga odwagi. Sama pochodze z bardzo dysfunkcyjnej rodziny gdzie byl alkohol, przemoc, bieda i dzis odczuwam tego skutki, mam bardzo niskie poczucie wlasnej wartosci, boje sie ludzi, boje sie swiata, mam depresje, siedze zamknieta w domu.
Thank you so much for this video, Olga. I am not feeling so well the past few days bexause of my insecurities and all the issues 10 years of bullying caused me, but seeing you, who had gone trought so much say IT IS POSSIBLE to get better and feel deserving of good things makes me feel happy for you and hopefull that I will have the courage not give up on me. Sending lots of love and good energies your way ❤
Thank you for sharing your story, it had to be so difficult to do. I hope it can help others and also help yourself, letting it all go out to a bunch of strangers over the Internet. Try to learn from your past and keep going forward, you'll never forget what happened but you'll learn to live with it
Be strong.
Thank you David - sometimes it's easier to say it in front of the strangers than to those close to you. But I had a feeling to share it all. Thank you for your support :)
@@olgatoja you're welcome. :)
You are on Rock! Stay strong! He has your back! I am glad for you! Enjoy your new Life!
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I was an abused and neglected child. I've been in and out of therapy for years. I also suffer with mental illness. It's very befitting that you're very attractive and put together. Often when we've had a broken childhood we strive really hard to make our outsides look really good because our insides feel so ugly. No one can possibly understand how small and broken we feel having such a hurtful childhood and especially if we present ourselves as well put together. You are absolutely precious for sharing this because you reminded me how important it is to love ourselves. God bless you.
Aaawww.. thank you Olga. This was so sweet. I am left smiling looking at your progress. I think if we all want , we will certainly get healed and become new again one day. :)
I imagine it takes so much strength to make a video like this, so thank you for that. I think everyone can learn something from this, even if it s just a reminder that we're worthy, but i think it is way more impactful. Thank you again and i m so happy to hear that you're doing better and better.
Thank you Miruna, I had a feeling to share it even though it took me 2 weeks to record, I couldn't find the right words. But I truly hope someone who really needs it will find something in there. Thanks for your support!
Thanks for opening up and sharing your life. You are a very special person, Olga, and I hope the very best for you in life.
Dziekuje za to video, sama pochodze z rodziny idealnie funkcjonujacego alkoholika, na zewnatrz wszystko wygladalo normalnie, "dobra rodzina", czysty dom, drogi samochod, ale traumy jakie przezylam, ponizanie przez ojca, upokarzanie calej rodziny, zupelne zniszczenia jakiegokolwiek poczucia wlasnej wartosci, duzo by opowiadac. Sama wiem, jak bardzo odbilo sie to na moim zyciu i zwiazkach z ludzmi, potrzeba ciaglej walidacji i generalnie problem z nawiazywaniem zdrowych relacji. Wspaniale, ze o tym mowisz, powinnas byc dumna, ze postanowilas walczyc o wlasne szczescie i wybaczyc nawet tym, ktorzy nie przepraszaja. Wszystkiego co tylko najlepsze, duzo pozytywnej energii :*
It takes courage to share your heart in such an open and honest way for the sake of helping and motivating others. Thank you for sharing. It meant a lot to me today, especially hearing that we are made in God’s image and have hope to in Him. You are such a beautiful person who does such a good job. So glad I subscribed to your channel already some time ago. I look forward in seeing more posts of such high moral and honest quality. May God bless you in all aspects of your life!
Thank you Elise, your message means a lot to me. I had a feeling to make this video but it took 2 weeks to record, I couldn't find the right words. I'm delighted you found something for yourself in it. Thank you for your encouragement and support. I'm sending lots of hugs your way!
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😇 You are so brave and strong and have surly helped many people by sharing your journey 💖 You are just lovely! We could all see it in you from the help you’ve given all of us with your videos! So happy that you are now Happy 😊 xo
Olga, you've got an angelic soul, you're gonna get more peace of mind from Nature!!!
Olgo, dziękuję Ci że zechciałaś się tym podzielić. Mamy zadziwiająco podobne przeżycia za sobą i jesteśmy w tym samym wieku. Twoje słowa są dla mnie nadzieją, bo jestem- zdaje się- na początku drogi to uzdrowienia moich relacji z ludźmi i ze sobą, nauczenia się stawiania granic i do szczęśliwego, spełnionego życia. Pozdrawiam z Polski. Myślę o Tobie ciepło (od około miesiąca robię masaże różnych części twarzy wspierając się Twoimi filmami) i życzę Ci wszystkiego, wszystkiego co dla Ciebie najlepsze. Ściskam mocno- Ewelina
Thank-you for being so strong and sharing! I loved that you added in the part about your faith.
People who were supposed to protect me are ones who hurt me the most ,
and that’s why my heart hurts listening to your story.
God bless you strong 💪 girl you got this .
Amazing video again Olga, you inspire me to try to take better care of myself through depression 🧡
Don't worry dear every family hv problem's bt it's good atleast we hv family anyways u r strong enough to deal with anything
That's true. Thank you :)
Thank you for this video and what you say in it, having experienced all those things in my childhood, growing up and as an adult and now; You give me Hope.
Kochana tak bardzo dziękuję Ci za ten filmik, sama miałam toksyczne dzieciństwo z dysfunkcyjnym rodzicem i do tej pory zmagam się z konsekwencjami tego. Tak bardzo cieszy mnie obraz tego, że można to pokonać i szczęśliwie żyć. Też w społeczeństwie potrzebne jest otwarte mówienie o tym, żeby przestało to być powodem do wstydu np. chodzenie na terapię, bo nikt z nas nie był winny ani odpowiedzialny za pochodzenie z takiej rodziny, a nie innej.
Uściski dla Ciebie i wszystkiego co najlepsze :)
Cześć Olga. Wspaniały film, ciesze się, że również ważne tematy są poruszane tutaj na youtube. Życzę Ci siły i radości z życia. W tym roku również skończyłam 30 lat. Choć ja sama nie posiadam takich doświadczeń, ale z niektórymi osobami moje relacje z ich winy również nie są takie jak być powinny. Ale nauczyłam się doceniać i być wdzięczna za osoby od których mam wsparcie i miłość. A nie martwić się o osoby, które nie są tego warte.
Pozdrawiam Cię
Aleksandra
Videos like this one help me as much as your facial massage and skincare ones, maybe even more. I had a similar childhood to yours and am still healing from it. Therapy has helped but so do videos like this one because when I hear from someone who experienced the same things then I don’t feel so alone. I used to think that it was only me and everyone else had a normal childhood; now I know that isn’t true. People sharing their experiences helps them and it helps others. Thank you so much for this video. 🤗
Iam still at one third of this video and i've been healed, i can relate so much to everything.. thank you for posting this 🙏💗
I commented on a earlier video where you also told about your youth. I wrote about being able to be your own parent at a certain point. I am sorry you had to go through all of this but I am happy you had the intelligence, the sensitivity, the power and and the heart/soul to start therapy. And profit from that. So many people keep their strategies developed as a child until they are in their forties or even older. And then such a big part of your life you were not able to live life to the fullest. You deserve so much and it is great all what is good comes to you. Take care, ♥️
You are so so brave for sharing your healing and learning process. It takes a lot of courage to do so. Keep shining!
What a beautiful summary of steps for healing. I truly appreciate the thought that went into it. My father is an alcoholic and my mother is narcisstic/agoraphobic. I was the oldest child and there was so much mental/emotional abuse and neglect. I’m 33 now and have done over 10 years of therapy. Your point about faith really touched me. I used to be spiritual and left faith because it triggered me with my family being as bad as they were. I always love hearing positive outcomes of faith. 💗💗
I love your videos and my life is very similar to yours.I never been protected by my parents and went true so much, still working on my boundaries and self worth issues.I wish you all the healing and happiness ❤️
You are fearfully and wonderfully made Olga. Nothing can change or make us apart from his unconditional love. Will pray for you. You are a beautiful lady. Ypur faith will keep you strong in a stormy day. And he is the one who will nevwr leave your side. Love-Jamuna
Olga ... be strong,never gave up, Jesus loves you very much like i do
Bless you Cher Olga. Yes without GOD we are nothing.
He is our comfort when everyone goes out. Carmel
I think you have grown to be a genuine beautiful soul Amiga xoxo Love you
Thank you !! I grew up in a alcoholic home . I thought. It was normal untill I got out on my own . You and I have a lot in common. I thank you for this video from the bottom of my heart .
Even since i saw you i had felt a connection with you...iam same as your age and a qualitied medical doctor with loads of childhood scars yet worked on myself once i struck 26 ...i have come out of all the messy places too...much power to you...
Thankyou for Existing💙
Going through a really hard time since 2017. Much needed video. Thank you ❤ so glad to hear you came on top.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m so upset with what happens right now around me, thank you for encouraging and being so positive 💖
I'm sorry to hear that... it is truly difficult at times, emotional pain is not made up it's real. I hope and pray things will get better for you. Sending hugs your way!
You are special, strong and blessed ❤
Dear Olgatoja thank you for your openness and love. I will continue to watch your videos. May The Lord continue to bless, guide, minister and protect you. I have a Daughter that works away and as I pray for her I will pray for you too. God bless you much love.
U r are very nice and strong person Olga , its not easy to keep urself on positive options being in a culture where unhealthy activities are normal like pub etc... u have gone through alot but still u r polite n down to earth this shows that u r worthy of everything best in ur life , really the love n respect increased for u in my heart after watching ur today’s video xoxoxo 🙂
Olga... we share the same bond with FAITH ... i understand and support you darlo! Always be my favourite you tuber and i love you sooooo much my pure hearted friend!
You are beautiful inside out and I simply love seeing your face and listening you talk. My heart goes out for you when you get emotional. Am sure " Fabulous Future" awaits you.🙋💕
So happy for you❤️ you are beautiful inside and out. Thank you so much for these encouraging words. I had a hard day and especially the faith part gave me peace inside. God bless you Olga
Thank you for sharing your life struggles and victories with us, what an encouraging video! Thank you for talking about choosing what was right for you in your faith, I'm so happy that you are living in freedom from your past hurts!
Faith ❤ I think it would be extremely interesting to read all the different holy books of different religions, tha amount of things they have in common is crazy, and it's very eye opening! 💕🌸
This made my day! Thank you for sharing!
Wonderful :)
You’ve always glowed, but it’s even more obvious here ☺️ I know from personal experience how hard you must have worked on this stuff, so congratulations, I’m so proud for you xx
Thank you so much for sharing. You have such a beautiful soul. We appreciate you letting us into your personal journey so that others can be helped ❤️
i can relate and it's crazy what bad parenting can do to people 😷🤢 it can be sad having to keep your closest relatives on a distance but sometimes it has to be done
Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. I too am learning that I'm worthy of love and good things. Blessings to you.
Thank you for your video. Now I have a similar situation, your advices are very helpful💜
Thank you for your honesty, that was so nice and brave!
Thank you :)
You are amazing Olga!
I usually do not comment on videos.
But your video really touched my heart!
God bless you! Never abandon faith nor be ashamed, you are an eternal creation so as God! I'm so happy that Jesus is healing you! Keep up ❤😊😘
Thank you for sharing this piece of you with us, know you are such a blessing to this world! Thank you for this video ❤️
Something is better than nothing. The change you bought is the best you did . Keep it up dear 👍
I'm so happy that you decided to share this Olga
May you have a beautiful life olga💕
I cried a lot because at some point I feel you.. And wanted to get out from this mess I'm in too.. I'm losing myself while building other's up.. dont know how to start.. this vlog leaves a cut in my heart coz I know I cant do it yet I needed to do it.. It takes a lot of courage esp.if it involves hurting love ones, family and relatives.. May I be like you One day.. take care and God bless you❤️
Thank you for sharing , it came a the right time for me, I wish you happiness , bless you xx
great to hear. thank you and I hope things will go well for you :)
You are so beautiful inside and out !!! Sending you so much love !
I feel that you have a beautiful soul through your videos!
Good for you, sweetheart. You've worked hard to get here. Things will only get better as you gain a deeper understanding of yourself with time. xo
Hey! You are an amazing person and I'm so happy you are finding your way and feeling better!
I was listening carefully to everything you said and wondered what do you think about something that I often find contradictory ( at least in people I met so far perspective)
So, you talked about ppl that didn't give up on you when you were at your lowest and not the nicest person often. On the other hand you mentioned how much it helped you to separate yourself from ppl who didn't bring anything positive to your life and stopped trying to help everyone.
I had a massive breakdown in my adult life, also due to the childhood issues that just threw me to my knees out of nowhere. At that low point in my life I was percieved by my friends as a toxic person that doesn't bring anything positive to their life. A person that if they want to be close to, requires support and help and that's consuming energy and it's difficult, so I was quickly cut off from their life. From that point on, I often think how ppl say you need friends to be with you and support you when you are going through a hard time and cannot be the best version of yourself, yet at the same time when someone is in such situation, they feel excused to back off and cut all ties, throwing all difficulties comming from others as toxic.
Hello, thank you for this comment, I think you touched on something very important and confusing. I can give u my perspective and experience. So there are 3 aspects there. 1. People who you cut off from your life because they bring you down. So far there were no people I completely cut off intentionally. The people I had to distance myself from and set boundaries were those who don't seek to improve themselves, dont think anythything was wrong in the toxic relations we had and to be Frank would continue to exploit me if I let them. Boundries and distance were the last resources after I spoken to them and said out loud what I do and do not tolerate anymore. Some people didn't want to adjust but thankfully most people took it very well and they admitted didnt know they were doing something that was hurtful to me. Those relationships improved actually as the truth was said and we both grew in it.
So overall, great majority of good of my relationships became way better now, some just vanished from my life but they weren't something I wanted anyway, it was some toxic relations which after I stopped feeding just disappeared. And some relationships which were ok before surprisingly became very good and close as well. There is maybe just 1 weird relationship left I dont know what to do with but I'm happy for the time to show where to take it.
when it came to my friends turning away from me in my difficult times, again, the good old strong friendships survived, accepted me as I was and now are better than ever. If anything I was distancing myself from them because I felt like worthy of nothing failure. They never left my side (mind you, we dont live in the same country so they weren't physically here when I was at my worse). Also it's not like its many of them, I have 2 or 3 really close good friends who put up with all my stuff thankfully but it was me who wanted the distance. yet they survived and thriving now. Also were became quite close with my sister now, after being like strangers for most of our lives. All because I opened the pandora box and started calling things out an allowing space for all unexpressed emotions.
The People who didnt give up on me, allowed time for my worse days and lead me to the positive direction surprisingly were people who didnt know me that well. That was people at work and my manager who didnt cross me or told me to go off sick, he was available when I needed to talk and led me through work tasks when I couldn't even think. No judgement, no giving up. Angel in disguise.
Hi Olga thank u soo muchhh for being on UA-cam.lots of love from me😍
Olga, thank you so much for this video! I needed to see this today! Lots of love from the Philippines! 💜
You are soooi beautifull inside and out, ur words are soooo touchinf and healung for me, it was almost like a message to me.. thank u for sharing that my tears are running from emotion, because what u r saying is so relatable 😔💚🌱🌿🌴
you have a beautiful heart ❤️ SO nice to talk about this.. thank you very much and god bless you all the time ❤️
Mashallah.😍you really are gorgeous ❣
Hi Olga you look Amazing!! Miss You and your videos. But perfect timing for a video especially on my Birthday. God Bless You Always.💜
Dziękuję Ci za ten film... Z głębi mojego serca...
Same situation here and working on my self.... Can u please share some other videos on your therapy
Am so happy that you find your peace 💓
You are wonderful Olga, you’re beautiful and brave. We love you x x x💕💕
Thank you Olga for great video
Thank you :)
Thankyou sis! You made me smile after a very long time 🤗
I just want to hug you. We are strangers yet i want to say that i love you. Congratulations on your work. Imane from Morocco.
You are beautiful inside and out. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for this video ❤️ so relatable and much needed
Thanks for shared this very important part of your for us👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You are amazing! Thank you for sharing your heart! 💖💕🌸
I am going trough a moment of depression, started all of a sudden one year ago.
I suddently understood why so many of my behaviours.
Why I chose certain type of relationship.
It's difficult as at the moment I am still living with my family.
I have always been discouraged by my mother.
Everything I do, everytime i speak, or I try to be my true self, i would just be dragged down by her.
I do not have the words to describe how difficult it is to go out in the world when your self esteem is lacking to a critical point. And all this destruction has been made year after year by my family ( and one love relation in particular).
I do not know where to start.
I am also stucked to a point where I am questioning myself at work. And everything in my life seems just to be sad and worthless
Thank you for sharing💜 sending you lots of love!
I really like this vid a lot! Staying away from destructive family relationships is really key, faith has definately helped me too, thx for sharing that, and I'm trying therapy now =) I lost both my parents growing up 💔
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. 💖✨💫 Powerful! 😉
Your awesome.. And so smart and cute.. Very useful.. I like to hear ur English..
Always be happy