My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
You are lucky.... It's not the case usually They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family Sad truth
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏 I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme 8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
Ye guruji bhagwan h India k maximum log chu tiya hain maante nahi h ..he is right ..koi bahu chudail nahi hoti ...lekin saas itna khoo* pi leti h k vakai ...jab jaaegi fir nahi aaegi ...tab saas ka ra*Rona chalu hota h ..... Indian marriage se isliye ladkiyo ko ulti aati h ...he is 100 percent right ....sewa k time pe time karne me kisi bahu ko problem nahi h ...bus saas sotan banke sar pe baithti h jab ...or beta bahu k pyar se Mott aati h saas ko ..vaha saas zeher hi b
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi . thank you .
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
Nice. Well explained. I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law. Do not compare with your own daughter.
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻 Thank you. Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions. It's very hard to manage things. But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions. I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
Another master video. It spoke my mind. Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
आपकी बातें आज के संदर्भ में पूर्णतः सत्य है! आपको कोटि कोटि प्रणाम! अगर समाज ये समझ ले तो शादियां बर्बाद न होगी और कोर्ट कचहरी का चक्कर न होगा! आपने एक बहुत जबरदस्त समाधान दिया है!
Your solution is super, to escape mother-in-law, escape to south or Canada.😂😂👍 You have explained practically. This also applies to daughter's parents in South. The media is even creating ads!
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times. Very very practical Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
Wow....i have always believed this....but when I suggested this before my son's wedding....my husband started accusing me of saying things that would break the family. I could not convince him.But I found other ways to achieve the same goal. A few things obviously a few things they couldn't learn...like managing their finances as we were running the home
Please share how did you manage to achieve this goal, without separating...bcoz i am in the same state now. Planning to get son married next 1-2 years.
@@shaguftapathan144 fortunately my husband was about to retire ,and we had to shift to our parent town. That helped resolve the issue. After retirement we quickly moved to the other city. Now they have to manage all the things. I keep talking to them regularly just to give ideas about how they can resolve an issue( but i advice only if I am asked). Please understand we have to help our children to become independent and strong.and not dependent on us. Hope this helps.
If you have to stay in the same house and then teach them about finances,you can give them some regularly responsibility of grocery shopping ,and daily needs shopping that way they will learn little by little. Don't find faults with how they did the work instead tell them how they could shop better .
Till this day i regret that first year of marriage. It was a total mess . I used to think as if i had committed a sin or maybe i was the fool in town. Love ❤️ you from Pakistan 🇵🇰
Itana complicated subject, kitani asan bhasha me samjha diye.great communication skill , very necessary matter is as well. Thank you very much.. relation balance is very much important..
Super uncle ji. It was reverse for me. First year of marriage was torture by staying with in laws. Later seperated and living in separate portion in same building. Our relationship is much better now.
@Arpan Madrecha i am happily married for the past 16 years. I was pointing on "let go" mother's impositions is extremely important to improvise her own child's life who is now an "independent man."(generally)
Not let the mil interfere by quoting her examples " humne to kabhi jawab Nahi diye,humne to kabhi aisa nahi Kiya,humne to bohot Saha humne vo humne ye etc etc a d expect same from the dil
बढ़िया vdo. मैने अपने बेटे को ठीक इसी तरह सेट किया था। शादी के दिन को ही बहू नए घर में विदा हो कर पहुंची। हम मां बाप पांच किलोमीटर दूर अपने मकान में सुखपूर्वक रहते हैं। बच्चे भी खुश हम ज्यादा खुश।
Awesome video sir. Please make practical videos for boys who want to become successful man. There is no practical guide for manhood, How we should think, work, maintain various relationships.....?
By the way, I am not married yet. But one thing I will tell you. Anything from one week to a month should be enough time for one or both parties to determine whether they should stay together. “You may decide halfway through the agreed upon time that you want to be with that person, but you should respect the time frame. Take care all
Right sir. I agreed on your point of you. In most of the families it can be follow up, where both sasu & sasur are alive. But it's not feasible for those families in which unfortunately only mother in law is alive. Where there is only one mother is left alone at home in terms of adopting this advise, really not understood. I hope to get response on my comment. Will be waiting 😊
Yeh video toh mujhe meri aur mere doston ki kahani si lag rhi hai....amazing video. This video should be watched by each and every parent. They push their kids away
Bahut acha laga..aap parents counsellor ho jao sir ..my first year of marriage was terrible and I would say because of my MIL interference and still it's same.
Practical, yet beats stand up comedy 🤣🤣🤣
Practical
Good
Mujhe accha laga 👌👌
Very practical. 👌
😀
My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
👌🙏
We need more people like you in our society.... well Done uncle..
Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
Very lucky you are
U r truly blessed
You are lucky....
It's not the case usually
They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family
Sad truth
Lucky u
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Esa jina haram karte h nanad saas sasur k shadi kar k pachhtawa hota h😭
@@lillykumari8828 😀😂 dil se nikala hua lagta hai 👍
haha - I remember getting a call at sharp 6am from MIL, even after staying in the same house to wake me up.
@@lillykumari8828 😔
@@decodingmyroot i can feel your pain
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
What you learnt pls share
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏
I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme
8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family
I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
a person in mid 30s calling him a uncle is just hilarious. He is not even 50 😂
Age ?@@harshbrar1
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
My husband and father in law and mother in law are same like yours very toxic and clever
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
U never know...wat she is planning..be careful🤪..at d end she is MIL
Humare pata nhi kab ayenge yese din
@@arpanmadrecha3013 all the best..stay happy..tc
@@SHIVANEEZWORLDHan ab aap yhi sikhana inko..bahut sari ladkiyan b sikhati hain apni friends ko aap k jaise 😂😂 par ladke nhi
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Sabhi ese hi hai
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
Wife or wife ki maa Kam nhi hoti
Correct
True. Meri life bhi kharab kar chuki hai. Aur jiske liye maine sab choda usko mujhse koi matlab nahi hai
Sir, ekdum sahi kaha....2 mahine me hi divorce pe baat aa chuki hai... husband mumma's boy hai puri uski sunta hai...khud ko extra ordinary samjte hai
Ye guruji bhagwan h India k maximum log chu tiya hain maante nahi h ..he is right ..koi bahu chudail nahi hoti ...lekin saas itna khoo* pi leti h k vakai ...jab jaaegi fir nahi aaegi ...tab saas ka ra*Rona chalu hota h ..... Indian marriage se isliye ladkiyo ko ulti aati h ...he is 100 percent right ....sewa k time pe time karne me kisi bahu ko problem nahi h ...bus saas sotan banke sar pe baithti h jab ...or beta bahu k pyar se Mott aati h saas ko ..vaha saas zeher hi b
Same happening with me 2 month me hi mere saas sasur ne meri marriage kharab kr di aise saas sasur khud apne bete ka ghar todke maje kr rhe h
@sush_s0409 Mera divorce ho gaya
Absolutely true. We were made to live with jeth jethani. I was working and she wasn't. Bas shuru ho gaya comparison, taunt, expectation 🙄🙄
I can literally cry...bcz My marriage affacted a lot bcz of these reasons...but I didn't give up... I owe you Sir
Mine too dear,
Mind blown 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Literal truth bombs 💣 Our parents did the same and we are all living in harmony!
I can relate to it to the core specially "ek baar woh khud leke jayegi na apka beteko toh wapas kabhi nehi ayegi" so.so true
Aur aap ko bhi aane nhi degi!
Aur beta jaaye hi na toh
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
Actually ... You said all bitter truth of our society in a very sweet way... Need such change in our society...
Thanks a lot Sir... 🙏🙏🌹
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
My mother in law and sister in law has ruined our happy life
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
Same here
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi .
thank you .
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
Nice. Well explained.
I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law.
Do not compare with your own daughter.
This video packs a lot of punch. If only Indian parents could learn to let go
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻
Thank you.
Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
We need more people like you in our society sir... Very true!
Actually it's very true .... We have clashes due to joint living with in-laws
Well spoken. North Indian families are suffering due to marriage related dilemmas.
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
*"Very realistic, practically, thoughtful, knowledgeable & Life-toughts preechings Sir jee"*
Practical
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
We need more people like you sir,Thank you so much!😇
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Very true
Agar husband ke sath alag bhi hote hai ek saal phir bhi issue hote hai
Ladai hoti hai
Husband's In laws are just excuse
In my situation also marriage is ruined forever . Please ek ghar chod Kar reh lo par alag reh lo please .
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
Thanks friends for liking my thinking.
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
Practically speaking this is the best advice for both sides. Newlywed’s need their time to soak up new responsibilities
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions.
It's very hard to manage things.
But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions.
I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Good advice
My son is 7 years old
I'll definitely follow this advice 😂😂😂
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
We don't have fasts for pregnant women, even Karva chauth is not done during pregnancy. All families follow these rituals in their own way.
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
Nailed it ...thet won't ever bother..
But again we parents still have to bear the grunt anyway.
This is inevitable atleast 1 more generation.
Sir hatts off simply....you are from Haryana and this much open minded approach...you changed my perception of people from Haryana 🙌
Another master video. It spoke my mind.
Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
Never seen anybody so practical ....applaudable!!
Our Bollywood and television shows notion 'lado maaro Gaali do par saath raho' doesn't fit in real life that we need to understand
आपकी बातें आज के संदर्भ में पूर्णतः सत्य है! आपको कोटि कोटि प्रणाम! अगर समाज ये समझ ले तो शादियां बर्बाद न होगी और कोर्ट कचहरी का चक्कर न होगा! आपने एक बहुत जबरदस्त समाधान दिया है!
👍🏻💯💯absolutely perfect .really true
100 % correct advice. Thanks Sir for all the wisdom.
All these things needs to be addressed. Thank you sir 🙏🏻
Bahut hi accha video....kaash shadi k phle dekha hota...ab to shadi bhi ho gai or problems bhi ho gaye
Practical suggestions....keep sharing uncle...we don't usually get to see such perspective in general
আপনার ভিডিও দেখে অনেক জ্ঞান অর্জন করলাম।আশা করি সংসারিক জীবনে আপনার সমাধান গুলো এবার থেকে প্রয়োগ করতে পারবো।
Your solution is super, to escape mother-in-law, escape to south or Canada.😂😂👍 You have explained practically. This also applies to daughter's parents in South. The media is even creating ads!
Yes I absolutely agree with you. Practically society should change but difficult 😃😃😃but seeing your vdos some change will b there 👍👍👍
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times.
Very very practical
Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
U r giving really practical solutions. I wish people could really understand and implement this one
Sir ..... awesome practical words..... thank you for the clarity !!
Bahut Badiya sir.
Worth listening and implementing too
Master of Clarity!!
Amit Sir U r amazing . Just wish You Tube videos would have started some 15 years back❤
Yes, must give them time to understand and adjust with each other, their work pressures, etc. 👏
Wow....i have always believed this....but when I suggested this before my son's wedding....my husband started accusing me of saying things that would break the family. I could not convince him.But I found other ways to achieve the same goal. A few things obviously a few things they couldn't learn...like managing their finances as we were running the home
Please share how did you manage to achieve this goal, without separating...bcoz i am in the same state now. Planning to get son married next 1-2 years.
@@shaguftapathan144 fortunately my husband was about to retire ,and we had to shift to our parent town. That helped resolve the issue. After retirement we quickly moved to the other city. Now they have to manage all the things. I keep talking to them regularly just to give ideas about how they can resolve an issue( but i advice only if I am asked). Please understand we have to help our children to become independent and strong.and not dependent on us. Hope this helps.
If you have to stay in the same house and then teach them about finances,you can give them some regularly responsibility of grocery shopping ,and daily needs shopping that way they will learn little by little. Don't find faults with how they did the work instead tell them how they could shop better .
You are very interesting, entertaining and practical. Your examples are real life. I can actually picture the scene.
Till this day i regret that first year of marriage. It was a total mess . I used to think as if i had committed a sin or maybe i was the fool in town. Love ❤️ you from Pakistan 🇵🇰
I can totally relate! mine too
Itana complicated subject, kitani asan bhasha me samjha diye.great communication skill , very necessary matter is as well. Thank you very much.. relation balance is very much important..
Superb video, Sir. Sutras for peace, good cheer and affection in life.
Very true
Very practical approach 👌 👏 for Indian society
Super uncle ji. It was reverse for me. First year of marriage was torture by staying with in laws. Later seperated and living in separate portion in same building. Our relationship is much better now.
Can you also share some advice (from your experience) as to what the beta/husband should do/not-do during this 1 year period?
Not let the mother run husband and wife relationship.
Whatsapps and calls throughout the day... God knows what she needs to deliver hourly...
@Arpan Madrecha i am happily married for the past 16 years. I was pointing on "let go" mother's impositions is extremely important to improvise her own child's life who is now an "independent man."(generally)
Not let the mil interfere by quoting her examples " humne to kabhi jawab Nahi diye,humne to kabhi aisa nahi Kiya,humne to bohot Saha humne vo humne ye etc etc a d expect same from the dil
बढ़िया vdo. मैने अपने बेटे को ठीक इसी तरह सेट किया था। शादी के दिन को ही बहू नए घर में विदा हो कर पहुंची। हम मां बाप पांच किलोमीटर दूर अपने मकान में सुखपूर्वक रहते हैं। बच्चे भी खुश हम ज्यादा खुश।
Nicely said.. I couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you for making such nice videos. Your advice can save many families. 🙏
aaj ki sachai batai hai aapne , kaash sabke ghar me aapke jaisa koi guide ho
Sir you are very very practical and excellent. Bitter but truth is always sour 🙏🙏🙏
Right advice
Awesome video sir. Please make practical videos for boys who want to become successful man. There is no practical guide for manhood, How we should think, work, maintain various relationships.....?
What a video sir amazing, we need more people like you in our society,
You are Doing great job sir keep up... 👍🏻
Your video is very good. All points covered are very practical 👌
By the way, I am not married yet. But one thing I will tell you. Anything from one week to a month should be enough time for one or both parties to determine whether they should stay together. “You may decide halfway through the agreed upon time that you want to be with that person, but you should respect the time frame. Take care all
In that case 99.9% won't stay together trust me. It's adjustment after a while
Aapki bat bahut sahi he. Log nhi samjhenge per jo bhuktbhogi hen vo samajh jayenge ki aap ki is bat me bahut si bato ka hal chhupa he.
What you're doing is Great just keep these types of series going on.. It will help alot of people
Right sir. I agreed on your point of you. In most of the families it can be follow up, where both sasu & sasur are alive.
But it's not feasible for those families in which unfortunately only mother in law is alive.
Where there is only one mother is left alone at home in terms of adopting this advise, really not understood.
I hope to get response on my comment. Will be waiting 😊
You are 💯 percent right sir.
अच्छा नही बहोत अच्छा है। इन बातों पे कोई चर्चा नहीं करता जो आपने समझाई है। एकदम सही बात कही है आपने।
U r amazing..i love the topic, very new concept and really good advice. And i love the way u speak, so entertaining u r.
Yeh video toh mujhe meri aur mere doston ki kahani si lag rhi hai....amazing video. This video should be watched by each and every parent. They push their kids away
To the point and very practical . Plot nahi hai 😂 epic
Achcha video tha gyanvardhak mujhe apne bacchon ke sath Aisa hi karna chahie
Very pragmatic video. No-one can explain better than you
Bahut acha laga..aap parents counsellor ho jao sir ..my first year of marriage was terrible and I would say because of my MIL interference and still it's same.
The way u explained everything is the best 🤣🤣🤣🤣 can't stop laughing 😂😂😂😂😂
Awesome!! Seems very logical . . . And actually works. . . Ur delivery is awesome too !! U rock uncleji
Sara base hila diya .. best dialog
😂 super duper hit boss. Very ground reality explained in clear terms... Jappa! Correct. Very honest sir. ❤❤
Sir I have a question, why marriage is so important in our society?
To ruin our lives
Dum hai sir aapki baatoo mee..... Thanku so much.... Me bhi issi situation se deal kar raha huuu
Great suggestion👌👌
True story. I have gone through same thing. Kash aap ka ye video mai shadi se pehle dekh leta. I really admire your experience and understanding sir.
You just told me and my mother -in-law's story 😂. Each and every situation was true.
well said sir...hope people see this and understand...