I can resonate with it Denis. I keep thinking I am actually a horrible person who screwed everything up and no one wants to be my friends. Then I realised at some point in time that I wasn’t a terrible person, I was smeared by the narcissists. So if many people think that I am a horrible person, then I may be without knowing it. I was so confused because I don’t know if my thinking about the reality is correct, am I right or are they right? Sorry I don’t know.
Thank you Danish for your comforting words. You can see pain, fear, compassion and empathy in the victims and a cool , rigid, self -righteous, arrogant attitude in the narcisist. The energy of the narcisist is off, it’s disturbing and confusing and blaming and accusatory and disdainful, none of which is present in the victims. Narcisists are haughty even when playing the victim.
Hi Danish...."they do not sit in their own shit..." Hallmark of the Narcissist....they do not reflect on the damages they cause to people and other living things. Their alternate "reality" is a space where they are a perfect and do not have to be accountable to anyone. Thank you for explaining their tactics in depth! ❤
Narcissist do play victim and believe at times they are the victim. Narcissist are vindictive and they hurt and seek to destroy their targets. They are only happy when they are in control. Defending myself was playing into their game. Thanks to all I have learned about narcissist I don't feel guilty anymore. I am exhausted and now only seek to have peace with myself and better my health.
"Defending myself was playing into their game". That's profound! The N in my life pushes all my buttons until I react emotionally. Also, the N feigns ignorance so that I have to explain until I'm blue in the face, again! It's maddening. It's just to waste my time giving attention to them. I no longer take the bait.
@@SoundsBogus I sure as shit did last night like a fool that knew better and just like you I have to explain myself til I'm blue in the face while he plays stupid. It got so bad in fact that when I tried to walk into MY house he slammed the door and it hit me in the face. Then held the door shut and wouldn't let me come in for a tissue to soak up the blood. And for what..... why..... guess whomever he'd been texting finally got bored talking to him so he come outside where I'd been for the last couple of hours minding my business and started in on me. I've never went thru crazier crap in my life. I've never felt so stupid, low and broken. Confused or frustrated. Baffled and mind blown.
@@Jessica-J.ones. sorry you had to go through this. The confusion and hurt is exactly how a narcissist can control the relationship, the more I reacted the happier he seemed, now I try to stay calm and not engage because I can't win, I am not dealing with someone who cares about me and I will only feel empty after arguing and feel defeated and I don't have the energy anymore. I had to choose peace for myself because so many things trigger me and I will never get through to someone who is only happy when I am down it's a vicious cycle I am trying to control myself for my health and peace.
1 Corinthians 14:33 33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. James 3:16-18 16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. Narcs tap into the demonic, whether they know it or not. They love and must cause confusion, strife, contention, chaos, and destruction.
I still get chills and shake suddenly when i sleep coz of a narcissist wife. Thank god it ended very early. She ghosted again and i stopped chasing her. Life is much peacefull now
Thank you Danish for this video. My narc makes me doubt my reality all the time. I am always wrong in his eyes. This is all so sadd. It's top on my bucket list to walk out this estranged situationship. I owe it to myself. These people are demons. #RUN
I find your videos engrossing,as you lay out the characteristics of the narcissists and help us not only identify them and put identity to their behaviour but help us determine what the victims of these people are dealing with. You are coherent and intelligible. As a victim of 3 narcissistic family members growing up, I have slowly determined how their treatment and behaviour not only toxified my life but left me using their abusive language and behaviours with others. What a relief to clean up that act and remove these people from my life.
I have been dealing with this for years. After I ended relationships with Narcisists in my life they went berzerk. Identiti theft gangstalking harrassed every day, accounts phone hacked... insanity. These people build a business out of my abuse it's disgusting. They are disgusting and refuse to let people be for years..
Narcissist indeed make you feel like you are an horrible person in each conflict. You either make them happy all the time or they treat you like shit and later make you feel like you deserve it. Any negative reaction or behaviour you have, no matter the hurtful things they did to you is a confirmation in their head of how horrible you are and if you have a conscience you will easily believe them.
Thank you so much for spreading awareness. I never experienced panic attacks prior to this. After 20 years I left and suffer deeply. I've been in therapy for 8 years, but he took everything so I can't afford it anymore. Thank you for the free help and healing Bless you!
When I used to tell my family that I was good at my job or had a good day & the boss was proud of my work.. I got told I was bragging when infact I just wanted my family to be proud of me. I was constantly called a liar & invalidated. When I got intrusive thoughts because I was abused & used constantly for many years, I got told I was wrong or perverse in ways I've never been. I get told I'm a toddler or having a tantrum when im having panic attacks. I get told I'm lazy for being exhausted in every way. I have even been told I'm evil by a parent because I'm struggling to cope with a severe nervous breakdown. I feel like no one knows who I am or the good intentionsi have for the world. I've tried to commit suicide because of all of this, because no one understands, cares, believes or really listens. All of this has led me to question myself, am I the wrong one just for suffering & not knowing how to heal or am I living in a judgemental world full of hypocritical people who play me, to make me look bad, when I'm just trying stay alive. Who is the narcissist, who are the immature bullies who claim to be adults but play school ground games & why have I never had so much as an apology for all the wrong thing said about me. It makes me physically sick, & I'm the one asking for mental help..? Go figure..
This was a worry I had & I asked multiple people to validate if I was the cause of all the issues & they just told me the opposite.Now I understand how I got the worry at the first place.
I m not sure but my ex narc is a cancer man..while he was gaslighting me in the beginning i hv searched about compatibility between us nd horoscope of both of us thinkingthat i maybe the prblm in this realtionship like he said nd I hv been Brilliantly manipulated by the time.but i was also confused about his behaviors so i want to know his thoughts nd needs to make him happy nd secured..but now I know it's impossible to make him satisfied nd it costs my life nd even more.. ..all were jokes..now im taking medicine for ptsd even after completely treated my anxiety nd clinical depression caused by him years before..
@Cris-ky1mq with pisces i saw more that they have a lot of emotional turmoil and by that they not intentionally harm others but cancers are really self absorbed always they are more about protecting them self than other amd often they are narcissistic to a high level and they like to hurt people intentionally mostly cos they are into revenge
My brother is a narcissist and my parents are the enablers. I exposed him and he was isolated but now the tables have turned and family dynamics reversed. He has very poor job prospects so he will most probably just stay at home and I will have to endure his presence at least for the next 2 summer vacations (1 month now+ 4 months ) which is overwhelming and exhausting. How should I deal with this? I have maintained no-contact for a year. And his behavior has intensified. But how should I deal with my family once I become financially independent? Should I completely cut off contact with the whole extended family as well and find my own peace? My parents have always given more attention to my brother and have their decisions have always been in his favour. He peaked in high school and now he's a complete failure. Everything he says is a lie.
Exactly!!💯💯💯 Keep the faith in God, He will come to your rescue, and bring REAL PEOPLE into your life or call you home to be with Him!! Glory be to God forever!! 🙏🏻❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹
I actually feel like I am like a phycopath or something I contacted people I know and they are fighting with me over this ''no you aren't, stop putting things on yourself''
Since I am not in touch with my narcissistic ex husband all of symptoms of my allergies and diabetes and neuropathy have went away and I have lost 3 kg in a month effortlessly.
@Danish bhai, I am seriously abusing by my wife. Everything you told about a Narcissist are common to her. I can't divorce her only for the seek of my daughter's future. Can we connect each other to have your expert suggestions at least once in a month, please? I am from Dhaha, Bangladesh.
Why does it sound familiar… you know, when you make a mistake yourself, even if you know you are not a narcissist, you will still feel bad about yourself and deserving the abuse. Some questions cant be answered in this lifetime, some only by God after you face Him.
I have been separated from my abuser for 7 years and this still goes through my head (last night for example) ..l have my grown children who confirm that we were all abused!🫠🙃
It takes time. You can do this. Many of us have been right where you are. One day soon my love, you will wake up and feel content. That's a great place to be at.. You got this...
I'm sorry you are self-harming. Been there. It might be coming from a feeling of frustration. You can't erase the past but you can affect your own present and future. We hate what the narcissistic abuse has done to us but we don't have to hate ourselves. You're not the cause of their abuse nor are you to blame. As Danish points out in his videos, the narcissist has evil in their core. They're not normal. They're not us. Take care of yourself! You matter.💜
In the eyes of people they present themselfs as perfect father ,working all the time ,perfect husband who cares for all and gives all,loyal person withouth mistake and reality is worse than hell
The amount of damage narcissists cause is so detrimental and recovering from their abuse is painful. That's why it's so important to learn how to spot their toxic behaviour to avoid them, your sanity is priority. Thank you, Danish 🙏🏻💜
Was always in flight mode. I never was able to relax. My muscles just tensed up on their own. It took years and we’re talking 40 to finally understand what happened to me. I heard ringing in my ears and was always fatigued. I felt sick all the time. My body hurt all the time. I have been on my own for about 45 years but I still can’t watch some pictures on th that awakens an old memory.
Me to. All the same symptoms and when I would see a doctor they couldn't tell me what was wrong cause they didn't know the hell I lived in at home. Prayers for peace.
Ufff!!! Yes my husband took me a Pshyciatrist just to prove that i am the crazy one and how I have made his life a "living hell".... it is just disgusting to wat lengths these ppl can go to
The sociopath slandered me for years! and now he tries to get me evicted, locked up and tries sooo hard to keep proving this point that "I am insane" and he isn't. Lol ... such True explanations Danish
Something similar, here! Narcspouse had me convinced i was the weak link, causing all problems ever (48hrs of verbal abuse can be very convincing, eh?) & made the mistake of calling my Narcmom with the "I'm So Worried About Your Daughter" false-concern hoover. SHE cared enough only about herself to yell back to him, "How dare you call me!!" She hung up on him, and he was no longer convinced that absconding with our 8 or 9yr-old-@-the-time out of state to his parent's in NJ (and leaving me home) was such a stellar idea anymore! 😂 🤣 Ahh NarcFam, thanks so much... For nuthin'...🤣😭
@@b8akaratn sounds all too familiar. My narc mom told my narc guy I was selfish when we first got together and he has thrown it in my face any chance he deems fit. I would never tell him the vile things his own mother says about him because I do have love inside of me.
@@Jessica-J.ones. dang. i am 1yr out from my oppressors (Narcmom passed at the end of 2022, Narcspouse is married to me now only on paper, and has to stay away due to a No Contact order as of last June). i hope you are ...okay (as much as one can be) or planning a way to being free.
Right. I've only ever argued with my narcissistic sister, and my narcissistic mother. Out in "the real world" I didn't argue. I get along with people. I know exactly what you're saying. You're not alone.
Oh my God 😮 so ... this is true? I always wondered why people outside got along well with me and me with them but my family wants to convince me and others that I am the problem 😢😮
That is me. I have spent so much time looking for my monster within myself. Searching for the evil within. He has convinced people that I am mean, and the problem.
How pathetic these manipulators are! Making everyone else think that you're the problem when you most definitely aren't! Might be a good idea to hit "record" on your phone when he starts his BS. Then you'll have proof that his blinded minions can't refute! Of course for your own safety, you would want to be out of the relationship before sharing such proof with others.
You have explained my family situation. The 2 ppl who started the abuse ( mum & sis ) have told the family & friends that I am the perpetrator. They told ppl that I am the bully of them and they accused me of being guilty of being a narcissist. That adds to the pain of what they did. They know they are the abusers. No contact is helping me recover. Since I left, one other sibling has come forth and told me they are attacking her now. I wish she'd leave like I had to do. Thank You again Danish
It has been six years since he left. I hated him by the time he left but I keep coming back to these programs to reassure myself it wasn't me who screwed up. I take responsibility for making bad decisions but those decisions were made on deception and lies by someone else. It is crazy making.
Richard Grannon recently posted a video that feels like the missing piece of the puzzle. ua-cam.com/video/cANqJp_ZKW0/v-deo.html&si=PcyfveQLrrYTkr4b 💕🙏
Thank you for this 👍🏻 video I was in a relationship with a extreme dangerous covert narcissist. Gaslighting, flying monkeys and much more that I don't dare to tell here, still recovering on my own, professional help is better, but I don't dare take that step yet because it has all been so intense. I lived in fear for 3 years, suffered severe physical pain that suddenly arose and woke me up screaming from the pain. he took everything from me, I lost myself and lost my home. It would be nice if you could also talk about this with other victims, only the people who have experienced it understand you the most. Stay the fuck away from them they ruined you until there's nothing more left of you. I wish everyone Healing & especially Peace. Love
Omg yes! I had been feeling this for a while, then my sister slapped me (not literally) 😂 back to reality that I am not the problem but rather my husband is
You are the best spotter, scout and explainer with the best insight or wisdom. Yes, it is betrayal, but as well as huge unrighteousness how they treat you. 😢😢😢
hello Danish, really enjoy your content. I am in a situation where i created a business with a narc many years ago. I recently made the business very successful again and since it was a business with a this narc partner he is back in my life. I am already seeing the same things play out - i went through a lot of fear about working with him and decided i would educate myself and find a way to still do it. I am trying to decide if i should drop it all and walk away (and leave the success behind as well)
Oh, I hear you! My narc mother criticized me my whole life. Nothing I ever did was good enough for her. I couldn't please her, so I stopped trying. I dumped her from my life about 3 months ago and I feel such peace now.
Oh my god. I’m 66 and just asked myself this! Raised by 2 narcissists and married one and sadly realizing my 2 sisters are too. Grieving! And having to move myself away because so many love and trust me, yet not the narcissists. Wildly painful right now as I face the truth. Your video is amazingly reflective of how I feel. Thank you😍
Mine was that I lost total belief in humanity and that human beings exist .... shunned away from humanity..... I was so much surrounded by evil that when I went out of the house on rare occasions... I had an extremely strong urge to touch fellow beings passing by .... just to get a FEEL OF HUMAN NESS..... IF THAT IS A WORD ....to feel what it feels like being with human beings....i had to restrain myself forcefully......I was so deprived of human contact.....😢😢😢😢
I am sorry. I go through similar story here în Romania Europe for 12 years.. these Cluster B are more dangerous when they work in groups. I understand how you feel. These sociopaths and narcisists try to keep us from love from God from anything good. If they can't have or feel love you shouldn't have it either. F them truly 🎉
Being With these creatures For Long periods Destroys one in very many ways and requires Intense work on our healing. when we get out we almost feel broken and wasted. one word I don't like to hear is '' What Can you do ? be cause it keeps ringing in my head whenever I am stuck in life and try to get growing and uplift myself . I rember how they used to ask in a sarcastic way together with his new Supply '' what can you do for yourself '' it's bad
Betrayal Trauma After Narcissistic Abuse:
www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/livevent
I can resonate with it Denis. I keep thinking I am actually a horrible person who screwed everything up and no one wants to be my friends. Then I realised at some point in time that I wasn’t a terrible person, I was smeared by the narcissists. So if many people think that I am a horrible person, then I may be without knowing it. I was so confused because I don’t know if my thinking about the reality is correct, am I right or are they right? Sorry I don’t know.
Yes even I am in the same confusion
Thank you Danish for your comforting words. You can see pain, fear, compassion and empathy in the victims and a cool , rigid, self -righteous, arrogant attitude in the narcisist. The energy of the narcisist is off, it’s disturbing and confusing and blaming and accusatory and disdainful, none of which is present in the victims. Narcisists are haughty even when playing the victim.
Hi Danish...."they do not sit in their own shit..." Hallmark of the Narcissist....they do not reflect on the damages they cause to people and other living things. Their alternate "reality" is a space where they are a perfect and do not have to be accountable to anyone. Thank you for explaining their tactics in depth! ❤
Yes, it's very helpful when he explains a narcissist so clearly.
Narcissist do play victim and believe at times they are the victim. Narcissist are vindictive and they hurt and seek to destroy their targets. They are only happy when they are in control. Defending myself was playing into their game. Thanks to all I have learned about narcissist I don't feel guilty anymore. I am exhausted and now only seek to have peace with myself and better my health.
That's it. I'm with you.
"Defending myself was playing into their game". That's profound! The N in my life pushes all my buttons until I react emotionally. Also, the N feigns ignorance so that I have to explain until I'm blue in the face, again! It's maddening. It's just to waste my time giving attention to them. I no longer take the bait.
@@SoundsBogus I sure as shit did last night like a fool that knew better and just like you I have to explain myself til I'm blue in the face while he plays stupid. It got so bad in fact that when I tried to walk into MY house he slammed the door and it hit me in the face. Then held the door shut and wouldn't let me come in for a tissue to soak up the blood. And for what..... why..... guess whomever he'd been texting finally got bored talking to him so he come outside where I'd been for the last couple of hours minding my business and started in on me. I've never went thru crazier crap in my life. I've never felt so stupid, low and broken. Confused or frustrated. Baffled and mind blown.
@@Jessica-J.ones. It's maddening. I now practice Stoicism, the pinnacle of indifference. My Default face says it all -- No Fs left to give. 😆
@@Jessica-J.ones. sorry you had to go through this. The confusion and hurt is exactly how a narcissist can control the relationship, the more I reacted the happier he seemed, now I try to stay calm and not engage because I can't win, I am not dealing with someone who cares about me and I will only feel empty after arguing and feel defeated and I don't have the energy anymore. I had to choose peace for myself because so many things trigger me and I will never get through to someone who is only happy when I am down it's a vicious cycle I am trying to control myself for my health and peace.
1 Corinthians 14:33
33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
James 3:16-18
16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.
17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
Narcs tap into the demonic, whether they know it or not. They love and must cause confusion, strife, contention, chaos, and destruction.
Perfect scriptures! Thank you for sharing. These really reveal what the narcissist is and isn't.
I still get chills and shake suddenly when i sleep coz of a narcissist wife. Thank god it ended very early. She ghosted again and i stopped chasing her. Life is much peacefull now
Thank you Danish for this video. My narc makes me doubt my reality all the time. I am always wrong in his eyes. This is all so sadd. It's top on my bucket list to walk out this estranged situationship. I owe it to myself. These people are demons. #RUN
That's a very pertinent point: Narcissists do Not Sit With Themselves! Thank you, Danish! 🙏
Much worse is being gaslight by society
Yeah all their coworkers and entire family and friend group think it's you. Even the clerk at the grocery store.
nice 👌 your spot on
Of the MANY narcissist youtube channels I have watched over the years; I conclude yours is the best.
I find your videos engrossing,as you lay out the characteristics of the narcissists and help us not only identify them and put identity to their behaviour but help us determine what the victims of these people are dealing with. You are coherent and intelligible. As a victim of 3 narcissistic family members growing up, I have slowly determined how their treatment and behaviour not only toxified my life but left me using their abusive language and behaviours with others. What a relief to clean up that act and remove these people from my life.
Tysm Danish. I adore you and your plight to aid survivors everywhere
I have been dealing with this for years. After I ended relationships with Narcisists in my life they went berzerk. Identiti theft gangstalking harrassed every day, accounts phone hacked... insanity. These people build a business out of my abuse it's disgusting. They are disgusting and refuse to let people be for years..
This!
Oh my Gosh, I have exactly these thoughts torturing me. Thank you Danish.
Narcissist indeed make you feel like you are an horrible person in each conflict. You either make them happy all the time or they treat you like shit and later make you feel like you deserve it. Any negative reaction or behaviour you have, no matter the hurtful things they did to you is a confirmation in their head of how horrible you are and if you have a conscience you will easily believe them.
Thank you so much for spreading awareness. I never experienced panic attacks prior to this. After 20 years I left and suffer deeply. I've been in therapy for 8 years, but he took everything so I can't afford it anymore. Thank you for the free help and healing
Bless you!
When I used to tell my family that I was good at my job or had a good day & the boss was proud of my work.. I got told I was bragging when infact I just wanted my family to be proud of me. I was constantly called a liar & invalidated. When I got intrusive thoughts because I was abused & used constantly for many years, I got told I was wrong or perverse in ways I've never been. I get told I'm a toddler or having a tantrum when im having panic attacks. I get told I'm lazy for being exhausted in every way. I have even been told I'm evil by a parent because I'm struggling to cope with a severe nervous breakdown. I feel like no one knows who I am or the good intentionsi have for the world. I've tried to commit suicide because of all of this, because no one understands, cares, believes or really listens. All of this has led me to question myself, am I the wrong one just for suffering & not knowing how to heal or am I living in a judgemental world full of hypocritical people who play me, to make me look bad, when I'm just trying stay alive. Who is the narcissist, who are the immature bullies who claim to be adults but play school ground games & why have I never had so much as an apology for all the wrong thing said about me. It makes me physically sick, & I'm the one asking for mental help..? Go figure..
Exactly resonates with the narcissistic ecosystem targeting me now more than 20 years.
You have an uncanny ability to put out just the video I need to hear
This was a worry I had & I asked multiple people to validate if I was the cause of all the issues & they just told me the opposite.Now I understand how I got the worry at the first place.
This is total truth.
Thank you so much!! May God bless you always 🙏🏻
OMG....sorry of my brain in the last two weeks 😂!! #sad....gotta shake it off... appropriate the video ❤️
Thank you.
I have a toxic environment at both home and hostel.
Just a funny side note,did anybody note that cancer men are particularly often narcs or at least toxic???
I m not sure but my ex narc is a cancer man..while he was gaslighting me in the beginning i hv searched about compatibility between us nd horoscope of both of us thinkingthat i maybe the prblm in this realtionship like he said nd I hv been Brilliantly manipulated by the time.but i was also confused about his behaviors so i want to know his thoughts nd needs to make him happy nd secured..but now I know it's impossible to make him satisfied nd it costs my life nd even more.. ..all were jokes..now im taking medicine for ptsd even after completely treated my anxiety nd clinical depression caused by him years before..
@Cris-ky1mq with pisces i saw more that they have a lot of emotional turmoil and by that they not intentionally harm others but cancers are really self absorbed always they are more about protecting them self than other amd often they are narcissistic to a high level and they like to hurt people intentionally mostly cos they are into revenge
Helpful insight!
Everything that you said is true
My brother is a narcissist and my parents are the enablers. I exposed him and he was isolated but now the tables have turned and family dynamics reversed. He has very poor job prospects so he will most probably just stay at home and I will have to endure his presence at least for the next 2 summer vacations (1 month now+ 4 months ) which is overwhelming and exhausting. How should I deal with this? I have maintained no-contact for a year. And his behavior has intensified. But how should I deal with my family once I become financially independent? Should I completely cut off contact with the whole extended family as well and find my own peace? My parents have always given more attention to my brother and have their decisions have always been in his favour. He peaked in high school and now he's a complete failure. Everything he says is a lie.
Exactly!!💯💯💯
Keep the faith in God, He will come to your rescue, and bring REAL PEOPLE into your life or call you home to be with Him!!
Glory be to God forever!!
🙏🏻❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹
I actually feel like I am like a phycopath or something I contacted people I know and they are fighting with me over this ''no you aren't, stop putting things on yourself''
lol. You dont trust yourself at all and think your lying to yourslef its crazy 😅
Yes! So crazy!!
This was enlightening, however, now what do I do?
Thank you. Thank you.
Since I am not in touch with my narcissistic ex husband all of symptoms of my allergies and diabetes and neuropathy have went away and I have lost 3 kg in a month effortlessly.
Done this 😊
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Dissociative identity disorder fits with what you describe. That's what I (we) believe we have.
@Danish bhai, I am seriously abusing by my wife. Everything you told about a Narcissist are common to her. I can't divorce her only for the seek of my daughter's future. Can we connect each other to have your expert suggestions at least once in a month, please?
I am from Dhaha, Bangladesh.
I was recently called a narcissist and I am questioning myself that I might be
Make video also in hindi language
Why does it sound familiar… you know, when you make a mistake yourself, even if you know you are not a narcissist, you will still feel bad about yourself and deserving the abuse. Some questions cant be answered in this lifetime, some only by God after you face Him.
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I have been separated from my abuser for 7 years and this still goes through my head (last night for example) ..l have my grown children who confirm that we were all abused!🫠🙃
...wow this is one of the biggest things I still struggle with... thank you.
My self harm has increased dramatically. I can't get over the feeling that I'm the bad person. They really mess us up. Pure evil
Thank you for sharing - I'm so scared - you are not alone - it wasn't you - took me a very long time to get my head round it ❤
It takes time. You can do this. Many of us have been right where you are. One day soon my love, you will wake up and feel content. That's a great place to be at..
You got this...
Me too ... I gained too much weight frequently... Due to emotional overeating...for numbing my pain.... little controlled now.....
Bless you so did my mother - not you - it does get easier ❤
I'm sorry you are self-harming. Been there. It might be coming from a feeling of frustration. You can't erase the past but you can affect your own present and future. We hate what the narcissistic abuse has done to us but we don't have to hate ourselves. You're not the cause of their abuse nor are you to blame. As Danish points out in his videos, the narcissist has evil in their core. They're not normal. They're not us.
Take care of yourself! You matter.💜
In the eyes of people they present themselfs as perfect father ,working all the time ,perfect husband who cares for all and gives all,loyal person withouth mistake and reality is worse than hell
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The amount of damage narcissists cause is so detrimental and recovering from their abuse is painful. That's why it's so important to learn how to spot their toxic behaviour to avoid them, your sanity is priority. Thank you, Danish 🙏🏻💜
Was always in flight mode. I never was able to relax. My muscles just tensed up on their own. It took years and we’re talking 40 to finally understand what happened to me. I heard ringing in my ears and was always fatigued. I felt sick all the time. My body hurt all the time. I have been on my own for about 45 years but I still can’t watch some pictures on th that awakens an old memory.
Sounds so familiar…
Me to. All the same symptoms and when I would see a doctor they couldn't tell me what was wrong cause they didn't know the hell I lived in at home. Prayers for peace.
Ufff!!! Yes my husband took me a Pshyciatrist just to prove that i am the crazy one and how I have made his life a "living hell".... it is just disgusting to wat lengths these ppl can go to
The sociopath slandered me for years! and now he tries to get me evicted, locked up and tries sooo hard to keep proving this point that "I am insane" and he isn't. Lol ... such True explanations Danish
When i was young my father took me into psych tests all the time. Back fired on him each and every time when the results came back normal 😂
He tried to convince me I was the problem. He had DARVO fine tuned so nope, wasn't me
Something similar, here! Narcspouse had me convinced i was the weak link, causing all problems ever (48hrs of verbal abuse can be very convincing, eh?) & made the mistake of calling my Narcmom with the "I'm So Worried About Your Daughter" false-concern hoover. SHE cared enough only about herself to yell back to him, "How dare you call me!!" She hung up on him, and he was no longer convinced that absconding with our 8 or 9yr-old-@-the-time out of state to his parent's in NJ (and leaving me home) was such a stellar idea anymore! 😂 🤣 Ahh NarcFam, thanks so much... For nuthin'...🤣😭
@@b8akaratn sounds all too familiar. My narc mom told my narc guy I was selfish when we first got together and he has thrown it in my face any chance he deems fit. I would never tell him the vile things his own mother says about him because I do have love inside of me.
@@Jessica-J.ones. dang. i am 1yr out from my oppressors (Narcmom passed at the end of 2022, Narcspouse is married to me now only on paper, and has to stay away due to a No Contact order as of last June). i hope you are ...okay (as much as one can be) or planning a way to being free.
My family tried to convince me I was abusive but I never ended up in a fight with anyone, after leaving them.
Right. I've only ever argued with my narcissistic sister, and my narcissistic mother. Out in "the real world" I didn't argue. I get along with people.
I know exactly what you're saying.
You're not alone.
Funny how that works lol😂
Oh my stars! I’m sorry!
Same story here. Once i left the situation, outside people had a very different view of me
Oh my God 😮 so ... this is true? I always wondered why people outside got along well with me and me with them but my family wants to convince me and others that I am the problem 😢😮
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That is me. I have spent so much time looking for my monster within myself. Searching for the evil within. He has convinced people that I am mean, and the problem.
How pathetic these manipulators are! Making everyone else think that you're the problem when you most definitely aren't! Might be a good idea to hit "record" on your phone when he starts his BS. Then you'll have proof that his blinded minions can't refute! Of course for your own safety, you would want to be out of the relationship before sharing such proof with others.
You have explained my family situation. The 2 ppl who started the abuse ( mum & sis ) have told the family & friends that I am the perpetrator. They told ppl that I am the bully of them and they accused me of being guilty of being a narcissist. That adds to the pain of what they did. They know they are the abusers. No contact is helping me recover. Since I left, one other sibling has come forth and told me they are attacking her now. I wish she'd leave like I had to do. Thank You again Danish
Thank you so much..💜🙏
It has been six years since he left. I hated him by the time he left but I keep coming back to these programs to reassure myself it wasn't me who screwed up. I take responsibility for making bad decisions but those decisions were made on deception and lies by someone else. It is crazy making.
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Thank you for this 👍🏻 video
I was in a relationship with a extreme dangerous covert narcissist.
Gaslighting, flying monkeys and much more that I don't dare to tell here, still recovering on my own, professional help is better, but I don't dare take that step yet because it has all been so intense.
I lived in fear for 3 years, suffered severe physical pain that suddenly arose and woke me up screaming from the pain.
he took everything from me, I lost myself and lost my home.
It would be nice if you could also talk about this with other victims, only the people who have experienced it understand you the most.
Stay the fuck away from them they ruined you until there's nothing more left of you.
I wish everyone Healing & especially Peace. Love
Really dislike how accurate this is. You stole my inner monolog. Quit it. 😅🥴
Thank you!😘🤗
Omg yes! I had been feeling this for a while, then my sister slapped me (not literally) 😂 back to reality that I am not the problem but rather my husband is
This is exactly what I am going through due to a narcissistic abuse and this trauma causing so much anxiety to me.
well, that settles that. thank you, sir.
You are the best spotter, scout and explainer with the best insight or wisdom.
Yes, it is betrayal, but as well as huge unrighteousness how they treat you. 😢😢😢
hello Danish, really enjoy your content. I am in a situation where i created a business with a narc many years ago. I recently made the business very successful again and since it was a business with a this narc partner he is back in my life. I am already seeing the same things play out - i went through a lot of fear about working with him and decided i would educate myself and find a way to still do it. I am trying to decide if i should drop it all and walk away (and leave the success behind as well)
I welcome anyones answer. Can someone ever really rise above and be able to deal with a narcissist?
Mine said - I'm a nice guy!
Good thing you know WAY better than that!
My narc mom. she used to condemn me in front of other bro and sis.
Oh, I hear you! My narc mother criticized me my whole life. Nothing I ever did was good enough for her. I couldn't please her, so I stopped trying. I dumped her from my life about 3 months ago and I feel such peace now.
😢Thank you.
Oh my god. I’m 66 and just asked myself this! Raised by 2 narcissists and married one and sadly realizing my 2 sisters are too. Grieving! And having to move myself away because so many love and trust me, yet not the narcissists. Wildly painful right now as I face the truth. Your video is amazingly reflective of how I feel. Thank you😍
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Prove to you why you ARE a narcissist even if you feel you are one? Is that a typo?
Mine was that I lost total belief in humanity and that human beings exist .... shunned away from humanity..... I was so much surrounded by evil that when I went out of the house on rare occasions... I had an extremely strong urge to touch fellow beings passing by .... just to get a FEEL OF HUMAN NESS..... IF THAT IS A WORD ....to feel what it feels like being with human beings....i had to restrain myself forcefully......I was so deprived of human contact.....😢😢😢😢
I am sorry. I go through similar story here în Romania Europe for 12 years.. these Cluster B are more dangerous when they work in groups. I understand how you feel. These sociopaths and narcisists try to keep us from love from God from anything good. If they can't have or feel love you shouldn't have it either. F them truly 🎉
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"......why you're NOT a narcissist......." @ 1:36
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Great info. as always, Danish!!!!!!!! 😊
It was weird to see a false front of sadness. "Solutions" that did not address the actual problems.
Being With these creatures For Long periods Destroys one in very many ways and requires Intense work on our healing. when we get out we almost feel broken and wasted. one word I don't like to hear is '' What Can you do ? be cause it keeps ringing in my head whenever I am stuck in life and try to get growing and uplift myself . I rember how they used to ask in a sarcastic way together with his new Supply '' what can you do for yourself '' it's bad