As a pansexual with a messed up spine, it is extremely funny to hear "skoliosexual" and think about being sexually attracted to people with scholiosis lol
Yeah, that's another part of why I always have to kind squint went I see that term. ^^; (The others being issues with stereotyping, invalidating, and kinda fetishizing trans folks.)
If you ever manage to get one please remember the following: - don't wear a binder if its been over 8-12hrs - take breaks when wearing a binder - never do any physical activity with a binder - never sleep in an binder - try not to immediately put it on when you get out of a shower, since it'll make it more difficult for you to put it on - always measure your chest size, to know which binder is the right one for you. Also try to find one wear they have great reviews and such! - never try and get a binder in a smaller size, you could possibly damage your lungs or your breathing in take ( hope this helped!!)
@@raindog3075 All I'm saying is that you shouldn't claim your transphobia is the same as wanting equitable treatment between all genders. Also they clearly wanted the binder, which is different from someone forcing them to wear one like with your corset comparison.
@@raindog3075 You're right, I don't disagree. Binding has its risks if done improperly, gender is a social construct, and misogyny is a real problem, even today. However, I find it interesting that you're taking someone choosing to bind, and comparing it to women being shamed for their bodies and being forced to correct them, as you put it. Edit: One thing I missed is that while you say they're being forced to choose binding because of misogyny, I don't see any reason to think they're being told to do anything one way or the other, aside from some advice on how to bind safely if they really want to do it.
The Ally definition he used includes Queer Allys as well. An Ally isn’t a non-LGBTQ person, it’s just any advocate for the community. Also, Hi! I’m an AroAce female who uses she/her pronouns.
@@ninaxoxo8518 Parents be like noOoOOo lbgtq+ education gonna turn our kids gaE. Bruh ive been surrounded by so much straight media and im still hopelessly bi
It's so heartwarming to see the differenciation between good terms, bad terms, good words but bad actions & context terms... when began to do my research, I hardly found any differenciation & I think this is such an important thing to know
as an a-romantic it's good to hear that you've mentioned the phobia directed towards us, would love to see a video expanding on this topic if possible. I've encountered a lot of discrimination because of this. it's also worth mentioning that tucking is not exclusive to the LGB community, I had to do this a lot as both a teenager and an adult.
@@swampfae8309 It's possible. The example you used fits with the definition of "contextual term" that I found. It can definitely change the implications of the term given the context of the conversation, which can be both good or bad.
Something that I, a trans woman just want to point out is the word tr*nn* is can be used as a compliment or description from one trans person to another in a jokingly or serious fashion, however I agree, cis people shouldn’t say it
The term Enby is not something that all non-binary people use, but for the context of the video I understand why it is on the good list. Hi, I am a Trans Non-binary genderfluid AroAce person (they/them/he)
I saw yesterday outside a Lesbian Non-Binary dating a Polyamorous Bisexual Genderfluid Girl in a Restaurant and i was exciting cause it was my First Time i saw a Non-Bonary and Genderfluid outside besides on Internet and i told my Brother He says "Cool" and said He wasn't only Gay but Gay Genderfluid and i didn't knew he we're one and i said "You are so Valid" proudly.
One thing I wanna bring up is the hate specifically to demiromantic and demisexual people saying they aren't valid, that they're just the norm and that they never needed to be given a special title since they aren't a minority. I've seen a lot of this in videos mentioning the identity and not many fight against it due to it being less common to see spread around but rather lots of it in small places. As someone who supports this identity and identifies as demiromantic it's pretty sad to see.
I've somehow managed to avoid seeing anyone actually seriously make that claim about demi orientations just being "the norm" or anything, but I've definitely heard about plenty instances secondhand. I admit that I'd actually be surprised if there weren't any people IDing as demi who actually did fall within some sort of undefined "standard" range, but those individuals will be the only ones who can actually determine that and the only ones the slightest bit affected by it, and there definitely IS something there. One of the callouts/counters I've seen puts demi side-by-side with fray; functionally opposite ways of experiencing attraction. Both get accused of being "just the norm," but that is logically inconsistent. If you're not familiar with those already, should be able to look up some relevant memes easy enough to throw out when you see people making those kinds of bs arguments.
well I'm demiromantic demibisexual and before I understanding my sexuality, people be like: "you're normal you don't need to label yourself, just say you are bi" no they don't understand why I have to get an emotional connection before feeling sexual/romantic attraction
I'm demisexual myself (just figured this out a week ago and only out to 2 supportive peeps) but I bet I'll experience this at one point or another... sigh.
Something to add to MAAB and FAAB (Male/Female assigned at Birth) As far as I have seen, AMAB and AFAB is more common (Assigned ----- At Birth) No difference in meaning, I just found it a bit more common, and good to shout out
My family doesn’t know I’m pansexual but in all seriousness it’s not that I’m worried that they’ll disown me for being pan it’s comes from a lack of understanding of pansexuality
okay. here's my advice this is advice i gave someone who wanted to tell their super catholic mom they were lesbian. have a friend or family member you can stay with be with you so things won't go ugly when you tell them. have a bag packed of clothes and stuff you might need in case you need to flee a hostile environment. sit down with your parents and tell them you're pansexual. explain your sexuality like you would to an 8th grade health class. use terms they are familiar with while teaching them new terms. give them an choice love you for who you are or you walk out that day with that family member/friend and only contact you when they're ready to accept you. now i should admit that this advice was given to someone in their early 20's who had a gay uncle they could crash with but... my advice did help. she went to go stay with her uncle for a few weeks and she got a phone call telling to come home she did and her mom embraced telling her she loved her for who she was. i don't know your situation but i know that sometimes you have to blunt with people. this advice applys for everyone and anyone who is reading this right now.
I don't know how widely used it is (I could have made it myself for all I know) but I have an alternative to 'partner' and that is 'snugglefriend', basically a snugglefriend is someone with a close and intimate relationship with someone else but without the societal image of a boyfriend/girlfriend or to a less extent partner (an image which often has a sexual dimension). It's a bit different for me as my natural answer to the question 'do you have a partner?' is 'no, I'm self-employed', which might go into explaining how I find partner to be a more business like term which feels out of place in a relationship setting, since while going into business to make a profit is fine having a relationship on that basis feels wrong, like the relationship is more akin to a stock option, something to be jettisoned when its no longer profitable. Love the show by the way.
@@miligrammade Fair enough, I just wondered about a gender neutral way of expressing this relationship while keeping some more warm and intimate feeling, partner just felt too cold and business like.
@@edspace. Joyfriend is a term growing in popularity. It's a term like gf/bf but fr non-binaries. Not sure how often it's used, but you could give it a shot. I also agree with partner sounding too out of place, and perfessional.
@@yanar123 I definitely like the term, especially given that this (at least in my mind) can be broader too, as it can even include someone you are married to, especially as I believe marriage isn't a single day but a life long celebration of the joy of the life and love two people share for each other. Come to think of it I remember reading about the term Joyfriend as a common term for the closest companion back in the medieval era (boy and girl meant different things in the middle ages and were not firmly affixed to biological sex until around 1600, they were more used to describe temperaments in the middle ages, a boy would describe someone who was loud and outgoing and rambunctious (there's even a remnants of this in the root of the word boisterous) and girl was more for a calm, meek and emotional temperament with children being gendered much later than we do today (although given that might be at birth or in the womb its not much of a contest) and while biological sex would be noted it was normally not til puberty that a medieval person would receive their gender role (although there was some degree of flexibility (as there was still the medieval world of 'Those who work', 'Those who fight' and 'Those who Pray') and peasants would farm the land no matter what)). Sorry for the ramble, but still nice that Joyfriend is making a comeback.
@@edspace. Haha, no need to apologize, it's nice to learn something new. It's quite interesting how the meaning has evolved, I'd only found out about it recently. I really like and agree with what you said about marriage. Also, glad I could help.
I'm glad you put breeder in the red (I think last time you made a similar video it wasn't but I can be wrong). Either way, it belongs there because we shouldn't fight hate with hate.
When you say 'we shouldn't fight hate with hate' , does that include cussing out a homophobic/transphobic/racist person? Or protesting for equal rights? (I'm an ace cisgender who uses she/her pronouns; also I hope you have a great day/night!)
@@lauralott5303 such behavior should be called out and depending on the context,.anger and cussing out is at the very least understandable, but lowering our standards to their level doesn't help in achieving the overarching goal.
Even though so many queerphobic argument do, in fact, center super heavily around the ability to procreate (nevermind how there are plenty cishet people that also invalidates), I agree. I can understand someone using it while venting or potentially to call out someone making those sorts of arguments, but I don't like it. It bugs me in more ways and from more angles than I feel up to trying to elaborate on. It's just also among the things that I think warrants equity > equality on, in a way. If that makes sense.
Thanks so much for these videos. I’m so glad I can get the LGBTQ+ education I’ll probably never get in school. I also love that you added “do you listen to girl in red” that sorta made my day. This channel is the safe space we all need. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I really hope these videos not only help our lgbtqia+ people feel better about themselves but also helps educate people that need to be better educated on these topics. No matter what I hope everyone knows no matter what is going on at home. You have people that love you for who you are. You are valued, strong and valid in your thoughts, feelings, and being you is perfect.
I knew most of these terms because I'm pretty queer myself but I still learned some things :) Also very nice way of presenting the vocabulary with color coding and everything.
21:09 I'm not surprised that this is used by African American ppl as homophobia in the black community has been a huge issue since day 1. I'm a bi (possibly omni) Haitian-American girl who's also a Christian and my mom is homophobic. I came out to her in September of 2021 and she told me that I need to "pray" to get rid of my feelings. The two of us have fought about this subject twice and honestly, I just don't care anymore. I'm not going to fake the fact that I'm straight just so I can have an eternal life in heaven (if it even exists).
I've heard that the term "skoliosexual" regarding attraction to specifically trans people is seen as fetishization of trans people and shouldn't be used.
It's so nice to see people genuinely asking questions instead of chaneling their emotions in homophobia. (Also, lesophbia, transphobia and other discrimination)
Right after this episode aired, I wrote a physical LGBTQ dictionary with way more LGBTQ terms in it. It’s available at www.professorpride.com/product-page/lgbtq-dictionary. We have paperback and hard cover options available along with an option for me as the author to sign it for you. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️🌈, Professor Pride
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karen's. they don't want their cis gender little billy knowing that it's perfectly fine to be LGBTQIA+. they don't teach them this stuff so when they're older they're live life as a happy cis gendered straight person.
At my school (being the wonderfully homophobic place it is), I cannot count the amount of times I’ve been called a f*got by my classmates. And the thing is, they don’t even know what the term really means.
I'm one of those people who finds censorship stupid and will openly speak my mind and use any word in the English language that I want. But that one and the N word are the two words I always avoided. It's very weird considering that across the pond in jolly old England that word means cigarette. See how I'm avoiding using it? I don't even censor it that's how much I hate that word. Do what a friend of mine does when he's called that ask them if you look like a Harley rider to them? (That's a reference to south park BTW).
Chief, I gotta say: 1. I'm 57 and a gay male 2. Have had to lie about my sexual identity since I was 6 years old. 3. Came out to myself at 10 years old. 4. Few of my friends know the truth, the rest assume because of their ignorance. 5. Just a bit "light in the loafers", that's why I have been so discriminated against. 6. I've been trying to be heterosexual to fit in wherever I go-it has yet to work. I'm too "out there" to be undercover successfully. 7. Came out to one couple-they accepted it, yet, they had nothing to do with me since then(15 years ago ). 8. I'm too gay too be straight, and, too straight to be gay. I hate my life right now. 9. Thank-you so much for all these terms! Now I see why I don't fit in anywhere. My family-both biologic and church-have lied to and about me so bad, ruining my goals, dreams and aspirations that I struggle to keep going. I see no finish line, and, that sucks, bites, blows and chews! I'm glad I came across this list
ok so idk if u already talked about this at one point but here Neptunic or Nomascsexual is the attraction to women, feminine non-binary people, and neutral non-binary people. It can also be described as attraction to all people except men and/or man-aligned/masculine-aligned non-binary people. This orientation is mostly used by non-binary people to describe their attraction without relying on the gender binary but can be used by anyone. The term can be used as an identity on its own or combined with other orientations. i myself am not neptunic i just wanted to mention it ig
Is it possible to be a panromantic demisexual lesbian? I feel like that’s such a long label. But it fits best with what I feel. And using just lesbian doesn’t really fit since I can and have had romantic relationships with guys but I’ve never wanted to sleep with them. Then girls I can become sexually attracted to if I form a close relationship with them. -signed a very confused girl
@@novadust6195 No, demiboy is feeling part boy + part something else, while demigirl is feeling part girl + part something else. I know about it, I used to think I was a demiboy lol
I was barely told anything about the LGBTQ community when I was younger which to be honest, was good. I had no negative beliefs forced upon me, and now in my post-secondary years, I am learning with a completely open-mind. This community is so nice yet suffering so much from uneducated people who warp their own religions.
sorry but you lost me at the first word. allies, while necessary for the progression of the community, are not apart of the community. 'ally' is not a sexuality nor a gender identity.
Androgynous would have been a good one to include, and can be applied to either appearance or behavior. Androgyny is of course the category, but the adjective may be more useful in everyday conversation about a person. (This seems to be out of favor, but I'm not sure why. Maybe because we now have other, and possibly more precise, terminology, or because it was sometimes used derogatively in the past.)
"Femininity" is a hard word to say. XD And I greatly appreciate your consistent effort to recognize asexual folks, agender folks, and even aromatic folks. The rest I typed while viewing, so it might be a bit messy. "Enby" might be good to move to the "contextual" list. While most are fine with or even appreciate it, there are also many nonbinary folks who feel it sounds too childish and is infantilizing (especially since it seems to be common for nonbinary folks and transmasc folks to be treated kinda as children or even a beloved pet by others who usually mean well). It can also be an issue when spoken since it does indeed sound like "NB" which nonbinary communities are trying to move away from out of respect to people of color, who have long been using NB as "non-black" (as in NBPOC, describing any person of color who's not specifically a black person). So far, the best/safest shortening seems to be NBi, just to get that slight distinction in there. I haven't seen FAAB or MAAB much; I usually see AFAB and AMAB. I'm also merely aware of CAFAB and CAMAB, the C being for "Coercive," and that those versions are supposed to be reserved for Intersex folks. An extension to what you said about Sapphic: it's use usually implies both expressing oneself in feminine-leaning ways and especially attraction to femininity, such as with "Lipstick Lesbians." I've seen some reference to the men & masculine version of this being Achillean (though I can't recall seeing someone actually use that, and I'm not sure if it's supposed to be more "idealized" or more generalized compared to Bears). The nonbinary counterpart of these is supposed to be Diamoric (but things can start getting pretty complex around here). I've also heard the term "Bambi Lesbian" which seems to refer to a woman/femme-aligned person who is either something like "bi-curious" or homoromantic asexual. Also kinda relating back to Sapphic, there are the terms Toric and Trixic, which respectively (and non-exclusively) refer to attraction to men/masc-aligned people and women/femme-aligned people. It's mostly associated with the experiences of nonbinary people whose attraction isn't as simple as homo/hetero (for those who aren't bi, pan, aroace, etc), but I have seen arguments that the terms can be used by people of any gender as a way to express their orientation without tying it to their gender. In that, they could *potentially* be less loaded versions of androsexual and gynosexual. Skoliosexual should maybe be in your "contexual" list. Some may use it to refer to androgynous attraction or something similar, but many take issue with the idea that there's any defining trait of nonbinary people to specify attraction to, and specifying attraction to trans folks is additionally seen as inherently invalidating toward binary trans folks. SAGA - Sexuality And Gender Alliance (some take issue with this one for being universally inclusive, including of cis and hetero folks) MOGAI - Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex (some take issue with this one for having phrasing that is inherently inclusive of cishet women; there are also intersex folks who dislike being "lumped in" with the queer community, especially since they are often reduced to being an example in arguments against transphobes) GSRM - Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities Since you mentioned tucking - packing is the opposite, using something to create the appearance of a crotch bulge and/or to be a male-typical phallus prosthesis to help a trans man or transmasc person feel more comfortable with their body, either instead of bottom surgery or until bottom surgery can be gotten. Most packers are solid silicone or a similar material and designed to emulate a flaccid state, but some are designed to have additional functions, most commonly just as an STP (Stand To Pee) device. Common alternative packers include soft cups (like sports cups, but not rigid) and DIY options like socks. Some additional "common" neopronouns are xe/xem (and many of the ones starting with z or x get those swapped a lot), per/pers (short for "person"), and thon (a contraction of "that one" and apparently a very old "neopronoun"). I've also seen ey/em, just they/them with the th chopped off. It might be worth include "it" in reference to a person in either your "bad" list or "contextual" list. Referring to a trans or nonbinary person as "it" is a common way to both refuse to use someone's correct pronouns and additionally dehumanize them. At the same time, there really *are* some nonbinary folks who favor "it" pronoun over any of the more common alternatives. "Queer" should be on the "contextual" list. While its reclamation has been fantastic, it still has contextual origins as a slur and there are still people who are deeply bothered by it. I already forgot if you included the word "neopronoun..." Microlabel - An extra-specific label usually used in the context of a greater identity label, though sometimes it is used because more general labels simply do not fit right. These labels do not often get used outside of relevant communities. For example, the more recognizable terms I might tell someone regarding my own gender are nonbinary, genderfluid, or genderqueer. If I'm sharing in spaces centered around those identities or in more general queer spaces that are openly inclusive of those identities, or if I'm explaining finer details of things, I may go on to specify that I'm "genderfluidflux" (and usually note disliking the awkwardness of the term), a label that specifies having an experience of gender that changes both in what the gender is (fluid) and in how intensely it's felt (flux), but that I wouldn't expect someone unfamiliar with certain terms and naming conventions to immediately understand. Another microlabel (that's more about "how" instead of "what") applicable to me is "gender hoarder," describing someone who finds *so many* labels to be relatable that it's basically outright a collection. (And yes, my gender experiences can be very strange and confusing and even self-invalidating at times, but I've personally mostly relaxed into generally describing it in ways like "amorphous cloud" or "ambiguous shrug." Or "dammit why can't I just be a shapeshifter?") A-spec - Identifying somewhere in the spectrum of asexuality, aromanticism, and/or agender; or a term referring to those identities and their associated labels. It's primarily used to be inclusive of those whose experiences deviate in some way from the primary definition - for example, to include gray-aces, who experience very limited/infrequent or highly contextual sexual attraction, in asexual spaces. It also gives more room to those questioning - like I'm not 100% sure whether I'm ace or grey-ace since I'm still not totally sure what actually is sexual attraction. I personally usually see it in the context of asexuality and aromanticism.
Adding to your statement on neopronouns: 'thon' is an archaeopronoun. It's basically how you defined it - an 'old neopronoun', only archaeopronoun is the correct term. Thanks for writing this, by the way!
I am currently questioning, previously lesbian. But from my last partner experience, I don’t think I have any sexual desire and my romantic desire is minimum. Idk how to know where I land on the attraction spectrum
It can be tricky to differentiate attraction and desire at times - but it's worth looking into "asexual" and "aromantic." Myself, I'm not entirely sure if I'm a "standard" ace or some variety of gray-ace, and I'm aroflux (my capacity to experience romantic attraction seems to vary up and down independently of circumstances). I seem to have a romantic preference towards those I perceive as men, though I have more and more reason to doubt that that is an exclusive preference; at the same time, I seem to have a (more clearly non-exclusive) aesthetic preference towards those I perceive to be women and towards androgyny. But sexually? Iunno, it's confusing, like I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm colorblind to just one specific color.
10:01 actually nowadays we mostly use Amab and afab. Instead of maaaaaaaaaaaaab and faaaaaaaaaaab, cuz it flows more easily in the mouth and we even pronounce it like if it was an actual word.
I have to say the term, "partner" used to not be so gender-neutral and back when LGBTQ was highly protested against, it was my understanding that LGBTQIA people used the term, "partner" because they weren't allowed to publicly say they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I understand in modern times it's a good use of the word but historically I think it was an oppressive term.
i would just like to say wrt the 39th "good" term, pgps, i think it's typically better to just say pronouns instead of preferred pronouns? the exception obviously being if the person in question uses more than one set of pronouns. for example, i use three sets of pronouns: my preferred/primary set, my auxiliary/secondary, and one set i'm experimenting with
The only time I use the bad T word is referring to a vehicle's transmission. That is the ONLY time I use it and I rarely do as it is a negative word towards trans people. Being genderfluid and married to a transman I see the harm this word causes.
I think adding more sections for asexual terms and the umbrella terms such as Demi and more complex forms of Ace orientated terms or kinds of terms. I wanted to ask does everyone agree to these existed terms? And it helps me understand the jargon and how it is used in real life, like the term Unicorn for straight couples and gay couples is interesting and a head scratcher. TLDR: PART 2 please and more parts after so we can understand what others may experience in real life.
12:14 Pro tip: Use They/them Pronouns for everyone, and I mean everyone so you don't get peoples pronouns wrong(ask them first tho because Xe/Xer and Ze/Zer)
@@caca-iq8wf Basically, in recent years there's been new sets of pronouns outside of he/him, she/her and they/them which are referred to as neopronouns (self explanatory name). It started out okay with xey/xem, ze/zir etc. But people are starting to make it go past that and some of them are a bit strange like people using emojis (e.g 🤖/🤖self). Either way, we welcome them as a new addition :D
mans really put "me" i- 3:34 edit: friendly reminder than straight women are also capable of domming men! as well as both men and women being switches in a straight relationship. (i get that this is an LGBTQ+ video but something rubbed me the wrong way about him saying "in a gay relationship")
I'd like to see some focused on aro, ace, and agender terminology. I feel like there is such a bumper crop of different words that would be very educational.
Im sorry, but this is a lot especially for a straight man. I appreciate the video since i used to be a hateful POS, but now im trying to better myself and not be such a piece of trash.
btw Femme is pronounced like "Fem" edit: Also I know that some people like to gatekeep enbies from trans circles, but the steadfast truth is that enby individuals are valid under the trans umbrella. Remember that the white stripe in the trans flag represents non-binary individuals. As described by the person who designed the flag. As for me (a binary trans woman), and the vast majority of the trans community (to my knowledge) any time we say "trans", we are including enby individuals. Sometimes, I will specify my inclusion of enby individuals if I think the situation calls for it, but when I say trans, I am *_always_* including non-binary individuals. Anyone who gatekeeps enbies from trans circles is not a representative of the trans community. You are *all* valid and you belong in trans circles just as much as any of us.
why is sexual preference bad? i understood it as you like a specific sexual organ (or other things) along with a sexual orientation. like if someone likes women but prefer vaginas or penises on them(?).
This channel has become so different for me after coming out a bisexual male Edit:does any other lgbtq+ people feel a weird sense of reward from coming out
A lot of people have a huge feeling of reward and like a weight has been lifted from them after coming out. If you watch our episode on what to prepare for after coming out, we mention that feeling a lot.
I think "pre-op" (#41) implies that the person does want surgery in the future. If they don't, it's more common to say "non-op". Also, I personally would have put "pillow princess" (#70) in the contextual section, as my own experience in queer and bdsm communities has only ever used it in a neutral or uplifting sense, not derogatory. Of course, I understand that my experience is not universal. For "femme" (#92), I've always heard it pronounced "fem".
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As a pansexual with a messed up spine, it is extremely funny to hear "skoliosexual" and think about being sexually attracted to people with scholiosis lol
Yeah, that's another part of why I always have to kind squint went I see that term. ^^; (The others being issues with stereotyping, invalidating, and kinda fetishizing trans folks.)
As a trans guy with scoliosis, I guess I'd fall under that attraction either way lol
lol no same except i’m omnisexual
"Binder: an undergarment used to reduce the appearance of one's breasts"
I NEED THIS
Just remember that, if you get one, to bind responsibly
If you ever manage to get one please remember the following:
- don't wear a binder if its been over 8-12hrs
- take breaks when wearing a binder
- never do any physical activity with a binder
- never sleep in an binder
- try not to immediately put it on when you get out of a shower, since it'll make it more difficult for you to put it on
- always measure your chest size, to know which binder is the right one for you. Also try to find one wear they have great reviews and such!
- never try and get a binder in a smaller size, you could possibly damage your lungs or your breathing in take
( hope this helped!!)
@@raindog3075 Found the T.E.R.F.
@@raindog3075 All I'm saying is that you shouldn't claim your transphobia is the same as wanting equitable treatment between all genders.
Also they clearly wanted the binder, which is different from someone forcing them to wear one like with your corset comparison.
@@raindog3075 You're right, I don't disagree. Binding has its risks if done improperly, gender is a social construct, and misogyny is a real problem, even today.
However, I find it interesting that you're taking someone choosing to bind, and comparing it to women being shamed for their bodies and being forced to correct them, as you put it.
Edit: One thing I missed is that while you say they're being forced to choose binding because of misogyny, I don't see any reason to think they're being told to do anything one way or the other, aside from some advice on how to bind safely if they really want to do it.
The Ally definition he used includes Queer Allys as well. An Ally isn’t a non-LGBTQ person, it’s just any advocate for the community.
Also, Hi! I’m an AroAce female who uses she/her pronouns.
I am a Demisexual gray romantic person who uses they/them
haha u said ur a female who uses she/her pronouns
do u get it
so ur a fesherale
bc male is male and in the female so don't be it but be the fesherale
I feel like I've learned more important things from this channel than in school
I mean, lgbtq+ education is very far behind
@@elrohirshouldercheaptrick9452 *very* behind
Yes!
@@ninaxoxo8518 Parents be like noOoOOo lbgtq+ education gonna turn our kids gaE. Bruh ive been surrounded by so much straight media and im still hopelessly bi
Well they don't wanna force Lgbtq+ on kids. They want kids to learn by themselves.
3:34 LMFAO I love how there’s a split second where it says “me” before it says “bottom” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's so heartwarming to see the differenciation between good terms, bad terms, good words but bad actions & context terms... when began to do my research, I hardly found any differenciation & I think this is such an important thing to know
Yeah
The acronym HRT always messes with my brain because I think of hostage rescue team lol.
Not mad. I confuse MLM which can stand for Men-loving-men or multi-level marketing.
Yeah, I can get MTF confused with mobile task force sometimes
Heh
@@yeehawfrog9423 yep, all of the time
FTNB ain't in here but I some how couldn't read it well so thought maybe it was some videogame.
as an a-romantic it's good to hear that you've mentioned the phobia directed towards us, would love to see a video expanding on this topic if possible. I've encountered a lot of discrimination because of this.
it's also worth mentioning that tucking is not exclusive to the LGB community, I had to do this a lot as both a teenager and an adult.
Oh I've heard of it. It's stupid af, you're valid!
I personally believe that "passing" is more of a contextual term but that's probably just me bein' picky
@@savedbyfaithnotbyworks some people may use it as a back-handed thing like a trans person isn't the gender they are unless they properly pass
@@swampfae8309 It's possible. The example you used fits with the definition of "contextual term" that I found. It can definitely change the implications of the term given the context of the conversation, which can be both good or bad.
@@swampfae8309 hmm
a little too picky
Something that I, a trans woman just want to point out is the word tr*nn* is can be used as a compliment or description from one trans person to another in a jokingly or serious fashion, however I agree, cis people shouldn’t say it
Yea, alot of oppressed groups use slurs with each other, but the oppressor/nonoppressed should never use slurs at the oppressed.
I'm glad someone cleared this up for me (cis)
Edit: genderfluid now lol
@@battleaxel I never understood jokes with oppressive words. I wish people didn't do that 🤷🏾
@@AceOfStars0the foreshadowing was INSANE
@@DepthPerceptionEnjoyer lol I'm not even gender fluid anymore. I think I realized I was nonbinary a few months after posting that
The term Enby is not something that all non-binary people use, but for the context of the video I understand why it is on the good list. Hi, I am a Trans Non-binary genderfluid AroAce person (they/them/he)
Hi, I am an agenderflux abrosexual . Also they/them/he.
:P
@@ChaosAbsurdity hello, I hope your having a good day/night :)
@@october3706 Aw thanks, likewise :)
Yo im a bi, enby (all pronouns :D)
@@beansocksrequiem99 oh my, that pfp is beautiful
I saw yesterday outside a Lesbian Non-Binary dating a Polyamorous Bisexual Genderfluid Girl in a Restaurant and i was exciting cause it was my First Time i saw a Non-Bonary and Genderfluid outside besides on Internet and i told my Brother He says "Cool" and said He wasn't only Gay but Gay Genderfluid and i didn't knew he we're one and i said "You are so Valid" proudly.
That's so sweet
@@junkoenoshima2756 Thanks
That's awesome! I remember I saw a lesbian couple at a restaurant. If was my first time seeing a real life same sex couple.
Lesbian nonbinary? So they date other nonbinary people?
@@azimmeme9994 Some nonbinary people are comfortable with feminine/masculine terms
One thing I wanna bring up is the hate specifically to demiromantic and demisexual people saying they aren't valid, that they're just the norm and that they never needed to be given a special title since they aren't a minority. I've seen a lot of this in videos mentioning the identity and not many fight against it due to it being less common to see spread around but rather lots of it in small places. As someone who supports this identity and identifies as demiromantic it's pretty sad to see.
I've somehow managed to avoid seeing anyone actually seriously make that claim about demi orientations just being "the norm" or anything, but I've definitely heard about plenty instances secondhand. I admit that I'd actually be surprised if there weren't any people IDing as demi who actually did fall within some sort of undefined "standard" range, but those individuals will be the only ones who can actually determine that and the only ones the slightest bit affected by it, and there definitely IS something there.
One of the callouts/counters I've seen puts demi side-by-side with fray; functionally opposite ways of experiencing attraction. Both get accused of being "just the norm," but that is logically inconsistent. If you're not familiar with those already, should be able to look up some relevant memes easy enough to throw out when you see people making those kinds of bs arguments.
well I'm demiromantic demibisexual and before I understanding my sexuality, people be like: "you're normal you don't need to label yourself, just say you are bi" no they don't understand why I have to get an emotional connection before feeling sexual/romantic attraction
I'm demisexual myself (just figured this out a week ago and only out to 2 supportive peeps) but I bet I'll experience this at one point or another... sigh.
That was the most subtle admission of being a bottom lmao
I laughed so hard 🤣
lmaoo ikr?
I’m glad I’m not the only one who saw that- LMAO
Something to add to MAAB and FAAB (Male/Female assigned at Birth)
As far as I have seen, AMAB and AFAB is more common (Assigned ----- At Birth)
No difference in meaning, I just found it a bit more common, and good to shout out
My family doesn’t know I’m pansexual but in all seriousness it’s not that I’m worried that they’ll disown me for being pan it’s comes from a lack of understanding of pansexuality
yeah I'm bi and same my family really lacks understanding of the LGBTQ community in general and i think they wont accept me because of it T^T
@@morrisonyeukwu8926 😂😐
if you think they'll be okay with it, you can take coming out as an opportunity to explain it
@@morrisonyeukwu8926 not funny, that joke is old
okay.
here's my advice this is advice i gave someone who wanted to tell their super catholic mom they were lesbian.
have a friend or family member you can stay with be with you so things won't go ugly when you tell them.
have a bag packed of clothes and stuff you might need in case you need to flee a hostile environment.
sit down with your parents and tell them you're pansexual.
explain your sexuality like you would to an 8th grade health class.
use terms they are familiar with while teaching them new terms.
give them an choice love you for who you are or you walk out that day with that family member/friend and only contact you when they're ready to accept you.
now i should admit that this advice was given to someone in their early 20's who had a gay uncle they could crash with but...
my advice did help.
she went to go stay with her uncle for a few weeks and she got a phone call telling to come home she did and her mom embraced telling her she loved her for who she was.
i don't know your situation but i know that sometimes you have to blunt with people.
this advice applys for everyone and anyone who is reading this right now.
I’m a gay cisgender man with mild autism and use he/him pronouns.
Ok
same exact ting but trns
the perfect human.
I don't know how widely used it is (I could have made it myself for all I know) but I have an alternative to 'partner' and that is 'snugglefriend', basically a snugglefriend is someone with a close and intimate relationship with someone else but without the societal image of a boyfriend/girlfriend or to a less extent partner (an image which often has a sexual dimension).
It's a bit different for me as my natural answer to the question 'do you have a partner?' is 'no, I'm self-employed', which might go into explaining how I find partner to be a more business like term which feels out of place in a relationship setting, since while going into business to make a profit is fine having a relationship on that basis feels wrong, like the relationship is more akin to a stock option, something to be jettisoned when its no longer profitable.
Love the show by the way.
thats niot a snugglefriend thats a boydriend / girfl friend dude
@@miligrammade Fair enough, I just wondered about a gender neutral way of expressing this relationship while keeping some more warm and intimate feeling, partner just felt too cold and business like.
@@edspace. Joyfriend is a term growing in popularity. It's a term like gf/bf but fr non-binaries. Not sure how often it's used, but you could give it a shot. I also agree with partner sounding too out of place, and perfessional.
@@yanar123 I definitely like the term, especially given that this (at least in my mind) can be broader too, as it can even include someone you are married to, especially as I believe marriage isn't a single day but a life long celebration of the joy of the life and love two people share for each other. Come to think of it I remember reading about the term Joyfriend as a common term for the closest companion back in the medieval era (boy and girl meant different things in the middle ages and were not firmly affixed to biological sex until around 1600, they were more used to describe temperaments in the middle ages, a boy would describe someone who was loud and outgoing and rambunctious (there's even a remnants of this in the root of the word boisterous) and girl was more for a calm, meek and emotional temperament with children being gendered much later than we do today (although given that might be at birth or in the womb its not much of a contest) and while biological sex would be noted it was normally not til puberty that a medieval person would receive their gender role (although there was some degree of flexibility (as there was still the medieval world of 'Those who work', 'Those who fight' and 'Those who Pray') and peasants would farm the land no matter what)). Sorry for the ramble, but still nice that Joyfriend is making a comeback.
@@edspace. Haha, no need to apologize, it's nice to learn something new. It's quite interesting how the meaning has evolved, I'd only found out about it recently. I really like and agree with what you said about marriage. Also, glad I could help.
I'm glad you put breeder in the red (I think last time you made a similar video it wasn't but I can be wrong).
Either way, it belongs there because we shouldn't fight hate with hate.
When you say 'we shouldn't fight hate with hate' , does that include cussing out a homophobic/transphobic/racist person? Or protesting for equal rights?
(I'm an ace cisgender who uses she/her pronouns; also I hope you have a great day/night!)
@@lauralott5303 such behavior should be called out and depending on the context,.anger and cussing out is at the very least understandable, but lowering our standards to their level doesn't help in achieving the overarching goal.
Even though so many queerphobic argument do, in fact, center super heavily around the ability to procreate (nevermind how there are plenty cishet people that also invalidates), I agree. I can understand someone using it while venting or potentially to call out someone making those sorts of arguments, but I don't like it. It bugs me in more ways and from more angles than I feel up to trying to elaborate on.
It's just also among the things that I think warrants equity > equality on, in a way. If that makes sense.
Thanks so much for these videos. I’m so glad I can get the LGBTQ+ education I’ll probably never get in school. I also love that you added “do you listen to girl in red” that sorta made my day. This channel is the safe space we all need. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
bro like why would you wanan learn about this in school like wtcdf
I really hope these videos not only help our lgbtqia+ people feel better about themselves but also helps educate people that need to be better educated on these topics. No matter what I hope everyone knows no matter what is going on at home. You have people that love you for who you are. You are valued, strong and valid in your thoughts, feelings, and being you is perfect.
sometimes, i will dead-name my friends if they aren't out to their parents and if their parents are near by bcs i don't want to out them
I knew most of these terms because I'm pretty queer myself but I still learned some things :) Also very nice way of presenting the vocabulary with color coding and everything.
Same! I love this video!
21:09 I'm not surprised that this is used by African American ppl as homophobia in the black community has been a huge issue since day 1. I'm a bi (possibly omni) Haitian-American girl who's also a Christian and my mom is homophobic. I came out to her in September of 2021 and she told me that I need to "pray" to get rid of my feelings. The two of us have fought about this subject twice and honestly, I just don't care anymore. I'm not going to fake the fact that I'm straight just so I can have an eternal life in heaven (if it even exists).
I've heard that the term "skoliosexual" regarding attraction to specifically trans people is seen as fetishization of trans people and shouldn't be used.
Switch, Top and Bottom (dominant and submissive) aren’t always exclusive to a gay relationship but to a relationship of any kind
More educational than most American schools
It's so nice to see people genuinely asking questions instead of chaneling their emotions in homophobia.
(Also, lesophbia, transphobia and other discrimination)
I wonder if an LGBT dictionary with all of these words exists. Like, a physical dictionary. If not, someone write one.
Right after this episode aired, I wrote a physical LGBTQ dictionary with way more LGBTQ terms in it. It’s available at www.professorpride.com/product-page/lgbtq-dictionary. We have paperback and hard cover options available along with an option for me as the author to sign it for you. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️🌈, Professor Pride
@@PoweredByRainbows I want to buy the book. But why does international shipping cost $1000.00?
@@Amylase1000 If you live outside of USA, Canada, Germany, Australia, or UK, it's prohibitably expensive for us to ship books but Amazon does ship our books to other countries at the following URL link. Because our website provider doesn't allow us to set certain items up for sale in all countries (like stickers or digital downloads which we can sell everywhere), and our website provider doesn't allow us to turn off shipping on other items that would be too costly, we had to put that number in for other countries sadly. But if you go to the link below, it should offer you better shipping rates on Amazon for other counties. USA internal shipping is always going to be better price because of where we're located. Sorry about the confusion there. www.amazon.com/LGBTQ-Dictionary-Powered-Rainbows%C2%AE/dp/B0C47NHBPT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3GW9GW7USWPNT&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ub2PQCCTal3KEH9gLvOC1nBzhmhI1H03pO0ybgqMNSQQTD8AogwMvY8t1yGa6mcMgvwfAeMThs6aCyHzzZSIW2jcXWf0To3I6mYbygn2jQ9GuRdfS8IedMPhuXmyrTbyLAoIHoEkcpJSqKJ5vnU5yltZa8wfwyGRfb06h7sBkmWFC4DBHBP_x-UbjErvmJcrIQrBHS3yCwTI94qrQe5lbNt2oreifb2b4dtND55zLo4.2XQFCIF3hk4oJzTVhDFIpA6aypTHptLuWCfhkODiczY&dib_tag=se&keywords=lgbtq+dictionary+matt+haslam&qid=1712812212&sprefix=lgbtq+dictionary+matt+haslam%2Caps%2C81&sr=8-1
The term Alfabet Maffia sounds so cool. I am proud to be a part of it. I am a transgender greyromantic ace and I love this channel ❤♥️🩵
How come school doesn't teach us this?
Instead of stressing us out
karen's.
they don't want their cis gender little billy knowing that it's perfectly fine to be LGBTQIA+.
they don't teach them this stuff so when they're older they're live life as a happy cis gendered straight person.
@@ben_dover97wait.. Just curious what's ur name of think I know you😩
@@stuspot3829
my name is Dennis.
@@ben_dover97 alright nvm then
@@stuspot3829
im guessing you thought i was someone you knew?
i get that more than you think.
Love the fact that before he said “bottom” the graphic said “me”
Dude I thought it was these edibles 😂 I saw it but didn’t see anyone commenting about it so just thought I was tripping lmao
You are all valid and deserve to be respected. You are all lovely people.
Love,
A Cisgender, Straight Ally (she/her)
not all of them
Thanks luv. :)
@@miligrammade wtf? Why did you come here if you were just going to be disrespectful?
@@brittanyr613 Im not being disrespectrful i just dont like em man thats it
@@miligrammade thats still LGBTphobic-
At my school (being the wonderfully homophobic place it is), I cannot count the amount of times I’ve been called a f*got by my classmates. And the thing is, they don’t even know what the term really means.
I'm one of those people who finds censorship stupid and will openly speak my mind and use any word in the English language that I want.
But that one and the N word are the two words I always avoided.
It's very weird considering that across the pond in jolly old England that word means cigarette.
See how I'm avoiding using it?
I don't even censor it that's how much I hate that word.
Do what a friend of mine does when he's called that ask them if you look like a Harley rider to them?
(That's a reference to south park BTW).
Good
@@wegfarir1963 there’s one in every comment section about LGBTQ 🙄🙄
@@DaOldSkoolHipHopJunkie Indeed, druggo
I'm asexual. Ally isn't an orientation or an identity so it shouldn't be part of the acronym
Chief, I gotta say:
1. I'm 57 and a gay male
2. Have had to lie about my sexual identity since I was 6 years old.
3. Came out to myself at 10 years old.
4. Few of my friends know the truth, the rest assume because of their ignorance.
5. Just a bit "light in the loafers", that's why I have been so discriminated against.
6. I've been trying to be heterosexual to fit in wherever I go-it has yet to work. I'm too "out there" to be undercover successfully.
7. Came out to one couple-they accepted it, yet, they had nothing to do with me since then(15 years ago ).
8. I'm too gay too be straight, and, too straight to be gay. I hate my life right now.
9. Thank-you so much for all these terms! Now I see why I don't fit in anywhere.
My family-both biologic and church-have lied to and about me so bad, ruining my goals, dreams and aspirations that I struggle to keep going. I see no finish line, and, that sucks, bites, blows and chews! I'm glad I came across this list
ok so idk if u already talked about this at one point but here
Neptunic or Nomascsexual is the attraction to women, feminine non-binary people, and neutral non-binary people. It can also be described as attraction to all people except men and/or man-aligned/masculine-aligned non-binary people. This orientation is mostly used by non-binary people to describe their attraction without relying on the gender binary but can be used by anyone. The term can be used as an identity on its own or combined with other orientations.
i myself am not neptunic i just wanted to mention it ig
also the flag is rly pretty
and i just copied this from the LGBTA WIKI
I personally think that they would put neptunic in the sequel to the flags video if it ever gets made. And I agree that the flag is quite pretty.
Thanks for this
Is there a masculine version of this
Is it possible to be a panromantic demisexual lesbian? I feel like that’s such a long label. But it fits best with what I feel. And using just lesbian doesn’t really fit since I can and have had romantic relationships with guys but I’ve never wanted to sleep with them. Then girls I can become sexually attracted to if I form a close relationship with them.
-signed a very confused girl
You cna also call yourself a demigirl, it may fit you better, I reay don't know
@@novadust6195 Demigirl is a gender though.
@@domtillou3492 as far as I know demi girl and demi boy are sexual ortations
@@novadust6195 No, demiboy is feeling part boy + part something else, while demigirl is feeling part girl + part something else. I know about it, I used to think I was a demiboy lol
@@an989_y Thank you. You can go ahead and delete it :)
3:34
Pause it and you see that secret message
AHHAHAH
Haha it gets me every time 🤣
I
I JUST SAW THAT
THATS PERFECT OMG
I was barely told anything about the LGBTQ community when I was younger which to be honest, was good. I had no negative beliefs forced upon me, and now in my post-secondary years, I am learning with a completely open-mind. This community is so nice yet suffering so much from uneducated people who warp their own religions.
This is amazing! Keep up the good work of updating this!
I completely died laughing when they said "or the much superior, howler"!
The quick “me” for Bottom killed me
**skips to bad words to never say them again if i ever did before**
As a trans guy who has a dead name that is still used I call it my zombie name (it is used because I am closeted)
sorry but you lost me at the first word. allies, while necessary for the progression of the community, are not apart of the community. 'ally' is not a sexuality nor a gender identity.
i see that little “me” before “bottom” popped up, you can’t hide from me, but also same
My friends forget to say Rowan and instead say my deadname, it's okay tho, they just forget that I'm Rowan now
Androgynous would have been a good one to include, and can be applied to either appearance or behavior. Androgyny is of course the category, but the adjective may be more useful in everyday conversation about a person. (This seems to be out of favor, but I'm not sure why. Maybe because we now have other, and possibly more precise, terminology, or because it was sometimes used derogatively in the past.)
3:35 i saw that. it says me. you aren’t fooling anyone pr. pride
also an note on the term "fag"
if you hear am British person saying it, they can be referring to cigarettes
IT HAS ANOTHER MEANING?
@@justsomeanimator yes. It has 3 if I remember correctly
@@Aurora99342 how did u manage to get away with putting the slur in your first comment? Genuinely curious
@@DaOldSkoolHipHopJunkie
cause i was using the british version for refering to a cigarettes, plus PoweredByRainbows has common sense or YT dont care
You forgot Terf under the blue category. Thank you for making this channel ❤😊
I love the term Alphabet Mafia
Thank you for helping to educate all the confused but well intentioned people out there!
"Do you listen to girl in red?"
Yes I do. Her music is awesome
i died in the bottom part because it says "me" juste before bottom lmao 3:34
"Femininity" is a hard word to say. XD And I greatly appreciate your consistent effort to recognize asexual folks, agender folks, and even aromatic folks.
The rest I typed while viewing, so it might be a bit messy.
"Enby" might be good to move to the "contextual" list. While most are fine with or even appreciate it, there are also many nonbinary folks who feel it sounds too childish and is infantilizing (especially since it seems to be common for nonbinary folks and transmasc folks to be treated kinda as children or even a beloved pet by others who usually mean well). It can also be an issue when spoken since it does indeed sound like "NB" which nonbinary communities are trying to move away from out of respect to people of color, who have long been using NB as "non-black" (as in NBPOC, describing any person of color who's not specifically a black person). So far, the best/safest shortening seems to be NBi, just to get that slight distinction in there.
I haven't seen FAAB or MAAB much; I usually see AFAB and AMAB. I'm also merely aware of CAFAB and CAMAB, the C being for "Coercive," and that those versions are supposed to be reserved for Intersex folks.
An extension to what you said about Sapphic: it's use usually implies both expressing oneself in feminine-leaning ways and especially attraction to femininity, such as with "Lipstick Lesbians." I've seen some reference to the men & masculine version of this being Achillean (though I can't recall seeing someone actually use that, and I'm not sure if it's supposed to be more "idealized" or more generalized compared to Bears). The nonbinary counterpart of these is supposed to be Diamoric (but things can start getting pretty complex around here). I've also heard the term "Bambi Lesbian" which seems to refer to a woman/femme-aligned person who is either something like "bi-curious" or homoromantic asexual.
Also kinda relating back to Sapphic, there are the terms Toric and Trixic, which respectively (and non-exclusively) refer to attraction to men/masc-aligned people and women/femme-aligned people. It's mostly associated with the experiences of nonbinary people whose attraction isn't as simple as homo/hetero (for those who aren't bi, pan, aroace, etc), but I have seen arguments that the terms can be used by people of any gender as a way to express their orientation without tying it to their gender. In that, they could *potentially* be less loaded versions of androsexual and gynosexual.
Skoliosexual should maybe be in your "contexual" list. Some may use it to refer to androgynous attraction or something similar, but many take issue with the idea that there's any defining trait of nonbinary people to specify attraction to, and specifying attraction to trans folks is additionally seen as inherently invalidating toward binary trans folks.
SAGA - Sexuality And Gender Alliance (some take issue with this one for being universally inclusive, including of cis and hetero folks)
MOGAI - Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex (some take issue with this one for having phrasing that is inherently inclusive of cishet women; there are also intersex folks who dislike being "lumped in" with the queer community, especially since they are often reduced to being an example in arguments against transphobes)
GSRM - Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minorities
Since you mentioned tucking - packing is the opposite, using something to create the appearance of a crotch bulge and/or to be a male-typical phallus prosthesis to help a trans man or transmasc person feel more comfortable with their body, either instead of bottom surgery or until bottom surgery can be gotten. Most packers are solid silicone or a similar material and designed to emulate a flaccid state, but some are designed to have additional functions, most commonly just as an STP (Stand To Pee) device. Common alternative packers include soft cups (like sports cups, but not rigid) and DIY options like socks.
Some additional "common" neopronouns are xe/xem (and many of the ones starting with z or x get those swapped a lot), per/pers (short for "person"), and thon (a contraction of "that one" and apparently a very old "neopronoun"). I've also seen ey/em, just they/them with the th chopped off.
It might be worth include "it" in reference to a person in either your "bad" list or "contextual" list. Referring to a trans or nonbinary person as "it" is a common way to both refuse to use someone's correct pronouns and additionally dehumanize them. At the same time, there really *are* some nonbinary folks who favor "it" pronoun over any of the more common alternatives.
"Queer" should be on the "contextual" list. While its reclamation has been fantastic, it still has contextual origins as a slur and there are still people who are deeply bothered by it.
I already forgot if you included the word "neopronoun..."
Microlabel - An extra-specific label usually used in the context of a greater identity label, though sometimes it is used because more general labels simply do not fit right. These labels do not often get used outside of relevant communities. For example, the more recognizable terms I might tell someone regarding my own gender are nonbinary, genderfluid, or genderqueer. If I'm sharing in spaces centered around those identities or in more general queer spaces that are openly inclusive of those identities, or if I'm explaining finer details of things, I may go on to specify that I'm "genderfluidflux" (and usually note disliking the awkwardness of the term), a label that specifies having an experience of gender that changes both in what the gender is (fluid) and in how intensely it's felt (flux), but that I wouldn't expect someone unfamiliar with certain terms and naming conventions to immediately understand. Another microlabel (that's more about "how" instead of "what") applicable to me is "gender hoarder," describing someone who finds *so many* labels to be relatable that it's basically outright a collection. (And yes, my gender experiences can be very strange and confusing and even self-invalidating at times, but I've personally mostly relaxed into generally describing it in ways like "amorphous cloud" or "ambiguous shrug." Or "dammit why can't I just be a shapeshifter?")
A-spec - Identifying somewhere in the spectrum of asexuality, aromanticism, and/or agender; or a term referring to those identities and their associated labels. It's primarily used to be inclusive of those whose experiences deviate in some way from the primary definition - for example, to include gray-aces, who experience very limited/infrequent or highly contextual sexual attraction, in asexual spaces. It also gives more room to those questioning - like I'm not 100% sure whether I'm ace or grey-ace since I'm still not totally sure what actually is sexual attraction. I personally usually see it in the context of asexuality and aromanticism.
Adding to your statement on neopronouns: 'thon' is an archaeopronoun. It's basically how you defined it - an 'old neopronoun', only archaeopronoun is the correct term.
Thanks for writing this, by the way!
I’ve met other LGBTQ+ people in my life and just yesterday met my first they them pronoun person
I am currently questioning, previously lesbian. But from my last partner experience, I don’t think I have any sexual desire and my romantic desire is minimum. Idk how to know where I land on the attraction spectrum
You may be a asexual lesbian, but idk I'm a cis Pansexual boy
@@novadust6195 that could be it. I don’t know enough about asexuality
@@MissSirenita Look into it!
It can be tricky to differentiate attraction and desire at times - but it's worth looking into "asexual" and "aromantic."
Myself, I'm not entirely sure if I'm a "standard" ace or some variety of gray-ace, and I'm aroflux (my capacity to experience romantic attraction seems to vary up and down independently of circumstances). I seem to have a romantic preference towards those I perceive as men, though I have more and more reason to doubt that that is an exclusive preference; at the same time, I seem to have a (more clearly non-exclusive) aesthetic preference towards those I perceive to be women and towards androgyny. But sexually? Iunno, it's confusing, like I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm colorblind to just one specific color.
you could be aroace (asexual + aromantic)
10:01 actually nowadays we mostly use Amab and afab. Instead of maaaaaaaaaaaaab and faaaaaaaaaaab, cuz it flows more easily in the mouth and we even pronounce it like if it was an actual word.
Thank you, this channel is helping me learn more about the community I’m apart of and i love
Same here
Also same
I may be behind the times, but I would put "queer" in the last group. It was just too strong of a slur in the past.
I have to say the term, "partner" used to not be so gender-neutral and back when LGBTQ was highly protested against, it was my understanding that LGBTQIA people used the term, "partner" because they weren't allowed to publicly say they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I understand in modern times it's a good use of the word but historically I think it was an oppressive term.
28:13 my sister did this to me and told my mom who I am unsure is homophobic or not yet💀
Thank you for this video!
70 is actually contextual pillow princess is not always a derogatory term, thay go well with no touch tops and it depends on relationships
3:34 anyone else catch this? Lmao
i would just like to say wrt the 39th "good" term, pgps, i think it's typically better to just say pronouns instead of preferred pronouns? the exception obviously being if the person in question uses more than one set of pronouns. for example, i use three sets of pronouns: my preferred/primary set, my auxiliary/secondary, and one set i'm experimenting with
I'm a gay transmasc agender and I use zey/they/it !!
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"Government Name" name assigned at birth or legal name, also used by performers like for example Snoop Dog or Lady Gaga to describe their legal name.
The only time I use the bad T word is referring to a vehicle's transmission. That is the ONLY time I use it and I rarely do as it is a negative word towards trans people. Being genderfluid and married to a transman I see the harm this word causes.
my thoughts about this is that i learned a lot today but also i already knew some but we all learn something new everyday
I'm surprised "Camp" isn't on this list. That's one I heard a lot in my early years.
"Fruity" is not a new term. It has been used for at least 50 years.
Thank you for sharing this! It was very helpful. I'm straight, but am trying to be supportive, and trying to understand all the different things.
Thx 4 being an open-minded ally, claylady👍👏
3:34 “me” 😂
wtf
18:14 I’ve never heard of this before but instantly thought of a way to use it; mention Scotland’s national animal is the unicorn
14:20 srs is also used by the enlarged trans community when it comes to the word, cuz it's fast to say
17:17 Top and bottom are also used in the lesbian community. Just saying.
When I was younger I had people say "are you a boy" and I would hate it now I don't as much because I understand it
I think adding more sections for asexual terms and the umbrella terms such as Demi and more complex forms of Ace orientated terms or kinds of terms.
I wanted to ask does everyone agree to these existed terms?
And it helps me understand the jargon and how it is used in real life, like the term Unicorn for straight couples and gay couples is interesting and a head scratcher.
TLDR: PART 2 please and more parts after so we can understand what others may experience in real life.
12:14 Pro tip: Use They/them Pronouns for everyone, and I mean everyone so you don't get peoples pronouns wrong(ask them first tho because Xe/Xer and Ze/Zer)
wtf is xe xer
@@caca-iq8wf neopronouns, ppl go by that, xe/xer are ok! but when it comes to smth like "kitten/kittenself" is no
@@coughcouf but what are they?
@@caca-iq8wf Basically, in recent years there's been new sets of pronouns outside of he/him, she/her and they/them which are referred to as neopronouns (self explanatory name). It started out okay with xey/xem, ze/zir etc. But people are starting to make it go past that and some of them are a bit strange like people using emojis (e.g 🤖/🤖self). Either way, we welcome them as a new addition :D
mans really put "me" i-
3:34
edit: friendly reminder than straight women are also capable of domming men! as well as both men and women being switches in a straight relationship. (i get that this is an LGBTQ+ video but something rubbed me the wrong way about him saying "in a gay relationship")
"Alphabet Mafia"is Bad?
I Thought it Made us Sound Awesome,&,Badass
I learned some new terms, and I'm in the LGBTQ+ community.
Trap is often used as a derogatory term to trans women and should be noted
Thank you for making these videos, they are truly helpful, and very educational! :)
3:33 for a brief bit it says me, I don't know why
I'd like to see some focused on aro, ace, and agender terminology. I feel like there is such a bumper crop of different words that would be very educational.
Im sorry, but this is a lot especially for a straight man. I appreciate the video since i used to be a hateful POS, but now im trying to better myself and not be such a piece of trash.
its good that you are bettering yourself!
btw Femme is pronounced like "Fem"
edit: Also I know that some people like to gatekeep enbies from trans circles, but the steadfast truth is that enby individuals are valid under the trans umbrella. Remember that the white stripe in the trans flag represents non-binary individuals. As described by the person who designed the flag. As for me (a binary trans woman), and the vast majority of the trans community (to my knowledge) any time we say "trans", we are including enby individuals. Sometimes, I will specify my inclusion of enby individuals if I think the situation calls for it, but when I say trans, I am *_always_* including non-binary individuals. Anyone who gatekeeps enbies from trans circles is not a representative of the trans community. You are *all* valid and you belong in trans circles just as much as any of us.
why is sexual preference bad? i understood it as you like a specific sexual organ (or other things) along with a sexual orientation. like if someone likes women but prefer vaginas or penises on them(?).
5:20 so in other words just a lesbian who is cottage core.
I think I didn't see packing or did I miss it?
I think deadname (deadnaming) should have been in blue
i love the gay dar its so fun meeting people and knowing theyre gay or anything else
But embarrassing when gaydar malfunctions. Doh!
This channel has become so different for me after coming out a bisexual male
Edit:does any other lgbtq+ people feel a weird sense of reward from coming out
A lot of people have a huge feeling of reward and like a weight has been lifted from them after coming out. If you watch our episode on what to prepare for after coming out, we mention that feeling a lot.
Why is "me" quickly shown before Bottom? It's obvious
I think "pre-op" (#41) implies that the person does want surgery in the future. If they don't, it's more common to say "non-op".
Also, I personally would have put "pillow princess" (#70) in the contextual section, as my own experience in queer and bdsm communities has only ever used it in a neutral or uplifting sense, not derogatory. Of course, I understand that my experience is not universal.
For "femme" (#92), I've always heard it pronounced "fem".