Sexless relationships explained from the male point of view | Fix your relationship

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  • Sexless relationships explained from the male point of view | Fix your relationship
    A lot of women write me about the fire going out in the relationships. They say they no longer feel beautiful or desire by their partners. There are other issues in the relationship, but they always could come back to the physical part, now for some reason they can’t. They go months without sleeping together or initiating contact with one another. More specifically, he just feels like he’s walked away from that part of the relationship. Kev if men think about Sex so much then why doesn’t he ever touch me? Quit our relationship in this way? We feel like roommates are like we’re just friends. Does he not love me anymore? 
    In this video, I’ll go over possible reasons your partner has stopped initiating.
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  • @KevHick
    @KevHick  2 місяці тому +4

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  • @anneliesewright662
    @anneliesewright662 7 місяців тому +41

    Great advice! I just want to add that, if things are not good outside of the bedroom, it can cause one or both partners to stop being attracted to each other sexually. That's what happened in my marriage. I think I was a fantastic sexual partner, but I was needy, jealous and had a terrible temper outside of the bedroom. My exhusband began to withdraw because he couldn't take that behavior anymore. Eventually, we divorced.

    • @semaywilson7219
      @semaywilson7219 2 місяці тому +11

      The accountability is amazing, keep living a good life hun💕

    • @Poodle_Gun
      @Poodle_Gun Місяць тому

      Needy and jealous? I hear that and think he's cheating. If a guy is attracted to you, he'd want that, right? I'd like to think I'm wrong, I could be wrong, but unfortunately, I'm usually not.

  • @njeanuity
    @njeanuity 2 місяці тому +26

    It’s been my experience that men stop having sex as a means of control to control the relationship, or he’s having an affair! Quickie meaningless sex is more of a problem for women than for men from my experience

  • @jalex4487
    @jalex4487 Рік тому +31

    My ex-husband and I ended up in the roommate zone for most of our marriage. He finally told me after we split that he felt emasculated by me sexually. He said at first that it was fun that I was sexually adventurous. Then he said he quickly felt that he couldn't please me so he didn't want to try. We would go months with no sex. I would beg. And it made me feel rejected. He's told me recently that he wishes he was more open back then. We had gotten married young. He said his expectations were that women (mainly his wife) wouldn't be experienced and that he would be the one leading sexually and that she would be timid. Since I wasn't that, he shut down.

    • @thiacari
      @thiacari Місяць тому +2

      And some men would die for what you are!
      "I want a woman to know what she wants and tell me how to make her ecstatic"
      "I love women who are up to new things" etc

    • @xdxdxdxd4575
      @xdxdxdxd4575 2 дні тому

      Uhhh I think it was the same with us... First he enjoyed how I was into things, and than he just could not keep with me up... I felt like that I am a man already in a relationship, and initiated more and more... And even what he enjoyed before, never came back to that, even to things he was suggesting beforehead to try out...

  • @kerasrc6230
    @kerasrc6230 2 місяці тому +11

    This video is so true. Currently in a similar entanglement where he did some shitty shit and I eventually pulled away emotionally. Emotion is tied to sex so we all know what happened next.
    He initially chalked it up to me being stressed with a new baby, but it was a combination of that and that he wasn't being as involved as I expected him to be.
    Most times I was too exhausted for sex and when the urge did pop up, I couldn't stand the thought of him touching me.
    He still wants sex but asks very infrequently because he feels like I don't want it, which is often true.
    We have a long road ahead of us in terms of salvaging our relationship.
    Bottom line: if your man is not asking you for sex on the regular, HUGE RED FLAG!
    He is either under some serious stress, or your relationship is in serious trouble.

  • @tracyalyceholder6167
    @tracyalyceholder6167 2 місяці тому +8

    Whether I go to bed with men or not, when things aren't right outside the bedroom, it always ends my relationships.

  • @queendee4587
    @queendee4587 2 місяці тому +8

    I agree 💯 percent. That’s how it was with my last relationship. I couldn’t trust him so I didn’t care. I checked out!!!

    • @kenyabean7781
      @kenyabean7781 Місяць тому +1

      Me too ....I checked out couldn't trust him anymore after what he did

  • @sirmerlyoung3374
    @sirmerlyoung3374 2 місяці тому +7

    Thank you for this video ❤! Please continue to speak the truth 💯!

  • @strawberrymins
    @strawberrymins 2 місяці тому +5

    You know this makes a lot of sense.
    When I think back I did show that I was just getting through it, though it was mostly due to horrible insecurity, (still my fault for not voicing it I know) and come to think of it he did look resentful ever since that started.
    I did start to suck at it yes. It was a slippery slope.

  • @private5149
    @private5149 2 місяці тому +2

    I appreciate your level of honesty, thank you.

  • @patrix1987
    @patrix1987 2 місяці тому +4

    I cannot fully figure out why my all three significant relationships ended up sexless or were almost sexless from the beginning.. I do have some ideas, but not a full answer 😕 I had strong desire for all three men to begin with but due to different circumstances they all ended up rejecting me. I am currently in a 5+ year old sexless relationship..

  • @Poodle_Gun
    @Poodle_Gun Місяць тому +4

    Some of the things that men make women do are pretty soulless. Then we get blamed for not doing them. Idk.

  • @naturally4realmocasio232
    @naturally4realmocasio232 Місяць тому +7

    Fuck yo Food, I’m goin to McDonald’s…😆

  • @Poodle_Gun
    @Poodle_Gun Місяць тому +2

    What if you're biologically unable to have "your turn"? Is this going to be a problem long-term?

  • @geraldburmeister9637
    @geraldburmeister9637 4 дні тому

    I completely agree. Starfish sex sucks and would rather go without.

  • @user-nv7pj7ds3e
    @user-nv7pj7ds3e Місяць тому

    Your Patreon isn’t linked you should link it!

  • @CIAplant
    @CIAplant Місяць тому +1

    Be careful ladies once you get a man to the point where he doesn’t want to touch you very, very difficult to come back from that specially while still getting looks

  • @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
    @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes 9 днів тому

    Teach🎓❣️

  • @angeleyes9212
    @angeleyes9212 Місяць тому

    Sex will never be more pleasurable to anyone unless there is real Love respect and communication in a marriage, hook-up, or relationship.

  • @aniyakelly6688
    @aniyakelly6688 24 дні тому

    If a man doesn’t want to feel rejected could this also be a reason for him not to want to have sex with a woman or initiate it.?

  • @xdxdxdxd4575
    @xdxdxdxd4575 2 дні тому

    Uhhh I am in a sexless marriage, and never thought about cheating, but since he witholds it for 4 years... No kiss, no sex, I have to initiate... If something happens, it is just in one pose (missionar), but it is after weeks of begging. I always get like 'That is what you think about always?'
    Sadly I had more sex, when I was single, and I have like 20 times more sex with my toys and myself than with him.

  • @deveshaq9306
    @deveshaq9306 2 місяці тому +12

    Are you ok Kev? You been looking sad lately

  • @Mcki9292
    @Mcki9292 Місяць тому +1

    Why does this guy keep sexually flirting but keeps saying he doesn’t want me to think he just want sex lol like what ? 😅 I feel like he bs but I noticed he started to be more generous on things he know I like so idk if he tryna trick me I hate the confusion that alone makes me wana block him

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  Місяць тому +7

      If he does want more than sex, it’s impossible to prove that by saying it. Don’t believe what a man says believe what a man shows you through time and consistency. He’s flirting sexually because he wants to make you horny and make you aggress him for sex or at least be open to his advances. He’s building sexual attention. Sex is exactly what he wants. That’s why he doesn’t talk about other stuff.

  • @narcfreekeekee9168
    @narcfreekeekee9168 Місяць тому +4

    After four weeks of not getting any from him. Yesterday I finally said fuck it and I cheated on him. No regrets.

    • @MelModica
      @MelModica Місяць тому +3

      I’m usually against cheating but if someone is forced to be celibate you can’t blame them for cheating. It’s not just about the sex it’s how lack of intimacy makes a person feel unwanted and unloved!

    • @siennateel2381
      @siennateel2381 Місяць тому +1

      4 weeks? That's crazy lol unless you know the reason. You want men to cheat on you after you give birth and can't have sex? 4 weeks is nothing when you're genuinely committed to someone

    • @sharon7646
      @sharon7646 26 днів тому +2

      Looking back I wish I would have done this, and then just tell him “I’m not a lazy lover as you know so I’m going to go meet xyz name again “ bye bye

    • @tamaraanthony9762
      @tamaraanthony9762 14 днів тому +2

      You're not ready for a long term commitment period. I hope you didn't lose a good guy.

    • @xdxdxdxd4575
      @xdxdxdxd4575 2 дні тому

      ​​@@siennateel2381when a woman had a labour than it is a reason to not have a sex. A medical condition. But when there is no reason that a guy (or a girl) witholds sex, is another. When there is no medical or any kind of reasons to not do it.

  • @cornflower9258
    @cornflower9258 Місяць тому +1

    Lol virgin ears

    • @Poodle_Gun
      @Poodle_Gun Місяць тому +1

      I don't think that's funny. It's demeaning. I spent many years as a virgin and know other people who did, out of religious conviction, and the way people treat you is dehumanizing and cruel.