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When Low Effort Guys Come Back | Minimal effort guys
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- Опубліковано 13 тра 2020
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When low effort guys come back. Minimal effort guys
When guys are giving you a minimal effort or stringing you along it’s important to cut the off. Don’t allow men to breadcrumb you with minimal effort. Don’t let men misuse you and take advantage of you or give you false hope. Don’t let guys who ghosted you come back. Don’t let men walk in and out of your life.
If you haven’t look for my other videos on the subject
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Guys come back to see if the woman is still naive.
😂😂 i agree
Exactly!
I know seeing you call any woman stupid shows you’re red flagged 🚩
@@tajha123 Didn't mean to offend you, but that quote I've actually heard it from a woman. It's the behavior, not anything intellectual. We all can be stupid in love.
Brian P No worries I catch subtleties to weed men out as it was a huge learning curve for me. I would change the verbiage to naive instead of stupid😉
A wise man once told me when a man circles back it's probably because he doesn't have a current romantic interest...that fools bench is empty!!!!
Vanessa Harris Fact!
Yeap!
Facts! "THE GRASS WASNT GREENER!"
Lol
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A Queen doesn't entertain a Clown.
Omg so right on!!! This made me laugh hard ❤🦋
Constance Reynolds luv it💯👍🏽
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👍🏾 yo!
Right,either does a princess 👸
When they come back with the “Hey” text after not talking or dealing with them for months, I respond back with pure, unadulterated silence. Period.
Oh so the "hey" is that popular hun🤦🏾♀️🤔
It's even more twisted than that. They may come back after months but they still don't want to appear "weak" (in their narcissistic mind showing interest would be), so with "hey" or "how u" they make sure that they don't show you much interest. There's obvious disrespect in that. It's intended like a backhanded compliment.
Sarah M 🤯😓😑now I know why it always made me so mad
@@colleenfremont-smith3783 when it feels unpleasant or off, always listen to your intuition and respond accordingly. :)
Exactly.
"Why did you stop talking to me"?..."you made it easy,you were inconsistent"
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Booom baby🔥, there you go!
This is the best response that I've ever heard. Love it
Plain and simple!
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The worst part is when a guy that ghosted you comes back like nothing's wrong 🤓
Truth !!! 😊 👍
Yassssssssss!!!!
That's a part of their game.
I asked him wat he wanted n as he was about to say I hang up n blocked him
It's childish. Plain and simple . Just move on.
“You treated me like an option, so I gave you no choice”
This is perfect.
Perfect!!!
perfect thank you !! I'm putting this in my notes lol
This feels so sweet on the palate
Yassss!
He wants nothing , but his own satisfaction. You are NOTHIG for him. When he returns: YOU CRUSH his little , sorry ego. He is playing with you, putting you on the roller coaster, because he has absolutely nothing to keep you interested. He is nothing. Never forget that. Much love, ladies.
Preach!
Absolutely. I sent a bitmoji shrugging. I said , I was confused as to why he was contacting me. It had been almost 3 weeks.
Thanks sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Uuuh giirl 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
lol screenshot this comment & make it his profile picture
These inconsistent men want a woman to chase them and feed their egos... the best way to handle that nonsense is to ignore them so hard they doubt their own existence...do not feed the narcissist.
Preach!
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The best way to kill a lion is to stop feeding him.
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV they arent lions, in fact they are weak, broken individual's who seek high vibrational energy to bolster their egos.
@@tia3521 its onlyba saying...a metaphor
Low effort guys want variety/easy access women. Your one of MANY he talks to when he's bored. Just block him.
This is one thing that I am always conscious of when I meet someone. I watch out for subtle signs that he might be a " player".
Exactly
Women makes it easy for the guy she loves but that fool takes her for being actually easy and will for sure end up regretting 😒
I agree , I think many men are like that and yes they want variety or dont want to settle...had a few contacting me asking to meet...saying yes and they wouldnt get back to me..or slow , slow at texting back slow at meeting...I would match their efforts with the text but agreed to meet.I blocked one who d keep texting me every once in a while..asked me news..and he d brush off what I say and they dont share details about themselves..I dont bother with them anymore..I simply dont reply back or block
@@candacecasey5634 Sometimes they are not even players and dont have much options..but pretend they do,.I got that too..like a game..and I can see through it...they also expect you to ask them out etc..I dont mind asking..but its rare and when I ask to meet if the reply is slow, half confirming to meet..I simply ghost them and dont reply back..I never half confirm whenever I tell someone ill meet you tomorrow and ill tell you in the morning ..I tell them..I dont want to explain myself or tell them you didnt get back to me etc,..especially when I dont know them well
I just block lol life’s too short and I’m not getting any younger to be pulling out my hair for ANYBODY
Lol I just did this a few days ago. The block button never fails!
Mizzbabyblue12 facts! But this 1 guy contacted me through whatsapp after I blocked him everywhere else 🤦🏽♀️ I had forgot about it 😒
I just blocked my inconsistent trap. HE came to my house and I hid from him.
Cassandra Glenn Omgee how scary 😬😦
@@AgnesM Well I don't believe he's crazy, but who knows these days. He was just here again. I didn't answer the door. He says that I could never get a guy better than him, and that I never mean it when I say I'm done with him. Well I don't ever want to see his selfish ass again, and I mean it.
In my experience, if they do come back, it's not because they finally realised they care, but because you are the leftover mac'n'cheese he keeps in his fridge after he's done with the steak.
Ooohh good analogy
Great example!
The raw truth! well said.
Ouch but so true
Facts lool
Low-Effort Guy: " Hey Girl, long time, what's up? High-Quality Queen: "My Standards. Bye!!"
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Lol! Good one.
Lmfao yes queen 😂😂
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@CounterStrike211 ,projection, much?!? Women who know their worth do not sit around collecting dust waiting until this same low-effort guy decides he wants to insert himself back into a woman's life. It's rather presumptuous on any guys part to assume that he still has a place in her life, especially when he tries to come back years later after he practically fell off the face of the earth without zero explanation , after leading her on in the first place. Oh, and by the way , you know nothing about me. I wouldn't make judgements about people you don't know. I don't know you and I don't care to. Quite a juvenile and telling response on your part. Women have, are, and will ALWAYS be the prize. Either elevate your efforts or stay single because women are not here to stomach your B.S. Will pray for you.
They come back to check if they can be toxic again and waste your time again. Just ignore and block them.
TRUTH
Yep
Exactly. Why even answer him?
Should go like this:
Him: "Why did you stop talking to me?"
You: *radio silence*
You are right. I had to learn to start blocking people on fb dating cuz all they would do is match with me and not say anything, then I delete them then they match with me again and still not say anything. That's all they do on fb dating. I learned to block them instead of delete them now the first time we match and they don't say anything for days. Now I give them two days and they're blocked
Right. I waited a couple of days to allow the guy to talk to me first and when he didn't I messaged him and told him I was doing a purge and he finally wrote me back. Instead of a I apologize how you doing? He was like lady I don't know who you think you are and some other crap that I didn't even bother reading the rest of it and I blocked them. Protecting my peace!
The best response is no response. Ghosters are not worth a conversation. Period!!!
Narcissistic behavior. They literally come back to see if your still available to them.
Yeap....definitely a Narcissist behavior style. 😳🤯🥴
Narcissistic supply chain
This is absolutely true, he only sees you for sex, and he sees you as his entertainment, they do breadcrumb you, because to them, you don't have value. Stay intelligent ladies 👩🏫
If they are showing low interest….. I say get them before they get you….because it’s only a matter of time before you get ghosted
This 100% the truth!!!
They always want to come back and treat you better once you leave. Don't fall for the BS.
That's the cycle of a narcissist. First there's the love bombing then the discard. And then you feel like you did something wrong, so even though you know you are being mistreated and you are saddened, you continue with the relationship hoping to get back to the Love by me stage but it never comes back unless you dump him. And he runs out of the new supply he has already arranged before the two of you broke up and he comes back, again with the Love by me. It's a vicious cycle
PS: these breadcrumbers are often covert narcissists, which is definitely a cycle one needs to get out of ASAP.
Yep
Most definitely!
Awww I feel for y’all bc the fact you know it means you’ve probably been through it & it’s exhausting and traumatizing
I believe that. I actually just had this same thought yesterday about someone.
nspyreme I feel it & if you’re in it I hope you GTFO of there fast 💚
Why are so many women dealing with the same exact issues? Different guy, yet they all pull the same stupid crap... Ugh!
Because guys all watch the same stupid so called alpha men channels, that teach them how to be chased by women. They don't notice they are acting feminine!
That’s mostly out here sis 🤷🏽♀️
@@MissSarahGM 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯 exactly 🤦🏽♀️
Yes exactly, they aren't aware they are being taught how to become psychopathic not a masculine man. They may think they are masculine because they have a rotation and they lift weight... but they are feminine men who refuse taking responsibility, providing and protecting, but feel entitled to have access to women and sex without even respecting them. They should not be entertained at all!
@Sapphire Sky True... unfortunately many women fall for the low effort game, because they feel confused and doubt themselves. We have to spread and uncover their games and never settle for this. When you watch these "alpha" channels, you feel like throwing up, it's so disgusting
When a low effort man comes back when his options don't work out lol.
Exactly. That other "situation" played out, so he wants to play with me again. This is not a game sir. 😑😩
Big facts!!
I'm no man's "option"!🎯💯
True or he wants his cake and eat it too...Ain't nobody got time for that bs 💯
He usually be blocked by then🤣🤣
The guy I was talking to tried calling a couple of days after he noticed I was ignoring his texts. He blamed being half ass on the quarantine 🤦🏻♀️ and said I could’ve called him if I wanted to talk. I told him good morning, good night texts, and a couple of wyd texts throughout the day wasn’t cutting it for me. There was a huge disconnect and he truly believed he was putting enough effort. No phone calls, no face time...really little to no effort. I agree these type of men will never change.
Boi bye!
That's right @Ana Santana!! Don't put up with that foolishness.
A guy just freaked out that I unmatched him after five days of inconsistent Tindertext. Supposed to call me several times and never did. He text-screamed at me, “There’s a f*cking pandemic you narcissist.” I actually started laughing it was so ridiculous. I told him he’d have better luck with future women if he does what he says he will.
@@nunya257 hahah he simply projected what he really was on you) lol well done for defending your boundaries!😉👍
Did u put in effort?
Just tell him you got a bill due and need $200. You’ll never hear from him again.
i just did this yesterday before i even saw this comment n now we ain’t talking 🤣
Lol
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I will remember this one. If we don't like them. It'll work like a charm. Up that antenna. Thanks.
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I’m done with relationships u shouldn’t have to work so hard just to get a guy attention or to commit that’s why I’m single again I’m focusing on my kids and loving myself and it’s funny once you doing good guys wanna come back and no I’m good I’m nobody’s option I’m a choice and I chose myself.
That part
Here’s your 👑
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YES GIRL can relate so much
I know!! Like wth. It really is like a battlefield. It's so exhausting 😢
"Low effort guys cannot be trusted with your heart." A word that I needed to hear. ❤
Amazing ladies cut these guys off quickly. It only gets worse not better.
These days most men on the dating market seem to play the low effort game! On my dating app here, almost all men have an empty profile, they don't know how to engage a conversation and how to court a woman. They set the bar so low so that if you bite their bait, you are guaranteed to be easily used. Late 30s/ over 40 they are still acting like adolescents with no plans, no respect and no self respect. They have nothing to offer you in fact. When you experience a low value guy after another, you may come to the conclusion that maybe that all there is after all. And it is better than being alone for ever. Don't doubt yourself, better say no to this and stay dignified and mentally healthy.
Yesss it’s just like this in small town TN
@@shaytaylormade5244 Most women who aren't single have settled
@@shaytaylormade5244 Same in European big city. It's an epidemic of mediocrity. The antidote is keeping our standards. And facing the fear of being alone.
Blue September yup. They started out as low effort boyfriends.
I refuse to give up but you are right .... it can be disheartening ...I just cut off one who is 40 and another who is 42 and yet another who 57...Still acting like perpetual children...
A guy ghosted me for one day after texting me consistently everyday. I told him I prefer calls first off, and his text were always short. He never asked me much about myself..I asked him why he did that and he said "I don't ask anyone questions like that." I said usually when you're interested in someone, you would ask them questions. I guess he got tired of me analyzing his actions and he ghosted me the next day. I didn't reach out to him, and the following day he text me "hey." I said absolutely nothing. I rebuked him 🙌. Not worth my time. I'm too happy single to allow men like him to mess up my happiness.
PREACH SISTA QUEEN! I CAN RELATE SMH
I can relate. It's been three days and not a word. This man is 50 years old! Like wtf....guess that's why he's never been married or had a healthy long term relationship. Yet he complains about always being alone and how he doesn't understand why he doesn't have a girlfriend. Like wtf is this.....
I will never understand.
Hahaha “rebuked him”! I’m cackling😂
I've come across guys like that before. He sounds an arse hole.
Maybe there's someone around who shouldn't hear him talking to another woman on the phone 🤷♀️😬
Yes, the way a guy treats you is HIS view of you! It is not a reflection of YOUR true value.
If you are after someone like that, try and think if they remind you of an unavailable parent that you had desperately tried to get attention from. It could be your trauma talking. Heal the trauma and the interest will go away.
@@RecoveryUndoNarcissism yes, because people who are kind to narcissists aren't stupid, they are motivated by trauma.
Facts
True!
True. I used to be low value.
Thank you
Leave him alone. He's not the one.
I’m praying my Ghoster comes back just so I can ignore him😏
He will!! They ALWAYS DO.
Lol my block game is strong asf 💪 for those ghost 👻 busters 😂
😅😅😅me too... I blocked three dudes last week...all pretty much the same day...Sadly three men of three different age groups still acting like perpetual children...
...my sister and I are taking bets on who will be the first asshole stupid enough to call/text back first!🤣🤣🤣
My IDGAF Game is just as strong as theirs!🤣
@@SonjaElizabethTeal how will they call if u blocked them?
Same. Had mine beg me to take him back only to pull continued low effort bullshit after making so many nice promises.......I'm still hurting over it and wish he'd message me just so I could tell him to fuck off. Ugh
And OMG😱 they ALWAYS come back🤦🏾♀️😩!!!
Everytime
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls Even if the woman didn’t sleep with him🤔?
Big FACTS: *"But a HIGH VALUE Woman?? A Woman WHO VALUES HERSELF is not going to fall into this trap.."*
I was in this trap. Until i realized something was wrong with me, like " my self-esteem and self worth ain't what it should be." I'm looking for a therapist.
Akila: *The first step is ADMITTANCE* and admitting this truth does not make you look weak or GULLIBLE!! Good For You
@@NaturalDivineGoddess thank you. It was so hard to admit it.
Men wear a mask sometimes they can fool !
@@akilasmith6063 Forgive yourself, it's ok we are all learning. Self awareness and self love will protect us from abuse. People with a good heart and unhealed trauma may accept the crumbs, not knowing there are wolves out there.
I'm 20 and I just ended something with a guy like this, I was sick of his excuses, I felt underappreciated and underestimated, now I feel so peaceful that I am all by myself even though I still have feelings for him.
Me too but once they show you who they are believe them ....trust God ... rejection is God protection 💦🤔
Remove your feelings there by force
I was once there😂
Same girl
Truth 😭. I'm so glad.
Men in their 50-60's play the same games too....so I guess the guys in their 20's are one day going to be their replacements.😉
He doesn’t even deserve this much. If he comes back, don’t respond. Respond with actions not words.
If he’s showing little/low effort clearly he’s sending a sign to you that your not important basically a Non Factor unless it suits him. He’s just keeping a small line open just in case.
i've been emotionally manipulated by a guy who does this. flaked on me and benched me but keeps on saying he wanna be with me. It got me drained ans fucked my mental health, finally ended it with him this month. It's so liberating.
Right! These Females Can Spare Their Own Feelings If They Pay Attention!
@@sheerahescudero8048 Hi, I know this is a old post BUT I’m glad you ended things with him. He basically was keeping you in limbo and available for him SMDH.
@@quettalogan3295 EXACTLY!!!
It's so many of these guys walking around. Sad!!
We as women need to step it up so they’ll put an end to it!!
The Vegan Talk Show! There will always be desperate men stealers looking to mash up someone's family. It's so normal it's sad!
I loveee this video. Ladies take note. Have high standards if you don’t want to be used by some loser. If he is not spoiling and pampering you, he doesn’t like you, period! Call it gold digging or whatever, but that’s how you know a man values you, he is willing to spend on you and make you happy.
Mmm not always, there's people that will invest in you just to lock you in and get you so hooked on them that they don't care to spend the money. It's another way they feed of controlling you. And then those are the ones that will never leave because they worked to hard to mold you into their little energy supply to let you go so easily. I know because it happened to me.. and it doesn't always have to be money.. it came be favors they do for you just to stay in your good graces and confuse you with that "effort and care" to manipulate you into thinking that you are the one using them or not appreciating them. You have to be the one to walk away even tho it's the hardest thing you might ever do. But please just cry it out and do it because don't end up like me 7 years later feeling so defeated and used but deep down you knew it was all a lie and you didn't want to admit to yourself that they never gave a shit about you. They literally played a roll to get you to do everything they wanted but you were never really on their mind.
@@zunyldajones wow 👏...
Yesssssss
You can get an Amen to that!!!!
Be careful of the spender most times it's a trap. When his mask falls off the mistreatment starts. You'll think about the good times and stay when you should.....RUN
"Hi Stranger?? Or he's going to say something STUPID like that!!" 😂🤣😭 no depth
So accurate 😂
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"I NEVER HEAR FROM HIM: He goes weeks and weeks??" Chile: That's where you went WRONG AT?? Unless he is on a boat in the middle of the ocean i.e. The Navy or on a TOP SECRET assignment?? 🔊 Not acceptable
NaturalDivineGoddess 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀
Top secret agent .
Lol. I say that shitt
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There is no excuse at all
Tell him the TRUTH (the whole truth and nothing but the truth): *You were inconsistent.. I don't do inconsistency!!* AMEN
😂😂 mindful attraction2.0
Ladies, please understand that even during this quarantine season a guy who's interested will put in the effort. He will find unique ways to show you that he cares, he's interested, he's serious and he wants to see how things can go between the two of you. Don't just let these men slide through. You cooking meals and ish and he comes through empty handed. Don't fall for it!
I'm not cooking for any man that isn't my husband!
SSS 334 that part 👏🏽👏🏽
@@sonyab2u974 good luck on finding a husband.We men have to see potential before we make a commitment lol
TRUST: The only guys who should return are those who are SERIOUSLY READY for a PARTNERSHIP!! *PERIOD POINT BLANK*
No men come back to fuck
Speak the truth Queen 👸🏽
YOU MADE THIS VIDEO FOR ME ???? How u knew 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha... laughing here girl coz that's me too.
x3 the guy just reached like 3 days ago!
Right??? Same here girl 😂 I feel like this was perfect timing. He prepared us. Some how I feel the ghoster will pop up any moment now.
Seriously! 🤓
girl he made it for me to.
*"Don't PLAY Those GAMES.. Call him out.. BE HONEST.. DON'T FAKE WITH THEM!!"* 👈 Yea: THAT WAY 👏
"The only way to change a guys approach with you?? Is to *REBUKE* him when he does something you don't want?? *and it has to be A STRONG REBUKE.. and it has to be A CONFIDENT REBUKE!!"* Now you're speaking MY LANGUAGE ✍✋
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The two thumbs down must have been from ghosters 😂
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Lmao
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“Well you made it easy, you were inconsistent “ love it.
'Why did you stop talking to me?' 'Well because you made it easy, you were inconsistent. Ouuu chile I felt that!
He doesn’t deserve a response or an explanation. Just ignore him when he comes back!
Facts👌🏾
I usually don't say anything, no explanation on why I stopped talking to them or anything like that. I quietly walk off and never come back.
That's the best thing to do. I don't have time to keep repeating the same s%×& over & over again
Low effort guys are really desperate honestly… cus he wants someone else that he’s more attracted to, but wants to string women along that he feels confident about because the women he wants first are constantly rejecting him……… if he could get his first option easily and frequently he wouldn’t even have time to talk to any woman that he views as lessor than what he really wants. He’s not good enough for the woman he wants first that’s why he feels it’s necessary to “try” to string other women along as his backup plan.
True
This guy texted me 8 months after ghosting. I said, who is this? He never responded lol
8 months?! The utter *NERVE* of some of these men
Wow!! What a loser😂😂😂 then they come back like we kick this back off..smh
Wow good response
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Another reason a man may not be contacting you is because he's afraid of rejection ladies. A ball-less insecure type of a "man" (especially if you out of his league).
By personal experience this type of insecure man will expect you to constantly reassure him that he's wanted, that you attracted to him, etc.. This way he's not putting himself in a vulnerable position to being rejected / hurt 🙄
H K I think I’m dealing with a guy like this now but wouldn’t you still want to talk and reach out especially if you are crushing? I gave this dude my number he said he have been liking me for a year now he reached out but I’m the only one start up conversation and ask questions so Not only a week but I stop reaching out because I’m not used to being not pursue by a man... and it’s not attractive because it only seems like you just want to hit and leave in my eyes.
Tandrine Bray find out his true intentions
@@tandrinebray8194 not justifying his lame ways, but he may be going thru some personal issues especially these days with Covid-19 a lot of people are besides themselves about financial concerns etc.
I know guys who without a doubt are very interested but temporarily pull away due to work problems, etc... thus not feeling worthy as a man then later when their situation gets better they always come back! My feelings though are not the same for them as they were initially lol Have a real conversation in person if possible & tell him it's OK for him to be himself around you!
H K That’s how I felt because the guy I was talking to ghosted right after his workplace (a gym) went into lockdown...that’s UNTIL my merch vendor from Haiti called to see how I was doing. His issues are far far worse over there yet he made the time to check on me. I have yet to hear from my ghoster. At this point the only excuse I’m willing to take is that he was stranded out at sea and a whale swallowed him for seven days, then spat him out on a deserted island.
Bs. So hes got what he was scared of. Rejection :)
This video came at such a good time
Alex B Right on time
Yea...I can relate 😀
Yes it did...
Right?? so I'm not the only feeling this!
Honestly....it's actually scary
So TRUE! If he's low effort in the beginning, he'll still be low effort after, no matter what tactics you use on him.
I read somewhere (probably pinterest)..."Some people don't value you, they only value what you can do for them." It really stuck with me, because I've been guilty in the past of giving the low effort man WAY more attention than deserved.
"My inbox is just as busy as yours." That was a whole word right there Kev.
I gave this guy three chances to “do better” he texted me before work , after work, and before bed! However he really only wanted to actually SEE me on Friday night if I went to his house!!! He talked like he loved me etc all that but actions never matched his words ! This went on for about 5 months he went a couple times to meet me but that was it , kept saying he was busy !!! So I gave him the third chance he fell out so I blocked him on everything and no way will I EVER go back !!! Too bad cause I really liked him but I am old enough to realize he is an ass!!! And I agree with your video !!!
I gave him three chances , no way to come back he is. Blocked three strikes your out !!!! I did have a lot of feelings and this is hard but I owe myself this much !!
It’s called a hoover or temperature check. Simply ignore it if you haven’t blocked them. They are not even worth a reply🤦🏽♀️
Had someone ghost me. Three years later he messaged me and said it was only a couple of months. I told him " I guess you couldn't find anyone better ". He replied but I didn't.
@Jerseygirl8999 m Thank you!
The timing of this video is scary 😂 Kevin is doing some sort of witchcraft.
So the dude is back, his first option did not work out, so now he's back to what's left over with me. NOT HAPPENING! I already removed him from the pedestal where he was and he's no longer relevant. Boy, you're not gonna do this to me. The ICE AGE starts now.
Tanya how long did he take to text you?
@@leoseara995 that's what i am wondering
@@leoseara995 Almost 3 months
Tanya Wtf I rly ask myself how they can be that shameless.. 🤦🏻♀️
@Jerseygirl8999 m 'to buy time' Ohhh yes soooo true 💯 and how did u respond to it? Well for me, after the breakup he texted me nonstop, asking how I am etc and I either ignored him
or was completely arrogant bc of madness.. so after 4 months of his nonsense I blocked him finally and it felt so GOOD. Except there's one thing: he did not try to contact me from any other plattforms anymore but still he didn't delete his whatsapp either.
This is the answer BLOCK! Stay BLOCKED! No time for games. There are too much dieses, life is short. No talking because I know you already told him. Stay Blocked!
I just told a “low effort guy” I do not want to be friends with him. That energy is toxic and can be draining. He was inconsistent and played many games..
Block ppl.when you're done with them! That keeps them from "returning"😉
The man I was involved with often ghosted and breadcrumbed. When the quarantine occurred he not once contacted me just to check to see how I was doing. True colors were a blessing. I hope he never contacts me again .
Quarantine has been a blessing. I've been able to drop soooo much dead weight because they showed their true colors!
Sometimes.. I think Kev is a prophet. When I'm going through drama he just does a video. May God bless you for reaching out to women the way you.
Imani Chichi right. This was so on time.
You could just block the number and not respond. Sometimes no response is the best response.
so many guys are so afraid of getting hurt that they’ll hurt you first to avoid further conflict \\ imho
They do come back. Girls looks at it as proof of their love or that they like them but it’s always the same game and little effort.
Dang hard pill to swallow but definitely taking notes.
Its ok, you're on the right path just by accepting it....now start focusing on what YOU want and don't let anyone interfere with the standards you have put in place for yourself, you are the priority at all times! Good luck sis💝
SSS 334 Thank you❤️
Leave him on "read" and move on! He'll come back because he knows you'll be there waiting to let him in.. don't answer block him and get with a man that will value and love on you and won't leave!
I received a text from a low effort guy saying he was checking on me two weeks ago. I waited a day and responded, ”I'm well and I hope you’re doing well also. He did not respond. I forgot he existed and two weeks later he texts me with a waving hand emoji. Be advised this man is successful and just turned 52. I did not respond. Thanks for the video and knowledge!! 🙂
Age doesn't even make a difference. Just cut off one 57....just sad
Cut off one that was 56-7 too. It means nothing. Actually sounds like you texted my ex
Did you meet him after?
I had a guy come back and tell me he was low effort because, “I didn’t ever show him nothing.” Like what the fudge was I suppose to show? 🤷🏽♀️
LOL the dude legit acting like a woman and you were supposed to show him something... shoulda asked him where his balls went lol
Show him what?
Show him the door 🚪😅😂
🤦🏻♀️
I had a guy once ask me what I have to offer
A guy that I had told early on, seeing his ways, that we were incompatible
A guy that I ended contact with
I had blocked for a variety of reasons
A guy that wanted to keep in contact with me - though not in a way that was compatible for me for a relationship
I was like ... eh?
*IF he cannot feed and WATER 💧 MY SOUL??* 🌹Translation: MAKE LOVE To My Mind?? Overheard: *TEACH ME something I do not know or show ME things I NEVER SEEN??* Bible: We Are Not Compatible
I'm utterly confused why my guy came back only to immediately resort to old behavior? Came back quoting poetry & his adoration of me only to postpone seeing me, not setting up ANY dates or making time for me. I was literally forced to call it off via text because he couldn't squeeze me in a 5 min phone call 😢 just makes no sense
People don’t really change like that.
He told me I wanted a clingy man. 🤣😂 no you were just inconsistent and low effort. Smh thank you for clarifying.. so done with these low effort men!
He did and Ignored him. He doesn't need an explanation. He damn well knew his actions
Yup, it just means they don’t see you as a priority and they never will
Preach! I had to tell someone what it was, I’m a grown women and I don’t have time for high school games. The guy I was just talking to as a friend did this and lied all the time, he is used to his looks getting him what he wants and off the hook. A lot of times he would underhandedly insult me or tried to make it seem like he was doing me a favor that he was talking to me such as, “I have BEAUTIFUL women approach me all the time” and I respond well why don’t you call them and all of a sudden he is joking🙄. He was hard pressed because I wouldn’t sleep with him saying “do I need to find someone else to have sex with” uh yes! I stopped talking to him to childish for me.
Good for you sis!💝
Too long to type but your story was confirmation of cutting of a so called platonic Friend who behaved the same exact way.
Thank you!
Good for you! You go girl!
Omg ew reminds me of my ex 😖🤢
"Our energy doesn't match" that's it. Telling them the details just gives them more ammunition IMO
I say something like it, that we not compatible
Your treating me like a lesser woman AND inconsistent with your EFFORTS..... I cannot go for that. Thanks Kev
I actually told my ex fiance this statement this morning.... I guess he's low on his pickings and thought if he told told me "I can't live without you" I would come back for a hookup. How you can't live without a person but never answer my calls tho?????. I hit his ass back by forwarding his calls and the above-mentioned quote from Kev haven't heard anything all day. GOT EM SHOOK NOW SON!! LOL
I had a "low effort " guy try to come back. He didn't contact me for almost 3 weeks. He's not working. He lives off his Mom. When he didn't return my call, that I felt like it was a blessing in disguise. He tried to call me, asking how I was. I thought about how to respond. I sent a bitmoji shrugging. I said "I'm confused as to why you're contacting me now. It's been almost 3 weeks. That did it. No thanks.
"If you're on a guys mind?? He's going to be contacting you!! that's the *BOTTOM LINE* if guy wants to talk to you and HE DOESN'T want OTHER GUYS contacting you??" *"He's going to contact you.."*
*ME:* NO IF's And's or BUT's
That’s because u guys are willing to be boyfriend and girlfriend or friends with benefit with people u barely know. Be friends with people and let them know clearly, you are not going to be linked on a deeper level with a man who isn’t your husband...point blank period. I have friends who are men and many I cut out cause of bad behavior and don’t regret it at all. Love yourself enjoy your life, love god.
I have a "friend" right now trying to get me to do things that requires a commitment/marriage for me to do and he's mad I'm not falling for his game! I told him yesterday when he was trying to flirt and I dismissed him that we are friends just like he first said it!
SSS 334 u did good. Don’t settle to someone who wants to play.
I agree! If he can't be a genuine friend first then he has no business being your lover. God knows what He's doing when he says that we should reserve sex for marriage. Having sex with men like this is a recipe for disaster on top of the horrible heartbreak. Imagine having a kid with such a man!
doesn't matter. the low effort guy has been my close friend for 8 years but he always liked me. I finally gave in now he's being silly. once you rollers that line they start to see you as just a woman
I don’t care how much you like him. Be honest and tell him exactly how you feel.
Sometimes i have to watch your vids more than once......... just so that i don't forget to have some damn self esteem. Thanks Kev.
Me too. Lmao. I don't know what I'd do without Kev
I dated a guy for 5 months and cut him off because of this, i made sure he knew why i was cutting him off. He just looked at me speechless. Lmfao i dead ass told him u act like i can't get any guy out here , if you think I'm going to keep wasting my time to someone who puts no effort well u got me F up.
Thank youuuuuuu; I’ve been trying to articulate “you were inconsistent and I don’t do inconsistent” for weeks. I appreciate the f out of your ability to eloquently and efficiently give truths.
Wow, I needed this. A guy that I'd been talking to back in NOVEMBER hit me up out of the blue. Mind you, I sent him a message after 4 dates saying that this wasn't working and he left me on read. And somehow he thought he could come back after 6 MONTHS??? These men smh
Man same happened to me
Anyone knows why they leave you on read when you text them.that things aren't working out? Cos same thing happened to me😂😂😂😭
Yup, you are definitely right! Ive seen this before. Its a game they play entertaining another woman and then they don't have money to take you out because they spent it on another. Age doesnt matter it has to do where the other person is in their life. Watch to see if hes s player or not. Seriously if a guy has addictions or these qualities of inconsistencies. Dont waste your time!!!! Its not worth it know when to walk way.
“You’re inconsistent. I don’t do inconsistency”yep, at a MINIMUM this should be part of your response... not everyone necessarily wants to put effort in to things, but NO ONE wants to be seen as inconsistent. Their reaction will tell you everything you need to know 👌🏼💯
It's like they'll find ways to get in contact with you. Change your email, your cell phone number, the name on your new social media pages. Shoot do a sista need to change her real name and social security number damn. 😒
I totally agree they are not worth your time ladies
I blocked him off my social media.
Same, girl
A month and a half ago...
No regrets!
Carlett Walker I stopped adding them.. I just say. Why put temporary people in permanent places. You have my WHOLE phone number and want to hit me up on social media. Nope. You don’t deserve any access to me
Carlett Walker same
I blocked him and he blocked me ,safe to say his ego was hurt and he’ll be leaving me tf alone
Clarance Moyo i did the same....i have peace now💪
If he applied for the position and he doesn't want to do the job he applied for...And then later he wants to come back...Either you tell him the position is already filled or you will just have to tell him his application is 'ALREADY' shreaded...PERIOD...😏
This happened to me recently! I told him I have a standard on how I want to be treated! You can either meet that or keep it moving! He kept trying to get me to come over I eventually just told him look Im seeing someone else now because he wasn't getting it.
A LOT of this is true for platonic same sex relationships too!!!
Amen.
Yeah, I just had to cut a girlfriend off for this. She can meet and screw guys off tinder but I noticed she never wanted to hang. Cut her loose
Unfortunately experiencing this now. I agree, very similar behavior!
"His efforts is an idea of you"...
That word alone speaks volumes of explanation for this topic.
Ladies! Listen up!