Wonderful insights. Thank you. Forgiveness is a choice. That person exists for you, even if they have died, and you can ask them to sit down and talk to them. In your mind, that person is there & listening as you speak. Say what’s in your heart. Be truthful, honest, & direct because you have nothing to fear. Forgiveness will meet you there.
It is not only women who love your weekly videos....I am a 77 year old man who lives alone and I look forward to your life with Desi and the wisdom and fun that you give to us every Sunday morning. Thank you...James
I had a thought about forgiveness. As a child my father was harsh to us over everything. We'd be hit with a belt, switches from our peach tree, he used belittling and insults. He came to visit me the week before Christmas - to see my son, his new and only grandbaby. The night before he left, he asked for my forgiveness. And he said something that's stayed with me for 25 years. He said, "I'm so sorry, it was wrong, but it was the best I knew how to do at the time". I realized that not only wasn't he the same person he'd been but that he'd grown and learned to do better. For his grandson, I think. Unfortunately, he got pneumonia and died on the trip home. What that taught me about forgiveness is not to hang onto hurt because the person you're angry with doesn't exist anymore. And how the power of words can free you from hurt and hate and self-blame. He set me free from that before he died. So I apologize first now and I explain that given the choice, I would have done better and that I've learned to be better than I was then. This rambled, I'm sorry, but if we can heal any hurt - take the time, make the effort and let go of the past. It's only hurting you.
I turned 72 this year. My life has changed dramatically since my husband passed away 6 years ago. This year I reflected on how my life has changed and what would make me happy. I realized that to have joy in my life again I had to make some changes. I thought about all the things that I love and what is missing in my life. So I decided to purchased a summer home in a different state near a friend of 60 years and have decided to split my time between two states. And I am loving it. My favorite quote is - if it is to be it is up to me. I have found joy again❣️
I'm actually looking to buy a beach home and kept my current apartment. I am just a State away and having two bedrooms...,(guests!) and my wonderful Son and his Girlfriend having a room to call theirs for the summer makes me smile! The cold PA winter makes way for spring and then summer. So many memories are tied to the NJ Beach front. So, it was so nice to see your comment. I can make it work. I wish you all the best! ⛱️❣️
My fiance had Parkinsons. Had a little shaking in his one hand. A doctor prescribed a very very strong medication. It had terrible side effects. He was on it for one week in August. It caused him to have terrible anxiety and depression. He was a Professsor. He had to not teach this semester. He continued to have the problems even after discontinuing the medication. A psychiatrist prescribed medication. It didn' t help him. His greatest fear was that he would never teach again My fiance killed himself on 09-14-22.We have been together for 18 wonderful years. So now I am mourning him and having to adjust to living without him.
@ Donna Pecoraro I couldn’t agree more. My husband and l have been helping to watch my grandchildren daily since they were born . Going to their house in the morning and after school. They are now 6&8 and they don’t need us in the same way . We meet them at the crossing guard and drop them off there in the am & pm. They don’t walk with us anymore and hold our hands , but they run ahead . They don’t ask as many questions bc they “ know everything “ 😂 They do let us help them with their home work . I have loved watching them grow up and start to become independent. They are my greatest gift as well as watching my daughter become a wonderful caring mother and daughter. I wish that everyone could have the gift of watching them grow.
I have a really hard time asking for help. Recently a friend said I'm coming to care for your parents so you can take a break". I immediately said "no I'm OK its not necessary" and she said "don't mess with my blessing". I decided to say thank you instead of no. Have a great week you two!!!
You are so wonderful to care for your parents....and I am so gd you can take a bit of a break..... the worlds needs more lovely ladies like you!!! Thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
I love that! "Don't mess with my blessing!" I've offered similar help to a friend whose husband has dementia, and she's clearly exhausted. She hasn't taken me up on it, and I think I'll try again, using those words. Thank you!
I don’t think you realize how talented you are.Your decorating talent,your musical talent,your compassion, and storytelling. These are gifts your grandchildren deserve to enjoy. You have much to give. Follow your heart❤
I'm 75 tomorrow and I've been lone for 40 years. The thing is ,you are never really alone if you know the Lord. He has taken care of me in this 2 income world with just my income. He has guided me into my retirement. Yes I'm lonely even in crowds all the time I have lost everyone in my family and my friends have gotten the hell out of California my family
God bless you Susan and all that you have been through push forward move next to your son get close to your grandchildren that is what is lacking in your life but please do not leave us we need you to depend on you
Loved this segment Susan. Makes me reflect on what my priorities are now that I am 69. One thing I love most about my husband of 27 years is that he always asks "what can I do for you " when I am down or ill. I did not get any of that from my first husband. Everything revolved around him. I always suffered in silence. It took me years to gain the confidence I needed to feel good about myself . You are so smart. BTW, your hair looks fabulous!
I am newly widowed... alone... with immense medical issues that changed my life drastically. A lot of choices may have been made for me, but I will always have "other" choices. How blessed you are to have extended family and be able to make the choice of choosing to offset drama, move beyond, and be at peace. I look forward to watching your journey continue, and listening closely to help me with my own. Thank you for continuing to share.
I am so sorry for your loss Colleen....let me know how you are and maybe you can share a bit of your jouney...I am sending good wished and prayers to you.....love always, Susan
I am so sorry for your loss, Colleen! It has been two years for me, and I can tell you that it's different, but definitely not the end! Sending you prayers for health and peace!
Susan, there's just one thing I want to say here. Giving someone the chance to forgive you, doesn't disempower them, or invalidate the past. Instead it gives them an opportunity to release some of the pain associated with the act that needed forgiveness. It is a kindness to ask for forgiveness as much as it is to ask for help. Allow your son to forgive you, but first forgive yourself. 😘
I know how hard it is to forgive yourself. If the two of you could make it so a relationship could be alive healthy and happy. That would be wonderful for you and your son and so many others. Go for it Susan. Try it. You want it then you won’t fail. You are a good kind person and they need to know you the real you. F don’t be afraid give love a chance
Denise, Yes, that was so well said! I understand also the thoughts Susan related that expressing feelings of sadness about our known imperfections and even failures are important, while being patient to allow that person to forgive when they feel ready is also a kindness. It’s humbling on both sides of the relationship I think. I can say when I’ve had someone ask me to forgive them, it opens a door to my heart toward them and quite often I get to truthfully tell them, “I already have”❣️
I learned a long time ago the difference between 'I am sorry' and 'Will you forgive me?' The latter is interactive and can heal a relationship.The forgiver has to be active and has the power to choose.
Please do not stop filming. We would all miss you so much. Just read that a man has also joined the group. That is so wonderful that he can learn something new also. You and Desi are such a joy!
Such a beautiful video ,Susan. You have given me so much. You are so right when you said, we are all here walking each other home. I am in tears because I have always felt that. The universe scooped us up and brought us here. Here to learn and love and walk each other home. Before I found this channel I didn't have any family. I do now. I have the greatest gift that I never expected. I have all of you. You made that happen, Susan. I am so blessed to walk home with all of you. I have the largest most wonderful family. Walking home with you is my pleasure.
Oh my gosh Susan the more I watch the more I need to comment. It was me that took my mom the day she found out she had lung cancer stage 4, it was a horrible experience but I’m glad I was there for her. Unfortunately she passed away after 9 months but me along with my aunts that she started raising at the age of 15 because her parents had died and my sisters and brothers we took care of her and done everything we could for the woman who had done so much for us. She had a hard life married my dad at 15 years old in 1955 raised her sisters and brother 5 of them then had 6 kids lost a son when he was only 45 in a freak accident but in the end we were there for our mother and the father we lost 7 months later. You have a wonderful son❤
@@LittlePoet You know I was thinking about it and I should really add my father into the raising other kids he took my mom’s brothers and sisters in while one brother and raise them as if they were his zone the youngest was five and the oldest was 12 but yeah they were great people my mom and my dad they’re both gone now but they’ll always be in my heart and thanks Susan you really do make my Saturdays
Oh Susan, these questions are so true! I was at my primary Dr. for Pre-Op for back surgery on Nov. 23th. I had a wonderful nurse I had never met. we chatted through my EKG. She said " I am a single mother with 2 kids. I applied for food stamps & was denied". I did not ask about her past. She did mention no child support. Then, she said " they are eating me out of house & home, my rent & electric just went up & I NEED HELP! WELL, my heart sank! I have been there many times. I know the struggle. As I left, I said: " we have been " prepping' food for 2 yrs & have plenty. CAN I HELP YOU??She hugged me & said OH YES, thank you! Her co workers & Dr. did not know this. We hugged. Her Dr. is going to take up a collection. I got home & told my daughter the story. " Let's make her a big Christmas basket before you go in for surgery". WHAT CAN I DO?????? So true~~~~~. Love & Blessings from Fla. & Hi Desi
Nurse here… in the 1980’s child support was not monitored properly. I worked as a nurse from 6 am to 3:30 pm, picked the two children up from childcare or school, ate supper with them , took them to their sisters house while I went to Walmart to work from 5-9:00 pm. This was my 5 days a week schedule. I applied for food stamps… I made $50 TOO MUCH because they HAD to include the $200.00 a month child support that I didn’t receive. With my FAITH and diligence carried us through those difficult years.
My ex died a year ago. It was a bitter divorce because he remarried and didn’t see my children, or support me. He left millions to his second family. I’m 75 and have to work because he was so spiteful. Even despite all this when he passed all of the anger subsided. And I only remember the good things we shared. It is a part of growing up and I’m a stronger person now.
Susan & Desi, I just found your channel and have watched many past videos. Your humor, insight and joy has touched me so much. I am 71, a momma, G’ma and widowed for a long time. You do inspire me to open up and enjoy everyone around me. Last weekend one of my grandsons was married. As I walked towards him, his arms were open wide and lifted me up in the biggest hug! I am so blessed and now I have found a new friend in you. PS I can’t believe there wasn’t a long line to adopt darling Desi! He is so perfect.
Suzanne - I feel like we're "sisters-in-arms" as I am also a newbie who is trying to catch up on past posts of Susan's, loving every one of them. I am also your exact age and have also been widowed many years, with children and grandchildren. I wish you well, and now have two new friends! I agree with your comment about Desi, too.
Little Desi is like a wise old soul listening to you. He's adorable. Asking for help is the hardest thing for me and as for forgiveness it's hard to forgive oneself for past mistakes than it is to forgive others.
A gift I plan to give my best friend is introducing her to your channel. You have been a gift to me these last few months. Thank you for sharing your life!
Susan, forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for You, to free you. Holding onto unforgiven chains you to that person. It doesn't hurt them. It hurts you. It paralyzes you. It stunts you. You can't move forward. Let it go my friend. You will be lighter and richer for it
This was the second video I watched of you tonight I don't think it was by accident I'm 66 widowed The 6 questions how profound. My life changed drastically in 2017. My Sister Mother best friend and my husband and furbaby passed away within 3 months I went through it alone. All of these questions helped explain what my heart is really crying out. I don't know how to live Idon'tknownany of thoseanswers other than I love God I'm still trying to buy necessities for my little apartment God blessed me with . I found out everything was going to his kids. I know God will supply my needs. You have the sweetest precious heart I can feel your love and compassion you have a beautiful heart. I will be subscribing and watching you now . I pray for God to heal my hurts and pain. God bless you I would love to be part of your family group
I can relate with you on wanting my grandkids to know me also i stay in touch with them and drive to see them all the time . my grand daughter told me all she wants for Christmas is for me to spend a entire year with her . ❤melts my heart she is 8 years old .
Thank you loved your sharing. As a recent widow of 10 months still trying to get balance in mind, body and spirit, For now my priority is my health. I do not want to be a burden to my children. I know what I have to do exercise, be more involved with life etc. No one can do this for me. Still feel very fragile emotionally, Your statement get out of yourself and do something for others is so true. Happy Thanksgiving and God Bless you!
1. I just turned 72, my husband died in 2014. I have unlimited options. 2. My priorities, my love for my Savior Jesus Christ, without that everything is a fail. My family and Otis🐶. I am blessed, because I am very close to my grandchildren who are all grown and who are always checking in on me. Giving, it is such a blessing to me. I have the original night before Christmas. I read to my children and to my grandchildren. I am saving that for my great-grandchildren. 3. Again, growing as a woman. I want to grow every day and never stop growing as a Christian woman. 4. Very hard, but if I do not forgive, I will hold on to that and never be free. 5. Ugh, I hate asking for help. I am getting better at it. I can help anybody anytime but for me also, asking for help shows weakness. I am working on this, a work in progress. 6. That is easy, I have no problem with this last one. It gives me so much joy❤Have a blessed night🙏🐶Otis and me🍁🍂🍁Massachusetts
Hello Faithy! This is a beautiful testament of your life and how eloquently you have expressed your feelings and your thoughts. I just "happened" upon this video, but so grateful I did! P.S., I'm also 72 years of age and "love my Lord and Savior" too!!! God Bless!🙏🏾
I love the look on Desi's face in his deer antler hat! It is priceless! You can certainly move near your Son and Grandchildren and continue your channel, start a musical group at a Club if you can't find one. You might even perform at your Son's Resturant/Bar on special occasions. Heck, it's a new adventure with personal benefits built in, your grandchildren. We all do our best as parents and there is always guilt because none of us are perfect. Our children discover this when they become parents. A little house for you and Desi is the fulfillment of a dream. Being close to your grandchildren is a precious thing to experience. You need to do this while they are young. By the time they become teenagers it will probably be too late to begin building the bonds you want with them. But...remember to always be making a fun quirky life for yourself. The kids will love that and enjoy seeing you have a life of your own. They will learn from your example. And so will we, your admirers and cheerleaders! You go girl!!
Susan in 9 months, my life has went through some huge changes! I just want to grow friendships and enjoy my new marriage, five years from now I will be 85 yrs old so right now I would love to travel and enjoy life for a change! God bless you dear heart with all you desire, I never miss one of your video's!
"we are just walking each other home" I love that...going to write it in my journal :) and "what can I do for you" really says it all and I will rember that especially in situations when there are no words that can help. Thank you for sharing Susan, another lovely video. Hope you and Desie have a blessed week. 😊
My husband is an exceptional individual who asks me daily, “What can I do for you TODAY to make your life easier ?” I treasure those words and actions he has put into play for 37 years. He lost his first wife to cancer and I lost my ex husband to another woman. Together we try our best to be kind to one another remembering love begets love remembering our wedding song, “Always and Forever.” Your videos are very inspiring and enjoyable!
Susan, you give so much of yourself! I'm truly in awe of your honesty and generosity. Your videos are truly heartfelt. You are a breath of fresh air on UA-cam. Many blessings to you for helping sooo many people!! 🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖
Thank you so much! You give me too much credit! I love being here with you and learning about your life...we are all just walking each other home...A very Merry Christmas to you and yours, Susan & Desi
SUSAN, I did it, I went thrift shopping, because of you. I had the best time, you were with me, but didn't know it! Well first of all, I have started walking and exercising because of you, I just want to feel better, lose some weight and breath the wonderful fresh air, it really makes me feel free. I've said all my life if we were ever reincarnated I wanted to be a beautiful bird, free to fly, free to go anywhere in the sky, just lift my wings and go with the wind!! No, I'm not crazy, like to dream. In this thrift store I would pick something up and wonder who would let go of something so beautiful and the sound of chimes that long continuous sound that is so beautiful. Well something kept telling me to pick up this bowl and I didn't!! I kept hearing pick it up! Well I did, the most beautiful bowl, Susan it was a CRYSTAL BOWL, my heavens!!! I told the owner this is crystal, do you know this, did the seller know this? He said he didn't know, people bring everything in hoping it will sell. It was like half the size of a punch bowl Susan. I gave $20 and it's worth so much more than that, so much!!! The sound is so beautiful. Because of you, I don't think I would have ever gone into this shop. You were with me and didn't even know it. I will think of you everytime I look at this amazing and precious crystal bowl. Love Always, Susan
I contemplated the answers or actions for each of these questions. There is a lot more thought required - except for one. When you spoke of your grandchildren and the things you want them to remember, I’m sharing this unsolicited advice from deep in my heart. This is important. I get to see my grandchildren not everyday, but at least once a week. Susan, these little people fill my heart with joy more than anything in my life ever has. When they run to me and hug me and want to play together - my purpose for being on earth is clear. Whatever your choice is, to move or stay, add in time to be a part of their lives.
Oh Susan that 'We are just walking each other home' was so beautiful 💕 If you have the opportunity to move close to your son and grandchildren please do! It will be the best decision you ever make. I'm 71yrs and my two grandsons are my heart! They are 19 & 23yrs and have been so much fun! We live close by them and watching them grow up and being a part of their life has been a blessing. Even now I always get a hug and a 'I love you' grandma💞💞 ....glad you're feeling better. And that Hal had some funny one liners!!😊
My no.1 priority is playing and teaching our grandchildren. We have 9 within 45 min. of us. I tutor them, swing, play, cook, draw just anything children like to do. We like to have them without their parents so they can get to know us better. I used to fret about where and how each Christmas was placed on our tree. Well the last 3 yrs, they wanted to help. So I prayed for patience and let them go at it. I love them so much more than any bobble. They had a gleam in their eyes and did a remarkable job. We had treats and I had Holiday music playing. At 73 it really was a relief and a big help. Let Go and Live with those little ones.
You are a beautiful Soul... Thank you for reaching out and sharing your life... You have a loving heart. I am very happy for you that you are now at a point in your life where you have found peace... God Bless you.. 🙏 The Fitzgerald /Kennedy cousins from Ireland
Please don't abandon your dedicated audience, we love to hear about your new life, when it develops. I'm sure a lot of baby sitting will be order..granma living close by, usually involves a lot of chores ;) :) I know from friends who have made the move to be closer to family. But you will find time to fill us in on what you and Desi are up to. Have a great weekend. 💞💓💞
Just turned 71 yesterday, have been alone now for over 20 years- lots of health issues, and similarities to you - just cried my eyes out listening to you and your natural compassion - I so get it... you are a blessing to others, thank you for your channel... I have subscribed! I want to model myself on your positivity, even if on a smaller scale. Belief and attitude is everything! 🤗
I don't know why, but when someone says " let me know if you need anything" they usually don't mean it. But to have someone say"what can I do for you now?" That is a real blessing. Dezi looks so cute in his reindeer antlers!
I've been watching your videos for about two years now. I have to say this one is my favorite. Your honesty and openness touched my heart 💕 I just turned 70 a few months ago and I've been reevaluating the things that are important to me at this time in my life. Thank you for this particular video it meant so much to me...💕
Oh Jackie, thak you so much for your words....I always worry a video isn't up to standards...and I hate to disappoint!!! A very Happy weekend to you...you are so kind!!! I am so glad you are here!! xo Susan & Dez
I have a prayer book and there is a part that deals with forgiveness. You write a letter to the person that hurt you, telling him/her what they did, hurt/angered you. Then you write another letter telling them you forgive them, after that tear up the letters and throw them away. I wrote a few and I don't feel that hurt or anger anymore. Also, I too have a hard time asking for help, but I have broken down and asked for it. Good point you made about your son. Thank you for all your videos, I look forward to watching them every week. Say hello to precious Desi. He's so adorbs.
Hi Susan..Your videos always tug at my heart. You never fail. I tear up at almost everyone. I use to be strong as iron. But as time goes by, I'm finding myself tearing up more than I ever did in my whole life. If you can, it would be wonderful to be closer to your children. I was blessed to take care of my grandchildren 4 -5 days a week before they began to go to school. It formed a beautiful bond that I cherish so much. My grandson is going to be 16 in January, and will begin driving. My granddaughter is 13 going on 14..She's beautiful. They're both beautiful. But I'll tell you, that I miss my little munchkins. It seems that the years have just flown by. And I think the pandemic stole time from us. And I also think, that's when I started tearing up more. All of our security seemed to come out from of us. I tend to be a positive person and I love to joke around and laugh. I have to work at it a little harder now. But I'll do it. My strong New York way will prevail. 😉 I'm not telling you what I'm about to tell you, for you to feel bad for me. I've had 3 significant losses this year. 2 in the last 3 months. A 39 yr. old and a 42yr.old. And I've found myself not commenting like I use to. I watch and thumbs up, but I've been pretty quiet. I'm trying to get back to my normal ways. And my kids make me feel so good. So if you noticed, which I don't expect you too, with all of your followers, that's why. You and the ladies of the " Mature Beauty Community " are very special to me. I've learned so many tricks, tips, products, especially from you. And I needed to tell you that. You and Desi are Tops. And you're both adorable. Sending big hugs to you both. 🤗 🤗
Oh Mary...what beautiful words! I cry so easily now...but not sad tears...it's mostly when I feel grateful or discover something new about this life we lead...Happy new week Mary!!!
Out of the many things my grandmother taught me. One of the things that really stood out and spoke to my heart was. When you're feeling down, do something for someone else. Random acts of kindness . Their happiness they express in return is what makes me the happy in the end.. Funny how, making someone else happy instead of expecting something from someone else to make you happy isn't it.. Linda
Yes, we are here to walk each other home. Learning to love and nurture ourselves brings joy and happiness and spiritual growth to us. Forgiveness is something I had to learn to forgive myself first and that made it so much easier to forgive others. I am more there for my grown adult children and grandchildren living so much closer to them and it is the blessing to us all. Susan, I love your videos and your wisdom on life. Thank you.
One of my favorite books for children is called “Wilma Unlimited”. It is all about Wilma Rudolph and what she went through as a child. She went from being told she would wear braces on her legs all of her life to being the fastest female runner in the world and taking home three Olympic gold metals. Your grandkids will treasure every moment with you. I like a drama free life too! My goal to remain creative is the same as yours. I treasure and crave creativity. It has also gotten me through some hard times. You are such an amazing communicator Susan. This video was incredible! Love you!❤
I have always had problems asking people for help. I don’t want to put anyone out. I feel like they will think that I’m weak or something. I just want you to know that I love your channel. I’m 54 years old and have health problems and anxiety & depression problems. But, finding your channel was a gift from God. I have so many things in common with you. Watching you helps me out. Thank you so much. God bless you and Desi. 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Susan. I’m glad that you are thinking about moving closer to your son. Your grandchildren will benefit from your spending more time with them. I will say, an hours drive is still very close. So, even if you remain where you are, you can still have a bit more time with your family. My life has been this quest for a family. I made dear friends family and they are still by my side whenever I need them. See you next week.
Life isn’t easy, we all have challenges. No matter what you are going through remember you are not alone, we must have more Faith than fear. By having your channel, you have reached out to many, many lives, bringing hope, joy and sometimes speaking of sadness. The point is, you have enriched so many people, including myself by your kind words, shared adventures and beautiful view on life. All this is temporary- all.. One thing is for sure, I too, will get up the next day and be thankful and filled with gratitude for the beauty that surrounds us. Sometimes we just need the quiet and time to heal, recharge our batteries and reopen our eyes to this beautiful world. We are not perfect, nothing is. Thank you Susan for each moment you share, I know my world has been painted in love and you add the lick of light to this painting, you shine LOVE! 🙏✨
Hi Susan, I have binge watching your videos and just love your comforting voice and your kind heart. It is so obvious that your passion is your grandchildren and your photography. I could just see all of your passion and joy come out when you talk about your little house with Desi and being with your grandchildren doing your photography really sparks your soul’s life. ❤ Michele 63 and single from Florida.
I watch your channel, We have so much in common. I'm 64 , I love your dog. I'm watching you grow. I never had a father, I've been divorced for 24 years and still stuck. We have 2 children together. I love art and music and books. And of course children first. No of I am of a child God and nature. Thank you for sharing
Hi Susan Before I retired I worked in a very high pressure fast paced business. I found that calling the people who were in the position to help me resolve the matters at hand, and simply saying, “I need your help” really worked to get the jobs done. Love to you and Desi❤
Wow -- your video for today really packed a punch, Susan! -- In a good way. I'm going to sit down and ponder the first three questions, and start practicing the second three. I was riveted to this video -- I may have to watch again. And Susan, I hope you continue with your channel for many years. I would feel that I had lost a friend if you stopped (actually, two friends -- you and Desi) I also read many comments here, and became weepy reading about the perspectives and challenges your listeners shared. I'm sending love and blessings to you, Susan, Desi, and all who commented here.
Always looking forward to your videos Little Desi is so sweet! He's lucky to be so loved Always looking forward to seeing him in your videos. I've watched them for 3 years now.
I just started watching you and am really loving this! I love the outdoors, playing piano, painting and drawing, writing, decorating. I also enjoy interacting with people and making a positive impact on their life. But I have been wasting some time. My priorities have been mixed up. I am inspired to make some changes. Thank you! And I will keep watching! Side note: Your videos are produced so beautifully
Susan, "Deep, Man, Deep!" The questions are very thought provoking. Literally, the first two made me think...and think. I am at the "age" where the next five years are the beginning of the rest of my life. My husband and I need to sit and answer these questions together. Hope you and the Dez have a great week. Blessings, Carol
My son died in December last year and the one thing that rips my heart out is not being able to ask him to forgive me for things I said out of anger and telling him how much I loved him always, unconditionally. I never thought that he would go before me. Oh, my son, my son, how I loved you and how I miss you!! 😢
Oh, Roseanne, I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your son. You loved him so much and he knew it. Our children know how much we love me...it's just our pain takes the form of regrets...and many of those regrets are not really based on anything true. ...love is love. Your son would want you to be at peace....I am saying a prayer for you and your family...my love to you always, Susan
Some things that people do to us are truly unforgivable Susan….I know that for sure and I’m not an unreasonable or unkind person. So don’t think about the person that’s died or try to find a way to forgive them..don’t give them any of your thoughts or time they simply aren’t worth it. I’ve been having friends over regularly for lovely food and drinks because the lady has had such a lot of major health problems and is the sweetest human being, I myself don’t usually entertain these days but for them I make an exception and they love it. Big decisions for you next year…whatever you choose I wish you good luck. The idea of being near your family is of great importance…..you can’t get time back. Desi looking wonderful…as usual and great in his reindeer hat. Your friends a really nice guy. 🌸Thank you Susan for making us think about things and taking us outside of our boxes. God bless.
I feel like I know you. I also had a child that I gave up for adoption. She found me 27 years ago. She is a college professor. We are very close and best friends. I really knew God loved me when we found each other. My husband accepted her as well.Our family is complete and so is my ❤
I always look forward to seeing you each week. I will be pondering these 6 questions because between you and me, I NEED to make some long overdue changes in my life. Thank you so much. ❤
@@LittlePoet We had 3 inches of snow today,beautiful! Before now I have only been without a dog for 3 mo.. My Maltese Franci was poisoned by a neighbor! August was a year. Do you think at 74 I am too old for another baby? I want one so desperately . I am in good health.
"Would you help me?" brought up powerful feelings of unworthiness, which were put on me as a small child where I was excluded, being the only girl in a family of six brothers My patriarchal father taught that girls were "less" than boys. So what that question did was remind me that I AM worthy of help and inclusiveness in this world. It also reminded me that now I do ask for help when I require it. That was an "anchor moment" where I could look back and see how much I have grown over the years, in my new life, because at some point I began asking for help from others. By the way, my father died in 1993 and that's when I began therapy, while journaling my way to wellness. Thanks for your channel @Susan. You're awesome. So is Desi! And so is Hal!😊🐕😊
This was powerful, Susan. I have a lot of work to do and I will go through each of these questions this week. I cried listening to this and it’s caused me to grow.❤️
This hit me where I live. Or my husband and I needed. We told our daughter we were having trouble making ends meet. She jumped right in and made some calls and they helped us with some of the immediate problems. Getting older is not for sises. With the way our president has made everything a mess it has affected us. The cost for food alone , we have insurance and we are struggling. She is our only child and we have never asked for help. They moved away from our area and it is a 14 hour drive. To say I am sad is not saying enough. We will be alone if we need her.I don't know what God has planned? we are lucky to have each other. I just turned 73 . Just hang in right? thanks for this time. I always look forward to you. Joyce
Susan, from a fellow Susan that has been watching your videos for a while… I just want to tell you you are a precious soul! Your insight, caring, and genuine desire to help others is so apparent in your videos. You have helped me & so many others with your joy. Thank you from the bottom of my ❤️
I always get so excited when I find out you’ve posted a new video. Thank you for making my day. And I know the coming week will be better because of you. I’ve never asked myself these questions. I’m almost afraid to answer them! I’m glad you’ve realized that you can still video if you move to a different town! We will all be right there with you. My grandchild is with me two full days each week and that has helped us form such a strong bond. You would love being closer to your grandchildren and we would absolutely love to share those times with you!
Oh my gosh, when you were talking about moving to where your son and grandchildren live, Susan, I was saying out loud to you, yes, do it, do it, do it! Thank you for such a beautiful video with much food for thought, you inspired me so much to look at my own life newly 💖
You have such an amazing and uplifting way of looking at life. I loved these questions and will be thinking about them for a while. Life journey is both complicated and joyful. My husband and l live 10 min from my daughter and help her out every day. She is a teacher and to put two young children into day care before and after school would be a huge chunk out of her salary. We have put our plans of moving to our dream condo in FL ( we are both retired) on hold . Getting up bf the sun in the winter. Braving the icy roads to get to her house morning after morning . But we do it because we will never get this time back with them. Life flies by and children grow up too quickly, but they are gifts . Forgiveness ~The one thing in life l know that l have to do is to forgive someone who is now dead. That person caused a lot of pain and was very toxic. I guess the word would be narcissistic. That is the one struggle l have… to be forgiving and letting go. Thank you very much for posting this video. It’s extremely thought provoking and healing.
Grandchildren are just blessing .I am taking care of my grandson since he was 11 months now he is turning 5 in 2 months.i feel so blessed and thanking God to give him as my oxygen in my life.
Susan, I have been watching for awhile and your videos always inspire me. You don’t have to have a plan a or b. You can have it all. Just enjoy your family and keep yourself happy. I have survived divorce,cancer and now a Tia. Just know that tomorrow is never promised, enjoy every day best you can. Thank you for sharing with us.
It strikes me that " What can I do for you" and " Please forgive me" might be two ends of the same continuum. We benefit more from forgiving others than they do. So living or otherwise, forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give to that relationship. The Healing can then begin as the malignancy of malevolence dissipates in our minds. We are free to love more fully, reframe our priorities and optimize life's options that lay before us. It is like in The Christmas Carol , when Jacob Marleys chains are revealed. Forgiveness involves putting down the weighty chains of unforgiveness and, as you said so beautifully...walking eachother home!
@@LittlePoet you are very inspiring! I have made some real life changes after 6 months of joining this community! On a different note...I saw a serum that showed YOU and someone else in its advertisement...I will try to send it to you on FB !
Hello dear Susan!! Happy weekend to you, Desi & your family!! I enjoyed this video very much!! At this stage in my life, I’m trying to figure out my priorities. I tend to put everyone in front of me, and have trouble articulating what I need. I often feel badly when it seems as if I haven’t done enough for those I love. I’m last on the totem pole!! I’m am working on changing my attitude about myself and to give myself a break. I thank you Susan, for your videos!! They give me hope that I will be ok!! I wish you love, joy& peace!! Blessings to you and your family!!😍😍😍
So thought provoking! We spend so much time doing mundane things we forget to ask these questions. You are so right about asking for help. It is like gift giving. Sometimes the best thing about asking for help is the joy it gives the helping person. We all need to feel valued, useful, respected and loved. This is my favourite video so far. Love to you and Desi… thanks for gently prodding me into being more mindful today.
This video touched me. It was difficult not to lose it! Thank you for this! This exactly why I tune in every week! And yes, I have made it through life with a positive attitude. It's a must, otherwise life is so much harder, for me anyway. Hope you a Desi have a great week. You're fantastic Susan 🥰
Thank you for you! Question #4 hit me right between the eyes. I have a problem with trying to make everything "fair" even when it's none of my business. I said something to my youngest sister in order to make a point about something she said that I thought was unfair. What I said hurt her, and she's barely speaking to me now. It's been a few weeks, and I've reached out several times, and apologized, but I have never asked her, face to face, if she will forgive me. In thinking about what #4 means, there's a difference between apologizing and actually asking for forgiveness. Apologizing is one-sided. It leaves everything hanging in the air. Asking for forgiveness involves both parties, and while it puts pressure on the other person to make that decision, it also asks them to (and allows them to) evaluate the relationship. If I'm standing right in front of my sister, humbly, she'll realize that our relationship is built on more than my well-intended but misplaced foolishness. Hopefully, she will say she forgives me. And if she does, it puts an end, hopefully, to this and says that we both recognize and accept that it's done, and we can both move on. I would hope it would also put an end to my inserting myself where I don't belong, but I know me. I'm trying.
I turn 60 tomorrow. These questions are all in my mind. Where do I go from here? What do I do with my precious time now? Life passes by so very quickly. We think we have forever. But it all happens as though in a dream. All very important questions you asked here today. Many I still don’t have the answers to. I’ve made plenty of mistakes, who hasn’t? But forgiveness from others isn’t as important as forgiveness from ourselves. Such important questions you have raised here. Thank You for sharing this video with these important questions. Blessings to you and Desi.❤️❤️
I enjoyed this time with you tonight so much, Susan !!!! Although some of my favorite times have been going thrifting with you, I so enjoy just having our talks like this evening. I feel really in touch with the deeper conversations. I think it helps us all to grow in discussing things that lay heavy on our hearts, things that really matter. Thank you so, so much for sharing those deeper thoughts with us all. You and Desi continue to BLESS me week after week. God Bess you both !
Wonderful insights. Thank you. Forgiveness is a choice. That person exists for you, even if they have died, and you can ask them to sit down and talk to them. In your mind, that person is there & listening as you speak. Say what’s in your heart. Be truthful, honest, & direct because you have nothing to fear. Forgiveness will meet you there.
This made me cry, my husband committed suicide 28 years ago and I need to do this 💔 thank you dear lady 🙏
It is not only women who love your weekly videos....I am a 77 year old man who lives alone and I look forward to your life with Desi and the wisdom and fun that you give to us every Sunday morning. Thank you...James
Thank you for reminding my James....!!! Big hugs and I will try to do better! Love ot you! Sues
Hello how are you James? My name is Debra
I had a thought about forgiveness. As a child my father was harsh to us over everything. We'd be hit with a belt, switches from our peach tree, he used belittling and insults. He came to visit me the week before Christmas - to see my son, his new and only grandbaby. The night before he left, he asked for my forgiveness. And he said something that's stayed with me for 25 years. He said, "I'm so sorry, it was wrong, but it was the best I knew how to do at the time". I realized that not only wasn't he the same person he'd been but that he'd grown and learned to do better. For his grandson, I think. Unfortunately, he got pneumonia and died on the trip home. What that taught me about forgiveness is not to hang onto hurt because the person you're angry with doesn't exist anymore. And how the power of words can free you from hurt and hate and self-blame. He set me free from that before he died. So I apologize first now and I explain that given the choice, I would have done better and that I've learned to be better than I was then. This rambled, I'm sorry, but if we can heal any hurt - take the time, make the effort and let go of the past. It's only hurting you.
Thank you for your comment. So appreciated. Your words of wisdom is so true. But it's easier said than done!
Well said, and thank you for sharing.
I turned 72 this year. My life has changed dramatically since my husband passed away 6 years ago. This year I reflected on how my life has changed and what would make me happy. I realized that to have joy in my life again I had to make some changes. I thought about all the things that I love and what is missing in my life. So I decided to purchased a summer home in a different state near a friend of 60 years and have decided to split my time between two states. And I am loving it. My favorite quote is - if it is to be it is up to me. I have found joy again❣️
Oh thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
Love that!
I'm actually looking to buy a beach home and kept my current apartment. I am just a State away and having two bedrooms...,(guests!) and my wonderful Son and his Girlfriend having a room to call theirs for the summer makes me smile! The cold PA winter makes way for spring and then summer. So many memories are tied to the NJ Beach front. So, it was so nice to see your comment. I can make it work. I wish you all the best! ⛱️❣️
How inspiring, I had to write that quote down because that is so wonderful !!
My fiance had Parkinsons. Had a little shaking in his one hand. A doctor prescribed a very very strong medication. It had terrible side effects. He was on it for one week in August. It caused him to have terrible anxiety and depression. He was a Professsor. He had to not teach this semester. He continued to have the problems even after discontinuing the medication. A psychiatrist prescribed medication. It didn' t help him. His greatest fear was that he would never teach again My fiance killed himself on 09-14-22.We have been together for 18 wonderful years. So now I am mourning him and having to adjust to living without him.
The more your grandchildren get to know you, the more they will love you. That’s true joy.
Oh thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
really get moving on the grandchild thing. kids are so busy these days. they grow up much faster. don’t be disappointed if they lack interest.
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I couldn’t agree more. My husband and l have been helping to watch my grandchildren daily since they were born . Going to their house in the morning and after school. They are now 6&8 and they don’t need us in the same way . We meet them at the crossing guard and drop them off there in the am & pm. They don’t walk with us anymore and hold our hands , but they run ahead . They don’t ask as many questions bc they “ know everything “ 😂 They do let us help them with their home work . I have loved watching them grow up and start to become independent. They are my greatest gift as well as watching my daughter become a wonderful caring mother and daughter.
I wish that everyone could have the gift of watching them grow.
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I have a really hard time asking for help. Recently a friend said I'm coming to care for your parents so you can take a break". I immediately said "no I'm OK its not necessary" and she said "don't mess with my blessing". I decided to say thank you instead of no. Have a great week you two!!!
You are so wonderful to care for your parents....and I am so gd you can take a bit of a break..... the worlds needs more lovely ladies like you!!! Thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
I love that!!!....."don't mess with my blessing". I'll remember that. And blessings and love to you, MK.
That sounds like you have a great friend! Blessings!😘❤️
I will remember this. "DON'T MESS WITH MY BLESSING!"
I love that! "Don't mess with my blessing!" I've offered similar help to a friend whose husband has dementia, and she's clearly exhausted. She hasn't taken me up on it, and I think I'll try again, using those words. Thank you!
I don’t think you realize how talented you are.Your decorating talent,your musical talent,your compassion, and storytelling. These are gifts your grandchildren deserve to enjoy. You have much to give. Follow your heart❤
"I don't always have to give my opinion". That is a WOW for me!! Thank you!
Loved it when you said” we are just walking each other home”. I cried, thanks
I cried too!
Same! I paused the video and rewinded it to hear it again so I could write it down. A beautiful truth!
This is just what I needed today! I thank you from my broken heart across the ocean ❤️
I'm 75 tomorrow and I've been lone for 40 years. The thing is ,you are never really alone if you know the Lord. He has taken care of me in this 2 income world with just my income. He has guided me into my retirement. Yes I'm lonely even in crowds all the time I have lost everyone in my family and my friends have gotten the hell out of California my family
God bless you Susan and all that you have been through push forward move next to your son get close to your grandchildren that is what is lacking in your life but please do not leave us we need you to depend on you
Happy birthday! Hugs!
Loved this segment Susan. Makes me reflect on what my priorities are now that I am 69. One thing I love most about my husband of 27 years is that he always asks "what can I do for you " when I am down or ill. I did not get any of that from my first husband. Everything revolved around him. I always suffered in silence. It took me years to gain the confidence I needed to feel good about myself . You are so smart. BTW, your hair looks fabulous!
I am newly widowed... alone... with immense medical issues that changed my life drastically. A lot of choices may have been made for me, but I will always have "other" choices. How blessed you are to have extended family and be able to make the choice of choosing to offset drama, move beyond, and be at peace. I look forward to watching your journey continue, and listening closely to help me with my own. Thank you for continuing to share.
I am so sorry for your loss Colleen....let me know how you are and maybe you can share a bit of your jouney...I am sending good wished and prayers to you.....love always, Susan
Very sorry for the sadness and loss of your loved one.
Sending love and hugs.
My condolences - sending loads of love from Tasmania 💖🙏🏻
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I am so sorry for your loss, Colleen! It has been two years for me, and I can tell you that it's different, but definitely not the end! Sending you prayers for health and peace!
Susan, there's just one thing I want to say here. Giving someone the chance to forgive you, doesn't disempower them, or invalidate the past. Instead it gives them an opportunity to release some of the pain associated with the act that needed forgiveness. It is a kindness to ask for forgiveness as much as it is to ask for help. Allow your son to forgive you, but first forgive yourself. 😘
I know how hard it is to forgive yourself. If the two of you could make it so a relationship could be alive healthy and happy. That would be wonderful for you and your son and so many others. Go for it Susan. Try it. You want it then you won’t fail. You are a good kind person and they need to know you the real you. F don’t be afraid give love a chance
I found that question so difficult...I stuttered all the way through it.................!!!
Denise, Yes, that was so well said! I understand also the thoughts Susan related that expressing feelings of sadness about our known imperfections and even failures are important, while being patient to allow that person to forgive when they feel ready is also a kindness. It’s humbling on both sides of the relationship I think. I can say when I’ve had someone ask me to forgive them, it opens a door to my heart toward them and quite often I get to truthfully tell them, “I already have”❣️
I’ve come to love this community, thank you for letting me share in your insight and wisdom!
I learned a long time ago the difference between 'I am sorry' and 'Will you forgive me?' The latter is interactive and can heal a relationship.The forgiver has to be active and has the power to choose.
Please do not stop filming. We would all miss you so much. Just read that a man has also joined the group. That is so wonderful that he can learn something new also. You and Desi are such a joy!
Thank you so much for being here and leaving such a sweet comment! Happy Thanksgiving to you this week!!! Xo Much love! Susan & Desi
Such a beautiful video ,Susan. You have given me so much. You are so right when you said, we are all here walking each other home. I am in tears because I have always felt that. The universe scooped us up and brought us here. Here to learn and love and walk each other home. Before I found this channel I didn't have any family. I do now. I have the greatest gift that I never expected. I have all of you. You made that happen, Susan. I am so blessed to walk home with all of you. I have the largest most wonderful family. Walking home with you is my pleasure.
You have given me so much joy every week Deborah!
I so look forward to your videos every week. You such a lovely lady inside and out.
Aww! Susan has a way of comforting everyone. I love my family here! ❤️😊
Deborah, that's was beautiful. 🥰
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Oh my gosh Susan the more I watch the more I need to comment. It was me that took my mom the day she found out she had lung cancer stage 4, it was a horrible experience but I’m glad I was there for her. Unfortunately she passed away after 9 months but me along with my aunts that she started raising at the age of 15 because her parents had died and my sisters and brothers we took care of her and done everything we could for the woman who had done so much for us. She had a hard life married my dad at 15 years old in 1955 raised her sisters and brother 5 of them then had 6 kids lost a son when he was only 45 in a freak accident but in the end we were there for our mother and the father we lost 7 months later. You have a wonderful son❤
Oh Brenda...this brought me to tears....beautiful!
@@LittlePoet You know I was thinking about it and I should really add my father into the raising other kids he took my mom’s brothers and sisters in while one brother and raise them as if they were his zone the youngest was five and the oldest was 12 but yeah they were great people my mom and my dad they’re both gone now but they’ll always be in my heart and thanks Susan you really do make my Saturdays
I wish you were my neighbor !!
Oh Susan, these questions are so true! I was at my primary Dr. for Pre-Op for back surgery on Nov. 23th. I had a wonderful nurse I had never met. we chatted through my EKG. She said " I am a single mother with 2 kids. I applied for food stamps & was denied". I did not ask about her past. She did mention no child support. Then, she said " they are eating me out of house & home, my rent & electric just went up & I NEED HELP! WELL, my heart sank! I have been there many times. I know the struggle. As I left, I said: " we have been " prepping' food for 2 yrs & have plenty. CAN I HELP YOU??She hugged me & said OH YES, thank you! Her co workers & Dr. did not know this. We hugged. Her Dr. is going to take up a collection. I got home & told my daughter the story. " Let's make her a big Christmas basket before you go in for surgery". WHAT CAN I DO?????? So true~~~~~. Love & Blessings from Fla. & Hi Desi
Nurse here… in the 1980’s child support was not monitored properly. I worked as a nurse from 6 am to 3:30 pm, picked the two children up from childcare or school, ate supper with them , took them to their sisters house while I went to Walmart to work from 5-9:00 pm. This was my 5 days a week schedule.
I applied for food stamps… I made $50 TOO MUCH because they HAD to include the $200.00 a month child support that I didn’t receive.
With my FAITH and diligence carried us through those difficult years.
My ex died a year ago. It was a bitter divorce because he remarried and didn’t see my children, or
support me. He left millions to his second family. I’m 75 and have to work because he was so spiteful.
Even despite all this when he passed all of the anger subsided. And I only remember the good things we shared.
It is a part of growing up and I’m a stronger person now.
Moving near your grandchild and being in their lives is a wonderful idea.
Susan & Desi, I just found your channel and have watched many past videos. Your humor, insight and joy has touched me so much. I am 71, a momma, G’ma and widowed for a long time. You do inspire me to open up and enjoy everyone around me. Last weekend one of my grandsons was married. As I walked towards him, his arms were open wide and lifted me up in the biggest hug! I am so blessed and now I have found a new friend in you. PS I can’t believe there wasn’t a long line to adopt darling Desi! He is so perfect.
A very Happy weekend to you Suzanne!...you are so kind!!! I am so glad you are here!! xo Susan & Dez
What a special memory you have, Suzanne. My grandchildren are little - I hope to be here when they marry, but…. That hug you got is so sweet.🥰
Suzanne - I feel like we're "sisters-in-arms" as I am also a newbie who is trying to catch up on past posts of Susan's, loving every one of them. I am also your exact age and have also been widowed many years, with children and grandchildren. I wish you well, and now have two new friends! I agree with your comment about Desi, too.
Little Desi is like a wise old soul listening to you. He's adorable. Asking for help is the hardest thing for me and as for forgiveness it's hard to forgive oneself for past mistakes than it is to forgive others.
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A gift I plan to give my best friend is introducing her to your channel. You have been a gift to me these last few months. Thank you for sharing your life!
Susan, forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for You, to free you. Holding onto unforgiven chains you to that person. It doesn't hurt them. It hurts you. It paralyzes you. It stunts you. You can't move forward. Let it go my friend. You will be lighter and richer for it
This was the second video I watched of you tonight I don't think it was by accident I'm 66 widowed The 6 questions how profound. My life changed drastically in 2017. My Sister Mother best friend and my husband and furbaby passed away within 3 months I went through it alone. All of these questions helped explain what my heart is really crying out. I don't know how to live Idon'tknownany of thoseanswers other than I love God I'm still trying to buy necessities for my little apartment God blessed me with . I found out everything was going to his kids. I know God will supply my needs. You have the sweetest precious heart I can feel your love and compassion you have a beautiful heart. I will be subscribing and watching you now . I pray for God to heal my hurts and pain. God bless you I would love to be part of your family group
I can relate with you on wanting my grandkids to know me also i stay in touch with them and drive to see them all the time . my grand daughter told me all she wants for Christmas is for me to spend a entire year with her . ❤melts my heart she is 8 years old .
“That’s not much of a shirt either…” 😂😂😂 You are funny!
“A positive attitude will get you through everything-Hal” ❤
I think he might be on to something!!! LOL
I agree! It’s all in the brain and is my glass half full or half empty? The word empty sounds so alone, helpless and hopeless.
He cracked me up when he said that
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Thank you loved your sharing. As a recent widow of 10 months still trying to get balance in mind, body and spirit, For now my priority is my health. I do not want to be a burden to my children. I know what I have to do exercise, be more involved with life etc. No one can do this for me. Still feel very fragile emotionally, Your statement get out of yourself and do something for others is so true. Happy Thanksgiving and God Bless you!
1. I just turned 72, my husband died in 2014. I have unlimited options. 2. My priorities, my love for my Savior Jesus Christ, without that everything is a fail. My family and Otis🐶. I am blessed, because I am very close to my grandchildren who are all grown and who are always checking in on me. Giving, it is such a blessing to me. I have the original night before Christmas. I read to my children and to my grandchildren. I am saving that for my great-grandchildren. 3. Again, growing as a woman. I want to grow every day and never stop growing as a Christian woman. 4. Very hard, but if I do not forgive, I will hold on to that and never be free. 5. Ugh, I hate asking for help. I am getting better at it. I can help anybody anytime but for me also, asking for help shows weakness. I am working on this, a work in progress. 6. That is easy, I have no problem with this last one. It gives me so much joy❤Have a blessed night🙏🐶Otis and me🍁🍂🍁Massachusetts
Hello Faithy! This is a beautiful testament of your life and how eloquently you have expressed your feelings and your thoughts. I just "happened" upon this video, but so grateful I did! P.S., I'm also 72 years of age and "love my Lord and Savior" too!!! God Bless!🙏🏾
@@jacquih8804 Praise God, He can when we cannot.
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I am 75..glad you and Desi are doin great
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I love the look on Desi's face in his deer antler hat! It is priceless!
You can certainly move near your Son and Grandchildren and continue your channel, start a musical group at a Club if you can't find one. You might even perform at your Son's Resturant/Bar on special occasions. Heck, it's a new adventure with personal benefits built in, your grandchildren.
We all do our best as parents and there is always guilt because none of us are perfect. Our children discover this when they become parents.
A little house for you and Desi is the fulfillment of a dream. Being close to your grandchildren is a precious thing to experience. You need to do this while they are young. By the time they become teenagers it will probably be too late to begin building the bonds you want with them. But...remember to always be making a fun quirky life for yourself. The kids will love that and enjoy seeing you have a life of your own. They will learn from your example. And so will we, your admirers and cheerleaders! You go girl!!
Susan in 9 months, my life has went through some huge changes! I just want to grow friendships and enjoy my new marriage, five years from now I will be 85 yrs old so right now I would love to travel and enjoy life for a change! God bless you dear heart with all you desire, I never miss one of your video's!
Sandra! how lovely to run into you here. Love and blessings to you from one of your subscribers❣
@@ginnylorenz5265 Hello to your to Ginny!!!
"we are just walking each other home" I love that...going to write it in my journal :) and "what can I do for you" really says it all and I will rember that especially in situations when there are no words that can help. Thank you for sharing Susan, another lovely video. Hope you and Desie have a blessed week. 😊
My husband is an exceptional individual who asks me daily, “What can I do for you TODAY to make your life easier ?” I treasure those words and actions he has put into play for 37 years. He lost his first wife to cancer and I lost my ex husband to another woman. Together we try our best to be kind to one another remembering love begets love remembering our wedding song, “Always and Forever.” Your videos are very inspiring and enjoyable!
Susan, you give so much of yourself! I'm truly in awe of your honesty and generosity. Your videos are truly heartfelt. You are a breath of fresh air on UA-cam. Many blessings to you for helping sooo many people!! 🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖
Thank you so much! You give me too much credit! I love being here with you and learning about your life...we are all just walking each other home...A very Merry Christmas to you and yours, Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet And to you too Susan. Many blessings.
I live that saying "we are all just walking each other home" 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏
SUSAN, I did it, I went thrift shopping, because of you. I had the best time, you were with me, but didn't know it! Well first of all, I have started walking and exercising because of you, I just want to feel better, lose some weight and breath the wonderful fresh air, it really makes me feel free. I've said all my life if we were ever reincarnated I wanted to be a beautiful bird, free to fly, free to go anywhere in the sky, just lift my wings and go with the wind!! No, I'm not crazy, like to dream. In this thrift store I would pick something up and wonder who would let go of something so beautiful and the sound of chimes that long continuous sound that is so beautiful. Well something kept telling me to pick up this bowl and I didn't!! I kept hearing pick it up! Well I did, the most beautiful bowl, Susan it was a CRYSTAL BOWL, my heavens!!! I told the owner this is crystal, do you know this, did the seller know this? He said he didn't know, people bring everything in hoping it will sell. It was like half the size of a punch bowl Susan. I gave $20 and it's worth so much more than that, so much!!! The sound is so beautiful. Because of you, I don't think I would have ever gone into this shop. You were with me and didn't even know it. I will think of you everytime I look at this amazing and precious crystal bowl. Love Always, Susan
I contemplated the answers or actions for each of these questions. There is a lot more thought required - except for one. When you spoke of your grandchildren and the things you want them to remember, I’m sharing this unsolicited advice from deep in my heart. This is important. I get to see my grandchildren not everyday, but at least once a week. Susan, these little people fill my heart with joy more than anything in my life ever has. When they run to me and hug me and want to play together - my purpose for being on earth is clear. Whatever your choice is, to move or stay, add in time to be a part of their lives.
Love to see the Friendship between you and Al .
You both look so comfortable with each other .
Desi has my heart ❤
Oh Susan that 'We are just walking each other home' was so beautiful 💕 If you have the opportunity to move close to your son and grandchildren please do! It will be the best decision you ever make. I'm 71yrs and my two grandsons are my heart! They are 19 & 23yrs and have been so much fun! We live close by them and watching them grow up and being a part of their life has been a blessing. Even now I always get a hug and a 'I love you' grandma💞💞 ....glad you're feeling better. And that Hal had some funny one liners!!😊
My no.1 priority is playing and teaching our grandchildren. We have 9 within 45 min. of us. I tutor them, swing, play, cook, draw just anything children like to do. We like to have them without their parents so they can get to know us better. I used to fret about where and how each Christmas was placed on our tree. Well the last 3 yrs, they wanted to help. So I prayed for patience and let them go at it. I love them so much more than any bobble. They had a gleam in their eyes and did a remarkable job. We had treats and I had Holiday music playing. At 73 it really was a relief and a big help. Let Go and Live with those little ones.
You are a beautiful Soul... Thank you for reaching out and sharing your life... You have a loving heart. I am very happy for you that you are now at a point in your life where you have found peace... God Bless you.. 🙏
The Fitzgerald /Kennedy cousins from Ireland
Please don't abandon your dedicated audience, we love to hear about your new life, when it develops. I'm sure a lot of baby sitting will be order..granma living close by, usually involves a lot of chores ;) :) I know from friends who have made the move to be closer to family. But you will find time to fill us in on what you and Desi are up to. Have a great weekend. 💞💓💞
Just turned 71 yesterday, have been alone now for over 20 years- lots of health issues, and similarities to you - just cried my eyes out listening to you and your natural compassion - I so get it... you are a blessing to others, thank you for your channel... I have subscribed! I want to model myself on your positivity, even if on a smaller scale. Belief and attitude is everything! 🤗
Hi sweet friend, I've missed you. I've been sick with Covid , your videos are helping me so much. Take care Susan❤
I don't know why, but when someone says " let me know if you need anything" they usually don't mean it. But to have someone say"what can I do for you now?" That is a real blessing. Dezi looks so cute in his reindeer antlers!
I've been watching your videos for about two years now.
I have to say this one is my favorite.
Your honesty and openness touched my heart 💕
I just turned 70 a few months ago and I've been reevaluating the things that are important to me at this time in my life.
Thank you for this particular video it meant so much to me...💕
Oh Jackie, thak you so much for your words....I always worry a video isn't up to standards...and I hate to disappoint!!! A very Happy weekend to you...you are so kind!!! I am so glad you are here!! xo Susan & Dez
I have a prayer book and there is a part that deals with forgiveness. You write a letter to the person that hurt you, telling him/her what they did, hurt/angered you. Then you write another letter telling them you forgive them, after that tear up the letters and throw them away. I wrote a few and I don't feel that hurt or anger anymore. Also, I too have a hard time asking for help, but I have broken down and asked for it. Good point you made about your son. Thank you for all your videos, I look forward to watching them every week. Say hello to precious Desi. He's so adorbs.
Hal is so right. A positive attitude makes everything seem better. Thank you 🌹
Hi Susan..Your videos always tug at my heart. You never fail.
I tear up at almost everyone. I use to be strong as iron. But as time goes by, I'm finding myself tearing up more than I ever did in my whole life.
If you can, it would be wonderful to be closer to your children.
I was blessed to take care of my grandchildren 4 -5 days a week before they began to go to school. It formed a beautiful bond that I cherish so much. My grandson is going to be 16 in January, and will begin driving. My granddaughter is 13 going on 14..She's beautiful. They're both beautiful. But I'll tell you, that I miss my little munchkins. It seems that the years have just flown by. And I think the pandemic stole time from us. And I also think, that's when I started tearing up more. All of our security seemed to come out from of us.
I tend to be a positive person and I love to joke around and laugh. I have to work at it a little harder now. But I'll do it. My strong New York way will prevail. 😉
I'm not telling you what I'm about to tell you, for you to feel bad for me. I've had 3 significant losses this year. 2 in the last 3 months. A 39 yr. old and a 42yr.old. And I've found myself not commenting like I use to. I watch and thumbs up, but I've been pretty quiet. I'm trying to get back to my normal ways. And my kids make me feel so good. So if you noticed, which I don't expect you too, with all of your followers, that's why. You and the ladies of the " Mature Beauty Community " are very special to me. I've learned so many tricks, tips, products, especially from you. And I needed to tell you that. You and Desi are Tops. And you're both adorable. Sending big hugs to you both. 🤗 🤗
Oh Mary...what beautiful words! I cry so easily now...but not sad tears...it's mostly when I feel grateful or discover something new about this life we lead...Happy new week Mary!!!
@@LittlePoet Me too Susan. Happy New week to you too!
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@@BlingyBea Thankyou so much! 🙏🏻❤️
Out of the many things my grandmother taught me. One of the things that really stood out and spoke to my heart was. When you're feeling down, do something for someone else. Random acts of kindness . Their happiness they express in return is what makes me the happy in the end.. Funny how, making someone else happy instead of expecting something from someone else to make you happy isn't it.. Linda
Yes, we are here to walk each other home. Learning to love and nurture ourselves brings joy and happiness and spiritual growth to us. Forgiveness is something I had to learn to forgive myself first and that made it so much easier to forgive others. I am more there for my grown adult children and grandchildren living so much closer to them and it is the blessing to us all. Susan, I love your videos and your wisdom on life. Thank you.
One of my favorite books for children is called “Wilma Unlimited”. It is all about Wilma Rudolph and what she went through as a child. She went from being told she would wear braces on her legs all of her life to being the fastest female runner in the world and taking home three Olympic gold metals. Your grandkids will treasure every moment with you. I like a drama free life too! My goal to remain creative is the same as yours. I treasure and crave creativity. It has also gotten me through some hard times. You are such an amazing communicator Susan. This video was incredible! Love you!❤
I have always had problems asking people for help. I don’t want to put anyone out. I feel like they will think that I’m weak or something. I just want you to know that I love your channel. I’m 54 years old and have health problems and anxiety & depression problems. But, finding your channel was a gift from God. I have so many things in common with you. Watching you helps me out. Thank you so much. God bless you and Desi. 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Susan. I’m glad that you are thinking about moving closer to your son. Your grandchildren will benefit from your spending more time with them. I will say, an hours drive is still very close. So, even if you remain where you are, you can still have a bit more time with your family. My life has been this quest for a family. I made dear friends family and they are still by my side whenever I need them. See you next week.
Your message was priceless. Thank you for always being there. I look forward to hearing your next moving journey.. step by step❤
this really made me think. you are a beautiful person and I enjoy your video's so much.
Life isn’t easy, we all have challenges. No matter what you are going through remember you are not alone, we must have more Faith than fear.
By having your channel, you have reached out to many, many lives, bringing hope, joy and sometimes speaking of sadness. The point is, you have enriched so many people, including myself by your kind words, shared adventures and beautiful view on life. All this is temporary- all..
One thing is for sure, I too, will get up the next day and be thankful and filled with gratitude for the beauty that surrounds us. Sometimes we just need the quiet and time to heal, recharge our batteries and reopen our eyes to this beautiful world. We are not perfect, nothing is. Thank you Susan for each moment you share, I know my world has been painted in love and you add the lick of light to this painting, you shine LOVE! 🙏✨
Hi Susan, I have binge watching your videos and just love your comforting voice and your kind heart. It is so obvious that your passion is your grandchildren and your photography. I could just see all of your passion and joy come out when you talk about your little house with Desi and being with your grandchildren doing your photography really sparks your soul’s life. ❤
Michele 63 and single from Florida.
Hello, Susan, Hal and little Desi. I'm glad you have Hal as a friend, Susan. Thank you for this sweet video. Love.
I watch your channel, We have so much in common. I'm 64 , I love your dog. I'm watching you grow. I never had a father, I've been divorced for 24 years and still stuck. We have 2 children together. I love art and music and books. And of course children first. No of I am of a child God and nature. Thank you for sharing
Hi Susan Before I retired I worked in a very high pressure fast paced business. I found that calling the people who were in the position to help me resolve the matters at hand, and simply saying, “I need your help” really worked to get the jobs done. Love to you and Desi❤
Wow -- your video for today really packed a punch, Susan! -- In a good way. I'm going to sit down and ponder the first three questions, and start practicing the second three. I was riveted to this video -- I may have to watch again. And Susan, I hope you continue with your channel for many years. I would feel that I had lost a friend if you stopped (actually, two friends -- you and Desi) I also read many comments here, and became weepy reading about the perspectives and challenges your listeners shared. I'm sending love and blessings to you, Susan, Desi, and all who commented here.
Love this utube channel the most
Asking for help is powerful!!!
If you have a chance to live close to your grandkids, GO! They grow so fast. Don't put it off. Just do it.
Always looking forward to your videos
Little Desi is so sweet! He's lucky to be so loved
Always looking forward to seeing him in your videos.
I've watched them for 3 years now.
I just started watching you and am really loving this! I love the outdoors, playing piano, painting and drawing, writing, decorating. I also enjoy interacting with people and making a positive impact on their life.
But I have been wasting some time. My priorities have been mixed up.
I am inspired to make some changes. Thank you! And I will keep watching!
Side note: Your videos are produced so beautifully
Susan, "Deep, Man, Deep!" The questions are very thought provoking. Literally, the first two made me think...and think. I am at the "age" where the next five years are the beginning of the rest of my life. My husband and I need to sit and answer these questions together. Hope you and the Dez have a great week. Blessings, Carol
My son died in December last year and the one thing that rips my heart out is not being able to ask him to forgive me for things I said out of anger and telling him how much I loved him always, unconditionally. I never thought that he would go before me. Oh, my son, my son, how I loved you and how I miss you!! 😢
Oh, Roseanne, I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your son. You loved him so much and he knew it. Our children know how much we love me...it's just our pain takes the form of regrets...and many of those regrets are not really based on anything true. ...love is love. Your son would want you to be at peace....I am saying a prayer for you and your family...my love to you always, Susan
Some things that people do to us are truly unforgivable Susan….I know that for sure and I’m not an unreasonable or unkind person. So don’t think about the person that’s died or try to find a way to forgive them..don’t give them any of your thoughts or time they simply aren’t worth it.
I’ve been having friends over regularly for lovely food and drinks because the lady has had such a lot of major health problems and is the sweetest human being, I myself don’t usually entertain these days but for them I make an exception and they love it.
Big decisions for you next year…whatever you choose I wish you good luck. The idea of being near your family is of great importance…..you can’t get time back.
Desi looking wonderful…as usual and great in his reindeer hat.
Your friends a really nice guy. 🌸Thank you Susan for making us think about things and taking us outside of our boxes. God bless.
I am having a hard time with it...thank you for understanding...
I’m so glad I found your channel Susan. Thank you for your lovely message, I’m looking forward to making real changes with my life too.❤️
I feel like I know you. I also had a child that I gave up for adoption. She found me 27 years ago. She is a college professor. We are very close and best friends. I really knew God loved me when we found each other. My husband accepted her as well.Our family is complete and so is my ❤
I always look forward to seeing you each week. I will be pondering these 6 questions because between you and me, I NEED to make some long overdue changes in my life. Thank you so much. ❤
Oh thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
I sure needed this talk today! Love you Susan for being there for us❤️❤️❤️
Happy weekend Jo!!!
@@LittlePoet Same to you and sweet Desi!😘🥰
Ditto! ❤
@@jocollins324 oh thank you....it's cold here but we are all cuddled up!!!! Love to you Jo!
@@LittlePoet We had 3 inches of snow today,beautiful! Before now I have only been without a dog for 3 mo.. My Maltese Franci was poisoned by a neighbor! August was a year. Do you think at 74 I am too old for another baby? I want one so desperately . I am in good health.
"Would you help me?" brought up powerful feelings of unworthiness, which were put on me as a small child where I was excluded, being the only girl in a family of six brothers My patriarchal father taught that girls were "less" than boys. So what that question did was remind me that I AM worthy of help and inclusiveness in this world. It also reminded me that now I do ask for help when I require it. That was an "anchor moment" where I could look back and see how much I have grown over the years, in my new life, because at some point I began asking for help from others. By the way, my father died in 1993 and that's when I began therapy, while journaling my way to wellness. Thanks for your channel @Susan. You're awesome. So is Desi! And so is Hal!😊🐕😊
Well Susan, one thing I know for sure is I am so grateful to have found you here on your channel. You have enriched my life more than you know ❤
This was powerful, Susan. I have a lot of work to do and I will go through each of these questions this week. I cried listening to this and it’s caused me to grow.❤️
A very Happy weekend to you...you are so kind!!! I am so glad you are here!! xo Susan & Dez
This hit me where I live. Or my husband and I needed. We told our daughter we were having trouble making ends meet. She jumped right in and made some calls and they helped us with some of the immediate problems. Getting older is not for sises. With the way our president has made everything a mess it has affected us. The cost for food alone , we have insurance and we are struggling. She is our only child and we have never asked for help. They moved away from our area and it is a 14 hour drive. To say I am sad is not saying enough. We will be alone if we need her.I don't know what God has planned? we are lucky to have each other. I just turned 73 . Just hang in right? thanks for this time. I always look forward to you. Joyce
Oh thank you so much for being here!!! xxoo Susan & Desi
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This is a special girlfriends' club!
Thank you for being you!
You are a beautiful soul. I am so happy I found your channel. I love Desi.
Susan, from a fellow Susan that has been watching your videos for a while… I just want to tell you you are a precious soul! Your insight, caring, and genuine desire to help others is so apparent in your videos. You have helped me & so many others with your joy. Thank you from the bottom of my ❤️
I always get so excited when I find out you’ve posted a new video. Thank you for making my day. And I know the coming week will be better because of you. I’ve never asked myself these questions. I’m almost afraid to answer them! I’m glad you’ve realized that you can still video if you move to a different town! We will all be right there with you. My grandchild is with me two full days each week and that has helped us form such a strong bond. You would love being closer to your grandchildren and we would absolutely love to share those times with you!
Oh my gosh, when you were talking about moving to where your son and grandchildren live, Susan, I was saying out loud to you, yes, do it, do it, do it! Thank you for such a beautiful video with much food for thought, you inspired me so much to look at my own life newly 💖
What happened between you and your Son? How old are your grandchildren? love and prayers and blessings Betty 🙌 🙏 ❤️
Susan, I thought I was the only one who feel that way when I ask my adult children for needed help. I too know that one day they will be happy for it.
You are so sweet! Happy Thanksgiving!!! xo Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet Coming from you means so much. You are precious. So happy I found your channel 1 month ago.
@@LittlePoet I pray you and Desi had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I'm in Canada so our Thanksging was in early October. Much thanks.
“What can I do for you?” can diffuse so much anxiety, fear, and unease. Thank you for the reminder.
You have such an amazing and uplifting way of looking at life. I loved these questions and will be thinking about them for a while.
Life journey is both complicated and joyful.
My husband and l live 10 min from my daughter and help her out every day. She is a teacher and to put two young children into day care before and after school would be a huge chunk out of her salary. We have put our plans of moving to our dream condo in FL ( we are both retired) on hold . Getting up bf the sun in the winter. Braving the icy roads to get to her house morning after morning . But we do it because we will never get this time back with them. Life flies by and children grow up too quickly, but they are gifts .
Forgiveness ~The one thing in life l know that l have to do is to forgive someone who is now dead. That person caused a lot of pain and was very toxic. I guess the word would be narcissistic. That is the one struggle l have… to be forgiving and letting go.
Thank you very much for posting this video. It’s extremely thought provoking and healing.
Grandchildren are just blessing .I am taking care of my grandson since he was 11 months now he is turning 5 in 2 months.i feel so blessed and thanking God to give him as my oxygen in my life.
Susan, I have been watching for awhile and your videos always inspire me. You don’t have to have a plan a or b. You can have it all. Just enjoy your family and keep yourself happy. I have survived divorce,cancer and now a Tia. Just know that tomorrow is never promised, enjoy every day best you can. Thank you for sharing with us.
A very Happy weekend to you...you are so kind!!! I am so glad you are here!! xo Susan & Dez
It is wonderful that you have options...for you and sweet Desi.
It strikes me that " What can I do for you" and " Please forgive me" might be two ends of the same continuum. We benefit more from forgiving others than they do. So living or otherwise, forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give to that relationship. The Healing can then begin as the malignancy of malevolence dissipates in our minds. We are free to love more fully, reframe our priorities and optimize life's options that lay before us. It is like in The Christmas Carol , when Jacob Marleys chains are revealed. Forgiveness involves putting down the weighty chains of unforgiveness and, as you said so beautifully...walking eachother home!
this is brilliant Patricia....
@@LittlePoet you are very inspiring! I have made some real life changes after 6 months of joining this community!
On a different note...I saw a serum that showed YOU and someone else in its advertisement...I will try to send it to you on FB !
I love this ! Especially can relate to not asking your son / children for forgiveness but to live in a loving way to them and their families.
"We're just walking each other home" is one of my fav quotes from Ram Das. This was a interesting, and touching video thanks.
Love Desi"s reindeer antlers! Just love you, you have motivated me to decorate and I've been thrifting and having so much fun. Happy weekend❣
Hello dear Susan!! Happy weekend to you, Desi & your family!! I enjoyed this video very much!! At this stage in my life, I’m trying to figure out my priorities. I tend to put everyone in front of me, and have trouble articulating what I need. I often feel badly when it seems as if I haven’t done enough for those I love. I’m last on the totem pole!! I’m am working on changing my attitude about myself and to give myself a break. I thank you Susan, for your videos!! They give me hope that I will be ok!! I wish you love, joy& peace!! Blessings to you and your family!!😍😍😍
So thought provoking! We spend so much time doing mundane things we forget to ask these questions. You are so right about asking for help. It is like gift giving. Sometimes the best thing about asking for help is the joy it gives the helping person. We all need to feel valued, useful, respected and loved. This is my favourite video so far. Love to you and Desi… thanks for gently prodding me into being more mindful today.
Please keep filming. Your videos are so enlightening and encouraging.
This video touched me. It was difficult not to lose it! Thank you for this! This exactly why I tune in every week! And yes, I have made it through life with a positive attitude. It's a must, otherwise life is so much harder, for me anyway. Hope you a Desi have a great week. You're fantastic Susan 🥰
Thank you for you! Question #4 hit me right between the eyes. I have a problem with trying to make everything "fair" even when it's none of my business. I said something to my youngest sister in order to make a point about something she said that I thought was unfair. What I said hurt her, and she's barely speaking to me now. It's been a few weeks, and I've reached out several times, and apologized, but I have never asked her, face to face, if she will forgive me. In thinking about what #4 means, there's a difference between apologizing and actually asking for forgiveness. Apologizing is one-sided. It leaves everything hanging in the air. Asking for forgiveness involves both parties, and while it puts pressure on the other person to make that decision, it also asks them to (and allows them to) evaluate the relationship. If I'm standing right in front of my sister, humbly, she'll realize that our relationship is built on more than my well-intended but misplaced foolishness. Hopefully, she will say she forgives me. And if she does, it puts an end, hopefully, to this and says that we both recognize and accept that it's done, and we can both move on. I would hope it would also put an end to my inserting myself where I don't belong, but I know me. I'm trying.
Unforgiveness can be ugly. To forgives gives the person peace, strength and enormous personal growth. Forgiving brings no harm.
Darling you are so kind, thank you for you generosity but I don't need rewards for answering or communicating or being a friend. Love 💕 you.
Very thought provoking thoughts about forgiveness.❤️🙏
I turn 60 tomorrow. These questions are all in my mind. Where do I go from here? What do I do with my precious time now? Life passes by so very quickly. We think we have forever. But it all happens as though in a dream. All very important questions you asked here today. Many I still don’t have the answers to. I’ve made plenty of mistakes, who hasn’t? But forgiveness from others isn’t as important as forgiveness from ourselves. Such important questions you have raised here. Thank You for sharing this video with these important questions. Blessings to you and Desi.❤️❤️
I enjoyed this time with you tonight so much, Susan !!!! Although some of my favorite times have been going thrifting with you, I so enjoy just having our talks like this evening. I feel really in touch with the deeper conversations. I think it helps us all to grow in discussing things that lay heavy on our hearts, things that really matter. Thank you so, so much for sharing those deeper thoughts with us all. You and Desi continue to BLESS me week after week. God Bess you both !
Thank you Patty so much! You are so sweet and wonderfult to be here!!!! xxoo Happy weekend! Susan & Desi