@@trevorfranks69 so, deadline is basically the latest date to like turn in something. and procrastinating is when you keep saying “i’ll do it later” so what he’s saying if you’re a procrastinator you must have a deadline to motivate you more to get it done before the deadline.
@trickShot2Shot it doesn't restrict anything, do things according to your feelings or hedonism is to be a slave to your feelings, discipline is doing it regardless giving freedom to all other aspects of your life
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I disagree with the part of "the why not being strong enough or secretly you don't want the thing after all". Sometimes, unconsciously, you might feel like you don't deserve to achieve what you want and then you'll make everything to sabotage yourself. Your mind can be your best friend or your worse enemy.
yeah but that just shows you lack mental discipline?? If you’re gonna blame stuff on your “‘mind not letting you” reach a goal you set for yourself. Then that’s totally on you, you lack the mental fortitude to push past your doubts. Don’t make excuses, make growth.
@@RiZeLegiT This "toughen up" attitude doesn't work with everybody. A depressed person for example, who can barely get out of bed in the morning, it's not making excuses. It reminds me of the "hustle culture" and the pressure it puts on people. Which he has talked about in a video.
@@lucianoalmeida3249 Wrong. I had depression for a long tine since high school and even though it can sometimes take its time, I eventually had to come to my senses and JUST DO IT. Now, I'm doing the most I've ever done, one step at a time. People can achieve what they work for as long as they have a reason to do it like Cole says. If that "why" takes a while to get to you because of your depression, that's totally fine. But be weary that our time on this earth is limited, and we only have so much time to accomplish something with our lives. I'd recommend trying to tackle the depression as much as possible, maybe evn embrace it and just find the motivation to do the thing you must. There's nothing that's actually stopping you. It's all an illusion
@@gersoncelaya7574, depression is a spectrum, depending on how high you are on the spectrum, "just do it" it's just not an option. In fact, this mindset contributes to those people who believe that depression is just sadness or lazyness.
Boxing taught me alot of discipline. If I didn't train hard then I would do bad in a fight. And it sucks getting your head bashed in and losing the fight. Lmaoo
Exactly, feeling the same but just for kickboxing. Not cool to get your ass kicked in sparring/fight because I wasn't disciplined enough to train harder
It was the same for me but with ballet, if I didn’t put the work in and practice as if everyday was an special day, I’d do average in performances, and therefore I’d punish myself for not giving my 100% in the process. So yeah, I bet boxing is a whole discipline builder too.
It was the same for me when I was smoking crack. If I didn’t put in the work robbing and stealing in the streets I wouldn’t get the crack, so it gave me that hustler spirit
Heres something from David Goggins that has always stuck with me "You have to keep working hard, climbing mountains. Once you get to the top of that mountain, you throw yourself back down. You cannot stay content with what you've achieved, you have to reach the top of your mountains, and throw yourself back down". Basically, it's easy to start slacking once your reach a goal or do something, but once you achieve what you wanted, aim higher, do not be content. I did this with my weight loss, running, exercise. Yeah i lost 50lbs in 5 months, but that isn't all i wanted, and what i needed. I still need to lose 50 more lbs, do not lose your fire.
There's a limit to everything. Congrats on losing weight my dude. But remember it's about your health. You can become underweight and even die. You can't get to single digit bodyfat and say "I want to lose 50 more pounds". Find a healthy weight and stay with it. Turn your head to athletic goals. You like hiking? Climb a literal bigger mountain. You like running? train to run longer. You like lifting? Aim to lift heavier. But don't equate fat as a bad thing. WIthout it we wouldn't have a life to be able to reach our goals. It's about balance
lol im the exact opposite. i used to take my academics very seriously and i loved learning but now that we have to do schoolwork online and by ourselves, i can't be bothered anymore.
I lost My job in december. Earlier in My life that kind of things would send me in a new spriral of depression, but After watching some of your videos during Christmas i decided to turn My Life around. I started working out and eating healthy, so far i have lost 6 kg/13 lbs. Im also starting school soon to become a engineer in buildings. Much love man, keep the good work up!
@@iheartjbgccb im real fortunate, in Norway the unemployment rate has risen alot since the pandemic startet. So our government pays for our education until things are stable again!
I relate to alot of what you say, especially the being a youtuber part. Even though i really like making music and videos, sometimes theres a time where the creative part of my brain is just "shut off" and i have to push and force my self to search for a simple video ideas. Now i know that maybe setting a more concrete goals is what i needed. Anyways, Thankyou for the video!
Hey man im in the same boat sometimes, you really just gotta keep clicking shit until something happens; but i've learned its completely OKAY to recognize when you're simply being inefficient, and try again later.
In Highschool I excelled without even trying not because I was a "gifted" student but because I found enjoyment in what came with highschool, which was seeing my friends everyday, talking to them in class, lunch, and after school either videos games or hanging out. Find the enjoyment in what you are doing, because that is the secret to success and motivation. Discipline is the vehicle, motivation are the pedals, enjoyment is the foot hitting the acceleration!
Great video, Cole! One thing I'd like to add is for people to remember that their "Why" can change over time. Sometimes people feel guilty when they no longer have that discipline that they once used to, when the answer is that it's just time for them to move onto something else.
So happy to see someone put into words something i realised not too long ago! Ive realised i did great in high school compared to earlier because i found out i wanted to pursue a degree in computer science. But i dropped out of the program bc it wasnt what i expected. Now Ive found my new "why" (what i wanna "be when i grow up") and im applying for a different degree where i feel driven to work hard and be disciplined again!
Video Points: 1. Have a concrete goal (he uses example of creating YT videos, when he doesn't feel like editing he remembers that he has to in order to get to his goal of providing a sufficient income for him to live completey off if YT and live anywhere) 2. Need to have a deadline (creates sense of urgency and doesn't allow you to procrastinate 3. Do You Really Want This? - when after applying the previous points you still have no desire ir will to do whatever task you originally set out to get done. Self evaluate if what you are doing is something you actually want to do. Maybe you think it is but really it's a projection someone else out on you or its the fulfillment of someone else's desire of you. Be true to yourself, because motivation fades. Discipline doesn't.
I’ve been been on self improvement for about 10 years, I did my best to give myself the best reason possible to do something, I’ve tried giving myself simple steps, I tried scheduling it and preparing my mind beforehand, I don’t really have anything I am interested in anymore, which is weird because I am autistic and having a special interest is synonymous with autism. I am starting to believe that maintaining discipline is nearly impossible for more than 4 days. I know I should try to maintain some sort of success for my families future but I’ve tried a million times over and haven’t gotten anywhere. If there is a true path to being disciplined, I would definitely have a go at it.
I am a lawyer and was suffering from depression since I started working and still recovering. My lack of discipline has put me into a quagmire and I'm here to rewire my life, the way I was in college
My problem is that I've always had great grades even when procrastinating. It's like i need to be punished one time to change. Even now in university i have that problem. I don't study to 100% because i work on the side and finance everything myself. While i am doing fantastic financially (considering the circumstances) and get good grades, i take forever. The problem is that i am enjoying it, because like this i have time to pursue other things or pursue things within my degree that just interest me. But i don't progress fast enough and that's that
I am currently really struggling with discipline. I am failing in most of my classes and I really want to turn my life around. I am still finding the why in my life but right now I just want to do better for my school, mind and body. I will check back in 2 months and see how it goes
I didn't go to college, I went to technical school and now I sell stuff on Ebay for a living. Never had any reason to do well in HS other than pleasing other people.
Your reason “why” is the same as motivation in the sense it comes and goes. Once accomplish your “why”, you lose steam. Its about building good habits. “A reason why” and “motivation” or essentially the same. It’s discipline in keeping good habits for your own well being. That’s why we get an empty feeling after achieving a goal. We are left with “now what do i do? What is next?”
It's hard to do anything that you're not passionate about. The moment that you find something that you enjoy or that inspires you, the commitment to study, take exams or work doesn't seem so bad and the motivation comes naturally.
I remember commenting at 10k that u we’re gonna be big now look at you, can’t wait to come back and comment when ur above and beyond where you are this moment brother✊🏽
ive always had straight a’s since middle school because my parents were super strict😭 if i would get a low b or a b without a good reason i would get free time taken, my electronics, i couldn’t face time my friends (because they would be distracting according to my parents) because school always came first to them. it kind of helped me find my interest in art because i always had a pen and paper with me and was always creative! it still happens because my parents want me to be at the top of my classes. now i’m going to be a senior and i would like to do marine science with graphic design (as a minor, side job or plan b!)
One of my key recent realizations for why I haven’t felt motivated to post on my IG page is because my why has changed/evolved. Great video and advice Cole. You’re an inspiration!
funny enough, i’m on this chapter in my life currently. especially with the school thing, just signed up yesterday to go back to college after essentially dropping out in 2021 when i was 18. i didn’t have my “why” then but i do now at 21 and it’s not just motivation but my why is literally making me hype for classes, despite knowing how tough college can get.
Hi Cole, I just want to thank you for the work you're doing, your videos are great, and implementing some of your advices really makes myself feel better. Keep it up, aside from it I wish everyone here a good Sunday or today's night
I feel that sometimes we are too hard on ourselves and get the mindset that we have to grind 24/7 and forget to enjoy the simple things in life. I’ve been working on developing an indie game and that I hope to turn into a franchise, along with carpentry apprenticeship and wanna start on UA-cam, but I sometimes forget to enjoy life. Sometimes we need a break from our purpose to be able to continue it. Don’t forget to enjoy life in nature as well it’s important to get out and socialize and get some sun!
I'm now in stress because i haven't done any homework so i have to all do it now before the deadline. It's my own fault but on the otherside i can't help it either..
I feel so blessed and lucky to find out this channel on you tube because from a long while you tube was flooded with alpha male and all temporary motivation crap that is not at all a realistic view of living . This is so real and imaginable to most of us trying to build our life better everyday , all thanks to Cole and his creativity and work ethics .. really appreciate this guy .. May god bless all of us and keep us happy
I didnt study or do any homework in HS the entire time. C'd my way through with As and Bs sprinkled in. It wasnt until I had a goal in my life that I have become more diciplined.
I’m glad to see someone who also wants to do UA-cam for a living. I feel like no one understood that its tough disciplining yourself to make your next video. But this helped so much man thank u
Thank you needed that. That's the perfect moment. In certain areas of my life I'm already disciplined and figured out strategies to stay it but not in sports bc of selfhate (working on it) and today is legday. It's not my favourite thing in the world to say it nicely, so thank you.
As someone who has seen many UA-cam self help videos i was surprised how you delivered essentially the same message as other channels but in a more relatable and realistic way
dude you are so right about this topic without having a visualization and target about why you are doing something you can't stay disciplined also you need to really have faith in yourself from my prospective if you don't believe in yourself is much harder to stay disciplined
Something I've been struggling with has been successfully giving up all the wrong things but struggling to adopt the right things. It's a mindset shift I cant quite crack. Pressure may help but I wonder if there's more to it. Enjoying the content though, keep it up.
You’re an awesome person, I wish I could meet more people like you. Everyone at my school only cares about stupid shit and usually have their head so far up their ass that I just go unnoticed
I feel this. It's weird because I already knew this but I forgot. Thx Cole. I feel the same way about UA-cam tbh. It's so much easier for me to make a youtube video than to study IT lol.
How Self-Motivation or Self-Control can derived from the simple act of resting, an explanation and procedure from basic affective neuroscience The neuroscience of rest is generally omitted in the psychology of motivation, but its neurology is arguably key to our capacity for self-motivation and a sense of purpose and positive feeling or happiness. This can easily be explained neurologically and demonstrated procedurally. Rest, or the generalized inactivity of the covert musculature, is simple to describe as a somatic or bodily state, but is much more complex as a neurologic state. For one thing, it is pleasurable. The reduction of perseverative cognition (worry, regret, distraction) through meditation, eyes closed rest, or just walking on a beach thinking of nothing gives the musculature the time to completely relax, and this state of persistent or profound relaxation elicits a state of pleasure or mild euphoria due to the concomitant and sustained elicitation of endogenous opioids (or endorphins) in the brain. The sustained increase of endogenous opioids also down regulates opioid receptors, and thus inhibits the salience or reward value of other substances (food, alcohol, drugs) that otherwise increase opioid levels, and therefore reduces cravings. Profound relaxation also mitigates our sensitivity to pain and inhibits tension. In this way, relaxation causes pleasure, enhances self-control, counteracts and inhibits stress, reduces pain, and provides for a feeling of satisfaction and equanimity that is the hallmark of the so-called meditative state. However, pleasure from a neurologic viewpoint is not a simple thing. Groups of opioid neurons or ‘nuclei’ populate a tiny region of the neural real estate in the midbrain, and as ‘hot spots’ are collectively no larger than the eraser on a pencil. Yet they are highly sensitive to inputs from different sources in the brain. One of the primary inputs come from dopaminergic neurons, whose nuclei are adjacent to opioid neurons. The axons for dopaminergic neurons project from the midbrain to the cortex, and dopamine systems are highly sensitive to cortically processed information, namely novel and positive act-outcome expectancies or surprises that populate our days. Dopamine is a neuromodulator, or a type of neurotransmitter that activates arrays of neurons in the cortex, and is responsible for learning and motivation. Dopamine induces attentive arousal, but not pleasure, but it can indirectly increase pleasure if it occurs concurrently with the co-activation of opioid systems. For example, eat a very tasty treat, and dopamine activity will increase as you snap to attention in response to the pleasure. Conversely, the florid description of a bottle of wine will make the wine taste better because of an increase in dopaminergic activity that in turn increases opioid levels in the brain (this is also the mechanism behind the placebo effect where positive expectations change affect). In sum, opioid and dopamine systems are synergistic, and if concurrently activated will co-activate each other. So what does this have to do with resting and motivation? Since resting protocols (e.g. mindfulness, eyes closed rest, meditation) induces opioid activity, that activity will be accentuated if an individual concurrently and persistently thinks of and pursues meaningful behavior (meaning will be defined as thinking of or doing actions that have branching novel positive implications, or a variant of positive thinking). Since meaningful behavior induces dopamine release, this establishes a ‘virtuous’ neurological circuit, when rest can be merged with meaning and lead to pleasurably aroused states or even ecstasy. We can infer these processes from variants of meditation such as ‘loving kindness’ meditation and savoring, as well as peak and ‘flow’ experiences where highly meaningful activity is coupled with non-stressed or resting states. Above all, meaningful behavior is productive behavior that has positive novel and unfolding implications, and when associated with positive affect from rest, can become in a sense ‘autotelic’ or rewarding in itself, allowing us to control our behavior through self-induced positive affect. By coming to terms with the neurologic reality of relaxation, we can realize it’s possibilities as essential to daily life and to self-control that make life worthwhile, pleasurable, productive, and ‘happy’, Authors Note As an academically trained and published psychologist, but a layman, you can pursue a much more expansive argument for a lay audience in my two open-source books and journal article below on the psychology of rest and the psychology of incentive motivation. Also, my arguments above are not new science, but a new interpretation of the research of the distinguished affective neuroscientist Kent Berridge of the University of Michigan, who was kind to vet my books for accuracy and to provide endorsements in their preface. Meditation and Rest- The American Psychologist/David Holmes www.scribd.com/document/291558160/Holmes-Meditation-and-Rest-The-American-Psychologist The Psychology of Rest and Meditation, from the International Journal of Stress Management, by this author www.scribd.com/doc/121345732/Relaxation-and-Muscular-Tension-A-bio-behavioristic-explanation For an excellent take on opioid and dopamine systems and how they act and interact, see The Joyful Mind: Kringelbach and Berridge sites.lsa.umich.edu/berridge-lab/wp-content/uploads/sites/743/2019/10/Kringelbach-Berridge-2012-Joyful-mind-Sci-Am.pdf A more formal explanation of this procedure from affective neuroscience is provided on pp. 44-52 in a little open-source book on the psychology of rest linked below. Flow is discussed on pp. 82-87 www.scribd.com/doc/284056765/The-Book-of-Rest-The-Odd-Psychology-of-Doing-Nothing ‘A Mouse’s Tale’ Learning theory for a lay audience from the perspective of modern affective neuroscience www.scribd.com/document/495438436/A-Mouse-s-Tale-a-practical-explanation-and-handbook-of-motivation-from-the-perspective-of-a-humble-creature Berridge Lab sites.lsa.umich.edu/berridge-lab/
I think the biggest challenge to stay disciplined is that you're forced to do negative things by society. So we don't want to do them, and think we're un-disciplined when we "give up". The solution I think is that we simply do what we want basically, with no fear of death, and when it gets hard, that's when discipline kicks in. Why be a superstar if you simply want to lie in bed all day? So long as we do what is ethically right noone can blame us for our actions
I made this alarm that i cant turn off when i havent done my homework. The worst part about it is that the sound it makes is not just a normal alarm clock. The alarm will tell all my secrets in life including the important stuff if i don't finish my homework in time. 😆😅
Setting deadlines for yourself is really helpful. For example say:" i want to lose x amount of weight before x-y-2021." Its already helping me out, i put it in google calendar (knowing how to use google calendar is like knowing how to use a standard agenda but on steroids). I get notifications everyday of activities i should be doing, and i can carefully plan out my day to make it most efficiënt as possible. Too bad i'm a master procrastinator at heart, when i get a notification saying "go study" i tend to ignore it lol.
Senior year of high school was all online because of Covid. I had straight Fs. I did like two assignments. For some reason they were like ok bro we honestly don’t care just get out of our school already ffs. Proud graduate 😌
What makes me go nuts and throw it all away is that everytime I try to do something or plan something for my future, a bunch of things come into my mind... and I'm not talking about fears I talk about other things I should do. for example... I feel like I need a masters degree (I'm a 23 yo guy) because of financial security, and also I feel pressured to do so if I want to leave my country behind and have a better job somewhere else and secure my future. But it will take a bunch of time for me to get a masters degree cause we're talking about scholarships application then university application then after the masters degree i must stay at my homecountry for 2 years etc and the whole process will steal 4 to 5 years of my life. I just wanna move out to another country , live in a decent house, work for myself 2 - 4 hours a day, have a lot of free time to focus on things I want to do for myself, earn at least 10k a month, and thats pretty much it actually 🤣 (then finally start looking for a romantic partner and maybe lose my virginity🙇♂️ but that's for another plan), but I know that may take longer to achieve if I take the master degree/scholarship path😑 I will be on my 30s when I finally get there (if I even make it)
Btw, something that came to my mind while watching this video is that there are deadlines you can't control. Maybe its easier to be disciplined at school when you know your grades will lead you to good universities... cause you have a deadline (you exactly know when you are finishing school). But in real life you cant be sure of how many subs or views you will get this year and thats the difficult part, you never know when. There's a deadline you can't control. You don't know when you're going to get that promotion, you just keep working and working without knowing when exactly you're going to get there. And that's for me the thing that makes discipline so hard. No matter how many whys you have, you cant control a lot of things
The biggest obstacle to staying disciplined and motivated is a complete lack of results. As long as you're getting SOME successes, you can stay both disciplined and motivated, but if you aren't getting any successes, staying either disciplined or motivated becomes very, very difficult.
I literally cannot imagine how much I relate to this video .. this is my state now ... I am surrounded by good people passionate about their studies but right now I literally can not see the point in what I am doing ... I used to be a very good student and want to continue doing well but there is something missing .... I cannot get myself to work or be disciplined at all .... it sucks that I used to be able to do that under pressure I have no idea what happened to my brain in the past 2 years
Here from your new "HATE on Productivity Advice" video! This is also good advice. Not just consequential fact-spitting, but motivating based on the positives and passions too. I will take this into account.
I do a software development college currently. I verry often struggle with both disciplin and motivation. It's tuff, but I'm triying to improove. Hope all of us who needs it can achieve our goals.
I’ve been tryna become disciplined for the longest 😭😭this video is a step in the right direction I’m gonna try to use this as a stepping stone because motivation can only get u so far fr 😭
If you have focus problems in school and cant get good grades I highly recommend you read the book Atomic Habits, I suggest you do regular dopamine detoxes and start weightlifting
This is the video I have been looking for for sooo long. I couldn't understand the "discipline is better than motivation" crap every guru says. Thanks alot for these tips. I must implement on them starting today.
I struggle with discipline because I look at is as being bound or restricted or lack of freedom. That combined with negative thoughts and self doubts.... when I was in school I chose not to be disciplined about it because I didn't want to miss out on anything I enjoy doing. Video games tv hanging with friends...
Your high school experience is mirroring my current college experience! I stopped caring in senior year of hs and messed up my first two years in college and now as a junior, it hit me and I know what I wanna do more specifically now, which is helping me keep up w the work again 😊 great video as always and thanks for the reminder
This is so relatable btw. I didn’t care much about school and got bad grades because I didn’t really see a purpose to it until I learned about college and that college has stuff that related to my purpose and I made honor while taking AP and honor classes for the first time. This really hit home in a good way
Thank you so much. This really helped me. I recently decided I want to go to medical school- but I have been having a hard time with motivation when it comes to studying to the MCAT. I often feel like something is wrong with me and am pathetically experiencing imposter syndrome without having made it to medical school to IMPOSE on. But your concept regarding discipline and setting a concrete “why” makes so much sense. Thank you so much, I needed this 🥺
Not having a deadline is a procrastinators biggest enemy
100%
What does it means?
AHHH THIS, THIS RIGHT HERE
@@trevorfranks69 so, deadline is basically the latest date to like turn in something. and procrastinating is when you keep saying “i’ll do it later” so what he’s saying if you’re a procrastinator you must have a deadline to motivate you more to get it done before the deadline.
and not close to deadline
DISCIPLINE=FREEDOM
@trickShot2Shot well u can stay up late another time or maybe that habit will soon die down of u stick to your discipline
@trickShot2Shot it doesn't restrict anything, do things according to your feelings or hedonism is to be a slave to your feelings, discipline is doing it regardless giving freedom to all other aspects of your life
TRUTH
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
(c) Friedrich Nietzsche
One of my favs
Good book about that mentality is Man's Search for Meaning
@@testa5687 a job xz xz chill hell luck call the one 🕐 he'll do kk how on clk KK like kch have jcc be HH and the other jk how long he'll be here before bleh how have lunch at 🏠 🏠 Hector blue and white oh well ljtljcl lj cloth calc jljclj
@@ColeHastings up cult type thing ttyl not my kids tj to take control t
@@generationfit2010 please gimme the drugs you are on
i have zero motivation to watch this 11 min video about me not being motivated, therefore i am going back to my home page
same but i did
I disagree with the part of "the why not being strong enough or secretly you don't want the thing after all". Sometimes, unconsciously, you might feel like you don't deserve to achieve what you want and then you'll make everything to sabotage yourself. Your mind can be your best friend or your worse enemy.
Good outside point of view
yeah but that just shows you lack mental discipline?? If you’re gonna blame stuff on your “‘mind not letting you” reach a goal you set for yourself. Then that’s totally on you, you lack the mental fortitude to push past your doubts. Don’t make excuses, make growth.
@@RiZeLegiT This "toughen up" attitude doesn't work with everybody. A depressed person for example, who can barely get out of bed in the morning, it's not making excuses. It reminds me of the "hustle culture" and the pressure it puts on people. Which he has talked about in a video.
@@lucianoalmeida3249 Wrong. I had depression for a long tine since high school and even though it can sometimes take its time, I eventually had to come to my senses and JUST DO IT. Now, I'm doing the most I've ever done, one step at a time. People can achieve what they work for as long as they have a reason to do it like Cole says. If that "why" takes a while to get to you because of your depression, that's totally fine. But be weary that our time on this earth is limited, and we only have so much time to accomplish something with our lives. I'd recommend trying to tackle the depression as much as possible, maybe evn embrace it and just find the motivation to do the thing you must. There's nothing that's actually stopping you. It's all an illusion
@@gersoncelaya7574, depression is a spectrum, depending on how high you are on the spectrum, "just do it" it's just not an option. In fact, this mindset contributes to those people who believe that depression is just sadness or lazyness.
I appreciate this video, quality content
Thank you Melanie
@@ColeHastings the thumbnail is me bro
I was ur 300 th like :)
@@arazzi1892 STFUUUUUPPPPP
It’s the guy in the video is the guy in the thumbnail
STOP TRYING TO GET ATTRNTION KID
@@ANDRE-zl9nv You are really stupid.
Boxing taught me alot of discipline. If I didn't train hard then I would do bad in a fight. And it sucks getting your head bashed in and losing the fight. Lmaoo
Haha I bet
Exactly, feeling the same but just for kickboxing. Not cool to get your ass kicked in sparring/fight because I wasn't disciplined enough to train harder
@@onemanarmy1519 exactly!
It was the same for me but with ballet, if I didn’t put the work in and practice as if everyday was an special day, I’d do average in performances, and therefore I’d punish myself for not giving my 100% in the process. So yeah, I bet boxing is a whole discipline builder too.
It was the same for me when I was smoking crack. If I didn’t put in the work robbing and stealing in the streets I wouldn’t get the crack, so it gave me that hustler spirit
"Without a goal, you can't score." PURE GOLD! You're a true inspiration Cole!
The thumbnail is me watching this video with 83 missing assignments
Heres something from David Goggins that has always stuck with me "You have to keep working hard, climbing mountains. Once you get to the top of that mountain, you throw yourself back down. You cannot stay content with what you've achieved, you have to reach the top of your mountains, and throw yourself back down".
Basically, it's easy to start slacking once your reach a goal or do something, but once you achieve what you wanted, aim higher, do not be content. I did this with my weight loss, running, exercise. Yeah i lost 50lbs in 5 months, but that isn't all i wanted, and what i needed. I still need to lose 50 more lbs, do not lose your fire.
Love this, I agree. It's easy to get complacent when you reach your goals
once you climb a mountain, climb an even bigger mountain
My guy is gonna waddle away after losing 100 pounds jeez. Btw good job bro keep it up!
There's a limit to everything. Congrats on losing weight my dude. But remember it's about your health. You can become underweight and even die. You can't get to single digit bodyfat and say "I want to lose 50 more pounds". Find a healthy weight and stay with it. Turn your head to athletic goals. You like hiking? Climb a literal bigger mountain. You like running? train to run longer. You like lifting? Aim to lift heavier. But don't equate fat as a bad thing. WIthout it we wouldn't have a life to be able to reach our goals. It's about balance
So im in 8th grade and I found that my “why” to get better grades and to not procrastinate was to do something outside of school that I enjoyed
lol im the exact opposite. i used to take my academics very seriously and i loved learning but now that we have to do schoolwork online and by ourselves, i can't be bothered anymore.
Same I'm just not motivated at all
The chances of me even stumbling on your channel are in the millions . Thank god the chances were in my favor
❤❤
I’m glad i find you i feel like you’ve helped me the most this year
Glad I can help!
True, for me as well!
I lost My job in december. Earlier in My life that kind of things would send me in a new spriral of depression, but After watching some of your videos during Christmas i decided to turn My Life around. I started working out and eating healthy, so far i have lost 6 kg/13 lbs. Im also starting school soon to become a engineer in buildings. Much love man, keep the good work up!
Dude that's fucking awesome! I'm so glad I could help. Keep it up!
Ive been wanting to go back to school but dont have any disposable income :/ good on you man!
@@iheartjbgccb im real fortunate, in Norway the unemployment rate has risen alot since the pandemic startet. So our government pays for our education until things are stable again!
We have entered another December, how are you coping?
It's been 2 years, how you doing with it?
3 of the most underrated UA-camrs (in no order)
1. Cole hastings
2. Iamlucid
3. Timeless tim
That awkward moment when you don’t have a “why” and for so long been stressed because you never have a passion 😭
I relate to alot of what you say, especially the being a youtuber part. Even though i really like making music and videos, sometimes theres a time where the creative part of my brain is just "shut off" and i have to push and force my self to search for a simple video ideas. Now i know that maybe setting a more concrete goals is what i needed. Anyways, Thankyou for the video!
Hey man im in the same boat sometimes, you really just gotta keep clicking shit until something happens; but i've learned its completely OKAY to recognize when you're simply being inefficient, and try again later.
In Highschool I excelled without even trying not because I was a "gifted" student but because I found enjoyment in what came with highschool, which was seeing my friends everyday, talking to them in class, lunch, and after school either videos games or hanging out. Find the enjoyment in what you are doing, because that is the secret to success and motivation. Discipline is the vehicle, motivation are the pedals, enjoyment is the foot hitting the acceleration!
Pretty disappointed with that prayer level my guy
I just started a new account bro leave me alone
Great video, Cole! One thing I'd like to add is for people to remember that their "Why" can change over time. Sometimes people feel guilty when they no longer have that discipline that they once used to, when the answer is that it's just time for them to move onto something else.
Yessir, thought I went over this in the vid
So happy to see someone put into words something i realised not too long ago! Ive realised i did great in high school compared to earlier because i found out i wanted to pursue a degree in computer science. But i dropped out of the program bc it wasnt what i expected. Now Ive found my new "why" (what i wanna "be when i grow up") and im applying for a different degree where i feel driven to work hard and be disciplined again!
It’s like the rocks famous tweet “You’re not lazy you’re uninspired”
so when is your deadline to have a million subs?
Haven't set that one yet 😅
I´m watching this, while I should be disciplined to learned for a math test I have tomorrow.
Same
Video Points:
1. Have a concrete goal (he uses example of creating YT videos, when he doesn't feel like editing he remembers that he has to in order to get to his goal of providing a sufficient income for him to live completey off if YT and live anywhere)
2. Need to have a deadline (creates sense of urgency and doesn't allow you to procrastinate
3. Do You Really Want This? - when after applying the previous points you still have no desire ir will to do whatever task you originally set out to get done. Self evaluate if what you are doing is something you actually want to do. Maybe you think it is but really it's a projection someone else out on you or its the fulfillment of someone else's desire of you. Be true to yourself, because motivation fades. Discipline doesn't.
I’ve been been on self improvement for about 10 years, I did my best to give myself the best reason possible to do something, I’ve tried giving myself simple steps, I tried scheduling it and preparing my mind beforehand, I don’t really have anything I am interested in anymore, which is weird because I am autistic and having a special interest is synonymous with autism. I am starting to believe that maintaining discipline is nearly impossible for more than 4 days. I know I should try to maintain some sort of success for my families future but I’ve tried a million times over and haven’t gotten anywhere. If there is a true path to being disciplined, I would definitely have a go at it.
Disciplined is a key component to living your ideal life. Stay focus and you got this❤️❤️
"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why."
- Mark Twain.
I am a lawyer and was suffering from depression since I started working and still recovering. My lack of discipline has put me into a quagmire and I'm here to rewire my life, the way I was in college
My problem is that I've always had great grades even when procrastinating. It's like i need to be punished one time to change. Even now in university i have that problem. I don't study to 100% because i work on the side and finance everything myself. While i am doing fantastic financially (considering the circumstances) and get good grades, i take forever. The problem is that i am enjoying it, because like this i have time to pursue other things or pursue things within my degree that just interest me.
But i don't progress fast enough and that's that
Imma start covering my phone camera after seeing that thumbnail, youtube be spying on me
I am currently really struggling with discipline. I am failing in most of my classes and I really want to turn my life around. I am still finding the why in my life but right now I just want to do better for my school, mind and body. I will check back in 2 months and see how it goes
It’s been going well?
How are you doing at the moment?
Good for you. I’m 22 and I still can’t care enough to adopt discipline.
I didn't go to college, I went to technical school and now I sell stuff on Ebay for a living. Never had any reason to do well in HS other than pleasing other people.
Your reason “why” is the same as motivation in the sense it comes and goes. Once accomplish your “why”, you lose steam. Its about building good habits. “A reason why” and “motivation” or essentially the same. It’s discipline in keeping good habits for your own well being. That’s why we get an empty feeling after achieving a goal. We are left with “now what do i do? What is next?”
It's hard to do anything that you're not passionate about. The moment that you find something that you enjoy or that inspires you, the commitment to study, take exams or work doesn't seem so bad and the motivation comes naturally.
I remember commenting at 10k that u we’re gonna be big now look at you, can’t wait to come back and comment when ur above and beyond where you are this moment brother✊🏽
ive always had straight a’s since middle school because my parents were super strict😭 if i would get a low b or a b without a good reason i would get free time taken, my electronics, i couldn’t face time my friends (because they would be distracting according to my parents) because school always came first to them. it kind of helped me find my interest in art because i always had a pen and paper with me and was always creative! it still happens because my parents want me to be at the top of my classes. now i’m going to be a senior and i would like to do marine science with graphic design (as a minor, side job or plan b!)
the fact that the thumbnail represents EXACTLY how I'm laying in my bed rn is concerning
got recomended a “small” channel. bless you bro. im starting off for the past 4 months been uploading weekly and ive gained a solid fan base!
Cheers bro
One of my key recent realizations for why I haven’t felt motivated to post on my IG page is because my why has changed/evolved. Great video and advice Cole. You’re an inspiration!
Glad i could help dog. Indeed that "why" is gonna change over time and it's important to identify it.
funny enough, i’m on this chapter in my life currently. especially with the school thing, just signed up yesterday to go back to college after essentially dropping out in 2021 when i was 18. i didn’t have my “why” then but i do now at 21 and it’s not just motivation but my why is literally making me hype for classes, despite knowing how tough college can get.
I love the fact that you said the reason why you make these videos is to make "a living off it" not the B.S of trying to improve someone else's life
Commenting without watching the video, checked.
Love it
I needed this so much. I swear. It’s so difficult to stay disciplined. I rely on my mood too much.
Hi Cole, I just want to thank you for the work you're doing, your videos are great, and implementing some of your advices really makes myself feel better.
Keep it up, aside from it I wish everyone here a good Sunday or today's night
Thank you for the support 🙏
Good video. You summarized the concept simply and concisely.
What's your why? What's your deadline? Do you really want this?
Apply pressure.
my finals are coming up in 8 days, you have no idea how beneficial this was to me
I feel that sometimes we are too hard on ourselves and get the mindset that we have to grind 24/7 and forget to enjoy the simple things in life. I’ve been working on developing an indie game and that I hope to turn into a franchise, along with carpentry apprenticeship and wanna start on UA-cam, but I sometimes forget to enjoy life. Sometimes we need a break from our purpose to be able to continue it. Don’t forget to enjoy life in nature as well it’s important to get out and socialize and get some sun!
Exactlt why I have a video titles "why discipline is ruining your life" to balance this out
I'm now in stress because i haven't done any homework so i have to all do it now before the deadline. It's my own fault but on the otherside i can't help it either..
I feel so blessed and lucky to find out this channel on you tube because from a long while you tube was flooded with alpha male and all temporary motivation crap that is not at all a realistic view of living . This is so real and imaginable to most of us trying to build our life better everyday , all thanks to Cole and his creativity and work ethics .. really appreciate this guy ..
May god bless all of us and keep us happy
I didnt study or do any homework in HS the entire time. C'd my way through with As and Bs sprinkled in.
It wasnt until I had a goal in my life that I have become more diciplined.
I’m glad to see someone who also wants to do UA-cam for a living. I feel like no one understood that its tough disciplining yourself to make your next video. But this helped so much man thank u
Thank you needed that. That's the perfect moment. In certain areas of my life I'm already disciplined and figured out strategies to stay it but not in sports bc of selfhate (working on it) and today is legday. It's not my favourite thing in the world to say it nicely, so thank you.
1.Find why
2. Recognize your current potential, set concrete goals
Remember discipline = freedom ⭐️
All this youtube titles throwing the RIGHT questions everytime. Now, im starting to feel like youtube is really spying me out here
Just wasted a whole weekend feeling terrible, I will get my shit up this week
I enjoy your content
Thank you
As someone who has seen many UA-cam self help videos i was surprised how you delivered essentially the same message as other channels but in a more relatable and realistic way
Thank you
This video is like God sent youtube algorithm at it's best.
moral of the story, find something you love & work hard towards a goal & you shall find discipline (love the video btw)
You sound like a real coach that we all need in our life 💕
I think this is my favourite channel
dude you are so right about this topic without having a visualization and target about why you are doing something you can't stay disciplined also you need to really have faith in yourself from my prospective if you don't believe in yourself is much harder to stay disciplined
Something I've been struggling with has been successfully giving up all the wrong things but struggling to adopt the right things. It's a mindset shift I cant quite crack. Pressure may help but I wonder if there's more to it. Enjoying the content though, keep it up.
I totally agree Cole. You can't always be motivated. But if you have discipline and create a routine, you can get it done!
You’re an awesome person, I wish I could meet more people like you. Everyone at my school only cares about stupid shit and usually have their head so far up their ass that I just go unnoticed
I feel this. It's weird because I already knew this but I forgot. Thx Cole. I feel the same way about UA-cam tbh. It's so much easier for me to make a youtube video than to study IT lol.
How Self-Motivation or Self-Control can derived from the simple act of resting, an explanation and procedure from basic affective neuroscience
The neuroscience of rest is generally omitted in the psychology of motivation, but its neurology is arguably key to our capacity for self-motivation and a sense of purpose and positive feeling or happiness. This can easily be explained neurologically and demonstrated procedurally.
Rest, or the generalized inactivity of the covert musculature, is simple to describe as a somatic or bodily state, but is much more complex as a neurologic state. For one thing, it is pleasurable. The reduction of perseverative cognition (worry, regret, distraction) through meditation, eyes closed rest, or just walking on a beach thinking of nothing gives the musculature the time to completely relax, and this state of persistent or profound relaxation elicits a state of pleasure or mild euphoria due to the concomitant and sustained elicitation of endogenous opioids (or endorphins) in the brain. The sustained increase of endogenous opioids also down regulates opioid receptors, and thus inhibits the salience or reward value of other substances (food, alcohol, drugs) that otherwise increase opioid levels, and therefore reduces cravings. Profound relaxation also mitigates our sensitivity to pain and inhibits tension. In this way, relaxation causes pleasure, enhances self-control, counteracts and inhibits stress, reduces pain, and provides for a feeling of satisfaction and equanimity that is the hallmark of the so-called meditative state.
However, pleasure from a neurologic viewpoint is not a simple thing. Groups of opioid neurons or ‘nuclei’ populate a tiny region of the neural real estate in the midbrain, and as ‘hot spots’ are collectively no larger than the eraser on a pencil. Yet they are highly sensitive to inputs from different sources in the brain. One of the primary inputs come from dopaminergic neurons, whose nuclei are adjacent to opioid neurons. The axons for dopaminergic neurons project from the midbrain to the cortex, and dopamine systems are highly sensitive to cortically processed information, namely novel and positive act-outcome expectancies or surprises that populate our days. Dopamine is a neuromodulator, or a type of neurotransmitter that activates arrays of neurons in the cortex, and is responsible for learning and motivation. Dopamine induces attentive arousal, but not pleasure, but it can indirectly increase pleasure if it occurs concurrently with the co-activation of opioid systems. For example, eat a very tasty treat, and dopamine activity will increase as you snap to attention in response to the pleasure. Conversely, the florid description of a bottle of wine will make the wine taste better because of an increase in dopaminergic activity that in turn increases opioid levels in the brain (this is also the mechanism behind the placebo effect where positive expectations change affect). In sum, opioid and dopamine systems are synergistic, and if concurrently activated will co-activate each other.
So what does this have to do with resting and motivation?
Since resting protocols (e.g. mindfulness, eyes closed rest, meditation) induces opioid activity, that activity will be accentuated if an individual concurrently and persistently thinks of and pursues meaningful behavior (meaning will be defined as thinking of or doing actions that have branching novel positive implications, or a variant of positive thinking). Since meaningful behavior induces dopamine release, this establishes a ‘virtuous’ neurological circuit, when rest can be merged with meaning and lead to pleasurably aroused states or even ecstasy. We can infer these processes from variants of meditation such as ‘loving kindness’ meditation and savoring, as well as peak and ‘flow’ experiences where highly meaningful activity is coupled with non-stressed or resting states. Above all, meaningful behavior is productive behavior that has positive novel and unfolding implications, and when associated with positive affect from rest, can become in a sense ‘autotelic’ or rewarding in itself, allowing us to control our behavior through self-induced positive affect. By coming to terms with the neurologic reality of relaxation, we can realize it’s possibilities as essential to daily life and to self-control that make life worthwhile, pleasurable, productive, and ‘happy’,
Authors Note
As an academically trained and published psychologist, but a layman, you can pursue a much more expansive argument for a lay audience in my two open-source books and journal article below on the psychology of rest and the psychology of incentive motivation.
Also, my arguments above are not new science, but a new interpretation of the research of the distinguished affective neuroscientist Kent Berridge of the University of Michigan, who was kind to vet my books for accuracy and to provide endorsements in their preface.
Meditation and Rest- The American Psychologist/David Holmes
www.scribd.com/document/291558160/Holmes-Meditation-and-Rest-The-American-Psychologist
The Psychology of Rest and Meditation, from the International Journal of Stress Management, by this author
www.scribd.com/doc/121345732/Relaxation-and-Muscular-Tension-A-bio-behavioristic-explanation
For an excellent take on opioid and dopamine systems and how they act and interact, see
The Joyful Mind: Kringelbach and Berridge
sites.lsa.umich.edu/berridge-lab/wp-content/uploads/sites/743/2019/10/Kringelbach-Berridge-2012-Joyful-mind-Sci-Am.pdf
A more formal explanation of this procedure from affective neuroscience is provided on pp. 44-52 in a little open-source book on the psychology of rest linked below. Flow is discussed on pp. 82-87
www.scribd.com/doc/284056765/The-Book-of-Rest-The-Odd-Psychology-of-Doing-Nothing
‘A Mouse’s Tale’ Learning theory for a lay audience from the perspective of modern affective neuroscience
www.scribd.com/document/495438436/A-Mouse-s-Tale-a-practical-explanation-and-handbook-of-motivation-from-the-perspective-of-a-humble-creature
Berridge Lab
sites.lsa.umich.edu/berridge-lab/
I think the biggest challenge to stay disciplined is that you're forced to do negative things by society. So we don't want to do them, and think we're un-disciplined when we "give up". The solution I think is that we simply do what we want basically, with no fear of death, and when it gets hard, that's when discipline kicks in. Why be a superstar if you simply want to lie in bed all day? So long as we do what is ethically right noone can blame us for our actions
I'm proud of myself. I finished grade 9 with a 92% average this year.
I made this alarm that i cant turn off when i havent done my homework.
The worst part about it is that the sound it makes is not just a normal alarm clock. The alarm will tell all my secrets in life including the important stuff if i don't finish my homework in time. 😆😅
Setting deadlines for yourself is really helpful. For example say:" i want to lose x amount of weight before x-y-2021." Its already helping me out, i put it in google calendar (knowing how to use google calendar is like knowing how to use a standard agenda but on steroids). I get notifications everyday of activities i should be doing, and i can carefully plan out my day to make it most efficiënt as possible. Too bad i'm a master procrastinator at heart, when i get a notification saying "go study" i tend to ignore it lol.
Wow, love to see the channel growing and realize that I was here when it all started
Thanks for staying here❤
Senior year of high school was all online because of Covid. I had straight Fs. I did like two assignments. For some reason they were like ok bro we honestly don’t care just get out of our school already ffs. Proud graduate 😌
So excited for this video!
Hope it lives up to the hype
@@ColeHastings It already is, man! :)
I needed this video
What makes me go nuts and throw it all away is that everytime I try to do something or plan something for my future, a bunch of things come into my mind... and I'm not talking about fears I talk about other things I should do. for example... I feel like I need a masters degree (I'm a 23 yo guy) because of financial security, and also I feel pressured to do so if I want to leave my country behind and have a better job somewhere else and secure my future. But it will take a bunch of time for me to get a masters degree cause we're talking about scholarships application then university application then after the masters degree i must stay at my homecountry for 2 years etc and the whole process will steal 4 to 5 years of my life. I just wanna move out to another country , live in a decent house, work for myself 2 - 4 hours a day, have a lot of free time to focus on things I want to do for myself, earn at least 10k a month, and thats pretty much it actually 🤣 (then finally start looking for a romantic partner and maybe lose my virginity🙇♂️ but that's for another plan), but I know that may take longer to achieve if I take the master degree/scholarship path😑 I will be on my 30s when I finally get there (if I even make it)
Btw, something that came to my mind while watching this video is that there are deadlines you can't control. Maybe its easier to be disciplined at school when you know your grades will lead you to good universities... cause you have a deadline (you exactly know when you are finishing school). But in real life you cant be sure of how many subs or views you will get this year and thats the difficult part, you never know when. There's a deadline you can't control. You don't know when you're going to get that promotion, you just keep working and working without knowing when exactly you're going to get there. And that's for me the thing that makes discipline so hard. No matter how many whys you have, you cant control a lot of things
The biggest obstacle to staying disciplined and motivated is a complete lack of results. As long as you're getting SOME successes, you can stay both disciplined and motivated, but if you aren't getting any successes, staying either disciplined or motivated becomes very, very difficult.
I literally cannot imagine how much I relate to this video .. this is my state now ... I am surrounded by good people passionate about their studies but right now I literally can not see the point in what I am doing ... I used to be a very good student and want to continue doing well but there is something missing .... I cannot get myself to work or be disciplined at all .... it sucks that I used to be able to do that under pressure I have no idea what happened to my brain in the past 2 years
Here from your new "HATE on Productivity Advice" video!
This is also good advice. Not just consequential fact-spitting, but motivating based on the positives and passions too. I will take this into account.
I'm 43 this year and i really enjoy your videos...i like your energy... it's fresh, optimistic yet grounded...thank u
I do a software development college currently. I verry often struggle with both disciplin and motivation. It's tuff, but I'm triying to improove. Hope all of us who needs it can achieve our goals.
Are you like a older version of me?
Because I relate so much! Thank you very much for making me strong💪
This man deserves 1 mil asap
I completely understand you for grinding on UA-cam I’m trying to master discipline for making a living on UA-cam you gives help a lot 💪🏾
I almost closed the video at 00:07. Great video! Thanks!
You're gonna be really famous soon.
❤
I’ve been tryna become disciplined for the longest 😭😭this video is a step in the right direction I’m gonna try to use this as a stepping stone because motivation can only get u so far fr 😭
If you have focus problems in school and cant get good grades I highly recommend you read the book Atomic Habits, I suggest you do regular dopamine detoxes and start weightlifting
This is the video I have been looking for for sooo long. I couldn't understand the "discipline is better than motivation" crap every guru says. Thanks alot for these tips. I must implement on them starting today.
I struggle with discipline because I look at is as being bound or restricted or lack of freedom. That combined with negative thoughts and self doubts.... when I was in school I chose not to be disciplined about it because I didn't want to miss out on anything I enjoy doing. Video games tv hanging with friends...
Great video. Reminds me of what you said in a previous video. Putting in th work even when it “sucks” - you know that your “why” is on point.
Thanks Sean!!
Your high school experience is mirroring my current college experience! I stopped caring in senior year of hs and messed up my first two years in college and now as a junior, it hit me and I know what I wanna do more specifically now, which is helping me keep up w the work again 😊 great video as always and thanks for the reminder
I used to be quite self aware of myself and I was a people pleaser, thanks for helping me, man
i'm watching this while working out
This is so relatable btw. I didn’t care much about school and got bad grades because I didn’t really see a purpose to it until I learned about college and that college has stuff that related to my purpose and I made honor while taking AP and honor classes for the first time. This really hit home in a good way
Thank you for this video it made me realize that I need to stop dragging out finishing my thesis.
Thank you so much. This really helped me. I recently decided I want to go to medical school- but I have been having a hard time with motivation when it comes to studying to the MCAT. I often feel like something is wrong with me and am pathetically experiencing imposter syndrome without having made it to medical school to IMPOSE on. But your concept regarding discipline and setting a concrete “why” makes so much sense. Thank you so much, I needed this 🥺