Yea but the worst thing is that when I was young used to belive I could fix but you need to learn that just try to be happy for them yea it will hurt that they broke up but the thing is it is not your fault that is the only message I care about
When i see my parents and realise how old they are getting, i just have this feeling deep inside me that i could have been a better daughter. So one day, i went to my mom and told her that i loved her. At first she thought that i needed something but when i explained her, she started crying. The tears of joy that were falling down her cheeks are by far the best feeling i ever had and i doubt anything else would make me happier. Remember to cherish your parents and show them that you love them before it's late. It may be nothing, but it'll mean a lot to them.
Hugs to all the kids suffering due to miserable adults who don't know how to keep things civil between them. Please know that each of you are unique & special & you will end up with a beautiful life that you choose. You are neither of them, you are your own beautiful being.
The “Your just like your dad so stubborn” I get that all the time. It breaks my heart. But I stay strong I always miss the parent I ain’t with.i used to have that before 😔
@Paquito el frijolero what does that even mean? Ofc I wanted to point it out, these people over here whining about how bad devoiced parents are when I had to watch my dad go insane and kill himself. Maybe they should be thankful they even have parents.
@@JoeMa69420 literally everyone has different problems and different things to deal with. I’m sorry abt ur dad but I’m sure they are grateful for there dad they are just really struggling with the CONSTANT travel and problems that come along with having divorced parents. U shouldn’t compare things like that. All love tho
@@LolliPopXD52 same i do t live with my parents for reasons and my aunt was like “ you know you are going to grow up and just be a mess up like your mom and dad you know that?” when all i did was forget to wash the the dishes
When it happened everyone told me I’d be getting double of everything, double Christmas, double birthdays, but nobody realized that one of those is enough when we are all together.
Ya... I hate having 2 birthdays, 6 Christmas, double a lot and I would have more then 2 bc of each side has multiple- ya I hate it a lot and I'm sorry for your...
As a child that was raised up in a happy home with both parents, I personally will not stay in an unhappy marriage just so my children can have stability though. I'd try my best to make them understand and move on. But hopefully I'll get a happy marriage like what I saw growing up.
This is so relatable like everything that you just described. Everything happened to me instead of homework I left my violin since I take violin classes but when the part that it said you just like your dad that actually really hit me very hard my mom said that and my sister Actually hit me harder than the others
Why that even triggers you, if you love ur dad you should thank your mom, well i always say thank you when i hear that, bcs my dad is amazing person, if she stopped loving him i have not, or if its some hard argument i would tell her i cant be like our neighbor, bcs he is not my father, she choose him to have children with so i have to be like my dad. Im happy for them, divorcing is def a hard step when you have children, they should live their lives as they want and I respect that, i dont care about their 💩 talk about each other and i dont see why most ppl do with their parents.
@@PotatoCato7 I see your pov but also it's different when you haven't met your dad/mom and or don't know anything about them but you've heard things you wish you didn't about the other parent and it makes you feel some type of way when you get compared to them in a negative way, but ofc we love our parent either way but I'm sure most people experience this but idk.
@@PotatoCato7 it triggers me because my dad was abusive and gaslighted my mom And I don’t like my dad but I love my mom, and I tried to please her so she can validate me, but because I look similar to my dad, and she resented my dad, if I do something that would piss her off, she would be like “you are just like you dad” or “you and you dad are the same” which hurts me, because I know I’m nothing like my dad and it makes me sad.
Oh and can’t forget about the “don’t tell your mom/dad”, all the lying makes my head hurt And the horrible jokes they make about each other, can’t forget about those Edit: bruh I’m famous
the fact I have divorced parents..whenever I’m in school I’m stressed and i mostly can’t finish my work because of stress.My math teacher telling me that I have missing assignments and yelling at me..and my dad yelling is already enough and while my mom and dad talking about each other just is heartbreaking
Getting sympathy from the teachers is so real ugh. I’m sorry to everyone that grew up like this.. all kids should have a parent, but not all parents deserve kids. Remember you’re loved, and cared about from this stranger in the comments. You’re strong, and brave, and so courageous🩷 I’m sending huge hugs
Don't take 'em too seriously. Parents are human, which means they are imperfect, which means they might say some dumb ish which you shouldn't take too seriously.
My parents are not divorced but my mother keeps saying you're like your father at our arguements I can't even chit chat with her normally, it always ends up with a fight cuz she doesn't listen to me when I am telling how I feel to her she always disagreed and always annoyed at me saying "I want to have an unstressful life, I don't wanna be in a race I just wanna go with it" I am a freshman in HS and she keeps saying me that collage final exam test is so important/you must think every second, and you must be the best.. I love my mum but I can't anymore...My life is getting stressful every second that I just wanna pull up the battery of my brain and shut it down I don't wanna open any books I don't even wanna play and I don't wanna do anything, I had no power left even for the simplest thing like homeworks. And I still have exams left, they're finals I don't know what do? I guess I'll try it but I am so scared
This is the most relatable thing. packing, arguing, “you’re just like your dad”, leaving things at the other persons house, and “I can’t wait until you go and see your dad.”
My parents aren’t even divorced yet and this is my reality. They hate each other and swear they are gonna do it but they never do. I have little brothers who I have to distract while they fight. I just wish they would do it.
Trust me, it is far better than parent who are in a toxic and abusive marriage. And what are funny part is that they think they are saving u from trauma but truly, they are causing more trauma. 😢
I’ve been doing this since I was 4 and I relate to ALL of these. It sucks, in fact the traveling part we were stuck in traffic for 5 hours and I hadn’t eaten in 9 hours. Just know your not the only one out there.
Having divorced parents was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. Not waking up from my dads car screeching away while my mom screams her head off at him. He left us for 6 months to run off the bill for y my moms best-friend that he had been secretly seeing for a year. he came back 6 months later and wanted to start a throuple with the three of them and choked my mom when she told him how f*ed up that was. the divorce let me stay with my mom and help her be stable.
Yeah I'm sure it really sucks to have divorced parents and I am going to avoid it with my little boy as much as possible. But I have parents who "stayed together for the kids". My mom relied on my abusive dad financially and all that did was emotionally destroy me, put me through physical abuse, and give me trauma that will probably affect me my whole life. If my mom had kicked my dad out a long time ago I feel life would have been better. She always talked about it and gave me hope, but never went through with it and is still with him to this day. My husband is amazing and I have complete trust in him. But if he puts me or my son through any of what my dad did, I'll be out of this marriage faster than he can blink and he knows it. I feel for children whose parents have divorced, but would it really have been worth it for them to stay together despite their issues?
No it's not the best thing you even know how that feels and try it while having siblings don't try to say always the best thing it is not and it's a living hell and you're depressed all the time so don't try to say oh it's the best again until you actually live it
This is so true, from one girl with divorced parents to another, my parents split when I was only 7 and it's a really big struggle and I miss the other parent I'm not with it really changed my life when this happened and when I used to miss the other parent I wasn't with, well now I just try and take my mind off it and I don't get upset❤😊 (try my idea) ❤❤
Yes and everyone is like “why would you complain you get two Christmas’s” I want my family together on Christmas tho 😭 Edit: I know some people may not agree with me on this and some are in different situations, but this is what my situation is. And don’t get me wrong I’m very grateful for a Christmas, but if I had a happy family together we would get to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. And yes I know there are other situations that affect Christmas and some kids don’t get a Christmas, I was just explaining my situation, so chill 💀
This isn't even relatable to me because that's not how we do it in our family. I just don't see my dad. I'm fine with it, I don't mind. I know my mum more personally than my father but mother's are more important so idrgaf 🤷
Yess I know people are always like to me yours so lucky double presents like no you wouldn’t understand the pain it causes for my mental and physical health
my parents aren’t even divorced but my mom always says that bc they fight a lot :( it makes me rlly sad like i’m a bad guy but parents gotta realized i’m made of them hes my father i’m gonna be like him in some way …
And dont forget missing your pets, oh and packing, packing, And a little more packing. And if your a musician like me, lugging your instrument/equipment/amp/cabs around!
I understand the “can’t I’m at my dads” and “your just like your dad” considering my mom tells me that all the time. But I can’t relate missing the parent your not at. I don’t like my mom a lot and I stay at her house all the time. But when I’m at my dad’s I feel like a totally different person. I can express my self, watch what he likes, and actually feel good when I fall asleep.
My mother says that all the time, or my dad says "you're like your mom," or don't be like your mom. But they still are married and live under the same roof. They bicker constantly and hate eachother. They also complain about eachother to my sister and I everyday. They stay together for appearances and my mom is kind of financially dependent. I swear, my sister is 23 and they should have divorced like few months after she was born. I wish they were divorced instead of married.
" Your exactly like your mother. Your going to leave me too. " Should've left my dad as soon as those words fell out of his mouth because then we could've both agreed that he was right.
exactly I don’t even know what they mean obvi we weren’t made just by her dna we have both their dnas man and I lived with my dad my whole and then suddenly my mom is like shift to different fuvkin country with me
These all hit home. And don't forget forgetting something at one house and your parent having a whole meltdown over having to see their ex, or just refusing to get it even if it's essential.
That one is so toxic I don't understand how people don't see it. It's like telling your kids "hey you have the same qualities that I left my partner for"... gee thanks mom, you chose him not me..ugh
I have a different relationship with my dad to say the least and my mom has said this a couple times and it broke me, of course I didn’t tell her but still. and she is amazing and I’m so grateful and lucky to have such a kind, hard working, and supportive mom we help each other a lot.💙
Fr why is life like this! It’s so hard and sometimes I wish it was fine between them but everything happens for a reason they say so I’m still waiting for it to get easier or somthing
U know that's abusive/ manipulative behaviour. Speak to ur mom/ guardian bout that cuz I struggled with a parent who said that. I am now at therapy. One comment can move to something further ma pal
exactly. my friends with divorced parents are like oh it’s easier and makes me happier but for me it’s just like this edit: holy crap guys thanks for the likes it’s a only been a day
I think the only way it is easier is not hearing the arguments and fighting anymore. Seeing your parents hate each other and then it gets filtered to you is so hard. Divorce is hard too but at least there’s some separation and healing starting. I wish we all could make it work but unfortunately not every relationship can
It's like this for most of us, but it's still better than having them both in the same house, hating each other in front of you. You know, ever since I was born, I've never seen my parents love each other, it was hate since the beginning. The divorce happened when I was 12, I'm 23 now and have temper issues, love issues, and sometimes when I have to remember those times they argued, I still cry.
@@TheReal_happy40 I don't remember much of my childhood (I was young when they took separate ways, like 5), I have witnessed some arguments between my parents before I was 5 (I don't vividly or vaguely remember them consciously), then saw him be happy with the woman of his life, my sister and I do have good relationship with her (even with our sometimes hot tempers). Once, we argued and I said to her how I felt about the arguments I've witnessed (before my dad planned doing it properly). I agree the divorce is easier than watch them unhappy together (plus, my dad has always made sure he had the best words possible for my mum, defending her when others made mean comments about her, made sure they could still be parents together besides this divorce and the consequences on our family). But I still have trust and love issues as a grown adult after being in this mess this young P.S : I always had a good relationship with my dad (who's been dead now by 6 years) and he always made sure we were in his life and worried when we had an argument with our stepmom
Same :( He said I have to wait until I'm a few years older to decide anything for myself. But that's not going to work because it didn't work for my older sibling
@@-L0G1C4L- that happens when I’m at both parents house but I don’t really care and am fine they are separated because I would rather them hate each other silently then in-front of me and my 4 other siblings
“Ur just like your dad” I cannot express how much I have heard this and how much it hurts me, cuz she is always talking about how much she hates him then calls me that…
With 2 years of experience with divorced parents, it hurts. I couldn’t agree more with this video, I cry every night in my room, I always miss when I was happy and everyone was happy, it hurts. I do everything for my mom and I can never get a break to myself. I miss when my life actually meant something to me.
Omg I have that problem I have to go back and forth all the time and it’s really hard when I’m at my moms I miss my dad and my step mom and when I’m at my dads I miss my mom it’s just so hard but at least I have to homes that love me❤️
For me it's the "you're just like your mother." And after he said that I would call my mom crying and telling her to pick me up and when she got there i would just let my emotions flow into her arms while I was hugging her
The missing the parent you aren't with is so true because whenever I was with my dad I would cry and tell my mom that I want to see her while crying 😭😭😭
Yeah my dad did this too. He was angry that my mom hadn't scheduled an appointment for my younger sister yet because the doctor's office was booked, blamed it on her, said I was going to be a loser in life liker her, and that I was going to end up living in a cardboard box on the street, alone, on drugs and that I'd kill myself. He said it was just the truth. I stopped taking him seriously after that. It's sad how hurtful parents can be when they never learned how to manage their own emotions or take responsibility for their own actions like real adults.
my parents got divorced about 5 years ago. my brother was 6 at the time and I was 10. he was obviously really scared and confused about the whole situation and he often wouldn’t come out of his room. I was always there for him when he needed me. we’ve been really close since then. i would never leave his side
“You get 2 Christmases” “you have 2 houses be grateful” It’s not as fun as you think and anyways I don’t have 2 I have 1 my dads is the house I go to on weekends sometimes
dont forget “always picking sides”. just imagine that your divorced parents are fighting and both of them force you to stay with either of them. its sad.
@@hessaaa2367 Same. My parents tried to divorce two times before they actually did, and I was so happy when they did. No more blasting music to not hear screaming and not having to worry about my dad punching holes in the walls anymore. My parents are so much better not together. Now the arguments are just passive aggressive through texts and don't involve me! The packing and "Oh sorry I'm at my dad's that weekend" is annoying, but waaaay better than it was before
My parents are still together,Last time my mom and we were about to be kicked out of house.I started crying (18 years old)......In the end we were not kicked out.But Now I have made up my mind Now no matter what ever happens I will never ever try to mediate between them.They can get divorce or kill each other It has nothing to do with me anymore.They all have destroyed my life.I can't even cry out loud because all I will get to hear is Why are you so sensitive?You should be a strong girl.The hell with this all.How can they expect me to be strong when they are the ones who made me this sensitive since childhood. I really hate it when I get to hear you are acting like your mother.You are speaking her language....like hello ?I have my own thoughts But naah.
If I get the chance to be a mom and tell that to my kid by an impulse, I would immediately apologize to her/him, give a hug and say: “You know that I love you and you’re the most important thing in my life, right?” Kiss in head/forehead
Ty for this I needed a reminder I’m not the only one and the “you can’t go to sleepovers” stuff depending on the parent literally left me with no friends❤
Fr thou I'm now having to get therapist Cause of there fighting and missing the other and getting yelled at for forgetting homework and a paper for a event
The “you’re just like your dad” really hit since that’s what my mom says to me a lot and thankfully the packing part isn’t normal for me since only one parent has full custody
The “you’re just like your” is actually so true 😭 to my dad I’m just like my mom and vice versa. And they don’t get along so badly that we have to legit just choose one and stay there because they hate it when we go back and forth and if I choose one for a holiday the other one gets extremely upset and they refuse to accept anything the other parent does.
Wow. Never thought about that. Must be so traumatic. Sometimes grown ups are just like little kids… what a waste of your childhood…. That should always be a safe place… so sorry for you guys
same but it was just my dad my mam just accepted my choices. and if i asked to spend time with my dad, he’d find a way to slip in that im bothering him and i should give him a break. it fucked so much with my brain.
On the flip side, I had parents who stayed together until my dad died, and they argued all the time and brought me and my sister into their fights. I thought argumentative behavior in relationships was normal, but the first person I ever had feelings for told me that he learned everything he knows about confrontation from me. I have also stayed in toxic relationships way past their expiration date, because I was taught that's what you're supposed to do. Sometimes a divorce is necessary. Staying "for the kids" can really do them a disservice later in life.
Yea unless it's too toxic i don't think one should get a divorce especially when kids are around... It's best to figure bout things coz everyone you Mary will have a set of charectors you don't like . So rather change one devil than many 😂
My parents are like this too. They’re still together but like what’s the point of staying married when they’re not even sleeping in the same room? And don’t get me started on the never ending fights and arguments.
This! These ppl are so selfish, they should respect parents life, and be happy for them, divorce is def a hard step when having children. Its so much better to have divorced parents than parents who stayed together just because of you. These ppl find hard traveling, forgetting homework at dads house, not being able to sleep over with friends…🤡
I don’t, You shouldn’t either. Your the only one who’s sad about it if they went through with it. I don’t know about you, But my parents had screaming matches almost every night when they were together. I’m glad I don’t have to listen to that anymore
My mum divorced my dad. I'm glad she did. He was really abusive and I've got massive trauma and ptsd of it. And when she says that stuff. It hurts. It hurts a lott. I try my best to be nice and to not ever become like him. And when she says that stuff, I just feel like I'm an asshole
Sometimes I’m glad my parents don’t live together anymore if they still did they would be arguing all the time
yeah i grew up with a drug addict father and my mom and dad were always arguing. i’m glad i don’t have to hear it anymore.
I Have Divorced Parents To And I Relatd Sm
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My parents have been arguing and yelling at each other for years, me and my sister don’t understand why they aren’t divorced yet
Yea but the worst thing is that when I was young used to belive I could fix but you need to learn that just try to be happy for them yea it will hurt that they broke up but the thing is it is not your fault that is the only message I care about
That " you're just like your dad " is so accurate. I get it to hear it all the damn time. And it honestly hurts a lot.
Me too😢
😞😞😞
Sameeeee!!!!
I get your just like your mom from my dad
Me too! I always want to ask what’s that supposed to mean but then I know it’s “back talk or attitude”
don't forget when you hear one talking bad about the other, and then the other talking about how heartbroken they are. It stings.
Ya them talking bad about one another just tears you down it’s so sad!
True
my parents hate each other but aren’t divorced. My mom talks badly about my dad all the time and it’s the worst
This all sucks
@@RaffiAiden ya Evan if the stuff they say is true it dosnt mean they should say it and it hurts Evan worst Becuase yk that it’s true
Or the “go live with them instead then!”
Breaks me
She said that in an argument the other day
Sorry.
My mom said that to me when i was 9 🙂
OMG that hurts 😭😭😭
My dad said that to me before and I said fine I love her better anyway
When i see my parents and realise how old they are getting, i just have this feeling deep inside me that i could have been a better daughter.
So one day, i went to my mom and told her that i loved her. At first she thought that i needed something but when i explained her, she started crying. The tears of joy that were falling down her cheeks are by far the best feeling i ever had and i doubt anything else would make me happier. Remember to cherish your parents and show them that you love them before it's late. It may be nothing, but it'll mean a lot to them.
“you’re just like your dad”
and yet she married him and had me. hardly my fault i think. always looking for someone to blame.
💯
My mom said that to me once, she also hates me so yeah I understand why she’s say that.
my mum says that to me too and i’m well i’m not gonna be like the post man now am i? 😂 cus it’s true ofc i’m gonna be like my dad
That’s what my mum says
@@soggy_biscuit2268 Same.
Hugs to all the kids suffering due to miserable adults who don't know how to keep things civil between them. Please know that each of you are unique & special & you will end up with a beautiful life that you choose. You are neither of them, you are your own beautiful being.
Thank you l really needed to hear that right now my parents are fighting down stairs
@@Margo46981I wish u the best in life❤
They’re not “uncivil” some relationships just don’t work out and that’s okay.
Thank you so much 🥹
Thanks ml your so kind ❤
It is so true, it has a complete change in your mental health. You get depressed, and are never happy😢
“You’re just like your dad” literally in every argument
Same
my mom always always calls me argumentitive you know I love my mom and all but what the fuck
Fr, It's like the only excuse moms have
My mom always says that whenever we fight but what hurts me the most is that she adds "I should've left you with your father!"
Exactly
“Tell your dad..” “Tell your mom..”
Oh my gosh, right?! Annoying…
So true
fr!!
fr i hate it
Like we don’t want to be in the middle of it!!
The “Your just like your dad so stubborn” I get that all the time. It breaks my heart. But I stay strong I always miss the parent I ain’t with.i used to have that before 😔
I'm so glad you've made this video, more kids should talk about this, you're nor alone
“You’re just like your dad” is a classic. Mom says it all the time.
Same but my parents aren't divorced
@@udontknowmyname8714 oof-
@@udontknowmyname8714 my mom also say but my parents aren't devirced
Dad is cool tough
I hear that alot but my parents aren't divorced. They surely need one tho.
The “I can’t I’m at my dads” hit hard
Lmao, cry about it, my dad is dead.
@Paquito el frijolero what does that even mean? Ofc I wanted to point it out, these people over here whining about how bad devoiced parents are when I had to watch my dad go insane and kill himself. Maybe they should be thankful they even have parents.
@@JoeMa69420 shut up bro 💀
SAME
@@JoeMa69420 literally everyone has different problems and different things to deal with. I’m sorry abt ur dad but I’m sure they are grateful for there dad they are just really struggling with the CONSTANT travel and problems that come along with having divorced parents. U shouldn’t compare things like that. All love tho
Yeah, this is so relatable. My mom doesn’t care about me nor my dad. All they care about is there new family’s.
I hope that doesn’t happen to me
That "you're just like your dad " is true
My mom always tell this when I don't listen her😢
The “Your just like your dad” and “I cant I’m at my dads, sorry” are a little to relatable and kind of heartbreaking-
Edit 1: Thanks for all the likes
Way too relatable
My parents arent divorced but once my mom and i were arguimg and she said “your just like your dad!!“ and i brokr
@@LolliPopXD52 same i do t live with my parents for reasons and my aunt was like “ you know you are going to grow up and just be a mess up like your mom and dad you know that?” when all i did was forget to wash the the dishes
Way to relatable
I’m not actually like that because my dad lives out of country so I only see him like 4 times a year at most.
When it happened everyone told me I’d be getting double of everything, double Christmas, double birthdays, but nobody realized that one of those is enough when we are all together.
Ya... I hate having 2 birthdays, 6 Christmas, double a lot and I would have more then 2 bc of each side has multiple- ya I hate it a lot and I'm sorry for your...
Same 😔
A gift and a curse 😔
As a child that was raised up in a happy home with both parents, I personally will not stay in an unhappy marriage just so my children can have stability though. I'd try my best to make them understand and move on. But hopefully I'll get a happy marriage like what I saw growing up.
Ehh
My mom is gay and my dad is heavy Christian, now sure how Christmas would go all together ehdikaxkksks
((Dw, they actually still get along-))
This is so relatable like everything that you just described. Everything happened to me instead of homework I left my violin since I take violin classes but when the part that it said you just like your dad that actually really hit me very hard my mom said that and my sister Actually hit me harder than the others
Your sister hit you?
Oh my god, literally, everything you said is so true and hurtful, anxiety and depression are the worst part 😢
“You are just like your dad”
The eldest I think could relate 😭
i’m the youngest but my sister and i get compared to our dads all the time, so ig it’s both💀
Why that even triggers you, if you love ur dad you should thank your mom, well i always say thank you when i hear that, bcs my dad is amazing person, if she stopped loving him i have not, or if its some hard argument i would tell her i cant be like our neighbor, bcs he is not my father, she choose him to have children with so i have to be like my dad. Im happy for them, divorcing is def a hard step when you have children, they should live their lives as they want and I respect that, i dont care about their 💩 talk about each other and i dont see why most ppl do with their parents.
Omg all the time
@@PotatoCato7 I see your pov but also it's different when you haven't met your dad/mom and or don't know anything about them but you've heard things you wish you didn't about the other parent and it makes you feel some type of way when you get compared to them in a negative way, but ofc we love our parent either way but I'm sure most people experience this but idk.
@@PotatoCato7 it triggers me because my dad was abusive and gaslighted my mom
And I don’t like my dad but I love my mom, and I tried to please her so she can validate me, but because I look similar to my dad, and she resented my dad, if I do something that would piss her off, she would be like “you are just like you dad” or “you and you dad are the same” which hurts me, because I know I’m nothing like my dad and it makes me sad.
Oh and can’t forget about the “don’t tell your mom/dad”, all the lying makes my head hurt
And the horrible jokes they make about each other, can’t forget about those
Edit: bruh I’m famous
Omg so true
My dad always says stuff abt my mom!😭
Omg yes
So true omg
oh god…i’m glad my parents are best friends then, luckily they ended on good terms
the fact I have divorced parents..whenever I’m in school I’m stressed and i mostly can’t finish my work because of stress.My math teacher telling me that I have missing assignments and yelling at me..and my dad yelling is already enough and while my mom and dad talking about each other just is heartbreaking
Getting sympathy from the teachers is so real ugh. I’m sorry to everyone that grew up like this.. all kids should have a parent, but not all parents deserve kids. Remember you’re loved, and cared about from this stranger in the comments. You’re strong, and brave, and so courageous🩷 I’m sending huge hugs
“how relatable do you want this to be?”
Her: YES
How cringe you want to be?
Her: YES
@@PotatoCato7 meh it’s accurate even with it being a bit cringe
Well not everyone can relate. There’s lots of kids with different situations.
@@Petrichoredits1 I should’ve worded this differently
@@PotatoCato7 it may be cringe but its accurate for me
When they say “you’re just like your [other parent]” it really hits hard because you left them, and if I’m like them, you’ll leave me.
My dad always says that to me it really hurts
Don't take 'em too seriously.
Parents are human, which means they are imperfect, which means they might say some dumb ish which you shouldn't take too seriously.
EXACTLY
My parents are not divorced but my mother keeps saying you're like your father at our arguements I can't even chit chat with her normally, it always ends up with a fight cuz she doesn't listen to me when I am telling how I feel to her she always disagreed and always annoyed at me saying "I want to have an unstressful life, I don't wanna be in a race I just wanna go with it" I am a freshman in HS and she keeps saying me that collage final exam test is so important/you must think every second, and you must be the best.. I love my mum but I can't anymore...My life is getting stressful every second that I just wanna pull up the battery of my brain and shut it down I don't wanna open any books I don't even wanna play and I don't wanna do anything, I had no power left even for the simplest thing like homeworks. And I still have exams left, they're finals I don't know what do? I guess I'll try it but I am so scared
You really stole my feeling bro😢
As a person who has been dealing with this for their whole life I can agree that some parents don’t deserve kids.
This is the most relatable short I have seen in my whole life
This is the most relatable thing. packing, arguing, “you’re just like your dad”, leaving things at the other persons house, and “I can’t wait until you go and see your dad.”
Saaame
Exactly, and they talk crap abt the other parent to you
My parents aren’t even divorced yet and this is my reality. They hate each other and swear they are gonna do it but they never do. I have little brothers who I have to distract while they fight. I just wish they would do it.
I love it
@●♡
Yeah 🥺
“You’re just like your dad!”
“True, I can’t stand your BS either.”
Feel like saying that to my mom but- who knows what would happen
Same tho
Same
Yessir
The urge to say this but if i said that to my mum I'd be 6 ft into the ground next minute 💪
Trust me, it is far better than parent who are in a toxic and abusive marriage.
And what are funny part is that they think they are saving u from trauma but truly, they are causing more trauma. 😢
I’ve been doing this since I was 4 and I relate to ALL of these. It sucks, in fact the traveling part we were stuck in traffic for 5 hours and I hadn’t eaten in 9 hours. Just know your not the only one out there.
“You are just like your dad”, I connected w this one deep
Same
Or just hearing your parents talk shit about the other one🙁
Same
Me too
Same
Having divorced parents was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. Not waking up from my dads car screeching away while my mom screams her head off at him. He left us for 6 months to run off the bill for y my moms best-friend that he had been secretly seeing for a year. he came back 6 months later and wanted to start a throuple with the three of them and choked my mom when she told him how f*ed up that was. the divorce let me stay with my mom and help her be stable.
Yeah I'm sure it really sucks to have divorced parents and I am going to avoid it with my little boy as much as possible. But I have parents who "stayed together for the kids". My mom relied on my abusive dad financially and all that did was emotionally destroy me, put me through physical abuse, and give me trauma that will probably affect me my whole life. If my mom had kicked my dad out a long time ago I feel life would have been better. She always talked about it and gave me hope, but never went through with it and is still with him to this day.
My husband is amazing and I have complete trust in him. But if he puts me or my son through any of what my dad did, I'll be out of this marriage faster than he can blink and he knows it. I feel for children whose parents have divorced, but would it really have been worth it for them to stay together despite their issues?
Your pops is gahhhbage
No it's not the best thing you even know how that feels and try it while having siblings don't try to say always the best thing it is not and it's a living hell and you're depressed all the time so don't try to say oh it's the best again until you actually live it
I understand both options are bad but you know I have adapted to it
Sameeeeesies, my divorced parents were way better off than my together parents.
This is so true, from one girl with divorced parents to another, my parents split when I was only 7 and it's a really big struggle and I miss the other parent I'm not with it really changed my life when this happened and when I used to miss the other parent I wasn't with, well now I just try and take my mind off it and I don't get upset❤😊 (try my idea) ❤❤
The sleepovers is the most true thing I have ever heard
Yes and everyone is like “why would you complain you get two Christmas’s”
I want my family together on Christmas tho 😭
Edit: I know some people may not agree with me on this and some are in different situations, but this is what my situation is. And don’t get me wrong I’m very grateful for a Christmas, but if I had a happy family together we would get to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. And yes I know there are other situations that affect Christmas and some kids don’t get a Christmas, I was just explaining my situation, so chill 💀
Its much more diff if they both aren't there
This isn't even relatable to me because that's not how we do it in our family. I just don't see my dad. I'm fine with it, I don't mind. I know my mum more personally than my father but mother's are more important so idrgaf 🤷
for real it’s not as jolly as it sounds
Yess I know people are always like to me yours so lucky double presents like no you wouldn’t understand the pain it causes for my mental and physical health
Relatable
“You are just like your dad”
Always hits hard
my parents aren’t even divorced but my mom always says that bc they fight a lot :( it makes me rlly sad like i’m a bad guy but parents gotta realized i’m made of them hes my father i’m gonna be like him in some way …
Fr it hurts when they say that
Damn my parents don’t say that stuff
Ikr
My brothers tell me that just to hurt me..
I hope you’re ok sweetie, you are not alone 💖 xx
It’s the “your just like your dad” that always kills me it hurts me so much
And dont forget missing your pets, oh and packing, packing, And a little more packing. And if your a musician like me, lugging your instrument/equipment/amp/cabs around!
Yes 😭
Yep
No one cares
@@cynicalnina5201 shut it, ppl go thru things, and ur just making it worse
Or for sports lugging all your equipment back and forth, yup you nailed it
this is so true the “can’t I’m at my dads” “ur just like ur mom/ dad” and “missing the parent u aren’t with” that’s all so true tho
Do you think you feel is if when you were born there were never together and is was just how it was? Xx
So true I just got back from and nearly cried when I was there because I missed my mom
Tbh sometimes I find u guys lucky because my dad could care less about seeing me
I understand the “can’t I’m at my dads” and “your just like your dad” considering my mom tells me that all the time. But I can’t relate missing the parent your not at. I don’t like my mom a lot and I stay at her house all the time. But when I’m at my dad’s I feel like a totally different person. I can express my self, watch what he likes, and actually feel good when I fall asleep.
@@ilusvin mines the other way around I feel more free at moms
This is so relatable , but the worst part is that you have to hear them that speak bad about the other when you are with one of them
This is literally the most ACURATE thing I’ve seen all year
😢
“I forgot it at my dad’s”
“It’s ok”
I wish it was that easy tbh teacher don’t give a shi
Same
It’s not their problem. If you need something that bad just go to the other house and grab it
@@Tommy_Klee23 I understand where you're coming from but sometimes it's not that simple...
same
@@Tommy_Klee23 because its so easy right?
i get “your just like your dad” so often…even though my parents are divorced
Although my parents should be for the love of god
This statement makes me cry tf outta me. Like I aint like that terrible man.
It’s actually the opposite for me-
So true. My dad lives in a different state, and it takes two days to drive there. Too accurate.
Also, just wanted to say, you’re beautiful!
As somebody whose parents are divorced, I can agree. Especially with the sleepover one and with arguing between parents
I feel this especially the “ur just like ur dad” my mom used to say that a lot
The worst is it's true.
Even worse when she calls you by his name ...
@@cassienix2471 so true and so sad 😞
Me 2
My mother says that all the time, or my dad says "you're like your mom," or don't be like your mom. But they still are married and live under the same roof. They bicker constantly and hate eachother. They also complain about eachother to my sister and I everyday. They stay together for appearances and my mom is kind of financially dependent. I swear, my sister is 23 and they should have divorced like few months after she was born. I wish they were divorced instead of married.
“You are just like your dad.”
Damn. That hurts. A lot. I actually hate it, like um.. are you trying to make me feel bad and guilty ?
It's way too relatable and annoying for me I hate it too
" Your exactly like your mother. Your going to leave me too. "
Should've left my dad as soon as those words fell out of his mouth because then we could've both agreed that he was right.
@@ashm.5964 aw man, I'm so sorry :( if u don't mind me asking, why did u leave him?
They also say "Stop misbehaving! Or ll send send u to dads/mums house!"
And + they insults the dad
The “your just like your dad/mom” is so accurate, I hate when they say that
man i'm glad other people feel my pain but it's still sad
This is so true, I always hear “your just like your dad” it hurts.
yesss and they always tell me I look exactly like my dad too
Fr
exactly I don’t even know what they mean obvi we weren’t made just by her dna we have both their dnas man and I lived with my dad my whole and then suddenly my mom is like shift to different fuvkin country with me
@Kamryn BechtelI’ve gotten use to it by now I guess so it’s okay 🙃
Same
this is so relatable, "im sorry, im at my dads"
Facts
Ikr
Same
I have to deal with this all the time
I KNOW
These all hit home. And don't forget forgetting something at one house and your parent having a whole meltdown over having to see their ex, or just refusing to get it even if it's essential.
Same your not alone 😭 I miss my dad
This made me cry remembering my dad 😢
As a divorced and widowed mom, my heart breaks for every child 💔
TY
No you're not
@@charisse1110 your not the only one
Does it though? I mean, you did the same thing to your child no?
@@yazinxi5639 bruh...u don't know what lead her to this so shut up
The "you are just like your mother/father"
It's relatable
toxic ..:
That one is so toxic I don't understand how people don't see it. It's like telling your kids "hey you have the same qualities that I left my partner for"... gee thanks mom, you chose him not me..ugh
was just gonna comment this. mom does it often 😑 it is toxic
It breaks my heart when they say u look like that parent and sometimes They say that u are acting like that parent
it hits my heart that most 💔
I have a different relationship with my dad to say the least and my mom has said this a couple times and it broke me, of course I didn’t tell her but still. and she is amazing and I’m so grateful and lucky to have such a kind, hard working, and supportive mom we help each other a lot.💙
Fr why is life like this! It’s so hard and sometimes I wish it was fine between them but everything happens for a reason they say so I’m still waiting for it to get easier or somthing
The pain of taking sides is unreal
The “you’re just like your dad” is so relatable
U know that's abusive/ manipulative behaviour. Speak to ur mom/ guardian bout that cuz I struggled with a parent who said that. I am now at therapy. One comment can move to something further ma pal
I’ve seen my niece get into arguments with each of her parents like that.
I should be like my dad, got half genes from him for heaven's sake. I actually find it ridiculously hurtful when people hurt you bcz the way u r born😔
@@maninong :(
@@rohansno1fan ik. Like my mom apologised to me right after
"do you know what your dad did to me?!" do you know what you're doing to me?
Same here
Same here
Oh my god same
I wish I could carve my insides and show her that I'm nothing like that man even if I have his blood
Same here
same
I feel you....and then my mum goes"WHY ARE U FAILING UR CLASSES?!"
exactly. my friends with divorced parents are like oh it’s easier and makes me happier but for me it’s just like this
edit: holy crap guys thanks for the likes it’s a only been a day
❤️❤️
I think the only way it is easier is not hearing the arguments and fighting anymore. Seeing your parents hate each other and then it gets filtered to you is so hard. Divorce is hard too but at least there’s some separation and healing starting. I wish we all could make it work but unfortunately not every relationship can
It's like this for most of us, but it's still better than having them both in the same house, hating each other in front of you.
You know, ever since I was born, I've never seen my parents love each other, it was hate since the beginning. The divorce happened when I was 12, I'm 23 now and have temper issues, love issues, and sometimes when I have to remember those times they argued, I still cry.
Sometimes it’s that the parents argue so much and have such a bad relationship, it’s better to get divorced.
@@TheReal_happy40 I don't remember much of my childhood (I was young when they took separate ways, like 5), I have witnessed some arguments between my parents before I was 5 (I don't vividly or vaguely remember them consciously), then saw him be happy with the woman of his life, my sister and I do have good relationship with her (even with our sometimes hot tempers). Once, we argued and I said to her how I felt about the arguments I've witnessed (before my dad planned doing it properly).
I agree the divorce is easier than watch them unhappy together (plus, my dad has always made sure he had the best words possible for my mum, defending her when others made mean comments about her, made sure they could still be parents together besides this divorce and the consequences on our family). But I still have trust and love issues as a grown adult after being in this mess this young
P.S : I always had a good relationship with my dad (who's been dead now by 6 years) and he always made sure we were in his life and worried when we had an argument with our stepmom
On top of all that I have the "Getting anxious when staying at dad"
Same :(
He said I have to wait until I'm a few years older to decide anything for myself.
But that's not going to work because it didn't work for my older sibling
Same, I love him but sometimes I get uncomfortable around him..
@@-L0G1C4L- that happens when I’m at both parents house but I don’t really care and am fine they are separated because I would rather them hate each other silently then in-front of me and my 4 other siblings
Fr tho
same
“Ur just like your dad”
I cannot express how much I have heard this and how much it hurts me, cuz she is always talking about how much she hates him then calls me that…
With 2 years of experience with divorced parents, it hurts. I couldn’t agree more with this video, I cry every night in my room, I always miss when I was happy and everyone was happy, it hurts. I do everything for my mom and I can never get a break to myself. I miss when my life actually meant something to me.
"you’re just like your dad”
I hate when either of my parents say this about my other parent i get so frustrated and with both of my parents somehow.
Omg I have that problem I have to go back and forth all the time and it’s really hard when I’m at my moms I miss my dad and my step mom and when I’m at my dads I miss my mom it’s just so hard but at least I have to homes that love me❤️
Your parents are gay? I respect that❤️👍
This hurts
Ikr like if I have that person's dna how will I not be like them?
You aren't a projection of your parents, you are you
For me it's the "you're just like your mother." And after he said that I would call my mom crying and telling her to pick me up and when she got there i would just let my emotions flow into her arms while I was hugging her
The missing the parent you aren't with is so true because whenever I was with my dad I would cry and tell my mom that I want to see her while crying 😭😭😭
“Your just like your dad” i hear that everyday
Same broski
Why is this so sad😭
@@icybare loll 😭
@@ArmyBlink47875 😭😭
My mom once said to me "your like me and that's probably why he doesn't like you that much" i mean she is kinda right but it's still sad
and best of all: When one parents insults/takes their anger at the other parent out on you
Happens all the time 😥
Why… why is this too true. My bio dad and step mom do that to me and my older brother except it has turned into emotional and mental abuse. 😔😭😥😓
Yeah my dad did this too. He was angry that my mom hadn't scheduled an appointment for my younger sister yet because the doctor's office was booked, blamed it on her, said I was going to be a loser in life liker her, and that I was going to end up living in a cardboard box on the street, alone, on drugs and that I'd kill myself. He said it was just the truth. I stopped taking him seriously after that. It's sad how hurtful parents can be when they never learned how to manage their own emotions or take responsibility for their own actions like real adults.
EXACTLY!;;
All
The
Time
No why is this actually so relatable 😭😭😭
my parents got divorced about 5 years ago. my brother was 6 at the time and I was 10. he was obviously really scared and confused about the whole situation and he often wouldn’t come out of his room. I was always there for him when he needed me. we’ve been really close since then. i would never leave his side
“I can’t I’m at my dad’s “ bro that’s literally like every time I ask my cousin to sleepover:(
SAME?
Dramatic
@@frosfy3343 your banner says a lot about you
@@frosfy3343 can u shut up for at least 10 minutes?
Then I guess your cousin dislikes you lol
“You get 2 Christmases” “you have 2 houses be grateful” It’s not as fun as you think and anyways I don’t have 2 I have 1 my dads is the house I go to on weekends sometimes
I know
I have 2 christmases
Oo nice thats nice to chriswtmases but the pthers no
@The Fifth Marauder well my mum and dad litterlayy divorced right now
@The Fifth Marauder so yeah
This video is so relatable and I am glad that you posted it because I am 10 and nobody at school knows what I have to go through 😢
As a divorced kid i can relate to this very much 😢
dont forget “always picking sides”. just imagine that your divorced parents are fighting and both of them force you to stay with either of them. its sad.
You’re being stupid
You state true facts
“imagine” u got a good life huh 💀
Well my parents divorced when I was 2-3 so I don’t really have to pick sides
But I didn’t have a choice
"tell youre mom/dad i said.."
Frr I hate that
Or what your mom/dad said. . .
So thief siblings can gossip about it
@@danielogaz1600 Same😕
All of this is accurate especially the sleepover part
Can confirm. I can’t decide if I wanna cry or punch my dad when he says I’m just like my mom.
“I can’t I’m at my dads sorry” IDK how many sleepovers and fun things I’ve missed because of this sentence
Ikr
Same
Listen to mockingbird by Eminem i relate to it so much
irl
True
I loved it when my parents divorced. A calm house with no fights. Winning.
So trueeeee
Same! It was like I finally had a safe space and a break from my mom!
@@hessaaa2367 Same. My parents tried to divorce two times before they actually did, and I was so happy when they did. No more blasting music to not hear screaming and not having to worry about my dad punching holes in the walls anymore. My parents are so much better not together. Now the arguments are just passive aggressive through texts and don't involve me! The packing and "Oh sorry I'm at my dad's that weekend" is annoying, but waaaay better than it was before
For real Im actually loving it. I'd hate it if my parents would get back together. I also love the fact i can be at a different house in the weekends
My parents are still together,Last time my mom and we were about to be kicked out of house.I started crying (18 years old)......In the end we were not kicked out.But Now I have made up my mind Now no matter what ever happens I will never ever try to mediate between them.They can get divorce or kill each other It has nothing to do with me anymore.They all have destroyed my life.I can't even cry out loud because all I will get to hear is Why are you so sensitive?You should be a strong girl.The hell with this all.How can they expect me to be strong when they are the ones who made me this sensitive since childhood. I really hate it when I get to hear you are acting like your mother.You are speaking her language....like hello ?I have my own thoughts But naah.
Oh my gosh this is literally exactly accurate this is literally me!!
That’s so true. I’m literally at my dad’s right now. Packing my bag to go back to my mom’s.
'you're just like your dad!" actually hurts..
i couldn’t agree more
No kidding even if your an adult and a female
@@islandgirl.916. I’m a girl actually
If I get the chance to be a mom and tell that to my kid by an impulse, I would immediately apologize to her/him, give a hug and say: “You know that I love you and you’re the most important thing in my life, right?” Kiss in head/forehead
@@dominicalvarez4247 oh that’s cutteee😭💗💗💗💗
This is so true! It's literally exactly how I live my life as a teenager with divorced parents
Same we are strong together okay? I know the Feelings its hard....
I have this even though mine aren’t divorced nor broken up
Same
Everything will be perfectly fine soon sis
Same 😔 😟
Same thing for me. It’s very hard and I hope people that don’t have divorced parents understand us!
Ty for this I needed a reminder I’m not the only one and the “you can’t go to sleepovers” stuff depending on the parent literally left me with no friends❤
Having divorced parents really messed with my mental health.
same
@Emma kitchens omg i’m so sorry this happened to you and just know if you wanna talk more about it you can
Same it’s not easy
Fr thou I'm now having to get therapist
Cause of there fighting and missing the other and getting yelled at for forgetting homework and a paper for a event
For real thou now I'm having to get therapist because of their fighting and getting yelled at school for forgetting things at the other parent's house
The “you’re just like your dad” really hit since that’s what my mom says to me a lot and thankfully the packing part isn’t normal for me since only one parent has full custody
This hits close to home for me and so many people ❤️
Never forget how they always call each other stupid behind each others backs
The “you’re just like your” is actually so true 😭 to my dad I’m just like my mom and vice versa. And they don’t get along so badly that we have to legit just choose one and stay there because they hate it when we go back and forth and if I choose one for a holiday the other one gets extremely upset and they refuse to accept anything the other parent does.
This!
Wow. Never thought about that. Must be so traumatic. Sometimes grown ups are just like little kids… what a waste of your childhood…. That should always be a safe place… so sorry for you guys
same but it was just my dad my mam just accepted my choices. and if i asked to spend time with my dad, he’d find a way to slip in that im bothering him and i should give him a break. it fucked so much with my brain.
My parents are the Same. It's gonna be alright though. ❤️
On the flip side, I had parents who stayed together until my dad died, and they argued all the time and brought me and my sister into their fights. I thought argumentative behavior in relationships was normal, but the first person I ever had feelings for told me that he learned everything he knows about confrontation from me. I have also stayed in toxic relationships way past their expiration date, because I was taught that's what you're supposed to do. Sometimes a divorce is necessary. Staying "for the kids" can really do them a disservice later in life.
I feel like I could’ve wrote this myself...
Yea unless it's too toxic i don't think one should get a divorce especially when kids are around...
It's best to figure bout things coz everyone you Mary will have a set of charectors you don't like . So rather change one devil than many 😂
My parents are like this too. They’re still together but like what’s the point of staying married when they’re not even sleeping in the same room? And don’t get me started on the never ending fights and arguments.
I was going to comment the same , but felt maybe it will overshadow her points or something ,so deleted. Thanks for this comment.
This! These ppl are so selfish, they should respect parents life, and be happy for them, divorce is def a hard step when having children. Its so much better to have divorced parents than parents who stayed together just because of you. These ppl find hard traveling, forgetting homework at dads house, not being able to sleep over with friends…🤡
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This is so relatable
This is literally my story :( I miss them being together:(
OMG TYSM FOR ALL OF THE LIKESSSS❤❤
Same it’s ok
I never saw them together they broke up before I was born
I think they are probably good divorced for a good reason. Maybe it's better now than what it was.
same.
I don’t, You shouldn’t either. Your the only one who’s sad about it if they went through with it. I don’t know about you, But my parents had screaming matches almost every night when they were together. I’m glad I don’t have to listen to that anymore
“Your just like your dad” my mom says it this lol divorce sucks keep your head up kings/queens 👑
My mom also saying it to me when she is angry..I don't know what to feel😔
My mum divorced my dad.
I'm glad she did.
He was really abusive and I've got massive trauma and ptsd of it.
And when she says that stuff.
It hurts. It hurts a lott.
I try my best to be nice and to not ever become like him.
And when she says that stuff, I just feel like I'm an asshole
I havent had that problem since i stay at my grandma’s and then go to my dads and moms alternating weekends and they are very great parents
same bestie! lol. parents are just fucking stupid and dont know that they shouldn't dump their trauma and anger onto their kids ♡
my mom always says that too