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💯💯💯💯💯 As time passes, my Filipina wife just becomes a more caring, loving and giving woman. I lucked out when I met her. She is the right woman for me. Happy is Happy. I’m happy and my wife is happy too. We are living life now. There is no “big change” either one of us is waiting for. Maybe one day we’ll buy a house here? But not this year or the next one. The future is now and it feels very good. We have to let the sun shine down on us. It’s a choice. It’s great to see and hear how you are doing Calvin. Real life and real world hope!
Hi Calvin. Excellent video as normal. I'm a 69 year old English guy dating a 41 year old filipina in Leyte. When we chat she always tell me she loves me, but Calvin the thing is. I've be dating her for 3 years now and I've flown out to see her twice and I'm going over for good at the end of this year but I'm in no elusions about her love for me becoz I see it as a partnership. I love her and she sort of loves me (I think) this beautiful filipina will be with me for the rest of my life and will care for me and in return I will respect her and give her a better life. So Calvin its happy days for us both and as long as we understand that then it's all good. Keep up the great mate. videos
YAAAAAES! There isn’t a feminine woman on this planet, that doesn’t want a good man to provide for her. We have to be honest about this with ourselves and remove the blinders that fantasy creates. Of course she wants a better life and support. But can she love and respect a good man’s heart as her gift in return. It’s okay if they need us like that. It’s just not okay if they deceive to get us.
There’s a difference between assistance and codependency .I’ll assist and support my love but she ain’t draining my pockets What you saying worked in the 1800s. In this modern day and age you both have to provide in some way and both make money that way things can be smoother it can’t be just the man just providing but each is own doe. Most dudes are sucker for love which is why the game is messed up now
Well said Calvin - more than love, I need responsibility. When you talk, you kind of make me cry. I have always been a high performer, education and career, but I am retired now and bored / lonely. I am so happy I met a Filipina with 3 children, and her hard luck story had her husband die of drug OD opioids, leaving her and 3 children stranded, poor in Texas on food stamps and medicaid...they are my responsibility now, like a third career...I am going out a winner, in love or not, I am happy giving this family a better life.
People can analyze what you are saying all they like Calvin. The most important part I heard was "as long as we are both happy that's all that matters." Enough said...
Contentment and Happiness is what it’s all about. It’s what we as men are seeking. There’s nothing wrong with a Pinay looking for a better life, Visa etc. Hell, I came here looking for the same thing. I want a better life. I wanted a women that would support me and could share with me. I feel fortunate, I got what I was looking for. Good lucky gentlemen, to those that are in search of this. It’s here for you, you just have to make the connection. Patience is an important quality, try to use it!
Calvin you’re a great inspiration, your way of thinking is helping me so much. I have exactly the same way of looking at it as you. I want happiness, not just to fall in love straight away. I’m sure if my relationship fails I will also stay there.
Calvin the way you think is amazing. Thank you for your frankness. I hope to come there after covid to meet a lady ive been talking to for 14 months now. She is so different. She has a tragic story and was raised very traditional and she shows me her friends who have 2 or 3 foreigners each and what to look out for in what she calls the scammers lol. She says she is my protector.
They want there life to be alot easier totally understand that but I wouldn't make her stop her work, they are all looking for a better life vice versa same for the guy if you lucky enough to get a good one and to stay there I wouldn't be bring them abroad.
Land and titles. You are spot on! Necessarily so, most women are still in gatherer mode. Men hunters. They want safety, security and what they can bring home to their families. Many sacrifice more than we know for this. Thats the world. I swung through the trees for a while there. Careful not to mislead anyone. Yet knowing I was the catch for many. Not, as you say, rightfully so, that I was all that special. And certainly not all that cute. Just, that I had the potential to be the provider many dreamed of landing. And still, after six years and twins, I never lose sight of your point. We came to this place with very different motivations and agenda.
Okay Calvin I truly understand what you're telling us, let me see if I got this right, you're saying come to the Philippines to ReDiscover life and not just to find love, wow so easy but we make it so hard. Eyes wide shut 🤔. Dang! You're good Calvin, thank you much.
I especially like this topic because it holds true no matter who or where you are. We are always happiest when we are content within ourselves and do not depend or need others for our happiness. Any relationship that comes along just adds to our lives. But you know, some people do not want to hear the truth.
I never had a woman in the states that didn’t want me for my money. Which I gladly paid, with not much in return. I feel like with a Filipina, it’s cheaper and you get so much more for the money.
You give her 300 a month and a place to stay and she will cook, clean, drive you everywhere and literally treat you like a king. This is not just Filipinas but Asian woman in general.
If the woman likes, cares, respects you and has your back, well thats love. If you're giving that back, well thats a good relationship. As for paying all the bills, well that's fine too, in a good relationship, because living is a lot cheaper in The Philippines. Just my take.
There’s a thread of stoicism running through your philosophical stance. It’s refreshing and it is exactly the path I have been going down. You may want to read Marcus Aurelias’s “Meditations”. The Invictus quote was awesome, on point I can’t wait sit down and have a cup of coffee with you and John. Stay safe my Brother
Great vlog! Probably 10% of all married couples are googlie eyed in Love. The rest, are pay to play(worldwide), in one shape, form or fashion. They hook up, settle down, and eventually.. a deeper Love Blossoms 🌅
LOL!!!! As I was watching this I was LOL with you, not at you. A woman wanting a man for money and security is no different than a man wanting a woman for sex. If a woman told almost any man that he doesn't get "any" anymore, he's probably gone, and I agree for the most part (injury or illness aside). Why should it be any different for a woman? Let's be real guys!! Keep up the good work Calvin!!🙏🙏
If I meet a woman she'll already have a visa and if she wants to live in America she'll already have a green card. I've had the privilege of helping a mother and her son get to America years ago.. A long process that took a lot of resources. Was glad to do it. But a wife is something I'm not in need of. Nor a mother. My loving mother died 20 years ago and no one will ever take her place. Some have tried. I've got more years behind than in front and am comfortable in my own skin. If I meet a woman who wants to journey with me that's ok. We will both have plenty of resources and won't need each other for things that we can do for ourselves. Enjoy your journey Calvin.
"Captain of my Soul" Awesome quote by Calvin! Takes someone comfortable with himself to say this as developed Man. A women should compliment your life not rule your life. "I am the Master of my fate, I am in the drivers seat of my destiny, or emotions and feelings. It is not contingent on a love affair. It doesn't depend on whether a women loves me or not. It depends on whether I love myself or not." "It is not about love it is about freedom and happiness" I couldn't agree more Calvin! Too many men sacrifice freedom and happiness to find someone else to try to make them complete. I also love a beautiful, tropical, cultural experience as a place to call home. Dreamy, with the additional bonus of choices of beautiful women that could develop into a loving relationship with your wisdom.
That's what I'm going to do Calvin be in the driver seat and enjoy my time there when they open the border for us to travel. I'm not going to visit the Philippines, I'm moving there for good. I'm glad I have found your channel and have you telling me what to do when I'm there. Your the man Calvin much love brother🇵🇷
Men in general want certain things to be happy in a relationship. They want respect, to be needed, to be wanted, and to be desired physically. Women in general want to feel secure in the relationship, in finances, in safety, and most cases children. Notice that none of this involves that gushy emotions that Hollyweird pushes. Both are happy and content knowing that the person sitting next to them is there for them!
Another great honest straight talkn video .. thanks bro love it .. I got 3 Filipina I support and the similarities are same lol .. feels good to give n make a lady feel special and important.. yeah they play me but they give me company and make me feel good I’m 59 yo Aussie.. can’t wait to get back over there 🙏 god bless
It's so refreshing to hear the truth! Years ago I worked for a very rich, older, Swiss businessman who was married to a much younger beautiful woman. One day he just said to me out of the blue that she had married him for his money and that he didn't care, because he was happy 😊
Well it's on nights like this when I can really appreciate your situation. Here in Brooklyn N.Y. well the trip state area it is snowing right now & will be for the next three days. It started snowing all day Sunday & will continue until Wednesday Well thats what they are saying !
Lots of people like snow, and hate heat and humidity, and the bugs and disease that go along with it. To each his own. I like visiting the tropics from time to time, but no way I want to be there all the time
Cal, I am glad you did this video. If I am happy with what I am doing, what else matters. I am a grown man, Master of my Life circumstances, as much as anyone can be. If you are happy in your circumstances what else matters?
And who should be surprised. Most people are looking for a better life, this is not exclusive to the Philippines. To all men contemplating a trip to the Philippines, this channel is your guide to a fun and safe experience. And don't muddy up the red carpet, it's all set up for you to win.
The best thing about being in a relationship whether married or living together is now your not wasting time and money in the dating chase and can now focus on your partner and future.
I totally get it Calvin & i'm exactly where you are, infact more so because 1) it's always been the place I want & 2) never been about a woman first & never ever would be. & I wouldn't be in a relationship in any country knowing my g/f was in it for my money WITHOUT love. Theres a difference. Love & money & in that order, no problem. Allowing my partner a better life, absolutely. BUT Money without love NO, even if sex was amazing. Personally i'd rather be single & have TOTAL freedom do do exactly what I want & when I want. Zero restrictions. You & your G/F do love eachother, you've said it & the one & only thing that matters is you're happy, i'm delighted for you. I understood your comments of yesterday. Respect & thanks for reaching out in helping others. Guys, don't make your travel destination ONLY about the women, be it about the place first & always...& the women will follow.
T Man good to know you’ve found what works for you. For me, it’s a little different. I’m already deeply involved with my Filipina and by extension, her family. So for me, the Filipina is first on my mind. Then exploring the beauty of the Philippines with her. After all, it was meeting her that peaked my curiosity to learn more about the country. Please. This is not an argument. This is a discussion to bring insight by offering another point of view. I take my happiness with me wherever I go, with or without a woman. On that point Calvin is a wise man.
@@TheSugmad Hi Fred, yes sure I understand you 100%. If I was in the same situation, I would be the same & i'm sure it goes for everyone. Maybe one day I will be. It's absolutely not an argument & is absolutely a disscussion in our own views, situation & experiences. We can learn from eachother, help eachother & to me that's the way forward in life, in society. Take care
finding my self, finding my self, before I find some one other then myself, then I can find the rest of what might be in finding the best. to give this mind some rest,
Great point Calvin when you said. " I don't need a Woman to make me happy" I have lived by that Creede for many years. I got lucky. Julie has never asked me for 1 dime in ten years. Not once! A certain member of her family has. I shut that down immediately. But I have helped members of her family because I/we choose to.
When they become Americanized then you'll definitely see if she's for you or has other ideas. I've seen the navy wave in san Diego, when the sailors are out to see the Filipino wife's are out enforce. It's all too common among military guys.
Calvin, I understand what you are talking about. I think you learnt the confidence being in the US Navy that just reinforce what you were before you joined the military and now a military veteran. Me being a US Air Force military veteran, I relate to your advice and so glad that I have a real truth teller. Some of these people find out down the line that you Calvin had their best interest at heart. Going to the Philippines as a single male, you can make it on your own and not be tied down with someone you met on line because, they are only going to show you what they want you to see. Best thing is to find for yourself like you tell them Calvin is the best thing to do. Sincerely thanks for your almost now twelve (12) years of experience in the Philippines.
I think if she tries the bait and switch game with you over there and play games you have far to many options to put up with that and she know it always remember you are the PRIZE. But once you bring her back to the states "As we use to say in the military you loose the objective" and she starting getting Americanize and get some independence that you are in trouble. As far as the pay for play, everything in life cost even happiness and I think that`s a small price to pay if you find someone that gives you a peace of mind and puts a smile on your face everyday. Thanks again bro. Calvin for another informative vid, peace and stay safe.
I only discovered the Philippines a couple of months ago and if I could have headed over there right then I would have, But Covid and may be fate kept me in the United States. I have spent the last couple months learning about the Philippines, the people, the laws, and the scams. If I would’ve gone over there two months ago, I would’ve made all the mistakes that everyone else makes, but thanks to a handful of UA-camrs including yourself I will be able to do it right the first time, so thanks. Everyone wants to come to the United States but I live here, and I can’t wait to leave.
Why are people so concerned about what others say or think, just worry about yourself and do what's best for you and your significant other. We are all looking for happiness and contentment in a good lasting relationship.
Love can be a misunderstanding between two fools, you are the master of your destiny but you can easily stray from your path of destiny, be wise in your selection, as they are with you, boots on the ground, keep it up, you're happy and that's it.
Bro,as you know there is pressure from the girls family to settle down . They believe that once we have tasted the goods , we won't go through with marriage. I think we KANO are different than the local boys who are just too young and inexperienced. We foreigners in general have good intentions but I have found that the girl's family with all their demands are to blame for most relationship failures
Like your honesty in your videos. As a man, we do have a lot of options and we should maintain that leverage to keep the playing field or relationship field level. I know I will do the right thing. The question is, will she? Also, it's very very difficult for a woman with children to find a man who will take her serious in the Philippines. Age and babies are the kiiss of death for many women in the Philippines. Especially in the province areas. Yes, she wants a better life for herself and her kids if she have some. She wants love and companionship like any human being. However, for me...I can date a woman who doesn't love me, but I will Never marry a womn who doesn't love me.
What's up Calvin love your video, this is going to be for those it's for and who it's not it's not. A 4 is where I am, the biggest part is all about being mature enough to be real with yourself. About who you are as a person, where you are in life, and recognizing you're in the Philippines. Pinas have wants and needs. Like most they grow up wanting to be a princess rescued by her knight in shining armor. In the Philippines that means, can you feed, support me, help me with my family, not abuse me, and I will be be your woman and if I see that you are truly real. I love you, but I will truly love you..
Woman are the same everywhere. Please don't delude yourself into thinking that any woman "will truly love you" the way (for instance) your mother loved you. For 99.99% of them, they will treat you nice if you meet their needs, and will stop treating you nice once you no longer meet their needs (e.g., the money stops flowing). The hard part is that unlike a man, a women's needs change over time--they are a moving target. And also unlike most men, most women are always looking for a "better deal" than they have now. That's why a man of means should never bring them back to the US--their eyes will be opened to all the new possibilities, and for many of them the temptation to leave and find the better deal will be too great to overcome.
Just like a doctor who is about to perform surgery on you. It doesn't matter if he/she loves you. You shouldn't even care if he/she considers you a friend. You just want to make sure the doctor is skilled in what he/she does and takes good care of you. That's all it matters.
Another important point to be aware of as to why filipinas are also attracted to foreigners is that we discriminate to a much lesser extent against women with children. In filipino culture, women with kids from a previous relationship will find it difficult to gain acceptance from the family of a pinoy man and they will sway that man to search for a single woman instead.
Gee--maybe those families know something... Why would any man want to raise another man's kids with all the cost and frustration that goes with raising kids, and in the end have nothing to show for it, including virtually no say in how the kids are raised? Only Western beta men are foolish enough to do that.
In seeking a mate, men seek beauty, women seek security. Some say this is because the female has to not only consider their future, they are interested in looking at their children's future. This is not an evil thing, it is being practical. A man who is more financially secure is more attractive. The thing is that it is the same here in the USA. Children in wealthy neighborhoods tend to be more attractive, because their mothers are. When women chat it is not about their mate's cute little dimple. It is about them being a good provider, (one of my mother's favorite praises of my father). There is a old saying about a guy really bringing home the bacon. At one time meat was a luxury even in the USA. If a man could afford to bring home bacon, he was considered more worthwhile or desirable. This is not only human nature. It is prevalent in the animal kingdom as well. The most capable bull in a herd gets the cows. A male bird will do his best to appear number one with nest building and dancing, but it is the female that chooses, based on qualifications, not love. You likely win a special honor in your wife's eyes because of what you do for her children.
I read through the comments and I know people wasn't bashing you or even telling you how to live in or out of your relationship. There is another way to look at it and its not in a negative way or putting words in your mouth ..your subscribers were genuinely looking out for you and wanting you to be ok and happy . If my brother texted me and said something that I thought was a concern to me , I would definitely check on him to see if he's good . I wouldn't expect him to get defensive. These people really do care for you because when we see goodness in someone you want to keep that fire lit.
Before my grandmother died, she always told me, "I don't want you to marry a Filipino, I want you to marry a Foreigner." I asked her why then she said, "You will have beautiful babies." Haha it really is funny. Although it may seemed like a joke but I really took it seriously. Because she is my mentor/teacher and I always keep in mind the things she always said to me. I'm embarrassed to admit, but it has become one of my plans in life; To get married to a foreigner and have beautiful babies. But I also have to have a happy marriage, just like my grandparents who were happily married for more or less 60 years. My point in my comment is, not all Filipina wants a foreigner as their lover/husband for their money. Some of them has reasons. Example, because they dont like Filipino men, or they are more attracted to other race, etc. Understanding and acceptance is all there is. And love will follow... Then happiness, then contentment... (After getting to know each other ofcourse😉) 😊
Hypergamy has no borders nor boundaries Signed up for STEP notification across SEA, PHI only one to go up, Thailand dropped to a 2, SG down to its standard 1. Am now based in Belize, hearing we may get vaccinated through the Embassy, situation here being much different as 95% of Americans are in one area
Hey Calvin, just an honest opinion. No slight intended. you're getting a little out over your skis bro. I know you're sincere but IMHO you're getting a little wound up over the Filipina thing. In the USA the same thing applies as I sure you know. Remember the old saying NO MONEY NO HONEY bro.Stay safe and KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON. BTW I'm A NAVY vet as well.
It's the same everywhere, All women want the men to be the provider. Go tell your wife you are not giving her any more money if she is a homemaker. See how fast she packs her bags and how fast the letter will come from her lawyer. Hahaha
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As time passes, my Filipina wife just becomes a more caring, loving and giving woman. I lucked out when I met her. She is the right woman for me. Happy is Happy. I’m happy and my wife is happy too. We are living life now. There is no “big change” either one of us is waiting for. Maybe one day we’ll buy a house here? But not this year or the next one. The future is now and it feels very good. We have to let the sun shine down on us. It’s a choice. It’s great to see and hear how you are doing Calvin. Real life and real world hope!
Before you buy a house you should watch, "Overstay Road Filipina Kicks Foreign Guy out of House."
Hi Calvin.
Excellent video as normal.
I'm a 69 year old English guy dating a 41 year old filipina in Leyte. When we chat she always tell me she loves me, but Calvin the thing is. I've be dating her for 3 years now and I've flown out to see her twice and I'm going over for good at the end of this year but I'm in no elusions about her love for me becoz I see it as a partnership. I love her and she sort of loves me (I think) this beautiful filipina will be with me for the rest of my life and will care for me and in return I will respect her and give her a better life.
So Calvin its happy days for us both and as long as we understand that then it's all good.
Keep up the great mate. videos
YAAAAAES!
There isn’t a feminine woman on this planet, that doesn’t want a good man to provide for her.
We have to be honest about this with ourselves and remove the blinders that fantasy creates.
Of course she wants a better life and support. But can she love and respect a good man’s heart as her gift in return.
It’s okay if they need us like that.
It’s just not okay if they deceive to get us.
It's also not okay if men deceive women for sex...which also happens.
@@pauls4742 for sure. I’ve unsubscribed to a few channels that actually promote that sick behaviour.
There’s a difference between assistance and codependency .I’ll assist and support my love but she ain’t draining my pockets What you saying worked in the 1800s. In this modern day and age you both have to provide in some way and both make money that way things can be smoother it can’t be just the man just providing but each is own doe. Most dudes are sucker for love which is why the game is messed up now
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Well said Calvin - more than love, I need responsibility. When you talk, you kind of make me cry. I have always been a high performer, education and career, but I am retired now and bored / lonely. I am so happy I met a Filipina with 3 children, and her hard luck story had her husband die of drug OD opioids, leaving her and 3 children stranded, poor in Texas on food stamps and medicaid...they are my responsibility now, like a third career...I am going out a winner, in love or not, I am happy giving this family a better life.
People can analyze what you are saying all they like Calvin. The most important part I heard was "as long as we are both happy that's all that matters." Enough said...
It’s pay for play in every country....love is the delusion.
Great video. You found happiness in life. Thank you so very much for helping us.
Great info Bro !!!! Keep giving it real to us !!! The "TRUTH" is $$$$$$$$$$$$
Man, I love this guy 👊🏻
Ok #4. Your system works everywhere. It's life..
I am happy for you.
Thanks for the videos.
Mahalo
Contentment and Happiness is what it’s all about. It’s what we as men are seeking. There’s nothing wrong with a Pinay looking for a better life, Visa etc. Hell, I came here looking for the same thing. I want a better life. I wanted a women that would support me and could share with me. I feel fortunate, I got what I was looking for. Good lucky gentlemen, to those that are in search of this. It’s here for you, you just have to make the connection. Patience is an important quality, try to use it!
You’re a wise man, Calvin.
Great food for thought!
Calvin, you keep it real; I agree with you 100%
Calvin you’re a great inspiration, your way of thinking is helping me so much. I have exactly the same way of looking at it as you. I want happiness, not just to fall in love straight away. I’m sure if my relationship fails I will also stay there.
If a women gives you the feeling of safe, happiness, and contentment that's it. I call that a LOVE!
I call it a set up. They all start like that.
When i see 2 old folks still holding hands now that's love ✌🏽
Calvin the way you think is amazing. Thank you for your frankness. I hope to come there after covid to meet a lady ive been talking to for 14 months now. She is so different. She has a tragic story and was raised very traditional and she shows me her friends who have 2 or 3 foreigners each and what to look out for in what she calls the scammers lol. She says she is my protector.
We all want a better life in 1 way or other
They want there life to be alot easier totally understand that but I wouldn't make her stop her work, they are all looking for a better life vice versa same for the guy if you lucky enough to get a good one and to stay there I wouldn't be bring them abroad.
Land and titles. You are spot on! Necessarily so, most women are still in gatherer mode. Men hunters. They want safety, security and what they can bring home to their families. Many sacrifice more than we know for this. Thats the world.
I swung through the trees for a while there. Careful not to mislead anyone. Yet knowing I was the catch for many. Not, as you say, rightfully so, that I was all that special. And certainly not all that cute. Just, that I had the potential to be the provider many dreamed of landing. And still, after six years and twins, I never lose sight of your point. We came to this place with very different motivations and agenda.
Interesting perspective, thank you
Okay Calvin I truly understand what you're telling us, let me see if I got this right, you're saying come to the Philippines to ReDiscover life and not just to find love, wow so easy but we make it so hard. Eyes wide shut 🤔. Dang! You're good Calvin, thank you much.
I especially like this topic because it holds true no matter who or where you are. We are always happiest when we are content within ourselves and do not depend or need others for our happiness. Any relationship that comes along just adds to our lives. But you know, some people do not want to hear the truth.
So true
Yes sir you hit the nail on the head in everything you spoke on.
Thanks for the knowledge and information bro. You are dropping truth bombs on domes non-stop . Wish I was there. Snowing here tomorrow 😢
New from AZ. Thanks for the update.
I never had a woman in the states that didn’t want me for my money. Which I gladly paid, with not much in return. I feel like with a Filipina, it’s cheaper and you get so much more for the money.
Yeah Filipina women can survive with $100-200 a month with no problem.
dam right 47-50 X more on the exchange
You give her 300 a month and a place to stay and she will cook, clean, drive you everywhere and literally treat you like a king. This is not just Filipinas but Asian woman in general.
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If the woman likes, cares, respects you and has your back, well thats love. If you're giving that back, well thats a good relationship. As for paying all the bills, well that's fine too, in a good relationship, because living is a lot cheaper in The Philippines. Just my take.
Good stuff Calvin ! You bring the goods with each video I see.
Excellent video and good message well taken. Keep it coming Calvin
There’s a thread of stoicism running through your philosophical stance. It’s refreshing and it is exactly the path I have been going down. You may want to read Marcus Aurelias’s “Meditations”.
The Invictus quote was awesome, on point
I can’t wait sit down and have a cup of coffee with you and John.
Stay safe my Brother
Thanks D I really appreciate you man and that’s real talk brother 💪🏾
Great vlog! Probably 10% of all married couples are googlie eyed in Love. The rest, are pay to play(worldwide), in one shape, form or fashion. They hook up, settle down, and eventually.. a deeper Love Blossoms 🌅
LOL!!!! As I was watching this I was LOL with you, not at you. A woman wanting a man for money and security is no different than a man wanting a woman for sex. If a woman told almost any man that he doesn't get "any" anymore, he's probably gone, and I agree for the most part (injury or illness aside). Why should it be any different for a woman? Let's be real guys!!
Keep up the good work Calvin!!🙏🙏
If I meet a woman she'll already have a visa and if she wants to live in America she'll already have a green card. I've had the privilege of helping a mother and her son get to America years ago.. A long process that took a lot of resources. Was glad to do it. But a wife is something I'm not in need of. Nor a mother.
My loving mother died 20 years ago and no one will ever take her place. Some have tried. I've got more years behind than in front and am comfortable in my own skin. If I meet a woman who wants to journey with me that's ok. We will both have plenty of resources and won't need each other for
things that we can do for ourselves.
Enjoy your journey Calvin.
Great message sir. 👍 God bless.
Never met you bro , but I sure do like you ..you really seem like grounded , good people .
Have no idea how I found this channel but I like it !
"Captain of my Soul" Awesome quote by Calvin! Takes someone comfortable with himself to say this as developed Man. A women should compliment your life not rule your life. "I am the Master of my fate, I am in the drivers seat of my destiny, or emotions and feelings. It is not contingent on a love affair. It doesn't depend on whether a women loves me or not. It depends on whether I love myself or not." "It is not about love it is about freedom and happiness" I couldn't agree more Calvin! Too many men sacrifice freedom and happiness to find someone else to try to make them complete. I also love a beautiful, tropical, cultural experience as a place to call home. Dreamy, with the additional bonus of choices of beautiful women that could develop into a loving relationship with your wisdom.
That's what I'm going to do Calvin be in the driver seat and enjoy my time there when they open the border for us to travel. I'm not going to visit the Philippines, I'm moving there for good. I'm glad I have found your channel and have you telling me what to do when I'm there. Your the man Calvin much love brother🇵🇷
Men in general want certain things to be happy in a relationship. They want respect, to be needed, to be wanted, and to be desired physically. Women in general want to feel secure in the relationship, in finances, in safety, and most cases children. Notice that none of this involves that gushy emotions that Hollyweird pushes. Both are happy and content knowing that the person sitting next to them is there for them!
Another great video and content. Thanks for sharing.
I'm keeping my girl there in the Philippines and if she wants a better life fine long as I get what I want too
Another great honest straight talkn video .. thanks bro love it .. I got 3 Filipina I support and the similarities are same lol .. feels good to give n make a lady feel special and important.. yeah they play me but they give me company and make me feel good I’m 59 yo Aussie.. can’t wait to get back over there 🙏 god bless
It's so refreshing to hear the truth! Years ago I worked for a very rich, older, Swiss businessman who was married to a much younger beautiful woman. One day he just said to me out of the blue that she had married him for his money and that he didn't care, because he was happy 😊
Well it's on nights like this when I can really appreciate your situation. Here in Brooklyn N.Y. well the trip state area it is snowing right now & will be for the next three days. It started snowing all day Sunday & will continue until Wednesday
Well thats what they are saying !
Lots of people like snow, and hate heat and humidity, and the bugs and disease that go along with it. To each his own. I like visiting the tropics from time to time, but no way I want to be there all the time
Cal, I am glad you did this video. If I am happy with what I am doing, what else matters. I am a grown man, Master of my Life circumstances, as much as anyone can be. If you are happy in your circumstances what else matters?
Well if the guy is making an informed choice on his own, why not.?
OS3 from Augusta GA checking in shipmate. Another classic.
What’s up comrade 💪🏾
I'm new here , That's a powerful truth . Stay safe .
And who should be surprised. Most people are looking for a better life, this is not exclusive to the Philippines. To all men contemplating a trip to the Philippines, this channel is your guide to a fun and safe experience. And don't muddy up the red carpet, it's all set up for you to win.
The best thing about being in a relationship whether married or living together is now your not wasting time and money in the dating chase and can now focus on your partner and future.
Hey Calvin love all your videos man you keep it real and right to the point
I totally get it Calvin & i'm exactly where you are, infact more so because 1) it's always been the place I want & 2) never been about a woman first & never ever would be.
& I wouldn't be in a relationship in any country knowing my g/f was in it for my money WITHOUT love. Theres a difference. Love & money & in that order, no problem. Allowing my partner a better life, absolutely.
BUT
Money without love NO, even if sex was amazing. Personally i'd rather be single & have TOTAL freedom do do exactly what I want & when I want. Zero restrictions.
You & your G/F do love eachother, you've said it & the one & only thing that matters is you're happy, i'm delighted for you.
I understood your comments of yesterday. Respect & thanks for reaching out in helping others.
Guys, don't make your travel destination ONLY about the women, be it about the place first & always...& the women will follow.
T Man good to know you’ve found what works for you. For me, it’s a little different. I’m already deeply involved with my Filipina and by extension, her family. So for me, the Filipina is first on my mind. Then exploring the beauty of the Philippines with her. After all, it was meeting her that peaked my curiosity to learn more about the country. Please. This is not an argument. This is a discussion to bring insight by offering another point of view. I take my happiness with me wherever I go, with or without a woman. On that point Calvin is a wise man.
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Hi Fred, yes sure I understand you 100%.
If I was in the same situation, I would be the same & i'm sure it goes for everyone. Maybe one day I will be.
It's absolutely not an argument & is absolutely a disscussion in our own views, situation & experiences. We can learn from eachother, help eachother & to me that's the way forward in life, in society.
Take care
finding my self, finding my self, before I find some one other then myself, then I can find the rest of what might be in finding the best. to give this mind some rest,
It's the same in the U.S. I bet you have a better all around situation in the Philippines. You seem to be at peace. Stay up homie!
great video once again!
Great point Calvin when you said. " I don't need a Woman to make me happy" I have lived by that Creede for many years.
I got lucky. Julie has never asked me for 1 dime in ten years. Not once! A certain member of her family has. I shut that down immediately. But I have helped members of her family because I/we choose to.
When they become Americanized then you'll definitely see if she's for you or has other ideas. I've seen the navy wave in san Diego, when the sailors are out to see the Filipino wife's are out enforce. It's all too common among military guys.
I saw that at JAX NAS too when sailors went on deployment. Some American wives also strayed.
Calvin, I understand what you are talking about. I think you learnt the confidence being in the US Navy that just reinforce what you were before you joined the military and now a military veteran. Me being a US Air Force military veteran, I relate to your advice and so glad that I have a real truth teller. Some of these people find out down the line that you Calvin had their best interest at heart. Going to the Philippines as a single male, you can make it on your own and not be tied down with someone you met on line because, they are only going to show you what they want you to see. Best thing is to find for yourself like you tell them Calvin is the best thing to do. Sincerely thanks for your almost now twelve (12) years of experience in the Philippines.
Thank you so much Calvin for another great sharing... Good luck and wish you all the best. Be safe, stay safe, and keep distance! Best regards/Ned 👍👍
Hey, there's nothing wrong with Alaska!! Lol! Definitely agree with you though. Lots of Philippine citizens living here. Love your videos Calvin!
I think if she tries the bait and switch game with you over there and play games you have far to many options to put up with that and she know it always remember you are the PRIZE. But once you bring her back to the states "As we use to say in the military you loose the objective" and she starting getting Americanize and get some independence that you are in trouble. As far as the pay for play, everything in life cost even happiness and I think that`s a small price to pay if you find someone that gives you a peace of mind and puts a smile on your face everyday. Thanks again bro. Calvin for another informative vid, peace and stay safe.
I only discovered the Philippines a couple of months ago and if I could have headed over there right then I would have, But Covid and may be fate kept me in the United States. I have spent the last couple months learning about the Philippines, the people, the laws, and the scams. If I would’ve gone over there two months ago, I would’ve made all the mistakes that everyone else makes, but thanks to a handful of UA-camrs including yourself I will be able to do it right the first time, so thanks. Everyone wants to come to the United States but I live here, and I can’t wait to leave.
Why are people so concerned about what others say or think, just worry about yourself and do what's best for you and your significant other. We are all looking for happiness and contentment in a good lasting relationship.
If you don't like me hell l don't care 🤷 🙂 💯
Glad all is good with you , more good and interesting advice 😊
It's a trade-off and expected. Escaped there in March 2020 and itching to get back there.
Women like money ..period...it's Universal
Love can be a misunderstanding between two fools, you are the master of your destiny but you can easily stray from your path of destiny, be wise in your selection, as they are with you, boots on the ground, keep it up, you're happy and that's it.
Hello Auntie Salvacion Lara, done subscribing and liked the videos..God bless us all
This is really good advice...
Bro,as you know there is pressure from the girls family to settle down . They believe that once we have tasted the goods , we won't go through with marriage. I think we KANO are different than the local boys who are just too young and inexperienced. We foreigners in general have good intentions but I have found that the girl's family with all their demands are to blame for most relationship failures
Amen Calvin Happy Happy Happy ok I'm not mad at ya great video
57 god bless you, the tranquility of the PH shines through on your face.
It is a wise man who listens to Calvin's counsel......
Like your honesty in your videos. As a man, we do have a lot of options and we should maintain that leverage to keep the playing field or relationship field level. I know I will do the right thing. The question is, will she?
Also, it's very very difficult for a woman with children to find a man who will take her serious in the Philippines. Age and babies are the kiiss of death for many women in the Philippines. Especially in the province areas. Yes, she wants a better life for herself and her kids if she have some. She wants love and companionship like any human being. However, for me...I can date a woman who doesn't love me, but I will Never marry a womn who doesn't love me.
In the US get a hundred women two men put one in a pinto and put the other in a Mercedes see which car fills up faster
deep! I learned something. Thank you
What's up Calvin love your video, this is going to be for those it's for and who it's not it's not. A 4 is where I am, the biggest part is all about being mature enough to be real with yourself. About who you are as a person, where you are in life, and recognizing you're in the Philippines. Pinas have wants and needs. Like most they grow up wanting to be a princess rescued by her knight in shining armor. In the Philippines that means, can you feed, support me, help me with my family, not abuse me, and I will be be your woman and if I see that you are truly real. I love you, but I will truly love you..
Woman are the same everywhere. Please don't delude yourself into thinking that any woman "will truly love you" the way (for instance) your mother loved you. For 99.99% of them, they will treat you nice if you meet their needs, and will stop treating you nice once you no longer meet their needs (e.g., the money stops flowing). The hard part is that unlike a man, a women's needs change over time--they are a moving target. And also unlike most men, most women are always looking for a "better deal" than they have now. That's why a man of means should never bring them back to the US--their eyes will be opened to all the new possibilities, and for many of them the temptation to leave and find the better deal will be too great to overcome.
The tropics rule.I first got a taste of that in the Bahamas
Just like a doctor who is about to perform surgery on you. It doesn't matter if he/she loves you. You shouldn't even care if he/she considers you a friend. You just want to make sure the doctor is skilled in what he/she does and takes good care of you. That's all it matters.
Wow great analogy 😮
Wow this vlog is for all foreigners who are blind in love with filipinas 👏👏
LoL Lmao Cool
Well put
I understand about what you mean about being a 4. I live in Kapolei Hawaii. But i rather be where you are Calvin.
Another important point to be aware of as to why filipinas are also attracted to foreigners is that we discriminate to a much lesser extent against women with children. In filipino culture, women with kids from a previous relationship will find it difficult to gain acceptance from the family of a pinoy man and they will sway that man to search for a single woman instead.
Gee--maybe those families know something... Why would any man want to raise another man's kids with all the cost and frustration that goes with raising kids, and in the end have nothing to show for it, including virtually no say in how the kids are raised? Only Western beta men are foolish enough to do that.
In seeking a mate, men seek beauty, women seek security. Some say this is because the female has to not only consider their future, they are interested in looking at their children's future. This is not an evil thing, it is being practical. A man who is more financially secure is more attractive. The thing is that it is the same here in the USA. Children in wealthy neighborhoods tend to be more attractive, because their mothers are. When women chat it is not about their mate's cute little dimple. It is about them being a good provider, (one of my mother's favorite praises of my father).
There is a old saying about a guy really bringing home the bacon. At one time meat was a luxury even in the USA. If a man could afford to bring home bacon, he was considered more worthwhile or desirable.
This is not only human nature. It is prevalent in the animal kingdom as well. The most capable bull in a herd gets the cows. A male bird will do his best to appear number one with nest building and dancing, but it is the female that chooses, based on qualifications, not love.
You likely win a special honor in your wife's eyes because of what you do for her children.
I read through the comments and I know people wasn't bashing you or even telling you how to live in or out of your relationship. There is another way to look at it and its not in a negative way or putting words in your mouth ..your subscribers were genuinely looking out for you and wanting you to be ok and happy . If my brother texted me and said something that I thought was a concern to me , I would definitely check on him to see if he's good . I wouldn't expect him to get defensive. These people really do care for you because when we see goodness in someone you want to keep that fire lit.
Wow thanks for your inspiring words!
Exactly nate, well said.
Hi I like your views talking deep realizium
Thanks Calvin
Before my grandmother died, she always told me, "I don't want you to marry a Filipino, I want you to marry a Foreigner." I asked her why then she said, "You will have beautiful babies." Haha it really is funny. Although it may seemed like a joke but I really took it seriously. Because she is my mentor/teacher and I always keep in mind the things she always said to me. I'm embarrassed to admit, but it has become one of my plans in life; To get married to a foreigner and have beautiful babies. But I also have to have a happy marriage, just like my grandparents who were happily married for more or less 60 years.
My point in my comment is, not all Filipina wants a foreigner as their lover/husband for their money. Some of them has reasons. Example, because they dont like Filipino men, or they are more attracted to other race, etc. Understanding and acceptance is all there is. And love will follow... Then happiness, then contentment... (After getting to know each other ofcourse😉) 😊
It's true. Some of us have developed a preference for other cultures and the features or appearances of other races.
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Sage Advice
Well said Calvin
Hypergamy has no borders nor boundaries
Signed up for STEP notification across SEA, PHI only one to go up, Thailand dropped to a 2, SG down to its standard 1.
Am now based in Belize, hearing we may get vaccinated through the Embassy, situation here being much different as 95% of Americans are in one area
Hey Calvin, just an honest opinion. No slight intended. you're getting a little out over your skis bro. I know you're sincere but IMHO you're getting a little wound up over the Filipina thing. In the USA the same thing applies as I sure you know. Remember the old saying NO MONEY NO HONEY bro.Stay safe and KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON. BTW I'm A NAVY vet as well.
Thanks but I’m not in the USA and it’s my channel if I want to get wound up 😊
@@calroach1 Sorry if I offended you.... not my intention.
They added Measles... supposed to be an outbreak of measles there also
@@johnwales4214 she OK? It really was added to the COVID and terrorist warnings
Good analogy about Alaska. Alaska is beautiful but it ain't the Philippines. Appreciate the info Calvin.
I to am the Captain of my destiny and soul.
It's the same everywhere, All women want the men to be the provider. Go tell your wife you are not giving her any more money if she is a homemaker. See how fast she packs her bags and how fast the letter will come from her lawyer. Hahaha
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Well talked