@@lynnsaga1397 Im 12 years old and I feel every think Im non-binary because I started feeling like she and him pronouns but.......they and them pronouns It just feels right Am I too young or just live it?
@@eclipse9004 you're never too young. You can always change/choose your gender identity. If you chose to identity as non binary but then grow up to not feel like that anymore that is perfectly valid! You could try experimenting with they/them pronouns and other stuff in general to see if it's a good label for you. And maybe even non-binary videos and guides ^^
@@lynnsaga1397 Weird example for mixture of fem and masc I want is not very broad shoulders but on the position of male shoulders? Like AMAB people tend to have shouders that are streight and AFAB have shoulders that poin a bit down if you get me.I too have like gaps in my childhood but I know I didn`t care about gender till people started to call me young woman /lady/act like lady ect and also started to pressure me to wear femme clothes that made it clear that I don`t like my chest . I had to hide from the sun so I thought I wear big glothes for that and because I was chubby but when I got into shape that logically I knew was good I still felt off about the bumps chest and hips made me feel to curvy/fat/too woman like . When I started to experiment/question for like absolutely real because my dysphoria got really bad [ for like year ] I went hyper masc and felt good when 1 person called me boy [ Here it is like almost impossible to be gendered outside AGAB because of how conservative people are they see me as butch lesbian] at the same day I had panic attack because people used fem gendered words towards me in shop . I ended up trying so hard to be masc that I started to resent my binder ...And then I was ohh I must be in between? Like I like flat chest but when the rest isn`t masc 1000 % XD p.s Apologize for the rant
@@eclipse9004 I think the first time I actually said things that expressed being non-binary, although I didn't have the words for it was at about your age
Same! I'm perfectly fine being female and being called she/her/hers but I doubt I'd be insulted if I was called he/him or they/them. I'd also like top surgery (I have giant chest so that could be part of it)
Honestly same though, like I’m fine with my gender but I’d rather be the other a lot of the time and getting missgendered is pleasing, all the same I also don’t want to be that gender???? Idk
I don’t mind what pronouns people would use when referring to me. But I always disliked it when people pointed out I was a woman/female. It always made me wish I wasn’t female. And at the same time I didn’t want to be seen as a full on male but rather something in between or both together. Honestly this still confuses me to this day, I guess I just dislike labels but I also don’t really want to say I’m no gender or sth., I sometimes just want to feel more like a man and sometimes more like a woman without it being pointed out.
SAME. i think im a demigirl :> Edit. It has come to my attention that i am actually Non-binary and have been brought up as a "girl" dispite not being one! Edit 2: i cut my hair. Im starting to look how i feel inside!
I don't think so I think you're just tired of the weight of the ideas of womanhood at least that's how I feel. I love being a woman but I'm so tired of the box that everyone places us in and not seeing the extensive, beautiful spectrum that a "woman" is.
I can't tell if I'm non binary or if I just find non binary people really attractive. Why does every problem I have boil down to "do I like them or do I want to be them?"
My main problem is that I can't tell if I'm a cis female or an enby who has accepted that I am female as that's just what I've been told I am for the past 15 years. I dislike my figure but I always connected that to my general dislike of my appearance and weight. Also, I didn't think about it because I don't seem to care about gender. I don't understand peoples dislike of certain pronouns, as to me they are just words, and how people know they are trans. I did have a thought one day that the world would be better if everyone was genderless which was a bit of a red flag to me not being cis. As well as this I want to be more masc presenting (although my dad tells me this isn't new as I've been a bit of a tomboy since I was young) despite my love for feminine clothing in the past. Possibly related, one of my favourite memories of myself was when I went to a princess and pirate party (girls dressed as princesses, boys as pirates) and I was the only girl who went as a pirate which made me feel really proud for some reason (although that may have just been me liking being unique and special) Sorry, this comment is an embarrassing mess, I feel like I'm trying to prove stuff because I am confused and I just want to know who I am.
I... wow. I'm afab and 16 and I relate to a lot of what you just said, especially about the world being better if it's genderless and not caring about pronouns and all that. I don't know what I am either but what you said made a lot of sense to me and I identify with it a lot
I'm amab and have pretty much the exact same experience but the other way around. I was always seen as "gay" (I mean I am but still-) for being too feminine sometimes, but I always enjoyed more masculine clothing. At the same time, I want to pursue more feminine fashion including makeup and dresses. I always categorised my discomfort with my body as being just that, a discomfort with my body. I always have discussed the idea of heading toward a genderless society cuz it would just be easier on so many levels and I think it just makes more sense! Anyways, yeah I get you, enby to enby!
I'm 19 and always I have so much insecurites about my body so never I tought abou my gender, but now I think about and when I was a chid I always dress more like with cloths associate for boys. One time my grandma made a princess dress for halloween by her hands and then me in the last minute I teel to my parents "ow I wanna dress like a ninja" and finally i was dressed like a ninja and loveed it. But I have the same trouble and idk if I0m not-binary or cis, but I don't really like that. Sorry for this.
Honestly, what tipped me off was the "cannot compute" reaction I had to how strongly people feel about their pronouns (cis people, included), and trying to wrap my head around the difference between cross dressing, etc, and being trans. Eventually it kind of dawned on me that most people FEEL like their gender and I just...don't.
Honestly wondering if I might be Demi-Girl (or Non-Binary, Feminine Leaning) because most days I just kinda... Forget that I'm a girl. I forget that I have a gender at all, and I just kinda.. Exist, y'know? I even go by a gender neutral version of my birth name, just 'cause I like it more - I only just recently realized that it was indeed gender neutral. And then someone would call me "Miss" or "Ma'am" or refer to me as she/her, and I'll have one of three reactions: 1, I'll mentally go "Oh right, I AM a girl, huh? lmao How'd I forget that?" and just carry on as usual, to forget after a few minutes that I am, in fact, female. 2, On days where I actually FEEL like a girl, I'll get a sudden rush of joy like "I AM a girl! You noticed! This is SO COOL! OMG I'M A GIRL" and be happy about it for a little while. 3, On days where I'm HYPER AWARE of myself, of how I walk, how I move, how I sound, how I act, etc, some piece of my brain is just "What is this? Is this me? Is this really how I move? Is my walk cycle really this bouncy? My hips move like that??? WTF???? WHAT IS THIS", being called female pronouns will either A,) Be like "Yeah, this IS me! Heck yeah!" or B,) Make me feel weirded out and awkward. I also sometimes get a rush of joy when someone calls me a masculine pronoun/mistakes me for a boy IRL, and don't feel comfortable telling people I play videogames with online that I'm a girl. I'd rather they think I'm a guy until I feel comfortable with them knowing... In the past, I actually yelled at one of my ex-friends very frequently for telling people I'm a girl, or using my actual name, in videogame chats. Screw skirts/dresses and shorts. I want pants please. Screw makeup, too. It's hot and icky and a big mess, and it's just not worth the effort. Oh! Also as a note, or, something funny I thought of: Demiromantic + Asexual + Nonbinary = Gender? The f*** is a gender??? Is that a new car or something????
I kinda have the same thing like Today: I feel like I have no gender so I’m hyper aware of my body parts and how it makes me a girl and similar things But some days I feel like just a girl and I want people to know I’m a girl And then some days I forget gender is a thing and that people are going to call me her/she unless I say otherwise
i love this😂i love how chaotically chill you are about it. also totally relate, though i tend to feel less feminine for the most part. but i so get those days👌🏻
I've wondered about this a lot. I hated it when my chest and my hips developed and I hate being treated like a girl. I prefer to think of my body as a container for my brain and it makes me happiest when my gender is disregarded. I think I would still be exactly like me if I happened to be a man.
Puberty was a pain in the ass and like a weird horror show for me. It was already difficult being aroace in an overly sexualized environment. But then I also realized how stereotypical boys and girls were equally repulsive and I didn't want to associate with them. I wasn't sure if I couldn't identify with girls or boys because I didnt feel romantic and asexual attraction or if it's just a rebellious phase. Now I'm 29 years old and the feelings still didn't change.
i’m in my 40s and your comment was so relatable for me! when i was growing up there was none of this discussion or new labels so i just knew i was different and not like anyone else around me. it just created a feeling of disconnection that i still have today. 🤷🏻♀️
Same here. I'm an Aroace and feel a bit non-binary as well coz all my friends my age are the complete opposite to me regarding partners, children, marriage and I guess looking up to Pride musicians and fictional characters. I've just been happy and content being a solitary being with my own queer qwerks 😂
*it’s mildly making sense now* I’m like a 12 yr old who’s currently questioning but I’m just doing research and stuff, a lot of this made sense but I’m also just rlly confused at the moment-
It's okay to be confused, this stuff can seem like a lot at first. If you wanna experiment with gender and your gender expression you can do that. You don't have to choose one label and stick to it either. And it's okay to change your mind later. There's no definitive right or wrong to this. I'm 21 and still figuring out new stuff about my sexuality and gender. And I've changed my labels a lot but that is okay to do because it's about what makes you feel the most comfortable at the moment. Hope this can help a little :)
I've been questioning it a lot recently because I really don't mind of people see me as a woman, a man, both or any. Gender is a social construction and I hate those stuff like "this is for boys, this is for girls" that's bullshit, growing up kids never liked me much because even if I dressed in pink I would aways want to play with "boys stuff" and vice versa. I came to a conclusion that I just don't wanna stress thinking about a label because I really don't like labels, I'm a person who likes a lot of stuff, sometimes I'm gonna be more "feminine" and sometimes more "masculine" and that's it, call me Ma'am, Sir, Mrs, Mr, whatever I came to the conclusion that I'm fine with anything Update: I'm non-binary y'all kskkd
@@pleunfioole1461 exactly. I now identify myself as non-binary and I really found a place of comfort with who I am. But yeah people should stop forcing gender norms in kids and even in adults because it's ridiculous and just force people to see a limit of who they can be and what they can do when this limit actually doesn't exist
@Emmy nobody is forcing me to identify as a non-binary person, this is something that I came to a conclusion of by myself. Growing up I never felt comfortable with myself and the gender I was assigned to and forced to live up to, now I can finally break it and identify with what feels more true to myself. I don't think gender should be forced in a way of: womans have to be thi and mans have to be that and these are also the only options, this type of thing is ridiculous, any cis os trans person should be forced into a gender stereotype that others forced onto them. What you said also makes absolutely no sense to me, also sex and gender are completely different things
I actually have a dilemma there. Because I don't think or (I think) not always feel like I am a girl, just a person. Hate all of the social construct you said about. But I dont want to identity as anything other, only because I hate the stereotypes. Also if I did, wouldn't I be kind of confirming the stereotypes in a process? I'm just kind of confused there. Sorry for my english. I dont know how to end this comment so this is gonna be my last sentense
Thanks for making this video! I officially came to the conclusion I'm non-binary ~an hour ago and I'm currently binge watching non-binary videos for more clarity & validation. I had so many childhood experiences you mentioned that could be signs of being non-binary, I'm uncomfortable with being described as a woman, I'm bi, and I agonized over gender for most of my life, had internalized non-binary-phobia bc I questioned if I was even non-binary. All this time, I wondered if I hated being called a woman bc of possible internalized misogyny (even tho I love women), but while I was a bit timid with identifying as non-binary, it fits me much better and doesn't actively make me cringe every time like how the word "woman" does for me. You've helped to clear things up a bit further for me, thanks!
Thank you I am currently questioning as an adult. Childhood signs- I hated being forced to wear dresses Even though I had 3 older sisters, it never occurred to me that I'd grow a chest. As a kid, kept my hair very short (cause I loved getting my first stuck in it) but people would misgender me often and I had a lot of fun with that. I liked rough housing with the boys I'd get upset about people trying to force me to be a girl As I've gotten older, I dont like people finding me sexually attractive. I've accepted make up as a kind of art I can do on myself, but it's something for when I want to use it, not because someone tells me I have to. I dont know if I actually experience dysphoria or not, I just dont feel that attached to my body. I'm wanting to bulk up a bit more and I hate being treated like I cant do as much because of my gender. I dont like being limited. So. I'm not solid yet. But definatly leaning towards gender fluid or non binary.. Thank you again
I remember when I first watched Mulan as a kid I thought the idea was fun to try to make myself look like a Man like Mulan did. I didn't want to be a man but I thought it'd be really cool if i were able to pass as one if i put my hair up.
I usually say that I’m female, but I’m not a woman. The femaleness is something I pay attention to mostly for medical reasons, as it affects meds, tests and screenings, and possible dangers because of how I look. I like some feminine aesthetics and my clothing choices are governed more by accessibility than social interpretation of my chromosomes. I’m a Demi-girl and happier with that than I ever was trying to be a woman.
@A M. it’s hard to explain. To me, a woman has...a mindset, a way of interpreting and experiencing the world, a series of expectations both of herself and for others, a way of perceiving the world. I don’t have that. I really, really tried to have that because it was expected due to my body shape and I wanted to be “good” and not alienate myself from other people. My default perception of myself is not-woman, not-man. I literally spent years trying to remind myself that I was a ‘woman’, but it never stuck. My default is agender, but I recognize that a biological female body needs a certain type of care in order for me to be healthy and alive. Thinking of myself in any other way literally makes me sick to my stomach. It’s almost like a graft-to-host feeling of rejection. There is the biological necessity of having to get mammograms, or reproductive cancer screenings, there is the cycle of menstruation and menopause, but that’s just a requirement of the body. I am not my body. My spirit has no gender, my spirit is what matters. But I did try to be what was expected of this body, to want motherhood, to be a type of attractive, to fit into my culture and society. I couldn’t do it. It was like trying to force a jigsaw puzzle piece into the wrong spot. My brain is just...alien to the concept of binary gender.
@A M. No, dear. I’m telling you that I am not a woman. As you embrace a gender binary, you will not understand. You can’t, it’s not how your brain works, and that’s okay. Nothing wrong be within the binary. Some of us just don’t belong there.You can troll all you want, but that’s not going to change. I feel equally sad for you that you cannot begin to comprehend life outside of a binary. But, hey, you pass judgement all you like. I’ve been alive long enough to realize my truth.
Omg I feel the same, I dont veiw myself as a girl but still accepting of my femininity and being female. I felt that i was faking being enby cuz i didnt had any hatred towards my physical appearance despite not wanting to be veiwed as a girl. Its great to see others who i can relate too
I'm currently questioning my gender identity, but I've known myself as a man for 17 years, and I just say I'm a guy because there's no unisex bathrooms or locker rooms at either of my schools, and I'm used to going into men's restrooms
I remember wearing at the 5th grade graduation I hated the fact that I had to wear a dress so I went to the graduation in a suit. I also hate and always hated dresses I thought they where too feminine
I was walking down the street and this guy call me a man than backtracked thinking I was a woman, literally the first time that ever happened. I could not stop thinking about that it felt good honestly. Glad I stumbled upon ur channel. ❤
I think I’m non-binary, but even if I want to tell my parents who I am, they have no clue what all this is so there’s literally no use for telling them-
Try to explain it to them. If they don't know the differences between biological sex and gender (also with gender being a social construct), educate on that first. Keep it simple, try to use analogies as examples, and educate them one thing at a time, so they won't get confused or easily forget. I wish you luck!
@@Sipsipsippinonlambtears bad advice, simply because there’s nothing to support that gender is a social construct. you shouldn’t spread this stuff around and encourage people to sound like idiots.
Thank you so much for this. I’m older and I’m just coming to terms with my identity. This helps and is reassuring about not feeling super connected. Relate to the LOTR stuff. Haha.
i am a young teen. i identify as non-binary and it’s hard because majority of my family is transphobic. i actually had a lot of internalized transphobia and still do have a bit, but i’m learning how to cope with it. my pronouns are they/them and my name is soup. i’m proud of myself and i know my gender. i won’t let any of my family tell me who or what i am. this video honestly helped me validate myself. thank you
My ex best friend (known each other since we were 4) told me that too... BUT whenever the topic of what you want to look like in the future came up, when I was around 7-8 I said how I never wanted a female chest/figure and often drew myself as a square body with a triangle skirt as my future self So just because one person says that about you, doesn't mean that it is true.
I don’t know if I’m non-binary or just trying to convince my self that I am bc I feel left out bc I’m very gifted (I know I don’t mean to brag sorry) and can’t find anyone like me. I don’t know who to trust anymore wether it’s my parents or me or you.
I often feel like as well bit I identified it as gaslighting myself and I kinda ignored it and focused more on what I actually feel rather than think. I now identify as demigirlflux and trying out new more androgynous names. Also if you feel uncomfortable with a particular gender u thought u identified as then you can always be somethings else. Even if you end up being cis it's the fact that you were willing to explore other options. Hope this helps :)
@@itsclements06 What does this accomplish? Telling young people that they should make up some word salad identity that doesn't tell the average person anything. It's like astrology for social pariahs, it is a waste of effort. This is the result perpetually-online people trying to find their personality without actually talking to people and having close friendships to find out how you differentiate yourself from the pack. Yes, Just a Duck is trying to find their personality and this is not the way to do so. In real life, these labels push people away not bring anyone together outside of the online space.
It’s been confusing for me recently cuz my whole life it’s just been like I haven’t been passionate about my gender. It was just there and I’d go along with it and not really care. Now puberty hits and it’s very uncomfortable for me. The way I look feels more representative of how I feel. And now that it’s more defined it doesn’t feel as fitting to how I feel as a person. This is the first time I’ve ever thought about it. The first time I’ve even considered I might not be the gender I’ve always been. And I’m confused because it’s never been painful to be my assigned gender. But when I think again there were plenty of moments throughout my life where I’ve thought I wasn’t quite fitting in with how I felt it the gender should be. But I think again and know I’ve preferred to wear more androgynous clothes. Maybe I prefer to express more androgynously through how I look but I feel still the assigned gender? But then again I also feel just as comfortable being my assigned gender and the one opposite to it. So that would suggest that maybe I’m non-binary? But then again maybe even if I am non-binary it would be better to just still express as my assigned gender at least until I move out so I don’t confuse my parents and I can feel more ready to tell them all these feelings. But then again maybe I should just be open and tell them all these feelings because building trust is important and it would be hard on them if they think I’ve been lying or I didn’t trust them. But then again it might be even harder if I do tell them because they might realize their child has had feelings of a different gender than the assigned one and they’ll think they should tell my therapist because something went wrong. Except my therapist already knows and I asked her not to tell my parents and she said that it’s a big life decision and I’m still young and shouldn’t feel pressured to worry about it. Except I’m worried that if I don’t worry then by the time I say something and say how long I’ve been feelings these feelings they’ll just feel betrayed because they think I couldn’t trust them enough tell them the way that I feel and my dad will get mad cuz he hates when I bottle stuff up but it’s hard to know when to let it out and I don’t want to say anything before I’m ready but I don’t wanted wait too long. And I’m just so frustrated and confused. Edit: Hey! I wrote this comment about a month ago and I’ve got myself figured out now. I’m non-binary and prefer they/them pronouns. I hope whoever reads this can know if you’re ever feeling like I did that there’s no pressure with these things. Even if you decide you just don’t know your gender for a while that’s okay! You are completely valid no matter what ❤️
@@Rynntastic01 I should probably update this comment, I’m actually a lot better now. I even came out to my parents and sister as non-binary. I lot changes in a month 😅. I still have a bunch of anxiety, but it’s about other things that I’ll confront slowly. When I told my dad, he said no matter what I decide he will always love me, with everything in life. And that I shouldn’t feel pressured to rush things for the sake of others, especially when it’s about my own life. Honestly I think my therapist said about the same thing, but I think hearing it from my dad made it more meaningful. I hope you can figure things out and it will all turn out well for you. No matter what, you’re valid ❤️
when i was younger, i found out about 💫surgery for changing gender💫 and spent too much time thinking about it, finally deciding that when i was older i would change my gender many times just because i was curious about how being a male would feel
I’m almost sure I’m cis, starting to question a little tho. I’ve reached puberty and my body’s still developing, that meaning my chest and hips. I’m not curvy at all but I’m still somewhat uncomfortable with my chest, and it’s not big at all, but I usually like to wear sports bras because they flatten my chest a little and it feels nice. I also really don’t want to have big hips or a big butt or anything, sometimes, sometimes I wish I had bigger hips and sometimes I’m happy that they’re small. I also get really uncomfortable with my walk when I think I’m moving my hips to much or anything because it would “show of my ass” or something idk. Now I have no problem with being seen as a woman (ehm. Future me here to say that yes, I did feel uncomfortable with being seen as a woman. It was femininity and she/her pronouns I had no problem with, cause gender identity and gender expression are different thingsssss. Anyways lol, back to the thing), people call me she and it feels okay for me. Since I’m not very androgynous when it comes to appearance no ones ever “misgendered” me in real life so I don’t know how I’d feel about different pronouns. I’m okay with they/them pronouns too, at least when I’ve tried them out by myself. Now I could just be a cis girl wanting to be flat but it’s good to explore different possibilities so yeah that’s that💖 Edit: I’m nonbinary! or more specifically demi-pangender or genderfluid🎆🌌✨Pronouns are they/he/she/xe/xem/xeir and the name I’ve kinda settled on is Dani. Yay!☺️ Edit Edit: Name change lol, it’s Xan now, pretty sure I’m settled on that but I’ve changed my mind before so who knows, also, any pronouns work and I’m genderfluid Edit Edit Edit: OMGOMGKBJHVVBKBJHB guess what-･:*+.\(( °ω° ))/.:+………(๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)..SOMEONE CALLED ME “HE”!! AHHHHHHHHHH♪( ´▽｀) MY LOOKS ARE CONFUSING PEOPLE! YESSS!ƪ(˘⌣˘)ʃ
I know I'm just becoming part of the swarm but I want to say thanks. Both the video and the majority of the comments are really helpful and make me feel a lot less alone especially when it comes to stuff like imposter syndrome being afraid to make a wave so much love to everyone in this wonderful community
this video is actually really well explained (i know i'm non-binary but...) my parents don't understand so i showed them this video and they kind of got it XD thank you for that!
This is relatable, I’ve been through all the signs, I’ve discovered I identified as non-binary for about half a year now but my parents don’t really accept/understand and constantly misgender me so thanks for making me feel really valid :)
Tbh i never thought about my gender as a child (well, before adolescence), i just went with whatever people said until i somehow developed gender dysphoria under a year ago and realized i was trans/nb
Wow. This is great. Though I don't consider myself to be nonbinary, I am able to connect with these 5 points, especially the childhood and misgendering. Growing up, my dad was super strict with gender roles of what a boy/man could and could not do. That made me uncomfortable being a male. My mother tried to help by teasing me, saying that I was born the wrong sex. I understood that was her attempt at comfort. It was a little. Overall, anytime someone brings up the subject of gender, I get annoyed. I ignore it, and at times the topic isn't hurtful. I just link it to the negative memories that deal with gender roles my father desires.
thank you for making this video. i have been questioning my gender for a while and i have been using female non-binary and im still trying to figure my gender out. watching this and seeing that you have had similar feelings and experiences really helped me feel less alone and lost and let me now that others do feel the same way i do so thank you so much! this has really helped me :)
@A M. personally i just say female non-binary as i'm still trying to figure myself out, i'm different from any other female because i don't feel entirely female i never have, i'm still on my journey to figuring out my gender and i am still learning as well. Their are other things that make me different to any other female but for me that's personal and id rather keep it to myself and people who are close to me.
@A M. well I identify as female non binary using she/they pronouns so of course I’m not fully female which means I am different to someone who identifies as just female and someone who only uses pronouns such as she/her.
Same because I kinda looked into it today because I have some friends who are non-binary on apps and how they relate I kinda figured out that I might be non-binary I feel comfortable using pronouns:they/them but coming out to parents is the hard thing lol. I’m a explore a little more and see how it goes
me getting lowkey excited because sometimes i get happy when im called "sir" but other times im not excited about it, same as sometimes i get happy when im called "ma'am" but other times im just like "👁_👁": :000000 *yes im 13 but im still trying to figure myself out because i have some signs i could be enby, but im very confused cause i was a girly girl when i was younger but i became a little more tomboyish as i grew older* *i also didnt understand gender norms once i became tomboyish 😭* *i would always wear "masculine" clothing rather than "feminine" and hell even now i want my hair to be lowkey short* *although i cant remember much from my childhood i can say this- i one time asked my mom if a girl can be a boy and i literally would always roleplay as a prince in those kingdom roleplay games, hell i roleplayed as a male hobbit lmaoo* *i never became dysphoric though, but i do become euphoric when someone calls me a they/them, so this confuses me the most lmaoo* *this makes me confused whether or not im demigirl or nonbinary 🤔🤔*
You're a girl, just because you don't follow gender norms doesn't mean your something else. Gender-nonconforming women are still women, so is almost everyone in this comment section including the creator of the video. I'm not the most masculine dude in the world doesn't make me demiboy, if only I was a demigod like Percy Jackson. Unfortunately, I live in the real world, where I'm just a man.
@@steelnutz7464 hey there, I wrote this when i was still questioning actually, im not a girl :) im nonbinary, and cool, you're not the most masculine guy and that's fine :D but still, im nonbinary and so are some people in this comment section, and that's perfectly fine! again, im not a girl, sure i *was* one, but i am no longer one :) although, thank you for attempting to answer my question, though it was wrong 😌✋ edit: sure, women don't have to follow gender norms, i totally agree but buddy i was like 5, where girls tend to be all "pink and dresses" because well, classmates or parents taught them so- and i genuinely didn't care much lmao i no longer identify as a girl, but as a nonbinary!
@@PhoenixArtz000 Why does fashion and behavior have anything to do with gender? I've met really masculine women, who still identify as women. Most of these androgynous-looking girls like the uploader are more feminine than a lot women in general. I just don't understand why a generation clings to vague language instead of take advantage of higher acceptance of androgyny and just live. People feel like they're walking on eggshells when they interact with people who look like they might espouse this gender ideology. But it's your life and if you want to express yourself, just know that society won't conform to your self-identification.
I'm 35 and have only been able to come out as nonbinary to myself, my dad and my friends in August of last year. Looking back at my childhood now, and I can see a lot of signs. For instance, I used to write a lot of stories about shapeshifters.
I felt that way because I was questioning and processing my gender. I did wear women’s wig, lipstick, and high heels since childhood. I did wear skinny jeans like glam rock and metal pants since teenage years. I did wear women’s clothes, makeup,nail polish, and eyeliner right now. I did get in touch with my feminine side since childhood to now. I did show my androgynous and feminine.
Im thinking i may be an enby (demiboy-agender), sometimes im like “nah i just overthink things, im certainly a boy” and sometimes im like *massive euphoria* “damn i feel neutral as f” and i dont know whether im just cis or enby... I know that im not a binary trans woman (im AMAB) because once i did a little experiment on roblox, i bought a transgender flag shirt, a skirt, and some girly hair, but even before i went out of the character editor i said “hmmm nah this certainly isnt me” but when i bought more gender neutral clothes and an enby flag shirt i was like “okay new favorite costume”
Being called He/Him or Sir has always made me so happy! For the longest time I just told everyone I don't care if they use He/Him pronouns when talking to me, about me and it never clicked until this year that Hey! I am genderfluid. Watching these information videos have really helped me in figuring out Why I felt a certain way - there were days where looking at my body, my hips, my chest... I'd hate it. I would cry and fall into a depression those days and I had no clue why - so I would overcompensate and try to dress as "fem" as I thought I should. By allowing myself to be ME this past week, I'm not as depressed looking in the mirror. Allowing myself to be Me feels Right. And your videos like this, along with other creators, have been such a huge help!
Just a nonbinary person who’s more comfortable with their body than they’ve been in years, wears whatever they want, has supportive friends, and is very happy. I’m here to say: it can hard to figure out this gender stuff but I assure u it gets better 👌🏼👌🏼 good luck to all u lovelies discovering urselves and remember, no matter what gender identity u have ur valid and cute, and I’m proud of u ilysm 💜💜
In july of this year I accepted myself as Bisexual, then Demi around october/november, and now I'm just starting to identify as NB (AMAB). This comment makes me feel better. For me, I dont mind male pronouns, but I love being referred to with fem titles and pronouns. I found this out with a friend who began addressing me this way and seeing how I felt. So far, I like presenting fem sometimes and othertimes i like presenting masc. Like I just discovered leggings, I went into a store the other night with leggings on and got a huge euphoria rush that made me tired afterwards. Trying to narrow myself to a sub label makes me uncomfortable, but I feel comfy with NB
@@WallcloudSR I’m the same but opposite actually, which is kinda funny to me. I’m afab, and I typically do prefer masculine words and pronouns. (Well they/them and he/him) but I also like presenting masc and fem too. Some days presenting one way gives me gender euphoria, and other days it may give me dysphoria. I found it’s just a matter of listening to urself and how u feel. And if u aren’t sure, try to have some options in case u figure it out later. I literally bring a bag with extra clothes, makeup, makeup remover, ect. in case I feel uncomfortable for any reason later in the day if I’m out and about. Cuz it’s important I always feel comfy in what I’m wearing. Even if it seems silly to change appearance midday, better to feel a little silly than completely uncomfortable or out of place in ur own body I figure. Anyway, this is getting kinda long, sorry lol. I’m happy ur having gender euphoria, and I hope things keep getting better for u 😊😊
@@_little_byrd_-0v0- thank you for this insight🥺 I have a super cute makeup bag. I haven’t done makeup in awhile because of college being busy but I love it. I’ve got concealer/foundation/setting spray down and want to move into eyeliner/shadow. I definitely love how comfy I feel in my leggings. I have 2 more pairs coming soon, both with pockets lol. It’s getting cold too, so that’s no fun but I can wear leggings on quick store runs😉 The advice about switching if you feel like it is really helpful :) gender euphoria can definitely be quite the rush. In the time I’ve been out to myself, I’ve really grown in self love, confidence, growth, and caring less about societal norms. I hope you have a great day😊❤️
I don’t want people to look at me and go “oh she’s pretty.” Or “oh hes handsome.” I want people to look at me and go “wtf is that green thing and why is it walking like that?”
I am genderfluid, and as a child I was always sort of forced to believe that I was a girl, so I identified with it for a long time. I started coming across non-binary/genderfluid TikToks and UA-cam videos. The internet definitely had a play in my realizing I was not cis, but it’s not because I think it’s “cool and different”, it’s because it helped me realize who I was. And before I came across those videos and started growing up, I had to watch the video in school, and I was disgusted. Everything about growing up and being a woman was disgusting to me. And when my mom or adults to me about hormones and stuff, it makes me really flustered because I don’t want to have to be like this. I grew up Christian and went to an extremely conservative Catholic school, so I felt like I was completely alone when it came to not feeling okay in this body. I hope I’m not the only one who went through something like this. (Ik I’m not but yk what I mean haha) Anyway, know that you are valid no matter what ❤️❤️
At the moment, I identify as a demigirl but as a kid I was always described as "a feminine tomboy" and now I'm starting to remember the time I dressed up as goku for Halloween in 3rd grade and feeling so good when someone called me a little boy. In 4th grade, we had a pioneer day and all the girls wore dresses and aprons and the boys wore pioneer clothes but I wore what the boys did and nobody careD 😁 it made me so happy tbh. Right now, I dress feminine but I always wear sports bras and beg my mom to cut my hair short. I still don't know if I'm cis or not 😓
I’ve just recently started my gender questioning journey and this is some of the densest intellectual material out there. I feel like every bullet point worth of information could and maybe should cause a five hour conversation with my parents.
Thank you for this. I doubt my identity a lot and feel like a fraud. That and being in the closet makes me have to bottle up these feelings. But you are helping me feel validated, so I thank you for so much. You are a hero.
This is gonna be weirdly personal, but I just needed to say here (since I'm terribly uncomfortable telling anyone in my real life, sadly) I literally started crying during this video. I never realized the signs and growing up in a rigid conservative christian house makes exploring my gender and sexuality feel constricting or wrong. I just wanted to thank you for making this, you helped me make sense of everything and I'm closer now to figuring myself out. Lots of love 💖💖💖
I find it funny that the thing which, during my dumb edgy tween years, made me question the validity of non-binary/trans people may or may not be the thing that'll lead me to the conclusion that I myself am trans and/or nb Namely that I've never really understood the categorisation of 'this is feminine, this is masculine'. Like, I don't really feel like fully or partially this or that, I'm just kind of myself, whatever that means. And having only myself as a reference, I just assumed it couldn't possibly matter what you were like, there wasn't really much of a difference besides like...'biological'. I still don't really understand what feeling like you're a woman or a man or both is supposed to feel like, but at least I can say I'm no longer assuming nobody does and comprehend that it's actually important to people. I do find myself getting some rush of gender euphoria when someone calls me he or something 'masculine' without being asked to, though and have some occasional chest dysphoria.
I recently discovered that I'm non binary.. like I'm still super confused but pretty sure in my identity and your video is just spot on and so helpful!! Thank you!!
How did I not realize some those obvious af signs?? I literally cried after the first two cause they were so relatable and I never knew why I felt this way .... now it all makes sense 😭🥺 ty fr Btw I only started questioning and exploring my gender this year soo pretty new to it all 👉👈
this video was extremely helpful (and, terrifyingly, spot on) i've been struggling with trying to get a hold on my gender for a few years now and this video was kind of a breath of fresh air - i really connected to all of the signs you listed. i still have a lot more thinking to do but this video really helped me get a step closer. i do think that i could possibly be non-binary!
The only thing that I remember from my childhood is that I wanted to be a boy REALLY badly. I even prayed to god that I would become a boy when I grow up
Thank you for making this video; it helped me realize that I am non-binary. I've never really felt connected to my birth gender, never really minded being called she/her and at times I've even liked wearing dresses. But now that I've realized I'm nb, I don't want people to call me a girl or she/her anymore, I feel like I would be way more comfortable with they/them pronouns. If possible I wanna get a binder, just so I can know what I'd look like with a flat chest before actually considering whether I want top surgery or not. I recently looked through r/NonBinary, and I realized I wanted to look androgynous. I already have a new name I wanna go by, and I hope I get over my anxiety so that I can come out to my family soon. They are really accepting people, and accepted me when I came out as demiromantic asexual. I sometimes question if I really am nb and feel impostor syndrome, since I really like role playing as female characters, writing female characters and picking them in games. So I think I could be nb and slightly femme-leaning, but I'm not a Demi-girl, that just doesn't feel right. For me I was really happy to know I could find a middle between feminine and masculine, because I do want to have certain masculine traits and certain female traits. I have wondered if I'm just a trans man since I've heard of at least two people who thought they were non-binary realizing they were just trans men, but being called he/him does not feel right at all, also I like my higher voice and really don't want a beard, and being a man just wouldn't feel right at all.
Hey! Thank you for this video it's great ! I have some questions though, I've been thinking about this for a while but never really asked anyone bc i was scared to offend or sounding ignorant. But i'm really just curious, since i don't really know what i consider myself on a gender spectrum, there are things I probably just can't understand because I can't relate to, like dysphoria. I'm currently 19 and a female, but when i was younger (probably 13-14) i started questioning my sexuality and gender, and i never found any answers to both. I experienced with many different things, so i dated girls and boys, and tried wearing binders and i had short hair for a long time and i basically was pretty masculine. I liked it when people thought i was a boy. But then as i grew older, i started thinking a lot about the difference between a boy and a girl, and i found out the only real difference is the body. Everything else is basically social norms that we are taught and don't really exist in the absolute. And that's how i started accepting myself, my body, and my preferences. So I do consider myself as a female, since I basically have a vagina and have a certain body, but this word doesn't mean anything more to me. And I don't really care what people are gonna think about the way I dress or behave or think. So on a gender spectrum, I don't feel like anything in particular, I'm just me and I don't feel the need to put a word on that anymore. And that had me thinking, what actually is dysphoria? And that's where I'm very sorry cause I'm afraid of sounding rude when that's really not my intention. Of course, because I feel a certain way doesn't mean it applies to everyone. But what I'm saying is, since I started accepting my body after realising what the words 'boy' and 'girl' really meant, without caring of anyone else's thoughts, I started wondering where does dysphoria come from? Does it come from social norms regarding gender/sexes? So, wanting to resemble what the ideal male/female body is supposed to be like, to feel validated for being who you are? Or is it just preferences? I mean, it's probably a lot more than that for a lot of people. Personally, even though I accept my body, I still think I'd be happier in a male body. But I think it is mainly because of the way I am viewed by others, as a 'girl' and all the cliches that come with it, and Idk, I guess I'd like to have a flat chest and everything else a guy has. But again, I don't feel the need to change my actual body either. I don't know if I made this really clear, but basically, if there weren't any social norms based on sexes would some people still feel dysphoric about their body? Again, I accept any kind of response, and I hope my comment didn't offend anyone. If you experience dysphoria, I'm really not trying to say that your feelings are not valid, I'm just being curious since I have trouble understanding it. And I also accept the fact that maybe it's something I simply will never understand since I don't experience it myself. And would you say I'm non binary considering what I said? And I'm also still questioning my sexuality aha my mind is a mess (I hope there aren't too many mistakes and I made it pretty clear, english is not my native language) Have a great dayy!
I just wanted to leave a heartfelt THANK YOU for this video. When I first watched this video, some of the things you talked about really resonated with me, and I got confused. I wasn't sure if it meant I was non-binary or not, because not everything fit for me. It lead me to look up more information about non-binary identities and do a lot of soul-searching, and then I realized that I actually am non-binary! Demigirl to be specific. So, thank you for putting me on the path to discovering who I really am 💛🤍💜🖤
I should've know I was not cis because of my name... besides everything else about me, my name was a big one. I like my birth name, I think is very pretty, but feel very uncomfortable being called by it and only like being called my chosen name I have since I was a kid lol
so here's my story !! so basically as a kid i was super feminine and i was really confused with why that was looked down upon, whether it was being told to "man up" or being looked at as i was weird. also people mix me with a female sometimes, like when i got my first vaccine the nurse called me "miss" before my mom corrected her and being called a female made me feel good. i tried being transgender, but it just didn't feel right, so i think i might be non-binary or a really feminine guy.
The biggest thing I can remember before figuring out I was lgbtq+ at all was wearing slim fit shirts and saying "I look fat" but in reality they just exentuated my breast which I eventually found out I don't vibe with at all for my gender identity. I figured this out when trying to get clothes to make a style for me. I'm afab and realized I didn't 100% vibe with really feminine clothes (only when I was a child and didn't hit puberty yet and had a flat chest did I vibe with it), had an affinity towards guys doing creative makeup, then experimented with they/them pronouns and eventually landed on librafeminine and they/she pronouns. Yeah that's my gender exploration in short.
I've always enjoyed/been comfortable about being female, (mostly because I like girly things/have been told "This is what you are.") but I also don't feel connected to it like my childhood self. I can't tell much about childhood signs because I had no concept of gender except for physical differences and societal expectations, which I hated following. I feel uncomfortable at the thought of being a guy, but I'm uncomfortable with most things I've never tried. I don't really care about gender, pronouns, (I have she/her preferences, but I don't care.) gender roles... none of that makes sense to me. Sure, it did when I was younger, (and didn't know of other possibilities,) but so did the concept of the tooth fairy! I'm pretty feminine myself, and definitely prefer it over masculine stuff, but neutral stuff is fascinating to me as well. I like some masc stuff such as video games, toys, pretty much abything but masculine fashion and appearances. It's just boring. I don't like the androgynous apprarance, because, I just don't, but the clothes are pretty nice. I'm mostly comfortable around girls, but I can hang out with anybody comfortably. I'm not comfortable with traits from puberty either. I got okay enough with my chest to not be dysphoric about it, but I'm still pretty iffy about it. I feel self concious and I don't want them. I do like my body shape, though. I'm just a confused mess.
In Germany we don't have a "they them" so i have to go as she her it makes me so uncomfortable if someone says you're a girl or "we have 2 girls with us" when there is one girl and me..
Sign number 4 had me screaming! I just can't put into words how giddy and happy I feel sometimes when people call me "miss" despite not identifying as a woman. I've been questioning my gender for the past four years now, but never felt like 'trans' was the right label. But now I know, finally! Thank you so much, I'm gonna go do some more research now.
Having my first dinner with extended family (heavily religious) since coming out as enby and I really kind of needed this reminder I am valid. Thank you because sometimes I fear what they say, so glad my sister and her bf will be there because they are super supportive but i need psyche up too.
You got this ☺️ it can definitely be hard dealing with religious family, but you're valid, and if they can't accept you, it's their loss. I'm proud of you
Im 23 years old and today is when I fully realized I’m non binary. I literally related so much of what you said. I always questioned myself but I never cared for labels because my identity switches from nothing to both to nothing again all the time depending on how I felt and it was always hard to decipher what I was so i just went with the societal “she” but even then there are times when I’m like well I’m not the stereotypical societally viewed “woman” either and it was super cool getting mistaken for a man sometimes or getting told I “look like a man” So thank you thank you thank you for making this video
All through my childhood I hated wearing skirts and dresses and being in the whole girl identity thing . I knew I was different. Like now days I’m still figuring myself out but I think non-binary fits perfectly for me .
I feel kind of like the odd one out on this because I probably am non binary, or genderfluid who's usually non binary and occasionally fluctuate to one of the binary's, but on the other, I really don't care a lot about gender expression, which is a reason I often don't really feel at home in this community, where gender expressions seems to be such a big thing (which I get, it's just something that doesn't really fit me). I used to be very dysphoric when I was a teen, but for some reason just thought that was what every teen went through (I didn't had that many friends back then). Nice video, it definitely helped me come to some realizations I didn't had before. The first memory that comes to mind when I was 4 or 5 and wishing I could be neither a woman or a man when I grew up, because neither seemed like something I actually wanted to be.
thank you so much for making this video... I recently came out to some of my friends as non-binary and started using they/them pronouns. A few of them used other pronouns accidentally today and it kinda threw me into a gender identity crisis... lol. thank you so much nice again because this really reassured me and I should shake out of my "gender insecurities" and just correct my friends when they mis-gender me.
Thank you so much for this video! I am at the beginning of my journey with exploring my gender identity and realizing that I got a four out of five on your list definitely makes me feel like I’m looking in the right place lol. I’m not ready to declare anything yet but it was definitely helpful. Thank you! I look forward to seeing more of your content!
I am a cis-girl, I have always identified as a girl, I have never truly wanted to change that, but I have thought about it. My biggest problem is that I don’t know how I feel about my gender. I dont “feel” feminine, I “feel” like me and I *am* a girl. I don’t think I want to be called they/them or he/him, but I also think that’s because I have lived my entire life being called she/her so she/her = me. If I was raised being called they/them, I probably wouldn’t mind. I mean, I hate imposing on people so I don’t like correcting others. If it makes someone else more comfortable to call me they/them, I would think “oh interesting” and continue on my life. I think these are signs of me being non-binary but I also don’t really care. I am happy enough being a girl and I will probably continue through my life being a girl. I am also trying to decide if I’m aromatic or not so that’s a whole ‘nother identity related thing to figure out.
I am non-binary, and I think what would've helped me better is the following: You would be okay with being a gender other than what you were assigned at birth. Because if you're "truly" cis, you would not be willing to be a different gender.
Me: I use they/them pronouns. Them: What is that plural? Me: YES!!! ME: I AM THREE DOGS IN A TRENCH COAT!!! ME: .... AND YOU SHALL REFER TO ME AS SUCH!!
Non binary is something that my brain has had a difficult time understanding, I think it's because I'm a literal sort of person and I also think some of the info I was given wasnt that good or well explained. But this video really helped 😁
Ok so this video was very helpful but because each non-binary person have different experiences and all that I wanna know if mine are, like, non-binary hints or something (I don’t know what to call it). Ok, so, basically when I was growing up I would sometimes have these moments where I’m like “would I rather be a man or a woman.” Sometimes it would be a man, sometimes it would be a woman. When people called me like “miss” or “young lady” or “woman” or something along those lines I would be like, either inside my mind or out loud (depending on the person) “I don’t like that. I would rather be called person.” Because I thought of it being too feminine or something for me. And so I also don’t care what people call me. They can label me as they, them, he, she, I don’t care really and it doesn’t affect me much. But now that I’m thinking about how I gender myself, I feel like no labels fit me. I just feel like a person. I’m not completely sure what to label myself as.
I... want to explore. I want to see for myself what I would feel if I went to public wearing clothes that make people unsure if I'm a man or woman, what I would feel if someone actually asked me about it or commented on it, so I can know once and for all if I'm nonbinary or not, but.... *looks at the clothes I have*... *looks at my long hair*....*looks at my boobs which are thankfully small but is still noticeable*... :< I can already imagine my mom scolding me for looking like a boy if I actually took steps, she just laughed and thought I was joking when I tentatively brought up the idea of getting a really short hairstyle after having long hair for as long as I can remember, and she had always been on my case about dressing "properly" and looking pretty because "you're a girl"
As a AFAB somedays I'm proud of the fact I'm female and some days its just meh. I don't experience dysphoria, but sometimes if i think of being called they/them or wearing a binder I experience euphoria. I don't know what to think at this point. I'm almost 16 and I already identify as aro-spec and asexual.
Growing up I never felt that I was in the right body. But there were only 2 choices, so I assumed that I must be male. Now that the concept of more than just 2 genders is out in the open (thank God), I feel so validated. I feel as though all the confusion and gender dysmorphia I struggled with was real, not just made up in my head. I’m just starting to figure out what nonbinary means for me. Thanks for your videos, Lynn.
Damn I related to getting excited when people call you the opposite gender (although I really have no idea how I identify as). Since I’m (unfortunately) clearly biologically female, it doesn’t happen in real life, but online people usually assume I’m male, and when people use he/him to refer to me I’m kinda happy about it. And I have a friend irl who calls most people they/them, and it always makes me happy when they refer to me like that. Thanks for the video, it did clear some stuff up for me :)
I’m 34 and still accepting my non-binary identity. There just weren’t words for it when I was growing up. I always wanted to have a typical male role in my family and romantically, and a more masculine/muscular body and got euphoria as a child playing pretend as a boy. As I grew up, I found women I could relate to and got really into feminism and punk rock, but the other part of me never went away, I just felt like I had to hide it or use it for writing songs and stories. It feels so weird that I kind of had to split myself into two people! Accepting that I’m a queer mix of both is really healing. It is something that has held me back in a lot of areas of my life and I’m starting to feel free like when I was a kid. I am so happy we are in a time when these things are more openly talked about. We can love who we are 🥰
As a non binary myself, I can definitely say this video is pretty much accurate for information. Its often difficult for non binaries to come out because the spectrum they can be on is quite vast, and often difficult to understand where one is on the scale, and that can be very confusing.
I worked out I was nonbinary because on the internet I told no-one any personal information, gender included. So people had to guess my pronouns. I liked when people got it "wrong" or used "they/them" for me, and I eventually realised that I was using internet anonymity to ditch my assumed gender. Ditched it IRL too, was a weight off my shoulders- like "oh, I don't have to try and fake this any more" even though I hadn't realised I was faking.
I’ve been identifying as non binary for a while but not feeling like I’m being honest. But the more I watched this video the more I realized that I used to experience gender dysphoria especially around puberty. The more I look back the more I realized that I’ve always been this way. I’m glad I was able to find comfort in this video. Thank you my love💛💛
Wait, is nobody going to talk about the Doctor Who reference? A big ball of wibbly wobbly gendery wendery stuff -> A big ball of wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff…
I’m exploring my gender identity but there is one problem I always have. Sometimes I feel like I’m a boy or sometimes a girl. Every time people ask me my gender I starting getting anxiety and sweating. I end up telling them “Just refer to me as they/them”. They then ask me again if I’m a boy or a girl. I then just sweat a lot and run away or I just stand still and stare at them, they either leave or stare back.
I feel like I’ve been thrown into a new world trying to figure out who I am and having lived in the same body for 20+ years is confusing but a lovely adventure. I agree I love hearing ppl say “bro, or he ..., or thanks man” and feel off when people say” she, or sweetie etc “
My story is kind of bizarre because as a kid growing up I hated being girly and even said "I don't feel like a girl" time and time again. And I met a classmate who was a tomboy and I was so fascinated by her and her will to dress more masculine. But then I discovered I wasn't straight and struggled with what sexuality I was and then finally settled with lesbian cause it fit right. Once I started embracing that more I enjoyed my womanhood. So God knows what I am lmao.
I think the most obvious reason for me is the scars on my chest. I used to bind my chest with tape as a kid when my breasts started developing (for 1-2 years) and the toxic reaction left my chest scarred. I hated being a girl and I was (still am) more confortable with men's clothes. I don't identify as a man either and I've had so many instances like this when I go 'Can't I just be myself instead of fitting inside gender roles?' I wore a pink suit to one of my family's weddings where the traditional attire for girls is always girly frilly stuff, so I felt great in what I was wearing.
idk if I am nonbinary, but I did think I didn't have a gender at all. But this video made me realize like: oh, oh dang I think I was right. so... thanks!
I know they said this, but I want to validate for the people who are nonbinary but don't really experience these, or perhaps experience them differently. As a genderfluid person, it took me a long time to realize who I was because I never had dysphoria, but I always wished that I could be a girl, too. So nothing but 100% love for this creator, just wanted to add that validation for genderfluid folks or those who are nonbinary but don't experience dysphoria.
Im not just uncomfortable with the gender roles, sometimes I'm uncomfortable in my own body, sometimes I want a cat and sometimes I want an Eggplant, sometimes I want more estrogen sometimes I want more testosterone. And sometimes I wanna curves sometimes I don't want them. I guess that makes me gender fluid but again I hate gender and I don't want to put myself in a box, I'm just whatever you can call me. But it's so bad I really can't help myself with it, I hate it.
“Childhood signs” ah yes, the one time period I cannot remember. Let’s gooo
Honestly same I’ve blocked a lot of it out but the stuff I do remember I’m like why
@@lynnsaga1397 Im 12 years old and I feel every think Im non-binary because I started feeling like she and him pronouns but.......they and them pronouns It just feels right Am I too young or just live it?
@@eclipse9004 you're never too young. You can always change/choose your gender identity. If you chose to identity as non binary but then grow up to not feel like that anymore that is perfectly valid! You could try experimenting with they/them pronouns and other stuff in general to see if it's a good label for you. And maybe even non-binary videos and guides ^^
@@lynnsaga1397 Weird example for mixture of fem and masc I want is not very broad shoulders but on the position of male shoulders? Like AMAB people tend to have shouders that are streight and AFAB have shoulders that poin a bit down if you get me.I too have like gaps in my childhood but I know I didn`t care about gender till people started to call me young woman /lady/act like lady ect and also started to pressure me to wear femme clothes that made it clear that I don`t like my chest . I had to hide from the sun so I thought I wear big glothes for that and because I was chubby but when I got into shape that logically I knew was good I still felt off about the bumps chest and hips made me feel to curvy/fat/too woman like . When I started to experiment/question for like absolutely real because my dysphoria got really bad [ for like year ] I went hyper masc and felt good when 1 person called me boy [ Here it is like almost impossible to be gendered outside AGAB because of how conservative people are they see me as butch lesbian] at the same day I had panic attack because people used fem gendered words towards me in shop . I ended up trying so hard to be masc that I started to resent my binder ...And then I was ohh I must be in between? Like I like flat chest but when the rest isn`t masc 1000 % XD p.s Apologize for the rant
@@eclipse9004 I think the first time I actually said things that expressed being non-binary, although I didn't have the words for it was at about your age
Personally It’s not that I’m uncomfortable with my gender it’s just that I wouldn’t mind if someone called me he/him or they/them.
Same! I'm perfectly fine being female and being called she/her/hers but I doubt I'd be insulted if I was called he/him or they/them. I'd also like top surgery (I have giant chest so that could be part of it)
I mean..same
Honestly same though, like I’m fine with my gender but I’d rather be the other a lot of the time and getting missgendered is pleasing, all the same I also don’t want to be that gender???? Idk
well you don't have to be anything but yourself
I don’t mind what pronouns people would use when referring to me. But I always disliked it when people pointed out I was a woman/female. It always made me wish I wasn’t female. And at the same time I didn’t want to be seen as a full on male but rather something in between or both together. Honestly this still confuses me to this day, I guess I just dislike labels but I also don’t really want to say I’m no gender or sth., I sometimes just want to feel more like a man and sometimes more like a woman without it being pointed out.
No one:
Me: Is this my internalised mysogyny showing or is there something I should know?
Bleh. I wish I could dismiss this thought, but I think this to myself all the time.
SAME. i think im a demigirl :>
Edit. It has come to my attention that i am actually Non-binary and have been brought up as a "girl" dispite not being one!
Edit 2: i cut my hair. Im starting to look how i feel inside!
I don't think so I think you're just tired of the weight of the ideas of womanhood at least that's how I feel. I love being a woman but I'm so tired of the box that everyone places us in and not seeing the extensive, beautiful spectrum that a "woman" is.
@@sirSpookyToons its so nice to hear that you figured it out :D
@@sirSpookyToons congrats but you know that gender has to do nothing with hair right...
My cousin recently came out as Non-binary and this content has helped me better understand their identity. Thank you and keep up the good work 💛
Awwww thank you so much!!!
@@lynnsaga1397 no problem 😊💛
Oh noice another Dazai acct
@@bandagewastingmachine386 gang gang
@@kelz4965 y e- non-binary Dazai gang
I can't tell if I'm non binary or if I just find non binary people really attractive.
Why does every problem I have boil down to "do I like them or do I want to be them?"
omg same😭
YO FR MY PAN NB ASS WILL NEVER KNOW
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Same here 😭
YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THAT. THAT LAST SENTENCE IS A FUCKING *CALLOUT*
My main problem is that I can't tell if I'm a cis female or an enby who has accepted that I am female as that's just what I've been told I am for the past 15 years. I dislike my figure but I always connected that to my general dislike of my appearance and weight. Also, I didn't think about it because I don't seem to care about gender. I don't understand peoples dislike of certain pronouns, as to me they are just words, and how people know they are trans. I did have a thought one day that the world would be better if everyone was genderless which was a bit of a red flag to me not being cis. As well as this I want to be more masc presenting (although my dad tells me this isn't new as I've been a bit of a tomboy since I was young) despite my love for feminine clothing in the past.
Possibly related, one of my favourite memories of myself was when I went to a princess and pirate party (girls dressed as princesses, boys as pirates) and I was the only girl who went as a pirate which made me feel really proud for some reason (although that may have just been me liking being unique and special)
Sorry, this comment is an embarrassing mess, I feel like I'm trying to prove stuff because I am confused and I just want to know who I am.
I... wow. I'm afab and 16 and I relate to a lot of what you just said, especially about the world being better if it's genderless and not caring about pronouns and all that. I don't know what I am either but what you said made a lot of sense to me and I identify with it a lot
I'm amab and have pretty much the exact same experience but the other way around. I was always seen as "gay" (I mean I am but still-) for being too feminine sometimes, but I always enjoyed more masculine clothing. At the same time, I want to pursue more feminine fashion including makeup and dresses. I always categorised my discomfort with my body as being just that, a discomfort with my body. I always have discussed the idea of heading toward a genderless society cuz it would just be easier on so many levels and I think it just makes more sense!
Anyways, yeah I get you, enby to enby!
I'm 19 and always I have so much insecurites about my body so never I tought abou my gender, but now I think about and when I was a chid I always dress more like with cloths associate for boys. One time my grandma made a princess dress for halloween by her hands and then me in the last minute I teel to my parents "ow I wanna dress like a ninja" and finally i was dressed like a ninja and loveed it. But I have the same trouble and idk if I0m not-binary or cis, but I don't really like that. Sorry for this.
i went dressed as a mix of a princess and a prince for halloween when i was younger 🥰
Honestly, what tipped me off was the "cannot compute" reaction I had to how strongly people feel about their pronouns (cis people, included), and trying to wrap my head around the difference between cross dressing, etc, and being trans. Eventually it kind of dawned on me that most people FEEL like their gender and I just...don't.
Honestly wondering if I might be Demi-Girl (or Non-Binary, Feminine Leaning) because most days I just kinda... Forget that I'm a girl. I forget that I have a gender at all, and I just kinda.. Exist, y'know? I even go by a gender neutral version of my birth name, just 'cause I like it more - I only just recently realized that it was indeed gender neutral. And then someone would call me "Miss" or "Ma'am" or refer to me as she/her, and I'll have one of three reactions:
1, I'll mentally go "Oh right, I AM a girl, huh? lmao How'd I forget that?" and just carry on as usual, to forget after a few minutes that I am, in fact, female.
2, On days where I actually FEEL like a girl, I'll get a sudden rush of joy like "I AM a girl! You noticed! This is SO COOL! OMG I'M A GIRL" and be happy about it for a little while.
3, On days where I'm HYPER AWARE of myself, of how I walk, how I move, how I sound, how I act, etc, some piece of my brain is just "What is this? Is this me? Is this really how I move? Is my walk cycle really this bouncy? My hips move like that??? WTF???? WHAT IS THIS", being called female pronouns will either A,) Be like "Yeah, this IS me! Heck yeah!" or B,) Make me feel weirded out and awkward.
I also sometimes get a rush of joy when someone calls me a masculine pronoun/mistakes me for a boy IRL, and don't feel comfortable telling people I play videogames with online that I'm a girl. I'd rather they think I'm a guy until I feel comfortable with them knowing... In the past, I actually yelled at one of my ex-friends very frequently for telling people I'm a girl, or using my actual name, in videogame chats.
Screw skirts/dresses and shorts. I want pants please. Screw makeup, too. It's hot and icky and a big mess, and it's just not worth the effort.
Oh! Also as a note, or, something funny I thought of: Demiromantic + Asexual + Nonbinary = Gender? The f*** is a gender??? Is that a new car or something????
I kinda have the same thing like
Today: I feel like I have no gender so I’m hyper aware of my body parts and how it makes me a girl and similar things
But some days I feel like just a girl and I want people to know I’m a girl
And then some days I forget gender is a thing and that people are going to call me her/she unless I say otherwise
i love this😂i love how chaotically chill you are about it. also totally relate, though i tend to feel less feminine for the most part. but i so get those days👌🏻
And yes, I think it might be a new car.
Maybe you are genderfluid 🤔
Sounds like you people are extremely delusional.
I've wondered about this a lot. I hated it when my chest and my hips developed and I hate being treated like a girl. I prefer to think of my body as a container for my brain and it makes me happiest when my gender is disregarded. I think I would still be exactly like me if I happened to be a man.
Same!
Puberty was a pain in the ass and like a weird horror show for me. It was already difficult being aroace in an overly sexualized environment. But then I also realized how stereotypical boys and girls were equally repulsive and I didn't want to associate with them. I wasn't sure if I couldn't identify with girls or boys because I didnt feel romantic and asexual attraction or if it's just a rebellious phase. Now I'm 29 years old and the feelings still didn't change.
i’m in my 40s and your comment was so relatable for me! when i was growing up there was none of this discussion or new labels so i just knew i was different and not like anyone else around me. it just created a feeling of disconnection that i still have today. 🤷🏻♀️
Same here. I'm an Aroace and feel a bit non-binary as well coz all my friends my age are the complete opposite to me regarding partners, children, marriage and I guess looking up to Pride musicians and fictional characters. I've just been happy and content being a solitary being with my own queer qwerks 😂
*it’s mildly making sense now*
I’m like a 12 yr old who’s currently questioning but I’m just doing research and stuff, a lot of this made sense but I’m also just rlly confused at the moment-
That's actually too early, don't think much about it now keep it in mind but start really questioning it when you're a little order
@@rue5240 how tf is that to early. People can figure it out at any age
It's okay to be confused, this stuff can seem like a lot at first.
If you wanna experiment with gender and your gender expression you can do that. You don't have to choose one label and stick to it either. And it's okay to change your mind later.
There's no definitive right or wrong to this. I'm 21 and still figuring out new stuff about my sexuality and gender. And I've changed my labels a lot but that is okay to do because it's about what makes you feel the most comfortable at the moment.
Hope this can help a little :)
@@rue5240 dude its not too early, and u can always change labels later on
@@user-dl3vn8ze9n I realised that a bit late, sorry if I sounded gate keepy
As a non binary teen who is still feeling a little bit of doubt, this was really helpful and comforting. Thank you! ❤️
I've been questioning it a lot recently because I really don't mind of people see me as a woman, a man, both or any. Gender is a social construction and I hate those stuff like "this is for boys, this is for girls" that's bullshit, growing up kids never liked me much because even if I dressed in pink I would aways want to play with "boys stuff" and vice versa. I came to a conclusion that I just don't wanna stress thinking about a label because I really don't like labels, I'm a person who likes a lot of stuff, sometimes I'm gonna be more "feminine" and sometimes more "masculine" and that's it, call me Ma'am, Sir, Mrs, Mr, whatever I came to the conclusion that I'm fine with anything
Update: I'm non-binary y'all kskkd
@@pleunfioole1461 exactly. I now identify myself as non-binary and I really found a place of comfort with who I am. But yeah people should stop forcing gender norms in kids and even in adults because it's ridiculous and just force people to see a limit of who they can be and what they can do when this limit actually doesn't exist
You have problems I recommend a shrink lol
Jk
@Emmy nobody is forcing me to identify as a non-binary person, this is something that I came to a conclusion of by myself. Growing up I never felt comfortable with myself and the gender I was assigned to and forced to live up to, now I can finally break it and identify with what feels more true to myself. I don't think gender should be forced in a way of: womans have to be thi and mans have to be that and these are also the only options, this type of thing is ridiculous, any cis os trans person should be forced into a gender stereotype that others forced onto them. What you said also makes absolutely no sense to me, also sex and gender are completely different things
I actually have a dilemma there. Because I don't think or (I think) not always feel like I am a girl, just a person. Hate all of the social construct you said about. But I dont want to identity as anything other, only because I hate the stereotypes. Also if I did, wouldn't I be kind of confirming the stereotypes in a process? I'm just kind of confused there. Sorry for my english. I dont know how to end this comment so this is gonna be my last sentense
@@zapzap1485 you don't necessarily havebto lable yourself, just go for what makes you more comfortable
Thanks for making this video! I officially came to the conclusion I'm non-binary ~an hour ago and I'm currently binge watching non-binary videos for more clarity & validation. I had so many childhood experiences you mentioned that could be signs of being non-binary, I'm uncomfortable with being described as a woman, I'm bi, and I agonized over gender for most of my life, had internalized non-binary-phobia bc I questioned if I was even non-binary. All this time, I wondered if I hated being called a woman bc of possible internalized misogyny (even tho I love women), but while I was a bit timid with identifying as non-binary, it fits me much better and doesn't actively make me cringe every time like how the word "woman" does for me. You've helped to clear things up a bit further for me, thanks!
Welcome to the community!!! I definitely feel the internalized non-binary phobia but you are so valid☺️
u-um I'm gonna use this as a practice coming out...I am non-binary and my name is aster nice to meet you all
Nice to meet you! I’m so proud of you!
@@starstudios653 th-thank you that was nice to hear it's been a minute
Hi Aster, nice to meet you! Hope you're having a great day :)
@@tenebrae3754 I wasn't but you responding made me feel a little better, thank you
@@xtinktion6667 I'm glad it could help, if even just a little :)
Thank you
I am currently questioning as an adult.
Childhood signs-
I hated being forced to wear dresses
Even though I had 3 older sisters, it never occurred to me that I'd grow a chest.
As a kid, kept my hair very short (cause I loved getting my first stuck in it) but people would misgender me often and I had a lot of fun with that.
I liked rough housing with the boys
I'd get upset about people trying to force me to be a girl
As I've gotten older, I dont like people finding me sexually attractive. I've accepted make up as a kind of art I can do on myself, but it's something for when I want to use it, not because someone tells me I have to.
I dont know if I actually experience dysphoria or not, I just dont feel that attached to my body. I'm wanting to bulk up a bit more and I hate being treated like I cant do as much because of my gender. I dont like being limited. So. I'm not solid yet. But definatly leaning towards gender fluid or non binary..
Thank you again
I remember when I first watched Mulan as a kid I thought the idea was fun to try to make myself look like a Man like Mulan did. I didn't want to be a man but I thought it'd be really cool if i were able to pass as one if i put my hair up.
I usually say that I’m female, but I’m not a woman. The femaleness is something I pay attention to mostly for medical reasons, as it affects meds, tests and screenings, and possible dangers because of how I look. I like some feminine aesthetics and my clothing choices are governed more by accessibility than social interpretation of my chromosomes. I’m a Demi-girl and happier with that than I ever was trying to be a woman.
@A M. it’s hard to explain. To me, a woman has...a mindset, a way of interpreting and experiencing the world, a series of expectations both of herself and for others, a way of perceiving the world. I don’t have that. I really, really tried to have that because it was expected due to my body shape and I wanted to be “good” and not alienate myself from other people. My default perception of myself is not-woman, not-man. I literally spent years trying to remind myself that I was a ‘woman’, but it never stuck. My default is agender, but I recognize that a biological female body needs a certain type of care in order for me to be healthy and alive. Thinking of myself in any other way literally makes me sick to my stomach. It’s almost like a graft-to-host feeling of rejection. There is the biological necessity of having to get mammograms, or reproductive cancer screenings, there is the cycle of menstruation and menopause, but that’s just a requirement of the body. I am not my body. My spirit has no gender, my spirit is what matters. But I did try to be what was expected of this body, to want motherhood, to be a type of attractive, to fit into my culture and society. I couldn’t do it. It was like trying to force a jigsaw puzzle piece into the wrong spot. My brain is just...alien to the concept of binary gender.
@A M. No, dear. I’m telling you that I am not a woman. As you embrace a gender binary, you will not understand. You can’t, it’s not how your brain works, and that’s okay. Nothing wrong be within the binary. Some of us just don’t belong there.You can troll all you want, but that’s not going to change. I feel equally sad for you that you cannot begin to comprehend life outside of a binary. But, hey, you pass judgement all you like. I’ve been alive long enough to realize my truth.
Omg I feel the same, I dont veiw myself as a girl but still accepting of my femininity and being female. I felt that i was faking being enby cuz i didnt had any hatred towards my physical appearance despite not wanting to be veiwed as a girl. Its great to see others who i can relate too
@@dvffYT 😊😊😊😊😊 It is, isn’t it?
I'm currently questioning my gender identity, but I've known myself as a man for 17 years, and I just say I'm a guy because there's no unisex bathrooms or locker rooms at either of my schools, and I'm used to going into men's restrooms
i just don't wanna be any gender, i feel comfortable this way💖
Ik it's been 2 years but that's called Agender if you don't know, it's often defined as lack of gender :)
I remember wearing at the 5th grade graduation I hated the fact that I had to wear a dress so I went to the graduation in a suit. I also hate and always hated dresses I thought they where too feminine
I was walking down the street and this guy call me a man than backtracked thinking I was a woman, literally the first time that ever happened. I could not stop thinking about that it felt good honestly. Glad I stumbled upon ur channel. ❤
I think I’m non-binary, but even if I want to tell my parents who I am, they have no clue what all this is so there’s literally no use for telling them-
Try to explain it to them. If they don't know the differences between biological sex and gender (also with gender being a social construct), educate on that first. Keep it simple, try to use analogies as examples, and educate them one thing at a time, so they won't get confused or easily forget. I wish you luck!
@@Sipsipsippinonlambtears
bad advice, simply because there’s nothing to support that gender is a social construct. you shouldn’t spread this stuff around and encourage people to sound like idiots.
@@MultiBunnyhunter gender has always been a social construct until like 1700, even then they still had "other/ declined to state"
@@averyy6681 What's a social construct?
@@steelnutz7464 something that has been made by society and culture.
Thank you so much for this. I’m older and I’m just coming to terms with my identity. This helps and is reassuring about not feeling super connected. Relate to the LOTR stuff. Haha.
That’s amazing!! I’m so happy you’re becoming comfortable with who you are☺️
i am a young teen. i identify as non-binary and it’s hard because majority of my family is transphobic. i actually had a lot of internalized transphobia and still do have a bit, but i’m learning how to cope with it. my pronouns are they/them and my name is soup. i’m proud of myself and i know my gender. i won’t let any of my family tell me who or what i am. this video honestly helped me validate myself. thank you
Hello soup!
Do you know how much I love the name soup it just seems so fun to say :)
I used to be extremely homophobic and transphobic back then
My mother always said I never shown signs when I was younger that’s why she finds it weird when I came out as non-binary
My ex best friend (known each other since we were 4) told me that too...
BUT whenever the topic of what you want to look like in the future came up, when I was around 7-8 I said how I never wanted a female chest/figure and often drew myself as a square body with a triangle skirt as my future self
So just because one person says that about you, doesn't mean that it is true.
@@House_of_Killjoys I’ll keep that in mind
Same im in the closet
I don’t know if I’m non-binary or just trying to convince my self that I am bc I feel left out bc I’m very gifted (I know I don’t mean to brag sorry) and can’t find anyone like me. I don’t know who to trust anymore wether it’s my parents or me or you.
I often feel like as well bit I identified it as gaslighting myself and I kinda ignored it and focused more on what I actually feel rather than think. I now identify as demigirlflux and trying out new more androgynous names. Also if you feel uncomfortable with a particular gender u thought u identified as then you can always be somethings else. Even if you end up being cis it's the fact that you were willing to explore other options. Hope this helps :)
@@itsclements06 thank
Thanks
@@justyourfellowduck Bragging could Just be narcissism?
I feel the same way as you do
@@itsclements06 What does this accomplish? Telling young people that they should make up some word salad identity that doesn't tell the average person anything. It's like astrology for social pariahs, it is a waste of effort. This is the result perpetually-online people trying to find their personality without actually talking to people and having close friendships to find out how you differentiate yourself from the pack. Yes, Just a Duck is trying to find their personality and this is not the way to do so. In real life, these labels push people away not bring anyone together outside of the online space.
This is great thanks. For a while people would ask if I'm a boy or girl and I've never been able to answer without feeling uncomfortable
It’s been confusing for me recently cuz my whole life it’s just been like I haven’t been passionate about my gender. It was just there and I’d go along with it and not really care. Now puberty hits and it’s very uncomfortable for me. The way I look feels more representative of how I feel. And now that it’s more defined it doesn’t feel as fitting to how I feel as a person. This is the first time I’ve ever thought about it. The first time I’ve even considered I might not be the gender I’ve always been. And I’m confused because it’s never been painful to be my assigned gender. But when I think again there were plenty of moments throughout my life where I’ve thought I wasn’t quite fitting in with how I felt it the gender should be. But I think again and know I’ve preferred to wear more androgynous clothes. Maybe I prefer to express more androgynously through how I look but I feel still the assigned gender? But then again I also feel just as comfortable being my assigned gender and the one opposite to it. So that would suggest that maybe I’m non-binary? But then again maybe even if I am non-binary it would be better to just still express as my assigned gender at least until I move out so I don’t confuse my parents and I can feel more ready to tell them all these feelings. But then again maybe I should just be open and tell them all these feelings because building trust is important and it would be hard on them if they think I’ve been lying or I didn’t trust them. But then again it might be even harder if I do tell them because they might realize their child has had feelings of a different gender than the assigned one and they’ll think they should tell my therapist because something went wrong. Except my therapist already knows and I asked her not to tell my parents and she said that it’s a big life decision and I’m still young and shouldn’t feel pressured to worry about it. Except I’m worried that if I don’t worry then by the time I say something and say how long I’ve been feelings these feelings they’ll just feel betrayed because they think I couldn’t trust them enough tell them the way that I feel and my dad will get mad cuz he hates when I bottle stuff up but it’s hard to know when to let it out and I don’t want to say anything before I’m ready but I don’t wanted wait too long. And I’m just so frustrated and confused.
Edit: Hey! I wrote this comment about a month ago and I’ve got myself figured out now. I’m non-binary and prefer they/them pronouns. I hope whoever reads this can know if you’re ever feeling like I did that there’s no pressure with these things. Even if you decide you just don’t know your gender for a while that’s okay! You are completely valid no matter what ❤️
Damn I feel you 😔
@@Rynntastic01 I should probably update this comment, I’m actually a lot better now. I even came out to my parents and sister as non-binary. I lot changes in a month 😅. I still have a bunch of anxiety, but it’s about other things that I’ll confront slowly. When I told my dad, he said no matter what I decide he will always love me, with everything in life. And that I shouldn’t feel pressured to rush things for the sake of others, especially when it’s about my own life. Honestly I think my therapist said about the same thing, but I think hearing it from my dad made it more meaningful. I hope you can figure things out and it will all turn out well for you. No matter what, you’re valid ❤️
when i was younger, i found out about 💫surgery for changing gender💫 and spent too much time thinking about it, finally deciding that when i was older i would change my gender many times just because i was curious about how being a male would feel
I’m almost sure I’m cis, starting to question a little tho. I’ve reached puberty and my body’s still developing, that meaning my chest and hips. I’m not curvy at all but I’m still somewhat uncomfortable with my chest, and it’s not big at all, but I usually like to wear sports bras because they flatten my chest a little and it feels nice. I also really don’t want to have big hips or a big butt or anything, sometimes, sometimes I wish I had bigger hips and sometimes I’m happy that they’re small. I also get really uncomfortable with my walk when I think I’m moving my hips to much or anything because it would “show of my ass” or something idk. Now I have no problem with being seen as a woman (ehm. Future me here to say that yes, I did feel uncomfortable with being seen as a woman. It was femininity and she/her pronouns I had no problem with, cause gender identity and gender expression are different thingsssss. Anyways lol, back to the thing), people call me she and it feels okay for me. Since I’m not very androgynous when it comes to appearance no ones ever “misgendered” me in real life so I don’t know how I’d feel about different pronouns. I’m okay with they/them pronouns too, at least when I’ve tried them out by myself. Now I could just be a cis girl wanting to be flat but it’s good to explore different possibilities so yeah that’s that💖
Edit: I’m nonbinary! or more specifically demi-pangender or genderfluid🎆🌌✨Pronouns are they/he/she/xe/xem/xeir and the name I’ve kinda settled on is Dani. Yay!☺️
Edit Edit: Name change lol, it’s Xan now, pretty sure I’m settled on that but I’ve changed my mind before so who knows, also, any pronouns work and I’m genderfluid
Edit Edit Edit: OMGOMGKBJHVVBKBJHB guess what-･:*+.\(( °ω° ))/.:+………(๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)..SOMEONE CALLED ME “HE”!! AHHHHHHHHHH♪( ´▽｀) MY LOOKS ARE CONFUSING PEOPLE! YESSS!ƪ(˘⌣˘)ʃ
im so proud of you
Hey Dani, wassup!
Waiting for the time I can edit one of these comments with my decided gender & pronouns
At the moment, I use any pronouns but he/him :)
I know I'm just becoming part of the swarm but I want to say thanks. Both the video and the majority of the comments are really helpful and make me feel a lot less alone especially when it comes to stuff like imposter syndrome being afraid to make a wave so much love to everyone in this wonderful community
not me crying at the end when you said "you are valid"
Me: comes out as bi
Also me: now I gotta come out as non binary I thought I was done
this video is actually really well explained (i know i'm non-binary but...) my parents don't understand so i showed them this video and they kind of got it XD thank you for that!
This is relatable, I’ve been through all the signs, I’ve discovered I identified as non-binary for about half a year now but my parents don’t really accept/understand and constantly misgender me so thanks for making me feel really valid :)
Tbh i never thought about my gender as a child (well, before adolescence), i just went with whatever people said until i somehow developed gender dysphoria under a year ago and realized i was trans/nb
Wow. This is great. Though I don't consider myself to be nonbinary, I am able to connect with these 5 points, especially the childhood and misgendering. Growing up, my dad was super strict with gender roles of what a boy/man could and could not do. That made me uncomfortable being a male. My mother tried to help by teasing me, saying that I was born the wrong sex. I understood that was her attempt at comfort. It was a little. Overall, anytime someone brings up the subject of gender, I get annoyed. I ignore it, and at times the topic isn't hurtful. I just link it to the negative memories that deal with gender roles my father desires.
thank you for making this video. i have been questioning my gender for a while and i have been using female non-binary and im still trying to figure my gender out. watching this and seeing that you have had similar feelings and experiences really helped me feel less alone and lost and let me now that others do feel the same way i do so thank you so much! this has really helped me :)
@A M. personally i just say female non-binary as i'm still trying to figure myself out, i'm different from any other female because i don't feel entirely female i never have, i'm still on my journey to figuring out my gender and i am still learning as well. Their are other things that make me different to any other female but for me that's personal and id rather keep it to myself and people who are close to me.
@A M. well I identify as female non binary using she/they pronouns so of course I’m not fully female which means I am different to someone who identifies as just female and someone who only uses pronouns such as she/her.
I feel like this resonated with me more than I expected and I feel like I just learned something about myself.
Same because I kinda looked into it today because I have some friends who are non-binary on apps and how they relate I kinda figured out that I might be non-binary I feel comfortable using pronouns:they/them but coming out to parents is the hard thing lol. I’m a explore a little more and see how it goes
me getting lowkey excited because sometimes i get happy when im called "sir" but other times im not excited about it, same as sometimes i get happy when im called "ma'am" but other times im just like "👁_👁": :000000
*yes im 13 but im still trying to figure myself out because i have some signs i could be enby, but im very confused cause i was a girly girl when i was younger but i became a little more tomboyish as i grew older*
*i also didnt understand gender norms once i became tomboyish 😭*
*i would always wear "masculine" clothing rather than "feminine" and hell even now i want my hair to be lowkey short*
*although i cant remember much from my childhood i can say this- i one time asked my mom if a girl can be a boy and i literally would always roleplay as a prince in those kingdom roleplay games, hell i roleplayed as a male hobbit lmaoo*
*i never became dysphoric though, but i do become euphoric when someone calls me a they/them, so this confuses me the most lmaoo*
*this makes me confused whether or not im demigirl or nonbinary 🤔🤔*
You're a girl, just because you don't follow gender norms doesn't mean your something else. Gender-nonconforming women are still women, so is almost everyone in this comment section including the creator of the video. I'm not the most masculine dude in the world doesn't make me demiboy, if only I was a demigod like Percy Jackson. Unfortunately, I live in the real world, where I'm just a man.
@@steelnutz7464 hey there, I wrote this when i was still questioning
actually, im not a girl :)
im nonbinary, and cool, you're not the most masculine guy and that's fine :D
but still, im nonbinary and so are some people in this comment section, and that's perfectly fine! again, im not a girl, sure i *was* one, but i am no longer one :)
although, thank you for attempting to answer my question, though it was wrong 😌✋
edit: sure, women don't have to follow gender norms, i totally agree
but buddy i was like 5, where girls tend to be all "pink and dresses" because well, classmates or parents taught them so-
and i genuinely didn't care much lmao
i no longer identify as a girl, but as a nonbinary!
@@PhoenixArtz000 Why does fashion and behavior have anything to do with gender? I've met really masculine women, who still identify as women. Most of these androgynous-looking girls like the uploader are more feminine than a lot women in general. I just don't understand why a generation clings to vague language instead of take advantage of higher acceptance of androgyny and just live. People feel like they're walking on eggshells when they interact with people who look like they might espouse this gender ideology. But it's your life and if you want to express yourself, just know that society won't conform to your self-identification.
@@steelnutz7464 okay great 👍 im still a nonbinary
I'm 35 and have only been able to come out as nonbinary to myself, my dad and my friends in August of last year.
Looking back at my childhood now, and I can see a lot of signs.
For instance, I used to write a lot of stories about shapeshifters.
I felt that way because I was questioning and processing my gender. I did wear women’s wig, lipstick, and high heels since childhood. I did wear skinny jeans like glam rock and metal pants since teenage years. I did wear women’s clothes, makeup,nail polish, and eyeliner right now. I did get in touch with my feminine side since childhood to now. I did show my androgynous and feminine.
Im thinking i may be an enby (demiboy-agender), sometimes im like “nah i just overthink things, im certainly a boy” and sometimes im like *massive euphoria* “damn i feel neutral as f” and i dont know whether im just cis or enby...
I know that im not a binary trans woman (im AMAB) because once i did a little experiment on roblox, i bought a transgender flag shirt, a skirt, and some girly hair, but even before i went out of the character editor i said “hmmm nah this certainly isnt me” but when i bought more gender neutral clothes and an enby flag shirt i was like “okay new favorite costume”
Being called He/Him or Sir has always made me so happy! For the longest time I just told everyone I don't care if they use He/Him pronouns when talking to me, about me and it never clicked until this year that Hey! I am genderfluid. Watching these information videos have really helped me in figuring out Why I felt a certain way - there were days where looking at my body, my hips, my chest... I'd hate it. I would cry and fall into a depression those days and I had no clue why - so I would overcompensate and try to dress as "fem" as I thought I should. By allowing myself to be ME this past week, I'm not as depressed looking in the mirror. Allowing myself to be Me feels Right. And your videos like this, along with other creators, have been such a huge help!
Just a nonbinary person who’s more comfortable with their body than they’ve been in years, wears whatever they want, has supportive friends, and is very happy. I’m here to say: it can hard to figure out this gender stuff but I assure u it gets better 👌🏼👌🏼 good luck to all u lovelies discovering urselves and remember, no matter what gender identity u have ur valid and cute, and I’m proud of u ilysm 💜💜
In july of this year I accepted myself as Bisexual, then Demi around october/november, and now I'm just starting to identify as NB (AMAB). This comment makes me feel better. For me, I dont mind male pronouns, but I love being referred to with fem titles and pronouns. I found this out with a friend who began addressing me this way and seeing how I felt. So far, I like presenting fem sometimes and othertimes i like presenting masc. Like I just discovered leggings, I went into a store the other night with leggings on and got a huge euphoria rush that made me tired afterwards. Trying to narrow myself to a sub label makes me uncomfortable, but I feel comfy with NB
@@WallcloudSR I’m the same but opposite actually, which is kinda funny to me. I’m afab, and I typically do prefer masculine words and pronouns. (Well they/them and he/him) but I also like presenting masc and fem too. Some days presenting one way gives me gender euphoria, and other days it may give me dysphoria. I found it’s just a matter of listening to urself and how u feel. And if u aren’t sure, try to have some options in case u figure it out later.
I literally bring a bag with extra clothes, makeup, makeup remover, ect. in case I feel uncomfortable for any reason later in the day if I’m out and about. Cuz it’s important I always feel comfy in what I’m wearing. Even if it seems silly to change appearance midday, better to feel a little silly than completely uncomfortable or out of place in ur own body I figure.
Anyway, this is getting kinda long, sorry lol. I’m happy ur having gender euphoria, and I hope things keep getting better for u 😊😊
@@_little_byrd_-0v0- thank you for this insight🥺 I have a super cute makeup bag. I haven’t done makeup in awhile because of college being busy but I love it. I’ve got concealer/foundation/setting spray down and want to move into eyeliner/shadow.
I definitely love how comfy I feel in my leggings. I have 2 more pairs coming soon, both with pockets lol. It’s getting cold too, so that’s no fun but I can wear leggings on quick store runs😉
The advice about switching if you feel like it is really helpful :) gender euphoria can definitely be quite the rush. In the time I’ve been out to myself, I’ve really grown in self love, confidence, growth, and caring less about societal norms.
I hope you have a great day😊❤️
@@WallcloudSR buddy, they make fleece lined leggings, just as comfy and they’re warmer. U may wanna look into that 👌🏼👌🏼
@@_little_byrd_-0v0- this is great to know!! Thank you :)
I don’t want people to look at me and go “oh she’s pretty.” Or “oh hes handsome.” I want people to look at me and go “wtf is that green thing and why is it walking like that?”
I am genderfluid, and as a child I was always sort of forced to believe that I was a girl, so I identified with it for a long time.
I started coming across non-binary/genderfluid TikToks and UA-cam videos.
The internet definitely had a play in my realizing I was not cis, but it’s not because I think it’s “cool and different”, it’s because it helped me realize who I was.
And before I came across those videos and started growing up, I had to watch the video in school, and I was disgusted.
Everything about growing up and being a woman was disgusting to me.
And when my mom or adults to me about hormones and stuff, it makes me really flustered because I don’t want to have to be like this.
I grew up Christian and went to an extremely conservative Catholic school, so I felt like I was completely alone when it came to not feeling okay in this body.
I hope I’m not the only one who went through something like this. (Ik I’m not but yk what I mean haha)
Anyway, know that you are valid no matter what ❤️❤️
Everyone be like yeah I remember that of my childhood and me not remembering anything :)
This helps a lot!! Thank you
It’s my pleasure!!!☺️
At the moment, I identify as a demigirl but as a kid I was always described as "a feminine tomboy" and now I'm starting to remember the time I dressed up as goku for Halloween in 3rd grade and feeling so good when someone called me a little boy. In 4th grade, we had a pioneer day and all the girls wore dresses and aprons and the boys wore pioneer clothes but I wore what the boys did and nobody careD 😁 it made me so happy tbh. Right now, I dress feminine but I always wear sports bras and beg my mom to cut my hair short. I still don't know if I'm cis or not 😓
I relate to this video more than other videos I've watched. It helps me feel more comfortable with myself. Thank you so much.
I’ve just recently started my gender questioning journey and this is some of the densest intellectual material out there. I feel like every bullet point worth of information could and maybe should cause a five hour conversation with my parents.
Thank you for this. I doubt my identity a lot and feel like a fraud. That and being in the closet makes me have to bottle up these feelings. But you are helping me feel validated, so I thank you for so much. You are a hero.
This is gonna be weirdly personal, but I just needed to say here (since I'm terribly uncomfortable telling anyone in my real life, sadly) I literally started crying during this video. I never realized the signs and growing up in a rigid conservative christian house makes exploring my gender and sexuality feel constricting or wrong. I just wanted to thank you for making this, you helped me make sense of everything and I'm closer now to figuring myself out. Lots of love 💖💖💖
I find it funny that the thing which, during my dumb edgy tween years, made me question the validity of non-binary/trans people may or may not be the thing that'll lead me to the conclusion that I myself am trans and/or nb
Namely that I've never really understood the categorisation of 'this is feminine, this is masculine'. Like, I don't really feel like fully or partially this or that, I'm just kind of myself, whatever that means. And having only myself as a reference, I just assumed it couldn't possibly matter what you were like, there wasn't really much of a difference besides like...'biological'. I still don't really understand what feeling like you're a woman or a man or both is supposed to feel like, but at least I can say I'm no longer assuming nobody does and comprehend that it's actually important to people.
I do find myself getting some rush of gender euphoria when someone calls me he or something 'masculine' without being asked to, though and have some occasional chest dysphoria.
I recently discovered that I'm non binary.. like I'm still super confused but pretty sure in my identity and your video is just spot on and so helpful!! Thank you!!
How did I not realize some those obvious af signs?? I literally cried after the first two cause they were so relatable and I never knew why I felt this way .... now it all makes sense 😭🥺 ty fr
Btw I only started questioning and exploring my gender this year soo pretty new to it all 👉👈
this video was extremely helpful (and, terrifyingly, spot on)
i've been struggling with trying to get a hold on my gender for a few years now and this video was kind of a breath of fresh air - i really connected to all of the signs you listed. i still have a lot more thinking to do but this video really helped me get a step closer. i do think that i could possibly be non-binary!
The only thing that I remember from my childhood is that I wanted to be a boy REALLY badly. I even prayed to god that I would become a boy when I grow up
Thank you for making this video; it helped me realize that I am non-binary. I've never really felt connected to my birth gender, never really minded being called she/her and at times I've even liked wearing dresses. But now that I've realized I'm nb, I don't want people to call me a girl or she/her anymore, I feel like I would be way more comfortable with they/them pronouns. If possible I wanna get a binder, just so I can know what I'd look like with a flat chest before actually considering whether I want top surgery or not. I recently looked through r/NonBinary, and I realized I wanted to look androgynous.
I already have a new name I wanna go by, and I hope I get over my anxiety so that I can come out to my family soon. They are really accepting people, and accepted me when I came out as demiromantic asexual.
I sometimes question if I really am nb and feel impostor syndrome, since I really like role playing as female characters, writing female characters and picking them in games. So I think I could be nb and slightly femme-leaning, but I'm not a Demi-girl, that just doesn't feel right. For me I was really happy to know I could find a middle between feminine and masculine, because I do want to have certain masculine traits and certain female traits.
I have wondered if I'm just a trans man since I've heard of at least two people who thought they were non-binary realizing they were just trans men, but being called he/him does not feel right at all, also I like my higher voice and really don't want a beard, and being a man just wouldn't feel right at all.
Hey! Thank you for this video it's great !
I have some questions though, I've been thinking about this for a while but never really asked anyone bc i was scared to offend or sounding ignorant. But i'm really just curious, since i don't really know what i consider myself on a gender spectrum, there are things I probably just can't understand because I can't relate to, like dysphoria.
I'm currently 19 and a female, but when i was younger (probably 13-14) i started questioning my sexuality and gender, and i never found any answers to both. I experienced with many different things, so i dated girls and boys, and tried wearing binders and i had short hair for a long time and i basically was pretty masculine. I liked it when people thought i was a boy. But then as i grew older, i started thinking a lot about the difference between a boy and a girl, and i found out the only real difference is the body. Everything else is basically social norms that we are taught and don't really exist in the absolute. And that's how i started accepting myself, my body, and my preferences. So I do consider myself as a female, since I basically have a vagina and have a certain body, but this word doesn't mean anything more to me. And I don't really care what people are gonna think about the way I dress or behave or think. So on a gender spectrum, I don't feel like anything in particular, I'm just me and I don't feel the need to put a word on that anymore.
And that had me thinking, what actually is dysphoria? And that's where I'm very sorry cause I'm afraid of sounding rude when that's really not my intention. Of course, because I feel a certain way doesn't mean it applies to everyone. But what I'm saying is, since I started accepting my body after realising what the words 'boy' and 'girl' really meant, without caring of anyone else's thoughts, I started wondering where does dysphoria come from? Does it come from social norms regarding gender/sexes? So, wanting to resemble what the ideal male/female body is supposed to be like, to feel validated for being who you are? Or is it just preferences? I mean, it's probably a lot more than that for a lot of people. Personally, even though I accept my body, I still think I'd be happier in a male body. But I think it is mainly because of the way I am viewed by others, as a 'girl' and all the cliches that come with it, and Idk, I guess I'd like to have a flat chest and everything else a guy has. But again, I don't feel the need to change my actual body either.
I don't know if I made this really clear, but basically, if there weren't any social norms based on sexes would some people still feel dysphoric about their body?
Again, I accept any kind of response, and I hope my comment didn't offend anyone. If you experience dysphoria, I'm really not trying to say that your feelings are not valid, I'm just being curious since I have trouble understanding it. And I also accept the fact that maybe it's something I simply will never understand since I don't experience it myself.
And would you say I'm non binary considering what I said? And I'm also still questioning my sexuality aha my mind is a mess
(I hope there aren't too many mistakes and I made it pretty clear, english is not my native language)
Have a great dayy!
I just wanted to leave a heartfelt THANK YOU for this video. When I first watched this video, some of the things you talked about really resonated with me, and I got confused. I wasn't sure if it meant I was non-binary or not, because not everything fit for me. It lead me to look up more information about non-binary identities and do a lot of soul-searching, and then I realized that I actually am non-binary! Demigirl to be specific.
So, thank you for putting me on the path to discovering who I really am 💛🤍💜🖤
I should've know I was not cis because of my name... besides everything else about me, my name was a big one. I like my birth name, I think is very pretty, but feel very uncomfortable being called by it and only like being called my chosen name I have since I was a kid lol
so here's my story !!
so basically as a kid i was super feminine and i was really confused with why that was looked down upon, whether it was being told to "man up" or being looked at as i was weird.
also people mix me with a female sometimes, like when i got my first vaccine the nurse called me "miss" before my mom corrected her and being called a female made me feel good.
i tried being transgender, but it just didn't feel right, so i think i might be non-binary or a really feminine guy.
im in p much the same situation i feel u dude
Maybe try being a demigirl or transfem instead of a transwoman. Or being bigender (being bigender is on the enby spectrum btw) Maybe that might help
The biggest thing I can remember before figuring out I was lgbtq+ at all was wearing slim fit shirts and saying "I look fat" but in reality they just exentuated my breast which I eventually found out I don't vibe with at all for my gender identity. I figured this out when trying to get clothes to make a style for me. I'm afab and realized I didn't 100% vibe with really feminine clothes (only when I was a child and didn't hit puberty yet and had a flat chest did I vibe with it), had an affinity towards guys doing creative makeup, then experimented with they/them pronouns and eventually landed on librafeminine and they/she pronouns. Yeah that's my gender exploration in short.
i’m lost and idk what i’m feeling ~_~
update: after some reflection i’ve told my close friends and family that i identify as non-binary >_
I've always enjoyed/been comfortable about being female, (mostly because I like girly things/have been told "This is what you are.") but I also don't feel connected to it like my childhood self. I can't tell much about childhood signs because I had no concept of gender except for physical differences and societal expectations, which I hated following. I feel uncomfortable at the thought of being a guy, but I'm uncomfortable with most things I've never tried.
I don't really care about gender, pronouns, (I have she/her preferences, but I don't care.) gender roles... none of that makes sense to me. Sure, it did when I was younger, (and didn't know of other possibilities,) but so did the concept of the tooth fairy!
I'm pretty feminine myself, and definitely prefer it over masculine stuff, but neutral stuff is fascinating to me as well. I like some masc stuff such as video games, toys, pretty much abything but masculine fashion and appearances. It's just boring. I don't like the androgynous apprarance, because, I just don't, but the clothes are pretty nice.
I'm mostly comfortable around girls, but I can hang out with anybody comfortably.
I'm not comfortable with traits from puberty either. I got okay enough with my chest to not be dysphoric about it, but I'm still pretty iffy about it. I feel self concious and I don't want them. I do like my body shape, though.
I'm just a confused mess.
POV: you didn't search for this
Are you watching me 🤨
@@Vivimonroll yes.
In Germany we don't have a "they them" so i have to go as she her it makes me so uncomfortable if someone says you're a girl or "we have 2 girls with us" when there is one girl and me..
Don't yall have that third one es? Isn't that one gender neutral lol.
@@facelessdrone she and they are in Germany both she
@@facelessdrone "es" is used to describe objects and it feels weird for most people to use it for a person.
I'm also German and nb and I totally get how you feel! I've been experimenting a little with neopronouns but they never really stick either.
The first sign is having an active tictoc (or possibly twitter) account.
The second sign is having a birthday in or after the year 2000.
*me watching this, knowing full when im nb*
Sign number 4 had me screaming! I just can't put into words how giddy and happy I feel sometimes when people call me "miss" despite not identifying as a woman.
I've been questioning my gender for the past four years now, but never felt like 'trans' was the right label. But now I know, finally!
Thank you so much, I'm gonna go do some more research now.
are you a Boy!? she/ her/ him/ please explain!?
0-0 u should use they/them for the creator ok if u don’t know there pronouns JUST USE THEY/THEM
Having my first dinner with extended family (heavily religious) since coming out as enby and I really kind of needed this reminder I am valid. Thank you because sometimes I fear what they say, so glad my sister and her bf will be there because they are super supportive but i need psyche up too.
You got this ☺️ it can definitely be hard dealing with religious family, but you're valid, and if they can't accept you, it's their loss. I'm proud of you
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Im 23 years old and today is when I fully realized I’m non binary. I literally related so much of what you said. I always questioned myself but I never cared for labels because my identity switches from nothing to both to nothing again all the time depending on how I felt and it was always hard to decipher what I was so i just went with the societal “she” but even then there are times when I’m like well I’m not the stereotypical societally viewed “woman” either and it was super cool getting mistaken for a man sometimes or getting told I “look like a man” So thank you thank you thank you for making this video
All through my childhood I hated wearing skirts and dresses and being in the whole girl identity thing . I knew I was different. Like now days I’m still figuring myself out but I think non-binary fits perfectly for me .
Me too
I feel kind of like the odd one out on this because I probably am non binary, or genderfluid who's usually non binary and occasionally fluctuate to one of the binary's, but on the other, I really don't care a lot about gender expression, which is a reason I often don't really feel at home in this community, where gender expressions seems to be such a big thing (which I get, it's just something that doesn't really fit me).
I used to be very dysphoric when I was a teen, but for some reason just thought that was what every teen went through (I didn't had that many friends back then).
Nice video, it definitely helped me come to some realizations I didn't had before.
The first memory that comes to mind when I was 4 or 5 and wishing I could be neither a woman or a man when I grew up, because neither seemed like something I actually wanted to be.
thank you so much for making this video... I recently came out to some of my friends as non-binary and started using they/them pronouns. A few of them used other pronouns accidentally today and it kinda threw me into a gender identity crisis... lol. thank you so much nice again because this really reassured me and I should shake out of my "gender insecurities" and just correct my friends when they mis-gender me.
Thank you so much for this video! I am at the beginning of my journey with exploring my gender identity and realizing that I got a four out of five on your list definitely makes me feel like I’m looking in the right place lol.
I’m not ready to declare anything yet but it was definitely helpful. Thank you! I look forward to seeing more of your content!
Awww I'm so happy it helped!
I am a cis-girl, I have always identified as a girl, I have never truly wanted to change that, but I have thought about it. My biggest problem is that I don’t know how I feel about my gender. I dont “feel” feminine, I “feel” like me and I *am* a girl. I don’t think I want to be called they/them or he/him, but I also think that’s because I have lived my entire life being called she/her so she/her = me. If I was raised being called they/them, I probably wouldn’t mind. I mean, I hate imposing on people so I don’t like correcting others. If it makes someone else more comfortable to call me they/them, I would think “oh interesting” and continue on my life.
I think these are signs of me being non-binary but I also don’t really care. I am happy enough being a girl and I will probably continue through my life being a girl. I am also trying to decide if I’m aromatic or not so that’s a whole ‘nother identity related thing to figure out.
I am non-binary, and I think what would've helped me better is the following: You would be okay with being a gender other than what you were assigned at birth. Because if you're "truly" cis, you would not be willing to be a different gender.
Me: I use they/them pronouns.
Them: What is that plural?
Me: YES!!!
ME: I AM THREE DOGS IN A TRENCH COAT!!!
ME: .... AND YOU SHALL REFER TO ME AS SUCH!!
Non binary is something that my brain has had a difficult time understanding, I think it's because I'm a literal sort of person and I also think some of the info I was given wasnt that good or well explained. But this video really helped 😁
Ok so this video was very helpful but because each non-binary person have different experiences and all that I wanna know if mine are, like, non-binary hints or something (I don’t know what to call it).
Ok, so, basically when I was growing up I would sometimes have these moments where I’m like “would I rather be a man or a woman.” Sometimes it would be a man, sometimes it would be a woman.
When people called me like “miss” or “young lady” or “woman” or something along those lines I would be like, either inside my mind or out loud (depending on the person) “I don’t like that. I would rather be called person.” Because I thought of it being too feminine or something for me.
And so I also don’t care what people call me. They can label me as they, them, he, she, I don’t care really and it doesn’t affect me much. But now that I’m thinking about how I gender myself, I feel like no labels fit me. I just feel like a person.
I’m not completely sure what to label myself as.
I... want to explore. I want to see for myself what I would feel if I went to public wearing clothes that make people unsure if I'm a man or woman, what I would feel if someone actually asked me about it or commented on it, so I can know once and for all if I'm nonbinary or not, but.... *looks at the clothes I have*... *looks at my long hair*....*looks at my boobs which are thankfully small but is still noticeable*... :<
I can already imagine my mom scolding me for looking like a boy if I actually took steps, she just laughed and thought I was joking when I tentatively brought up the idea of getting a really short hairstyle after having long hair for as long as I can remember, and she had always been on my case about dressing "properly" and looking pretty because "you're a girl"
As a AFAB somedays I'm proud of the fact I'm female and some days its just meh. I don't experience dysphoria, but sometimes if i think of being called they/them or wearing a binder I experience euphoria. I don't know what to think at this point. I'm almost 16 and I already identify as aro-spec and asexual.
Growing up I never felt that I was in the right body. But there were only 2 choices, so I assumed that I must be male. Now that the concept of more than just 2 genders is out in the open (thank God), I feel so validated. I feel as though all the confusion and gender dysmorphia I struggled with was real, not just made up in my head. I’m just starting to figure out what nonbinary means for me. Thanks for your videos, Lynn.
Damn I related to getting excited when people call you the opposite gender (although I really have no idea how I identify as). Since I’m (unfortunately) clearly biologically female, it doesn’t happen in real life, but online people usually assume I’m male, and when people use he/him to refer to me I’m kinda happy about it. And I have a friend irl who calls most people they/them, and it always makes me happy when they refer to me like that. Thanks for the video, it did clear some stuff up for me :)
I’m 34 and still accepting my non-binary identity. There just weren’t words for it when I was growing up. I always wanted to have a typical male role in my family and romantically, and a more masculine/muscular body and got euphoria as a child playing pretend as a boy. As I grew up, I found women I could relate to and got really into feminism and punk rock, but the other part of me never went away, I just felt like I had to hide it or use it for writing songs and stories. It feels so weird that I kind of had to split myself into two people! Accepting that I’m a queer mix of both is really healing. It is something that has held me back in a lot of areas of my life and I’m starting to feel free like when I was a kid. I am so happy we are in a time when these things are more openly talked about. We can love who we are 🥰
As a non binary myself, I can definitely say this video is pretty much accurate for information. Its often difficult for non binaries to come out because the spectrum they can be on is quite vast, and often difficult to understand where one is on the scale, and that can be very confusing.
I worked out I was nonbinary because on the internet I told no-one any personal information, gender included. So people had to guess my pronouns. I liked when people got it "wrong" or used "they/them" for me, and I eventually realised that I was using internet anonymity to ditch my assumed gender. Ditched it IRL too, was a weight off my shoulders- like "oh, I don't have to try and fake this any more" even though I hadn't realised I was faking.
I’ve been identifying as non binary for a while but not feeling like I’m being honest. But the more I watched this video the more I realized that I used to experience gender dysphoria especially around puberty. The more I look back the more I realized that I’ve always been this way. I’m glad I was able to find comfort in this video. Thank you my love💛💛
Wait, is nobody going to talk about the Doctor Who reference? A big ball of wibbly wobbly gendery wendery stuff -> A big ball of wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff…
I’m exploring my gender identity but there is one problem I always have. Sometimes I feel like I’m a boy or sometimes a girl. Every time people ask me my gender I starting getting anxiety and sweating. I end up telling them “Just refer to me as they/them”. They then ask me again if I’m a boy or a girl. I then just sweat a lot and run away or I just stand still and stare at them, they either leave or stare back.
I feel like I’ve been thrown into a new world trying to figure out who I am and having lived in the same body for 20+ years is confusing but a lovely adventure.
I agree I love hearing ppl say “bro, or he ..., or thanks man” and feel off when people say” she, or sweetie etc “
My story is kind of bizarre because as a kid growing up I hated being girly and even said "I don't feel like a girl" time and time again. And I met a classmate who was a tomboy and I was so fascinated by her and her will to dress more masculine. But then I discovered I wasn't straight and struggled with what sexuality I was and then finally settled with lesbian cause it fit right. Once I started embracing that more I enjoyed my womanhood. So God knows what I am lmao.
I think the most obvious reason for me is the scars on my chest. I used to bind my chest with tape as a kid when my breasts started developing (for 1-2 years) and the toxic reaction left my chest scarred. I hated being a girl and I was (still am) more confortable with men's clothes. I don't identify as a man either and I've had so many instances like this when I go 'Can't I just be myself instead of fitting inside gender roles?'
I wore a pink suit to one of my family's weddings where the traditional attire for girls is always girly frilly stuff, so I felt great in what I was wearing.
idk if I am nonbinary, but I did think I didn't have a gender at all. But this video made me realize like: oh, oh dang I think I was right.
so... thanks!
I know they said this, but I want to validate for the people who are nonbinary but don't really experience these, or perhaps experience them differently. As a genderfluid person, it took me a long time to realize who I was because I never had dysphoria, but I always wished that I could be a girl, too.
So nothing but 100% love for this creator, just wanted to add that validation for genderfluid folks or those who are nonbinary but don't experience dysphoria.
Im not just uncomfortable with the gender roles, sometimes I'm uncomfortable in my own body, sometimes I want a cat and sometimes I want an Eggplant, sometimes I want more estrogen sometimes I want more testosterone. And sometimes I wanna curves sometimes I don't want them.
I guess that makes me gender fluid but again I hate gender and I don't want to put myself in a box, I'm just whatever you can call me.
But it's so bad I really can't help myself with it, I hate it.