My Workplace Is "Toxic" But It Pays My Tuition
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- My Workplace Is "Toxic" But It Pays My Tuition
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“No one talks to me. I just sit and do my job. TOXIC!!!” 😒🤷♂️
I’ve had jobs where I wished my coworkers would shut up
Yes, currently where I am.
Been saving and planning my getaway. Currently nothing lined up.
About shutting up that is.
Thats exactly how I feel at my current job. I just want them to shut up and let me work. Gossip, politics, bitching and racism. Fun atmosphere.
🤣😂😂😂love it
^ talking; how. Edit not working. :-(
People* these days throw around the phrase “toxic workplace” like they throw around the phrase “abusive relationship” or “my ex was narcissistic.” SMH.
"I have bpd"
"Im not like the other girls"
Millennials!
@@miketheyunggod2534 ok boomer
Exactly. Those who do this are mainly the younger generations because they feel entitled and are spoiled snowflakes.
@@SC-gp7kt Yep, the company I work at has yearly training (ethics, harassment, compliance etc) - they had to add things such as: "A supervisor telling you to get to work" is Not harassment!!!
She's complaining about people not talking to her ? That sounds like my dream job, the less human interaction at work the better, I'm there to make money not friends
But not if it’s from hostility and being excluded.
I'm with you on this and was thinking the same thing. I can't believe she thinks this is toxic?? It's called productive.
It can become a problem when you are being excluded for reasons never given. Your workplace can be a place to make friends, you spend hours with them a day, so it is only logical that a certain amount of kinship might develop. They might not be including her because they know she won't like all the backstabbing and gossiping that nobody gets fired over.
Absolutely!!
I have worked in a toxic workplace with everyone back stabbed each other and lots of yelling and screaming. I now work in a small group and overall ignored at work and I enjoy it. I do my work and go home. No one bothers me and very little stress.
Aahhh the simple things! 😊
I want that, be ignored and do my job 😅
I love Dave's immediate honesty.
Learn to see your paycheck and other benefits as the sign you are appreciated. No one at my job tells me I do a good job or that I am appreciated, but every two weeks, I feel appreciated and valued.
It ain’t college. Not a party - not a therapy session - it’s a job. It’s a tough transition but jobs are generally much more grounded in reality than what you experienced in college and it can be a shock to the system.
Absolutely. I had a bit of a hard transition when I first left my university and started working in Chicago. At the university, everyone was so friendly and nice and in Chicago was pretty much opposite. College is so different from the real world.
College teaches nothing about real life, especially personal finance.
@@LittleMopeHead i learned a lot about real life from college. Depends on what subjects you take too. Like philosophy teaches you to recognize fake news and how to debate properly and you dont think the world would be a better place if most politicians learned better logic and debating skills? And things like kinesiology teaches you practical things to improve your fitness and athleticism. Finance teaches you how money works. Psychology teaches you about human nature and i learned a lot of practical stuff towards friendships, relationships, dating advice, how women think and why they are the way they are and how to deal with mental health like anxiety and depression. And health science has a lot of practical stuff for nutrition, dieting, weight loss, medicine, how illnesses work and vaccines work, and how to reduce disease and live longer healthier lives. Everything can be practical if you use it in the right environment.
@@maximustrolleus9860 agreed every one says the school doesn't teach them about personal finance, but I say find me one person who has never heard of the number line. I constantly quote my professors, the reality is a lot of people go to collage for that stereotypical "college experience" not to learn and for most college is nothing like that(partying).
@@maximustrolleus9860 it doesn’t teach you how different the real world is to school or how to maturely transition from student to worker apparently, or this young lady wouldn’t be calling. 🤷🏽♀️
The overuse of the word “toxic” has become toxic.
It's not what toxic is. But it's trendy for everyone to say that they have a toxic workplace.
I think what's happening here is what happens to a lot of college students. They're used to a fun college experience and then they get in the real world and it's a news flash that suddenly the real world is not all fun and footloose.
Work is work. You start to understand why your parents came home at the end of the day from work and we're tired and worn out. It's because work is work.
Institutions vs the real world.
@@cincinnatislider yep. It was funny there was another call on this show a few weeks ago where this guy was saying that he was burned out and he was kind of young and recently graduated from college.
As I recall Dave was even just pointing out the fact that he was just experiencing growing pains from developing work ethic LOL
Your usage of the word footloose is epic. I too am a relic from the 80's, and I use it regularly. Take care and thanks for brightening my day
@@random-nz7dy I bet that’s how squidward ended up the way he is.
@@cincinnatislider also probably because he sucks eggs.
Sounds like a great job🤣 I don't need to be talked to daily.
Exactly! The less people who talk to me on a given day the better :)
Exactly
Amen, I don’t need interaction lol
I became a truck driver so I could go all day without office chat.
Same here
She's young and she has been taught that life/work is all about following her passion and feeling fulfilled. I hope she finds the passion and fulfillment she is looking for in her career, but I pray she can find joy in the journey.
Well said.
I was expecting her to be in a job that involves angry customers yelling at her or a terrible boss. All she’s dealing with is stand-offish coworkers. Her situation isn’t that bad.
I mean if you hate your job, then I don't see a reason not to move on. I've ended up changing jobs about every year and nearly tripled my salary while also finding a job I love now.
seriously! not bad at all. cry baby.
@@grantwilliams630 what do you do may i ask? or field please
@@adiaz1182 for ppl who don’t care if others speak to them first thing in the morning...we can deal with it for the most part. Not a morning person at all. But if isolation and loneliness on a job or lack of actual support is throughout the day, everyday, does get to be frustrating and can be depressing. She needs to stay focused for getting the benefits at this point since she’s so close. Personally I’d make ppl talk to me by continually trying to engage with them during the day if I was her but then I’m older and don’t care that much. One or two decent ppl in a workplace who will speak is all you need.
@@AndreOliveira-cu3fy Sure! I started as an entry-level Software Developer and now I'm a Senior Machine Learning Engineer (a cross between Data Science and Software Engineering).
If she stays till October and sticks it out she will feel so much better sticking it out than just quitting.
I almost walked out on a retail job but stuck it out for a few months until I graduated and it helped motivate me to push through school and put myself in a position to never have to work a retail job again.
Hope she sticks it out and gets that delayed gratification of sticking it out a few months longer.
I had some managers on power trips when I was in college and worked in bars and restaurants. That motivated me to finish school so I’d be above that level. I did not want to be pushed around by people who were not as smart as I was. I figured intelligent, educated bosses wouldn’t be on ego trips and need to abuse others to feel good about themselves.
Wow! What was she expecting? Co-workers aren't friends. There's nothing 'toxic' about what she is describing. Most jobs will not pay for your tuition. She sounds ungrateful.
Sounds like a boring existence
Well said
Parents, please let your kids experience some hardship during their formative years. It will give them the internal grit to endure these relatively minuscule life challenges and actually accomplish something. Experience is a great teacher and source of perspective.
As someone with no children, I wanted to ask,how would you do that?
@@racpatrice well you stop being a helicopter parent. A kid gets bullied, don’t immediately call the teacher or principal (unless its life threatening). Have your kid stand up for themselves and have your kid try to resolve the problem before running away to get saved. That’s just one example.
@@sanitary103 I’ve tried that with my kids… But then the response is they will get in trouble for defending themselves. Public schools are so twisted now. Kids are actually taught not to defend themselves and to tell the teacher everything.
@@racpatrice I allow my children to play outside without me, and interact with other children and deal with their own conflicts. I also make them do a ton of chores, and take away any privileges if they are disrespectful and disobedient. My kids hear no all the time and they whine and complain, but oh well!
Why tell anyone you are leaving? She sounds to have the maturity of a middle schooler; she sounds like she is almost crying because people don’t say good morning.
Seriously, she has other issues.
parents coddled her that’s all. she’s never been reprimanded or actually hurt.
I actually taught English in a public school in South Korea, and my main coteacher told me the older teachers in their late 50s and above said I did not greet them enough. What????????
She just needs attention that’s what I got from her . She’s at WORK , she needs to work and graduate school and stop worrying about people not saying good morning to you.
Actually, she sounds like an American.
Wow..talk about entitlement...I worked in customer service in my twenties..had people call and tell they wished I would die 😂 ...poor kid she has no clue..
I work at a call center and have since I graduated high school, Im definitely looking for different work now and going to further my education mainly because I want to make more. But even getting yelled at over the phone although it sucks at the moment I realize I'd rather do this then hard laborious physical work. So even that isn't that bad lol. Id prefer to be in this girls spot where I sit at a desk and no one talks to me haha.
If it’s a just a job, find another another one before quitting!
That simple
Not always easy
@@stacycreates24 with how the job environment is right now work is everywhere so it's pretty easy
Life should teach us endurance. There is no perfect work place...Be satisfied with what you have! Learn from these experiences.
Good perspective
Im 25 and my generation are a bunch of sensitive people with no work ethic
Couldn’t disagree more
If you think that you’re not looking at the right people. Plenty of us are working our butts off trying to get to the point of financial freedom
And you’re the exception, lol
100% correct!!
Can’t really blame us though. Us young people just grew up in a different time tbh
Oh man if she thinks that is toxic, I'd hate to see how she works in an actually toxic environment.
Signed,
Someone who was fired from his dream job after being yelled at for not being able to read his boss' mind.
Welcome to the club.
I was going to say, I had a boss who I likened to an SS Gestapo official! Me and my co-workers joked about it too. But I’m sure a new hire would immediately see him as toxic personified!
If she feels like she's being ignored, a smile towards people around her goes a LONG way. If she puts in a little effort to appear approachable, it will come back. This is an attitude change.
I totally agree! It is sometimes fun to force people to acknowledge you...and you just might make a friend along the way!
We have no idea how much she puts into it, Dave barely asked any real questions, every question he asked in his tone he implied that she is in the wrong. He didn’t really ask enough questions, he just assumed because she didn’t immediately define her situation as “toxic” as he would define it that she is whining. Maybe she is and needs to tough it out, maybe she just couldn’t put her feelings into words properly, but either way we definitely don’t have enough information to judge her. You have no idea how much effort she puts into it, because they never really asked or let her elaborate.
Just listening to her whine makes me want to ignore her.
A boring office job that pays for school? I gladly would have done that while I was going for my degree! It's definitely a "job" so hopefully once she gets her degree she can find a great company to work for to start a career.
Umm how about you just ride it out until you finish school and find something else. Because that’s ridiculous that you’re leaving a job because they don’t support you...ummm it’s a JOB not your friends/family....
She’s just a snowflake
She should have had my old job. That boss was throwing stuff at us and screaming like an idiot.
I'm so sorry to hear you went through that. Did you guys report him/her to HR? No one should have to put up with that..
Exactly, she needs to change her mindset. She needs to be grateful that she not involved in on the job bs.
Mindset matters
News flash lady: Get used to it.
She sounded like she wanted to cry to further push her agenda of a “toxic” workplace 😂😂😂😂😂
This is the direct result of the BS kids are being taught. I.e. everyone is special, everyone gets a participation trophy, you can do whatever you want in life.... STOP IT
Accurate comments! 👏
Yeah but she also said she wants her workplace to make her feel happy, I think if she felt happy as a person in general she wouldn't need affirmation at work or a friendly environment to complete her
Welcome to reality and corporate America. Grit your teeth and get through it.
Ken's advice is right on. Change your perspective and utilize the time/money to advance your interests.
Please stay October will be here before you know it
W
So....Celeste, are YOU asking anyone how *they* are doing? Why this victim attitude? Take steps to improve the lives of others and improve your own, right away!
If you need support, are YOU asking for it, or are you sitting there, and wishing they'd just read your mind and ask you? Girl, the squeaky wheel STILL gets the grease.
PREACH! I'm blessed to work in a great work environment that has a great culture but this "people don't say hi to me, we just work all day" is not toxic...
THIS.
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@@forexdinni7838 that's a cool way around the rules!!
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If she is that stressed out imagine when she goes out in the real world. That degree won’t help her. She needs to fix herself before whining about others.
Exactly!
She sounded like an entitled cry baby. Too sensitive.
She's gonna have a hard time in the real world for sure.
"Most people aren't leaders, most people are bosses."
DEEEEEEEEEEP
Your workplace isn't supposed to be emotionally supportive....get friends
Dear workers,
If you have this same situation, just remind yourself you are not there to make any friends, just work, fulfill your duties and collect your paycheck.
Making friend and being comfy can catch you off guard when they let you go. No, work shouldn't be stressful nor toxic, but you need to keep in mind you are their to accomplish your goal of making a living and fulfilling your calling (if that's your calling)
W
It sounds like there is more to it. I’ve been at jobs where everyone is cold and unfriendly; it’s not easy.
Everyone-gets-a-trophy mentality. I’m special, and I need my specialness to be acknowledged by everyone!
Toxic workplaces I’ve been in:
Owner sleeping with coworker
Boss making me cry because I can’t control other people
That’s toxic. Not because it’s boring.
Work sucks, we all gotta do it
Dave:"is somebody throwing things at u" 😂🤣...
Who's workplace ain't toxic?
So true 😊
Mine isn’t toxic🤪. Everyone is nice where I work
*Whose
@@NiccoloSeilo you are lucky👍
Not only is my job not toxic, it's a joy to work there. My co-workers and my bosses are all wonderful people, and I'm happy to work with them. I've been there for nearly six years I got really lucky, I've had some terrible jobs, ha
She should check her contract while she’s at it. Make sure there are not extra employment terms on the education payment by the company.
Yes, I was thinking the same thing. Many employers require that you commit to so many years of working there after the education is completed.
There's not a work environment that is not toxic my lady. Maybe you're just lazy. Learn to sacrifice first. You are paying the price for your education. Get it done with and move ahead.
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I don’t think it’s lazy. I think colleges spoil people - they think a meaningful exciting feeling of bonding is going going to be laid out for them at work like in college, and the fact is a job is for making money. People have lives, they have things to do - most adults aren’t trying to be everyone’s best friends at work and make small talk every day. It’s unsustainable and people like this become confused as to why work is so dry compared to college and I think it induces an existential crisis during the transition to reality.
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Not going to lie... I would LOVE not being bothered at work.
Sounds like Celeste needs to grow up and be more thankful...
Maybe she needs a “hello good morning “ too but I think you’re more right 😅
Jobs aren’t the same as colleges where there are administrators to watch over what people say to you
Dave at the end of video lol!!!! Building his defense.
I think there are some people that just need this talk, me included. I'm in a similar situation with a job that sucks. There have been toxic moments where management has addressed issues inappropriately, but overall its just a dead end job that sucks. Im sticking it out until I find something better. When I do, I'll be moving on.
So many people would love her job where you could be ignored so you can do your work and then go home. 🤣 Plus they are paying her tuition. This sounds great!
It sucks! Focus on your goal and every time you see these toxic coworkers (adult bullies) you think of how you’re going to get your degree and bounce out of there. Hang on hun! Going through similar but I keep myself motivated and focused on my goal. Work harder as well so when you leave they notice the difference. I have a countdown in front of my vanity and that motivates me 🤌🏽
I like the idea of working extra hard so they notice when you’re not there anymore. Do a good job and get a letter of recommendation in your hot little hands before leaving.
@@genxx2724 thank you for recommending that. Will be sure to get that letter before I leave. You’re awesome!
@@yesseniaescobarable Thank you. The letter is important because when a potential employer calls for a reference, for legal reasons all they’re going to say is that you worked there and provide the dates. That doesn’t help you. And if you leave without the letter, good luck trying to get them to write it later.
“No one asks me how I’m doing”.......find a husband and have some kids. You don’t belong in the workplace. This is beyond obnoxious.
Thank God I’m an independent contractor just running my route in peace 😂 I spent 10 years with toxic coworkers and customers never again lol
W
Start a business to avoid a toxic workplace.
are u seriously tht delusional n out of touch ?
@@SarahConnor562 80% of first time business fail and you need thousands of dollars in cash to start a business, so easier said than done......
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@@SarahConnor562 are u familiar wit the word hubris
@@SarahConnor562 im callin u dumb dipsht
Long, LONG before Nike ever came up with it, my mantra to get through unpleasant times and tasks on the job was, “It’s not immoral, it’s not illegal, there’s a paycheck on Friday: JUST DO IT.”
Character building and you will learn from bad situations.
Toxic is abuse. Everything else can be managed.
Dave: I worked in a place when I was in my 20s that it seemed like everyone was sleeping with each other
Ken: Oh
Dave: It was like a..
Ken: Soap opera
Dave: That’s the nice way to put it... It was just nuts
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’ve been in jobs where people have screamed at others so this isn’t toxic at all.
Sometimes we have to put on our adult pants and just do what we have to do. Lots of stress in my job right now but darn it I’m paying off a house. Got to do what I have to do.
"Nobody talks to me at work" - ok, so that's a very nice perk... now, what's really the issue here?
Women throw "toxic" around way too easily.
Paying for school= not toxic. Wanna be happy get a puppy. Ladies man up.
Everything is toxic to people 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. You're the middle sibling at that. Sound like Jan on the Brady Bunch. She wants attention
I hope the pendulum shifts back ASAP to Americans trying to be strong and tenacious and not whining little victims
Most young people these days think whatever they don’t like is toxic..Sad
I want her job! Yeaaa nobody talks to me, no need to hear any drama or gossip from nobody.
This person sounds emotionally unstable with a strong external locus of control.
*arrives at work in the morning*
Coworkers : 😑
Celeste : OmG ThIs pLaCe iS sO tOxIc!!!
Sounds like she is toxic...
People work for money, feel good is a bonus.
In the job where I am now people talk loudly,about EVERYTHING and ANYTHING if they shut up and get to work it is great. I have worked in jobs where people were hostile , angry, mean and unhappy
Oh my! What a perpetual victim! She doesn’t want to work for her employer but she wants them to pay for her tuition. Change your situation (quit) or change your attitude. Focus on the payoff you’re getting by working there and getting through college. Don’t look for friends and entertainment at work. It’s not supposed to a party place. Go do your job and go home.
I don’t think much will change for her after she finishes her Bachelors degree.
I think you nailed it Linda
I was in a call center for insurance at a large company also paying my tuition and promising me opportunities... this is nothingggggggggggggggg
Can't always count on your workplace for support and affirmation. Get some close friends you can talk to and support each other.
The real world is hard and not easy! This is not forever. It will be ok.
I wouldn't like to hear her squeak once she realizes a company will ask you to pay back all college funding if you don't stay with them the next two years 💸💸
Millennial here... we’re not all this soft. I’m often so ashamed to be a millennial.
No growth at a job that pays your college. I would've killed for a job like that when I was in school.
“Toxic”is the most overused word by Women today.
I feel her on this call. My company is "woke".
Really needed this video
You working a job ya hate?
Coworkers are NOT your friends.
So let me get this straight... They're paying for your degree AND you don't have to deal with anyone else's BS drama all day? If they're literally funding your way to a better job... THEN IT'S NOT A DEAD END JOB. This is what the kids refer to as a "first world problem." It may be boring to work there, but you're just complaining about an amazing privilege right now.
Absolutely hang in there! Your education comes first. When you can quit let them have it! Tell them everything as to why you're quitting.
Certain types of jobs are very very toxic. Especially certain ones are best left in the dust and its very important for your mental health.
It's the toxicity of her city. *Drums*. 😂
This went way over people's heads. Best comment.
Wooo 🥳
🤘
🤣🤣👍🏾
Jobs are nightmares in general unless you love that job and coworkers are himanly nice.
Some people just complaint so much that u get the point you don't want to even give the good morning. This lady sounds like some of those complaint peoples.
I’m 24 too and happy I don’t get bothered by most of my coworkers. Typical woman needing attention to be happy.
😑 Don't use absolutes please. Not typical woman. This may be an upbringing issue.
I’m a woman who wishes everyone would be quiet and do their jobs so I can be happy.
Having been in bad work environments it’s hard to explain why it’s bad sometimes so I have a little more sympathy as to the frustrations. But it also took me that bad job to wake up to the real world. And what to expect from imperfect people.
Just keep working there for a couple of months. Your college will have free counciling
Dave, caller says her job is toxic because noone at job puts her on a pedistal. People now a days want to be put on a pedistal every second of their lives and be told hold special and how great they are. "Toxic" to her is not being greeted by coworkers. My goodness, people can be so mentally weak these days.
The word toxic is so overused nowadays, its lost all sense of what it means.
I had a job where we were literally being physically assaulted and sexually harassed on a daily basis. What the average person today considers "toxic" blows my mind.
If this caller doesn't shift her mindset SHE WILL BE UNHAPPY, UNMARRIED, AND UNPLEASANT to be around FOREVER!
W
What’s the solution? How should she change her mindset? Asking for a friend. 😉
@@genxx2724 In my experience, deprivation, is the quickest way. Hitting bottom. Gratitude normally follows.
@@scottcped What can she do?
@@genxx2724 If she can do ANYTHING proactively, she needs to have a personal come to Jesus moment. She needs to humble herself step back look at all that she has and be grateful for it.
Unfortunately, from observation of others, AND from personal experience, it is more likely she will continue to be ungrateful, have a bad attitude, and as such her choices will lead down a dark path. At some point the reality of LIFE will force her to a crossroads where she will be laid bare and have to choose bitterness and destruction or gratitude and prosperity.... Hint: When I was at that crossroads, I chose gratitude.... After choosing to continue living.
I admit my wording above is a bit melodramatic. And it accurately describes my experience in '09-10. When I was homeless and so broke that I was living rent free above a friend's garage. I couldn't even pay my life insurance premiums, which was the ONLY reason I chose life. My kids would've been left with nothing. At that point I got my nose in the Bible, recommitted my life to Jesus, saw all the good things in my life. Along with the potential, and the long walk home started.
So many people hate their jobs, just before to leave find something else👍
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Great advice guys!
She need some backbone...too emotional
Nobody talking to you? Sounds great to me!
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Toxic is being lied to and underhanded dealings...been there.
Just practice spacing out, rolling your eyes a lot, stuff like that. Bring a cool & uplifting book to read on your breaks and lunch.. I'll recommend GK Chesterton.
She had the courage to call in and ask the question, good on her. Delayed gratification is something my grandpa and mother and father preached to me growing up. It didn't really "stick" until my early 30's unfortunately but still grateful that they cared enough to share the wisdom. ☀️