I hope this video feels like a nice warm hug today… and if you aren’t a hugger I hope it feels like a nice pat on the back 😅 you’re going okay even if it doesn’t feel like it right now just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take a deep breath ❤
Definitely needed this today have spent an unexpected week in the Calvary Hospital due to a “new autoimmune “ issue. Sticking with “this too shall pass”. Great vlog Caitlin. My Scottish friend always says “if something is for you it won’t go past you”. This applies to everything in life. Remember life happens while we’re busy planning life, we have no control over some issues. Do you best & put a smile on yr dial. Cheers 😘🌷
You made a video that would probably bring Kourtney to tears. Having her hard work recognised like this, from one woman to another, she'd be flattered to be noticed in this way. Well done!
I’m 50, never married, never had kids, and am still single. Life didn’t turn out as society or my family expected, but I have to say I’m happy and content with life all the same 😊. It would be nice to have a partner to share life with someday, but like you said, nothing is guaranteed in life or will turn out the way you had planned. We have to find joy and fulfillment regardless 💕
I am 40, single, and I do not have children. Having been married before, let me a assure you that unmarried is 1 million times better than an unhappy marriage. I know married women that envy my position, and would run for the hills if they could afford to divorce.
@@CC-kr3mr agreed. I’d rather be single than marry the wrong person and is why I never did. Can’t imagine the difficulties of divorce and single parenthood and was always afraid of that outcome. There are silver linings to every choice.
I am in the same boat….50 never been married and no kids. Hope to find “my person” but f I don’t I’m still happy, grateful & thankful for the way my life has been.
With age comes wisdom and an ability to relax into yourself. I married in haste at 20, had my only son at 21, divorced after an horrific marriage at 30, fell into my career at 32 after redoing my education and degree, met the love of my life at 39, married him at 45…. Now 51 I am happily married with a lovely home, an amazing family and my perfect career for me. What is meant for you will not pass you by…..be open to new adventures, new experiences and say yes to most things cos you never know. 😊
To be fair, it may pass you by. Not every thing that you wanted will come true. I very much wanted children and a life partner. Nothing in my life allowed that to happen. Making peace with what's not possible is a VERY difficult life lesson, but one that leads to the ultimate wisdom
My advice as someone in their 50s is to not let fear stop you from doing what you want to do. There was many comments in your video about not wanting to be judged, or being embarrassed but seriously no one else’s opinion matters. If you want to do something- do it. No one expects their relationship not to work out but sometimes they just don’t and holding on to it regardless of how bad it is does not make it better. You aren’t a better person because you stuck it out. In the last couple of years I left a relationship of 34 years and am on my own for the first time ever. Was their fear - hell yes. Do I have bad days - also yes but choose your hard in life. You can sit back and be too scared to try anything for fear of it not working out or being judged or you can do it and it is better than you ever dreamed. You are only 30 - I know that seems to be a ripe old age but in a blink of an eye you will be 50 and where do you want to be? What kind of life do you want to be living? Grab it with both hands and make it yours. Life is short
You can’t fix a broken person who doesn’t want to be fixed. As you age, you also stop caring what others think. So, just live your life and be happy. ❤
That is super helpful. To reframe the old saying that you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves, we really need to realise we can't help "fix" them if the broken don't want to be fixed. I'm going to hold on to your saying! Thank you. They are essentially broken, so we shouldn't waste our time sticking around too long.
I've never ever viewed her in this framework before, but Caitlin, you're right. She has gone through a lot, and drug abuse is no joke especially with true love and children involved. Just glad she left that chapter finally.
There are no guarantees in life. I married at 28, separated five years in, rekindled the marriage after two years and only had cat fur babies. I have no interested in following conventional concepts of "happiness". I needed the separation to find myself and feel confident in being alone. Some people fear loneliness more than anything, but remember that women often out live men and at some point you may have to experience it. The separation saved my marriage because it gave us both time to figure who we were as individuals. I never changed my last name and that was a bone of contention for my husband, but I am an only child and my Polish heritage is extremely important to me, while he was simply looking at it as a traditional patriarchal expectation. Never let society dictate your own happiness and always be honest and communicate clearly with the people you love.
Also, side note, travis paid for their entire wedding. The reason it was dolce and Gabbana is because Kourtney had an upcoming project with Dolce and Gabbana. She had already been meeting with them and working closely with them. Kim Kardashian was the one who is spreading misinformation, saying that their wedding was sponsored.
There is no path, but one advice many women who want kids and no pressure to find the right partner should follow is: freeze your eggs! We all find happiness on our own way and timing.
Kourtney gave so much to that show in the beginning. She showed her entire relationship with Scott and the world watched her birth her children. Even after stating she wanted privacy and took a step back she is still showing so much of her private life. I love that she has finally found her 'person' and is happy. I hope they remain happy. Shes still giving so much for the show even now. Kourtney holding that sign is a 'rip' from an early Blink video. Im now much older but I had two children and my ex cheated on me while I was recovering from a C section from the birth of my youngest. I found out within a week of coming home from the hospital. I went a very long time without dating because I was so angry.
This video is great & I needed it. I’m 31 & I feel a bit directionless atm & it scares me especially around the realm of work. I moved home during Covid & I feel since then there no clear route out because rental market has gone crazy where I live. Anyway, I’m trying to be more positive & look for solutions not problems
Def can relate with you. Moved back home durning Covid and just when I finally built everything up to move out soon, I got laid off last week. Life is a roller coaster but Jesus is in control.
Of the Kardashians, i liked Kourtney the most. She dared to go for what she was passionate about, stod up to Kim and did not settle with Scott. She also look amazing and gave tip on how to take care of yourself to feel good as you age.
I always thought I would be married because everyone was married when they got to their 30s. However im not married at 41. Actually doesn't worry me anymore. Times have changed and you can get married at any age if you meet the right person. Now all my friends that were getting married are in their 40s and going through divorces. My boss at work was married to her childhood sweetheart and whilst she was pregnant she found out her husband was cheating with a younger GRADUATE at his work. They tried to get back together and work it out with counselling but in the end parted ways, he pretty much destroyed any element of trust and loyalty which is the foundation to a relationship. Left her in such a black hole of dispair and she got postpartum depression. it sounds like a horrible nightmare!
Too many low value unhealed broken, manchild Weak men are attracted to strong independent smart women! Choose your partners wisely ladies as its impacts so many parts of your life. I rather be lonely and single than deal with weak toxic men 😅
im 34, was displaced a wk ago from a company ive been with 10yrs. i was sad that i had climbed up and now i need to start over. but now i see it as a blessing in disguise as looking back, i could tell i had capped out and needed to go elsewhere to fully expand my wings.
i think Kourtney is very resilient and she kept her confidence in herself. She has a positive mindset that helps her believe in good outcomes for herself no matter what. Deep down she is very strong. She has a youthful mentality and a constant smile that kept her going. She also is very conscious of herself taking care of her body and mind which is so important to come back faster from pain. I love Kourtney. Admire her😊
I have the benefit of hindsight and was very stressed about this stage of life - late 20s early 30s. I wish I could have not worried and enjoyed being in that age group more. I felt the pressure of all the things you spoke about but I ended up meeting my partner at 34 and had my daughter at 36 at that time I thought it was older than what I expected I would be having my first but now at 39 I look back and think I wasn't old at all and would even think of having another now and I also think if I hadnt have ended up having kids there would have bene so many other things i could have done that i can' t do now with a child so the way you feel about it does get easier and change. So it gets better looking back and you have more time than you think and look at Kourtney having a baby at 44 :-) Always love your videos Caitlin thanks
I’m 29, just got laid off from my job last week, no friends, no partner, no kids. Am I worried? Yes. Especially seeing my sister younger sister at that flourish. However I trust in Jesus and His path for me. I have no idea what’s next but luckily I’m not in control of that outcome ❤ Glory to His name.
Great video. I am an older woman 48 tomorrow, I have been with my partner nearly 32 years we have a 16 year old son. I was the woman who wasn't bothered about marriage I was shocked when I was proposed to I realise most women live for this. I just think that what will be will be u can't live ur life worrying about something that may or may not happen in relationships. If u want my advice for what it's worth is would be not to sleep on haven't children as we get older it gets harder to get pregnant that and the stresses of life can also stop this happening. Deal with the things u can and don't worry about the things u can't things happen for a reason. Great example with kourtney but they have a big fame bubble. I hope this was helpful
There is no proverbial wall. I think it’s extremely important to take your life seriously and listen to your intuition and make decisions based on that, but I also think it’s incredibly important to trust the universe, and not force some thing if it is proving to you that it’s not your path. It’s so crazy to think that sometimes what God has a plan for you is so much bigger and better than something you are fighting for.
Hi from France, I am 43 years old and I just had my first child, I live my best life now before I was always wanted approbation or something from others, now I am strong, independent and I get my own money.
I turned 30 this year too and to say its hit me harder than any other age milestone so far in my life is an understatement...there is so much suffocating pressure on women to settle down and get married and have kids at this age, and its all so scary honestly. thank you so much for this video
I really liked what you said: "What is meant for you will happen" I truly feel that has been the case for me, and it's worked well. It reminded me of the Spanish word "Que Sera, Sera", which means "Whatever Will Be, Will Be". If it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant for us. But even when one door closes, other doors will open. I will put in my effort to do as much as I can to grow and evolve successfully, but then you just have to sit back and wait for what God will give us, which is the life that was meant for you.
I think we (as woman) are too focus on other people opinion and society expectation. I am not married but when you decide to be in relationship with someone, you commit to this person so to me, marriage is not that important.... Women should not be stress or afraid to say I want child free life but unfortunately, if you take this way, the other women with children will judge you and will think you are not fully accomplished which is completely wrong or the comment like "you are missing out... it is a beautiful experience.. etc) I totally agree with you, you have to take what life will give you on the way and not to plan everything. You need to embrace life and enjoy to the fullest.
Many good points. My favorite was “Don’t take life too seriously“❤ If I may say that at the age of almost 50, after kids, marriage, divorce, disease and new love.
At times you sound like my friend. We are 27 and she is worrying so much about not reaching whats expected of her by the age of 30, like we're going to stop existing after that. I don't agree with that, I grew up around older ladies and it always seemed they had an amazing life at the stage they were in. It's so sad that media (and by extension society) values youth so much that if you haven't been done with college, have a great job, married, have 30 kids by the age of like 12 you are failure in life. It's ridiculous the expectations that are put on us and sometimes it's completely unrealistic for some people. Just live your life and enjoy it now. Every stage is beautiful and serves a purpose. Also, you sound like you care about other people's opinions, and my advice is, only one option matters - yours. I recently had that realization, and the way my life got exponentially better I can't even explain it to you. Stop worrying about what's expected of you by other people, and think of what you want. And if that alignes with general expectations than great and if it doesn't then f it, live your life FOR YOU and the way YOU want. Not for anyone else
I don't really follow the Kardashians. I mean, I have never even seen one of their episodes. But I did hear something about Kourtney not wanting to be on the show anymore, and how the rest of the family gave her a hard time about it. You briefly mentioned and showed how Kim was giving her a hard time at the beginning of your video about her wanting to focus on her children and not so much run a business, but I think that may be missing from the video a little bit more. The fact that she has the presence of mind to know who she is and what is important to her and her mental health. It has to be hard to stand up to your family, when they may have been your source of strength when the relationship with the father of your children was rocky and horrible. To allow yourself to not let the guilt of them haven been there for you when you needed them to dictate how you chose to live your present requires so much strength. I know she is a flawed human, because we all are, but I respect her greatly for making those choices for herself and her family.
I'm 43 and just beginning to feel positive about most elements of my life, so from my perspective you are right that beautiful things can happen to you at any age-- and also that if you truly follow your own authentic self and do not accept toxicity, your life is more likely to be a winding road to a deeper sense of peace and happiness than a straight shot. All that being said, I don't know if Kourney Kardashian is a good example here. Her life is heavily impacted by celebrity, unimaginable wealth, and being surrounded by other famous and extremely wealthy people. One last note is pregnancy at 44 is not, for most women, a "miracle," just much less likely than it would have been a few years earlier. All that being said, Caitlin I'm so happy to see you learning and growing and evolving. I think you're an awesome, intelligent lady with a huge heart and great wit and humor. These trainsitions you're going through-- in which all the priorities in your life are changing-- are major and really challenging.
I really enjoyed this video. I’m around the same age as you (31), married, and my friends are starting to have babies. I’m 95% sure I want a baby, but there’s the 5% of me that questions if I really want that. I don’t want to give up the life and freedom that we have now, but I also don’t want to wait too long to start trying either. I think if for some reason we weren’t able to have a child, I’d be okay with it because I also agree that things happen for a reason. ❤
Parents have told me if you don’t 100% want kids, don’t have kids. It’s much worse to regret having kids than to regret not having kids. I’m 32F and had to think about it deeply recently. I definitely don’t want kids because I like peace and quiet, I like sleep, and I don’t want to give up my life and money for a small human.
Hormones make you want kids (and IME the broody phase passes), that and societal peer pressure and FOMO, wanting to fit in etc. So many people have said to me if they had their time over again they wouldn't have kids...Having said that, for those who are certain they do want kids, there's no right time, there'll always be some reason to wait, so just get on with it because fertility does decline and sooner than a lot of people think
Happy for Kourtneys 2nd public love except he’s so gross looking. He’s not really exemplary, more like the bones left over at the buffet. There was also drama with Shana, his prior wife and reality star. It’s not all clean and flowery.
I thought I would have children when I was around 30-35....That did not happen. And thank god for that. I was in the wrong relationship. Fast fwd, after years of trying and a couple of IVFs, no children. I still haven't given up...I'm telling myself....And another part of myself is saying: "But do you even want a child?"....So here we are. :D
The Kardashians are ridiculous and people need STOP caring what they are doing and what they think. Be yourself. Be an individual. Don't be herded by society.
I hope this video feels like a nice warm hug today… and if you aren’t a hugger I hope it feels like a nice pat on the back 😅 you’re going okay even if it doesn’t feel like it right now just keep putting one foot in front of the other and take a deep breath ❤
It does. Needed this reminder today!
Definitely needed this today have spent an unexpected week in the Calvary Hospital due to a “new autoimmune “ issue. Sticking with “this too shall pass”. Great vlog Caitlin.
My Scottish friend always says “if something is for you it won’t go past you”. This applies to everything in life. Remember life happens while we’re busy planning life, we have no control over some issues. Do you best & put a smile on yr dial. Cheers 😘🌷
You made a video that would probably bring Kourtney to tears. Having her hard work recognised like this, from one woman to another, she'd be flattered to be noticed in this way. Well done!
@@minwade5436sending you my thoughts and prayers ❤
@@GildedFashionaww Thankyou ❤
I’m 50, never married, never had kids, and am still single. Life didn’t turn out as society or my family expected, but I have to say I’m happy and content with life all the same 😊. It would be nice to have a partner to share life with someday, but like you said, nothing is guaranteed in life or will turn out the way you had planned. We have to find joy and fulfillment regardless 💕
I am 40, single, and I do not have children. Having been married before, let me a assure you that unmarried is 1 million times better than an unhappy marriage. I know married women that envy my position, and would run for the hills if they could afford to divorce.
@@CC-kr3mr agreed. I’d rather be single than marry the wrong person and is why I never did. Can’t imagine the difficulties of divorce and single parenthood and was always afraid of that outcome. There are silver linings to every choice.
I am in the same boat….50 never been married and no kids. Hope to find “my person” but f I don’t I’m still happy, grateful & thankful for the way my life has been.
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The pressure to get married and have kids this days..
With age comes wisdom and an ability to relax into yourself. I married in haste at 20, had my only son at 21, divorced after an horrific marriage at 30, fell into my career at 32 after redoing my education and degree, met the love of my life at 39, married him at 45…. Now 51 I am happily married with a lovely home, an amazing family and my perfect career for me. What is meant for you will not pass you by…..be open to new adventures, new experiences and say yes to most things cos you never know. 😊
Thankyou for sharing your experience xx
To be fair, it may pass you by. Not every thing that you wanted will come true. I very much wanted children and a life partner. Nothing in my life allowed that to happen. Making peace with what's not possible is a VERY difficult life lesson, but one that leads to the ultimate wisdom
My advice as someone in their 50s is to not let fear stop you from doing what you want to do. There was many comments in your video about not wanting to be judged, or being embarrassed but seriously no one else’s opinion matters. If you want to do something- do it. No one expects their relationship not to work out but sometimes they just don’t and holding on to it regardless of how bad it is does not make it better. You aren’t a better person because you stuck it out. In the last couple of years I left a relationship of 34 years and am on my own for the first time ever. Was their fear - hell yes. Do I have bad days - also yes but choose your hard in life. You can sit back and be too scared to try anything for fear of it not working out or being judged or you can do it and it is better than you ever dreamed. You are only 30 - I know that seems to be a ripe old age but in a blink of an eye you will be 50 and where do you want to be? What kind of life do you want to be living? Grab it with both hands and make it yours. Life is short
Thank you 🙏
Wow thank you so much for sharing! 💕
I think I needed to hear this today 💕
You can’t fix a broken person who doesn’t want to be fixed. As you age, you also stop caring what others think. So, just live your life and be happy. ❤
That is super helpful. To reframe the old saying that you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves, we really need to realise we can't help "fix" them if the broken don't want to be fixed. I'm going to hold on to your saying! Thank you. They are essentially broken, so we shouldn't waste our time sticking around too long.
Kourtney was never asking for too much from Scott her family or sisters and now she has all she’s ever wanted
It takes bravery and boundaries 😊
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I've never ever viewed her in this framework before, but Caitlin, you're right. She has gone through a lot, and drug abuse is no joke especially with true love and children involved. Just glad she left that chapter finally.
There are no guarantees in life. I married at 28, separated five years in, rekindled the marriage after two years and only had cat fur babies. I have no interested in following conventional concepts of "happiness". I needed the separation to find myself and feel confident in being alone. Some people fear loneliness more than anything, but remember that women often out live men and at some point you may have to experience it. The separation saved my marriage because it gave us both time to figure who we were as individuals. I never changed my last name and that was a bone of contention for my husband, but I am an only child and my Polish heritage is extremely important to me, while he was simply looking at it as a traditional patriarchal expectation. Never let society dictate your own happiness and always be honest and communicate clearly with the people you love.
👏 thanks for sharing this xx
Also, side note, travis paid for their entire wedding. The reason it was dolce and Gabbana is because Kourtney had an upcoming project with Dolce and Gabbana. She had already been meeting with them and working closely with them. Kim Kardashian was the one who is spreading misinformation, saying that their wedding was sponsored.
Ahh ok got it! Thanks for the clarification ☺️
There is no path, but one advice many women who want kids and no pressure to find the right partner should follow is: freeze your eggs!
We all find happiness on our own way and timing.
Kourtney gave so much to that show in the beginning. She showed her entire relationship with Scott and the world watched her birth her children. Even after stating she wanted privacy and took a step back she is still showing so much of her private life.
I love that she has finally found her 'person' and is happy. I hope they remain happy. Shes still giving so much for the show even now.
Kourtney holding that sign is a 'rip' from an early Blink video.
Im now much older but I had two children and my ex cheated on me while I was recovering from a C section from the birth of my youngest. I found out within a week of coming home from the hospital. I went a very long time without dating because I was so angry.
Omg that sounds horrific! I can’t imagine the pain you experienced
You sound in a much happier and healthier place now 💕
I am - that was the mid-90s. Everything is different now.@@CaitlinPawlowski
This video is great & I needed it. I’m 31 & I feel a bit directionless atm & it scares me especially around the realm of work. I moved home during Covid & I feel since then there no clear route out because rental market has gone crazy where I live. Anyway, I’m trying to be more positive & look for solutions not problems
With that mindset things will settle into place a lot faster im sure ❤️
Def can relate with you. Moved back home durning Covid and just when I finally built everything up to move out soon, I got laid off last week. Life is a roller coaster but Jesus is in control.
Of the Kardashians, i liked Kourtney the most. She dared to go for what she was passionate about, stod up to Kim and did not settle with Scott. She also look amazing and gave tip on how to take care of yourself to feel good as you age.
I always thought I would be married because everyone was married when they got to their 30s. However im not married at 41. Actually doesn't worry me anymore. Times have changed and you can get married at any age if you meet the right person. Now all my friends that were getting married are in their 40s and going through divorces. My boss at work was married to her childhood sweetheart and whilst she was pregnant she found out her husband was cheating with a younger GRADUATE at his work. They tried to get back together and work it out with counselling but in the end parted ways, he pretty much destroyed any element of trust and loyalty which is the foundation to a relationship. Left her in such a black hole of dispair and she got postpartum depression. it sounds like a horrible nightmare!
Too many low value unhealed broken, manchild Weak men are attracted to strong independent smart women! Choose your partners wisely ladies as its impacts so many parts of your life. I rather be lonely and single than deal with weak toxic men 😅
im 34, was displaced a wk ago from a company ive been with 10yrs. i was sad that i had climbed up and now i need to start over. but now i see it as a blessing in disguise as looking back, i could tell i had capped out and needed to go elsewhere to fully expand my wings.
I’m excited to learn of what your future holds ❤️
i think Kourtney is very resilient and she kept her confidence in herself. She has a positive mindset that helps her believe in good outcomes for herself no matter what. Deep down she is very strong. She has a youthful mentality and a constant smile that kept her going. She also is very conscious of herself taking care of her body and mind which is so important to come back faster from pain. I love Kourtney. Admire her😊
Thanks for watching! Xx
I have the benefit of hindsight and was very stressed about this stage of life - late 20s early 30s. I wish I could have not worried and enjoyed being in that age group more. I felt the pressure of all the things you spoke about but I ended up meeting my partner at 34 and had my daughter at 36 at that time I thought it was older than what I expected I would be having my first but now at 39 I look back and think I wasn't old at all and would even think of having another now and I also think if I hadnt have ended up having kids there would have bene so many other things i could have done that i can'
t do now with a child so the way you feel about it does get easier and change. So it gets better looking back and you have more time than you think and look at Kourtney having a baby at 44 :-) Always love your videos Caitlin thanks
Thankyou for much for sharing your experience 💕
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I’m 29, just got laid off from my job last week, no friends, no partner, no kids. Am I worried? Yes. Especially seeing my sister younger sister at that flourish. However I trust in Jesus and His path for me. I have no idea what’s next but luckily I’m not in control of that outcome ❤ Glory to His name.
Thank you for this video, Caitlin, retaining objectivity and hope in the midst of overwhelming challenges is really hard.
Thankyou for watching xx
Great video.
I am an older woman 48 tomorrow, I have been with my partner nearly 32 years we have a 16 year old son.
I was the woman who wasn't bothered about marriage I was shocked when I was proposed to I realise most women live for this.
I just think that what will be will be u can't live ur life worrying about something that may or may not happen in relationships.
If u want my advice for what it's worth is would be not to sleep on haven't children as we get older it gets harder to get pregnant that and the stresses of life can also stop this happening.
Deal with the things u can and don't worry about the things u can't things happen for a reason.
Great example with kourtney but they have a big fame bubble.
I hope this was helpful
Happy birthday! ❤️
There is no proverbial wall. I think it’s extremely important to take your life seriously and listen to your intuition and make decisions based on that, but I also think it’s incredibly important to trust the universe, and not force some thing if it is proving to you that it’s not your path. It’s so crazy to think that sometimes what God has a plan for you is so much bigger and better than something you are fighting for.
Caitlin is so so so motivating and every time she posts it puts a smile on my face.🤗💫💖
Hi from France, I am 43 years old and I just had my first child, I live my best life now before I was always wanted approbation or something from others, now I am strong, independent and I get my own money.
What a thoughtful insightful video. Hard to believe you used the Kardashians as an example...that worked!
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I turned 30 this year too and to say its hit me harder than any other age milestone so far in my life is an understatement...there is so much suffocating pressure on women to settle down and get married and have kids at this age, and its all so scary honestly. thank you so much for this video
I’m right here with you 😘
I'm 45, single and without children, life is not the same for everyone.
Absolutely agree with you there 💕
I absolutely love this video! As a fellow single 30 year old, thank you for making this video. :)
I really liked what you said: "What is meant for you will happen"
I truly feel that has been the case for me, and it's worked well.
It reminded me of the Spanish word "Que Sera, Sera", which means "Whatever Will Be, Will Be".
If it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant for us.
But even when one door closes, other doors will open.
I will put in my effort to do as much as I can to grow and evolve successfully, but then you just have to sit back and wait for what God will give us, which is the life that was meant for you.
Oh I love that! There is a song I think by the same name
I love that saying xx
You are amazing! Never stop making these videos ❤
Thankyou! ❤️
I know of two women who had a child at 50
I think we (as woman) are too focus on other people opinion and society expectation. I am not married but when you decide to be in relationship with someone, you commit to this person so to me, marriage is not that important.... Women should not be stress or afraid to say I want child free life but unfortunately, if you take this way, the other women with children will judge you and will think you are not fully accomplished which is completely wrong or the comment like "you are missing out... it is a beautiful experience.. etc)
I totally agree with you, you have to take what life will give you on the way and not to plan everything. You need to embrace life and enjoy to the fullest.
I needed this video today so much, keep up with the great work ❤️
Thankyou for watching ❤️
I needed to hear this.. I was secretly pannicking.
Many good points. My favorite was “Don’t take life too seriously“❤ If I may say that at the age of almost 50, after kids, marriage, divorce, disease and new love.
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At times you sound like my friend. We are 27 and she is worrying so much about not reaching whats expected of her by the age of 30, like we're going to stop existing after that. I don't agree with that, I grew up around older ladies and it always seemed they had an amazing life at the stage they were in. It's so sad that media (and by extension society) values youth so much that if you haven't been done with college, have a great job, married, have 30 kids by the age of like 12 you are failure in life. It's ridiculous the expectations that are put on us and sometimes it's completely unrealistic for some people. Just live your life and enjoy it now. Every stage is beautiful and serves a purpose.
Also, you sound like you care about other people's opinions, and my advice is, only one option matters - yours. I recently had that realization, and the way my life got exponentially better I can't even explain it to you. Stop worrying about what's expected of you by other people, and think of what you want. And if that alignes with general expectations than great and if it doesn't then f it, live your life FOR YOU and the way YOU want. Not for anyone else
love your realistic video topics.keep up the good work
Thank you! Will do!
This is very thought provoking content. I appreciate your real feelings and thoughts.
Thankyou so much xx
I don't really follow the Kardashians. I mean, I have never even seen one of their episodes. But I did hear something about Kourtney not wanting to be on the show anymore, and how the rest of the family gave her a hard time about it. You briefly mentioned and showed how Kim was giving her a hard time at the beginning of your video about her wanting to focus on her children and not so much run a business, but I think that may be missing from the video a little bit more. The fact that she has the presence of mind to know who she is and what is important to her and her mental health. It has to be hard to stand up to your family, when they may have been your source of strength when the relationship with the father of your children was rocky and horrible. To allow yourself to not let the guilt of them haven been there for you when you needed them to dictate how you chose to live your present requires so much strength. I know she is a flawed human, because we all are, but I respect her greatly for making those choices for herself and her family.
Very insightful video 😊❤
I'm 43 and just beginning to feel positive about most elements of my life, so from my perspective you are right that beautiful things can happen to you at any age-- and also that if you truly follow your own authentic self and do not accept toxicity, your life is more likely to be a winding road to a deeper sense of peace and happiness than a straight shot. All that being said, I don't know if Kourney Kardashian is a good example here. Her life is heavily impacted by celebrity, unimaginable wealth, and being surrounded by other famous and extremely wealthy people. One last note is pregnancy at 44 is not, for most women, a "miracle," just much less likely than it would have been a few years earlier.
All that being said, Caitlin I'm so happy to see you learning and growing and evolving. I think you're an awesome, intelligent lady with a huge heart and great wit and humor. These trainsitions you're going through-- in which all the priorities in your life are changing-- are major and really challenging.
Thankyou for taking the time to watch and share your thoughts ❤️
thank you for this content 💛
Thankyou so much for watching ☺️
i am in a relationship that is going nowhere.i am in my 50s and cannot decide whether i should stay or leave
I really enjoyed this video. I’m around the same age as you (31), married, and my friends are starting to have babies. I’m 95% sure I want a baby, but there’s the 5% of me that questions if I really want that. I don’t want to give up the life and freedom that we have now, but I also don’t want to wait too long to start trying either. I think if for some reason we weren’t able to have a child, I’d be okay with it because I also agree that things happen for a reason. ❤
Can totally relate to you minus the 95% I honestly don’t know where I’m at with the baby front 😂 xx
Parents have told me if you don’t 100% want kids, don’t have kids. It’s much worse to regret having kids than to regret not having kids. I’m 32F and had to think about it deeply recently. I definitely don’t want kids because I like peace and quiet, I like sleep, and I don’t want to give up my life and money for a small human.
Hormones make you want kids (and IME the broody phase passes), that and societal peer pressure and FOMO, wanting to fit in etc. So many people have said to me if they had their time over again they wouldn't have kids...Having said that, for those who are certain they do want kids, there's no right time, there'll always be some reason to wait, so just get on with it because fertility does decline and sooner than a lot of people think
Happy for Kourtneys 2nd public love except he’s so gross looking. He’s not really exemplary, more like the bones left over at the buffet. There was also drama with Shana, his prior wife and reality star. It’s not all clean and flowery.
I thought I would have children when I was around 30-35....That did not happen. And thank god for that. I was in the wrong relationship. Fast fwd, after years of trying and a couple of IVFs, no children. I still haven't given up...I'm telling myself....And another part of myself is saying: "But do you even want a child?"....So here we are. :D
If you're not ready, don't do it. KISS method. Keep it simple, and you will minimise the extra bullshit.
The Kardashians are ridiculous and people need STOP caring what they are doing and what they think. Be yourself. Be an individual. Don't be herded by society.
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I also don't think being married is important to have children either
I thought you were at least 10 years older😮