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She’s amazing! A natural born therapist and she has beautiful hands that move like she is conducting an orchestra and she is. Good dynamics of coping skills. Hopefully, he will heal of his original pain of abandonment.
Especially without one of those bullshit college degrees, Katie's "The Work," is head and shoulders above therapy. People heal themselves...amazing! Namaste
This came to me when I needed it the most. My thoughts have lately been " I am alone", "Nobody loves me" but the truth is I am not alone and I love myself
Thank you! It’s amazing how it works. I write all my stressful and uncomfortable thoughts and do The work with them) before going to sleep or earlier during the day. Often I do it immediately when angry thought appears,and thanks God I do it🙏I can see that my thought was an illusion ,and because of this fake thought I could have been argued with my Son or Mum.And after or during The work all you feel is LOVE and it feels like I am LOVE myself,just PURE LOVE,and there are tears,tears of LOVE with smile. Thanks a lot.
As a trauma therapist for almost 40 years, this is good in dealing with surface alleviation of a situation. In part to get in touch with the power of thoughts. It can prepare the person to go deeper into their pain at a later time in the future. However, thoughts are fueled by unprocessed early emotions. Naming them as Negating emotions is negating the person and can hinder the person from processing them in order to retrieve the true person. The greater the wounding the deeper the issues or symptoms of trauma. Unless the roots of trauma are processed on 5 levels at least the hamster wheel of that cycle will resurface. The current circumstances are echoes of earlier wounds and the cycle will repeat itself later on.
I agree I think this method works for more everyday niggles and stuff that Is just starting so as to nip it in the bud. Deep seated stuff from years ago needs more processing of emotions.
It just 'clicked' for me and I will continue to choose to believe it!!! I think the heart of Katie's wisdom is that we can choose to believe our thoughts or not. And when we continue to believe the thoughts we had during stressful, traumatic, etc. etc times in our lives, we continue to suffer. Because we believe about ourselves, the feelings we had/conclusions we drew in that situation! I think the worksheet serves to transport you back to that time and elicit the bare bones feelings/thoughts you had. And the 4 questions serve to prove to yourself that what you believed then (and if it is causing you stress now, you still believe today) is not true. This took me quite a while to process and I will say that I did read on her website and attempt the worksheet before watching the video. I think that helped me. Happy heart to all :)
I love how radical she is. Relationships don't work because we want to control and manipulate the others in order to get our needs (wants) met rather than respecting what they want or need. Whenever we want anything other than what is, we're arguing w/ reality and we loose, but only 200% of the time. Thank you BK for freeing me.
Hey, if being radical is a big part of how Katie helps thousands people all over the world to heal, I'm all for radicalism. Thanks for sharing. Namaste
Deb Harris you can want all you want as long as you don't expect someone else to make you happy while they are unhappy, because pleasing you forever to the detriment of their joy will not last. 'There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that others will not feel insecure around you' Marianne Williams. Peace
is to be taken in the moment, because this is what is - for example (s)he doesn't like me. Otherwise of course we have wants and needs to address on our own.
Everything happens once the thought of it can repeat in our minds eye for a lifetime and if we believe it we will live it again and again and again blessed work Kate x
There is a part of our anger that is very sane, the part that remembers very strong memories of abuse or abandonment, when we are angry we are remembering those memories. It is sane to feel anger then realize what we are remembering.
wow. thank you Byron. He lied to me and when I got the truth I got angry at the truth. Truth being the opposite to lie and that's what I wanted from him. Honesty is one of my core values. Now I choose to forgive him for lying to me and accepting the truth.
Harmony Botya...Really, good for you! One bonus here for you, you may not have figured on. That is, forgiveness is ALWAYS for the one who forgives. Regardless if the other party accepts or declines the forgiveness. Namaste (Which means I honor the God within you).
amazing just amazing work . I LOVE YOU BYRON KATIE. THANK YOU FROM MY HEART FOR SHARING WHAT HOW THE WORK CAN CHANGE OUR LIVES. THANK YOU. XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Thanks a lot for this! I also enjoy Byron Katie. For my spiritual path I have also been loving a lot of Sri Avinash myself recently. #SriAvinashDo 💗 It feels like my life has changed for the best just from watching Sri Avinash's Satsang teachings.
All one has to do is look st Byron Katie who went from ten years of deep suicidal depression , agoraphobia and more and in a nanosecond she went into complete JOY. - no processing trauma. No 5 levels. The ego loves complexity and doership. Total freedom is a potentially a nanosecond awsy from all of us . The great Indian yogi sage Rama Krishna once said : “ God is simple; Everything else is complex
I am 62 and live on my own I know who I was angry at. I have been given labels autism schizoid BLPD I believe it was avoidant personality disorder. I have used oils and flowers essences and never changed and overcome my fear of intimacy. I have written poetry done DIY lost my interests in exercise and creativity and I hardly eat. I deceived myself by trying to be a flower therapist and reflexologist. I do not how to socialise. I left home 41 years ago because of my fear of other people. I have watched everyone on you tube except you. I view my thoughts in a loose detached way but they still control me. I am insecure and have a lot of anger and difficulty communicating. there was no secure attachment with my parents. started work in my 30's as I had epilepsy. I have a weak ego I can feel the stabbing in my solar plexus. I saw a NHS therapist who was sitting over the left hand side of her chair on my left which freaked me out she said you are sexually suppressed you are no good for therapy. I saw her years later in a therapeutic community and I had a breakdown. how can I use the 4 questions to talk myself out of this please?
An unexamined life is not worth living. Socrates. Katies work and ideas are not new, its Greek practical philosophy. The power of reason and investigation. Its so beautifully western and updated our times. I am sure she got here independently of Socrates and his Stotic friends but the core insights are the same. Sickness is a hindrance to the body, but not to your ability to choose, unless that is your choice. Lameness is a hindrance to the leg, but not to your ability to choose. Say this to yourself with regard to everything that happens, then you will see such obstacles as hindrances to something else, but not to yourself. Epictetus Kate comes at Socrates insight in this sentence An unexamined life is not loving itself.
There is another great turn around for the first part of the guy with the break-up... "I abandoned her"... He left for a full month after being together for two and a half months. That might be why she didn't feel connected.
A man yest passed me and said he killed people. It is the 2nd time a man has said that in the last 6 months! I broke my hip recently! because of the fear that got in, from intimidation, staring, interrupting following. Like all the Abuse I put to one side came back in the last 2 years. Fascinating talk. Ommm
The feeling of pain is the believe in something which is not true. Either try to find that believe or really go look at the pain without trying to get rid of it, not wanting it, trying to push it away. Just except it as it is look it it deeply, really try to feel what it is made of, let yourself sink into it and watch what is happening! Does the intensity change? If it stays like that, would you still be ok? If not, why not? Investigate! 😄😘
Katie is truly magical. She helps people heal themselves by looking within themselves for the truth. The Work? She encourages us to stop all the lying thoughts we've been telling ourselves for many years. Doing her work, we free ourselves from bullshit beliefs! OMG! Namaste
31:04 Slapped me, the way Michael slapped me. Now, I know that I'm a fake and that I've been pretending. He exposed my pretentious self, he fucking exposed me. And I have to put or shut up now... 32:19 It's you. It's not "the world", it's you, the belief, emotional composition and paradigms about the world. Destroy them with self inquiry. 53:16 "No one can hurt me, that's my job."
Com'on man! It was only 4 months and you were long distance for half of it. You were in love of some fantasy idea of her.. not the actual her. I sure don't miss dating.. so much rejection. It gets easier with every one but still it's always an ego blow.
this seems confusing....I usually get this type of thing and I think that I get the essence of what she is getting at but I find her communication a bit off, but perhaps it's just over my head
Sunny Chic...Certainly not to defend Katie, but I find her "The Work" to be simple but not so easy to follow. OTOH, her work, the 4 questions and the turnarounds, can be really life changing. Katie says to meditate on your issue by slowing down on the individual questions on your JYN worksheets and to take time to answer TRUTHFULLY. The Work isn't a quick fix. Namaste
some of this makes sense, but some of it is ridiculous. for example. the guy who said they were angry the other person continually payed bills late and incurred late fees. she said is it true and he said no. WHAT? clearly it is true and proof is in the past bills that show the incurred fees. and by denying it's true just because it's in the past keeps people from learning from experience. it is true, you can't change them, so either pay them yourself or accept their will be a late fee. another example: the woman who said she has been thinking for a few years the same thought that she is not as successful as she hoped she would be. when asked is it true, she said no. WHAT? i feel like these people are answering no because that's the answer byron is looking for. am i missing something? and did you ever eat a banana, is it true. YES. just because it happened in the past does not make it untrue. it just makes it the past. i could take a picture of myself eating a banana and that would prove it. again, i get the idea that we tell ourselves stories and that part i can accept but there's a bunch of BS that seems like people following the party line without thinking.
Jackie...Thanks for sharing. But, given what you wrote here, are you trying to tell others what their answers should be? Are you a psychotherapist? If so, you'd really learn something empowering from Katie on how to let people be themselves and say what's true for themselves and then heal themselves. Fact is...that's a large part of Katie's work. Namaste
Hi Jackie, I think the issue is that when we answer the questions on the worksheet, we have to strip away what I process as 'extra stuff' and get down to the bare bones of the situation, the deepest part of how we felt during that time. In the video, Katie does not answer Q#1 as "I am angry at Paul because we are arguing about his smoking". She says.."because he won't listen to me". "He won't listen" is what is left when you strip the extra stuff, like the smoking and the kitchen, out of the story. Happy heart to all :)
There could be a lot of answers to why that man answered "no" to the question "Is it that true that she never pays the bills on time?" Here's one example, if she has ever paid even one bill on time, then the answer to the question is "untrue." That man knows the in's and out's of that woman he's talking about, it's not for us to speculate on the outside as to the particulars. BUT, here's the more important point, the "Is it true" question is really to make you step out of your subjective viewpoint of a judgmental lens. In fact, all four questions are doing the same thing. They are all trying to progressively get to you detach, detach and detach some more from the belief you're holding onto as being the only eternal truth that encompasses every possibility, every explanation -- in other words, omnipotent and omniscient. We all know that that is impossible for us humans. So you know (without necessarily knowing how) the back-of-the-book answer is that whatever opinion/judgment/thought you are attached to, with enough meditation, you will eventually come to see that it is not "true." The process of getting there is what frees you. And you have to "work" your way through it until it becomes your second nature. That's when you are free. Hope this helps. :)
Self inquiring is powerful to calm your anger and let go of your projections on others, but it doesn't work if you are dealing with addiction. Because you can forever beat yourself up with self inquiry and end up with smaller slice of life with people who are never emotionally available and no room for empathy for your need due to their addiction. Addiction is whatever escapism that compromise intimacy with their own feeling hence with other's feelings. I like her work but it's not comprehensive.
Izzat a problem for you? If so, my bet is you never did a personal Judge Your Neighbor worksheet. For Katie to say nothing, she sure has captured half the world with saying nothing. I want to learn how to do that too. LOL
Donny Rothbardt half the world? Lol. There are more people that have heard of Mohammed the pedophile than this woman. Popularity does not mean the individual is intelligent. This woman is not intelligent, if you want to hear intelligence check out Ravi Zecharias.
N Beers...You're absolutely right! Not everyone appreciates Katie's work. However, as a long time Life & Spiritual Coach (age 85) and a Katie devotee for over 12-13 years, I'd love to know what personal issue held your interest for 50 some minutes? But thanks for sharing. Namaste
you're not supposed to learn anything. in fact it is the other way around. a person who follows through with her work vigilantly will find themselves unlearning a lot of ideas and beliefs
belief in anything,other than your Unperturbed, calm and peaceful nature,must imply an opposite.Sin = Holiness..This is a dream we live in. God's dreaming it.it like being in a play in the local Mental asylum,and BELIEVING it to ALL be REAL IT IS NOT!!! . So,go ahead and do what you please.As long as your Self Pleasure does NO harm what so ever ,physically or Psychologically, to another living Entity,Then you attract the Law of the Universe..which we ALL are..living,breathig Conciousness.And yes,believe in your Masters..Christ,Buddha,Mohammed..all others ( since they also apperaed in this grand Illlusion,and guided peoples in their geographical areas,thru various times in History).because they ALL spoke of SOMETHIMG VASTLY GREATER...ELESWHERE IN CONCIOUSNESS..NOT SPACE....where we will all go.
The proof I ate beakfast is that I shit it out! That is just one of many proofs... Maybe this analogy was just a miss... The banana one too... I will just keep listening hoping that isn't the point of this video
if you don't like this or don't getit. Just wait until you discover ho'oponopono. It takes all of it, everything and only makes self responsible period. 😉
You guys don't get it? I fully understand. OTOH, and after over 12 years, I've found that Katie's techniques to be simple but not so easy to understand. However, "The Work" is all about YOURSELF...and answering the 4 simple questions YOURSELF...mostly in regards to your unquestioned and unsolicited thoughts...which Katie claims is why we human beings suffer. I agree! On the other hand, as a long time professional Life & Spiritual Coach, I've also found that simplicity for most human beings to be much too complicated. Yep true! So we impatiently demand a quick fix. So here, slow down...REALLY! Namaste
That's the whole thing she's challenging. Feelings are self-validating. What we tell ourselves subconsciously is that "I feel this way, and so it must be true." That's how we get sucked in. Katie presents to us that thoughts produce feelings. So if you feel badly about something, it's a sign to you that your thoughts are wrong. Rather than accept it wholesale that whatever you feel is innate, you can check yourself to see if your thoughts are reflective of the reality. If not, then you can re-examine it from different perspectives. Now, when that thought shows up again, you won't just attach yourself to it (attach means believe) and accept it wholesale as the truth. You are now more aware that there could be multiple perspectives. In so doing, you restore a better balance, and you are not so attached, and you are more allowing of directly engaging with the reality of things rather than through the filter of your own belief. As an effect, you will also have changed your feelings. And that's when you can really come to the understanding that feelings aren't just innate, they are constructed. And they are not there to tell us what to do per se. But rather as a beacon of light to tell us where we may need to examine more. Hope this makes sense to you
What did she mean with the bananas 🍌 and the proof that you ate one? She said it’s not real because you don’t have proof and it doesn’t exist? And then with the rape example: she’s glad it’s over, she’s her own victim because she keeps reliving the rape in her mind. Does that mean it’s good that he only raped her once and she needs to stop thinking about it because in her mind the rape keeps happening? I don’t get it.
I've been watching quite some of her videos over the last two weeks and I felt that she was kind of jumping beetween her thoughts in this one a bit (maybe it was her xyth session and if this one would have been the first for me to see I would've been massively confused, too) - from what she said in the other videos I think she means it like that: you can't prove your thoughts. It is literally only in your head. That also means whatever you believe is real for you. But you can't prove to others that it's true and also you shouldn't because it is your own belief and therefore your business. Also you cannot change what others believe about themselves or about you, you can only change what you believe. And also also: if some thoughts reoccur again and again then chances are that you yourself don't believe either what you are telling yourself and it would be worth your while to investigate and find something more fitting and then the thought or situations like that will vanish little by little. She says the natural state is love and peace so if you feel other than that then it is your ego that wants to prove it's right rather than seeing your truth. At least that's what I got so far. If someone raped you then that is a truly traumatic experience of course. The work is - if I got that right - about that whatever (traumatic) experience you have, that the real trauma comes from how you think about that experience. So one part is as you already pointed out that if you revisit it again and again, it will traumatize you even more and also it will keep you in that state of mind even though it is in the past. But usually the reason why things traumatize us is how they change what we believe. Like I am a victim or I deserved that or maybe I provoked it or people are bad it will happen again anytime soon or that person deserves the same fate...stuff like that. And if you think like that it is war, but war doesn't in fact hurt anyone but you. So in that sense it would be freeing yourself to lose those thoughts and replace them with kinder thoughts (about yourself and other people). And leave the violence with the one that created it, for it is their problem. In one of the videos for instance she told about how once someone hold a gun to her head and that she was working through it in the moment to not be afraid or full of anger and someone (if I remember it right) couldn't believe it and said something like but this is so clearly wrong of that other person and she said somethin like but it is my life and if those would have been the last moments of my life I want to decide how to live them and I don't want to live them in fear or hate. So in that sense it's somethin like yes being raped is traumatizing but you deserve to not ruin your life over that. I am still a beginner at this so it's just how I understood it so far, no guarantee ;). If you are still interested maybe watch another session with her, there a plenty there that seem a bit more structured for "beginners" like us :)
Doesn't seem right? Really? But does it seem "right" when Katie helps people heal themselves of every possible problem, trauma and terrible personal issue one could possibly have? Hey, Rabab, I'm a professional life coach and I don't need to defend her work after observing the impact she has had with thousands of people. I SAW IT HAPPEN! Namaste
I love Katie and The Work but I don't fully understand it in certain circumstances. When the girl in the audience mentioned rape, I didn't feel what she said was really answering the question. And it also seemed like she was avoiding it by comparing it to a slap in the face. Now this could be, as she said is such complicated "taboo" topic that they would not have enough time to even scratch the surface, makes sense. But I am still wondering how the work could actually apply to ANYTHING. It always seems that the fault goes back to the one inquiring. I may be missing something but as much as I can follow and understand The Work, their are a lot of unanswered questions or her simply avoiding or beating around the bush. I love you Katie but I am struggling with this and other parts of the work xoxo from south florida
interesting.. A lot of it overlaps yoga. witness, detachment. ability to change mood.. I have nothing held from a long time ago! due practice, so much 'american' interpretation goes into denial.. not grounded. Child abuse and rape happen! it is not the 'idea' in the head the person assaulted and traumatised. People can be independently unkind, to be deny abuse.. It is dangerous. Let go without!! In a rape case it IS him.. In child abuse It IS abuse.. It is not about fear, I let go pain around child abuse.. the let go! helped me.. I never had to make his action ok.. 40 yrs later, having imagined that forgiveness transformed him.. I found it had not.. He had continued to abuse.. I ummmmmmm . not sure where I am with this right now.. Some useful tools and yet there is a discomfort and denial in some of this.. Omm om om
She’s attacking the thoughts of the person doing the work as the are trying so hard to believe their beliefs even it’s obvious it’s the very thing making them miserable she making fun of the thought
There are far too many people like this out there making a fortune off ignorant people. This is not a spiritual teaching. No real teacher has an "experience" and immediately goes out and begins to teach. They don't know enough to do such a thing. Nonsense.....worksheets.....???
CCC. Hey, try to be a little kinder to us "ignorant" people, ok? Tell me, CCC...is what you posted here your opinion, or is it the truth? Do you know the difference? Or are you claiming you're always completely truthful? Who mentors you when you're in need? Your Pastor, I bet. Namaste
CC C...You're perfectly right of course! Those who are making lots of money are charlatans, huh? You ain't alone there. However, I'm one of those "ignorant" people you mentioned. And as a long time professional Life & Spiritual Coach (over 35 years) I've learned that, through many clients, that we're all ignorant regarding all the things there is to know. However, and for your information, Katie doesn't claim to be a teacher, Spiritual or otherwise. That's just your ass/u/me position. Teachers? There's loads of "teachers" ruining our kids minds in the American public school system. But you are right! Dead right! Namaste
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She’s amazing! A natural born therapist and she has beautiful hands that move like she is conducting an orchestra and she is. Good dynamics of coping skills. Hopefully, he will heal of his original pain of abandonment.
She's everything a therapist is supposed to be.
Especially without one of those bullshit college degrees, Katie's "The Work," is head and shoulders above therapy. People heal themselves...amazing! Namaste
Indeed
That’s great to hear since my therapist recommended her
Yes. You can go through therapy for decades and NEVER feel better.
This came to me when I needed it the most. My thoughts have lately been " I am alone", "Nobody loves me" but the truth is I am not alone and I love myself
Johanna Lundqvist i am alone but not lonely.
Johanna Lundqvist Eyedea said "I'm lonely, but everybody's lonely so I know at least I'm not alone"
YES
How one perceives word changes how one feels Alone = All one
we are together in our loneliness
Thank you! It’s amazing how it works. I write all my stressful and uncomfortable thoughts and do The work with them) before going to sleep or earlier during the day. Often I do it immediately when angry thought appears,and thanks God I do it🙏I can see that my thought was an illusion ,and because of this fake thought I could have been argued with my Son or Mum.And after or during The work all you feel is LOVE and it feels like I am LOVE myself,just PURE LOVE,and there are tears,tears of LOVE with smile. Thanks a lot.
As a trauma therapist for almost 40 years, this is good in dealing with surface alleviation of a situation. In part to get in touch with the power of thoughts. It can prepare the person to go deeper into their pain at a later time in the future. However, thoughts are fueled by unprocessed early emotions. Naming them as Negating emotions is negating the person and can hinder the person from processing them in order to retrieve the true person. The greater the wounding the deeper the issues or symptoms of trauma. Unless the roots of trauma are processed on 5 levels at least the hamster wheel of that cycle will resurface. The current circumstances are echoes of earlier wounds and the cycle will repeat itself later on.
I agree I think this method works for more everyday niggles and stuff that Is just starting so as to nip it in the bud. Deep seated stuff from years ago needs more processing of emotions.
It just 'clicked' for me and I will continue to choose to believe it!!! I think the heart of Katie's wisdom is that we can choose to believe our thoughts or not. And when we continue to believe the thoughts we had during stressful, traumatic, etc. etc times in our lives, we continue to suffer. Because we believe about ourselves, the feelings we had/conclusions we drew in that situation! I think the worksheet serves to transport you back to that time and elicit the bare bones feelings/thoughts you had. And the 4 questions serve to prove to yourself that what you believed then (and if it is causing you stress now, you still believe today) is not true. This took me quite a while to process and I will say that I did read on her website and attempt the worksheet before watching the video. I think that helped me. Happy heart to all :)
Queen of Self-Inquiry, and Shawls.
So true,she,s great
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You are absolutely a god send Katie.
I love how radical she is. Relationships don't work because we want to control and manipulate the others in order to get our needs (wants) met rather than respecting what they want or need. Whenever we want anything other than what is, we're arguing w/ reality and we loose, but only 200% of the time. Thank you BK for freeing me.
Hey, if being radical is a big part of how Katie helps thousands people all over the world to heal, I'm all for radicalism. Thanks for sharing. Namaste
Deb Harris you can want all you want as long as you don't expect someone else to make you happy while they are unhappy, because pleasing you forever to the detriment of their joy will not last. 'There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that others will not feel insecure around you' Marianne Williams. Peace
is to be taken in the moment, because this is what is - for example (s)he doesn't like me. Otherwise of course we have wants and needs to address on our own.
I think we need to find our inner Katie!
Everything happens once the thought of it can repeat in our minds eye for a lifetime and if we believe it we will live it again and again and again blessed work Kate x
I love the look. I’m looking forward to wearing grey tops and a wrap the rest of my life.
Byron Katie has balls of steel.
The gentleman who came up. Precious!
There is a part of our anger that is very sane, the part that remembers very strong memories of abuse or abandonment, when we are angry we are remembering those memories. It is sane to feel anger then realize what we are remembering.
incredible...i had to hear this over and over to get it-not too crazy about ever being hit hard...but its over!
wow. thank you Byron. He lied to me and when I got the truth I got angry at the truth. Truth being the opposite to lie and that's what I wanted from him. Honesty is one of my core values. Now I choose to forgive him for lying to me and accepting the truth.
He lied to me: is it true?
Harmony Botya...Really, good for you! One bonus here for you, you may not have figured on. That is, forgiveness is ALWAYS for the one who forgives. Regardless if the other party accepts or declines the forgiveness. Namaste (Which means I honor the God within you).
Thoughts aren't true - how freeing to get this while it's happening...
This is powerful stuff. It takes discipline to get into deep inquiry of our issues, but it is good to see what successful results people achieve.
amazing just amazing work . I LOVE YOU BYRON KATIE. THANK YOU FROM MY HEART FOR SHARING WHAT HOW THE WORK CAN CHANGE OUR LIVES. THANK YOU. XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I am such a big fan. Think the work is an amazing gift. Thank you so much!
He does worksheets on her too.😂
A beautiful process of enquiry placing mind in its proper place and bringing Awareness to the fore.
The patience of her with that man❤
I just did the work and it helped. I didn't think it would work for everything.
Awesome video, I received a breakthrough while watching🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
1 hr. in, genuine good laugh spontaneous in room. real stuff.
What an excellent seminar! Wow...I learned so much....about MYSELF!!! 🥰🥰🥰
Here is someone trying to help us and add beauty to the world and someone always has to get up and try and prove her wrong
Byron Katie is amazing. It's astonishing how effective the Work is when you read a book. But I'm not able to do it on myself.
youre not able... is it true? =) Try it out. like really sit and write it down, a paper really helps!!
Shadowwork is HARD 💙💙💙
I hope reencarnation exists and Katie is reborn about 100 times more :)
We need that. :)
Thanks a lot for this! I also enjoy Byron Katie.
For my spiritual path I have also been loving a lot of Sri Avinash myself recently. #SriAvinashDo 💗
It feels like my life has changed for the best just from watching Sri Avinash's Satsang teachings.
The Work only works if you only want to be happy and just happy. Anything else is control.
All one has to do is look st Byron Katie who went from ten years of deep suicidal depression , agoraphobia and more and in a nanosecond she went into complete JOY. - no processing trauma. No 5 levels. The ego loves complexity and doership. Total freedom is a potentially a nanosecond awsy from all of us .
The great Indian yogi sage Rama Krishna once said :
“ God is simple; Everything else is complex
Over my head but it's good anyway nice to see audience enjoying.
Jonathan Davis' song 'What You Believe' brought me here.
I am 62 and live on my own I know who I was angry at. I have been given labels autism schizoid BLPD I believe it was avoidant personality disorder. I have used oils and flowers essences and never changed and overcome my fear of intimacy. I have written poetry done DIY lost my interests in exercise and creativity and I hardly eat. I deceived myself by trying to be a flower therapist and reflexologist. I do not how to socialise. I left home 41 years ago because of my fear of other people. I have watched everyone on you tube except you. I view my thoughts in a loose detached way but they still control me. I am insecure and have a lot of anger and difficulty communicating. there was no secure attachment with my parents. started work in my 30's as I had epilepsy. I have a weak ego I can feel the stabbing in my solar plexus. I saw a NHS therapist who was sitting over the left hand side of her chair on my left which freaked me out she said you are sexually suppressed you are no good for therapy. I saw her years later in a therapeutic community and I had a breakdown. how can I use the 4 questions to talk myself out of this please?
An unexamined life is not worth living. Socrates.
Katies work and ideas are not new, its Greek practical philosophy.
The power of reason and investigation.
Its so beautifully western and updated our times.
I am sure she got here independently of Socrates and his Stotic friends but the core insights are the same.
Sickness is a hindrance to the body, but not to your ability to choose, unless that is your choice. Lameness is a hindrance to the leg, but not to your ability to choose. Say this to yourself with regard to everything that happens, then you will see such obstacles as hindrances to something else, but not to yourself. Epictetus
Kate comes at Socrates insight in this sentence
An unexamined life is not loving itself.
I wish these recording where LOUDER!
In headphones its much louder.
There is another great turn around for the first part of the guy with the break-up... "I abandoned her"... He left for a full month after being together for two and a half months. That might be why she didn't feel connected.
A man yest passed me and said he killed people. It is the 2nd time a man has said that in the last 6 months! I broke my hip recently! because of the fear that got in, from intimidation, staring, interrupting following. Like all the Abuse I put to one side came back in the last 2 years. Fascinating talk. Ommm
wow......wow ow wow...i get it......belief is what seperates us ..the movie is not real....tanx alot...
Bob Turano q
i cant erase my feelings of pain
Abraham hicks maybe more helpful to for you
The feeling of pain is the believe in something which is not true. Either try to find that believe or really go look at the pain without trying to get rid of it, not wanting it, trying to push it away. Just except it as it is look it it deeply, really try to feel what it is made of, let yourself sink into it and watch what is happening! Does the intensity change? If it stays like that, would you still be ok? If not, why not? Investigate! 😄😘
How is your pain today, Karen?
How is it now?
So cool to see her again :D
It's so inspiring!
its so unique amazing and motivatonal
Katie is truly magical. She helps people heal themselves by looking within themselves for the truth. The Work? She encourages us to stop all the lying thoughts we've been telling ourselves for many years. Doing her work, we free ourselves from bullshit beliefs! OMG! Namaste
31:04 Slapped me, the way Michael slapped me. Now, I know that I'm a fake and that I've been pretending. He exposed my pretentious self, he fucking exposed me. And I have to put or shut up now...
32:19 It's you. It's not "the world", it's you, the belief, emotional composition and paradigms about the world. Destroy them with self inquiry.
53:16 "No one can hurt me, that's my job."
Com'on man! It was only 4 months and you were long distance for half of it. You were in love of some fantasy idea of her.. not the actual her. I sure don't miss dating.. so much rejection. It gets easier with every one but still it's always an ego blow.
A lot can happen in 4 months. Why judge him? We don't know what the relationship was like.
this seems confusing....I usually get this type of thing and I think that I get the essence of what she is getting at but I find her communication a bit off, but perhaps it's just over my head
nope after listening to this i was more confused about it all than before!
The lady who the man speaks about WAS a coward. This lady is a hack.
Sunny Chic...Certainly not to defend Katie, but I find her "The Work" to be simple but not so easy to follow. OTOH, her work, the 4 questions and the turnarounds, can be really life changing. Katie says to meditate on your issue by slowing down on the individual questions on your JYN worksheets and to take time to answer TRUTHFULLY. The Work isn't a quick fix. Namaste
When the student is ready the teacher will appear, and you wont have to teach your self to be where you are.
Sunny Chic i
yes,HERE and NOW :-) Greetings from Cologne/Germany
Could you please put subtitles in video?
Hello Ella, that's a nice idea indeed. Thx for all the f/b work. xx
She still won't tell me where to get the magic cockroach!
That's a very negative perspective Arikm7. Is it true?
@@jackdawcaw4514 ...it was a joke, I think...
🤣 "the magic cockroach" 🤣... bless it.
@@mssummerrose1 yeah, I also think it was a joke.
People always want a piece of Tony Parson’s magic carpet as well.😂
Thank u Katie :)
some of this makes sense, but some of it is ridiculous. for example. the guy who said they were angry the other person continually payed bills late and incurred late fees. she said is it true and he said no. WHAT? clearly it is true and proof is in the past bills that show the incurred fees. and by denying it's true just because it's in the past keeps people from learning from experience. it is true, you can't change them, so either pay them yourself or accept their will be a late fee. another example: the woman who said she has been thinking for a few years the same thought that she is not as successful as she hoped she would be. when asked is it true, she said no. WHAT? i feel like these people are answering no because that's the answer byron is looking for. am i missing something? and did you ever eat a banana, is it true. YES. just because it happened in the past does not make it untrue. it just makes it the past. i could take a picture of myself eating a banana and that would prove it. again, i get the idea that we tell ourselves stories and that part i can accept but there's a bunch of BS that seems like people following the party line without thinking.
Jackie...Thanks for sharing. But, given what you wrote here, are you trying to tell others what their answers should be? Are you a psychotherapist? If so, you'd really learn something empowering from Katie on how to let people be themselves and say what's true for themselves and then heal themselves. Fact is...that's a large part of Katie's work. Namaste
Hi Jackie, I think the issue is that when we answer the questions on the worksheet, we have to strip away what I process as 'extra stuff' and get down to the bare bones of the situation, the deepest part of how we felt during that time. In the video, Katie does not answer Q#1 as "I am angry at Paul because we are arguing about his smoking". She says.."because he won't listen to me". "He won't listen" is what is left when you strip the extra stuff, like the smoking and the kitchen, out of the story. Happy heart to all :)
There could be a lot of answers to why that man answered "no" to the question "Is it that true that she never pays the bills on time?" Here's one example, if she has ever paid even one bill on time, then the answer to the question is "untrue." That man knows the in's and out's of that woman he's talking about, it's not for us to speculate on the outside as to the particulars. BUT, here's the more important point, the "Is it true" question is really to make you step out of your subjective viewpoint of a judgmental lens. In fact, all four questions are doing the same thing. They are all trying to progressively get to you detach, detach and detach some more from the belief you're holding onto as being the only eternal truth that encompasses every possibility, every explanation -- in other words, omnipotent and omniscient. We all know that that is impossible for us humans. So you know (without necessarily knowing how) the back-of-the-book answer is that whatever opinion/judgment/thought you are attached to, with enough meditation, you will eventually come to see that it is not "true." The process of getting there is what frees you. And you have to "work" your way through it until it becomes your second nature. That's when you are free. Hope this helps. :)
45:36-45:40 I felt that, wow
Wouldn't a full stomach be the proof that I ate breakfast... or a scar that I had an accident... thks for clarifying
Self inquiring is powerful to calm your anger and let go of your projections on others, but it doesn't work if you are dealing with addiction. Because you can forever beat yourself up with self inquiry and end up with smaller slice of life with people who are never emotionally available and no room for empathy for your need due to their addiction. Addiction is whatever escapism that compromise intimacy with their own feeling hence with other's feelings. I like her work but it's not comprehensive.
I can't find Byron vids about major life crisis.. Just boyfriend left wife makes me angry..
Amazing.
so inspiring
How should I call the sentiment of feeling a worthless piece of shit??
Connecting moment to moment wow what a job
I listened for 50 minutes and didn't learn anything. This woman is amazing at saying nothing.
Izzat a problem for you? If so, my bet is you never did a personal Judge Your Neighbor worksheet. For Katie to say nothing, she sure has captured half the world with saying nothing. I want to learn how to do that too. LOL
Donny Rothbardt half the world? Lol. There are more people that have heard of Mohammed the pedophile than this woman. Popularity does not mean the individual is intelligent. This woman is not intelligent, if you want to hear intelligence check out Ravi Zecharias.
N Beers...You're absolutely right! Not everyone appreciates Katie's work. However, as a long time Life & Spiritual Coach (age 85) and a Katie devotee for over 12-13 years, I'd love to know what personal issue held your interest for 50 some minutes? But thanks for sharing. Namaste
you're not supposed to learn anything. in fact it is the other way around. a person who follows through with her work vigilantly will find themselves unlearning a lot of ideas and beliefs
Is the worksheet available. I think this would really help engage with this work
thework.com It's all free and downloadable
what should i do i am not angry or sad cause of anyone but just with life
inspired, thanks
Love!
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Thank you.
If Paul is an arshole and shows it to you, you better believe it. This is the worst case of victim blaming and gaslighting ive ever seen. WTH????
53:50 I should be compassionate
but katie what if you follow your heart its heart first?
Without a belief in "sin", is it possible to be anything less than Holy? #QuestionYourStory #TheWork
belief in anything,other than your Unperturbed, calm and peaceful nature,must imply an opposite.Sin = Holiness..This is a dream we live in.
God's dreaming it.it like being in a play in the local Mental asylum,and BELIEVING it to ALL be REAL IT IS NOT!!! .
So,go ahead and do what you please.As long as your Self Pleasure does NO harm what so ever ,physically or Psychologically, to another living Entity,Then you attract the Law of the Universe..which we ALL are..living,breathig Conciousness.And yes,believe in your Masters..Christ,Buddha,Mohammed..all others ( since they also apperaed in this grand Illlusion,and guided peoples in their geographical areas,thru various times in History).because they ALL spoke of SOMETHIMG VASTLY GREATER...ELESWHERE IN CONCIOUSNESS..NOT SPACE....where we will all go.
Interesting app
The proof I ate beakfast is that I shit it out! That is just one of many proofs... Maybe this analogy was just a miss... The banana one too... I will just keep listening hoping that isn't the point of this video
the audio is low
I’m a bit confused on the piece about rape.
if you don't like this or don't getit. Just wait until you discover ho'oponopono. It takes all of it, everything and only makes self responsible period. 😉
she is fuckin amazing
I don´t get it.
glsd im not the only one...x
Me too
You guys don't get it? I fully understand. OTOH, and after over 12 years, I've found that Katie's techniques to be simple but not so easy to understand. However, "The Work" is all about YOURSELF...and answering the 4 simple questions YOURSELF...mostly in regards to your unquestioned and unsolicited thoughts...which Katie claims is why we human beings suffer. I agree!
On the other hand, as a long time professional Life & Spiritual Coach, I've also found that simplicity for most human beings to be much too complicated. Yep true! So we impatiently demand a quick fix. So here, slow down...REALLY! Namaste
what should i do i am not angry or sad cause of anyone but just with life
Accountability =Freedom🤔 my take away
He is sweet 🤗
but katie what about feelings feelings are innate
That's the whole thing she's challenging. Feelings are self-validating. What we tell ourselves subconsciously is that "I feel this way, and so it must be true." That's how we get sucked in. Katie presents to us that thoughts produce feelings. So if you feel badly about something, it's a sign to you that your thoughts are wrong. Rather than accept it wholesale that whatever you feel is innate, you can check yourself to see if your thoughts are reflective of the reality. If not, then you can re-examine it from different perspectives. Now, when that thought shows up again, you won't just attach yourself to it (attach means believe) and accept it wholesale as the truth. You are now more aware that there could be multiple perspectives. In so doing, you restore a better balance, and you are not so attached, and you are more allowing of directly engaging with the reality of things rather than through the filter of your own belief. As an effect, you will also have changed your feelings. And that's when you can really come to the understanding that feelings aren't just innate, they are constructed. And they are not there to tell us what to do per se. But rather as a beacon of light to tell us where we may need to examine more. Hope this makes sense to you
Why did she have to use a physical object as an example? The banana is mush inside of you...so yes there's proof. Thoughts can't be proved however.
35.48 yes Katie I see him in the bedroom I wish I was there ..hahhaha!! he is hot!
He is super hot! I see him in my bedroom!!!!
That was fun. lol
Audio sucks but great content
What did she mean with the bananas 🍌 and the proof that you ate one? She said it’s not real because you don’t have proof and it doesn’t exist?
And then with the rape example: she’s glad it’s over, she’s her own victim because she keeps reliving the rape in her mind. Does that mean it’s good that he only raped her once and she needs to stop thinking about it because in her mind the rape keeps happening? I don’t get it.
I've been watching quite some of her videos over the last two weeks and I felt that she was kind of jumping beetween her thoughts in this one a bit (maybe it was her xyth session and if this one would have been the first for me to see I would've been massively confused, too) - from what she said in the other videos I think she means it like that: you can't prove your thoughts. It is literally only in your head. That also means whatever you believe is real for you. But you can't prove to others that it's true and also you shouldn't because it is your own belief and therefore your business. Also you cannot change what others believe about themselves or about you, you can only change what you believe. And also also: if some thoughts reoccur again and again then chances are that you yourself don't believe either what you are telling yourself and it would be worth your while to investigate and find something more fitting and then the thought or situations like that will vanish little by little. She says the natural state is love and peace so if you feel other than that then it is your ego that wants to prove it's right rather than seeing your truth. At least that's what I got so far.
If someone raped you then that is a truly traumatic experience of course. The work is - if I got that right - about that whatever (traumatic) experience you have, that the real trauma comes from how you think about that experience. So one part is as you already pointed out that if you revisit it again and again, it will traumatize you even more and also it will keep you in that state of mind even though it is in the past. But usually the reason why things traumatize us is how they change what we believe. Like I am a victim or I deserved that or maybe I provoked it or people are bad it will happen again anytime soon or that person deserves the same fate...stuff like that. And if you think like that it is war, but war doesn't in fact hurt anyone but you.
So in that sense it would be freeing yourself to lose those thoughts and replace them with kinder thoughts (about yourself and other people).
And leave the violence with the one that created it, for it is their problem.
In one of the videos for instance she told about how once someone hold a gun to her head and that she was working through it in the moment to not be afraid or full of anger and someone (if I remember it right) couldn't believe it and said something like but this is so clearly wrong of that other person and she said somethin like but it is my life and if those would have been the last moments of my life I want to decide how to live them and I don't want to live them in fear or hate. So in that sense it's somethin like yes being raped is traumatizing but you deserve to not ruin your life over that.
I am still a beginner at this so it's just how I understood it so far, no guarantee ;).
If you are still interested maybe watch another session with her, there a plenty there that seem a bit more structured for "beginners" like us :)
thx
Why is she wearing a blanket on her shoulder?
medetation is for nowness the past is dead,, leave it. and stay with nowness
B.I.G
pink haired dude is also this guy!
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lol this is just stopping thoughts and suppressing them and thus suppressing all the emotions you have, which doesn't seem right
Doesn't seem right? Really? But does it seem "right" when Katie helps people heal themselves of every possible problem, trauma and terrible personal issue one could possibly have? Hey, Rabab, I'm a professional life coach and I don't need to defend her work after observing the impact she has had with thousands of people. I SAW IT HAPPEN! Namaste
There's nothing about supressing emotions. It's more like releasing and transforming them.
I love Katie and The Work but I don't fully understand it in certain circumstances. When the girl in the audience mentioned rape, I didn't feel what she said was really answering the question. And it also seemed like she was avoiding it by comparing it to a slap in the face. Now this could be, as she said is such complicated "taboo" topic that they would not have enough time to even scratch the surface, makes sense. But I am still wondering how the work could actually apply to ANYTHING. It always seems that the fault goes back to the one inquiring. I may be missing something but as much as I can follow and understand The Work, their are a lot of unanswered questions or her simply avoiding or beating around the bush. I love you Katie but I am struggling with this and other parts of the work xoxo from south florida
This is not helpful to me at all.
interesting.. A lot of it overlaps yoga. witness, detachment. ability to change mood.. I have nothing held from a long time ago! due practice, so much 'american' interpretation goes into denial.. not grounded. Child abuse and rape happen! it is not the 'idea' in the head the person assaulted and traumatised. People can be independently unkind, to be deny abuse.. It is dangerous. Let go without!! In a rape case it IS him.. In child abuse It IS abuse.. It is not about fear, I let go pain around child abuse.. the let go! helped me.. I never had to make his action ok.. 40 yrs later, having imagined that forgiveness transformed him.. I found it had not.. He had continued to abuse.. I ummmmmmm . not sure where I am with this right now.. Some useful tools and yet there is a discomfort and denial in some of this.. Omm om om
Katie gets very defensive and borderline angry when someone challenges the process of the work. Just an observation.
She’s attacking the thoughts of the person doing the work as the are trying so hard to believe their beliefs even it’s obvious it’s the very thing making them miserable she making fun of the thought
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Sounds over simple
It is in actuality even MORE simple than she has to explain it to people to even grasp it. The mind is complex, life and truth is simple
There are far too many people like this out there making a fortune off ignorant people. This is not a spiritual teaching. No real teacher has an "experience" and immediately goes out and begins to teach. They don't know enough to do such a thing.
Nonsense.....worksheets.....???
CCC. Hey, try to be a little kinder to us "ignorant" people, ok? Tell me, CCC...is what you posted here your opinion, or is it the truth? Do you know the difference? Or are you claiming you're always completely truthful? Who mentors you when you're in need? Your Pastor, I bet. Namaste
CC C...You're perfectly right of course! Those who are making lots of money are charlatans, huh? You ain't alone there. However, I'm one of those "ignorant" people you mentioned. And as a long time professional Life & Spiritual Coach (over 35 years) I've learned that, through many clients, that we're all ignorant regarding all the things there is to know. However, and for your information, Katie doesn't claim to be a teacher, Spiritual or otherwise. That's just your ass/u/me position. Teachers? There's loads of "teachers" ruining our kids minds in the American public school system. But you are right! Dead right! Namaste
lol this is stupid.
Mmm.... what she’s doing seems pretty dangerous.