Do You Really Need a Partner to Be Happy?-The Work of Byron Katie®
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- Опубліковано 16 кві 2018
- A young woman does The Work at the New Year’s Mental Cleanse in Los Angeles. She is stuck on the belief “I need a partner to be happy.” With Byron Katie's help, she questions this belief and the many thoughts and images of past and future that support it.
“How do you react when you believe the thought ‘I need a partner’ and you’re around men?” Katie asks.
“There’s a desperation,” the woman says, “and I can’t see people in the moment. I concoct stories about attractive men.”
A bit later Katie says, “Turn it around. 'I don’t need a partner.' Examples? “
“I don’t need a partner, so I can learn to be with my thoughts in peace,” says the woman. “So I can do puzzles by myself.”
An audience member says, “They may not like cats.”
“That’s a huge one for me,” the woman laughs.
“You can grow with or without someone," Katie adds, “and when you're comfortable in yourself, the partner will come, or not. Be the person you love living with the most. For me it’s the joy of being with Stephen or without Stephen. One is equally as divine as the other. You are the beloved. You’re the one you want. You’re the one you need. You’re the one who is always there for you.”
When you’re not in touch with yourself, it’s a lonely world, with or without a partner. -Byron Katie
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I understand this completely. This is ONE BRAVE WOMAN for exposing her deepest fear. Bravo!
We aren't supposed to be alone. Anyone who claims they are happy being alone is either broken or lying. Telling someone they shouldn't feel the lack they feel is psychological abuse. Talking people out of what they want is very manipulative. We aren't here to be Buddhist monks living a detached life. We aren't supposed to be like animals with no thoughts beyond the moment. Her sadness isn't just in the future, she is sad RIGHT NOW being alone.
I am so blessed to be at peace as a single person. I consider the freedom I have as a wonderful gift that's allowed me to get to know myself better and explore things and have experiences that I'm not sure I would have had, if I'd been involved with someone. 😊👍💗✌
I HAD been searching , traveling internationally even , to find 'That' partner . In 2018 , I QUIT. ALL the reasons in this video , Finally sunk in. I am NOW enjoying life to MY fullest. Very satisfied to Stop the 'trying to match' , and just match ME. With the knowledge , ONLY then , will she show up. EVEN then , it is Healthy to Stay ME. Great video reminder ! thank you
Get a dog. Far better companion 🐶
Human touch is good for the immune ststem= so if no partner, you get a therapeutic massage - or, alternatively, go swing dancing!
Isn't this the most beautiful human interaction? Thank you both for your authenticity
“You can grow either way” - that’s been so true in my life! Thank you, Katie, for showing me the way to be happy with me ❤️
Katie, I met you at a client of mines house in San Mateo ca. The ladies name is Norma Carr. I am glad to see u come up in my life again. I have taken the hard road, but at this point after being married 3 times and never finding no joy in those relationships, I realize I need to love me and everything every moment of my life. Because I am the only one who can stop voice in my head, believing happiness is outside of me.
Was totally like this in my 20s and sadly 30s. So common. Good for her on doing the work now.
Thank you, Katie, for the Work! This is a wonderful session. It resonates deeply with me.
This may sound silly but, for me, stretching out my body is the answer to all life's problems! Like a cat. Bliss.
I loved how the girl summed it up at the end giving the example of playing cards with her grandma..the card of solitude can be the highest or the lowest however you look at it. She definateley got her reward from the work. beautiful :) Thank yoy Byron Katie for being so wonderful with that fragile girl. You helped her be strong. Love to you all
Accidentally watching this on Valentine's Day!
Thank you for speaking and doing the work for us .You are a brave and beautiful woman.I really wish for all of us to have Joy with or without man, Because Joy was never found in man but in God.
The Young Woman in this talk is beautiful physically and has inner beauty and intelligence! Thank you Ms. Katie for the great powerful work you have contributed to humanity for so many years! Thank you for caring so much about WOMEN and HUMANITY!!!! I sincerely BLESS YOU AND THIS YOUNG WOMAN AND SEND ALL MY LOVE AND HAPPY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS!!!
I watched this and almost dumped my boyfriend afterwards I was so selfishly content on my own. Her words made me feel very safe but should come with a warning sign!!
Wow,what a profound work,I got to learn so much as a Life Coach myself and what I simply loved was I exactly more or less do very similar work, and feel very happy that it similar to experts like Byron Katie!
Thank you both for share it. I am so deeply touched by this courage woman who shows her emotions driven by destructive thoughts. This comes to the right time to do MY THEWORK with the equal toughts about have to have a partner. 💗
I should bring life a partner. :)