@@katodd2925 no he's just a narcisstic abuser, theres many people in comments that have bpd and they have said they do not act like this. i had a similar ex and he definitely did not have bpd, just a horrible person
24:23 She's not being kicked out by him, he PHYSICALLY kicked her in the back, after which she started packing to leave. So yeah, he physically assaulted her - not once - on top of all the other bs.
Im sure this is a horrible take but i remember not being able to watch his videos cuz i wouldnt be able to watch him without just listening to his saliva filled mouth as hes talking
Him having his camera on still blows my mind. If he didnt have it on, he couldve at least lied and said it was edited, out of context, impersonation, etc. But he really thought the best course of action was to show his face in clear 4k quality while having his unhinged rant. Its the equivalent of a bank robber livestreaming the heist with his mask mostly off using a selfie stick lol.
It’s awful that she felt the need to gather this much proof in order to be taken seriously and be heard because of the severe power differential. I can’t imagine just how traumatizing that process alone was. I’m so sad for her. I can’t even imagine how triggering it was for her to write up the document to expose her abuser. I wish her healing and I hope she gives herself so much grace. I wish healing for Alex, too. He needs A LOT of long term help and I hope he focuses on himself before getting in another relationship.
no matter if alex truly does change, what he did was unforgivable in the eyes of most including me. you cant put someone through that and then say youll just get therapy and change then expect flowers.
@@jaycartwright1170I totally feel you but I personally believe that EVERYONE is capable of positive change. It just might take some extra work on this idiot 🤣🤣🤣
The statistics are not in favour of positive change for abusers, most of them are a lost cause when they get to his stage. The root of their problem is their need to avoid shame and project all the blame on to everyone else.
@@sampsqwantch4612 You're naive. Dangerously so. Psychologists will tell you that abusers only ever get more cruel and better at hiding abuse. They never improve. Just like a 53× 0ffender.
“Most of my friends struggle to understand everything I’m saying” So my dad always taught me that if someone is trying to explain something to you using a lot of big words and it’s not making any sense to you, usually means they have no idea what they’re talking about. People who are actually knowledgeable about it will be able to explain it in a simplistic and easily understandable manner.
It’s really as simple as that. A professional is a professional because they have the knowledge, and can teach it to others. Hence the word professor sounding similar. A professional in their field, devoted to teaching that field of expertise.
There's actually a quote that say something like "if you can't explain it in simple terms then you don't understand it yourself" I'm paraphrasing, but your dad is spot on.
I dont agree. Yes you can explain anything in simple terms but that also means your leaving allot of stuff out of your explanation. Some things are complex and sometimes its not respectful to simplify thing. Also, when someone is using words that you don't understand it can mean they might have misjudged your knowledge about the subject (assuming you know things you don't know).
@@Retrohunter1994 I believe you have missed my point. I never said the person doesn’t understand the larger, more complex words. There is a difference between someone who’s trying to sound knowledgeable about something versus someone who actually is knowledgeable about that subject.
24:29 He didn't kick her out. He *kicked her.* She is packing up and leaving the house because he got violent while she was trying to fix dinner for his parents who were coming over. His reason for kicking her in the back as she was trying to take the trash out? He asked if he could help and she gave him more than one task to do.
I think Alex may have an adult ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) too. (My brother at forty years old, has it) Throwing a wobbler over housework is what makes me think that. He has some extremely childish traits.
@@folkloreofbeing I'm not saying you did, I'm just stating that having a disorder no matter how bad it is or if in therapy for it no one should be excused from being violent. I wasn't trying to attack you truly
lol I mean it unintentionally becomes drama because the same thing always happens. The abuse victims blast the abuser online. No interest of even reporting the crime to the authorities. Countless videos are made about the “drama”. Then the abuser either goes away forever or just takes a long break. lol This specific case has even more “drama” because this guy was such a hypocrite behind closed doors.
I think it's more of a situation where all cucumbers are vegetables but not all vegetables are cucumbers. Technically this is drama. It's just also a lot of other High Caliber stuff.
hey i saw you in the 2 most recent video, also in the internet i love how when normal people do a crime, its a crime, when influencers do it, DRAMA!!!!!!
As someone who suffered severe abuse in my life and knows the pain of gaslighting and being blamed are the most painful things because it can be so hard to explain yourself when you’re made to believe everything is your fault, I really just wanted to let you know that your take on this situation was the most insightful, rational and comforting one I’ve heard. You are an absolute sweetie. Thank you for this.
Oompa never misses, I haven't watched him in years, but still he cracks me like an walnut. Sorry for the abuse & manipulative people you've had to experience. I have relatives like that & even had a close friend turn out like that. There's nothing you can do for them but to make yourself happier than them.
@@zogwort1522I understand what you’re saying, but what the hard r means in this case is when people say the n word with the -er ending, not the -a ending
I wish people would stop thinking that bipolar means "up one minute, down the next". It's not that at all. It's weeks/months of mania, followed by weeks/months of depression. If your mood changes several times a day, or you blow hot and cold,, or you one minute think someone is amazing and the next think they're awful, that's more like BPD/EUPD. And even then, it's not an excuse, and lots of people with BPD/EUPD are self-aware enough to be able to catch themselves when they're having those difficult emotions and like, not abuse people. But yeah for the love of Gd can we please stop using the word "bipolar" to mean "contradicting"
As someone who went through similar stuff with a British man, hearing that voice message from him apologizing was triggering. It was everything you want to hear when you're in that position. EVERYTHING. Like he didn't miss a single thing. And I know that that was intentional. He knew he didn't mean any of it but had to say it to get her back, because the only thing he said that he actually believes is that he wants her back, that she was the best thing to happen to him. I can't even imagine how she felt when she listened to that message. It would take all of my power to stay rational, and I don't even have enough confidence in myself to know I would walk away. She's incredibly strong.
3 years ago I got out of an extremely abusive marriage with my husband of almost 10 years. He acted very similar to Alex here. You’re right when you say it’s hard to leave even when it’s so awful and miserable. You don’t know where to go, how you’ll make it, I also had kids so I didn’t want to essentially make them homeless. It got so bad he ended up almost murdering me and cps took my kids due to them being exposed to domestic violence. Even then I only left because cps said I wouldn’t have a chance getting my kids back if I didn’t divorce him. I did and I am so happy now. Yes its much harder to make it in life but I’m happier I’m free I’m a whole different person and I wish I had left a lot sooner than I did. But when you’re in that situation you can’t see past today. Don’t shame the victims for not leaving, guys.
I’m sorry to bring this up, but I am struggling I’ve noticed that I’ve been attracted to abusers, part of me realizes what’s up but then part of me Denys it, like watching about Alex or Seth from Sam and Colby part of me wants that again, I don’t know if it’s maybe I don’t believe I was abused enough or maybe I just think i deserve it I’m just scared tbh on how my body reacts, how I react with my brain and heart and I don’t want my brain to continue to think I deserve this
it's love bombing. it's just manipulation and it emotionally confuses the victim and convinces them to forgive the abuser. they most likely do it because it has worked for them their whole life and it gets them what they want.
Just say ASPD, the word sociopath is very derogatory and dehumanizing. ASPD is a disorder developed as a survival strategy in those who have experience intense repeated trauma in the childhood and adolescence. It's not black and white, it's not the disorder that makes people evil.
@sanityshorror I'm well aware of how ASPD develops, also that it's not just developed from trauma, but can also happen due to impromper neurological development. I'm a mental health professional, I'm attempting to clarify the terms *Caleb* was using, I haven't gone off calling someone that. And I've made absolutely no mention of it making someone "evil", not sure where you got that from.
It is genuinely unnerving to be on the outside watching someone else do the exact same BS my family did for decades. Someone revoke that silver button. We shouldn't reward gaslighters.
Does it make you question his judgement on all of the people he went after? So many people think slick editing and a sense of humor makes somebody reasonable, even post-sneako.
@@insensitive919 far from it. This is typical behavior for narcissists: they find someone who's worse than themselves (somehow) & use them as a measuring stick of comparative morality.
@insensitive919 these people aren't as oblivious as they may seem. Just because he's been found out to be terrible, doesn't mean everything he said was wrong. A wolf in sheeps clothing can spot other wolves.
His treatment to his girlfriend is nearly identical to how my dad was to my mom, except he would be screaming in her face saying such things. It’s crazy seeing something that was so normal to me, be so condemned by the outside world. Like I knew it was bad, but didn’t know it was that bad. Seeing how everyone is responding to it in a weird way makes my thoughts and feelings on my parents relationship feel more valid.
Sorry you went through that. Sometimes when we are in it we don’t see it. Sometimes if we see someone else in it helps us realize. We can be harder on ourselves and kinder to friends and strangers.
He reminds me of my ex. Full of himself, insulting, then making himself the victim whenever I'd try to stand up for myself. He triggered an eating disorder in me that I still struggle with over 10 years later. I feel for Alice and I wish her all the best.
Thank you for shedding light on the cycles of abuse. As someone who has been in abusive relationship, there is nothing more infuriating to hear than the ignorant phrase "why didn't you leave?" or "just leave him" because it is NOT that simple. Stockholm syndrome is a very real thing and it can be very emotionally confusing, especially when that person makes you feel like you have nothing without them. (Isolation from family and friends, constant emotional ups and downs, telling them that they are nothing without them and that they give a lot in the relationship, targeting people who are already struggling mentally) Sometimes they make you feel like they are all you have and that your whole world ends without them being there. It's a lot of brainwashing and emotional manipulation that you just won't understand unless you have experienced it yourself. It is just crazy how fragile and susceptible to manipulation our brains can be.
@@layton6202 yeah well, a lot of abusers threaten the victim and theyre almost forced to stay, not everyone is like you and not everyone is able to leave like you were able to
@@grey.themusiccat everyone can tho ….what’s the downside to leaving them threatening you?..it’s like someone saying “I’ll beat you now and also if you ever leave I’ll beat you for that too”…you’re already getting beat you might as well leave
@@BubbyBoyI KNEW this idiot was part of that drama. isn't that the second person from the accusing end of that fake drama that ended up being a horrible person.
@@FayieElphishe doesnt in any way sound northern im northern and always have been, he’s a Londoner and he’s always lived in London, just listen to the way he says he will bash that girls head against the wall, nobody from up north says “wall” like that
I went thru a relationship like this and it really is hard leaving it but literally right after you do it you feel relief . hope allison finds someone that’s human
The fact that turkey Tom says it's ok for an adult to message a minor means we will see a vid like this on him real soon (and honestly not gonna be surprised)
As someone who’s been in an abusive relationship I can tell you these r just crocodile tears and a manipulative tactic. I actually do have BPD and never have I acted like him. EDIT: all BPD is on a case by case basis depending on how extreme it may appear. I experienced pretty severe symptoms but thankfully sought out treatment.
Came here to say exactly this. I was stuck in one for 8 years. Lucky I made it out alive. She is so lucky she made it out and i'm so glad she was able to put it all out there, she probably saved someone else from getting hurt.
I have dated women with BPD and I know people with BPD and while all relationships I had with them were extremely poisonous; they were not outright abusive like Alex was. Alex is a conniving weasel and an abuser and it has nothing to do with his BPD if he even has it
i have bpd too and have experienced this as well, its so upsetting that everyone is trying to diagnose this man. its so painful and genuinely makes me so angry bc it just pushes stereotypes
Not defending the person. Mental health diagnosis are all on a spectrum. Just because your version is different from another’s, doesn’t mean it’s not real for that other individual. However, non of that is an excuse for what’s going on here. Nor am I claiming tht they actually have the condition. Just that it could be different and be true.
I despie TikTok, so I can't see what Elphaba has to say, but I really, really wanna know what she's going to do/say, beside laugh for 9 minutes straight
@@Baldevi Laugh and shove pizza into her mouth, belch continuously and beg for money, she will likely have a short surge of views and "donations". How the tables turn 😂, both are awful examples of creators and humans!
To explain the Slazo thing, his ex accused him of basically being abusive and Slazo had evidence against it. Everyone for probably a few months like dogpiled on him until he came out and called Chey (the ex in question) for basically twisting the truth and lying. She (i think) wiped herself from the internet and Slazo only posted maybe 4-5 videos before dropping off the face of the planet.
I'm a diagnosed bipolar, please DO NOT confuse this mental illness with imoral behavior. I study my own mind a lot to help with the struggles and trust me when I say it: mental illness does not justify evil. Usually there must be something fundamentally wrong with a person to be like that and mental illness is just one more thing on top of it, so absolutely not the same. If he is truly sorry then he is going to get therapy and become a better person, but be for real, what are the odds of that, right? Also, thank you so much for being so well informed and kind about abusive relantionships, Oompaville (I apologize for not knowing your name, I am new in your channel). It felt really refreshing to hear someone who did not experience that personally, speaks about it with such compassion, hopefully more people will take inspiration. I wish you all the success!
I’ve been in an abusive relationship and in several other toxic relationships and it’s very hard to leave. With the abusive one, I was scared to be alone and I had gaslit myself into thinking I was still attracted to him when I wasn’t. He treated me horribly and it took him SAing me for me to finally leave. In one of the toxic ones he had repeatedly sent reels and TikTok’s about a specific disorder (I can’t remember the name), where you basically self destruct if people reject and/or leave you. It’s an incredible fear and an actual physical reaction to it. He stated he had this and that made me terrified to leave out of fear of what he’d do and how he’d react. When I broke up with him, his reaction was enough for me to realize that was a lie and it was a massive guilt trip. There’s many reasons why people stay, and saying “they should’ve left” is horrible.
I have bipolar. I do hear some ranting he does but it’s not like the ranting I do when I’m in a manic state. He almost made too much sense. At least in my situation when I get worked up and enter that manic state (which any small trigger can start a slow uncontrollable explosion) I am so anxious and ready to speak my next sentence before I finish my last one that it becomes almost incomprehensible. I’m speaking clearly but mixing my words, thoughts and phrases along with my emotions. It’s unbearable for me but more for whoever deals with me. It’s made me live a more isolated life trying to balance being available for others but knowing when I need to separate myself from a situation because I’m old enough now to feel when an episode is coming. Mine usually starts with a feeling of social anxiety. But, everyone is different
yeah, im BPD and it felt a lot more like BPD splitting...he lashed out and then wanted to save face when he realized, the "loneliness" or "regret" or whatever it feels after having a BPD fit, i've never been able to describe it, plus i've been medicated for so long that i don't remember exactly how it feels.
He’s not bi-polar, he’s a nasty virtue signalling piece of work. All abusers torture,torment (it’s not always physical) and then cry like babies, they cry like babies apologising because they are fully aware that what they did was wrong. He’s a narcissist and believes he is the most important person in the world, he has treated people terribly to further his own career/agenda time and time again, he’s apology is pathetic and I’m glad Alice didn’t buy it 🤷♀️
oof i used to watch him sometimes. i got a weird vibe the other day when he posted crying talking about a teenage girl who recently passed of cancer...who he'd been talking to thru insta DMS.... it felt oddly performative (may she rest in peace).
I saw a little bit of that vid while I was searching for vids about this situation. Glad I'm not the only one who found that weird af. Couldn't watch the whole thing. So peformative and odd.
Oh he knew or had a feeling what was coming. So put out the fake empathy video. Oh yes I’m sure he talked the cancer victim through very hard times…or just listened. Would be nice is she existed and he actually did this. I watched him years ago and just got a bad vibe. Then he’d just pop up now and then for doing awful things. So I just don’t believe him.
I feel so bad for people stuck in these kinds of situations. I had a friend in a bad situation for five years. She’s doing great now, but just thinking how miserable they weren’t back done and how strapped she felt breaks my heart. We need to love one another.
That sort of behaviour is actually illegal in the U.K. now. Coercive and abusive. You can be arrested for doing it to a partner. Particularly as he’s also been physically abusive
Just to note, this behaviour is more associated with BPD not bipolar. Bipolar is a more sustained periods of lows and mania. BPD is more reactive to emotional triggers and is often in relation to feelings of abandonment. This often pushes them to push away loved ones to reinforce their belief that everyone leaves them in the end.
i agree so much. people need to stop acting like alex’s behavior couldn’t possibly be BPD. it very well could be. he’s exhibiting a lot of the characteristics, but others with BPD in the comments who do get help and are more self aware, are saying it could NEVER be bpd just because they don’t personally act like him. EVERY mental illness has a spectrum, with some acting a lot worse than others. there’s mild BPD and severe. it’s simply ignorant to immediately say that he could never have bpd because he’s abusive and “not all people with bpd are abusive.” like DUH! nothing is black and white… there are many people out there who act like alex who do have BPD, just as there are people who could never act like him who also have it.
@@ashleynoelle999 as some one with BPD, the man could very possibly have that. The BPD especially plays into his massive ego. It could also just be just a severe empathy issue like sociopathy (not psychopathy thats very different, sociopaths can still feel empathy and understand a lot of how others feel) or is just a plain old mommy issue victim complex worst type of guy to interact with.
@bens1cultist405 I have BPD as well, hence recognising the behaviour. CPTSD can mirror a lot of BPD as well so I wouldn't say it's a diagnosis for sure. There's a Dr on UA-cam who helps explain the issues of BPD and other conditions in a non judgment way.
I used to watch him a lot years ago and he used to be my favorite UA-camr. Suddenly maybe a year ago I randomly just felt a weird feeling about him. Couldn’t explain it but I ended up no longer watching him and now I feel justified lol
@@InVinoVeratas I have to be honest, I wasn't really watching those videos, neither did they come up on my YT recommendations back around 2018 maybe 2019 when I was watching him. It was pretty much TLC stuff, reactions, something with Pyro and what got me into Inabber (whom I still watch sometimes) as well as James Marriott and Lewis Buchan. I watched Memeulous and WillNE before I found out about Alex tbh
12:08 I think regardless of legality or not when you are 16 you are still a child, you are a teenager. Even when you're 18. Even just the MATURITY difference (supposedly) between 20 and 16 is insane. That is a grown adult, someone old enough to be halfway done in college to put it in perspective sleeping with a highschooler.
I’m British aswell and don’t like being called a loser just for being British, don’t allow and agree with people especially Americans (who have been raised to believe they are better at everything but in reality if you google it they are not number one in anything) to put you down just for being British, please be proud of your old and special country 🇬🇧 🙂
Aussie here & I fkn lovvvvvee English accents... 😍 I have trouble understanding some of u though - some of u guys talk so fast!! But we Aussie's sound so fkn embarrassing to me!!! 😂😂
@janie17195 Yes I agree! Justice for Alice. I think for people like me and OP who have stayed vigilant and angry at Alex since 2019 are just happy he’s getting his karma after 5 years.
“I have no idea why Alex would even want to be with Alice if he’s just going to get mad at her for just communicating…” Me to myself when I was in a 2 year relationship where I was treated the same way and my BPD would not only keep me from leaving, but also made me fight back in ways that made everything worse and just as bad as my partner until he left me. To the end, I couldn’t leave. But I’m glad he’s gone. I know I’m better for it.
He said he wasn't easy to work with. He wasn't her coworker, he was her boyfriend. He also looks like he couldn't pick a brick up let alone do anything with it.
i was in a relationship for a year where he would speak to me exactly like that (not british luckily) and i can’t stress how much it really traumatizes someone to be berated by someone they love like that. this dude is a monster
One of my things was being shouted at, it sounds silly but having a male voice scream and shout at me is something that just puts me back to a place where I felt utterly powerless and afraid. It's control through intimidation and it took so much to realise that that behaviour was one of the first red flags. I hope you're doing better now ❤
As someone who suffers from a bipolar disorder, I can tell you that abusing your partner is NOT a symptom of it. Let’s say he does actually suffer from it. He is using his disorder to straight up manipulate her.. he is selfish and self absorbed. Something others get wrong about the disorder is the changes in moods. Bipolar is not a personality disorder it is a mood disorder. The switches of emotions are completely detached from your personality. It’s not the bipolar disorder he’s literally just a horrible person Let’s stop the stereotypes he’s really not helping 😢
ah the ol apologise - no response - keep apologising - no reponse - getting angry, escalating apology- no response - this keeps going until he would explode with anger and abuse her - then back to apology
This came at the perfect time for me, a lot of this parallels the way my best friend has been talking to me for the last decade. (Nowhere near as extreme, but a lot of the text messages are things he's said.) It's so easy to get stuck defending yourself and trying to explain things, believing they'll wake up and realize what they're doing to you. Hearing Alex's fake apology made me realize that 1) those words are never going to come out of my friend's mouth, and 2) they wouldn't actually make me feel any better even if they did. I hope I'm finally ready to actually break the cycle, I always fall into thinking "this time will be different" even though it never changes.
Hey, I'm a random internet stranger with no bearing on your life, but I'm here to say that I'm proud of you for realising that the situation you're in isn't at all what you deserve. Take it one step at a time, and please be kind to yourself. You've got this, and I hope the future brings friends into your life who treat you with the love and compassion you deserve.
@@notacatnt Thank you for the kind words, it means a lot! Luckily I do have some amazing, supportive friends already, but I'm definitely ready to start cultivating more positive relationships. I appreciate you saying I don't deserve it and want to assure you that, while I've always understood that cognitively, I'm learning what actions I need to take to really honor that. I mostly just fell into the "I can fix him" trap and have to accept that, even if I do everything right, it's still up to him to actually change. I'm focusing on addressing the things that keep me from breaking the cycle, like learned helplessness and poor boundary setting. I really loved how kind Oompa was to the woman in this video, I was always disappointed in myself for giving my friend "another chance" but it's so easy to fall for the person you know they could be. Again, thank you for taking the time to encourage me, you're a wonderful person and I wish you the best.
reminder that this isnt drama, this is traumatic, this is abusive, this is messed up. I wished channels stopped using the term drama for everything when this whole situation is way more than just "drama" can we stop calling serious situations and torments drama? like genuinely?
It’s quite clear that Caleb does not believe this is simple “drama” and should be taken seriously- other comments have mentioned he is more than likely trying to avoid bots taking down his video etc for using the word “abuse” or similar in the title. I thought it was a bit redactive too when I saw it but this reasoning makes sense to me at least .
@@danagiles1568 oh yeah for sure, I just hate everyone calling it drama. Like even when I cover serious situations I dont sugar coat it. I get it, its your job, but in videos especially like this you shouldnt just keep calling it drama in the video and around it especially also commenters too. Its not drama, dont sugar coat stuff. If I can handle bringing up VERY serious situations in my own videos without getting flagged, when I can SHOW very serious things and not get effected yet, I think everyone in the comments and some in videos can do the same.
@@princeinsomniac ah fair enough if you have personal experience with what can or can’t be said- I don’t myself. It’s definitely something creators should be more aware of when talking about such awful situations for sure.
@@princeinsomniac again you don't seem to realize creators have to filter stuff a lot..... unless they are convicted or their evidence against it they have to use words to get around it, he makes it clear this isn't just drama it's a horrid act and behavior....
@@princeinsomniac you also make entirely different content and have a small AMT of traction this Creator does not have to be careful of what they say and how they say things
Popular youtubers dont need to 'mean' there apology. I doubt alot of them do, all they need to do is make it believable and their followers will eat it up or reject it entirely.
"I hate you, don't leave me!" Is a popular descriptive phrase for BPD. It's all there... but there's hope with treatment and the right medication for the individual. She needs to stay away until he's done some serious work on himself for her sake. If not cutting ties completely because as it stands, it couldn't be more toxic. I don't know... this just litterally makes me sad. I hope she's safe and happy and he gets help immediately...
My sibling has BPD… it’s so bad. They’ve gotten physical with me, and the medications don’t do much (even Lithium and Xanax!). I want them to get better so, so bad, but they don’t even seem to want to? I’m CONSTANTLY walking on egg shells and it’s just… so exhausting. I wish I could do more, but I’m SO exhausted all the time from them SCREAMING every night and morning! Sometimes ALL day!
Alex has titled vids similarly, maybe it's a suttle poke at that 🤷♀️? Maybe not, I don't know. I'm sure that Oompa isn't trying to belittle the severity of the situation tho.
The sad thing is I'm relating to so much of what this poor girl went through in my current relationship and seeing just how disgusted others are by this is really making me rethink so much right now...
Pls pls pls pls plssssssssss get out of there as quickly and safely as u can. Do NOT feel bad for ppl like tht and do NOT look back. Don't even think about falling into the same pattern with them for even a second. I wish u luck and blessings
I kinda liked slazo's videos when he was still doing stuff. I generally got the feeling that he'd met the burden of proof to show he was innocent. But the way Alex just wouldn't let the issue die made me stop watching Alex's videos.
Switching between happy, sad and angry without a moment's notice is NOT Bipolar. Bipolar requires a long drawn out emotional state. Like a few weeks to a few months in a manic episode where one does impulsive things and doesn't consider the consequences to their actions. Then comes a crash for a month or more of regret, shame and depression. Then eventually the depression fades and they get manic again. It is gradual and long lasting. a person who is one second friendly, then one second angry, then the next apologetic means that they are actually emoting in a fake way. They are using their behavior to elicit a certain response.
You saying that phrase triggered memories of my dad terrorising a five year old me. And when I cried he'd accuse me of crocodile tears and demand that I stop crying. He'd get angry if I didn't and so I learnt to cut my tears off, which would only make him say "see, I told you they were crocodile tears!" I'm in my forties now and struggle to express sadness or tears.
This is a malignant sociopath narcissist. They are ABSENT OF ANY EMPATHIC RESPONSE... Apologies and EVEN KINDNESS are always self-serving. This type of person is a LIFE DESTROYER. RUN. RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
@@sterling970nicole I was one's sucker for over 5 YEARS... theres a few awesome books that will help u to recognize the abuse and escape it... 1. "Psychopath Free" 2. "How to K_LL a Narcissist" Thats all I can see on my shelf right now, but def try at least one, and REMEMBER THIS SAYING: "The only way to defeat a narcissist is to COMPLETELY CUT THEM OFF." This saying is VERY SERIOUS. If you maintain even the smallest line of communication, they WILL continue the abuse. I literally almost wrote my own book because im a male and I dont think people believe that men can be victims of narcissistic abuse the way women can... but I WAS... and it is the absolute worst psychological damage I have experienced in my life. Love yourself. Thats something I realized I didnt do. Love yourself enough to free yourself of the constant manipulation and lies by realizing that you're the only person in the relationship experiencing LOVE... They never did for a minute. You have always been a belonging. Be strong and MOVE FORWARD.
I had an ex like this and he still stalks me to this day, they're really vile and scary people, he destroyed my self esteem and mental health and still would ask more from me even though I had already given up everything, my friends, my hobbies, my time, my basic human needs, I was so close to just giving up on life and he didn't even care, so happy I got out of there
I’m getting real annoyed at how many people claim to be unbiased. All media has bias, the only things that aren’t biased are like a piece of fruit. What you mean is that your personal relationships have no bearing on your judgement, but you are still making a judgement and thus still biased. The bias in this case can come from a range of places such as personal politics, societal norms, experience etc.
I feel like he is the actual picture of Dorian Gray where all of the evil and nastiness is displayed for the whole world to see on his weird goblin face where even his own tongue seems to want to escape his mouth.
Him bragging about how he has way more to lose… only to then immediately lose it all is beautiful
He seems very very narcissistic
@@p3rfezione It's not narcissism, it's untreated BPD
@@katodd2925 no he's just a narcisstic abuser, theres many people in comments that have bpd and they have said they do not act like this. i had a similar ex and he definitely did not have bpd, just a horrible person
@@katodd2925 also watch this part of the video: 26:24
@@katodd2925internet psychology!!! Yay!!!!!
Goofy.
24:23 She's not being kicked out by him, he PHYSICALLY kicked her in the back, after which she started packing to leave.
So yeah, he physically assaulted her - not once - on top of all the other bs.
see thats what i thought thank you for confirming, i wish the best for her and the other ladies
Did he yell THIS-IS-SPARTA? If he did I might have to follow him.
Is that not what kicked out means
@@johnriley-wr7cg LOL no, he hurt her and she chose to leave. Kicked out usually means being forced to leave and doesn't involve any violence.
@@ItIsYouAreNotYour Okay, that was funny 😆
The way Imalexx talks is like his dentures are about to fall out
Im sure this is a horrible take but i remember not being able to watch his videos cuz i wouldnt be able to watch him without just listening to his saliva filled mouth as hes talking
😂😂
@awesomesauce8424 Fr!! 😂😂
@@awesomesauce8424ME TOO LOOOL
He looks and sounds like a gremlin.
Turning on your webcam to look at yourself as you verbally abuse your girlfriend is insane
It's like the cam is his pacifier or something.
Anything for the drama bro
Narcissism at it's finest, thinks he is untouchable. His complete silence this week speaks volumes!
@@azzydazzy2705 Yeah, He seems to be a Narcissist...
Seems staged
The fact he had his camera on just to verbally abuse someone is wild lol
Him having his camera on still blows my mind. If he didnt have it on, he couldve at least lied and said it was edited, out of context, impersonation, etc. But he really thought the best course of action was to show his face in clear 4k quality while having his unhinged rant. Its the equivalent of a bank robber livestreaming the heist with his mask mostly off using a selfie stick lol.
@D_an_ Yup. Just shows how narcissistic he is
he's not a nice person, and now we know he's also not a very bright person.
Many abusers are like that. It's not enough to abuse you in private, they want the rush of humiliating you in public too.
Sick, Sad World, yup. It has to be generational, though. Younguns are raised online with tablets, teevee, and tiktwits 😏😁
It’s awful that she felt the need to gather this much proof in order to be taken seriously and be heard because of the severe power differential. I can’t imagine just how traumatizing that process alone was. I’m so sad for her. I can’t even imagine how triggering it was for her to write up the document to expose her abuser. I wish her healing and I hope she gives herself so much grace. I wish healing for Alex, too. He needs A LOT of long term help and I hope he focuses on himself before getting in another relationship.
no matter if alex truly does change, what he did was unforgivable in the eyes of most including me. you cant put someone through that and then say youll just get therapy and change then expect flowers.
@@jaycartwright1170I totally feel you but I personally believe that EVERYONE is capable of positive change. It just might take some extra work on this idiot 🤣🤣🤣
@@sampsqwantch4612 sure, in theory he could genuinely changed, but there are things which are just unforgivable.
The statistics are not in favour of positive change for abusers, most of them are a lost cause when they get to his stage. The root of their problem is their need to avoid shame and project all the blame on to everyone else.
@@sampsqwantch4612 You're naive. Dangerously so. Psychologists will tell you that abusers only ever get more cruel and better at hiding abuse. They never improve. Just like a 53× 0ffender.
“Most of my friends struggle to understand everything I’m saying”
So my dad always taught me that if someone is trying to explain something to you using a lot of big words and it’s not making any sense to you, usually means they have no idea what they’re talking about. People who are actually knowledgeable about it will be able to explain it in a simplistic and easily understandable manner.
It’s really as simple as that. A professional is a professional because they have the knowledge, and can teach it to others. Hence the word professor sounding similar. A professional in their field, devoted to teaching that field of expertise.
There's actually a quote that say something like "if you can't explain it in simple terms then you don't understand it yourself" I'm paraphrasing, but your dad is spot on.
@@WeekndWarriorrr Thanks. My dad passed in 2015 and I miss him terribly. He was a wise man and I feel like he still had more knowledge to share.
I dont agree. Yes you can explain anything in simple terms but that also means your leaving allot of stuff out of your explanation. Some things are complex and sometimes its not respectful to simplify thing. Also, when someone is using words that you don't understand it can mean they might have misjudged your knowledge about the subject (assuming you know things you don't know).
@@Retrohunter1994 I believe you have missed my point. I never said the person doesn’t understand the larger, more complex words. There is a difference between someone who’s trying to sound knowledgeable about something versus someone who actually is knowledgeable about that subject.
24:29 He didn't kick her out. He *kicked her.* She is packing up and leaving the house because he got violent while she was trying to fix dinner for his parents who were coming over. His reason for kicking her in the back as she was trying to take the trash out? He asked if he could help and she gave him more than one task to do.
I think Alex may have an adult ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) too. (My brother at forty years old, has it)
Throwing a wobbler over housework is what makes me think that. He has some extremely childish traits.
@@folkloreofbeing even if he has it, it's no excuse for being violent and hurting the people around him.
@@billiesloverfrfr nowhere in my comments do I make excuses for him.
@@folkloreofbeing I'm not saying you did, I'm just stating that having a disorder no matter how bad it is or if in therapy for it no one should be excused from being violent. I wasn't trying to attack you truly
@@billiesloverfrfr I didn't think you were attacking me, no worries. I'm just a little too straightforward.
about james- he stated months ago on a pod that he and alex havent been friends for a long time
Did he ever comment on the Wilbur situation?
What about memelous?
@@giraffewhiskers2045 george made a statement, so did will
Yeah I don’t think a man abusing multiple women is “drama” I think it’s called “a crime” and “morally reprehensible”
annnndddd yet thats exactly what makes this situation with imalex so dramatic (sudden and striking)
lol I mean it unintentionally becomes drama because the same thing always happens. The abuse victims blast the abuser online. No interest of even reporting the crime to the authorities. Countless videos are made about the “drama”. Then the abuser either goes away forever or just takes a long break. lol This specific case has even more “drama” because this guy was such a hypocrite behind closed doors.
all of his titles are for clicks that's how youtube works
I think it's more of a situation where all cucumbers are vegetables but not all vegetables are cucumbers. Technically this is drama. It's just also a lot of other High Caliber stuff.
hey i saw you in the 2 most recent video, also in the internet i love how when normal people do a crime, its a crime, when influencers do it, DRAMA!!!!!!
As someone who suffered severe abuse in my life and knows the pain of gaslighting and being blamed are the most painful things because it can be so hard to explain yourself when you’re made to believe everything is your fault, I really just wanted to let you know that your take on this situation was the most insightful, rational and comforting one I’ve heard. You are an absolute sweetie. Thank you for this.
I also hope Alice watches this. She needs to hear it.
Me too. Loved his take
Oompa never misses, I haven't watched him in years, but still he cracks me like an walnut.
Sorry for the abuse & manipulative people you've had to experience. I have relatives like that & even had a close friend turn out like that. There's nothing you can do for them but to make yourself happier than them.
❤❤❤
@@-DEATH_LORDhe does miss, but the difference between him and most UA-camrs is that he typically admits his misses. No one is perfect, after all.
“The n-word, soft ‘a’”
Well yeah he’s British he wouldn’t pronounce the r anyway 😂
@@zogwort1522I understand what you’re saying, but what the hard r means in this case is when people say the n word with the -er ending, not the -a ending
@@zogwort1522 Was that actually an attempt at insulting people who are “Anglo” by saying their language is “soft”? 😂
@@PinePrince Yeah of all the ways to attempt to insult people, the language they speak that is hundreds of years old is a new one.
@@zogwort1522”this post is made by the Chinese language gang”
You've never heard of us northerners it seems...
I wish people would stop thinking that bipolar means "up one minute, down the next". It's not that at all. It's weeks/months of mania, followed by weeks/months of depression. If your mood changes several times a day, or you blow hot and cold,, or you one minute think someone is amazing and the next think they're awful, that's more like BPD/EUPD. And even then, it's not an excuse, and lots of people with BPD/EUPD are self-aware enough to be able to catch themselves when they're having those difficult emotions and like, not abuse people. But yeah for the love of Gd can we please stop using the word "bipolar" to mean "contradicting"
What is EUPD? I'm unfamiliar with that acronym.
@@drewgoin8849emotional unstable personality disorder, its what borderline personality disorder used to be called
There's also cyclothymia, which does involve manic and depressive swings that can happen over hours.
@@drewgoin8849 emotionally unstable personality disorder
Bpd also Apparently has a ton in common with cptsd too
him emotionally abusing her in the same sentence he name dropped paul breach feels entirely unreal
That name actually haunts me
As someone who went through similar stuff with a British man, hearing that voice message from him apologizing was triggering. It was everything you want to hear when you're in that position. EVERYTHING. Like he didn't miss a single thing. And I know that that was intentional. He knew he didn't mean any of it but had to say it to get her back, because the only thing he said that he actually believes is that he wants her back, that she was the best thing to happen to him.
I can't even imagine how she felt when she listened to that message. It would take all of my power to stay rational, and I don't even have enough confidence in myself to know I would walk away. She's incredibly strong.
oompaville should meow in his next video
We should make this top comment
oompa mogs
Yes
Agree
he fs should
Alex's tongue looks like it's trying to escape his mouth like how a cat patiently waits by the front door.
He looks like he has fetal alcohol syndrome
ironic considering how much of a snake he is, of course that thing slips out constantly
I feel like youve been holding onto this insult for a while now waiting for the right time. Kudos. Grats.
@@gingerbred2533UA-cam psychologist 🤡🤓
3 years ago I got out of an extremely abusive marriage with my husband of almost 10 years. He acted very similar to Alex here. You’re right when you say it’s hard to leave even when it’s so awful and miserable. You don’t know where to go, how you’ll make it, I also had kids so I didn’t want to essentially make them homeless. It got so bad he ended up almost murdering me and cps took my kids due to them being exposed to domestic violence. Even then I only left because cps said I wouldn’t have a chance getting my kids back if I didn’t divorce him. I did and I am so happy now. Yes its much harder to make it in life but I’m happier I’m free I’m a whole different person and I wish I had left a lot sooner than I did. But when you’re in that situation you can’t see past today. Don’t shame the victims for not leaving, guys.
I hope you’re doing better now and you and your kids are happy and safe ♥️
I’m sorry to bring this up, but I am struggling
I’ve noticed that I’ve been attracted to abusers, part of me realizes what’s up but then part of me Denys it, like watching about Alex or Seth from Sam and Colby part of me wants that again, I don’t know if it’s maybe I don’t believe I was abused enough or maybe I just think i deserve it
I’m just scared tbh on how my body reacts, how I react with my brain and heart and I don’t want my brain to continue to think I deserve this
Never trust a dude who looks like a real life Murdoc from Gorillaz
He kind of does....
@@silentfriend369 like Murdoc and 2D had a baby youll never unsee it
Real (I freaking love Gorillaz)
I feel like Murdoc would treat people better then ImAlexx ever would.
@@aussiedragonz truuu
why do the abusers always start crying when apologizing as if they didnt cause sm trauma to their significant other. smhhh 😭
They're not real tears, it's just an attempt to garner sympathy from their victim to pull them back into the abusive relationship.
To manipulate them into staying and forgiving them.
The same reason a toddler cries if you take away the toy plane they tried to bash into their baby sister's head.
Well that was specific 😭
it's love bombing. it's just manipulation and it emotionally confuses the victim and convinces them to forgive the abuser. they most likely do it because it has worked for them their whole life and it gets them what they want.
Just a small note - sociopath isn't an actual diagnosis in the DSM, antisocial personality disorder is the actual name for a diagnosis of sociopathy
Just say ASPD, the word sociopath is very derogatory and dehumanizing. ASPD is a disorder developed as a survival strategy in those who have experience intense repeated trauma in the childhood and adolescence. It's not black and white, it's not the disorder that makes people evil.
@sanityshorror I'm well aware of how ASPD develops, also that it's not just developed from trauma, but can also happen due to impromper neurological development. I'm a mental health professional, I'm attempting to clarify the terms *Caleb* was using, I haven't gone off calling someone that. And I've made absolutely no mention of it making someone "evil", not sure where you got that from.
@@sanityshorror "Sociopath" is fine, we're not all psychologists and are under no obligation to take our lead from the DSM.
@@clare_elizCaleb isn’t using the term sociopath himself, he’s quoting Alex. At 10:52 he says that Alex twisted his words from APD.
I was just about to comment this because I did not see it addressed. Seems you had it covered, thanks for making that fact known!
It is genuinely unnerving to be on the outside watching someone else do the exact same BS my family did for decades. Someone revoke that silver button. We shouldn't reward gaslighters.
Does it make you question his judgement on all of the people he went after? So many people think slick editing and a sense of humor makes somebody reasonable, even post-sneako.
@@insensitive919 far from it. This is typical behavior for narcissists: they find someone who's worse than themselves (somehow) & use them as a measuring stick of comparative morality.
@insensitive919 these people aren't as oblivious as they may seem. Just because he's been found out to be terrible, doesn't mean everything he said was wrong. A wolf in sheeps clothing can spot other wolves.
Hate to break the bad news he even has a gold button😭
I say we get the Reddit nerds to call his workplaces. Abusers deserve hunger, not a cushy yt job
His treatment to his girlfriend is nearly identical to how my dad was to my mom, except he would be screaming in her face saying such things. It’s crazy seeing something that was so normal to me, be so condemned by the outside world. Like I knew it was bad, but didn’t know it was that bad. Seeing how everyone is responding to it in a weird way makes my thoughts and feelings on my parents relationship feel more valid.
You're completely valid in your feelings. I'm sorry you grew up in such a horrible experience. Hope you're doing okay now ❤
Sorry you went through that. Sometimes when we are in it we don’t see it. Sometimes if we see someone else in it helps us realize. We can be harder on ourselves and kinder to friends and strangers.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I completely understand.
I feel ya
Thank y’all, I’m doing a lot better now. Therapy and love and support from my spouse and friends has completely changed my world♥️🙏🏻
Im so disgusted. I used to be a fan of Alex especially when he was apart of the eboys, but I’m so disgusted and I really hope Alice is doing better
Stick by him ….you put too much investment in
@@layton6202umm.. yeah no.. dude there’s literally so much evidence aganist him, why would anyone support him now?
"history doesnt always repeat itself but it sure does rhyme sometimes" i kinda love that
😂
Real
He reminds me of my ex. Full of himself, insulting, then making himself the victim whenever I'd try to stand up for myself. He triggered an eating disorder in me that I still struggle with over 10 years later. I feel for Alice and I wish her all the best.
Thank you for shedding light on the cycles of abuse. As someone who has been in abusive relationship, there is nothing more infuriating to hear than the ignorant phrase "why didn't you leave?" or "just leave him" because it is NOT that simple. Stockholm syndrome is a very real thing and it can be very emotionally confusing, especially when that person makes you feel like you have nothing without them. (Isolation from family and friends, constant emotional ups and downs, telling them that they are nothing without them and that they give a lot in the relationship, targeting people who are already struggling mentally) Sometimes they make you feel like they are all you have and that your whole world ends without them being there. It's a lot of brainwashing and emotional manipulation that you just won't understand unless you have experienced it yourself. It is just crazy how fragile and susceptible to manipulation our brains can be.
Unless you have huge mental problems it’s pretty easy to leave ….I have
Trauma bonding is real
@@layton6202 yeah well, a lot of abusers threaten the victim and theyre almost forced to stay, not everyone is like you and not everyone is able to leave like you were able to
@@grey.themusiccat everyone can tho ….what’s the downside to leaving them threatening you?..it’s like someone saying “I’ll beat you now and also if you ever leave I’ll beat you for that too”…you’re already getting beat you might as well leave
@@layton6202my mom tried to leave her ex husband, my half brothers were sexually assaulted and she was shot at in a trunk..
James has distanced himself from Alex for a while, I believe he's known something was up but didn't know everything
Considering the false Slazo allegations and how that entire group handled the fallout, I firmly think they all knew how terrible Alex is for years
F James
James has distanced himself from Alex since the Eboys broke up so around 2021
@@BubbyBoyI KNEW this idiot was part of that drama. isn't that the second person from the accusing end of that fake drama that ended up being a horrible person.
Knew stuff but stayed quiet. What a cool guy
His "apology" is giving me flashback to when I left my now ex-husband.
Hope you’re doing better now
I felt the same way hearing it, in relation to an ex of mine. The same manipulative tactics. Little easier for me to spot now, though.
hope you’re living your best life now :) much love
Leaving him was the hardest but best thing I have ever done. I love my life!
@@kellysueballard7654 that’s the spirit:) glad to hear you’re doing great
James is no longer friends with Alex at all and u misunderstood their dynamic tbh, they haven't spoken in ages
Why is it every time I hear British UA-camrs speak, I think “why do you sound like that?”
And I’m British.
I’m American and I feel the same when I hear people with a New Jersey or rhode island accent.
He sounds northern, Newcastle/smoggy area. That's the accent I grew up with, at least.
Probably cuz chronically online with Americans
He's also got a weird lisp which might be messing with how he sounds
@@FayieElphishe doesnt in any way sound northern im northern and always have been, he’s a Londoner and he’s always lived in London, just listen to the way he says he will bash that girls head against the wall, nobody from up north says “wall” like that
I went thru a relationship like this and it really is hard leaving it but literally right after you do it you feel relief . hope allison finds someone that’s human
Her name is Alice…
The fact that turkey Tom says it's ok for an adult to message a minor means we will see a vid like this on him real soon (and honestly not gonna be surprised)
and he even said it was the girl's fault for being preyed on. if something comes out about Tom I will not be surprised
He said that it was legal, but he didn't agree with it.
@@_b_e_a_n_s_ he actually more directed it to the parents. Imo all sides are to blame.
It also shows how half assed his research was because Washington's age of consent is 18, and it gets knocked down to 16 with parent permission.
He didn't say that at all, but congrats on spreading that misinformation to damage a character
As someone who’s been in an abusive relationship I can tell you these r just crocodile tears and a manipulative tactic. I actually do have BPD and never have I acted like him. EDIT: all BPD is on a case by case basis depending on how extreme it may appear. I experienced pretty severe symptoms but thankfully sought out treatment.
Came here to say exactly this. I was stuck in one for 8 years. Lucky I made it out alive.
She is so lucky she made it out and i'm so glad she was able to put it all out there, she probably saved someone else from getting hurt.
I have dated women with BPD and I know people with BPD and while all relationships I had with them were extremely poisonous; they were not outright abusive like Alex was.
Alex is a conniving weasel and an abuser and it has nothing to do with his BPD if he even has it
i have bpd too and have experienced this as well, its so upsetting that everyone is trying to diagnose this man. its so painful and genuinely makes me so angry bc it just pushes stereotypes
@@Pherioxusim sorry u went thru this but on behalf of ppl w bpd, thank u for not stereotyping us bc there are 256+ ways to have bpd
Not defending the person. Mental health diagnosis are all on a spectrum. Just because your version is different from another’s, doesn’t mean it’s not real for that other individual. However, non of that is an excuse for what’s going on here. Nor am I claiming tht they actually have the condition. Just that it could be different and be true.
Imalexx’s voice does more damage than a brick 😂
Crime: excessively British
Seriously, what is up with his mouth? It looks like it's trying to escape from his face or something
@@bigcatdiary08I think he has a speech impediment lol
@@Dovahmanx lol, yes I was trying not to make fun of a disability of sorts, but the way the other person worded it was pretty hilarious 🤭😂
@@cv6442 LOL it’s okay, at this point making fun of Alex is completely justified
Not me thinking the thumbnail was kurtis Conner badly photo shopped
Man, Elphaba and Paul Breach are gonna have a field day with this
Breach has already done a reaction 😂 the irony of it all!
I thought that too!
I despie TikTok, so I can't see what Elphaba has to say, but I really, really wanna know what she's going to do/say, beside laugh for 9 minutes straight
@@Baldevi Laugh and shove pizza into her mouth, belch continuously and beg for money, she will likely have a short surge of views and "donations". How the tables turn 😂, both are awful examples of creators and humans!
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To explain the Slazo thing, his ex accused him of basically being abusive and Slazo had evidence against it. Everyone for probably a few months like dogpiled on him until he came out and called Chey (the ex in question) for basically twisting the truth and lying. She (i think) wiped herself from the internet and Slazo only posted maybe 4-5 videos before dropping off the face of the planet.
Not dropping off exactly, he still owns the channel EmKay and occasionally narrates the videos.
I'm a diagnosed bipolar, please DO NOT confuse this mental illness with imoral behavior. I study my own mind a lot to help with the struggles and trust me when I say it: mental illness does not justify evil. Usually there must be something fundamentally wrong with a person to be like that and mental illness is just one more thing on top of it, so absolutely not the same. If he is truly sorry then he is going to get therapy and become a better person, but be for real, what are the odds of that, right?
Also, thank you so much for being so well informed and kind about abusive relantionships, Oompaville (I apologize for not knowing your name, I am new in your channel). It felt really refreshing to hear someone who did not experience that personally, speaks about it with such compassion, hopefully more people will take inspiration. I wish you all the success!
I’ve been in an abusive relationship and in several other toxic relationships and it’s very hard to leave. With the abusive one, I was scared to be alone and I had gaslit myself into thinking I was still attracted to him when I wasn’t. He treated me horribly and it took him SAing me for me to finally leave. In one of the toxic ones he had repeatedly sent reels and TikTok’s about a specific disorder (I can’t remember the name), where you basically self destruct if people reject and/or leave you. It’s an incredible fear and an actual physical reaction to it. He stated he had this and that made me terrified to leave out of fear of what he’d do and how he’d react. When I broke up with him, his reaction was enough for me to realize that was a lie and it was a massive guilt trip. There’s many reasons why people stay, and saying “they should’ve left” is horrible.
I have bipolar. I do hear some ranting he does but it’s not like the ranting I do when I’m in a manic state. He almost made too much sense. At least in my situation when I get worked up and enter that manic state (which any small trigger can start a slow uncontrollable explosion) I am so anxious and ready to speak my next sentence before I finish my last one that it becomes almost incomprehensible. I’m speaking clearly but mixing my words, thoughts and phrases along with my emotions. It’s unbearable for me but more for whoever deals with me. It’s made me live a more isolated life trying to balance being available for others but knowing when I need to separate myself from a situation because I’m old enough now to feel when an episode is coming. Mine usually starts with a feeling of social anxiety. But, everyone is different
yeah, im BPD and it felt a lot more like BPD splitting...he lashed out and then wanted to save face when he realized, the "loneliness" or "regret" or whatever it feels after having a BPD fit, i've never been able to describe it, plus i've been medicated for so long that i don't remember exactly how it feels.
He’s not bi-polar, he’s a nasty virtue signalling piece of work. All abusers torture,torment (it’s not always physical) and then cry like babies, they cry like babies apologising because they are fully aware that what they did was wrong. He’s a narcissist and believes he is the most important person in the world, he has treated people terribly to further his own career/agenda time and time again, he’s apology is pathetic and I’m glad Alice didn’t buy it 🤷♀️
It's always mental health when these people get caught actin' a fool.
oof i used to watch him sometimes. i got a weird vibe the other day when he posted crying talking about a teenage girl who recently passed of cancer...who he'd been talking to thru insta DMS.... it felt oddly performative (may she rest in peace).
I saw a little bit of that vid while I was searching for vids about this situation. Glad I'm not the only one who found that weird af. Couldn't watch the whole thing. So peformative and odd.
Oh he knew or had a feeling what was coming. So put out the fake empathy video. Oh yes I’m sure he talked the cancer victim through very hard times…or just listened. Would be nice is she existed and he actually did this. I watched him years ago and just got a bad vibe. Then he’d just pop up now and then for doing awful things. So I just don’t believe him.
Cant spell ImAllexx without multiple L's
I feel so bad for people stuck in these kinds of situations. I had a friend in a bad situation for five years. She’s doing great now, but just thinking how miserable they weren’t back done and how strapped she felt breaks my heart. We need to love one another.
Why do girls live longer?
Guys : 1:01
This is probably my favorite Oompa clip
Why has the phrase "actions speak louder than words" been around for 100's of years?
Genuinely one of the best clips on the internet.
That sort of behaviour is actually illegal in the U.K. now. Coercive and abusive. You can be arrested for doing it to a partner. Particularly as he’s also been physically abusive
Just to note, this behaviour is more associated with BPD not bipolar. Bipolar is a more sustained periods of lows and mania. BPD is more reactive to emotional triggers and is often in relation to feelings of abandonment. This often pushes them to push away loved ones to reinforce their belief that everyone leaves them in the end.
i agree so much. people need to stop acting like alex’s behavior couldn’t possibly be BPD. it very well could be. he’s exhibiting a lot of the characteristics, but others with BPD in the comments who do get help and are more self aware, are saying it could NEVER be bpd just because they don’t personally act like him. EVERY mental illness has a spectrum, with some acting a lot worse than others. there’s mild BPD and severe. it’s simply ignorant to immediately say that he could never have bpd because he’s abusive and “not all people with bpd are abusive.” like DUH! nothing is black and white… there are many people out there who act like alex who do have BPD, just as there are people who could never act like him who also have it.
@@ashleynoelle999 indeed, many BPD suffers are more implosive then explosive but overall the behaviour falls into the spectrum of that pathology
@@ashleynoelle999 as some one with BPD, the man could very possibly have that. The BPD especially plays into his massive ego. It could also just be just a severe empathy issue like sociopathy (not psychopathy thats very different, sociopaths can still feel empathy and understand a lot of how others feel) or is just a plain old mommy issue victim complex worst type of guy to interact with.
@bens1cultist405 I have BPD as well, hence recognising the behaviour. CPTSD can mirror a lot of BPD as well so I wouldn't say it's a diagnosis for sure. There's a Dr on UA-cam who helps explain the issues of BPD and other conditions in a non judgment way.
i’m just selfish and i don’t want to share anything with imalex, let alone a bpd diagnosis
I could not love the way you presented this relationship more. Thank you. Been through this and you are dead on accurate.
he’s mad bc he can’t control alice, not bc he can’t control himself. and that is so sad.
defo a narcissist
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It's honestly upsetting.
He was my first UA-camr merch when I could afford to back in 2020. What a waste and a disgrace of a person.
I used to watch him a lot years ago and he used to be my favorite UA-camr. Suddenly maybe a year ago I randomly just felt a weird feeling about him. Couldn’t explain it but I ended up no longer watching him and now I feel justified lol
I’m surprised you didn’t hear about the Slazo situation back in 2019 he threw him under the bus. But finally Alex is getting his karma now 😂
The warning signs were way back when he threw his friend "slazo" under the bridge, way back in 2019.
@@InVinoVeratas I have to be honest, I wasn't really watching those videos, neither did they come up on my YT recommendations back around 2018 maybe 2019 when I was watching him. It was pretty much TLC stuff, reactions, something with Pyro and what got me into Inabber (whom I still watch sometimes) as well as James Marriott and Lewis Buchan. I watched Memeulous and WillNE before I found out about Alex tbh
@@InVinoVeratas Even earlier than that with the Zaptie stuff in 2016/2017
12:08 I think regardless of legality or not when you are 16 you are still a child, you are a teenager. Even when you're 18. Even just the MATURITY difference (supposedly) between 20 and 16 is insane. That is a grown adult, someone old enough to be halfway done in college to put it in perspective sleeping with a highschooler.
yeah that explaination turkey tom made was actually jaw dropping. Tf?
What made me so frustrated is that he mostly sounds like he BLAMED HER.
As a British guy, watching this makes me realise why people mock the stereotypical English accent.
I’m British aswell and don’t like being called a loser just for being British, don’t allow and agree with people especially Americans (who have been raised to believe they are better at everything but in reality if you google it they are not number one in anything) to put you down just for being British, please be proud of your old and special country 🇬🇧 🙂
@@Bigshrimpslol nerd
@@Bigshrimpsliterally no American believes that unless they’re just overall bigoted
@@jebbush4godemperor285 British nerd 🤓
Aussie here & I fkn lovvvvvee English accents... 😍 I have trouble understanding some of u though - some of u guys talk so fast!!
But we Aussie's sound so fkn embarrassing to me!!! 😂😂
Justice for Slazo
Justice for Alice I think is more needed right now. Literally slazo is doing fine despite what happened
@janie7195 sure but this vile pos just got away with it for so long.
I miss him bro
@janie17195 Yes I agree! Justice for Alice. I think for people like me and OP who have stayed vigilant and angry at Alex since 2019 are just happy he’s getting his karma after 5 years.
@@janie7195 justice for both.
“I have no idea why Alex would even want to be with Alice if he’s just going to get mad at her for just communicating…” Me to myself when I was in a 2 year relationship where I was treated the same way and my BPD would not only keep me from leaving, but also made me fight back in ways that made everything worse and just as bad as my partner until he left me. To the end, I couldn’t leave. But I’m glad he’s gone. I know I’m better for it.
Bro the picture with him wearing socks in a bathtub should of been an early sign of him being a psychopath
psychopathy is an actual condition, this dude is just a freak
I don’t like the misuse of the word psychopath
@@layton6202 yeah pop psych has done a number on mental health awareness 😂
@@AnimosityIncarnate yep
He said he wasn't easy to work with. He wasn't her coworker, he was her boyfriend. He also looks like he couldn't pick a brick up let alone do anything with it.
Treating your partner like they’re your direct report has to be a red flag for potential ab*se at this point
oompa looks like he couldn't even pick up a toothpick without hurting himself.. but he can.
This isn’t just drama, I’m definitely sure this is literally a crime.
Nah I don’t think it’s a crime
How is it a crime to be mean to your partner? It's not right to do, but "everyone" does and I don't see anyone going to jail for it, ever
@@Walrus101 He made threats against her, threatening someone is a crime.
4:59 "Im older, and ive gotten smarter" **Sourboys 1st Attempt: -$1,000,000** 👀😂
Stopppppppppp 😭😭
Too soon brah
it would have cost more if he was younger. Also Sourboys is still on its 1st attempt he never stopped and started again
Every time oompa shows Alex, I think of that meme of the fish with the crooked teeth going “WeLL aT LeaST OuR sChoOlS” 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
6:32 crazy how he says and now Cody ko is under heat for sleeping with a minor
i was in a relationship for a year where he would speak to me exactly like that (not british luckily) and i can’t stress how much it really traumatizes someone to be berated by someone they love like that. this dude is a monster
One of my things was being shouted at, it sounds silly but having a male voice scream and shout at me is something that just puts me back to a place where I felt utterly powerless and afraid. It's control through intimidation and it took so much to realise that that behaviour was one of the first red flags. I hope you're doing better now ❤
Why luckily??
I remember how this guy threw a friend under the bus because of a false accusation
Alex doesn't have friends, he has people he uses for his own advantage, when they realise he is a shallow and selfish pos they abandon him.
Other than the ones covered in this video?
@@chilibeer3912 not seen him on any of their channels for a while now I'm pretty sure, they must have worked out he was a creep and left lol
Slazo
Slazo deserved so much better.
This is so funny how you’re looking back at 2020 when that’s when I primarily watching you and the eboys
The random "im awex" throughout the video made me laugh everytime
He really is the embodiment of "🤓 but abusive"
🤓👆 Erm ackshually, im pretty sure i saw you kick yourself in the back??? >adjusts nonexistent glasses >struggling to lift a brick
-Gorillaz Reject
As someone who suffers from a bipolar disorder, I can tell you that abusing your partner is NOT a symptom of it. Let’s say he does actually suffer from it. He is using his disorder to straight up manipulate her.. he is selfish and self absorbed. Something others get wrong about the disorder is the changes in moods. Bipolar is not a personality disorder it is a mood disorder. The switches of emotions are completely detached from your personality. It’s not the bipolar disorder he’s literally just a horrible person
Let’s stop the stereotypes he’s really not helping 😢
ah the ol
apologise - no response - keep apologising - no reponse - getting angry, escalating apology- no response - this keeps going until he would explode with anger and abuse her - then back to apology
The fking cycle, people ask, “Why don’t you get out ? “ It’s because you are literally smack dab in the middle of their sick circle
@@goldenglowable
This IS BPD BTW
10000000000000000%
How on earth were James and Alex considered more prominent than Will and James
simply the fact that willne is bigger than alex should automatically mean this is false. and it is false, will n jim are an iconic duo.
@@nebula541Will, Jim, George & Mikey are the best quadruple in British youtube and anyone can fight me on that >:0
@@princesskaraplays905 i am inclined to agree but who is mikey
@@nebula541will’s editor, very funny guy
@@moocake057 cheers
The weaponizing of "Bipolar" needs to stop, its tiring - Someone with Bipolar (T2)
This sounds like a documentary of why someone killed their loved one.
I love hearing the sound of abusers crying.
specially when its *r e a l* & not those bs alligator tears
Dude in that full audio clip he stubs his toe and makes a big deal out of it and it’s a hilarious moment in the midst of pathetic behavior
Oompa plays with his mustache more than a villian from an old timy cartoon 😂😂😂
This came at the perfect time for me, a lot of this parallels the way my best friend has been talking to me for the last decade. (Nowhere near as extreme, but a lot of the text messages are things he's said.) It's so easy to get stuck defending yourself and trying to explain things, believing they'll wake up and realize what they're doing to you. Hearing Alex's fake apology made me realize that 1) those words are never going to come out of my friend's mouth, and 2) they wouldn't actually make me feel any better even if they did. I hope I'm finally ready to actually break the cycle, I always fall into thinking "this time will be different" even though it never changes.
Hey, I'm a random internet stranger with no bearing on your life, but I'm here to say that I'm proud of you for realising that the situation you're in isn't at all what you deserve. Take it one step at a time, and please be kind to yourself. You've got this, and I hope the future brings friends into your life who treat you with the love and compassion you deserve.
@@notacatnt Thank you for the kind words, it means a lot! Luckily I do have some amazing, supportive friends already, but I'm definitely ready to start cultivating more positive relationships.
I appreciate you saying I don't deserve it and want to assure you that, while I've always understood that cognitively, I'm learning what actions I need to take to really honor that. I mostly just fell into the "I can fix him" trap and have to accept that, even if I do everything right, it's still up to him to actually change.
I'm focusing on addressing the things that keep me from breaking the cycle, like learned helplessness and poor boundary setting. I really loved how kind Oompa was to the woman in this video, I was always disappointed in myself for giving my friend "another chance" but it's so easy to fall for the person you know they could be.
Again, thank you for taking the time to encourage me, you're a wonderful person and I wish you the best.
reminder that this isnt drama, this is traumatic, this is abusive, this is messed up. I wished channels stopped using the term drama for everything when this whole situation is way more than just "drama" can we stop calling serious situations and torments drama? like genuinely?
It’s quite clear that Caleb does not believe this is simple “drama” and should be taken seriously- other comments have mentioned he is more than likely trying to avoid bots taking down his video etc for using the word “abuse” or similar in the title. I thought it was a bit redactive too when I saw it but this reasoning makes sense to me at least .
@@danagiles1568 oh yeah for sure, I just hate everyone calling it drama. Like even when I cover serious situations I dont sugar coat it. I get it, its your job, but in videos especially like this you shouldnt just keep calling it drama in the video and around it especially also commenters too. Its not drama, dont sugar coat stuff. If I can handle bringing up VERY serious situations in my own videos without getting flagged, when I can SHOW very serious things and not get effected yet, I think everyone in the comments and some in videos can do the same.
@@princeinsomniac ah fair enough if you have personal experience with what can or can’t be said- I don’t myself. It’s definitely something creators should be more aware of when talking about such awful situations for sure.
@@princeinsomniac again you don't seem to realize creators have to filter stuff a lot..... unless they are convicted or their evidence against it they have to use words to get around it, he makes it clear this isn't just drama it's a horrid act and behavior....
@@princeinsomniac you also make entirely different content and have a small AMT of traction this Creator does not have to be careful of what they say and how they say things
Popular youtubers dont need to 'mean' there apology. I doubt alot of them do, all they need to do is make it believable and their followers will eat it up or reject it entirely.
"I hate you, don't leave me!"
Is a popular descriptive phrase for BPD.
It's all there... but there's hope with treatment and the right medication for the individual.
She needs to stay away until he's done some serious work on himself for her sake. If not cutting ties completely because as it stands, it couldn't be more toxic. I don't know... this just litterally makes me sad. I hope she's safe and happy and he gets help immediately...
My sibling has BPD… it’s so bad. They’ve gotten physical with me, and the medications don’t do much (even Lithium and Xanax!). I want them to get better so, so bad, but they don’t even seem to want to? I’m CONSTANTLY walking on egg shells and it’s just… so exhausting. I wish I could do more, but I’m SO exhausted all the time from them SCREAMING every night and morning! Sometimes ALL day!
I'm glad attention is being brought to this but I think calling what amounts to a horrific abuse situation 'youtuber drama' is insanely reductive
True but at least it’s not clickbait for views…
Alex has titled vids similarly, maybe it's a suttle poke at that 🤷♀️? Maybe not, I don't know. I'm sure that Oompa isn't trying to belittle the severity of the situation tho.
Calling it drama stops it from getting hidden in the algorithm. Calling it crime or putting abuse in the title risks it getting hidden or not pushed.
What would you change the title to if you could?
I don't think titling it "horrific abuse situation" would get passed youtube's monetization bots lol
I had an ex exactly like this, the cycle of abuse can be very difficult to escape, and I hope she is doing ok now.
The sad thing is I'm relating to so much of what this poor girl went through in my current relationship and seeing just how disgusted others are by this is really making me rethink so much right now...
Yeah this behavior is not normal, nor is it okay, I hope you're able to get out of that situation. You deserve better.
Pls pls pls pls plssssssssss get out of there as quickly and safely as u can. Do NOT feel bad for ppl like tht and do NOT look back. Don't even think about falling into the same pattern with them for even a second. I wish u luck and blessings
Pro tip if you're gonna leave your partner meet in a public place so they can't do anything to you
@@orangegradient4309 wow you're a professional
Get on out of there, sis. You’ll be happier once you do
I kinda liked slazo's videos when he was still doing stuff. I generally got the feeling that he'd met the burden of proof to show he was innocent. But the way Alex just wouldn't let the issue die made me stop watching Alex's videos.
Me too, i think the whole situation caused him not to wanna do vids anymore and quite frankly I dont blame him.
Switching between happy, sad and angry without a moment's notice is NOT Bipolar. Bipolar requires a long drawn out emotional state. Like a few weeks to a few months in a manic episode where one does impulsive things and doesn't consider the consequences to their actions. Then comes a crash for a month or more of regret, shame and depression. Then eventually the depression fades and they get manic again. It is gradual and long lasting. a person who is one second friendly, then one second angry, then the next apologetic means that they are actually emoting in a fake way. They are using their behavior to elicit a certain response.
"Its not just because im massively rich-" my internet froze making me realise im not massively rich 😂
When i hear those crying messages, all i hear is "crocodile tears" and if those tears are real, its because he got exposed, not cause he hurt her
You saying that phrase triggered memories of my dad terrorising a five year old me. And when I cried he'd accuse me of crocodile tears and demand that I stop crying.
He'd get angry if I didn't and so I learnt to cut my tears off, which would only make him say "see, I told you they were crocodile tears!"
I'm in my forties now and struggle to express sadness or tears.
imalexx really hit all the abuser highlights. ALL of them. i didnt think it was possible.
This is a malignant sociopath narcissist. They are ABSENT OF ANY EMPATHIC RESPONSE... Apologies and EVEN KINDNESS are always self-serving. This type of person is a LIFE DESTROYER.
RUN. RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
Exactly this. 📢📢📢
Very much! I'm dealing with this now and am in the process of getting out. It's a difficult process. 😢
@@sterling970nicole I was one's sucker for over 5 YEARS... theres a few awesome books that will help u to recognize the abuse and escape it... 1. "Psychopath Free" 2. "How to K_LL a Narcissist"
Thats all I can see on my shelf right now, but def try at least one, and REMEMBER THIS SAYING:
"The only way to defeat a narcissist is to COMPLETELY CUT THEM OFF."
This saying is VERY SERIOUS. If you maintain even the smallest line of communication, they WILL continue the abuse.
I literally almost wrote my own book because im a male and I dont think people believe that men can be victims of narcissistic abuse the way women can... but I WAS... and it is the absolute worst psychological damage I have experienced in my life.
Love yourself. Thats something I realized I didnt do. Love yourself enough to free yourself of the constant manipulation and lies by realizing that you're the only person in the relationship experiencing LOVE... They never did for a minute. You have always been a belonging.
Be strong and MOVE FORWARD.
He is a disgusting abusive, manipulative monster... no need to get into armchair psych diagnosis territory.
I had an ex like this and he still stalks me to this day, they're really vile and scary people, he destroyed my self esteem and mental health and still would ask more from me even though I had already given up everything, my friends, my hobbies, my time, my basic human needs, I was so close to just giving up on life and he didn't even care, so happy I got out of there
Getting older isn't about getting smarter, but becoming more self-aware. :)
Yup, truth is people are getting dumber as they're getting older, the brain isn't doing that well past 25 yo.
Splitting hairs. They go hand in hand.
I’m getting real annoyed at how many people claim to be unbiased. All media has bias, the only things that aren’t biased are like a piece of fruit. What you mean is that your personal relationships have no bearing on your judgement, but you are still making a judgement and thus still biased. The bias in this case can come from a range of places such as personal politics, societal norms, experience etc.
He always gave me that gut feeling that something isn’t right, Now I know why.
I always felt the same way, it’s kind of interesting how your brain can send those signals to you even if you never actually met the person
I feel like he is the actual picture of Dorian Gray where all of the evil and nastiness is displayed for the whole world to see on his weird goblin face where even his own tongue seems to want to escape his mouth.
Oh my gawd 😭
😂😂😂
i love you sm oompaville, plz don’t die or do something bad
This isn’t “YOuTuBeR dRaMa” this is domestic violence 😒
*abuse
@@kinglet6926 yes domestic abuse as well
@@heonlyinit4daviews yyyaaayy 😬 /s
Oompa being unapologetically Oompa is what I live for on this platform
I’ve been in an abusive relationship- it’s very hard to leave. It makes no sense to anyone outside of it but it’s definitely a nightmare.
They make it hard to leave I’ve been there..
I’m so disappointed in him. Every UA-camr I watch gets cancelled 😭 begging you’ll stay ❤🙏
After what he did to Slazo, you still watch him. Unless you didn't know about that. Tbh I'm annoyed that Alex got away so easily.
@@idkwhattoputheretbhbuthere I didn’t know about that until I watched people talk about it now.
Who are u watching vaush, keffels?
Bro oompaville is too gun obsessed he won’t last much longer
@@Mr.XethusI think most people in Texas are.. 😂
As a British person i completely support every single time someone mocks im alex in these comments and this video and liked shared
Why would you being British be a part of your comment?
@@layton6202 honestly dont remember commenting this
It’s not bipolar it’s narcissism
it’s always just a matter of time before youtubers get exposed for some effed up stuff
Whats wring with IM ALLEXX's MOUTH???? Looks like it met the business end of a bowling ball at MACH 2
I just commented that his mouth makes angry 😡😂
@@TheRaspyAspie RIGHT???? And the back of his head is FLAT which means he was left in his crib all day as a baby... EXPLAINS A LOT!!!!
That’s just from being British
@@flojotubemy mother did that to me too. I hate her now