I agree with Trill on this one, taking care of a 2 year old on top of working and household duties will burn you out ASAP. I wasn't remote but I did 80% of the household chores and 80% of care for my daughter and let me tell you I was tired as hell most days. This put a huge strain on our marriage and this along with other things are the reason I'm getting a divorce. Buddy needs to have a conversation with his wife and also tell her we're not paying 9600 a year for our kid to go to daycare. That money can be used elsewhere especially in today's economy. We're not throwing that money away because of your feelings.
Bruh had this very real and very adult conversation about burn out, especially if we both working that means both share house responsibilities, ain’t make no sense for both of us 2 work and only 1 taking the lion share for housely duties. That’s an improper fraction🤦🏾♂️
Im doing a 7 year old that isnt mine, my 4 year old daughter, 12 hour work shifts, no hobby or friends, my wife mess and everyones dinner, plus maybe something for me. Jm on a revolving cycle of finances and cant breakout the cycle because if i stop ANYTHING shit fails
The wife needs to have a conversation with her husband and tell him that we ARE paying for that daycare. She shouldn't cave if she feels that's the best thing for her child.
To have avoided this situation before getting married they should have discussed and accepted their traditional duties as a husband and wife.This modern way of thinking that well just do things as we go along can cause a lot of issues and not let you appreciate when your partner assists you in your shortfall.
Discussed it before the marriage and unbelievable amount of times after the marriage and it still hasn't changed. Thought everything was just fine before we got married. You never know what happens in the long term people can do things for a little while and then go back to Old habits or change habits. It's all a gamble.
I felt the part about the kids tearing sh** up! I work from home with a 3 and 4 year old. It’s mentally draining also. They’re into everything yelling go while Im on conference calls. It’s easy for people to forget that you’re working too just because you work from home
The way they were laughing when the dude was reading the email, goes to show that they are suffering from the same and they couldnt find a solution for that kind of issue lol
Iam a woman and i feel sad for men who have to deal with such lazy ass, i mean basics are required, an easy hotmeal, basic cleaning, clean clothes, I had a mom like that and my dad had to deal with it, its a sad situation not only for the husband but also for the kids, he should be worried if they have kids cause it is not going to change ever
My grandson and his wife have four boys under the age of four. His wife is currently trying to start a. business with prime America. She does not cook, clean, do laundry keep the house clean and tidy. Filthy bathrooms. They want me to stay some weekend but the house is so filthy, I can’t stay there. She ain’t doing shit. Piles of dirty cloths, it they have a washer and dryer. filthy! Ratchet! bathrooms look worst than out houses! As a great grandmother, I can’t stay there overnight.
Feel this guy, i'm the same situation with a spouse that does nothing around the house. She complains she's tired if i ask her to lift a finger as she's too busy online shopping. I'd leave, but i know i wouldn't see my daughters if i left. It's living in a no-win situation.
Yes approach the cook/clean balance directly. Make a schedule, hire help etc. Daycare, need more clarification a rash from what? Kids are getting exposed to other kids, more germs etc. Kids are always brought in with frequent URIs, contact dermatitis etc when they start school/Daycare. Hell kids are one big germ themselves lol. If it's nothing from neglect or poor sanitation she needs to consider the free Daycare help at least half the week to offset his load.
I feel like if you have to go to this extreme then the person you are with isn't mature enough to even be living with. They need to go live on their own so they can figure out and manage a damn house. Shouldn't have to babysit an adult on how to do their chores. That's something for 13-year-olds
How many times is this shoe on the other foot. Women work and do most of the house work all the time. I agree with saying I need more help. They can come up with a schedule for chores
@@fantasyEXX interesting what you list as not a good wife: cooking, cleaning, raising kids Grown men SHARE the providing role and expect women to do those things exclusively. Most households are dual income and as such those roles should be shared You can’t expect the woman to help you with your role AND do hers alone as well This scenario is different as the woman needs to step up and carry her share. As was stated in the original response.
Right. That's why I don't feel sorry for men in this situation. They complain about any little thing. Women have been doing the sht for years while working.
@@blackprimetoys7090 tell me about it, my friends don’t clean or family member, their husbands do. Both men and women should clean. My mother taught me as a woman to take care of your home. My niece and her girlfriend are driving me insane with how they keep their house.
I would think what his mother been the owner of her own daycare center all he have to say is momma my baby got a diaper rash can your peeps change her diaper a little bit more frequently that’s the beauty of your own mother owning the Daycare Center, free or no doesn’t matter
Kids get sick man, 🤣 that requires more investigation. Y'all wild ass hell 🤣 But I agree just bring up, can't tip toe, she wont respect or respond if you do. I was a single father for about 4 years so I get it.
My only concern with this advice is why do you have to say "can you help ME" if its a shared household and shared baby. Its like hes asking for extra support when she should have been providing her equal part.
Bro I have the big problem about My wife is not how to cook even how to take care of the babies like cleaning, washing the clothes and other things condserning at home to be used.
Y'all don't understand... She's on the Internet.. my fiancee has been doing the same shit for 5 years and I've hinted CLEARLY that I WILL NOT sign up for this. We have a 5 year old..we agreed that she not work outside..it's hopeless..she doesn't even take care of the son... I don't even want to sex her down anymore..but she's using all her time caring about "self" .. shopping on the Internet and seeing movies
He don’t have to address the cookn yet.. he need to go bac to the office( new job) take his kid to his mama.. then if the balance doesn’t return then address the cookn.. he got take back control he giving her to much say.. not to sound misogynistic but it’s the truth.. he need to be the leader .. free daycare and new job is the move… kids get rashes doesn’t mean neglect.. women say anything to get their way his wife jst want him to watch that kid..but he need to get his mom on same accord and enforce the your grand kid takes priority rule.. but she said she didn’t like the teachers at the daycare.. so it all sounds like excuses to spend money to me… he should reassure his wife everything’s good.. y’all joking and giving bad advice.. bro just gta get all the women in his life on same page.
I think the expectations are too high … we all go threw seasons some seasons are to be mommy some are to be a money maker and some are to be a home maker … we can’t be everything … delegate and move on … if she isn’t complaining about you doing the dishes and cooking when you don’t it shouldn’t be a issue … some days I’ve eaten at work because we have different work schedules and I’m good I don’t have the appetite to eat and I’ll cook anyway … men loveeeee to eat sometimes it starts to feel like a chore … first lunch break and you hearing “what we eating tonight “ like you can’t think of anything ? Take something out ? Suggest take out ?or fin for yourself … my man go 3 days without a home cooked meal and here he go jokingly “sheesh I gotta do it all by myself” like boy I’m tired … why not look into a cheap house maker ? You season while you at home and she come home and cook
You'd be surprised how this is an epidemic. I know women who think they'll find a man when she's cooking and don't finish the job by doing the dishes. Good luck with that
If something bothers you for 24 hrs address it within 48
I have but then it turns into a big argument
Sometimes it takes a few days to process these emotions barking right away isn't smart either
Would it be addressed it constantly for 5 years and nothing changes. She starts off strong and then goes back to old habits watching TV.
I agree with Trill on this one, taking care of a 2 year old on top of working and household duties will burn you out ASAP. I wasn't remote but I did 80% of the household chores and 80% of care for my daughter and let me tell you I was tired as hell most days. This put a huge strain on our marriage and this along with other things are the reason I'm getting a divorce. Buddy needs to have a conversation with his wife and also tell her we're not paying 9600 a year for our kid to go to daycare. That money can be used elsewhere especially in today's economy. We're not throwing that money away because of your feelings.
Bruh had this very real and very adult conversation about burn out, especially if we both working that means both share house responsibilities, ain’t make no sense for both of us 2 work and only 1 taking the lion share for housely duties. That’s an improper fraction🤦🏾♂️
Im doing a 7 year old that isnt mine, my 4 year old daughter, 12 hour work shifts, no hobby or friends, my wife mess and everyones dinner, plus maybe something for me. Jm on a revolving cycle of finances and cant breakout the cycle because if i stop ANYTHING shit fails
The wife needs to have a conversation with her husband and tell him that we ARE paying for that daycare. She shouldn't cave if she feels that's the best thing for her child.
To have avoided this situation before getting married they should have discussed and accepted their traditional duties as a husband and wife.This modern way of thinking that well just do things as we go along can cause a lot of issues and not let you appreciate when your partner assists you in your shortfall.
Discussed it before the marriage and unbelievable amount of times after the marriage and it still hasn't changed. Thought everything was just fine before we got married. You never know what happens in the long term people can do things for a little while and then go back to Old habits or change habits. It's all a gamble.
I felt the part about the kids tearing sh** up! I work from home with a 3 and 4 year old. It’s mentally draining also. They’re into everything yelling go while Im on conference calls. It’s easy for people to forget that you’re working too just because you work from home
Nigga you the wife.
i mean he is home alday but that baby going to day care lol
Simple
@MeRest no one is a pro lol but he can really like they said just talk to his wife .
@MeRest i agree
🤣🤣
Regardless she should help clean up and cook I go out and go to work and I come home and do my part cook dinner help clean
The way they were laughing when the dude was reading the email, goes to show that they are suffering from the same and they couldnt find a solution for that kind of issue lol
Iam a woman and i feel sad for men who have to deal with such lazy ass, i mean basics are required, an easy hotmeal, basic cleaning, clean clothes, I had a mom like that and my dad had to deal with it, its a sad situation not only for the husband but also for the kids, he should be worried if they have kids cause it is not going to change ever
My grandson and his wife have four boys under the age of four. His wife is currently trying to start a. business with prime America. She does not cook, clean, do laundry keep the house clean and tidy. Filthy bathrooms. They want me to stay some weekend but the house is so filthy, I can’t stay there. She ain’t doing shit. Piles of dirty cloths, it they have a washer and dryer. filthy! Ratchet! bathrooms look worst than out houses! As a great grandmother, I can’t stay there overnight.
Your lazy grandson needs to clean up.
Feel this guy, i'm the same situation with a spouse that does nothing around the house. She complains she's tired if i ask her to lift a finger as she's too busy online shopping. I'd leave, but i know i wouldn't see my daughters if i left. It's living in a no-win situation.
My music teacher filed for divorce after less than 6 months because his wife was messy.
Yes approach the cook/clean balance directly. Make a schedule, hire help etc. Daycare, need more clarification a rash from what? Kids are getting exposed to other kids, more germs etc. Kids are always brought in with frequent URIs, contact dermatitis etc when they start school/Daycare. Hell kids are one big germ themselves lol. If it's nothing from neglect or poor sanitation she needs to consider the free Daycare help at least half the week to offset his load.
I feel like if you have to go to this extreme then the person you are with isn't mature enough to even be living with. They need to go live on their own so they can figure out and manage a damn house. Shouldn't have to babysit an adult on how to do their chores. That's something for 13-year-olds
How many times is this shoe on the other foot. Women work and do most of the house work all the time.
I agree with saying I need more help. They can come up with a schedule for chores
@@fantasyEXX interesting what you list as not a good wife: cooking, cleaning, raising kids
Grown men SHARE the providing role and expect women to do those things exclusively. Most households are dual income and as such those roles should be shared
You can’t expect the woman to help you with your role AND do hers alone as well
This scenario is different as the woman needs to step up and carry her share. As was stated in the original response.
most women these days don't do any housework
Right. That's why I don't feel sorry for men in this situation. They complain about any little thing. Women have been doing the sht for years while working.
@@blackprimetoys7090 tell me about it, my friends don’t clean or family member, their husbands do. Both men and women should clean. My mother taught me as a woman to take care of your home. My niece and her girlfriend are driving me insane with how they keep their house.
I would think what his mother been the owner of her own daycare center all he have to say is momma my baby got a diaper rash can your peeps change her diaper a little bit more frequently that’s the beauty of your own mother owning the Daycare Center, free or no doesn’t matter
NEVER DO DOMESTIC DUTIES EARLY IN A MARRIAGE. You will never stop. You are being finessed.
Facts that’s her job she should take pride in those duties
Tell yo mama clean that shit up 😭😭😭😭
Better take that free daycare, and work the rest of the issues out
Kids get sick man, 🤣 that requires more investigation. Y'all wild ass hell 🤣
But I agree just bring up, can't tip toe, she wont respect or respond if you do. I was a single father for about 4 years so I get it.
The baby maybe allergic to her detergent or it could be her perfume if’s she’s holding the baby
Man or woman, if you made the mess you're the one to clean it up. Fair deal
Y’all are hilarious
My only concern with this advice is why do you have to say "can you help ME" if its a shared household and shared baby. Its like hes asking for extra support when she should have been providing her equal part.
Bro I have the big problem about My wife is not how to cook even how to take care of the babies like cleaning, washing the clothes and other things condserning at home to be used.
Y'all don't understand... She's on the Internet.. my fiancee has been doing the same shit for 5 years and I've hinted CLEARLY that I WILL NOT sign up for this. We have a 5 year old..we agreed that she not work outside..it's hopeless..she doesn't even take care of the son... I don't even want to sex her down anymore..but she's using all her time caring about "self" .. shopping on the Internet and seeing movies
He don’t have to address the cookn yet.. he need to go bac to the office( new job) take his kid to his mama.. then if the balance doesn’t return then address the cookn.. he got take back control he giving her to much say.. not to sound misogynistic but it’s the truth.. he need to be the leader .. free daycare and new job is the move… kids get rashes doesn’t mean neglect.. women say anything to get their way his wife jst want him to watch that kid..but he need to get his mom on same accord and enforce the your grand kid takes priority rule.. but she said she didn’t like the teachers at the daycare.. so it all sounds like excuses to spend money to me… he should reassure his wife everything’s good.. y’all joking and giving bad advice.. bro just gta get all the women in his life on same page.
I think the expectations are too high … we all go threw seasons some seasons are to be mommy some are to be a money maker and some are to be a home maker … we can’t be everything … delegate and move on … if she isn’t complaining about you doing the dishes and cooking when you don’t it shouldn’t be a issue … some days I’ve eaten at work because we have different work schedules and I’m good I don’t have the appetite to eat and I’ll cook anyway … men loveeeee to eat sometimes it starts to feel like a chore … first lunch break and you hearing “what we eating tonight “ like you can’t think of anything ? Take something out ? Suggest take out ?or fin for yourself … my man go 3 days without a home cooked meal and here he go jokingly “sheesh I gotta do it all by myself” like boy I’m tired … why not look into a cheap house maker ? You season while you at home and she come home and cook
His mom can’t clean and his wife can’t clean, seriously messed up. 😂
women take care of the children
You'd be surprised how this is an epidemic. I know women who think they'll find a man when she's cooking and don't finish the job by doing the dishes. Good luck with that
Stop making excuses for adults.