How To Stop Being Boring In Conversation

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  • @erikn8047
    @erikn8047 10 місяців тому +2508

    All what I got from this video is: "Be more like Ryan Gosling"

    • @nopseudosleft56
      @nopseudosleft56 9 місяців тому +19

      😂😂😂😂

    • @nothingwsthesame
      @nothingwsthesame 8 місяців тому +46

      not a bad motto

    • @sajjadhaqCC
      @sajjadhaqCC 8 місяців тому +14

      And really, just be more fun :)

    • @veduci22
      @veduci22 7 місяців тому +18

      "Just make a banter like a Hollywood actor on a talk show for old people"

    • @officialDZX
      @officialDZX 7 місяців тому +4

      Lol I bet it would work tho

  • @speakevermore
    @speakevermore 10 місяців тому +1390

    One thing I notice makes people very likable is to listen intentionally and remember things about your conversation partner, then casually mention those things in a later conversation. It makes the other person feel special for having a place in your memory.

    • @alexandresavardo
      @alexandresavardo 9 місяців тому +36

      Demonstrating that you believe the other person can be interesting, and thus deserves your attention (which will provoke something to stick inside your memory most likely so you can later recall it like you mention), makes so much sense. That's a core belief of mine that helps I think: everyone has a story to share, something to teach you. Memorizing things about people can come by so naturally if you approach things this way.

    • @gummy5862
      @gummy5862 8 місяців тому +5

      I mean I guess, but whenever I do that people seem to take it for granted. There’s no getting through to damaged people.

    • @hase8442
      @hase8442 6 місяців тому +6

      Me with adhd forgeting even the smallest details:

    • @ibrahimkayikci2146
      @ibrahimkayikci2146 4 місяці тому +3

      The problem for people who struggle with this is that they are so self-aware, at least half their attention goes to how other people perceive them, leaving little attention to what the other people are talking about.

    • @jujuoof174
      @jujuoof174 3 місяці тому

      Thanks! I’m a little forgetful lol but I’ll try

  • @aaronlewis3378
    @aaronlewis3378 Рік тому +3558

    “ Want it, but don’t need it.” That’s one powerful sentence.

    • @taten007
      @taten007 Рік тому +15

      No it’s not 😂

    • @paulduggan2
      @paulduggan2 Рік тому +8

      Agreed 👍🏻

    • @iLL_WiLL_
      @iLL_WiLL_ Рік тому +68

      I think that may have stood out the most of the entire video. I liked all the suggestions, but the reassurance that you'll be OK when things don't go as you plan them is something that is so valuable. Currently it is something I struggle with, but seeing it casually mentioned like this offers a reminder and I hope one day it becomes cemented within me.

    • @BurnJK
      @BurnJK Рік тому

      Love this

    • @Vivi_9
      @Vivi_9 Рік тому +3

      @@taten007 no u

  • @DrasticSkuba
    @DrasticSkuba Рік тому +611

    About 8 years ago, give or take, I heard a similar thing on one of your videos that changed my life forever. "Even if things don't go to plan, know that you'll be ok." It really turned my confidence around when I started to put it into practice. I went from a dead-end cleaning job in Scotland to having the guts to move to China for now going on 5 years as a teacher. I've made authentic friends and I am in a great relationship because I now feel comfortable navigating interactions because I WANT to have them, not because I need something from the other person. Thank you, Charisma On Command

    • @justjoshin7740
      @justjoshin7740 11 місяців тому +3

      thats amazing do you speak the language ?

    • @DrasticSkuba
      @DrasticSkuba 11 місяців тому

      @@justjoshin7740 Thanks man! As of the end of August, I am now on my 6th year here.
      I know just enough Mandarin Chinese to get myself into trouble, but not enough to get myself out of it :D My learning of the language isn't structured, so I know a random assortment of simple and advanced stuff, but my fundamentals are very shaky at a primary school academic level. I can manage my classroom in Chinese for the most part, but I can't always answer every random question from the kids (kids ask a lot of random things), so I need some help from my fellow room teachers from time to time

    • @entreprenur00
      @entreprenur00 11 місяців тому +2

      Men,
      FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE
      - Have a strict morning routine.
      - Invest in stocks, bonds, shares & funds.
      - Income Generating Activity eg business or a farm.
      - Lift weights. Eat healthy.
      - Read books.
      - Learn a skill & foreign language.
      Have DISCIPLINE.

    • @onestepatatime158
      @onestepatatime158 9 місяців тому

      Which of these things you do?​@@entreprenur00

    • @pkawesome6230
      @pkawesome6230 5 місяців тому

      The John Ham Mad Men episode!!! Definitely helped me a lot too!! Glad to here it for you!!!

  • @pippin45
    @pippin45 Рік тому +905

    Of all the tips in this video, I think the one I have the hardest time with (and many other people, I'm sure) is mixing playful humility with genuinely accepting a compliment. The playful humility isn't necessarily the hard part, but being able to accept a compliment in genuine and charismatic way is tough!

    • @jaredlash5002
      @jaredlash5002 Рік тому +62

      First, you need to be able to genuinely accept a compliment (no need to be charismatic, just be appreciative). A simple "thank you" with a genuine smile works. Something that I do, and which helps boost my own self-confidence, is I'll reflect on their compliment later on, and accept it at face value. Another way I work to help myself believe the compliments I'm given, is if I feel comfortable in the moment asking, I'll just ask, "Oh? What do you mean?" with a smile. That way the person complimenting me knows that I'm not offended, that I'm genuinely curious, and they have the chance to elaborate (which I can then take and reinforce the positive thoughts).
      If you're always turning a compliment into a joke, it tells others that you're not self-confident and you'll appear to deflect or be uncomfortable with compliments. Most nice people don't want to intentionally make someone uncomfortable so you'll stop receiving as many compliments. Also, playful humility should be readily apparent that it is a joke; would you want a friend or colleague to beat themself up in front of you if you complimented them?

    • @itsiwhatitsi
      @itsiwhatitsi Рік тому +4

      @@jaredlash5002 would be funny if some people would beat themselves up if you compliment them tho 🤣

    • @TheGeneralDisarray
      @TheGeneralDisarray Рік тому +1

      Just smile and say, "thank you, you're very sweet." or something similar

    • @TheGeneralDisarray
      @TheGeneralDisarray Рік тому

      In fact you can push this further if the compliment comes from someone you're interested, and make sure the response makes it clear you like them. Just change the word "sweet" to "beautiful/lovely" etc.

    • @bobthebuilderhecanbuildit
      @bobthebuilderhecanbuildit Рік тому +11

      I usually will say, “aw/wow thank you, that means a lot. my ego can never get enough compliments, please keep them coming”

  • @xoxo_dd886
    @xoxo_dd886 Рік тому +163

    I absolutely love Ryan cause hes a great example of an extremely likeable and confident person who everyone would love to be around

    • @joannacummins4839
      @joannacummins4839 Рік тому +3

      Canadian eh!

    • @jesusisking3814
      @jesusisking3814 4 місяці тому +1

      Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!

  • @Literally_Batman_123
    @Literally_Batman_123 Рік тому +233

    Step 1: be Ryan gosling

  • @Sparks.u
    @Sparks.u Рік тому +428

    I just want to say I was so akward in highschool and your videos got me to a point where I actually can interact with people positively. I have transitioned into more stable stuff now but I was a freelance model for my early twenties and I really think a large part of my success was you teaching me a formula to apply to conversations. So thank you ❤

    • @MirabelHawks
      @MirabelHawks Рік тому

      Hello how are you doing

    • @noeliagutierrez4223
      @noeliagutierrez4223 11 місяців тому +1

      How do you get into freelance modeling?

    • @Sparks.u
      @Sparks.u 11 місяців тому

      @@noeliagutierrez4223 I had a few photographer friends ask if they could take photos of me to build their portfolio and sort of fell into it through that. Though I should say it's lots of promotions work, think car shows and bar openings. If you want to be an actual fashion model, build a portfolio, go to angencies and try to get them to represent you. If someon says they are a headhunter and approaches you on the street, always look the agency up online and call the number associated with the website, not the card the man on the street gives you as a safety measure.

    • @Sparks.u
      @Sparks.u 10 місяців тому +1

      @@Nopeasaurus no it's actually pretty boring with lots of admin work. That's why most people go with agencies because it's frustrating dull to book and negotiate contracts alone. There are lots of beautiful people, there are not as many beautiful people wanting to negotiate contracts and maintain consistent working hours.

  • @DaoDepictions
    @DaoDepictions Рік тому +1346

    00:16 1. Go into conversation with intention of having fun
    03:27 2. Tell funny, embarrassing stories from your past
    05:51 3. Create authenticity in your conversations
    07:10 4. Make people feel good around you
    08:58 5. Be playfully humble
    10:08 6. Self validation

    • @fewntug3760
      @fewntug3760 Рік тому +21

      Bless you

    • @DaoDepictions
      @DaoDepictions Рік тому +2

      @@fewntug3760 🙏🙏

    • @Chrisko1492
      @Chrisko1492 Рік тому +20

      It‘s just the same things over and over again on this channel… I liked it when they analysed celebrities. But nowadays it‘s just the same advices you can read in any self-help book.

    • @walkinghills
      @walkinghills Рік тому +2

      Thank you!

    • @godloveskaren
      @godloveskaren Рік тому +1

      Thank you for doing this!

  • @finnisaloser3224
    @finnisaloser3224 11 місяців тому +69

    How to be Ryan Gosling

  • @puh8825
    @puh8825 Рік тому +82

    To anyone trying to "become confident" let me tell you something: confidence is not something you are born with. Confidence is a skill, a habit, or even, sometimes, an act. The "confident" people around you have spent months, maybe years developing their ways of getting around in social situations and you can do that too, it's easy, but also A LOT of effort and repetition.

    • @Meitti
      @Meitti 10 місяців тому +3

      Its a mindset. When you stop caring about what others think of you, confidence in a discussion becomes really easy.

    • @JayM928
      @JayM928 8 місяців тому +1

      This is the first comment I read here that wasn't fortune cookie BS. I always watch these and think, "oh, yeah? The guy that walks on stage and women scream and fall over themselves to throw their underpants at him has confidence?" And all I need to do is be more like that guy, eh?
      My comment was: nothing makes me more confident than realizing I should act more like someone else.
      Your comment makes more sense to me than the whole video. Thanks.

  • @joemomma8058
    @joemomma8058 Рік тому +18

    This video just explained how to be Canadian. Humour, humility and honesty.

  • @riku575
    @riku575 Рік тому +115

    after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!

  • @lucasnikodemus8813
    @lucasnikodemus8813 Рік тому +107

    I feel it's so rare to see Ford laugh out loud and the fact that Ryan is able to make him do that multiple times IN THE SAME INTERVIEW is remarkable😂🔥

  • @KhiemGiaLa
    @KhiemGiaLa 3 місяці тому +1755

    Revandles forbidden books (thank me later)

    • @FusRoDraaaa91
      @FusRoDraaaa91 2 місяці тому +8

      Scamming bot with fake likes 😂

  • @therb_
    @therb_ Рік тому +355

    Well Ryan is quick witted, and that does at least 60% of the heavily lifting in his charisma lol

    • @Vivi_9
      @Vivi_9 Рік тому +23

      That is a skill anyone can develop

    • @ZeeJayBay
      @ZeeJayBay Рік тому

      @@Vivi_9 How?

    • @sathira_anuk5179
      @sathira_anuk5179 Рік тому +13

      ​@@ZeeJayBaypractice

    • @dsweet5859
      @dsweet5859 7 місяців тому +1

      @@sathira_anuk5179 facts

    • @Frawpdawg
      @Frawpdawg 5 місяців тому

      Doesn't feel completely right, however his attractiveness probably allows him to have more practice at social situations.

  • @DraxTheDestroyer
    @DraxTheDestroyer Рік тому +15

    Being yourself but being the most confident version of yourself is the safest and best thing we can do.
    We might not all have million experiences to share in conversations but we can all still be fun people to hang out with!

  • @VictorYamaykin
    @VictorYamaykin Рік тому +9

    "The stakes aren't that high" - I appreciate that knowing the ground is underneath you and you're not walking a tightrope

  • @loveescape9848
    @loveescape9848 Рік тому +43

    These videos have helped me out in my personal life and professional life. I'm less in my head and more in the present and part of me is coming out that I never knew existed and it's making me connect with people at a higher level. It's incredible how small changes in your delivery changes everything. Anyone doubting taking tips from these videos, don't doubt it. take it and own it.

  • @sweetsupernova631
    @sweetsupernova631 Рік тому +48

    “I feel a ken in you” lmao I always knew he seemed nice, is handsome, etc but did not know he was actually funny 😂

  • @8227a4mhm
    @8227a4mhm Рік тому +90

    Hey, I've learned so much from this channel and would like to make a suggestion for future videos to help the advice be more applicable: using more realistic examples. The celebrity examples are helpful for general principles, but they're mostly performers (celebrities, talk show hosts, etc) interacting with other performers, and the extremely larger-than-life personalities/interactions are not only extremely rare in real life among strangers/acquaintances, but people like that would come off as mentally ill. For example, where I live (Pacific Northwest), touching people at all is very odd unless you're already very close to them, and people don't usually speak in such an animated loud way.
    Something to consider if you're open to feedback. Regardless, this channel is grade A content, so thank you for it!

    • @CoreyLennox
      @CoreyLennox 11 місяців тому +3

      Fair, but I don’t think you’d get nearly as much clicks with general principles and NOT having a famous celebrity in the thumbnail/examples!

  • @Bonbonbon739
    @Bonbonbon739 11 місяців тому +5

    Ryan is just a great example of a polite down to earth person

  • @H0ffmans_Girl
    @H0ffmans_Girl Рік тому +104

    “Do you guys need help with the cameras?” That was so funny, definitely gonna use these tips!😆

    • @AA-xb2zm
      @AA-xb2zm Рік тому +10

      Just pretend you are constantly in front of a camera, that will make you memorable.

  • @ibobomarvel9778
    @ibobomarvel9778 8 місяців тому +6

    my best part of this video is " Want it don't need it, u'll have another opportunities and no matter what, u'll be okay".

  • @jennyjennyable
    @jennyjennyable Рік тому +22

    I knew Ryan Gosling before he became famous. After Mickey Mouse Club. He is genuinely a super kind, very thoughtful guy. He’s a rare, unique, amazing soul.

  • @stefanravalli6940
    @stefanravalli6940 10 місяців тому +14

    As an aside: my wife once literally saw Ryan Gosling run into LA traffic to rescue a dog. He legit rescues dogs I guess.

  • @slawck9635
    @slawck9635 Рік тому +48

    How did you get so good at reading people in these different situations? Truly awesome content. I keep coming back to this channel👍

  • @ellar6563
    @ellar6563 4 місяці тому

    I forgot how good this channel was. I just got a new job and came here to learn how to talk to my colleagues without being embarrassed. I'm very grateful that this information is free, and it's very well organized with great, understandable examples. Thanks for doing what you do!

  • @Arakko-i7h
    @Arakko-i7h Рік тому +8

    What are the most important soft skills to have?
    The ability to understand people's motivations.
    If you don't understand people, they become arbitrary. You'll live in a world where people screw you over for no reason, and you'll waste a lot of energy being angry and depressed. You might also think people's actions have something to do with you when they don't. This will mess with your self-image and hinder your interactions with other people.
    You'll have a lot of trouble resolving conflicts because good conflict resolution requires both parties to see the other person's side. This will cause you to lose friends and put you at a disadvantage in your career. It also makes people hate you.

  • @MariaEduarda-ln2ep
    @MariaEduarda-ln2ep 10 місяців тому +7

    The guy saying "you're better than that" while Ryan is having the time of his life being Ken 😂😂😂

  • @vancesaldana8684
    @vancesaldana8684 5 місяців тому

    This channel helped me realize that I wasn't an introvert, I just needed to learn communication skills. I am a completely different person, because I can be confident about making jokes and having amazing conversations. So much valuable advice over the years. Thank you Charisma on Command!

  • @super266
    @super266 11 місяців тому +49

    Step #1: don't forget to be handsome.

    • @justinbriggs1636
      @justinbriggs1636 7 місяців тому +2

      Handsome af

    • @rebekah3698
      @rebekah3698 3 місяці тому

      He's not that handsome. Most guys if they had Ryan Gosling's persona, and if they wore decently fitting clothes, stood up straight, and grew a beard, would probably be considered more handsome then Ryan Gosling. For females, it's 90% in how men carry themselves. Also you don't need to be born with the jawline of a 1950s movie star if you have a beard. That's God helping you out.

    • @Oddsirshey
      @Oddsirshey 3 місяці тому

      I don't have that

    • @johnathanpiper6378
      @johnathanpiper6378 2 місяці тому

      Unfortunately does make it MUCH easier. People are already willing to give you more attention from the start of the convo if you're beautiful

    • @super266
      @super266 2 місяці тому

      @@johnathanpiper6378 I do na zi a problem here; seems perfectly normal to treat people differently based on how they look. Sign of a healthy society. Nothing wrong here. No problem at all.

  • @PsycheandWisdom
    @PsycheandWisdom 3 місяці тому +1

    Authenticity and empathy are the simplest keys to attracting others and forming genuine connections.

  • @mindtheprivacy
    @mindtheprivacy 8 місяців тому +2

    Its like hes incredibly PRESENT. Amd confident in himself.

  • @futuregootecks
    @futuregootecks Рік тому +11

    Wow I never paid attention to Ryan gosling before but the man is a charisma legend. Thanks for this video

  • @michaelj.mccall6530
    @michaelj.mccall6530 2 місяці тому +1

    I hope this channel comes back soon! My life always gets better when I binge these videos.

  • @dacrazydragon
    @dacrazydragon 7 місяців тому +35

    how to be ryan gosling tutorial

  • @kirandeepchakraborty7921
    @kirandeepchakraborty7921 Рік тому +4

    Ryan is a good man. More than that actually.

  • @Pavlos_Charalambous
    @Pavlos_Charalambous 10 місяців тому +4

    The self laugh trick were you laughing at a mistake you just made, it's actually very effective and reminded me of of an early 20th century politician and diplomat from my country
    It's during the talks about the peace talks after ww2 and his giving a speache in English that was basically self-told
    In some point he realize that he made a mistake pause gives a Naughty smile towards the camera and continues - a master piece

  • @naterksmr
    @naterksmr 13 днів тому

    I remember hearing that advice a number of years back, and even then thinking I wish someone had said it to me sooner in my life.
    The idea that: Confidence isn't thinking "I know I'll succeed." Confidence is thinking "I'd like to succeed, but whether I succeed or fail, I'll be just fine by the end."

  • @Mr.Wannabe
    @Mr.Wannabe Рік тому +10

    This video is about How to never be boring in conversation and how to stop worrying and start living 🎉
    Thanks a lot for this great video, hope it goes viral ❤

  • @BurnJK
    @BurnJK Рік тому +8

    This is so cool. “You don’t have to be perfect for people to like you”

  • @atthecore4560
    @atthecore4560 Рік тому +16

    It's amazing to see just how difficult confidence is for some people. Extrovert personalities understand this better than most when they freely express themselves and receive ostracized belittlement.
    On the other side of the coin, Introvert personalities can have a tremendous amount of confidence when they're focused and goal oriented.

  • @hollenfeuer1
    @hollenfeuer1 25 днів тому

    It's amazing, I'm horribly quiet 90% of the time, but you get me out of my own head, and I'm making the whole room laugh.
    Get rid of your ego as soon as possible, even if you aren't impressed with yourself, that ego will still get ya.

  • @guywhoasked903
    @guywhoasked903 11 місяців тому +2

    "the stakes aren't that high" I needed that. Thank you so much!

  • @christophercohen418
    @christophercohen418 Рік тому +35

    The first joke, the Jackson Pollock joke, was also great because it was callback to a joke that the comedian to his left, Greg Davies, had made earlier in the interview.

    • @salomemunoz2110
      @salomemunoz2110 Рік тому +3

      actually, it is the opposite. Greg said it after. He even looked at Ryan when he repeated the joke

    • @frances1227
      @frances1227 10 місяців тому

      @@salomemunoz2110yeah ive seen those clips soo many times and I didn’t realise that until recently

  • @RussAnimus
    @RussAnimus Рік тому +56

    Ryan is pretty much Stoicism personified - great video example!

    • @Matt_Nor
      @Matt_Nor Рік тому

      If i understand right, you may refer to the part where the award is handed out?

  • @harlscat2990
    @harlscat2990 3 місяці тому +1

    I love that Ryan Gosling was used as THE example in this

  • @johannabonana5306
    @johannabonana5306 Рік тому +1

    This feels so good to believe. I am living vicariously through his confidence. It's no big deal. The sun will rise once more.

  • @WilliamJonesChess
    @WilliamJonesChess Рік тому +35

    Best Moments for me. Words in [square brackets] are my own thoughts
    Each key point I have put a heading for me to refer back to. But also making each key point useful for anyone reading it.
    For me, my top moments are
    Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40
    Compliment plus Joke 8:08
    Superpower Moment 11:47
    Ridiculous Comparisons
    00:58 It is like the sun. I cannot stare directly at this dish towel !!
    Deadpan humour must lead to a smirk to show you are joking
    [so important to smile so then people know it is a safe space. Your face shows seriousness but you break then tension with a smile and a laugh]
    02:23 Ryan to interviewer: I feel a kenergy between us. I feel a ken in you
    [ sounds like You have got a friend in me. Is he changing the words from Toy Story when Ryan says I feel a ken in you.
    This could be clever word play. In Toy Story 3, Barbie and Ken were 2 characters]
    Confidence Strategy
    03:28 tell stories at your expense. Laugh when you tell them. ‘I wish I could say here you have to wear this but it was my idea to wear this outfit.’
    Embarrassment Awareness Strategy
    03:58 when you emphasize you are aware it is embarrassing, this invites others to laugh at you.
    Use this as a go-to story when meeting new people. 4:40 When your brain sends your toungue to investigate.
    Compliment plus Joke
    08:08 You know I cant do the string dance. No one can. I had a friend die trying to do the string dance. [This is so funny. I don't know about you, dear reader, but I burst out laughing here !]
    Calmness Serenity Outlook
    11:00 I thought someone had been hurt. Turns out they just read the wrong name off the card. [ High quality perspective moment by Ryan]
    Superpower moment perspective
    11:47 It is a superpower to go into a conversation knowing you don’t need anything from it. Want it don’t need it.

    • @godloveskaren
      @godloveskaren Рік тому

      Thanks 😊.

    • @WilliamJonesChess
      @WilliamJonesChess Рік тому

      @@godloveskaren You are very welcome. Which was your favourite point?
      Out of these 3 points which I mentioned at the top
      Embarrassment Awareness Strategy 4:40
      Compliment plus Joke 8:08
      Superpower Moment 11:47
      It is the last one on Superpower Moment 11:47
      How about you?

    • @godloveskaren
      @godloveskaren Рік тому +2

      @@WilliamJonesChess superpower

    • @MirabelHawks
      @MirabelHawks Рік тому

      Hello how are you doing

    • @MirabelHawks
      @MirabelHawks Рік тому

      Hello how are you doing

  • @Arakko-i7h
    @Arakko-i7h Рік тому +8

    🌸A WISE MAN ONCE SAID
    1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;
    2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
    3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
    4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
    5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
    6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
    7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
    8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
    9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
    10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
    11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
    12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;
    13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
    14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;
    15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
    16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
    17. Never give advice until you’re asked;
    18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
    19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
    20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and
    21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

  • @Moomer2
    @Moomer2 7 місяців тому +8

    Look you guys.. Point of the story is JUST. BE. YOURSELF. Seriously. You might not feel special, and that's because you're used to you. But you're cool to other people man

  • @JayM928
    @JayM928 8 місяців тому +3

    Nothing helps me build my confidence like realizing that all I have to do is be more like someone else.

  • @Canadian_Networth
    @Canadian_Networth 9 місяців тому +1

    I think you just have to be so happy with your life and situation that it just exudes from you. Someone who is suffering financially and not doing well just can’t feel like stirring up a convo

  • @funnytv-1631
    @funnytv-1631 Рік тому +6

    Every life has positive and negative ingredients that make up one’s history. Take a moment to let gratitude move through you now. Every pain that has grown into wisdom. Everything you know now that you did not know before.
    Ask how much you like who you are and create kindness around your answer, no matter what it is. Know that you have power over who you want to be.

  • @Vampress09
    @Vampress09 Рік тому +2

    What I learned from this is I need to see more Ryan Gosling interview. "Fecal Jackson Pollock" has me in stitches.

  • @theoafvp-theoafv8537
    @theoafvp-theoafv8537 Рік тому +2

    My man took the im literally Ryan Gosling to a whole new level!!!

  • @Arakko-i7h
    @Arakko-i7h Рік тому +7

    What is the harsh truth of life?
    1. Never tell anyone what you are doing until it is done.
    2. When it hurts, observe that life is trying to teach you something.
    3. Sometimes, it's not about who has more talent, it's about who is hungrier.
    4. If you are scared to do it, do it scared.
    5. Nobody cares about your story until you win, so win.
    6. Never forget how to take care of yourself because others won't forget how to use you.
    7. We don't grow when things are easy. We grow when we face challenges.
    8. Win in your mind, and you will win in your reality.
    9. Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.
    10. It's better to fight for something than to live for nothing.

    • @fzfzfzfz499
      @fzfzfzfz499 Рік тому +1

      This taught me more than my school ever could

    • @Arakko-i7h
      @Arakko-i7h Рік тому

      @@fzfzfzfz499 glad to help.

  • @ArshBstudyplaylife
    @ArshBstudyplaylife Рік тому +2

    Ryan Gosling is extremely charismatic! His personality is so attractive and damn he's soooo fine!

  • @FactXpert-ok4hp
    @FactXpert-ok4hp 11 місяців тому +1

    Confident is the Freedom of doing anything you want to do. You can get this freedom if you dont expect something from outside, because then you try hard to get this or force that. Hava simple goals for example: A funny conversation, not a that they like you only funny. Or anything else. And if you accept yourself with your strenghts and weaknesses the meaning of other peoble become irrelevant because you know what you are and what you want you dont need a meaning from outside. Thats also the trick to become fearless in society because noone and nothing can hurt you or bring you out of concept because have your own very strong meaning of yourself and about what you want from live. Take this mindset if you want to become free in society. Much Success!

  • @antonsimmons8519
    @antonsimmons8519 Рік тому +3

    I already do most of this stuff, but now I know how to use it consciously. Thanks.

  • @JoeMama-bg1im
    @JoeMama-bg1im 7 місяців тому +2

    i literally thought in my mind "well i would say 'its like looking at the sun' but he probably wouldn't say something like that"

  • @kubakielbasa5987
    @kubakielbasa5987 3 місяці тому +1

    Perfect for breaking up tension: "that's what she said".

  • @ИльяГордеев-н1ц
    @ИльяГордеев-н1ц Рік тому +4

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
    00:00 🤩 Focus on having fun in conversations rather than seeking approval.
    00:28 😂 Use absurd analogies to make conversations more entertaining.
    01:14 😄 Employ the Mind's Eye method to create amusing mental images.
    01:45 😶 Use deadpan humor but be absurd enough to make it clear you're joking.
    02:12 😬 Share funny embarrassing stories from your past to appear confident and relatable.
    03:14 🙈 Embrace authenticity by acknowledging and appreciating genuine moments in conversations.
    05:32 😅 Call out awkward moments and share embarrassing stories with a smile.
    07:15 🤝 Compliment people genuinely to make them feel good about themselves.
    09:07 🙌 Playfully accept compliments and mix in some humility for a charismatic response.
    10:24 💪 Maintain unshakable confidence by internalizing that the stakes in most situations aren't that high.
    Made with HARPA AI

  • @HuugyBearInc
    @HuugyBearInc Рік тому +1

    Watching these videos every once in a while has helped alot over the last couple years!!

  • @superdrwholock
    @superdrwholock 2 місяці тому +2

    I love Alison Hammond her laugh is incredible

    • @DannyEastes
      @DannyEastes 2 місяці тому +1

      That whole interview is one of the funniest things I've ever seen

  • @touyuber-k8h
    @touyuber-k8h 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for this step by step guide on how to act differently that I can follow to be my authentic self

  • @jordanjoestar8839
    @jordanjoestar8839 Рік тому +16

    My charisma has carried me far.
    Im 29 with no GED, no Diploma or real schooling.
    Despite this I have my dream job, dream wife and close to a dream life. My entire life I have done my best to make people laugh and enjoy companionship. I feel good making other people feel good. I work hard to make sure they know I see their skills, and what more they can still achieve yet. Perhaps my overall outlook and confidence in not only myself, but others I appreciate has contributed greatly to my luck.
    Life is short, remind not only others how great they are, but yourself as well. Talk yourself up, and TRUST IT. Stop taking everything so seriously, none of us make it out alive! 😅😉

    • @richardgarrison8328
      @richardgarrison8328 Рік тому

      How do you have no schooling and your dream job?

    • @filletmignon5221
      @filletmignon5221 Рік тому

      @@richardgarrison8328magically there’s a thing called starting “starting a business” and wouldn’t you know it, it only requires your bare hands and ability to lead

    • @shoelacedonkey
      @shoelacedonkey Рік тому +3

      @@filletmignon5221 I bet you don't have your own business if you talk about it like that. Starting, running and keeping your own business requires a lot more than just those two things. That childrens mentality of "you can do anything if you set your mind to it" has gotten too many people into trouble already.

  • @andyyoo8018
    @andyyoo8018 Рік тому +7

    You should do a video on Shawn from Psych, he is very either
    1 charismatic, or
    2 just the main character.

  • @korab.23
    @korab.23 13 днів тому

    "The stakes aren't that high." I didn't want to go to a job interview. I went anyway, thought I messed it up but left thinking that even if I don't get it, they were good contacts to make. I got the job and I love it! But having that perspective was what made it possible to relax and even enjoy it a little.

  • @baeyuh
    @baeyuh 2 місяці тому

    1. mind's eye method. make people see or imagine a picture.
    2. make it absurd enough to let people know that you are joking. then smile or smirk.
    3. fake a walk off or do a mic drop
    4. be good looking and be confident. Tell funny embarrassing stories about yourself.
    5. invite people to call out the awkward moment or embarrassing moment. with a smile.
    6. compliment people's authenticity. Make people always remember and look forward to seeing or talking to you by making people feel positive emotions when with you.
    7. combine jokes
    8. mix humility
    9. internalize confident mindsets.
    10. have a light-hearted attitude.
    11. want it don't need it

  • @Stephano1
    @Stephano1 9 місяців тому

    Just remember to always be you and be authentic, it won't work if youre faking it.

  • @pasonwheatgrass1831
    @pasonwheatgrass1831 Рік тому +1

    Ryan is always well dressed and makes every interview more fun. Whereas Ken naked and in the middle of the floor makes things awkward and wondering why I am here. LOL

  • @SemiSweetNilla
    @SemiSweetNilla 9 місяців тому

    Gosling is a good role model in social skills and attitude.

  • @WoodworkingforAnyone
    @WoodworkingforAnyone 3 місяці тому

    Embarassment is a super strong tool. Especially if its relatable without being too stressful. Everyone has embarrassed themselves and empathy and humor are the best ways to release oxytocin in someone.

  • @patmarek1222
    @patmarek1222 Рік тому +12

    Kenergy 😂 Ryan G is hilarious what a great guy to learn from ❤

  • @joeymartinez7171
    @joeymartinez7171 Рік тому +2

    As someone who has done charisma university, it is actually amazing and great

  • @josephgradojr.597
    @josephgradojr.597 6 місяців тому +1

    How to be authentic by using Hollywood actors as your examples. Interesting. In all seriousness, great video though. Love what you do!

  • @hathlemon
    @hathlemon 5 місяців тому

    Such an amazing collection of ways to make things more positive in life!

  • @areyoufriendly
    @areyoufriendly 11 місяців тому +1

    Great supportive clips 👌 Really ties together with the voiceover to make a point.

  • @dlsOHyes
    @dlsOHyes Рік тому

    Im imagining that these actors have had a lot of coaching on how to be very charismatic. Of course right? They’re actors. They make it look easy

  • @aly.campos
    @aly.campos Рік тому

    ryan gosling is That Girl for so many reasons

  • @UnstableYT-u7k
    @UnstableYT-u7k Рік тому +26

    Guy in the thumbnail is literally us.

  • @Nightmastercool97
    @Nightmastercool97 8 місяців тому +2

    What about shy, timid, quiet people?

  • @nck7269
    @nck7269 2 місяці тому

    Honestly meeting him as a kid he was very different but I'm assuming wealth and his family and kids changed that 🎉 congrats on the journey Mr. Gosling.

  • @shanouboubou
    @shanouboubou 2 місяці тому

    6:59 Her laugh made it TEN times more funny 😂😂

  • @dewidukongchannel7712
    @dewidukongchannel7712 Рік тому

    the ability to speak without feeling bored has many benefits in various aspects of life, both in personal relationships and career.

  • @Communication-sw6pd
    @Communication-sw6pd Рік тому +1

    The best tips I've never even heard of before! Awesome!

  • @dennisni5600
    @dennisni5600 Рік тому +4

    the video made me a Ryan Gosling fan. no joke the way he is just super good. you have to take over.

  • @frankiev116
    @frankiev116 2 місяці тому +1

    9:16 is my favorite part 😂😂

  • @olivefoxster1450
    @olivefoxster1450 9 місяців тому +1

    "How To Stop Being Boring In Conversation" ... like Ryan Gosling.

  • @thekezich9401
    @thekezich9401 2 місяці тому +672

    The fact that nobody talks about the book Social Secrets Mastery speaks volumes about why people struggle to build real connections…

  • @TORULEZ10
    @TORULEZ10 Рік тому +2

    Needed that message at the end, thanks Ben 🙏🏾

  • @eudanielramos
    @eudanielramos 9 місяців тому +1

    Loved the video. Ryan is truly amazing!

  • @aquinas_pilled
    @aquinas_pilled Рік тому +5

    It is flattering to be featured on such a popular channel. Its actually literally me in the thumbnail

  • @heyrobgray
    @heyrobgray 10 місяців тому

    So be Ryan Gosling. Got it.

  • @thegahd
    @thegahd 6 місяців тому +1

    if everyone was like this it would be so fake and superficial. I hate people that are intentionally trying to be charismatic its so fake

  • @Buenossss
    @Buenossss 4 місяці тому

    How to stop being boring in videos:
    Stop watching these kind of videos and don’t overthink.

  • @nickys8328
    @nickys8328 11 місяців тому +1

    JLaw is the queen of embarrassing stories

  • @wrldtrvlr4vr
    @wrldtrvlr4vr Рік тому +4

    My problem is that I've always wanted to be liked. That's probably where my issues lie. I just need to like myself.

    • @FactXpert-ok4hp
      @FactXpert-ok4hp 11 місяців тому +1

      I have this problem too but I improve me with this mindset: You have to like yourself so hard that you dont need the Acknowledgement. You can do that by do things you are proud of and you can say every day in the mirror that you are the coolest person on earth. You can also talk with yourself like to a high respectet person. I hope that you can make advance with this tipps!