Oh sweet lady I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. If I can offer some hope it is in this, i know from experience addicts do recover! I've been sober for 13 yrs now with the help of the Lord. God can pull anybody out of the darkness and away from those demons but he is the only one who can. I will be in fervent prayer for this young man. I also want to tell you, hopefully already know this but in case you don't, none of this is in any way your fault. There's nothing you could've done that would have prevented your son from getting high. My mother was wonderful! She was a single parent but she was wonderful! I could not have asked for a better way to have grown up and I still fell into addiction. Sometimes the best we can do just isn't enough to prevent things like this from happening. Look up my friend, God can save him
My son is starting rehab on Monday. He also see’s a liver doctor next Wednesday to see his life expectancy because he has damaged his liver with alcohol, drugs etc… I lost my husband to covid 3 years ago and now this. My heart is bleeding daily with sorrow for my child. You have my deepest prayers for your mother’s heart in all this. Im so very sorry. Addiction is a monster that takes and takes. Its reach is far and wide in the destruction it creates.
As a grateful recovering addict going on 19 years clean, I will pray for y'all because addiction is a hell that only a higher power can help...i ust want to remind you that you are absolutely doing the right thing and you need to hold those boundaries in place... We don't set boundaries to injure others. We set boundaries to protect ourselves and those we love...
So many families are struggling with a child who has an addiction. No one is immune. Our adult child just left rehab 5 months into a 12 month program. It's heartbreaking. We feel your pain. It can be numbing at times. I will be lifting y'all and all here, up in prayer who has a child or family member struggling with addiction and all that comes with it. Let go & Let God. As hard as that is, that is my way to be at peace.
You are not the addict, do not let them make you suffer, while they go out and get their fix. Eventually they have to wake up and realise, the harm they are putting on their family. Until it hits them they have to clean up, nothing will change I’ve been there, and I have realised just recently I am suffering while they don’t give a single thought about you/me Hang in there ❤
Im so sorry this has happened. My friends nephew was on meth, he, and his wife at the time. The wife got outta jail, and overdosed, and my friend took all 3 children. Her nephew got out, started doing the same thing, he got arrested again, and has now been in jail 2yrs, waiting on a court date, they always continue the case. He told my friend that jail saved his life, and he got saved, and is now serving the Lord. To be honest, as hard, as it is Please let him stay locked up. If he gets out rt now, it will just continue, and God forbid, but anything could happen. He's in the best place he needs to be rt now. I know it hurts, but his life, and soul is at stake. God Bless you, and your family.
Oh Missy, I'm crying with you. I am sending a virtual hug to you and your loved ones. Sadly, I, too, know the shame you feel...my drug addicted son robbed our 93 year old neighbour. It's shocking, and the shame is an overwhelmingly difficult emotion to process. I still feel the shame 20 years later, despite 10 years of weekly therapy. You are definitely doing the right thing in sharing your feelings with others xo
Miss Courtnay, you didn't have to do this!!! I'm crying huge tears of appreciation! I love you, sweet friend, and I appreciate this so much. Bless you!!!
Addiction destroys families everyday. Sorry for your suffering. A 90 yrs old woman a victim of his addiction. So tragic. So many of us suffer due to our lived one’s addictions. God help us all…
Dear God, please give me strength when I am weak, love when I feel abandoned, courage when I am scared, wisdom when I feel foolish, comfort when I am lonely, hope when I feel despair, and peace when I am in turmoil. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Praying for you and your family. Addiction hits us all in some way. Be strong and I understand when you say you're done. Praying for you all. Love and hugs.
@@FromtheHoller I know that it does not get any easier, but prayer makes a huge difference and let go and let God lead you. You are strong and doing the best you can for you, Aiden and Paps. That is what is important right now! Lord, please guide my steps, shine your light upon my path, and show me the way I should go. Fill my heart with your peace as I make decisions and lead me in the right direction. Amen.
I’m sorry for every parent that has to go through this. I have two boys that have almost been the death of me. I had to distance myself and live with the guilt every day of not being there for them…..tried to help for 20 years but had to stop. I miss them so much. 😢
@@NikaS60 I fully understand. My youngest son was an addict for 17 years. They steal, they take anything they can get their hands on for more drugs. … Two weeks ago, my son lost his battle with an accidental overdose ( addicts think they are Pharmacist! SMH 😭😢) . And now l will live with the pain of having to bury my child. …. I wish and pray for you and your boys.
I’m so sorry. I am a recovering addict. 13 1/2 yrs clean. I’ve hurt my family, I hate it that he’s in jail, for the simple fact they can enable his drug habit. He needs to be put in a rehab like I was where there is no phones and no contact with anyone. Let him detox there with doctors to help him and have him serve his jail time there!! However it doesn’t work that way. When I hit rock bottom, I didn’t have anywhere to look but up. I was broken and almost took my life. I will be praying for you and your family. THIS is not your fault. Addiction is a disease that takes over your mind to where you do the unthinkable. YOU are doing what is called TOUGH LOVE! I’m praying he wants help and can get clean right where he’s at. Again, I will be praying for you all. ❤❤
I'm am a former drug addict. And wanna say I am so sorry for what you r going thru. You r doing the best thing possible for your son. Leave him where he is. Focus on your grandson and forget about your son for now. He needs to clean first and foremost! And unfortunately it's going to be in jail for now. And probably for awhile. I was not that drug addict. I used Meth and I'm suspecting he's been using fentanyl. They will do anything to avoid being sick. Not making excuses just giving you the facts. I dated someone using that drug and and had to walk away because of the horrible things he did. I couldn't live with it and was afraid to be implicated in his crimes. This is not your fault. But please protect yourself and your finances. Leave him where he is. He has a roof and is being fed. The best thing you can do is show him hard love right now. The rest is up to him.
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this difficult time. 🙏 Prayers for you 🙏 Addiction touches every home 🏠 You sound like you are on the right path, by not giving into him and his ways. You are strong, you are loved and appreciated.❤️🙏❤️ I'm new to your channel, but I see love for your son, and determination. God keep you safe till the storm passes by.❤️🙏
Missy, I am so sorry you are going through this. You seem like such a lovely lady through the videos. Addiction is horrible. I did so many messed up things when I was drinking and didn't stop until I was faced with prison. Maybe this is the wake up call he really needs. Sending love and prayers to you every day. ❤
You just showed up on my feed. I thought I’d listen a minute. May God bless you! I hate addiction too. I found out that the man I love and have been dating for a year is an addict. My heart just breaks for you. I subscribed and I’ll be praying for you and your husband.
This video came up on my feed this morning, perhaps God intended it so that my prayers starting today could be added to all those being offered for you and your family. May God bless you and give you strength and comfort. Sending love and hugs too, you sound like a lovely and giving, really good person.
Bless you for your strength! We all need to remember that other people's problems are just that- their problems. Not yours. You are NOT responsible for HIS choices. Addiction is NOT a license to do whatever you want to whomever you want without consequence.
@@FromtheHoller Sweetie it's sad but there is a jail full of drugs my son just pulled 6 years in prison and he said there were more drugs in there then on the street our justice system have failed us so sad😢😢😢
@@maryfreese280 , my thought exactly. And I also thought that the jail he's at needs to keep him secluded as much as possible from others. So he can't get a hold of drugs & will have a chance of getting clean once & for all.
Dear Missy, it's very obvious this has hurt you more than it hurt your son, and I feel sad this is happening to you... and the tears and pain you've been holding back to protect your grandson. You are a good mother and you don't deserve this 💔. You've done everything to make your son a better person but he's got to live the worst of life to realize that he has to take control of his actions. I pray for you and for your family. I send you a huge hug 💖
He is where he needs to be, Mama. There is nothing you can change or do differently to prevent what's happening. Right now my husband is in pschosis from meth and thinking people are stalking him. It's tiring. It's frustrating. I'm at my limit. Yet I stay so i don't unleash his anger into the world. Live your life. Enjoy the peace. 🙏💖
Mrs. Missy, I honestly feel like you are family to me. Id ❤ to hug you. I'm 9 yrs clean from Percocet. It's a daily demon that you know your gonna battle as soon as your eyes open. I know yall have been thru so so soooooooo much. You just gotta stay strong. Thru the lows, hard times, let the Lord give you His strength. Yall will get thru this & prevail! Prayers for you & your sweet son. You've got tons behind you. Tons right by you. We ❤ you Mrs. Missy! Amanda in Edmond Oklahoma God bless & God Speed❤
I am so sorry you have to go thru this! I've been an active addict most of my adult life (im 47). I've been on both sides, I lost my 24 yr old daughter to an accidental overdose, if that didnt make me relapse, I don't know, so I can relate to you & your son. I think, I hope, I've finally got my shit together, I've been clean 7yrs now, I have a job (3yrs now) I own a home, I own my own car, I'm doin it! All that to say, its ok to cut ties (my family did too) just please dont ever give up hope! Thank god for that beautiful little boy, kids are the BEST medicine for heartbreak! GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY!!!❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤
I'm so very sorry about the loss of your daughter. Grieving a loved one is a heartbreak like no other I've known. After losing half of my family in a car accident was the first time in my life that I contemplated drugs. I just wanted a break from the pain. Thankfully, I realized that God can give me the peace that drugs lie about giving. I'm really proud of you for being able to not turn back to addiction while grieving! Congratulations for getting clean and for accomplishing so much in such a short time! I hope you are filled to the brim with pride for what you have and are doing. You're amazing! Sending you lots of love 🫂💙
@@ericac4842 , u are awesome!! And give so many others hope. Bc hope is all a lot of ppl have to hold onto as tightly as they can. I'm so sorry for the loss of ur daughter!! No parent should have to live that nightmare!!! U are a very strong woman💪💪 to not have relapsed after her death! And ur still clean to this day. 👏👏👏 Very proud of u!! 😊
@@denahudson555 Thank you so much! Idk how in the world I got thru that, the only explanation I can come up with is faith. I can't lie, I did take a few shots that night after her wake but alcohol has never been my problem. Ik some people would call that a relapse but having to sit there & look at her laying in that damn box all night was more than I could take!!! Drugs are just evil & I wouldn't wish addiction on anybody.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know your heart is hurting. Unfortunately I’ve lived much of what you just went through and it’s heart breaking. …. A little over two weeks ago, my youngest son passed away from a drug overdose. …. My mama heart is broken. I’m praying for your son, I know your heart is broken. Don’t beat yourself up, ok. 🌺
I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. What your son has done is because he is an addict. The drugs have got hold of him and he has no control over it. Be mad, be angry, be sad......go through everything. Take care of yourself. It is so difficult to deal with an addict. Their addiction runs their life. You need to live your life. Love him but love yourself more. Stay strong!!
My heart breaks for you describing how it felt when you heard "I'm sorry".. and at the time they say it, they MEAN it but addiction is horrible.. it's that little voice in the back of their head that is always going, 24/7.. My daughter is in recovery (just for today) with this being the longest stretch that she has had clean, almost 7 years. It seems that everything will be going along fine and BOOM, they've relapsed, taking very little time for all the good things that they have accumulated to go away. My daughter has always said, I have another relapse in me, but I don't know if I have another recovery. Even though it has been 7 years, I STILL worry and look for signs that things are not going well. She stays extremely active in NA.. it is a huge part of her life, which it SHOULD and HAS to be. I pray that your son finds recovery and I pray for all addicts, using and recovering!
Thank you for sharing your story. I will add you and your sons to my prayers. My brother made some mistakes when he was much younger. Years have passed and now my brother is much older and no longer does these things he used to. I feel like much regrets on how I Didn't write to him or be there in ways during his recovery proces Not enabling him, but writing letters or sending money to him. I wish I had been there more for him throughout the process. He's definitely not the same man he once was. I'm so regretfully that I didn't write him letters or send him money in prison. I live everyday feeling bad about it. I can't change the past. I also was struggling myself. I had a bad marriage a child disabled going in and out the hospital. I was alone myself. I've got to learn that I can't feel responsible for things totally out of my control. I'm adding your family to my prayers. Makes me realize God is at the steering wheel. God saves people , maybe God putting my brother in time out Maybe saved his life. Prayers up 🙏 🙏 🙏
My heart is breaking for you. Lived through loved ones spending time in prison. After one lie after another pretty soon everything comes crashing down and the rest of us are left trying pick up the pieces. Children are left with the shame of a dad in prison. It’s sometimes worse than death. But now, almost twenty years later, my kids’ dad has indeed become a contributing member of society. My children do have a good relationship with him. It was the most difficult time in my life. God was with our family and held us up through this horrible ordeal. He’ll be with you too. Lean on your Savior. He walked on this earth and He knows our pain. Praying for your family.
I’m here to hear your story, to hold your pain for a moment while you breathe, and to let you know you are not alone. I hate addiction too. I am 18 years in recovery, and I know healing is possible. Love and peace to you and yours. ❤️
My Uncle was a Vietnam vet who was an addict… he overdosed at 38, his daughter did the same at 38 & my cousin (the son) is an addict…who resides with my Aunt.
I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this.Take care of yourself and your precious grandson.Wishing you strength to get through these difficult times.
I have food addiction issues and my husband has addiction in his family. He is also recovering alcoholic, as he went through something extremely traumatic. Honestly, his mom had no business having kids. I'm glad she did, but the trauma and suffering he's been through is too much. It's a constant struggle. He didn't choose this life. It's why we never had kids. The chance of having a child that will be an addict, when there's addiction in the family, is extremely high. I'm sorry this is your path. I wish people who have addiction in their family were responsible and stopped being selfish. Addicts need to stop breeding. It's the only thing that will help end this vicious cycle.
So from what you're saying, and correct me if I'm wrong, my husband and I should've never had children because 1 of the 4 turned out to be an addict. Am I correct?! There are no histories of addiction on either side of the families, so I think your comment is a little flawed. And I'd like to add that if my son had stopped "breeding", as you eloquently put it, then I wouldn't have my sweet boy.
@@RosettaStoned462 the genetic and environmental causal factors of addiction are evident in my family. Over 80% of THREE generations of my family members have suffered with the disease of addiction. A few have been major drug “kingpins.” Food addiction leading to weights of close to 400 pounds is a commonality in my family. Alcoholism even was listed as the cause of death for a few before the age of 35. Many family members never make it to the age of 50. My own 41 son suffers mightily with drug addiction. Since the age of 18, he has always said I will not have children due to the our family genetic/environmental history with addiction . He has remained childless at the age of 41 and a severe addict.
I just hate this for you, hate that you hurt so ❤ This is definitely something he has to make right, not what he did..I don’t know how someone can make this right, I hope he finally after being in he will get clean and clean for good! I understand you not having no faith in him getting clean, I understand and your feelings are justified for sure! You are right, he needs to feel this what he did deep down. I will keep you, paps and that beautiful grandbaby of yours in my heart and prayers, praying you all have peace in this storm🙏 I pray too for change in his heart, body and soul…I know as a mother you want this more than anything. Much peace, love, strength and happiness I wish for you guys ❤
Loved your truth-telling! My husband is in jail right now because of a 25-year addiction to substances that, despite a desire to follow Jesus, he just can't get free from. I have to divorce my best friend because I, too, cannot keep riding the merry go round. I continue to hope in healing while asking God to take him home soon if the miracle isn't going to come.
My family went through this with my son he is 32 now but it took him spending time in jail a little over a year and he went to a rehab after that then a sober living he finally wanted to be clean he went to na meetings after that and has been clean ever since I’m so proud of the man he has become but it took us to cutting him off I would still talk to him and he knew we loved him but couldn’t help him though his time in jail and I was heartbroken while he was in jail I hope your son wakes up and turns his life around as long as he is alive there is still hope but he has to do it himself best wishes to you and your family 🙏
Maybe this will be his rock bottom and he will change his life. I so understand being hurt and mad.You could be telling my story with my daughter. You are not alone. My daughter was clean for 4 yrs and has now relapsed. I am so sad and disappointed. Prayers for you Mamma
Smdh. He better be ashamed for making his momma cry. ❤ Prayers, good vibes, good juju, etc. etc. always to ya! You're likely one of the nicest mommas out there (aside from my own, of course, because she's mine lol). My heart goes out to you and yours! Gotta take everything one moment at a time.
You know the only time I was peaceful was when my son was in prison. My heart didn't go every time the door was knocked or the phone rang. I feel your pain god bless
I'm so sorry this has happened to y'all & the other family. It's ashame, & hopefully y'all all can heal from this soon. It hurts my heart to see u so upset. No mother deserves this kind of pain & hurt from there child. I hope everything works out for both families in the end. Poor Aiden I hate this so much for him. He's such a sweet little boy. He deserves the very best. I know u & paps will make it happen for him. Much love to y'all! 💕
Ma’am, I know you don’t know me nor I to you or your family. Your video showed up on my timeline and I decided to watch it through. I’m sorry to hear about the pain, deviation of embarrassment and heartbreak you and your family are feeling and experiencing at this time. Let it be a reminder that even in this difficult times, God is still up to something that will lead to a revelation in accordance to His will. I understand how highly upset and hurt you are right now and at your wits end with the insensible use of drugs that cause addition upon someone you love. How pissed you are with the behavior it has created your son out to be when the core of who he is was and truly may not be that. But, what I truly would like to ask you regarding your son is: Have you ever asked your son what is causing him so much internal stress, grief and pain?! Was he ever mistreated or abused as a child or teen and he’s trying to suppress those emotions?! It’s okay if you decide not to answer any of that I asked or even partial of it, I understand it either way. After working inpatient with clients/patients whom suffered from addiction(s) for over 7 years, I had to walk away from it when it begin to make me feel like I wasn’t able to offer much passion for helping or showing not as much hope in them or me. I didn’t want it to affect them and their sobriety and recovery, so I did what was best, and walked away peacefully. Heal yourself first and allow the healing of protection to clothed you and keep you safe and sane. May The Holy Spirit continue to advocate and protect you and all in this trying time. Amen 🙏🏽
Ma'am this is the first time I'm seeing your videos but I feel compelled to comment. I'm at the part where you're upset at your son for saying sorry over and over. I was an addict, been clean 9 years now. Please believe me when I say your son IS sorry. He loves you just as much as he always has, but unfortunately he likely hates himself. Us addicts all have our own reasons for using in the beginning but over time it becomes much the same. We use because it numbs the pain that we feel from all the hurt we have caused our loved ones. We hate ourself for using and don't see how we can possibly get better and the only way we can take that pain away is by using. Fortunately I realize how silly that is now but at the time you truly believe it. You absolutely hate the pain you've caused your parents. I hated feeling like a disappointment of a son. Eventually after hard lines were drawn by my parents I finally reached out for help and they were there to support me. All you can do is keep loving him and offering support. I will be praying for your son to find it in himself to beat this disease. If I can then anyone can. I wish your whole family eventual peace from this plight.
I admire you as a person, as a mom, as a grandma and as a woman of faith. Your strength and love for your grandson will get you through this bolder in the road. You are in my prayers. Rest and take care of yourself. Thank you for sharing .💝
I'm so sorry your are going through this. My brother died of an over dose. I know you are hurt right now but the Prison system doesn't do anything to help them. Your son will need your support to get the help he needs. There's obviously a history of drugs and emotional issues. I used to think the same way...Let him sit in prison..no help, no visits and he will learn his lesson! Well it doesn't work! It's not the prisons job to fix your son! It's his! But he will need family to help him get through his sickness. Prayers for your family ❤️ 🙏
Trust me, I completely understand exactly how you feel. My only son is an addict and his currently in jail on felony charges. He’s such a good person sober but can’t seem to kick his addiction. I know what you mean when you say you think your son will loose his life. Jail saved my son’s life, I truly believe that. You all will be in my prayers and please pray for our family and my son. I’ll be praying for your son ma’am. God bless.
My heart brakes for you. Take good care of yourself, eat right and try to build yourself up with good thoughts. You have a little boy to take care of. You are a very important person. You have to protect yourself and your family, it is time for no contact. That doesn't mean you don't love him, everyone knows you love him and that is why you are so hurt by his drug addiction. My prayer go out for you and your family.
I know exactly what you're going through. If you ever need to talk, I am here. I know your pain. I have had that pain, and I still have it. Please don't hesitate to reach out. Please. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Aww sweetheart, it doesn’t sound mean that your happy he is in jail right now. You need a breather and this may be a good chance for him to get clean. He needs help in some shape or form and nothing will change if he doesn’t get help. Your family is being torn apart. My heart is with you truly. You need to start putting you first now, other depend on you and love you. This is something he needs to do for himself. I am so sorry you are going through this g through such a rough time. Sending love,hugs and prayers ❤
That poor lady. Atleast he didnt hurt her in noway. The " im sorry, im sorry" He is sorry. However, he will not get better til HE wants to. Atleast in jail you know he aint usin. Dry your eyes momma. God has got this, got you, Josh, & yalls family. Faith of a mustard seed is all he ask for. We are right with you sweet angel.❤ God Bless
My heart breaks for you. I know the hell you are going through. All I can say is that prison may be his saving grace.After my son passed, I had so many tell me he might have been rescued from a prison experience. I know that sounds crazy but I have seen addicts beat it and come out living a productive life because of it. My son struggled to admit his addiction. He just couldn’t face the reality. He died from it. He didn’t want to die. He was only 35 and I will never be the same. I pray you have a successful outcome with your beautiful boy, We remember our boys from baby on. Opiates have poisoned and, in many cases (too many), they have murdered our precious children. That 5th arm of Medical treatment for pain was and is murder, plain and simple. You are a good mama. I am a good mama. Our boys got caught in this money laundering addiction scam. I will pray this will be your beautiful boy’s rock bottom. If I could give you a hug I would!
been there...believe me Its a blessing when they get locked down..It gives us a chance to breath and you get some much needed sleep knowing they are not useing today...
Hopefully, he'll get at least 2-3 years. One isn't enough. He can get clean and take stock of his life. Prison isn't a nice place. It's not supposed to be. Your son is not a violent, hardened criminal. He should figure out he doesn't need to spend the rest of his life there. Be the best thing for him. But he needs to do some serious time. As in years. A few months won't change him. Prayers to you and your family. Your faith will see you through.
lord when he told you to sit down i thought it was gonna be worse. sometimes we need to get arrested as awful as it is. it showed me i was on the wrong path with alcohol.
Addiction of anything is hell on earth!! I know all to well. At 59 years old with 20+ pharmaceutical morphine tolerances/addiction from a broken neck car accident im living in a foreign country trying to ween myself of the last pills i have to finally be free of this stone around my neck. Cant get that here so thats why i came to this country to get away from it. I ve been dying a slow pharmaceutical death in the US. God give me and everyone else strength to be free of this nightmare....
I thought it was a weird day too and it was my birthday but so much bad news and I’m having trouble with it getting on my nerves.. son in law fell at work yesterday and broke his leg in two places. My daughter and him both are on methadone I don’t like it but I’m better with that verses what they were abusing so I’m a little worried. 🙏 praying for them and you
I understand totally your feelings yes in the end you don't know what's reality and what's fiction keep moving forward look after your grandkids tough love is the best love keep your brave face for Ayden but cry in private he may see the light eventually don't blame yourself stay strong and don't dwell on things ❤
I truly know how you feel right now. I know that sick feeling that sours and knots your stomach...that keeps you awake and sits heavy on every moment of your day. The crying that makes your head ache. I've been there. You're doing everything right Missy. Draw the lines and hold fast to them. Don't let the chaos your son has created for himself keep you from being happy inside your own life. You have a beautiful life. You've made it beautiful by being who you are and doing what you do. Wrap that around you and take comfort in it. Separate yourself from his chaos and appreciate the joy of your own life. YOU'VE EARNED THAT!
Hi there, i too am four years free from the disease of Alcoholism, very greatful that anyone who loved me left me completely alone at rock rock bottom or I would not have found the beautiful world of recovery. My beloved mother and biological brothers never found a program of appropriate treatment though. My mum died a terrible long suffering life in old school mental asylums and institutions that were horifically traumatic for Alcoholics in those days. I attended a public funded rehab at 48 years old but the illness had stripped absolutely all hope and dignity from me. Addiction really is an illness if you have it and 12 step recovery is the only treatment that has worked for me but that's just my experience worked for me. Recovery is possible once proper diagnosis is ascertained and many thousands of us all over the world now live useful and meaningful lives with the illness, rather than dyeing of it. There are also programs freely available that have support groups for those who's lives the Addict devastates. I hope you find support lovely lady. Hope and Courage to you and your family ❤
Agree with a few of the above how sad that a child in jail is in a way a break for a mother's heart and mind also. I will be in this boat shortly too. But I hope you know that Just as you always tell us; we are hear to listen awhile with out judgement and always keeping you all in our prayers ❤
Sorry for your pain. I think you are right in not financially assisting your son during this time. Thing is, he is the one who wants to become drug free. I know it’s hard, you want to smooth the path for your child to overcome his addiction. But in the end it’s his journey and he needs to climb that mountain. It’s so painful to be repeatedly lied to, have hopes and dreams trampled, and the embarrassment of his criminal actions blindsiding any semblance of peace in your lives. Distance both physically and emotionally without becoming bitter is the best way for you to heal. That is your mountain.❤
I don't know you ma'am, just stumbled across this video. I'm 10yrs recovered from opiate addiction with the help of methadone and I think you're doing the right thing. If he's addicted to opiates and doesn't think he can resist temptation on the outside, there are replacement treatments like methadone (you go to the clinic every morning to dose), suboxone or buprenorphine (prescribed outpatient, monthly) and after you're stable on the right dose you can get the active ingredient, buprenorphine, injections that last 1 or 3 months and there's no withdrawal when it wears off. So many people have died not knowing their pain pills were fentanyl or not knowing the amount, and these keep addicts alive long enough to get their life straightened out and when they're ready, they'll slowly taper off the medication, unless it's the injection which basically tapers itself off as it wears off.
There’s nothing you can say to him that will have any impact on him while he’s using. Even if he’s “sober”, until he’s working a program he will lie, manipulate, promise, you name it. Sobriety requires harsh boundaries. Keep them. You’re doing the right thing. Going completely no contact until he proves himself is the only hope. And that goes for everyone around him. I don’t know your story but his babies mom, his girlfriend, everyone has to go no contact. Addiction is all lies, all manipulation, a fierce victim mentality that will eat you alive. Hold the line!
As a mother I can feel your pain, however, I want to say you are 100% doing the right thing. Your son must pay for his consequences and you can no longer enable him. Jail time is the best thing for him…he will get clean and do a lot of soul searching. You now need to focus on that grandchild and your mental health. Sending prayers 🙏
We as addicts are only sorry because we got cought and we will say that over and over and over. Finally one day when we are fed up with telling our selves lie and and our family lies we will stop and get help and stop the drugs. Hang in there momma bear and just keep loving him like you can and only can that a momma bear and poppa bear can. Hang in there. The tough love is all you can do is and hopefully it will will work for him it sure did for me and that’s what made me change and knowing that my family loved me. May the prayers keep coming your way. It’s tough love momma bear and it helps you protect your self. All my prayers are being sent to you
I know exactly what your going through. I have a son that is an addict plus I believe has schizophrenia like his biological father. He has been in prison so many times that I have honestly lost count. I've heard the same things that you have. My husband and I have a blended family. The first of July we received a call letting us know that his daughter had overdosed and was on life support. She did not make it. I also hate addiction.
I know I commented once telling you to walk away because his addiction will take everything from you. You need to take care of you and that little boy. You responded by saying, maybe that is something you would do but not me. I didn't mean to be disrespectful, but all of my immediate family was addicted. My mother, brothers, and sister so I am familiar with addiction and the toll it takes on those who love them. Again, please don't blame yourself, this was his choice. I felt relieved every time my brother went jail, as I knew he was safe. He was in multiple rehabs and he always got thrown out for non compliance. The only thing I knew to do, was pray for him from a distance. May God give you comfort and strength. I do pray your son hands over his addictions to God.
I'm so sorry for my response to your comment. Sometimes I let my mouth overrun my brain and say things because I'm hurting at the time. That was definitely one of those times. I remember your comment very well and I've regretted my actions since then. Thank you for choosing to comment here once again even though I acted like an a$$ the last time. I appreciate you!
@@FromtheHolleryou didn't act like an @zz. I know you love your son. I always told my brother that if he was serious about getting clean, I would be there for him. Hugs to you Missy. You have a big heart. If you ever need to talk, I am here.
You display the courage and strength that most set and fantasize about. God bless you I pray and God lbess Aiden. Keep strength and don't fold. You rest and have some peace.
Hello sweet lady! I just stumbled on your channel~I’m assuming you are raising your grandson~if that is true you and your husband have given him a beautiful gift~no foster care for your sweet Aiden~your dear child is safe and you know where he is~God will take care of him~you have nothing to be ashamed of~your son has a free will and everyone who truly knows you will not judge you~and if they do? they don’t have any room in your life! Be strong! Hold your head up high and continue to love on that beautiful baby Aiden!
Oh sweet lady I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. If I can offer some hope it is in this, i know from experience addicts do recover! I've been sober for 13 yrs now with the help of the Lord. God can pull anybody out of the darkness and away from those demons but he is the only one who can. I will be in fervent prayer for this young man. I also want to tell you, hopefully already know this but in case you don't, none of this is in any way your fault. There's nothing you could've done that would have prevented your son from getting high. My mother was wonderful! She was a single parent but she was wonderful! I could not have asked for a better way to have grown up and I still fell into addiction. Sometimes the best we can do just isn't enough to prevent things like this from happening. Look up my friend, God can save him
My son is starting rehab on Monday. He also see’s a liver doctor next Wednesday to see his life expectancy because he has damaged his liver with alcohol, drugs etc… I lost my husband to covid 3 years ago and now this. My heart is bleeding daily with sorrow for my child. You have my deepest prayers for your mother’s heart in all this. Im so very sorry. Addiction is a monster that takes and takes. Its reach is far and wide in the destruction it creates.
Praying for your son
You are in such a tough place right now. I pray you are strong and be sure to keep your peace in the stand you are taking. God bless and keep you! ❤
As a grateful recovering addict going on 19 years clean, I will pray for y'all because addiction is a hell that only a higher power can help...i ust want to remind you that you are absolutely doing the right thing and you need to hold those boundaries in place... We don't set boundaries to injure others. We set boundaries to protect ourselves and those we love...
@@caramiajen8 I'm 10yrs recovered with the help of methadone and I agree with you.
So many families are struggling with a child who has an addiction. No one is immune. Our adult child just left rehab 5 months into a 12 month program. It's heartbreaking. We feel your pain. It can be numbing at times.
I will be lifting y'all and all here, up in prayer who has a child or family member struggling with addiction and all that comes with it.
Let go & Let God. As hard as that is, that is my way to be at peace.
And I'll be praying for y'all 💜🙏
@@FromtheHoller thank you.
You are not the addict, do not let them make you suffer, while they go out and get their fix.
Eventually they have to wake up and realise, the harm they are putting on their family.
Until it hits them they have to clean up, nothing will change
I’ve been there, and I have realised just recently I am suffering while they don’t give a single thought about you/me
Hang in there ❤
Im so sorry this has happened. My friends nephew was on meth, he, and his wife at the time. The wife got outta jail, and overdosed, and my friend took all 3 children. Her nephew got out, started doing the same thing, he got arrested again, and has now been in jail 2yrs, waiting on a court date, they always continue the case. He told my friend that jail saved his life, and he got saved, and is now serving the Lord. To be honest, as hard, as it is Please let him stay locked up. If he gets out rt now, it will just continue, and God forbid, but anything could happen. He's in the best place he needs to be rt now. I know it hurts, but his life, and soul is at stake. God Bless you, and your family.
Oh Missy, I'm crying with you. I am sending a virtual hug to you and your loved ones.
Sadly, I, too, know the shame you feel...my drug addicted son robbed our 93 year old neighbour. It's shocking, and the shame is an overwhelmingly difficult emotion to process. I still feel the shame 20 years later, despite 10 years of weekly therapy.
You are definitely doing the right thing in sharing your feelings with others xo
Drugs/alcohol just tearing families up. I’m so sorry you’re havin to deal with this❤️
My appreciation for your willingness to love and fight for your family.
Miss Courtnay, you didn't have to do this!!! I'm crying huge tears of appreciation! I love you, sweet friend, and I appreciate this so much. Bless you!!!
@@FromtheHoller My privilege. ❤️
Addiction destroys families everyday. Sorry for your suffering. A 90 yrs old woman a victim of his addiction. So tragic. So many of us suffer due to our lived one’s addictions. God help us all…
Dear God, please give me strength when I am weak, love when I feel abandoned, courage when I am scared, wisdom when I feel foolish, comfort when I am lonely, hope when I feel despair, and peace when I am in turmoil. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Renee, I needed to hear all of that today! I'm struggling so hard with this. This was like the last straw
Praying for you and your family. Addiction hits us all in some way. Be strong and I understand when you say you're done. Praying for you all. Love and hugs.
Me too sis husband and daughter. Stay strong keep lookin up ⬆️
@@FromtheHoller I know that it does not get any easier, but prayer makes a huge difference and let go and let God lead you. You are strong and doing the best you can for you, Aiden and Paps. That is what is important right now! Lord, please guide my steps, shine your light upon my path, and show me the way I should go. Fill my heart with your peace as I make decisions and lead me in the right direction. Amen.
Amen 🙏🏻
Bless your heart. I always said when theyre in jail you know where they are at and what they are doing.
I’m sorry for every parent that has to go through this. I have two boys that have almost been the death of me. I had to distance myself and live with the guilt every day of not being there for them…..tried to help for 20 years but had to stop. I miss them so much. 😢
@@NikaS60 I fully understand. My youngest son was an addict for 17 years. They steal, they take anything they can get their hands on for more drugs. … Two weeks ago, my son lost his battle with an accidental overdose ( addicts think they are Pharmacist! SMH 😭😢) . And now l will live with the pain of having to bury my child. …. I wish and pray for you and your boys.
You are doing the right thing. Start focusing on you and others in your life. Have peace.
Sound advice 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry. I am a recovering addict. 13 1/2 yrs clean. I’ve hurt my family, I hate it that he’s in jail, for the simple fact they can enable his drug habit. He needs to be put in a rehab like I was where there is no phones and no contact with anyone. Let him detox there with doctors to help him and have him serve his jail time there!! However it doesn’t work that way. When I hit rock bottom, I didn’t have anywhere to look but up. I was broken and almost took my life. I will be praying for you and your family. THIS is not your fault. Addiction is a disease that takes over your mind to where you do the unthinkable. YOU are doing what is called TOUGH LOVE! I’m praying he wants help and can get clean right where he’s at. Again, I will be praying for you all. ❤❤
Thank you for not making excuses for terrible decisions☮️❤️He has to get clean on his own. Otherwise it’s bs☮️❤️
I am a now disabled ( Retired Nurse) who worked in Detox/ Aids/Hiv floor at a local hospital. Addiction was just starting in my town 20 yrs ago 😔
So sorry this is happening to you. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
I'm am a former drug addict. And wanna say I am so sorry for what you r going thru. You r doing the best thing possible for your son. Leave him where he is. Focus on your grandson and forget about your son for now. He needs to clean first and foremost! And unfortunately it's going to be in jail for now. And probably for awhile.
I was not that drug addict. I used Meth and I'm suspecting he's been using fentanyl. They will do anything to avoid being sick. Not making excuses just giving you the facts. I dated someone using that drug and and had to walk away because of the horrible things he did. I couldn't live with it and was afraid to be implicated in his crimes.
This is not your fault. But please protect yourself and your finances. Leave him where he is. He has a roof and is being fed. The best thing you can do is show him hard love right now. The rest is up to him.
Praying for you and your family!!!! GOD be with you 🙏
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this difficult time. 🙏 Prayers for you 🙏 Addiction touches every home 🏠 You sound like you are on the right path, by not giving into him and his ways. You are strong, you are loved and appreciated.❤️🙏❤️ I'm new to your channel, but I see love for your son, and determination. God keep you safe till the storm passes by.❤️🙏
Missy, I am so sorry you are going through this. You seem like such a lovely lady through the videos. Addiction is horrible. I did so many messed up things when I was drinking and didn't stop until I was faced with prison. Maybe this is the wake up call he really needs. Sending love and prayers to you every day. ❤
You just showed up on my feed. I thought I’d listen a minute. May God bless you! I hate addiction too. I found out that the man I love and have been dating for a year is an addict. My heart just breaks for you. I subscribed and I’ll be praying for you and your husband.
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This video came up on my feed this morning, perhaps God intended it so that my prayers starting today could be added to all those being offered for you and your family. May God bless you and give you strength and comfort. Sending love and hugs too, you sound like a lovely and giving, really good person.
Thank you! I'll take all the prayers we can get 💜💜💜
Bless you for your strength! We all need to remember that other people's problems are just that- their problems. Not yours. You are NOT responsible for HIS choices. Addiction is NOT a license to do whatever you want to whomever you want without consequence.
Missy, it's so sad when we would rather see our children in jail because we know they won't die that night...I've been there and feel your pain ❤
Ain't it though?! I'm still processing bur I do look forward to a good night's sleep. I know it's coming soon
@@FromtheHoller Sweetie it's sad but there is a jail full of drugs my son just pulled 6 years in prison and he said there were more drugs in there then on the street our justice system have failed us so sad😢😢😢
@@maryfreese280 , my thought exactly. And I also thought that the jail he's at needs to keep him secluded as much as possible from others. So he can't get a hold of drugs & will have a chance of getting clean once & for all.
Dear Missy, it's very obvious this has hurt you more than it hurt your son, and I feel sad this is happening to you... and the tears and pain you've been holding back to protect your grandson. You are a good mother and you don't deserve this 💔. You've done everything to make your son a better person but he's got to live the worst of life to realize that he has to take control of his actions. I pray for you and for your family. I send you a huge hug 💖
May God bless you and your family. Asking grace and mercy.
Dont feel guilty for loving your son, you are his mom
My love, prayers, and support for you and yours. Been where you are, felt what you’re feeling. Don’t beat yourself up. ❤️🙏
When my addict son was in jail, it was the only time I could sleep. He has passed a year ago.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
God bless you. ❤️ I will pray for your son.
He is where he needs to be, Mama. There is nothing you can change or do differently to prevent what's happening. Right now my husband is in pschosis from meth and thinking people are stalking him. It's tiring. It's frustrating. I'm at my limit. Yet I stay so i don't unleash his anger into the world. Live your life. Enjoy the peace. 🙏💖
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Many prayers for you, your husband, & family.
@@SOONERSWEETPEA thank you 💖🙏 He's calmed down now
Mrs. Missy, I honestly feel like you are family to me. Id ❤ to hug you. I'm 9 yrs clean from Percocet. It's a daily demon that you know your gonna battle as soon as your eyes open. I know yall have been thru so so soooooooo much. You just gotta stay strong. Thru the lows, hard times, let the Lord give you His strength. Yall will get thru this & prevail! Prayers for you & your sweet son. You've got tons behind you. Tons right by you. We ❤ you Mrs. Missy!
Amanda in Edmond Oklahoma
God bless & God Speed❤
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I am so sorry you have to go thru this! I've been an active addict most of my adult life (im 47). I've been on both sides, I lost my 24 yr old daughter to an accidental overdose, if that didnt make me relapse, I don't know, so I can relate to you & your son. I think, I hope, I've finally got my shit together, I've been clean 7yrs now, I have a job (3yrs now) I own a home, I own my own car, I'm doin it! All that to say, its ok to cut ties (my family did too) just please dont ever give up hope! Thank god for that beautiful little boy, kids are the BEST medicine for heartbreak! GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY!!!❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤
I'm so proud of you for getting and staying sober all these years! You're proof that there's hope and I need that
I'm so very sorry about the loss of your daughter. Grieving a loved one is a heartbreak like no other I've known. After losing half of my family in a car accident was the first time in my life that I contemplated drugs. I just wanted a break from the pain. Thankfully, I realized that God can give me the peace that drugs lie about giving. I'm really proud of you for being able to not turn back to addiction while grieving! Congratulations for getting clean and for accomplishing so much in such a short time! I hope you are filled to the brim with pride for what you have and are doing. You're amazing! Sending you lots of love 🫂💙
@@ericac4842 , u are awesome!! And give so many others hope. Bc hope is all a lot of ppl have to hold onto as tightly as they can. I'm so sorry for the loss of ur daughter!! No parent should have to live that nightmare!!! U are a very strong woman💪💪 to not have relapsed after her death! And ur still clean to this day. 👏👏👏 Very proud of u!! 😊
@@denahudson555 Thank you so much! Idk how in the world I got thru that, the only explanation I can come up with is faith. I can't lie, I did take a few shots that night after her wake but alcohol has never been my problem. Ik some people would call that a relapse but having to sit there & look at her laying in that damn box all night was more than I could take!!! Drugs are just evil & I wouldn't wish addiction on anybody.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know your heart is hurting. Unfortunately I’ve lived much of what you just went through and it’s heart breaking. …. A little over two weeks ago, my youngest son passed away from a drug overdose. …. My mama heart is broken. I’m praying for your son, I know your heart is broken. Don’t beat yourself up, ok. 🌺
I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. What your son has done is because he is an addict. The drugs have got hold of him and he has no control over it. Be mad, be angry, be sad......go through everything. Take care of yourself. It is so difficult to deal with an addict. Their addiction runs their life. You need to live your life. Love him but love yourself more. Stay strong!!
My heart breaks for you describing how it felt when you heard "I'm sorry".. and at the time they say it, they MEAN it but addiction is horrible.. it's that little voice in the back of their head that is always going, 24/7.. My daughter is in recovery (just for today) with this being the longest stretch that she has had clean, almost 7 years. It seems that everything will be going along fine and BOOM, they've relapsed, taking very little time for all the good things that they have accumulated to go away. My daughter has always said, I have another relapse in me, but I don't know if I have another recovery. Even though it has been 7 years, I STILL worry and look for signs that things are not going well. She stays extremely active in NA.. it is a huge part of her life, which it SHOULD and HAS to be. I pray that your son finds recovery and I pray for all addicts, using and recovering!
From your lips to God's ears! 💜💜💜
I know exactly what you mean. Always, always looking, listening…is he drinking again. Why haven’t I heard from him in two days?
Thank you for sharing your story. I will add you and your sons to my prayers.
My brother made some mistakes when he was much younger.
Years have passed and now my brother is much older and no longer does these things he used to. I feel like much regrets on how I
Didn't write to him or be there in ways during his recovery proces
Not enabling him, but writing letters or sending money to him.
I wish I had been there more for him throughout the process.
He's definitely not the same man he once was.
I'm so regretfully that I didn't write him letters or send him money in prison. I live everyday feeling bad about it. I can't change the past.
I also was struggling myself. I had a bad marriage a child disabled going in and out the hospital. I was alone myself. I've got to learn that I can't
feel responsible for things totally out of my control.
I'm adding your family to my prayers.
Makes me realize God is at the steering wheel.
God saves people , maybe God putting my brother in time out
Maybe saved his life. Prayers up 🙏 🙏 🙏
My heart is breaking for you. Lived through loved ones spending time in prison. After one lie after another pretty soon everything comes crashing down and the rest of us are left trying pick up the pieces. Children are left with the shame of a dad in prison. It’s sometimes worse than death. But now, almost twenty years later, my kids’ dad has indeed become a contributing member of society. My children do have a good relationship with him. It was the most difficult time in my life. God was with our family and held us up through this horrible ordeal. He’ll be with you too. Lean on your Savior. He walked on this earth and He knows our pain. Praying for your family.
I’m here to hear your story, to hold your pain for a moment while you breathe, and to let you know you are not alone. I hate addiction too. I am 18 years in recovery, and I know healing is possible. Love and peace to you and yours. ❤️
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My Uncle was a Vietnam vet who was an addict… he overdosed at 38, his daughter did the same at 38 & my cousin (the son) is an addict…who resides with my Aunt.
May God grant your troubled heart strength and peace.🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this.Take care of yourself and your precious grandson.Wishing you strength to get through these difficult times.
I have food addiction issues and my husband has addiction in his family. He is also recovering alcoholic, as he went through something extremely traumatic. Honestly, his mom had no business having kids. I'm glad she did, but the trauma and suffering he's been through is too much. It's a constant struggle. He didn't choose this life. It's why we never had kids. The chance of having a child that will be an addict, when there's addiction in the family, is extremely high. I'm sorry this is your path. I wish people who have addiction in their family were responsible and stopped being selfish. Addicts need to stop breeding. It's the only thing that will help end this vicious cycle.
So from what you're saying, and correct me if I'm wrong, my husband and I should've never had children because 1 of the 4 turned out to be an addict. Am I correct?! There are no histories of addiction on either side of the families, so I think your comment is a little flawed. And I'd like to add that if my son had stopped "breeding", as you eloquently put it, then I wouldn't have my sweet boy.
@@RosettaStoned462 the genetic and environmental causal factors of addiction are evident in my family. Over 80% of THREE generations of my family members have suffered with the disease of addiction. A few have been major drug “kingpins.” Food addiction leading to weights of close to 400 pounds is a commonality in my family. Alcoholism even was listed as the cause of death for a few before the age of 35. Many family members never make it to the age of 50. My own 41 son suffers mightily with drug addiction. Since the age of 18, he has always said I will not have children due to the our family genetic/environmental history with addiction . He has remained childless at the age of 41 and a severe addict.
One thing I heard in a meeting is to keep your expectations low and your boundaries high.
I just hate this for you, hate that you hurt so ❤ This is definitely something he has to make right, not what he did..I don’t know how someone can make this right, I hope he finally after being in he will get clean and clean for good! I understand you not having no faith in him getting clean, I understand and your feelings are justified for sure! You are right, he needs to feel this what he did deep down.
I will keep you, paps and that beautiful grandbaby of yours in my heart and prayers, praying you all have peace in this storm🙏
I pray too for change in his heart, body and soul…I know as a mother you want this more than anything.
Much peace, love, strength and happiness I wish for you guys ❤
As someone who has recovered people do get better but only if they want it more than anything
Amen to that!
Oh Momma Missy. Love and prayers.
Loved your truth-telling! My husband is in jail right now because of a 25-year addiction to substances that, despite a desire to follow Jesus, he just can't get free from. I have to divorce my best friend because I, too, cannot keep riding the merry go round. I continue to hope in healing while asking God to take him home soon if the miracle isn't going to come.
I've prayed that same prayer for my son. I'm sorry you're going through this with your husband.
Gentle hugs 😢Sweet friend♥️
My family went through this with my son he is 32 now but it took him spending time in jail a little over a year and he went to a rehab after that then a sober living he finally wanted to be clean he went to na meetings after that and has been clean ever since I’m so proud of the man he has become but it took us to cutting him off I would still talk to him and he knew we loved him but couldn’t help him though his time in jail and I was heartbroken while he was in jail I hope your son wakes up and turns his life around as long as he is alive there is still hope but he has to do it himself best wishes to you and your family 🙏
Maybe this will be his rock bottom and he will change his life. I so understand being hurt and mad.You could be telling my story with my daughter. You are not alone. My daughter was clean for 4 yrs and has now relapsed. I am so sad and disappointed. Prayers for you Mamma
Smdh. He better be ashamed for making his momma cry. ❤ Prayers, good vibes, good juju, etc. etc. always to ya! You're likely one of the nicest mommas out there (aside from my own, of course, because she's mine lol). My heart goes out to you and yours! Gotta take everything one moment at a time.
You know the only time I was peaceful was when my son was in prison. My heart didn't go every time the door was knocked or the phone rang. I feel your pain god bless
I'm so sorry this has happened to y'all & the other family. It's ashame, & hopefully y'all all can heal from this soon. It hurts my heart to see u so upset. No mother deserves this kind of pain & hurt from there child. I hope everything works out for both families in the end. Poor Aiden I hate this so much for him. He's such a sweet little boy. He deserves the very best. I know u & paps will make it happen for him. Much love to y'all! 💕
Ma’am, I know you don’t know me nor I to you or your family. Your video showed up on my timeline and I decided to watch it through. I’m sorry to hear about the pain, deviation of embarrassment and heartbreak you and your family are feeling and experiencing at this time. Let it be a reminder that even in this difficult times, God is still up to something that will lead to a revelation in accordance to His will. I understand how highly upset and hurt you are right now and at your wits end with the insensible use of drugs that cause addition upon someone you love. How pissed you are with the behavior it has created your son out to be when the core of who he is was and truly may not be that. But, what I truly would like to ask you regarding your son is: Have you ever asked your son what is causing him so much internal stress, grief and pain?! Was he ever mistreated or abused as a child or teen and he’s trying to suppress those emotions?! It’s okay if you decide not to answer any of that I asked or even partial of it, I understand it either way. After working inpatient with clients/patients whom suffered from addiction(s) for over 7 years, I had to walk away from it when it begin to make me feel like I wasn’t able to offer much passion for helping or showing not as much hope in them or me. I didn’t want it to affect them and their sobriety and recovery, so I did what was best, and walked away peacefully. Heal yourself first and allow the healing of protection to clothed you and keep you safe and sane. May The Holy Spirit continue to advocate and protect you and all in this trying time. Amen 🙏🏽
@@MariaEOD you nailed that comment like a split log 🪵 💯 Jesus loves you ❤️
Ma'am this is the first time I'm seeing your videos but I feel compelled to comment. I'm at the part where you're upset at your son for saying sorry over and over. I was an addict, been clean 9 years now. Please believe me when I say your son IS sorry. He loves you just as much as he always has, but unfortunately he likely hates himself. Us addicts all have our own reasons for using in the beginning but over time it becomes much the same. We use because it numbs the pain that we feel from all the hurt we have caused our loved ones. We hate ourself for using and don't see how we can possibly get better and the only way we can take that pain away is by using. Fortunately I realize how silly that is now but at the time you truly believe it. You absolutely hate the pain you've caused your parents. I hated feeling like a disappointment of a son. Eventually after hard lines were drawn by my parents I finally reached out for help and they were there to support me. All you can do is keep loving him and offering support. I will be praying for your son to find it in himself to beat this disease. If I can then anyone can. I wish your whole family eventual peace from this plight.
@@Jsal6748 Amen
We Do Recover
So true. They hurt for hurting us
Thank you for the garden tour. A while back. That was so relaxing. Thank you for your channel.
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I admire you as a person, as a mom, as a grandma and as a woman of faith. Your strength and love for your grandson will get you through this bolder in the road. You are in my prayers. Rest and take care of yourself. Thank you for sharing .💝
Thank you so much!
I'm so sorry your are going through this. My brother died of an over dose. I know you are hurt right now but the Prison system doesn't do anything to help them. Your son will need your support to get the help he needs. There's obviously a history of drugs and emotional issues. I used to think the same way...Let him sit in prison..no help, no visits and he will learn his lesson! Well it doesn't work! It's not the prisons job to fix your son! It's his! But he will need family to help him get through his sickness.
Prayers for your family ❤️ 🙏
Trust me, I completely understand exactly how you feel. My only son is an addict and his currently in jail on felony charges. He’s such a good person sober but can’t seem to kick his addiction. I know what you mean when you say you think your son will loose his life. Jail saved my son’s life, I truly believe that. You all will be in my prayers and please pray for our family and my son. I’ll be praying for your son ma’am. God bless.
I'll be praying hard for you, your son and your family 💜💜💜
@@FromtheHoller thank you!
My heart brakes for you.
Take good care of yourself, eat right and try to build yourself up with good thoughts.
You have a little boy to take care of.
You are a very important person.
You have to protect yourself and your family, it is time for no contact. That doesn't mean you don't love him, everyone knows you love him and that is why you are so hurt by his drug addiction.
My prayer go out for you and your family.
I know exactly what you're going through. If you ever need to talk, I am here. I know your pain. I have had that pain, and I still have it. Please don't hesitate to reach out. Please. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Aww sweetheart, it doesn’t sound mean that your happy he is in jail right now. You need a breather and this may be a good chance for him to get clean. He needs help in some shape or form and nothing will change if he doesn’t get help. Your family is being torn apart. My heart is with you truly. You need to start putting you first now, other depend on you and love you. This is something he needs to do for himself. I am so sorry you are going through this g through such a rough time. Sending love,hugs and prayers ❤
Missy I understand what you are feeling. We pray everyday that our son will get arrested. Then we can breathe and he can get sorber ❤
It's like taking a huge deep breath after you've been holding it for soooo long
Praying for you,Missy
You remind me so much of my mom. Your stories are VERY similar
That poor lady. Atleast he didnt hurt her in noway. The " im sorry, im sorry" He is sorry. However, he will not get better til HE wants to. Atleast in jail you know he aint usin. Dry your eyes momma. God has got this, got you, Josh, & yalls family. Faith of a mustard seed is all he ask for. We are right with you sweet angel.❤
God Bless
My heart breaks for you. I know the hell you are going through. All I can say is that prison may be his saving grace.After my son passed, I had so many tell me he might have been rescued from a prison experience. I know that sounds crazy but I have seen addicts beat it and come out living a productive life because of it. My son struggled to admit his addiction. He just couldn’t face the reality. He died from it. He didn’t want to die. He was only 35 and I will never be the same. I pray you have a successful outcome with your beautiful boy, We remember our boys from baby on. Opiates have poisoned and, in many cases (too many), they have murdered our precious children. That 5th arm of Medical treatment for pain was and is murder, plain and simple. You are a good mama. I am a good mama. Our boys got caught in this money laundering addiction scam. I will pray this will be your beautiful boy’s rock bottom. If I could give you a hug I would!
What a kind and loving response. God bless you.
Thank you for this comment!! I needed to see this this morning
Prayers for you and your family 😢.
been there...believe me Its a blessing when they get locked down..It gives us a chance to breath and you get some much needed sleep knowing they are not useing today...
Amen to that!
Hopefully, he'll get at least 2-3 years. One isn't enough. He can get clean and take stock of his life. Prison isn't a nice place. It's not supposed to be. Your son is not a violent, hardened criminal. He should figure out he doesn't need to spend the rest of his life there. Be the best thing for him. But he needs to do some serious time. As in years. A few months won't change him. Prayers to you and your family. Your faith will see you through.
I have been there so much also in my life. Right now I have a nephew dying from liver failure due to alcohol abuse
lord when he told you to sit down i thought it was gonna be worse. sometimes we need to get arrested as awful as it is. it showed me i was on the wrong path with alcohol.
Yeah, that scared me also. He never says things like that
Thanks for sharing prayers 🙏 for your family.
Thanks so much
God bless you and the whole family.
Addiction of anything is hell on earth!! I know all to well. At 59 years old with 20+ pharmaceutical morphine tolerances/addiction from a broken neck car accident im living in a foreign country trying to ween myself of the last pills i have to finally be free of this stone around my neck. Cant get that here so thats why i came to this country to get away from it. I ve been dying a slow pharmaceutical death in the US. God give me and everyone else strength to be free of this nightmare....
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Sending prayers
I thought it was a weird day too and it was my birthday but so much bad news and I’m having trouble with it getting on my nerves.. son in law fell at work yesterday and broke his leg in two places. My daughter and him both are on methadone I don’t like it but I’m better with that verses what they were abusing so I’m a little worried. 🙏 praying for them and you
I understand totally your feelings yes in the end you don't know what's reality and what's fiction keep moving forward look after your grandkids tough love is the best love keep your brave face for Ayden but cry in private he may see the light eventually don't blame yourself stay strong and don't dwell on things ❤
God bless you. My heart is with you from all the way here, in Canada.❤️🙏
I am beyond sorry for everything you and your family are going through, not to mention the elderly woman your son victimized
Prayers
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I truly know how you feel right now. I know that sick feeling that sours and knots your stomach...that keeps you awake and sits heavy on every moment of your day. The crying that makes your head ache. I've been there. You're doing everything right Missy. Draw the lines and hold fast to them. Don't let the chaos your son has created for himself keep you from being happy inside your own life. You have a beautiful life. You've made it beautiful by being who you are and doing what you do. Wrap that around you and take comfort in it. Separate yourself from his chaos and appreciate the joy of your own life. YOU'VE EARNED THAT!
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Stay strong. Do something really nice for yourself. You so deserve it.
Hi there, i too am four years free from the disease of Alcoholism, very greatful that anyone who loved me left me completely alone at rock rock bottom or I would not have found the beautiful world of recovery. My beloved mother and biological brothers never found a program of appropriate treatment though. My mum died a terrible long suffering life in old school mental asylums and institutions that were horifically traumatic for Alcoholics in those days. I attended a public funded rehab at 48 years old but the illness had stripped absolutely all hope and dignity from me. Addiction really is an illness if you have it and 12 step recovery is the only treatment that has worked for me but that's just my experience worked for me. Recovery is possible once proper diagnosis is ascertained and many thousands of us all over the world now live useful and meaningful lives with the illness, rather than dyeing of it. There are also programs freely available that have support groups for those who's lives the Addict devastates. I hope you find support lovely lady. Hope and Courage to you and your family ❤
@@deebaker9199 I have logged lotsa hours in AlAnon meetings, got me sane, helped me to maintain it.
Agree with a few of the above how sad that a child in jail is in a way a break for a mother's heart and mind also. I will be in this boat shortly too. But I hope you know that Just as you always tell us;
we are hear to listen awhile with out judgement and always keeping you all in our prayers ❤
I couldn't do this without my support system! Y'all are amazing and keep me going no matter how bad things are. I'm so thankful for all of you!!!
Please do whatever you have to do to preserve your peace!
Sorry for your pain. I think you are right in not financially assisting your son during this time. Thing is, he is the one who wants to become drug free. I know it’s hard, you want to smooth the path for your child to overcome his addiction. But in the end it’s his journey and he needs to climb that mountain. It’s so painful to be repeatedly lied to, have hopes and dreams trampled, and the embarrassment of his criminal actions blindsiding any semblance of peace in your lives. Distance both physically and emotionally without becoming bitter is the best way for you to heal. That is your mountain.❤
I don't know you ma'am, just stumbled across this video. I'm 10yrs recovered from opiate addiction with the help of methadone and I think you're doing the right thing. If he's addicted to opiates and doesn't think he can resist temptation on the outside, there are replacement treatments like methadone (you go to the clinic every morning to dose), suboxone or buprenorphine (prescribed outpatient, monthly) and after you're stable on the right dose you can get the active ingredient, buprenorphine, injections that last 1 or 3 months and there's no withdrawal when it wears off. So many people have died not knowing their pain pills were fentanyl or not knowing the amount, and these keep addicts alive long enough to get their life straightened out and when they're ready, they'll slowly taper off the medication, unless it's the injection which basically tapers itself off as it wears off.
Thank you for sharing!
So sorry you are going through this heartbreak. I refuse to give my grandchildren the memory of seeing their Mother in jail also. Stay strong ❤
There’s nothing you can say to him that will have any impact on him while he’s using. Even if he’s “sober”, until he’s working a program he will lie, manipulate, promise, you name it. Sobriety requires harsh boundaries. Keep them. You’re doing the right thing. Going completely no contact until he proves himself is the only hope. And that goes for everyone around him. I don’t know your story but his babies mom, his girlfriend, everyone has to go no contact. Addiction is all lies, all manipulation, a fierce victim mentality that will eat you alive. Hold the line!
As a mother I can feel your pain, however, I want to say you are 100% doing the right thing. Your son must pay for his consequences and you can no longer enable him. Jail time is the best thing for him…he will get clean and do a lot of soul searching. You now need to focus on that grandchild and your mental health. Sending prayers 🙏
Addiction is rough 😢 22 years and still going with mine. All I can do is pray 🙏❤️🩹
We as addicts are only sorry because we got cought and we will say that over and over and over. Finally one day when we are fed up with telling our selves lie and and our family lies we will stop and get help and stop the drugs. Hang in there momma bear and just keep loving him like you can and only can that a momma bear and poppa bear can. Hang in there. The tough love is all you can do is and hopefully it will will work for him it sure did for me and that’s what made me change and knowing that my family loved me. May the prayers keep coming your way. It’s tough love momma bear and it helps you protect your self. All my prayers are being sent to you
I’m sorry. I know the feeling of, “At least I can sleep tonight”.
I'm so sorry you understand that!
I know exactly what your going through. I have a son that is an addict plus I believe has schizophrenia like his biological father. He has been in prison so many times that I have honestly lost count. I've heard the same things that you have. My husband and I have a blended family. The first of July we received a call letting us know that his daughter had overdosed and was on life support. She did not make it. I also hate addiction.
I know I commented once telling you to walk away because his addiction will take everything from you. You need to take care of you and that little boy. You responded by saying, maybe that is something you would do but not me. I didn't mean to be disrespectful, but all of my immediate family was addicted. My mother, brothers, and sister so I am familiar with addiction and the toll it takes on those who love them. Again, please don't blame yourself, this was his choice. I felt relieved every time my brother went jail, as I knew he was safe. He was in multiple rehabs and he always got thrown out for non compliance. The only thing I knew to do, was pray for him from a distance. May God give you comfort and strength. I do pray your son hands over his addictions to God.
I'm so sorry for my response to your comment. Sometimes I let my mouth overrun my brain and say things because I'm hurting at the time. That was definitely one of those times. I remember your comment very well and I've regretted my actions since then. Thank you for choosing to comment here once again even though I acted like an a$$ the last time. I appreciate you!
@@FromtheHolleryou didn't act like an @zz. I know you love your son. I always told my brother that if he was serious about getting clean, I would be there for him. Hugs to you Missy. You have a big heart. If you ever need to talk, I am here.
You display the courage and strength that most set and fantasize about. God bless you I pray and God lbess Aiden. Keep strength and don't fold. You rest and have some peace.
Thank you 💜
Hello sweet lady! I just stumbled on your channel~I’m assuming you are raising your grandson~if that is true you and your husband have given him a beautiful gift~no foster care for your sweet Aiden~your dear child is safe and you know where he is~God will take care of him~you have nothing to be ashamed of~your son has a free will and everyone who truly knows you will not judge you~and if they do? they don’t have any room in your life! Be strong! Hold your head up high and continue to love on that beautiful baby Aiden!
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