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'Self love, properly understood, as having your own back, is not selfish' This is beautiful. Others often asked how I could still be nice even with rude people, and since I can't properly express it I just said 'because I can afford to do it'. And that's why I can afford it: because I have my own back by hugging my own demon, so I could do it to other's demon as well. Brilliant TED talk 👍
As a recovering jerk and type A person, this Talk means so much to me. Meditation and therapy have changed my life. Dans work is accessible, opens the door to options, and allows us to grow in a way that does not feel heavy or overwhelming. Thanks Dan.
Over the past couple of years, Dan Harris has been one of my most positive influences. I started using his Ten Percent Happier app after reading his book of the same title. Some people mastered sourdough bread making: I meditated, listened to podcasts, and applied mindfulness whenever possible. I’ve meditated daily for over two years now, without fail, and it’s the good habit that I acquired that helped me through the pandemic with most of my sanity intact. Glad you’re not a jerk any more, Dan, and thanks for sharing.
As an "A - Type" New Yorker who is now battling cancer, one of my goals is to come out of the other side of things kinder, gentler and more compassionate- much less of an "ego driven jerk"...To recover as someone who loves myself better and is therefore better able to love and support others. Thanks for this Ted Talk, Dan Harris.
I have to say that I'm very happy that Mr. Harris has continued on his journey and is sharing it. Years ago I was skeptical and ignored him but hearing this talk makes me feel he is the type of person/people we need to be the new gurus in the 21st. century. Relatable people in and somewhat 'of' the world, for that is where life happens. I agree, love is the only thing that can save the world. Reason without love/compassion is dry and can become cruel and inhuman. Good on you Mr. Harris.
Dan is right, it is a skill to love oneself. What you have to do is work: face fears, face being uncomfortable, face difficulties you have run away from your whole life. It takes a decision to stop being a jerk to one self. This time not alone.
This was a delightful talk. I think while we are taught to be kind to others which is extremely important, we're not taught to be kind to ourselves with the same vigour and passion. Most of us never learn to love ourselves and we're overly critical and outright mean in our self assessments. It's even more true for children who're raised in unhealthy, chaotic and abusive homes. The positivity to be derived from this is that it's always possible to start on your journey of self kindness and to extend the same kindness to others as well.
Dan’s communication of these concepts has lead me on an incredibly positive and impactful journey over these past few years, making things better… inside and out. Thank you
I absolutely loved this talk. I became a huge fan after having read your book Ten Percent Happier. You and I share some of the same traits and having someone else put voice to what I myself am guilty of humbles me. But you do it with such great humor, never taking yourself quite too seriously. Thank you so much for this talk. Awesome!!!
Doing this 8 min into the talk I almost immediately cried. Alone fighting your own battles doesn't mean alone if you got your own back and are "active in your own rescue." I have been shielded from learning all this sort of stuff and became a horribly self hating person while loving and gentle and understanding BOTH since my youth. Since leaving all my family and friends I am on a solo journey to find everything useful to a happy life. Medicinal herbs for proper self care in the kitchen (ginger for nausea). Repeating the same goals and I am statements at bed time and when I wake up. Ice cold baths. Anything that is useful. Philosophy, Buddhist, and well being positive quotes from notible wise people. Anything and everything. This talk adds to that very well. "Worry not for tomorrow. You will face it with the same tools you have that arm you against today." I hope to eradicate the self hatred in me. I'm hard on myself but like he said... it can be a positive driving inner life coach rather than a spiraling negative flogging.
Got this advice a long time ago... talk to yourself the way your world talk to your best friend. "You got this" and "you can" and "you are smart and successful" and... man good it change your life
Hi Dan, That was a really great TED talk. I applaud you for being so transparent. I have been a meditator for a number of years, and it has changed my life. I find myself to be a kinder, more compassionate person due to a Loving Kindness practice. Of course, I still screw up, but I move on and begin again. I'm also a fan of 10% Happier so keep on trucking and doing what you"re doing. My biggest goal is to do a long, silent retreat sometime in the near future! Thank you for this TED talk!
Love, love, love this so much. I stopped judging myself for still experiencing downward spirals when I realised I was able to access the upward spiral more often and much faster.
Notes. May you be happy, safe, healthy, and live with ease. Generate warmth with full sentences. Conjure image and send phrases to: Easy person or pet, yourself, mentor, neutral, difficult, then all beings everywhere. Consciously counter program against inner critic. And when you feel yourself spiraling, but your hand on your heart and speak to yourself like a good friend or supportive coach instead of a sadistic inner tyrant. Amazing talk. Thanks
The way he taught us to meditate is a basic meditation type in Buddhism... We learnt that when we are 5,6 years old, coz I'm a buddhist by birth... Eventhough I didn't use it much in my life.. Now I see the whole meaning of it.. I'm grateful to be born as a buddhist to learn them from early ages.
Amazing job Dan!!!! I’ve been a long subscriber to 10% happier and it has dramatically improved my relationship to myself, my wife, my children and my friends. I appreciate your courageousness and applaud you for letting yourself be vulnerable. Great TED talk and thank you for everything you do!
I have been listening to and following Dan's work for years. Yet another absolutely beautiful, eloquent, light-hearted delivery, Mr. Harris. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom. From a combat-injured veteran and her service dog, namaste.
LOVED IT!! Can't wait for more TED talks. Truly inspirational! Forwarded the link to both my kids (22-yr old son with an absent narcissistic father, 17-yr old daughter currently experiencing panic/anxiety attacks for which everyone is trying to find a "physical" cause -- rather than treating the underlying anxiety of being a 17-yr old senior in high school during this day and age).
Lillie H.- A trained Hypnotherapist and NLP Practicioner can eliminate panic attacks in a session or 2. My wife was cured of clinical depression by just 1 three hour session with a professional in Hypnotherapy and NLP the transformation was Miraculous and it contributed big time to her completely recovering from advanced ovarian cancer in a few months without any hospital treatment. She refused Chemotherapy, surgery and radiation than got the 3 hour Hypnotherapy/NLP session and also teas from an TCM doctor.
Ten Percent Happier and resources like it have helped me navigate some very thorny family health issues - physical and mental - that require as much of my best self as I can produce. Advice like this helps me to be as resilient as possible. And it's inspired me to write songs on the subject. Thanks Dan! Great talk!
Dan you are a lovely human being so brave!! We all have these, you are the one who taught me to be more self aware when you said years ago that meditation helped you realize the voice within is a jerk. Me too! You have helped me raise my jerk self awareness radically. You inspire me again!!
“Hard pass… Pasadena!” -DH Dan- you have said so much to educate and inspire us, and ‘Pasadena’ is now part of that living opus! 😂👨🏼🍼 I can feel your boy laughing at your dad joke from here! You are a gift 🎁 Thank you 🙏TPH Live kept me alive during the lockdown 🙌🙀🙌 I am forever grateful that you had that on-air panic attack 🫵😇🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘
Dan - Your books, talks and TPH have changed my life, and help me show up in a way I never could have imagined. I love TED talks, and this is my all-time favorite. Thanks and respect for keeping it real … and for putting so much energy and care into work that benefits others. I cannot wait for the new book and your future projects!
Forever grateful to you, Dan. You got me back into meditation when I had given it up for good and never wanted to try it again. You made it accessible and easy to connect with mostly because you spoke so bravely about your own experience. It makes me smile whenever I hear you say: this is something I never wanted to do or I rejected that immediately. Only to open up a bit later and give it a try anyway. That is so helpful. Can’t wait to read your new book.
Brilliant. Full circle moment for Dan. So happy for his journey and progress and am gracious for this powerful (and practical) insight he shared here..and what a great platform he chose as well. A TED talk for the record books… keep at it folks! Cause “our demons are always out in the parking lot doing push-ups”. Man o man too many gold nuggets hidden in if you don’t pay attention! Unified field theory of love Meditation evangelist Ahh gotta go back and listen again! Thank you Dan!
Wow, this video was incredibly eye-opening! I've always believed that being kind to others is important, but Dan Harris's talk made me realize just how crucial it is to be kind to ourselves too. The idea that we can actually rewire our brains through meditation and self-compassion is truly amazing. I can't wait to start implementing these techniques in my own life. Thanks for sharing this inspiring talk!
Dan Harris, I learned about this Ted Talk via the 10% app. I've loved your work, your humor, and your wisdom since reading your first book and have shared it with lots of others. Thank you for improving my life!
Thank you! I drank the coo-laid a couple of years ago. The 10percent happier meditations not only got me sane through the pandemic but gave me a touch of the loving kindness superpower you speak of. I strive to be less of a jerk and more often can see when I’m stuck. Thank you for your bravery, sharing your vulnerability and knowledge with some humor. ❤
That’s right! It works. And I did it) just by watching my ego (for a month-two) and not trying to put it out. I had been saying to myself “I see my ego” (meaning all destructive feelings and thoughts, fears), not imagining it (that’s important). And it had gone away) of course it’s comes back sometimes. It’s our mind. But when you see it, it goes away. It really helps with relationships and with all your life))
The process he explains at 10:20 here worked right away. Helpful and funny. I really like all of this. I did immediately applied and got results from Dan Harris's process he explains at 10:20 in this talk. He recommends doing it for 4 people. I did it for 10 people in my life. I immediately felt a lot better and calmer and peaceful. I wrote down the process on a 2 inch post-it note and put it on my calendar for reminders to repeat it.
Love this- you’re a brave & tenacious person, Dan. We should all be so brave… I love loving kindness meditations- and do them when I cannot sleep, which helps tremendously. I am still trying to learn this & this talk boosted my resilience. 🙏
Brilliant TED talk 👍 so natural, engaging and thought provoking. It reminded me of my own journey 6-7 years ago when I went through a very painful mid-life crisis that lasted 12-18 months which completely overhauled my life. In my darkest days, learning how to self love (for the first time in 46 years in 2015!?) was the key to my recovery and leading a blissful life now. Everything you said was completely on-point 👍 I practice self-love every single day even if I have to say no to loved ones because the only person who really and properly looks after me is me ..and yes, I managed to find my heart which was buried away in so much external crap that we take to heart..I now have a great heart and brain connection..start and finish with you 👍
This is simply brilliant, and timely in my case...... Recently l became serious about my lovingkindness practice. Nothing much happened- Except that my life is so much better, and my heart much lighter! Dan, may you live a life of ease!
We have to love and appreciate ourselves because if we don't then other people won't do that. It's also utterly significant to value your own efforts. Sometimes, I tend to condemn myself for not studying so badly or underrate my knowledge. Then I realize I am being a jerk to myself. In such cases, I tell myself there is no need to be so strict with your own self. You have not done something today, you will do it tomorrow. Live and soak up your life. Life is not all about studying. You won't miss anything out if you don't study for one day. Those words help me to calm down and not to get myself down.
Wonderful! I love Dan! He is real and I use the 10 percent happier app. Wisdom here. One of the biggest obstacles to our inner growth is an honest and clear acceptance of ourselves in total: the good and not so good and the shadow; and then to learn to accept others for theirs. Like the saying goes "Friends are people who know you really well and like you anyway" ...this includes ourselves.
I like the way he pointed out certain things you can work on yourself to improve your and start to feel better about you and things around you in life i love listen to him speak on this topic.
After using TPH app for even a small period of time and watching him give this talk, it almost feels like I'm watching someone I know. And like with anyone you know, when people were laughing applauding it felt like a huge sigh of relief that wow people are really enjoying this and ofcourse they are because he is amazing !! And I felt joy and am proud of this person and so grateful for everything he has done. If you're reading this, you made us feel 10% better and you know that's alot !! Keep going Dan 💚
Thank you for your vulnerability. Having my own workplace appraisal, it is hard to hear all your flaws and failures and still feel worthy. I do the opposite of taking it out on others, I become anxious instead and self flagellate. I agree with the summation that our social fabric is unraveling. The never enough-ness and always behind-ness societal pressures are the catalysts for mental health burnouts and breakdowns.
The argument presented in the video I strongly agree, we must not be selfish with ourselves, we must love ourselves. Because being selfish in yourself will make a bad impact on us. We need to love ourselves more and be more at peace with ourselves. But that doesn't mean we have to be selfish to others, we also have to love others. Self-love, properly understood, not as narcissism, but as having your own back, it will make you better at loving others.
I recently started a practice of “noticing”. I set a monastery bell timer to go off every 15 minutes. (I think it’s a plum village app). I stop, inhale and exhale once. Then ask myself “who’s here right now”? Then answer myself: “[angry, depressed, responsible, thinking] Carlos is here”. Then, if “angry me” is here. I respond with: “that’s ok, let him talk. Nobody heard him when he was a small boy and hurting”. It’s amazing this “noticing practice has improved my productivity, decreased my debilitating depression, and anxiety.
So grateful for this talk and the honesty you bring to all of this work, Dan. I will also say love 10PH app. That and the podcast helped me save myself from a very traumatic and transitional place in my life. Because of it I am in my dream job, growing and learning. Long way to go, but more than ten percent happier.
Great TED Talk, Dan. I started my meditation journey with the Ten Percent Happier app and continue to use it almost every day. Sharing your journey was vulnerable and illuminating. Thanks for all of the work you to to help all of us to demonstrate more compassion in our daily lives.
Great job with your TED talk Dan. Beautifully honest and inspiring. I appreciate all you do as a long time TPH subscriber and fan. Keep doing what you are doing. It continues to help many of us find more peace and happiness. 🙏🏼😌🧘🏻
Uk it’s impressive & relieving how open people have become about mental health & self love but it’s utterly confusing even after all this when you are personally in despair you can’t resonate w it.
Deep thanks for this funny, clever, real presentation…from a recovering snark monster. I’ve been grateful for the daily support of 10% Happier app as I make-often tiny-inroads.
Thank you for your vulnerability. Great talk. I also enjoyed your book, 10% Happier, very much and recommend it frequently. My inner critic is indeed an AH, and I definitely need to give myself a break. I can see how doing that can also lead to being less critical of others, which I'm expert at. Ultimately, my opinion of another person doesn't actually matter to my life or theirs.
Brilliant. I’m a big fan of Dan. I totally relate to him especially as I am a podcaster as he is too now. His interview skills are amazing and I think his growth shines through because he is living with purpose. Finally. ❤
Thank you man, makes a lot of sense and really needed to hear this… I worked out the spirals and was starting to figure out the self flagellation is not helping..
Dan, on retreat sometimes the lyrics from the song by the Beatles "all you need is love," ring through to me. Great talk. In fact have been listening to 10% Nicer course on loving kindness with Sharon Salzberg on 10% Happier App. May we all be safe, happy and peaceful, strong and healthy, and live our lives with ease.
We all our constantly projecting our inner world onto the outer. The thoughts, feelings, and behaviours we hold deep down about ourselves guide the way we treat and view others. Any person who is truly content with themselves wont feel the need to constantly prove their worth to others. Similarly, someone who is disappointed at their own lives would feel jealous of other's achievements, instead of being happy for the other (because they wish they had that happiness themselves).
Brilliant….an excellent summary of the second chapter of your life so far, and without one word wasted, how you reached your current plateau and most importantly how we can do it too.
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Totally agree on the root of most problems being lack of love.
Luck of money
Agreed. Also would add fear, whether real or imagined, abandonment, insecurity
lack of girth
At 3:15 I realized how people often think it's weak to open up and work through your emotions, but it is absolutely courageous and honorable.
100%
'Self love, properly understood, as having your own back, is not selfish'
This is beautiful. Others often asked how I could still be nice even with rude people, and since I can't properly express it I just said 'because I can afford to do it'. And that's why I can afford it: because I have my own back by hugging my own demon, so I could do it to other's demon as well. Brilliant TED talk 👍
As a recovering jerk and type A person, this Talk means so much to me. Meditation and therapy have changed my life. Dans work is accessible, opens the door to options, and allows us to grow in a way that does not feel heavy or overwhelming. Thanks Dan.
Over the past couple of years, Dan Harris has been one of my most positive influences. I started using his Ten Percent Happier app after reading his book of the same title. Some people mastered sourdough bread making: I meditated, listened to podcasts, and applied mindfulness whenever possible. I’ve meditated daily for over two years now, without fail, and it’s the good habit that I acquired that helped me through the pandemic with most of my sanity intact. Glad you’re not a jerk any more, Dan, and thanks for sharing.
This was how my lockdown started. I share your experience as well.
Dan is my hero. He has made meditation accessible and easy to connect with like no one else had before.
@@LilysEyes24 i could’t agree more with you on that. He is one amazing person.
As an "A - Type" New Yorker who is now battling cancer, one of my goals is to come out of the other side of things kinder, gentler and more compassionate- much less of an "ego driven jerk"...To recover as someone who loves myself better and is therefore better able to love and support others. Thanks for this Ted Talk, Dan Harris.
One of the most refreshing takes on self love. Thank you TED and Dan Harris for this well timed reminder!
This is easily one of the most fun talks about arguably THE most important topic for our times!
I have to say that I'm very happy that Mr. Harris has continued on his journey and is sharing it. Years ago I was skeptical and ignored him but hearing this talk makes me feel he is the type of person/people we need to be the new gurus in the 21st. century. Relatable people in and somewhat 'of' the world, for that is where life happens. I agree, love is the only thing that can save the world. Reason without love/compassion is dry and can become cruel and inhuman. Good on you Mr. Harris.
That. Last. Line. 😂
Dan Harris is so sweet, funny and relatable. The 10% Happier App has changed my life.
Dan is right, it is a skill to love oneself. What you have to do is work: face fears, face being uncomfortable, face difficulties you have run away from your whole life. It takes a decision to stop being a jerk to one self. This time not alone.
This was a delightful talk. I think while we are taught to be kind to others which is extremely important, we're not taught to be kind to ourselves with the same vigour and passion. Most of us never learn to love ourselves and we're overly critical and outright mean in our self assessments. It's even more true for children who're raised in unhealthy, chaotic and abusive homes. The positivity to be derived from this is that it's always possible to start on your journey of self kindness and to extend the same kindness to others as well.
Dan’s communication of these concepts has lead me on an incredibly positive and impactful journey over these past few years, making things better… inside and out. Thank you
I absolutely loved this talk. I became a huge fan after having read your book Ten Percent Happier. You and I share some of the same traits and having someone else put voice to what I myself am guilty of humbles me. But you do it with such great humor, never taking yourself quite too seriously. Thank you so much for this talk. Awesome!!!
Doing this 8 min into the talk I almost immediately cried. Alone fighting your own battles doesn't mean alone if you got your own back and are "active in your own rescue." I have been shielded from learning all this sort of stuff and became a horribly self hating person while loving and gentle and understanding BOTH since my youth. Since leaving all my family and friends I am on a solo journey to find everything useful to a happy life. Medicinal herbs for proper self care in the kitchen (ginger for nausea). Repeating the same goals and I am statements at bed time and when I wake up. Ice cold baths. Anything that is useful. Philosophy, Buddhist, and well being positive quotes from notible wise people. Anything and everything. This talk adds to that very well. "Worry not for tomorrow. You will face it with the same tools you have that arm you against today." I hope to eradicate the self hatred in me. I'm hard on myself but like he said... it can be a positive driving inner life coach rather than a spiraling negative flogging.
Got this advice a long time ago... talk to yourself the way your world talk to your best friend. "You got this" and "you can" and "you are smart and successful" and... man good it change your life
Hi Dan, That was a really great TED talk. I applaud you for being so transparent. I have been a meditator for a number of years, and it has changed my life. I find myself to be a kinder, more compassionate person due to a Loving Kindness practice. Of course, I still screw up, but I move on and begin again. I'm also a fan of 10% Happier so keep on trucking and doing what you"re doing.
My biggest goal is to do a long, silent retreat sometime in the near future! Thank you for this TED talk!
Love, love, love this so much. I stopped judging myself for still experiencing downward spirals when I realised I was able to access the upward spiral more often and much faster.
TPH- total game changer, very smart and thoughtful guests. Dan Harris, lovely TED talk. Thank you for making this very hard stuff so accessible
Notes. May you be happy, safe, healthy, and live with ease. Generate warmth with full sentences. Conjure image and send phrases to: Easy person or pet, yourself, mentor, neutral, difficult, then all beings everywhere.
Consciously counter program against inner critic. And when you feel yourself spiraling, but your hand on your heart and speak to yourself like a good friend or supportive coach instead of a sadistic inner tyrant.
Amazing talk. Thanks
Much thanks Mr.Harris for this terribly needed message ! Wish you the strength to continue on this path 🙏 !
The way he taught us to meditate is a basic meditation type in Buddhism... We learnt that when we are 5,6 years old, coz I'm a buddhist by birth... Eventhough I didn't use it much in my life.. Now I see the whole meaning of it.. I'm grateful to be born as a buddhist to learn them from early ages.
Is there a way to learn Buddhist meditation in respectful and non-whitewashed way?
I think many Buddhist monks teach Buddhist meditation ways in UA-cam. You just have to search 😇
Thich Naht Hanh is a good teacher.
Amazing job Dan!!!! I’ve been a long subscriber to 10% happier and it has dramatically improved my relationship to myself, my wife, my children and my friends. I appreciate your courageousness and applaud you for letting yourself be vulnerable. Great TED talk and thank you for everything you do!
I have been listening to and following Dan's work for years. Yet another absolutely beautiful, eloquent, light-hearted delivery, Mr. Harris. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom. From a combat-injured veteran and her service dog, namaste.
You hide? You are exceptional in talking about a favorite topic!
Know your worth my dear. You are a nice person!
LOVED IT!! Can't wait for more TED talks. Truly inspirational! Forwarded the link to both my kids (22-yr old son with an absent narcissistic father, 17-yr old daughter currently experiencing panic/anxiety attacks for which everyone is trying to find a "physical" cause -- rather than treating the underlying anxiety of being a 17-yr old senior in high school during this day and age).
They probably won’t watch it being that young haha
Lillie H.- A trained Hypnotherapist and NLP Practicioner can eliminate panic attacks in a session or 2. My wife was cured of clinical depression by just 1 three hour session with a professional in Hypnotherapy and NLP the transformation was Miraculous and it contributed big time to her completely recovering from advanced ovarian cancer in a few months without any hospital treatment. She refused Chemotherapy, surgery and radiation than got the 3 hour Hypnotherapy/NLP session and also teas from an TCM doctor.
Ten Percent Happier and resources like it have helped me navigate some very thorny family health issues - physical and mental - that require as much of my best self as I can produce. Advice like this helps me to be as resilient as possible. And it's inspired me to write songs on the subject. Thanks Dan! Great talk!
What a treat to hear you here.... thank you for sharing and being so authentic! 🙏🌺
I’m glad he found his way. The root of all issues on earth is lack of love. Every individual issue
I agree that love myself then we can love other people.
Just what I’ve been needing to figure things out. Yep, lack of love. I just didn’t know why.
Dan you are a lovely human being so brave!! We all have these, you are the one who taught me to be more self aware when you said years ago that meditation helped you realize the voice within is a jerk. Me too! You have helped me raise my jerk self awareness radically. You inspire me again!!
“Hard pass… Pasadena!” -DH
Dan- you have said so much to educate and inspire us, and ‘Pasadena’ is now part of that living opus! 😂👨🏼🍼 I can feel your boy laughing at your dad joke from here! You are a gift 🎁 Thank you 🙏TPH Live kept me alive during the lockdown 🙌🙀🙌 I am forever grateful that you had that on-air panic attack 🫵😇🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘🏻♀️🧘🧘🏽♂️🧘
Dan -
Your books, talks and TPH have changed my life, and help me show up in a way I never could have imagined.
I love TED talks, and this is my all-time favorite. Thanks and respect for keeping it real … and for putting so much energy and care into work that benefits others.
I cannot wait for the new book and your future projects!
Forever grateful to you, Dan. You got me back into meditation when I had given it up for good and never wanted to try it again. You made it accessible and easy to connect with mostly because you spoke so bravely about your own experience. It makes me smile whenever I hear you say: this is something I never wanted to do or I rejected that immediately. Only to open up a bit later and give it a try anyway. That is so helpful. Can’t wait to read your new book.
Dan Harris just a champion of transparency. Just like in his book 10% Happier, always discovers a way to happier. Thank you TEDTalks and Dan Harris
Narcissism manifests in many forms. I admire his courage.
Brilliant. Full circle moment for Dan. So happy for his journey and progress and am gracious for this powerful (and practical) insight he shared here..and what a great platform he chose as well. A TED talk for the record books… keep at it folks! Cause “our demons are always out in the parking lot doing push-ups”. Man o man too many gold nuggets hidden in if you don’t pay attention!
Unified field theory of love
Meditation evangelist
Ahh gotta go back and listen again!
Thank you Dan!
One of the very best TED talks ever!
this is what men need. A guy who validates the difficulty men have with being emotional while still encouraging us to give it a try
Thank you Dan for your work and your brave honesty.
Wow, this video was incredibly eye-opening! I've always believed that being kind to others is important, but Dan Harris's talk made me realize just how crucial it is to be kind to ourselves too. The idea that we can actually rewire our brains through meditation and self-compassion is truly amazing. I can't wait to start implementing these techniques in my own life. Thanks for sharing this inspiring talk!
Brilliant, beautiful, and inspiring. I hope many people watch. We need more of this message! 🌟
Dan Harris, I learned about this Ted Talk via the 10% app. I've loved your work, your humor, and your wisdom since reading your first book and have shared it with lots of others. Thank you for improving my life!
Thank you! I drank the coo-laid a couple of years ago. The 10percent happier meditations not only got me sane through the pandemic but gave me a touch of the loving kindness superpower you speak of.
I strive to be less of a jerk and more often can see when I’m stuck. Thank you for your bravery, sharing your vulnerability and knowledge with some humor. ❤
That’s right! It works. And I did it) just by watching my ego (for a month-two) and not trying to put it out. I had been saying to myself “I see my ego” (meaning all destructive feelings and thoughts, fears), not imagining it (that’s important). And it had gone away) of course it’s comes back sometimes. It’s our mind. But when you see it, it goes away. It really helps with relationships and with all your life))
The process he explains at 10:20 here worked right away. Helpful and funny. I really like all of this. I did immediately applied and got results from Dan Harris's process he explains at 10:20 in this talk. He recommends doing it for 4 people. I did it for 10 people in my life. I immediately felt a lot better and calmer and peaceful. I wrote down the process on a 2 inch post-it note and put it on my calendar for reminders to repeat it.
Excellent last words. So much more was lost in the war.
I applaud Dan for having the courage to respond to his demons with altruism and then to publicly tell the story. Bravo!
Thank you for your honesty. Your timing releasing this is superb ☺️
Love this- you’re a brave & tenacious person, Dan. We should all be so brave… I love loving kindness meditations- and do them when I cannot sleep, which helps tremendously. I am still trying to learn this & this talk boosted my resilience. 🙏
What an EXCELLENT Ted Talk.
This one needs to be repeated in every middle school and high school in the country.
Brilliant TED talk 👍 so natural, engaging and thought provoking. It reminded me of my own journey 6-7 years ago when I went through a very painful mid-life crisis that lasted 12-18 months which completely overhauled my life. In my darkest days, learning how to self love (for the first time in 46 years in 2015!?) was the key to my recovery and leading a blissful life now. Everything you said was completely on-point 👍 I practice self-love every single day even if I have to say no to loved ones because the only person who really and properly looks after me is me ..and yes, I managed to find my heart which was buried away in so much external crap that we take to heart..I now have a great heart and brain connection..start and finish with you 👍
This is simply brilliant, and timely in my case......
Recently l became serious about my lovingkindness practice.
Nothing much happened-
Except that my life is so much better, and my heart much lighter!
Dan, may you live a life of ease!
Dan...I truly love what you are doing. I have found so much wisdom on your podcast. Thank you, sweetie!
We have to love and appreciate ourselves because if we don't then other people won't do that. It's also utterly significant to value your own efforts. Sometimes, I tend to condemn myself for not studying so badly or underrate my knowledge. Then I realize I am being a jerk to myself. In such cases, I tell myself there is no need to be so strict with your own self. You have not done something today, you will do it tomorrow. Live and soak up your life. Life is not all about studying. You won't miss anything out if you don't study for one day. Those words help me to calm down and not to get myself down.
Wonderful! I love Dan! He is real and I use the 10 percent happier app. Wisdom here. One of the biggest obstacles to our inner growth is an honest and clear acceptance of ourselves in total: the good and not so good and the shadow; and then to learn to accept others for theirs. Like the saying goes "Friends are people who know you really well and like you anyway" ...this includes ourselves.
I like the way he pointed out certain things you can work on yourself to improve your and start to feel better about you and things around you in life i love listen to him speak on this topic.
Last line was the BEST. Thank you, Dan.
After using TPH app for even a small period of time and watching him give this talk, it almost feels like I'm watching someone I know. And like with anyone you know, when people were laughing applauding it felt like a huge sigh of relief that wow people are really enjoying this and ofcourse they are because he is amazing !! And I felt joy and am proud of this person and so grateful for everything he has done. If you're reading this, you made us feel 10% better and you know that's alot !! Keep going Dan 💚
Thank you for your vulnerability.
Having my own workplace appraisal, it is hard to hear all your flaws and failures and still feel worthy. I do the opposite of taking it out on others, I become anxious instead and self flagellate.
I agree with the summation that our social fabric is unraveling.
The never enough-ness and always behind-ness societal pressures are the catalysts for mental health burnouts and breakdowns.
The argument presented in the video I strongly agree, we must not be selfish with ourselves, we must love ourselves. Because being selfish in yourself will make a bad impact on us. We need to love ourselves more and be more at peace with ourselves. But that doesn't mean we have to be selfish to others, we also have to love others. Self-love, properly understood, not as narcissism, but as having your own back, it will make you better at loving others.
I recently started a practice of “noticing”. I set a monastery bell timer to go off every 15 minutes. (I think it’s a plum village app).
I stop, inhale and exhale once. Then ask myself “who’s here right now”? Then answer myself: “[angry, depressed, responsible, thinking] Carlos is here”.
Then, if “angry me” is here. I respond with: “that’s ok, let him talk. Nobody heard him when he was a small boy and hurting”.
It’s amazing this “noticing practice has improved my productivity, decreased my debilitating depression, and anxiety.
So grateful for this talk and the honesty you bring to all of this work, Dan. I will also say love 10PH app. That and the podcast helped me save myself from a very traumatic and transitional place in my life. Because of it I am in my dream job, growing and learning. Long way to go, but more than ten percent happier.
10:46 Super helpful meditation
So awesome. Thank you Dan Harris, will utilize your teachings.
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Great TED Talk, Dan. I started my meditation journey with the Ten Percent Happier app and continue to use it almost every day. Sharing your journey was vulnerable and illuminating. Thanks for all of the work you to to help all of us to demonstrate more compassion in our daily lives.
Thanks for mustering the courage to address this. You rock!
Followed Dan and his work for years now. Love this! And, the man gets more handsome as he gets older.
Great job with your TED talk Dan. Beautifully honest and inspiring. I appreciate all you do as a long time TPH subscriber and fan. Keep doing what you are doing. It continues to help many of us find more peace and happiness. 🙏🏼😌🧘🏻
This was so spot on. Really needed to hear this 💖
Man, this dude knows how to say it (and not use the marketing/"counseling" BS)
One of the best TED I've heard, thanks truly
I. Love. This Perfect timing in my life - thank you. One of the best, most engaging TED talks I've seen/heard
Uk it’s impressive & relieving how open people have become about mental health & self love but it’s utterly confusing even after all this when you are personally in despair you can’t resonate w it.
Great job! So proud and happy for you!
Dan Harris is the absolute best!
Deep thanks for this funny, clever, real presentation…from a recovering snark monster. I’ve been grateful for the daily support of 10% Happier app as I make-often tiny-inroads.
Thank you for your vulnerability. Great talk. I also enjoyed your book, 10% Happier, very much and recommend it frequently. My inner critic is indeed an AH, and I definitely need to give myself a break. I can see how doing that can also lead to being less critical of others, which I'm expert at. Ultimately, my opinion of another person doesn't actually matter to my life or theirs.
Brilliant. I’m a big fan of Dan. I totally relate to him especially as I am a podcaster as he is too now. His interview skills are amazing and I think his growth shines through because he is living with purpose. Finally. ❤
I know this has been published last year but you saying
Self love is not selfish.
Lit up bulbs in my brain. Thnak you
Thank you for this. You are very courageous to share this.
I am so grateful, it’s just what I needed to hear today.
A very dedicated 10 percenter.
Being in a circle of positive ppl will make you understand yourself
Thank you man, makes a lot of sense and really needed to hear this…
I worked out the spirals and was starting to figure out the self flagellation is not helping..
Your smiles!
Dan, on retreat sometimes the lyrics from the song by the Beatles "all you need is love," ring through to me. Great talk. In fact have been listening to 10% Nicer course on loving kindness with Sharon Salzberg on 10% Happier App.
May we all be safe, happy and peaceful, strong and healthy, and live our lives with ease.
Thank you, Mr. Harris- a very important message, no doubt! Thank you!!
Kind of summarizes few key Ted talks out there and it is good to see that being done.
Thanks for posting. Those gifted wordsmiths (oral or written) communicate so clearly. 5/5 stars for this TEDtalk.
We all our constantly projecting our inner world onto the outer. The thoughts, feelings, and behaviours we hold deep down about ourselves guide the way we treat and view others. Any person who is truly content with themselves wont feel the need to constantly prove their worth to others. Similarly, someone who is disappointed at their own lives would feel jealous of other's achievements, instead of being happy for the other (because they wish they had that happiness themselves).
All you need is love seems simple- it’s not- but it is the most powerful energy in the universe.
I’d like to show this to our inpatient behavioral health unit. Thank you! ….and congrats on taking that journey
Exactly what I'm learning in psychotherapy these days and it helps so much!
I love Dan and his work especially the TPH app. I couldn't be more grateful ❤️
Amazing Ted Talk! Love Dan Harris! He has taught me so much through 10% Happier!
What a Beautiful Talk!!! I was laughing and crying! 🤗
Brilliant….an excellent summary of the second chapter of your life so far, and without one word wasted, how you reached your current plateau and most importantly how we can do it too.
Great pauses Dan. You’re my inspiration!
He’s my inspiration too!!