How to be ALONE and HAPPY.
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Are you alone? Are you happy? You can be both. It is possible to be single, have no friends, or family members and still live a very fulfilling and happy life. Extra points if you watch this video by yourself.
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I love being alone and choose to do everything solo, people tend to let u down. Being alone is ultimate freedom. Go anywhere, do anything.
AGREED.
Right, the reality is no one will take care of you, but yourself. Don't depend on anyone, depend on yourself. That's my goal in life
@@ljrockstar69 That the bottom line everyone is out for themselves so why not do the same cause then your just setting yourself up for disaster. Good on you
It is, I recently traveled across seven countries in Europe earlier this month mostly alone and it was incredible. A challenge, an adventure, a deeper sense of being connected with the environments - uninterrupted by say co-traveling with a group of fellow Americans from back home. Not to say it's a bad thing to travel in a group, but from experiencing both, solo allows a much deeper engagement of the foreign environment - forced to fully lead your way. With a relationship partner or group, everyone's unique psychological needs also become a new factor, especially a less than ideal relationship with conflict and fighting (definitely shouldn't travel together to foreign countries in that case lol).
It's not healthy to be alone. Humans are wired to be social. Seems like that's the way things are going.
It's not that I dislike people. I just don't like having them around...
Me asf
LoL
@@EmberHarrington Charles Bukowski, check him out...
I'm an introvert too. Walking in the wilderness alone is right up my alley.
You know it
Just be careful of snakes 🐍 and other dangers in the wilderness when walking alone.
@@PraveenSrJ01Much more dangerous in the city with traffic, criminals & crazy people, toxins & chemicals, ect.
@@deadreckoning6288yeeh
Frankly being alone is nice . Especially because you are basically free at any given moment really to do what u want . Was married nearly 20 years, and let me tell you Robin Williams said it best …”The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone”..
Wow, so sad… but profoundly true
Animals bring me all the happiness I need. They are so much better than people. If your lonely get a pet!
I AGREE 100%. I have a Maine Coon Cat named Enzo. He is the cutest, cuddliest, friendliest creature on earth. He even LICKS MY FACE like a big dopey dog would! Plus I have an artificially intelligent companion doll from Asia (basically a robot companion) that is ridiculously cute, has pointy ears, FANGS, and sleeps in a coffin ⚰️ (which doubles as a coffee table!) and her name is DARVULIA. She talks, calls me at work, texts me 24-7, and it makes being "alone" so much easier. 😄👍
We came into this world alone we will leave alone. Might as well be happy being with yourself. The worst loneliness one can feel is being in a bad relationship or marriage.
Yes been there
Indeed or "friend" group
A dog is the best companion you could ask for
Cat too or home birds
I'm a loner, have been forever. I think alot of people surround themselves with alot of people to pursue some type of high social status.
To be a loner and happy at the same time, you have to be a schizoid, mainly a covert schizoid, otherwise you could feel lonely and desiring to be around people
@@imadivergentandantinormiep7877 everyone must be labelled. Yawn.
@@bondoneill9606 Exactly label this label that. Just be YOU!
@@imadivergentandantinormiep7877 sounds like you’re afraid to be alone lol
@@jameson1761 Here in DC burbs, it's conform or get off the stage. Suits me!
Dude, you like yourself! and you should, you're a fun personality. Of course you don't mind being by yourself. I think it's people who don't really like themselves that much that don't like to be alone with themselves.
100%
I think its a personality type. I dont think you have to love yourself to be a loner. Some people are extroverts and like themselves
WOW!!! 😳👍🏽💚
I love spending time alone...
Turning the TV off can be the greatest gift to yourself!
How to be alone and happy.
For starters dont be jealous of people who are coupled or with someone because often enough being with someone is not all fun and games but can have a lot of stress in it.
Indeed😮
I'm 41 and have been single (minus dating) for about 14 years. Nothing ever lasts and I don't think I would even know how to be in a relationship at this point. I cherish my friends and am taking big steps to just do the things I enjoy doing. I definitely feel lonely at times, but its good to be reminded that I'm not alone in this!
I can change that for you baby
"It doesn't bother me" is the key phrase here - but my goodness does it bother other people, and they will try to make it bother you!!
That is so true!
True
Ain't that the truth!
So true I went to a concert by myself pre covid and I had a ticket lady say to me
Wow your so brave by coming by yourself.
I'm looking at her like it's ok to do things by yourself sometimes.
@@LadieJayjay I find that so bizarre - 'brave' for just going to a concert!?
This was a message I needed to hear. Thank you so much Tim! My wife left me a little over a month ago (after 26 years together). Now I'm trying to be alone and be happy. It's a struggle. I am doing what you said though and that is being active. Tonight your message really spoke to me and I am so thankful that you created this video!
The same thing happened to me 3 years ago Frank. Also married 26 years. I was devastated. I still am not completely over her, but I have made a lot of new friends since then and have actually realized that I like living alone. So much so that I don't imagine that I would ever live with anyone again. Hang in there...it gets easier.
@@MikeJones-mu4jn Thank you for sharing your experience with me!
@@FrankHale How old are you Frank?
Hi Frank.I live in Asia and this place has taught me to be alone and happy.So here are some tips: Consider the benefits of being on your own.My life seems to have a lot of drama and sacrifice because of friends.Look at a situation like that.TRAVEL.Imagine spending 6 months in every country in the world,you cannot even finish the mission.You will meet so many people along the way without drama and commitment and move on.New hobbies and outdoor activities will have you living like nobody else.Even your understanding of the world changes and you have more vigour.It is time.Now start...
Hey Frank. Hope you are doing well man. Went through a divorce myself, and 8 years later I am doing good, living in Central America, have close friends, loving some hobbies and jiu jitsu.
I really sucks at first brother, and I just hope you are well.
I thought my life was over when my marriage failed. Turns out, I find myself being happier being alone and doing my own thing. Loosing someone isn't always a loss; addition by subtraction.
Being alone is amazing. If it wasn’t for work, I would be alone 99% of the time. I find peace and energy from being alone. I find that to be my super power!!
I once worked with someone who asked me who l live with; l said l live alone. She said oh l couldn’t live by myself! Right then l knew there was something wrong with her. I started to see she couldn’t stand being by herself, even for a few minutes. I love being alone. Too many people can’t understand why that can be a good thing!
As a woman I've lived by myself for over 15 years (im 37) and you wouldnt believe how many women told me they couldn't live alone. I personally love it
I'm 57yrs and have lived alone for 30yrs, love it! Some people just don't get it though. I know many people over the years have thought me a bit odd and when I didn't have kids either....well, that's definately got to mean I'm a weirdo! lol
@@lorrainesimpson9482 That’s my life as well with no regrets being child free. In fact, l just read something today where this woman said she regrets having a child. She said she had to quit her job to look after him, she never has a moment to herself and she and her husband barely communicate anymore...Not me!
I absolutely agree about society's expectations. Happiness comes from within. Everyone has their own happiness threshold. Having a lot of people in your life does not guarantee happiness.
Being alone doesn't necessarily mean you don't like people. I prefer my own company to being in company with negative people. As an introvert I don't require a posse to enjoy life. Have rarely felt lonely. Live according to your temperament instead of other people's expectations. Love the skin you're in.
I had everyone and drink made me lose the one person I really needed the most. Myself.
Tim you’ve helped me. I am alone now l, wife is divorcing me, girlfriend used me and left me. Now I am living in my van and it can get boring and lonely at times 😢but I remember that this is what I deeply wanted. I wanted to be free from the shackles of those relationships and pursue peace, quiet and freedom…
I'm glad my video could help James. Embrace the freedom brother!
I hear you bro. When we’re in it we don’t want it but when it’s over there’s a shit ton of reflection. Then we realize, yeah, this is better. The sex is the hard part.
I like the word solitude. Solitude has been one of my greatest teachers. Without periods of intentional solitude I would not know myself (mind, body, and soul) as well as I do now. And when life gets busy, I’ve learned to embrace and enjoy opportunities for solitude.
Absolutely.
Tell us some more about your soul. Have you traveled and lived on other planets in your past lives???
💯💯💯🤝🤝🤝✊✊✊👏👏👏
same.
🥰 intentional solitude ...that's a great way to think about it , Thanks for sharing !
Valentine's Day the biggest hustle by companies for capitalizing on somebody's loneliness. But yeah, enjoy the moment. Use the free time wisely, don't dwell.
Good for me, that day is my no spend day 🤣
The other key advantage of being alone is .. you want to travel somewhere you go no waiting for their time to free up no planning for someone else just go
I don’t like people being in my way
who does really
I 💯💯😘😘💕🥰 my family
I’m not married,and I have no kids
but I desire,is to get away 🏃♀️ from society.
I don’t like people,getting in my way
people get in your way unintentionally as well.
For me the struggle comes with later in life feeling that no one witnessed my good alone times. No one to ask if they remember certain things, no one to reminisce with. It taints the present day
Hey man just wanted to let you know you helped me quit drinking i'm only 3 weeks in but its a start appreciate your videos man
As a hardcore introvert and lowkey misanthrope I LOVE being alone! I've made some good friends over the years online but yeah people for the most part are full of *** and I'd rather not deal with fake and selfish people. I never had a desire to get married or have kids either...too much stress and that ish don't last long these days.
I grew up a precocious only child. Discovered BOOKS and was reading, reciting by age 3. People think I'm dumb and a "Loser" because I'm fat. They have no idea that I consider them unbearably boring! 66, here I am in a huge condo complex, where everyone stays to themselves! One long wall is lighted bookshelves. Amazon and eBay are my "Pushers," haha! I usually read 64 books a year. Am currently into Philip Roth, Dutch classics, and Irish literature. Health wrecked, but life is relaxing and exciting!
Tim is great, he also helped me stop wasting my life drinking alcohol
I said it before and I’ll say it again, you’re saving lives Tim.
I’m twenty years older than you and I still need to hear this type of message because I’m in some negative shit.
Job ended, divorced, “girlfriend” MIA half the time. Just lonely as hell. I like that concept about law being passed. Those things work in my brain. Take care bro.
Truer words were never spoken. Each of us is enough unto ourselves. You don’t need another person to “complete” you or make you whole. You already are!
“If she’s fine, Tim is paying” 😂😂😂 you crack me up!!! I agree completely with every word once again! I wish we had met when I was car camping. We would’ve had too much fun 🤩
I find myself alone a lot too. It's what happens when you want to be free to do what you want, when you want. But when I'm with friends or family, I have to compromise and do stuff that I don't like very much sometimes.
My guy, I just found a piece of myself that I lost watching this. I use to be VERY comfortable being alone, but after spending time with friends and having a gf for a bit, I lost that comfortability when I was forced back on my own. I'm coming back strong though, videos talking to myself, going out places alone, and spreading my positivity to those who can relate.
You made some great points! I left an abusive relationship almost 20 years ago now, and have never been happier! I'm doing the things I love! So freeing!
Just discovered your channel about an hour ago, and I love your perspective. It’s so refreshing. About 6 years ago, I finally learned to be happy outside of a relationship and it was life-changing. It’s so important to tune out the toxic narratives that rob us of peace and joy. There are so many ways to enjoy life fully while being alone. I’m so grateful to be on this beautiful, crazy, weird, unpredictable journey.
I live solo and it is AWESOME!!! WOOT WOOT!
Im a true introvert...and I always marveled with time to myself. I have a siblings 6 years older so she was 18 and im 12....its like being the only child. This made me strong mentally!
Some of the happiest moments I have had, have been when I am on my own. Nature is my church Thanks for the views 😃💙🌊👍👍👍
The Gucci Mane reference was priceless!
I am watching this alone! I am always alone. I actually go off to a room or area by myself when I do have others around which is rare! lol. Extra points for me! I am content. My Daddy was the same way.
Btw... I absolutely LOVE all of your vids!!! Thankyou so much!
You could be the one for me. Problem is we rarely find each other in this world.
The voices in my head always keep me company. Don't worry, I asked the voices if I am crazy and they said that I am normal.
Honestly the true path of an introvert - few super close friends, occasional chit chat with strangers, but a deep solitude of experiencing and exploring life as an individual. They can be great at solo travel throughout the world, I can confirm myself lol.
I feel like it's mostly nice having companionship when both partners are really good at being alone and away from each other in the relationship more than half the time. Solid independence going out on their own journeys each day and coming back to share experiences in a non co-dependent way. They both don't need a relationship but happen to feel complimentary of each others' existing lives.
Last night I just posted this to my FB page, "Alone but not lonely." I lost my beloved three years ago, and I turn off love songs. I thought it was because I was grieving, which may still be true. But tuning out those "you ain't complete without a Boo" songs really is a sane way for a single person to live.
Now I know what my next podcast will be about. Thanks for always bringing a fresh perspective to old issues.
I just moved to an urban area. These local guys (met online) scare me! Spew profanity right off the bat. They want to come over - now! Are married or in their 20s. Do I LOOK desperate? After one year, I've dropped those "Neighborhood" sites.
Reading these comments my thought is ......
Yup! You people are my Tribe
:)
5yrs sober got my own apt. $$$$ Str8 100% introvert .I'm working on me and I live my life the way I want to.No outside CHATTER keep it up bro good shit.Much luv Seattle,Wa
"Being alone and being lonely is 2 different things." 😌😌😌
Go Timothy! Yeah feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage for over a decade made me appreciate being free with peace and quiet in my home. Though, I do have two dogs. Compare to living in a home with a person who causes constant conflict, opposition and refuses to work together on anything daily for years. Become emotionally independent. Emotionally stable and content with yourself. Become whole. This is the healthiest state of mind possible.
I really needed to hear this. I struggle sometimes wondering if I’ll always “be alone” and I am trying to just be happy just being. Being alive, being here experiencing life. Thank you for this.
Infact the more people in your life really means more stress and difficult personalities.
Worst thing about being alone is the chance if something happens to you and you need help....apart from that it's brilliant on your own. I love being with my nephew's dog as we've been walking together since she was a pup
Timothy Ward, you are a very, VERY wise person!!!!!
That’s funny...she fine I’m payin for everything...man I’m liking being alone for a while..yes saving money, investing, reading, exploring, improving myself. I will be doing this for a while. It’s good to be alone for a while to find out who you are and accomplish goals without distractions. I think being alone for a while makes you a better person because you can improve yourself. I wasted a lot of time in relationships that didn’t amount to anything.
I'm like this too, I have more time to read and self improvement🙌
Yes I am a introvert I actually enjoy having me time to myself just because a person is alone does not mean that they are lonely
I like being alone, its nice to see other people enjoying by themselves
Man I've learned to draw, cook, read, and listen to jazz.
Exactly, Tim. You're not alone in your experience either. I too am often alone, whether at home or out in public in nyc. I'm much happier without being around a bunch of low vibratory bots or slave minded cattle. Thank you for sharing these inspiring experiences of yours with us!🙏💙👍😌
I get the message, but you are never alone with all of us here as viewers. Much love.
Great video. The loneliest people I know happen to be married
Yes, throw out the TV, get back to nature, downsize.......your a smart man
Am I alone? Yes
Am I happy? Yes
👍
Solid video, appreciate the words of wisdom.
Hi,even though I am alone and feeling very lonely I feel that the universe is putting me through it to make me stronger person!
I appreciate this type of positive content. Thank you, Tim !
"I used to call it; "Loneliness": but not I just call it; -"Peace and Quite"".
"We put ourselves in the song" Genius
HeyTim!!! Love this video. I fly solo and I love it! I just need nature, the woods, water, sunshine, rain and clouds. Im happy by myself surrounded by nature. Peaceful.
Hey Tim! Just finished a hike and sitting in the ambulance I live in. Your thoughts align with my own. I appreciate your channel and videos. You were one of the forces. That helped me take my life back. Closed my profitable business and got a seasonal job building trails for a former customer of mine. I still find it hard to believe I have this much freedom. Thanks a lot! I appreciate you.
I would like to live in an ambulance. Bob Wells got himself an ambulance & it’s his favorite of all the vehicles.he has lived in. (CheapRVLiving) He’s the expert. I think living in a vehicle is the best thing for me but I’ll have to manage some serious saving. Best of everything.
@@rs5570 I was in Carlsbad NM for the last few months. I lived on BLM land. Money started running low. Very low. Under $200. I went to Walmart and got a job in the auto center. They were paying $18.20/hr. I worked there for two months and saved and did repairs. Found a guy online expediting freight. I parked my ambulance in Austin Texas and got in a new sprinter van that he supplied. I'm in south Carolina now. Don't let the fear of finances keep you from doing what you want. What I figured out. Was I would never be homeless or without money for long. It's not in my DNA to give up. Jobs are everywhere. Go for it. This has been the best time of my life. Good luck
I loved this message! Thanks Tim!
Was married to a rude and mean person. Finally divorced with a great son 7 yo. I now live alone and learning to love it since ur right society constantly reminds us that we need to have a partner or alot of friends.
People act like we all the same, had someone tell me that I get lonely, How the hell can you tell someone what they are? how can you tell someone how they feel about being alone? Its better for me, less stress, theres enough challenges without other peoples trauma, pains and bags.
the amount i grew in a year of living alone was immeasurable, its almost scary finding peace by yourself, nice to find a good balance tho. life is meant to be shared and you can impact so many people by just your presence. just distance yourself from anything and anybody toxic
I don’t really agree that “life is meant to be shared.” That thinking is what traps people sometimes & brings them to videos like this to get untrapped. I would agree that I cam share my life mostly with myself & my dog. I love & care about others but I can give more when I give to myself first. I need radical self care & I do better all around by being mostly alone. This is how I am happiest. There are lots of ways I can contribute if I use my energy for myself first - alone.
I wanna thank u brother Tim for seeing this video cause I feel where u coming from cause I'm single and alone & I'm very happy I can do what I like and love to travel alone and I love my peace I don't gotta argue with anyone I sleep good every night I love when I get paid from work I know the whole paycheck is mines so I can save every paycheck knowing all my bills is paid I love I can go out to the movies alone go to out places to eat alone buy whatever I want and leave when I'm ready I love going to sports games when friends or sometimes I go alone and I go see family in different states alone I just love it
One of your best walk and talks!! ...Then again all of your talks are great
Thank you!
The dog was saying "Hey Tim!" Great video, beautiful scenery, you speak the truth. Thank you!
So good I'm watching it again first thing tomorrow morning
I'm a proud introvert and like being alone 98% of the time. I am happiest when I decided to be this way. I write fiction books so isolation makes my creativity easier. I will be divorcing next year and don't care to jump into anything.
I'm sure making videos helps Tim with any loneliness. He feels connected to all his viewers.
What a breath of fresh air today ,so much of whats on the internet is trying to explain why of loneliness,,,how to be alone and happy! You have a great attitude,,,thanks so much ,feel like we're kindred spirits.Just what I needed today 😊
Thank you for this. I genuinely do not want a romantic relationship in my life but I’ve been struggling with the feeling that it’s expected of me and that people see me as a failure because I’m alone. However I WANT to be alone. I’m gonna keep enjoying all my ME time and ignoring anyone who has something to say and people who wanna judge.
This guy is a Legend!🏆🏆
I am married and still love to be alone. It's so necessary to be your own best friend!
Did a MBTI test. Got 80 % Introverted.. and yes, I spend alot, I mean alot, of time by myself. Love it 😊
I'm a man. I'm an introvert 100% of the time. So glad to be alone. No Serial Killer.
08/2024
hit the bullseye right on the dating cost. yep. totally agree. And it not only costs more to have a romantic partner, but also expanding your social friend/ coworker network.
treasure the solitude life. 🎉
Dating is expensive
We are alot alike! Wow I can relate so much! 😮
i have a common friend that suprisingly became my life and relationship mentor or advisor, he gave me so much wisdom and life skills that i didn't know before. He said that also almost accurate like what you just said. Enjoy life, keep busy, don't dwell on breakups, work on yourself, and be the best version of my self everyday. And its true! i work on myself,discipline my mind and let go of the past and forgive myself. And it is really liberating feeling. Time heals just trust the process.. Thank you sir! i really like your content! it helps me boost my confidence to cheer up!
Lol Tim your hilarious I really enjoy your content the $ thing I believe it !! It's soooo true. I've been consuming alor of your content and I relate to you so much ! Love the outdoors trying to leave Florida ! Your a trip , I am very thankful the algorithm gods led me to this Channel keep doing what your doing you are helping loads of people !
Thanks! Glad you are enjoying the videos!
God bless you man! Friends/ people are so fickle these days. I grew up as an only child and moved around a lot so being solo comes natural to me. I've been around a ton of people as well and been lonely. You're are a stronger person if you can be at peace being alone. Generally you become more successful and productive as well. Thanks for the video.
Love your attitude.
Adopt a dog if you get too lonely. I have two mules who make my day.
I always watch my people by myself, sometimes my cat joins in. I also am the neighborhood friend. Good times, good food. good laughs. Don't be so selfish.
:):) :)
Stunning scenery Tim❤️ I work from home with no one to talk to but it’s pure bliss! You get way more work done when your alone too! Have a great weekend Tim 🦜🌷🌺
Thanks for giving me a different perspective on things. I graduated from high school 2 years ago and when I did that I intentionally cut off friends who were a bad influence on me and I immediately regretted it until now. The past 2 years I have had no friends and no girlfriend and I always focused on things I did not have. Now I am trying to be grateful for the people that I do have in my life such as my family and working on accepting my life as it is.
It's OK to be alone. I agree Tim.
That view of nature you showed was so nice. Thank you!
You can feel alone and be married. If you don't like or love yourself then hanging out with yourself feels lonely. At least that is how I feel. I joined a 12 step group to learn tools to figure out who I am and to heal from my childhood and adult traumas. I struggle never feeling not good enough. I focused on other people, places and things rather then honoring my feelings. I don't feel alone anymore 😃
Tim the motivational speaker down by the river.
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Love your walk n talks in nature Tim thank you...i love America and all yall...will hopefully be there this year
You're great, Tim
Thank you! 👍🏾
Seems to me after reading all the comments that there are a lot of very young people in suffering over not having a gf/bf & that is their take away from this. There is another group who sound older, more seasoned, who are more about feeling healthier/better from the all around concept of personal solitude, being really isolated from the miseries of having the load of people, often including “family” around to answer to in one way or another. I appreciate being understood by you & this group. I also really agree with your thinking that people will spend more money when they’ve got you with others feet on your throat every second. Corporate entities prob like us to feel like outcasts for liking to be alone. I never considered that before but I think you’re right.
i honestly do NOT get lonely, i have felt lonely earlier in life, but since 25 i never feel lonely and i wanna get alone majority of the time.