I've struggled with insecurity my whole life. Here's how I'm finally fighting back...
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2024
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You don't have to spend your whole life feeling inadequate and inferior! We all have self esteem and self confidence issues and we all have the ability to overcome them. You are enough. You are loved. You are just as good as everyone else on this planet.
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Make no mistake people. Vulnerability, like Tim is displaying, is strength. It isn't easy exposing one's self like that to the public.
I totally agree. Very well stated!
Vulnerability is highly underrated.
Truth.
Don’t be vulnerable around women, they will bounce
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Childhood trauma can definitely impact how people view themselves in adulthood and i'm a victim to this but i'm working on my insecurities and starting to believe in myself i also think social media platforms can be very toxic to someones self esteem.
the school system played a big apart of low self esteem , when we got a f or d we were consider a failure because we fail a test so what that does to kids when they get older it fucks with their self esteem , this is one of the reasons why most ppl are afraid to start their own business because they carry a fear of failing ... the way ppl are in this world u have to blame alot of the negative programming on the school
@@OluwaShagoon very true
@@OluwaShagoon yeah, have you heard Elon has a school? No more grades...you just go learn...
@@andrefecteau no i did not that is great
@@jaysonb.6669 people just won’t change, job security
My insecurities quickly turned into self hatred and suicidal ideation and thoughts. It's a slippery slope and the truth is that positive mindset is natural because the love is the only truth. It's the highest calling and you need to love yourself to love others.
Mine turn the same
This is good teaching, thank you for posting this. I hope you are doing well and striving ☮️💟
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You're speaking directly to me! I'm 58 and just got mad a couple weeks ago that I've spent my entire life making everyone else happy, (husband, kids, mother, sister, etc). I've always wanted to go to the beach often but husband won't go.... So I don't go.
Guess where I'm going next week without my husband? To the f###ing BEACH!!! I don't even feel bad about it either! I would rather go with a partner,, but he can't be what he isn't . Same as me.
Enjoy the beach!!!
Thank you Timothy Ward, I intend to! ,,❤️
I can so relate this. I just haven’t gotten up the nerve yet to go to the beach.
This is the husband you choose.Where was your brain when you pick him ? Maybe you married him cause he's earning big bucks ? Now you're paying for your option...majority of women are like you.
Im a female and i thought every woman was better than me. Im 49 now and still suffer depression and Anxiety but im more confident in my skin. That feels amazing. I was doing ok all along! Xxx
"Comparison is the thief of joy...unless you're better than everyone else!" Nah but in all seriousness, good stuff here
😂 Good one!
This is referred to as the Imposter Syndrome. The feeling like we dont belong; like we are not good enough. Taking action like you mention is one way to beat this self-belief. Society does us no favor either - it agrees with our belief. We have to keep saying that we are good enough, until we are. Thank you for sharing.
I am good enough.
I think most of us experience imposter syndrome, and I think to a certain degree it can be healthy (Keeps us in check and humble, not believing our own bs, or our own shtick so to speak.) In a sense, we are all imposters (no one is really who they are portraying themselves to be). And I think that’s a good thing because it removes labels and leaves things open. No one is just one thing. We are all trying to work this thing called life out. No one has anything figured out, we are all just doing the best we can regardless of where we are or what field we are in. To a certain degree.
The imposter syndrome is a terrible thing and I believe that the majority of people in the entertainment arts suffers from it, according to a female comedian (from years back) that was also a psychologist.
I love the way the video is so straight up, no fancy filters or cheesy music, just crystal clear images of someone going about their day and enjoying the moment to moment living, just like we all like to do.
Great content, Tim! I know for me as a black man, I have always had my own insecurities. I grew up in a predominantly white town. Went to private school, liberal arts college, and live in Boulder. When I was very young, I got the idea that I was going to be the best little black boy that there ever was. And I took that well into my adulthood. Always comparing yourself to that impossible standard is not only ridiculous, but I held myself back from talking to that person or going for that job. It took a lot of inner work and a lot of self love to change my mindset and realize I have the same worries and fears as everyone else. We can all use an honest dose of perspective from time to time. Comparison is the thief of dreams...
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Wouldn’t change a thing about you Tim. You are absolutely perfect and wonderful just the way you are. Your channel is helping change my life!
Thats so nice to say🙂
Not saying your case but parenting has a lot to do with that embedded mentality of not feeling good enough
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True. A hypercritical parent or a parent that obviously doesn’t care are both equally devastating.
My insecurities started at home at a young age with parents that never promoted my self worth or esteem, then those insecurities went to elementary school with me and intensified, then kept snowballing into adulthood. I will never understand how you can be a parent and not make your child seem worthy or deserving.
Very, very true 👍.
I know about that .
💯💯💯 Remove yourself from whoever necessary... you don't owe neglegent/abusing adults ANYTHIIIING. YOUR SPIRIT BELONGS TO GOD. THEY DIDN'T MAKE THAT. THEY ONLY MADE YOUR FLESH. ONE NIGHT OF SEX IS ALL IT TOOK. (I have a 💩 father... I have to force myself to think this way sometimes. Ahhhh😇) #GOD'S PLAN. NOT MAN'S.💪🏾💖💪🏾
You're really good at motivational speaking, Tim. Thanks for posting this!
Exactly what I was about to write.
Man this is so true. I recently discovered imposter syndrome. It’s the feeling you’re not good enough for the crowd you run with and live in constant fear of being found out.
Today I went for a nature walk to a nearby small lake. I sat down and started watching, it was warm and a lot of people came with their dogs and threw sticks in the water for the dogs to hunt after them into the water and cool off a bit.
I myself am a bit unsure when there dogs without a leash around, but I always try to overcome my fears and face the situation head on. I also feel uncomfortable when people come towards me, but I've learned to deal with it and to face my insecurities.
If you give in to those fears and hole yourself up inside the confines of your room, where you then create a pseudo safe bubble to feel save, you begin to trade in your freedom and a real experience of how it is to live life fully for that fake feeling of safety and security.
In any case, at some point a dog came along and it quickly became apparent that he was probably more afraid of me than I was of him. When his owner started chatting with another dog owner, I was able to watch and listen to their conversation from the place where I was sitting. So I found out that this dog was probably a big scaredy cat and had previously lived on the streets where he probably had some bad traumatic experiences.
It was a strong eye opener for me to observe this dog and how he behaved fearfully and timidly to the other dogs that approached him. When a dog got too close to him, he immediately swept back a little and when the other dog got even more energetic, he even ran away a little too.
Later, both dogs went into the water, the timid one only about knee-high into the water, the other more boisterous dog then chased the sticks that his owner threw again and again and barked directly after at his owner to immediately throw another one.
But what I also noticed was how much more attentive and sensitive this shy dog was, he seemed to perceive a lot more than the other dog, who was totally lost in the game.
Those were all characteristics and behaviors of this timid and insecure dog that reminded me of myself. I'm now in my 30s and in recent years I've finally bit by bit startet to overcome more and more of my fears and insecurities that slowed me down a lot expecially in my younger years.
But similar to this dog, I seem to have developed more empathy and a certain sensitivity and observational skills trough my inner struggles and the countless fights with myself, which turnt out to be a positive thing in the end.
If I hadn't been so introverted and lonely in my childhood years and in my youth, I might have lived more intensively and I might had more fun experiences that way, but if I had that than maybe I wouldn't have developed that deep perceptional skills and I might have had less inner growth and deep insights that came through my frequent self reflections and struggles. And if I wouldn't have struggled so much I wouldn't had gone through the ultimately inevitable stage of overcoming my inner blockages and barriers, which let to more maturity and inner strength.
Everything is somehow exactly as it should be. We are all on our paths, we are who we are and we can only change the way we are, if we first accept us completely, our true self is what we should direct our focus to. Not by comparing us and our life's to those of other people, but instead by discovering our true self's in and out. That way we find out what our real strengths and weaknesses are and how we can use them and work with them to our advantage instead of being a slave to them.
The owner of this timid dog then said to the other dog owner that she hoped that her dog would also bravely jump into the water some day and that he maybe at some point also would approach other dogs with more self confidence. But at that moment I already knew deep down that this dog would one day outgrow the version of himself that he for now is stock in at this point in time and that he will have great growth in the future. And I myself had also decided at that moment that I will continue working with my weaknesses from know on even more.
I know what you mean, I felt that way also😟 wish I heard this talk 40 yrs ago. You’re a beautiful person 👍🏽❤️✌🏽🙏🏽
I always say, "It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re -- not.. "
That quote is so TRUE!
And most of us living a lie. I am so happy that you are living your own happy life!
Realising that everyone is insecure on some level was a huge mindset shift for me. Whenever I feel insecure now I remember this and smile about it. Keeping this in mind takes away the fear and pressure in so many situations in life.
The nice thing about pessimism is that you're constantly being proven right or pleasantly surprised. But I try to moderate this attitude although it seems more realistic to me.
Yup yup...I never had much confidence in youth.
Got over it, finally.
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Definitely identify with this. Then woke up one day and realized that essentially, a lot of people are doing the done thing, that thing that somebody decided a long time ago was the right, cool, correct thing to do, Someone long dead. And most of us never really question those things. They may or may not be good, but once I started to ask myself whether I really liked some of the things people believed are the cool things to do, I was stunned to realize that I was running after things that I don't even necessarily enjoy. What a relief when I was able to let go of those things. Does that make me uncool? Yes, but only in terms of someone else's value system; which isn't necessarily valued by me.
Man I'm dealing with this now. I'm 40 and has been dealing with this my whole life. I go spurts where I'm good but for the most part this is me. I'm still trying to figure out who I am and my life.
Currently binge watching all of these videos!
Great video Tim. There are two books that cover this topic really well, The Myth of Self-Esteem and How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable, both by Albert Ellis. They really break down all the nonsense we tell ourselves to make ourselves feel inadequate. Hope this helps someone out there!
Thank you for the book recommendations!
I can't tell you how long I have also struggled with some of those same feelings. It has taken a lot to get over it, and I still have a ways to go. But hey, I finally thought myself worthy enough to take flying lessons and will be testing for my private pilot license in a helicopter next month! Truly, every last one of us is worthy of overcoming our insecurities, making our dreams happen and enjoying life. Thank you for this great message, I think I really needed to hear it today. :-)
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Good luck with you pilot license test Jennifer!!!
That's fantastic.
Wishing you all the best for your pilot test.
Go get it.
That is great, I love helicopters. I thought about flying them in high school. Good for you for following your dream!
give us an update...did you get it?
"I was surprised when things worked out". Love that, it's me totally
These videos are topnotch Tim, great points and some legit editing make for some great videos
Thank you!!!
@@TimothyWard of course
I have had to battle the same mindset. Partially because of verbal abuse that I sometimes experienced while young and still developing. Under those circumstances, it can take decades to recover from, if at all. This Video by Brother Timothy Ward is still very therapeutic for me. Thank you and Peace from PHILLY!!
Another Great video! A lot of your videos help me out with my problems. I’ve always had insecurities and Anxiety. Also, love Seattle! Back in the Navy days, my ship the USS Sacramento was stationed in Bremerton, WA. Me and my friends would take the Ferry across everyday into Seattle and back. Walked all over Seattle back in 91, after the ship returned from the Persian Gulf. Great times and memories. 👍
The worst is when you start a new job and out of fear, out perform and then the rest of the workers either a. Push all their work on you, b. The boss expects it every day. Or c both get jealous and then teach you their ways so you have to do it their way yet you did a better job.
I speak for myself, and I think I speak for a great amount of others too, we would love a published book on your philosophies of life.
Keep thriving! Peace and love
I appreciate you saying that Aaron! I'm in the beginning stages of deciding what I want to write about and getting back into writing on a daily basis!
10:25 This is a lesson we can all take something from. To build oneself up should never come from pushing others down. In fact, I feel when I bring others up...I always feel better about myself!
Once again you gave me the message I needed when I’m at another low point. I really needed to hear this. This video gave me a major aha moment. I hope you had fun in Seattle it looks amazing! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
"I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!" - Stuart Smalley. It may have been said as a joke on SNL, but it really is the most important thing you can remind yourself.
It takes a brave man to admit his shortcomings. Sometimes the armour does crack but iron sharpens iron. I'm in good company. Thanks Tim.
I really needed to hear this message. I'm 38 and still feeling insecurities from my childhood experiences. I'm glad I'm not alone in this
i think i was blessed because while i did fall into all the traps of living in todays world, i was always a loner. i never felt the need to fit in. i realized at a very young age that i didnt like all the things everyone else was doing. i have always been the kind of guy that walks into a room and sees a bunch of busy people that have nothing to do with me and when i did fall in to the trap of comparing myself to them and measuring myself in the ways they measured success, it always made me depressed, but when i said F everyone and everything and did my own thing, i was always so much happier. the only big thing for me is that i have never found consistent love. and while some people think that is ok, i actually would like to have some kids some day. you once talked about that if god intended the american dream to be a part of your life he would have programmed that into your DNA well, kids "are" programmed into our DNA and so is love. no matter what version of life you choose, the fact is that you are meant to have a family. god intended us all to have one. in fact he gave each one of us half of a puzzle piece that when put together, create them for free.
The gift of Gab that is what he has some people have it some people don't the gift of Gab. Because all he is really doing is talking but he has the unique ability to hold your attention which is hard to do in this day & age 🤔 as a matter of fact this is the longest comment I Have ever commented on UA-cam I dont like to write a book on a comment section, he is very well spoken and is good at what people want to hear 👂.
You’re amazing, I love this channel. I suffer from the same insecurities believe me, I think we all do, some just hide it better. Keep doing what you’re doing man I love your videos.
Thank you man, I really needed this video. I'm really prone to negative thinking, it's a vicious circle. I've hated myself most of my life. I have to stop this, it is taking me nowhere. God bless you.
You can break the cycle Matti! Trust me on this one, its all in your head!
While every country has different issues, when I was teaching online children in China, the one thing I found interesting is that in the lessons, it was taught that each person was of value from the janitor to the doctor, and each person has a valuable role in society. It was interesting how suddenly our values changed when we honored front line workers, an how quickly we forgot them. I am not saying China is better than America, but this might be one lesson that everyone can benefit from. It was a beautiful idea, and would have been so powerful to hear at a younger age. It would be so empowering if we encouraged young people to go after their own path and form a healthy mindset. I hope everyone who has listened to this video feels more empowered to take charge of their self worth and knows that you have nothing to prove to world. It isn’t always easy because there is so much negative input, but you are worthy and valuable no matter who has said differently.
Thanks for opening up
A few years ago, I had those same thought patterns. I was comparing my life to my friends…Then almost immediately it was revealed to me that things are not always as it appears. It was at that point where I was more focused on myself, and making decisions that was more appropriate for me and standing ten toes deep into those decisions.
I love doing volunteer work and carry on doing so, even though lots of people say 'it's not a proper job, just because you aren't earning money. LIfe is 'Oh what to do you do? And they don't expect you do volunteer work as your main purpose... it is not good enough in capitalist society. Recruitment companies are always badgering you to get a proper paid job, even if you hate it and it is bad for mental wellbeing 'uk
More people value status and ownership of "things" as the most important things in their lives. So they constantly strive at work to get promotions so they can then buy more stuff which further traps them in a never ending cycle. They took their childhood mind and took it with them to their adult stage: comparison, competition and other old mindsets. I applaud people who are willing to step outside of the "norm" and see life as much more then working and buying.
confidence is having certainty on who you are, who you choose to spend your time with and how well you spend your time with them
Yep. I couldn't have put any better myself. Very well said.
I am 51 years old. Most of life my insecurities which then kicks in my anxiety has controlled my life.
I kept putting myself down and basically sabotage myself.
I know it is a mindset that I carry around. I am working on changing that mindset because I am really tired of it.
Thanks for the encouragement Timothy. You keep at it.
We’re gonna look back in 10 years and know that this man is the embodiment of the true American Dream.
This resonates with me a lot. I’m outgrowing this mindset. Preciate your knowledge and relatability it’s refreshing to know others feel the same way.
I always feel so connected to everything you say in your videos. Maybe you're a Myers- briggs INFJ personality type too ..
When I was younger, in high school particularly, I used to think everyone was better than me.
I picked up the guitar at age 13, and I used to practice it everyday but because of the limited knowledge and being from a poor family who didn't always have the internet. My practice routines were worthless and without value. I would go to school and see other kids playing guitar better than I and it always made me feel inferior.
I saw a kid shredding on the electric guitar; he was leagues beyond me. I was so insecure about my skills and the saddest part was how obsessed I was about music. I decided to make friends with them because I wanted to know how they got so good. A lot of them taught me bits and pieces of their own routines and they even taught me some songs.
It took me a year before I saw a difference in my playing. I learned to think differently too. It's crazy how effective it is to just be friends who have a different approach to certain things. But what really helped me overcome my insecurity was the fact that my practice routines weren't all worthless.
During that time, I was really into finger picking and I liked to utilize my fingers more than a guitar pick. Though I mostly just play heavy metal guitar and jazz nowadays, I was always into classical style guitars playing a melody and a backing harmony at the same time. I was playing a random song on an acoustic, and the guy who was helping me play electric guitar saw what I was playing and was like "Dude how are you finger picking that fast? You have to teach me that!" and it made me feel so good, knowing that what I knew wasn't exactly worthless.
Sometimes, all it takes is a different perspective to understand just how equal we all are.
It felt like you were speaking to me. Thank you
I felt like this every since I was a little kid I’m 21 and still struggle with this but I’m working hard to find the root cause so I can overcome it
You are a beautiful person! I appreciate that you are willing to share your experiences and be vulnerable. Everyone can feel inadequate at times and just knowing that makes it easier. Blessings!
I'm in my 60s. I've always suffered from extreme insecurity. I have quit jobs because of it and may be quitting yet again because of this. Quite frankly, I believe my personal struggle to lead a quality life is due to this. I know it's been said that it's never too late, but I can't seem to "get it together". I have difficulty trusting my own choices/decisions. They seem to do nothing but get me into trouble. I find it hard to live with myself sometimes.
I have no idea who you are, a friend of mine just randomly showed me this video, but yet this is the only video I felt the need to actually like and comment. Thank you for your kind and wise words, I go through alot of the same myself and its a welcome change to hear someone put it into words. I really needed to hear this video, and I plan on listening to it again and again. Thank you
This is a great message, Tim! I recently moved to Seattle and needed to hear this message. Looks like the Universe sent it my way.
Thank you so much for the support! It’s really appreciated! 👍🏾
Only difference between unpopular and popular people is feeding into fear. Most people shy away from difficult situations. The “ cool” people aren’t afraid of people, places or things
You’re a big man sharing sharing experiences most people don’t want to talk about… this world is harsh and I also identify.
Tim I hope you know how good your videos are. I know a lot of people are dealing with a feeling of inadequacy. It's important to not give up on yourself. Give yourself a hug every now and again. No it's not weird maybe a little. But it works
Man this video really helped me out. Definitely look up to you for being able to put yourself out there
I just turned 30 and The Lord has truly opened my eyes to these things you are saying that I do belong to his family and in the world and that I have a purpose. Kids and all we have a purpose and will from the Lord. I kept feeling that I was wasting time not doing what I desired to do more so because of low self esteem, no support, and feeling it will be too hard for me. I felt like a tiny person in a huge world too big for me. Now I have decided to get a liscense at 30 years old. Lol I was afraid to drive because of accidents where I wasnt even the driver 😩 Took me some years to get past the fear of the wide open roads. Also the financial responsiblity of a car and insurance payments monthly. I had to grow a bit for that type of responsibilty on top of home rent, electric and water bill. I do have a partner but we are not a couple but help eachother with living expenses because we have kids. It makes it easier to do other things like going out of town and buying clothes and shoes. We have a van that his grandmother helped us pay off. In my early 20's I didnt have all this help and favor. Like you said everything was a surprise when now its a regular thing in our life. We can find support somewhere. Our city recieved some govt funding and we applied and they sent our landlord a 3800 dollar check so our rent was paid for about 3 months and covered our water bill and a maintence fee. Jesus is life. Truly and sincerely. I had a hard life and was in foster care. God spoke to me and told me He is my father. Jesus IS that tree of life. He IS the Universe. So glad I found your video. Im glad Im not alone in this big world. 🙏 God bless you and keep you safe at all times. Amen.
You chose the right restaurant brother. That looks like some bad ass fried rice!
Hi Tim, great message. I'm sure a lot of people can benefit from this video. I remember in my twenties feeling insecure low self-esteem low self-worth but it all changed when I moved away from my hometown with my two small children alone I started a journey of self-discovery and self-love and when I look back to my twenty-year-old self I don't recognize that person. What I've discovered is true confidence comes from the inside.
Hello Mr Timothy POSITIVITY Livestream King. Wow great words of wisdom 💃🏿💃🏿✌🏿💞
I love your videos man. You’re genuine. You pop back up in my feed every six months or so and I gotta click
Yet another marvellous video Tim! I admire you, for taking the time to share these experiences of yours, in order to offer your wisdom and support to so many around the world. I think someone else said about how what you do is a big thing, being vulnerable and telling your stories and experiences... Hats off to you, as it's not an easy thing to do. When you mentioned the thoughts we hold in our minds being a self-fulfilling prophecy, when we keep telling ourselves that we aren't good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough and more... That hit home a lot. I realise that I've been telling myself a lot of negative things, which has ended up in me missing out on potential opportunities that could have been something. If I'd have told myself more such things as "I am good enough and I am successful, maybe I wouldn't have developed quite the negative script I have done. I'm trying to change that, but it's a tough one when you've been telling yourself over and over and over all the negative things. Often I've looked at other people and believed they were better than me, smarter than me, more successful than me, richer than me. I became so caught up in the need to be like other people in society, to do as they do that it brought nothing but dissatisfaction and a great unhappiness. You hit the nail on the head when you said the word "sabotage." It's a self-sabotaging prophecy and it is, as you say, setting one's own self up to failure. I never really thought about it before but, as you say, whilst we might be thinking about how successful someone is and feeling a sense of jealousy and insecurity, they may well be thinking the exact same with regards to us! Having that positive mindset is so very important, telling ourselves that things will be alright and that they'll work out. Reminding ourselves that we are worthy and successful because we're on our own path. We must let people be who they are and accept that fact, so that we can focus on our own mindset and journey. We can do this, we can do the things we want to do regardless of what others may think or say or believe. I think if we can somehow let go of this need to be like others, that others are better than ourselves and that we'll never succeed, we can accomplish great things. Keep shining your light on us all Tim, you're the man! ✊🏻
i respect a man like you
After reading "Unteathered Soul" I finally woke up. I relate Tim. Thanks!
What a badass!! Good man.. before I hit play.. it comes through in your face bro… whatever you have done to light it up you exude greatness…
Wow! Powerful comment! I appreciate that!
Thank you Tim for your video this time. I had lived in 'I am not good enough for things around me. ' I sabotaged myself. I was living in imposter life. I have started to let this toxic thought go since Apr 2022. I have read books watched videos and meet counselors or mentors to leap of my life 🧬. Thank you Tim
I realize that success is just a word and ppl have a tendacy to over value the word that is why most ppl dont see themseleves as successful , we tring to live up to words im begining think that words are not real only the things that words represent is real
One of your best Tim.
Thank you!
2:35 this shot was beautifully inserted. symbolic of setting your sights & building your vision, while beautifully abstract
Great videoography (is that even a word) Great topic and Pep talk! So blessed of your Wisdom and the scenery is gorgeous! Im having a good day now that I got a TimTalk from the Livestream King himself.... Kuddos!❤🙏😇
Thanks Diane!
Very good points on overcoming insecurity and how it is basically a self fufilling propechy in your head, despite past traumas (some of which require therapy to work through). Have also heard other life coaches say this as well. "I got myself into this situation and I can get myself out of it."
I also like lifting yourself up into a positvity spiral. A lot of neurologists back this up by turning our default negativity bias into a posivity bias by having gratitude and acceuntating on the positives of life.
“I am loved and worthy of more love” yes!
Your a great guy...don't know how i stumbled across your videos on youtube....but ime glad i did.
Thank you! Gang!
Love you bro, wish all humans were like you. Loving and not hateful. The world would have peace. (I rarely tell people that I love them lol)
Love you too! I totally agree with what you said about love I the world 👍🏾
Positive message my brother. I can relate to most of what you speak about.
Thank you for creating this platform to express things that we all are going through.
Keep up the good work 👍🏾
Your content is fucking quality man!
Struggling with drinking to much with my gf. She is a giant trigger and very bad influance on me
Hard to get out
You make things very clear when u talk about them
I’ve been binging on all ur vids to catch up with you. You are making my day 2 days in a row. I’m obviously a newbie to ur channel Tim. Pls have patience. I’m getting to know you the best I can. I am hugely impressed. Subbed yesterday and watching you nonstop. Lara from So California.
I know old vid but new sub and yes Tim same but with me my younger brother pointed this said
"you seem like your life is on pause" which take that as you will but I know what he meant, he's good at observation.
It makes it even harder to get out of that mindset when you feel like your family looks down on you. It's like I'm always trying to win their approval. I haven't even talked to my dad in years because I feel like there's no point unless I can impress him. He sees my step sister as the superior daughter, it's like I was the defective daughter and she's the one he really wanted. It's so extremely hurtful when the people who should be lifting you up make you feel unworthy.
I have been trying to pull myself up out of the pit of insecurity. One thing I've found that helps me is preparedness. If I'm about to do anything that I haven't done before and I'm insecure about it, I'll research it and learn about it. There are things that I never thought I could do before, until I opened up a book or watched a tutorial and educated myself. I learned that you don't really need to go to school to be educated. There's a whole world of knowledge out there that's readily available to you. You just have to go get it.
I went to a retreat once.. we were broke into groups of 10. The speaker had us write the top 3 crap things we say to ourselves. Then, she says, now give your notebook to the person next to you- the room gasped in horror! But we did it. Come to find out, we all have the same 3 shit things we say to ourselves. The meat is the same, it may be worded different but essentially the same. It was a retreat of about 800 people. That changed everything for me!
Thank you for talking the truth ❤️
No problem Kathy!
I like your willingness to be open.
I relate to this! I grew up with narcissistic parents who never acknowledged any of my accomplishments. (Regardless of what I did.) Eventually I've gotta stop looking outside myself for approval and give it to myself! You're a really cool person!
I’m BLOWN AWAY. This was incredible- I felt it in my HEART!!! The advice was so great💜 And I loved the editing. Seriously great video hOMie!
The mindset is what matters in this world, love the positive vibes!
It's so weird to hear that someone else has exactly the same software installed. I've always thought and feel absolutely as you have.
Brother, everyone got a gift, but some hid there's under a bushel, others let their gift grow, so it's all a CHOICE.!
Thanks for being so transparent.
I truly appreciate you for being honest and speaking your truth a lot of people might be going through this and your story can also be motivational too 😊
I wish l had a friend like you Tim.
I literally felt the way you explained. This made me cry ngl
The universe trumps society. Absolutely! Just as being human trumps classification.
Your words have lifted me out of depression, thank you, and by the way you are very cute! Much love from Wales, UK.
Once again, a topic that hits home. I could write a book on this topic. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Tim! Beautiful video.