As a gay man living in North Carolina who loves duck hunting, fly fishing and football, I find myself around a lot of straight men who are a bit shocked when they find out I’m gay. This fascinates me. I’m trying to attend more artistic functions such as operas, museums and gay men’s chorus productions. But my first loves are stereotypical straight male hobbies. I wish I could meet more gay guys that were truly into hunting, fishing and football. Maybe the Bear 🐻 community?
I'm a married gay man and my husband and I both love to hunt and fish. We live on the same farm where I was born and raised. We love working with livestock and gardening doing all the things associated with straight men and we love it.
Stay away from that bear stuff you’ll turn into an healthy individual. There are many who are just like you. Just have to go to the more conservative areas in your search.
As a gay man living in Alabama I agree with everything you've said. I've never liked football, hunting, fishing, or most other things a good southern male is expected to like. Simply not liking those things as a kid, will get you labeled as a "sissy" by the other boys, or at least it did back in the 80s/90s when I was in school. And it is quite funny, my biggest bully in middle school, did in fact get caught messing around with another man. And your comment about lesbians being more accepted is spot on! Straight people just don't feel threatened by them like they do us gay men. As far as religion goes, a lot of it is fake. Many people here just feel like it's the correct thing to do for them to say they're a "Christian", and they cling to a few Bible verses they know, and often make some up along the way. The love telling us gay people that we're going to hell, yet completely ignore the things they do that go against scripture. Many churches are nothing but social clubs, where the men compare who has the nicest pickup truck, and the women compare who's kids have the fanciest clothes.
I think these days, with more exposure to gay people, those of different persuasions are learning not to fear us. From fear comes hostility. No fear, the hate fades. That said everything after LGB are still toxic and getting worse. Such attention hounds...
I have a gay friend (male) who grew up here in South Carolina. He fled all the way to California to find a place that felt like home. He met a man out there and they're now happily married. But he told me that a lot of our old "friends" cut him off when they discovered on Facebook that he's gay. I miss talking to him on FB but I can't blame him. He's one of the nicest guys I know.
I’ve always said that if you’re LGBT once you graduate high school move to a very distant metro area to go to college. Live your life openly and proudly. If people back home find out you’re gay and they don’t like it then tough shit!!
In a country full of morbid obesity, it's interesting how there's an obsession with sexuality but gluttony is never preached against. Here's why: Few gay people attend fundamentalist churches and those who do are likely closeted so it's easy to condemn those who are "outside" the circle. To preach against gluttony would be to alienate half the congregation, half the "inner" circle, and could result in declining attendance on Sunday mornings.
I left the south after 48 years. Not a single person has come to visit me. Not a single one, even my family. I am expected to go visit them. That’s how much they don’t respect you. You could leave tomorrow and absolutely no one would bother to socialize with you again.
I’m from Ohio. A very red state, that leans towards homophobia attitudes. I was in a health screening. The nurse was surprised to find out that I was gay. She actually said, “you don’t look or act gay.” Ignorance is everywhere in the USA
People who are in red states arent any more phobic about gays, and certainly less intense than the racists on the Blue side. I am a gay florida guy, who in most viewpoints amd conservative. That said, I still see that some religious people still hold their fear about gay people. This is because of the Church trying to keep control of people. Instill fear and you can control someone. The church is always about controlling others.
Keep being your authentic self. You are a good role model to younger men struggling with being gay and living in an environment which may not be as accepting as we wish!
It was impossible in the 1980s and 90s. I could share 100 horror stories. People lost their jobs, their places to live, lost all their friends. What you speak of is a different experience than the reality I know
i'm 60 years old. i grew up in the 1970's and 1980's. vaguely remember hearing about the stonewall riots when i was 4 or 5 years old. a gay guy had to be carefull about coming out. i never had any problems. i think most people suspected. where i lived, those who were more "fem" were the ones who had more of a problem.
I JUST FOUND YOUR CHANNEL A COUPLE HOURS AGO. I WATCHED YOUR OLDER VIDEOS. YOU ARE SUCH A STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL PERSON. AND VERY WISE. YOU WILL MAKE SOME GUY VERY HAPPY AND SO LUCKY TO HAVE SPECIAL GUY LIKE YOU. MAY THE WIND LIFT YOU HIGH AND YOU FIND THOSE SPECIAL MOMENTS THAT WILL FILL YOUR HEART WITH LOVE JOY AND HAPPINESS.
Thought provoking and insightful, your experiences of growing up gay in the Deep south Bible belt of the United States is similar to mine growing up in rural Catholic Ireland, your are a natural at this looking forward to hearing more of your beautiful southern accent, God has blessed you with good looks and articulateness, you are helping many people God bless you.
I grew up in the sticks and now live in Houston. The big city is more comfortable because of the anonymity. I know people talk about me behind my back and snickers behind my back at work but it has slowed down over the years. You’re a very handsome man!!
I concur with people smiling in your face and talking about your Sexuality behind your back. You don't even have to be "Out" per se, for people to Gossip about you. If people think you're gay in general and not the stereotypical male, You're asking for trouble.. I'm in my 40s and I still deal with this at work and with Family. I've just learned to have surface relationships with people and move on. Hey, Dylan! Looking good!
Thank you for your honesty Dylan! I'm a "Yankee" from Chicago and old enough to be your grandfather but I can assure you, in the Catholic Italian culture I grew up in, the macho stereotype was just as prevalent; a couple of my childhood friends were somewhat effeminate and picked on terribly. I managed to avoid that but coming to the defense of these boys who were called 'sissies' somehow made me implicit but I stood up for them even when I got called names.
I have to practice butching it up every time I need to go to Walmart here in central Florida. Thank God I live in the middle of a 15,000-acre forest and don't see people. Except for my friends, that is. And with all the fruits and veggies we grow, they're here a lot 😂
I don't like to knock people's personal beliefs and religious beliefs but there are so many hypocrites out there That love to portray being holier-than-thou but don't live it or follow it. They pick and choose what to follow and what not and it drives me crazy. You seem like a good dude and I have a lot of respect for you. Also it looks like you have a really nice place .
It’s not about hypocrisy. The Christian sects teach evil and delusion. Sorry, Jesus taught evil and delusion, he just looks better in comparison to the gen0cidal Yahweh of the Old Testament.
Similar vibe here in Australia when you're not in the main cities, guess it's a universal experience. Anyway loving the channel and this accent is sending me ! Thanks mate x
I am gay living in Texas with my husband, whom I have been with for 34 years. We have zero issues, ever. But if we ever do, I firmly believe, "Don't start any shit and there won't be any. People are great. I find we are as butch as straight men, so they mind their business, as do we......
Great getting to see a video from you. Living single in the rural small towns of the South it's very difficult finding someone to date that shares equal values. That is why most gays had to larger cities.
Tell me about it. I'm on a site that, when I initially look, there are 850-900 guys in a 150 mile radius. I change that to 100 mile radius, 40 y/o & under, & with profile pic. & the results are rarely OVER 40 guys. (& then most of them are ~80+ miles away from my location.)
Hey Dylan! I’m from Southern California, but lived in Nashville for about 9 years. Great city and some wonderful outdoor hiking spots. I related to what you said about people being friendly to your face, but then not so much behind your back. My overall experience was not horrible, people just have more conservative views which, often times, lends itself to being more judgmental of others. I’m back in California now, but I’m glad I got to experience living in Tennessee. It was an overall positive experience. Thanks for sharing! ✌🏻🙂👍🏻
Polite to your face is a common critique of southern politeness. I’m 100% in favor of a people who understand what it means to be publicly polite. Who cares what people say in private. Only those who require social confirmation care.
@@Davidsample7761 They’re not saying it in “private”. lol. It’s to all your co-workers and neighbors. It gets messy. But kudos to you for being okay with it. ✌🏻
@@oceanlover3530 But who cares what people say in private. We must have self confidence. And after all, we are all just human beings. We all fall short of an ideal. I prefer a polite public society where we all know how to publicly treat each other w/ politeness. Having lived in the South, its rare that someone doesn’t hold the door open. Its even more rare where some fails to say hello and greet you on the street or stop to ask how you and your family are. That goes a long way in leveling the unfortunate roughness and short comings of living as a human being.
I love your accent and hearing you talk! My mama and daddy were from Virginia and growing up. I had a nice southern accent, but I lived in Maryland and I was made fun of so much that I worked so diligently at losing it I wish I had it back, I love listening to you!
not a Southern guy...but rural Midwest central Illinois boy...it's very similar to rural southern areas however...born and raised rural...love you guys...
You hit the nail on the head. The whole vibe in the South revolves around being nice to your face while saying what they really think behind your back. Very childish behavior for grown adults.
People don't care what others do in private, but they don't want to know about it bc they can't be seen to accept it socially. I've experienced that in the South, Midwest, Alaska, and online with people from Australia, Canada, Ireland, England, Norway, and France. If you're open about being gay then they aren't mean or verbally assault you, they just stop hanging out with you. You get excluded and have to move on and try to find new friends.
I was born and raised in Alabama. I came out in 1979 I was 14. My Parents, my Church, my friends everyone really supported me because I have respect for my fellow Southerners. They act respectful with their girlfriends and wives and we return that respect by acting properly.
@@johnpcomposer Hell no, my husband and I act properly by not being sexual in front of other people. We hold hands, give each other hugs and a peck on the lips. The Country town we live in still has standards. A woman making out in public will have a nasty reputation along with the man. Same with Gay folks.
Hello Dylan 🎉 Good to catch up with you again. The more urban cities are more accepting than in the rural areas. Lived 30 years in Texas, know as the buckle of the Bible belt. The origins of traditional country & hill country songs and music is excellently portrayed in the film SONGCATCHER with Janet McTeer, Pat Carroll and Aidan Quinn.
Gay black man who lives in South Carolina. I've encountered lot of tolerance and a fair amount of prejudice and have had the big "F" slung at me many a time, but even those with religious upbringings have treated me with kindness. The South can be a prejudiced place, I admit, but thankfully I've been lucky enough to have tolerance outweigh the ignorance. By the way, you are a handsome man with a BEAUTIFUL personality and accent. ☺
I’m grateful for you appearing in my feed. Much of the angst you are experiencing right now results from that “closet”. The closet where we run to and hide when we start getting “signals” that our difference makes us “not ok” in the eyes of those presumed to be judging us. I think escaping our own closet is a lifelong challenge. Each step we take to leave that closet behind, builds on the steps we took before.
I grew up in Lubbock Texas, and deal with all the time. In 1984, my best friend killed himself over this matter (his father was a Baptist minister) (we were fourteen). The G word never passed between us, but he was my first love (I never told him because of how forbidden it was). I was deeply traumatized by this, even more so by my stepmother saying he was in hell. I walked away from anything religious when I heard in a church a pastor scream out that all gays go to hell, and the congregation shouting praise Jesus, amen and hallelujah! I only have come to terms with David's death in the last few years, and it wasn't me; it was God. In spite of everything that happened I never stopped believing in Him. Yes, I was angry. Yes, I hated him. That a stroke happened. One that occurred on the anniversary of David's death. God mercifully erased my mind and all that religious crap that had been building up over the years. I found peace. Only a few years later when my memories were restored (ALL OF THEM AND MORE) did I start coming to terms with who I am, David's death, the fact that I loved him (I still do) the sheer nastiness of (some) religious people did things start to change. I have been celibate now twenty years, and not out of some religious obligation. I do it for me, because I know the reason why I was acting out: I was missing David. Finding out his soul lives (won't get into THAT story, but suffice it to say God intervened)(Matthew 22:32b) utterly changed my very existence. Yes, I'm still gay. But I can do as I please. I don't have to live up to the California hype and I certainly don't have to live up to the religious sodomite hype. I can be me, and I am very blessed by that! Love you David! Miss you! See you in Eternity!
I get that. I had two friends who killed themselves because they couldn't handle being gay. ONE HOOKED UP AN EXHAUST PIPE IN HIS CAR, THE OTHER DECIDED TO SEE IF HE COULD FLY OUT A 23RD FLOOR WINDOW.
my dear, you are right. the soul is eternal. david is waiting for you. just before you pass you will see him beckoning. next you will be surrounded by light and love and you will have a life review. after that all will be beauty and peace and love. stay strong and continue living your best life.
Growing up in the South and getting out, the passive aggressive and bias behavior is everywhere. But, the main thing I want to point out is, passive aggressive behavior is violent behavior. No mistaking it.
Saying South... I rise my hand from Chile, what more South than that for being gay... it's not fully accepted, but could it be comfortable. The perfect size of 'not talking' about being gay. For me it is great to be a gay man, I would choose again if someone asked me when I came to birth for being gay. Even though it is important to note that no one cares about my selections. This size of 'not talking' allows people to accept gradually what is happening soround them. Nice topic. Thank you.
I'm 60 years old and listening to this young man sounds like the 80s. I thought that things had changed, i.e. gotten better, for young gay people since then.
Country music's roots come from "Americanized interpretations of English, Scottish and Scots-Irish traditional music, shaped by containing vestiges of (19th century) popular song, especially (minstrel songs)". Old country music was good, because people had distinctive voices. Now they all sound the same. People here in Scotland are still crazy on old skool country music. It's strange.
Good morning. I'm from North Carolina. I moved to New York 50 years ago. I've two long term partners and I've been happy. I still visit my relatives who mostly have been accepting of my partners and "life style" ( hate that term, too).
Hi Dylan, I live in Citrus county Florida and I'm a native Floridian as well. It can be quite homophobic here but aside from a few looks we don't worry about to much, My husband of 25 years and I just live our life and love one another and our dogs (kids) of course lol. All our neighbors know we're gay and we don't have an issue with hate... BTW I'm one of those gay guys that like hunting and fishing and camping.😁👍
I'm from rural Virginia. Not the deep south, but it was like that here too growing up. Very, very Protestant and conservative. It's much, much better these days, and it's definitely not an awful place to live as a gay man. I agree though, homophobia takes many different forms, and I've experienced it every where I've lived, even in "liberal" northern cities. Stay strong brother!
Hey hi, Your channel popped up today on my feed. I am an English gay guy from the U.K. A very interesting video, but from what you say, it is sort of what I expected it to be like in your neck of the woods. I have been to the US but not to the South. It is so interesting how different parts of the world have these very closed minds? Either due to religious or deep routed family values based on very old fashioned outlooks. Fortunately we have a open society here in the U.K. but some countries are far worse than our two nations. Thanks for giving people an insight to the attitudes of the people in the South. David
I too live in the south. I’m a gay male. Some people are accepting some aren’t. Those who aren’t, fortunately I don’t have to be around them. Beautiful place to live. Nature is amazing and a lot outdoor activities here.
I grew up in the Deep South. I learned early on to introduce my gay friends to my family and let them get to know and love them before telling them about my friends being gay. Then they couldn’t say they don’t like them. Worked for most of my family members, the ones I like anyway.
Great video Dylan. Very good topic. People hate that which they do not understand, fear, or dread or it speaks the truth about them. Because society has said they must react they way they do, they lash out. They live their lives based on stereotypes or expectations society has placed on people.
I agree with you Dylan on the country music aspect, the modern version of country music is horrible. Thank you for posting this great video. You just got a new subscriber. Ps... living outside Nashville, i understand where you're coming from about being gay in the South. ❤😊
I'm back in my hometown, Meridian, MS and I get lascivious, deer-in-the-headlights a lot. They act like they want to say something, but are too scared to say something here. So the usual DL stuff goes on.
Haven't seen you pop up on my Facebook feed for a while...glad to see you still posting. From the north and older but your comments apply up north too. Wished there were folks like you and UA-cam when I was younger and I know I would have turned out as a different person.
I relate in so many ways. Yet you are younger than my 45 years. Speak and preach the truth... nice to see it has changed for you and the overall good to educate the masses. ❤ PM iv you ever want to chat... Munford Tennessee 🫶💙🏳️🌈🇺🇲Tennessee.
You describe a southern US culture that insists on conformity above all else - and that is two-faced, punitive, threatening, and narrow-minded. Even though some of your experiences have not been negative, I’m so sorry you’ve had to live in that. It makes me appreciate having grown up in the San Francisco Bay Area, which is a completely different world from the menacing toxic masculinity stew that you describe.
I’ll confess that I really struggle to imagine that anyone would have a problem with having you in their lives as a friend or work colleague, etc. In fact, I’d think most people would love to have someone like you as part of their lives.
Hello Dylan! Honey, you are spot-on with your assessment. Anti-gay prejudice is just as real in the south as it is everywhere else. Surviving as a gay man depends upon one's ability blend-in. If one is determined to fight the establishment, then of course it is going to be more difficult. For one as cute and charming as you, it should be a breeze! Enjoyed your vlog!
You were added to my feed so to speak and enjoyed your video ! Have a college buddy from some years back and you explained it perfectly as he was from the south too . Very different culture for sure and when we would visit his home on breaks from school very careful in the things we would say .
@@jeep19 Oh no. I actually like his accent. He makes a funny comment in there about how he feels about country music. He says it just makes his ears bleed. The insult was so sharp and he said it with such a sweet face. Ru Paul would be proud. I know I am.
deer camp will be starting here in central Illinois late October into November...my friends will be hunting...and I will be making hot spiced cider and homemade donuts...for us to share when they come back in from hunting..then we will have a cookout...with beers and possibly grilled venison ...
Love your videos, Dylan! Joyful is a universal feeling. Happiness is a universal feeling. Guilt and shame, however, is not a universal feeling to humans. It all depends on the culture we belong to what we find guilty and shameful. This explains a lot about people.
Beautiful speaking voice. I'm a country dude. I'm very alpha. I take great pride in my masculinity. My kin is from Tennessee and Kentucky. I like the values of those from the south, however I do not like to be gay. I'm 68 and not going to change.
i too live in the deep south and i am much older and live with my husband. people still joke about gay guys but it is not really malicious. i live in a 240 unit condo and ran for the board of directors. i got more votes than anyone else, so discrimination was not much of an issue in this small town.
A lot of guys get uncomfortable because they might be bisexual or pansexual and they are afraid of those feelings. They have no idea how to navigate that because of the way they were taught.
Love it, great video, I used down in Harlingen, Mission, Corpus Christi,, including, San, Anton, Houston, Ft Worth, and I loved it dearly, but now I live way up north in the North West, which I hate so SO MUCH,😭😭😭 I miss Texas 😭😭😭😭🎉I wish I could go back and stay there. FOR GOOD.
I moved from SC to Atlanta decades ago. It was much easier to be gay in a big city. I’ve lived in this neighborhood for 36 years. I’m called “Mr. Mayor.” 😅 It’s a very diverse and accepting area inside the perimeter. I’ve been in Atlanta for 44 years and never regretted moving here. I hope everyone finds a place to call home. ❤
a guy in my building a few years ago in SF lived here from tennessee ( he was fat too) and he told me how his friends and family and coworkers treated him when he decided to move. instead of being happy for him and offering encouragement all they had to say was " well what are we suppose to do what about us" and i have the impression that in the south they like to keep everyone under control and kept within a confined circle. this is foreign to me as a native californian we learn from a young age to be independent to think for ourselves and to we out encouraged to get the fu k out of the house and go do our own thing. our families do not hold us back or control us. they want us to get out and live our own way
Working with the military I already knew about the “Bless his heart” traditions before moving to the Atlanta area. Luckily I was already a mature adult (48) when I arrived so wasn't bothered by “Gays Go to Hell” preachers at Pride events. After retirement I moved back to California.
I’m sure you’re fine and well .. Thanks the universe for the 1st amendment and thank that great country ., ( Arab speaker and proud American here ) / By the way , I’ve lived here since the nineties and never felt as much as home here in the USA, !
As a gay man living in North Carolina who loves duck hunting, fly fishing and football, I find myself around a lot of straight men who are a bit shocked when they find out I’m gay. This fascinates me. I’m trying to attend more artistic functions such as operas, museums and gay men’s chorus productions. But my first loves are stereotypical straight male hobbies. I wish I could meet more gay guys that were truly into hunting, fishing and football. Maybe the Bear 🐻 community?
Maybe start a men-only private hunting group on Meet-Up?
I'm a married gay man and my husband and I both love to hunt and fish. We live on the same farm where I was born and raised. We love working with livestock and gardening doing all the things associated with straight men and we love it.
Hell yeah! First of all we’re men. The gayness is on the other place…
I'm not into duck hunting or fly fishing, but I am into pro sports and love football.
Stay away from that bear stuff you’ll turn into an healthy individual. There are many who are just like you. Just have to go to the more conservative areas in your search.
As a gay man living in Alabama I agree with everything you've said. I've never liked football, hunting, fishing, or most other things a good southern male is expected to like. Simply not liking those things as a kid, will get you labeled as a "sissy" by the other boys, or at least it did back in the 80s/90s when I was in school. And it is quite funny, my biggest bully in middle school, did in fact get caught messing around with another man. And your comment about lesbians being more accepted is spot on! Straight people just don't feel threatened by them like they do us gay men.
As far as religion goes, a lot of it is fake. Many people here just feel like it's the correct thing to do for them to say they're a "Christian", and they cling to a few Bible verses they know, and often make some up along the way. The love telling us gay people that we're going to hell, yet completely ignore the things they do that go against scripture. Many churches are nothing but social clubs, where the men compare who has the nicest pickup truck, and the women compare who's kids have the fanciest clothes.
I think these days, with more exposure to gay people, those of different persuasions are learning not to fear us. From fear comes hostility. No fear, the hate fades. That said everything after LGB are still toxic and getting worse. Such attention hounds...
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So handsome and you explain yourself very well.
Dylan, your accent is absolutely Adorable!!!
I have a gay friend (male) who grew up here in South Carolina. He fled all the way to California to find a place that felt like home. He met a man out there and they're now happily married. But he told me that a lot of our old "friends" cut him off when they discovered on Facebook that he's gay. I miss talking to him on FB but I can't blame him. He's one of the nicest guys I know.
Why you both not talking on fb?
i'm a native californian and i'm glade he made it out here❤we need more of you folks
My cousin has a similar story
I’ve always said that if you’re LGBT once you graduate high school move to a very distant metro area to go to college. Live your life openly and proudly. If people back home find out you’re gay and they don’t like it then tough shit!!
In other words you can't be promiscuous because where you live only straight people can be promiscuous
In a country full of morbid obesity, it's interesting how there's an obsession with sexuality but gluttony is never preached against. Here's why: Few gay people attend fundamentalist churches and those who do are likely closeted so it's easy to condemn those who are "outside" the circle. To preach against gluttony would be to alienate half the congregation, half the "inner" circle, and could result in declining attendance on Sunday mornings.
Yes! I've said this for years.
The christian religion in the U.S. is slowly dying out as they no longer preach what jesus did but hate.
There is a direct correlation between Red States voting and obesity rate on a state wide scale.
Awe shucks! So funny and so true. I shouldn’t be laughing, cause it’s not nice.
So you would attack the obese to draw attention away from your shortcomings.
I left the south after 48 years. Not a single person has come to visit me. Not a single one, even my family. I am expected to go visit them. That’s how much they don’t respect you. You could leave tomorrow and absolutely no one would bother to socialize with you again.
I’m from Ohio. A very red state, that leans towards homophobia attitudes. I was in a health screening. The nurse was surprised to find out that I was gay. She actually said, “you don’t look or act gay.” Ignorance is everywhere in the USA
People who are in red states arent any more phobic about gays, and certainly less intense than the racists on the Blue side. I am a gay florida guy, who in most viewpoints amd conservative. That said, I still see that some religious people still hold their fear about gay people. This is because of the Church trying to keep control of people. Instill fear and you can control someone. The church is always about controlling others.
Keep being your authentic self. You are a good role model to younger men struggling with being gay and living in an environment which may not be as accepting as we wish!
As an older Southerner, let me tell you, I think you rock. The media and same sex marriage law have opened things up.
From one Southern gay man to another, honey you are just as sweet as pie! Thanks for sharing.
It was impossible in the 1980s and 90s. I could share 100 horror stories. People lost their jobs, their places to live, lost all their friends. What you speak of is a different experience than the reality I know
i'm 60 years old. i grew up in the 1970's and 1980's. vaguely remember hearing about the stonewall riots when i was 4 or 5 years old. a gay guy had to be carefull about coming out. i never had any problems. i think most people suspected. where i lived, those who were more "fem" were the ones who had more of a problem.
I JUST FOUND YOUR CHANNEL A COUPLE HOURS AGO. I WATCHED YOUR OLDER VIDEOS. YOU ARE SUCH A STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL PERSON. AND VERY WISE. YOU WILL MAKE SOME GUY VERY HAPPY AND SO LUCKY TO HAVE SPECIAL GUY LIKE YOU. MAY THE WIND LIFT YOU HIGH AND YOU FIND THOSE SPECIAL MOMENTS THAT WILL FILL YOUR HEART WITH LOVE JOY AND HAPPINESS.
Holy caps!
Same issues this side of the world. Well said. Warmest greetings from South Africa. 😊🇿🇦
Yet South Africa claims to be so accepting of gay people…..
The ANC…
Thought provoking and insightful, your experiences of growing up gay in the Deep south Bible belt of the United States is similar to mine growing up in rural Catholic Ireland, your are a natural at this looking forward to hearing more of your beautiful southern accent, God has blessed you with good looks and articulateness, you are helping many people God bless you.
I grew up in the sticks and now live in Houston. The big city is more comfortable because of the anonymity. I know people talk about me behind my back and snickers behind my back at work but it has slowed down over the years. You’re a very handsome man!!
I concur with people smiling in your face and talking about your Sexuality behind your back. You don't even have to be "Out" per se, for people to Gossip about you. If people think you're gay in general and not the stereotypical male, You're asking for trouble.. I'm in my 40s and I still deal with this at work and with Family. I've just learned to have surface relationships with people and move on. Hey, Dylan! Looking good!
As SW Georgia boy, Preach, Dylan, Preach!
Thank you for your honesty Dylan! I'm a "Yankee" from Chicago and old enough to be your grandfather but I can assure you, in the Catholic Italian culture I grew up in, the macho stereotype was just as prevalent; a couple of my childhood friends were somewhat effeminate and picked on terribly. I managed to avoid that but coming to the defense of these boys who were called 'sissies' somehow made me implicit but I stood up for them even when I got called names.
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I have to practice butching it up every time I need to go to Walmart here in central Florida. Thank God I live in the middle of a 15,000-acre forest and don't see people. Except for my friends, that is. And with all the fruits and veggies we grow, they're here a lot 😂
I'm from Brazil loved your accent so cute😍🤗
I don't like to knock people's personal beliefs and religious beliefs but there are so many hypocrites out there That love to portray being holier-than-thou but don't live it or follow it. They pick and choose what to follow and what not and it drives me crazy. You seem like a good dude and I have a lot of respect for you. Also it looks like you have a really nice place .
It’s not about hypocrisy. The Christian sects teach evil and delusion. Sorry, Jesus taught evil and delusion, he just looks better in comparison to the gen0cidal Yahweh of the Old Testament.
Bro, city gays has a holier-than-thou attitude as well. Shitty ppl are shitty regardless. lol
Similar vibe here in Australia when you're not in the main cities, guess it's a universal experience. Anyway loving the channel and this accent is sending me ! Thanks mate x
I am gay living in Texas with my husband, whom I have been with for 34 years. We have zero issues, ever. But if we ever do, I firmly believe, "Don't start any shit and there won't be any. People are great. I find we are as butch as straight men, so they mind their business, as do we......
Great getting to see a video from you. Living single in the rural small towns of the South it's very difficult finding someone to date that shares equal values. That is why most gays had to larger cities.
Tell me about it. I'm on a site that, when I initially look, there are 850-900 guys in a 150 mile radius.
I change that to 100 mile radius, 40 y/o & under, & with profile pic.
& the results are rarely OVER 40 guys. (& then most of them are ~80+ miles away from my location.)
Hey Dylan! I’m from Southern California, but lived in Nashville for about 9 years. Great city and some wonderful outdoor hiking spots. I related to what you said about people being friendly to your face, but then not so much behind your back. My overall experience was not horrible, people just have more conservative views which, often times, lends itself to being more judgmental of others. I’m back in California now, but I’m glad I got to experience living in Tennessee. It was an overall positive experience. Thanks for sharing!
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Polite to your face is a common critique of southern politeness. I’m 100% in favor of a people who understand what it means to be publicly polite. Who cares what people say in private. Only those who require social confirmation care.
@@Davidsample7761 They’re not saying it in “private”. lol. It’s to all your co-workers and neighbors. It gets messy. But kudos to you for being okay with it. ✌🏻
@@oceanlover3530 But who cares what people say in private. We must have self confidence. And after all, we are all just human beings. We all fall short of an ideal. I prefer a polite public society where we all know how to publicly treat each other w/ politeness. Having lived in the South, its rare that someone doesn’t hold the door open. Its even more rare where some fails to say hello and greet you on the street or stop to ask how you and your family are. That goes a long way in leveling the unfortunate roughness and short comings of living as a human being.
@@Davidsample7761 As I said, it’s not in private, and kudos to you for not caring. Take care! ✌🏻
I love your accent and hearing you talk! My mama and daddy were from Virginia and growing up. I had a nice southern accent, but I lived in Maryland and I was made fun of so much that I worked so diligently at losing it I wish I had it back, I love listening to you!
not a Southern guy...but rural Midwest central Illinois boy...it's very similar to rural southern areas however...born and raised rural...love you guys...
NGL I've subscribed specifically to hear you say stuff with that charming accent.
Thank you for sharing your observation of life from where you are. Continued success in living your life the way you want to live.😊
You hit the nail on the head. The whole vibe in the South revolves around being nice to your face while saying what they really think behind your back. Very childish behavior for grown adults.
There you go assuming again. There are some mature people in the South but they're not in the majority.
To be fair, this is kind of just human nature. People do that everywhere.
That sugary attitude is all fake..."bless your heart" bs
I can not even count how many married men are on grinder
People don't care what others do in private, but they don't want to know about it bc they can't be seen to accept it socially. I've experienced that in the South, Midwest, Alaska, and online with people from Australia, Canada, Ireland, England, Norway, and France. If you're open about being gay then they aren't mean or verbally assault you, they just stop hanging out with you. You get excluded and have to move on and try to find new friends.
I was born and raised in Alabama. I came out in 1979 I was 14. My Parents, my Church, my friends everyone really supported me because I have respect for my fellow Southerners. They act respectful with their girlfriends and wives and we return that respect by acting properly.
acting properly, meaning you are celibate?
@@johnpcomposer Hell no, my husband and I act properly by not being sexual in front of other people. We hold hands, give each other hugs and a peck on the lips. The Country town we live in still has standards. A woman making out in public will have a nasty reputation along with the man. Same with Gay folks.
Hello Dylan 🎉 Good to catch up with you again. The more urban cities are more accepting than in the rural areas. Lived 30 years in Texas, know as the buckle of the Bible belt. The origins of traditional country & hill country songs and music is excellently portrayed in the film SONGCATCHER with Janet McTeer, Pat Carroll and Aidan Quinn.
Great hair Dylan.You could model. very photogenic.sweet guy.
Gay black man who lives in South Carolina. I've encountered lot of tolerance and a fair amount of prejudice and have had the big "F" slung at me many a time, but even those with religious upbringings have treated me with kindness. The South can be a prejudiced place, I admit, but thankfully I've been lucky enough to have tolerance outweigh the ignorance.
By the way, you are a handsome man with a BEAUTIFUL personality and accent. ☺
If they called me that I'd point right back at them and say RIGHT THERE
Thanks Dylan, Always great seeing you. Much love from Palm Springs Ca.
I’m grateful for you appearing in my feed.
Much of the angst you are experiencing right now results from that “closet”. The closet where we run to and hide when we start getting “signals” that our difference makes us “not ok” in the eyes of those presumed to be judging us.
I think escaping our own closet is a lifelong challenge. Each step we take to leave that closet behind, builds on the steps we took before.
I grew up in Lubbock Texas, and deal with all the time. In 1984, my best friend killed himself over this matter (his father was a Baptist minister) (we were fourteen). The G word never passed between us, but he was my first love (I never told him because of how forbidden it was). I was deeply traumatized by this, even more so by my stepmother saying he was in hell. I walked away from anything religious when I heard in a church a pastor scream out that all gays go to hell, and the congregation shouting praise Jesus, amen and hallelujah! I only have come to terms with David's death in the last few years, and it wasn't me; it was God. In spite of everything that happened I never stopped believing in Him. Yes, I was angry. Yes, I hated him.
That a stroke happened. One that occurred on the anniversary of David's death. God mercifully erased my mind and all that religious crap that had been building up over the years. I found peace. Only a few years later when my memories were restored (ALL OF THEM AND MORE) did I start coming to terms with who I am, David's death, the fact that I loved him (I still do) the sheer nastiness of (some) religious people did things start to change. I have been celibate now twenty years, and not out of some religious obligation. I do it for me, because I know the reason why I was acting out: I was missing David. Finding out his soul lives (won't get into THAT story, but suffice it to say God intervened)(Matthew 22:32b) utterly changed my very existence. Yes, I'm still gay. But I can do as I please. I don't have to live up to the California hype and I certainly don't have to live up to the religious sodomite hype. I can be me, and I am very blessed by that!
Love you David! Miss you! See you in Eternity!
I get that. I had two friends who killed themselves because they couldn't handle being gay. ONE HOOKED UP AN EXHAUST PIPE IN HIS CAR, THE OTHER DECIDED TO SEE IF HE COULD FLY OUT A 23RD FLOOR WINDOW.
@@JeffreySelbst 😫😫😫
That’s really disappointing 🙁
my dear, you are right. the soul is eternal. david is waiting for you. just before you pass you will see him beckoning. next you will be surrounded by light and love and you will have a life review. after that all will be beauty and peace and love. stay strong and continue living your best life.
@@kurtgandenberger6139 Thank you!
Growing up in the South and getting out, the passive aggressive and bias behavior is everywhere. But, the main thing I want to point out is, passive aggressive behavior is violent behavior. No mistaking it.
Best advice ignore the stereotypes and embrace your true self. As Shakespeare said "To thy own self be true."🕊️🕊️✌️✌️
Dylan!!! Good to see you. Please stay safe and keep the videos coming. We like your channel.❤
Saying South... I rise my hand from Chile, what more South than that for being gay... it's not fully accepted, but could it be comfortable. The perfect size of 'not talking' about being gay. For me it is great to be a gay man, I would choose again if someone asked me when I came to birth for being gay. Even though it is important to note that no one cares about my selections. This size of 'not talking' allows people to accept gradually what is happening soround them. Nice topic. Thank you.
I'm in love with your accent Dylan.youre a precious soul. So kind and loving.. keep up helping people. You certainly help me
I'm 60 years old and listening to this young man sounds like the 80s. I thought that things had changed, i.e. gotten better, for young gay people since then.
Country music's roots come from "Americanized interpretations of English, Scottish and Scots-Irish traditional music, shaped by containing vestiges of (19th century) popular song, especially (minstrel songs)". Old country music was good, because people had distinctive voices. Now they all sound the same. People here in Scotland are still crazy on old skool country music. It's strange.
I can listen to you and look at you all day.
That voice! So soothing.
Good morning. I'm from North Carolina. I moved to New York 50 years ago. I've two long term partners and I've been happy. I still visit my relatives who mostly have been accepting of my partners and "life style" ( hate that term, too).
I always tell you hem so is your Christian mythology
Hi Dylan, I live in Citrus county Florida and I'm a native Floridian as well. It can be quite homophobic here but aside from a few looks we don't worry about to much,
My husband of 25 years and I just live our life and love one another and our dogs (kids) of course lol.
All our neighbors know we're gay and we don't have an issue with hate...
BTW I'm one of those gay guys that like hunting and fishing and camping.😁👍
I'm from rural Virginia. Not the deep south, but it was like that here too growing up. Very, very Protestant and conservative. It's much, much better these days, and it's definitely not an awful place to live as a gay man. I agree though, homophobia takes many different forms, and I've experienced it every where I've lived, even in "liberal" northern cities. Stay strong brother!
Hey hi,
Your channel popped up today on my feed. I am an English gay guy from the U.K. A very interesting video, but from what you say, it is sort of what I expected it to be like in your neck of the woods. I have been to the US but not to the South. It is so interesting how different parts of the world have these very closed minds? Either due to religious or deep routed family values based on very old fashioned outlooks.
Fortunately we have a open society here in the U.K. but some countries are far worse than our two nations.
Thanks for giving people an insight to the attitudes of the people in the South.
David
I too live in the south. I’m a gay male. Some people are accepting some aren’t. Those who aren’t, fortunately I don’t have to be around them. Beautiful place to live. Nature is amazing and a lot outdoor activities here.
I grew up in the Deep South. I learned early on to introduce my gay friends to my family and let them get to know and love them before telling them about my friends being gay. Then they couldn’t say they don’t like them. Worked for most of my family members, the ones I like anyway.
That accent 😍😍😍 ooofftttt cute as hell too
Great video Dylan. Very good topic. People hate that which they do not understand, fear, or dread or it speaks the truth about them. Because society has said they must react they way they do, they lash out. They live their lives based on stereotypes or expectations society has placed on people.
I was like “No way! I’m also from the south!” Then I heard him and he is from South Carolina and I’m from South Texas! 😭💔
I agree with you Dylan on the country music aspect, the modern version of country music is horrible. Thank you for posting this great video. You just got a new subscriber. Ps... living outside Nashville, i understand where you're coming from about being gay in the South. ❤😊
I'm back in my hometown, Meridian, MS and I get lascivious, deer-in-the-headlights a lot. They act like they want to say something, but are too scared to say something here. So the usual DL stuff goes on.
Haven't seen you pop up on my Facebook feed for a while...glad to see you still posting. From the north and older but your comments apply up north too. Wished there were folks like you and UA-cam when I was younger and I know I would have turned out as a different person.
I relate in so many ways. Yet you are younger than my 45 years. Speak and preach the truth... nice to see it has changed for you and the overall good to educate the masses. ❤ PM iv you ever want to chat... Munford Tennessee 🫶💙🏳️🌈🇺🇲Tennessee.
You describe a southern US culture that insists on conformity above all else - and that is two-faced, punitive, threatening, and narrow-minded. Even though some of your experiences have not been negative, I’m so sorry you’ve had to live in that. It makes me appreciate having grown up in the San Francisco Bay Area, which is a completely different world from the menacing toxic masculinity stew that you describe.
As we say in the South, bless your heart. ♥️
I’ll confess that I really struggle to imagine that anyone would have a problem with having you in their lives as a friend or work colleague, etc. In fact, I’d think most people would love to have someone like you as part of their lives.
Hello Dylan! Honey, you are spot-on with your assessment. Anti-gay prejudice is just as real in the south as it is everywhere else. Surviving as a gay man depends upon one's ability blend-in. If one is determined to fight the establishment, then of course it is going to be more difficult. For one as cute and charming as you, it should be a breeze! Enjoyed your vlog!
good name, yummboy2
I’m not gay, but please tell me one of your movie heroes is John Ritter’s character in Sling Blade. Man that movie was so good.
You were added to my feed so to speak and enjoyed your video ! Have a college buddy from some years back and you explained it perfectly as he was from the south too . Very different culture for sure and when we would visit his home on breaks from school very careful in the things we would say .
Such a lovely man, with very astute perspectives about masculinity, prejudice, and diversity.
"It just makes my ears bleed." 🤣Brilliant
You mean the accent...
The accent, definitely.
@@jeep19 Oh no. I actually like his accent. He makes a funny comment in there about how he feels about country music. He says it just makes his ears bleed. The insult was so sharp and he said it with such a sweet face. Ru Paul would be proud. I know I am.
Try the Episcopal Church. It's usually more accepting of those who are different. My Church is very accepting of me and my spouse of almost 40 years.
deer camp will be starting here in central Illinois late October into November...my friends will be hunting...and I will be making hot spiced cider and homemade donuts...for us to share when they come back in from hunting..then we will have a cookout...with beers and possibly grilled venison ...
Love your videos, Dylan! Joyful is a universal feeling. Happiness is a universal feeling. Guilt and shame, however, is not a universal feeling to humans. It all depends on the culture we belong to what we find guilty and shameful. This explains a lot about people.
Beautiful speaking voice.
I'm a country dude. I'm very alpha. I take great pride in my masculinity.
My kin is from Tennessee and Kentucky. I like the values of those from the south, however I do not like to be gay. I'm 68 and not going to change.
i too live in the deep south and i am much older and live with my husband. people still joke about gay guys but it is not really malicious. i live in a 240 unit condo and ran for the board of directors. i got more votes than anyone else, so discrimination was not much of an issue in this small town.
A lot of guys get uncomfortable because they might be bisexual or pansexual and they are afraid of those feelings. They have no idea how to navigate that because of the way they were taught.
Love it, great video, I used down in Harlingen, Mission, Corpus Christi,, including, San, Anton, Houston, Ft Worth, and I loved it dearly, but now I live way up north in the North West, which I hate so SO MUCH,😭😭😭 I miss Texas 😭😭😭😭🎉I wish I could go back and stay there. FOR GOOD.
Dude! I love your accent. I could listen to you talk for hours. Just subscribed to your channel.
Mom liked and played Muddy Waters alot and drove the neighbourhood crazy with her harmonica. She's Acadian.
I from south you so right with all you share thank you for share video
I really appreciate your honesty, thank you!
I moved from SC to Atlanta decades ago. It was much easier to be gay in a big city. I’ve lived in this neighborhood for 36 years. I’m called “Mr. Mayor.” 😅 It’s a very diverse and accepting area inside the perimeter. I’ve been in Atlanta for 44 years and never regretted moving here. I hope everyone finds a place to call home. ❤
I’m from Vicksburg Mississippi its TRAUMATIC. Moving to stl soon maybe
Look up ND issues. When your different in an area it might mean you are different to the core. That’s a good thing with unique challenges.
I live on the Mississippi Gulfcoast. It's a very gay friendly area. Especially Bay St. Louis.
I’m a convert to the Episcopal Church which is very LGBTQ friendly here. Our bishop is gay , married with children.
I know exactly what you are talking about. I live here in the Deep South. I agree with everything you’ve stated.
I’m gay or bi living in the south👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏾
a guy in my building a few years ago in SF lived here from tennessee ( he was fat too)
and he told me how his friends and family and coworkers treated him when he decided to move.
instead of being happy for him and offering encouragement all they had to say was
" well what are we suppose to do what about us"
and i have the impression that in the south they like to keep everyone under control and kept within a confined circle.
this is foreign to me as a native californian
we learn from a young age to be independent to think for ourselves and to we out encouraged to get the fu k out of the house and go do our own thing. our families do not hold us back or control us. they want us to get out and live our own way
I love to hear you talk. I am from the south also. Where are you from in the south
Working with the military I already knew about the “Bless his heart” traditions before moving to the Atlanta area. Luckily I was already a mature adult (48) when I arrived so wasn't bothered by “Gays Go to Hell” preachers at Pride events. After retirement I moved back to California.
You might want to check out gay themed country music like the work of Chris Housman.
I’m sure you’re fine and well .. Thanks the universe for the 1st amendment and thank that great country ., ( Arab speaker and proud American here ) / By the way , I’ve lived here since the nineties and never felt as much as home here in the USA, !
Do your Public School teachers actually teach you to pronounce your vowels like that? Great accent!
That's not the experience that I've had. I live in tn and I hate it and when I get a chance I'm gone. Just my opinion and my opinion just counts 1.😊😊😊
Your accent is perfect ❤️😉
Yes, they wave,talk to you and say....."""God Bless your ❤!!!!!☹️.....in the south.
Hi Dylan, I've missed you! ❤❤❤
I like your Viewmaster reel clock.
Your observations seem accurate, more tolerance than many imagine.
Gooood Looooord! You is fiiiiine.....