UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!
@@raginbakin1430 Of course no two brains are truly the same. But fact is, that our society is based on a "standard" and brains, which only differ slightly from what is considered the standard, won't have as much of a hard time living in that society and especially won't have to mask as much, because their way of thinking/acting is considered within the norm. Try to look at it like a normal distribution (Gaussian bell curve). The closer your brain is to the highest point on the curve (the "standard"), the more you would be called a neurotypical (even if it differs slightly from others within that definition in some ways). If the way your brain thinks fits more on a side of the curve, which only encompasses approx. 2 % of all human brains, you can, by definition, be called neurodivergent, because there aren't that many brains that work similar to yours AND the society we live in isn't cut out for brains on that side of the curve. And to say that everyone is neurodivergent because everyone has a slightly different brain, to me is somewhat like saying everyone has Epidermolysis because everyone has skin, so everyone can get blisters and wounds on their skin... Your opinion is of course yours alone, just please don't belittle the struggles that truly neurodivergent people may have in our society by stating that everyone is neurodivergent (and thereby invalidating the very existence of those which truly fall under the definition of neurodivergent). It reminds me of "just try harder, everyone has problems"... It is already proven, that e.g. ADHDers have actual differences in their brains compared to the "standard".
@@raginbakin1430 now that you go into more detail, I think I understand where you're coming from. To me it just feels belittling to say, that everyone is neurodivergent, if we live in a society that holds a neurotypical standard, although you might not meant it that way. Just because people, that differ a lot from said standard do tend to have it much much harder, so to me it feels invalidating to those experiences. For me personally it just made such a huge difference to realize that I'm neurodivergent, and not just slower, weirder and more awkward (and in some cases dumber e.g. memory) than most of my peers, since I also got bullied a lot when I was younger, only to realize later on that my brain just works differently than theirs, and they weren't able to accept that. I maybe got triggered a bit to easily there, I'm sorry, especially since from you're second comment I understood that you actually didn't mean it in a bad or belittling way, but more as a criticism of our society.
I believe I have mixed bipolar and adhd. My life’s a world a contradictions, confusing stress and the list goes on lmao. I’m currently being treated and awaiting assessment. I suffer with Manic/polar eyes
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List for those trying to keep up. 1. Time Blindness 2. Executive Dysfunction 3. Task Multiplying 4. Inconsistent Sleep needs 5. Emotional Dysregulation 6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations 7. Missing the Obvious 8. Sensory Sensitivities 9. Rejection Sensitivity 10. Auditory Processing Disorder 11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns 12. Eye Contact 13. Rich Internal World 14. Narrow Range of Stimulation 15. Low Frustration Tolerance 16. Shame Based Motivation 17. Stimming 18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication 19. Black or White Thinking 20. Nonlinear Thinking 21. No Brain Secretary
PSA autism cannot and should not be cured. It is a neurotype not a disease. If anyone contacts you claiming they can cure your (or your child's) autism. Please ignore them.
I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it
I absolutely relate to this. Idk if you saw my video about it, but I self-diagnosed with autism and turned out to be wrong and it was so embarrassing. But then...I survived. So my advice is to explore the ADHD diagnosis, and if you're wrong, so what? Better to explore and check it out!
I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.
The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!
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I used to call my husband, my brain, because he would remind me of dates and times or if I turned off the stove or locked the doors. Now I put reminders, alarms, and timers in my phone.
Wow, the way you said that just hit me. But it really is just like that. For me the problem is that my brain defaults to literally EVERYTHING being put to the front of the queue as URGENT, which makes me try do do everything at the same time, resulting in wheels just spinning in the sand.; I never really saw it that way before. Now that I can see it, I wonder if there is a way to fix or at least manage it so I can live effectively. NZT 48, anybody?
I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)
Reading this was strange, because it's like I wrote it myself. I'm also very outgoing and energetic around my family and close friends, but in front of people I don't know well, I'm an entirely different person: quiet, anxious, reserved and awkward. I'm also very sensitive to sounds and noise, and have a low tolerance for socializing, my social battery drains completely after an hour, after which I'm just forcing my way through painful encounter after another. So, I'm not sure if I am neurodivergent, but I'm 77% convinced that I belong on one spectrum or another.
My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently
Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor. I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve. Thanks for this brilliant video!
thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally" it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."
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Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.
Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤
Thank you so much! This made me cry so much. I was recently dx with adult adhd and all my life I have struggled so much. This dx was not an easy one for me to receive because of the way of how society labels adhd and how “skipped” from the way it should be handled. (I dont even know how to explain this). But, I have been trying to start loving myself again and getting to know myself again with these new “set of eyes”. Life has been hard! :(
I'm so glad you e been getting to know yourself again through the lens of your new diagnsois. I hope it makes you feel seen, despite the stigma that comes with it. Just remember, being neurodivergent isn't a bad thing. You are good 💜
Thank you for this video! I relate to all of the signs, but I'm not sure if they really mean that I'm neurodivergent. I'm in the process of self-diagnosing now (yep, I want to be sure I'm not feigning autism before actually asking my therapist about it), and I've realised I don't really understand whether my emotions and feelings are actually different or I'm just exaggerating things. Probably, I should thank my parents for that because I've heard phrases like 'You're making things up', 'You're exaggerating', 'People don't feel it like that, that's not normal' all my childhood, so I quickly understood that sharing your emotions, feelings and interests leads only to shaming and devaluation.
I got interested in neurodivergent topics mostly bc of elyse myers who i find absolutely hysterical and want to understand more. These videos have been popping up in recommended a lot and you have the first video that is making disclaimers and discussing very real, specific and major parts of the disorder. I can realistically see how others are affected and how i don’t relate but want to understand. In other videos about how anyone could have autism, it’s incredibly vague and the symptoms sound like a horoscope reading. There is zero disclaimers and big sweeping generalizations for diagnosing. 🙏So thank you for making something that is very clear and understanding for all audiences rather than trying to make every viewer and every symptom mean a disease which is sadly becoming the norm for all psych based content.
thank you so much for this video. it was extremely informative and i was really surprised, for the quality of the video, why you have so few subs!!!! subbed :D can't wait to see more content
Excellent and presented very well. I've watched several videos like this lately, and feel like they are part of helping me find my voice. It I'd helping me understand myself better. Thank you for being part of that.
Advantages for being labelled with autism are: -Makes you feel better about being strange. -Can get a disabled badge for all best parking spots. -Can get extra time in exams -Sympathy and attention -Hope that normal people will accept you now. Disadvantages include -Not being taken seriously or listened to -Before you were a little odd, now you’re CONFIRMED strange, bye bye friends! -Everyone now treading on eggshells around you, treating you with pity and being condescending. -Job applications go straight in bin (never put you’re autistic btw) -Funny looks and tutting when parking in the disabled bay -Never taken seriously by any medical practitioner when going in for an unrelated topic, everything just put down to autism and being a hypochondriac It is for the latter reasons, I will forever remain a closet autistic in my own strange, yet happy little bubble. I actually feel empowered, that no one has any ammunition to fire at me, because I’ve got no label. Apologies if I’ve offended anyone, I’m fully aware that some NEED a diagnosis, it’s just my alternative take on the matter, freedom of speech and all that.
I’m 32 and finally taking the steps for diagnosis. I’ve been pretty much 100 percent sure I’ve had ADD for a while. This video is very helpful! Thank you
Thank you for providing the term Task Multiplying. I have especially been grappling with this more and more. Seeing subtle reactions or things around me, others often miss getting dismissed due to it. CAPD is also an interesting condition and to save you a lot of money if you get an older audio recorder and plugging a head phone to your ears try reading and annunciating for 20 minutes a day will help the brain process sound and words.
Wow. As I sit here in bed bc I can’t bring myself to go to work more than 2 days in a row, at the edges of an Autistic shutdown, I came across your video. I have a solid 21 out of 21 of your indicators. Not that I’m surprised; actually, I’m comforted in a way. I’m wondering if other Autistic people had the same childhood quirks that I did: I never crawled-I just stood up and walked one day, but always on tiptoes. I had pathologically severe insomnia but when I did sleep I had nightmares and night terrors. There are many more, but here’s one last particularly odd one: at the age of 2, i surreptitiously stole little “grownup” items (stamps, bandaids, thimbles, etc-but just one of each) and hid them in a pencil box. I still wonder about that one. Anyway, thank you! Liked and subbed!
Wow. That was mind-blowing. Yes, several things on the list resonated with me very accurately. What a relief to hear your descriptions. Now I understand. Thanks!
This is my favorite. The way you say word things is excellent. I really liked some of the distinctions that were pointed out. I have always considered myself hyper aware of what others are thinking and feeling and notice many subtle details (which I thought was counter to the spectrum). But somehow it may also be true that I am often missing 'social cues' especially if they are the inauthentic type. But still I identify withunderstanding others and social dynamics much more than not.
I tried to get an adhd eval, but they wouldn't do it because my depression and anxiety weren't managed well enough...Finding the right cocktail of psych meds is taking forever for me. 😢
Yes to the 'no brain secretary' (and so many of the others, but this one jumped out at me). How I always explain it to people is that everything comes in at the same 'volume' or level of importance. Neurotypical people can filter out what's extraneous or unimportant; not me! It can be pretty exhausting.
I self diagnosed myself and I thought I had ADHD but my mom took me to a doctor for a test, turns out I have both ADHD and autism. This is when I was 11
Thank you. I highly suspect I'm Neurodivergent. I have suspected this for a while. The last time I brought it up to a professional I was dismissed. I'm going to try to confront my doctor with my concerns again. This time with a list of my symptoms.
Every single one of them, indeed. I'm bipolar type 2, kinda knew that more than a decade before getting diagnosed at 35. Then after some therapy for that and CPTSD, we realized I have ADHD, diagnosed around age 38. Then I stumbled upon HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and thereby got a better name for what I called all my life my Princess and the Pea. I found the Fall of the House of Usher profound as a kid. At age 46 I was visiting cousins and stayed most of the two months with one that had self-diagnosed as autistic. Prior to spending that much time with him I was not convinced; but practically living with someone can change one's mind. While various forms of Depression, migraines, and gut problems run through my paternal-side family, so does artistic talent. One such cousin toured as a fiddler at age 10! Another made a living his whole life as an artistic painter with an MfA from Stanford. A few of us (there were 32 cousins of my generation) definitely have some autistic traits as well. So there's no question that neurodivergence runs genetically as well as epigenetically through my dad's side. I got to thinking more about many of my awkward quirks that still couldn't be explained by any of my diagnoses. I delved deeper into personality types, CPTSD, clinical narcissism, and autism, to understand them all better. Come COVID-19 I relented and self-diagnosed as autistic, having several years of research behind me. Given I'm now 54 and on Disability and Medicare, and because assessment is very expensive, I will likely never get a formal diagnosis. That's mostly okay. I've now read a great deal and watched many youtube videos, found a few vloggers with personalities and histories incredibly similar to my own; so this exploration has reified my conclusion. I'm not a hypochondriac. I don't want more medications or labels. Thankfully I have FINALLY run out of personality and learning ability quirks and hangups to explain. I've finally opened the best toolboxes for my needs. Fortunately autism usually does NOT manifest like the stereotypes. Most of us are relatively functional. We just live in a culture that doesn't value our different neurological wiring. I hope everyone that has made it to the end of my post-AND everyone that didn't 😆-finds HAPPINESS being neurodivergent or in knowing someone who is.
I have just 6 or 7 of these. I definitely don't feel like I have ADHD, but still trying to figure out if I may be on the spectrum. Definitely feel neurodivergent though, never felt like everyone else.
There are only about four of these that do not apply to me. I say about because I lost count halfway through. We are also often labeled as “gifted” as children.
Today I said to my dad "when I put on my hazard lights, only one light shows on my dash, but I need to get someone to check they are working on the outside", he said "or you could just park the car and get out and check yourself"...erm. yeah. 51 years old. Lol. Didn't think of that. But i can read a room and know everything that is going on in a microsecond. Or design a completed complex costume in my mind in a flash and build it to perfection like a sweatshop robot.
In the first 3 minutes of this video, I have had to rewind it 4 times because I got distracted and/or could not focus.....yes, I have diagnosed ADHD. 🙂
im literally crying jn the bathroom rn with only 0:17 seconds of this video. i answered yes to all of the 3 intro questions (the second question is the reason i came to this video!!) and i don’t even use tiktok often, i only use it for iphone tips but now its filled with adhd life and tricks. im crying because i’ve been struggling with people’s acceptance for almost two years and there is only one person that supports me in getting diagnosed. unfortunately i still don’t work and can’t pay for any treatment, medical support or diagnose. unfortunately too, selfdiagnosed autism isn’t valid for “law-ish” stuff. also, my old psychiatrist already knew i have ADHD and i was being treated with medications for ADHDers but at some point of my life, things changed and i couldn’t go to the sessions anymore (distance things), i stopped the medications and couldn’t get the medical certificate as some sessions were still to be completed. here i am, almost ADHD “certificated”, self-diagnosed autistic and crying on the toilet. edit: i checked 20/21, i guess
when you said "see black and white" i literally thought about the colors and i was like "wait a moment..." 🕴🏻i felt so identified with the 21 sings, i have a friend who told me (even when i didn't told him anything about how i was feeling) that i probably have adhd, and this was about 2 years ago, and i've tried to go to a therapist but it just won't work for me because in my country mental health is just not so important and that makes me feel very sad because i don't know if one day i could be diagnosed so that i can afford living this way... :c
So much of what you said resonated with me. So much so I'm actually trying to figure out why I didn't put two and two together year's ago. I've spent countless hour's studying the why's of life on my own and at university just trying to make sense of why I was treated a certain way as a child. Why my parents behaved the way they did towards me. Why I always or should I say had healthy social interactions when meeting new people to those people becoming my tormentors or bullies in a matter of weeks. I had so many questions as to why everyone eventually behaved a certain way towards me. I studied psychological responses and behavioral science just to gain an understanding as to why I seemed to bring out the worst in everyone I came in contact with as a child, adolescent and teenager. This also happened as a young adult. I never thought to look within myself and reflect. Maybe try to gain a prospective from a different angle. My childhood was abusive as far as beatings were concerned. I was never good enough. I was told I didn't try hard enough. I always could've done better. I did my best to strive at everything I did. In many instances whatever I was focused on almost became an obsession at time's. I competitively skated. I modeled. I kept my appearance as perfect as possible. I projected an image of polite young lady with manners. I was overly accommodating. I went out of my way to make other's feel welcome and accepted. I did whatever I could to keep everyone happy, but myself. I didn't exist. I was the image my parents expected me to be. If I wasn't there were painful consequences I had to face. I always seemed to have one consequence after another. I had a difficult time in school. I wasn't scholasticly inclined. I was taken to the eye doctor because the notion was maybe I just couldn't see as well as I should. I was taken to the ear doctor because maybe I just wasn't able to hear as well as I should. I saw a child psychologist because I would have these uncontrollable fits of rage behind closed doors of course. Never did these occur in public. That would've been to my detriment. My sleeping patterns were terrible. When I went to sleep( if I did sleep) I would be at the foot of my bed in the morning and my sheets, comforter, etc would be in total disarray. My mother would tell me and others I slept like a football player trying to make a touchdown by the end of the night. I struggled with so many thing's yet tried so hard to make my struggles right. I always questioned why I couldn't do anything right. I was told I was lazy in school and at home. I was told I was overly sensitive and to stop being so sensitive. I was taught not to cry. If I did it was another consequence I had to endure. Not crying has affected my life as an adult immensely. Crying was a sign of weakness and I was not permitted to do so. The only time I cry is when I'm in massive amounts of pain or out of pure frustration because I can't cause bodily harm to the person who's tormenting me and homicide is illegal and frowned upon in our society. Wink, wink. I've had to fight for everything in my life. I've honestly never had a break to heal or just breath. I've survived five family suicides and three family murders. There's much more I haven't mentioned. I've been isolated the last 4 year's. The first three months I went in my room and only came out to use the restroom and get food otherwise I layed in bed and listened to music. I came to the conclusion this was the highs and lows of my spiritual awakening. After three months I emerged from my room. I still haven't left my property in 4 year's. When I attempt to leave I feel other's energy or the energy of what's taking place in our world. I either get a massive migraine and nauseous or seriously stressed out and feel emotions that are definitely not mine. I feel I'm exactly where I need to be at the moment. If I need anything I order it online or my husband gets what I need. I'm not in the best of health and was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma before the pandemic. I refused to get vaccinated so my care ceased. I'm holding my own and going the holistic route. I'm still alive. Everything you shared struck a chord and now I want to explore it more. My apologies for writing a novel. I felt like a door has been opened and some relief of understanding is taking place. Thank you for that. Much respect and love sent your way.🩷
Recently got a thread unpicker so I can remove the tags from my clothing. Life-changing! Seriously, so cheap and simple but so effective!! Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find effective solutions for my other sensory issues (even thinking about nail files sends horrible shivers down my spine like nails on a chalkboard, and I need space around my neck. I can't deal with tops with high necks or crew necks because I feel like I'm going to be sick. Merch is always crew necks so I can't rep my hobbies 😢). Any tips for those things are appreciated haha
Never knew that there are symptoms for autism along with symptoms of having eating disorders leading to exponential weight gains. And together leading obesities and emotional distinctions.
You know, I had a thought on this topic as a whole. First, prepare yourself to be given a short background of myself. Forgive me, you have no choice, since my CEO proclaims I MUST TELL EVERYONE THE BACKGROUND BRIEF! lol I laughed at my own metaphoric cleverness. So I had absolutely no idea I could be autistic, but looking at this video, and others about the topic, my daughter being diagnosed, and me scoring in the "gifted" range on an IQ test, and the correlation to high IQ and autism, I am thoroughly convinced, yet undiagnosed as autistic. Every single one of your 21 things, you told my story. I wrote this. Well I started to write it, but found that I needed three perfect pen, which I tend searched online for the best price, and instead of spending money I was going to use a gift card, but where use that gift card? So I went to look for it and found a sewing project I totally meant to finish... Then my phone rang and I forgot everything and started playing a game on my phone.
I get upset very easily I don't like physical touch I am shy and social cues are hard I am also 20 years old and I still have autism and adhd combined although now have adult adhd because I am 20 years
It's been weeks, months even, that i started to think I might be neurodivergent, and maybe with adhd and/or autism. I resonate with almost every one of these descriptions but I delayed contacting anyone to actually diagnose myself. The point is: I may end up being such, but it could also be like I'm not. Either way, what do I do? Even if I'm not neurodivergent or with autism, what the hell do I do to cope with everything? Im stuck in this part of my life and I can not find a place in this world to have a purpose. The fact that I can't find a work makes it even harder. Im crying rn writing this but even if I know, I KNOW that I'm somehow different from everyone else I still can't find the way to move forward. I don't know what to do and i feel like I'm wasting time, years of my life with no other result than being left alone while everyone keep on going, feeling every day more lonely. I don't know how to help myself, nor anyone to ask for the same help. I started studying again but at some point I feel like it's worthless and lack for motivation, I am a lot of things but nothing at the same time. I'm fkn stuck and tired of blaming myself while finding no other escape goat to blame and/or find the strength to do anything.
1) Is with "inconsistent sleep needs" also included that one have almost every night nightmares and needs to sleep (in puberty 12-14 hours sleep) and in adulthood 9-11 hours (i survive with 7-8 hours but without an alarm i sleep longer and feel better)? 2) Can someone explain "rich internal world" further? For example i prefer to spend my freetime with a dive in fantasy worlds (books, series or own imagination/ writing) and i think a lot (my thoughts are almost never quiet).
Eye contact is my downfall. I am so hyper aware that I don’t act “normal” when hanging around people and if I didn’t change that I would never look anybody in the eye I would just look anywhere but there face. However I try to fix that and end up just staring directly into their eyes for the entire length they talk to me probably not even blinking half the time and I honestly just find it so funny cause it’s so stupid that I can’t have an in between 🤣
Neurodivergent! Well I was told in dec of 1996 that my then 5 year old daughter has Autism. The professionals spoke actually of atypical Austim. I thought "What the hell is Austim?" Then in jan of 1997 I was sent to another professional with the question "can she be Autistic herself, just as her daughter is?" The answer still bothers me and I find it to include prejudice: "Because she has finished a formal studies at the university it would be incorrect to put the label "Autistic on her... I will write that she has Asperger syndrome" And the doctor did just that. My official diagnosis is Asperger Syndrome. As the years passed, I learnt more and more about Autism, Asperger syndrome and more. I have relatives who have diagnosis of ADHD. I do have what the professionals call "ADD" and I what to call... ADhD. H being Hyper but h being hypo. And that is what I am: hypo active. Not able to start or finish corectl without lots of trying and giveing up, starting trying again and just keep going knowing I often need help to finish things. As for the Autism part? Both I AND my daughter are typical Autistic. I do not think that my daughter has either ADD nor ADHD or ADhD. But as she had not started school... she has only ever been in Autism section. They used TEACH system and she could do so much more that was ever tried to teach her. It is a shame. but not even I knew better then.
Please allow space for other conditions. I've just given up on my umpteenth support forum because I'm in a minority category, gifted. No, I'm not Aspie, as diagnosed: fortunately my weird did it's thing during the testing, adding hyperperception to the diagnosis. My path there was high sensitivity, but off the scale in Aron's thinking. If that's 0-10, then I'm some way north of 1000.
I’m 99.9% sure my daughter is ASD/ADHD/SPD. I consider myself ND, but not exactly sure where I fit. I known I struggle with executive dysfunction and auditory processing disorder, as well as what I call “if you give a mouse a cookie” syndrome. I tend to look at people’s mouth when they talk in order to help me hear (APD). I didn’t think I had black-white thinking but with the description given, perhaps I do. I can fake being NT for a bit, but then I hit a wall and just crash.
Wait. I need to rehear everything to actually hear everything. I always miss on processing what I hear and I have to hear it again sometimes even twice or thrice to actually understand what is being said.
I'm sorry, I had to pause the video to ask a question. Is the Beowulf book in the background about the Old English literature or computing clusters? I'm guessing literature, because of Great Expectations next to it, but am still curious.
Something compelled me to watch this video at 430 in the morning and I’m glad I did cause man 21/21 uhhh. I’ve had a horrible time with stimming my entire life! I currently have tendinitis because I can’t stop gripping things and fabrics and blankets if that makes sense.. I sucked my thumb til I was 13 stopped and started ruining all of my hoodies where the sleeve ends. I pick my eyelashes a lot too but I have gotten better at not doing that. Time blindness for me is so horrible I have been fired from a job and close to being fired at my previous one just for my attendance! I am a very hard worker but that’s my only flaw! I’m constantly late to everything! It doesn’t matter how long I have I absolutely hate it! Literally everything on this list I can relate to! I was writing notes and putting multiple checkmarks next to every number. Think I need some therapy maybe. Thank you for this video I need to research stimming asap.
I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know
Theres nothing wrong with you. It’s just that you have a different way of processing. Find out what your strengths are and how to use them to your advantage.
This is my experience that stressing and overwhelming things u might have. Kf you have genuine concern and its inhibiting daily life, talk to a professional or someone who can help you.
@@joshuamclean4588 Thank you, I've discussed things with my parents and they're setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist sometime this month, Hopefully I'll get an idea what I have and move on from there
I cannot tell you how much I can identify. But my therapist helped me accept myself and remember that you know you more than anyone else. I wish you well!
Just diagnosed age 51. I had 3 decades of treatment for anxiety and depression. A decade of that was at the same clinic! Hard to come to terms with that and keep questioning “do I really have it”? I actually got mad at the therapist for mentioning it. I thought “is she listening to me”. Then spoke to my psych doc who screened me and I have it. The same doc saw for years for 15min for my monthly meds. Second therapist confirmed after some sessions that she believes I do and it was that non linear conversing she sees so often with ADHD. Start off with a topic then get in the weeds off into another thing etc and eventually come back to the point. Oh, how I wish I could just GET TO THE POINT! Sorry, thanks for putting up with me.
I get it. My daughter probably knows more about my diagnosis' than I do and she explains this stuff to me. I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar and a few comorbities. I feel absolutely dumb when the simplest things fly past my understanding especially when I can explain quantum theories and other highly complex topics. It is very frustrating. I learned to laugh at myself and if others can't laugh with me I walk away.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts. ... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...
If you're highly sensitive, you definitely might be autistic, I just made a new video comparing autism and the highly sensitive person, maybe check it out!
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
extorverts can have anxiety to just because they get energy from being around people doesnt mean they dont have anxiety and some intoverts dont have anxiety
Just because you're really sensitive, that doesn't mean you're for sure autistic though. I am def a sensitive person but I'm not autistic, ADHD probably lol in the process of diagnosis currently.
I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another
I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
@@joelfaceI do the same thing! It takes me a minute to grasp things But I do really like how clearly she spoke and direct I hate dragged out videos and didn't have to fast forward to get to the point which was nice
16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.
Im 25 and i feel as if i hit 16 points as well. I dont know what to do with myself and don't know how to do life's "basics" despite growing up normally.
Yes - dishes are a pain in the patootie! I chunk the task, washing cups, then bowls, plates, tupperware and pots last. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and other times I am physically exhausted with the thought of washing one more spoon! I can also get distracted by other stimulii, so much so, that my kids are not allowed to chat with me when I'm doing dishes. I do my best to hyperfocus on the task, being mindful to enjoy the warmth of the water and to internally give praise and petition my creator for help.
@@elementaryfundamentals I kind of do the same, except that I reward myself by watching youtube or some other type of entertainment (britcoms, etc.) on my cellphone. We're all in this together! (Quote from Red of the Red Green show)
Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@@Keturah53 - I was hit by a junior school teacher in the 1950s for being different and made to stand in the corridor for being unable to write my name. Children who appeared disobedient were sent to be caned by the headmistress 😢 I am undiagnosed (Aspergers) high functioning autistic with devastating lifelong (70 years) OCD - I don’t know about ADHD which is a relatively recent diagnosis. I am a published author and have a Bachelors joint honours degree in Biology- Geology - not so stupid then!
Hi, I am 40 years old and even for me growing up all these symptoms where considered disciplinary issues, now I look back and wonder how many people like us did we lose because society let them fall through the cracks. It makes me happy that things are changing, it gives me hope for the new generations coming up, I'm excited that we may get to see through them what our real potential could have been.
I was diagnosed as ADHD inattentive type for a decade and a half. Earlier this year, however, I related a few things like how differently from others I responded in my youth to sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis. My psychiatrist rediagnosed me and two sessions later started changing my medications. As an adult the H isn't as obvious for me, and as a child I seldom had any of those substances, if at all; so being introverted and a bookworm and apparently autistic, I didn't stand out particularly as hyperactive. In retrospect I can see how some of my odd behaviors were my unique expression of hyperactivity. Interesting and weird to figure out these things decades later in life, isn't it? And times HAVE changed. Yet "support" programs in schools still teach autistic kids to feel "less than" rather than differently abled, which is tragic. Now their categorized as wrong and in need of assistance rather than fully capable if the world would accommodate differences.
I agree. To me, executive dysfunction is like "not having a secretary in your brain"; the difficulties in handling tasks come from not being able to allocate the appropriate mental resources to them 🤔
I may have misidentified ADHD and lack of executive function as the "i-do-what-want-and-feel-like" while I'm operating the one that knows better. After a reeeal breakdown i decided to make up some reasonable truths to help convince myself to do what i should, so basically manipulate my self into wanting what i should. Opens up for some pretty good joke deflections. "what do you mean?" Me: "I have no idea, but with your help, i believe we can get to the bottom of it" i like to guess some things... sometimes people hear me aggressively when i didnt mean it to be. or dont understand what they heard because i dont concieve a way for it to be offensive at all..... I did have a training manager tell me ON MY FIRST DAY, "Its hard to get fired here" i was following him and dramatically stopped and looked at him until he turned around, "Don't tell me that, why? my subconscious is going to take that as a challenge!" he laughed and over the next 6 months.... well covid shut the place down but it was getting close.
I'm in rage mode but for guys it's friend or foe ? Right now it's usually foe nobody likes me I stole their land and they believe it I've never owned land in my life .
I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent. She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.) We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to. Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!
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I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗
I relate so much to video that I literally want to cry... from relief. I don't know if there is help out there for neuro divergent people because I have seen so many doctors, therapist and physiatrist and nothing has come of it. Actually, had one doctor leave the room while I was still in my appointment with him. I would love if someone could guide me in the right direction to coping or living with this because a "normal" life doesn't seem plausible. In fact, whenever people would call me weird (I get this reaction in 99% of people I meet) I just say normal is boring and try not to let the comment hang over me. You described me and for once I feel seen. If you want to be friends. I'll be you're friend.
@@TrinityTalks hey, I totally hear you. I'm actually a neurodivergent life coach and I'd be happy to work with you! If you want to set up an initial meeting for just $15, here's the link: neurodivergentmagic.com/coaching
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.
Yup, HSP who was denied an autism diagnosis for stupid reasons (apparently: my eye contact is good (this was on ZOOM), I have "reciprocal friendships" and my tone is appropriate in conversation). There are TV presenters with autism, I'm not sure this assessor knows what masking is... But yeah I use the term 'neurodivergent' since no one wants to diagnose/help me. I've had traits since childhood and have since learned to mask, and it's extremely difficult to 'unmask'.
I feel the same way. I'm definitely an HSP but haven't been "diagnosed"...I resonated with almost all of these. It's a relief to have this space and education of neurodivergent people. Thank you.
This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅 It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼
We may not be able to 'educate' everyone around us as to what our idiosyncratic traits and tics are and exactly how they should approach us. That would be an almost ludicrous situation if everyone was doing it. Can you change your techniques of relating to each and every person you encounter? This one ADHD, that one EAD, the other one is Bipolar, and that one over their is just plain old psychotic.....ya know? We must figure out our own selves and how to navigate our lives, instead of assuming that everyone else should know how we need to be taught and related to differently than the other students. Our life is our job. It's nice when family and friends know us well enough and can cater to us sometimes that way. But to kind of expect the world to do that is asking for a lot.....probably asking for a lot of disappointment, in my opinion.
I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.
I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26. I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉 Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction. I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others. I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD. I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)
Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub I dunno if you would know, but is a lot of miscommunication/arguments about silly/inconsequential stuff typical in a neurodivergent family, to the point where it seems constant and exhausting, yet it never seems to affect the family bond? Like normal sibling squabbles, but they’re almost lawyering each other over details? I know this sounds typical, but it doesn’t feel typical compared to other sibling dynamics I’ve seen. I have four kids ages 6-11 and my youngest was dx’d with ADD recently, but it’s clear to me that that’s not the only neurodivergence in the family lol, myself included. We’re in the process of getting our mental health squared away this year
Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠
Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I have CPTSD but now I don't know if I have ADHD overlapped or is just the emotional disregulation and that I feel stuck in freeze response. Before I had the final burn out I was very organized and competent and everytime I make the Myers Briggs test I come out as INFJ but I'm quite talkative but I don't know if is due to my CPTSD since being in silence when I'm with people feels threatening plus my people's pleasing behavior...I don't know what to think 😂 I have lost trust in psychologist so, maybe I will never find out.
I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.
i think i might be neurodivergent so i tried to talk to my mom about it but she says i’m not.. she thinks that just because she got a psychology degree she can just diagnose me with whatever she wants and completely disregard what i say i think i have
Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's so hard to figure this stuff out as a minor without access to your own healthcare to see the proper specialists. In the meantime, maybe try living life assuming you are neurodivergent and use coping mechanisms from the neurodivergent community and see if that helps? And if not, go back to assuming you're not neurodivergent and seeing if there are other ways to cope. Regardless, you're struggling and that should be taken seriously 💜
I had exactly the same with my mum. She is also a psychologist and when I was 15 I told her I wanted to see a therapist. She said I'm still doing too well to see one. I'm exaggerating. Now with 27 I've been seeing a therapist for two years. It's never too late but you should talk to your doctor privately when possible. Best wishes to you.
I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!
UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!
@@raginbakin1430 Of course no two brains are truly the same. But fact is, that our society is based on a "standard" and brains, which only differ slightly from what is considered the standard, won't have as much of a hard time living in that society and especially won't have to mask as much, because their way of thinking/acting is considered within the norm. Try to look at it like a normal distribution (Gaussian bell curve). The closer your brain is to the highest point on the curve (the "standard"), the more you would be called a neurotypical (even if it differs slightly from others within that definition in some ways). If the way your brain thinks fits more on a side of the curve, which only encompasses approx. 2 % of all human brains, you can, by definition, be called neurodivergent, because there aren't that many brains that work similar to yours AND the society we live in isn't cut out for brains on that side of the curve.
And to say that everyone is neurodivergent because everyone has a slightly different brain, to me is somewhat like saying everyone has Epidermolysis because everyone has skin, so everyone can get blisters and wounds on their skin...
Your opinion is of course yours alone, just please don't belittle the struggles that truly neurodivergent people may have in our society by stating that everyone is neurodivergent (and thereby invalidating the very existence of those which truly fall under the definition of neurodivergent). It reminds me of "just try harder, everyone has problems"... It is already proven, that e.g. ADHDers have actual differences in their brains compared to the "standard".
Not everyone is neurodivergent😐🚶🏽
@@raginbakin1430 now that you go into more detail, I think I understand where you're coming from. To me it just feels belittling to say, that everyone is neurodivergent, if we live in a society that holds a neurotypical standard, although you might not meant it that way. Just because people, that differ a lot from said standard do tend to have it much much harder, so to me it feels invalidating to those experiences.
For me personally it just made such a huge difference to realize that I'm neurodivergent, and not just slower, weirder and more awkward (and in some cases dumber e.g. memory) than most of my peers, since I also got bullied a lot when I was younger, only to realize later on that my brain just works differently than theirs, and they weren't able to accept that. I maybe got triggered a bit to easily there, I'm sorry, especially since from you're second comment I understood that you actually didn't mean it in a bad or belittling way, but more as a criticism of our society.
I believe I have mixed bipolar and adhd. My life’s a world a contradictions, confusing stress and the list goes on lmao. I’m currently being treated and awaiting assessment. I suffer with Manic/polar eyes
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
List for those trying to keep up.
1. Time Blindness
2. Executive Dysfunction
3. Task Multiplying
4. Inconsistent Sleep needs
5. Emotional Dysregulation
6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations
7. Missing the Obvious
8. Sensory Sensitivities
9. Rejection Sensitivity
10. Auditory Processing Disorder
11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns
12. Eye Contact
13. Rich Internal World
14. Narrow Range of Stimulation
15. Low Frustration Tolerance
16. Shame Based Motivation
17. Stimming
18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication
19. Black or White Thinking
20. Nonlinear Thinking
21. No Brain Secretary
I scrolled only for this, thank u 🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏
Thank u soo much for this bro 🙏
Welp!!! 😂
PSA autism cannot and should not be cured. It is a neurotype not a disease. If anyone contacts you claiming they can cure your (or your child's) autism. Please ignore them.
I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it
I absolutely relate to this. Idk if you saw my video about it, but I self-diagnosed with autism and turned out to be wrong and it was so embarrassing. But then...I survived. So my advice is to explore the ADHD diagnosis, and if you're wrong, so what? Better to explore and check it out!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub thank you I appreciate it 🥰
If you have insurance, try to get a neuropsychological exam to help with a diagnosis!
Oh God same here man. Maybe that's a good thing. Diagnosis wise not for our mental health lol
A lot of people have both.
I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.
The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!
Thanks! I believe I first heard it from @howtoadhd
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
Yes!!!!😮😮😮
I used to call my husband, my brain, because he would remind me of dates and times or if I turned off the stove or locked the doors. Now I put reminders, alarms, and timers in my phone.
Wow, the way you said that just hit me. But it really is just like that. For me the problem is that my brain defaults to literally EVERYTHING being put to the front of the queue as URGENT, which makes me try do do everything at the same time, resulting in wheels just spinning in the sand.; I never really saw it that way before. Now that I can see it, I wonder if there is a way to fix or at least manage it so I can live effectively.
NZT 48, anybody?
I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)
Reading this was strange, because it's like I wrote it myself. I'm also very outgoing and energetic around my family and close friends, but in front of people I don't know well, I'm an entirely different person: quiet, anxious, reserved and awkward. I'm also very sensitive to sounds and noise, and have a low tolerance for socializing, my social battery drains completely after an hour, after which I'm just forcing my way through painful encounter after another.
So, I'm not sure if I am neurodivergent, but I'm 77% convinced that I belong on one spectrum or another.
@@wildflo267 glad Im not the only one 😅
Same, exactly the same
OMG YES!!!! I'm like this too!
This is exactly me.
My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently
Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor.
I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve.
Thanks for this brilliant video!
thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally"
it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
This is more to say if this sounds like you, you might understand yourself better and if you want to talk to a Dr. about a diagnosis.
Oh my gosh I feel so so seen even though I've been diagnosed as a neurodivergent, I still love to learn so much about it. Thank you !
Omg, I'm so glad this makes you feel seen, that's the whole idea. Sending you lots of love!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.
Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤
Thank you so much! This made me cry so much. I was recently dx with adult adhd and all my life I have struggled so much. This dx was not an easy one for me to receive because of the way of how society labels adhd and how “skipped” from the way it should be handled. (I dont even know how to explain this). But, I have been trying to start loving myself again and getting to know myself again with these new “set of eyes”. Life has been hard! :(
I'm so glad you e been getting to know yourself again through the lens of your new diagnsois. I hope it makes you feel seen, despite the stigma that comes with it. Just remember, being neurodivergent isn't a bad thing. You are good 💜
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub thank you so much! I appreciate you!
Thank you for this video!
I relate to all of the signs, but I'm not sure if they really mean that I'm neurodivergent. I'm in the process of self-diagnosing now (yep, I want to be sure I'm not feigning autism before actually asking my therapist about it), and I've realised I don't really understand whether my emotions and feelings are actually different or I'm just exaggerating things. Probably, I should thank my parents for that because I've heard phrases like 'You're making things up', 'You're exaggerating', 'People don't feel it like that, that's not normal' all my childhood, so I quickly understood that sharing your emotions, feelings and interests leads only to shaming and devaluation.
I got interested in neurodivergent topics mostly bc of elyse myers who i find absolutely hysterical and want to understand more. These videos have been popping
up in recommended a lot and you have the first video that is making disclaimers and discussing very real, specific and major parts of the disorder. I can realistically see how others are affected and how i don’t relate but want to understand.
In other videos about how anyone could have autism, it’s incredibly vague and the symptoms sound like a horoscope reading. There is zero disclaimers and big sweeping generalizations for diagnosing. 🙏So thank you for making something that is very clear and understanding for all audiences rather than trying to make every viewer and every symptom mean a disease which is sadly becoming the norm for all psych based content.
I've watched a lot of these videos, and there are things here I've never heard about anywhere else--like task multiplying and time blindness.
Smart lady! I didn't know I had adhd till my daughter was diagnosed. Now, all my struggles make sense.
thank you so much for this video. it was extremely informative and i was really surprised, for the quality of the video, why you have so few subs!!!! subbed :D can't wait to see more content
Awww, thank you!!!! I'm so glad you liked the video! I'm a newer UA-camr, so hopefully the subs will come with time (:
Thank you for creating this! I just learned so much!
Excellent and presented very well.
I've watched several videos like this lately, and feel like they are part of helping me find my voice. It I'd helping me understand myself better.
Thank you for being part of that.
Thanks for Hosting this site. Loads of information to process.
Advantages for being labelled with autism are:
-Makes you feel better about being strange.
-Can get a disabled badge for all best parking spots.
-Can get extra time in exams
-Sympathy and attention
-Hope that normal people will accept you now.
Disadvantages include
-Not being taken seriously or listened to
-Before you were a little odd, now you’re CONFIRMED strange, bye bye friends!
-Everyone now treading on eggshells around you, treating you with pity and being condescending.
-Job applications go straight in bin (never put you’re autistic btw)
-Funny looks and tutting when parking in the disabled bay
-Never taken seriously by any medical practitioner when going in for an unrelated topic, everything just put down to autism and being a hypochondriac
It is for the latter reasons, I will forever remain a closet autistic in my own strange, yet happy little bubble. I actually feel empowered, that no one has any ammunition to fire at me, because I’ve got no label. Apologies if I’ve offended anyone, I’m fully aware that some NEED a diagnosis, it’s just my alternative take on the matter, freedom of speech and all that.
I’m 32 and finally taking the steps for diagnosis. I’ve been pretty much 100 percent sure I’ve had ADD for a while. This video is very helpful! Thank you
Thank you for providing the term Task Multiplying. I have especially been grappling with this more and more. Seeing subtle reactions or things around me, others often miss getting dismissed due to it. CAPD is also an interesting condition and to save you a lot of money if you get an older audio recorder and plugging a head phone to your ears try reading and annunciating for 20 minutes a day will help the brain process sound and words.
Wow. As I sit here in bed bc I can’t bring myself to go to work more than 2 days in a row, at the edges of an Autistic shutdown, I came across your video. I have a solid 21 out of 21 of your indicators. Not that I’m surprised; actually, I’m comforted in a way. I’m wondering if other Autistic people had the same childhood quirks that I did: I never crawled-I just stood up and walked one day, but always on tiptoes. I had pathologically severe insomnia but when I did sleep I had nightmares and night terrors. There are many more, but here’s one last particularly odd one: at the age of 2, i surreptitiously stole little “grownup” items (stamps, bandaids, thimbles, etc-but just one of each) and hid them in a pencil box. I still wonder about that one. Anyway, thank you! Liked and subbed!
Wow! I have ADHD but never knew i could have all this and possibly be autistic too!
Wow. That was mind-blowing. Yes, several things on the list resonated with me very accurately. What a relief to hear your descriptions. Now I understand. Thanks!
lovely video full of kind words and explanations. your metaphors made me feel seen. thank you
This is my favorite. The way you say word things is excellent. I really liked some of the distinctions that were pointed out.
I have always considered myself hyper aware of what others are thinking and feeling and notice many subtle details (which I thought was counter to the spectrum). But somehow it may also be true that I am often missing 'social cues' especially if they are the inauthentic type. But still I identify withunderstanding others and social dynamics much more than not.
I tried to get an adhd eval, but they wouldn't do it because my depression and anxiety weren't managed well enough...Finding the right cocktail of psych meds is taking forever for me. 😢
Yes to the 'no brain secretary' (and so many of the others, but this one jumped out at me). How I always explain it to people is that everything comes in at the same 'volume' or level of importance. Neurotypical people can filter out what's extraneous or unimportant; not me! It can be pretty exhausting.
I self diagnosed myself and I thought I had ADHD but my mom took me to a doctor for a test, turns out I have both ADHD and autism. This is when I was 11
Thank you. I highly suspect I'm Neurodivergent. I have suspected this for a while. The last time I brought it up to a professional I was dismissed. I'm going to try to confront my doctor with my concerns again. This time with a list of my symptoms.
Your voice is like ASMR delivery for neurodivergent information ongod
21 signs!? I can't wait that long!
Every single one of them, indeed.
I'm bipolar type 2, kinda knew that more than a decade before getting diagnosed at 35.
Then after some therapy for that and CPTSD, we realized I have ADHD, diagnosed around age 38.
Then I stumbled upon HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and thereby got a better name for what I called all my life my Princess and the Pea. I found the Fall of the House of Usher profound as a kid.
At age 46 I was visiting cousins and stayed most of the two months with one that had self-diagnosed as autistic. Prior to spending that much time with him I was not convinced; but practically living with someone can change one's mind. While various forms of Depression, migraines, and gut problems run through my paternal-side family, so does artistic talent. One such cousin toured as a fiddler at age 10! Another made a living his whole life as an artistic painter with an MfA from Stanford. A few of us (there were 32 cousins of my generation) definitely have some autistic traits as well. So there's no question that neurodivergence runs genetically as well as epigenetically through my dad's side.
I got to thinking more about many of my awkward quirks that still couldn't be explained by any of my diagnoses. I delved deeper into personality types, CPTSD, clinical narcissism, and autism, to understand them all better. Come COVID-19 I relented and self-diagnosed as autistic, having several years of research behind me. Given I'm now 54 and on Disability and Medicare, and because assessment is very expensive, I will likely never get a formal diagnosis. That's mostly okay. I've now read a great deal and watched many youtube videos, found a few vloggers with personalities and histories incredibly similar to my own; so this exploration has reified my conclusion. I'm not a hypochondriac. I don't want more medications or labels. Thankfully I have FINALLY run out of personality and learning ability quirks and hangups to explain. I've finally opened the best toolboxes for my needs.
Fortunately autism usually does NOT manifest like the stereotypes. Most of us are relatively functional. We just live in a culture that doesn't value our different neurological wiring. I hope everyone that has made it to the end of my post-AND everyone that didn't 😆-finds HAPPINESS being neurodivergent or in knowing someone who is.
I dont have a hobby or special interest. I go through cycles of liking a game/tv program. Then 2-3 weeks later its something else
That’s also a “symptom” of ASD and I’m the same way.. I have micro hobbies.. I’ll start one and give a couple weeks then onto something else!
Expect for my rocks/crystals .. I will ALWAYS have my rocks/crystals 😂
@dabsallday9938 I have both ASD and ADHD, which is a nightmare non medicated due to ADHD medication disagreeing with me
I have just 6 or 7 of these. I definitely don't feel like I have ADHD, but still trying to figure out if I may be on the spectrum. Definitely feel neurodivergent though, never felt like everyone else.
There are only about four of these that do not apply to me. I say about because I lost count halfway through. We are also often labeled as “gifted” as children.
Today I said to my dad "when I put on my hazard lights, only one light shows on my dash, but I need to get someone to check they are working on the outside", he said "or you could just park the car and get out and check yourself"...erm. yeah. 51 years old. Lol. Didn't think of that. But i can read a room and know everything that is going on in a microsecond. Or design a completed complex costume in my mind in a flash and build it to perfection like a sweatshop robot.
Glad I discovered your channel today. Great content!!
In the first 3 minutes of this video, I have had to rewind it 4 times because I got distracted and/or could not focus.....yes, I have diagnosed ADHD. 🙂
20/21 Im gonna go and ask for a diagnosis in the future but holy cow is this video calling me out
im literally crying jn the bathroom rn with only 0:17 seconds of this video. i answered yes to all of the 3 intro questions (the second question is the reason i came to this video!!) and i don’t even use tiktok often, i only use it for iphone tips but now its filled with adhd life and tricks. im crying because i’ve been struggling with people’s acceptance for almost two years and there is only one person that supports me in getting diagnosed. unfortunately i still don’t work and can’t pay for any treatment, medical support or diagnose. unfortunately too, selfdiagnosed autism isn’t valid for “law-ish” stuff. also, my old psychiatrist already knew i have ADHD and i was being treated with medications for ADHDers but at some point of my life, things changed and i couldn’t go to the sessions anymore (distance things), i stopped the medications and couldn’t get the medical certificate as some sessions were still to be completed. here i am, almost ADHD “certificated”, self-diagnosed autistic and crying on the toilet.
edit: i checked 20/21, i guess
when you said "see black and white" i literally thought about the colors and i was like "wait a moment..." 🕴🏻i felt so identified with the 21 sings, i have a friend who told me (even when i didn't told him anything about how i was feeling) that i probably have adhd, and this was about 2 years ago, and i've tried to go to a therapist but it just won't work for me because in my country mental health is just not so important and that makes me feel very sad because i don't know if one day i could be diagnosed so that i can afford living this way... :c
So much of what you said resonated with me. So much so I'm actually trying to figure out why I didn't put two and two together year's ago. I've spent countless hour's studying the why's of life on my own and at university just trying to make sense of why I was treated a certain way as a child. Why my parents behaved the way they did towards me. Why I always or should I say had healthy social interactions when meeting new people to those people becoming my tormentors or bullies in a matter of weeks. I had so many questions as to why everyone eventually behaved a certain way towards me. I studied psychological responses and behavioral science just to gain an understanding as to why I seemed to bring out the worst in everyone I came in contact with as a child, adolescent and teenager. This also happened as a young adult. I never thought to look within myself and reflect. Maybe try to gain a prospective from a different angle. My childhood was abusive as far as beatings were concerned. I was never good enough. I was told I didn't try hard enough. I always could've done better. I did my best to strive at everything I did. In many instances whatever I was focused on almost became an obsession at time's. I competitively skated. I modeled. I kept my appearance as perfect as possible. I projected an image of polite young lady with manners. I was overly accommodating. I went out of my way to make other's feel welcome and accepted. I did whatever I could to keep everyone happy, but myself. I didn't exist. I was the image my parents expected me to be. If I wasn't there were painful consequences I had to face. I always seemed to have one consequence after another. I had a difficult time in school. I wasn't scholasticly inclined. I was taken to the eye doctor because the notion was maybe I just couldn't see as well as I should. I was taken to the ear doctor because maybe I just wasn't able to hear as well as I should. I saw a child psychologist because I would have these uncontrollable fits of rage behind closed doors of course. Never did these occur in public. That would've been to my detriment. My sleeping patterns were terrible. When I went to sleep( if I did sleep) I would be at the foot of my bed in the morning and my sheets, comforter, etc would be in total disarray. My mother would tell me and others I slept like a football player trying to make a touchdown by the end of the night. I struggled with so many thing's yet tried so hard to make my struggles right. I always questioned why I couldn't do anything right. I was told I was lazy in school and at home. I was told I was overly sensitive and to stop being so sensitive. I was taught not to cry. If I did it was another consequence I had to endure. Not crying has affected my life as an adult immensely. Crying was a sign of weakness and I was not permitted to do so. The only time I cry is when I'm in massive amounts of pain or out of pure frustration because I can't cause bodily harm to the person who's tormenting me and homicide is illegal and frowned upon in our society. Wink, wink. I've had to fight for everything in my life. I've honestly never had a break to heal or just breath. I've survived five family suicides and three family murders. There's much more I haven't mentioned. I've been isolated the last 4 year's. The first three months I went in my room and only came out to use the restroom and get food otherwise I layed in bed and listened to music. I came to the conclusion this was the highs and lows of my spiritual awakening. After three months I emerged from my room. I still haven't left my property in 4 year's. When I attempt to leave I feel other's energy or the energy of what's taking place in our world. I either get a massive migraine and nauseous or seriously stressed out and feel emotions that are definitely not mine. I feel I'm exactly where I need to be at the moment. If I need anything I order it online or my husband gets what I need. I'm not in the best of health and was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma before the pandemic. I refused to get vaccinated so my care ceased. I'm holding my own and going the holistic route. I'm still alive. Everything you shared struck a chord and now I want to explore it more. My apologies for writing a novel. I felt like a door has been opened and some relief of understanding is taking place. Thank you for that. Much respect and love sent your way.🩷
Recently got a thread unpicker so I can remove the tags from my clothing. Life-changing! Seriously, so cheap and simple but so effective!! Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find effective solutions for my other sensory issues (even thinking about nail files sends horrible shivers down my spine like nails on a chalkboard, and I need space around my neck. I can't deal with tops with high necks or crew necks because I feel like I'm going to be sick. Merch is always crew necks so I can't rep my hobbies 😢). Any tips for those things are appreciated haha
Never knew that there are symptoms for autism along with symptoms of having eating disorders leading to exponential weight gains. And together leading obesities and emotional distinctions.
You know, I had a thought on this topic as a whole.
First, prepare yourself to be given a short background of myself. Forgive me, you have no choice, since my CEO proclaims I MUST TELL EVERYONE THE BACKGROUND BRIEF!
lol I laughed at my own metaphoric cleverness.
So I had absolutely no idea I could be autistic, but looking at this video, and others about the topic, my daughter being diagnosed, and me scoring in the "gifted" range on an IQ test, and the correlation to high IQ and autism, I am thoroughly convinced, yet undiagnosed as autistic.
Every single one of your 21 things, you told my story. I wrote this. Well I started to write it, but found that I needed three perfect pen, which I tend searched online for the best price, and instead of spending money I was going to use a gift card, but where use that gift card? So I went to look for it and found a sewing project I totally meant to finish... Then my phone rang and I forgot everything and started playing a game on my phone.
I get upset very easily I don't like physical touch I am shy and social cues are hard I am also 20 years old and I still have autism and adhd combined although now have adult adhd because I am 20 years
It's been weeks, months even, that i started to think I might be neurodivergent, and maybe with adhd and/or autism. I resonate with almost every one of these descriptions but I delayed contacting anyone to actually diagnose myself. The point is: I may end up being such, but it could also be like I'm not. Either way, what do I do? Even if I'm not neurodivergent or with autism, what the hell do I do to cope with everything? Im stuck in this part of my life and I can not find a place in this world to have a purpose. The fact that I can't find a work makes it even harder. Im crying rn writing this but even if I know, I KNOW that I'm somehow different from everyone else I still can't find the way to move forward. I don't know what to do and i feel like I'm wasting time, years of my life with no other result than being left alone while everyone keep on going, feeling every day more lonely. I don't know how to help myself, nor anyone to ask for the same help. I started studying again but at some point I feel like it's worthless and lack for motivation, I am a lot of things but nothing at the same time. I'm fkn stuck and tired of blaming myself while finding no other escape goat to blame and/or find the strength to do anything.
1) Is with "inconsistent sleep needs" also included that one have almost every night nightmares and needs to sleep (in puberty 12-14 hours sleep) and in adulthood 9-11 hours (i survive with 7-8 hours but without an alarm i sleep longer and feel better)?
2) Can someone explain "rich internal world" further? For example i prefer to spend my freetime with a dive in fantasy worlds (books, series or own imagination/ writing) and i think a lot (my thoughts are almost never quiet).
Eye contact is my downfall. I am so hyper aware that I don’t act “normal” when hanging around people and if I didn’t change that I would never look anybody in the eye I would just look anywhere but there face. However I try to fix that and end up just staring directly into their eyes for the entire length they talk to me probably not even blinking half the time and I honestly just find it so funny cause it’s so stupid that I can’t have an in between 🤣
I have that exact edition of Beowulf I think, at least the spine looks the same
Option 22: get yourself a diagnosis for both. Imma head out
Neurodivergent! Well I was told in dec of 1996 that my then 5 year old daughter has Autism. The professionals spoke actually of atypical Austim. I thought "What the hell is Austim?"
Then in jan of 1997 I was sent to another professional with the question "can she be Autistic herself, just as her daughter is?" The answer still bothers me and I find it to include prejudice:
"Because she has finished a formal studies at the university it would be incorrect to put the label "Autistic on her... I will write that she has Asperger syndrome" And the doctor did just that. My official diagnosis is Asperger Syndrome. As the years passed, I learnt more and more about Autism, Asperger syndrome and more. I have relatives who have diagnosis of ADHD. I do have what the professionals call "ADD" and I what to call... ADhD. H being Hyper but h being hypo. And that is what I am: hypo active. Not able to start or finish corectl without lots of trying and giveing up, starting trying again and just keep going knowing I often need help to finish things.
As for the Autism part? Both I AND my daughter are typical Autistic. I do not think that my daughter has either ADD nor ADHD or ADhD. But as she had not started school... she has only ever been in Autism section. They used TEACH system and she could do so much more that was ever tried to teach her. It is a shame. but not even I knew better then.
Please allow space for other conditions. I've just given up on my umpteenth support forum because I'm in a minority category, gifted. No, I'm not Aspie, as diagnosed: fortunately my weird did it's thing during the testing, adding hyperperception to the diagnosis. My path there was high sensitivity, but off the scale in Aron's thinking. If that's 0-10, then I'm some way north of 1000.
I’m 99.9% sure my daughter is ASD/ADHD/SPD. I consider myself ND, but not exactly sure where I fit. I known I struggle with executive dysfunction and auditory processing disorder, as well as what I call “if you give a mouse a cookie” syndrome. I tend to look at people’s mouth when they talk in order to help me hear (APD). I didn’t think I had black-white thinking but with the description given, perhaps I do.
I can fake being NT for a bit, but then I hit a wall and just crash.
When i went to my doctor, he just said no multiple times and like- ididn't even read 1/4 of my notes? 😭
I have both Autistic and have ADHD
Wait. I need to rehear everything to actually hear everything. I always miss on processing what I hear and I have to hear it again sometimes even twice or thrice to actually understand what is being said.
Eye contact don’t know her😂 I was staring at your books the whole video😂during conversations I’ll just stare at whatever’s behind people
I'm sorry, I had to pause the video to ask a question. Is the Beowulf book in the background about the Old English literature or computing clusters? I'm guessing literature, because of Great Expectations next to it, but am still curious.
i got like, 17 of these, but i'm not a hundred percet sure of some
HEEEEELLLOOOOO!!!
I've got Every. Single. One.
I always just thought I was a weirdo. 😂😂
I litteraly have 19 of these I do not know what to do
🥹 Thanks for sharing this!
Something compelled me to watch this video at 430 in the morning and I’m glad I did cause man 21/21 uhhh. I’ve had a horrible time with stimming my entire life! I currently have tendinitis because I can’t stop gripping things and fabrics and blankets if that makes sense.. I sucked my thumb til I was 13 stopped and started ruining all of my hoodies where the sleeve ends. I pick my eyelashes a lot too but I have gotten better at not doing that. Time blindness for me is so horrible I have been fired from a job and close to being fired at my previous one just for my attendance! I am a very hard worker but that’s my only flaw! I’m constantly late to everything! It doesn’t matter how long I have I absolutely hate it! Literally everything on this list I can relate to! I was writing notes and putting multiple checkmarks next to every number. Think I need some therapy maybe. Thank you for this video I need to research stimming asap.
I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know
Theres nothing wrong with you. It’s just that you have a different way of processing. Find out what your strengths are and how to use them to your advantage.
This is my experience that stressing and overwhelming things u might have. Kf you have genuine concern and its inhibiting daily life, talk to a professional or someone who can help you.
@@joshuamclean4588 Thank you, I've discussed things with my parents and they're setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist sometime this month, Hopefully I'll get an idea what I have and move on from there
Love you.
I cannot tell you how much I can identify. But my therapist helped me accept myself and remember that you know you more than anyone else. I wish you well!
I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 20 years ago, and this video had me in tears because I don't think I've ever felt so seen.
All the best to you, keep fighting i got diagnosed when im 43 and struggling to come to terms with it...
Same, diagnosed with ADHD *exactly* 20 years ago at 19, and this video pretty much hit all or nearly all of them for me
Just diagnosed age 51. I had 3 decades of treatment for anxiety and depression. A decade of that was at the same clinic! Hard to come to terms with that and keep questioning “do I really have it”? I actually got mad at the therapist for mentioning it. I thought “is she listening to me”. Then spoke to my psych doc who screened me and I have it. The same doc saw for years for 15min for my monthly meds. Second therapist confirmed after some sessions that she believes I do and it was that non linear conversing she sees so often with ADHD. Start off with a topic then get in the weeds off into another thing etc and eventually come back to the point. Oh, how I wish I could just GET TO THE POINT! Sorry, thanks for putting up with me.
I get it. My daughter probably knows more about my diagnosis' than I do and she explains this stuff to me. I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar and a few comorbities. I feel absolutely dumb when the simplest things fly past my understanding especially when I can explain quantum theories and other highly complex topics. It is very frustrating. I learned to laugh at myself and if others can't laugh with me I walk away.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts.
... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...
If you're highly sensitive, you definitely might be autistic, I just made a new video comparing autism and the highly sensitive person, maybe check it out!
I can understand that
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extorverts can have anxiety to just because they get energy from being around people doesnt mean they dont have anxiety and some intoverts dont have anxiety
Just because you're really sensitive, that doesn't mean you're for sure autistic though. I am def a sensitive person but I'm not autistic, ADHD probably lol in the process of diagnosis currently.
I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another
I’m so sorry. 🙏 I hope his story helps others. Peace be with you.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for encouraging others.
I am sorry for your loss 🙏
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I’m so sorry, he’s in a good place though❤
I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂
Yes I agree so many videos don't get to the point I just switch them off . So thank you for direct information .
I actually did have to speed the video to 1.5x, but also agree that Megan was concise with her explanations (I can just get impatient at times).
I still watched it at 2x with subtitles. I wonder if that's a neurodivergent thing? ADHD specifically? That's what I think I have.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
@@joelfaceI do the same thing! It takes me a minute to grasp things
But I do really like how clearly she spoke and direct I hate dragged out videos and didn't have to fast forward to get to the point which was nice
16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.
@Maximumevent710 there is no cure, you are buying grass water
@Jane-co9ev SAME GOES FOR YOU
Im 25 and i feel as if i hit 16 points as well. I dont know what to do with myself and don't know how to do life's "basics" despite growing up normally.
Yes - dishes are a pain in the patootie! I chunk the task, washing cups, then bowls, plates, tupperware and pots last. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and other times I am physically exhausted with the thought of washing one more spoon! I can also get distracted by other stimulii, so much so, that my kids are not allowed to chat with me when I'm doing dishes. I do my best to hyperfocus on the task, being mindful to enjoy the warmth of the water and to internally give praise and petition my creator for help.
@@elementaryfundamentals I kind of do the same, except that I reward myself by watching youtube or some other type of entertainment (britcoms, etc.) on my cellphone. We're all in this together! (Quote from Red of the Red Green show)
Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@@Keturah53 - I was hit by a junior school teacher in the 1950s for being different and made to stand in the corridor for being unable to write my name. Children who appeared disobedient were sent to be caned by the headmistress 😢 I am undiagnosed (Aspergers) high functioning autistic with devastating lifelong (70 years) OCD - I don’t know about ADHD which is a relatively recent diagnosis. I am a published author and have a Bachelors joint honours degree in Biology- Geology - not so stupid then!
Hi, I am 40 years old and even for me growing up all these symptoms where considered disciplinary issues, now I look back and wonder how many people like us did we lose because society let them fall through the cracks. It makes me happy that things are changing, it gives me hope for the new generations coming up, I'm excited that we may get to see through them what our real potential could have been.
I was diagnosed as ADHD inattentive type for a decade and a half. Earlier this year, however, I related a few things like how differently from others I responded in my youth to sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis. My psychiatrist rediagnosed me and two sessions later started changing my medications. As an adult the H isn't as obvious for me, and as a child I seldom had any of those substances, if at all; so being introverted and a bookworm and apparently autistic, I didn't stand out particularly as hyperactive. In retrospect I can see how some of my odd behaviors were my unique expression of hyperactivity. Interesting and weird to figure out these things decades later in life, isn't it? And times HAVE changed. Yet "support" programs in schools still teach autistic kids to feel "less than" rather than differently abled, which is tragic. Now their categorized as wrong and in need of assistance rather than fully capable if the world would accommodate differences.
I agree. To me, executive dysfunction is like "not having a secretary in your brain"; the difficulties in handling tasks come from not being able to allocate the appropriate mental resources to them 🤔
Me to my brain: which one sounds familiar?
My brain: yes
Yeeeeeeep
Lol! YES!
I may have misidentified ADHD and lack of executive function as the "i-do-what-want-and-feel-like" while I'm operating the one that knows better. After a reeeal breakdown i decided to make up some reasonable truths to help convince myself to do what i should, so basically manipulate my self into wanting what i should. Opens up for some pretty good joke deflections. "what do you mean?"
Me: "I have no idea, but with your help, i believe we can get to the bottom of it"
i like to guess some things... sometimes people hear me aggressively when i didnt mean it to be. or dont understand what they heard because i dont concieve a way for it to be offensive at all.....
I did have a training manager tell me ON MY FIRST DAY, "Its hard to get fired here"
i was following him and dramatically stopped and looked at him until he turned around, "Don't tell me that, why? my subconscious is going to take that as a challenge!"
he laughed and over the next 6 months.... well covid shut the place down but it was getting close.
I'm in rage mode but for guys it's friend or foe ? Right now it's usually foe nobody likes me I stole their land and they believe it I've never owned land in my life .
same
stop describing meeeeeeeeeeee
Lol!
Same
I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent.
She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.)
We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to.
Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!
Thank you so much for sharing! I totally hear you when it comes to changes in routine. I like having every part of my day planned out, for sure.
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub exactly, I thought I was the only person who felt that way when my routine is changed or disturbed.
@@justsomerandominternetuser6379 right?? Turns out our brains just work a little different and there's millions of people just like us
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I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you
Aaahhhhhh, I'm so glad I could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗
Of course, thank you for watching! From here, maybe start researching neurodivergent accommodations and see if they help you!
I relate so much to video that I literally want to cry... from relief. I don't know if there is help out there for neuro divergent people because I have seen so many doctors, therapist and physiatrist and nothing has come of it. Actually, had one doctor leave the room while I was still in my appointment with him. I would love if someone could guide me in the right direction to coping or living with this because a "normal" life doesn't seem plausible. In fact, whenever people would call me weird (I get this reaction in 99% of people I meet) I just say normal is boring and try not to let the comment hang over me. You described me and for once I feel seen. If you want to be friends. I'll be you're friend.
@@TrinityTalks hey, I totally hear you. I'm actually a neurodivergent life coach and I'd be happy to work with you! If you want to set up an initial meeting for just $15, here's the link:
neurodivergentmagic.com/coaching
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub Call me crazy but I just set a meeting up. I've tried everything else, so why not?
@@TrinityTalks Can't wait to meet with you!
Thanks for this. Just subbed :) the analogy of the brain not having a secretary is a fantastic explanation for how I can get so quickly overwhelmed.
Yessss, it's one of my favorite analogies, I think I got it from @HowtoADHD here on UA-cam.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.
That's exactly how I feel!!! I'm just neurodivergent.
Same! HSP who also has some traits associated with autism but not all of them.
@@sofiesbookishadventures1865 you don't have to have all of them
Yup, HSP who was denied an autism diagnosis for stupid reasons (apparently: my eye contact is good (this was on ZOOM), I have "reciprocal friendships" and my tone is appropriate in conversation). There are TV presenters with autism, I'm not sure this assessor knows what masking is... But yeah I use the term 'neurodivergent' since no one wants to diagnose/help me. I've had traits since childhood and have since learned to mask, and it's extremely difficult to 'unmask'.
I feel the same way. I'm definitely an HSP but haven't been "diagnosed"...I resonated with almost all of these. It's a relief to have this space and education of neurodivergent people. Thank you.
This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
The different between you and me
Is that I'm not a therapist
@@axl256gamesx7 you could be if you want to
@@iPsychlops im more interested on videogame developing
But for a while I thought on being either a psychologist or a psychiatrist
@@iPsychlops not very interested on other medicine branches or similar
Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛
I'm so so glad this video could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
it took me 21 years to realize that most of the things i do aren’t what neurotypical people do and now i’m reevaluating my entire life
Right??? Me too
I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅
It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Same.
I developed a note taking framework that solves the secretary problem.
That's amazing!!!
I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼
We may not be able to 'educate' everyone around us as to what our idiosyncratic traits and tics are and exactly how they should approach us. That would be an almost ludicrous situation if everyone was doing it. Can you change your techniques of relating to each and every person you encounter? This one ADHD, that one EAD, the other one is Bipolar, and that one over their is just plain old psychotic.....ya know? We must figure out our own selves and how to navigate our lives, instead of assuming that everyone else should know how we need to be taught and related to differently than the other students. Our life is our job. It's nice when family and friends know us well enough and can cater to us sometimes that way. But to kind of expect the world to do that is asking for a lot.....probably asking for a lot of disappointment, in my opinion.
I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.
I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26.
I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉
Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction.
I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others.
I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD.
I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)
Misdiagnosed w bipolar two when I was 34. Properly diagnosed 6 months ago at age 59.
Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!
I'm so glad I could help!!!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub I dunno if you would know, but is a lot of miscommunication/arguments about silly/inconsequential stuff typical in a neurodivergent family, to the point where it seems constant and exhausting, yet it never seems to affect the family bond? Like normal sibling squabbles, but they’re almost lawyering each other over details? I know this sounds typical, but it doesn’t feel typical compared to other sibling dynamics I’ve seen. I have four kids ages 6-11 and my youngest was dx’d with ADD recently, but it’s clear to me that that’s not the only neurodivergence in the family lol, myself included. We’re in the process of getting our mental health squared away this year
@Fatima Mustapha mala Awful spammer!!
Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠
Oh my goodness, this comment made me smile. Thank you, and I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!
@Fatima Mustapha mala I will report you for spamming!
Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@Fatima Mustapha mala Go away! Autism can not be healed and I feel sorry for your poor son.
I have CPTSD but now I don't know if I have ADHD overlapped or is just the emotional disregulation and that I feel stuck in freeze response. Before I had the final burn out I was very organized and competent and everytime I make the Myers Briggs test I come out as INFJ but I'm quite talkative but I don't know if is due to my CPTSD since being in silence when I'm with people feels threatening plus my people's pleasing behavior...I don't know what to think 😂
I have lost trust in psychologist so, maybe I will never find out.
I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.
i think i might be neurodivergent so i tried to talk to my mom about it but she says i’m not.. she thinks that just because she got a psychology degree she can just diagnose me with whatever she wants and completely disregard what i say i think i have
Ugh, I'm so sorry. It's so hard to figure this stuff out as a minor without access to your own healthcare to see the proper specialists. In the meantime, maybe try living life assuming you are neurodivergent and use coping mechanisms from the neurodivergent community and see if that helps? And if not, go back to assuming you're not neurodivergent and seeing if there are other ways to cope. Regardless, you're struggling and that should be taken seriously 💜
@zachhillgaming when i told her about it she didn’t even know what neurodivergent was until she looked it up
I had exactly the same with my mum. She is also a psychologist and when I was 15 I told her I wanted to see a therapist. She said I'm still doing too well to see one. I'm exaggerating. Now with 27 I've been seeing a therapist for two years.
It's never too late but you should talk to your doctor privately when possible.
Best wishes to you.
I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!
Nolypies, I completely relate to you here.
There is really no such thing as a 'normal' human being. We are all on various scales of every way we think, learn, perform, cope with life etc. etc.