UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!
@@raginbakin1430 Of course no two brains are truly the same. But fact is, that our society is based on a "standard" and brains, which only differ slightly from what is considered the standard, won't have as much of a hard time living in that society and especially won't have to mask as much, because their way of thinking/acting is considered within the norm. Try to look at it like a normal distribution (Gaussian bell curve). The closer your brain is to the highest point on the curve (the "standard"), the more you would be called a neurotypical (even if it differs slightly from others within that definition in some ways). If the way your brain thinks fits more on a side of the curve, which only encompasses approx. 2 % of all human brains, you can, by definition, be called neurodivergent, because there aren't that many brains that work similar to yours AND the society we live in isn't cut out for brains on that side of the curve. And to say that everyone is neurodivergent because everyone has a slightly different brain, to me is somewhat like saying everyone has Epidermolysis because everyone has skin, so everyone can get blisters and wounds on their skin... Your opinion is of course yours alone, just please don't belittle the struggles that truly neurodivergent people may have in our society by stating that everyone is neurodivergent (and thereby invalidating the very existence of those which truly fall under the definition of neurodivergent). It reminds me of "just try harder, everyone has problems"... It is already proven, that e.g. ADHDers have actual differences in their brains compared to the "standard".
@@raginbakin1430 now that you go into more detail, I think I understand where you're coming from. To me it just feels belittling to say, that everyone is neurodivergent, if we live in a society that holds a neurotypical standard, although you might not meant it that way. Just because people, that differ a lot from said standard do tend to have it much much harder, so to me it feels invalidating to those experiences. For me personally it just made such a huge difference to realize that I'm neurodivergent, and not just slower, weirder and more awkward (and in some cases dumber e.g. memory) than most of my peers, since I also got bullied a lot when I was younger, only to realize later on that my brain just works differently than theirs, and they weren't able to accept that. I maybe got triggered a bit to easily there, I'm sorry, especially since from you're second comment I understood that you actually didn't mean it in a bad or belittling way, but more as a criticism of our society.
I believe I have mixed bipolar and adhd. My life’s a world a contradictions, confusing stress and the list goes on lmao. I’m currently being treated and awaiting assessment. I suffer with Manic/polar eyes
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I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it
I absolutely relate to this. Idk if you saw my video about it, but I self-diagnosed with autism and turned out to be wrong and it was so embarrassing. But then...I survived. So my advice is to explore the ADHD diagnosis, and if you're wrong, so what? Better to explore and check it out!
List for those trying to keep up. 1. Time Blindness 2. Executive Dysfunction 3. Task Multiplying 4. Inconsistent Sleep needs 5. Emotional Dysregulation 6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations 7. Missing the Obvious 8. Sensory Sensitivities 9. Rejection Sensitivity 10. Auditory Processing Disorder 11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns 12. Eye Contact 13. Rich Internal World 14. Narrow Range of Stimulation 15. Low Frustration Tolerance 16. Shame Based Motivation 17. Stimming 18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication 19. Black or White Thinking 20. Nonlinear Thinking 21. No Brain Secretary
PSA autism cannot and should not be cured. It is a neurotype not a disease. If anyone contacts you claiming they can cure your (or your child's) autism. Please ignore them.
I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know
Theres nothing wrong with you. It’s just that you have a different way of processing. Find out what your strengths are and how to use them to your advantage.
This is my experience that stressing and overwhelming things u might have. Kf you have genuine concern and its inhibiting daily life, talk to a professional or someone who can help you.
@@joshuamclean4588 Thank you, I've discussed things with my parents and they're setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist sometime this month, Hopefully I'll get an idea what I have and move on from there
I cannot tell you how much I can identify. But my therapist helped me accept myself and remember that you know you more than anyone else. I wish you well!
Just diagnosed age 51. I had 3 decades of treatment for anxiety and depression. A decade of that was at the same clinic! Hard to come to terms with that and keep questioning “do I really have it”? I actually got mad at the therapist for mentioning it. I thought “is she listening to me”. Then spoke to my psych doc who screened me and I have it. The same doc saw for years for 15min for my monthly meds. Second therapist confirmed after some sessions that she believes I do and it was that non linear conversing she sees so often with ADHD. Start off with a topic then get in the weeds off into another thing etc and eventually come back to the point. Oh, how I wish I could just GET TO THE POINT! Sorry, thanks for putting up with me.
I get it. My daughter probably knows more about my diagnosis' than I do and she explains this stuff to me. I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar and a few comorbities. I feel absolutely dumb when the simplest things fly past my understanding especially when I can explain quantum theories and other highly complex topics. It is very frustrating. I learned to laugh at myself and if others can't laugh with me I walk away.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.
Im 25 and i feel as if i hit 16 points as well. I dont know what to do with myself and don't know how to do life's "basics" despite growing up normally.
Yes - dishes are a pain in the patootie! I chunk the task, washing cups, then bowls, plates, tupperware and pots last. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and other times I am physically exhausted with the thought of washing one more spoon! I can also get distracted by other stimulii, so much so, that my kids are not allowed to chat with me when I'm doing dishes. I do my best to hyperfocus on the task, being mindful to enjoy the warmth of the water and to internally give praise and petition my creator for help.
@@elementaryfundamentals I kind of do the same, except that I reward myself by watching youtube or some other type of entertainment (britcoms, etc.) on my cellphone. We're all in this together! (Quote from Red of the Red Green show)
"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts. ... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...
If you're highly sensitive, you definitely might be autistic, I just made a new video comparing autism and the highly sensitive person, maybe check it out!
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
extorverts can have anxiety to just because they get energy from being around people doesnt mean they dont have anxiety and some intoverts dont have anxiety
Just because you're really sensitive, that doesn't mean you're for sure autistic though. I am def a sensitive person but I'm not autistic, ADHD probably lol in the process of diagnosis currently.
I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another
The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I used to call my husband, my brain, because he would remind me of dates and times or if I turned off the stove or locked the doors. Now I put reminders, alarms, and timers in my phone.
Wow, the way you said that just hit me. But it really is just like that. For me the problem is that my brain defaults to literally EVERYTHING being put to the front of the queue as URGENT, which makes me try do do everything at the same time, resulting in wheels just spinning in the sand.; I never really saw it that way before. Now that I can see it, I wonder if there is a way to fix or at least manage it so I can live effectively. NZT 48, anybody?
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
@@joelfaceI do the same thing! It takes me a minute to grasp things But I do really like how clearly she spoke and direct I hate dragged out videos and didn't have to fast forward to get to the point which was nice
I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent. She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.) We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to. Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!
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Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@@Keturah53 - I was hit by a junior school teacher in the 1950s for being different and made to stand in the corridor for being unable to write my name. Children who appeared disobedient were sent to be caned by the headmistress 😢 I am undiagnosed (Aspergers) high functioning autistic with devastating lifelong (70 years) OCD - I don’t know about ADHD which is a relatively recent diagnosis. I am a published author and have a Bachelors joint honours degree in Biology- Geology - not so stupid then!
Hi, I am 40 years old and even for me growing up all these symptoms where considered disciplinary issues, now I look back and wonder how many people like us did we lose because society let them fall through the cracks. It makes me happy that things are changing, it gives me hope for the new generations coming up, I'm excited that we may get to see through them what our real potential could have been.
I was diagnosed as ADHD inattentive type for a decade and a half. Earlier this year, however, I related a few things like how differently from others I responded in my youth to sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis. My psychiatrist rediagnosed me and two sessions later started changing my medications. As an adult the H isn't as obvious for me, and as a child I seldom had any of those substances, if at all; so being introverted and a bookworm and apparently autistic, I didn't stand out particularly as hyperactive. In retrospect I can see how some of my odd behaviors were my unique expression of hyperactivity. Interesting and weird to figure out these things decades later in life, isn't it? And times HAVE changed. Yet "support" programs in schools still teach autistic kids to feel "less than" rather than differently abled, which is tragic. Now their categorized as wrong and in need of assistance rather than fully capable if the world would accommodate differences.
I agree. To me, executive dysfunction is like "not having a secretary in your brain"; the difficulties in handling tasks come from not being able to allocate the appropriate mental resources to them 🤔
I may have misidentified ADHD and lack of executive function as the "i-do-what-want-and-feel-like" while I'm operating the one that knows better. After a reeeal breakdown i decided to make up some reasonable truths to help convince myself to do what i should, so basically manipulate my self into wanting what i should. Opens up for some pretty good joke deflections. "what do you mean?" Me: "I have no idea, but with your help, i believe we can get to the bottom of it" i like to guess some things... sometimes people hear me aggressively when i didnt mean it to be. or dont understand what they heard because i dont concieve a way for it to be offensive at all..... I did have a training manager tell me ON MY FIRST DAY, "Its hard to get fired here" i was following him and dramatically stopped and looked at him until he turned around, "Don't tell me that, why? my subconscious is going to take that as a challenge!" he laughed and over the next 6 months.... well covid shut the place down but it was getting close.
I'm in rage mode but for guys it's friend or foe ? Right now it's usually foe nobody likes me I stole their land and they believe it I've never owned land in my life .
I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26. I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉 Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction. I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others. I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD. I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)
My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently
Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼
We may not be able to 'educate' everyone around us as to what our idiosyncratic traits and tics are and exactly how they should approach us. That would be an almost ludicrous situation if everyone was doing it. Can you change your techniques of relating to each and every person you encounter? This one ADHD, that one EAD, the other one is Bipolar, and that one over their is just plain old psychotic.....ya know? We must figure out our own selves and how to navigate our lives, instead of assuming that everyone else should know how we need to be taught and related to differently than the other students. Our life is our job. It's nice when family and friends know us well enough and can cater to us sometimes that way. But to kind of expect the world to do that is asking for a lot.....probably asking for a lot of disappointment, in my opinion.
I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.
I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)
Reading this was strange, because it's like I wrote it myself. I'm also very outgoing and energetic around my family and close friends, but in front of people I don't know well, I'm an entirely different person: quiet, anxious, reserved and awkward. I'm also very sensitive to sounds and noise, and have a low tolerance for socializing, my social battery drains completely after an hour, after which I'm just forcing my way through painful encounter after another. So, I'm not sure if I am neurodivergent, but I'm 77% convinced that I belong on one spectrum or another.
I love the explination of thoughts being a spiral. Like, for me it feels like building a tower of comfort and then just teleport spawning everywhere in the world. I could have autism, but definately have adhd
This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.
Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗
I relate so much to video that I literally want to cry... from relief. I don't know if there is help out there for neuro divergent people because I have seen so many doctors, therapist and physiatrist and nothing has come of it. Actually, had one doctor leave the room while I was still in my appointment with him. I would love if someone could guide me in the right direction to coping or living with this because a "normal" life doesn't seem plausible. In fact, whenever people would call me weird (I get this reaction in 99% of people I meet) I just say normal is boring and try not to let the comment hang over me. You described me and for once I feel seen. If you want to be friends. I'll be you're friend.
@@TrinityTalks hey, I totally hear you. I'm actually a neurodivergent life coach and I'd be happy to work with you! If you want to set up an initial meeting for just $15, here's the link: neurodivergentmagic.com/coaching
I need these people to start a support group. I need others like myself that understand me. I am all of this and more, life couldn't be any harder to just be.
Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor. I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve. Thanks for this brilliant video!
I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.
Yup, HSP who was denied an autism diagnosis for stupid reasons (apparently: my eye contact is good (this was on ZOOM), I have "reciprocal friendships" and my tone is appropriate in conversation). There are TV presenters with autism, I'm not sure this assessor knows what masking is... But yeah I use the term 'neurodivergent' since no one wants to diagnose/help me. I've had traits since childhood and have since learned to mask, and it's extremely difficult to 'unmask'.
I feel the same way. I'm definitely an HSP but haven't been "diagnosed"...I resonated with almost all of these. It's a relief to have this space and education of neurodivergent people. Thank you.
Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub I dunno if you would know, but is a lot of miscommunication/arguments about silly/inconsequential stuff typical in a neurodivergent family, to the point where it seems constant and exhausting, yet it never seems to affect the family bond? Like normal sibling squabbles, but they’re almost lawyering each other over details? I know this sounds typical, but it doesn’t feel typical compared to other sibling dynamics I’ve seen. I have four kids ages 6-11 and my youngest was dx’d with ADD recently, but it’s clear to me that that’s not the only neurodivergence in the family lol, myself included. We’re in the process of getting our mental health squared away this year
Some people might call me sensitive since I have a strong dislike for noise. That is especially sudden or unexpected noises. Sometimes any noise at all can distract me and I find it difficult to concentrate when that happens. These may be things that normally don't distract other people BTW. I can become frustrated easily and I may have a short fuse at times. I am not violent but annoy me and I may hurt just as much with words or a sudden shout!
My son fits many of these. It took us a while to figure it out and I feel bad about that. He struggled in school but made it through high school. He is now in his element studying to be a graphic designer. I accept him for who he is. ❤
I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.
Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I have CPTSD but now I don't know if I have ADHD overlapped or is just the emotional disregulation and that I feel stuck in freeze response. Before I had the final burn out I was very organized and competent and everytime I make the Myers Briggs test I come out as INFJ but I'm quite talkative but I don't know if is due to my CPTSD since being in silence when I'm with people feels threatening plus my people's pleasing behavior...I don't know what to think 😂 I have lost trust in psychologist so, maybe I will never find out.
@Fatima Mustapha mala you can't "heal" someone from autism. They're always gonna have it. Some kinds of therapy works with maybe helping deal with some symptoms of it, but there is no cure. It's not some kind of disease to cure either. It's just how a person's brain works.
I’ve watched a lot of videos and had many psychiatrist + therapy appointment and read books about neurodivergence because of how much my brain makes me feel unloveable and unable to be understood. This video is wonderful!! I was crying 5 minutes in because you mention things I’ve had since childhood that for some reason no one, not even doctors has talked about. You’re awesome and deserve all the best things ❤
As someone who has lived with a lifelong chronic illness I'm home a lot now in my older age. Between the diagnosis from non professionals, no longer being on pain meds and critics there's really not a lot of people I want to hang around anymore. Unfortunately the world has become more negative. Unless it comes from a doctor I'm not listening.
Wow this explains why I act in these ways with my autism. I tried so hard to tell my family why I act in certain ways and they just don’t believe me and they keep saying I’m getting it from the fake internet stuff and that they aren’t doctors and they make me feel so out of place in my own home that I literally hide out in my room all day long. I’m trying so hard to figure myself out because I’ve been masking without even realizing it and I just don’t know who I am anymore and people think that I’m changing and faking all these “more autistic” ways when I’m really just shelling out and not hiding my traits away it’s so sad how many people in my life don’t understand me at all or even want to try to. I feel so alone right now and I even cried super hard 2 days ago because of it.
Thank you so much! I discovered ND tiktok recently and between that and this I'm pretty sure some of what I've been berated for, or felt was just me being unworthy, is actually undiagnosed ND of some sort. Some of what you listed I've always had, and some has slowly gotten worse since I was gifted with ptsd. Maybe I just noticed it more over time of watching the other issues. I'm 57. You'd think someone would have noticed. The biggest plus for me is the relief of knowing there's a reason, that it wasn't me doing everything wrong. Such a relief.
Thank u! You're so comfortable to watch didn't got bored a sec I WATCHED AND UNDERSTOOD ALL YOUR SPEECH WITHOUT GETTING DISTRACTED OR BORED You're AMAZING 💕
Oh my goodness, I'm so so so glad I could help and that you found me easy to watch! I know I haven't uploaded in a while, but I plan on being back soon, just so you know!!!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!
I feel like I'm human but I'm not one of everyone. It's like, I can be one of them but I have to pretend first to fit in. I hate the fact that I'm not naturally normal to live a normal life. I wonder what it feels like to be normal, to think normal, and do things like a normal human being. I don't want to self diagnose but to be honest this all resonates with me. From the moment I wake up, my brain is so noisy and in such chaos that I can't control what goes in an what goes out of it. This is crucial for me to know if I'm really one of you guys because I won't be able to love myself if I really don't know what's happening inside of me.
I'M 21 for 21. I'm on the severe side of the ADHD spectrum and have been on meds for years. I've spent so many hours of so many days of so many years doing everything possible to keep my neurodivergent to myself. I spent years terrified my neurodivergent would put a big huge glass ceiling on my career--but no more. NOW, I'M TALKING.
Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
When I was growing up austistic people were terribly disabled non verbal people and ADHD were hyperactive little boys - there's no chance it would have ever been seen in me. I'm 54 and becoming more and more certain I'm neurodivergent but throughout my life I've been a champion masker...only now I have ME/CFS and it's just too tiring to keep those masks in place, they keep slipping. I watch things like these, read things on official websites and at first think 'I don't do that'...then I remember that as I child I DID do that - I taught myself not to, or I still do that but have made such internalised workarounds that until recently I hadn't even noticed them. But I need a better G.P. surgery I think before I can suggest being officially tested.
I never considered the fact that I could be autistic…but I relate to 11 of these things you listed in this video. Specifically task multiplying and inconsistent sleep needs. When you were explaining what those are my eyes went wide and I thought to myself, “That is SO ME.” Maybe these just happen to be relatable to me and I’m not autistic/have ADHD. I’ve never been diagnosed but I was surprised at how much I related to these things
I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅 It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Wow! I am 44 and have just realized that myself and my 3 daughters all have almost all of these "symptoms” I subscribed to your channel so I may learn more about Neurodivergence before this day I have never heard this term. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Also thank you for welcoming me. ❤
My sister was diagnosed ADHD while at the screening test for one of her kids because the person doing the test picked up on things my sister was doing at the same time as her kid.
My husband actually told me I might be Neurodivergent because he knows I have bad ADHD and came across this term. I checked off every trait in the video. Honestly just thought this was how I was but I definitely didn't realize my childhood trauma caused my brain to be this way. I think I'm going to try to work on it..
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I found this video and your channel 3 hours after being diagnosed with bipolar mood disorder type 2 and I'm so grateful for you and your work. I've ticked off almost all of this list and I feel less alone and able to include these things how I move forward with my life and it allows me to have more compassion for myself. The shame part was real. Thank you so much.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Girl, when it comes to like life important things, I describe myself as liking to "learn the hard way"; Where as if I'm learning a new hobby (I have SEVERAL) I learn "normally" through research and studying. I struggle with myself daily with wanting a routine and just being a chaotic mess of doing whatever the hell I want.
I love the way you speak,it's clear and concise. I believe I have ADHD and have come to this conclusion over time. Unfortunately, I'm now in my 50s, and besides it being impossible to get a GP appointment in the UK, I truly do not believe I will be taken seriously enough to get a referral for a diagnosis.
I’m also in the UK so I understand your frustrations. Give it a shot though, some doctors and clinicians assistants can be incredibly helpful and compassionate and you might just be surprised. Although I don’t think a diagnosis is that important. What’s important is being to know yourself better and if this video helps with that and other helpful material- that’s what really matters. ❤
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally" it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
All or most if these things apply to all or most of the people I know. It sounds like feelings and traits that all people experience at one time or another
I’m coming to terms with the understanding of neurodivergent, and honestly it is relieving and emotional to find out that this is an actual reality a lot of people face.. I am starting college and heading into a really intense major ( a lot of work mentally and physically), and I’m finding already that it’s hard to pull back and say no to a lot of the “requirements” that my mind and body cannot handle. I’m thinking about talking to someone who could help me find a way to make it easier for me to process and move through college without crashing! Wow- this video was helpful.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
OMG I just began ugly crying bc THIS IS ME! And there is A TERM FOR ME!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating this channel!! I so look forward to watching all of your content and I was sure to follow you! Much love to you!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Hi, I know this video is two years old already but I really feel the need to comment. I'm watching this second time already, for months I'm stuck with this cycle; "am I autistic? Do I have ADHD? Why do I act different, perceive different, but not different 'enough'?" And then it's like my brain is SURE I am neurotypical. Yesterday I literally cried, when talking about it to my (also neurodivergent, very supportive) boyfriend. I hate not being able to label myself, being stuck in that loop. What I wanted to say is, I'm really thankful for your content. It's so weird to hear words like "you're okay, you belong here, you're welcome" since my mind always sabotages me. So thank you, you're doing great work for us, probably undiagnosed, fellow neurodivergent people. Also I'm sorry for my not-so-great English, I'm really chaotic and emotional right now
Yeah I had most of these. I’ve known/felt different my whole life, but was passed along all throughout school. I truly don’t know how none of my teachers told my parents that they suspected me of autism. In 5th grade I performed the entire Charlie and the chocolate factory soundtrack with the dances to my music class. No one stopped me, it was supposed to be a talent show and I took up the entire time.
What was the response after the talent show? When did it occur to you that you maybe crossed a line inadvertently? I so get this. Sigh. It's hard to be so fascinating. 😉
I’ve suspected something was different with me all my life, but it wasn’t until I became a mom and got one of my kids diagnosed with autism and the other with ADHD that I started to suspect I may have similar condition to them, I was thinking maybe a type of autism but actually the more I check about ADHD I realize it’s what matches exactly. Interesting video 🙏🏻 got 21/21 signs
All 21 signs are me. Some more than others. It's frustrating because i was told as a child it was just me being lazy or acting crazy. I was also told it was just in my head and i needed to act normal.
this might sound weird but i got a little emotional when you said welcome to the community, I've never been fully diagnosed, only been told I possibly have a dissociative disorder but they weren't qualified enough so I stopped seeing them. I've never felt fully welcome anywhere, so thank you
Thank you so much! I'm in my 40s and just now they think I have ADHD and I know I have seasonal affective disorder/ depression. I was diagnosed with a " learning disability " in the 80s before they really understood us. I get frustrated easily especially when they think I'm not intelligent but rather I get bored quickly and it's hard for me to focus. Then I get hyperfocused on a topic then they say I'm really smart and they don't understand why I change focus on to something else. I feel like I really like mental puzzles and data but if it's not stimulating enough, I go off into the realm of Alice in Wonderland.... it's really frustrating. Your points resonate with me. Now I don't feel crazy or alone. Thank you! :)
This made sense to me. I have 17 of the points you raised. It's extrordinary to see this all in a 10 minute slot. If anyone gets that, for me living with the 17 points you raised it has meant ... leading a life of moving furniture constantly in my unit, plan plan plan and then plan again, buying a 'dementia clock' to track day and time, I have no sense of social cue's - zip/nothing. It's kinda cool to see this and kinda weird to see it as well. Thanks for sharing :)
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub Time-blindness. Time is frequently fast in my mind. Words, thoughts, incidents ... pile up. I try hard to slow time in my mind down to process anything. Now & then it's slow but I've noticed it is like this when I'm extremely fatigued
@@teresaclark3553 I totally experience this! Time-blindness is a huge problem for me. It often moves too fast or too slow, and I have such a hard time estimating time.
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub multiple tasking is another. A fair bit can happen in an hour. Exactly how you explained. I can write something down and I've written 3 steps ahead or 3 thoughts in one sentence. Its frustrating at times. Every now and then I wondered if I could depend on my mind or thoughts.
Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤
Oh. #10 describes my hearing problems spot on. One more thing into my ADHD/autism bucket. Must say, that's the first time I hear about this one. The "delayed processing" bit really hits home: I often start asking to repeat something I "didn't quite hear", and literally a couple words later realize that I heard and understood everything perfectly fine. Or sometimes I start replying and realize that what they said isn't what I first thought they did.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Many of them relate to me. I just can't understand that I'm 32 and was functional enough for no one thinking it was crucial to get checked as a child by a doctor (meaning that I was able to speak and perform at school) but at the same time not functional enough to ever fit (I developed severe social anxiety then depression and now I basically can't get out of bed).
love your energy - I'm 41 and am just about to begin my assessment in January - /many/ of those signs have been all me my whole life, but I always just wrote it off as me being a failure. Whatever the Dx, I'm looking forward to some clarity. Thanks
I'm a diagnosed ADD, BPD, BiPolar, with the complications of rheumatoid and osteoarthritis conspiring against me! I am so pleased to find this channel and group. Whether it's a form of madness or just left brained thinking, it's nice to be in like company. Please don't misunderstand me, I have a peculiar sense of humor but I don't mean to upset or offend anyone. 😅
Wow thank you. As an adult I can see how I’ve always functioned this way. I feel labels can limit us but also help us build the skills to live in the world without thinking we have to be a part of the trend and other ways of learning as the majority do. Different doesn’t mean wrong and as I age I realize it’s needed in the world. Many of my own ancestors probably were also and some chose to self medicate and struggle with other things trying to fit in. I believe each of us has our purpose and as long as we are living we have one. I don’t want to be looked at as weak or use anything to excuse why I do things as well if that makes sense? This fascinates me and I’m more excited to learn abt myself with my doctors and therapist as well. Thank you for explaining it so well.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
It's a good thing to tell people about possible symptoms BUT you have to be very careful. For example not being able to hold eye contact can be a sign of low confidence... different sleep times can be caused by the amount of work or stress or free time you have and so on. These signs mentioned in the video CAN be an indicator BUT can also be caused by a million other reasons. So don't get insecure!
I feel a lot of this makes so much sense to my thought process. I didn’t know it had a name to it because I thought there was something wrong with me. I’ve self diagnosed myself as being autistic because of this. I have been diagnosed with ptsd, anxiety, adhd and depression.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Thank you so much! This made me cry so much. I was recently dx with adult adhd and all my life I have struggled so much. This dx was not an easy one for me to receive because of the way of how society labels adhd and how “skipped” from the way it should be handled. (I dont even know how to explain this). But, I have been trying to start loving myself again and getting to know myself again with these new “set of eyes”. Life has been hard! :(
I'm so glad you e been getting to know yourself again through the lens of your new diagnsois. I hope it makes you feel seen, despite the stigma that comes with it. Just remember, being neurodivergent isn't a bad thing. You are good 💜
I’ve noticed I can relate to a lot of this. I saw a POV of someone with ADHD and it described my life. I think I might have ADHD but I’m not hyper typically. I have been finding it hard to focus in school but I somehow still get the information that I’m being taught even though I’m very fidgety. I’m passing all my courses comfortably except for one which is French and there are a lot of extroverts and social people that I really have a hard time having a genuine conversation with. I have had people notify me that I am constantly associating things with trains (it’s my hobby) and it often feels a little awkward for me. I’ve also noticed I’m really bad with small talk and eye contact. I typically look at people forehead or face cheeks as some way to help with talking to people (especially new people). I’m also very sarcastic when talking (again especially with new people) but I can be somewhat serious with people I know. I sometimes need prompting to get school work done (not too often). I’ve also noticed I do a lot better in smaller groups of people that are neurodivergent. I have two friends that are on the spectrum and we are like two peas in a pod, but people who aren’t neurodivergent I don’t feel as comfortable. I have a few non neurodivergent friends and I feel fine one on one with them it’s when there’s many. I kinda feel like the dumb immature one. I feel very different and not as connected with them. I have also been in many situations where I have no idea how to react or respond. I can’t turn my brain off at night, I constantly have thoughts running through by brain. I never know when someone likes me or not, all the time I’ve had someone point out that someone likes me and when I’ve had hunches that someone liked me I was wrong. I’ve had people tell me that I should get tested. (Nothing in specific) but idk what to get tested for or I’m just over exaggerating or it’s the effects of the pandemic or am I stressed. I don’t know what to do honestly.
It could be ADHD, Autism, or both. Keep in mind that everyone is different, but what you described sounds like it could be both. With the ADHD and not being hyper, you could have the inattentive presentation, which means that the hyperactivity presents itself as daydreaming and not paying attention. I personally have ADHD and I suspect Autism and possibly dyslexia. I've been denied testing, because I "socialized too well" when I got diagnosed with ADHD- which doesn't mean anything imo, because everyone is different- but I see a lot of the signs in myself. I haven't mentioned the dyslexia to anyone, but I see a lot of the signs as well
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I asked my mother (an ex-teacher's aid for diabled and neuro-divergent students) if she thought I had autism. After dating someone, and talking with people that have ADHD/ADD, I feel like I can have a conversation without 'being annoying' or 'distracting people' form my original point. Planning to get a diagnosis soon.
UPDATE: Hey there everybody! I recently changed this video from "21 Signs You Might Be Neurodivergent" to "21 Signs You Might Be Autistic, ADHD, or Both" because it was brought to my attention that the signs listed in this video didn't include other forms of neurodivergencies, like personality disorders, tic disorders, learning disabilities, and so much more. They were strictly related to autism and ADHD, so that's what I changed the title to. I hope this clarifies things!
@@raginbakin1430 Of course no two brains are truly the same. But fact is, that our society is based on a "standard" and brains, which only differ slightly from what is considered the standard, won't have as much of a hard time living in that society and especially won't have to mask as much, because their way of thinking/acting is considered within the norm. Try to look at it like a normal distribution (Gaussian bell curve). The closer your brain is to the highest point on the curve (the "standard"), the more you would be called a neurotypical (even if it differs slightly from others within that definition in some ways). If the way your brain thinks fits more on a side of the curve, which only encompasses approx. 2 % of all human brains, you can, by definition, be called neurodivergent, because there aren't that many brains that work similar to yours AND the society we live in isn't cut out for brains on that side of the curve.
And to say that everyone is neurodivergent because everyone has a slightly different brain, to me is somewhat like saying everyone has Epidermolysis because everyone has skin, so everyone can get blisters and wounds on their skin...
Your opinion is of course yours alone, just please don't belittle the struggles that truly neurodivergent people may have in our society by stating that everyone is neurodivergent (and thereby invalidating the very existence of those which truly fall under the definition of neurodivergent). It reminds me of "just try harder, everyone has problems"... It is already proven, that e.g. ADHDers have actual differences in their brains compared to the "standard".
Not everyone is neurodivergent😐🚶🏽
@@raginbakin1430 now that you go into more detail, I think I understand where you're coming from. To me it just feels belittling to say, that everyone is neurodivergent, if we live in a society that holds a neurotypical standard, although you might not meant it that way. Just because people, that differ a lot from said standard do tend to have it much much harder, so to me it feels invalidating to those experiences.
For me personally it just made such a huge difference to realize that I'm neurodivergent, and not just slower, weirder and more awkward (and in some cases dumber e.g. memory) than most of my peers, since I also got bullied a lot when I was younger, only to realize later on that my brain just works differently than theirs, and they weren't able to accept that. I maybe got triggered a bit to easily there, I'm sorry, especially since from you're second comment I understood that you actually didn't mean it in a bad or belittling way, but more as a criticism of our society.
I believe I have mixed bipolar and adhd. My life’s a world a contradictions, confusing stress and the list goes on lmao. I’m currently being treated and awaiting assessment. I suffer with Manic/polar eyes
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I got 16 of these and I'm currently asking my doctor for ADHD diagnosis test but I'm constantly battling the "am faking it? Exaggerating?" and I just want to cry. The research I've done for it relates so much to my life but still so scared of being a fake/attention seeker, i feel like I can't speak to anyone about it
I absolutely relate to this. Idk if you saw my video about it, but I self-diagnosed with autism and turned out to be wrong and it was so embarrassing. But then...I survived. So my advice is to explore the ADHD diagnosis, and if you're wrong, so what? Better to explore and check it out!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub thank you I appreciate it 🥰
If you have insurance, try to get a neuropsychological exam to help with a diagnosis!
Oh God same here man. Maybe that's a good thing. Diagnosis wise not for our mental health lol
A lot of people have both.
List for those trying to keep up.
1. Time Blindness
2. Executive Dysfunction
3. Task Multiplying
4. Inconsistent Sleep needs
5. Emotional Dysregulation
6. Special Interests/Hyper Fixations
7. Missing the Obvious
8. Sensory Sensitivities
9. Rejection Sensitivity
10. Auditory Processing Disorder
11. Meltdowns and Shutdowns
12. Eye Contact
13. Rich Internal World
14. Narrow Range of Stimulation
15. Low Frustration Tolerance
16. Shame Based Motivation
17. Stimming
18. Literal or Metaphorical Communication
19. Black or White Thinking
20. Nonlinear Thinking
21. No Brain Secretary
I scrolled only for this, thank u 🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏
Thank u soo much for this bro 🙏
Welp!!! 😂
PSA autism cannot and should not be cured. It is a neurotype not a disease. If anyone contacts you claiming they can cure your (or your child's) autism. Please ignore them.
I'm 99% sure I'm neurodivergent, I'm just scared I'll be wrong in the end. I feel like there are so many things wrong with me that I'll get them all souped up and mixed, it's so stressful, I've been daunting on this for weeks researching potential things I might have, I don't know anymore, I just want a community, people who know how I'm feeling you know
Theres nothing wrong with you. It’s just that you have a different way of processing. Find out what your strengths are and how to use them to your advantage.
This is my experience that stressing and overwhelming things u might have. Kf you have genuine concern and its inhibiting daily life, talk to a professional or someone who can help you.
@@joshuamclean4588 Thank you, I've discussed things with my parents and they're setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist sometime this month, Hopefully I'll get an idea what I have and move on from there
Love you.
I cannot tell you how much I can identify. But my therapist helped me accept myself and remember that you know you more than anyone else. I wish you well!
I was diagnosed with ADHD almost 20 years ago, and this video had me in tears because I don't think I've ever felt so seen.
All the best to you, keep fighting i got diagnosed when im 43 and struggling to come to terms with it...
Same, diagnosed with ADHD *exactly* 20 years ago at 19, and this video pretty much hit all or nearly all of them for me
Just diagnosed age 51. I had 3 decades of treatment for anxiety and depression. A decade of that was at the same clinic! Hard to come to terms with that and keep questioning “do I really have it”? I actually got mad at the therapist for mentioning it. I thought “is she listening to me”. Then spoke to my psych doc who screened me and I have it. The same doc saw for years for 15min for my monthly meds. Second therapist confirmed after some sessions that she believes I do and it was that non linear conversing she sees so often with ADHD. Start off with a topic then get in the weeds off into another thing etc and eventually come back to the point. Oh, how I wish I could just GET TO THE POINT! Sorry, thanks for putting up with me.
I get it. My daughter probably knows more about my diagnosis' than I do and she explains this stuff to me. I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar and a few comorbities. I feel absolutely dumb when the simplest things fly past my understanding especially when I can explain quantum theories and other highly complex topics. It is very frustrating. I learned to laugh at myself and if others can't laugh with me I walk away.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
16/21. Self-diagnosed because I'm 61 and it wasn't a thing when I was young. The one about tasks really got me. One task leads to another and another. I really can't imagine doing things another way. It takes me a whole day to clean my kitchen. Apparently it only takes most people an hour or two.
@Maximumevent710 there is no cure, you are buying grass water
@Jane-co9ev SAME GOES FOR YOU
Im 25 and i feel as if i hit 16 points as well. I dont know what to do with myself and don't know how to do life's "basics" despite growing up normally.
Yes - dishes are a pain in the patootie! I chunk the task, washing cups, then bowls, plates, tupperware and pots last. Sometimes I get overwhelmed and other times I am physically exhausted with the thought of washing one more spoon! I can also get distracted by other stimulii, so much so, that my kids are not allowed to chat with me when I'm doing dishes. I do my best to hyperfocus on the task, being mindful to enjoy the warmth of the water and to internally give praise and petition my creator for help.
@@elementaryfundamentals I kind of do the same, except that I reward myself by watching youtube or some other type of entertainment (britcoms, etc.) on my cellphone. We're all in this together! (Quote from Red of the Red Green show)
"the world wasnt build for neurodivergent people..." yes true. i feel that way about anxiety or introverts. i feel this society was build for extroverts.
... i always suspected i have autism. Highly sensitive really describes me well...
If you're highly sensitive, you definitely might be autistic, I just made a new video comparing autism and the highly sensitive person, maybe check it out!
I can understand that
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
extorverts can have anxiety to just because they get energy from being around people doesnt mean they dont have anxiety and some intoverts dont have anxiety
Just because you're really sensitive, that doesn't mean you're for sure autistic though. I am def a sensitive person but I'm not autistic, ADHD probably lol in the process of diagnosis currently.
I am grieving the loss of my 26 year old son to suicide, and listening to this is breaking my heart becasue he has these issues and needed help he didn’t get, please everyone help, be better, and love one another
I’m so sorry. 🙏 I hope his story helps others. Peace be with you.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for encouraging others.
I am sorry for your loss 🙏
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I’m so sorry, he’s in a good place though❤
The metaphor of having no secretary in your brain is really spot on 😂 I have tried explaining my high sensitivity to people by telling them my brain has no filter for what is important or not important but will be using this metaphor from now on! Very clear!
Thanks! I believe I first heard it from @howtoadhd
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
Yes!!!!😮😮😮
I used to call my husband, my brain, because he would remind me of dates and times or if I turned off the stove or locked the doors. Now I put reminders, alarms, and timers in my phone.
Wow, the way you said that just hit me. But it really is just like that. For me the problem is that my brain defaults to literally EVERYTHING being put to the front of the queue as URGENT, which makes me try do do everything at the same time, resulting in wheels just spinning in the sand.; I never really saw it that way before. Now that I can see it, I wonder if there is a way to fix or at least manage it so I can live effectively.
NZT 48, anybody?
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.
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I love how direct you were! I usually speed up informational videos, anywhere from 1.5 to 2x, but I didn't have to do that for this video. You spoke at an efficient pace, and informed without unnecessary information. Additionally, there's not many videos that cover this subject, especially as well as you did. ✌💜🙂
Yes I agree so many videos don't get to the point I just switch them off . So thank you for direct information .
I actually did have to speed the video to 1.5x, but also agree that Megan was concise with her explanations (I can just get impatient at times).
I still watched it at 2x with subtitles. I wonder if that's a neurodivergent thing? ADHD specifically? That's what I think I have.
Dr Oyalo is trustworthy and doing great work with his product on autism kids. My daughter is a point of contact and her improvement in speech and other social activities
@@joelfaceI do the same thing! It takes me a minute to grasp things
But I do really like how clearly she spoke and direct I hate dragged out videos and didn't have to fast forward to get to the point which was nice
I’ve been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. I also have C-PTSD, fibromyalgia, lupus, anxiety, OCD and seizures. I just wanted to connect with others and let you know that you are not dumb because you are neurodivergent.
She did miss one for us Autistics, which is our love of routines and when there is disruption in routine or a change, we might feel lost, anxious, anger, frustration, sensory overload or have a meltdown. I can list many times I’ve had meltdowns just from changes in routine alone. (Not to forget the sensory overload I was already in.)
We autistics also tend to not understand other people (facial expressions and body language) or our own feelings. (Guilty!) some Autistics are good at recognizing other peoples’ feelings based on body language and facial expressions (not guilty). I judge by tone of voice, but that’s not always accurate unless I personally know the person I am talking to.
Thanks for letting me vent if you read my whole comment, Autism and ADHD can be hard to live with. Stay awesome everyone!
Thank you so much for sharing! I totally hear you when it comes to changes in routine. I like having every part of my day planned out, for sure.
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub exactly, I thought I was the only person who felt that way when my routine is changed or disturbed.
@@justsomerandominternetuser6379 right?? Turns out our brains just work a little different and there's millions of people just like us
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Have yiu ever checked your minerals esp B1
Thank you! Im a 79 year old woman who was recently diagnosed as having ADHD. I protested the H part, but learned it is my brain that is hyperactive, which explains why I often jump ahead of whoever is talking to me and (rudely and often annoyingly) finish their sentences. I asked my therapist if I might be on the spectrum and she pulled out a book and asked me a few questions that I answered. She said she thought most people exhibited some of the signs, and that was normal. Hmmm… I watched this twice and then watched your previous video on self diagnoses, and then rewatched this one. I answered 15 questions, no problem. I think numbers two and 21 are the same, forgive me, I may be wrong, and I don’t really understand #5deregulation. I was often punished as a child for my low grades and not paying attention. My mother often said “she marches to a different drummer, but usually comes to the correct conclusion”. “Back in the day” these symptoms were considered disciplinary problems. Times have changed.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@@Keturah53 - I was hit by a junior school teacher in the 1950s for being different and made to stand in the corridor for being unable to write my name. Children who appeared disobedient were sent to be caned by the headmistress 😢 I am undiagnosed (Aspergers) high functioning autistic with devastating lifelong (70 years) OCD - I don’t know about ADHD which is a relatively recent diagnosis. I am a published author and have a Bachelors joint honours degree in Biology- Geology - not so stupid then!
Hi, I am 40 years old and even for me growing up all these symptoms where considered disciplinary issues, now I look back and wonder how many people like us did we lose because society let them fall through the cracks. It makes me happy that things are changing, it gives me hope for the new generations coming up, I'm excited that we may get to see through them what our real potential could have been.
I was diagnosed as ADHD inattentive type for a decade and a half. Earlier this year, however, I related a few things like how differently from others I responded in my youth to sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and cannabis. My psychiatrist rediagnosed me and two sessions later started changing my medications. As an adult the H isn't as obvious for me, and as a child I seldom had any of those substances, if at all; so being introverted and a bookworm and apparently autistic, I didn't stand out particularly as hyperactive. In retrospect I can see how some of my odd behaviors were my unique expression of hyperactivity. Interesting and weird to figure out these things decades later in life, isn't it? And times HAVE changed. Yet "support" programs in schools still teach autistic kids to feel "less than" rather than differently abled, which is tragic. Now their categorized as wrong and in need of assistance rather than fully capable if the world would accommodate differences.
I agree. To me, executive dysfunction is like "not having a secretary in your brain"; the difficulties in handling tasks come from not being able to allocate the appropriate mental resources to them 🤔
Me to my brain: which one sounds familiar?
My brain: yes
Yeeeeeeep
Lol! YES!
I may have misidentified ADHD and lack of executive function as the "i-do-what-want-and-feel-like" while I'm operating the one that knows better. After a reeeal breakdown i decided to make up some reasonable truths to help convince myself to do what i should, so basically manipulate my self into wanting what i should. Opens up for some pretty good joke deflections. "what do you mean?"
Me: "I have no idea, but with your help, i believe we can get to the bottom of it"
i like to guess some things... sometimes people hear me aggressively when i didnt mean it to be. or dont understand what they heard because i dont concieve a way for it to be offensive at all.....
I did have a training manager tell me ON MY FIRST DAY, "Its hard to get fired here"
i was following him and dramatically stopped and looked at him until he turned around, "Don't tell me that, why? my subconscious is going to take that as a challenge!"
he laughed and over the next 6 months.... well covid shut the place down but it was getting close.
I'm in rage mode but for guys it's friend or foe ? Right now it's usually foe nobody likes me I stole their land and they believe it I've never owned land in my life .
same
I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar II at 26.
I was properly diagnosed with AuDHD at 48. 🎉
Now that I am learning to understand my neurodivergent self, a huge part of my depression finally lifted. Not completely, but a definite shift in the right direction.
I am a whole, unbroken human being that just happens to think differently than most others.
I now have found so many women across the web in the same situation of receiving a mid- to late-life diagnosis of ASD and/or ADHD.
I have recently started using life-hacks, which makes life so much easier (e.g. silicone ear plugs.)
Misdiagnosed w bipolar two when I was 34. Properly diagnosed 6 months ago at age 59.
My Neuro divergence is making it difficult for me to listen to this video I keep having to go back and repeat what you’re saying I really appreciate your knowledge and truth for us folks whose brains work differently
it took me 21 years to realize that most of the things i do aren’t what neurotypical people do and now i’m reevaluating my entire life
Right??? Me too
Sweet baby Jesus I’m not crazy! My whole life I’ve been told Im stupid or brilliant. But a common thread is im always confused as to why people can’t be direct with what they need. I am at 21/21 and laughed all the way through this video. Life changing. Thank you
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I’m 61 and have been living with something that is very similar to what you have described. I learned to manage many things. Had a 25 year career and raised a son, but how much easier and better my life could have been if I had educated teachers, doctors and parents on these conditions. 💕☮️🙏🏼
We may not be able to 'educate' everyone around us as to what our idiosyncratic traits and tics are and exactly how they should approach us. That would be an almost ludicrous situation if everyone was doing it. Can you change your techniques of relating to each and every person you encounter? This one ADHD, that one EAD, the other one is Bipolar, and that one over their is just plain old psychotic.....ya know? We must figure out our own selves and how to navigate our lives, instead of assuming that everyone else should know how we need to be taught and related to differently than the other students. Our life is our job. It's nice when family and friends know us well enough and can cater to us sometimes that way. But to kind of expect the world to do that is asking for a lot.....probably asking for a lot of disappointment, in my opinion.
I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 30. 38 years later and having a son on the spectrum, I'm beginning to think that anyone diagnosed with adhd should automatically be tested for autism. So much overlap. I ticked almost every sign.
I've never had learning troubles (I have always did very well in school, I love it even) But I relate to a lot of this. My thing is, I can be hyper, loud, annoying when I'm by myself (or around people i'm comfortable with (which is no one really)), but when other people come around (specifically people I don't know, and distant family) I'm quiet, When they talk I listen, rarely give input, never ask questions unless its life or death, Only speaking if someone speaks to me...Its like i'm 2 different people. I don't open up about anything about myself to ANYONE unless it is a very very specific circumstance....i don't know anymore. :)
Reading this was strange, because it's like I wrote it myself. I'm also very outgoing and energetic around my family and close friends, but in front of people I don't know well, I'm an entirely different person: quiet, anxious, reserved and awkward. I'm also very sensitive to sounds and noise, and have a low tolerance for socializing, my social battery drains completely after an hour, after which I'm just forcing my way through painful encounter after another.
So, I'm not sure if I am neurodivergent, but I'm 77% convinced that I belong on one spectrum or another.
@@wildflo267 glad Im not the only one 😅
Same, exactly the same
OMG YES!!!! I'm like this too!
This is exactly me.
I love the explination of thoughts being a spiral. Like, for me it feels like building a tower of comfort and then just teleport spawning everywhere in the world. I could have autism, but definately have adhd
This felt like someone was reading my life off of a list. This has genuinely gave me so much insight & i will be studying this more, maybe i can figure myself out a little better. Thank you
Aaahhhhhh, I'm so glad I could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
There is really no such thing as a 'normal' human being. We are all on various scales of every way we think, learn, perform, cope with life etc. etc.
This is one of the most complete and concise, well defined descriptions of being neurodivergent that I've found. I'm an autistic therapist with ADHD. I'll be sending this video to a lot of my clients.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
The different between you and me
Is that I'm not a therapist
@@axl256gamesx7 you could be if you want to
@@DrPsychlops im more interested on videogame developing
But for a while I thought on being either a psychologist or a psychiatrist
@@DrPsychlops not very interested on other medicine branches or similar
I got diagnosed with ADHD last year, and it has changed my life for the better. So many things finally make sense, and I understand now why I always seemed different from everyone else.
Thank you for doing this. You’re so clear, right on point and a pleasure to watch. This video helped me realize why I felt so different all my life. Not sure what to do about it, and the confusion is kicking in, but now I know I’m not just “broken” or “weird.” Very much appreciated! 🤗
Of course, thank you for watching! From here, maybe start researching neurodivergent accommodations and see if they help you!
I relate so much to video that I literally want to cry... from relief. I don't know if there is help out there for neuro divergent people because I have seen so many doctors, therapist and physiatrist and nothing has come of it. Actually, had one doctor leave the room while I was still in my appointment with him. I would love if someone could guide me in the right direction to coping or living with this because a "normal" life doesn't seem plausible. In fact, whenever people would call me weird (I get this reaction in 99% of people I meet) I just say normal is boring and try not to let the comment hang over me. You described me and for once I feel seen. If you want to be friends. I'll be you're friend.
@@TrinityTalks hey, I totally hear you. I'm actually a neurodivergent life coach and I'd be happy to work with you! If you want to set up an initial meeting for just $15, here's the link:
neurodivergentmagic.com/coaching
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub Call me crazy but I just set a meeting up. I've tried everything else, so why not?
@@TrinityTalks Can't wait to meet with you!
Got diagnosed with ADHD last year at the age of 31 and all these traits finally make sense! Thank you for a really kind and welcoming video
Hi, thanks for sharing. How do You get diagnosed? I want to check but im afraid and dont know where or with whom
I need these people to start a support group. I need others like myself that understand me. I am all of this and more, life couldn't be any harder to just be.
Pretty much everything you've said here resonates with me massively, I'm 36 and have only just got the ball rolling with an autism diagnosis through my doctor.
I'm sick of wondering why my brain seems to work differently to other people's, I spend so much time being angry and frustrated, rushing through life but never being able to focus on a given task and never achieving what I set out to achieve.
Thanks for this brilliant video!
I'm an HSP, but I also have some of the traits associated with autism like meltdowns and special interests. I'm looking into getting an autism assessment, but I'm not sure if I'll meet the diagnostic criteria because my communication difficulties are pretty mild. I like the term "neurodivergent" because it makes me feel like my experiences are still valid, even if there isn't a diagnosis that fits me.
That's exactly how I feel!!! I'm just neurodivergent.
Same! HSP who also has some traits associated with autism but not all of them.
@@sofiesbookishadventures1865 you don't have to have all of them
Yup, HSP who was denied an autism diagnosis for stupid reasons (apparently: my eye contact is good (this was on ZOOM), I have "reciprocal friendships" and my tone is appropriate in conversation). There are TV presenters with autism, I'm not sure this assessor knows what masking is... But yeah I use the term 'neurodivergent' since no one wants to diagnose/help me. I've had traits since childhood and have since learned to mask, and it's extremely difficult to 'unmask'.
I feel the same way. I'm definitely an HSP but haven't been "diagnosed"...I resonated with almost all of these. It's a relief to have this space and education of neurodivergent people. Thank you.
Whoa! You have just helped me to realize why me and my daughter have a hard time understanding each other. I am an HSP and both my children are neurodivergent. My youngest is dyslexic and my daughter was just admitted into the gifted program at her school. Where she communicates in a literal way I speak metaphorically. This is amazing information for someone like myself who has such a neuro diverse family. Thank you!
I'm so glad I could help!!!
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub I dunno if you would know, but is a lot of miscommunication/arguments about silly/inconsequential stuff typical in a neurodivergent family, to the point where it seems constant and exhausting, yet it never seems to affect the family bond? Like normal sibling squabbles, but they’re almost lawyering each other over details? I know this sounds typical, but it doesn’t feel typical compared to other sibling dynamics I’ve seen. I have four kids ages 6-11 and my youngest was dx’d with ADD recently, but it’s clear to me that that’s not the only neurodivergence in the family lol, myself included. We’re in the process of getting our mental health squared away this year
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Some people might call me sensitive since I have a strong dislike for noise. That is especially sudden or unexpected noises. Sometimes any noise at all can distract me and I find it difficult to concentrate when that happens. These may be things that normally don't distract other people BTW. I can become frustrated easily and I may have a short fuse at times. I am not violent but annoy me and I may hurt just as much with words or a sudden shout!
My son fits many of these. It took us a while to figure it out and I feel bad about that. He struggled in school but made it through high school. He is now in his element studying to be a graphic designer. I accept him for who he is. ❤
I'm almost 27 yo now and this is my first time knowing the term 'neurodivergent'. I've felt most of the signs my whole life. Thank you for the explanation it's been almost 3 years since I rebuild my life and now I have more understanding to keep myself going forward 💛
I'm so so glad this video could help!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I feel such a strong connection to everything you mentioned in this video. Wow. Thanks for it. It’s a relief to understand (finally when I’m 33), that I’m not a lazy childish crazy psychopathic unicorn pretending to be normal (and always failing this mission). I’m just different and it’s okay to be like me.
Thanks for this. Just subbed :) the analogy of the brain not having a secretary is a fantastic explanation for how I can get so quickly overwhelmed.
Yessss, it's one of my favorite analogies, I think I got it from @HowtoADHD here on UA-cam.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Being this way cost me my relationship. We were only together for a year but there were things where she’d think I was ignoring her or always felt like she was gonna leave or wasn’t great with regulating my emotions. She would always think I’m gonna cheat and I’d go nuts because of it so I would vent to people and she found out. Then when she ended things and I tried reaching out to her to explain more, she said it was creepy. Even tho she’s the one who wanted to get married after dating for 3 months and never meeting each other’s families. When I told her I believed I was on the spectrum, she would say I look to normal. But everything added up. She would always say I take what she say way too literally. So when she said something and I acted based off of that, I was called immature. Being this way does help in ways tho. My ability to create metaphors is actually amazing. Sorry, rant over. It’s still fresh.
I don't think I've ever seen ADHD/autism described so concisely yet perfectly in a video.
Recently I was diagnosed with C-PTSD - decades of not knowing what was 'wrong' with me, but now the diagnosis has helped me tremendously and neurodivergent characteristic is also new to me. this is a fantastic and so helpful break down of the subject. Thank you for putting this up and doing it in such cheerful and non-judgment way.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
@Fatima Mustapha mala Go away! Autism can not be healed and I feel sorry for your poor son.
I have CPTSD but now I don't know if I have ADHD overlapped or is just the emotional disregulation and that I feel stuck in freeze response. Before I had the final burn out I was very organized and competent and everytime I make the Myers Briggs test I come out as INFJ but I'm quite talkative but I don't know if is due to my CPTSD since being in silence when I'm with people feels threatening plus my people's pleasing behavior...I don't know what to think 😂
I have lost trust in psychologist so, maybe I will never find out.
woah, I got 20 of 21. I've been researching about autism for 5 months already and almost every time I watch videos like this I relate SO much
@Fatima Mustapha mala you can't "heal" someone from autism. They're always gonna have it. Some kinds of therapy works with maybe helping deal with some symptoms of it, but there is no cure. It's not some kind of disease to cure either. It's just how a person's brain works.
I’ve watched a lot of videos and had many psychiatrist + therapy appointment and read books about neurodivergence because of how much my brain makes me feel unloveable and unable to be understood. This video is wonderful!! I was crying 5 minutes in because you mention things I’ve had since childhood that for some reason no one, not even doctors has talked about. You’re awesome and deserve all the best things ❤
As someone who has lived with a lifelong chronic illness I'm home a lot now in my older age. Between the diagnosis from non professionals, no longer being on pain meds and critics there's really not a lot of people I want to hang around anymore. Unfortunately the world has become more negative. Unless it comes from a doctor I'm not listening.
Wow this explains why I act in these ways with my autism. I tried so hard to tell my family why I act in certain ways and they just don’t believe me and they keep saying I’m getting it from the fake internet stuff and that they aren’t doctors and they make me feel so out of place in my own home that I literally hide out in my room all day long. I’m trying so hard to figure myself out because I’ve been masking without even realizing it and I just don’t know who I am anymore and people think that I’m changing and faking all these “more autistic” ways when I’m really just shelling out and not hiding my traits away it’s so sad how many people in my life don’t understand me at all or even want to try to. I feel so alone right now and I even cried super hard 2 days ago because of it.
Thank you so much! I discovered ND tiktok recently and between that and this I'm pretty sure some of what I've been berated for, or felt was just me being unworthy, is actually undiagnosed ND of some sort. Some of what you listed I've always had, and some has slowly gotten worse since I was gifted with ptsd. Maybe I just noticed it more over time of watching the other issues. I'm 57. You'd think someone would have noticed. The biggest plus for me is the relief of knowing there's a reason, that it wasn't me doing everything wrong. Such a relief.
Thank u!
You're so comfortable to watch didn't got bored a sec I WATCHED AND UNDERSTOOD ALL YOUR SPEECH WITHOUT GETTING DISTRACTED OR BORED You're AMAZING 💕
Oh my goodness, I'm so so so glad I could help and that you found me easy to watch! I know I haven't uploaded in a while, but I plan on being back soon, just so you know!!!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I know I'm ADHD but now I'm wondering how accurate that diagnosis was. I can relate to 19 out of 21 of these examples. I do also come from an extremely traumatic background so pinpointing exactly what my issues are have been frustrating and challenging. Either way, thank you so much for sharing this!
Nolypies, I completely relate to you here.
I feel like I'm human but I'm not one of everyone. It's like, I can be one of them but I have to pretend first to fit in. I hate the fact that I'm not naturally normal to live a normal life. I wonder what it feels like to be normal, to think normal, and do things like a normal human being. I don't want to self diagnose but to be honest this all resonates with me. From the moment I wake up, my brain is so noisy and in such chaos that I can't control what goes in an what goes out of it. This is crucial for me to know if I'm really one of you guys because I won't be able to love myself if I really don't know what's happening inside of me.
21/21, i am now 99% sure i am neurodivergent, tysm for the video, really helped me finally figure what was "wrong" with me all my life❤❤
I'M 21 for 21. I'm on the severe side of the ADHD spectrum and have been on meds for years. I've spent so many hours of so many days of so many years doing everything possible to keep my neurodivergent to myself. I spent years terrified my neurodivergent would put a big huge glass ceiling on my career--but no more. NOW, I'M TALKING.
Wow, I feel attacked lol. I just learned this term last night and now researching it. Every point you said fit. I cried when you described #9 and #10 because I had the most backlash for it and I believed I was just stupid, now I realize my brain works differently than most. I have an average IQ but it's so hard to function like normal people do. Now I get it and I can seek help to finally succeed in life. Thank you! 🧠
Oh my goodness, this comment made me smile. Thank you, and I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!
@Fatima Mustapha mala I will report you for spamming!
This video really has me asking myself questions that I never asked myself before.
That's the whole idea! If you want help going through those questions, let me know! I'm a coach and I'd love to help.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
Love this, personally I think if society realises that by saying im different isn't a threat to anything only myself assertion
When I was growing up austistic people were terribly disabled non verbal people and ADHD were hyperactive little boys - there's no chance it would have ever been seen in me. I'm 54 and becoming more and more certain I'm neurodivergent but throughout my life I've been a champion masker...only now I have ME/CFS and it's just too tiring to keep those masks in place, they keep slipping. I watch things like these, read things on official websites and at first think 'I don't do that'...then I remember that as I child I DID do that - I taught myself not to, or I still do that but have made such internalised workarounds that until recently I hadn't even noticed them.
But I need a better G.P. surgery I think before I can suggest being officially tested.
Im now fully grown and I have to say adhd is a blessing I never had the problem to feel anxiety since I make drawings for my life
I never considered the fact that I could be autistic…but I relate to 11 of these things you listed in this video. Specifically task multiplying and inconsistent sleep needs. When you were explaining what those are my eyes went wide and I thought to myself, “That is SO ME.” Maybe these just happen to be relatable to me and I’m not autistic/have ADHD. I’ve never been diagnosed but I was surprised at how much I related to these things
I’m starting to think that there aren’t ANY neuro typical people on this planet or at very least THEY are the minority 👀 like idk why they aren’t the divergent ones at this point 😅
It’s always great to see people like you sharing this information that helps people who aren’t diagnosed feel seen 🖤 you’re awesome
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Same.
Wow! I am 44 and have just realized that myself and my 3 daughters all have almost all of these "symptoms” I subscribed to your channel so I may learn more about Neurodivergence before this day I have never heard this term. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Also thank you for welcoming me. ❤
My sister was diagnosed ADHD while at the screening test for one of her kids because the person doing the test picked up on things my sister was doing at the same time as her kid.
Wow! This is the first test I scored a hundred percent on!
My husband actually told me I might be Neurodivergent because he knows I have bad ADHD and came across this term. I checked off every trait in the video. Honestly just thought this was how I was but I definitely didn't realize my childhood trauma caused my brain to be this way. I think I'm going to try to work on it..
Hey! Yeah, neurodivergent just means your brain is neurologically different in some significant way, and that absolutely includes ADHD!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Oh my gosh I feel so so seen even though I've been diagnosed as a neurodivergent, I still love to learn so much about it. Thank you !
Omg, I'm so glad this makes you feel seen, that's the whole idea. Sending you lots of love!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I found this video and your channel 3 hours after being diagnosed with bipolar mood disorder type 2 and I'm so grateful for you and your work. I've ticked off almost all of this list and I feel less alone and able to include these things how I move forward with my life and it allows me to have more compassion for myself. The shame part was real. Thank you so much.
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I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Girl, when it comes to like life important things, I describe myself as liking to "learn the hard way"; Where as if I'm learning a new hobby (I have SEVERAL) I learn "normally" through research and studying. I struggle with myself daily with wanting a routine and just being a chaotic mess of doing whatever the hell I want.
I love the way you speak,it's clear and concise.
I believe I have ADHD and have come to this conclusion over time. Unfortunately, I'm now in my 50s, and besides it being impossible to get a GP appointment in the UK, I truly do not believe I will be taken seriously enough to get a referral for a diagnosis.
I’m also in the UK so I understand your frustrations. Give it a shot though, some doctors and clinicians assistants can be incredibly helpful and compassionate and you might just be surprised. Although I don’t think a diagnosis is that important. What’s important is being to know yourself better and if this video helps with that and other helpful material- that’s what really matters. ❤
Nailed it! 21/21! If I ever feel like an imposter because I'm self-diagnosed, I will come back to this video.
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
Time blindness in the way she described it is normal for ALL humans!
thank you for that conclusion. the thing i'm most afraid of in this is self-diagnosing and being wrong, but i relate to so much, but not to everything, so i think "nah, i'm just.. i'm nt. totally"
it's such a frustrating back-and-forth between denying it and being like "well, maybe.."
My child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly
This is more to say if this sounds like you, you might understand yourself better and if you want to talk to a Dr. about a diagnosis.
Around 14 and I’ve been recently diagnosed with OCD. Executive dysfunction and shame-based motivation make my life way harder than it should be 🙃
All or most if these things apply to all or most of the people I know. It sounds like feelings and traits that all people experience at one time or another
I feel somewhat called out for having all of these signs- (I'm undiagnosed for ADHD but I have a feeling that I also have Autism)
I’m coming to terms with the understanding of neurodivergent, and honestly it is relieving and emotional to find out that this is an actual reality a lot of people face.. I am starting college and heading into a really intense major ( a lot of work mentally and physically), and I’m finding already that it’s hard to pull back and say no to a lot of the “requirements” that my mind and body cannot handle.
I’m thinking about talking to someone who could help me find a way to make it easier for me to process and move through college without crashing!
Wow- this video was helpful.
Wow- I’m diagnosed with ADHD and have been questioning for Autism and wow- I relate to a lot of these, I feel seen and heard so..thank you.
I feel like I’m faking stuff- most of the time.
@@jkstcibg me too. I think I have adhd cause I have a lot of the symptoms, for a while, but I think I’m faking all of them.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
OMG I just began ugly crying bc THIS IS ME! And there is A TERM FOR ME!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for creating this channel!! I so look forward to watching all of your content and I was sure to follow you! Much love to you!!
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Hi, I know this video is two years old already but I really feel the need to comment. I'm watching this second time already, for months I'm stuck with this cycle; "am I autistic? Do I have ADHD? Why do I act different, perceive different, but not different 'enough'?" And then it's like my brain is SURE I am neurotypical. Yesterday I literally cried, when talking about it to my (also neurodivergent, very supportive) boyfriend. I hate not being able to label myself, being stuck in that loop. What I wanted to say is, I'm really thankful for your content. It's so weird to hear words like "you're okay, you belong here, you're welcome" since my mind always sabotages me. So thank you, you're doing great work for us, probably undiagnosed, fellow neurodivergent people.
Also I'm sorry for my not-so-great English, I'm really chaotic and emotional right now
This Video really help me with my son that has been diagnosed with ADHD years ago.
Yeah I had most of these. I’ve known/felt different my whole life, but was passed along all throughout school. I truly don’t know how none of my teachers told my parents that they suspected me of autism. In 5th grade I performed the entire Charlie and the chocolate factory soundtrack with the dances to my music class. No one stopped me, it was supposed to be a talent show and I took up the entire time.
I love this. I would have joined you in the takeover! Fantastic musical taste! 😁🍫 💖 🎟 💃
What was the response after the talent show? When did it occur to you that you maybe crossed a line inadvertently? I so get this. Sigh. It's hard to be so fascinating. 😉
Omg! For years I’ve been told I had bpd and that ended up being wrong. Then CPTSD … THEN ADHD!!! Now this! Makes so much sense!
I’ve suspected something was different with me all my life, but it wasn’t until I became a mom and got one of my kids diagnosed with autism and the other with ADHD that I started to suspect I may have similar condition to them, I was thinking maybe a type of autism but actually the more I check about ADHD I realize it’s what matches exactly. Interesting video 🙏🏻 got 21/21 signs
All 21 signs are me. Some more than others. It's frustrating because i was told as a child it was just me being lazy or acting crazy. I was also told it was just in my head and i needed to act normal.
this might sound weird but i got a little emotional when you said welcome to the community, I've never been fully diagnosed, only been told I possibly have a dissociative disorder but they weren't qualified enough so I stopped seeing them. I've never felt fully welcome anywhere, so thank you
I developed a note taking framework that solves the secretary problem.
That's amazing!!!
Thank you so much! I'm in my 40s and just now they think I have ADHD and I know I have seasonal affective disorder/ depression. I was diagnosed with a " learning disability " in the 80s before they really understood us. I get frustrated easily especially when they think I'm not intelligent but rather I get bored quickly and it's hard for me to focus. Then I get hyperfocused on a topic then they say I'm really smart and they don't understand why I change focus on to something else. I feel like I really like mental puzzles and data but if it's not stimulating enough, I go off into the realm of Alice in Wonderland.... it's really frustrating. Your points resonate with me. Now I don't feel crazy or alone. Thank you! :)
I am SO glad this video made you feel less alone! Welcome to the party!
This made sense to me. I have 17 of the points you raised. It's extrordinary to see this all in a 10 minute slot. If anyone gets that, for me living with the 17 points you raised it has meant ... leading a life of moving furniture constantly in my unit, plan plan plan and then plan again, buying a 'dementia clock' to track day and time, I have no sense of social cue's - zip/nothing. It's kinda cool to see this and kinda weird to see it as well. Thanks for sharing :)
Haha, I'm glad it's kinda cool, sorry it's kinda weird, but generally I hope it was helpful! Which points resonated with you most?
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub Time-blindness. Time is frequently fast in my mind. Words, thoughts, incidents ... pile up. I try hard to slow time in my mind down to process anything. Now & then it's slow but I've noticed it is like this when I'm extremely fatigued
Do you experience this also?
@@teresaclark3553 I totally experience this! Time-blindness is a huge problem for me. It often moves too fast or too slow, and I have such a hard time estimating time.
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub multiple tasking is another. A fair bit can happen in an hour. Exactly how you explained. I can write something down and I've written 3 steps ahead or 3 thoughts in one sentence. Its frustrating at times. Every now and then I wondered if I could depend on my mind or thoughts.
Diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and Chiari Malformation...Undiagnosed ASD and ADHD....after medical research and personal experience videos like this one, I am certain that at 45 years old I finally understand what all the tests at age 5 were for and why I struggled SO hard even though I was "super intelligent". My parents decided NOT to tell me the results of all the testing, however they did agree to have me skip a grade (they passed away decades ago so I can't ask anymore) and I am learning that who I have been my whole life had real reasons and I'm not "just a problem". That's life changing. Now I can learn from others thanks to the internet and learn how to live a productive and less stress-filled life! Thank you for sharing. ❤
21/21. I was diagnosed with ADHD well into adulthood, but I've often suspected I may also have autism. My head's a real fun ride.
I've always known something was "different" about me and I still don't know specifics but this has helped me realise so much!! Thank you 💗
Of course, I'm so glad this helped!!!
all of this resonates so much!
edit: never been diagnosed, but that would be the next step.
Oh. #10 describes my hearing problems spot on. One more thing into my ADHD/autism bucket. Must say, that's the first time I hear about this one.
The "delayed processing" bit really hits home: I often start asking to repeat something I "didn't quite hear", and literally a couple words later realize that I heard and understood everything perfectly fine. Or sometimes I start replying and realize that what they said isn't what I first thought they did.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
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Many of them relate to me. I just can't understand that I'm 32 and was functional enough for no one thinking it was crucial to get checked as a child by a doctor (meaning that I was able to speak and perform at school) but at the same time not functional enough to ever fit (I developed severe social anxiety then depression and now I basically can't get out of bed).
love your energy - I'm 41 and am just about to begin my assessment in January - /many/ of those signs have been all me my whole life, but I always just wrote it off as me being a failure. Whatever the Dx, I'm looking forward to some clarity. Thanks
I'm a diagnosed ADD, BPD, BiPolar, with the complications of rheumatoid and osteoarthritis conspiring against me! I am so pleased to find this channel and group. Whether it's a form of madness or just left brained thinking, it's nice to be in like company. Please don't misunderstand me, I have a peculiar sense of humor but I don't mean to upset or offend anyone. 😅
I have ADHD I have been misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder and bpd! I also have rheumatoid arthritis and epilepsy! What type bipolar do you have?
I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 but yet I relate to a lot of things listed here
Wow thank you. As an adult I can see how I’ve always functioned this way. I feel labels can limit us but also help us build the skills to live in the world without thinking we have to be a part of the trend and other ways of learning as the majority do. Different doesn’t mean wrong and as I age I realize it’s needed in the world. Many of my own ancestors probably were also and some chose to self medicate and struggle with other things trying to fit in. I believe each of us has our purpose and as long as we are living we have one. I don’t want to be looked at as weak or use anything to excuse why I do things as well if that makes sense? This fascinates me and I’m more excited to learn abt myself with my doctors and therapist as well. Thank you for explaining it so well.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Smart lady! I didn't know I had adhd till my daughter was diagnosed. Now, all my struggles make sense.
It's a good thing to tell people about possible symptoms BUT you have to be very careful. For example not being able to hold eye contact can be a sign of low confidence... different sleep times can be caused by the amount of work or stress or free time you have and so on. These signs mentioned in the video CAN be an indicator BUT can also be caused by a million other reasons. So don't get insecure!
I feel a lot of this makes so much sense to my thought process. I didn’t know it had a name to it because I thought there was something wrong with me. I’ve self diagnosed myself as being autistic because of this. I have been diagnosed with ptsd, anxiety, adhd and depression.
I'm so glad you're finding the names for the things that affect you, that can be SO powerful.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Thank you so much! This made me cry so much. I was recently dx with adult adhd and all my life I have struggled so much. This dx was not an easy one for me to receive because of the way of how society labels adhd and how “skipped” from the way it should be handled. (I dont even know how to explain this). But, I have been trying to start loving myself again and getting to know myself again with these new “set of eyes”. Life has been hard! :(
I'm so glad you e been getting to know yourself again through the lens of your new diagnsois. I hope it makes you feel seen, despite the stigma that comes with it. Just remember, being neurodivergent isn't a bad thing. You are good 💜
@@TheNeurocuriosityClub thank you so much! I appreciate you!
I’ve noticed I can relate to a lot of this. I saw a POV of someone with ADHD and it described my life. I think I might have ADHD but I’m not hyper typically. I have been finding it hard to focus in school but I somehow still get the information that I’m being taught even though I’m very fidgety. I’m passing all my courses comfortably except for one which is French and there are a lot of extroverts and social people that I really have a hard time having a genuine conversation with. I have had people notify me that I am constantly associating things with trains (it’s my hobby) and it often feels a little awkward for me.
I’ve also noticed I’m really bad with small talk and eye contact. I typically look at people forehead or face cheeks as some way to help with talking to people (especially new people).
I’m also very sarcastic when talking (again especially with new people) but I can be somewhat serious with people I know. I sometimes need prompting to get school work done (not too often). I’ve also noticed I do a lot better in smaller groups of people that are neurodivergent. I have two friends that are on the spectrum and we are like two peas in a pod, but people who aren’t neurodivergent I don’t feel as comfortable. I have a few non neurodivergent friends and I feel fine one on one with them it’s when there’s many. I kinda feel like the dumb immature one. I feel very different and not as connected with them.
I have also been in many situations where I have no idea how to react or respond. I can’t turn my brain off at night, I constantly have thoughts running through by brain. I never know when someone likes me or not, all the time I’ve had someone point out that someone likes me and when I’ve had hunches that someone liked me I was wrong.
I’ve had people tell me that I should get tested. (Nothing in specific) but idk what to get tested for or I’m just over exaggerating or it’s the effects of the pandemic or am I stressed.
I don’t know what to do honestly.
It could be ADHD, Autism, or both. Keep in mind that everyone is different, but what you described sounds like it could be both. With the ADHD and not being hyper, you could have the inattentive presentation, which means that the hyperactivity presents itself as daydreaming and not paying attention. I personally have ADHD and I suspect Autism and possibly dyslexia. I've been denied testing, because I "socialized too well" when I got diagnosed with ADHD- which doesn't mean anything imo, because everyone is different- but I see a lot of the signs in myself. I haven't mentioned the dyslexia to anyone, but I see a lot of the signs as well
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
I've watched a lot of these videos, and there are things here I've never heard about anywhere else--like task multiplying and time blindness.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I asked my mother (an ex-teacher's aid for diabled and neuro-divergent students) if she thought I had autism. After dating someone, and talking with people that have ADHD/ADD, I feel like I can have a conversation without 'being annoying' or 'distracting people' form my original point.
Planning to get a diagnosis soon.