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Respectfully, don't give the government ideas I don't want a 7 day work week🙏 Edit cuz I'm paranoid: (ik she's not for that but I found it funny)

I’ve worked the 4 day work week before and while the actual time of day it was left me exhausted, it did a lot to alleviate the burnout and shock of switching. 5 days is enough to lock in to a work mode, and 2 days is not only not enough relief, but it’s just long enough to make the first couple of days back to work feel like suffering. 4 and 3 at least makes it seem like there is a usable routine because you’re in personal life mode almost as much as work life mode.😮

I feel pretty disconnected to my body in general. If I had to choose I’m most connected to my hands probably because I can see me using them. But otherwise I do feel more like I’m an amorphous blob in my head which controls the rest of my body.

i feel like my surrounding are imposing a caricature of myself instead of letting it be simple

the problem is forcing people to produce a 'minimum' subjective wisdom

ideas expire, and are constantly ecoed around between all of us along our lives, i see it as a toxic and fearful conservatism of culture dictating our only lifes for no other reason than to ertertain us in ignorance, i feel my life so wasted by this standarized mantra of the life of a person of today

My meat suit has been actively trying to ctrl-alt-del me since 2022, so it can eff off

as we stray from our similarities we can find more profound ways of similarity, but they exist before we interpret them for words, not evolved to find meaning casually

i live in pain, but i'm not looking the other way, i won't stop until my life is real(as i dispose gradually of all the mantra gradually i feel the recess of this imposition as if i'm quitting smoking, it begs me to be normal, but normal, in this moment, to me is a crime on humanism.(the words chosen are just as far as they go, but the meaning in the complete picture ridicules the tolerance for individuality of today)

(this vomit of words is as limited as words limit ideas)to me, it's not bad to let it be simple, but you've already seen that conception, maybe it's good to let it be like that, but to me, it's not enough, it contradicts the intent of thought and genuinity of the verb on living, as even that idea can be progressed further. At the same time, not establishing in a point will drain your life in cycles of thought, i like that, even if it's seen as insanity. i'm not even closer to let social constructs dictate my life.(as you see, it's broadly difficult to express ideas to other people, but it's a grade of freedom that separated me from the miasma of the imposed fascist religion, difficult to see but totally present today)it hurts because this culture is the conseqüence of soo many anti-humanist ideas implanted since the conception of power over other people.

that perspective can be positive if you refute the negative conception of the idea that it's wrong to not feel like the humans the status quo of today tries to implant on us, explore it, enjoy, instead of considering it as a bad thing.

My diagnosis saved me. From myself, from the internalisation and the self hate. I don’t have depression any more. But you’re right it doesn’t solve anything in itself. It’s a journey

Thank you, I have both and it really is like double trouble! Only recently been diagnosed with asd, but I have not taken the ADHD assessment. I almost can’t be bothered (classic adhd!)

I have always felt very indifferent about my body even though i do lots of embodiment work. The physical meat seat has been really hard to connect to at times over the years. One of my goals this year is to learn to love and adore my body the way I do for others.

The best way to describe it for me is inside out. Like I’m sitting in a control center for my body but the meat suit isn’t an integral part of me.

i'm pretty floaty, i have a real hard time being 'in my body' and in my imagination and dreams i'm always viewing it from third person POV. i can't even play 1st-person perspective video games, they feel so foreign and confusing, and 1st person books are often very off-putting.

happy that you have a supportive partner 🥰 , sad that your body dysmorphia is such that you don't even consider living IN it 😢

Can not relate. Not sure how you were ostracized so thoroughly for him to come to that conclusion. You don't seem particularly abnormal enough.

Wowwwwwwwwww! So true! I know I am vaguely in my body. But I think think think, so I try to ground if I think of it, because it is not healthy. It produces anxiety and obsessively learning or thinking about things. I forget to feel, I forget to eat, pee, drink water, sleep, etc. forget it if I start getting sucked into video games. 😂 When it's warmer outside and you get a chance, sit on the ground and try to shift your awareness to the feeling of the earth below you, how that feels, you can slow your breathing... Start to feel a part of the earth, and trees around you. Like that feeling of getting lost in a book or something. But be present. Maybe it's he anxiety of trying to "fix" the things we can't change, being ADHD.. maybe is the poor interoception, or spaciness... I don't know. Whatever place you that brings you peace. 🕊️🪷🧘🏻‍♀️ Like sitting by the ocean or a stream. I haven't figured it out how much to build into my week. But I realized I forget to "touch grass", and my friend was right. Physical removing myself from my office or my room or couch where my automatic habit is to scroll through my phone or media, or watch t.v., it forces me to be present. If someone's ADHD is very hyperactive, I am more inattentive, this might be hard. Maybe for them it is walking or swimming. Something sensory. See if that shifts your awareness back into your body? I know it's not quite what you are saying. But it seems to rebalance me. My energy tends to be like yours and not in my body. I forget that this is not a balanced way to be, and there are other parts of me that need to just be, or need my attention. And I don't realize that spacing and being in my head takes me away from that. I would be interested if the one affects the other? 🤔 If you are doing something more peaceful, or engrossing, that is affecting your other senses and takes you out of your head, would that also shift your sense of self and connection to your body as well? Baby steps. 🫶🏻🥰💖🧘🏻‍♀️🧚🏻‍♀️✨💕 What kind of activities could you do that allow your mind to pause and take a rest for a while and allow the rest of you to come online for a bit and experience life or just being? You are doing a lot as well so it's hard to do. Just curiouwhat little things, or bits of time you could carve into your schedule to take all that energy spinning around in the cloud, and discharge it like roots of a tree into the ground to rebalance? For me going for a walk outside, sitting by the water, sometimes I carry pocket stones around with me to remind me to feel. Feel energy around me or the feeling of my breath, instead of thinking so much, or escapism.. very interesting topic! Experiencing energy or the feeling of how you feel in the world around you, and allowing you to come down from being in your head a lot, would that also shift your perception of self and awareness of your body down as well. She needs care too. :) I wonder if poor interoception is more about getting too distracted to hear the messages or not getting them as much? Maybe a little if both. I wonder if that is something you could slowly train or develop with practice? Ok .. I think I need to go touch grass now. Lol 🤣 I don't want to. I just want to think think think.

I'm diagnosed bipolar, adhd, and there are lots of other diagnoses I have but I'll limit this to these two. I'm self diagnosed autistic and my mental health professions say it's possible though I have not been assessed nor diagnosed. I was born adhd, where my bipolar manifested in late elementary school and diagnosed when I was 12 or so. My dad is bipolar as well. Yes there are a lot of symptoms associated with both adhd and bipolar but my parents didn't see the need to get me help til after my bipolar kicked in. After hearing stories from them about me I question how some of my early behavior didn't raise flags. None of the meds I was on for bipolar worked, most actually made my mental health much worse, til I asked for and started Lithium at age 20 after being diagnosed adhd several months earlier and started treatment for it. I knew my bipolar diagnosis didn't explain everything, nor does adhd, though they explain A LOT and getting proper treatment for them is helping me see where else I need help. It's all really hard to figure out all at once in part due to mutual symptoms they share but aren't necessarily expressly what define individual diagnosis. If it weren't for my dad and the Lithium I'd probably question the bipolar diagnosis, but after getting my adhd diagnosis and starting treatment I noticed some improvement in me but the things I really associate with my bipolar didn't change. I wish doctors wouldn't miss diagnose so many with bipolar as a catch all cause it "kinda sorta maybe seems like it", instead of looking closer and trying to figure out what's really going on. In my case I believe I really am bipolar, but so many aren't and its just a hinderance to their getting appropriate help. Sorry for this being so long, but I've been without my meds for awhile, not by choice and I get to start it again tomorrow, so I'm having trouble not going off on tangents cause mental health advocacy is something I'm passionate about. I'm sorry so many go through this misdiagnosis.

WE ARE NOT THE SAME SLAY

UA-cam is the worst for neurodivergents because when you look up one topic you're curious about, it leads to many more and then your hands are suddenly full and you can't get anything done. Any of you experience that too? It's super addicting especially when you are too curious about everything and have too many interests.

Actually people with ADHD make too much eye contact and make neurotypical people uncomfortable. This is especially true in super cliquish paranoid cultures like California, USA, Japan, Taiwan, etc. But not in open cultures like Russia or SE Asia where people talk to strangers freely without paranoia.

This doesn't make sense. Mainstream people in USA and Taiwan and Japan don't make eye contact with strangers, not neurodivergent people. So how can the mainstream be neurotypical then? People don't even talk to strangers unless it's business related in North America and NE Asia. But not in the rest of the world. So this doesn't make sense. I'm neurodivergent and not afraid to make eye contact, but everyone else around me is.

I'm relating to all of this. I'm three days into this epiphany and I'm feeling so much lighter. Thanks for making such articulate and informative content.

I was diagnosed with ADD (or ADHD inattentive type) about three years ago, but I always thought that something was missing. I was tip toing around AuDHD for a while now and recently took the RAADS-R test and got like 190 points which is insanely high. I remember taking it before and scoring somewhere in the middle, but at that point I hadn't realized which symptoms actually applied to me. ADHD and ASD resonated with me a lot and not at all, but AuDHD is almost a perfect fit. My brain just tears me apart while trying to go into two completely different directions. It's exhausting. My sister probably has ADHD, still undiagnosed, and she is 100% the excited squirrel, while I'm a squirrel chased by a dog, as you so fittingly described. Thank you for this educating video!

Im so depressed right now and the sad thing is it comes out of no where i can’t explain it

Then there are those, like me, that can’t seem to get a diagnosis- to save our lives… Been asking and trying for Years…

I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was a kid but now most of the people who know me think I'm autistic, but I'm too old to get a free diagnosis on it so I doubt I'll ever get to know if I do or not lol

I like the distinction between disorders (e.g., depression) and conditions (e.g., ASC/ADHD). And the zebra/horse thing makes total sense (also consider the "Ugly Duckling" story/song). I think of music genres when I think of labels: they are more useful as flagpoles than boxes. If you like one symphonic metal band you have an increased chance of liking another, but you might not because they are all different. Ditto with similarities in ways of thinking and lifehacks for various ND folks.

If you can't work due to mental health issues- getting a diagnosis is necessary to obtain a label and that label can make all the difference between getting assistance or ending up on the street... or worse. Speaking from actual lived experience, FTR.

How is self compassion supposed to help me from unable to hold a job, raise a family and function as a regular human. This video is a scam and a waste of time

The way I see it, there are two modes of disability. The first mode wouldn't be disabilities if society was built differently or was more accommodating (for example, blindness). The second mode is disabling in and of itself (for example, migraines). Every disability exists on a spectrum between these two modes or fluctuate between them as they ebb and flow. For me, my ADHD is mostly the former mode, but there's still a lot of the latter.

Thank you I feel so seen 😭

As someone who struggles to figure out my mental health situation, i find your journey relatable and interesting! Please share more!

i would try creating a weekend routine that might help not throw everything off rough out your day maybe not go by it to a t because things come up but it could be helpful

got a BPD diagnosis before anyone ever told me about any posibility of neither autism or adhd, couldn't handle existence - got addicted to weed, and now i'm unable to get my true audhd diagnosis unless i get sober again somehow, absolutely incredible i sure love living in a society 😊👍

Not that you have to listen to me or haven't already tried this I'm not sure, but maybe if you treated a weekend like the workday? like wake up at the time you usually do and do the routine and behave like youll go to work. Idk if it would make it any easier but it might help.

This is me too, except my bipolar diagnosis happened around age 13-14 and persisted until around age 30. I knew it didn't quite fit the entire time. Initially it was bipolar not otherwise specified (because there was no pattern in my moods but other ladies in my family had the diagnosis, so sure, why not?), then it was upgraded to bipolar II at some point, and then a neuropsych report said bipolar I with mania recent (even though I told him I had never experienced mania). I've been off mood stabilizers for 3 years now with zero problems. Gotta love relying on external observers to understand the internal experience of an alexithymic AuDHD teenager 🙃

My wife was diagnosed bipolar at 15 years old. It wasnt bipolar. It was severe mania and psychosis from being gr*ped for years by her father. She's not bipolar, shes traumatized. C-PTSD.

agree with you that freeze is actually the most activated state!!!

I was diagnosed bipolar almost 8 years ago and I’m not lol. I’ve been off medications for 2 years, I don’t experience mania anymore and I’m currently getting an assessment for autism. Edit: I think my “mania” was either just high energy or me being excited. Also, thank you for sharing this.

It’s great to have these discussions about these topics and be open about this kind of stuff. That’s what I’m hoping to be able to do too with my channel, and normalize these kind of things. Much love and support to this community

I'm 57 and diagnosed bipolar first year uni. I only realized I was autistic at 41. It didnt occur to me that I wasnt bipolar until 2 years ago. I was on antipsychotics for 30 years. Do you know what that does to your body??? But, hey, better late than never.

I mean, technically, if you are taking a medication like adderall because it helps you function through the day, even if you don't have a prescription, that really isn't taking it "recreationally". I know it's really a fine line distinction there. Mental health services is largely out of reach for many people. It's extremely hard as an adult to get therapy or assessments for conditions. I've been trying myself for months to get into a behavioral health clinic, but one clinic lost my appointment three times in a row, and the only other clinic in my area refused to see me even with a referral. My GP is aware of all that and is overseeing my current prescription of adderall and has me down as likely to have ADHD (I definitely do have it but he cannot officially diagnose me, I'd have to have a proper behavioral health assessment). And my insurance will not cover any app based mental health services and I couldn't even afford the sliding scale fees anyway. So yeah, I'm definitely not going to judge anyone for doing what they got to do, especially in a country where healthcare is not guaranteed by right in a for-profit system.

I'm still in school and it's one of my favorite things in the world.🏫 Weekends and days off are wors than exams for me.😅 Both cause the stop in my routine and cause i can't go to school on those days. Just thank you to all my good teachers❤. Much love and support from Belgium 🇧🇪✌️

Oh, I thought the Alexy thing was "not being able to feel things" similar to being numb emotionally or in freeze mode in PSTD. Not that you can't identify the emotions. That explains why I can only process them when they overwhelm me, like when I cry or laugh or something like that. As I see that I'm crying I know I'm sad. I can look dramatic from the outside. It's different when I watch a sad movie or hear a sad emotional song because I know how I'm going to feel. And there's the problem of not distinguishing if the chest pain I'm feeling is hunger, thirst, anxiety, depression, food poisoning....

Wow. I'm sitting here with my mouth wide open. I had similar issues with college and I got a bipolar diagnosis in 2021 (at 42). I have the trauma responses too. I did get an ADHD diagnosis (at 44). I've been suspecting autism for a while. I might seek out someone to help figure that out. Thanks for sharing.

Story of my life.

I am just glad to see you, awesome lady. 👍🏻😎 Don't worry. People will be here for whenever the time is right for you. Unfortunately self-care seems to take more work and energy, than the conditions themselves, you know? It can be overwhelming. At least for me, that is what it is seeming to be like lately. Lol. I am sure everyone can relate. For real. And especially if you have kids! And you are a coach, running your own business. Any one of those things by THEMSELVES is a lot for anyone! Let alone us. :) Honestly I tried to start a business once and it was so I overwhelming I had to put it on pause because it took more time and energy than I had to give. And that is just the 1 thing. Not all the balls you are juggling. :) 🤹🏻‍♀️ People look at hyperfucus or other qualities of ADHD part of things as a super power, and in some ways you can turbo charge through things others maybe can't do as much. But the price!.. omg. The price you pay is not good. So hard to find the balance. I am just having a hard time heaing from my burnout, to come in here and make anything at all (content) like I really want to, and I don't even have kids! And I brought my workdays down to only one day a week. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ It's like what? Are you kidding me? :'( How much rest does a person even need? So confusing. This doesn't make sense. So I can't imagine, dealing with burnout if you are(?), and having those additional responsibilities and pressure as well? That is so much. How to balance all that out and know when to pivot to care for you, and cut your responsibilities back, so you don't push yourself back or get sick. And the need to pivot priorities messes with my need to do things as I already decided I was going to do. 😂 Your body, heart, mind, and soul will tell you. What you need. 💗 And anyone who would get upset, maybe doesn't belong here, or want to be here? I don't know? Doesn't understand? Is probably not neurodivergent? Let those people go. You already know, sorry. :) People who do care and are meant to be here will stay. Love you, take care of you! 💗🫶🏻🙏🏻🩷😁💗🧘🏻‍♀️🪷🦋