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  • @Embonation16
    @Embonation16 Рік тому +358

    My husband hearing this video playing from the other room.. "WHY ARE YOU LISTENING TO A BREAK UP VIDEO?" 😂😂😂 Me yelling back "BECAUSE I LOVE KAT AND I WATCH ALL HER VIDEOS!" he yells back 10 minutes into video, "SHE'S MAKING IT SO EASY FOR YOU TO BREAK UP WITH ME" 🤣🤣🤣

  • @paigeloghry9101
    @paigeloghry9101 Рік тому +26

    Wow Kat, this was such a beautiful video. So much transparency, so much vulnerability. I am not in this situation currently, but this is absolutely something I have felt and gone through. You express yourself so eloquently and it really does make a 19 minute video feel like 5! Thank you for sharing such great advice. This is so valuable and I’m so glad young women going through similar situations have you to look up to! You make me smile from ear to ear everytime I watch one of your videos, truly such a beautiful human inside and out! Love you girl! ❤️

  • @danielscountry9884
    @danielscountry9884 Рік тому +28

    If marriage is the two becoming One, then divorce is the death of the One. Marriage reaches to the core of who we are, it hits every layer of us, so it makes sense getting through the death of it would take some serious time and work.
    I’ve been there with 3 kids and I have never got over the sorrow divorce causes them, but you can own your part, do the work needed to grieve and heal, and teach them through example that just because we make mistakes doesn’t mean our blessings or story is over.
    God bless on your journey. That’s what it is, a journey. Take your time.

  • @SabriePowe
    @SabriePowe Рік тому +23

    I've been in an on/off relationship with my children's father since 2017. This yr was the yr I finally decided to call it quits for good, realizing that he is no good for me no matter how I try to spin it or make excuses for him. It takes 2 to be in a relationship but when 1 person is CONSTANTLY giving more than the other, it never works. It took me this long to realize that I'm worthy of the love that I put out into the world. This break up has been so hard, but I know my time for true love is coming soon I just have to be patient and trust the process. Thank you for this video, it really helped 💖

    • @yellabone94
      @yellabone94 Рік тому

      Wow. I'm in this exact same situation 😅

    • @roxana2090
      @roxana2090 Рік тому +1

      I think we are loving the same life! Only, It took me a lot longer than you 😅

    • @roxana2090
      @roxana2090 Рік тому

      *living

    • @RainbowwRach
      @RainbowwRach Рік тому

      Good for you! I can imagine it’s so hard to make that choice but definitely celebrate that decision to put yourself and your kids well-being first 💛🫶🏽

    • @kathrynfriedlund3280
      @kathrynfriedlund3280 9 місяців тому

      My heart goes out to you. I think there's so many who can relate to what you shared. I hope things have gotten better for you, how are you now?

  • @broncojim66
    @broncojim66 Рік тому +48

    A man wouldn’t let a women with a child scare them off, your energy and your goofy personality is so attractive and the reason I started following you on TikTok.

    • @gracestockham5947
      @gracestockham5947 Рік тому +13

      While I understand your sentiment, it is totally valid for a man to decide that children aren’t for him. Decisions about whether you want to raise a family doesn’t define masculinity or femininity for that matter. Just food for thought.

    • @ItsN3rdz
      @ItsN3rdz Рік тому +3

      @@gracestockham5947 I came here to say that and to add children are a huge commitment. You may not parent the same and then you might not want them to parent your kid. It is a lot to deal with and love isn’t always enough

  • @cristalstovall7393
    @cristalstovall7393 Рік тому +26

    The more you go through the wiser you get. Growth is a process. ❤

  • @Paxyiscool
    @Paxyiscool Рік тому +43

    thank you for the hug at the end

    • @kalinawalker2656
      @kalinawalker2656 Рік тому +4

      I ended my engagement too. Hope you are at peace.

  • @dknoop9838
    @dknoop9838 Рік тому +5

    I am so happy I found your channel. I went through a horrible DV breakup. It is coming up on a year. I was told by many to not date for at least year. Find out who you are without them. Best advice hands down!!! I still have good days and bad days. It is not easy. But everything you said is truth. I hope whomever listens to this takes your advice. I look forward to all your new videos and tictoks. Thank you for making me laugh and smile today. I needed it.
    New Fan!!! 😃

  • @springwater9981
    @springwater9981 Рік тому +5

    Half way into this when I remembered I've been single all my life. And I continued to watch and take note and I embraced that hug like it was the worst break up I've ever had!

  • @Morgano8o8
    @Morgano8o8 Рік тому +15

    I’m not divorced but we have thrown that D word around a few times in our big fights and that’s a scary thing. I just wanted to say thank you for this video, for preemptive reasons. I feel like I need to crack my shell I’ve been in and maybe that would amplify our marriage honestly. I’m too hyper focused on us when I need to focus on me. We also have a toddler daughter and she deserves to see her momma at her fullest potential. I want that shine you’ve got ✨
    Love you and your videos
    ♥️ stay badass.

    • @ec9833
      @ec9833 Рік тому

      Wishing you the best in defining ways focusing on yourself entails. That was the most difficult part for me & I’m only just learning. I had to get very personal guidance but once I was given actual instruction and not just “inspiration” & felt sense of what the steps taken provided me, internally & residually, I was hooked!!! Took many decades for me to ever learn what entailed loving one’s self and it wasn’t anything I could’ve imagined. The coolest thing about it was that it didn’t take much to start in order for me to feel the power of it. Which entered more and more motivation. I wish it for everyone and really wish it was normalized. Not just the inspiration but the actual instruction; the internal, mental & psychological instruction to it, beyond, “take a bubble bath”. All the best & this stranger 100% supports your decision. ❤️

    • @Mommaandherminis
      @Mommaandherminis 9 місяців тому

      Sometimes it’s best for a child to see you happy over being in a relationship that they see you upset in. It’s okay to show your kids it’s all not peace all the time and a marriage is work but a child trauma for me was watching the fights and arguments my parents got into. My parents were better parents separated. ❤❤

  • @michinaein
    @michinaein Рік тому

    This has been unexpectedly helpful for me and I wasn't even intending to get anything out of it (I was just browsing through all of your content). The hug and the whisper at the end was so cute and heartfelt. Thanks.

  • @Ky-time
    @Ky-time Рік тому +5

    This is such great information, thank you for sharing. Also, I’m so happy to see that you’re really embracing life! 💗

  • @jaggirl
    @jaggirl Рік тому +3

    I wish my son would watch this. I don't think he's ever gotten over his first love. They broke up when he was about 20. After being with her for around 2 years. He's had girlfriends. But I know he's not in love with them. He's 34, and lived with his current gf for a couple of years now. He never brings her to any of the family get togethers. Travels to visit his sister and his nieces. Doesn't ever bring her. No one in the family has met her. He seems to care though. We hear some telephone calls he makes. Tells her he misses her and will be home soon.
    I feel sad for the girl. She has a couple of children too. I know he's great with kids.
    Not sure if it's him keeping her away, or she isn't interested in his family.
    My daughter has asked him " when are we going to meet your gf?"
    He says " yeah, you probably should meet her."
    But that's as far as it goes.
    I know when he's serious about a girl. Before I meet her, he says to me " mum, this is the girl I want to marry."
    He hasn't said that in a long time.
    I know he hates being alone. But I feel sad for them both. Such a waste of young lives.
    She especially should put her children first.
    If he's not in love by now, it's not going to happen with this girl.

    • @shannon1446
      @shannon1446 8 місяців тому

      Wow! I feel like I know you and your son from this 😊

  • @hajarlamine1278
    @hajarlamine1278 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for this vidéo, you said something amazing : breakup is à grief and lost of our planned vision of us in the future. You are definitely a strong woman and your focus on positivity which is inspiring.
    Also I Iike how you speak a lot of your first love as if you last beakup is nothing compared to it and that last marriage was just a step on the way.
    Gratefulness: one thing missing is that your past experience made you the strong woman you are today and you should be grateful it happened earlier in life when you didn't have a kid or a career yet now you immune system is strong for the rest of your life.

  • @jennadawn
    @jennadawn Рік тому +7

    Can we also normalize just being happy and single?

  • @soonerborn6694
    @soonerborn6694 Рік тому +1

    Agree - kiddos complicate things big time in a divorce. Have to be patient with ourselves and our ex. Thanks for content - you’re brave, strong, and love your sense of humor. Stay safe - crazy world out there.

  • @elizabethphinney3330
    @elizabethphinney3330 6 місяців тому

    A few years ago I got out of a horrible relationship and it was so hard bc for YEARS we had this healthy great relationship and how much and how truly I loved him was really beautiful, but he changed and started binge drinking and the relationship got very toxic, and when I left finally I just didn’t let myself think anything else but “I need to love myself more and I need to love myself enough to want more for myself than this” and when I first started saying that to myself I didn’t believe it, but I just knew that I needed to do it and I was so relieved and happy once I left and I never thought that.. this video is great it was nice to reflect on that time in my life ❤

  • @makailafoster
    @makailafoster Рік тому +12

    I'm not going through a breakup but I still enjoyed watching! Love you!!!💗💗💗

  • @Oyimtalkingtoyou
    @Oyimtalkingtoyou Рік тому +1

    I watched some of your old tik toks when you were married.... I think your life looks amazing since you got divorced. ❤ love your new stuff

  • @bethpat9
    @bethpat9 Рік тому +10

    This was *so* good!! Much better than 6 sessions with a therapist!! Thank you!

  • @emilydaley646
    @emilydaley646 Рік тому

    I told my first love that I loved her a few years ago, and she just wrote me a letter saying "no thanks", then outed me to the entire year level last christmas.....
    this video really helped me because I thought i was over her, but i really wasnt, and its taken some time to get back to the me I want to be, but im there now, so thank you so so so so so much!

  • @MhMhMhM88
    @MhMhMhM88 Рік тому

    You explained it very well! I hope this helps someone.
    I learned from my first BIG break up. Ever since the other couple of break ups were not as bad. They hurt but I never fell as hard as I did the first time.

  • @vohlupsa
    @vohlupsa 6 місяців тому

    I’m grateful for this insight into your psychological and practical experience. Thank you.

  • @SarahSmith-df7ny
    @SarahSmith-df7ny 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for making this video. It honestly helped me so much.

  • @I.am.emmyxo
    @I.am.emmyxo Рік тому

    Omgosh that air hug at the end! I felt that! I’ve been needing that for years. lol. Thank you! ❤😂

  • @NikkiConstantino83
    @NikkiConstantino83 Рік тому

    Thank you for this post and just being authentic! I've been binge watching your videos and appreciate the wholesomeness of what you share. Thanks for the hug and look forward to seeing more videos!

  • @sagella69
    @sagella69 Рік тому +1

    Loved the "grieving who you were or prospect of becoming in your future" part. That makes the amount of time I thought I was over & healed from losing the relationship & absolutely not wanting my ex back ever, but somehow still not being healed. It manifested in other ways, so I have been constantly refuting the claim I'm not over my ex... I'm upset & hurt so much that I lost the life I kept thinking I'd have time for. I binged break up, broken heart advice- my heart or chest physically hurt. I don't think I heard or grasped if I did the concept of grieving the "me" I was in that relationship AND to their kids, family. Thank you this. I love a lady who can do both: hilarity & wisdom for the ages

  • @chriskraszewski1776
    @chriskraszewski1776 Рік тому

    Kat Your words are very inspirational wether your separate or been separated. Life starts again and trust me. It makes sense in the long run. Love in a relationship! is one of the most important thing.

  • @mauiloves885
    @mauiloves885 Рік тому

    Where were you when I was going thru my divorce! You, My Sweet, are proof positive that wisdom does not only come with age. For someone so very young you are wise beyond your years. Hearing what you said, all your advice was SPOT ON! I wish I had it when I was just prone for several years watching life pass me by. So, keep on sharing that knowledge woman because I'm certain you are helping so many people. Blessings to you and your Little Lady! Aloha...

  • @brooklynnhufft4321
    @brooklynnhufft4321 Рік тому +6

    Going through it right now and your videos help so much❤️❤️

  • @kisi5888
    @kisi5888 Рік тому

    Kat you’re the best! Thank you for always sharing your kindness and warmth to others❤

  • @Arlene_witha_y
    @Arlene_witha_y Рік тому +5

    I also took like 3 years to get over my high school love that I was only with for just under a year!!! So when my next relationship that produced two children failed I’ve been afraid that it will take the rest of my life to get over it bc it was 15 years!!!!
    It’s been about 2-3 years. I still have moments or days that I think about the grief I went through and I believe i might still be grieving when in actuality I’m realizing and appreciating and honoring the grief but I am passed it. It is done….. done done.. this time. This is the real end and the real new start and after 2-3 years I’m ok with that. I’m still a little scared about the future but… they say if something scares you, you should dive in head first.

  • @liacazzuto8926
    @liacazzuto8926 Рік тому

    I’m so scared and lonely rn. I’m playing this video everyday but the emptiness of not having someone to hold me when it hurts, hurts.

    • @katstickler5757
      @katstickler5757  Рік тому

      i am so sorry to hear that you are hurting 🙁 I promise you it gets better, you are the one who will take care of you!! and the self love that comes from that is so stable and comforting!! The next time you get into a relationship will be so much better because of the self love you will have developed in this season🤍 we are all here for you!

  • @chelseaunthank-qf1in
    @chelseaunthank-qf1in Рік тому +1

    You are such a blessing in my life! Thanks for always spreading relatable positivity Kat 🥰❤️

  • @kimberlyg4693
    @kimberlyg4693 Рік тому

    Thank you so much!! So much I can't say because people could read my comment. Lol!! I can say that the strength through it all helped me today.

  • @Zvezdachka3
    @Zvezdachka3 Рік тому

    You’re a great role model!! Thank you for being real and true to yourself ❤

  • @darianarnold6347
    @darianarnold6347 Рік тому +2

    If I haven’t said it enough, I love you Kat.

  • @mdag6392
    @mdag6392 Рік тому +2

    You're so awesome Kat! Thank you for your videos

  • @navyarao5553
    @navyarao5553 11 місяців тому

    Well, I am going through a breakup and I'm going to try all of these.

  • @michellesorenson1292
    @michellesorenson1292 Рік тому +1

    This is so good, but so so so hard. I'm happy you are doing well. I love your videos.

  • @sweetexuberance
    @sweetexuberance Рік тому

    For years I would see who he was around other people and it would remind me why I was with him to a degree.

  • @vivicadesign
    @vivicadesign Рік тому

    Thank you so much, I hope I can do this mindshift. And thank you for the air hug ❤

  • @zilanghalebm.8641
    @zilanghalebm.8641 Рік тому

    Wow, thank you for the air hug. It helped 🖤

  • @morgansanderson3861
    @morgansanderson3861 Рік тому

    The air hug helped ❤️ thank you ❤️

  • @laubelher
    @laubelher Рік тому

    *me happy AF in my current relationship* watching this video hyperfocused. Don't you dare interrupting me.

  • @NinjaBat-111
    @NinjaBat-111 Рік тому +1

    Excellent video Kat. You SHOULD be a therapist. Great points, and very well organized.

  • @jaznjaimee
    @jaznjaimee Рік тому +1

    I Thank God I didn’t have children with my first husband!!! He/I wasn’t what I/He wanted after all!!!✨

  • @KLeeScott0712
    @KLeeScott0712 Рік тому

    You remind me of my bestfriend Megan. You're such a wholesome person I love you kat ❤😢

  • @shovalgilead3802
    @shovalgilead3802 Рік тому

    Kat I appreciate you so much and your content brings so much joy to my life. Please start a podcast!

  • @hayleyhurst4358
    @hayleyhurst4358 Рік тому +1

    Me exited that you and Cam are still together based on the fact you said you couldn’t do social media and he still likes all your posts 🤔❤️😅🥰

  • @lustiva25
    @lustiva25 Рік тому

    I love this videos so much! Thank you for creating this space ❤

  • @allisonholland6096
    @allisonholland6096 Рік тому

    Thank you for the advice and hug girl.. needed it ❤

  • @indica_nail_artist_6363
    @indica_nail_artist_6363 Рік тому

    The part where you did the Kim k thing "get your ass up no one wants to work these days" 🤣😂 cracked me up I hope everyone realize what you were saying lol

  • @BabyBoomerChannel
    @BabyBoomerChannel Рік тому

    Therapy is not just a river in Egypt.

  • @mamasitatita
    @mamasitatita Рік тому

    This was the best viswo air hug and all 😂 Thank you for being so vulnerable and for the solid advice. You my dear…are headed for great things.

  • @shelbyswaffield
    @shelbyswaffield Рік тому +2

    I feel like I just made a new best friend. 😂 This is such a lovely down to earth really sweet video. Thank you Kat. Hugs back❤

  • @user-jd1qo3rc9r
    @user-jd1qo3rc9r Рік тому

    OMG YOU’RE THE BEST!!! ❤

  • @stevie__
    @stevie__ Рік тому +1

    I really needed this today. Thank you!

  • @Itsdreaa
    @Itsdreaa Рік тому

    I air hugged you back, thank you🥺❤️

  • @rebeccawills8697
    @rebeccawills8697 Рік тому

    Ive been grieving my first husband who died. Than my next guy who i was with for more than a decade who was like my husband in my mind... one day he just disapeared..yeah ive been grieving him and my identity and trying to figure out who i am now. I still will romance the idea of him... but i know its toxic. Who after almost 10 years doesnt even break up with you they just disapear??? AND TOLD ME HE WAS COMING BACK IN 2 WEEKS.. WAS GOING TO HIS MOMS.!wtf

  • @HahaT634
    @HahaT634 Рік тому

    Thank you, I needed that hug and advise ❤

  • @kettiacharles9101
    @kettiacharles9101 Рік тому +1

    Can we get a divorce story?

  • @hellobeccajo3490
    @hellobeccajo3490 Рік тому

    The hug was the best part. 🤗🤗

  • @esthertsema
    @esthertsema Рік тому

    Currently going through a divorce, thanks Kat, love you:)

  • @nataliewinstead186
    @nataliewinstead186 Рік тому

    You feel like a big sister🤍 thank you for these videos

  • @jontnoneya3404
    @jontnoneya3404 Рік тому +2

    The idea of lost time is ridiculous. You didn't lose time. You took the time necessary for you to heal. Saying "I lost time" implies a comparison to some perfect ideal of time, which is 100% a fantasy and therefore you should stop talking about it.....seriously. THERE IS NO WASTED TIME EVER! Examining why you think this and letting it go will help you stop wasting time worrying about not wasting time. See what I did there but it's true. Once you realize there is ZERO wasted time, life changes. Hell even bums on the street or on the golf courses that do nothing all day but what they want to do.....ARE NOT WASTING TIME because there is no way to waste time. We're all on different paths and want to experience different things in this life. In the USA we're so goal and task oriented that we think we're somehow wasting time if we're not moving towards our goals. NOTHING could be further from the truth and very often the short way up the mountain is to wander.

  • @xaquison
    @xaquison Рік тому

    Get a tattoo after a breakup?? Hell no! Would love to listen to your mom’s opinion and wisdom on breakups, surely would be interesting.

  • @lonnaj3746
    @lonnaj3746 Рік тому

    Oh My gooooodNesss Thank you for the HUG! so ssuper ssweet!

  • @sylviamb2504
    @sylviamb2504 Рік тому

    Taylor Swift is the modern day Shakespeare ❤

  • @angelcarlson9899
    @angelcarlson9899 Рік тому

    That was a great hug, thanks!

  • @krisq3616
    @krisq3616 Рік тому

    Great advice! Love u Kat!!

  • @kristinastoltz5804
    @kristinastoltz5804 Рік тому +1

    Love all of this 🥰 I had a question I hope it isn't insensitive, but after your breakup with Cam, are you and your friend still on good terms? I'm about to be in a similar situation 😬

  • @jahairaleelebron290
    @jahairaleelebron290 Рік тому

    This is amazing ❤ thank you 😊

  • @ledzepj
    @ledzepj Рік тому

    You are as close to the perfect woman that I can imagine!

  • @kellyroberts9140
    @kellyroberts9140 Рік тому

    Great video Kat. Well done! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @tommulders1642
    @tommulders1642 Рік тому +2

    As a man with 3 children i found out that woman are scared to get in a relationship with a man with children .its dificult

    • @apacur
      @apacur Рік тому

      Often because men with children often make it a point to say "My children will always be my prioriy".... What woman wants to be considered his secondary priority?

    • @misstakenbelief
      @misstakenbelief Рік тому

      Are you dating younger? If so, maybe look more around your age, or just older than what you've been looking for.

  • @randallchancellor8091
    @randallchancellor8091 Рік тому

    Still dont know what happen!!

  • @lillylowe6753
    @lillylowe6753 Рік тому +1

    thank you for this.

  • @natal1543
    @natal1543 Рік тому

    You’re so sweet!

  • @Camerong1345
    @Camerong1345 Рік тому

    Awh!!! The I love you story was Cam :(

  • @Tarotwithmandy
    @Tarotwithmandy Рік тому

    ❤ So beautifully said

  • @biancanewkirk7089
    @biancanewkirk7089 Рік тому

    I laughed out loud at the Kim Kardashian reference 😂😂😂

  • @hamidahali4493
    @hamidahali4493 Рік тому

    You're so cute. I love this video!

  • @may_okc5
    @may_okc5 Рік тому

    Loved this video !

  • @nicolehead260
    @nicolehead260 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing!

  • @briskibri20
    @briskibri20 Рік тому

    I thought she was going to talk about CAM 😢

  • @Ladyygomez
    @Ladyygomez Рік тому +1

    Can we be best friends? ❤

  • @desertrose00
    @desertrose00 Рік тому +1

    I am sooooooooooo wise now…. you know what I mean 😂

  • @kytran8822
    @kytran8822 Рік тому +3

    Thank you, Kat 🥹 I’m in the middle of the grieving process. Your video helps a lot 🥹🥰

  • @Itsdreaa
    @Itsdreaa Рік тому

    Thank you for this❤

  • @EmpowermentSpecialistRussKyle
    @EmpowermentSpecialistRussKyle Рік тому +1

    Outstanding ❤🙏🏼🎉

  • @rebeccawills8697
    @rebeccawills8697 Рік тому

    Dont feel bad I called my x my deceased husband name.

  • @kellybohannon1316
    @kellybohannon1316 Рік тому

    ❤ thank you ❤

  • @albertvela3220
    @albertvela3220 9 місяців тому

    Where were you when that B took everything from me. She didn't feel no pain. I felt major pain. Women can be so evil and in court they get all the breaks. It's better to be a bad guy and not a nice guy. You only think of women and not men. It's getting old Kat, might be tuning out??

  • @slugface322
    @slugface322 Рік тому

    Sorry kiddies not Everyone fails in marriage and parenthood.
    Perhaps you could seek advice from those of us that have successfully completed both. Unless you think No One can.

  • @mmyersx3
    @mmyersx3 Рік тому

    Thank you 😭😭😭😭

  • @tiffanydavis6833
    @tiffanydavis6833 Рік тому

    HIIIIIII Kat!

  • @barbuwa7190
    @barbuwa7190 Рік тому

    Look me and my husband has gone through hell and back but we both stick through and fought for each other and I'm glad and happy we did.
    I'm so happy when people and family would say just leave there's the some many fish in the sea thing yes is true but the grass is never greener on the other side.
    When you take a vow saying through thick and thin sickness and health till death is a major thing.
    Why would I be with a man in the good times if I can't be with him in the bad ?
    If you are not a person that can work through bad then Don't be married.
    Because life happens.
    So shame on you if you can't stick with someone when it's a bad.
    We are human and we all go through things.
    Sorry for the lengthy response..
    Blessings and positivity for everyone.

  • @jessicafulks3018
    @jessicafulks3018 Рік тому

    Hi Kat!!!

  • @CarleyCullen656
    @CarleyCullen656 Рік тому

    Here!