Understanding the Complexities of Gender: Sam Killermann at TEDxUofIChicago
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
- Sam Killermann is a comedian and social justice advocate, and the guy behind It's Pronounced Metrosexual, a one-man comedy show and blog about snap judgments, identity, and oppression (but in a totally funny way).
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I am incredibly impressed by how he managed to make this rhyme so much
The rhyming in this video is beyond perfect. I loved how seamlessly he added that to his presentation.
More like he rehersed it really really hard.
I was born as a de facto male sort of something, in other words intersex. In addition to male parts I have female bits. Even though most of those female bits were removed over my life time. The one female bit that couldn't be removed was that part between my ears. So I spent the majority of my life trying to be a male, I've even been married for most of my adult life. Fortunately my spouse accepts me for who I am because she saw first hand the pain I suffered from all the surgeries and the chemotherapy from a form of testicular/ovarian cancer. She has seen me cry and cry in pain. Not just physical pain but emotional pain too.
I really embrace the TED speech with all my spirit.
Which intersex condition do you have?
The analogy which follows the Shakespeare quotation ("All the world's a stage") is wonderful.
~~>Sam Killerman, you made this South Carolina Nurse's day. You are a Breath of fresh air. Thank you so much. In BSN Nursing at Maryville University. After 27 years of nursing on my ADN. You are awesome.🎸🎵⭐️
he's a wonderful presenter & I learned a lot from this
Some of these comments here are quite saddening, but perhaps not surprising. It just shows that for many people diversity does not stand next to integration or acceptance of differences. Nice to see some of the supportive comments. Clever way of presenting with the rhymes, well done Sam.
Can someone help me out? I don't understand why we continue to gender traits like this? Surely we all want to work towards a gender blind society rather than people with more traditionally feminine characteristics identifying as women and vice versa? Does this not solidify gender stereotypes and potentially opress people more?
exactly
Reading the thoughts from the replies has been interesting.
I don't fully approach Killermann's notions, however they are needed at this time.
Why?
We need more awareness, more compassion. more laughter. more love.
Trolling on here about hating men is limitting.
I suggest you read his book and then come back with your discussion.
And please... spread the love, not the hate.
All is full of Love.
Isn't it how he aproached the subject?
Good on you for sticking with this discussion for as long as you did.
You're doing exactly what he's challenging in this video: conflating sex and gender.
important and creative talk. well done, Sam
He should write about this in the style of Dr. Seuss
no actually he should give it up zero evidence and poorly structured and organized. painful to watch. damn take a publ;ic speech class or something, f'ing clueless presenter.
I'm so glad that this is being discussed
3:14 OMG that beatboxing got me lol what a gem!
Awesome!! such valued info for my study... Keep a it Sam!!
I'm just here for the comments I don't give a damn either way
I love makeup and hair and "feminine" things so much and I was assigned female at birth. but I dont feel like a girl I feel like I am more of a boy or neither. and I have short hair and I have a "man mind set" as some people like to say. but in general I am such a mix of feminine and masculine that some people get confused. so everyone just decides to call me she and act like I am a girl because that's what I was assigned and because it's easier for them because they would be confused. but they don't understand that just changing they way they treat me will make my life better and won't negatively effect their lives at all. I just wish from a young age people were taught about gender and respecting other people.
that is why i invented cookiegender. cookiegender is the sterotypical girly essence that we are fed though media and marketing, culture and toys. cookiegender "what are little girls made out of? sugar and spice and everything nice"
Thank you Sam. I found your talk to be enlightening and entertaining. Good job.
I enjoyed this. Thank you.
wonderful! thank you for spreading knowledge :)
Great stuff! Certainly something that people should consider.
I wish he was my gender studies professor, so witty, enthusiastic, funny and educational.
I was not expecting poetry. That and the message in it, would have been enough proof, but then there's the mention of _The Lion King_ and the wisdom of Socrates throw in at the end there, adding to the evidence of an awesome person. Very nicely done, Sam Killermann.
The rhyming was the most amazing thing ever
Truth is important and it shall be revealed eventually.
Way to be Sam! I'm so proud :)
Gender fluidity is not about making boys girly or making girls masculine. That's just as bad as enforcing gender stereotypes. Not everyone is extremely masculine or extremly feminine. The pressure to conform to society's version of gender often means sacrificing abilities and strengths.
We all need to open our minds, relearn and accept people as they are without pre judging. Very enlightening subject.
thank you!
Yes I’m showing this to my family when I come out to them as non-binary
Edit: welp I didn’t get accepted. o o p s-
edit ✨two✨: i figured myself out! :D im demiboy but also femboy! hehe new name go brrrr i go by Chris now!
sorry keep your head up be yourself surround yourself with people who love and accept you
lol
Aaaaaand we all know that feeling of utter disappointment when we relize that we might have just been trans but were denying it right? Hope we do!! I am in so much pain QwQ
typical - they know nothing and blind to truth
@@ventishoodiealt im taking this gender and communication class in school and i have learned alot and im still learning sometimes people will just stay close minded and that isn't your fault you are who you are it is your life take it and do as you please and want screw who ever doesn't agree with you they aren't the one's who have to walk in your shoes
This was such a fun and engaging talk! A really concise overview of some important concepts, still relevant even almost a decade later!
I absolutely adore this. Not only because he goes on to prove how a lot of societies are scared of difference and what it "may" bring. But what will actually come of freedom of thought about this sort of stuff? Change, equality, creativeness? Or some people not understanding- but we don't know because society hasn't allowed creative thinking or freedom of individuality.
While I am happy with what parts I've been born with, I'm also happy to know that it does not define a person. A person shouldn't be limited to such that makes up who they are just by if they've got a penis or a vagina. Those are just minor things in which play a part of the reproductive system and shouldn't interfere much of their own thoughts and realizations. We're all humans, we're all different and I think it's about damn time we accept everyone's differences for what it is, instead of what it is not.
This warmed my ❤️
Great stuff! Had me thinking a lot about gender expression.
If only this was available with subtitles on my first language... I would go through teacher to teacher in my school, or principal, or anyone with that kind of authority really, to ask them to show this in class. It'd be great. I could try to revoice this to my classmates during philosophy class, but apparently, it's not as easy to be taken seriously when you're a 15 year old girl, and a self proclaimed feminist.
There are already people identifying as "genderless dragons" and various animals. I dont think its healthy for the individuals or for society.
@@tubester4567 well that's rude and unnecessary. do us a favor: don't say anything. Because clearly you're incapable of keeping your hurtful opinions to yourself.
seriously though loved this talk, great ideas
What an awesome speech!!!! Freaking hell, what a super dude!!
That was awesome!
Love!
I love this, ty
Well done. I appreciate the use of rhythm and rhyme as a way to help us retain and recall this important information.
This is great, and needs more views.
Amazing
This is excellent.
This guy is great ;D
Thank you, my child is changing maybe I shouldn't say changing she is who she has always been and has now shared it with me. I'm so happy she has, so I have been doing as much research to understand all the complexities. So that I may be conscious of the things she goes through & others. So again Thank you for sharing such a wonderful talk!
Skycrystal Rain7 you're so inconsiderate. Why are you calling your little boy a girl? Shame on you as a parent to be so hurtful to your child.
my child was born a girl & is a girl she does not chose to change that. so why am I being inconsiderate to try & understand her changes.
This is great! I'm a transsexual myself and I'm really considering showing this to my friends so they can understand better. Everybody in the world should see this.
Thank you ! This is brilliant and so very much needed.You are helping to make the world a better place for so many people. Thank you.
How is this making the world a better place? How is confusing children into thinking they were born with the wrong genitalia helping the world? This speaker is intellectually assassinating the minds of children. Somehow this speaker is trying to make self-expression a topic about gender. When the two are barely related. The speaker builds his argument for gender expression based on his own assumptions of what is feminine or masculine. When in reality it is not gender expression; rather it is only identity(Biologically male or female) and expression. Identity and expression are barely related to each-other. Two different topics that he tries to merge as one based on how he has stereotyped men and women to act or express themselves. The speakers close-mindedness is why he confuses gender with a topic barely related to gender; expression. It harms children by confusing them about whether they were born in the right bodies or not. An you wonder why suicide rates are high for people that are confused about their gender. This is cruelty, and not making the world a better place. It's making it a confusing place for children, thinking God has accidentally given them the wrong bodies. Repent and trust in Jesus Christ so that you can see the truth instead of believing the lies/confusion about gender.
Happy Thoughts “intellectually assassinating” lmaooo thanks for making my day
He got the directors part correct and also about limits that society put on what people of certain gender can archive or should do.
This is like when people would visit schools and rap about looking after the environment
as justlikeabee said, do it anyway, there is a good chance that sharing these ideas can save someone's life.
brilliant
This is a simple and short introduction to expanding our thoughts on gender. It is meant for people who have little to no exposure of the topic which is why its so simplified.
Thank you so much for what you do and for working so hard to bring light to a topic that many people seem to naturally avoid and find awkward. I'm a fairly androgynous person who identifies as third gender but I've only recently become comfortable with telling people that. Having the Genderbread Person and other tools from your website have been invaluable. I can't wait to read your book! Much love. P.S. "Can we get some gender neutral bathrooms up in this piece!" :)
Bright, funny, and well done. Made me question which parts of me are masculine and feminine.
i know this is 6 years late but you could take a test to figure it out i have a link to it if you want
Very good speech in terms of neutrality. It's good that it made clear distinction between facts and ideals, because it's a big problem people have when they argue on gender. Humans in their imperfection will judge each other regardless of what the societal norms are, and no amount of changing society or idealism will ever fix that. What will help it, though, is furthering human knowledge and understanding of it. And this does that well.
According to the " gender ideology ", teaching female behaviors to a girl is to impose an odious socially constructed stereotype , but teach them a boy is just help him express his natural tendencies. (Olavo de Carvalho
Cara em nenhum momento ele falou sobre ideologia de gênero, vc ao menos viu o vídeo até o final? Ideologia de gênero é besteira e vai contra tudo q o cara do video falou, vc ao menos sabe oq é ideologia de gênero? Bem, vc citou olavo de carvalho então eu acho q não
The modern Dr. Seuss. I was wondering if he was doing that on purpose. So glad it was part of it. :D
So why is a sex change called gender reassignment surgery if gender is a nonphysical thing?
I have a trans male friend and a trans female friend and I just have a hard time relating to the problems they encounter regarding their gender.
I just have a hard time wrapping my head around it; probably in part because I never cared to understand gender because I never identified gender. I never thought to myself, "I am a man. I identify as a man. Therefore I dress and act like a man." It's always, "I have a penis. He has a penis. She doesn't." I don't know what it means to think "I am a woman, even though I have a penis" because I never understood woman to mean anything but a biological female.
I guess gender just seems like a redundant concept to me because I never thought "You are a woman, therefore this is your role."
How about "This is the role you choose to play, therefore you are a man/woman"?
Also, here in the U.S., we call it SRS, or Sex Reassignment Surgery, which is more accurate.
*****
Your identity as "trans" is not the norm, therefore it can not be applied to the norm.
Floyd what I'm trying to point out is, our society here in North America is overwhelming heterosexual.
***** As a trans person can you explain what use you personally find for the word "gender" is many people are using it now?
I've always personally found it to be communicatively functionless and meaningless.
***** Hi! Have you tried - Hicklers Choose Gender (do a search on google)? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my mate got cool success with it.
This just hits on so many points and is oh so fabulous. A definite great way of explaining what needs to be said.
I noticed the rhyming,, I thought I was crazy,, XD
Lol most of the people in the audience at the end were so confused. Nice
He gets it! :)
6:30 best part
Not gonna lie, this kinda opened my eyes, because I always thought I was a girl and I grew up thinking I was a girl. Yet, I did boy like things. I wrestled with my cousins, I played video games with my brother, and I played Magic the Gathering with my father. All things a girl wouldn't normally do. Yet, I did. I remember one day in the 4th grade, another classmate (female) came up to me and asked me why I played more with boys than I did girls. I didn't find their type of play as fun and I wasn't really comfortable with it. From that day, I questioned if whether or not I was truly female. This speech helped me realize that it's okay to not follow a specific stereotype you appear to be to others. Do what makes you happy.
Is this talk no longer on TED?
love this made it easy to understand and learn well being entertained.
No matter the gender presentation or identity, society can do without the perpetuation of homophobia, sexism, misogyny, racism, and classism. The separation of aesthetic and pathology is the key eradicating those social ills.
I love this. It's great, and so true. 💚
I am looking forward to receiving my copy of Sam's book. He really hits the nail on its multifarious heads :-)
all the jerks on here need to stop bashing this video and this guy. I agree with everything he says. Gender and sexuality are not the same thing, they are separate. A man can identify as a woman and vice versa.
I won't bash the ideas but I'll bash the guy since he's an unapologetic plagiarist off the work of trans people for profit: storify.com/cisnormativity/the-genderbread-plagiarist
+Ghast the Otaku You seem woefully underinformed to be making such declarative statements. IF you'd like to know how things work, and are unwilling to look into it yourself, I'd be more than happy to tutor you. OR you can jsut continue to wallow in your ignorance. I really don't care. I just thought I'd offer.
i have watched 100rds of videos and talked to so many on what gender identity is and all i can gather is your all taking something so simple and turning it into something so complicated that it has lost its meaning entirely and your now trying to redefine it all, for no reason. basically everyone is saying that male and female roles are wrong and no one should be confined to stereotype roles of birth, true. but from there, all these labels to define and categorize every single degree of expression of someone self identity is just overkill ridiculous self indulgence. if we just fight to kill the stereotype roles and make it norm to be and act and do as you please that makes you happy and in no way hurts or effects others negatively. these labels make no sense and just hurt everything. if your going to hate on me then move on, if your going to offer real advice then i will be grateful to listen and learn. thank you.
I love this so much
He actually listed a number of gender identities ... far more than the 2 we have now, and the one you seem to think he's advocating. And, he's talking about freedom of expression ... the freedom to express who we are, rather than who we are told to be.
It's not black and white, it's a damn rainbow! You don't know where one color starts and the other ends, they're fluid, but can't exist w/out the other. :D
I'm keen on checking out this book as well.
This opened my mind, really good talk
One of my favorite tedtalks ever!
So many opinions and facts being thrown around. I don't really know where I stand. I want people to be accepting. I want people to be themselves and be happy. There are problems with both sides presented. Traditional thinking and new age thinking are both flawed. Maybe we should present both options to kids and let them play with whatever toy or wear whatever color they like. Whatever will fix the suffering of confusion and feeling out of place will do. It should be addressed.
who else hear a ringing after he speaks
(Honest question here) How so?
I can't see it for some reason.
+KellySmith555 UA-cam won't let me reply to your comment but for someone who writes extremely long-winded arguments you seem to be in a bit of a hurry so I'll be brief... The things I'm saying are not my opinion. Google it, go to a library, and while you're at it, take a valium because you clearly can't handle much objection to anything you say.
This is a great Tedx talk. As someone who has recently (past ten years) experienced teachers teaching the stereotypical boy/girl. And I’ve always been against it. Everyone should be in my opinion.
it's a TEDx talk, it is not an actual TED talk
my mind is open to learn more, regardless of how we express gender, we are all significant no one superior over the next...
This was really good. It helped me understand gender so so much better and clearer.
He misinterprets the meaning of Shakespeare's famous words. It is not about how people force you to play a role in life. It's about how life happens in stages from infancy to old age. Why is what we think more real than what is in reality? Does he want a doctor to treat him as a male or female? It makes a difference...
Yes gender neutral bathrooms up in this piece!!!!
+Athena Chase No thanks, I'd rather not have to whip my dick out in front of any ladies. Last thing we need is for more 'rape' allegations from the feminists.
+Kyle Gilbert Well, there could be men's bathrooms, women's bathrooms and then single-use gender neutral bathrooms. That's always a non-offensive possibility.
We don't need to add the title 'gender neutral' to those solo restrooms. They are restrooms plain and simple for anyone to use if the door isn't closed and locked and fyi they already exist.
+Kyle Gilbert Gender nuetral bathrooms wouldnt have urinals, so you wouldnt have to "whip anything out" in front of me. Also I agree false rape allegations are horrible..
That's part of the reason why gender neutral bathrooms are not a good idea. No urinals? Come on. Look, solo rooms make sense for gender neutral but not communal. There are just too many problems and inconveniences for both males and females. Why accommodate for a few and shaft the many?
Wow
He should be a rapper
Anyone else here because of their sociology class?
How exactly did he disparage traditional masculinity? If you can make that argument, then we can easily say traditional femininity was attacked as well. In any case, he seemed to be neutral regarding each end of the spectrum (or spectrums as he put it).
You know the more vitriolic you get the more evidence you provide to support my assumptions about your stature. And as for suffering from the Dunning-Kruger effect, you actually made me laugh. I don't think a college scholarship chemistry student would qualify as unskilled. Internet trolls on the other hand probably would.
If you ditch the gender stereotypes, like most self-aware people do, there is no need to deny male or female as labels.
he keeps rhyming it's so funny
“Negative, I am a meat popsicle”
shout out to ms gilletes class
yoooo big up ms gilletes
That's it. Just be yourself in the moment. We are souls experiencing human clothes :D ... great talk ... mind opening :d
Amazing and entertaining speech!
Please try regardless, if you think you can make a difference, even a small one do it, the world will be different after you do it, maybe it will be something small, but they will remember, maybe for someone it will be eye opening or it will prompt them to learn more about gender.