growing up with someone who is a paranoid schizophrenic made me hyper vigilant about my thinking. For a long long time I thought I was quite a paranoid person, but after 40 years of watching every single so called paranoid assessment come true in real life and in practice, I have come to accept that I tend to have good instinct rather than being paranoid. Sometimes one gets a fairly good feeling for fact vs fiction without actual data, and its a good thing to be cautious when you feel this. Most people who are genuinely paranoid, tend to always be on the attack rather than overtly suspicious... well that is what I have seen over the years.
"After 40 years of watching every single so called paranoid assessment come true in real life and in practice..." The problem with that is that if you have PPD, you cannot rely on your own judgement about it. Your PPD will make you forget all the times you were wrong, selectively remember, you'll use confirmation bias, and so forth. Personality disorders radically change your perception of the world around you. Unfortunately, people with PPD may see that as a personal attack, or think the person treating them is trying to harm them by brainwashing them into believing a lie, because THAT IS PPD. That's why it's so resistant to treatment. The options are, you can either live in hell, or you can go towards what *appears to be* a much worse and permanent hell that's actually treatment which will relieve the hell you're living.
"Growing up with someone who is a paranoid schizophrenic made me hyper vigilant about my thinking." It's been hitting me very hard since I was about 22. I am so paranoid about being paranoid I feel like my mental illness is PPD that involves the fear of developing PPD. It's exhausting emotionally. Having watched the result of it happen to my mother and my older brother I'm kind of terrified. They're homeless, on drugs and refuse any and all help. And seeing how everyone treats them makes me really afraid of it. However, at its core, the line of reasoning explained in the video is a deep devaluation of oneself and the villainization of others. In their reality, they're at the bottom of the totem pole, aren't worthy of love, trust, acceptance, etc. And on the other end, everyone else is above them and they themselves are so inconsequential as to just be a pawn in others games. It seems more so about a lack of confidence and a broken belief system about others. Probably stemming from childhood. And obviously some kind of issue with the persons fight or flight system. I think I'm insecure and generally have a negative view of others intentions until I get to know them better. I don't have hallucinations though. And I'm not so _paranoid_ of others to the point of it harming my own life and relationships necessarily. I think if it gets worse over time though, I'd probably say I need to be evaluated for PPD.
@@edwardseverinsen5598 If you've had bad experiences you're bound to feel mistrustful of others. It doesn't mean you have a personality disorder, especially if you're as introspective as you sound. Remember Dr pointed out these people are almost impossible to treat because they wouldn't go to a therapist!
I really appreciate how she provided real-world examples. I think I have BPD and oftentimes feel paranoid about everything. Not sure if it's mental illness, low self-esteem, trauma, or actual life experiences that make me distrustful.
I was wondering about this as well. My brother's ex ticks the boxes for BPD but she also definitely fulfils at least 5 of the 7 criteria for PPD as well. Not sure if she has both, or just one and there's some overlap.
Describes someone I know almost exactly. Hits 6/7 points on the head. It’s so difficult, painful, frustrating, and emotionally draining to be in a relationship with someone like this and I feel deeply affected by everything that happened. Thank you for this video. Makes my experience feel validated and seen.
Oh my god, yes, I met a girl in the summer of 2022 and she moved in with me in Oct and left this week and all these things, apart from the one of them was so so accurately describing what I have experiences with her, it's sad but helpful to understand that it wasn't all my fault
I feel like if you are a sensitive person and you have more than one time where you are afraid or don't feel safe around your family you can easily be paranoid for life
Maybe it both, narcissistic and paranoid…I think my mum’s like that..I haven’t talked with her for the last year, it hurts me but it’s better for my mental health..
Wow. This describes the ex I divorced. He lives by "Everyone out to get him so get them first"mantra . Anytime he felt slighted and by things he took out of context.. he'd make up his false assumptions and narratives about that person and proudly proclaims he holds grudges forever..forever hating that person and coercively controlling others around him to feel the same. He projects, blame shifts all of his paranoias, deceit, lies, and what he's guilty of onto others.
This video has helped me in understanding my childhood with a PPD parent. Paranoid patterns seem to be behind much of the aggro, fear and confusion generated online and it helps the public to understand this, thank you.
really appreciate the content on this channel, it's great to hear from professional therapists/psychiatrists. I've learned so much and gained so much self awareness, thank you for sharing these awesome and informative videos 🙏
Divorcing because you weren’t seated at table 1 is a good thing for the spouse. If that trivial item caused that much pain there were a lot more garbage going on in that marriage
Knowledge is power. Understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video. Its an exciting learning tool, which is teaching learning skills that are saving lives both literally and figuratively
I had a college roommate back in the early 90’s who I believe had PPD. I lived with her for one semester. She was always accusing people of stealing from her. She accused me of stealing her calculator. She was always suing people in small claims court, too. She filed a suit against me for stealing something, I don’t remember the details now. She filed 3 other lawsuits at the same time. When the first one got thrown out by the judge, she dropped the rest. That was the last I ever heard of her. I don’t think I was ever happier to get a person out of my life.
Try being the daughter of one. My dad was finally diagnosed in his 50’s. Growing up with him made me always feel guilty for not communicating and sharing everything, because in his mind, even his own child, an innocent young child, was someone of suspicion. I felt inherently bad inside myself because my dad was looking for anything about me as if I was inherently bad and I had to prove I was good. Having my own children, I can’t imagine looking at them as out to get me, even when they were small. Or that they’re not inherently good and have to prove themselves to be good. One time my 2yr old threw a tantrum in the grocery store when I was visiting my dad and he was convinced she did it to make him look bad in front of others. He’d think certain “bad” people from his past were calling him when it was just telemarketers. It made such a mess of my life for so many years (I was an ideal partner for easily jealous guys) until it made sense when my dad was diagnosed.
I love these videos. I just have one suggestion. Whilst so very informative, I think it would also be beneficial to talk about the underlying pathophysiology if it is known about these disorders too. Because when talking only about the traits, we almost forget that this isn’t a choice. It’s not something the individual has control over. And these individuals need help and support.
Speaking as a therapist, paranoid personalities are extremely difficult to treat. Now, speaking as a brother. I have a sister who has a paranoid personality, and as you said, she did not choose it she was odd as a child. I've tried to address it through the backdoor and the only breakthrough that I detect is that she'll say, "I know what you're going to say." when she makes an irrational, unfounded suspicious claim.
@@leahflower9924 paranoia is an unrealistic and unfounded distrust. Suspicion is when you have been given good reason not to trust. As a scapegoat, your fears are neither unrealistic nor unfounded. You have come by your fears for very good reason
OMG, things finally make sense. I have a colleague with many features mentioned in this video. Of course, I´m not going to diagnose her based on a video, but this was very helpful. Thanks, medcircle and Dr. Ramani.
I've seen how horrible things can get as a result of "wedding guest placement" and learned early on just how significant it is. We went to a wedding where the bride and groom had their reception at a very nice place with a big "offshoot" room(?) where they placed the waitstaff and chefs and some of the guests... AND where the band was playing. There were folks who took it very personally, however, I realized the best thing to do was NOT to allow this unsettling experience to get the better of ANYONE. So as not to give any "satisfaction" to the mean bride AND to prevent anyone from enjoying our dismay? I danced, showing off my lovely new dress ALL night to a rather amazing band! This DID, in fact, take the attention off of the unfortunate seating arrangement!! That's what I call... getting even and enjoying it. All's well that ends well.
I understand the reaction of #6 personally. Just because I jsut met YOUR friend doesnt mean you need to tell them MY business, if I want to tell them Im a mother, or barren or whatever thats up to me, not for you to share imo.
This makes us sound like we are vicious, I am not vicious, I am trying to heal with therapy and owning up to my C-PTSD. Not all PPD's are this vindictive, manipulative, clueless, or resentful. From someone with PPD and severe C-PTSD, if you want a tip, we just want someone to be curious about what we experience instead of shame, being ignored, rejected and gaslit. It all comes from trauma and lack of love and attention, so blaming and shaming, laughing at our nightmare, and ignoring will only make it worse. It's really not funny. I am a very kind person so maybe this video i sin regard to PPD's who have done zero work.
It seems that the accusation of paranoid personality disorder could be an ideal weapon for people with narcissistic personality disorder when they use gaslighting, especially when the person with the disorder works as a psychologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist.
Thanks so much for the good summary! I still have to deal with a former colleague, who I think might have PPD... my former bosses and me seem to be on his hitlist :-(
Can brain damage from drugs cause some level of this in a narcissist? My ex is a textbook covert narc but his levels of paranoia are off the charts! He’s been a regular cocaine abuser for 20 years so I know he has a lot of brain damage (possible mini strokes and all that, he cannot sit still and twitches constantly, his hands move nonstop in odd ways, looks like Parkinson’s sometimes) and in the last five years he has gotten so paranoid he is obsessed with Qanon and every conspiracy out there and convinced everyone is out to get him - it’s an intense change to happen in just five years. I feel like the drugs might’ve just rotted enough of his brain to let it out fully and it would be sad if he wasn’t evil
I live with this person unfortunately 😕 there is no drama on the frozen food aisle, more like murder on the frozen food aisle and my time is not mine, its theirs, and everyone is a threat and everyone attacks them and is out to get them. I am sneaky and always hiding everything even though they have all my passwords and pincodes. My mental health is starting to struggle living in this environment. I have to triple think before I speak, I have to constantly reassure this person, things my friends say are misinterpreted so much so that my friends have disappeared from my life, male family members are a threat.
I am in love and living with someone who has all 7 of these signs of PPD. I am desperate to figure out how to tell them that they have this and how to help them over come the thought patterns that define this disorder.
Crazy thing is you really can’t trust the world …but i bet it is definitely a tough diagnoses to have , but I’m sure it a reason why people have ppd , something traumatic had to happen to them… also I think it’s a lot of hypersensitivity as well
I’m curious, if someone with PPD can file for divorce for being seated at the wrong table, how would they have gotten married in the first place? Someone like that is just not possible to get close to
oh shit. maybe my ex had this, not narcissism. maybe both. i just feel bad for him at this point. he was always trying to accuse me of cheating, so he went out and cheated and claimed he just wanted to beat me to it cause i would eventually cheat? what amazing logic. he'd also get really mad if i didn't answer my phone when i was away and i would be sleeping. i had a drug problem and constantly thought i was on drugs when i was actually not, but i can't blame him for that one, but he was a pot-head, so he was also an addict. i think pot may have contributed to his paranoia. anyway god bless. i hope people with these afflictions can heal because it's no way to live.
Only rich and privileged people have access to diagnosis of mental illness. The rest of us are either dead, in prison, or homeless. I am mentally ill. I don't have a job since it's impossible for me to interact with people due to extreme trauma, abuse, and neglect in childhood. Being able to socialize is more important than anything else, bar none. Communication is the one thing that makes us human. I haven't heard a human voice in person for a week, much less seen anyone. Staying antisocial keeps others from being subjected to me. I wish I had help, but it does not exist.
DSM V was a giveaway to pharmaceutical companies which is a large reason why insurance companies reject it. The fact that 99% of the book is completely subjective does not do it any favors but psychology/psychiatry is nearly completely subjective and lacks diagnostic validity.
There are people and many that are right about their feelings with regards to people being deceiving, as there are so many deceiving people in the world today, I work in a company of thousands of people for over 25 years and see them all. I see narcissists, I see many who can't be trusted (with proof of their behavior with many people) I see all kinds. On the other hand, a person who has been abused by a narcissist or more than one narcissist (as there are many out there), may appear sensitive this way, due to the way they were treated. I'm sure you are only talking about the extreme cases where it takes over almost every aspect of their being, and I see people like this too. The thing is, if it's really happening and I've seen cases, where people are really treating them this way, and that could very well happen when others gossip about that person and other people instigating and manipulate others to treat that person that way. Many people follow the crowd, and don't use their own judgement, they listen to gossip. In many cases, I say these people if they don't trust should go with their gut, but I get what you're saying about extreme cases, but before we say they are paranoid, we really need to investigate, every aspect of this due to reasons I have explained, as we may not know the whole story behind it.
I think what the situation with people who are misdiagnosed with Schizophrenias or Schizo-Effective Disorder, the Covert Narcissist who the patient is dealing with is definitely giving them the same type of crazymaking, so it important to know the symptoms are just a natural reaction. To be misdiagnosed, it is furthering the trauma the Narcissist inflicts directly to them and the medication causes a lot of hallucinations, plus they switch them from medication to medication as there is no change at all, still Schizophrenia type symptoms.
I started dating a guy and walked in and his entire computer was torn apart. I figured he was just overly diligent at cleaning. Then noticed he had masking tape On all screw holes in garage. He thought they were cameras? Ya....
How can a patient of PPD ever make way to therapy? If it were for her dad and my dad, my mother would have become homeless long time ago. Unfortunately, because she was able to stay at the house my dad bought, she has the ability to lock herself out from all possibilities of treatments.
It's only notice why doc. Shaking her legs it must be very difficult work to deal with so much stressful situations but I'm really thankful to ur videos n work you do for people. Just few days ago found chanel n truly so eye opening to me.
I've been diagnosed with PTSD, Bipolar, BPD, ADHD, Generalized Anxiety, Depression. I've been paranoid and and will every so year quit taking my meds because of agoraphobia. What should I do. I have been thorough CBT, DBT, and many treatments. Also paranoid of Wars, Global Economy, and who or what to trust. Distraction techniques are the only thing that seems to work.
Having moderate intellectual disability with autism I am polar opposite of this. I have met paranoid people. Seems more common than npd, hpd. Another terrible disorder.
This is a lot to process. I am not sure 🤔 if I have ever graduated from the kids table at thanksgiving. Lol Therefore there will be no divorces over table one seating! Lol 🤔❤️🇺🇸
Incredible he doesn't know who James Joyce was. Mmm is he a journalist or just a regular presenter, by that little info we know he never got a degree in humanities, what a shame, I would had edited the video. Maybe the editing tem didn't either, ha ha. Thanks doctor, great as always!
I have just watched your video on ppd. I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, ptsd, anxiety and depression and after watching this have realised that I may have been misdiagnosed. What would you suggest I do next? Thanks 🙏
Please how can I make my loved one convince him that I love him so much and would never do any thing to hurt him how I can do that please and what the diagnosis for some one is paranoid because paranoia is a symptom not sickness please if u can tell me what’s the sickness called ?
ok so if someone shows the signs of paranoid personality disorder BUT they have legitimately been in situations that would cause a reasonable person to show those signs-like say maybe someone who legitimately did have a stalker that would do all sorts of crazy stuff to them-is the person showing paranoid signs someone with PPD or are they distrustful as any reasonable person would be? What is the treatment for someone with PPD? Would anti-depressants help or make it worse?
My son tells me that his right has been taken from him and I m doing some thing against him and behind him by stealing his right some thing to do with health care and I don’t know what he means by that and he never turn the lights on when he is in his room or showering he hates lights he thinks there is camera in my house I am very very sad to see my very smart son turning to this person can u tell me what kind of paranoia is this ? He doesn’t think he needs help at all please if there is some thing I can help him with please I cry every day when I see or hear doctors talk a bout this subject Thank u
There’s a lot of self inflating narcissistic (IMO) behaviors that coincide with being paranoid. So is this person more paranoid than narcissistic? Both? The head table thing sounds like a narcissistic person.
Most of the patients who are injured in. Surgery the doctors who do it are 90 percent India doctors and I get it mistakes do happen but they most of the time cover it up by stalking or harassing the patient two India doctors was recently fired from my team because of this
Before I say what I'm about to say I'm going to. first say that I love all people including India people but I personally believe that the Indian people here in America are very peronoid. And should not be doing the secret things that they do in America and. I'm not for the two week medical training that they get in India and then come to America to get a doctor license two weeks is not enough time to consider yourself a doctor I'm a doctor and it took more then 4 years to get in the right place
The wisest thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on the govt. Especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a good time to invest in Gold, Silver and digital currencies (BTC,ETH...)
@Stanley Morgan I agree with you, I had a senior colleague work who lived well but never had an investment, unfortunately his job ended so he went from living well to surviving with his family.
Investing is a primary decision to be made for the future. If you see this and you don’t have an investment, plan to have one, so you don’t end up like my main colleague at work.
My first investment in my portfolio was in the forex market ($1,400) with Mrs Jessica operating on my behalf, the portfolio balance is currently growing 😊
How does all this extravagant articulation of narcissism come into play when we’re dealing with racism structural systemic and collective what one race of people is influencing all of the races to target and discriminate into even kill indigenous people such as myself. What does the world of psychology say about racism.
Love dr ramani but Kyle is awful . He doesn’t ask insightful questions, but interjects with ridiculous anecdotes from his own life. 🫠please get a new host
Dont be so harsh!! I don't think Kyle is "awful" I think he is a kind person. I do see sometimes he seems to turn these interviews into a personal counseling session rather than keeping it global for a wider audience. Nevertheless, sometimes his personal issues are related to some, just not all. Im not sure it's possible to not interject personal experience(s) into these discussions. Be kind.
99% my mom has this. People view her as crazy. It’s sad to me but I know I can nor fox it so I just do what I can to comfort her. She had a horrible upbringing.
Same way with my mom. She's trippin on about q conspiracies and she's susceptible to things like that. I love her and worry about her I tried to guide her through meditation but she kept trying to talk to me in the middle of it. She also had a rough upbringing.
I think I have it a little bit too but I don't keep tabs on everyone, read into messages or think my spouse is cheating. I do have like a scale of trust and distrust I hold onto a fear people will use what I say against me. I oddly trust my mom to though 😅 I don't forgive people either. But it's not like how she explains like that level of control I don't have that. But I learned how to passively interrogate from my mom's paranoia and can 99% know when someone is lying to me. Through holes in their story. I found the people who broke into my storage unit for the third time in 5 years. They stole everything. It Took me 6 months tracking them. They were incredibly careful never posted anything online. I Dropped out of college to find them. Had to gain rapport with criminals to get info. They were meth dealers living in a roach infested trailer in a junkyard full of stolen cars in Millersburg Missouri. Found out they were also stealing catalytic converters and syphoning gasoline out of U-Hauls. If I'm paranoid I feel like I have a good enough reason. I can only count on one hand the number of people I can trust here. And they probably don't even trust me anymore cause honestly I went a little bit crazy trying to figure out who did this. And the famous quote here is it's better to be safe than sorry. I've been robbed at gunpoint here, had to do CPR to keep someone alive because they had overdosed. There's a serial killer on the loose here. Gang violence, drive-by shootings and a bunch of narcissism no middle class jobs just upper class slumlords and dirt poor workers. Liberal in the winter conservative in the summer. And it always seems to be either around 100° with 90% humidity or winter when the frost hits and it dips below frigid freezing everyone here makes minimum wage lives paycheck to paycheck afflicted paying most of their wages on taxes rent and credit card interest. I wanna move away so bad but don't know any good places to live.
@@versag3776 my goodness I would definitely move. Well you have the internet at your fingertips id google a town that has the least amount of crime first and foremost and then go from there. Lol
I have this and it is very difficult to explain to others. The text thing specifically. My husband gets very frustrated when I am offended by his text. The way people perceive me is frustrating as well. I do behave erratic but for me it makes perfect sense. The lady who filed for divorce probably felt very betrayed and hurt. From her perspective what she perceived happened WAS offensive enough to warrant said behavior. I have never “looked” for a hidden message in a text. What I see is obvious to me. The word for this disorder she used was pervasive and thats how it feels. It is not a choice. It actually is a terribly struggle every day to have to try to explain to your own mind that it is wrong about what it is telling you. The way these people joked about it actually was very hurtful. The put a stigma out on a disorder that 1% of people have. If 1% of people have this than honestly do you know how it feels or understand it thoroughly? Empathy over judgment.
I don’t have this disorder or know anybody who does (I don’t think) but yeah, even I picked up that it was coming across really judgmental and kind of mocking. Not what you would want from a mental health professional.
Makes life a living hell. Example: I saw your mouth blabber who were you speaking to… , something that happens counties away to someone , you’ll get a lecture for that to make sure you don’t become one of them. Constantly having to be in their eye, and will try to know what you talk to friends about. Even if you are 24. Depending on the parent some has it just for the daughters and not the son. Anyways it grows you to become like them so everything that they said would happen if you did this and that gets into your head…. The simple little things like taking a pic with friends would give you anxiety and panic attacks as you start to imagine everything that could go wrong with that pic which mama told you would, even if it’s a decent class photo. Makes you grow into a paranoid person Long story short… you’ll end up one way or the other as a person with PPD , even if you changed your identity and lived far away so you don’t have parent pressure ( usually you’ll see them as toxic people and you’ll think if you lived alone, you’ll be better and won’t have to suffer this ), but once something goes how you suspected, you are doomed for life , mad trust issues and everything mama said was right. Think of it as Rapunzel and her witch mother.
@@hasinakhan6054 Must have been hell going through all that. I just want to say that what you described is going on for the adult child sounds like CPTSD. I hope you all the best.
I personally don't exhibit signs of PPD but I feel like I actually developed the opposite - I tend to over-explain myself and am sometimes transparent to a fault. I don't keep many secrets. My PPD mom never let me have any privacy, she was very surveillant and mistrustful, so I just didn't grow up with very good boundaries. I have C-PTSD and have worked with a therapist on exercising better boundaries.
If I may add a few more: - frowning all the time - thinking of things that don't seem to satisfy - not being able to see things that make true happines Hope it's not too late for you to enjoy life 🙂
It does seem overwhelming to deal with these huge, faceless entities. I dealt with the banks by kicking their asses to the curb and joining a credit union a couple of decades ago. That alone removed all their nonsense from my life instantly. It’s easy, because the CU will usually cancel the bank account for you! They’re member-owned, and that makes a big difference. The government-not so easy to deal with (can’t kick them to the curb.) The best method I’ve found is to stay informed, but I make sure to focus not only on the bad, but equally on the good that comes from having a government. Social Security, for instance-in 80 years, they’ve never missed a check or run out of funds. I think of the hundreds of millions of people who have felt relief and gratitude when the check arrives, because many have no other source of income. Regarding the “bad” things that governments do, all we can do is deal with it as it comes, and try to vote for people who think like us and will represent us properly. To me, those are people who fund their campaigns mainly with small donations from us. I’ve been around for 72 years-these are things that work pretty well for me. They don’t seem so overwhelming when I break them down some, and deal with the parts rather than the whole. That has required enough reading and listening to identify what the parts are. That’s the down side, that you have to study the thing that feels threatening in order to make it less threatening. But mainly, take care of yourself-millions of us understand what you’re feeling here. It’s that kind of time in our country and our lives. Peace.
I absolutely love this woman. She is very articulate and has such an easy way of helping you understand everything.
growing up with someone who is a paranoid schizophrenic made me hyper vigilant about my thinking. For a long long time I thought I was quite a paranoid person, but after 40 years of watching every single so called paranoid assessment come true in real life and in practice, I have come to accept that I tend to have good instinct rather than being paranoid. Sometimes one gets a fairly good feeling for fact vs fiction without actual data, and its a good thing to be cautious when you feel this. Most people who are genuinely paranoid, tend to always be on the attack rather than overtly suspicious... well that is what I have seen over the years.
Yes I agree I say the same ,especially after living on the streets for 33 of my 47 years of life
"After 40 years of watching every single so called paranoid assessment come true in real life and in practice..." The problem with that is that if you have PPD, you cannot rely on your own judgement about it. Your PPD will make you forget all the times you were wrong, selectively remember, you'll use confirmation bias, and so forth. Personality disorders radically change your perception of the world around you. Unfortunately, people with PPD may see that as a personal attack, or think the person treating them is trying to harm them by brainwashing them into believing a lie, because THAT IS PPD. That's why it's so resistant to treatment. The options are, you can either live in hell, or you can go towards what *appears to be* a much worse and permanent hell that's actually treatment which will relieve the hell you're living.
"Growing up with someone who is a paranoid schizophrenic made me hyper vigilant about my thinking." It's been hitting me very hard since I was about 22. I am so paranoid about being paranoid I feel like my mental illness is PPD that involves the fear of developing PPD. It's exhausting emotionally. Having watched the result of it happen to my mother and my older brother I'm kind of terrified. They're homeless, on drugs and refuse any and all help. And seeing how everyone treats them makes me really afraid of it. However, at its core, the line of reasoning explained in the video is a deep devaluation of oneself and the villainization of others. In their reality, they're at the bottom of the totem pole, aren't worthy of love, trust, acceptance, etc. And on the other end, everyone else is above them and they themselves are so inconsequential as to just be a pawn in others games.
It seems more so about a lack of confidence and a broken belief system about others. Probably stemming from childhood. And obviously some kind of issue with the persons fight or flight system. I think I'm insecure and generally have a negative view of others intentions until I get to know them better. I don't have hallucinations though. And I'm not so _paranoid_ of others to the point of it harming my own life and relationships necessarily. I think if it gets worse over time though, I'd probably say I need to be evaluated for PPD.
@@edwardseverinsen5598 If you've had bad experiences you're bound to feel mistrustful of others. It doesn't mean you have a personality disorder, especially if you're as introspective as you sound. Remember Dr pointed out these people are almost impossible to treat because they wouldn't go to a therapist!
@@truthowl3265 imma very introspective and i have personality disorder
I really appreciate how she provided real-world examples. I think I have BPD and oftentimes feel paranoid about everything. Not sure if it's mental illness, low self-esteem, trauma, or actual life experiences that make me distrustful.
I was gonna say the same about me I was thinking I have borderline but am getting more and more paranoid so can I switch over to ppd lol
BPD is a mental illness based on low self-esteem and insecurities caused by traumas and a lack of emotional bonding in the early developmental years.
I was wondering about this as well. My brother's ex ticks the boxes for BPD but she also definitely fulfils at least 5 of the 7 criteria for PPD as well. Not sure if she has both, or just one and there's some overlap.
This sounds like someone who has PTSD from dealing with a Narcissist!
Sure does, I have spells of this. After my relationship with a narcissistic.
yes my dad is a narciss
That's my question also- how to tell them apart? Does PTSD have a better chance at being healed than PPD?
Describes someone I know almost exactly. Hits 6/7 points on the head. It’s so difficult, painful, frustrating, and emotionally draining to be in a relationship with someone like this and I feel deeply affected by everything that happened. Thank you for this video. Makes my experience feel validated and seen.
I'm in the same boat. I feel for you.
Oh my god, yes, I met a girl in the summer of 2022 and she moved in with me in Oct and left this week and all these things, apart from the one of them was so so accurately describing what I have experiences with her, it's sad but helpful to understand that it wasn't all my fault
I feel like if you are a sensitive person and you have more than one time where you are afraid or don't feel safe around your family you can easily be paranoid for life
Yes but I think it's important to remember that these disorders can developed as a trauma response
13:37 growing up with a narcissistic parent is just like that. You have no idea what you're doing wrong but you're constantly being attacked for it
Maybe it both, narcissistic and paranoid…I think my mum’s like that..I haven’t talked with her for the last year, it hurts me but it’s better for my mental health..
My husband has all 7. I have been trying to prove myself to him for our entire relationship.
have you tried anything that worked with him??
That's unfortunate. Arent you tired?
I have tried. I pray alot. I am exhausted.
gross
divorce you can not fix crazy
Wow. This describes the ex I divorced. He lives by "Everyone out to get him so get them first"mantra .
Anytime he felt slighted and by things he took out of context.. he'd make up his false assumptions and narratives about that person and proudly proclaims he holds grudges forever..forever hating that person and coercively controlling others around him to feel the same.
He projects, blame shifts all of his paranoias, deceit, lies, and what he's guilty of onto others.
This video has helped me in understanding my childhood with a PPD parent. Paranoid patterns seem to be behind much of the aggro, fear and confusion generated online and it helps the public to understand this, thank you.
really appreciate the content on this channel, it's great to hear from professional therapists/psychiatrists. I've learned so much and gained so much self awareness, thank you for sharing these awesome and informative videos 🙏
Divorcing because you weren’t seated at table 1 is a good thing for the spouse. If that trivial item caused that much pain there were a lot more garbage going on in that marriage
Knowledge is power. Understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video. Its an exciting learning tool, which is teaching learning skills that are saving lives both literally and figuratively
I had a college roommate back in the early 90’s who I believe had PPD. I lived with her for one semester. She was always accusing people of stealing from her. She accused me of stealing her calculator. She was always suing people in small claims court, too. She filed a suit against me for stealing something, I don’t remember the details now. She filed 3 other lawsuits at the same time. When the first one got thrown out by the judge, she dropped the rest. That was the last I ever heard of her. I don’t think I was ever happier to get a person out of my life.
Try being the daughter of one. My dad was finally diagnosed in his 50’s. Growing up with him made me always feel guilty for not communicating and sharing everything, because in his mind, even his own child, an innocent young child, was someone of suspicion.
I felt inherently bad inside myself because my dad was looking for anything about me as if I was inherently bad and I had to prove I was good. Having my own children, I can’t imagine looking at them as out to get me, even when they were small. Or that they’re not inherently good and have to prove themselves to be good. One time my 2yr old threw a tantrum in the grocery store when I was visiting my dad and he was convinced she did it to make him look bad in front of others. He’d think certain “bad” people from his past were calling him when it was just telemarketers.
It made such a mess of my life for so many years (I was an ideal partner for easily jealous guys) until it made sense when my dad was diagnosed.
I love these videos.
I just have one suggestion. Whilst so very informative, I think it would also be beneficial to talk about the underlying pathophysiology if it is known about these disorders too. Because when talking only about the traits, we almost forget that this isn’t a choice. It’s not something the individual has control over. And these individuals need help and support.
Speaking as a therapist, paranoid personalities are extremely difficult to treat. Now, speaking as a brother. I have a sister who has a paranoid personality, and as you said, she did not choose it she was odd as a child. I've tried to address it through the backdoor and the only breakthrough that I detect is that she'll say, "I know what you're going to say." when she makes an irrational, unfounded suspicious claim.
They say the worst ways to go thru life is when you have paranoid personality disorder and people really ARE out to get you
As a scapegoat I feel like chronic paranoia is part of the game
@@leahflower9924 paranoia is an unrealistic and unfounded distrust. Suspicion is when you have been given good reason not to trust. As a scapegoat, your fears are neither unrealistic nor unfounded. You have come by your fears for very good reason
@@leahflower9924 THIS.
@@AJ22-80exactly
OMG, things finally make sense.
I have a colleague with many features mentioned in this video. Of course, I´m not going to diagnose her based on a video, but this was very helpful.
Thanks, medcircle and Dr. Ramani.
I've seen how horrible things can get as a result of "wedding guest placement" and learned early on just how significant it is.
We went to a wedding where the bride and groom had their reception at a very nice place with a big "offshoot" room(?) where they placed the waitstaff and chefs and some of the guests... AND where the band was playing.
There were folks who took it very personally, however, I realized the best thing to do was NOT to allow this unsettling experience to get the better of ANYONE.
So as not to give any "satisfaction" to the mean bride AND to prevent anyone from enjoying our dismay? I danced, showing off my lovely new dress ALL night to a rather amazing band!
This DID, in fact, take the attention off of the unfortunate seating arrangement!! That's what I call... getting even and enjoying it. All's well that ends well.
The table placement reminds me of how Harry has been moved down many tiers due to the troublesome new spouse.
I understand the reaction of #6 personally. Just because I jsut met YOUR friend doesnt mean you need to tell them MY business, if I want to tell them Im a mother, or barren or whatever thats up to me, not for you to share imo.
Interesting session Dr. Ramani, keep up the good work at Medcircle kind regards Worrell Robinson
This makes us sound like we are vicious, I am not vicious, I am trying to heal with therapy and owning up to my C-PTSD. Not all PPD's are this vindictive, manipulative, clueless, or resentful. From someone with PPD and severe C-PTSD, if you want a tip, we just want someone to be curious about what we experience instead of shame, being ignored, rejected and gaslit. It all comes from trauma and lack of love and attention, so blaming and shaming, laughing at our nightmare, and ignoring will only make it worse. It's really not funny. I am a very kind person so maybe this video i sin regard to PPD's who have done zero work.
I agree.
It seems that the accusation of paranoid personality disorder could be an ideal weapon for people with narcissistic personality disorder when they use gaslighting, especially when the person with the disorder works as a psychologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist.
Thanks so much for the good summary! I still have to deal with a former colleague, who I think might have PPD... my former bosses and me seem to be on his hitlist :-(
Can brain damage from drugs cause some level of this in a narcissist? My ex is a textbook covert narc but his levels of paranoia are off the charts! He’s been a regular cocaine abuser for 20 years so I know he has a lot of brain damage (possible mini strokes and all that, he cannot sit still and twitches constantly, his hands move nonstop in odd ways, looks like Parkinson’s sometimes) and in the last five years he has gotten so paranoid he is obsessed with Qanon and every conspiracy out there and convinced everyone is out to get him - it’s an intense change to happen in just five years. I feel like the drugs might’ve just rotted enough of his brain to let it out fully and it would be sad if he wasn’t evil
I would think so!
I live with this person unfortunately 😕 there is no drama on the frozen food aisle, more like murder on the frozen food aisle and my time is not mine, its theirs, and everyone is a threat and everyone attacks them and is out to get them. I am sneaky and always hiding everything even though they have all my passwords and pincodes. My mental health is starting to struggle living in this environment. I have to triple think before I speak, I have to constantly reassure this person, things my friends say are misinterpreted so much so that my friends have disappeared from my life, male family members are a threat.
I hope you’re able to get your own place for you mental health sake.
My ex was the same, gave me insane anxiety. I lost my friends too. My world became so small. If they wont get help, leave.
Fascinating. Thank you for posting these.
I wish I could sit down with the doc and see what she says about me 💯
i don't envy the people who have to study the DSM for years, and THEN have to deal with the big med/pharma insurance crap.
I am in love and living with someone who has all 7 of these signs of PPD.
I am desperate to figure out how to tell them that they have this and how to help them over come the thought patterns that define this disorder.
Excellent videos, very educational. Won't there be a bump in cases as the surveillance state ramps up?
Yes about the respect thing..I haven't met a lot but there's a couple of folks.. it's not good
Crazy thing is you really can’t trust the world …but i bet it is definitely a tough diagnoses to have , but I’m sure it a reason why people have ppd , something traumatic had to happen to them… also I think it’s a lot of hypersensitivity as well
I’m curious, if someone with PPD can file for divorce for being seated at the wrong table, how would they have gotten married in the first place? Someone like that is just not possible to get close to
oh shit. maybe my ex had this, not narcissism. maybe both. i just feel bad for him at this point. he was always trying to accuse me of cheating, so he went out and cheated and claimed he just wanted to beat me to it cause i would eventually cheat? what amazing logic. he'd also get really mad if i didn't answer my phone when i was away and i would be sleeping. i had a drug problem and constantly thought i was on drugs when i was actually not, but i can't blame him for that one, but he was a pot-head, so he was also an addict. i think pot may have contributed to his paranoia. anyway god bless. i hope people with these afflictions can heal because it's no way to live.
Only rich and privileged people have access to diagnosis of mental illness. The rest of us are either dead, in prison, or homeless. I am mentally ill.
I don't have a job since it's impossible for me to interact with people due to extreme trauma, abuse, and neglect in childhood. Being able to socialize is more important than anything else, bar none. Communication is the one thing that makes us human. I haven't heard a human voice in person for a week, much less seen anyone. Staying antisocial keeps others from being subjected to me. I wish I had help, but it does not exist.
DSM V was a giveaway to pharmaceutical companies which is a large reason why insurance companies reject it.
The fact that 99% of the book is completely subjective does not do it any favors but psychology/psychiatry is nearly completely subjective and lacks diagnostic validity.
There are people and many that are right about their feelings with regards to people being deceiving, as there are so many deceiving people in the world today, I work in a company of thousands of people for over 25 years and see them all. I see narcissists, I see many who can't be trusted (with proof of their behavior with many people) I see all kinds. On the other hand, a person who has been abused by a narcissist or more than one narcissist (as there are many out there), may appear sensitive this way, due to the way they were treated.
I'm sure you are only talking about the extreme cases where it takes over almost every aspect of their being, and I see people like this too.
The thing is, if it's really happening and I've seen cases, where people are really treating them this way, and that could very well happen when others gossip about that person and other people instigating and manipulate others to treat that person that way. Many people follow the crowd, and don't use their own judgement, they listen to gossip.
In many cases, I say these people if they don't trust should go with their gut, but I get what you're saying about extreme cases, but before we say they are paranoid, we really need to investigate, every aspect of this due to reasons I have explained, as we may not know the whole story behind it.
Definitely, a tough illness to have. Ironically, something definitely had to happen to make their brains that way
Amazing ! From what I have learned, it is better to release them into the wild blue!
I think what the situation with people who are misdiagnosed with Schizophrenias or Schizo-Effective Disorder, the Covert Narcissist who the patient is dealing with is definitely giving them the same type of crazymaking, so it important to know the symptoms are just a natural reaction. To be misdiagnosed, it is furthering the trauma the Narcissist inflicts directly to them and the medication causes a lot of hallucinations, plus they switch them from medication to medication as there is no change at all, still Schizophrenia type symptoms.
Then the Narcissist always has the misdiagnosis to use, like with the family of Narcissist they use the diagnosis to demean and be hurtful.
that just sounds like the pharmaceutical industry
I’m paranoid: due to stalkers….
I started dating a guy and walked in and his entire computer was torn apart. I figured he was just overly diligent at cleaning. Then noticed he had masking tape On all screw holes in garage. He thought they were cameras? Ya....
How can a patient of PPD ever make way to therapy?
If it were for her dad and my dad, my mother would have become homeless long time ago. Unfortunately, because she was able to stay at the house my dad bought, she has the ability to lock herself out from all possibilities of treatments.
It's only notice why doc. Shaking her legs it must be very difficult work to deal with so much stressful situations but I'm really thankful to ur videos n work you do for people. Just few days ago found chanel n truly so eye opening to me.
Dr. Ramani is so pretty and intelligent
I never learned about this and am shocked.
It sounds like they love projection
I mean not make excuses for these people but life is undoubtedly hard lol.
Maybe the paranoid personality just hung around too many narcissists :)
Oh wow so interesting, must be so exhausting being around someone like this
I've been diagnosed with PTSD, Bipolar, BPD, ADHD, Generalized Anxiety, Depression. I've been paranoid and and will every so year quit taking my meds because of agoraphobia. What should I do. I have been thorough CBT, DBT, and many treatments. Also paranoid of Wars, Global Economy, and who or what to trust. Distraction techniques are the only thing that seems to work.
Sending you positive thoughts
Having moderate intellectual disability with autism I am polar opposite of this. I have met paranoid people. Seems more common than npd, hpd. Another terrible disorder.
This is a lot to process. I am not sure 🤔 if I have ever graduated from the kids table at thanksgiving. Lol Therefore there will be no divorces over table one seating! Lol 🤔❤️🇺🇸
@@melissawalker7570 Glad to send a smile. There is too much stress and anxiety in society today. Take care 🤔❤🇺🇸
Kids table is the #1 table in my book! Definitely the most fun☺️
Amazing article 🙏✝️
When you are trying to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse, you can get framed on this right?
Is it possible for someone to meet the criteria for codependency, narcissism, and paranoid personality all at the same time?
thank you for your videos
Incredible he doesn't know who James Joyce was. Mmm is he a journalist or just a regular presenter, by that little info we know he never got a degree in humanities, what a shame, I would had edited the video. Maybe the editing tem didn't either, ha ha. Thanks doctor, great as always!
I have just watched your video on ppd. I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, ptsd, anxiety and depression and after watching this have realised that I may have been misdiagnosed. What would you suggest I do next? Thanks 🙏
Go to different therapist
Great! Now I’m not sure if I have this or I’m married to a covert narcissist… 😳 🤯
Like to know the stats for their childhood, any abuses, let downs etc. extreme unable to trust all human beings.
Please how can I make my loved one convince him that I love him so much and would never do any thing to hurt him how I can do that please and what the diagnosis for some one is paranoid because paranoia is a symptom not sickness please if u can tell me what’s the sickness called ?
I think my ex-boyfriend had this. I thought he did 2 years ago when we were just friends
ok so if someone shows the signs of paranoid personality disorder BUT they have legitimately been in situations that would cause a reasonable person to show those signs-like say maybe someone who legitimately did have a stalker that would do all sorts of crazy stuff to them-is the person showing paranoid signs someone with PPD or are they distrustful as any reasonable person would be? What is the treatment for someone with PPD? Would anti-depressants help or make it worse?
My son tells me that his right has been taken from him and I m doing some thing against him and behind him by stealing his right some thing to do with health care and I don’t know what he means by that and he never turn the lights on when he is in his room or showering he hates lights he thinks there is camera in my house I am very very sad to see my very smart son turning to this person can u tell me what kind of paranoia is this ?
He doesn’t think he needs help at all please if there is some thing I can help him with please
I cry every day when I see or hear doctors talk a bout this subject
Thank u
What if all of those fears started because people did all of those things to them???
And if everyone thought the same then all tables would have to be named 1 😂😂😂
There’s a lot of self inflating narcissistic (IMO) behaviors that coincide with being paranoid. So is this person more paranoid than narcissistic? Both? The head table thing sounds like a narcissistic person.
You know we have to look at what a paranoia disorder is again
It’s so similar to NPD is it possible there’s an overlap?
I want to know what they don't have treatments for
Sadly, this is me. I was first diagnosed with NPD but it later became clear it was N tendencies due to guess what... lol
Btw its almost as torturous to us as it is the rest of yall ;)
Is Paranoid Personality Disorder different than Paranoid Schizophrenia?
How is this different from paranoid schizophrenia?
Just because I'm paranoid it doesn't mean I'm wrong.
difference borderline and paranoia?
James Joyce was Irish.
Sounds very monolithic
I swear my ex had this
Damn... sounds like me :O
People with paranoid personality disorder will accuses you of being paranoid!!!
I am calling out Dr. Ramani's closet full of low key, sexy librarianesque outfits. Those clogs dont fool me! 💥💕
Most of the patients who are injured in. Surgery the doctors who do it are 90 percent India doctors and I get it mistakes do happen but they most of the time cover it up by stalking or harassing the patient two India doctors was recently fired from my team because of this
Fuck I think I have this. Mostly from my meth use
Before I say what I'm about to say I'm going to. first say that I love all people including India people but I personally believe that the Indian people here in America are very peronoid. And should not be doing the secret things that they do in America and. I'm not for the two week medical training that they get in India and then come to America to get a doctor license two weeks is not enough time to consider yourself a doctor I'm a doctor and it took more then 4 years to get in the right place
The wisest thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on the govt. Especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a good time to invest in Gold, Silver and digital currencies (BTC,ETH...)
@Stanley Morgan I agree with you, I had a senior colleague work who lived well but never had an investment, unfortunately his job ended so he went from living well to surviving with his family.
Investing is a primary decision to be made for the future. If you see this and you don’t have an investment, plan to have one, so you don’t end up like my main colleague at work.
My first investment in my portfolio was in the forex market ($1,400) with Mrs Jessica operating on my behalf, the portfolio balance is currently growing 😊
@George J. Taylor Honestly I would like to get in touch with this expert, how do I go about that?
I'm a doctor from Scotland,I was recommended to her on UA-cam, she has been a great broker and i have been making $ 8,060 every week.
In other words, Virgos.
Joy are paranoic
How does all this extravagant articulation of narcissism come into play when we’re dealing with racism structural systemic and collective what one race of people is influencing all of the races to target and discriminate into even kill indigenous people such as myself. What does the world of psychology say about racism.
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this guy makes ru paul look butch
Thank you Dr Ramani, you are a blessing and a wonderful doctor. Support and gratitude to medcircle all the time. 🤝🙌👏🌼🌸🏵️🌺⚕️⛑️📒
Love dr ramani but Kyle is awful . He doesn’t ask insightful questions, but interjects with ridiculous anecdotes from his own life. 🫠please get a new host
Dont be so harsh!! I don't think Kyle is "awful" I think he is a kind person. I do see sometimes he seems to turn these interviews into a personal counseling session rather than keeping it global for a wider audience. Nevertheless, sometimes his personal issues are related to some, just not all. Im not sure it's possible to not interject personal experience(s) into these discussions. Be kind.
99% my mom has this. People view her as crazy. It’s sad to me but I know I can nor fox it so I just do what I can to comfort her. She had a horrible upbringing.
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Same way with my mom. She's trippin on about q conspiracies and she's susceptible to things like that. I love her and worry about her I tried to guide her through meditation but she kept trying to talk to me in the middle of it. She also had a rough upbringing.
I think I have it a little bit too but I don't keep tabs on everyone, read into messages or think my spouse is cheating. I do have like a scale of trust and distrust I hold onto a fear people will use what I say against me. I oddly trust my mom to though 😅 I don't forgive people either. But it's not like how she explains like that level of control I don't have that. But I learned how to passively interrogate from my mom's paranoia and can 99% know when someone is lying to me. Through holes in their story.
I found the people who broke into my storage unit for the third time in 5 years. They stole everything. It Took me 6 months tracking them. They were incredibly careful never posted anything online. I Dropped out of college to find them. Had to gain rapport with criminals to get info. They were meth dealers living in a roach infested trailer in a junkyard full of stolen cars in Millersburg Missouri. Found out they were also stealing catalytic converters and syphoning gasoline out of U-Hauls. If I'm paranoid I feel like I have a good enough reason. I can only count on one hand the number of people I can trust here. And they probably don't even trust me anymore cause honestly I went a little bit crazy trying to figure out who did this. And the famous quote here is it's better to be safe than sorry. I've been robbed at gunpoint here, had to do CPR to keep someone alive because they had overdosed. There's a serial killer on the loose here. Gang violence, drive-by shootings and a bunch of narcissism no middle class jobs just upper class slumlords and dirt poor workers. Liberal in the winter conservative in the summer. And it always seems to be either around 100° with 90% humidity or winter when the frost hits and it dips below frigid freezing everyone here makes minimum wage lives paycheck to paycheck afflicted paying most of their wages on taxes rent and credit card interest. I wanna move away so bad but don't know any good places to live.
My mom to but I’m tired I’m drained I have my own issues don’t know what to do anymore !!!
@@versag3776 my goodness I would definitely move. Well you have the internet at your fingertips id google a town that has the least amount of crime first and foremost and then go from there. Lol
I have this and it is very difficult to explain to others. The text thing specifically. My husband gets very frustrated when I am offended by his text. The way people perceive me is frustrating as well. I do behave erratic but for me it makes perfect sense.
The lady who filed for divorce probably felt very betrayed and hurt.
From her perspective what she perceived happened WAS offensive enough to warrant said behavior.
I have never “looked” for a hidden message in a text. What I see is obvious to me.
The word for this disorder she used was pervasive and thats how it feels.
It is not a choice. It actually is a terribly struggle every day to have to try to explain to your own mind that it is wrong about what it is telling you.
The way these people joked about it actually was very hurtful. The put a stigma out on a disorder that 1% of people have. If 1% of people have this than honestly do you know how it feels or understand it thoroughly?
Empathy over judgment.
I don’t have this disorder or know anybody who does (I don’t think) but yeah, even I picked up that it was coming across really judgmental and kind of mocking. Not what you would want from a mental health professional.
i would absolutely love to see the effects of being raised by someone with someone with PPD.
Makes life a living hell. Example: I saw your mouth blabber who were you speaking to… , something that happens counties away to someone , you’ll get a lecture for that to make sure you don’t become one of them. Constantly having to be in their eye, and will try to know what you talk to friends about. Even if you are 24. Depending on the parent some has it just for the daughters and not the son. Anyways it grows you to become like them so everything that they said would happen if you did this and that gets into your head…. The simple little things like taking a pic with friends would give you anxiety and panic attacks as you start to imagine everything that could go wrong with that pic which mama told you would, even if it’s a decent class photo. Makes you grow into a paranoid person
Long story short… you’ll end up one way or the other as a person with PPD , even if you changed your identity and lived far away so you don’t have parent pressure ( usually you’ll see them as toxic people and you’ll think if you lived alone, you’ll be better and won’t have to suffer this ), but once something goes how you suspected, you are doomed for life , mad trust issues and everything mama said was right.
Think of it as Rapunzel and her witch mother.
@@hasinakhan6054 this was trigger-y to read. i get it.
Would probably end up with the same disorder or borderline personality disorder.
@@hasinakhan6054 Must have been hell going through all that. I just want to say that what you described is going on for the adult child sounds like CPTSD. I hope you all the best.
I personally don't exhibit signs of PPD but I feel like I actually developed the opposite - I tend to over-explain myself and am sometimes transparent to a fault. I don't keep many secrets. My PPD mom never let me have any privacy, she was very surveillant and mistrustful, so I just didn't grow up with very good boundaries. I have C-PTSD and have worked with a therapist on exercising better boundaries.
Trust me, being a “single mom” is def not as you say “an honor”…in most situations it’s a regrettable choice. I know.
And brings forth a good deal of guilt.
If I may add a few more:
- frowning all the time
- thinking of things that don't seem to satisfy
- not being able to see things that make true happines
Hope it's not too late for you to enjoy life 🙂
- sighing at jokes
In this chaotic sick society today it seems normal to me to be paranoid about the government and bank systems.
I'm not sure "paranoid" is the right word for what is happening in gov't.
I'm more concerned about this creepy cringe lady with those GIANT eyes 👀 and her incessant need to MEDICATE the world, just for feeling a little off.
It does seem overwhelming to deal with these huge, faceless entities. I dealt with the banks by kicking their asses to the curb and joining a credit union a couple of decades ago. That alone removed all their nonsense from my life instantly. It’s easy, because the CU will usually cancel the bank account for you! They’re member-owned, and that makes a big difference.
The government-not so easy to deal with (can’t kick them to the curb.) The best method I’ve found is to stay informed, but I make sure to focus not only on the bad, but equally on the good that comes from having a government. Social Security, for instance-in 80 years, they’ve never missed a check or run out of funds. I think of the hundreds of millions of people who have felt relief and gratitude when the check arrives, because many have no other source of income.
Regarding the “bad” things that governments do, all we can do is deal with it as it comes, and try to vote for people who think like us and will represent us properly. To me, those are people who fund their campaigns mainly with small donations from us.
I’ve been around for 72 years-these are things that work pretty well for me. They don’t seem so overwhelming when I break them down some, and deal with the parts rather than the whole. That has required enough reading and listening to identify what the parts are. That’s the down side, that you have to study the thing that feels threatening in order to make it less threatening.
But mainly, take care of yourself-millions of us understand what you’re feeling here. It’s that kind of time in our country and our lives. Peace.
That's the difference between paranoia and suspicion
Doc, I don't wish to alarm you with Paranoia but your Brain is Swelling due to Anxiety Water Retention. 😳