It started from childhood. All adults around us demanding us to behave in ways that pleased them and did not make them feel upset. We felt responsible for their feelings and tip toed our way around ....and it followed us into adult until we eventually....hopefully... get to the point when we say 'I REALLY DON'T CARE..'
Very true. I feel sad that so many can't have insight like that. It's taking me so much time! - I'm almost 70, but I'm starting to "get it". It's been a tough life, but by the time I pass on, I will be free.
@@victoriajarvis2260 yea, if we can help others learn this from as young as possible, life would be so much easier for them...however we are never too old or young to learn/realise..if we can find ways to show this point of view to others not by the thousands and thousands but just everyday people you come across your doing the world a great service!
@@FunchieBaby THIS IS NOT ABOUT EGO, IT IS ABOUT HAVING UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE......PLACING NO ONE ABOVE YOU......FOR NO ONE IS ABOVE YOU.....UNLESS THEY ARE PLACED THERE BY THE INDIVIDUAL....
I think it's very important to truly get to know yourself first.I would not want to force myself to be a talkative person if in my essence I'm not. My goal would rather be to feel comfortable as an introvert then chasing the extrovert persona that does not comes naturally to me. Figuring out your true self is not as easy as it seems, but it's essential.
So true, once , the only reason I spoke was for attention from a male .... But it made me be an actor. If I didn't like him I would if been an introvert then. I'm an extrovert naturally though when a man loves me so much without me seeking attention lol
So much fun! If what other people think of us are made-up in our own head anyway, why don't we make something up that uplifting and motivates us to become a better version of ourselves.
Questions To Ask Actively On Your Own 1) What do I think of them? 2) What do they think of me? 3) What do I think of the situation? 4) What do they think of the situation? My takeaways from this video: Your brain will always search for an answer so you have to feed it the answer you want. When you think of what other people think of you, you start to act differently based on their opinions. You don't see the problems caring what other people think of you creates in your life. It slows down your progress.
it's an interesting way of quieting the mind and it does help to refocus your inner efforts on being more confident and freeing up your mind for other things
Aw hope you got rid of it now. It really sucks especially when you try to find your identity in teemage years. Its never late though. Love ya take care💙
I'm 23 and I'm struggling to go out and live my life because of this. I feel by my presence I make people uncomfortable. 😪 I'm also terrible or scared of showing my emotions around people. This is ruining my life.
It took me 43 years to realize this. I now see the mistakes I've made, and why I haven't been as successful in life as I thought I would be. It's for this very reason. I'm hoping that I can push past this. I guess being aware of it is the first step...
I hope you're faring well on your journey since making this post. I'm also 43, and also just now arriving at this information, and seeing how my past has been dictated by this concept of validation. Mind blowing... yet, we press on, right?
2 minutes in I had the thought that you brought up in the end. I am super critical of people as well as myself. I know I have a habit of "projecting" (adjusting my behaviors based on what I think someone else thinks). It is a very bad habit, especially in relationships where you can just ask what they think instead of leaving it to your imagination to"fill in the answers" (which is usually not the true answer). But for me that extends to strangers as well...(i.e. people I can't just ask). I have hobbies and things I want to do in public that I cannot do because of fear of what complete strangers might think of me even though there is absolutely no basis to my thoughts, nor should I give a crap what strangers think.
We are all the staring cast member in our own minds and the rest of the world are supporting cast members. The reality is, your not as important as you think you are and no one else is as concerned about you as you may think.
Just found you this morning and so glad I did! My life has been destroyed in so many ways because of being CONSUMED by exactly what you're talking about. Have read so many self help books, watched videos, etc to find the answer. Your solution is simple but makes so much sense. THANK YOU!!
Thank you for this. I'm a youtuber and I've become consumed with what my viewers think of me and my content. I believe , for me, this stems from having a very critically sarcastic, self centered, judgmental parent that says whatever, whenever, and however without any regard to the impact. I'm a grown woman and it's still a big part of me.
Wow, I'm so glad this was helpful for you!! It takes time for sure, but overcoming the fear of what others think of you is sooo powerful. Pretty life changing. Keep on keeping on!!!
Wow this is such a great perspective on this problem! I never thought about it as an unanswered question but it makes a lot of sense. We search for closure in a lot of areas of life: broken relationships, past traumas, ways of thinking, careers. But we don’t often get it. Or, we don’t accept the answer we are given because it doesn’t provide any relief. It makes sense that we need to answer the question for ourselves to gain that closure and move forward, instead of remaining stagnant and waiting for the answer to find us. Thank you. 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for this video. I took notes all the way through the video and now I am putting it into action. I can’t tell you how much better I’m feeling already. What a relief this is for me.
Great video!! That has basically been my whole life. I am also an introvert, grew up very shy. I have always been too concerned with what others think of me and have ruminated about it way too much analyzing every word and look. It makes one basically self-apologetic and self-effacing, but feeling resentful about it. It makes one feel at the bottom of the social ladder, poor self-esteem and little assertion, and rather angry about it. So it does also make one more negative, critical, and resentful of others. I think having high expectations and being perfectionist is often part of it, thinking that about others and believing they think that way about you too. That leads to being disappointed, critical, negative, and resentful. Also the fear of failing, criticism, rejection.
I have watched countless hours of self help videos and this Video was by far the most helpful to me. Easily explained and gave me a lightbulb moment. Thankyou!!
During my childhood my mom is what got me into thinking this way. She lived life in a way to please others and would ask me what would they think if I did a certain thing
My friend is dealing with this s*** right now. She swears the neighbors are talking about everybody. I keep telling her who the f*** cares with these assholes think. They have no power over our lives unless you give it to them.
Ive watched many videos on this topic. This video way and above 'hits the nail on the head' and the help we need ion worrying about ourselves and what others think of us! Thankyou!! :D
Hey I really want to thank you for making this video! I’ve suffered for years and still do! However you are giving me so much hope! I’m 43 now; I hope I can let these negative habits of being so critical about myself and over analyzing others cause I’m afraid of what they think of men
I find his word so powerful and helpful whenever I start to feel negative in my head I just open his video and makes me not to worry about what others think of me
Simple and direct as this video was..and some may never know just how severe this can be.. but I feel this video is THE place to start for me . This issue has spiderwebbed into so many other thingsalso. . Where I was getting at .. I feel this is going to change my life. Thank you 🙏
This is definitely one of the best videos I've watched. From someone who overthinks a lot I've never looked at it from this perspective. So thank you so much for this impactful video ❤️
Exactly I've especially had dis problem mainly since I'm a Young Adult Black Man who has wanted to be different all my life but it's been hard cuz most Black Men especially where I grew up are very narrow minded and I also love to try and be very social and make friends but since I've decided I wanna be different and wear heels, skirts, etc it's been hard not to care what others may think of me
today i found out i spent most my life thinking what others think of me it programmed subconsciously i didnt know must of my problem was caused by that
what do you think about this method with someone you are having a falling out with or who doesn't like you and you don't know why? i get stuck in a cycle of: what do they think happened? is it okay to answer the questions negatively? and maybe end with "and that's okay!" or "and i'm ready to move on," or something like that?
I really struggle with this issue and this video gave me a new perspective. I'm a normal 45 year old woman and I get stared and analysed all the time, which annoys me so much. Maybe I'm gorgeous, smart, mysterious, I don't know... But now I will make better stories about myself. Thank you for this insightful video
This all balls down to the ego. The ego is the false since of self. People live there life’s thinking there ego is who they really are. For example if you play basketball that’s not who you are it’s your ego. Playing basketball is thing you do. Another example let’s say your approaching woman on the street it’s just what you do it not who you are. It’s just that your ego gets caught up on whether she says yes or no. You’re ego causes depression and anxiety because you don’t know your true self and you think your true self is the ego. Your true self is your character and how you treat people. Your value that you give to people. That is something the ego could never do. You just got to figure out who you are without the ego.
Thanks you so much for sharing your thoughts I very very much agree with you. My perspective on this matter is that we all have a person inside we wish we were or we would like to be and we want everyone to perceives us that way. For some people it may be the fact of being self-sufficient and happy, so they will do things to give others enough reasons to believe that they are that way. But when they receive feedback that conflicts the persona they want to be perceived as, the ego feels attacked. That’s when thoughts race in all directions trying to figure out why, how, and come up with solutions. That means they will adjust their behaviour to get better feedback in order to feel okay because the ego will be validated and reassured then. You see it’s not that we really care about the opinions of others but our own opinion about ourselves. We don’t slave to the opinions of others but to our own egos. Like really, do you think we are such selfless thoughtful human beings that we care so much about what others are thinking and their opinions on matters, if that’s true then why don’t we care when it has nothing to do with us or anything in connection to what we like or interest us, because ego is a selfish trait and we all have it at different levels depends how much we feed it so we will only care when it involves us. “Starve The Ego, Feed The Soul”-TGM
I'm not sure what this can actually change for me, cause I sometimes struggle with helplessness, and when I finally take the courage of telling my closest people I need their help, they don't believe me, they really blame me for "making this weakness up". I don't have to ask them what they think of me, cause they already tell me I am very strong, but it is simply not true. I have to be that "strong", that is alone, cause they wouldn't help me when I really need them.
on the other hand, when I think, and tell them too, this is how I feel, whatever you want to think of me, they offer and try to help, but only in situations where I don't bother if they help of not. So I have to think of them, go f... yourself for being helpful, you weren't there when I needed you.
Wrong. Being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you're insecure/indecisive. It just means that you get your energy from being by yourself and doing things you like by yourself. Being an extrovert is the the opposite and means that you recharge around other people. You can introverted and still be outgoing, still be confident and self assured. An extroverted can also still be shy and insecure.
Omg page three hit home hard. I started overanalyzing people because I thought that everyone hated me (I was kinda bullied), I thought everyone would try to hurt so I learned how they act, why, etc and now I feel like I know how they will react or what they think of me...but I really don't
After expressing my thoughts, they think I'm intelligent as my point is backed up with an Accounting principle. They also think I'm strong as I'm not scared to voice out my concern.
I;ve never worried abou what others think of me, maybe Military training, I've always looked at it like, it's none of my business what others think of me, I've always remembered, "Take Care of Your Own Backyard First", but for the life of me, I can't make my wife understand. Maybe if I make her watch this video it may help. Thank you for your video.
This is truly awesome! I love the part about making up your own mind game and seek yourself as who you want to be! As an INFJ I constantly over analyze everything and it causes a lot of anxiety and keeps me from reaching my goals!
I must say i never give my opinion on videos. But you went right to the point. Thanks for explaining this in a so easy way. I think i am blocking myself most of the time. Your recommendations are practical and concise. Thanks for this.
Thank you so much. yes just happening me, i do not know from where it started but it happened to me. but i really going to use this technique calming down my mind.
I feel like mine started when I young always told me I was annoying but that was my personality or when they make faces and say certain things about the choices you make in life or what makes you happy they don’t like that but everyone has opinions but these get to me for some reasons
Thank you so much! Exactly my thoughts! So, I'm not crazy. I always think- maybe I can "make the answers" but then I'm not sure if that's real. Thank you!
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It started from childhood. All adults around us demanding us to behave in ways that pleased them and did not make them feel upset. We felt responsible for their feelings and tip toed our way around ....and it followed us into adult until we eventually....hopefully... get to the point when we say 'I REALLY DON'T CARE..'
Very true. I feel sad that so many can't have insight like that. It's taking me so much time! - I'm almost 70, but I'm starting to "get it". It's been a tough life, but by the time I pass on, I will be free.
@@victoriajarvis2260 yea, if we can help others learn this from as young as possible, life would be so much easier for them...however we are never too old or young to learn/realise..if we can find ways to show this point of view to others not by the thousands and thousands but just everyday people you come across your doing the world a great service!
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Yessssssss!!!!!! Sooooo trueeee
Well I'm never going to get to that point.
RULE #1....PLACE NO ONE.....ABOVE YOU
I love that
How do you balance that with humility and religious beliefs
@@FunchieBaby NO RELIGION
@@FunchieBaby THIS IS NOT ABOUT EGO, IT IS ABOUT HAVING UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE......PLACING NO ONE ABOVE YOU......FOR NO ONE IS ABOVE YOU.....UNLESS THEY ARE PLACED THERE BY THE INDIVIDUAL....
I definitely over analyze people too much and I’m very hard on myself 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ I’m starting to change that 🎯
Same.
Tbh I think age really plays a part of why we care so much of others think of us
How ?
@@abrahampalmer8761 yeah in highschool
Same 😢
and that's why most social media is poison
Some of it, not all
I finally got the way to get rid of what others think about me. 4.02 exactly as a teenager I suffered alot and I m not studied well due to wotam.
I think it's very important to truly get to know yourself first.I would not want to force myself to be a talkative person if in my essence I'm not. My goal would rather be to feel comfortable as an introvert then chasing the extrovert persona that does not comes naturally to me. Figuring out your true self is not as easy as it seems, but it's essential.
Im having massive trouble figuring that all out
So true, once , the only reason I spoke was for attention from a male .... But it made me be an actor.
If I didn't like him I would if been an introvert then.
I'm an extrovert naturally though when a man loves me so much without me seeking attention lol
This comment was at the second top, so it must be vital , it's what I also thought
Chasing, yeh, it's pretty much a rat race, attention seeking etc lok
So much fun! If what other people think of us are made-up in our own head anyway, why don't we make something up that uplifting and motivates us to become a better version of ourselves.
Would you really believe it? I honestly have trouble believing things I know I made up...
I have *never* heard anyone put it this way. Thank you.
it great
@@helenbostock2350 it awesome
Yes,my thoughts exactly....thank you for enlightening me on this problem that has been hanging in my head for the past 50 years.....
Yes perfect
Questions To Ask Actively On Your Own
1) What do I think of them?
2) What do they think of me?
3) What do I think of the situation?
4) What do they think of the situation?
My takeaways from this video: Your brain will always search for an answer so you have to feed it the answer you want. When you think of what other people think of you, you start to act differently based on their opinions. You don't see the problems caring what other people think of you creates in your life. It slows down your progress.
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think more like "i don't need to care about what these people think in five seconds cuz they can't be no Einstein, Tesla or Tyson"
it's an interesting way of quieting the mind and it does help to refocus your inner efforts on being more confident and freeing up your mind for other things
Not just feeding it the answer but also believing on it!
I always cared what people thought about me. I'm 50. And it does effect you. Was worse for me when I was a Teenager...
Aw hope you got rid of it now. It really sucks especially when you try to find your identity in teemage years. Its never late though. Love ya take care💙
I want to cry. This puts it so clear.
I'm 23 and I'm struggling to go out and live my life because of this. I feel by my presence I make people uncomfortable. 😪 I'm also terrible or scared of showing my emotions around people. This is ruining my life.
You might like Abraham Hicks
"Play a better mind game" Yeah, because why not! :) I love that.
It really makes a difference - let us know the changes you notice!
Me too
Basically being cocky when thinking of what people think about you and you will be more confident because you will believe in yourself more 🙌
This made my day... you had me laughing, crying, smiling, and relieved. Thank you.
His voice wen he laugh😂
It took me 43 years to realize this. I now see the mistakes I've made, and why I haven't been as successful in life as I thought I would be.
It's for this very reason.
I'm hoping that I can push past this.
I guess being aware of it is the first step...
I hope you're faring well on your journey since making this post. I'm also 43, and also just now arriving at this information, and seeing how my past has been dictated by this concept of validation. Mind blowing... yet, we press on, right?
Hi I’m 18, can you share how it hurt you?
Never to late
me too. 42 years
@@safekicker Im 40 yo and just today realized i have this issue my entire life and thought it was normal!
2 minutes in I had the thought that you brought up in the end. I am super critical of people as well as myself. I know I have a habit of "projecting" (adjusting my behaviors based on what I think someone else thinks). It is a very bad habit, especially in relationships where you can just ask what they think instead of leaving it to your imagination to"fill in the answers" (which is usually not the true answer). But for me that extends to strangers as well...(i.e. people I can't just ask). I have hobbies and things I want to do in public that I cannot do because of fear of what complete strangers might think of me even though there is absolutely no basis to my thoughts, nor should I give a crap what strangers think.
I quit worrying about that last week! Rejection is divine protection!
Rejection is protection, I love that!!
This is the reason why I am so unproductive at times. Thank you for this.
We are all the staring cast member in our own minds and the rest of the world are supporting cast members. The reality is, your not as important as you think you are and no one else is as concerned about you as you may think.
True empathy exactly works that way. It is impossible to take care of a baby correctly if one doesn't have that ability.
I really needed this, thank you. I have been stuck in my head for years and I am praying I get better
Same
Just found you this morning and so glad I did! My life has been destroyed in so many ways because of being CONSUMED by exactly what you're talking about. Have read so many self help books, watched videos, etc to find the answer. Your solution is simple but makes so much sense. THANK YOU!!
Thank you for this. I'm a youtuber and I've become consumed with what my viewers think of me and my content. I believe , for me, this stems from having a very critically sarcastic, self centered, judgmental parent that says whatever, whenever, and however without any regard to the impact. I'm a grown woman and it's still a big part of me.
Wow, I'm so glad this was helpful for you!! It takes time for sure, but overcoming the fear of what others think of you is sooo powerful. Pretty life changing. Keep on keeping on!!!
really, realy inspirring (btw: does anyone mind my typos? Of course not, they love them!)
But seriously i didn't notice it till you pointed it out lol
I can confirm that I do love them
Love this!! Make up positive thoughts about yourself.
Exactly Michelle!
And then they'll manifest even if they're not 100% accurate
Wow this is such a great perspective on this problem! I never thought about it as an unanswered question but it makes a lot of sense. We search for closure in a lot of areas of life: broken relationships, past traumas, ways of thinking, careers. But we don’t often get it. Or, we don’t accept the answer we are given because it doesn’t provide any relief. It makes sense that we need to answer the question for ourselves to gain that closure and move forward, instead of remaining stagnant and waiting for the answer to find us. Thank you. 🙏🏼
I'm in broken friendships camp because of dumb things I did.
It makes sense Micaela. Doesnt it?
Yes well put and It’s not just a thought that matters ,but the power we give them!!
peace🙂
Thank you so much for this video. I took notes all the way through the video and now I am putting it into action. I can’t tell you how much better I’m feeling already. What a relief this is for me.
Seriously so glad to hear that! :)
Finally i got a term to explain my mental condition
Imagine everyone is thinking the very best of you 💫✨
Great video!! That has basically been my whole life. I am also an introvert, grew up very shy. I have always been too concerned with what others think of me and have ruminated about it way too much analyzing every word and look. It makes one basically self-apologetic and self-effacing, but feeling resentful about it. It makes one feel at the bottom of the social ladder, poor self-esteem and little assertion, and rather angry about it. So it does also make one more negative, critical, and resentful of others.
I think having high expectations and being perfectionist is often part of it, thinking that about others and believing they think that way about you too. That leads to being disappointed, critical, negative, and resentful. Also the fear of failing, criticism, rejection.
I am 24 years old and didn't know how much I needed this information until today
Keep smiling and making these videos because you’re amazing for smiling while you talk about the issues you do
Ahhh, feeling so relaxed now.
Obviously those people are thinking how wise I am and they wish if they could be anywhere close as to my level 😉.
I have watched countless hours of self help videos and this Video was by far the most helpful to me. Easily explained and gave me a lightbulb moment. Thankyou!!
During my childhood my mom is what got me into thinking this way. She lived life in a way to please others and would ask me what would they think if I did a certain thing
May the Lord bless the creator of this video and the viewers. Thanks alot I feel better 🔥😎😊
One of the most brilliant concepts I have listened to
This is so true. I need to fix this immediately and teach my kids how to as well.
Good plan Wendy! Good job.
did you succeed?
so true. I am always looking for approval from people.
@@gailland8681 did you succeed ? I am extremely struggling with seeking approval atm would love to know your tips
My friend is dealing with this s*** right now. She swears the neighbors are talking about everybody. I keep telling her who the f*** cares with these assholes think. They have no power over our lives unless you give it to them.
I been dealing with this my whole life things are starting to Change this last couple weeks training my self to not give a duck
I'm too much worried but I think I can overcome this fear
Ive watched many videos on this topic. This video way and above 'hits the nail on the head' and the help we need ion worrying about ourselves and what others think of us!
Thankyou!! :D
You are a very charismatic and warmhearted person. And I love your message.
Hey I really want to thank you for making this video! I’ve suffered for years and still do! However you are giving me so much hope! I’m 43 now; I hope I can let these negative habits of being so critical about myself and over analyzing others cause I’m afraid of what they think of men
I find his word so powerful and helpful whenever I start to feel negative in my head I just open his video and makes me not to worry about what others think of me
Simple and direct as this video was..and some may never know just how severe this can be.. but I feel this video is THE place to start for me . This issue has spiderwebbed into so many other thingsalso. . Where I was getting at .. I feel this is going to change my life. Thank you 🙏
you are really highly sensitive and Empathy person, that's why you made this video.. 💐💐💐😌😌😌😌😌😌🌷🌷🌷🌷
It's hard when they really do think things about you. 😥
and especially when you don't have to make up their thoughts, cause they have already told you what they think of you.
This is the point where tha ties have to be cut down
Wow this was so helpful! I struggle to say no to people and I’m a real ‘people pleaser’ so this is great! I think your fabulous thanks
This is definitely one of the best videos I've watched. From someone who overthinks a lot I've never looked at it from this perspective. So thank you so much for this impactful video ❤️
Wow, thanks Adarsh! :) Glad it was helpful for you!
That's the main thing in society worries when no body is perfect, big mistake is judging
YAYYYY! Yes! You’re all so handsome and beautiful and the Force is with ALL OF US!!!
Exactly I've especially had dis problem mainly since I'm a Young Adult Black Man who has wanted to be different all my life but it's been hard cuz most Black Men especially where I grew up are very narrow minded and I also love to try and be very social and make friends but since I've decided I wanna be different and wear heels, skirts, etc it's been hard not to care what others may think of me
Thank you this is what I needed, I'll be watching this a few more times so it sinks in
Here's a thing I've had problems with and even still sometimes
today i found out i spent most my life thinking what others think of me it programmed subconsciously i didnt know must of my problem was caused by that
Thank you man
what do you think about this method with someone you are having a falling out with or who doesn't like you and you don't know why? i get stuck in a cycle of: what do they think happened? is it okay to answer the questions negatively? and maybe end with "and that's okay!" or "and i'm ready to move on," or something like that?
GREAT VIDEO I WILL TRY THIS RIGHT AWAY. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I really struggle with this issue and this video gave me a new perspective. I'm a normal 45 year old woman and I get stared and analysed all the time, which annoys me so much. Maybe I'm gorgeous, smart, mysterious, I don't know... But now I will make better stories about myself. Thank you for this insightful video
This all balls down to the ego. The ego is the false since of self. People live there life’s thinking there ego is who they really are. For example if you play basketball that’s not who you are it’s your ego. Playing basketball is thing you do. Another example let’s say your approaching woman on the street it’s just what you do it not who you are. It’s just that your ego gets caught up on whether she says yes or no. You’re ego causes depression and anxiety because you don’t know your true self and you think your true self is the ego. Your true self is your character and how you treat people. Your value that you give to people. That is something the ego could never do. You just got to figure out who you are without the ego.
Thanks you so much for sharing your thoughts I very very much agree with you. My perspective on this matter is that we all have a person inside we wish we were or we would like to be and we want everyone to perceives us that way. For some people it may be the fact of being self-sufficient and happy, so they will do things to give others enough reasons to believe that they are that way. But when they receive feedback that conflicts the persona they want to be perceived as, the ego feels attacked. That’s when thoughts race in all directions trying to figure out why, how, and come up with solutions. That means they will adjust their behaviour to get better feedback in order to feel okay because the ego will be validated and reassured then. You see it’s not that we really care about the opinions of others but our own opinion about ourselves. We don’t slave to the opinions of others but to our own egos. Like really, do you think we are such selfless thoughtful human beings that we care so much about what others are thinking and their opinions on matters, if that’s true then why don’t we care when it has nothing to do with us or anything in connection to what we like or interest us, because ego is a selfish trait and we all have it at different levels depends how much we feed it so we will only care when it involves us. “Starve The Ego, Feed The Soul”-TGM
I'm not sure what this can actually change for me, cause I sometimes struggle with helplessness, and when I finally take the courage of telling my closest people I need their help, they don't believe me, they really blame me for "making this weakness up". I don't have to ask them what they think of me, cause they already tell me I am very strong, but it is simply not true. I have to be that "strong", that is alone, cause they wouldn't help me when I really need them.
on the other hand, when I think, and tell them too, this is how I feel, whatever you want to think of me, they offer and try to help, but only in situations where I don't bother if they help of not.
So I have to think of them, go f... yourself for being helpful, you weren't there when I needed you.
Thank you. The most striking, concise and helpful explanation for this behaviour and the most effective solution to end it.
Dude !! I work in a youth club and I want you at the club !!! What a dude
Haha that sounds awesome!
Wrong. Being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you're insecure/indecisive. It just means that you get your energy from being by yourself and doing things you like by yourself. Being an extrovert is the the opposite and means that you recharge around other people. You can introverted and still be outgoing, still be confident and self assured. An extroverted can also still be shy and insecure.
I was driving crazy and this video was super helful to me
What works for me is I drink a couple of shots of whisky and then I don't care what people think. Liquid courage.
But can we rely on that all the time😂
This man has the answers
Omg page three hit home hard. I started overanalyzing people because I thought that everyone hated me (I was kinda bullied), I thought everyone would try to hurt so I learned how they act, why, etc and now I feel like I know how they will react or what they think of me...but I really don't
After expressing my thoughts, they think I'm intelligent as my point is backed up with an Accounting principle. They also think I'm strong as I'm not scared to voice out my concern.
I never thought of it this way. This is the video I needed to watch. Thank you.
I;ve never worried abou what others think of me, maybe Military training, I've always looked at it like, it's none of my business what others think of me, I've always remembered, "Take Care of Your Own Backyard First", but for the life of me, I can't make my wife understand. Maybe if I make her watch this video it may help. Thank you for your video.
This is truly awesome! I love the part about making up your own mind game and seek yourself as who you want to be! As an INFJ I constantly over analyze everything and it causes a lot of anxiety and keeps me from reaching my goals!
OMG YOU ARE RIGHT ON...I HAVE BEEN CRITICAL AND I SO GET EVERYTHING NOW THANKYOU THANKYOU!!!
Thankyou sir, you give me so much hope as I am also an introvert
This problem is destroyimg me because I have made so many mistakes in my past.
This made me cry. Thank you for helping me heal ❤️
As a transfer student in college who is anxious socially this is really helpful.
I’ve enjoyed your videos for years. I am always happy and excited to come back and refresh my mind by re-watching your videos! 😊❤📚
Of course I'm awesome!!!
Brother, this just might change my life!
Dudes brilliant
Thank you. What books you recommend to read to learn more about ourselves.
I needed this on this Sunday morning
Needed this today!! Thank you!!
I must say i never give my opinion on videos. But you went right to the point. Thanks for explaining this in a so easy way. I think i am blocking myself most of the time. Your recommendations are practical and concise. Thanks for this.
Excellent. I should try this.
Love your take on things👌👏👏my answers are great now👌
So happy to of come across this channel!! Thanks 3 KEY👍
Thank you so much. yes just happening me, i do not know from where it started but it happened to me. but i really going to use this technique calming down my mind.
I heard so many similar topics but nobody can explain this issue like the way you do, thank you
Omg this makes so much sense. Thank you!
This video poses a brilliant solution to feelings of insecurity. I'm gonna start using this today.
So very true. Very well presented. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this idea.
I feel like mine started when I young always told me I was annoying but that was my personality or when they make faces and say certain things about the choices you make in life or what makes you happy they don’t like that but everyone has opinions but these get to me for some reasons
Thank you so much! Exactly my thoughts! So, I'm not crazy. I always think- maybe I can "make the answers" but then I'm not sure if that's real. Thank you!
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