I think you took the message wrong, you shouldn’t care about the outcome as you have no control but you should care about yourself and others around you.
@@bivanman654 not caring makes you care about yourself. The people that care to much tend to judge themselves to harsh and feel guilt because of societal pressure. When you stop caring about all that is when you truly care about yourself. And of course you should care about the people you love but they must also love you back. As far as others go. You shouldn’t care because majority of people don’t care about you
This seems erroneous. I know plenty of people who don’t care about their health and they are now diabetic with heart disease. I know plenty who don’t care about finances and they are broke. I know many who don’t care about their freedom and they are trapped and miserable. This whole not caring thing sounds like a front for people who DO care but they just don’t want to deal with anything. We have to care about something. The question is what.
Respectfully. It appears that you did not listen or comprehend what he said. (i.e "after you have done all you can,". Then you can release and not care!.) Heart disease, diabetes financial problems come from lack of discipline, which is a personal flaw. You totally missed the point.
Never allow someone else to control your internal thermometer. It takes a lot of discipline, and it’s essentially the mastery of self despite outside influences. 🖤
My mother pushes my buttons all the time. I limit my interaction with her but I cannot cut her off completely. I try not to take all the negative stuff in I'm getting better at it.
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. I’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
I’ve been going through this at work because I say good morning to my boss and everyone and most of them don’t speak. It really annoys me because it’s so rude for you as a leader not to speak when spoken to. Last week I stopped speaking and now everyone is looking at me like I’m crazy. It doesn’t make me feel good because it goes against the way I was raised but I am starting not to care because I do my job and I do it well. God takes care of me no doubt. Thank you for the commentary.
If it doesn’t make you feel good because it goes against how you were raised you should just keep saying good morning. Not care in another way….say good morning and not care if they say good morning back. Don’t stop being you. You aren’t owed a response to you saying good morning….if they say it back…cool…if they don’t…cool.
@@beach_boy1141 You are right and I started fresh on Monday and started back speaking. I feel good doing the right thing for me, I notice if someone doesn’t speak back but I keep it moving to my office. I’ve been playing calming music and closing my office door at times but I have to be me and speak initially.
@@LyricSkye What I do is walk through with a smile and that’s it for whether they reciprocate. Believe me those not acknowledging you …. it’s intentional. It’s also called office politics. Stay sweet and solid. 🌸
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
I do not believe caring is the same as worrying. Some people worry because they care. Some people can also care and not worry. If you told me you needed money to buy food and I agree to give you the money, I could say okay I believe you will use the money to buy food or I could begin to worry about whether or not you will buy food.
It depends on the context. I can't through my eyes away from one that asked me food when I know am capable of helping, doing otherwise is against Christ teaching of love. But caring about things money, cars, pride of life, things yet to come which can better your life can make you worry.
Don't expect anything from anyone, and be happy. If you receive anything (not just material things), a hug, a call, a compliment, then you can now be twice as happy!!
I stopped caring about lots of people. They were toxic! I didn't engage in their toxicity & by ignoring em it actually made them look & feel foolish! While I felt wise & powerful. It was fun to see em powerless
I went to a job interview the other day but I ended up not being hired. I was actually pissed because I put my all into the interview. As soon as I detached from the outcome, I felt a lot better because I fulfilled my part and accepted the results.
If this gives you hope, the same thing happened to me twice. The last job interview I went on, I got the job: better pay than both opp that didn't choose me. The BEST door will open.,
I'm in my 60s now and I'm finally learning not to care as much and to accept outcomes, especially with the people who've used and abused me, which is extremely freeing! Of course, I don't want to lose my empathy or compassion altogether, yet it's best to do so with the ones who've made it clear that they couldn't care less about me. 😊
@@cyndigooch1162 We are the same. I am forty-four years old, and it took the death of my mother two years ago to sever ties with those who advertised the fact that they couldn't care less about me and made sure that I knew it. I agree, it is extremely freeing. I still have compassion and empathy. I still love with everything in me. I just finally learned and accepted that just because we are blood, it doesn't mean that I have to deal with or even like you.
Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
As a Christian I have to agree. I've cared too much about people and they always end up hurting me. And they don't care. Family and friends. I don't want to carry anyone burdens anymore. I want to leave it in God hands. Let go and let God.
True story, caring less is the way to go these days. Will have a few knuckleheads in their feelings but oh well, you owe it to yourself to be happy and preserve your energy. Let the rest think as they please.
Long ago…while younger, I was this way! If things were going sour or changing…I let it go! I did not worry about the consequences. At the ripe old age of 57…I’m finding more that caring too much hurts! People know you care…they do things to prove it. Like coworkers not speaking. Or female friends stop talking to you. I hate to get this mindset back. The man I’m dating, I keep reaching out to spend time with him. He comes around when he wants to and it’s not enough for me. I keep asking what’s wrong, knowing I’m a good woman. Now, I have to get that…I don’t care…attitude! I’m prepared for the outcome! Life goes on…whether you’re with me or not. And I accept both! Thanks for this video. It helped. ❤
I've found this to be very true. Non-attachment is the most powerful concept that, over years and years of therapy, I was able to incorporate into my being. I'm much better for it now.
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
In my opinion, the best way to earn the respect and attraction of someone is to improve yourself in every way that you possibly can. 95% of communication is non-verbal. I'm sure this person is aware that you desire to be with them as you have probably communicated it to them. If you have done something wrong then verbalizing your recognition of your fault is important. Regardless, an apology without a change in behavior is not an apology at all. Which is why self improvement is the best solution in this situation. It will take the energy off of them and put it on you which is where it should be. You're the only one that can control what's going to happen in your life. And if for whatever reason in the cosmos this individual does not return, a "better option" will appear and be drawn to you. This is very simple but of course is not easy. But it is very doable if you truly want to feel and be better. Best regards.
It’s more so that you stop worrying. Caring is either coming from a place of fear or of love, and that’s the reason why you may “care” about something. But if you stop worrying about something then you are putting out there that you know that everything will be alright, and so it is.
This is the Roman’s 8:28 mentality “ And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Needed this. Give me strength Lord Jesus. I’m struggling providing for my children. I will keep faith. I have two beautiful boys both have special needs. I’m overwhelmed because they require so much from me. I’m fearful because every month is a struggle to not end up on the streets with my boys. Lord restore my faith. I’m so tired Lord Jesus of constantly struggling to pay bills and struggling to buy groceries. Ashamed because I’m failing as a mother. Please Lord continue to give me strength.❤️❤️
A more responsible way of wording it is, you've stopped romanticizing the idea of relationships romantic and platonic. The outcome is the outcome, but I'm focused on right now. If it ends tomorrow it is what it is, I'll be straight. 3:25~
Not caring about what others say has been the biggest self-development breakthrough I’ve ever had. I feel like it should be talked about more because 99% of people would still get angry or annoyed if some random person on the street started insulting their mother, someone they know nothing about and have no connection to.
Yes!!!!! Even when I cut my entire toxic family off! I was a free therapist for years!!!! I was used, mistreat, looked down upon! When I said enough, I was really done. God knows I gave my all, I know I gave my all, and THEY know I gave my all. I washed my hands clean 🧼 with the situation.
And when you lay everything on the line, you can feel good about moving on because you know that it's not because of your lack of effort that it didn't work out.
Even though it was toxic, I’m sure it was difficult leaving this dynamic. Similar to yourself I feel my empathy was completely maxed out and boundaries are strong. Wish you the very best as you move forward stronger and wiser.
Same!! I even emailed my father stuff multiple times give him a chance to respond as hes already 78 anot getting younger and got nothing no response. Mother kept twisting my words so I let it be. I'm done and I have peace!
It's like a battery, your the source energy. Nothing exist outside of you until you give it energy. You choose what u give (life) your power too. Your God, the creator you control ur destiny.
This video resonates so much. I should have let the relationship go in the first place. Now getting back to having Christ as my Safety Net and not someone else
@@esthersarchive. by Attaching to Christ and allowing Divine Love for yourself replace the love it was used to giving. It’s a journey and can be hard but the more I focus on loving myself but Christ First then myself Second. I know I’ll attract someone that is Mine By Christ Right and Perfect in The Heavenly Fathers mind. Allow the Holy Spirit to Guide you with your choices and trust in the Trinity of Your Being: Mind, Body, Spirit
@@esthersarchive.You’re not alone. I’m having a difficult time letting go of someone who is not right for me. Their words and actions do not line up. And yes, if I was on the outside looking in it would be easy for me to say just block this person. But they initially presented themselves in a nice way and I want to know and understand why they would lead me on if they never were genuinely interested. So the only thing I can come up with is I must still care too much. I have acknowledged to God this situation and asked for help. God is bigger than any situation I can imagine. But I also need help with my unbelief if this is in fact what is happening. Why should I care about this person and lack there of relationship if God can do all things according to his will?! My relationship with God, through Christ Jesus, needs to be strengthened. 🙏
I dig you sir! I completely agree. At times people want you to become as worked up and emotional as they are, but I do my best to resist that. Don’t allow outside forces influence your inner peace. Use logic and be objective based on facts.
I used to be overcaring and it nearly cost me my life. I am now selective in my empathy and I have since set strong boundaries. The truth is your best friend in any situation.
This video just confirmed my recent thoughts and put me at peace, I want this business deal with a local contraction company doing video to go through. I usually would press them to hop on a phone call and take control of everything. I just left it at. “Sounds good let me know” I sat myself down and said I’m good regardless if they go with me or not They need me more than I need them. Another example, there’s this luxary apartment complex that just got built, I really want to live in. Whether I get approved or not. I’m absolutely fine . Im already blessed to have shelter and running water Because in reality we already got everything we NEED. We just get upset because we don’t have everything we WANT
I used to care so much because I hated with a passion not being accepted or making others feel uncomfortable around me! I desired to be everything for everybody and I always felt spread thin constantly! I would literally have anxiety attacks and be stressed about EVERYTHING! It’s been a wild journey but I have slowly gained more respect, confidence and trust when I do what’s best for me and “not” care how it affected others and their feelings! I thought chasing and caring would put me in a better position or situation but it always backfired! Needed this for sure! 💪🏽🔥
Wow. I really needed this talk. I have been stressing over some things in my life to the point it's affected my sleep. This is another way of God speaking to me by letting this video pop up out of no where. Thank you so much and God bless you! I actually feel better already.
These are all facts. I can attest that during the times of my life when I wanted something, but basically forgot about it and went in living life, it happened. 😆
I let go & let God & now me being unbothered bothers people 🤦🏽♀️ It is what it is 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve done all I could I’m not going to continue to force a relationship on anyone that doesn’t value my worth. Spouse or family member 🙏🏽♥️ This video is confirmation🔥You know you made the right decision when you have peace about it & can rest good at night. Silence is golden. Some people don’t even deserve a response/ reaction.
Good self care is not extending yourself to other peoples problems. Other peoples problems are not your problems. It’s OK to be kind but it’s better to be a little selfish.
I love this!!! Been thinking about this "not caring mindset' in regards to finding new friendships, relationships, success...etc I'm putting energy into myself and my purpose. 🎉❤
Glad you popped up on my feed, right on time brotha..I have to stop caring so much not just about this relationship, but the outcome of the results I want instead of the results God wants..walking by faith now rather by sight and trust within myself more so..people and things can and will break you and leave you to pick up the pieces..but it’s You that must pick up your own pieces regardless. Win your Race fellas
This is a very powerful message and I will take this with me for the rest of my life. The Bible says not to cast your pearls to swine for they will trample it under their feet. Deal with those who deal with you and to hell with everyone else.😊
A person is only as important as you make them.
Love this saying.
Amen 👏🏾
Yes, truth.
Boooom!!!! So true!
Eeeeiii, this!!!
Not caring is HEALTHY for the mind body and soul
I think you took the message wrong, you shouldn’t care about the outcome as you have no control but you should care about yourself and others around you.
@@bivanman654 not caring makes you care about yourself. The people that care to much tend to judge themselves to harsh and feel guilt because of societal pressure. When you stop caring about all that is when you truly care about yourself. And of course you should care about the people you love but they must also love you back. As far as others go. You shouldn’t care because majority of people don’t care about you
@@jankyjimenez4268thank you 💯
This seems erroneous.
I know plenty of people who don’t care about their health and they are now diabetic with heart disease. I know plenty who don’t care about finances and they are broke. I know many who don’t care about their freedom and they are trapped and miserable.
This whole not caring thing sounds like a front for people who DO care but they just don’t want to deal with anything.
We have to care about something. The question is what.
Respectfully. It appears that you did not listen or comprehend what he said. (i.e "after you have done all you can,". Then you can release and not care!.) Heart disease, diabetes financial problems come from lack of discipline, which is a personal flaw. You totally missed the point.
"It's not that you don't care, in the negative sense, it's that you are ok with the outcome" Bars 💎💎💎
BARS
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This is true peace ❤
wtf I read this at the exact same time he says the words in the video 😆
@@CamrhonMitchell Hilarious 😆😂
Not caring is actually an indirect surrender to God, which unblocks the ego barriers for your highest well being potentiality
Yes you are 100% correct
Very well said. Thank you for clarifying for us!
Very well put. Faith in action belies in the not caring attitude; for you know God has the final say and the final way
This comment is pure GOLD!!! Thank you!!! Bless up!!! ❤
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“When u align with truth you can afford to not care” so powerful
Indeed.
Thumbs up for this comment. When they say words are powerful this is a great example
I got myself sick worrying so I learned to say f… it all 😊
I was just going to comment the same thing! Brilliant!!!
Agreed.
" I don't care " = TOTAL surrender to God !!. Excellent podcast.
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards."
truth
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Much things in life is successful through this opposite strategy as it works that way! It’s called life… 🎉
Beautifully worded and really hit home for me!!!
Never allow someone else to control your internal thermometer. It takes a lot of discipline, and it’s essentially the mastery of self despite outside influences. 🖤
this is a good one .. i like “internal thermometer”
My mother pushes my buttons all the time. I limit my interaction with her but I cannot cut her off completely. I try not to take all the negative stuff in I'm getting better at it.
We have power over our mind - not outside events. Realize this, and we will find strength. - Marcus Aurelius
@@anthonyj.4756 that's a good quote.
Your beautiful wow
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. I’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is Father Tosin Ayodele and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex
I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.
Caring is another word for fearing, no care , no fear
"The best pillow is a clear conscience" 👌🏽📝
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Word
Amen
And I prefer a clear conscious
I’ve been going through this at work because I say good morning to my boss and everyone and most of them don’t speak. It really annoys me because it’s so rude for you as a leader not to speak when spoken to. Last week I stopped speaking and now everyone is looking at me like I’m crazy. It doesn’t make me feel good because it goes against the way I was raised but I am starting not to care because I do my job and I do it well. God takes care of me no doubt. Thank you for the commentary.
If it doesn’t make you feel good because it goes against how you were raised you should just keep saying good morning. Not care in another way….say good morning and not care if they say good morning back. Don’t stop being you. You aren’t owed a response to you saying good morning….if they say it back…cool…if they don’t…cool.
Yea I agree with beach boy. You're caring about whether or not they speak back to you
@@beach_boy1141 You are right and I started fresh on Monday and started back speaking. I feel good doing the right thing for me, I notice if someone doesn’t speak back but I keep it moving to my office. I’ve been playing calming music and closing my office door at times but I have to be me and speak initially.
@@LyricSkye
What I do is walk through with a smile and that’s it for whether they reciprocate. Believe me those not acknowledging you …. it’s intentional. It’s also called office politics.
Stay sweet and solid. 🌸
@@BrendaBaBoom Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it. And you are correct.
The art of detachment will really change your life ❤
yes
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Absolutely yes
Yes a million times❤
Very true … Caring leads to worrying leads to stress leads to more worrying.
Facts!!!!❤
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
Thank you 🙏🏾
@@jessicalong6011 GOD bless you💌
Thank you, god bless you
@@HakunahMatata GOD bless you💌
Thank you, I am grateful for you
This is biblical. Care=worry. Paul tells you not to worry
Christ as well
I do not believe caring is the same as worrying. Some people worry because they care. Some people can also care and not worry. If you told me you needed money to buy food and I agree to give you the money, I could say okay I believe you will use the money to buy food or I could begin to worry about whether or not you will buy food.
It depends on the context. I can't through my eyes away from one that asked me food when I know am capable of helping, doing otherwise is against Christ teaching of love. But caring about things money, cars, pride of life, things yet to come which can better your life can make you worry.
"Not caring what other people think about you in this day and age is a superpower."
-George Kamel
I believe you 🎉🎉🎉
Indifference makes the difference.
Yesss
Cook
Love it
You hit it!
Stoicism is an amazing philosophy.
Not caring about things that you can't control leaves room for you to focus on attainable goals and new opportunities.
You have to meet people with the same energy they give you.
I don't have to feel bad because I know I tried.
Honestly, i believe you, from South Africa
Brotha, I agree with your statement!! 💯🙏🏽
Yeeessss 👏🏽
This.
On me
“When I didn’t care I got the best results” Some of the most beautiful words I’ve ever heard.
It's true.
Yes. When U finally don't care about an ex, that's when you're free. So this is 💯 truth.
“I’m okay with the outcome” is priceless.😊
Acceptance is the ultimate freedom.
You can repeat that 👌
I think of not caring in terms of letting go and letting God. I've always been taken care of by the Almighty. No matter what happens.
When you like and try to help people they try to take advantage of you.. so true, stop caring.
Don't expect anything from anyone, and be happy. If you receive anything (not just material things), a hug, a call, a compliment, then you can now be twice as happy!!
I stopped caring about lots of people. They were toxic! I didn't engage in their toxicity & by ignoring em it actually made them look & feel foolish! While I felt wise & powerful. It was fun to see em powerless
Ended a 5 yr relationship last week. I feel this, I’m at peace, because I definitely deserve more, I did everything I could 🙏🏼
Yes! Something better is coming your way! Just be carefree❤🎉
@@ARTOFROMno it ain't, that's false hope I'm waiting years for it to happen and still nothing lol
@@Caolan-b6r That's from your experience so far, not from someone else's.
@@hazelbagels024 from most people's, few do better unless they were already doing bad for themselves
I went to a job interview the other day but I ended up not being hired. I was actually pissed because I put my all into the interview. As soon as I detached from the outcome, I felt a lot better because I fulfilled my part and accepted the results.
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If this gives you hope, the same thing happened to me twice. The last job interview I went on, I got the job: better pay than both opp that didn't choose me. The BEST door will open.,
You’ll get something better 🙌🏽
Thank you for this comment. I went to an interview yesterday and I have been waiting and kinda worrying, but now that I’ve seen your comment, IDGAF🎉🎉🎉
Did you get a better job though, if not I don't see how this is good lol
“You don’t think the creator of the universe knows the desire of your heart” that hits everytime
Just entered my I don't care phase, its been hard for me but I Dont care
I'm in my 60s now and I'm finally learning not to care as much and to accept outcomes, especially with the people who've used and abused me, which is extremely freeing!
Of course, I don't want to lose my empathy or compassion altogether, yet it's best to do so with the ones who've made it clear that they couldn't care less about me. 😊
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I want to get there myself
Same here!.😢
@@cyndigooch1162 We are the same. I am forty-four years old, and it took the death of my mother two years ago to sever ties with those who advertised the fact that they couldn't care less about me and made sure that I knew it. I agree, it is extremely freeing.
I still have compassion and empathy. I still love with everything in me. I just finally learned and accepted that just because we are blood, it doesn't mean that I have to deal with or even like you.
I am to the point that
“I definitely don’t care about anything.” Life becomes better when you don’t care!🤗
Sounds harsh but true
So so true, especially when dealing with a narcissist and emotional abuser.
Oh Yeah
InDifference Is Absolute Kriptonite To A Narc
God will provide, we need not worry about anything.
Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
We do not cling to what is unfolding because it all changes. Let it come, let it go and let it be.
I Love this.
It’s an attitude I adopted since I turned 40, and am living my best life now.
I believe you 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
From South Africa
“When you’re aligned with the truth you’re always protected “ indeed . The truth always comes out in the end!
"Magnetize don't chase".... Life changing, thank you for that needed it.
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Yep yep yep 👍 👌 well said that is the smart 🤓 👍 👏 👌 😀 😉 way
As a Christian I have to agree. I've cared too much about people and they always end up hurting me. And they don't care. Family and friends. I don't want to carry anyone burdens anymore. I want to leave it in God hands. Let go and let God.
“Im not into bondage” that’s a powerful statement to repeat to yourself when you’re in a chasing mindset.
The Bible says "delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." 7:08
Powerful... Giving your best efforts is your only responsibility... whatever the outcome, it would always be for your learning and benefit
Precisely. You summed it up well.
The best pillow at night is a clear conscience
That is pretty strong
And true i might add
I used to walk into a room and try to figure who likes me, and who doesn't.
Today, I walk into a room and decide who I like, or not.
The older I get the less I care I smile and be nice to everyone. If they don't like me it's ok with me.
My life started to get on track with the one that Jah designed for me about 7 years ago, because I stopped caring (responsibly, of course). Big up!
Much love to you!
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True story, caring less is the way to go these days. Will have a few knuckleheads in their feelings but oh well, you owe it to yourself to be happy and preserve your energy. Let the rest think as they please.
Yes. No one is coming to jump into the casket with you when you depart. Be a solid person and let the chips fall where they may.
You are soooo right! This comment is soooo profound!
In the past few years I've definitely trusted, stopped caring and allowed life to be. This is my way of stopping caring ❤
Love it, “ When you align with truth you can afford not to care…” “There is no arguing with truth.”
Long ago…while younger, I was this way! If things were going sour or changing…I let it go! I did not worry about the consequences. At the ripe old age of 57…I’m finding more that caring too much hurts! People know you care…they do things to prove it. Like coworkers not speaking. Or female friends stop talking to you. I hate to get this mindset back. The man I’m dating, I keep reaching out to spend time with him. He comes around when he wants to and it’s not enough for me. I keep asking what’s wrong, knowing I’m a good woman. Now, I have to get that…I don’t care…attitude! I’m prepared for the outcome! Life goes on…whether you’re with me or not. And I accept both! Thanks for this video. It helped. ❤
There's no guarantee when you're born that anyone will be with you in the darkness. Be mentally prepared to go it alone and be cool with that.
I'm not sure how this video showed up on my feed but God knew I needed to hear this.
I've found this to be very true. Non-attachment is the most powerful concept that, over years and years of therapy, I was able to incorporate into my being. I'm much better for it now.
especially stop caring for SOMEONE and now he is getting nervous
Let them lose control over you and gain control over what they’ve been avoiding for so long
You’re not there to vicariously suffer for anyone
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.
In my opinion, the best way to earn the respect and attraction of someone is to improve yourself in every way that you possibly can. 95% of communication is non-verbal. I'm sure this person is aware that you desire to be with them as you have probably communicated it to them. If you have done something wrong then verbalizing your recognition of your fault is important. Regardless, an apology without a change in behavior is not an apology at all. Which is why self improvement is the best solution in this situation. It will take the energy off of them and put it on you which is where it should be. You're the only one that can control what's going to happen in your life. And if for whatever reason in the cosmos this individual does not return, a "better option" will appear and be drawn to you. This is very simple but of course is not easy. But it is very doable if you truly want to feel and be better. Best regards.
Not being afraid of who YOU actually are combined with the indifference associated with NOT being afraid of being judged by others. THIS is power 🔋.
It’s more so that you stop worrying. Caring is either coming from a place of fear or of love, and that’s the reason why you may “care” about something. But if you stop worrying about something then you are putting out there that you know that everything will be alright, and so it is.
right on
''detached from the outcome'' good words!
This is the Roman’s 8:28 mentality “ And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”
Amen!
Amen!
Love this.
Thank you!!!
My favorite scripture
@@rebirthed1274 lol I love that it’s my favorite verse as well 🤍
I have entered into this phase of don't care
I’ve never cared, my life is my life. I’m not giving anyone the power to judge me 😝 I’m as free as a bird 😍next chapter, living off grid baby !!!
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Dang you sound like such a good guy
Living proof this is true! Everytime I stop caring the manifestation and prayers flows
God cares about us. When we care about him he directs our path.
Showing narcissists that you dont care, i think, will work with this because everything is about them . Love this
Thanks. They lie a lot huh always looking for some new stranger/victim to fall for their seductive shrewd ways.
@peterro9998 that is the truth!! But they cannot hide it for long
Needed this. Give me strength Lord Jesus. I’m struggling providing for my children. I will keep faith. I have two beautiful boys both have special needs. I’m overwhelmed because they require so much from me. I’m fearful because every month is a struggle to not end up on the streets with my boys. Lord restore my faith. I’m so tired Lord Jesus of constantly struggling to pay bills and struggling to buy groceries. Ashamed because I’m failing as a mother. Please Lord continue to give me strength.❤️❤️
Amen.
You are striving, unrelenting in your struggle...the Lord stands and will ever show up for you.
Amen.
Prayers for u ma'am and ur two boys... faith in the good Lord.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I pray for you and your boys IJN all shall be well 🙏🏾🙏🏾
A more responsible way of wording it is, you've stopped romanticizing the idea of relationships romantic and platonic. The outcome is the outcome, but I'm focused on right now. If it ends tomorrow it is what it is, I'll be straight. 3:25~
Right on.
Not caring about what others say has been the biggest self-development breakthrough I’ve ever had. I feel like it should be talked about more because 99% of people would still get angry or annoyed if some random person on the street started insulting their mother, someone they know nothing about and have no connection to.
As a woman I have the same expericence, everything is better with not caring. Cheers
Fear blocks the flow and the flow brings all good things
Yes!!!!! Even when I cut my entire toxic family off! I was a free therapist for years!!!! I was used, mistreat, looked down upon! When I said enough, I was really done. God knows I gave my all, I know I gave my all, and THEY know I gave my all. I washed my hands clean 🧼 with the situation.
And when you lay everything on the line, you can feel good about moving on because you know that it's not because of your lack of effort that it didn't work out.
❤❤❤❤
Even though it was toxic, I’m sure it was difficult leaving this dynamic. Similar to yourself I feel my empathy was completely maxed out and boundaries are strong. Wish you the very best as you move forward stronger and wiser.
Same!! I even emailed my father stuff multiple times give him a chance to respond as hes already 78 anot getting younger and got nothing no response. Mother kept twisting my words so I let it be. I'm done and I have peace!
YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW! | I think Ima head out 👋
"When you align with truth, you CAN afford to not care."
Very liberating. Thanks!
It's like a battery, your the source energy. Nothing exist outside of you until you give it energy. You choose what u give (life) your power too. Your God, the creator you control ur destiny.
This video resonates so much. I should have let the relationship go in the first place. Now getting back to having Christ as my Safety Net and not someone else
I’m in this same position but now that it’s over, I’ve fallen apart. I want to be okay but I don’t know how to detach myself
@@esthersarchive. by Attaching to Christ and allowing Divine Love for yourself replace the love it was used to giving. It’s a journey and can be hard but the more I focus on loving myself but Christ First then myself Second. I know I’ll attract someone that is Mine By Christ Right and Perfect in The Heavenly Fathers mind. Allow the Holy Spirit to Guide you with your choices and trust in the Trinity of Your Being: Mind, Body, Spirit
@@ExtremelyHandsomeOpulentKing thank you so much 🙏🏼
@@esthersarchive.You’re not alone. I’m having a difficult time letting go of someone who is not right for me. Their words and actions do not line up. And yes, if I was on the outside looking in it would be easy for me to say just block this person. But they initially presented themselves in a nice way and I want to know and understand why they would lead me on if they never were genuinely interested. So the only thing I can come up with is I must still care too much. I have acknowledged to God this situation and asked for help. God is bigger than any situation I can imagine. But I also need help with my unbelief if this is in fact what is happening. Why should I care about this person and lack there of relationship if God can do all things according to his will?! My relationship with God, through Christ Jesus, needs to be strengthened. 🙏
“A man or a woman convinced against their will, is of the same opinion still.”
This was 🔥🔥
Absolutely my friend. I really understand where you are coming from. Some people are intensely focused on things that they can't even control.
This is me these days turned 56 this year it really kicked in very good content
Wanting just creates more wanting.
Some people love “ material things to much “
You own nothing , it owns you !
When People would let you go, you gotta let them go ❤
I dig you sir! I completely agree. At times people want you to become as worked up and emotional as they are, but I do my best to resist that. Don’t allow outside forces influence your inner peace. Use logic and be objective based on facts.
Not caring to me is knowing Gods plan for your life is already in place and usually always better than we can imagine for ourselves!
❤🙏 AMEN
❤BEAUTIFUL ❤
Amen
I used to be overcaring and it nearly cost me my life. I am now selective in my empathy and I have since set strong boundaries. The truth is your best friend in any situation.
Protect yourself first and always.
This video just confirmed my recent thoughts and put me at peace, I want this business deal with a local contraction company doing video to go through. I usually would press them to hop on a phone call and take control of everything. I just left it at.
“Sounds good let me know”
I sat myself down and said I’m good regardless if they go with me or not
They need me more than I need them.
Another example, there’s this luxary apartment complex that just got built, I really want to live in. Whether I get approved or not. I’m absolutely fine . Im already blessed to have shelter and running water
Because in reality we already got everything we NEED. We just get upset because we don’t have everything we WANT
Whatever happens you have to know that it is the best thing for you!
I used to care so much because I hated with a passion not being accepted or making others feel uncomfortable around me! I desired to be everything for everybody and I always felt spread thin constantly! I would literally have anxiety attacks and be stressed about EVERYTHING! It’s been a wild journey but I have slowly gained more respect, confidence and trust when I do what’s best for me and “not” care how it affected others and their feelings! I thought chasing and caring would put me in a better position or situation but it always backfired! Needed this for sure! 💪🏽🔥
Thanks for your sharing and God bless
like me too
The story of my life in the previous chapter
Wow. I really needed this talk. I have been stressing over some things in my life to the point it's affected my sleep. This is another way of God speaking to me by letting this video pop up out of no where. Thank you so much and God bless you! I actually feel better already.
I'm listening this video every day and I'm trying to become emotionally strong person.... It's the most helpful video I have ever heard...
Focus on what's in your control, and that is your own actions. The outcome is outside of your control.
This is so good, I believe we may have different faiths, but I agree with you completely that when you align with truth, you don’t have to care 💯
Your post drives home the importance of self-empowerment. Well-written!
These are all facts. I can attest that during the times of my life when I wanted something, but basically forgot about it and went in living life, it happened. 😆
The initial thought is the spark. After that all that is needed is to be action oriented and live life
I let go & let God & now me being unbothered bothers people 🤦🏽♀️ It is what it is 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve done all I could I’m not going to continue to force a relationship on anyone that doesn’t value my worth. Spouse or family member 🙏🏽♥️ This video is confirmation🔥You know you made the right decision when you have peace about it & can rest good at night. Silence is golden. Some people don’t even deserve a response/ reaction.
Good self care is not extending yourself to other peoples problems. Other peoples problems are not your problems. It’s OK to be kind but it’s better to be a little selfish.
Amen, this correct understanding!! Bible teaches us to renew our minds, grow from being emotional (childish) to thinking logically (mature)..
I love this!!! Been thinking about this "not caring mindset' in regards to finding new friendships, relationships, success...etc I'm putting energy into myself and my purpose. 🎉❤
This came into my feed right on time. God is good
Glad you popped up on my feed, right on time brotha..I have to stop caring so much not just about this relationship, but the outcome of the results I want instead of the results God wants..walking by faith now rather by sight and trust within myself more so..people and things can and will break you and leave you to pick up the pieces..but it’s You that must pick up your own pieces regardless. Win your Race fellas
Whoever cares the least controls the relationship.
This is a very powerful message and I will take this with me for the rest of my life. The Bible says not to cast your pearls to swine for they will trample it under their feet. Deal with those who deal with you and to hell with everyone else.😊